February 10, 2025 • 52 mins
Les Brown talks about the power of joy with members of the Peace, Love, Joy, Alliance - Rabbi Yossi Lerman and Scott Frank, Authors of the book "Less Stress, More Joy"
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You have something special, you havegreatness in you. I have two special
guests, surely goodness and mercies.You'll follow me all the days of my
life. My name is Les Brownand my special guests. This is a
second time that I have an opportunityto present them to you. We talked
about a book that is something that'svery close to my heart, that I
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believe in and that we have thecapacity to do to create in our life
experience less stress and we can havemore joy. And this book is I
think a blueprint that all of uscan use. This at a time where
there's been major disruptions, not onlybecause of the pandemic, but because of
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artificial intelligence of the domestic violence isincreased suicide violence taking place, people not
feeling safe being in public, orwhen we send our children to school and
we expect that they'll be able tocome back home without having to run out
of the school because of a shooter. This is a different space and so
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we had no idea at the timewhen we introduced this book that this is
something that it's time time now morethan ever before. Scott Frank, how
are you fantastic? And Rabbi Yasi, how you doing This is amazing.
Thank you. These are my twobrothers from another mother. Tell me what
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has been going on since you havebeen speaking about you created an alliance.
What have been you've been doing inthis space? Given what's going on now
locally, nationally, and globally.I'll just simply say this, we're just
putting the word out. Lots ofbooks have been purchased, lots of people
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have talked to us about how canwe help others, And like you said,
we formed this organization called the Peace, Harmony Joy Alliance. Our ultimate
mission is peace on Earth. Yeah, and we'd like to see that in
a foreseeable future with all the challengeswe see on this planet right now,
whether it's politics or wars, justso much adversity, and we simply see
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a future where we can all getalong. But it else starts with each
of us. If we're going tohave peace with others, we've got to
have peace within ourselves. And sowe have worked with many people now about
how to deal with anxiety, howto deal with all the politics, how
to deal with social media, howto deal with all the things that are
just going on around us. Calmis so important to all of our existence
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if we truly want to have thegreatness within us fulfilled. And when you
feel the calm, then you canstart to actually connect with your true purpose
what we created. Each of usis so special and unique and has amazing
talents and gifts for this planet.And so when you're calm and at peace,
you can start to connect with yourtrue best self. And so we're
helping people to understand, like whenthey were children, what did you like?
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What are the things that you enjoy? What are things that really really
energize you? And then we helpthem to cultivate and grow those and and
literally utilize those those those life talentsand gifts they have with themselves and with
others. When you're feeling at peaceand when you're actually being your true self,
then you can start to feel joyon a consistent basis. And and
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by the way, joy is notabout just you know, doing things you
like. It's actually being in themoment. It's like, I'm here with
you, less, I'm here withyou, yasi, Like this is it.
It's not about thinking about other things. It's not about watching TV and
talking to your wife. It's aboutbeing in it. So we're helping many
many people have peace, harm andenjoy in themselves. And what's happening is
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when they feel good about themselves,when they're having those experiences on a consistent
basis, then they can start tohave it with people close to them.
And so we're showing people how tohave great experiences, great lives with their
family, with their teams at work, with their sports teams. And it's
transformative. It's amazing all these peoplethat we've been gifted with having our lives,
different personalities, different talents, differentgifts. Just like an orchestra,
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everybody played the same instrument, itwouldn't sound too good, but we can't
get everybody playing their own instruments andplaying together in a peaceful, harmonious,
joyful Maynor is amazing the music wecan make, and it is beautiful,
and then you can start to takeit to communities. You can start to
take it to other cities, othercountries. And we are actually on our
peace Hartment Joint Alliance, actually peoplefrom around the world who have come together
to truly try to make this planeta better place. Now I want to
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thank you for that, But whatare the things that I'm sure a lot
of people thinking about and where wehave some places back. Hey, how
can I have peace? I've justbeen laid off. How can I have
peace? I just left the placewhere I've been working for forty years and
they said that I'm by it becauseall the things that's going on right now?
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How can I have peace? AndI got a lovely member, family
member who's dealing with mental illness.It's easy to say peace, harmony,
enjoy, but what are the rituals? Rabbiatzi and I know that you have
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a ritual and our good friend Yahuda, who has helped me to begin to
see the value of having a ritualso that you on a regular basis,
you can cultivate a sense of peace, harmony and joy by having collaborative relationships
with people that in alignment with thatlevel of thinking that helps you to step
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into that space. Talk to abus, talk to us about how important
having a ritual to cultivate peace.Thank you, lez And I'm I'm a
member of society, a member ofthe world, just like everybody else,
trying to live a healthy, happylife, being attacked every day by something
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else, some news or some typeof event or a word, a relationship
breakup, and what happens when wefeel we're under attack, we go into
the fight or flight or freeze mode. And when you're in that fight,
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flight or freeze mode, you're practicallynot functioning. You're not with us,
you're not fully alive, You're notat your best. And that's we want
to make people aware of that.People are We know that. But what
I want when i'm want to askyou, there's something that Jan Levan said,
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give to your self until your cuprunner over. There's some things that
you do for yourself, so youcan't give to the world. If you're
dealing with an empty wagon. Yougot you got to have something that you
pour into yourself. How do Ibecause we know life is happening, think
it not strange that you're face tofire furnaces of this world. So what
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is it that I need to doto fortify myself? And one of the
things that we know always ask whensomebody is stressed out, I ask them
what are you looking at? Sowhat do you mean I'm looking at you
to know? I said, thereason that you are stressed out now is
that you're focused on and you aregiving more attention to stuff that that focus.
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Where focus goes, energy flows.What are you looking at and then
they start telling me about their bills, or their children or something that has
happened to them. So I'm askingyou, how do you help people to
to go within and to center it? Is it through prayer? Is it
through reading? Is it through havingconversations a group of people that you communicate
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with on a regular basis that helpyou to align your thinking, to tune
out the world and go within,to find that piece that passeth all human
understanding. Precisely less as you said, what's your story? And what are
you looking at? Your story thatyou're telling yourself, and that is what
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your mind is telling yourself. Whatwe try to help people is see the
story, perhaps take a step back, perhaps take a bigger look at the
picture. We're looking at one partof the picture. We're looking at one
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day of the event, We're lookingat one person. There is so many
different sides to the story. Yes, we're constantly relearning that I didn't know.
Oh is that what you meant?I didn't realize that. And so
this idea that you cannot judge thesituation specifically strictly by seeing what you see
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right now? What's the big picture? I tried this to myself connect with
a bigger world, connect with abigger history, connecting with God. That
all allows me to go up afew floors, to get a bird's eye
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view and to realize this is apart of my life and it's going to
be for my benefit for me tolearn if you're just joining us. I'm
talking to to men who I justconsider a godsend at this point in time.
These are the authors of the book, Less Stress, More Joy.
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I encourage you to get this.I'm going through it now for the eighth
time because what it is designed todo is to give you a blueprint of
how you can create peace, harmony, and joy in your life. It
was a very revealing, I think, confirmation of what they have in this
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book. Harvard University three weeks agothey released a study and they were looking
at what is it that allowed peopleto live a long life. Many people
thought having access to healthcare, orhaving herbs, or having a vegan or
a vegetarian diet, and what theycame up with positive connections. And if
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you don't have peace with yourself,if you're disconnected with yourself, you will
not have harmony in your life.But if you do have peace with yourself,
you have peace in your relationships.And what they're saying is which is
an alignment with less stress and morejoy that as a result of that harmony,
that increases your longevity, that allowsyou to live longer, It fortisfies
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your immune system. The whole bodyof work is in this area of psych
neural immunology, and so it's aboutcreating collaborative, achievement driven supportive relationships.
If you don't have this book,please get this book right now. Talk
about building a network of supportive relationships. The level of harmony in the power
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that comes out of that people thatyou interact with on a regular basis,
because a lot of people are facingfrom loneliness, anxiety, hopelessness. But
in order to have harmony, andit's possible in this space, you can't
do this by yourself. So,as you said it, the word the
key word. And I've always wondered, what is that one ingredient for a
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successful life? What can we canwe just basically just get it down to
one word, And I think rightnow I believe the word is harmony.
My understanding of harmony is to havea balance. Balance is where you have
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you have different parts but coming togetherand So what I just said is that
there is no one answer to asuccessful life or a healthy life. Success
and health comes when you have theright coalition where you integrate. Let's just
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talk about how many changes we havegoing on. We have this the spring
season is now upon us. Sowe had winter, spring, summer,
fall, We have day and wehave night. We have mind that we
have heart, we have faith andwe have reason. We have different kinds
of people, all the of allof them come together and creating the right
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balance. So each one of usis important, Each one of us is
important, but we're only there aslong as there's somebody else there. Yes,
so very very important is to getconnected, Yes, with your family,
with your friends, with a groupof people of your your type,
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of your network. All of thattogether gives us a sense of togetherness and
harmony. It's it's still a veryimportant what the point about harmony and and
building a network of collaborative positive connections. But there's something else about relationships,
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And I've heard this said that thatrelationships have seasons. Sometimes somebody comes in
your life for a reason, somefor a season and some for a lifetime.
And that part of being able tohave peace and I just finished listening
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to something that really got me.They ask a strategic question, who's in
your room? That sometimes we haveto make a decision that this relationship it's
no longer me. I've outgrown thisrelationship because they're toxic relationships and negative relationships
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that you will never have peace,you will never have harmony. There are
some people who bring the best outof you and some people who bring the
worst out of you. And partof that harmony is being able to look
at the relationships and ask the strategicquestion, what is this relationship doing to
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me? There's a young lady whoshe has a soul and the entitle of
it is I feel lonely whatever youare around God dam Frankie Crocker, he
was the disc jock out of NewYork. He said, it's better to
be a load than to wish youwere. Talk about the value of looking
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at your relationships and asking the question, is this relationship working for me?
Some relationships might be working for theother person, but it doesn't work for
you because you're not going in thesame direction as Sydney Portier Academy Award winner.
He said, when you go fora walk with someone, he said,
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something happens without being spoken. Hesaid, either you adjust to their
pace or they adjust to your apace? Whose pace have you adjusted to?
Talk about the value of looking atand taking inventory of who's in your
room, who you're surrounded with,who you're interacting with. That's that's probably
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the most important, most challenging partof life is our relationships and why is
it there? Why do we needto have relationships? Well, once again,
we're not meant to be alone.We are part of a bigger picture.
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And the picture is where we needto bring together parts like a symphony,
like a good a good chalk acake. All right, I'm in
the mood of a chocolate cake rightnow. Okay, So where's the cream?
So where's a good chocolate cake?Made out of lots of lots of
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ingredients. But the key to itall is the proportions, the amounts.
Did you mix it well? Andbringing it all together? That is what
by seeing his life is about bringingthings together. I'm only one part of
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the ingredients, gon't you? Butyou know it's God, frank you And
I'm looking at this an expansive way. You're a corporate leader, you're a
team leader. You have to bringpeople together, you have to evaluate them.
And sometimes you can have a goodperson in the wrong place and it
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won't work. And sometimes in ourper some relationships you have to say,
no, you gotta go. Tellme a difficult situation that you're in,
and you had to say to thisperson, you had to make this decision,
because we make decisions, and nowdecisions make us. That you knew
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in order to have peace and harmitythat this person had to go, give
us an example of how you handlethat. So you know, I approach
life from the perspective that nothing happensby accident. Everybody's here for a reason.
Even a person that might have togo is here for a reason.
And what I encourage everybody to thinkabout when they're with somebody, even some
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way that needs to go, isto remind themselves that they're a person,
and they're they're on this planet fora purpose. They've got feelings, by
the way, they've got a story. And when you get to know people
and really truly understand them, thepeople that I've had to say, you
know, this isn't probably the bestposition for you, they've actually agreed.
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So I encourage everybody to connect ata level that that's not you telling them,
but it's coming together and everybody understanding. You know this is this is
a right decision for everybody. Andit's amazing when you actually get to know
people. Uh yeah, they maynot be the right person for that role,
but they're right person for something.And you know, every single thing
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that happens in our life happens fora reason. It can be a joyous
experience, it can be an importantlesson and by the way, lessons can
be joyous too if you actually havethe right perspective. But I will just
tell you every single conversation I havewith somebody, every single person in my
life. First thing, I wantto have a peaceful relationship. Don't yell
at them if they say something mean, don't mean I gotta say something mean
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back. It's amazing when you whenyou set the tone with a peaceful relationship,
how you then you can have theseconversations where you begin to understand each
other and see how each other playsroles in each other's lives. And just
because they are not the right personfor the job in your company doesn't mean
that they're not a good person foranother job. And even more importantly,
even to play a role in yourlife. And I will tell you there's
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people who have I've told this isn'tthe right job for you who have agreed,
And actually I've stayed connected to afterwardsand kept up with them with their
next job and their families and allthe other things that are going on.
Every single person who I come incontact with, that's the mindset I try
to have. And it all startswith peace. Not everyone's gonna be my
friend, but I'm all gonna fightwith anybody. And it's amazing. If
you have peaceful relationshipships with everybody,you can then begin to build relationships with
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people and have make music with themwhere you never would have expected. Do
you as a leader, how muchtime do you spend looking at and talking
with and investing the time to askthe question is this a good fit?
I did a training the other dayand one of the individuals that I want
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you to be my one on onecoach, and I said to the group,
all money is not good murdered andI do he would drive me crazy,
And I said, you know what, I know you got something,
but I'm not the word. AndI'm encouraging you to find someone that your
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values are similar that y'all can worktogether. And I like what your intentions
are. We want to do thework that we call the greater work to
make the world a better place.But at this stage of my life,
at seventy eight, I think yougo cost me too. But stress up
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it here, up it here,you're going to have you said, you're
about to make me lose by bye, up it here, up it here.
We're on two different pages because inthe presentation in the training, he
was using a lot of profanity.And I teach young people that profanity is
the strongest expression of a weak mind. But this new area where we are,
a lot of people make profanity.They're new normal. And so I'd
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say, no, you and Ican't do life together. I don't know
how much time I got left,but I'm not gonna do it with you.
See you want and we both laughand he say bad. I appreciate
you of being straight up with me. And there are sometimes if you want
to have harmony in your life,you have to let go or be dragged.
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You gotta let them go or theywill drag you. Doubt, even
in your personal life, if youdon't have peace and harmony in your household,
it's going to affect your performance inevery area of your life. Would
you agree with that? I knowwhat you're saying, and I agree you
need to have peace in all aspectsof your life. I think the thing
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that most people don't think about isthe harmony part, so you can you
know, you don't have to havea certain purpose in your life, so
you can have more peace, orif they're in your life, don't fight
with them. But the thing thatI just encourage people to consider is is
making music with everybody in your life. And I think that's the part where
most people don't take the time.They simply are too busy, or they
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think they that the you know,personality that doesn't that rubs them wrong,
or whatever it is. They don'tthey can't do the job. I just
encourage people to take the time.And one of the tricks that we've that
I've learned over the last decade orso is a concept called listen from not
knowing, and it's it's taught byDiane Collins Allen Collins, who wrote the
book Do You Quantum Think? Andteach and teach those concepts. It's amazing
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to me so many times we thinkwe know somebody. It could be a
family member, could be someone andyou work with and you think, like,
this person says the same thing overand over again, they do the
same thing. Keep asked them tothe job, and they're not doing it,
They're not listening. Treat that personlike you've never met them before.
Yeah, you know, you knowthat experience with somebody when you first meet
them, Like when you first meetsomeone, like everybody's good, like you
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actually are kind of interested and excited. Like, treat them like you've never
talked to them before, and havea conversation and you will be amazed.
How if you truly are like reallyintent on having a like a new conversation
with this person, you will learnthings, You will connect at a different
level, and you actually will makesome music in that in that conversation.
And I'll tell you something. Peoplewho work for me, most people work
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for me. You have worked forme for a very long time and for
variety of reasons. Who knows exactlywhy, But I will tell you one
of the things I take pride inmyself is I treat everybody on my team
like they're going to be successful.And I actually you asked earlier, you
know, when you've told people theyneed to go when I've told people they
need to go. Actually, Iget to a place where they know they
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need to go and it's not Idon't. I've never had to say someone
bye bye. You know you're notthe right fit here. They've always known
it. But the bigger point isis I actually try to get to know
people at a level where I cangrow them. And I'll tell you as
something, I coach a lot ofyouth sports when my kids were younger,
and in U sports are a greatopportunity to try this out because in U
sports you can't fire the kids.Yeah, you get, you get your
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team, but guess what, there'sa there's a last pick on your team,
and that boy or girl is notgoing to be as good as your
first pick. But guess what thesecret to championships is actually working with your
last picks and you And really it'samazing to me over a season how you
can develop children. And we wanta lot of championships. But even more
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importantly, we had a lot ofchildren who probably would have given up on
the sport but came back the nextseason because they had a great experience and
their families had a great experience andit's amazing to watch them blossom. And
that's what I try to take tothe work world, and I just encourage
everybody to actually think, if someone'snot doing the job, don't think about
firing them. Actually see if youcan connect with them at a different level,
see if you can understand them,and see if you can make music
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with them, and you'll be amazedabout the potential and the greatness within everybody
on this planet. It's something yousay this key that in order to have
harmony and relationship you have to havea maintenance strategy. And at the top
of the list of that strategy iswhat you said, you got to put
in the time. But there's somethingelse that's key, and I want to
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ask you about this. Rabbayasi.I took my daughter Samya out to the
park and she was going up thesteps of a sliding board and then she
got up to the top. Shesaid, Daddy, and I said,
what is it? Baby? Sheasked me, where are you? I
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said, I'm right here with you. She said, oh, and then
she went down the slide and whatshe knew that my mind had gone someplace
else. She observed that so partof having maintenance in a relationship. Not
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only must you put in the timeto maintain that level of peace, but
you have to be present with thepeople that you are interacting with. Talked
to us about presence, because I'veseen the difference in Yahooda when we talk
and he spent time with you,and he came back and there was a
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countinance that was different, his energy, the smile on his face. Talk
about being present with our love words. I got to give you this other
example. It just dropped ord me. This family, this couple had been
married a long time, and shewas going past her husband and she stopped
him and she said, where ishe? He said, what are you
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talking about? Where is he?He said, have you lost your mind?
Where is this guy who said Iwill love you tell death do us
part? Where is this guy thatI first met that was so concernsider it
that we used to date and wespend time together, that we used to
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all whole hands, and when wewere in a restaurant we talked to each
other and we weren't on the phone. We didn't put when we had dinner
our telephones on the table and takecalls. What happened to him? He
said, he died, but I'mgoing to bring him to life because you
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asked that question. You brought meto life. Yes, you brought me
to life, he said, I'mgonna bring him back because sometimes we can
drift apart because of life. Belife and talked about being present in our
relationships to maintain that level of harmony. Wow, I think of the words
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stop. We got to have thatset of breaks. You're going to know
it's time to stop, stop whatyou're doing and pay attention to what is
being is happening now, especially ifanother human being is talking to you.
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So we're all on the constant gogo, go faster and faster and faster.
But I would put up the stopsign before we even talk about peace,
before the word peace, I wouldsay, stop, stop everything,
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what are you talking about? Stop? Stop the chatter, stop, did
the conversation, stop the story?Stop everything? Oh? Stop? And
so that that sometimes takes discipline.When was the last time you you used
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your brakes? When was the lasttime you said no? See, that's
a way harder to say how touse your brakes? You say no to
yourself? When was the last namesaid no to yourself? It's easy to
say no, to other people.So we're not using our brakes to learn
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to practice to stop and go motion. So that allows you to stop focus,
focus deeply, because if you're notfocusing, you're shallow. You're skimming
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the top, checking it out,reading the email real real quick, next,
real quick. And we're all veryshallow. We're becoming shallow. Did
you hear what I said? Ithink I heard what you said, and
we heard something. But that stop, which takes strength, inner strength,
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Yes, and focus. I hada friend who once gave me good advice.
He's an attorney, and he said, this is the best advice he's
ever received. Is that when aclient is sitting with you in your office,
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he's sitting on the chair, you'resitting on the chair. He's the
most important thing in your world rightnow. Nothing else matters. There's there's
that total attention that we so weso first desire to have, so les
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you're we're all looking for at ingredientsof a good life and a better life.
And what are the disciplines focusing whensomebody else is speaking, Stop your
own chatter, stop your thought process. Lots of our prayers that we we
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do, we close our eyes andnot only does this say close your eyes,
but it says put your right handover your eyes, so you're not
gonna peak. You're not gonna likelike one keep one eye open, one
eye closed, because you're gonna putyour hand over your eye to make sure
your eyes are closed. There's insteadof looking outwards, you're gonna turn your
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turn your eyeballs and look inwards andstop with the outside distraction. Are of
popular prayer of hero Israel. TheLord is our God, the Lord is
one. We typically say it withour eyes closed, in our hand over
our eyes, and I think thatis a form of focus gotch if you're
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just joining us. These are theauthors of the book that I encourage you
to get that just really it's powerful, less stress, more joy. How
to begin to establish in your lifeand in your relationships or in your business
or the people that you're working with, the people that you love. How
to begin in the midst of allthe chaos and the things that's going on,
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have peace, harmony and joy andevery dimension of our lives. And
we've talked about the area of howto begin to establish and cultivate rituals that
will allow us to establish peace andthe value of building positive connections. But
the other thing that's major now isjoy and joy, the difference between as
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we know that the difference between joyand being happy happy has happenstance, it's
it's it's due to the circumstances.But with joy, you can have joy
in good situations and in bad situations. How is that possible? And I
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know that there's a part of usthat many of us, because we are
so disconnected and so caught up inthe world, that we neglect ourselves.
Elsie Robins that things may happen aroundyou and things that may happen to you.
But he said, and I thinkit's in alignment with what you said
in this book. Is what mattersmost is what happens in you talk to
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me about having joy in the midstof the star. There's a cute sign
in our building that says, joyis not a destiny, it's a way
of life. Come on, now, don't come from me. I didn't
call an uber joy. Say thatagain. Joy is not a destiny,
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it's a way of life. It'sa way of life. Jou yie this
day whom ye shall serve? Youcan you can get caught up in the
stress or you can choose the joyin the midst of the pain and turn
it into purpose. And so joyis the is the life within life.
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Joy is not an object you pickup and you put down. I don't
even consider joy. Of course,there's many ways of expressing joy. There's
the raw, ra loud joy,and then there's the joy of life.
What I envisioned. The joy oflife is where I am at one hundred
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percent productivity, my mind, myheart working together in harmony. All bells
and whistles, all circuits are playing, and everything is working smoothly. In
other words, I'm feeling the experienceof the moment. It could be it
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could be a painful moment. Themore joy I have, the more I
will feel the pain because I amsensitive, I'm open, i am alert,
and so I'm totally aware of what'sgoing on. Even the small bumps
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show up in my life. SoI'm not looking for joy, not the
destiny. Oh I have I beenjoyful lately? Joy is within everything you
do. It's a part of theeveryday, everyday life, and that is
the lead up together. Once youhave the calmness of the of the calmness
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of the peace, you can focus, You can stay focused. You're with
me? Are you with me?You're focusing, then you're bringing your all
together in harmony. Here I am, I'm totally here for you one.
I'm here to serve you know youhave You've taken me to another place.
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It's the value of conversation because whenyou said joy, it's a way of
life. What you're saying is joynot tested, can't be trusted. It's
easy to have joy if your buildsare pay you're not having your problems in
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your relationship, you have enough moneyin the bank. It's easy to have
joy, man, because life belife in stuff's going to happen. Things
are going to happen to you,Things going to happen to people that you
care about. But when joy becomesa choice, choose ye this day,
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whom ye shall serve. The highsthat's within you are the laws that's within
you. When you have joy,the circumstances, the situations, the external
things don't affect you because you're notliving your life from the outside end.
You're living your life from the insideout. And that's why that joy.
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As people observe you, that wayof life that you have chosen pass all
human understanding. Is said, howcould he still be happy in the midst
of this, Well, it mightnot make sense, but it does create
joy when it's a way of life. So anyone who wants to succeed,
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whatever we want to do, ifyou want to win the race, if
you want to lift the weights,whatever you want to do, you have
to open yourself up and allow forthe muscles to work, for the joints
to work, the mind and heartand all together. The opener to life.
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What's that oil that allows everything towork and grow is joy. I've
heard that joy takes to friction outof living beautiful if you're just joining us.
I'm talking to two individuals that Iadmire very much. And I wrote
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the forward to this book, Andif you're ready to have less stress in
your life and being willing to learna new way of life and how you
live your life to have more joy, to create and cultivate peace, harmony,
and joy, this book is ablueprint on how to get there.
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You're gonna You're gonna learn a lotof stuff. I mean. And what
I realized is that reading it's likegoing to see a movie that you've seen
many times, like Forrest Gump.Every time I see it, I see
some stuff that I didn't see before. And every time I read it,
I see some stuff that I didn'tsee before. I mean, you,
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guys, I told you earlier thiswas a download, all right, And
so I'm encouraging you to get thisbook. It's powerful, and not only
for yourself, but get it forpeople that you care about. Get it
for your family, for friends,for the people that you work with,
because as we look at where weare right now, we need the tools
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to help navigate this new space,this place where we are that we have
never been before. And as badas it looks, here's what I know.
In the midst of a surgery,it looks like a murder, but
on the other side as a healing. And when you have less stress,
you can accelerate the healing because nowyou can use the tool of joy to
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connect with your family members and havemore peace the team and the people that
you work with and your friends,and as you look at yourself, have
more harmity within yourself and your relationshipsand be able to create joy in the
midst of all these things that's goingon right now. As you think about
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this moment, and I do believethat this book and YouTube. You were
born and preserved for such a timeas this to bring this message the alliance.
Tell me what the Alliance is doingin this space and helping to amplify
this message and get people connected tobegin to move in the direction to create
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a shift in the collective consciousness ofthe planet. So the Peace, Harmony
and Enjoy Alliance was formed literally totransform this planet, to bring everybody together
again peace harmony, enjoying the planet. What's interesting is there's lots of organizations
out there doing parts of this,but we have yet to find any organizations
is doing peace harmony, joy within, peace harmony, enjoy with others,
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and peace harmony enjoy across the planet. There's all these different pieces. So
we're literally trying to bring together organizationsall over the world to unite. No
government is going to sign treaties forpeace, harmony, enjoy on this planet.
It's not can be religious organizations,it's not gonna be corporations. It's
going to be people like the threeof us and who come together as parts
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of other organizations and really say thisis the way we're going to live our
lives. We're also teaching the fundamentalconcepts um there's lots of ways to peace
harm I enjoy by the way,but we've got we've got this approach and
um, there's a million ways tohave peace, but we say, if
you want to start with everything aroundthe planet, you need to have it
within yourself. And so we're sharingall these different approaches to peace by the
way. It could be belief inGod, it could be nature walks,
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it could be pilates, but somehowjust calm down, because once you calm
down, then you can start tofind out you can who you truly want
to be when you grow up,and who what your gifts are and how
you want to make the world abetter place. Um. And then you
can be again in the moment andyou can truly be present and and and
and and share all that peace harmI enjoy with it's in yourself with others.
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And it's amazing. It's like theripple effect. It can transform the
planet. That's the peace harmony toenjoy alliance, and we're we're doing it
one person, one organization at atime. UM. But it's amazing what's
happened in the last several years.Again, we've got people all over the
world, organizations all over the worldcoming together, and again, for whatever
reason, these there's people around theworld are actually already been working on those
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parts of it, and we're simplytrying to bring it all together and make
the world a better place. Buthonestly, what would you like to say?
I think this is this is avery important alliance. And the fact
that we're sitting here together and you'vetaught the world something very important, the
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greatness within it scares me to realizethat there are people who are empty on
the inside. They don't know whyam I here? And who cares if
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I'm not here? And what isthe difference what I do? So you
can talk about peace, harmony,enjoy, but nobody's home, just floating,
going with the wind, reacting,bouncing around. We need to start
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from the center within, and thecenter within says, oh oh, oh,
you matter. There's a good reasonyou were born. And remember you
are a masterpiece because you're a pieceof the master Thank you. So let's
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start from that core of you knowwhat, I love. I love birthdays.
I love birthdays. I just lovethe whole idea of celebrating your birthday,
your birth Let's capitalize on that.Just let's make birthdays more more important
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because you're gonna have to sit downand say, okay, so so,
yeah, so I am born.So what You're gonna surround yourself with people
really care about you, and you'regonna feel like, yeah, you know
there is a reason I am here. Wow, I do play a role
here and know the world would bea lot emptier without me. Me me.
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So everyone has to start with thatstatement. I am. Start with
that statement and then finish it.I am. I'd like to say to
myself, I am needed. Somebodyneed needs me, and I'm happy with
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that. I don't I need alot of things, but what really doesn't
matter. If I need a lotof things, I will get it.
I won't get it. I'll bedisappointed. I'll be not disappointed. I'll
have expectations. But who needs me? Tell me? Who needs me?
I am needed? And I ama co creator to make this world a
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better place? Wow? God me, you want me me to work with
you co create? Happy birthday?MM. Before we land this plane,
I want to ask you what canwe look forward to? I mean,
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what are you doing? What isthe peace? And I'm gonna enjoy alliance
doing as we look at where we'regoing now because people are always asking this
question, who are you? Whatdo you have? And gonna trust you?
And where are you going? Andwho's going with you? That's the
value of the alliance. Where areyou going? What do you see?
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So we want to work with peopleall over the world, and we are
simply trying to find anybody and everybodywho wants to get on this team and
wants to make the world a betterplace and wants to start with themselves.
And we want to teach you ourprinciples. We want you to then apply
those principles to yourself and share themwith others. And so it's a ripple
effect and it's amazing how one personcan make them impact on many many people
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across the planet. We also wantto bring together organizations like ours, and
we've got many organizations around the worldworking with us. If you're interested in
working with us, come to ourwebsite. Let us know we love the
partner with you. Okay, tellus what is your website? And where
can people get the book? Howcan they get the book? Where's the
website? And they're saying, look, Scott Frank, I want to work
with you, guys, You andreb yasie, I mean yas. How
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can they get in touch with areeasy? Peace, Harmony, joy dot
org. Come to our website,sign up, get ask us a question,
connect with us the book Harmony,joy dot org. Well, let's
UM. I represent an organization UMthat is a worldwide organization. We have
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a branch in Gwynette County, Georgia, and that's Haabat And so right here
there's an alliance between peace, Harmonyand Joy and Yes and our organization.
Yes, and we are UM local. Yet really the word local doesn't really
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mean anymore in this particular place.Yes, because technology eliminates geography totally.
We just like you're connected to yourfamily wherever they are. So we have
people that are coming to Habbad inour location. When they move, they're
still connected with us. We arethe Habbad Enrichment Center. The enrichment is
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all about. What we're talking aboutis how can I make your life a
little richer? How can I elevateyour life to a different level. And
we're running a capital campaign because we'rebuilding a center at in the Peatreet Corners
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area in the neighborhood, and soeveryone is welcome to come and join us
and participate in this very very bigimportant agenda. And we our slogan now
is find your center here and theemphasis is find your center. We like
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to say that this is the playyou will find your center. It's not
about finding us, It's about findingyourself, finding out who you are,
what's in that space right here,the heart, what's your core, what's
your roots. But there's something elsethat it does me talk about enrichment,
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George Bernard Shaw said, and thisis what I love. He said,
we should be ashamed to die untilwe made some major contribution to humankind.
This center, this work, thisbook, the Peace, Harmony and Joy
Alliance is designed to do the greaterwork and to live a life of service
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greatest among you who is your servant, and live a life of contribution and
allow people to take a stand buttheir lives. I'm to be on the
team. Thank you so much.We're excited. We're excited for the work
that you're doing. We were bornfor this time, and we got this.
We got this, Thank you verygod. This we're gonna do it.
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Thank you so much. Yes,we hope that you've got some value
out of this. This is yourtime, this is your moment. You
were born and preserved for such atime as this. You have something special.
We've got greatness in you. That'sour story. We're sticking to it.
You have something special, you havegreatness in you. I have two special
guests, surely goodness and mercies.You'll follow me all the days of my
life. My name is Les Brownand my special guests. This is a
second time that I have an opportunityto present them to you. We talked
about a book that is something that'svery close to my heart, that I
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believe in and that we have thecapacity to do to create in our life
experience less stress and we can havemore joy. And this book is I
think a blueprint that all of uscan use. This at a time where
there's been major disruptions, not onlybecause of the pandemic, but because of
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artificial intelligence of the domestic violence isincreased suicide violence taking place, people not
feeling safe being in public, orwhen we send our children to school and
we expect that they'll be able tocome back home without having to run out
of the school because of a shooter. This is a different space and so
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we had no idea at the timewhen we introduced this book that this is
something that it's time time now morethan ever before. Scott Frank, how
are you fantastic? And Rabbi Yasi, how you doing This is amazing.
Thank you. These are my twobrothers from another mother. Tell me what
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has been going on since you havebeen speaking about you created an alliance.
What have been you've been doing inthis space? Given what's going on now
locally, nationally, and globally.I'll just simply say this, we're just
putting the word out. Lots ofbooks have been purchased, lots of people
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have talked to us about how canwe help others, And like you said,
we formed this organization called the Peace, Harmony Joy Alliance. Our ultimate
mission is peace on Earth. Yeah, and we'd like to see that in
a foreseeable future with all the challengeswe see on this planet right now,
whether it's politics or wars, justso much adversity, and we simply see
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a future where we can all getalong. But it else starts with each
of us. If we're going tohave peace with others, we've got to
have peace within ourselves. And sowe have worked with many people now about
how to deal with anxiety, howto deal with all the politics, how
to deal with social media, howto deal with all the things that are
just going on around us. Calmis so important to all of our existence
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if we truly want to have thegreatness within us fulfilled. And when you
feel the calm, then you canstart to actually connect with your true purpose
what we created. Each of usis so special and unique and has amazing
talents and gifts for this planet.And so when you're calm and at peace,
you can start to connect with yourtrue best self. And so we're
helping people to understand, like whenthey were children, what did you like?
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What are the things that you enjoy? What are things that really really
energize you? And then we helpthem to cultivate and grow those and and
literally utilize those those those life talentsand gifts they have with themselves and with
others. When you're feeling at peaceand when you're actually being your true self,
then you can start to feel joyon a consistent basis. And and
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by the way, joy is notabout just you know, doing things you
like. It's actually being in themoment. It's like, I'm here with
you, less, I'm here withyou, yasi, Like this is it.
It's not about thinking about other things. It's not about watching TV and
talking to your wife. It's aboutbeing in it. So we're helping many
many people have peace, harm andenjoy in themselves. And what's happening is
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when they feel good about themselves,when they're having those experiences on a consistent
basis, then they can start tohave it with people close to them.
And so we're showing people how tohave great experiences, great lives with their
family, with their teams at work, with their sports teams. And it's
transformative. It's amazing all these peoplethat we've been gifted with having our lives,
different personalities, different talents, differentgifts. Just like an orchestra,
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everybody played the same instrument, itwouldn't sound too good, but we can't
get everybody playing their own instruments andplaying together in a peaceful, harmonious,
joyful Maynor is amazing the music wecan make, and it is beautiful,
and then you can start to takeit to communities. You can start to
take it to other cities, othercountries. And we are actually on our
peace Hartment Joint Alliance, actually peoplefrom around the world who have come together
to truly try to make this planeta better place. Now I want to
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thank you for that, But whatare the things that I'm sure a lot
of people thinking about and where wehave some places back. Hey, how
can I have peace? I've justbeen laid off. How can I have
peace? I just left the placewhere I've been working for forty years and
they said that I'm by it becauseall the things that's going on right now?
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How can I have peace? AndI got a lovely member, family
member who's dealing with mental illness.It's easy to say peace, harmony,
enjoy, but what are the rituals? Rabbiatzi and I know that you have
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a ritual and our good friend Yahuda, who has helped me to begin to
see the value of having a ritualso that you on a regular basis,
you can cultivate a sense of peace, harmony and joy by having collaborative relationships
with people that in alignment with thatlevel of thinking that helps you to step
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into that space. Talk to abus, talk to us about how important
having a ritual to cultivate peace.Thank you, lez And I'm I'm a
member of society, a member ofthe world, just like everybody else,
trying to live a healthy, happylife, being attacked every day by something
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else, some news or some typeof event or a word, a relationship
breakup, and what happens when wefeel we're under attack, we go into
the fight or flight or freeze mode. And when you're in that fight,
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flight or freeze mode, you're practicallynot functioning. You're not with us,
you're not fully alive, You're notat your best. And that's we want
to make people aware of that.People are We know that. But what
I want when i'm want to askyou, there's something that Jan Levan said,
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give to your self until your cuprunner over. There's some things that
you do for yourself, so youcan't give to the world. If you're
dealing with an empty wagon. Yougot you got to have something that you
pour into yourself. How do Ibecause we know life is happening, think
it not strange that you're face tofire furnaces of this world. So what
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is it that I need to doto fortify myself? And one of the
things that we know always ask whensomebody is stressed out, I ask them
what are you looking at? Sowhat do you mean I'm looking at you
to know? I said, thereason that you are stressed out now is
that you're focused on and you aregiving more attention to stuff that that focus.
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Where focus goes, energy flows.What are you looking at and then
they start telling me about their bills, or their children or something that has
happened to them. So I'm askingyou, how do you help people to
to go within and to center it? Is it through prayer? Is it
through reading? Is it through havingconversations a group of people that you communicate
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with on a regular basis that helpyou to align your thinking, to tune
out the world and go within,to find that piece that passeth all human
understanding. Precisely less as you said, what's your story? And what are
you looking at? Your story thatyou're telling yourself, and that is what
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your mind is telling yourself. Whatwe try to help people is see the
story, perhaps take a step back, perhaps take a bigger look at the
picture. We're looking at one partof the picture. We're looking at one
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day of the event, We're lookingat one person. There is so many
different sides to the story. Yes, we're constantly relearning that I didn't know.
Oh is that what you meant?I didn't realize that. And so
this idea that you cannot judge thesituation specifically strictly by seeing what you see
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right now? What's the big picture? I tried this to myself connect with
a bigger world, connect with abigger history, connecting with God. That
all allows me to go up afew floors, to get a bird's eye
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view and to realize this is apart of my life and it's going to
be for my benefit for me tolearn if you're just joining us. I'm
talking to to men who I justconsider a godsend at this point in time.
These are the authors of the book, Less Stress, More Joy.
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I encourage you to get this.I'm going through it now for the eighth
time because what it is designed todo is to give you a blueprint of
how you can create peace, harmony, and joy in your life. It
was a very revealing, I think, confirmation of what they have in this
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book. Harvard University three weeks agothey released a study and they were looking
at what is it that allowed peopleto live a long life. Many people
thought having access to healthcare, orhaving herbs, or having a vegan or
a vegetarian diet, and what theycame up with positive connections. And if
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you don't have peace with yourself,if you're disconnected with yourself, you will
not have harmony in your life.But if you do have peace with yourself,
you have peace in your relationships.And what they're saying is which is
an alignment with less stress and morejoy that as a result of that harmony,
that increases your longevity, that allowsyou to live longer, It fortisfies
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your immune system. The whole bodyof work is in this area of psych
neural immunology, and so it's aboutcreating collaborative, achievement driven supportive relationships.
If you don't have this book,please get this book right now. Talk
about building a network of supportive relationships. The level of harmony in the power
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that comes out of that people thatyou interact with on a regular basis,
because a lot of people are facingfrom loneliness, anxiety, hopelessness. But
in order to have harmony, andit's possible in this space, you can't
do this by yourself. So,as you said it, the word the
key word. And I've always wondered, what is that one ingredient for a
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successful life? What can we canwe just basically just get it down to
one word, And I think rightnow I believe the word is harmony.
My understanding of harmony is to havea balance. Balance is where you have
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you have different parts but coming togetherand So what I just said is that
there is no one answer to asuccessful life or a healthy life. Success
and health comes when you have theright coalition where you integrate. Let's just
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talk about how many changes we havegoing on. We have this the spring
season is now upon us. Sowe had winter, spring, summer,
fall, We have day and wehave night. We have mind that we
have heart, we have faith andwe have reason. We have different kinds
of people, all the of allof them come together and creating the right
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balance. So each one of usis important, Each one of us is
important, but we're only there aslong as there's somebody else there. Yes,
so very very important is to getconnected, Yes, with your family,
with your friends, with a groupof people of your your type,
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of your network. All of thattogether gives us a sense of togetherness and
harmony. It's it's still a veryimportant what the point about harmony and and
building a network of collaborative positive connections. But there's something else about relationships,
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And I've heard this said that thatrelationships have seasons. Sometimes somebody comes in
your life for a reason, somefor a season and some for a lifetime.
And that part of being able tohave peace and I just finished listening
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to something that really got me.They ask a strategic question, who's in
your room? That sometimes we haveto make a decision that this relationship it's
no longer me. I've outgrown thisrelationship because they're toxic relationships and negative relationships
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that you will never have peace,you will never have harmony. There are
some people who bring the best outof you and some people who bring the
worst out of you. And partof that harmony is being able to look
at the relationships and ask the strategicquestion, what is this relationship doing to
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me? There's a young lady whoshe has a soul and the entitle of
it is I feel lonely whatever youare around God dam Frankie Crocker, he
was the disc jock out of NewYork. He said, it's better to
be a load than to wish youwere. Talk about the value of looking
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at your relationships and asking the question, is this relationship working for me?
Some relationships might be working for theother person, but it doesn't work for
you because you're not going in thesame direction as Sydney Portier Academy Award winner.
He said, when you go fora walk with someone, he said,
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something happens without being spoken. Hesaid, either you adjust to their
pace or they adjust to your apace? Whose pace have you adjusted to?
Talk about the value of looking atand taking inventory of who's in your
room, who you're surrounded with,who you're interacting with. That's that's probably
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the most important, most challenging partof life is our relationships and why is
it there? Why do we needto have relationships? Well, once again,
we're not meant to be alone.We are part of a bigger picture.
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And the picture is where we needto bring together parts like a symphony,
like a good a good chalk acake. All right, I'm in
the mood of a chocolate cake rightnow. Okay, So where's the cream?
So where's a good chocolate cake?Made out of lots of lots of
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ingredients. But the key to itall is the proportions, the amounts.
Did you mix it well? Andbringing it all together? That is what
by seeing his life is about bringingthings together. I'm only one part of
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the ingredients, gon't you? Butyou know it's God, frank you And
I'm looking at this an expansive way. You're a corporate leader, you're a
team leader. You have to bringpeople together, you have to evaluate them.
And sometimes you can have a goodperson in the wrong place and it
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won't work. And sometimes in ourper some relationships you have to say,
no, you gotta go. Tellme a difficult situation that you're in,
and you had to say to thisperson, you had to make this decision,
because we make decisions, and nowdecisions make us. That you knew
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in order to have peace and harmitythat this person had to go, give
us an example of how you handlethat. So you know, I approach
life from the perspective that nothing happensby accident. Everybody's here for a reason.
Even a person that might have togo is here for a reason.
And what I encourage everybody to thinkabout when they're with somebody, even some
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way that needs to go, isto remind themselves that they're a person,
and they're they're on this planet fora purpose. They've got feelings, by
the way, they've got a story. And when you get to know people
and really truly understand them, thepeople that I've had to say, you
know, this isn't probably the bestposition for you, they've actually agreed.
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So I encourage everybody to connect ata level that that's not you telling them,
but it's coming together and everybody understanding. You know this is this is
a right decision for everybody. Andit's amazing when you actually get to know
people. Uh yeah, they maynot be the right person for that role,
but they're right person for something.And you know, every single thing
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that happens in our life happens fora reason. It can be a joyous
experience, it can be an importantlesson and by the way, lessons can
be joyous too if you actually havethe right perspective. But I will just
tell you every single conversation I havewith somebody, every single person in my
life. First thing, I wantto have a peaceful relationship. Don't yell
at them if they say something mean, don't mean I gotta say something mean
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back. It's amazing when you whenyou set the tone with a peaceful relationship,
how you then you can have theseconversations where you begin to understand each
other and see how each other playsroles in each other's lives. And just
because they are not the right personfor the job in your company doesn't mean
that they're not a good person foranother job. And even more importantly,
even to play a role in yourlife. And I will tell you there's
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people who have I've told this isn'tthe right job for you who have agreed,
And actually I've stayed connected to afterwardsand kept up with them with their
next job and their families and allthe other things that are going on.
Every single person who I come incontact with, that's the mindset I try
to have. And it all startswith peace. Not everyone's gonna be my
friend, but I'm all gonna fightwith anybody. And it's amazing. If
you have peaceful relationshipships with everybody,you can then begin to build relationships with
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people and have make music with themwhere you never would have expected. Do
you as a leader, how muchtime do you spend looking at and talking
with and investing the time to askthe question is this a good fit?
I did a training the other dayand one of the individuals that I want
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you to be my one on onecoach, and I said to the group,
all money is not good murdered andI do he would drive me crazy,
And I said, you know what, I know you got something,
but I'm not the word. AndI'm encouraging you to find someone that your
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values are similar that y'all can worktogether. And I like what your intentions
are. We want to do thework that we call the greater work to
make the world a better place.But at this stage of my life,
at seventy eight, I think yougo cost me too. But stress up
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it here, up it here,you're going to have you said, you're
about to make me lose by bye, up it here, up it here.
We're on two different pages because inthe presentation in the training, he
was using a lot of profanity.And I teach young people that profanity is
the strongest expression of a weak mind. But this new area where we are,
a lot of people make profanity.They're new normal. And so I'd
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say, no, you and Ican't do life together. I don't know
how much time I got left,but I'm not gonna do it with you.
See you want and we both laughand he say bad. I appreciate
you of being straight up with me. And there are sometimes if you want
to have harmony in your life,you have to let go or be dragged.
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You gotta let them go or theywill drag you. Doubt, even
in your personal life, if youdon't have peace and harmony in your household,
it's going to affect your performance inevery area of your life. Would
you agree with that? I knowwhat you're saying, and I agree you
need to have peace in all aspectsof your life. I think the thing
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that most people don't think about isthe harmony part, so you can you
know, you don't have to havea certain purpose in your life, so
you can have more peace, orif they're in your life, don't fight
with them. But the thing thatI just encourage people to consider is is
making music with everybody in your life. And I think that's the part where
most people don't take the time.They simply are too busy, or they
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think they that the you know,personality that doesn't that rubs them wrong,
or whatever it is. They don'tthey can't do the job. I just
encourage people to take the time.And one of the tricks that we've that
I've learned over the last decade orso is a concept called listen from not
knowing, and it's it's taught byDiane Collins Allen Collins, who wrote the
book Do You Quantum Think? Andteach and teach those concepts. It's amazing
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to me so many times we thinkwe know somebody. It could be a
family member, could be someone andyou work with and you think, like,
this person says the same thing overand over again, they do the
same thing. Keep asked them tothe job, and they're not doing it,
They're not listening. Treat that personlike you've never met them before.
Yeah, you know, you knowthat experience with somebody when you first meet
them, Like when you first meetsomeone, like everybody's good, like you
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actually are kind of interested and excited. Like, treat them like you've never
talked to them before, and havea conversation and you will be amazed.
How if you truly are like reallyintent on having a like a new conversation
with this person, you will learnthings, You will connect at a different
level, and you actually will makesome music in that in that conversation.
And I'll tell you something. Peoplewho work for me, most people work
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for me. You have worked forme for a very long time and for
variety of reasons. Who knows exactlywhy, But I will tell you one
of the things I take pride inmyself is I treat everybody on my team
like they're going to be successful.And I actually you asked earlier, you
know, when you've told people theyneed to go when I've told people they
need to go. Actually, Iget to a place where they know they
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need to go and it's not Idon't. I've never had to say someone
bye bye. You know you're notthe right fit here. They've always known
it. But the bigger point isis I actually try to get to know
people at a level where I cangrow them. And I'll tell you as
something, I coach a lot ofyouth sports when my kids were younger,
and in U sports are a greatopportunity to try this out because in U
sports you can't fire the kids.Yeah, you get, you get your
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team, but guess what, there'sa there's a last pick on your team,
and that boy or girl is notgoing to be as good as your
first pick. But guess what thesecret to championships is actually working with your
last picks and you And really it'samazing to me over a season how you
can develop children. And we wanta lot of championships. But even more
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importantly, we had a lot ofchildren who probably would have given up on
the sport but came back the nextseason because they had a great experience and
their families had a great experience andit's amazing to watch them blossom. And
that's what I try to take tothe work world, and I just encourage
everybody to actually think, if someone'snot doing the job, don't think about
firing them. Actually see if youcan connect with them at a different level,
see if you can understand them,and see if you can make music
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with them, and you'll be amazedabout the potential and the greatness within everybody
on this planet. It's something yousay this key that in order to have
harmony and relationship you have to havea maintenance strategy. And at the top
of the list of that strategy iswhat you said, you got to put
in the time. But there's somethingelse that's key, and I want to
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ask you about this. Rabbayasi.I took my daughter Samya out to the
park and she was going up thesteps of a sliding board and then she
got up to the top. Shesaid, Daddy, and I said,
what is it? Baby? Sheasked me, where are you? I
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said, I'm right here with you. She said, oh, and then
she went down the slide and whatshe knew that my mind had gone someplace
else. She observed that so partof having maintenance in a relationship. Not
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only must you put in the timeto maintain that level of peace, but
you have to be present with thepeople that you are interacting with. Talked
to us about presence, because I'veseen the difference in Yahooda when we talk
and he spent time with you,and he came back and there was a
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countinance that was different, his energy, the smile on his face. Talk
about being present with our love words. I got to give you this other
example. It just dropped ord me. This family, this couple had been
married a long time, and shewas going past her husband and she stopped
him and she said, where ishe? He said, what are you
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talking about? Where is he?He said, have you lost your mind?
Where is this guy who said Iwill love you tell death do us
part? Where is this guy thatI first met that was so concernsider it
that we used to date and wespend time together, that we used to
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all whole hands, and when wewere in a restaurant we talked to each
other and we weren't on the phone. We didn't put when we had dinner
our telephones on the table and takecalls. What happened to him? He
said, he died, but I'mgoing to bring him to life because you
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asked that question. You brought meto life. Yes, you brought me
to life, he said, I'mgonna bring him back because sometimes we can
drift apart because of life. Belife and talked about being present in our
relationships to maintain that level of harmony. Wow, I think of the words
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stop. We got to have thatset of breaks. You're going to know
it's time to stop, stop whatyou're doing and pay attention to what is
being is happening now, especially ifanother human being is talking to you.
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So we're all on the constant gogo, go faster and faster and faster.
But I would put up the stopsign before we even talk about peace,
before the word peace, I wouldsay, stop, stop everything,
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what are you talking about? Stop? Stop the chatter, stop, did
the conversation, stop the story?Stop everything? Oh? Stop? And
so that that sometimes takes discipline.When was the last time you you used
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your brakes? When was the lasttime you said no? See, that's
a way harder to say how touse your brakes? You say no to
yourself? When was the last namesaid no to yourself? It's easy to
say no, to other people.So we're not using our brakes to learn
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to practice to stop and go motion. So that allows you to stop focus,
focus deeply, because if you're notfocusing, you're shallow. You're skimming
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the top, checking it out,reading the email real real quick, next,
real quick. And we're all veryshallow. We're becoming shallow. Did
you hear what I said? Ithink I heard what you said, and
we heard something. But that stop, which takes strength, inner strength,
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Yes, and focus. I hada friend who once gave me good advice.
He's an attorney, and he said, this is the best advice he's
ever received. Is that when aclient is sitting with you in your office,
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he's sitting on the chair, you'resitting on the chair. He's the
most important thing in your world rightnow. Nothing else matters. There's there's
that total attention that we so weso first desire to have, so les
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you're we're all looking for at ingredientsof a good life and a better life.
And what are the disciplines focusing whensomebody else is speaking, Stop your
own chatter, stop your thought process. Lots of our prayers that we we
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do, we close our eyes andnot only does this say close your eyes,
but it says put your right handover your eyes, so you're not
gonna peak. You're not gonna likelike one keep one eye open, one
eye closed, because you're gonna putyour hand over your eye to make sure
your eyes are closed. There's insteadof looking outwards, you're gonna turn your
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turn your eyeballs and look inwards andstop with the outside distraction. Are of
popular prayer of hero Israel. TheLord is our God, the Lord is
one. We typically say it withour eyes closed, in our hand over
our eyes, and I think thatis a form of focus gotch if you're
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just joining us. These are theauthors of the book that I encourage you
to get that just really it's powerful, less stress, more joy. How
to begin to establish in your lifeand in your relationships or in your business
or the people that you're working with, the people that you love. How
to begin in the midst of allthe chaos and the things that's going on,
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have peace, harmony and joy andevery dimension of our lives. And
we've talked about the area of howto begin to establish and cultivate rituals that
will allow us to establish peace andthe value of building positive connections. But
the other thing that's major now isjoy and joy, the difference between as
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we know that the difference between joyand being happy happy has happenstance, it's
it's it's due to the circumstances.But with joy, you can have joy
in good situations and in bad situations. How is that possible? And I
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know that there's a part of usthat many of us, because we are
so disconnected and so caught up inthe world, that we neglect ourselves.
Elsie Robins that things may happen aroundyou and things that may happen to you.
But he said, and I thinkit's in alignment with what you said
in this book. Is what mattersmost is what happens in you talk to
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me about having joy in the midstof the star. There's a cute sign
in our building that says, joyis not a destiny, it's a way
of life. Come on, now, don't come from me. I didn't
call an uber joy. Say thatagain. Joy is not a destiny,
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it's a way of life. It'sa way of life. Jou yie this
day whom ye shall serve? Youcan you can get caught up in the
stress or you can choose the joyin the midst of the pain and turn
it into purpose. And so joyis the is the life within life.
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Joy is not an object you pickup and you put down. I don't
even consider joy. Of course,there's many ways of expressing joy. There's
the raw, ra loud joy,and then there's the joy of life.
What I envisioned. The joy oflife is where I am at one hundred
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percent productivity, my mind, myheart working together in harmony. All bells
and whistles, all circuits are playing, and everything is working smoothly. In
other words, I'm feeling the experienceof the moment. It could be it
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could be a painful moment. Themore joy I have, the more I
will feel the pain because I amsensitive, I'm open, i am alert,
and so I'm totally aware of what'sgoing on. Even the small bumps
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show up in my life. SoI'm not looking for joy, not the
destiny. Oh I have I beenjoyful lately? Joy is within everything you
do. It's a part of theeveryday, everyday life, and that is
the lead up together. Once youhave the calmness of the of the calmness
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of the peace, you can focus, You can stay focused. You're with
me? Are you with me?You're focusing, then you're bringing your all
together in harmony. Here I am, I'm totally here for you one.
I'm here to serve you know youhave You've taken me to another place.
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It's the value of conversation because whenyou said joy, it's a way of
life. What you're saying is joynot tested, can't be trusted. It's
easy to have joy if your buildsare pay you're not having your problems in
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your relationship, you have enough moneyin the bank. It's easy to have
joy, man, because life belife in stuff's going to happen. Things
are going to happen to you,Things going to happen to people that you
care about. But when joy becomesa choice, choose ye this day,
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whom ye shall serve. The highsthat's within you are the laws that's within
you. When you have joy,the circumstances, the situations, the external
things don't affect you because you're notliving your life from the outside end.
You're living your life from the insideout. And that's why that joy.
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As people observe you, that wayof life that you have chosen pass all
human understanding. Is said, howcould he still be happy in the midst
of this, Well, it mightnot make sense, but it does create
joy when it's a way of life. So anyone who wants to succeed,
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whatever we want to do, ifyou want to win the race, if
you want to lift the weights,whatever you want to do, you have
to open yourself up and allow forthe muscles to work, for the joints
to work, the mind and heartand all together. The opener to life.
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What's that oil that allows everything towork and grow is joy. I've
heard that joy takes to friction outof living beautiful if you're just joining us.
I'm talking to two individuals that Iadmire very much. And I wrote
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the forward to this book, Andif you're ready to have less stress in
your life and being willing to learna new way of life and how you
live your life to have more joy, to create and cultivate peace, harmony,
and joy, this book is ablueprint on how to get there.
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You're gonna You're gonna learn a lotof stuff. I mean. And what
I realized is that reading it's likegoing to see a movie that you've seen
many times, like Forrest Gump.Every time I see it, I see
some stuff that I didn't see before. And every time I read it,
I see some stuff that I didn'tsee before. I mean, you,
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guys, I told you earlier thiswas a download, all right, And
so I'm encouraging you to get thisbook. It's powerful, and not only
for yourself, but get it forpeople that you care about. Get it
for your family, for friends,for the people that you work with,
because as we look at where weare right now, we need the tools
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to help navigate this new space,this place where we are that we have
never been before. And as badas it looks, here's what I know.
In the midst of a surgery,it looks like a murder, but
on the other side as a healing. And when you have less stress,
you can accelerate the healing because nowyou can use the tool of joy to
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connect with your family members and havemore peace the team and the people that
you work with and your friends,and as you look at yourself, have
more harmity within yourself and your relationshipsand be able to create joy in the
midst of all these things that's goingon right now. As you think about
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this moment, and I do believethat this book and YouTube. You were
born and preserved for such a timeas this to bring this message the alliance.
Tell me what the Alliance is doingin this space and helping to amplify
this message and get people connected tobegin to move in the direction to create
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a shift in the collective consciousness ofthe planet. So the Peace, Harmony
and Enjoy Alliance was formed literally totransform this planet, to bring everybody together
again peace harmony, enjoying the planet. What's interesting is there's lots of organizations
out there doing parts of this,but we have yet to find any organizations
is doing peace harmony, joy within, peace harmony, enjoy with others,
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and peace harmony enjoy across the planet. There's all these different pieces. So
we're literally trying to bring together organizationsall over the world to unite. No
government is going to sign treaties forpeace, harmony, enjoy on this planet.
It's not can be religious organizations,it's not gonna be corporations. It's
going to be people like the threeof us and who come together as parts
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of other organizations and really say thisis the way we're going to live our
lives. We're also teaching the fundamentalconcepts um there's lots of ways to peace
harm I enjoy by the way,but we've got we've got this approach and
um, there's a million ways tohave peace, but we say, if
you want to start with everything aroundthe planet, you need to have it
within yourself. And so we're sharingall these different approaches to peace by the
way. It could be belief inGod, it could be nature walks,
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it could be pilates, but somehowjust calm down, because once you calm
down, then you can start tofind out you can who you truly want
to be when you grow up,and who what your gifts are and how
you want to make the world abetter place. Um. And then you
can be again in the moment andyou can truly be present and and and
and and share all that peace harmI enjoy with it's in yourself with others.
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And it's amazing. It's like theripple effect. It can transform the
planet. That's the peace harmony toenjoy alliance, and we're we're doing it
one person, one organization at atime. UM. But it's amazing what's
happened in the last several years.Again, we've got people all over the
world, organizations all over the worldcoming together, and again, for whatever
reason, these there's people around theworld are actually already been working on those
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parts of it, and we're simplytrying to bring it all together and make
the world a better place. Buthonestly, what would you like to say?
I think this is this is avery important alliance. And the fact
that we're sitting here together and you'vetaught the world something very important, the
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greatness within it scares me to realizethat there are people who are empty on
the inside. They don't know whyam I here? And who cares if
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I'm not here? And what isthe difference what I do? So you
can talk about peace, harmony,enjoy, but nobody's home, just floating,
going with the wind, reacting,bouncing around. We need to start
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from the center within, and thecenter within says, oh oh, oh,
you matter. There's a good reasonyou were born. And remember you
are a masterpiece because you're a pieceof the master Thank you. So let's
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start from that core of you knowwhat, I love. I love birthdays.
I love birthdays. I just lovethe whole idea of celebrating your birthday,
your birth Let's capitalize on that.Just let's make birthdays more more important
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because you're gonna have to sit downand say, okay, so so,
yeah, so I am born.So what You're gonna surround yourself with people
really care about you, and you'regonna feel like, yeah, you know
there is a reason I am here. Wow, I do play a role
here and know the world would bea lot emptier without me. Me me.
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So everyone has to start with thatstatement. I am. Start with
that statement and then finish it.I am. I'd like to say to
myself, I am needed. Somebodyneed needs me, and I'm happy with
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that. I don't I need alot of things, but what really doesn't
matter. If I need a lotof things, I will get it.
I won't get it. I'll bedisappointed. I'll be not disappointed. I'll
have expectations. But who needs me? Tell me? Who needs me?
I am needed? And I ama co creator to make this world a
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better place? Wow? God me, you want me me to work with
you co create? Happy birthday?MM. Before we land this plane,
I want to ask you what canwe look forward to? I mean,
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what are you doing? What isthe peace? And I'm gonna enjoy alliance
doing as we look at where we'regoing now because people are always asking this
question, who are you? Whatdo you have? And gonna trust you?
And where are you going? Andwho's going with you? That's the
value of the alliance. Where areyou going? What do you see?
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So we want to work with peopleall over the world, and we are
simply trying to find anybody and everybodywho wants to get on this team and
wants to make the world a betterplace and wants to start with themselves.
And we want to teach you ourprinciples. We want you to then apply
those principles to yourself and share themwith others. And so it's a ripple
effect and it's amazing how one personcan make them impact on many many people
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across the planet. We also wantto bring together organizations like ours, and
we've got many organizations around the worldworking with us. If you're interested in
working with us, come to ourwebsite. Let us know we love the
partner with you. Okay, tellus what is your website? And where
can people get the book? Howcan they get the book? Where's the
website? And they're saying, look, Scott Frank, I want to work
with you, guys, You andreb yasie, I mean yas. How
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can they get in touch with areeasy? Peace, Harmony, joy dot
org. Come to our website,sign up, get ask us a question,
connect with us the book Harmony,joy dot org. Well, let's
UM. I represent an organization UMthat is a worldwide organization. We have
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a branch in Gwynette County, Georgia, and that's Haabat And so right here
there's an alliance between peace, Harmonyand Joy and Yes and our organization.
Yes, and we are UM local. Yet really the word local doesn't really
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mean anymore in this particular place.Yes, because technology eliminates geography totally.
We just like you're connected to yourfamily wherever they are. So we have
people that are coming to Habbad inour location. When they move, they're
still connected with us. We arethe Habbad Enrichment Center. The enrichment is
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all about. What we're talking aboutis how can I make your life a
little richer? How can I elevateyour life to a different level. And
we're running a capital campaign because we'rebuilding a center at in the Peatreet Corners
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area in the neighborhood, and soeveryone is welcome to come and join us
and participate in this very very bigimportant agenda. And we our slogan now
is find your center here and theemphasis is find your center. We like
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to say that this is the playyou will find your center. It's not
about finding us, It's about findingyourself, finding out who you are,
what's in that space right here,the heart, what's your core, what's
your roots. But there's something elsethat it does me talk about enrichment,
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George Bernard Shaw said, and thisis what I love. He said,
we should be ashamed to die untilwe made some major contribution to humankind.
This center, this work, thisbook, the Peace, Harmony and Joy
Alliance is designed to do the greaterwork and to live a life of service
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greatest among you who is your servant, and live a life of contribution and
allow people to take a stand buttheir lives. I'm to be on the
team. Thank you so much.We're excited. We're excited for the work
that you're doing. We were bornfor this time, and we got this.
We got this, Thank you verygod. This we're gonna do it.
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Thank you so much. Yes,we hope that you've got some value
out of this. This is yourtime, this is your moment. You
were born and preserved for such atime as this. You have something special.
We've got greatness in you. That'sour story. We're sticking to it.
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