August 5, 2025 • 6 mins
We got a question in for our American Mamas...
Dear Mamas, do you think your spouse should have access to your social media?
Dear Mamas, do you think your spouse should have access to your social media?
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
We got a question for American mama's. Dear mama's, do
you think your spouse should have access to your social
media accounts? Well, let's ask our American mamas.
Speaker 2 (00:20):
And joining us now.
Speaker 1 (00:21):
Our American mama is Terry Neediville and Kimberly Burlison. Okay,
y'all both have social media. I don't think Kevin does.
Speaker 2 (00:30):
I don't think. I don't think I've seen Mike does
he have social media?
Speaker 3 (00:33):
He does, but he's mostly a gamer on his phone games.
Speaker 2 (00:37):
All right, so he's not really involved.
Speaker 3 (00:39):
No, no, all right.
Speaker 1 (00:40):
So do they have access to your social medicause both
of y'all are very active on social media?
Speaker 3 (00:46):
They he could. I don't care. He knows my passwords, okay,
you know, and sometimes he's gotten in my phone because
he's looking for something and it doesn't bother me. I'm
sure you probably do feel the same way.
Speaker 4 (00:55):
Yeah, I don't mind at all. I'm just thinking I
don't remember my password. I had to change it a
couple of time. So if i'm out, if I get
out of Facebook somehow, I don't remember.
Speaker 3 (01:03):
You're excited if he can get into it, Yeah, if.
Speaker 4 (01:05):
He can figure it out, figure it out, but he'll
say I'll show him like, you know, look at this
with this. There's a time here that I was like,
just get a just get your I'm telling you you'll
have fun.
Speaker 2 (01:15):
You'lleah.
Speaker 1 (01:16):
Oh yeah.
Speaker 4 (01:16):
He's like, that's I'm not interested at all. If I
need to know something, I'll ask you. And so, yeah,
I would have zero problem with him looking at my Facebook.
Speaker 3 (01:25):
Have y'all seen that TikToker? So this guy he walks
in malls or he's at like State Bears or whatever,
and he stops couples and he asks that they're a couple,
and then he says, how long have you been together? Yes,
he's seen it, and so I've seen it where they've
been together for two years but also married couples like
twenty five years. And he'll say, do y'all trust each other?
And they'll like, oh yeah, absolutely absolutely. He goes, would
(01:45):
you give me your phone so I can see do
that test? And you always in the ones he shows,
there's one that just has that look on their face
like oh gosh, so and always there's one like oh yeah,
here you go. So he looks at their phones and
he starts whatever he does. He starts scrolling through things
like the apps, like apps, He'll go through apps and
he'll say who is Travis and he'll and the husband
(02:08):
will say what. So you see where things fall apart
right in front of your eyes on these little tiktoks.
And I have been shocked at the number of people
that are not doing the right thing, that are talking
to other people behind their person's back.
Speaker 2 (02:22):
That's wow.
Speaker 4 (02:23):
And or they'll be on that on a dating app
that's for cheaters, and that is devastating to the person
that's like, you know, in fact, some of them have
broken up at that at that moment.
Speaker 2 (02:35):
Moment the spot. I would think if you had a
dating app che your phone, yeah, that would be it. Yeah,
you know what.
Speaker 3 (02:41):
I think one of the signs and people have talked
about this if you have your cell phone and your
spouse and you go to look at their phone and
they like act weird, like what are you looking? What
do you want? Why do you want my phone? That's
a red flag.
Speaker 4 (02:53):
You know.
Speaker 3 (02:53):
If if my husband wanted to look at my phone,
he can look at it anytime. There's my phone, open it.
Speaker 4 (02:58):
Do whatever. Kevin and my kids use my phone all
the time. They'll grab it to get photos and stuff
all the time. It's like the family phone, you know.
Speaker 1 (03:06):
Actually, just the other night, Wendy picked up my phone
and all of a sudden, a Group met text comes
in and she goes, wait, you're on Group me, and
I go, actually, it's the Alter Ministry group up at church.
They're asking for prayers for people, and so I have that.
I don't like Group me, but I'm on that because
of that, And sure enough comes the next thing comes in,
(03:26):
Would you.
Speaker 2 (03:26):
Pray for this guy? He's got that? And she's like, oh, no,
that's fine. But I was like, that's like an app
she didn't know I had, but she had my phone.
I don't care.
Speaker 1 (03:34):
Yeah, you know, all right, So let me ask another question,
because Wendy and I about the time that she saw
the group Met thing come up, we had this other
conversation about bank accounts, about having separate bank accounts. Do
you think couples should have separate bank account I mean,
if they should be able to have access to everything
on their phone, does that include the bank account.
Speaker 3 (03:54):
We always had a separate bank account for many years
while I worked, and then when I stopped working, we
had a joint checking account. We deal with money very differently,
and it is not easy. I'm freer with money, huh,
you know, with sending it to the kids if they
need something, and he is tight. Yeah, and so this
is interesting. This just happened this week. So Shane was
(04:17):
texting me Mom, I need some money. Can you send
me some money? And she's like, I'm scared. I don't
want to ask dad. I don't want dad, you know.
So I'm texting her, Yes, I'm just gonna send you
some money. Just don't say anything. The only time in
my entire marriage that Mike has wanted to she had
sent me pictures and said, oh, Shane sent me the
cutest pictures. He goes, let me see.
Speaker 2 (04:35):
I was like, oh gosh.
Speaker 3 (04:36):
So I handed my phone and he goes, can I
read the messages? And I went sure, here we go,
Here we go, and he reads the messages and he goes,
are you kidding me? How much did you send her?
Speaker 4 (04:46):
Oh? My god?
Speaker 3 (04:48):
The one time?
Speaker 4 (04:49):
The one time. Yeah, that is hilariously.
Speaker 2 (04:53):
So if that had happened in them all with the guy, yeah.
Speaker 4 (04:56):
That's what you'd be worried about. Just don't show them.
Speaker 2 (04:58):
The one with my kids.
Speaker 4 (05:00):
Yeah, we're her husband's so freaking tight. I don't know,
you know, because we've we've had a joint ever since.
But I mean, you might as well just sit it's
Kevin's because I'd say, Hey, I'm gonna I would like
to buy a new rug? Is that okay with you?
Speaker 1 (05:12):
You know, that's how it is, you know, for Wendy Night,
it's always We've always had a checking account. When we
were first married, she was the one who managed all
the money, and then, uh, now I'm the one who
manages all the money. And I don't remember why that
switched or when that switched, but it definitely switched. But
we've always had a joint checking account. But we've always
discussed big purchases together. Yeah, so we've always had the
(05:36):
same mindset about money. So that's been a little bit
easier for us. But we've had several friends who had
separate checking accounts and they ended up with separate last names.
Speaker 2 (05:44):
Oh god, wow, Well are are we ended in one?
Go ahead real quick?
Speaker 4 (05:49):
I was just gonna I don't even know what I
was gonna say.
Speaker 1 (05:51):
Well, then, if you like to ask our America Mama's
a question, go to our website America Radio dot com,
slash Mama's Ask the Mama's Button, Terry Neteville kim We
Brothers at the You Someone arist
We got a question for American mama's. Dear mama's, do
you think your spouse should have access to your social
media accounts? Well, let's ask our American mamas.
Speaker 2 (00:20):
And joining us now.
Speaker 1 (00:21):
Our American mama is Terry Neediville and Kimberly Burlison. Okay,
y'all both have social media. I don't think Kevin does.
Speaker 2 (00:30):
I don't think. I don't think I've seen Mike does
he have social media?
Speaker 3 (00:33):
He does, but he's mostly a gamer on his phone games.
Speaker 2 (00:37):
All right, so he's not really involved.
Speaker 3 (00:39):
No, no, all right.
Speaker 1 (00:40):
So do they have access to your social medicause both
of y'all are very active on social media?
Speaker 3 (00:46):
They he could. I don't care. He knows my passwords, okay,
you know, and sometimes he's gotten in my phone because
he's looking for something and it doesn't bother me. I'm
sure you probably do feel the same way.
Speaker 4 (00:55):
Yeah, I don't mind at all. I'm just thinking I
don't remember my password. I had to change it a
couple of time. So if i'm out, if I get
out of Facebook somehow, I don't remember.
Speaker 3 (01:03):
You're excited if he can get into it, Yeah, if.
Speaker 4 (01:05):
He can figure it out, figure it out, but he'll
say I'll show him like, you know, look at this
with this. There's a time here that I was like,
just get a just get your I'm telling you you'll
have fun.
Speaker 2 (01:15):
You'lleah.
Speaker 1 (01:16):
Oh yeah.
Speaker 4 (01:16):
He's like, that's I'm not interested at all. If I
need to know something, I'll ask you. And so, yeah,
I would have zero problem with him looking at my Facebook.
Speaker 3 (01:25):
Have y'all seen that TikToker? So this guy he walks
in malls or he's at like State Bears or whatever,
and he stops couples and he asks that they're a couple,
and then he says, how long have you been together? Yes,
he's seen it, and so I've seen it where they've
been together for two years but also married couples like
twenty five years. And he'll say, do y'all trust each other?
And they'll like, oh yeah, absolutely absolutely. He goes, would
(01:45):
you give me your phone so I can see do
that test? And you always in the ones he shows,
there's one that just has that look on their face
like oh gosh, so and always there's one like oh yeah,
here you go. So he looks at their phones and
he starts whatever he does. He starts scrolling through things
like the apps, like apps, He'll go through apps and
he'll say who is Travis and he'll and the husband
(02:08):
will say what. So you see where things fall apart
right in front of your eyes on these little tiktoks.
And I have been shocked at the number of people
that are not doing the right thing, that are talking
to other people behind their person's back.
Speaker 2 (02:22):
That's wow.
Speaker 4 (02:23):
And or they'll be on that on a dating app
that's for cheaters, and that is devastating to the person
that's like, you know, in fact, some of them have
broken up at that at that moment.
Speaker 2 (02:35):
Moment the spot. I would think if you had a
dating app che your phone, yeah, that would be it. Yeah,
you know what.
Speaker 3 (02:41):
I think one of the signs and people have talked
about this if you have your cell phone and your
spouse and you go to look at their phone and
they like act weird, like what are you looking? What
do you want? Why do you want my phone? That's
a red flag.
Speaker 4 (02:53):
You know.
Speaker 3 (02:53):
If if my husband wanted to look at my phone,
he can look at it anytime. There's my phone, open it.
Speaker 4 (02:58):
Do whatever. Kevin and my kids use my phone all
the time. They'll grab it to get photos and stuff
all the time. It's like the family phone, you know.
Speaker 1 (03:06):
Actually, just the other night, Wendy picked up my phone
and all of a sudden, a Group met text comes
in and she goes, wait, you're on Group me, and
I go, actually, it's the Alter Ministry group up at church.
They're asking for prayers for people, and so I have that.
I don't like Group me, but I'm on that because
of that, And sure enough comes the next thing comes in,
(03:26):
Would you.
Speaker 2 (03:26):
Pray for this guy? He's got that? And she's like, oh, no,
that's fine. But I was like, that's like an app
she didn't know I had, but she had my phone.
I don't care.
Speaker 1 (03:34):
Yeah, you know, all right, So let me ask another question,
because Wendy and I about the time that she saw
the group Met thing come up, we had this other
conversation about bank accounts, about having separate bank accounts. Do
you think couples should have separate bank account I mean,
if they should be able to have access to everything
on their phone, does that include the bank account.
Speaker 3 (03:54):
We always had a separate bank account for many years
while I worked, and then when I stopped working, we
had a joint checking account. We deal with money very differently,
and it is not easy. I'm freer with money, huh,
you know, with sending it to the kids if they
need something, and he is tight. Yeah, and so this
is interesting. This just happened this week. So Shane was
(04:17):
texting me Mom, I need some money. Can you send
me some money? And she's like, I'm scared. I don't
want to ask dad. I don't want dad, you know.
So I'm texting her, Yes, I'm just gonna send you
some money. Just don't say anything. The only time in
my entire marriage that Mike has wanted to she had
sent me pictures and said, oh, Shane sent me the
cutest pictures. He goes, let me see.
Speaker 2 (04:35):
I was like, oh gosh.
Speaker 3 (04:36):
So I handed my phone and he goes, can I
read the messages? And I went sure, here we go,
Here we go, and he reads the messages and he goes,
are you kidding me? How much did you send her?
Speaker 4 (04:46):
Oh? My god?
Speaker 3 (04:48):
The one time?
Speaker 4 (04:49):
The one time. Yeah, that is hilariously.
Speaker 2 (04:53):
So if that had happened in them all with the guy, yeah.
Speaker 4 (04:56):
That's what you'd be worried about. Just don't show them.
Speaker 2 (04:58):
The one with my kids.
Speaker 4 (05:00):
Yeah, we're her husband's so freaking tight. I don't know,
you know, because we've we've had a joint ever since.
But I mean, you might as well just sit it's
Kevin's because I'd say, Hey, I'm gonna I would like
to buy a new rug? Is that okay with you?
Speaker 1 (05:12):
You know, that's how it is, you know, for Wendy Night,
it's always We've always had a checking account. When we
were first married, she was the one who managed all
the money, and then, uh, now I'm the one who
manages all the money. And I don't remember why that
switched or when that switched, but it definitely switched. But
we've always had a joint checking account. But we've always
discussed big purchases together. Yeah, so we've always had the
(05:36):
same mindset about money. So that's been a little bit
easier for us. But we've had several friends who had
separate checking accounts and they ended up with separate last names.
Speaker 2 (05:44):
Oh god, wow, Well are are we ended in one?
Go ahead real quick?
Speaker 4 (05:49):
I was just gonna I don't even know what I
was gonna say.
Speaker 1 (05:51):
Well, then, if you like to ask our America Mama's
a question, go to our website America Radio dot com,
slash Mama's Ask the Mama's Button, Terry Neteville kim We
Brothers at the You Someone arist
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