August 6, 2025 • 6 mins
We got a question in for our American Mamas...
Dear Mamas, do you do business differently with a man vs a woman?
Dear Mamas, do you do business differently with a man vs a woman?
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
We got a question for our American mamas. Dear mamas,
do you do business differently with the man versus a woman?
Speaker 2 (00:06):
Well, let's ask American mama's Mama Mama.
Speaker 1 (00:22):
And joining us now our American mama's Terry Neediville and
Kimberly Burlason. This is a very interesting question. I'm thinking
about it, and since I got the question, I've been
trying to think about it. From my standpoint, I don't
think I do, but I might, you know, Like you know,
I might be a little more flirty with a female
(00:44):
waitress than a male waiter. You know, I might do that.
But in general, I really don't think I do, but
maybe I do. What do y'all think?
Speaker 2 (00:52):
I feel like men?
Speaker 3 (00:53):
You do and you don't know it?
Speaker 2 (00:55):
Yeah, you know.
Speaker 3 (00:56):
I was on a panel. Donnie Deutz had a show
called The Big Idea of Donnie Deutsche Seeing him in Years,
and I was on a panel and he asked that
question to this panel. I was the last person. Every
single person. Every man said no, no, no, every woman
said no, no no.
Speaker 2 (01:11):
And he got to me and I.
Speaker 4 (01:12):
Was like, uh, yeah, yeah, it's like being real.
Speaker 1 (01:18):
So why do you do business differently between with men
and women, And how are you different between.
Speaker 3 (01:23):
Men and well, I think there are fundamental differences between us,
of course, and women. And there are things that you
play to get your way, or I wouldn't even say
it's manipulating, it's that you know what men like to hear, sure,
and if you're trying to get your way or you're
trying to make something work or some business thing transaction happen,
(01:44):
you play into what you believe they want to hear it.
And we're good at that, We're natural at that. And
I think men clearly totally treat women differently because they're softer,
they're kinder. It's not like hard ass kind of thing.
I just can tell a difference in business that they
do it completely different to get their way both.
Speaker 1 (02:05):
Now, that's very interesting. I have had so I have
had coworkers working in TV news, and if you work
in TV news, the news stations have basically almost all
the power until you become a megastar. And so as
they're dealing with contracts with new reporters and even medium reporters,
they are very heavy handed in their negotiations, and you
(02:26):
have to be heavy handed back. My female coworkers were
never willing to play hardball on their contracts, and so
they never got as good a deal as guys were.
My contracts I'm dealing with and I you know, several
times I went, well, good luck with your search. I'm
walking away, and they're all like wait, wait, wait, wait wait.
And my female co workers never did that. So I've
(02:48):
seen that from that standpoint of female co workers not
doing the same thing as a male coworker necessarily when
we're doing contract negotiations.
Speaker 3 (02:55):
I was. I admit I was not a great boss.
You know, when my dad died, I took over his company.
I don't feel like was I was a great boss
because I wanted friendships and I didn't want to hurt feelings.
So I felt like I was very soft in the
way that I dealt with things instead of being more
and I felt like people took advantage of him in
the office.
Speaker 2 (03:15):
Yes, and it's just.
Speaker 3 (03:16):
Because I feel like you've got to be a little
bit harder. But I do think that women, and this
is just I hope nobody hates me for this, but
I think women sometimes go too far and to yes, yes,
have they become complete.
Speaker 1 (03:30):
You know what? I think we've all had a boss.
That's kind of like that. It goes to the opposite
of the spectrum saying I'm not going to be run over.
But then okay, now you're a battle.
Speaker 3 (03:39):
Axe, yes exactly.
Speaker 1 (03:40):
And not that guys can't be jerks. You'll have certainly
guys who are in positions of power. Again, whenever you're
in a position of power, you have that risk of
losing functionality in the part of the brain that controls empathy.
Speaker 2 (03:51):
You have.
Speaker 1 (03:51):
You have the risk of brain damage just by being
in a position of power, whether you're male or female.
But I do think it manifests slightly different.
Speaker 2 (03:56):
I do too. Well.
Speaker 4 (03:58):
I'll say this, there's a reason why my family will
not let me, Like we're trying to sell that house
in rust and they're like, no, no, no, you don't. You
just stay out of it because I I am well inherently,
like Kimberly said, we know that we talk differently to
men and women when we're in situations, and I think that, honestly,
I'll talk about it from the standpoint of the way
(04:20):
that they treat me like they can get they can
take advantage of me, like in the like if I
take my car into get oil or whatever, and they say, oh, yeah,
that's a thousand dollars. Oh okay, okay, and that's a
good deal. Are you sure you know? I don't know,
but we we joke because I always say, if I
was an attorney and I was the defense attorney and
I'm building my case and I feel good about it,
(04:41):
and then I hear the other side tell theirs, I'd
be the first one to go, oh, good point, good point,
you know, because I don't. I'm just easily, you know, manipulated.
I guess, so I can say that I do believe
that I am. There's a reason why Kevin will say
we're gonna go look at cars together, or we're gonna
(05:01):
let me before you order that, let me look and see,
because I just assume that everybody's got good faith.
Speaker 3 (05:07):
Do you have a hard time? I know that. You
know how you see roles for different people, like women ministers.
It's kind of hard to watch a woman minister. I
don't know why. What about male nurses? Do you know
how you have this idea of what people should be
and what they should do, and then when they're in
an opposite role, it kind of messes with you. Oh
that's interesting.
Speaker 4 (05:27):
Do you ever feel that way? I know, I mean
I remember our grandmother Kaki. She felt like she didn't
want a female pastor, head lead or a newscaster. Yeah, yeah,
she she just felt like that. You know. Of course,
this is a forties bride, you know, and I understand
how that's kind of evolved, but there still is this
(05:47):
like in our family, the men are the head of
the household. We're in the neck, we help turn the direction.
But I guess this generation kind of is more aware
of what you can do, whether you're male or female.
Speaker 1 (06:00):
If you'd like to ask our American mamas a question,
go to our website americanaarup radio dot com slash mamas
and click on the ask of the Mama's button. Terry Net,
Kimberly bro listen, thank you so much, Ye
We got a question for our American mamas. Dear mamas,
do you do business differently with the man versus a woman?
Speaker 2 (00:06):
Well, let's ask American mama's Mama Mama.
Speaker 1 (00:22):
And joining us now our American mama's Terry Neediville and
Kimberly Burlason. This is a very interesting question. I'm thinking
about it, and since I got the question, I've been
trying to think about it. From my standpoint, I don't
think I do, but I might, you know, Like you know,
I might be a little more flirty with a female
(00:44):
waitress than a male waiter. You know, I might do that.
But in general, I really don't think I do, but
maybe I do. What do y'all think?
Speaker 2 (00:52):
I feel like men?
Speaker 3 (00:53):
You do and you don't know it?
Speaker 2 (00:55):
Yeah, you know.
Speaker 3 (00:56):
I was on a panel. Donnie Deutz had a show
called The Big Idea of Donnie Deutsche Seeing him in Years,
and I was on a panel and he asked that
question to this panel. I was the last person. Every
single person. Every man said no, no, no, every woman
said no, no no.
Speaker 2 (01:11):
And he got to me and I.
Speaker 4 (01:12):
Was like, uh, yeah, yeah, it's like being real.
Speaker 1 (01:18):
So why do you do business differently between with men
and women, And how are you different between.
Speaker 3 (01:23):
Men and well, I think there are fundamental differences between us,
of course, and women. And there are things that you
play to get your way, or I wouldn't even say
it's manipulating, it's that you know what men like to hear, sure,
and if you're trying to get your way or you're
trying to make something work or some business thing transaction happen,
(01:44):
you play into what you believe they want to hear it.
And we're good at that, We're natural at that. And
I think men clearly totally treat women differently because they're softer,
they're kinder. It's not like hard ass kind of thing.
I just can tell a difference in business that they
do it completely different to get their way both.
Speaker 1 (02:05):
Now, that's very interesting. I have had so I have
had coworkers working in TV news, and if you work
in TV news, the news stations have basically almost all
the power until you become a megastar. And so as
they're dealing with contracts with new reporters and even medium reporters,
they are very heavy handed in their negotiations, and you
(02:26):
have to be heavy handed back. My female coworkers were
never willing to play hardball on their contracts, and so
they never got as good a deal as guys were.
My contracts I'm dealing with and I you know, several
times I went, well, good luck with your search. I'm
walking away, and they're all like wait, wait, wait, wait wait.
And my female co workers never did that. So I've
(02:48):
seen that from that standpoint of female co workers not
doing the same thing as a male coworker necessarily when
we're doing contract negotiations.
Speaker 3 (02:55):
I was. I admit I was not a great boss.
You know, when my dad died, I took over his company.
I don't feel like was I was a great boss
because I wanted friendships and I didn't want to hurt feelings.
So I felt like I was very soft in the
way that I dealt with things instead of being more
and I felt like people took advantage of him in
the office.
Speaker 2 (03:15):
Yes, and it's just.
Speaker 3 (03:16):
Because I feel like you've got to be a little
bit harder. But I do think that women, and this
is just I hope nobody hates me for this, but
I think women sometimes go too far and to yes, yes,
have they become complete.
Speaker 1 (03:30):
You know what? I think we've all had a boss.
That's kind of like that. It goes to the opposite
of the spectrum saying I'm not going to be run over.
But then okay, now you're a battle.
Speaker 3 (03:39):
Axe, yes exactly.
Speaker 1 (03:40):
And not that guys can't be jerks. You'll have certainly
guys who are in positions of power. Again, whenever you're
in a position of power, you have that risk of
losing functionality in the part of the brain that controls empathy.
Speaker 2 (03:51):
You have.
Speaker 1 (03:51):
You have the risk of brain damage just by being
in a position of power, whether you're male or female.
But I do think it manifests slightly different.
Speaker 2 (03:56):
I do too. Well.
Speaker 4 (03:58):
I'll say this, there's a reason why my family will
not let me, Like we're trying to sell that house
in rust and they're like, no, no, no, you don't. You
just stay out of it because I I am well inherently,
like Kimberly said, we know that we talk differently to
men and women when we're in situations, and I think that, honestly,
I'll talk about it from the standpoint of the way
(04:20):
that they treat me like they can get they can
take advantage of me, like in the like if I
take my car into get oil or whatever, and they say, oh, yeah,
that's a thousand dollars. Oh okay, okay, and that's a
good deal. Are you sure you know? I don't know,
but we we joke because I always say, if I
was an attorney and I was the defense attorney and
I'm building my case and I feel good about it,
(04:41):
and then I hear the other side tell theirs, I'd
be the first one to go, oh, good point, good point,
you know, because I don't. I'm just easily, you know, manipulated.
I guess, so I can say that I do believe
that I am. There's a reason why Kevin will say
we're gonna go look at cars together, or we're gonna
(05:01):
let me before you order that, let me look and see,
because I just assume that everybody's got good faith.
Speaker 3 (05:07):
Do you have a hard time? I know that. You
know how you see roles for different people, like women ministers.
It's kind of hard to watch a woman minister. I
don't know why. What about male nurses? Do you know
how you have this idea of what people should be
and what they should do, and then when they're in
an opposite role, it kind of messes with you. Oh
that's interesting.
Speaker 4 (05:27):
Do you ever feel that way? I know, I mean
I remember our grandmother Kaki. She felt like she didn't
want a female pastor, head lead or a newscaster. Yeah, yeah,
she she just felt like that. You know. Of course,
this is a forties bride, you know, and I understand
how that's kind of evolved, but there still is this
(05:47):
like in our family, the men are the head of
the household. We're in the neck, we help turn the direction.
But I guess this generation kind of is more aware
of what you can do, whether you're male or female.
Speaker 1 (06:00):
If you'd like to ask our American mamas a question,
go to our website americanaarup radio dot com slash mamas
and click on the ask of the Mama's button. Terry Net,
Kimberly bro listen, thank you so much, Ye
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