December 16, 2025 • 6 mins
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Dear Mamas, is it ok for a woman to propose to a man if he won’t do it?
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Dear Mamas, is it ok for a woman to propose to a man if he won’t do it?
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
We got a question for American mama's. Dear mamas, is
it okay for a woman to propose to a man
if he.
Speaker 2 (00:05):
Won't do it?
Speaker 3 (00:06):
Well, let's ask Marrick and mama's.
Speaker 4 (00:09):
Alma Mama, she said, And twenty years now we are American
Mama's turn Edivilee and Kimberly bur Listen, this is not
the Stephen Parr Hour.
Speaker 1 (00:27):
But I got some thoughts on this. But Terry and Kimberly,
what do y'all think about? Is it okay for a
woman to propose if the man won't.
Speaker 3 (00:36):
Have you seen the video? There's a video in this girl.
This girl bless her heart. She's been with her boyfriend
for fourteen years, fourteen and she tells the audience, she
tells the people, tells all of us, Look, he does
love me. I know what people are gonna say. I
don't care what people say. I know how much he
loves me. He wants to be with me forever. It's
(00:58):
just tom, I just want to be married. So I'm
going to ask him. I'm going to ask him to
marry me. I was like, first of all, fourteen years,
fourteen years you'd been with this guy and he hadn't,
which is excuse.
Speaker 1 (01:11):
Baby, I don't know if I can handle that kind
of a commitment.
Speaker 3 (01:13):
Fourteen years, buddy, eighteen years and so I said, So
then I took it to another level. So I showed
Kevin the video and I said, what would you do
if this was your daughter?
Speaker 2 (01:24):
Oh?
Speaker 1 (01:24):
Yeah, what would you do?
Speaker 3 (01:25):
And he said, ooh, it wouldn't have gotten that far.
I said, you can't. You can't say that because this
is clearly a grown woman. Maybe let's say that her
dad did say, you know twelve years ago, you know eleven,
twelve years ago, No, this isn't going to work. He
needs to commit or you got to go. And she says,
this is the man I love. I'm not I'm not
(01:45):
going anywhere. Like, how would you deal with this? He said?
I think I would do it? After three years? There
would have been some conversations with him, like what are
your intentions? You know, I would have talked to my
daughter about the years of you know, birthing years, right,
what do you want in life? Why isn't this something?
Why isn't this part of the plan? He said? Clearly
(02:06):
the guy has issues with commitment, clearly, So he's like,
I just he gues, I just can't even imagine. Of course,
we have a different you know, our daughter is not
that way. So he was like, I can't imagine somewhere.
I was like, no, no, no, you have to pretend like
you're this girl's dad. What did you think?
Speaker 2 (02:21):
I think this is a liberal thing. This is what
I see on social media because a lot of liberal
women are celebrating this, and you go, girl, you propose
what you noticed, And every one of those proposals is
the guy recoiling. You see him absolutely embarrassed. You see
(02:41):
him look around. This is almost every video that I
have seen of this thing happening. They are so embarrassed
by it. They say yes. Everyone I've seen they say yes.
But that girl looks desperate, he looks in feminine, he
looks embarrassed, And I'm like, why is it a And
I feel like everything's a joke. Everything's a lie. You know, go, go,
(03:04):
go go, you do this, You do this because they
don't want to do it. They want to watch you
do it to kind of fill out you know how
everybody's going to respond to it. But it's a living joke.
If the guy doesn't propose to you, you've been together
fourteen years and he does not propose to you, He
does not want to marry you.
Speaker 3 (03:18):
Yeah. But I'm so surprised that it's a liberal thing,
because it's we're literally going through a phase right now
in America where the liberal women are saying that they
don't want to get married, and they're championing that you
don't need to get married, you don't need to do that.
So that's so interesting.
Speaker 1 (03:36):
They may be lying to themselves on this, they are,
and that you know, well, I don't need this, I
can be absolutely, But there's we were designed by the
creator to operate in a certain way, and you can't
really get rid of some of those factory installed instructions.
I mean, that's that's just kind of how some things
(03:56):
are supposed to work, and it works better when you
follow the way that we're designed to work.
Speaker 3 (04:03):
Okay, Steven, let's say it was Julia, this is your daughter,
and she's fourteen years with her. Yeah, I'm looking at
Wendy too, what would you do?
Speaker 1 (04:13):
I like Kevin, we would not have gone two years
without me pulling the guy aside saying Okay, what's up,
what's up? Are you actually going to be a man?
Speaker 3 (04:23):
And it depends on the age for sure. This is it.
We're talking twenties, you know what.
Speaker 1 (04:27):
It doesn't matter. If my daughter's in her forties and
there's a guy that's been with her for a couple
of years, I'm going to pull him aside and say, Okay,
are you a man or not? Because if you're a man,
you're gonna take responsibility. I don't need you know, macho
thump in your chest, but I need you to be
able to take responsibility for what you're doing. And there's
a right way to do things and there's the wrong
way to do things. You got to do the right
(04:48):
thing in the right way for the right reasons or
else you're wrong. Right now, son, you are wrong. So
what you're going to do. I would have had that
conversation and it would have not gone fourteen years. And
I would have also pointed out to my daughter, you
need to hold him to a higher account because you
are worth more than that.
Speaker 3 (05:06):
Yeah, you're right.
Speaker 2 (05:07):
You saying that points something out with this particular girl.
Where are her parents in pointing out and her friends
pointing out all these red flags that exist? Where are they?
Speaker 3 (05:16):
Clearly they did, because in the video she said I
know what everyone's already. I'd already know what everyone's going
to say. So you know that she's been Yeah, she's
been here. And what I've meant by ages, you're not
talking high school sweethearts. So that's all I was saying
about that, But she was. You could tell she was
almost embarrassed to tell, to tell everybody, like, I'm getting
this out here. So if you're going to say that, don't,
(05:38):
I'm going to. But we don't know what happened. Did
do you say yes?
Speaker 1 (05:42):
Did?
Speaker 3 (05:42):
I don't know, like what happened? And then what if?
What if? Because this has happened fortune. We know people
like this. They've dated high school and college and then
they break up because one wants to get married when done,
and then the next time they date someone like six
months later and get engaged six months after that. Yeah,
you know if you've wasted all those years. And I
have a friend that wasted her twenties because the guy
(06:05):
would not convenient with me, and so then she ended
up being single for ten more years after that and
he got married like right away. It's wild. So after
fourteen years, if he hadn't asked you, honey, I would
look elsewhere. If you want children, If you like t.
Speaker 1 (06:19):
Ask her American Mama's a question, go to our website
America go Ready dot com sash Mama's and click on
to ask The Mama's button turned out of a Kimberly
Brother listen. Thank you so much, Chang
We got a question for American mama's. Dear mamas, is
it okay for a woman to propose to a man
if he.
Speaker 2 (00:05):
Won't do it?
Speaker 3 (00:06):
Well, let's ask Marrick and mama's.
Speaker 4 (00:09):
Alma Mama, she said, And twenty years now we are American
Mama's turn Edivilee and Kimberly bur Listen, this is not
the Stephen Parr Hour.
Speaker 1 (00:27):
But I got some thoughts on this. But Terry and Kimberly,
what do y'all think about? Is it okay for a
woman to propose if the man won't.
Speaker 3 (00:36):
Have you seen the video? There's a video in this girl.
This girl bless her heart. She's been with her boyfriend
for fourteen years, fourteen and she tells the audience, she
tells the people, tells all of us, Look, he does
love me. I know what people are gonna say. I
don't care what people say. I know how much he
loves me. He wants to be with me forever. It's
(00:58):
just tom, I just want to be married. So I'm
going to ask him. I'm going to ask him to
marry me. I was like, first of all, fourteen years,
fourteen years you'd been with this guy and he hadn't,
which is excuse.
Speaker 1 (01:11):
Baby, I don't know if I can handle that kind
of a commitment.
Speaker 3 (01:13):
Fourteen years, buddy, eighteen years and so I said, So
then I took it to another level. So I showed
Kevin the video and I said, what would you do
if this was your daughter?
Speaker 2 (01:24):
Oh?
Speaker 1 (01:24):
Yeah, what would you do?
Speaker 3 (01:25):
And he said, ooh, it wouldn't have gotten that far.
I said, you can't. You can't say that because this
is clearly a grown woman. Maybe let's say that her
dad did say, you know twelve years ago, you know eleven,
twelve years ago, No, this isn't going to work. He
needs to commit or you got to go. And she says,
this is the man I love. I'm not I'm not
(01:45):
going anywhere. Like, how would you deal with this? He said?
I think I would do it? After three years? There
would have been some conversations with him, like what are
your intentions? You know, I would have talked to my
daughter about the years of you know, birthing years, right,
what do you want in life? Why isn't this something?
Why isn't this part of the plan? He said? Clearly
(02:06):
the guy has issues with commitment, clearly, So he's like,
I just he gues, I just can't even imagine. Of course,
we have a different you know, our daughter is not
that way. So he was like, I can't imagine somewhere.
I was like, no, no, no, you have to pretend like
you're this girl's dad. What did you think?
Speaker 2 (02:21):
I think this is a liberal thing. This is what
I see on social media because a lot of liberal
women are celebrating this, and you go, girl, you propose
what you noticed, And every one of those proposals is
the guy recoiling. You see him absolutely embarrassed. You see
(02:41):
him look around. This is almost every video that I
have seen of this thing happening. They are so embarrassed
by it. They say yes. Everyone I've seen they say yes.
But that girl looks desperate, he looks in feminine, he
looks embarrassed, And I'm like, why is it a And
I feel like everything's a joke. Everything's a lie. You know, go, go,
(03:04):
go go, you do this, You do this because they
don't want to do it. They want to watch you
do it to kind of fill out you know how
everybody's going to respond to it. But it's a living joke.
If the guy doesn't propose to you, you've been together
fourteen years and he does not propose to you, He
does not want to marry you.
Speaker 3 (03:18):
Yeah. But I'm so surprised that it's a liberal thing,
because it's we're literally going through a phase right now
in America where the liberal women are saying that they
don't want to get married, and they're championing that you
don't need to get married, you don't need to do that.
So that's so interesting.
Speaker 1 (03:36):
They may be lying to themselves on this, they are,
and that you know, well, I don't need this, I
can be absolutely, But there's we were designed by the
creator to operate in a certain way, and you can't
really get rid of some of those factory installed instructions.
I mean, that's that's just kind of how some things
(03:56):
are supposed to work, and it works better when you
follow the way that we're designed to work.
Speaker 3 (04:03):
Okay, Steven, let's say it was Julia, this is your daughter,
and she's fourteen years with her. Yeah, I'm looking at
Wendy too, what would you do?
Speaker 1 (04:13):
I like Kevin, we would not have gone two years
without me pulling the guy aside saying Okay, what's up,
what's up? Are you actually going to be a man?
Speaker 3 (04:23):
And it depends on the age for sure. This is it.
We're talking twenties, you know what.
Speaker 1 (04:27):
It doesn't matter. If my daughter's in her forties and
there's a guy that's been with her for a couple
of years, I'm going to pull him aside and say, Okay,
are you a man or not? Because if you're a man,
you're gonna take responsibility. I don't need you know, macho
thump in your chest, but I need you to be
able to take responsibility for what you're doing. And there's
a right way to do things and there's the wrong
way to do things. You got to do the right
(04:48):
thing in the right way for the right reasons or
else you're wrong. Right now, son, you are wrong. So
what you're going to do. I would have had that
conversation and it would have not gone fourteen years. And
I would have also pointed out to my daughter, you
need to hold him to a higher account because you
are worth more than that.
Speaker 3 (05:06):
Yeah, you're right.
Speaker 2 (05:07):
You saying that points something out with this particular girl.
Where are her parents in pointing out and her friends
pointing out all these red flags that exist? Where are they?
Speaker 3 (05:16):
Clearly they did, because in the video she said I
know what everyone's already. I'd already know what everyone's going
to say. So you know that she's been Yeah, she's
been here. And what I've meant by ages, you're not
talking high school sweethearts. So that's all I was saying
about that, But she was. You could tell she was
almost embarrassed to tell, to tell everybody, like, I'm getting
this out here. So if you're going to say that, don't,
(05:38):
I'm going to. But we don't know what happened. Did
do you say yes?
Speaker 1 (05:42):
Did?
Speaker 3 (05:42):
I don't know, like what happened? And then what if?
What if? Because this has happened fortune. We know people
like this. They've dated high school and college and then
they break up because one wants to get married when done,
and then the next time they date someone like six
months later and get engaged six months after that. Yeah,
you know if you've wasted all those years. And I
have a friend that wasted her twenties because the guy
(06:05):
would not convenient with me, and so then she ended
up being single for ten more years after that and
he got married like right away. It's wild. So after
fourteen years, if he hadn't asked you, honey, I would
look elsewhere. If you want children, If you like t.
Speaker 1 (06:19):
Ask her American Mama's a question, go to our website
America go Ready dot com sash Mama's and click on
to ask The Mama's button turned out of a Kimberly
Brother listen. Thank you so much, Chang
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