August 30, 2025 • 52 mins
Episode: 2025.11.28
The Living Full Out show with Nancy Solari encourages you to choose not to settle. Perhaps you have been friends with someone since childhood, but the relationship no longer supports your growth. Maybe you are uncertain about the next step you will take in your career. Join Nancy as she explores the importance of having a positive outlook.
Our first caller Vivian wonders how to deal with her boyfriend’s sister treating her poorly. Nancy advises her to be herself. She also recommends Vivian to express being part of his family’s life in any way possible. Tune in to learn how to stay strong even when people try to interfere with your happiness.
Our inspirational guest Scott Allen Frost has had to choose not to settle throughout his life. In 2009, he suffered a devastating motorbike accident, which left him paralyzed from the shoulder down. After spending 81 days in the hospital, he went to his nightclub’s grand opening. He fulfilled his wish of walking again and ordered the first margarita with the help of his therapist. Tune in to the Living Full Out show to hear how Scott embraces being a leader today.
Perhaps you want to open a new business but have doubts about your abilities to do so. Try journaling positive affirmations or talking to someone in your field of interest. By choosing not to settle with your thoughts and take action you are able to live full out.
Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/living-full-out-show--1474350/support.
The Living Full Out show with Nancy Solari encourages you to choose not to settle. Perhaps you have been friends with someone since childhood, but the relationship no longer supports your growth. Maybe you are uncertain about the next step you will take in your career. Join Nancy as she explores the importance of having a positive outlook.
Our first caller Vivian wonders how to deal with her boyfriend’s sister treating her poorly. Nancy advises her to be herself. She also recommends Vivian to express being part of his family’s life in any way possible. Tune in to learn how to stay strong even when people try to interfere with your happiness.
Our inspirational guest Scott Allen Frost has had to choose not to settle throughout his life. In 2009, he suffered a devastating motorbike accident, which left him paralyzed from the shoulder down. After spending 81 days in the hospital, he went to his nightclub’s grand opening. He fulfilled his wish of walking again and ordered the first margarita with the help of his therapist. Tune in to the Living Full Out show to hear how Scott embraces being a leader today.
Perhaps you want to open a new business but have doubts about your abilities to do so. Try journaling positive affirmations or talking to someone in your field of interest. By choosing not to settle with your thoughts and take action you are able to live full out.
Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/living-full-out-show--1474350/support.
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Speaker 1 (00:01):
You're listening the Living Full Out when Nancy Slari as
a professional motivational speaker, Nancy can assist you to blow
through your setbacks and start living full out. If you
have an inspirational story you want to share, email us
at connect at livingfollout dot com. Once again, here's Nancy.
Speaker 2 (00:20):
Hello, and welcome to the Living Full Out Show.
Speaker 3 (00:22):
My name is Nancy Silari, and today we're going to
be talking about not giving up. Yes, love this topic
because the truth is, it is so easy to want
to put our hands in the air, to wave the
white flag and say, you know what, it's just not
going to work out. But today's the day that I
want you to stay the distance, hang in there. And
(00:42):
our inspirational guests coming up Scott Alan Frost. Trust me,
his story is really jarring when you hear about the
accident that he was in. It had him become a quadriplegic.
But wow, you're not going to find someone who has
such a beautiful outlook on life. I mean, for every
reason the book that he could be grumpy, he is
(01:03):
so steadfast, positive and a life full of purpose. You're
just going to want to hear how he does that Also,
I want to make sure that beyond today's show, that
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find what's going on in your life and pick the theme,
(01:24):
and there's a show that will surely have a guest
that will resonate with you, somebody that will give you
a tip or an insight to help you look at
your situation just a little bit differently. Now I am
getting word from our producer that we do a listener
on the line. Let's go ahead and check in. Hello,
Welcome to the Living Full Out Show.
Speaker 4 (01:43):
Hi, Nancy, thanks for taking my call.
Speaker 3 (01:45):
Absolutely so nice to hear your voice. How can I
help you today?
Speaker 5 (01:49):
Hi?
Speaker 4 (01:49):
So, I'm in a relationship that means a lot to me.
My boyfriend and I broke up once before, but we
ended up seeing friends during that period and now we're
back together and things are going really well so far.
The only issue is his older sister doesn't seem to
(02:10):
approve of me.
Speaker 6 (02:12):
We'd never officially.
Speaker 4 (02:13):
Met, but we briefly crossed paths before at Disneyland after
a breakup, and it felt clear that she wasn't happy
to see me at all, and now she gets really
upset when he makes plans with me and pressures him
to cancel so he can spend time with her instead.
It just feels like she's trying to come between us
(02:37):
and he ends up getting caught in the middle. So
my question to you is what's the best way for
me to handle this situation?
Speaker 3 (02:48):
You know, I really really think it is loving that
you're asking this question. There's a lot of elements though,
that are out of your control. So as much as
it's a really good heartfelt question, I want you to
have a little grace and a little bit of for
you know, lightness on your side. What we don't know
(03:09):
some of the factors that are unknown is we don't
know if this is how his sister is. I mean,
it's showing up with her brother, but does she show
up this way in other ways of her life as well?
We don't know. We don't know what other family or
friends would say. So I'm a little bit cautious to
think that this necessarily only has to do with you.
(03:33):
She just could be very protective, you know, she might
feel threatened by you, you know, taking away his time.
There's just a lot of unknown factors there that I
want you not to give it too much power. I
can appreciate that you might want people to you know,
you want we want everyone to like us, right, And
(03:55):
it seems strange that, gosh, you don't even know me,
How could you not like me? Right? That feels uncomfortable.
But there's a lot about her that we don't know. Now. Equally,
another factor that you can't control is him. We could
say that he is caught in the middle, or we
(04:17):
could say that he can make his own choices, meaning
that because he's dating you. I don't think his sister's
going to call their sibling relationship quits, right, that'd be
pretty extreme.
Speaker 5 (04:34):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (04:35):
Right. She can have an opinion with a capital O,
she can give advice.
Speaker 7 (04:44):
With a capital A.
Speaker 3 (04:45):
She can even get a vote the capital V. But
at the end of the day, sometimes that might land
on him as caring, But that could land on him
from her side as nagging or over protective or butting in.
Do you see what I'm saying? And so I personally
(05:07):
think that you have one thing to do, and that
is just to be the lovable you that you can be.
Because the truth is if somebody is going to leave you,
let them leave. If somebody is going to be so
so impressionable by his sister, let alone his mother and
(05:32):
his aunt and a cousin. Do you see what I'm saying, Yes,
then let them leave. So I actually look at this
time in your life as something that's a gift to
be honest. So you don't want to talk ill will
of her? Why would you anyway? You don't know her,
You don't understand her, her reasoning, but you don't know her.
(05:55):
So just take the high road. You just continue to
be great and loving in the relationship that you are
with him. But I wouldn't be baited. I wouldn't fall
into the trap of needing to fix whatever's happening in
that sibling dynamic. And my hunch of all hunches is
(06:16):
that this probably shows up in other areas, perhaps of
her life, and the indecision that he's kind of feeling
like my sister, my girlfriend, my sister and my girlfriend.
That indecision is also one that you want to keep
an eye on because if this becomes your boyfriend, becomes
(06:37):
your husband, is this tugg awar what you want for
the rest of your life? I see yes, do you
see that? So it's kind of one of those things
where I look at this time as a gift. Now
does that mean that, Gosh, I wish I could go
to family events of his and meet more of his family.
(07:00):
I can't because the sister, Yeah, that's a bummer.
Speaker 8 (07:03):
That's a bummer.
Speaker 3 (07:04):
But let that one play out. Let that one play out,
and just see because the truth is, if he really
loves you, and if this relationship has wings and ends
up going further, then he's going to have you do
things with the family on his terms because he wants
(07:24):
you there, despite what the sister thinks. But I think
it's interesting because if you don't see him invite you
the things, and if you see him being okay with
carponmentalizing his life today we're talking about not settling in
(07:46):
the show. For him, that would be settling. You have
to decide if that's okay for you. And so I
think the best approach here is to not be rad
by the sister, continue to be the loving you that
you are, continue to express wanting to be a part
(08:09):
of his life in every in any way that you can,
family events and work events and hanging out with the friends,
and you know you're all in. You're all in in
this future that you're building with him. But I think
it'll be interesting to see along the way does how
does he navigate this? And then you can make a
(08:31):
decision from there because right now dating it's it's everything's
kind of good, right, But it'll be interesting to see
what do you think?
Speaker 4 (08:42):
Yeah? Right now, I'm just hoping things goes well. That's
all I can ask for.
Speaker 3 (08:49):
And when you say I hope things go well, what
are the things you hope things? What are the things
you help what goes well?
Speaker 9 (08:58):
Well?
Speaker 4 (08:59):
The fact that we're also both really busy, so we
don't get to see each other as much as we'd like.
Speaker 3 (09:06):
So that yeah, but see you see how that's another
factor that has nothing to do with the sister.
Speaker 5 (09:16):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (09:17):
Right, So there's a lot of busy people that have
great marriages and relationships and partnerships, and there's a lot
of busy couples that don't. And so it'll be a
testimony to your love your relationship whether you can, you know,
literally weather the storm of this time in your life.
(09:38):
So now you see how I wouldn't give up on
this relationship. But you've got the element of schedules. You're
both busy, can't control all that You've got the sister
and her opinions and so forth, and you can't control
all of that. And then you have to kind of
watch his actions and see how much he puts this
(09:58):
relationship as a priority. And then ultimately you want to
make the best decision for you because I can tell
that you've got a heart of gold and you're very
loving and you want to find that partner that you
can run with. Okay, thank you, Well you're welcome. Do
I hear a little bit of a smile, just a
(10:19):
little yes, a little bit of a smile exactly.
Speaker 10 (10:24):
So just be you. You don't have to.
Speaker 5 (10:25):
Solve anything, you don't have.
Speaker 3 (10:27):
To correct anything. Just be you. Okay, thank you so
much for calling in and for everybody today we are
talking about not settling. This is the day that we
unstuck ourselves. This is the day that we step into
having the life we want and truly living a life
in a full, big, living, full out way.
Speaker 8 (10:47):
You can do it.
Speaker 10 (10:48):
We'll be back.
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(11:24):
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(14:27):
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Speaker 1 (15:00):
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strong under pressure and work through challenges you face. Being
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Speaker 9 (15:33):
Welcome back.
Speaker 3 (15:34):
I'm Nancy Silary and this is the Living Full Out
Show and today we're talking about getting unstuck in our life.
That's right, We're not going to settle. And our inspirational
guest today, Scott Allen Frost, is such a great example
of when we find ourselves in those sticky moments in life,
those ruts, those times where it feels like the light
(15:55):
is really really far away at the end of that tunnel,
that we can still see that so I can't to
share his stories. So welcome Scott to the show.
Speaker 6 (16:02):
Thanks so much for having me, Nancy.
Speaker 3 (16:05):
So happy to have you and and Scott. If I
was to kind of go back and just let our
audience know, I mean you family of all families, my goodness,
I wanted to be in the Frost family. I'm telling you.
Your parents have been together for they've been married for years,
your older brother, I mean you just white pickt fence family,
(16:26):
just very loving. And you know, you were, you know, funny,
you were outgoing, and you moved a lot because of
your family. You know, dynamics there. But but the truth
is you had humor, you had charm, You were athletically gifted.
You played football, although you got an injury. You know
(16:47):
you were you had a lot of talents and a
lot of promise and went on to college and and
even found your sweetheart. I mean, I just your your
life growing up is like the hall Mark movies I watch. Really,
I mean I really, and I congratulate you on that,
(17:07):
because well, there were hard times. You know, I think
sometimes we have to celebrate in life when it's good,
when it's peaceful, when it's loving, and so I know
that you and your college sweetheart ended up getting married
and along the way had some kiddos. But even though
(17:29):
that was a loving relationship. It came with some heartbreak.
Speaker 6 (17:34):
What happened there, well, my wife became addicted to opioid,
opiates and alcohol after the birth of our second child,
and it became a struggle that I was not familiar with.
I had no experience of dealing with anyone that had
(17:57):
problems with addiction. And brute force doesn't work, you know,
telling people that just stopped something that they're having a
problem with, and that began a journey, a thirty year
journey of recovery and hitting rock bottom and coming back
from that and grace and love. But ma'am, it was
(18:20):
it was a tough road.
Speaker 3 (18:22):
And because you had grown up watching your parents, you
know write probably different storms in their own lives, but
yet stay together. I mean, ultimately, though, you did have
to leave that relationship, and I can only imagine how
hard that was. But it was it hard leaving knowing
that she wasn't quite the same woman that you had married.
Speaker 18 (18:47):
Well, it was.
Speaker 6 (18:48):
Horrible one, I didn't, you know, leaving the kids and
having to fight to get the kids in the courts,
men don't have a lot of rights versus the maternal mother,
and to prove that somebody as an addict is very difficult,
(19:13):
and until they break the law, you really can't do
a whole lot. You can call child protective Services, which
I did, and that helped for a little while, but
it wasn't until she got pulled over and was thrown
in jail and her addiction actually cost her her freedom
(19:33):
that I was able to get the children and try
to put things back together well.
Speaker 3 (19:40):
And that's been a really good father, because you wanted
to make sure that everybody was safe and even her
right getting her off the road meant that she.
Speaker 6 (19:48):
Was Yeah, you don't when addiction takes fuld of somebody,
they become somebody that they weren't before. And that's the
biggest heartbreak is watching somebody you loved so much, that
you have kids with, that you had a life with,
change into something that you don't even recognize that you know,
(20:10):
addiction has a power over somebody. It is a beast
and it was so heartbreaking. I can't tell you what
it was like to watch her shuffle in in the
County Blues chained six other women at her arraignment and
hear the charges against her that I didn't even know.
Speaker 18 (20:28):
I was not in the.
Speaker 6 (20:30):
House when she got a drunk driving accident, blew a
point to two hurt somebody, and she had pled that
case out with a lawyer without me even knowing it.
And the reason she got pulled over was for a
bench warrant because she had not followed through on her
community service that she had originally led her first charges
(20:50):
down by. So I was finding all this out for
the first time, wow in jail, and it was it
was a shock, I mean just I mean shock. And
the best part that came out of it is I
quickly bought a house as close to the kids as
high school or school that they were going to at
the time, and I was able to have the kids
(21:12):
when we were together for the first time in a
long time, and that that felt great.
Speaker 3 (21:17):
Well, And it really wasn't too long after your divorce
that you met Megan, And how how how hard was
that to be open minded? I mean, were you were?
Speaker 16 (21:30):
You?
Speaker 3 (21:30):
Were you thirsty for that healthy relationship? What made Megan like,
just was it timing? What what made that the next
relationship to jump into?
Speaker 6 (21:41):
It was Opella was timing? I was I was not
used to having somebody with an ore in the water
rowing in the same direction as I was. And when
I met Megan, she was a breath of fresh air.
She she was she had everything together. She was studying,
(22:01):
she was in school at the time, and she was
holding the house together and helping me. She was really
putting Humpty Dumpy back together. And that was that felt
so good to have somebody that had your back. And
I just hadn't, you know, for fourteen years, I hadn't
been living with that and to find that again was amazing.
(22:21):
And the crisis that brought her into the kid's life
was their mother being thrown in jail and I didn't
have I needed help and I was like, Meg, I
need you to come over and take dinner. My dad's
on his way down. We're going to try to figure
out what's going on, but I need your help.
Speaker 18 (22:39):
And that's when she entered the kid's life.
Speaker 3 (22:42):
Which is so you know, great to know for people
who are listening that you can have a relationship that
becomes heartbreaking, dramatic, traumatic, but there can be right around
the corner, love, grace, support and it's about being open
mind did It's about you know, in that case, asking
(23:02):
for help. I need some help. Can you help us out?
And you know, for all intense purposes, Scott, I mean
along the way, matters of the heart are twisty and hard,
and I think we always do our best, and I
want everyone to stay with us because we can have
emotional twist and pains in our life, but we can
(23:24):
also have physical ones. And coming up, we're going to
learn about an accident that Scott was in and how
obviously that in many ways changed his life, and also
the women in his life will be back.
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Today.
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In school, I learned a lot. In chemistry, I learned
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Today in school, I learned that I'm ugly and useless.
In jim I learned that I'm pathetic in a joke.
In History today, I learned that I'm trying.
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Today in school, I learned that I have no friends.
In English, I learned that I make people sick, and
at lunch I learned that I sit on my own
because I smell. In chemistry, I learned that no one
In Biology, I learned that I'm fat and stupid, And
in math I learned that I'm trash.
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The only thing I didn't learn in school today.
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The only thing I didn't learn today, The only thing
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Speaker 3 (28:22):
Thank you again for joining us today. I am Nancy
Silari in the Living Full Out Show, and today we're
talking about getting ourselves unstuck. You know, don't settle for life,
but push through the hard times. And our inspirational guest today,
Scott Alan Frost, had to do that in his life
in many different ways. So I'd like to welcome Scott
(28:43):
back to the show.
Speaker 6 (28:44):
Thanks again. Thank here.
Speaker 3 (28:47):
So Scott, you know, so many of us we strive
to find that work life balance, and you know, you've
always been an entrepreneurial minded, business minded soul. And there
was a day when you know, you were your kids
were going to go to the movies with their mom,
and you could have gone that direction. You had a
(29:08):
proposal you were working on. You could have gone in
that direction, but ultimately your friend called you to go,
you know, ride dirt bikes, and you decided you would
do that after you know, pondering it for a while.
But that day literally changed your life in many ways.
Can you share with us what happened?
Speaker 6 (29:31):
Well, like you said, the kids begged me to go
to the movies, I said, no, I can't go. I
got to work on this proposal. And I started working
on the proposal. And then a buddy of mine called
and begged me to go a motorcycle riding, and so
I said, I guess I should go motorcycle riding. It
was a beautiful day. We were fifteen minutes into the
ride in a rain retention base in the middle of
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the desert. It was called Madeira Canyon here in Las Vegas,
and we were riding back and forth, and about fifteen
minutes in I was starting to get tired. I hadn't
been on a bike in about two years, so I
was still getting my bike legs under me, and I
rode up. I rode the motorcycle up to what I
thought was flat to park at the top, and there's
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a dam on the other side that drops off, and
there's a rounded edge, and my front tire cut that
rounded edge. I was going really slow and just rode
that down about five feet and when my tired at
the ground, that threw me over the handlebars right under
the crown of my head, and it snapped my head
straight back and I broke my neck and was paralyzed
from the shoulders down.
Speaker 3 (30:38):
You know that is terrifying because you were actually alert
for all of that. I know it took about forty
five minutes to an hour for rescue to come and
find you all because you are somewhere remote, and ultimately
you did get to the hospital and I'm curious, knowing
(30:59):
that you had those injuries, how did you even find
yourself to wanting to live that next day and that
next day? And I say that because that's such a blow,
that's such a where do I even begin? How do
I do all the things that I used to do again?
(31:19):
You know? What is my life going to look like?
And I share that with you because I think as
someone who's legally blind or anybody who's gone through a
health issue, you can't help but have those spiraling thoughts.
So what got you into a path of hope?
Speaker 6 (31:38):
Well, one, I survived the accident. I'm being in that
ditch for forty five minutes. There were a myriad of emotions,
and I said goodbye to my kids on the phone,
A thought for sure that I was going to die.
My last conscious thought before I passed out was I
(31:58):
wonder what this is going to feel like, because I
thought I was crossing over and I felt this sense
of peace and calm and as if I was being
scooped up off the ground. And then I woke up
in the helicopter to the clanking of oxygen tanks and
they're telling me what's going on. And I'd been intubated
and we're flying to the ICU, and I was elated
(32:23):
because I was alive. I really thought I was a
goner and that the Scott Brost story was going to
end in that ditch. And I was super excited that
I was alive. So I started benchmarking. I started thinking, Okay,
what paralyzed people do you know that have been successful
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as quadriplegics. And of course you think of Christopher Reeves,
and you know Superman and everything he did after his
horrible horse riding accident. And I remember reading an article
about Craig Nielsen, a local, a gaming CEO that built
an empire and took a public after he was quatted
in a automobile accident. I said, I got to find
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someone who knows Craig Nielsen, because if one man can
do it, I can do it. I've got to figure
out how he did that. And I made that choice
to live and to figure out a way to live
in my new shell.
Speaker 8 (33:21):
And living you did.
Speaker 3 (33:23):
Living, you did, my friend, because you did find your
way back to career successes. In fact, didn't you walk
into your opening event and actually order a margarita?
Speaker 6 (33:39):
So yes, we were in the middle of negotiating a
lease or our first two songs, Mexican Cantina. It's a
famous dive bar from Infan out of Mexico that we
had the license to. And we were at Mandalay Bay
and there were two hundred people there and I had
been working so hard on my rehab and there were
(33:59):
so many miracles that happened, just an amazing, amazing journey
of recovery. But my big toet started to move and
my left thumb and I blurted out and rehab. I'm
going to walk into the into the restaurant in order
the first margarita. And that was before I could even
barely move anything. And by hook or by crook, I
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was able to stand up and hold my girlfriend's hand
and I have no balance, and we were shuffling very
slowly to it was eighteen steps. We had measured it
and we knew what we were up against. I had
a therapist behind me, spotting me just in case. And
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what I wasn't counting on is the seventh piece Mariachi
band blowing horns right in my face, and that almost
knocked me over. But I studied myself and gave everyone
a thumbs up and we got a great picture of
that in the book. And I made it to the
corner and ordered the first mar and it was like
when in the NBA Championship everyone cheered and all of
(35:05):
this emotion of all the work and the heartbreak and
the doubt came washing over us and I just I
hugged Megan and I couldn't believe that we had done.
Speaker 18 (35:16):
What we just did.
Speaker 3 (35:17):
That is such a good moment, Scott. Really, I mean,
I feel like I'm right there with you having that, Margarita,
when you tell that story.
Speaker 6 (35:25):
And you know, Margarita, we've served a lot of them.
Speaker 3 (35:29):
Nice you know, the truth is again, it's kind of
what we were talking about in that last segment. Sometimes
the physical is hard. You had to go through a
lot of rehab to get to that physical moment, But
it's the matter of the heart that are sometimes harder.
And ultimately, your love story with Megan did come to
(35:49):
an end, but you learned something about yourself, which is
the greatest part of it, and you learned how you
are going to approach your next relationship differently, What did
you learn.
Speaker 6 (36:04):
Well, there's a lot that I learned. But it's hard
enough to be married Megan and I got married after
the accident, after the walk. She married me on ten
ten ten, which was just a storybook beginning to what
was the wonderful relationship, and we ended up opening up,
(36:26):
if you can imagine this, five venues in six years
with her as my.
Speaker 18 (36:31):
Caregiver, my business partner, and my wife.
Speaker 6 (36:35):
And it was just too much and I asked way
too much of her, and she broke mentally and physically,
just broke down and she left. And I expect so
much from myself in the condition that I'm in that
I automatically expect that from other people in my life
(36:58):
to be able to keep up with my demands. And
that is not something that I can ever ask anyone
that's going to be with me to do ever again,
I would never ask them to be my carry over,
my business partner and my lover. That's just not sustainable.
Speaker 3 (37:16):
So that was well, at least less, but at least
you know that now, and that that is a gift,
a miracle again in itself to know that, and even
you know you were wildly successful after your accident. I mean,
you had great success, and part of that has come
(37:37):
from the need to delegate, right, you know, asking for
help in places that you physically couldn't do, but in
some ways that made you a better leader. And I'm
just curious. I mean, it's kind of one of those
strange questions. But I mean, if you could go back
and not have the accident happen, would.
Speaker 6 (37:57):
You absolutely not. I have pondered the paradox.
Speaker 18 (38:05):
We call that the paradox.
Speaker 6 (38:06):
And you know what would happen if you if I
hadn't had the accident, versus if I had at of
the accident.
Speaker 18 (38:11):
If in two.
Speaker 6 (38:14):
Thousand and nine, on May ninth, I came to myself
from the future and said, Hey, you're going to have
this accident, but you have to decide. You're going to
get on the motorcycle. But if you have this accident,
you're going to go through this, this, this, and this,
but this is where you're going to end up. But
if you don't get on that motorcycle and you don't
have the accident, I don't know where you're going to
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end up sixteen years from now. I would get back
on that motorcycle because it gave me a gift. It
gave me a pulpit to preach from. I can inspire
people as simply by rolling into a room. I've met
people that I never would have met. I've had a
chance to inspire thousands of people, and I never would
have had to that chance to inspire those people if
(38:57):
I hadn't have gone through what I've gone through. And
I took it as a burden, a choice there was.
You know, God puts ordinary people in an extraordinary circumstances,
and I think he put me there on purpose. The
trajectory of my life where I was before my accident
(39:18):
wasn't great, and I think it was a message, and
there was a promise made in the hospital. And God
has been great to me since then. But He has
tested me time and time again, and and now now
I'm giving back. Now it's an opportunity for me to
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show people what's possible no matter what.
Speaker 3 (39:42):
Yeah, you know, you're a mover and a shaker all
your nightclubs, you're a dancer, and he wanted you to
sing his praises and that's what you're doing right.
Speaker 6 (39:52):
Yeah, And restaurants and nightclubs and in the in the
fabulous Las Vegas.
Speaker 18 (39:59):
It's it's pretty fun.
Speaker 3 (40:01):
Well, I got to tell you now, there's going to
be somebody who gets an injury like yours and is
facing circumstances like you were. And now they're going to
think of who has done it? Who's somebody who's successful
it has done it, and it's going to be Scott
Allen Frost. How do I find them? How do I
(40:21):
get in touch with them? You are that person and
you're living such a great life of purpose, and I'm
just so proud of you. So thank you for sharing
your story with our audience today and for everyone listening.
Just like Scott, you know, don't settle, let those circumstances fall,
but then make purpose.
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You know, let your legacy be defined by the impact
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When it comes to not settling, truly, it is a choice.
You're going to look around and you're going to see
all these areas in your life where you wish you
could change something, or the what if that happens. But
at the end of the day, you are the one
that can get yourself rolling in motion. You are the
one that can steer the ship whether you want to
go right or left or voyage forward and into the unknown.
(45:26):
But I believe in you in your quest to live
full out.
Speaker 1 (45:37):
You're listening to Living Full Out with Nancy Solary. As
a professional motivational speaker. Nancy can assist you to blow
through your setbacks and start living full out. If you
have an inspirational story you want to share, email us
at connect at livingfollout dot com. Once again, here's Nancy.
Speaker 3 (45:57):
Welcome back. I'm Nancyslarian. This is the Living Full Out Show,
and today we've been talking about not settling. And I'll
tell you what this really is, warm and near and
dear to my heart because as many of you know,
I'm legally blind due to having retinitis pigmentosa and to
not settle like it's just part of the fabric of
(46:18):
who I am. It's kind of funny even the concept
of settling. I just can't even wrap my head around
doing that. And what I mean by that is, you know,
that's it. I've had it, and they can sit down
on the couch. After time, you're going to get restless,
you're going to want to get off that couch, so
you're not going to settle on the couch.
Speaker 8 (46:37):
And then the other thing.
Speaker 3 (46:38):
Is someone can say, you know, that's it. This relationship
doesn't serve me. I don't want to settle in this
relationship anymore. Then you know what, life is full of
choices and variations and colors. The beauty is we can
move into new relationships, new jobs, new friendships, but where
it comes down to it is truly that voice and I,
(47:02):
over the years losing my eyesight, there have been choices
along the way, choices of gosh, I don't drive, it's
you know, I don't know. I don't want to take
it's gonna take a ride share, it's going to take
a cab, you have to walk. I'm gonna you know,
there's all these blockers that someone who doesn't drive can
put in front of say no to going somewhere, But
(47:25):
I choose to say yes. And it would be so
easy to, you know, be on my computer having deadlines,
things I'm trying to achieve, and I have this talking
software called Jaws. And if Jaws for some reason gets
overwhelmed or I type the wrong key and it might
stop stop talking, and at that point I can panic.
(47:48):
At that point, I can you know, do a hard
shut down, which we all know is not good for
the computer, or I can say, you know what, whoa
slow it down. I'm going to grab my phone. I'm
going to I'm going to use you know, an application.
I'm going to have somebody tell me what it says
on the screen. And if we just calm down, oftentimes
(48:09):
it's as easy as hitting tab and enter and poof,
Jaws would talk again. But so oftentimes when something doesn't
go our way, when something gets off course, we panic,
we stop, we get stuck, and sometimes we settle. We
(48:30):
worry if it's going to be too hard, or what
if I fail again? And honestly, I want you to
go grab a garbage bag and I want you to
put all of that in it and take it out
to the trash, because that's what it is. Those are
just thoughts in your mind that don't serve you. The
one thing I can promise you is that you are
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breathing in and out and you were given the gift
of life. And it doesn't matter if you're blind like me,
or you can't hear, or you can't walk, or you've
gone through a divorce or a heartbreak, or you're in
the process of a financial loss. And you know that's
going to happen to all of us, but that miracle
(49:12):
is you. And then I want you to do your
best to wiggle and jiggle, and I want you to
do your best to get yourself out of bed, whatever
that looks like for you. And then I want you
to think about gratitude as the first thing you do.
Don't run for your TV remote, don't run for your
(49:34):
computer and start checking emails. You have to really anchor
your day with what you're proud of, what you're grateful for,
because the day is going to come steamrolling at you.
And this is your one moment to have peace on
your terms. It's your one moment, whether you want to
pray or you just want to say you know some
(49:56):
positive affirmations. That is sacred time, before you open that
bedroom door, before you take that first call, before you
take that one work action to do action in life,
that peaceful time. Don't let it just go by. You
don't settle for less than having that moment. And then
(50:16):
what I want you to do when you think about
not settling in life, I want you to always remember
that the moments are made up of your terms, your choices,
and so when things happen to me in my day,
you know I might miss a step and trip down
the stairs because I didn't see the step, or I
was moving too fast and not holding onto the handle.
(50:37):
Maybe that's why I miss the step. Or maybe there's
days where you know, I drop something on the floor
and I can't see it and I'm scrambling for it
before my dog gets it. Right, that is something that
happens all the time, and I have to hurry and
make sure my Chihuahua doesn't get it before me and
he doesn't chew it or swallow it.
Speaker 6 (50:55):
Right.
Speaker 3 (50:56):
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going through, and we'll be beside you every step of
the way.
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Speaker 2 (00:20):
Hello, and welcome to the Living Full Out Show.
Speaker 3 (00:22):
My name is Nancy Silari, and today we're going to
be talking about not giving up. Yes, love this topic
because the truth is, it is so easy to want
to put our hands in the air, to wave the
white flag and say, you know what, it's just not
going to work out. But today's the day that I
want you to stay the distance, hang in there. And
(00:42):
our inspirational guests coming up Scott Alan Frost. Trust me,
his story is really jarring when you hear about the
accident that he was in. It had him become a quadriplegic.
But wow, you're not going to find someone who has
such a beautiful outlook on life. I mean, for every
reason the book that he could be grumpy, he is
(01:03):
so steadfast, positive and a life full of purpose. You're
just going to want to hear how he does that Also,
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and there's a show that will surely have a guest
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a tip or an insight to help you look at
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getting word from our producer that we do a listener
on the line. Let's go ahead and check in. Hello,
Welcome to the Living Full Out Show.
Speaker 4 (01:43):
Hi, Nancy, thanks for taking my call.
Speaker 3 (01:45):
Absolutely so nice to hear your voice. How can I
help you today?
Speaker 5 (01:49):
Hi?
Speaker 4 (01:49):
So, I'm in a relationship that means a lot to me.
My boyfriend and I broke up once before, but we
ended up seeing friends during that period and now we're
back together and things are going really well so far.
The only issue is his older sister doesn't seem to
(02:10):
approve of me.
Speaker 6 (02:12):
We'd never officially.
Speaker 4 (02:13):
Met, but we briefly crossed paths before at Disneyland after
a breakup, and it felt clear that she wasn't happy
to see me at all, and now she gets really
upset when he makes plans with me and pressures him
to cancel so he can spend time with her instead.
It just feels like she's trying to come between us
(02:37):
and he ends up getting caught in the middle. So
my question to you is what's the best way for
me to handle this situation?
Speaker 3 (02:48):
You know, I really really think it is loving that
you're asking this question. There's a lot of elements though,
that are out of your control. So as much as
it's a really good heartfelt question, I want you to
have a little grace and a little bit of for
you know, lightness on your side. What we don't know
(03:09):
some of the factors that are unknown is we don't
know if this is how his sister is. I mean,
it's showing up with her brother, but does she show
up this way in other ways of her life as well?
We don't know. We don't know what other family or
friends would say. So I'm a little bit cautious to
think that this necessarily only has to do with you.
(03:33):
She just could be very protective, you know, she might
feel threatened by you, you know, taking away his time.
There's just a lot of unknown factors there that I
want you not to give it too much power. I
can appreciate that you might want people to you know,
you want we want everyone to like us, right, And
(03:55):
it seems strange that, gosh, you don't even know me,
How could you not like me? Right? That feels uncomfortable.
But there's a lot about her that we don't know. Now. Equally,
another factor that you can't control is him. We could
say that he is caught in the middle, or we
(04:17):
could say that he can make his own choices, meaning
that because he's dating you. I don't think his sister's
going to call their sibling relationship quits, right, that'd be
pretty extreme.
Speaker 5 (04:34):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (04:35):
Right. She can have an opinion with a capital O,
she can give advice.
Speaker 7 (04:44):
With a capital A.
Speaker 3 (04:45):
She can even get a vote the capital V. But
at the end of the day, sometimes that might land
on him as caring, But that could land on him
from her side as nagging or over protective or butting in.
Do you see what I'm saying? And so I personally
(05:07):
think that you have one thing to do, and that
is just to be the lovable you that you can be.
Because the truth is if somebody is going to leave you,
let them leave. If somebody is going to be so
so impressionable by his sister, let alone his mother and
(05:32):
his aunt and a cousin. Do you see what I'm saying, Yes,
then let them leave. So I actually look at this
time in your life as something that's a gift to
be honest. So you don't want to talk ill will
of her? Why would you anyway? You don't know her,
You don't understand her, her reasoning, but you don't know her.
(05:55):
So just take the high road. You just continue to
be great and loving in the relationship that you are
with him. But I wouldn't be baited. I wouldn't fall
into the trap of needing to fix whatever's happening in
that sibling dynamic. And my hunch of all hunches is
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that this probably shows up in other areas, perhaps of
her life, and the indecision that he's kind of feeling
like my sister, my girlfriend, my sister and my girlfriend.
That indecision is also one that you want to keep
an eye on because if this becomes your boyfriend, becomes
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your husband, is this tugg awar what you want for
the rest of your life? I see yes, do you
see that? So it's kind of one of those things
where I look at this time as a gift. Now
does that mean that, Gosh, I wish I could go
to family events of his and meet more of his family.
(07:00):
I can't because the sister, Yeah, that's a bummer.
Speaker 8 (07:03):
That's a bummer.
Speaker 3 (07:04):
But let that one play out. Let that one play out,
and just see because the truth is, if he really
loves you, and if this relationship has wings and ends
up going further, then he's going to have you do
things with the family on his terms because he wants
(07:24):
you there, despite what the sister thinks. But I think
it's interesting because if you don't see him invite you
the things, and if you see him being okay with
carponmentalizing his life today we're talking about not settling in
(07:46):
the show. For him, that would be settling. You have
to decide if that's okay for you. And so I
think the best approach here is to not be rad
by the sister, continue to be the loving you that
you are, continue to express wanting to be a part
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of his life in every in any way that you can,
family events and work events and hanging out with the friends,
and you know you're all in. You're all in in
this future that you're building with him. But I think
it'll be interesting to see along the way does how
does he navigate this? And then you can make a
(08:31):
decision from there because right now dating it's it's everything's
kind of good, right, But it'll be interesting to see
what do you think?
Speaker 4 (08:42):
Yeah? Right now, I'm just hoping things goes well. That's
all I can ask for.
Speaker 3 (08:49):
And when you say I hope things go well, what
are the things you hope things? What are the things
you help what goes well?
Speaker 9 (08:58):
Well?
Speaker 4 (08:59):
The fact that we're also both really busy, so we
don't get to see each other as much as we'd like.
Speaker 3 (09:06):
So that yeah, but see you see how that's another
factor that has nothing to do with the sister.
Speaker 5 (09:16):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (09:17):
Right, So there's a lot of busy people that have
great marriages and relationships and partnerships, and there's a lot
of busy couples that don't. And so it'll be a
testimony to your love your relationship whether you can, you know,
literally weather the storm of this time in your life.
(09:38):
So now you see how I wouldn't give up on
this relationship. But you've got the element of schedules. You're
both busy, can't control all that You've got the sister
and her opinions and so forth, and you can't control
all of that. And then you have to kind of
watch his actions and see how much he puts this
(09:58):
relationship as a priority. And then ultimately you want to
make the best decision for you because I can tell
that you've got a heart of gold and you're very
loving and you want to find that partner that you
can run with. Okay, thank you, Well you're welcome. Do
I hear a little bit of a smile, just a
(10:19):
little yes, a little bit of a smile exactly.
Speaker 10 (10:24):
So just be you. You don't have to.
Speaker 5 (10:25):
Solve anything, you don't have.
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To correct anything. Just be you. Okay, thank you so
much for calling in and for everybody today we are
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having the life we want and truly living a life
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Speaker 9 (15:33):
Welcome back.
Speaker 3 (15:34):
I'm Nancy Silary and this is the Living Full Out
Show and today we're talking about getting unstuck in our life.
That's right, We're not going to settle. And our inspirational
guest today, Scott Allen Frost, is such a great example
of when we find ourselves in those sticky moments in life,
those ruts, those times where it feels like the light
(15:55):
is really really far away at the end of that tunnel,
that we can still see that so I can't to
share his stories. So welcome Scott to the show.
Speaker 6 (16:02):
Thanks so much for having me, Nancy.
Speaker 3 (16:05):
So happy to have you and and Scott. If I
was to kind of go back and just let our
audience know, I mean you family of all families, my goodness,
I wanted to be in the Frost family. I'm telling you.
Your parents have been together for they've been married for years,
your older brother, I mean you just white pickt fence family,
(16:26):
just very loving. And you know, you were, you know, funny,
you were outgoing, and you moved a lot because of
your family. You know, dynamics there. But but the truth
is you had humor, you had charm, You were athletically gifted.
You played football, although you got an injury. You know
(16:47):
you were you had a lot of talents and a
lot of promise and went on to college and and
even found your sweetheart. I mean, I just your your
life growing up is like the hall Mark movies I watch. Really,
I mean I really, and I congratulate you on that,
(17:07):
because well, there were hard times. You know, I think
sometimes we have to celebrate in life when it's good,
when it's peaceful, when it's loving, and so I know
that you and your college sweetheart ended up getting married
and along the way had some kiddos. But even though
(17:29):
that was a loving relationship. It came with some heartbreak.
Speaker 6 (17:34):
What happened there, well, my wife became addicted to opioid,
opiates and alcohol after the birth of our second child,
and it became a struggle that I was not familiar with.
I had no experience of dealing with anyone that had
(17:57):
problems with addiction. And brute force doesn't work, you know,
telling people that just stopped something that they're having a
problem with, and that began a journey, a thirty year
journey of recovery and hitting rock bottom and coming back
from that and grace and love. But ma'am, it was
(18:20):
it was a tough road.
Speaker 3 (18:22):
And because you had grown up watching your parents, you
know write probably different storms in their own lives, but
yet stay together. I mean, ultimately, though, you did have
to leave that relationship, and I can only imagine how
hard that was. But it was it hard leaving knowing
that she wasn't quite the same woman that you had married.
Speaker 18 (18:47):
Well, it was.
Speaker 6 (18:48):
Horrible one, I didn't, you know, leaving the kids and
having to fight to get the kids in the courts,
men don't have a lot of rights versus the maternal mother,
and to prove that somebody as an addict is very difficult,
(19:13):
and until they break the law, you really can't do
a whole lot. You can call child protective Services, which
I did, and that helped for a little while, but
it wasn't until she got pulled over and was thrown
in jail and her addiction actually cost her her freedom
(19:33):
that I was able to get the children and try
to put things back together well.
Speaker 3 (19:40):
And that's been a really good father, because you wanted
to make sure that everybody was safe and even her
right getting her off the road meant that she.
Speaker 6 (19:48):
Was Yeah, you don't when addiction takes fuld of somebody,
they become somebody that they weren't before. And that's the
biggest heartbreak is watching somebody you loved so much, that
you have kids with, that you had a life with,
change into something that you don't even recognize that you know,
(20:10):
addiction has a power over somebody. It is a beast
and it was so heartbreaking. I can't tell you what
it was like to watch her shuffle in in the
County Blues chained six other women at her arraignment and
hear the charges against her that I didn't even know.
Speaker 18 (20:28):
I was not in the.
Speaker 6 (20:30):
House when she got a drunk driving accident, blew a
point to two hurt somebody, and she had pled that
case out with a lawyer without me even knowing it.
And the reason she got pulled over was for a
bench warrant because she had not followed through on her
community service that she had originally led her first charges
(20:50):
down by. So I was finding all this out for
the first time, wow in jail, and it was it
was a shock, I mean just I mean shock. And
the best part that came out of it is I
quickly bought a house as close to the kids as
high school or school that they were going to at
the time, and I was able to have the kids
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when we were together for the first time in a
long time, and that that felt great.
Speaker 3 (21:17):
Well, And it really wasn't too long after your divorce
that you met Megan, And how how how hard was
that to be open minded? I mean, were you were?
Speaker 16 (21:30):
You?
Speaker 3 (21:30):
Were you thirsty for that healthy relationship? What made Megan like,
just was it timing? What what made that the next
relationship to jump into?
Speaker 6 (21:41):
It was Opella was timing? I was I was not
used to having somebody with an ore in the water
rowing in the same direction as I was. And when
I met Megan, she was a breath of fresh air.
She she was she had everything together. She was studying,
(22:01):
she was in school at the time, and she was
holding the house together and helping me. She was really
putting Humpty Dumpy back together. And that was that felt
so good to have somebody that had your back. And
I just hadn't, you know, for fourteen years, I hadn't
been living with that and to find that again was amazing.
(22:21):
And the crisis that brought her into the kid's life
was their mother being thrown in jail and I didn't
have I needed help and I was like, Meg, I
need you to come over and take dinner. My dad's
on his way down. We're going to try to figure
out what's going on, but I need your help.
Speaker 18 (22:39):
And that's when she entered the kid's life.
Speaker 3 (22:42):
Which is so you know, great to know for people
who are listening that you can have a relationship that
becomes heartbreaking, dramatic, traumatic, but there can be right around
the corner, love, grace, support and it's about being open
mind did It's about you know, in that case, asking
(23:02):
for help. I need some help. Can you help us out?
And you know, for all intense purposes, Scott, I mean
along the way, matters of the heart are twisty and hard,
and I think we always do our best, and I
want everyone to stay with us because we can have
emotional twist and pains in our life, but we can
(23:24):
also have physical ones. And coming up, we're going to
learn about an accident that Scott was in and how
obviously that in many ways changed his life, and also
the women in his life will be back.
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In Biology, I learned that I'm fat and stupid, And
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Speaker 3 (28:22):
Thank you again for joining us today. I am Nancy
Silari in the Living Full Out Show, and today we're
talking about getting ourselves unstuck. You know, don't settle for life,
but push through the hard times. And our inspirational guest today,
Scott Alan Frost, had to do that in his life
in many different ways. So I'd like to welcome Scott
(28:43):
back to the show.
Speaker 6 (28:44):
Thanks again. Thank here.
Speaker 3 (28:47):
So Scott, you know, so many of us we strive
to find that work life balance, and you know, you've
always been an entrepreneurial minded, business minded soul. And there
was a day when you know, you were your kids
were going to go to the movies with their mom,
and you could have gone that direction. You had a
(29:08):
proposal you were working on. You could have gone in
that direction, but ultimately your friend called you to go,
you know, ride dirt bikes, and you decided you would
do that after you know, pondering it for a while.
But that day literally changed your life in many ways.
Can you share with us what happened?
Speaker 6 (29:31):
Well, like you said, the kids begged me to go
to the movies, I said, no, I can't go. I
got to work on this proposal. And I started working
on the proposal. And then a buddy of mine called
and begged me to go a motorcycle riding, and so
I said, I guess I should go motorcycle riding. It
was a beautiful day. We were fifteen minutes into the
ride in a rain retention base in the middle of
(29:53):
the desert. It was called Madeira Canyon here in Las Vegas,
and we were riding back and forth, and about fifteen
minutes in I was starting to get tired. I hadn't
been on a bike in about two years, so I
was still getting my bike legs under me, and I
rode up. I rode the motorcycle up to what I
thought was flat to park at the top, and there's
(30:16):
a dam on the other side that drops off, and
there's a rounded edge, and my front tire cut that
rounded edge. I was going really slow and just rode
that down about five feet and when my tired at
the ground, that threw me over the handlebars right under
the crown of my head, and it snapped my head
straight back and I broke my neck and was paralyzed
from the shoulders down.
Speaker 3 (30:38):
You know that is terrifying because you were actually alert
for all of that. I know it took about forty
five minutes to an hour for rescue to come and
find you all because you are somewhere remote, and ultimately
you did get to the hospital and I'm curious, knowing
(30:59):
that you had those injuries, how did you even find
yourself to wanting to live that next day and that
next day? And I say that because that's such a blow,
that's such a where do I even begin? How do
I do all the things that I used to do again?
(31:19):
You know? What is my life going to look like?
And I share that with you because I think as
someone who's legally blind or anybody who's gone through a
health issue, you can't help but have those spiraling thoughts.
So what got you into a path of hope?
Speaker 6 (31:38):
Well, one, I survived the accident. I'm being in that
ditch for forty five minutes. There were a myriad of emotions,
and I said goodbye to my kids on the phone,
A thought for sure that I was going to die.
My last conscious thought before I passed out was I
(31:58):
wonder what this is going to feel like, because I
thought I was crossing over and I felt this sense
of peace and calm and as if I was being
scooped up off the ground. And then I woke up
in the helicopter to the clanking of oxygen tanks and
they're telling me what's going on. And I'd been intubated
and we're flying to the ICU, and I was elated
(32:23):
because I was alive. I really thought I was a
goner and that the Scott Brost story was going to
end in that ditch. And I was super excited that
I was alive. So I started benchmarking. I started thinking, Okay,
what paralyzed people do you know that have been successful
(32:44):
as quadriplegics. And of course you think of Christopher Reeves,
and you know Superman and everything he did after his
horrible horse riding accident. And I remember reading an article
about Craig Nielsen, a local, a gaming CEO that built
an empire and took a public after he was quatted
in a automobile accident. I said, I got to find
(33:06):
someone who knows Craig Nielsen, because if one man can
do it, I can do it. I've got to figure
out how he did that. And I made that choice
to live and to figure out a way to live
in my new shell.
Speaker 8 (33:21):
And living you did.
Speaker 3 (33:23):
Living, you did, my friend, because you did find your
way back to career successes. In fact, didn't you walk
into your opening event and actually order a margarita?
Speaker 6 (33:39):
So yes, we were in the middle of negotiating a
lease or our first two songs, Mexican Cantina. It's a
famous dive bar from Infan out of Mexico that we
had the license to. And we were at Mandalay Bay
and there were two hundred people there and I had
been working so hard on my rehab and there were
(33:59):
so many miracles that happened, just an amazing, amazing journey
of recovery. But my big toet started to move and
my left thumb and I blurted out and rehab. I'm
going to walk into the into the restaurant in order
the first margarita. And that was before I could even
barely move anything. And by hook or by crook, I
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was able to stand up and hold my girlfriend's hand
and I have no balance, and we were shuffling very
slowly to it was eighteen steps. We had measured it
and we knew what we were up against. I had
a therapist behind me, spotting me just in case. And
(34:42):
what I wasn't counting on is the seventh piece Mariachi
band blowing horns right in my face, and that almost
knocked me over. But I studied myself and gave everyone
a thumbs up and we got a great picture of
that in the book. And I made it to the
corner and ordered the first mar and it was like
when in the NBA Championship everyone cheered and all of
(35:05):
this emotion of all the work and the heartbreak and
the doubt came washing over us and I just I
hugged Megan and I couldn't believe that we had done.
Speaker 18 (35:16):
What we just did.
Speaker 3 (35:17):
That is such a good moment, Scott. Really, I mean,
I feel like I'm right there with you having that, Margarita,
when you tell that story.
Speaker 6 (35:25):
And you know, Margarita, we've served a lot of them.
Speaker 3 (35:29):
Nice you know, the truth is again, it's kind of
what we were talking about in that last segment. Sometimes
the physical is hard. You had to go through a
lot of rehab to get to that physical moment, But
it's the matter of the heart that are sometimes harder.
And ultimately, your love story with Megan did come to
(35:49):
an end, but you learned something about yourself, which is
the greatest part of it, and you learned how you
are going to approach your next relationship differently, What did
you learn.
Speaker 6 (36:04):
Well, there's a lot that I learned. But it's hard
enough to be married Megan and I got married after
the accident, after the walk. She married me on ten
ten ten, which was just a storybook beginning to what
was the wonderful relationship, and we ended up opening up,
(36:26):
if you can imagine this, five venues in six years
with her as my.
Speaker 18 (36:31):
Caregiver, my business partner, and my wife.
Speaker 6 (36:35):
And it was just too much and I asked way
too much of her, and she broke mentally and physically,
just broke down and she left. And I expect so
much from myself in the condition that I'm in that
I automatically expect that from other people in my life
(36:58):
to be able to keep up with my demands. And
that is not something that I can ever ask anyone
that's going to be with me to do ever again,
I would never ask them to be my carry over,
my business partner and my lover. That's just not sustainable.
Speaker 3 (37:16):
So that was well, at least less, but at least
you know that now, and that that is a gift,
a miracle again in itself to know that, and even
you know you were wildly successful after your accident. I mean,
you had great success, and part of that has come
(37:37):
from the need to delegate, right, you know, asking for
help in places that you physically couldn't do, but in
some ways that made you a better leader. And I'm
just curious. I mean, it's kind of one of those
strange questions. But I mean, if you could go back
and not have the accident happen, would.
Speaker 6 (37:57):
You absolutely not. I have pondered the paradox.
Speaker 18 (38:05):
We call that the paradox.
Speaker 6 (38:06):
And you know what would happen if you if I
hadn't had the accident, versus if I had at of
the accident.
Speaker 18 (38:11):
If in two.
Speaker 6 (38:14):
Thousand and nine, on May ninth, I came to myself
from the future and said, Hey, you're going to have
this accident, but you have to decide. You're going to
get on the motorcycle. But if you have this accident,
you're going to go through this, this, this, and this,
but this is where you're going to end up. But
if you don't get on that motorcycle and you don't
have the accident, I don't know where you're going to
(38:35):
end up sixteen years from now. I would get back
on that motorcycle because it gave me a gift. It
gave me a pulpit to preach from. I can inspire
people as simply by rolling into a room. I've met
people that I never would have met. I've had a
chance to inspire thousands of people, and I never would
have had to that chance to inspire those people if
(38:57):
I hadn't have gone through what I've gone through. And
I took it as a burden, a choice there was.
You know, God puts ordinary people in an extraordinary circumstances,
and I think he put me there on purpose. The
trajectory of my life where I was before my accident
(39:18):
wasn't great, and I think it was a message, and
there was a promise made in the hospital. And God
has been great to me since then. But He has
tested me time and time again, and and now now
I'm giving back. Now it's an opportunity for me to
(39:39):
show people what's possible no matter what.
Speaker 3 (39:42):
Yeah, you know, you're a mover and a shaker all
your nightclubs, you're a dancer, and he wanted you to
sing his praises and that's what you're doing right.
Speaker 6 (39:52):
Yeah, And restaurants and nightclubs and in the in the
fabulous Las Vegas.
Speaker 18 (39:59):
It's it's pretty fun.
Speaker 3 (40:01):
Well, I got to tell you now, there's going to
be somebody who gets an injury like yours and is
facing circumstances like you were. And now they're going to
think of who has done it? Who's somebody who's successful
it has done it, and it's going to be Scott
Allen Frost. How do I find them? How do I
(40:21):
get in touch with them? You are that person and
you're living such a great life of purpose, and I'm
just so proud of you. So thank you for sharing
your story with our audience today and for everyone listening.
Just like Scott, you know, don't settle, let those circumstances fall,
but then make purpose.
Speaker 5 (40:40):
Out of it.
Speaker 3 (40:41):
You know, let your legacy be defined by the impact
you can make. Not about doing a do over, but
it's about living full out and on your terms.
Speaker 2 (40:51):
We'll be back.
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(42:41):
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Speaker 3 (45:02):
When it comes to not settling, truly, it is a choice.
You're going to look around and you're going to see
all these areas in your life where you wish you
could change something, or the what if that happens. But
at the end of the day, you are the one
that can get yourself rolling in motion. You are the
one that can steer the ship whether you want to
go right or left or voyage forward and into the unknown.
(45:26):
But I believe in you in your quest to live
full out.
Speaker 1 (45:37):
You're listening to Living Full Out with Nancy Solary. As
a professional motivational speaker. Nancy can assist you to blow
through your setbacks and start living full out. If you
have an inspirational story you want to share, email us
at connect at livingfollout dot com. Once again, here's Nancy.
Speaker 3 (45:57):
Welcome back. I'm Nancyslarian. This is the Living Full Out Show,
and today we've been talking about not settling. And I'll
tell you what this really is, warm and near and
dear to my heart because as many of you know,
I'm legally blind due to having retinitis pigmentosa and to
not settle like it's just part of the fabric of
(46:18):
who I am. It's kind of funny even the concept
of settling. I just can't even wrap my head around
doing that. And what I mean by that is, you know,
that's it. I've had it, and they can sit down
on the couch. After time, you're going to get restless,
you're going to want to get off that couch, so
you're not going to settle on the couch.
Speaker 8 (46:37):
And then the other thing.
Speaker 3 (46:38):
Is someone can say, you know, that's it. This relationship
doesn't serve me. I don't want to settle in this
relationship anymore. Then you know what, life is full of
choices and variations and colors. The beauty is we can
move into new relationships, new jobs, new friendships, but where
it comes down to it is truly that voice and I,
(47:02):
over the years losing my eyesight, there have been choices
along the way, choices of gosh, I don't drive, it's
you know, I don't know. I don't want to take
it's gonna take a ride share, it's going to take
a cab, you have to walk. I'm gonna you know,
there's all these blockers that someone who doesn't drive can
put in front of say no to going somewhere, But
(47:25):
I choose to say yes. And it would be so
easy to, you know, be on my computer having deadlines,
things I'm trying to achieve, and I have this talking
software called Jaws. And if Jaws for some reason gets
overwhelmed or I type the wrong key and it might
stop stop talking, and at that point I can panic.
(47:48):
At that point, I can you know, do a hard
shut down, which we all know is not good for
the computer, or I can say, you know what, whoa
slow it down. I'm going to grab my phone. I'm
going to I'm going to use you know, an application.
I'm going to have somebody tell me what it says
on the screen. And if we just calm down, oftentimes
(48:09):
it's as easy as hitting tab and enter and poof,
Jaws would talk again. But so oftentimes when something doesn't
go our way, when something gets off course, we panic,
we stop, we get stuck, and sometimes we settle. We
(48:30):
worry if it's going to be too hard, or what
if I fail again? And honestly, I want you to
go grab a garbage bag and I want you to
put all of that in it and take it out
to the trash, because that's what it is. Those are
just thoughts in your mind that don't serve you. The
one thing I can promise you is that you are
(48:51):
breathing in and out and you were given the gift
of life. And it doesn't matter if you're blind like me,
or you can't hear, or you can't walk, or you've
gone through a divorce or a heartbreak, or you're in
the process of a financial loss. And you know that's
going to happen to all of us, but that miracle
(49:12):
is you. And then I want you to do your
best to wiggle and jiggle, and I want you to
do your best to get yourself out of bed, whatever
that looks like for you. And then I want you
to think about gratitude as the first thing you do.
Don't run for your TV remote, don't run for your
(49:34):
computer and start checking emails. You have to really anchor
your day with what you're proud of, what you're grateful for,
because the day is going to come steamrolling at you.
And this is your one moment to have peace on
your terms. It's your one moment, whether you want to
pray or you just want to say you know some
(49:56):
positive affirmations. That is sacred time, before you open that
bedroom door, before you take that first call, before you
take that one work action to do action in life,
that peaceful time. Don't let it just go by. You
don't settle for less than having that moment. And then
(50:16):
what I want you to do when you think about
not settling in life, I want you to always remember
that the moments are made up of your terms, your choices,
and so when things happen to me in my day,
you know I might miss a step and trip down
the stairs because I didn't see the step, or I
was moving too fast and not holding onto the handle.
(50:37):
Maybe that's why I miss the step. Or maybe there's
days where you know, I drop something on the floor
and I can't see it and I'm scrambling for it
before my dog gets it. Right, that is something that
happens all the time, and I have to hurry and
make sure my Chihuahua doesn't get it before me and
he doesn't chew it or swallow it.
Speaker 6 (50:55):
Right.
Speaker 3 (50:56):
Life happens. But I don't want you to settle. Well,
I want you to always be and we talk about
it a lot here at Living full Out in Action.
So how do you not settle? How do you get
an action? Well, I want you to go to livingfullout
dot com and one thing you can do if you want,
is the Personal Development boot Camp because that course will
(51:21):
help guide you in different areas of your life. Some
might be just popping along in your full throttle, other
areas you want to make some changes. Or you can
always come and you can listen to this show. You
can call into the show and you will always have
Nancy and all of our guests to inspire you, but
you're not alone. There's a saying the rolling Rock collects Nomas.
(51:45):
You are that rolling rock, keep rolling, keep living, stay
in action, and live full out. So remember today to
take action. The entire Living full Out family. We've got
Brent and Dirk, and Julie and Eric and so many
people that want to make sure that you are moving
forward and achieving those goals and aspirations that you have. Also,
(52:08):
remember to go to the app store look for the
Living full Out Show app and you can listen to
us anytime when you're on the go and truly. Go
to livingfollout dot com. You can follow us on social
media or pick an episode that resonates with what you're
going through, and we'll be beside you every step of
the way.
Speaker 1 (52:27):
Thank you for listening to The Living Full Out Show
with Nancy Silari. To learn more about this program, visit
Livingfullout dot com for the latest episodes. Connect with the
Living full Out community by following us on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram,
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