September 6, 2025 • 52 mins
Episode: 2025.11.29
The Living Full Out show with Nancy Solari encourages you to give it your all to become the best version of yourself. Maybe you’re afraid of the challenges that come with this. Perhaps you need motivation to push yourself. Join Nancy as she discusses aiming for self-improvement.
Our first caller Carol wonders how to deal with the passing of a close friend. It was just after this surgery this person was lost. This shock has brought Carol sadness as she dearly misses her friend. Tune in to hear as Nancy discusses how to bring relief to your life through positivity.
Our inspirational guest Clarence Singleton is a true hero. Having fought in the terrifying Vietnam War, he further fought during the tragic day of 9/11. These stresses can sometimes bring depression, PTSD, breathing issues, and more. Clarence struggles with these, reliving fears when he speaks about his past. Tune in to hear how Clarence gets past challenges and continues to strive to be the best he can be.
Perhaps you want to live your absolute best. Try to have confidence in finding that version of yourself. When you strive to get better, you can thrive with passion and purpose. Then, you’ll be living full out.
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The Living Full Out show with Nancy Solari encourages you to give it your all to become the best version of yourself. Maybe you’re afraid of the challenges that come with this. Perhaps you need motivation to push yourself. Join Nancy as she discusses aiming for self-improvement.
Our first caller Carol wonders how to deal with the passing of a close friend. It was just after this surgery this person was lost. This shock has brought Carol sadness as she dearly misses her friend. Tune in to hear as Nancy discusses how to bring relief to your life through positivity.
Our inspirational guest Clarence Singleton is a true hero. Having fought in the terrifying Vietnam War, he further fought during the tragic day of 9/11. These stresses can sometimes bring depression, PTSD, breathing issues, and more. Clarence struggles with these, reliving fears when he speaks about his past. Tune in to hear how Clarence gets past challenges and continues to strive to be the best he can be.
Perhaps you want to live your absolute best. Try to have confidence in finding that version of yourself. When you strive to get better, you can thrive with passion and purpose. Then, you’ll be living full out.
Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/living-full-out-show--1474350/support.
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Speaker 1 (00:01):
You're listening the Living Full Out with Nancy Solari. As
a professional motivational speaker, Nancy can assist you to blow
through your setbacks and start living full out. If you
have an inspirational story you want to share, email us
at connect at livingfollout dot com. Once again, here's Nancy.
Speaker 2 (00:20):
Welcome to the Living Full Out Show. My name is
Nancy Silari, and today we're talking about striving to get better.
That might be getting better at what you do in
your career. That might be getting better at your health
and taking care of it. That might be getting better
at having good relationships and connections in your life. So
(00:41):
whatever that is for you, we want to work on
that throughout today's show. We're also going to be joined
by Clarence Singleton and he's going to share with us
his journey is a marine in Vietnam, but also how
he served during nine to eleven and participated with helping
others during that very tragic day and what he learned
(01:02):
from it. It's very powerful story. I also want to
make sure that alongside hearing Clarence's story, that you are
able to be inspired by so many of our guests
and you're welcome to go to the app store download
the Living Full Out Show app. It's free for you,
and hopefully you can get inspired while you're at the
gym or on a road trip. We just want to
(01:23):
make sure that we give you that inspiration every step
of the way in your journey. Now I'm getting more
from our producer that we do a listener on the line.
We're going to go check in with them. Hello, welcome
to The Living Full Out Show.
Speaker 3 (01:36):
Oh hi Nancy, nice to speak with you.
Speaker 2 (01:39):
Hi there, How can I help you?
Speaker 3 (01:42):
Well, I am a question. I was wondering how to
deal with the passing of a very dear friend of mine.
Speaker 2 (01:55):
I'm so sorry for your loss, this friend that's passed away.
What is it about the loss that hurts you the most?
Obviously grieving is difficult in many ways, But how does
that affect you the most?
Speaker 3 (02:12):
Well, it's happened so fast. We weren't accepting that surgery
would work, and she was very vivacious and uh together,
and so all of a sudden she's gone and I
really miss her. Hmm.
Speaker 2 (02:34):
Now, what was what was something that she taught you
in the time that you knew her.
Speaker 3 (02:45):
Let's see, what did she teach me. She taught me
to reach out to everyone and enjoy life. And she
did enjoy life mm.
Speaker 2 (02:57):
Hm and and and what what was one of the
best moments you ever had with her? The time that
just sticks out to you heart. It could be a
heartwarming moment or a funny moment.
Speaker 3 (03:12):
Well, there were many moments that we shared with both
belong to an organization and would go to these monthly
meetings and have a really good time together.
Speaker 2 (03:30):
And what would you say that she would say to
you to help you give you comfort during this time
if it wasn't her that had passed somebody else, what
would she say to you?
Speaker 3 (03:47):
Oh, I know she would say, don't worry. I have
moved on to a better place and I just want
you to enjoy your time and don't worry about me.
I'll be okay. I'm sure that's what she would say that,
you know, for the person left behind, I do miss
(04:11):
her m h.
Speaker 2 (04:14):
And the thing is missing somebody is a good thing,
believe it or not. There's a lot of people whose
hearts are closed. There's a lot of people who have
made bad decisions, they have broken relationships, maybe they've never
opened themselves up to you. Know deep friendships like you
(04:36):
had with her. So this missing is a good thing.
It's a good thing. But it's also good to know
that she would say those words to you, and that
she is in a good place, a better place. And
you know, one day sounds like you're healthy and strong
(04:58):
and a mover and a groover, but one day you know, well,
you know, we all have a lifespan. And what would
you tell those people that miss you? What would you
say to them?
Speaker 3 (05:14):
What was the question? Again?
Speaker 2 (05:16):
So so one day down the line, when others are
missing you and you're not here, what will you say
to them?
Speaker 3 (05:24):
Well, I would say, don't worry. I am in a
better place now. I miss you, but please don't worry
about me.
Speaker 2 (05:38):
So do you see how you're Actually you'd be saying
the exact same thing as your friend is telling you.
It doesn't mean that those future people won't miss you
just like you miss her. But but again, isn't it
good that they loved you?
Speaker 3 (05:56):
Oh? Absolutely? Yeah. I just believe that she wasn't planning
on leaving so soon, and her friends, including me, weren't
expecting her to leave as soon as she did, And
so I think that is probably the hardest thing. I mean,
(06:17):
she just was a good friend and she will be
in the future.
Speaker 4 (06:24):
M hm.
Speaker 2 (06:26):
Well, what I would do if I were you, is
keep talking about her all these things that you know
when people pass away. I think about people in my
life that have passed away. My grandfather we called him Papa,
love him, talk about him all the time. Loved my
stepdad his name was Fred, talk about him all the time.
(06:49):
Loved my Jack Russell Terrier Lionel Ritchie, which you all
know him at the Living full Out community, talk about
him all the time. And so you want to just
continue to talk about her all the time. And she's
right there in spirit when you go to that organization
that used to go to and when she says, don't
(07:12):
worry about me, I'm in a good place, you have
to kind of cheer her on. And one of the
things I think about when I have had people pass
away in my life is I think I would not
want them to have gone on to somewhere so great,
(07:32):
but I would not want them to look down on
me being sad. I would not want them to look
down on me drinking more, sleeping in too much, you know.
So the best way to celebrate somebody's life is to
embody that spirit to live the way they would want.
(07:53):
And I think if you do that over time, she's
just going to be right there every step of the way.
Can you try that right?
Speaker 3 (08:04):
Yeah, I do believe that's true.
Speaker 2 (08:08):
Well, thank you for calling in, and we will definitely
pray for you, and I'm sure she's going to be
right beside you, and she's proud that you asked this question.
But in your own words, like you said, she's probably saying,
I'm fine, don't worry about me.
Speaker 4 (08:28):
Okay, that is.
Speaker 3 (08:29):
True, and I really appreciate your taking the time to
talk with you today.
Speaker 5 (08:35):
You got it.
Speaker 2 (08:35):
Thank you so much, and take care of yourself. And
I'm really grateful actually that she asked that question, because
today we are talking about striving to get better. And
sometimes that's striving to get better even during times when
we're grieving, and sometimes that's just taking day by day
(08:56):
a little bit every day, getting a little bit more
happy and get a little bit more laughing in a
little bit more of that swagger we had before the
person passed. But truly, remember what I said, people who
love us, people who move on, they would want you
to be living your best life and at the end
(09:18):
of the day, this life is precious. You know, I
oftentimes think to myself, you know, I'm so grateful to
be here, but I think about so many who don't
make it. You know, babies that never make it to
their first breath, or you know pets or children who
(09:39):
pass well before they ever should. So really leap away
from today's show striving to be your best, do truly
checking the box as you can, you know, taking those
leaps of faith when when they're available, and loving big.
And when you do that, you know we are living
(10:01):
full out. We are able to watch ourselves grow.
Speaker 3 (10:05):
And when we.
Speaker 2 (10:06):
Journey through today's show and especially in our next segment
or be joined by Clarence Singleton, you know you want
to look for in your life. Where is there like
a burden feeling, a lonely feeling, a feeling that you
know is not serving you. Today is the day that
you let that go and again live life for you
(10:27):
and all those that you love. We'll be right back
after this break with Clarence Singleton, an interview you don't
want to miss.
Speaker 5 (11:01):
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(11:24):
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(11:45):
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Speaker 10 (13:07):
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Speaker 10 (14:05):
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(14:27):
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Speaker 1 (15:00):
You're listening to Living Full Out with Nancy Solari. As
a life coach, Nancy can teach you how to stay
strong under pressure and work through challenges you face being
legally blind. Nancy inspires others to be resilient and overcoming
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(15:22):
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Speaker 2 (15:33):
Thank you so much for joining us today on Nancy Silari,
and this is the Living Full Out Show, and today
we're talking about striving to get better, and we have
brought you an inspirational guest today, Clarence Singleton, who is
such a great example of what it means to live
full out and he is a hero in my book.
So i'd like to welcome Clearance to the show.
Speaker 15 (15:54):
Nice.
Speaker 2 (15:54):
Thank you, Hello, Mike, Oh hello, my hero. And I
do mean that and everybody will well know why I
say that as we unpack your story. But I just
kind of want to share with everybody your early beginnings
in the sense that, boy, you were one of eight kiddos,
(16:16):
grew up in a family that didn't have it all.
You're on the poorer side. You worked early, you worked hard,
and when you had the opportunity, you saw the Marines
as an optionist as kind of a career choice for
you early on, and decided to take that leap of
faith truly, and you found yourself in Vietnam from eighteen
(16:42):
to twenty. Now Vietnam, obviously everyone kind of looks back
at history differently. But to me, I do think that
you were a hero in the sense that you were
fighting for our country. I know that must have been
terrifying because you didn't think you would come back, and
(17:02):
in fact, they kind of had dog tags in different
places on all of you, just for that very reason.
Can you share with us about that?
Speaker 15 (17:12):
Oh yeah, Nancy, I was with the second by sidon
ninet marees and we were just known for not coming
back home. As a matter of fact, one unit I
was attached to us was dubbed the walking dead, and
we just didn't rotate out of Vietnam unless we were
(17:33):
actually wounded or in a court, and in my case,
I was wounded by the way. I should say that
when I graduated from Paris, Isle and South Carolina, I
was the they termed it outstanding marine, but it was
the valedictorian of my class.
Speaker 2 (17:49):
So of course you were Clarence, so many accolades there.
But actually that was important because because of how you
grew up and needing to work at such a young age,
your life could have taken a different turn. So that's
why I actually call you a hero, because you know,
(18:10):
you worked hard, you got good grades, you you wanted
to be a marine. It took you to Vietnam. You
did your best. But when you came back from Vietnam,
even though you were very successful, you were supported your teammates,
You did your job to the best of your ability.
When you came back, our our, our beautiful America was
(18:34):
not welcoming to a lot of veterans when they came back,
and you really struggled getting a job. But when when
a bank finally said yes, we would, we would be
honored to hire you, what did that feel like?
Speaker 15 (18:52):
Oh? It felt really great because prior to that, as
you said, I was surging you surgeon, and what would
hire me because I was surging Vietnam. So when the
medical doctor told me, basically he saw the scards on me,
he said, what did you get these scars? I said,
I'm a marine. I got them fighting in DNA. So
he says, get off the table and go good enough
to go there. You're good enough to work here. You
(19:12):
don't need an exam. But that felt really great, And
as a matter of fact, I think about that to
this very day. Just a couple of days ago, I
was thinking about it, and tears came to my eyes,
you know, because in tears of joy, you know that
somebody recognized me and my efforts, you know, so well.
Speaker 2 (19:29):
And you did good and really good in that job.
You were there for many years, and you had many
different jobs until you found kind of your new home in,
you know, working for the fire department. And what was
it about the fire department that kind of almost had
the same camaraderie as being a marine.
Speaker 15 (19:51):
Yeah, Nancy, I knew, of course, I'd never been on
the fire department before, but I knew it was a
tough job, you know, and I said, that's what I want.
And also I think that I didn't realize that at
the time but myself a six steam was so low
(20:12):
and people could see Clarence on a in the fire
department of doing something worthwhile, you know, sort of like
to build myself up, which is not bad. But and
it was a great job for me sometimes, and I
think about it now sometimes I wish I was back there.
It was a great job. And in my next life
I'm going back to being be a firefighter all over again.
Speaker 2 (20:31):
Well, and and you're a good sport, but I mean
you had sustained wounds and injuries in Vietnam that probably
kind of reared their head again when you were a firefighter,
right just the shoulder and ankle.
Speaker 15 (20:46):
M hmm. Yeah. As a matter of fact, I my
ankle still swells to the state that was one of
the parts of my bodies I was hid in Vietnam.
There's four other spots and all of them still bothers
me to this very day. But I just I did it,
you know, I just went through the through the process,
(21:09):
and I took the pain. And because I wanted to
be a firefighter. There was nothing I wanted to be
more at that time than being a firefighter. And I
you know, also natally, I had to develop weight like
when I was training going to the fire department academy,
I learned to take the weight off of my right
foot was injured, so I kind of leaned on my
(21:29):
left a lot, you know, until the chief caught me
one day and made me stand straight.
Speaker 2 (21:35):
Well, well, and you know, you again, you were very
successful as a firefighter. But but you did decide to
retire around fifty one, and just different decisions made that
the right choice. But being somebody who is so hero minded,
you know, supportive, wanting to help people, I mean, how
(21:57):
does one even retire with that state of mind?
Speaker 15 (22:01):
It was difficult. It was difficult. As a matter of fact,
I was walking the streets to Brooklyn. A fire truck
passed me. You know, tears came to mind. So they're
riding without me. And I told my at the time,
my girlfriend, I said, you know, when I retire, no
one's going to call me lieutenant anymore. And she said, oh, class,
she will be my lieutenant. But actually when I went
(22:23):
up back around the guys around my fraternal organization, he
was still calling me lieutenant. I was all right, I
still got it.
Speaker 3 (22:29):
You know.
Speaker 15 (22:30):
It was very and I'd worked all of my life
so retiring was not a part of my thinking at
the time. You know, I had two kids in college,
and I had to retire to get somebody to put
them through because me and my wife we used to
split the bills. She was a registered nurse but burnt
out from working in the hospital. So I had all
(22:51):
these bills. So I had to retire to get some
money that I couldn't get until after retirement to put
them through college. And otherwise I still would have probably
that would have been old man.
Speaker 2 (23:01):
Still, I you know, I just I don't put the
word Clarence and old together. I'm sorry. I don't think
there is anything old about you, but but I do
think very much, and I stand by this that you
are a hero. And I want everyone to stay with
me because really it was nine to eleven where you
(23:22):
re engaged. You know, all that, all that marine training,
all that you know being a lieutenant, you know it
was it was the meeting of the moment and you
did sacrifice once again. So everybody stay with us. We're
going to be coming right back with more with Clarence
after the break.
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Today. In school, I learned a lot in chemistry. I
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In jim I learned that I'm pathetic in a joke.
In History today, I learned that I'm trying.
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Today.
Speaker 16 (24:26):
In school, I learned that I have no friends. In English,
I learned that I make people sick. And at lunch
I learned that I sit on my own because I smell.
In Chemistry, I learned.
Speaker 9 (24:38):
That no one In Biology, I learned that I'm fat
and stupid. And in Math I learned that I'm trash.
The only thing I didn't learn in school today, the
only thing I didn't learn today. The only thing I
didn't learn is why no one.
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Speaker 1 (28:04):
You're listening to Living Full Out with Nancy Solary. With
Nancy's expertise, you'll learn how to embrace your potential and
strive for success. If you have a question or need
further support, send us an email at connect at Livingfullout
dot com. Now here's Nancy.
Speaker 2 (28:22):
Welcome back. I'm Nancy Silary and this is the Living
Full Out Show, and today we're talking about striving to
get better and we're here with Clarence Singleton sharing with
us his inspirational story and journeys. So I'd like to
welcome him back to the show. Thank you, mention, You're welcome,
Thank you for coming. And as I was just saying,
you know here, you were retired. You know you could
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have been doing anything, but when nine to eleven happened
and you heard the rumblings of literally what had happened,
not really knowing the details, you suit it up. Even
though you weren't still you know, working at the station.
You went there and you you wanted to help in
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any way you could. Now what's interesting is you were
helping and there were some men that were having an
issue with the fire hydrant and you know, getting that
working correctly, and you you jumped in and then as
one of the buildings started to fall down around you,
you found your you lost your footing and you fell,
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and as you fell, you misplaced your glasses and you
found your way to a brick wall. When you got
to this wall, you couldn't get over the wall. So
what did you do?
Speaker 15 (29:43):
Well? The first wall I came too was too tall
for me to scale because I had a right should
of dislocation at the time from the fall. I moved step,
took a few steps back, and I moved to my left,
and it was a shorter wall, brick wall I managed
to scale with one arm. And then I looked down
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what I thought was three or four steps, and I
saw the farm marshal that I was working with earlier.
And he didn't ever speck a dust on him, which
was impossible because dust was going around corners on set
of eleven. But he looked at me and he said,
I see you made it, words of encouragement, and he
was standing in the doorway with a lot of bright
light shining through, and I didn't think anything. As a
(30:31):
matter of fact, I asked for my camera because we
had been taking picture before the fall for the tower collapse,
and I didn't think anything of it. But come to
find out that putting pieces together, I was wearing my
glasses at the time, so I could not have seen
him with my natural eye, with some kind of vision
or something like that.
Speaker 2 (30:52):
And later on, when you told this story, people who
lived in that area said, there is no law, this
place does not exist. And when you think about that moment,
and I know you've also had, you know, flashbacks, even
if your time in Vietnam, are those messages? Is that
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your faith calling you?
Speaker 21 (31:17):
What is that?
Speaker 15 (31:21):
I I just know that, Nancy, that I think that
God allows us to grow through certain things. And He
allowed me to be there that day and broke me out,
you know, in a position where I could actually share
my story with others and you know, to help others
(31:42):
along the same who might be having some same issues
that I'm having, postmatic stress and depression, things like that.
So I was in the right place at the right time. God,
the divine of the guide that I'm pretty.
Speaker 2 (31:55):
Sure guided you towards the fire marshal that wasn't there
probably allowed you to crawl to safety. Now, this dust
that was whirling around, this dust, I mean, decades later,
has really caused you a lot of problems. In what
way today are you dealing with health issues due to
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that dust?
Speaker 15 (32:19):
Oh yeah, well for quite some times, probably a couple
of years, doctors my breeding was really really terrible, and
the doctors couldn't figure out what was going on. That
wed give me a beauty role and some other breathing medication,
but nothing was actually working. And I would do a
(32:40):
pulmonary function tests and they were telling me, Clarence, you're okay.
I passed out of the house one night, blacked out,
and I went to the emergency room. We can't find anything, said,
I don't care what your machine's saying. There is something
wrong with my breathing. Finally I was and they contay
it was my lungs or hearts. I finally started apartment
doctor a couple of weeks ago had me take an
(33:02):
echo plan, an EKG, and a nuclear stress tests, and
all three of them came back showing some abnormalities. So
my doctor in Virginia at the hospital he said, well,
what are we going to do now, claims is give
you another test, a CATHETERA. So it was last Wednesday.
(33:24):
He did some tests and he came into the after
the tests, he came into the recovery room and he said, Clarence,
he said, your test proved okay. There's no hardening of arteries,
no blockiges or anything. So at that moment I knew
what it was because my sleep at me. A doctor
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told me at the hospital. She said, it could be
sleep at me that's causing your breathing. And I'm pretty
sure that's what it was, because even sitting on the
deck now, after the Catherine, all the tests, I can
still have difficulty breathing gas for a sometime, even lying
flat on my back on the couch in bed, I
guess for air some time. But I do have a
(34:06):
dental device that the doctor de Va sent me out
to sleep talk and it made me this device. So
I have gotten some relief from the difficulty.
Speaker 2 (34:15):
Breathing all due to the sleeping that sleep athnea.
Speaker 17 (34:20):
And I'm curious.
Speaker 2 (34:21):
You know, again, you have lived your life to serve,
and you've really been anytime you've been called upon, you've
been there. But there are regrets you have, and I
know that you know today you actually even go and
you work with some new recruits and you tell them
your story and you tell them, you know, things that
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they should strive for. And one of the things that
you kind of regret is not furthering your education. You know,
you're a proud lieutenant, but you wish you had gone
on to captain and the chief Why is that?
Speaker 15 (34:58):
Well, I Nancy, because I know that I had the
ability to become a fire chief, and I knew I
would have been a really good one. And then that
gave me the opportunity to continue helping people. And as
a matter of fact, I became a lieutenant. Actually before
I came a lieutenant, I knew I had what it
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took to be a leader of men, and so that's
why I wanted to become a chief office. As a
matter of fact, one of my captains told me at
one point, he's the Clarence I was had an entire
company of men just like you, So I knew I
had what it took. You know that it takes me
a lot to say that, but because I don't really
like talking about myself in that respect, But.
Speaker 4 (35:41):
Yeah, but you.
Speaker 2 (35:42):
Regret not kind of pushing through to get that further education.
Speaker 15 (35:47):
Yes. Yeah. And one of the things that I caused
me to stop studying. We were studying for the lieutenant tests.
We studied for years, and the city kept postponing, postponing, postponing.
So a big portion of the reason I didn't study
further because I've just burnt out from the books. You know,
it's a lot of studying.
Speaker 2 (36:09):
You know, I think a lot of people can relate.
I mean a lot of people can relate to that
they're burnt out, especially those who weren't long hours, multiple jobs.
And you know, you recently went and spoke at a
high school and you were very honest about depression and
just all that you go through on daily basis. But
(36:29):
what was the outcome of that.
Speaker 15 (36:33):
Yeah, that was a school and I live in Virginia
and they asked me to come out to that was
Arizona at the time. They speak to some kids and
as a matter of fact, two schools, and I was
supposed to go back, but then COVID came to town and
they weren't able to have me come back out. But
since another thing the kids sent me or the teachers.
(36:54):
I mean an envelope full of thank you notes and
things like that. But I wish I could go back
out and speak to them again, just to see how
they're doing. But I haven't had the opportunity. Of course
I had to, they have to invite me out. But
I did go to California after that a few months
or year after that. I think it wasn't spoke to
(37:15):
a group and it was the same thing. They enjoyed
my talk, and that was for I forgot what the
occasion was. But then they asked me to come back
to be the grand marshal of their annual parade that
was in a Zeusa, California.
Speaker 2 (37:32):
And when you're able to talk about openly about depression
and just war and nine to eleven, I mean now
you can talk about the dust and the sleep apne.
I mean, you know, how do you feel like you're
still on equal footing, like the same purpose throughout being
(37:53):
a marine to a firefighter to a speaker or are
they different?
Speaker 15 (37:59):
I think that they are different, but at the same
time they are the same because I'm giving them the
information for the challenges that I've gone through in life.
And actually some of these young people are using. I mean,
I've been told many, many, many times that because someone
(38:22):
read my book, how it got them over it through
a challenge. There's a store here in Virginia I used
to frequent and this young lady asked me. She said,
she's a crown. If I wrote you a letter, would
you read it? I said, of course, And one day
I went in and she held me a lot of
in essence, the letter is that she wasn't able to
write in cars, and then after reading my book, I
gave her some strength to actually get in a car
(38:44):
and go to the beach with her parents. So Marine
Corps Fire department that's helping people, lend in the helping hand.
And I think by sharing my story, it's still helping people,
which is what I like.
Speaker 2 (38:56):
So you know, today we're talking about striving to be better?
Why is that important to you?
Speaker 15 (39:05):
I think that everyone should try to reach their full potential.
And I wouldn't feel good about myself if I didn't.
You know, I didn't put my all into it. And
sometimes there are fears, Nancy that kind of want to
interfere and stop me from doing what I need to do.
(39:26):
But I push my fears aside and I just do it.
And it turns out that if fear was nothing but
the bookerman, you know, so I just go through it.
Speaker 2 (39:38):
Well, let's not give that boogeyman any power for sure.
Speaker 20 (39:41):
Yeah, yep.
Speaker 2 (39:43):
Well you will always be a hero to me. Clarence,
Thank you so much. I mean, I know that if
disaster were to happen, even today, you would suit up
and be the first person there. That's just who you are,
you know. So thank you so much for you know,
sharing your story with us. And we're going to keep
praying for you and wishing you all the best.
Speaker 15 (40:05):
Thank you very much, Nacy.
Speaker 2 (40:07):
And for everybody listening today, just like Clarence, I mean,
just sharing our stories, even when sometimes they give us
sweaty palms, or sometimes when they're hard to talk about,
that's what unites us all. That's what gives us that camaraderie,
that spirit. So we'd love to hear from you. Reach
out to us at connect at livingfollout dot com. Let
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us know what you went through, how you got through it,
most of all, what you learned, and perhaps we can
have you on as an inspirational guest. So we're going
to be coming right back after this break it's all
about striving to be better.
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Alliance when it comes to striving to be better and
just knowing if you just give a little bit more,
that extra inch, just another minute of time, what could be. Personally,
I'd always rather never live in regrets, but look forward
and just give it your best, because when you're doing that,
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Speaker 1 (45:37):
You're listening to Living Full Out with Nancy Solari. As
a professional motivational speaker. Nancy can assist you to blow
through your setbacks and start living full out. If you
have an inspirational story you want to share, email us
at connect at livingfollout dot com. Once again, here's Nancy.
Speaker 2 (45:57):
Thank you so much for joining us today. I'm Nancy
and the Living Full Out Show, and today we've been
talking about striving to be better and do your best
and just rurr right go after life with vigor. Well,
the thing is, I understand sometimes the days get long
and the hurdles just keep on coming. And whenever I
(46:18):
have been confronted or had that crossroad of time where
it's like it'd be so easy to just call it
a day early. It'd be so easy to say, you
know what, this is just not for me. But I
do know that when I have pushed through and I've
got creative, you know, that's where the story lies. Now,
(46:40):
when I say that's where the story lies, you know,
when you go out and you're at a happy hour
with friends, or you're at a networking function and everyone's
at a round table and they're talking about stories, and
you hear some people and they're like, wow, they're amazing, Wow, Wow,
kudos to you. Wow that is You're so creative. Those
(47:00):
people have nothing on you. But you have to get
to that moment where you hit that brick wall where
you are tested in order to get the story. And
you know, I remember, back way way way back, we
actually opened our doors to living full out in two
thousand and eight, and back then we started with coaching.
(47:22):
That was before speaking and radio and TV and publishing
all the things we offer now. And back then I
wanted to get my certification in life coaching and I
was the only person in a class of twenty that
was visually impaired, and the entire curriculum of eight different
books were all hard bound books. Now, it would have
(47:45):
been really easy for me to say, you know what,
this is too hard, or you know, I need special accommodations,
which what were they really going to do. None of
those books were in a digital form. It was well
beyond well before the time of all these books that
are out now. And so at the time I asked
my assistant, I said, okay, let's grab the scanner, and
(48:09):
page by page, she scanned every book into my computer,
and that way I could read it. I could listen
to it through my talking software and be able to
study just like all the other students in the class.
But it came with rolling up the sleeves mine and
my assistants and digging in and painfully scanning every page
(48:34):
so that I could listen to every page, not just
skin the words, but actually listen to every word. And
you know, I was so proud when I got my certification,
and so much so that when KFWB at radio station
in Los Angeles came knocking on the doors of that
(48:56):
it was called IPECK at the time, it was the
Life Coaching School. They said, we would love a life
coach to do a radio show. And the person's first
thought was, well, you've got to call Nancy, and you know,
out of all the twenty people in that class, I
was the first person that came to mind because of
that tenacity, because of that need to get creative. So
(49:19):
I want you to think about where in your life
you can strive to be better, just do a little
bit more. You know, for those of you like myself,
I get it. You might think to myself, I, you know,
I don't have genes. My parents are over weight, my
my you know, my family is health conditions, things are
genetic in our family. All those genetics, those genes, That's
(49:42):
what I'm talking about. You know, it doesn't have to
be that way. You know, we have come so far
with medicines and fitness and dietary that you know, you
don't have to live the way your family has. Believe
it or not, they're it might be a two pack
ap just screaming to come out of you. You might
(50:04):
have six pack abs. I don't know with a little
extra effort, what could be possible with your health and now,
being someone who is legally blind, trusts me, it's not
like all of a sudden I can start seeing again.
You know, some things are outside the bounds of what
we can do. But for those of you who can
get lasik oh, if I could get that in a
(50:26):
heartbeat and it could improve my vision, I would.
Speaker 23 (50:29):
So.
Speaker 2 (50:29):
I think it's about becoming inquisitive, It's about asking questions.
It's about putting in the work and hard work. You've
always heard the saying, you know, it's not about working hard,
it's about work and smart. I think it's about work
in both. I think you want to work smart so
that you find all those creative options and get resourceful.
(50:50):
But hard work is not a bad thing. I mean
there's times today, many times, many days where because I
have to listen to everything, Like I have a software
program called Jaws on my computer and it reads every
email to me, it reads all my word docs to
me and PDFs, and sometimes in order for me to
(51:12):
review everything that I need to for my team at
Living full Out, I have to get up really early,
two three hours early, just so I can truly hear
with my ears, spreadsheets and word documents. And I don't
say that to be like look at me, but I
say that because if you do the work, you're prepared.
(51:33):
Like when I know when I get up early and
I give myself that time, the day is peaceful, it's good.
I'm a head of schedule and you have that ability
to do that. You don't need to be that procrastinator.
You don't need to be that person that feels like
you're doomed. You're not doomed. I want you to take
today to strive to be better. So, you know what,
(51:54):
go on your phone, listen to a podcast, grow a
little bit, you know what, go to the gym, stay
an extra ten minutes longer than you normally would. When
you do that, I think you're going to be surprised
that positive changes are going to happen to your life.
Speaker 4 (52:07):
Now.
Speaker 2 (52:08):
The entire Living full Out family thanks you for listening today.
We want to make sure that you stay motivated on
the go. Remember the Living full Out Show is in
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As always, here's to all of you Living full Out.
Speaker 1 (52:27):
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You're listening the Living Full Out with Nancy Solari. As
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have an inspirational story you want to share, email us
at connect at livingfollout dot com. Once again, here's Nancy.
Speaker 2 (00:20):
Welcome to the Living Full Out Show. My name is
Nancy Silari, and today we're talking about striving to get better.
That might be getting better at what you do in
your career. That might be getting better at your health
and taking care of it. That might be getting better
at having good relationships and connections in your life. So
(00:41):
whatever that is for you, we want to work on
that throughout today's show. We're also going to be joined
by Clarence Singleton and he's going to share with us
his journey is a marine in Vietnam, but also how
he served during nine to eleven and participated with helping
others during that very tragic day and what he learned
(01:02):
from it. It's very powerful story. I also want to
make sure that alongside hearing Clarence's story, that you are
able to be inspired by so many of our guests
and you're welcome to go to the app store download
the Living Full Out Show app. It's free for you,
and hopefully you can get inspired while you're at the
gym or on a road trip. We just want to
(01:23):
make sure that we give you that inspiration every step
of the way in your journey. Now I'm getting more
from our producer that we do a listener on the line.
We're going to go check in with them. Hello, welcome
to The Living Full Out Show.
Speaker 3 (01:36):
Oh hi Nancy, nice to speak with you.
Speaker 2 (01:39):
Hi there, How can I help you?
Speaker 3 (01:42):
Well, I am a question. I was wondering how to
deal with the passing of a very dear friend of mine.
Speaker 2 (01:55):
I'm so sorry for your loss, this friend that's passed away.
What is it about the loss that hurts you the most?
Obviously grieving is difficult in many ways, But how does
that affect you the most?
Speaker 3 (02:12):
Well, it's happened so fast. We weren't accepting that surgery
would work, and she was very vivacious and uh together,
and so all of a sudden she's gone and I
really miss her. Hmm.
Speaker 2 (02:34):
Now, what was what was something that she taught you
in the time that you knew her.
Speaker 3 (02:45):
Let's see, what did she teach me. She taught me
to reach out to everyone and enjoy life. And she
did enjoy life mm.
Speaker 2 (02:57):
Hm and and and what what was one of the
best moments you ever had with her? The time that
just sticks out to you heart. It could be a
heartwarming moment or a funny moment.
Speaker 3 (03:12):
Well, there were many moments that we shared with both
belong to an organization and would go to these monthly
meetings and have a really good time together.
Speaker 2 (03:30):
And what would you say that she would say to
you to help you give you comfort during this time
if it wasn't her that had passed somebody else, what
would she say to you?
Speaker 3 (03:47):
Oh, I know she would say, don't worry. I have
moved on to a better place and I just want
you to enjoy your time and don't worry about me.
I'll be okay. I'm sure that's what she would say that,
you know, for the person left behind, I do miss
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her m h.
Speaker 2 (04:14):
And the thing is missing somebody is a good thing,
believe it or not. There's a lot of people whose
hearts are closed. There's a lot of people who have
made bad decisions, they have broken relationships, maybe they've never
opened themselves up to you. Know deep friendships like you
(04:36):
had with her. So this missing is a good thing.
It's a good thing. But it's also good to know
that she would say those words to you, and that
she is in a good place, a better place. And
you know, one day sounds like you're healthy and strong
(04:58):
and a mover and a groover, but one day you know, well,
you know, we all have a lifespan. And what would
you tell those people that miss you? What would you
say to them?
Speaker 3 (05:14):
What was the question? Again?
Speaker 2 (05:16):
So so one day down the line, when others are
missing you and you're not here, what will you say
to them?
Speaker 3 (05:24):
Well, I would say, don't worry. I am in a
better place now. I miss you, but please don't worry
about me.
Speaker 2 (05:38):
So do you see how you're Actually you'd be saying
the exact same thing as your friend is telling you.
It doesn't mean that those future people won't miss you
just like you miss her. But but again, isn't it
good that they loved you?
Speaker 3 (05:56):
Oh? Absolutely? Yeah. I just believe that she wasn't planning
on leaving so soon, and her friends, including me, weren't
expecting her to leave as soon as she did, And
so I think that is probably the hardest thing. I mean,
(06:17):
she just was a good friend and she will be
in the future.
Speaker 4 (06:24):
M hm.
Speaker 2 (06:26):
Well, what I would do if I were you, is
keep talking about her all these things that you know
when people pass away. I think about people in my
life that have passed away. My grandfather we called him Papa,
love him, talk about him all the time. Loved my
stepdad his name was Fred, talk about him all the time.
(06:49):
Loved my Jack Russell Terrier Lionel Ritchie, which you all
know him at the Living full Out community, talk about
him all the time. And so you want to just
continue to talk about her all the time. And she's
right there in spirit when you go to that organization
that used to go to and when she says, don't
(07:12):
worry about me, I'm in a good place, you have
to kind of cheer her on. And one of the
things I think about when I have had people pass
away in my life is I think I would not
want them to have gone on to somewhere so great,
(07:32):
but I would not want them to look down on
me being sad. I would not want them to look
down on me drinking more, sleeping in too much, you know.
So the best way to celebrate somebody's life is to
embody that spirit to live the way they would want.
(07:53):
And I think if you do that over time, she's
just going to be right there every step of the way.
Can you try that right?
Speaker 3 (08:04):
Yeah, I do believe that's true.
Speaker 2 (08:08):
Well, thank you for calling in, and we will definitely
pray for you, and I'm sure she's going to be
right beside you, and she's proud that you asked this question.
But in your own words, like you said, she's probably saying,
I'm fine, don't worry about me.
Speaker 4 (08:28):
Okay, that is.
Speaker 3 (08:29):
True, and I really appreciate your taking the time to
talk with you today.
Speaker 5 (08:35):
You got it.
Speaker 2 (08:35):
Thank you so much, and take care of yourself. And
I'm really grateful actually that she asked that question, because
today we are talking about striving to get better. And
sometimes that's striving to get better even during times when
we're grieving, and sometimes that's just taking day by day
(08:56):
a little bit every day, getting a little bit more
happy and get a little bit more laughing in a
little bit more of that swagger we had before the
person passed. But truly, remember what I said, people who
love us, people who move on, they would want you
to be living your best life and at the end
(09:18):
of the day, this life is precious. You know, I
oftentimes think to myself, you know, I'm so grateful to
be here, but I think about so many who don't
make it. You know, babies that never make it to
their first breath, or you know pets or children who
(09:39):
pass well before they ever should. So really leap away
from today's show striving to be your best, do truly
checking the box as you can, you know, taking those
leaps of faith when when they're available, and loving big.
And when you do that, you know we are living
(10:01):
full out. We are able to watch ourselves grow.
Speaker 3 (10:05):
And when we.
Speaker 2 (10:06):
Journey through today's show and especially in our next segment
or be joined by Clarence Singleton, you know you want
to look for in your life. Where is there like
a burden feeling, a lonely feeling, a feeling that you
know is not serving you. Today is the day that
you let that go and again live life for you
(10:27):
and all those that you love. We'll be right back
after this break with Clarence Singleton, an interview you don't
want to miss.
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Speaker 1 (15:00):
You're listening to Living Full Out with Nancy Solari. As
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strong under pressure and work through challenges you face being
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Speaker 2 (15:33):
Thank you so much for joining us today on Nancy Silari,
and this is the Living Full Out Show, and today
we're talking about striving to get better, and we have
brought you an inspirational guest today, Clarence Singleton, who is
such a great example of what it means to live
full out and he is a hero in my book.
So i'd like to welcome Clearance to the show.
Speaker 15 (15:54):
Nice.
Speaker 2 (15:54):
Thank you, Hello, Mike, Oh hello, my hero. And I
do mean that and everybody will well know why I
say that as we unpack your story. But I just
kind of want to share with everybody your early beginnings
in the sense that, boy, you were one of eight kiddos,
(16:16):
grew up in a family that didn't have it all.
You're on the poorer side. You worked early, you worked hard,
and when you had the opportunity, you saw the Marines
as an optionist as kind of a career choice for
you early on, and decided to take that leap of
faith truly, and you found yourself in Vietnam from eighteen
(16:42):
to twenty. Now Vietnam, obviously everyone kind of looks back
at history differently. But to me, I do think that
you were a hero in the sense that you were
fighting for our country. I know that must have been
terrifying because you didn't think you would come back, and
(17:02):
in fact, they kind of had dog tags in different
places on all of you, just for that very reason.
Can you share with us about that?
Speaker 15 (17:12):
Oh yeah, Nancy, I was with the second by sidon
ninet marees and we were just known for not coming
back home. As a matter of fact, one unit I
was attached to us was dubbed the walking dead, and
we just didn't rotate out of Vietnam unless we were
(17:33):
actually wounded or in a court, and in my case,
I was wounded by the way. I should say that
when I graduated from Paris, Isle and South Carolina, I
was the they termed it outstanding marine, but it was
the valedictorian of my class.
Speaker 2 (17:49):
So of course you were Clarence, so many accolades there.
But actually that was important because because of how you
grew up and needing to work at such a young age,
your life could have taken a different turn. So that's
why I actually call you a hero, because you know,
(18:10):
you worked hard, you got good grades, you you wanted
to be a marine. It took you to Vietnam. You
did your best. But when you came back from Vietnam,
even though you were very successful, you were supported your teammates,
You did your job to the best of your ability.
When you came back, our our, our beautiful America was
(18:34):
not welcoming to a lot of veterans when they came back,
and you really struggled getting a job. But when when
a bank finally said yes, we would, we would be
honored to hire you, what did that feel like?
Speaker 15 (18:52):
Oh? It felt really great because prior to that, as
you said, I was surging you surgeon, and what would
hire me because I was surging Vietnam. So when the
medical doctor told me, basically he saw the scards on me,
he said, what did you get these scars? I said,
I'm a marine. I got them fighting in DNA. So
he says, get off the table and go good enough
to go there. You're good enough to work here. You
(19:12):
don't need an exam. But that felt really great, And
as a matter of fact, I think about that to
this very day. Just a couple of days ago, I
was thinking about it, and tears came to my eyes,
you know, because in tears of joy, you know that
somebody recognized me and my efforts, you know, so well.
Speaker 2 (19:29):
And you did good and really good in that job.
You were there for many years, and you had many
different jobs until you found kind of your new home in,
you know, working for the fire department. And what was
it about the fire department that kind of almost had
the same camaraderie as being a marine.
Speaker 15 (19:51):
Yeah, Nancy, I knew, of course, I'd never been on
the fire department before, but I knew it was a
tough job, you know, and I said, that's what I want.
And also I think that I didn't realize that at
the time but myself a six steam was so low
(20:12):
and people could see Clarence on a in the fire
department of doing something worthwhile, you know, sort of like
to build myself up, which is not bad. But and
it was a great job for me sometimes, and I
think about it now sometimes I wish I was back there.
It was a great job. And in my next life
I'm going back to being be a firefighter all over again.
Speaker 2 (20:31):
Well, and and you're a good sport, but I mean
you had sustained wounds and injuries in Vietnam that probably
kind of reared their head again when you were a firefighter,
right just the shoulder and ankle.
Speaker 15 (20:46):
M hmm. Yeah. As a matter of fact, I my
ankle still swells to the state that was one of
the parts of my bodies I was hid in Vietnam.
There's four other spots and all of them still bothers
me to this very day. But I just I did it,
you know, I just went through the through the process,
(21:09):
and I took the pain. And because I wanted to
be a firefighter. There was nothing I wanted to be
more at that time than being a firefighter. And I
you know, also natally, I had to develop weight like
when I was training going to the fire department academy,
I learned to take the weight off of my right
foot was injured, so I kind of leaned on my
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left a lot, you know, until the chief caught me
one day and made me stand straight.
Speaker 2 (21:35):
Well, well, and you know, you again, you were very
successful as a firefighter. But but you did decide to
retire around fifty one, and just different decisions made that
the right choice. But being somebody who is so hero minded,
you know, supportive, wanting to help people, I mean, how
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does one even retire with that state of mind?
Speaker 15 (22:01):
It was difficult. It was difficult. As a matter of fact,
I was walking the streets to Brooklyn. A fire truck
passed me. You know, tears came to mind. So they're
riding without me. And I told my at the time,
my girlfriend, I said, you know, when I retire, no
one's going to call me lieutenant anymore. And she said, oh, class,
she will be my lieutenant. But actually when I went
(22:23):
up back around the guys around my fraternal organization, he
was still calling me lieutenant. I was all right, I
still got it.
Speaker 3 (22:29):
You know.
Speaker 15 (22:30):
It was very and I'd worked all of my life
so retiring was not a part of my thinking at
the time. You know, I had two kids in college,
and I had to retire to get somebody to put
them through because me and my wife we used to
split the bills. She was a registered nurse but burnt
out from working in the hospital. So I had all
(22:51):
these bills. So I had to retire to get some
money that I couldn't get until after retirement to put
them through college. And otherwise I still would have probably
that would have been old man.
Speaker 2 (23:01):
Still, I you know, I just I don't put the
word Clarence and old together. I'm sorry. I don't think
there is anything old about you, but but I do
think very much, and I stand by this that you
are a hero. And I want everyone to stay with
me because really it was nine to eleven where you
(23:22):
re engaged. You know, all that, all that marine training,
all that you know being a lieutenant, you know it
was it was the meeting of the moment and you
did sacrifice once again. So everybody stay with us. We're
going to be coming right back with more with Clarence
after the break.
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In jim I learned that I'm pathetic in a joke.
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Today.
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In school, I learned that I have no friends. In English,
I learned that I make people sick. And at lunch
I learned that I sit on my own because I smell.
In Chemistry, I learned.
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That no one In Biology, I learned that I'm fat
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The only thing I didn't learn in school today, the
only thing I didn't learn today. The only thing I
didn't learn is why no one.
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Speaker 1 (28:04):
You're listening to Living Full Out with Nancy Solary. With
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Speaker 2 (28:22):
Welcome back. I'm Nancy Silary and this is the Living
Full Out Show, and today we're talking about striving to
get better and we're here with Clarence Singleton sharing with
us his inspirational story and journeys. So I'd like to
welcome him back to the show. Thank you, mention, You're welcome,
Thank you for coming. And as I was just saying,
you know here, you were retired. You know you could
(28:45):
have been doing anything, but when nine to eleven happened
and you heard the rumblings of literally what had happened,
not really knowing the details, you suit it up. Even
though you weren't still you know, working at the station.
You went there and you you wanted to help in
(29:05):
any way you could. Now what's interesting is you were
helping and there were some men that were having an
issue with the fire hydrant and you know, getting that
working correctly, and you you jumped in and then as
one of the buildings started to fall down around you,
you found your you lost your footing and you fell,
(29:28):
and as you fell, you misplaced your glasses and you
found your way to a brick wall. When you got
to this wall, you couldn't get over the wall. So
what did you do?
Speaker 15 (29:43):
Well? The first wall I came too was too tall
for me to scale because I had a right should
of dislocation at the time from the fall. I moved step,
took a few steps back, and I moved to my left,
and it was a shorter wall, brick wall I managed
to scale with one arm. And then I looked down
(30:06):
what I thought was three or four steps, and I
saw the farm marshal that I was working with earlier.
And he didn't ever speck a dust on him, which
was impossible because dust was going around corners on set
of eleven. But he looked at me and he said,
I see you made it, words of encouragement, and he
was standing in the doorway with a lot of bright
light shining through, and I didn't think anything. As a
(30:31):
matter of fact, I asked for my camera because we
had been taking picture before the fall for the tower collapse,
and I didn't think anything of it. But come to
find out that putting pieces together, I was wearing my
glasses at the time, so I could not have seen
him with my natural eye, with some kind of vision
or something like that.
Speaker 2 (30:52):
And later on, when you told this story, people who
lived in that area said, there is no law, this
place does not exist. And when you think about that moment,
and I know you've also had, you know, flashbacks, even
if your time in Vietnam, are those messages? Is that
(31:16):
your faith calling you?
Speaker 21 (31:17):
What is that?
Speaker 15 (31:21):
I I just know that, Nancy, that I think that
God allows us to grow through certain things. And He
allowed me to be there that day and broke me out,
you know, in a position where I could actually share
my story with others and you know, to help others
(31:42):
along the same who might be having some same issues
that I'm having, postmatic stress and depression, things like that.
So I was in the right place at the right time. God,
the divine of the guide that I'm pretty.
Speaker 2 (31:55):
Sure guided you towards the fire marshal that wasn't there
probably allowed you to crawl to safety. Now, this dust
that was whirling around, this dust, I mean, decades later,
has really caused you a lot of problems. In what
way today are you dealing with health issues due to
(32:17):
that dust?
Speaker 15 (32:19):
Oh yeah, well for quite some times, probably a couple
of years, doctors my breeding was really really terrible, and
the doctors couldn't figure out what was going on. That
wed give me a beauty role and some other breathing medication,
but nothing was actually working. And I would do a
(32:40):
pulmonary function tests and they were telling me, Clarence, you're okay.
I passed out of the house one night, blacked out,
and I went to the emergency room. We can't find anything, said,
I don't care what your machine's saying. There is something
wrong with my breathing. Finally I was and they contay
it was my lungs or hearts. I finally started apartment
doctor a couple of weeks ago had me take an
(33:02):
echo plan, an EKG, and a nuclear stress tests, and
all three of them came back showing some abnormalities. So
my doctor in Virginia at the hospital he said, well,
what are we going to do now, claims is give
you another test, a CATHETERA. So it was last Wednesday.
(33:24):
He did some tests and he came into the after
the tests, he came into the recovery room and he said, Clarence,
he said, your test proved okay. There's no hardening of arteries,
no blockiges or anything. So at that moment I knew
what it was because my sleep at me. A doctor
(33:45):
told me at the hospital. She said, it could be
sleep at me that's causing your breathing. And I'm pretty
sure that's what it was, because even sitting on the
deck now, after the Catherine, all the tests, I can
still have difficulty breathing gas for a sometime, even lying
flat on my back on the couch in bed, I
guess for air some time. But I do have a
(34:06):
dental device that the doctor de Va sent me out
to sleep talk and it made me this device. So
I have gotten some relief from the difficulty.
Speaker 2 (34:15):
Breathing all due to the sleeping that sleep athnea.
Speaker 17 (34:20):
And I'm curious.
Speaker 2 (34:21):
You know, again, you have lived your life to serve,
and you've really been anytime you've been called upon, you've
been there. But there are regrets you have, and I
know that you know today you actually even go and
you work with some new recruits and you tell them
your story and you tell them, you know, things that
(34:43):
they should strive for. And one of the things that
you kind of regret is not furthering your education. You know,
you're a proud lieutenant, but you wish you had gone
on to captain and the chief Why is that?
Speaker 15 (34:58):
Well, I Nancy, because I know that I had the
ability to become a fire chief, and I knew I
would have been a really good one. And then that
gave me the opportunity to continue helping people. And as
a matter of fact, I became a lieutenant. Actually before
I came a lieutenant, I knew I had what it
(35:18):
took to be a leader of men, and so that's
why I wanted to become a chief office. As a
matter of fact, one of my captains told me at
one point, he's the Clarence I was had an entire
company of men just like you, So I knew I
had what it took. You know that it takes me
a lot to say that, but because I don't really
like talking about myself in that respect, But.
Speaker 4 (35:41):
Yeah, but you.
Speaker 2 (35:42):
Regret not kind of pushing through to get that further education.
Speaker 15 (35:47):
Yes. Yeah. And one of the things that I caused
me to stop studying. We were studying for the lieutenant tests.
We studied for years, and the city kept postponing, postponing, postponing.
So a big portion of the reason I didn't study
further because I've just burnt out from the books. You know,
it's a lot of studying.
Speaker 2 (36:09):
You know, I think a lot of people can relate.
I mean a lot of people can relate to that
they're burnt out, especially those who weren't long hours, multiple jobs.
And you know, you recently went and spoke at a
high school and you were very honest about depression and
just all that you go through on daily basis. But
(36:29):
what was the outcome of that.
Speaker 15 (36:33):
Yeah, that was a school and I live in Virginia
and they asked me to come out to that was
Arizona at the time. They speak to some kids and
as a matter of fact, two schools, and I was
supposed to go back, but then COVID came to town and
they weren't able to have me come back out. But
since another thing the kids sent me or the teachers.
(36:54):
I mean an envelope full of thank you notes and
things like that. But I wish I could go back
out and speak to them again, just to see how
they're doing. But I haven't had the opportunity. Of course
I had to, they have to invite me out. But
I did go to California after that a few months
or year after that. I think it wasn't spoke to
(37:15):
a group and it was the same thing. They enjoyed
my talk, and that was for I forgot what the
occasion was. But then they asked me to come back
to be the grand marshal of their annual parade that
was in a Zeusa, California.
Speaker 2 (37:32):
And when you're able to talk about openly about depression
and just war and nine to eleven, I mean now
you can talk about the dust and the sleep apne.
I mean, you know, how do you feel like you're
still on equal footing, like the same purpose throughout being
(37:53):
a marine to a firefighter to a speaker or are
they different?
Speaker 15 (37:59):
I think that they are different, but at the same
time they are the same because I'm giving them the
information for the challenges that I've gone through in life.
And actually some of these young people are using. I mean,
I've been told many, many, many times that because someone
(38:22):
read my book, how it got them over it through
a challenge. There's a store here in Virginia I used
to frequent and this young lady asked me. She said,
she's a crown. If I wrote you a letter, would
you read it? I said, of course, And one day
I went in and she held me a lot of
in essence, the letter is that she wasn't able to
write in cars, and then after reading my book, I
gave her some strength to actually get in a car
(38:44):
and go to the beach with her parents. So Marine
Corps Fire department that's helping people, lend in the helping hand.
And I think by sharing my story, it's still helping people,
which is what I like.
Speaker 2 (38:56):
So you know, today we're talking about striving to be better?
Why is that important to you?
Speaker 15 (39:05):
I think that everyone should try to reach their full potential.
And I wouldn't feel good about myself if I didn't.
You know, I didn't put my all into it. And
sometimes there are fears, Nancy that kind of want to
interfere and stop me from doing what I need to do.
(39:26):
But I push my fears aside and I just do it.
And it turns out that if fear was nothing but
the bookerman, you know, so I just go through it.
Speaker 2 (39:38):
Well, let's not give that boogeyman any power for sure.
Speaker 20 (39:41):
Yeah, yep.
Speaker 2 (39:43):
Well you will always be a hero to me. Clarence,
Thank you so much. I mean, I know that if
disaster were to happen, even today, you would suit up
and be the first person there. That's just who you are,
you know. So thank you so much for you know,
sharing your story with us. And we're going to keep
praying for you and wishing you all the best.
Speaker 15 (40:05):
Thank you very much, Nacy.
Speaker 2 (40:07):
And for everybody listening today, just like Clarence, I mean,
just sharing our stories, even when sometimes they give us
sweaty palms, or sometimes when they're hard to talk about,
that's what unites us all. That's what gives us that camaraderie,
that spirit. So we'd love to hear from you. Reach
out to us at connect at livingfollout dot com. Let
(40:30):
us know what you went through, how you got through it,
most of all, what you learned, and perhaps we can
have you on as an inspirational guest. So we're going
to be coming right back after this break it's all
about striving to be better.
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Speaker 2 (45:00):
Alliance when it comes to striving to be better and
just knowing if you just give a little bit more,
that extra inch, just another minute of time, what could be. Personally,
I'd always rather never live in regrets, but look forward
and just give it your best, because when you're doing that,
(45:20):
you're living full out, and you know what, You're going
to be surprised. What you're dreaming for, wishing for, it
really can come true.
Speaker 1 (45:37):
You're listening to Living Full Out with Nancy Solari. As
a professional motivational speaker. Nancy can assist you to blow
through your setbacks and start living full out. If you
have an inspirational story you want to share, email us
at connect at livingfollout dot com. Once again, here's Nancy.
Speaker 2 (45:57):
Thank you so much for joining us today. I'm Nancy
and the Living Full Out Show, and today we've been
talking about striving to be better and do your best
and just rurr right go after life with vigor. Well,
the thing is, I understand sometimes the days get long
and the hurdles just keep on coming. And whenever I
(46:18):
have been confronted or had that crossroad of time where
it's like it'd be so easy to just call it
a day early. It'd be so easy to say, you
know what, this is just not for me. But I
do know that when I have pushed through and I've
got creative, you know, that's where the story lies. Now,
(46:40):
when I say that's where the story lies, you know,
when you go out and you're at a happy hour
with friends, or you're at a networking function and everyone's
at a round table and they're talking about stories, and
you hear some people and they're like, wow, they're amazing, Wow, Wow,
kudos to you. Wow that is You're so creative. Those
(47:00):
people have nothing on you. But you have to get
to that moment where you hit that brick wall where
you are tested in order to get the story. And
you know, I remember, back way way way back, we
actually opened our doors to living full out in two
thousand and eight, and back then we started with coaching.
(47:22):
That was before speaking and radio and TV and publishing
all the things we offer now. And back then I
wanted to get my certification in life coaching and I
was the only person in a class of twenty that
was visually impaired, and the entire curriculum of eight different
books were all hard bound books. Now, it would have
(47:45):
been really easy for me to say, you know what,
this is too hard, or you know, I need special accommodations,
which what were they really going to do. None of
those books were in a digital form. It was well
beyond well before the time of all these books that
are out now. And so at the time I asked
my assistant, I said, okay, let's grab the scanner, and
(48:09):
page by page, she scanned every book into my computer,
and that way I could read it. I could listen
to it through my talking software and be able to
study just like all the other students in the class.
But it came with rolling up the sleeves mine and
my assistants and digging in and painfully scanning every page
(48:34):
so that I could listen to every page, not just
skin the words, but actually listen to every word. And
you know, I was so proud when I got my certification,
and so much so that when KFWB at radio station
in Los Angeles came knocking on the doors of that
(48:56):
it was called IPECK at the time, it was the
Life Coaching School. They said, we would love a life
coach to do a radio show. And the person's first
thought was, well, you've got to call Nancy, and you know,
out of all the twenty people in that class, I
was the first person that came to mind because of
that tenacity, because of that need to get creative. So
(49:19):
I want you to think about where in your life
you can strive to be better, just do a little
bit more. You know, for those of you like myself,
I get it. You might think to myself, I, you know,
I don't have genes. My parents are over weight, my
my you know, my family is health conditions, things are
genetic in our family. All those genetics, those genes, That's
(49:42):
what I'm talking about. You know, it doesn't have to
be that way. You know, we have come so far
with medicines and fitness and dietary that you know, you
don't have to live the way your family has. Believe
it or not, they're it might be a two pack
ap just screaming to come out of you. You might
(50:04):
have six pack abs. I don't know with a little
extra effort, what could be possible with your health and now,
being someone who is legally blind, trusts me, it's not
like all of a sudden I can start seeing again.
You know, some things are outside the bounds of what
we can do. But for those of you who can
get lasik oh, if I could get that in a
(50:26):
heartbeat and it could improve my vision, I would.
Speaker 23 (50:29):
So.
Speaker 2 (50:29):
I think it's about becoming inquisitive, It's about asking questions.
It's about putting in the work and hard work. You've
always heard the saying, you know, it's not about working hard,
it's about work and smart. I think it's about work
in both. I think you want to work smart so
that you find all those creative options and get resourceful.
(50:50):
But hard work is not a bad thing. I mean
there's times today, many times, many days where because I
have to listen to everything, Like I have a software
program called Jaws on my computer and it reads every
email to me, it reads all my word docs to
me and PDFs, and sometimes in order for me to
(51:12):
review everything that I need to for my team at
Living full Out, I have to get up really early,
two three hours early, just so I can truly hear
with my ears, spreadsheets and word documents. And I don't
say that to be like look at me, but I
say that because if you do the work, you're prepared.
(51:33):
Like when I know when I get up early and
I give myself that time, the day is peaceful, it's good.
I'm a head of schedule and you have that ability
to do that. You don't need to be that procrastinator.
You don't need to be that person that feels like
you're doomed. You're not doomed. I want you to take
today to strive to be better. So, you know what,
(51:54):
go on your phone, listen to a podcast, grow a
little bit, you know what, go to the gym, stay
an extra ten minutes longer than you normally would. When
you do that, I think you're going to be surprised
that positive changes are going to happen to your life.
Speaker 4 (52:07):
Now.
Speaker 2 (52:08):
The entire Living full Out family thanks you for listening today.
We want to make sure that you stay motivated on
the go. Remember the Living full Out Show is in
the app store, so you can check us out anytime.
As always, here's to all of you Living full Out.
Speaker 1 (52:27):
Thank you for listening to The Living full Out Show
with Nancy Silari. To learn more about this program, visit
livingfullout dot com for the latest episodes. Connect with the
Living full Out community by following us on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram,
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