October 18, 2025 • 52 mins
Episode: 2025.10.18
The living full out show with Nancy Solari encourages you to do what you can to simplify life. Maybe you’ve had times where everything felt overwhelming, or moments when unexpected challenges threw your plan off track. Nancy reminds us that by focusing on what we can control, we create more space for peace and joy in everyday living.
Our first caller, Giselle, wonders how to make time for fitness while working full time as a supervisor at Starbucks. Nancy advises her to incorporate simple strategies into her busy routine by using ankle, shoe, or arm weights throughout the day. By adding these small adjustments, Gisselle can stay active even while on the job or at home, turning everyday movements into opportunities for fitness. Tune in to hear how making small but powerful changes can keep you moving forward toward your health goals.
Our inspirational guest, Paul Talbot, held onto hope and determination after receiving a life-changing prostate cancer diagnosis. Through rounds of treatment and surgery, he learned to focus on his family and the unwavering support of loved ones. By staying positive, Paul found strength in simplifying life and embracing a more intentional way of living. Tune in to hear how Paul overcame the obstacles in his path and continues to inspire others by living boldly after his prostate diagnosis.
Perhaps life feels overwhelming. Focus on the actions you can take rather than what’s out of your control. By tackling challenges step by step and making the most of the opportunities available, you stay proactive and empowered. Taking these steps shows what it truly means to stay motivated and live full out.
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Speaker 1 (00:01):
You're listening the Living Full Out with Nancy Solari. As
a professional motivational speaker, Nancy can assist you to blow
through your setbacks and start living full out. If you
have an inspirational story you want to share, email us
at connect at livingfollout dot com. Once again, here's Nancy.
Speaker 2 (00:19):
Welcome to the Living Full Out Show.
Speaker 3 (00:21):
My name is Nancy Silari.
Speaker 2 (00:23):
And we are so excited to have you here. We
are going to be talking about doing what you can. Truly,
we all have gifts and talents. If we were to
just turn it up and really take them to the
tenth power and give and love and do what we can,
imagine the difference.
Speaker 3 (00:40):
We can make.
Speaker 2 (00:40):
We're going to be talking about that as well as
our inspirational guests. Paul Toabatt, Honestly, what an amazing grounded person.
I mean, he's been through a lot of different twists
and turns, but boy, if I'm ever in a struggle,
I want to turn to Paul because he's just so
comforting and so wise. And you'll know what I mean.
Unpack his story of dealing with prostate cancer. And most
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of all, I want you to always know that you
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The home base there and.
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All of our episodes are waiting for you. But we
sincerely want you to achieve and be your best self,
and so we will continue to give you great guests,
great resources.
Speaker 3 (01:41):
But we always enjoy hearing from you.
Speaker 2 (01:43):
Now, our producer is telling me that we have a
caller in the line.
Speaker 3 (01:46):
Let's go check in with them. Hello, welcome to the
Living Full Out Show.
Speaker 4 (01:50):
Hi, I just had a question for you.
Speaker 3 (01:54):
Yes, go for it.
Speaker 4 (01:55):
I was just wondering how can I prioritize my fitness
more with my busy life schedule. M.
Speaker 2 (02:03):
Well, there you go, bringing up the big fitness word right.
Speaker 3 (02:08):
Oh man.
Speaker 2 (02:09):
I don't know about you, but I've been thinking about
pizza all day, so I realize it's hard to It's
hard when you're busy to like factor that in, especially
when there's distractions of family and friends, and you know,
things to do and ways in which we can't always
control it. But I am curious because I really want
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you to be healthy and feel your best. Where do
you feel or why do you feel you're not able
to be at the fitness level you want to be?
What do you think is holding you back?
Speaker 4 (02:45):
Sometimes I feel I just work a lot of hours,
and when I have like my days off and stuff,
I just feel really like unmotivated, like because I'm so
like exhausted from the week that I just want to
like relax. But I know I should just like motivate
myself to get up. But I think that's where it is,
Like I'm unmotivated a little bit.
Speaker 2 (03:06):
Where what do you do for a living? Where do
you work or what kind of what does that scenarios
at office or No.
Speaker 4 (03:13):
I'm a supervisor at Starbucks.
Speaker 2 (03:15):
Okay, and so so you probably pace around the store,
but not much more than that.
Speaker 4 (03:25):
Yeah, that's basically what happens. I'm just running back and
forth around the store.
Speaker 2 (03:29):
Mm hmmm. Now everybody's work scenarios are different, Okay, So
I'm just gonna give you.
Speaker 3 (03:37):
A couple ideas.
Speaker 2 (03:38):
These are easy pickoffs, but depending on what you wear
and how big the parking lot is. Okay, But what
you want to try to think about and do you
work seven like five days a week, six days a week,
full days, full.
Speaker 4 (03:54):
Time five five to six and like forty hours?
Speaker 2 (03:59):
Okay, so solidly you're busy and then tired because you've
been on your feet. Yeah, okay, So what you want
to think about are ways to get activity in even
when it doesn't feel like you are okay.
Speaker 3 (04:15):
So what I mean by that is, so for.
Speaker 2 (04:18):
Example, it depends on if you have a uniform or
what you're wearing or what you're doing. But for example,
I have these, well I have a couple different things.
I have these shoes, and you can get shoes of
all different kinds, tennis shoes looking and even some more
designer looking. But they have shoes out there that have
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weights in the heels.
Speaker 3 (04:42):
So if you have.
Speaker 2 (04:43):
Any freedom in the type of shoes you wear, look
into shoes that have.
Speaker 3 (04:49):
Weights in them.
Speaker 2 (04:50):
So it's going to be a way for you to
get a little bit of resistance in a little bit.
Speaker 3 (04:54):
Of weight in there.
Speaker 2 (04:55):
You know, maybe in between while you're at the counter,
nobody will see you. You can be doing a little
caf fliffs, right leg lifts, Nobody will see you little
extra Now, if you have the ability, ankle weights and
arm weights have actually come a long way. Okay, they
can be very snug, they can be very sleek. And
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so you might go to like your sporting goods store,
or you might go online and find you know, not
you know, anything strenuous like five pounds, right, but even
a little like one pounder, two pounder. If you are
wearing pants, you could put those around your ankles. Nobody
would see them. Little extra resistance. If you're wearing long
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sleeves and it's you know, gives you enough give, you
could put those on your ankles, I mean on your
on your wrist. I'm sorry, and nobody's going to see them.
Little extra And here you are, you're, you know, doing
a few you know, you know, uh, biceps, right poles
while you're doing while you're working, nobody knows.
Speaker 5 (06:00):
Yes.
Speaker 2 (06:01):
You also might look at getting a some sort of
a pedometer that you can put on and track your
steps and track how much you walk. You know, every
little bit counts.
Speaker 3 (06:13):
I actually have a producer I work with on our.
Speaker 2 (06:16):
TV show, and he's even in his seventies and he
will track his steps all day. And you know what,
if he gets to the end of the day and
he still has two thousand more to go, he'll just
go in circles and do things all around the house.
But he will hit that number. I think it's ten
thousand for him every day. And so you want to
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start tracking what are you actually doing at Starbucks?
Speaker 6 (06:40):
Right?
Speaker 3 (06:41):
What does that look like when you're working? What do
you get out of that.
Speaker 2 (06:44):
Versus what you might need to make up kind of
before and after. But all these little pieces help. I mean,
I don't mean to sound nerdy about it, but I
even have a weight vest. So there are these things
you can call it, get called weight vests where you
can put them on a twenty pounder. So it doesn't
mean it means when I go walking with my guide
dog and I'm not running, I'm walking, I put on
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that weight vest. I've just got extra that I'm carrying
with me. I sweat more, right, So it's not like
even when you're out, you know, when you're not working
at Starbucks and you're like, I'm kind of tired, but
I think I can do a walk. You know, all
those little things, the weight vests, the ankle weights, the
wrist bates. That all will help you at the very least.
Speaker 3 (07:30):
Armbands. Oh, I love armbands. Do you have those?
Speaker 4 (07:35):
I don't, but I'll look into it for sure.
Speaker 2 (07:38):
Yeah, these rubbery armbands, it takes no time at all.
You can either put it in the the kind of
the hinge of the door and pull that way, or
you can put your feet on them and pull up
that way. Super low impact. Easy to do when you're
watching TV at home rather than doing nothing. And I
mean the list goes on and on. I mean, my
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mom is eighty one and she's even got this thing.
Speaker 3 (08:05):
I can't think of what it's called, but you could
look it up.
Speaker 2 (08:07):
It is this thing that she puts right in front
of her TV in her kitchen, and it's like a
bicycle where she puts her feet on it and while
she's watching her favorite evening shows, she's bicycling along.
Speaker 3 (08:19):
And I felt her calves.
Speaker 2 (08:21):
The other day and they are so strong. And she's
doing nothing but watching her favorite show but getting to
work out in at the same time. So I just
want you to think about the possibilities. Don't feel stuck.
So when you're talking today about I feel unmotivated.
Speaker 3 (08:39):
Do you feel more motivated?
Speaker 7 (08:41):
I definitely do. And I'm definitely gonna look into the
ankle weight thing because.
Speaker 4 (08:45):
That's really smart, Like for like at work, I definitely
feel more.
Speaker 7 (08:49):
Motivated to like try new things and not just do
the typical like go to the gym, because that's what
I was like.
Speaker 4 (08:55):
Thinking more before.
Speaker 7 (08:56):
But these are like different ways to like expand my favoriness.
Speaker 2 (09:01):
Absolutely, And depending on how large that parking lot is
and depending on you know, your own safety and power
relyft arrive and when you leave, you know, feel free
not to take the first spot. Park further away, get
a little bit of a brisk walk in to and
from Starbucks. Right It's not going to break a sweat necessarily,
(09:23):
but it's going to get your metabolism going. But I
think if you do all of these things, I think
you're going to find your motivation is going to go up.
Because right now, I'll be honest, you sound defeated because
you're not going to the gym, which is like setting
yourself up to fail because you can work out so
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many other ways.
Speaker 7 (09:46):
That's true, Okay, that's true, Thank you so much.
Speaker 2 (09:51):
Absolutely, last little tidbit least little tidbit. Don't forget about
the power of good sleep. It actually affects everything related
to fitness, and I have a lot of clients who
achieve many of their fitness goals through intermittent fasting. Again,
you're not even working out, it's just the timing of
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what you put in your mouth. So I think you
have a lot of options that you can try.
Speaker 7 (10:19):
So thanks, I'm definitely going to look into these things.
Thank you so much.
Speaker 2 (10:23):
You're welcome. All right, Well, I'm even inspired. Okay, I'm
gonna go ground my weights after the show, and I
promise you I'll do it with you. But thank you
so much for calling in and for everybody listening. You know,
let's get out there, let's take action. Okay, we'll be
right back with Paul Talbot.
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Speaker 1 (15:00):
You're listening to living Full Out with Nancy Solary As
a life coach. Nancy can teach you how to stay
strong under pressure and work through challenges you face being
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Speaker 2 (15:33):
Thank you so much for joining us today.
Speaker 3 (15:35):
I'm Nancy Solarian. This is the Living Full Out.
Speaker 2 (15:37):
Show, and today we're talking about doing what you can.
As always, we try to bring inspirational guests that we
really feel have have gone through it themselves, have really
some great insights that they can give us that we
can leap away from today's show a little bit taller,
a little bit wiser ourselves. And I'd like to welcome
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Paul Tabot to the show. Welcome Paul.
Speaker 16 (16:01):
Well, thank you, Nancy.
Speaker 2 (16:02):
I didn't want to reveal your whole story, but I
got to tell you when I think about, gosh.
Speaker 3 (16:09):
Little Paul.
Speaker 2 (16:10):
You know, I know you had great parents, and you
spent time in the outdoors. You were you know, introverted
in your own way. But it's interesting because you really
felt that you felt kind of a shift when you
had visitors come to your house and then they would leave.
(16:30):
Why wouldn't that feel like it was just kind of
a lack of energy. Why was that so kind of
anchoring for you?
Speaker 16 (16:38):
Well, I suppose it went from a whole bunch of
fun to a little less fun.
Speaker 8 (16:45):
Hm.
Speaker 2 (16:47):
Well, I'm sure your parents had their own version of fun,
you know, you know, And I'm sure growing up in
the outdoors you you found your way to fun. But
I know for you, you, like so many kids, you
had one ask that you asked over and over and
over again. And I did this as well. It was
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a tape recorder. And you wanted to use that tape
recorder for what reason?
Speaker 16 (17:16):
Well, yeah, I wanted a tape recorder for Christmas. And
I suppose my interest in this started when I was
around twelve or thirteen or so, and I just wanted
to record tunes from the radio so I could have
more music to listen to and didn't have to spend
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my allowance on records. So it was and I thought
that it would be thought that it would be interesting
to learn how to use a tape recorder as well.
So unfortunately, the tape recorder never showed up under the tree,
but I did get one when I was sixteen or
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seven and it all worked out.
Speaker 2 (18:04):
You know, it actually feels good sometimes to buy it ourselves,
earn it ourselves. I mean, that must have been a
good moment. And you've had a lot of good moments,
Paul one, including the day that you married Ellen, the
love of your life.
Speaker 3 (18:20):
Gosh, how long have you guys been married now? How
many years?
Speaker 16 (18:24):
Forty three?
Speaker 3 (18:26):
Wow? That is a long time.
Speaker 2 (18:29):
And that love kind of carried you both through, you know,
different careers that you had, but that love was also
very needed when it came time to wanting to start
a family, but it was hard to do. And I've
had five miscarriages myself, so I am sensitive to anyone
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struggles as a man. How did you help Ellen during
that time?
Speaker 17 (18:57):
Wow?
Speaker 16 (18:59):
So when Ellen suffered her ectopic pregnancies and those losses,
the losses were devastating to each of us, but perhaps
in different ways, and in retrospect, I don't think that
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I did anything terribly heroic or extraordinary other than do
my best to be there for her physically, emotionally, having
somebody to talk with, dealing with dealing with these issues,
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conversing in a forthright manner and just working through things together,
you know.
Speaker 2 (19:51):
And that's just really important words and advice to hear
because so many couples go through it. But again, the
love that you two have and the desire to have
a little one of your own led you to Lindsey.
Speaker 3 (20:05):
And how did that come about?
Speaker 16 (20:08):
Exactly? It led us tell Lindsay our daughter who we
adopted in nineteen eighty five. And Lindsey is an extraordinary
woman today. She's brought great joy into our lives. And
just you know, the proverbial happy ending to a story
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that started off with a few sad chapters.
Speaker 2 (20:34):
Yeah, well, and really so many moments in your life.
But I am going to fast forward a bit because
you did have truly a happy ending, one would say,
at that moment. But around around sixty three sixty four,
you started to your body started to change a bit mysteriously,
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not you necessarily knowing it. Ultimately you discovered something around
that time.
Speaker 3 (21:03):
What was that?
Speaker 16 (21:05):
Correct? I was diagnosed with prostate cancer.
Speaker 2 (21:12):
And the diagnosis was severe, and they gave you some bad.
Speaker 16 (21:18):
News exactly Sadly, my pre surgical biopsy in twenty seventeen,
was not pretty. There's something called a Gleason's score when
clinicians are trying to gauge the severity of prostate cancer.
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It goes from zero to ten, and sadly, I scored
a nine, which indicates cancer, which is extremely aggressive. So yeah,
I knew that I had had some work to do
to get things rectified.
Speaker 2 (22:04):
And when you hear those words, I mean, you're nine
out of ten. You know, you've you've even been told
that you have what limited time to live possibly?
Speaker 16 (22:14):
I mean, yeah, my my surgery, unfortunately, did did not
go well. Nancy. You know, post surgery, I had you
know the we we often hear they've got it, the
cancer has been taken away. Well, unfortunately they didn't get
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it with with my surgery, there was some spreading to
a lymph node. There were there were also some cancer
cells in the wall of my bladder and the doctor
under whose care I was at the time indicated that
I had three years to live, which which prompted us
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to find a new mm hmmm.
Speaker 3 (23:03):
Well, and there's a lot of wooda coulda should us.
Speaker 2 (23:05):
I think anytime someone is going through such a life
altering event in one's life, and you know, I think
at the time you and Ellen did the best he
could with love in your heart. And again, you are
a very grounded person. I mean, it takes a lot
to get you rattled, Paul, but I imagine that news
(23:29):
that surgery not going the way it had been planned.
That's that's a tough moment. I want you to stay
with us because how did Paul rebound from that tough moment?
You know what, He's so inspiring. You just got to
keep tuning in here. We'll be right back after this break.
But truly, today we are talking about doing what you can.
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When you do that, you are living full out.
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Speaker 3 (28:22):
Welcome back. I'm Nancysolarian.
Speaker 24 (28:24):
This is the Living Full Out Show, and today we're
talking about doing what you can and sometimes what that
answer is, what that next step is, it's hard to know,
and you kind of almost have to go with your instincts.
Speaker 2 (28:38):
You have to trust your beliefs, your values, trust in God,
and trust that you're going to take that next step
in the right direction. Our inspirational guest today, Paul Talbot,
is a perfect example of someone who did have to
methodically think through many decisions you get to where he
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is today, not necessarily cancer free, but choosing positivity. So
I'd like to welcome Paul back to the show.
Speaker 16 (29:09):
Well, thank you, Nancy.
Speaker 2 (29:11):
Now, Paul, there was a time, you know, amongst the
early time of all this cancer and E've been battling
with it for years, where you and Ellen went to
Europe and you really had to make some decisions. And
I think sometimes we need that time out, we need
that reset. What did you decide to do and why?
Speaker 16 (29:35):
Well, you know, when we're when we're living, when we're
living purposefully, when we're doing our best to live full out,
sometimes something as simple as a change of scene can
be very very helpful. Even when we don't recognize it,
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and even when we don't plan it to to to
be helpful.
Speaker 17 (30:03):
But you know where where we.
Speaker 16 (30:06):
Wound up was, uh, you know, just a determination to
find the best possible care that we could. And there's
there's a quotation that that many of the people in
your community may be familiar with, and that is when
when you're going through hell, keep going. It's attributed to
(30:29):
Winston Churchill, although Churchill never spoke those words and never
wrote those words, but you just keep going. So with
with my wife at the helm of of of the search,
Ellen and I found a wonderful, wonderful doctor in Las Vegas,
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doctor Nicholas Vogel, saying an acclaimed physician, global reputation as
a leader in his field. He took me under his care.
He told me that his goal was to cure me.
And sure enough he did.
Speaker 2 (31:08):
Tell me, Paul, because one of the things that you
discovered along the path here in trying to find answers
and is the mutation.
Speaker 3 (31:16):
What is that?
Speaker 16 (31:18):
Yeah? So I have what is called the Braka one
gene mutation, and that's most commonly known as something that
women are afflicted with and is often associated with breast cancer.
Speaker 17 (31:36):
Well, it.
Speaker 16 (31:38):
Can also show up in men. And I'm clearly not
a scientist, but the basic issue here is that it
adds to the aggressiveness of the prostate cancer. It makes
treatment a little bit more complex and a little bit
more difficult. And because doctor Vogel, saying wanted me to
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have genetic testing before he embarked on treatment, that's how
we identified the Brocco one gene mutation.
Speaker 2 (32:12):
Well, the thing about having that mutation is that treatment
will work until it doesn't, and then you've got to
find something new. And how frustrating is that to just
I mean, I imagine there's that saying right, sick and
tired of being sick and tired, it must be really
frustrating to not be done with this.
Speaker 16 (32:34):
Well, I do my best, as I'm sure many of
my eighteen million fellow Americans who are cancer survivors to,
is to try and isolate things that we can control
from things that we can't control. And there's absolutely nothing
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that I can do about the behavior of the Baraco
one mutation. But fortunately all of us have complete control
about how we respond to these unknowns, and we can
make a choice not to be frustrated. We can realize
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that the frustration is perhaps not helping is negative energy
if you will, and we do what we can, and.
Speaker 2 (33:32):
You still have it today, obviously, what is the prognosis.
Speaker 16 (33:38):
Well, my prognosis is pretty good. I am being treated
at UCLA by doctor Matthew Reddick, a wonderful oncologist. And
every time I go in, which is every three months
for my blood labs, I say, doctor. When people ask
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me what I'm doing or how I'm doing, what should
I tell them?
Speaker 17 (34:03):
And for the.
Speaker 16 (34:04):
Past few if she says, Paul, you should tell people
that you are moving deeper into remission.
Speaker 2 (34:12):
Hmmm, beautifully said, Actually that makes sense. You know, my
mom had breast cancer and that was tough and she
went through like so many women, do you know, surgery
and some cosmetic and just a lot of big decisions there.
Speaker 3 (34:31):
How is how you know, as a man.
Speaker 2 (34:33):
Having prostate cancer going through the surgery and not working,
what advice do you have for men out there in
terms of the importance of getting checked. But also if
the news ends up not being good, what would you
say to them to make it just a little less scary,
a little bit more hopeful.
Speaker 17 (34:52):
Well, yeah, you hit the nail on the head.
Speaker 16 (34:55):
You want to, uh, you want to have a PSA
test as soon as possible, given the restrictions of our
insurance these days. You want to find the best possible physician, Nancy.
I know that it's it's uh. This may be a
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little bit of of of gender stereotyping, but as men,
we tend to find it a little bit more difficult
to talk about issues such as cancer, and it's a
little tough for us to be forthcoming.
Speaker 17 (35:34):
And I have to.
Speaker 16 (35:36):
I have to push myself in this direction sometimes. So
I think that in a nutshell, it would be make
sure you're tested, get the best possible physician. As my
good friend John Perricol says, not every doctor graduates in
the top half of his class. And do what our
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doctors tell us to do, and do what we can
do to remain mentally strong. And I mentioned separating things
that we can control from things we can't control, and
focusing on controlling our reactions to those things that we
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can't control.
Speaker 2 (36:22):
You know, going through a health issue for me, it's blindness,
for you obviously it's prostate cancer. It can feel lonely,
it can feel like is anybody else going through what
I'm going through? Does anybody feel the way I feel,
and you decided to put your thoughts into emails, some
for yourself, but then you also decided to give it away.
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What do you put in those emails and how do
you give it away?
Speaker 17 (36:50):
Well?
Speaker 16 (36:50):
I have a website, we are Cancer Survivors dot com,
and on the website, I have a brief little ebook
that helps people deal with some of the mental toughness issues.
I think that a lot of us have been to
doctors and they say, hey, stay mentally strong, and that's
(37:12):
that's great. It sounds terrific, But how do we do that?
So I put a couple of those thoughts into a book.
And you know, very often when we're trying to learn something,
the best way to do that is to write about it.
So I write weekly email And if you know, I
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don't want to preach and I don't want to pontificate
or tell people what to do.
Speaker 17 (37:38):
But you know, if I give.
Speaker 16 (37:40):
People a hand and you help them cheer up and
help them remember that our lives are worth fighting for,
That's what I'd like to do. And those are in
the weekly emails that people can sign up for for
free at my website, We are Cancer survivors dot Com.
Speaker 23 (38:00):
You know, I love that.
Speaker 2 (38:01):
You know, it's interesting because I remember when I heard
my mom had her breast cancer. You know, it just
kind of terrified me a bit because I was a
teenager and I didn't want to lose her. Yeah, you know,
and I'm sure for you and for Ellen and Lindsey,
they they find out about this for you and they
don't want.
Speaker 3 (38:18):
To lose you.
Speaker 2 (38:18):
But ironically, again, being the devoted husband that you are,
one of your verse fears is losing Ellen.
Speaker 3 (38:27):
Why is that? I mean, obviously you love her, but
one might fear, you know, their cancer.
Speaker 16 (38:34):
Yeah. Yeah, I just can't imagine life without her.
Speaker 17 (38:40):
What would be? It would be hollow, It would it.
Speaker 16 (38:44):
Would be empty, it would be incomplete. I'm sure a
lot of people in your community understand exactly what I'm
referring to, So that would that would be fear number one,
without a doubt.
Speaker 7 (39:01):
Mm hmmm.
Speaker 2 (39:03):
Yeah. Having those people by our side, especially if she
was so and is so strong willed in discovering, you know,
treatments and doctors and things for you, She's a great
partner to have.
Speaker 16 (39:16):
Excuse me, I'm sorry. Her help her health has been extraordinary,
but She's just, you know, a lot of fun to
be with, a joy to be with.
Speaker 3 (39:24):
Okay, we all now want to be with help with Ellen. Awesome.
She sounds great. You know, as we.
Speaker 2 (39:30):
Round out this interview, pology, I just really want to
ask you, as someone who has stared cancer in the face,
who still deals with it today, what is your relationship
to cancer?
Speaker 3 (39:42):
Is it a? Are you friends? Are you enemies? Frenemies?
Speaker 16 (39:50):
It is a. It is an enemy with bold face
type and a capital E. It is cruel, It's vicious.
There is absolutely nothing good about it. What it has
done to tear apart families and destroy lives is absolutely
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wretched and it has absolutely no redeeming qualities from my perspective.
Speaker 2 (40:20):
You know what, Paul, I love that as our ending
because I think people have to remember to fight and
stay mentally strong and defeat that gorilla. He did a
great job in saying that. So thank you Paul for
being on the show today and for everybody honestly just
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like him, do what you can pay it forward. You
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When it comes to doing what you can. Let that
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but on the other hand, you could give a little
bit more and somewhere in there you're going to be
able to give what you can. You won't feel depleted,
(45:22):
but at the same time, you'll feel like you're giving
purpose away, you're making someone else's life better.
Speaker 1 (45:37):
You're listening to Living Full Out with Nancy Solari. As
a professional motivational speaker. Nancy can assist you to blow
through your setbacks and start living full out. If you
have an inspirational story you want to share, email us
at connect at livingfollout dot com. Once again, here's Nancy.
Speaker 2 (45:57):
Thank you so much for joining us today. I'm Nancy Silari.
This is the Living Full Out Show and we've been
talking about doing what you can, and I think this
topic is really important because truly life is busy.
Speaker 16 (46:10):
Right.
Speaker 2 (46:11):
We've got our jobs, we've got our to dos, we
have things that we need to do right, just check
off all the boxes. But at the end of the day,
we have to think about doing what we can to
really make other people's lives better, make our planet better,
make the way that the world is turning better. Now,
(46:33):
you might say, Nancy, what do you mean by that, Well,
you have choices in your life. For example, when I
think about social media, I have a lot of people
that are like, oh.
Speaker 3 (46:43):
I hate social media. It's the worst.
Speaker 2 (46:45):
Oh, and people compare themselves and the pressure, And that
is absolutely true. And yes, people say things that maybe
they shouldn't and but we all have the ability to
look or not look. But I also believe at least
a living full out when people come to our Facebook page, Instagram, YouTube, TikTok, Pinterest,
(47:06):
the whole shebang, I want it to feel like you're
coming to my living room. I want to offer you
a beverage. I want to get you some motivation. I
want to tell you some really inspirational stories, educate you
some And that is how I choose for my living
room of social media to be. I do what I
(47:26):
can in the orbit of social media to be kind
of a healthy, motivational place for people to fall or
plug in. I also believe that, you know, we're all
brought into this mix of our families and our friend groups.
You know, for various reasons, and yes, we're all kind
of similar and that's why we get along so well.
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But in your family, you could have five people in
your family and everybody be different.
Speaker 3 (47:54):
You want to.
Speaker 2 (47:55):
Think about, within your gift of life, who do you
want to show up to be. There's the old saying
on a tombstone, right, You've got the day you were
born and the day you die and that dash in between.
So when I think about doing what I can, you know,
I want to be that person that people can call
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and I will listen number one, I will listen.
Speaker 3 (48:19):
Number two.
Speaker 2 (48:20):
I will always give advice that's honest. Sometimes it's what
they want to hear and sometimes not, but it's honest.
And you want to figure out, within the realm of
your natural gifts and talents, who you are and how you.
Speaker 3 (48:37):
Show up in the world. What do you want that
to be? How do you want to be remembered?
Speaker 2 (48:42):
And that comes from doing what you can, because if
you get so distracted with the daily busy and all
the twos, you're not really allowing yourself to build that
legacy of yourself. You know, be known for how you
want to be known. And then I also think about
when we're talking about doing what we can is nonprofits
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and giving back. As someone who has lost her vision
over the years, gosh, I used to love driving. I
loved it, and actually when we would go on road trips,
I was the person who drove at night.
Speaker 3 (49:19):
I loved it that much.
Speaker 2 (49:21):
But at the end of the day, you know, going
now legally blind, I had to give up driving. You know,
the loan, the lines on the road disappeared, and I
knew that was time to put the keys in the
drawer and give that up. But at the same time,
it was nonprofits that along the way taught me white
kne training. They gave him my guide dog. They taught
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me all the low vision and talking devices that I
need to thrive. And I wanted to one day develop
a TV show that I felt give nonprofits the education,
the fundraising tips that they need to make their mission
to help people like me, you know, have better lives.
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So we created Nonprofit MVP and I encourage you to
go to nonprofit MVP dot com and follow the show
because it's a competition show for nonprofits. They learn and
then they have to do challenges where they test their skills,
and then ultimately we crown a nonprofit MVP winner. Now,
I personally believe that we are all winners. But we're
(50:25):
only winners if we control you know, things like social
media and set our own narrative, you know, establish that
living room virtually for yourself. We're only winners when we're
able to figure out in life, how are we unique,
special and different? How do we want to be remembered?
What legacy do we want to leave behind? And a
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legacy does not mean you start a business, you do
any big, you know, huge achievement. A legacy is just
being known as a good friend, someone people can count on.
That's a great way to be known. And then less
that you want to think about how you can get back,
you know, how can you how can you make your
love for a certain group, children, the disabled, seniors? How
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can you take that and do good by those people?
Because this life shouldn't just be about me, me me, I,
I I right. That needs to be about how when
we take our last breath, did we give it our best?
Speaker 3 (51:25):
Did we do all we could?
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And so today is the day that you put together
that list of things you haven't done yet and start
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and shows that teach you, guide you, you know, give
you that path so that you can recognize those gifts
and talents, recognize the lane of purpose that you should
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run down. But when you do all those things, I
promise you, those duckies will get in a row. I
promise you the clouds will part, things will become more clear.
Speaker 3 (52:01):
And you know that. Nancy, our entire team.
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Welcome to the Living Full Out Show.
Speaker 3 (00:21):
My name is Nancy Silari.
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And we are so excited to have you here. We
are going to be talking about doing what you can. Truly,
we all have gifts and talents. If we were to
just turn it up and really take them to the
tenth power and give and love and do what we can,
imagine the difference.
Speaker 3 (00:40):
We can make.
Speaker 2 (00:40):
We're going to be talking about that as well as
our inspirational guests. Paul Toabatt, Honestly, what an amazing grounded person.
I mean, he's been through a lot of different twists
and turns, but boy, if I'm ever in a struggle,
I want to turn to Paul because he's just so
comforting and so wise. And you'll know what I mean.
Unpack his story of dealing with prostate cancer. And most
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Speaker 4 (01:50):
Hi, I just had a question for you.
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Yes, go for it.
Speaker 4 (01:55):
I was just wondering how can I prioritize my fitness
more with my busy life schedule. M.
Speaker 2 (02:03):
Well, there you go, bringing up the big fitness word right.
Speaker 3 (02:08):
Oh man.
Speaker 2 (02:09):
I don't know about you, but I've been thinking about
pizza all day, so I realize it's hard to It's
hard when you're busy to like factor that in, especially
when there's distractions of family and friends, and you know,
things to do and ways in which we can't always
control it. But I am curious because I really want
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you to be healthy and feel your best. Where do
you feel or why do you feel you're not able
to be at the fitness level you want to be?
What do you think is holding you back?
Speaker 4 (02:45):
Sometimes I feel I just work a lot of hours,
and when I have like my days off and stuff,
I just feel really like unmotivated, like because I'm so
like exhausted from the week that I just want to
like relax. But I know I should just like motivate
myself to get up. But I think that's where it is,
Like I'm unmotivated a little bit.
Speaker 2 (03:06):
Where what do you do for a living? Where do
you work or what kind of what does that scenarios
at office or No.
Speaker 4 (03:13):
I'm a supervisor at Starbucks.
Speaker 2 (03:15):
Okay, and so so you probably pace around the store,
but not much more than that.
Speaker 4 (03:25):
Yeah, that's basically what happens. I'm just running back and
forth around the store.
Speaker 2 (03:29):
Mm hmmm. Now everybody's work scenarios are different, Okay, So
I'm just gonna give you.
Speaker 3 (03:37):
A couple ideas.
Speaker 2 (03:38):
These are easy pickoffs, but depending on what you wear
and how big the parking lot is. Okay, But what
you want to try to think about and do you
work seven like five days a week, six days a week,
full days, full.
Speaker 4 (03:54):
Time five five to six and like forty hours?
Speaker 2 (03:59):
Okay, so solidly you're busy and then tired because you've
been on your feet. Yeah, okay, So what you want
to think about are ways to get activity in even
when it doesn't feel like you are okay.
Speaker 3 (04:15):
So what I mean by that is, so for.
Speaker 2 (04:18):
Example, it depends on if you have a uniform or
what you're wearing or what you're doing. But for example,
I have these, well I have a couple different things.
I have these shoes, and you can get shoes of
all different kinds, tennis shoes looking and even some more
designer looking. But they have shoes out there that have
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weights in the heels.
Speaker 3 (04:42):
So if you have.
Speaker 2 (04:43):
Any freedom in the type of shoes you wear, look
into shoes that have.
Speaker 3 (04:49):
Weights in them.
Speaker 2 (04:50):
So it's going to be a way for you to
get a little bit of resistance in a little bit.
Speaker 3 (04:54):
Of weight in there.
Speaker 2 (04:55):
You know, maybe in between while you're at the counter,
nobody will see you. You can be doing a little
caf fliffs, right leg lifts, Nobody will see you little
extra Now, if you have the ability, ankle weights and
arm weights have actually come a long way. Okay, they
can be very snug, they can be very sleek. And
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so you might go to like your sporting goods store,
or you might go online and find you know, not
you know, anything strenuous like five pounds, right, but even
a little like one pounder, two pounder. If you are
wearing pants, you could put those around your ankles. Nobody
would see them. Little extra resistance. If you're wearing long
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sleeves and it's you know, gives you enough give, you
could put those on your ankles, I mean on your
on your wrist. I'm sorry, and nobody's going to see them.
Little extra And here you are, you're, you know, doing
a few you know, you know, uh, biceps, right poles
while you're doing while you're working, nobody knows.
Speaker 5 (06:00):
Yes.
Speaker 2 (06:01):
You also might look at getting a some sort of
a pedometer that you can put on and track your
steps and track how much you walk. You know, every
little bit counts.
Speaker 3 (06:13):
I actually have a producer I work with on our.
Speaker 2 (06:16):
TV show, and he's even in his seventies and he
will track his steps all day. And you know what,
if he gets to the end of the day and
he still has two thousand more to go, he'll just
go in circles and do things all around the house.
But he will hit that number. I think it's ten
thousand for him every day. And so you want to
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start tracking what are you actually doing at Starbucks?
Speaker 6 (06:40):
Right?
Speaker 3 (06:41):
What does that look like when you're working? What do
you get out of that.
Speaker 2 (06:44):
Versus what you might need to make up kind of
before and after. But all these little pieces help. I mean,
I don't mean to sound nerdy about it, but I
even have a weight vest. So there are these things
you can call it, get called weight vests where you
can put them on a twenty pounder. So it doesn't
mean it means when I go walking with my guide
dog and I'm not running, I'm walking, I put on
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that weight vest. I've just got extra that I'm carrying
with me. I sweat more, right, So it's not like
even when you're out, you know, when you're not working
at Starbucks and you're like, I'm kind of tired, but
I think I can do a walk. You know, all
those little things, the weight vests, the ankle weights, the
wrist bates. That all will help you at the very least.
Speaker 3 (07:30):
Armbands. Oh, I love armbands. Do you have those?
Speaker 4 (07:35):
I don't, but I'll look into it for sure.
Speaker 2 (07:38):
Yeah, these rubbery armbands, it takes no time at all.
You can either put it in the the kind of
the hinge of the door and pull that way, or
you can put your feet on them and pull up
that way. Super low impact. Easy to do when you're
watching TV at home rather than doing nothing. And I
mean the list goes on and on. I mean, my
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mom is eighty one and she's even got this thing.
Speaker 3 (08:05):
I can't think of what it's called, but you could
look it up.
Speaker 2 (08:07):
It is this thing that she puts right in front
of her TV in her kitchen, and it's like a
bicycle where she puts her feet on it and while
she's watching her favorite evening shows, she's bicycling along.
Speaker 3 (08:19):
And I felt her calves.
Speaker 2 (08:21):
The other day and they are so strong. And she's
doing nothing but watching her favorite show but getting to
work out in at the same time. So I just
want you to think about the possibilities. Don't feel stuck.
So when you're talking today about I feel unmotivated.
Speaker 3 (08:39):
Do you feel more motivated?
Speaker 7 (08:41):
I definitely do. And I'm definitely gonna look into the
ankle weight thing because.
Speaker 4 (08:45):
That's really smart, Like for like at work, I definitely
feel more.
Speaker 7 (08:49):
Motivated to like try new things and not just do
the typical like go to the gym, because that's what
I was like.
Speaker 4 (08:55):
Thinking more before.
Speaker 7 (08:56):
But these are like different ways to like expand my favoriness.
Speaker 2 (09:01):
Absolutely, And depending on how large that parking lot is
and depending on you know, your own safety and power
relyft arrive and when you leave, you know, feel free
not to take the first spot. Park further away, get
a little bit of a brisk walk in to and
from Starbucks. Right It's not going to break a sweat necessarily,
(09:23):
but it's going to get your metabolism going. But I
think if you do all of these things, I think
you're going to find your motivation is going to go up.
Because right now, I'll be honest, you sound defeated because
you're not going to the gym, which is like setting
yourself up to fail because you can work out so
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many other ways.
Speaker 7 (09:46):
That's true, Okay, that's true, Thank you so much.
Speaker 2 (09:51):
Absolutely, last little tidbit least little tidbit. Don't forget about
the power of good sleep. It actually affects everything related
to fitness, and I have a lot of clients who
achieve many of their fitness goals through intermittent fasting. Again,
you're not even working out, it's just the timing of
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what you put in your mouth. So I think you
have a lot of options that you can try.
Speaker 7 (10:19):
So thanks, I'm definitely going to look into these things.
Thank you so much.
Speaker 2 (10:23):
You're welcome. All right, Well, I'm even inspired. Okay, I'm
gonna go ground my weights after the show, and I
promise you I'll do it with you. But thank you
so much for calling in and for everybody listening. You know,
let's get out there, let's take action. Okay, we'll be
right back with Paul Talbot.
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Speaker 2 (15:33):
Thank you so much for joining us today.
Speaker 3 (15:35):
I'm Nancy Solarian. This is the Living Full Out.
Speaker 2 (15:37):
Show, and today we're talking about doing what you can.
As always, we try to bring inspirational guests that we
really feel have have gone through it themselves, have really
some great insights that they can give us that we
can leap away from today's show a little bit taller,
a little bit wiser ourselves. And I'd like to welcome
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Paul Tabot to the show. Welcome Paul.
Speaker 16 (16:01):
Well, thank you, Nancy.
Speaker 2 (16:02):
I didn't want to reveal your whole story, but I
got to tell you when I think about, gosh.
Speaker 3 (16:09):
Little Paul.
Speaker 2 (16:10):
You know, I know you had great parents, and you
spent time in the outdoors. You were you know, introverted
in your own way. But it's interesting because you really
felt that you felt kind of a shift when you
had visitors come to your house and then they would leave.
(16:30):
Why wouldn't that feel like it was just kind of
a lack of energy. Why was that so kind of
anchoring for you?
Speaker 16 (16:38):
Well, I suppose it went from a whole bunch of
fun to a little less fun.
Speaker 8 (16:45):
Hm.
Speaker 2 (16:47):
Well, I'm sure your parents had their own version of fun,
you know, you know, And I'm sure growing up in
the outdoors you you found your way to fun. But
I know for you, you, like so many kids, you
had one ask that you asked over and over and
over again. And I did this as well. It was
(17:09):
a tape recorder. And you wanted to use that tape
recorder for what reason?
Speaker 16 (17:16):
Well, yeah, I wanted a tape recorder for Christmas. And
I suppose my interest in this started when I was
around twelve or thirteen or so, and I just wanted
to record tunes from the radio so I could have
more music to listen to and didn't have to spend
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my allowance on records. So it was and I thought
that it would be thought that it would be interesting
to learn how to use a tape recorder as well.
So unfortunately, the tape recorder never showed up under the tree,
but I did get one when I was sixteen or
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seven and it all worked out.
Speaker 2 (18:04):
You know, it actually feels good sometimes to buy it ourselves,
earn it ourselves. I mean, that must have been a
good moment. And you've had a lot of good moments,
Paul one, including the day that you married Ellen, the
love of your life.
Speaker 3 (18:20):
Gosh, how long have you guys been married now? How
many years?
Speaker 16 (18:24):
Forty three?
Speaker 3 (18:26):
Wow? That is a long time.
Speaker 2 (18:29):
And that love kind of carried you both through, you know,
different careers that you had, but that love was also
very needed when it came time to wanting to start
a family, but it was hard to do. And I've
had five miscarriages myself, so I am sensitive to anyone
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struggles as a man. How did you help Ellen during
that time?
Speaker 17 (18:57):
Wow?
Speaker 16 (18:59):
So when Ellen suffered her ectopic pregnancies and those losses,
the losses were devastating to each of us, but perhaps
in different ways, and in retrospect, I don't think that
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I did anything terribly heroic or extraordinary other than do
my best to be there for her physically, emotionally, having
somebody to talk with, dealing with dealing with these issues,
(19:41):
conversing in a forthright manner and just working through things together,
you know.
Speaker 2 (19:51):
And that's just really important words and advice to hear
because so many couples go through it. But again, the
love that you two have and the desire to have
a little one of your own led you to Lindsey.
Speaker 3 (20:05):
And how did that come about?
Speaker 16 (20:08):
Exactly? It led us tell Lindsay our daughter who we
adopted in nineteen eighty five. And Lindsey is an extraordinary
woman today. She's brought great joy into our lives. And
just you know, the proverbial happy ending to a story
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that started off with a few sad chapters.
Speaker 2 (20:34):
Yeah, well, and really so many moments in your life.
But I am going to fast forward a bit because
you did have truly a happy ending, one would say,
at that moment. But around around sixty three sixty four,
you started to your body started to change a bit mysteriously,
(20:57):
not you necessarily knowing it. Ultimately you discovered something around
that time.
Speaker 3 (21:03):
What was that?
Speaker 16 (21:05):
Correct? I was diagnosed with prostate cancer.
Speaker 2 (21:12):
And the diagnosis was severe, and they gave you some bad.
Speaker 16 (21:18):
News exactly Sadly, my pre surgical biopsy in twenty seventeen,
was not pretty. There's something called a Gleason's score when
clinicians are trying to gauge the severity of prostate cancer.
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It goes from zero to ten, and sadly, I scored
a nine, which indicates cancer, which is extremely aggressive. So yeah,
I knew that I had had some work to do
to get things rectified.
Speaker 2 (22:04):
And when you hear those words, I mean, you're nine
out of ten. You know, you've you've even been told
that you have what limited time to live possibly?
Speaker 16 (22:14):
I mean, yeah, my my surgery, unfortunately, did did not
go well. Nancy. You know, post surgery, I had you
know the we we often hear they've got it, the
cancer has been taken away. Well, unfortunately they didn't get
(22:36):
it with with my surgery, there was some spreading to
a lymph node. There were there were also some cancer
cells in the wall of my bladder and the doctor
under whose care I was at the time indicated that
I had three years to live, which which prompted us
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to find a new mm hmmm.
Speaker 3 (23:03):
Well, and there's a lot of wooda coulda should us.
Speaker 2 (23:05):
I think anytime someone is going through such a life
altering event in one's life, and you know, I think
at the time you and Ellen did the best he
could with love in your heart. And again, you are
a very grounded person. I mean, it takes a lot
to get you rattled, Paul, but I imagine that news
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that surgery not going the way it had been planned.
That's that's a tough moment. I want you to stay
with us because how did Paul rebound from that tough moment?
You know what, He's so inspiring. You just got to
keep tuning in here. We'll be right back after this break.
But truly, today we are talking about doing what you can.
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When you do that, you are living full out.
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In jim I learned that I'm pathetic in a joke.
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Speaker 1 (28:04):
You're listening to Living Full Out with Nancy Solary. With
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Welcome back. I'm Nancysolarian.
Speaker 24 (28:24):
This is the Living Full Out Show, and today we're
talking about doing what you can and sometimes what that
answer is, what that next step is, it's hard to know,
and you kind of almost have to go with your instincts.
Speaker 2 (28:38):
You have to trust your beliefs, your values, trust in God,
and trust that you're going to take that next step
in the right direction. Our inspirational guest today, Paul Talbot,
is a perfect example of someone who did have to
methodically think through many decisions you get to where he
(29:00):
is today, not necessarily cancer free, but choosing positivity. So
I'd like to welcome Paul back to the show.
Speaker 16 (29:09):
Well, thank you, Nancy.
Speaker 2 (29:11):
Now, Paul, there was a time, you know, amongst the
early time of all this cancer and E've been battling
with it for years, where you and Ellen went to
Europe and you really had to make some decisions. And
I think sometimes we need that time out, we need
that reset. What did you decide to do and why?
Speaker 16 (29:35):
Well, you know, when we're when we're living, when we're
living purposefully, when we're doing our best to live full out,
sometimes something as simple as a change of scene can
be very very helpful. Even when we don't recognize it,
(29:57):
and even when we don't plan it to to to
be helpful.
Speaker 17 (30:03):
But you know where where we.
Speaker 16 (30:06):
Wound up was, uh, you know, just a determination to
find the best possible care that we could. And there's
there's a quotation that that many of the people in
your community may be familiar with, and that is when
when you're going through hell, keep going. It's attributed to
(30:29):
Winston Churchill, although Churchill never spoke those words and never
wrote those words, but you just keep going. So with
with my wife at the helm of of of the search,
Ellen and I found a wonderful, wonderful doctor in Las Vegas,
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doctor Nicholas Vogel, saying an acclaimed physician, global reputation as
a leader in his field. He took me under his care.
He told me that his goal was to cure me.
And sure enough he did.
Speaker 2 (31:08):
Tell me, Paul, because one of the things that you
discovered along the path here in trying to find answers
and is the mutation.
Speaker 3 (31:16):
What is that?
Speaker 16 (31:18):
Yeah? So I have what is called the Braka one
gene mutation, and that's most commonly known as something that
women are afflicted with and is often associated with breast cancer.
Speaker 17 (31:36):
Well, it.
Speaker 16 (31:38):
Can also show up in men. And I'm clearly not
a scientist, but the basic issue here is that it
adds to the aggressiveness of the prostate cancer. It makes
treatment a little bit more complex and a little bit
more difficult. And because doctor Vogel, saying wanted me to
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have genetic testing before he embarked on treatment, that's how
we identified the Brocco one gene mutation.
Speaker 2 (32:12):
Well, the thing about having that mutation is that treatment
will work until it doesn't, and then you've got to
find something new. And how frustrating is that to just
I mean, I imagine there's that saying right, sick and
tired of being sick and tired, it must be really
frustrating to not be done with this.
Speaker 16 (32:34):
Well, I do my best, as I'm sure many of
my eighteen million fellow Americans who are cancer survivors to,
is to try and isolate things that we can control
from things that we can't control. And there's absolutely nothing
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that I can do about the behavior of the Baraco
one mutation. But fortunately all of us have complete control
about how we respond to these unknowns, and we can
make a choice not to be frustrated. We can realize
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that the frustration is perhaps not helping is negative energy
if you will, and we do what we can, and.
Speaker 2 (33:32):
You still have it today, obviously, what is the prognosis.
Speaker 16 (33:38):
Well, my prognosis is pretty good. I am being treated
at UCLA by doctor Matthew Reddick, a wonderful oncologist. And
every time I go in, which is every three months
for my blood labs, I say, doctor. When people ask
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me what I'm doing or how I'm doing, what should
I tell them?
Speaker 17 (34:03):
And for the.
Speaker 16 (34:04):
Past few if she says, Paul, you should tell people
that you are moving deeper into remission.
Speaker 2 (34:12):
Hmmm, beautifully said, Actually that makes sense. You know, my
mom had breast cancer and that was tough and she
went through like so many women, do you know, surgery
and some cosmetic and just a lot of big decisions there.
Speaker 3 (34:31):
How is how you know, as a man.
Speaker 2 (34:33):
Having prostate cancer going through the surgery and not working,
what advice do you have for men out there in
terms of the importance of getting checked. But also if
the news ends up not being good, what would you
say to them to make it just a little less scary,
a little bit more hopeful.
Speaker 17 (34:52):
Well, yeah, you hit the nail on the head.
Speaker 16 (34:55):
You want to, uh, you want to have a PSA
test as soon as possible, given the restrictions of our
insurance these days. You want to find the best possible physician, Nancy.
I know that it's it's uh. This may be a
(35:17):
little bit of of of gender stereotyping, but as men,
we tend to find it a little bit more difficult
to talk about issues such as cancer, and it's a
little tough for us to be forthcoming.
Speaker 17 (35:34):
And I have to.
Speaker 16 (35:36):
I have to push myself in this direction sometimes. So
I think that in a nutshell, it would be make
sure you're tested, get the best possible physician. As my
good friend John Perricol says, not every doctor graduates in
the top half of his class. And do what our
(35:59):
doctors tell us to do, and do what we can
do to remain mentally strong. And I mentioned separating things
that we can control from things we can't control, and
focusing on controlling our reactions to those things that we
(36:20):
can't control.
Speaker 2 (36:22):
You know, going through a health issue for me, it's blindness,
for you obviously it's prostate cancer. It can feel lonely,
it can feel like is anybody else going through what
I'm going through? Does anybody feel the way I feel,
and you decided to put your thoughts into emails, some
for yourself, but then you also decided to give it away.
(36:45):
What do you put in those emails and how do
you give it away?
Speaker 17 (36:50):
Well?
Speaker 16 (36:50):
I have a website, we are Cancer Survivors dot com,
and on the website, I have a brief little ebook
that helps people deal with some of the mental toughness issues.
I think that a lot of us have been to
doctors and they say, hey, stay mentally strong, and that's
(37:12):
that's great. It sounds terrific, But how do we do that?
So I put a couple of those thoughts into a book.
And you know, very often when we're trying to learn something,
the best way to do that is to write about it.
So I write weekly email And if you know, I
(37:33):
don't want to preach and I don't want to pontificate
or tell people what to do.
Speaker 17 (37:38):
But you know, if I give.
Speaker 16 (37:40):
People a hand and you help them cheer up and
help them remember that our lives are worth fighting for,
That's what I'd like to do. And those are in
the weekly emails that people can sign up for for
free at my website, We are Cancer survivors dot Com.
Speaker 23 (38:00):
You know, I love that.
Speaker 2 (38:01):
You know, it's interesting because I remember when I heard
my mom had her breast cancer. You know, it just
kind of terrified me a bit because I was a
teenager and I didn't want to lose her. Yeah, you know,
and I'm sure for you and for Ellen and Lindsey,
they they find out about this for you and they
don't want.
Speaker 3 (38:18):
To lose you.
Speaker 2 (38:18):
But ironically, again, being the devoted husband that you are,
one of your verse fears is losing Ellen.
Speaker 3 (38:27):
Why is that? I mean, obviously you love her, but
one might fear, you know, their cancer.
Speaker 16 (38:34):
Yeah. Yeah, I just can't imagine life without her.
Speaker 17 (38:40):
What would be? It would be hollow, It would it.
Speaker 16 (38:44):
Would be empty, it would be incomplete. I'm sure a
lot of people in your community understand exactly what I'm
referring to, So that would that would be fear number one,
without a doubt.
Speaker 7 (39:01):
Mm hmmm.
Speaker 2 (39:03):
Yeah. Having those people by our side, especially if she
was so and is so strong willed in discovering, you know,
treatments and doctors and things for you, She's a great
partner to have.
Speaker 16 (39:16):
Excuse me, I'm sorry. Her help her health has been extraordinary,
but She's just, you know, a lot of fun to
be with, a joy to be with.
Speaker 3 (39:24):
Okay, we all now want to be with help with Ellen. Awesome.
She sounds great. You know, as we.
Speaker 2 (39:30):
Round out this interview, pology, I just really want to
ask you, as someone who has stared cancer in the face,
who still deals with it today, what is your relationship
to cancer?
Speaker 3 (39:42):
Is it a? Are you friends? Are you enemies? Frenemies?
Speaker 16 (39:50):
It is a. It is an enemy with bold face
type and a capital E. It is cruel, It's vicious.
There is absolutely nothing good about it. What it has
done to tear apart families and destroy lives is absolutely
(40:11):
wretched and it has absolutely no redeeming qualities from my perspective.
Speaker 2 (40:20):
You know what, Paul, I love that as our ending
because I think people have to remember to fight and
stay mentally strong and defeat that gorilla. He did a
great job in saying that. So thank you Paul for
being on the show today and for everybody honestly just
(40:40):
like him, do what you can pay it forward. You
know others who are going through it you are. They
want to hear your boys, They want to juice up
from your strength.
Speaker 25 (40:49):
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Speaker 2 (45:02):
When it comes to doing what you can. Let that
energy and vibration be your guide. And I truly mean that,
because on one hand, you can't give what you don't have,
but on the other hand, you could give a little
bit more and somewhere in there you're going to be
able to give what you can. You won't feel depleted,
(45:22):
but at the same time, you'll feel like you're giving
purpose away, you're making someone else's life better.
Speaker 1 (45:37):
You're listening to Living Full Out with Nancy Solari. As
a professional motivational speaker. Nancy can assist you to blow
through your setbacks and start living full out. If you
have an inspirational story you want to share, email us
at connect at livingfollout dot com. Once again, here's Nancy.
Speaker 2 (45:57):
Thank you so much for joining us today. I'm Nancy Silari.
This is the Living Full Out Show and we've been
talking about doing what you can, and I think this
topic is really important because truly life is busy.
Speaker 16 (46:10):
Right.
Speaker 2 (46:11):
We've got our jobs, we've got our to dos, we
have things that we need to do right, just check
off all the boxes. But at the end of the day,
we have to think about doing what we can to
really make other people's lives better, make our planet better,
make the way that the world is turning better. Now,
(46:33):
you might say, Nancy, what do you mean by that, Well,
you have choices in your life. For example, when I
think about social media, I have a lot of people
that are like, oh.
Speaker 3 (46:43):
I hate social media. It's the worst.
Speaker 2 (46:45):
Oh, and people compare themselves and the pressure, And that
is absolutely true. And yes, people say things that maybe
they shouldn't and but we all have the ability to
look or not look. But I also believe at least
a living full out when people come to our Facebook page, Instagram, YouTube, TikTok, Pinterest,
(47:06):
the whole shebang, I want it to feel like you're
coming to my living room. I want to offer you
a beverage. I want to get you some motivation. I
want to tell you some really inspirational stories, educate you
some And that is how I choose for my living
room of social media to be. I do what I
(47:26):
can in the orbit of social media to be kind
of a healthy, motivational place for people to fall or
plug in. I also believe that, you know, we're all
brought into this mix of our families and our friend groups.
You know, for various reasons, and yes, we're all kind
of similar and that's why we get along so well.
(47:49):
But in your family, you could have five people in
your family and everybody be different.
Speaker 3 (47:54):
You want to.
Speaker 2 (47:55):
Think about, within your gift of life, who do you
want to show up to be. There's the old saying
on a tombstone, right, You've got the day you were
born and the day you die and that dash in between.
So when I think about doing what I can, you know,
I want to be that person that people can call
(48:16):
and I will listen number one, I will listen.
Speaker 3 (48:19):
Number two.
Speaker 2 (48:20):
I will always give advice that's honest. Sometimes it's what
they want to hear and sometimes not, but it's honest.
And you want to figure out, within the realm of
your natural gifts and talents, who you are and how you.
Speaker 3 (48:37):
Show up in the world. What do you want that
to be? How do you want to be remembered?
Speaker 2 (48:42):
And that comes from doing what you can, because if
you get so distracted with the daily busy and all
the twos, you're not really allowing yourself to build that
legacy of yourself. You know, be known for how you
want to be known. And then I also think about
when we're talking about doing what we can is nonprofits
(49:05):
and giving back. As someone who has lost her vision
over the years, gosh, I used to love driving. I
loved it, and actually when we would go on road trips,
I was the person who drove at night.
Speaker 3 (49:19):
I loved it that much.
Speaker 2 (49:21):
But at the end of the day, you know, going
now legally blind, I had to give up driving. You know,
the loan, the lines on the road disappeared, and I
knew that was time to put the keys in the
drawer and give that up. But at the same time,
it was nonprofits that along the way taught me white
kne training. They gave him my guide dog. They taught
(49:42):
me all the low vision and talking devices that I
need to thrive. And I wanted to one day develop
a TV show that I felt give nonprofits the education,
the fundraising tips that they need to make their mission
to help people like me, you know, have better lives.
(50:02):
So we created Nonprofit MVP and I encourage you to
go to nonprofit MVP dot com and follow the show
because it's a competition show for nonprofits. They learn and
then they have to do challenges where they test their skills,
and then ultimately we crown a nonprofit MVP winner. Now,
I personally believe that we are all winners. But we're
(50:25):
only winners if we control you know, things like social
media and set our own narrative, you know, establish that
living room virtually for yourself. We're only winners when we're
able to figure out in life, how are we unique,
special and different? How do we want to be remembered?
What legacy do we want to leave behind? And a
(50:46):
legacy does not mean you start a business, you do
any big, you know, huge achievement. A legacy is just
being known as a good friend, someone people can count on.
That's a great way to be known. And then less
that you want to think about how you can get back,
you know, how can you how can you make your
love for a certain group, children, the disabled, seniors? How
(51:12):
can you take that and do good by those people?
Because this life shouldn't just be about me, me me, I,
I I right. That needs to be about how when
we take our last breath, did we give it our best?
Speaker 3 (51:25):
Did we do all we could?
Speaker 2 (51:28):
And so today is the day that you put together
that list of things you haven't done yet and start
marching along, and most of all the entire living fill
out family. We will continue to bring you inspirational guests
and shows that teach you, guide you, you know, give
you that path so that you can recognize those gifts
and talents, recognize the lane of purpose that you should
(51:51):
run down. But when you do all those things, I
promise you, those duckies will get in a row. I
promise you the clouds will part, things will become more clear.
Speaker 3 (52:01):
And you know that. Nancy, our entire team.
Speaker 2 (52:05):
Here, we will stand beside you every step of the way. Remember, though,
you got to plug in, you got to listen to
the show, whether it's live, whether it's on the Living
full Out Show app.
Speaker 3 (52:16):
You can do this.
Speaker 2 (52:17):
You got this and always get back.
Speaker 1 (52:27):
Thank you for listening to The Living Full Out Show
with Nancy Silari. To learn more about this program, visit
livingfullout dot com for the latest episodes. Connect with the
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