August 16, 2025 • 52 mins
Episode: 2025.11.26
The Living Full Out show with Nancy Solari encourages you to be optimistic. Perhaps you got denied from a job you really wanted. Maybe you received unexpected news about a loved one. Join Nancy as she discusses how to find light in adverse times.
Our first caller Bartty wonders how to go on with her daily life as an empty nester. Nancy advises her to join a nonprofit that deals with children. She also recommends Bartty to be a voice for those kids who never had one. Tune in to learn how to find what makes you happy.
Our inspirational guest Annette Barrera had to be optimistic throughout her life. When she was 18, everything changed as she was hit by a drunk driver at 55 mph. She ended up being in a coma for 2 ½ months and had to learn how to walk again. Years later, she fell in love with a man long distance. However, he abused her once she moved to Las Vegas to live with him. Tune in to the Living Full Out show to hear how Annette has found joy in becoming independent again in her life.
Perhaps your friend is struggling and is looking for someone to turn to. Try being that coach who will ask a question that gets them to open up. Assisting people in finding optimism allows you to live full out.
Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/living-full-out-show--1474350/support.
The Living Full Out show with Nancy Solari encourages you to be optimistic. Perhaps you got denied from a job you really wanted. Maybe you received unexpected news about a loved one. Join Nancy as she discusses how to find light in adverse times.
Our first caller Bartty wonders how to go on with her daily life as an empty nester. Nancy advises her to join a nonprofit that deals with children. She also recommends Bartty to be a voice for those kids who never had one. Tune in to learn how to find what makes you happy.
Our inspirational guest Annette Barrera had to be optimistic throughout her life. When she was 18, everything changed as she was hit by a drunk driver at 55 mph. She ended up being in a coma for 2 ½ months and had to learn how to walk again. Years later, she fell in love with a man long distance. However, he abused her once she moved to Las Vegas to live with him. Tune in to the Living Full Out show to hear how Annette has found joy in becoming independent again in her life.
Perhaps your friend is struggling and is looking for someone to turn to. Try being that coach who will ask a question that gets them to open up. Assisting people in finding optimism allows you to live full out.
Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/living-full-out-show--1474350/support.
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Speaker 1 (00:01):
You're listening the Living Full Out with Nancy Silari. As
a professional motivational speaker, Nancy can assist you to blow
through your setbacks and start living full out. If you
have an inspirational story you want to share, email us
at connect at livingfollout dot com. Once again, here's Nancy.
Speaker 2 (00:20):
Welcome to the Living Full Out Show. My name is
Nancy Celari, and today we're be talking about being optimistic
in life.
Speaker 3 (00:26):
It's so easy to feel.
Speaker 2 (00:29):
Just heavy and worried and anxious, but we also had
that ability to rise above that, which is how we're
going to talk about ways to do that today. Also,
our inspirational gets guest Annette Burrera. Boy, has she been
through it. She got hit by a car and it
took every ounce of her inner strength, being optimistic and
(00:51):
just knowing that she had a life to live for
her to get through all that healing and a very
impressive story. And I want to make sure all so
that you reach out to us. If you're struggling and
you're needing support, reach out to us at connect at
livingfullout dot com. I want to make sure that you
get the coaching that you need, whether it's live coaching
(01:13):
or we even have the personal Development boot Camp which
is also on Livingfullout dot com. And I share those
resources with you because I know life gets busy and
you might plug in from time to time to these shows.
Speaker 3 (01:26):
But I want to make sure.
Speaker 2 (01:27):
On your own timing that you're able to get the growth.
Speaker 3 (01:31):
Now.
Speaker 2 (01:31):
I am getting work from our producer that we do
a list on the line. Let's go check in with them. Hello,
welcome to the Living Full Out Show.
Speaker 3 (01:38):
Hi, Hi, thank you for calling in. How can I
help you?
Speaker 4 (01:43):
No, just I have a question with regards to, you know,
getting help from a handling difficult changes in life, you know,
and I've a recently empty tested relocated and divorced, so
it's sometimes there are moments where it's challenging. What's your
you know, any coaching advice would be appreciated.
Speaker 2 (02:03):
Well, you know, first of all, I want to ask
you the divorce are you are you happy about it
or sad about it?
Speaker 4 (02:12):
I'm okay with the divorce. I think the empty nesting
part that was the hardest.
Speaker 3 (02:17):
Okay, okay. And how many kiddos do you have?
Speaker 4 (02:21):
I have three beautiful daughters, okay.
Speaker 2 (02:24):
And she says that with such a pride. So here's
the thing about empty nesting. You you are a great
version of who you are today, but you have to
consider that before you had your kids you were great
as well, right, and even in the future when you
(02:44):
look at that third act of your life way down
the line, you know you're you're going to have evolving
times you know, later in life as well. And so
this is just one of them where you have to
get back to what brings you joy. And so I'm
curious us, what were some things that you used to
do that you don't do anymore, or things that you've
(03:06):
always wanted to do but never had the time?
Speaker 4 (03:11):
Traveling? And I've started to kind of hone in and
make make a travel bucket list, and you know, where
where I have the opportunity and the means to I'm
trying to cross that as much as I can, because
before life would always get in the way.
Speaker 3 (03:25):
Now, is there.
Speaker 2 (03:26):
Anything that blocks you from taking those travels?
Speaker 4 (03:31):
Financials?
Speaker 2 (03:32):
Okay, Okay, it's a real answer.
Speaker 4 (03:35):
Yeah, right, obligations work. But other than that, I mean,
I think I don't have responsibilities in terms of, you know,
caring for children at home anymore. I don't have a spouse.
I don't have pets, so I guess I'm essentially free
to go as as whenever I choose.
Speaker 2 (03:54):
Now, the most exciting thing is it sounds really free.
It sounds like really great, And there are going to
be people listening to this episode that are gonna be like,
wait a second, what's she complaining about?
Speaker 3 (04:05):
So I guess my.
Speaker 2 (04:06):
Question to you is what is heavy on your heart?
If you have all that freedom, where are what are
you lacking?
Speaker 4 (04:16):
Sometimes I feel like I don't have a like a
purpose anymore, you know, It's just my identity has been
so wrapped up on being a mom, and it just
it's kind of crazy because I look at my life.
I have everything. I mean, I'm very blessed and I'm
very thankful for everything that I have, my family, everything.
Speaker 3 (04:37):
Do you want to know some good news?
Speaker 2 (04:40):
Yeah, some good news is many many feel the way
you do. It's it's wild when everything is clicking and
great in our life. That is sometimes when we can
feel the most lonely.
Speaker 3 (04:53):
It is the.
Speaker 2 (04:53):
Sometimes even the times we feel the most lost when
everthing's perfect. And so that's why it's interesting how sometimes
we need that little little layer of drama a little
bit of curves, twist and turns, which I'm sure your
daughters do give you in their own pursuits calling mom
right Mom, I've got this problem, mom to what should
(05:15):
I do right now? One of the things I want
to ask you is in being a mom, what do
you think you did best?
Speaker 4 (05:26):
I think I was there for them whenever they needed anything,
and I would I would say I help, I hope
I encourage them to not be fearful. But I felt
like we just had a good we have good relationship.
Speaker 3 (05:40):
And do you think.
Speaker 2 (05:40):
You were did you enjoy one age group with them
more than another, Like if you had to choose the
younger the teenage years, where do you think that you
excelled best.
Speaker 4 (05:51):
I think the younger years were definitely the most fun
because my children are very close in age, they're about
twenty months apart, and we were you know, over overseas
with the military and it was interesting. So my fondest
memories are of them as young children.
Speaker 2 (06:10):
And and then do you think that you obviously had
fun with them, getting them doing playfulness and all that,
But do you think you helped them more, like with
school more, or with athletics more, or you know, finding
their fashion style.
Speaker 3 (06:25):
What do you think you helped them with most?
Speaker 4 (06:28):
I mean I think I helped them. I tried to
help them most with school, of course, but they all
kind of figured out their own thing, you know, as
they as they got older, and I just never really
got in the way of them exploring because my mantra is,
you know, unless it's going to be harmful to them,
of course that's not an option. But I want them
(06:51):
to learn, I want them to fall, I want them
to pick themselves back up.
Speaker 2 (06:55):
Well, so here's where I'm going with this, and you've
answered everything beautifully, and I, you know, encourage you to
even go back and listen to the show and listen
to this time that you and I have together, because
somewhere in your town, in your city, in your state,
in the United States, in the world, there are little kiddos.
(07:17):
Maybe they're families in the military, maybe they're not, Maybe
they're in the foster system, maybe they don't have parents,
maybe they're at an orphanage, maybe they're at a homeless shelter.
And there's little kiddos right now that just wish they
had someone like you. They can't find you, but you
(07:38):
can find them and the way that you can do
that is to plug into nonprofits, to consider volunteering. And
I think if you were to take a little bit
of time and look in your local town at what
nonprofits are available that maybe hit that age group and
a place where you could step in and be that
(08:00):
mother figure, be what you're the best at to that
age group that you enjoyed so much. I think purpose
is waiting for you. I think you just gotta gotta
find it. But do you see how that could be
a real win win for you and that kiddo that
can't find you.
Speaker 4 (08:16):
Yeah, just thinking about setting time, I tried to do
that as making my heart warm, so mm hmmm. I
like the idea a lot.
Speaker 2 (08:23):
Yeah, Anita, what now when you're out and about and
you're at dinner and you're traveling and people say what
do you do? Of course, you've got your job and
you've got your kids, but now you've got purpose.
Speaker 3 (08:36):
And as you see those.
Speaker 2 (08:37):
Kids, whether they're at a shelter or you know, foster system,
or again could be traveling around in the military, you
can be that rock. You can be that anchor and
a storm, and then they'll always remember you.
Speaker 3 (08:51):
As that really important.
Speaker 2 (08:53):
Role model that came into their life when they needed them,
needed you the most.
Speaker 3 (08:58):
So I'm excited for you actually.
Speaker 2 (09:01):
And then really at that point you super have it all.
Speaker 3 (09:05):
Can you try that?
Speaker 4 (09:07):
Yeah, I'm definitely going to try that.
Speaker 2 (09:10):
Exciting, right, I mean yeah, And that's just well, and
that is just you being you naturally, and I promise
you I'm legally blind, so I've lived and dependent on
nonprofits a lot through my life. And you are going
to be that source of strength for someone. And again
(09:30):
they can't find you, but you can find them. So
I would start that process today and I think you're
going to find before you know it, you're going to
you know, feel that happy spot.
Speaker 4 (09:41):
Yeah that sounds lovely, And I just want to thank
you for your time today.
Speaker 3 (09:45):
Well you're welcome.
Speaker 2 (09:46):
I believe in you, so enjoy and for everybody listening. Honestly,
when it comes down to being optimistic in life, when
it comes to figuring out how we can make a difference,
how we can you know, fill up our cup with purpose.
It's not about looking good. It's not about look at me,
look what I'm doing. It's about figuring out where is
(10:08):
their lack, where is there a gap? Where is somebody hurting. Know,
how can we make someone else's life better? Because once
we can be that solution to someone's problem, you've got
a life of purpose.
Speaker 3 (10:21):
At that point.
Speaker 2 (10:22):
It's not about the money, it's not about looking good,
and we can't take any of that with us when
our life is coming gone. But what you do have
is the story. What you do have is your ability
to give, and when you do that, you are living
full out.
Speaker 3 (10:37):
So stay with us.
Speaker 2 (10:38):
We're going to be coming right back with Annette Burrera
again being hit by a car. I'm telling you, how
did she rebound from that? How is she so joyful today? Well,
we're going to show you in her story.
Speaker 3 (10:50):
We'll be back.
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You're listening to Living Full Out with Nancy Soilary. As
a life coach, Nancy can teach you how to stay
strong under pressure and work through challenges you face. Being
legally blind, Nancy inspires others to be resilient and overcoming
obstacles and live full out. You can ask Nancy for
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Speaker 3 (15:33):
Thank you for joining us today.
Speaker 2 (15:34):
I'm Nancy Silari and this is the Living Full Out Show,
and today we're talking about being optimistic. And I have
brought you an inspirational guest today, Annette Beerera, for whom
I promise her story has a lot of different twists,
but little morsels of insights there that I know will
help you see situations in your life a little bit
brighter today than maybe you're currently seeing them. So I'd
(15:56):
like to welcome a net to the show. Hi, hold up,
thank you, glad to hear your sweet voice, and really
and that you are that smiling face. Really you You've
always been a joyful little girl growing up. I know
there was a time where you were wearing some bell
bottoms and you tripped on them and you fell and
(16:17):
you injured yourself and you know, let kids do right,
and you ended up having to get a brace on
your leg and use a cane. But the little girl
in you is also as sweet as she is she's
pretty fierce. And when they told you that you had
to sit on the playground and watch all the other
kids have fun.
Speaker 3 (16:37):
What did you do.
Speaker 4 (16:40):
Well?
Speaker 12 (16:40):
This is after I fell well enough or foul, kind
of tired of being hurt, and I looked at that
playground and I was like, I can do that too,
and I got up and I ran and that kind
of just started me off of that cane and that
brace that I was using then.
Speaker 2 (17:03):
You know, and again it's it's not like you're, you know,
adverse to authority, but you if you get something in
your mind, you're going to do it. And that independent,
you know, fear fearless nature is one that I admire.
I feel like we're sisters in different ways. I love that,
But it also kind of got you in trouble, you know,
(17:26):
in your you know, around eighteen ish started hanging out
with the wrong crowd and they were kind of taking
you down a path that really could have been dangerous.
But at the time, your first boyfriend, he really laid
it on the line. What did he say to you
that made you kind of make that switch?
Speaker 12 (17:47):
That boyfriend of mine, he and I had converged about
what I was getting myself into and yes, it was
not good at all, but through like understanding, through conversation,
through communication, you know it was. It was kind of
laid out there that you know, I I want you
(18:12):
to do what you want in your life. However, these
are the boundaries I'm going to set for this relationship
if you would like to move forward.
Speaker 2 (18:22):
And so you said yes, and you know that was
a good move, a good move, although you had to
move back in with your mom. That that wasn't the
independent you you saw yourself being. But in hindsight, all
of that coming together, moving in with your boyfriend to
your mom's was actually exactly what you needed. Because it
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wasn't too long after that that you were out with
your sister and friends and you were going to go
to a Starbucks and a McDonald's, things you had done
many many times before. And just as it had it,
you were walking ahead of the group, they got kind
of stalled by some other cars. What happened to you
(19:04):
in it?
Speaker 3 (19:05):
Who hit you?
Speaker 12 (19:08):
I was struck at fifty five miles an hour by
a drunk driver.
Speaker 2 (19:14):
And did that driver stop immediately?
Speaker 12 (19:19):
No? It was I. It was I considered a hit And.
Speaker 2 (19:25):
What and when you when you got hit. Obviously your
sister watched it. That's traumatic, your whole family, your friends.
But you had been in a coma for several months,
and in a coma there's times where you waver in
and out, where you were responsive and not responsive. But
(19:47):
what was most interesting is when you looked at the
whiteboard on the wall.
Speaker 3 (19:51):
What did it say.
Speaker 12 (19:55):
Upon that whiteboard. The thing I woke up to every
morning was you got hit by a car and you
were in this city, And that is quite daunting. If
you don't know what's going on with your world, that
is a scary thing to look out every morning.
Speaker 2 (20:13):
And coming out of the coma, what were your injuries?
Speaker 16 (20:18):
Like?
Speaker 2 (20:18):
What did you have to relearn how to do again?
Speaker 12 (20:24):
I sustained a traumatic brain injury, so so that kind
of messed with the entirety of my being. You know,
I had to learn how to walk, how to eat,
how to go to the bathroom, how to just just
function as a human being, and that was quite the trial.
(20:46):
I also have a right hemmy paralysis, so once again,
along with learning to walk, I had to learn how
to make my body kind of work with me and
be able to have functionality over my world.
Speaker 2 (21:04):
And you're kind of in a club of your own
because not I mean, I actually have been hit by
a car, but I've never been I've never had those
injuries where you've had to relearn everything again. When you
were in the hospital in the rehab, in those really
early months, and I know you were in rehab for
like a year in total, what kept you positive?
Speaker 12 (21:31):
I wasn't. I was going through that trauma. I was
going through that realization that hey, this is where you're
at in the world, and it was immensely hard to
be positive about that. However, it was a children's hospital,
and I am a love of babies, and there were
(21:56):
quite a few babies within that facility, and you know,
going along and playing with those other kids, you were
as hurt as I was, or more so. You know,
that kind of gave me hope that you know, there
there is joy to be had, that there was resilience
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in all aspects of the world, and I should be
a part of.
Speaker 3 (22:20):
That, you know what.
Speaker 2 (22:21):
I love that that is so beautiful because it's almost
like observing life. Holding life helped you keep your life going.
And when you got out of the hospital, out of
the rehab you went, you got out, you went to
a new place that was curated for you. What does
(22:43):
that mean?
Speaker 12 (22:48):
What that means is my world was formatted for me
to be as safe, as structured, as functional for me
as it would be. And I'm within that safety, within
that function, within that ease. Not my style, you know,
(23:13):
And I've had to learn how to work with what
I need, how I can achieve a life that is
going to be safe for me and functional for me.
And that's been for the past twelve or so years.
Speaker 2 (23:29):
The problem with that, the problem with that place is
you didn't get to take the babies with you. You
are just now in this safe place, and I want
you to stay with us because obviously there's so much
more to your healing, to how you got to where
you are today, and for everybody listening, truly it is
about being optimistic but yet honest with the hard times,
(23:51):
getting through them so you can live full out.
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Today.
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In school, I learned a lot. In chemistry, I learned
that no one likes me. In English, I learned that
I'm disgusting, and in physics I learned that I'm a loser.
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Today in school, I learned that I'm ugly and useless.
In Jim, I learned that I'm pathetic in a joke.
In History today, I learned that I'm trying.
Speaker 12 (24:26):
Today.
Speaker 18 (24:26):
In school, I learned that I have no friends. In English,
I learned that I make people sick. And at lunch,
I learned that I sit on my own because I smell.
In Chemistry, I learned.
Speaker 17 (24:38):
That no one In Biology, I learned that I'm fat
and stupid.
Speaker 3 (24:42):
And in math, I learned that I'm trash.
Speaker 17 (24:46):
The only thing I didn't learn in school today, the
only thing I didn't learn today.
Speaker 6 (24:49):
The only thing I didn't learn is why no one.
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Speaker 2 (28:23):
Welcome back. I'm Nancy Solarian. This is the Living Full
Out Show. And today we're talking about being optimistic in life,
and you know, sometimes that's those are just words like
how do you convince your mind, your heart that those
words have the power they have that they can override fear.
While our inspirational guest today, Annettburra, has gone through being
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hit by a car and really having to heal her
way back to independence, and she's going to continue to
share that story with us. Welcome back and net Hello,
And I know your dad over the years. He was
always a book lover and he got you to become
a book lover. But Dad gave you some pretty good
(29:05):
advice when you were in this place of healing but
feeling like you were in this kind of sterile, curated
place and it was overly safe and you really couldn't
do what Annette wanted to do, and you were angry
at the driver. You just really wanted to find that
driver and make them feel the hurt that you feel.
Speaker 3 (29:26):
What did your dad say to you?
Speaker 12 (29:30):
My father a brilliant man. He told me to be
careful who you hate, because that is who you become.
And in that existence, I didn't want to be a
person who so violently disturbed a stranger's life.
Speaker 2 (29:54):
Which obviously would have been a domino effect to you
hurt that person, It hurts that person's family, and you
didn't want to be You didn't want to you know,
spiral that hurt. And you know your dad was there
for you. Your aunt was there for you, and I
know there was a time that she wanted to help
you and you said, no, I don't want the help.
You know you were you were craving your independence. You
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you even had that boyfriend, that first boyfriend that stood
by you and was there for you and helped you
feel pretty and loved. But even you needed to break
out of that relationship and did you ended up meeting
someone else? Why were you so thirsty for getting that
(30:37):
independence back?
Speaker 3 (30:38):
I mean, I know that you.
Speaker 2 (30:39):
Know you want to be on your own and live
on your own, and people taking care of you as
hard but I mean it was really starting to get
to you.
Speaker 12 (30:51):
Another brilliant thing my father told me was I was
telling him how much wanted to go back to my
life and go back to this this world before my injury,
and he stated to me, you need to understand that
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this is your life now and you must do what
you can with it within those realms of your life.
And I thought it so hard. That was so challenging
of me, and it made me definitely definitely made my existence.
(31:32):
It's a lot harder.
Speaker 5 (31:35):
But you fight well.
Speaker 12 (31:36):
You don't know that unfamiliarity is TERRIMI.
Speaker 2 (31:42):
Well, and sometimes we have to make bold moves in
our life to to really it's almost like a cry,
like I'm.
Speaker 23 (31:49):
Going to do it, you know.
Speaker 3 (31:51):
And you you ad met.
Speaker 2 (31:52):
A boy and he lived in Las Vegas and you
were living in California and he you had a long
distance courtship. But all lee you decided I'm moving to Vegas.
You paid for the move, you physically did the move,
and when you got to Vegas, he wasn't a knight
in shining armor.
Speaker 3 (32:12):
He actually was abusive to you.
Speaker 2 (32:14):
And then you kind of had to reflect on your
family who had said, don't do it, we don't like them.
And when we do bold things in life, like you
making that move and then it not working out, sometimes
we feel like we've disappointed ourselves or we feel like
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I told you so's things like that. How have you
been able to weather that storm?
Speaker 20 (32:46):
Me?
Speaker 12 (32:46):
Am x s Buruh is annoyingly optimistic. Annoyingly It's terrible.
I should get over it, but that has has me
motive waited to get what I want, to understand the
needs that I have and how to facilitate them and
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get them for myself. It was a hard journey to
get here, and I'm still challenged by that because you know,
the brilliance that I have in today's day is coming
from a place where I was involved in much hurt
again for a second time. And I'm still challenged by
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the fact that I'm getting a life that is wonderful
and beautiful because of a life that was not. And
I am finding that if I just believe and I
am just committed and have that tenacity in myself that
(33:53):
I'm going everything will work out. And I'm incredibly thankful
for that.
Speaker 2 (33:59):
Well and again, and annoyingly optimistic is a good thing.
I wouldn't change that for the world, right, but you
still have this fear that kind of nags at you
a little bit, which is now that you here, you
have your own apartment, right, you're you're on this radio show.
You know you're you're volunteering, like you are doing life independently,
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like you have made it to where you want to be.
But I know you fear toxic people coming back in
your life. How what do you do to protect this
independent life you've now created?
Speaker 7 (34:42):
Uh what?
Speaker 14 (34:44):
Oh?
Speaker 24 (34:45):
Sorry. The way that I project that is I so wrap.
Oh my goodness, I'm sorry. The way that I protect
that is I surround myself with outstanding, motivational.
Speaker 12 (35:06):
Oh my god, I don't know what is going on.
I'm sorry.
Speaker 24 (35:13):
Uh, you know how to talk to talk fomal Okay.
Speaker 12 (35:20):
The way that I achieve that, uh, lives that I
want to hold onto because I've created and created this
outstanding life for myself is I surround myself with amazing, motivating,
good people. I have read you. You your friends are
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who you are. We heard that saying more than once.
I'm sure hopefully because of very good lesson your friends
make you know and people that I'm sorry.
Speaker 2 (36:02):
No, no, I was just going to say you know,
I want you to want everybody to just kind of
take a moment acknowledge, because I think sometimes you just
always have.
Speaker 3 (36:12):
To be good to yourself.
Speaker 2 (36:13):
I know you battle, you know the brain injury and
all the injuries.
Speaker 3 (36:16):
Still and what I love about.
Speaker 2 (36:19):
What you just experienced is it was just a matter
of the mind trying to find the right words. But
it's like your heart spoke for you. And you know
what you're trying to say is that you now make
sure that you surround yourself with people that will lift
you up.
Speaker 3 (36:39):
Is that right, Cobrat?
Speaker 7 (36:41):
Very much?
Speaker 16 (36:42):
So.
Speaker 12 (36:43):
I think that is going to be the way to
a brilliant life for myself.
Speaker 3 (36:49):
And have you forgiven the driver?
Speaker 12 (36:54):
Yes?
Speaker 3 (36:56):
How did you do that?
Speaker 12 (37:00):
He was twenty five and by the time he was
twenty five he had a fallony DI and a family
hit and run and you become those you hate, right,
And just to think out twenty five, because I was
twenty five at one point, to think that my life
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was so changed at that point.
Speaker 4 (37:29):
That was terrible.
Speaker 12 (37:32):
For me and this two young lives were destroyed. And
despite the fact how hard her I got, because broken
bones become unbroken and life moves on. We're both allowed
to have exceptional, exciting, phenomenal, happy lives because I'm going
(37:55):
to just to watch me and I don't feel like
he is deserving of anything less than that. My recovery
was never dependent on him suffering or him not having
a good light, because we can both have that.
Speaker 14 (38:13):
Hmm.
Speaker 2 (38:14):
You know, I love that, and I think it's really
a special and interesting that you've been able to see
that side of him, because there are a lot of
people that may not be able to override that. And
I also want to be on or something. You know,
when this happened, some might call him drinking and driving
(38:38):
and hitting you as an accident, but you are intentional
with your words, and you call it an incident. And
part of that, I know is due to, you know,
the victim panels that you're on for MAD and the
work that you do to volunteer. But why do you
call it an incident?
Speaker 12 (38:58):
I call it and because there was something that happened,
and it was something that definitely created a new world
for myself and then started me on a brand new journey,
even as painful as that may have been. Mad Mothers
Dan Shung driving refers to these exuse occasions as crashes,
(39:26):
and I don't align myself with that terminology because I
much more soft and lovable than a crash. So I
have incidents, and these incidents in your life and how
you respond to them choices, They are kind of a
(39:46):
homewark of who you are as a person. In my
incident created this wonderful net.
Speaker 2 (39:53):
Well, I gotta tell you, I know today you're in
your early thirties, but I might have to see a
driver's license.
Speaker 3 (40:00):
You're pretty wise beyond your years. Be sure you're not
in your eighties.
Speaker 12 (40:07):
I am a Benjamin Bati character.
Speaker 3 (40:09):
Yeah, I definitely get that. Well, Annette.
Speaker 2 (40:13):
We are so proud of you and you're doing it
and like I said, speak.
Speaker 3 (40:19):
From your heart.
Speaker 7 (40:19):
You'll never go wrong.
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The mind will follow right and you know, thank goodness,
Dad and so many others have been able to give
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(45:23):
if you put that good energy out there, you will
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Speaker 1 (45:37):
You're listening to Living Full Out with Nancy Solary. As
a professional motivational speaker. Nancy can assist you to blow
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Speaker 2 (45:57):
Welcome back on Nancysilari the Living Full Out Show. And
today we've got talking about being optimistic.
Speaker 3 (46:04):
And I really love this topic.
Speaker 2 (46:06):
Because many would say, Nancy, you are just over the
top positive and motivational. And if I have to be
known for that, then you know I'll sign up for
it every day of the week. The truth is, as
you all know, my life hasn't been perfect, you know,
going legally blind, or you know, different things like miscarriages
(46:27):
or financial struggles, or you know, relationship heartbreaks, And I
could go on and on and you might be like, yep,
me too, Yep, me too, yet me do you know?
Speaker 3 (46:36):
The thing is what we all.
Speaker 2 (46:38):
Have in common is we go through trials in life.
But what I think is so magical is when you
have a good family and you're sitting around the table,
or you've got friends and maybe you're at a barbecue
or a happy hour, you have the ability to keep
the conversation surfacing.
Speaker 3 (46:57):
Yeah, so how's your work?
Speaker 2 (46:59):
You know, how holl's the weather, where are you going
for the holidays? Or you have the opportunity to take
it deeper, and I welcome deeper.
Speaker 4 (47:08):
Now.
Speaker 3 (47:08):
Sometimes my friends are thinking.
Speaker 2 (47:10):
Well, Nancy, you know we have to go deep every time.
But I'm not saying that you have to share your deepest,
dark as secrets. But I'm just saying that the greatest
gift that you can give someone is to be heard.
And when somebody is able to feel like, wow, you're
listening to me, like you actually care about my relationship
(47:30):
with my colleagues.
Speaker 3 (47:31):
What you what.
Speaker 2 (47:32):
You actually want to know? What I want for my birthday?
What you actually you know? The more you allow that
person to talk, you're going to see their energy rise.
You're going to see them kind of percolate in a
different way. You're going to see them respond to you
in a way that's that's open. And I really want
(47:52):
you to test that because I've kind of done that myself.
I've been out with friends before and everybody's kind of
going around having these, you know, joy full conversations, and
I'll turn to the person on my right or my
person on the left, and amongst my time next to them,
I'll wiggle my way into something heartfelt. And I can
tell that as I hug them at the end of
(48:13):
our time together, that is the time that they're going
to remember the most, that moment when Nancy heard them,
when I listened.
Speaker 3 (48:22):
And I believe that we.
Speaker 2 (48:23):
All have the ability to be a coach, to be
a sounding board for someone else. Again, being optimistic is
an attitude, right, It's that energy. It's a choice. But
some people can't naturally get to that place without the
help of someone like you. And that is why I
(48:44):
wanted to touch on today. You being that coach, You
being that person that will ask a question to get
them talking. Now, the thing about being optimistic in life too,
is that I believe that we can take the power
back from bad situation. So I can either look at
my life as, oh, well it's me.
Speaker 3 (49:04):
I can't see my own face.
Speaker 2 (49:05):
Ah, I wish I could drive, I wish I could,
you know, read something on a piece of paper. Okay,
And granted I do wish I could do those things.
Or I can say to myself with a little bit
of humor in there being optimistic, well look at that
no gray hairs, can't see them anyway, Or gosh, I
don't know how it is that I don't have any wrinkles,
(49:27):
can't see my face anyway, or you know, gosh, this
outfit looks great. You know, don't see any bulges, or
you know, any things that might.
Speaker 3 (49:36):
Not be flattering.
Speaker 2 (49:37):
The thing is, we have the ability to take moments
in our life and really ride over those negative thoughts.
We have the ability to set the tone and if
throughout this show you've learned anything from our collar to
our guests, to everybody who's participated, it's that life is action.
(49:59):
So be optimistic is an action.
Speaker 3 (50:01):
It's a choice.
Speaker 2 (50:03):
So you have the choice to be homdrum. You have
the choice to be negative, or you have the ability
to say, you know what, I like who I am.
Speaker 3 (50:12):
You know I'm worth it. I'm proud of myself, and
I think it's important that you know.
Speaker 2 (50:18):
We don't get a big ego about it. But I
think it's so critical that we're able to have tools
in our toolbox, as they would say, such as supporters
are a life, such as mantras, such as songs that
lift us up, such as books that kind of get
us into our creative space. When you're able to do
(50:39):
those things, that is where the magic happens. But rather
than allowing yourself to be pulled down by the negative
or be stressed out by the worries, I want you
to actually step out there and say to yourself, I
am worth it.
Speaker 3 (50:53):
I'm going to go for it.
Speaker 2 (50:54):
Today is the day that I'm going to have everything
go my way. I know that sounds like a like
a song, but I do. When I wake up in
the morning, I don't wake up assuming something's going to
go bad.
Speaker 3 (51:07):
I don't wake up.
Speaker 2 (51:08):
Dreading meetings or will I hit that deadline on time.
I just wake up assuming it's going to work out.
Speaker 3 (51:15):
It's all going to be good.
Speaker 2 (51:16):
No stress, no fuss, no muss, as one would say,
but again it's intentional. Now, I want to make sure
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Speaker 2 (00:20):
Welcome to the Living Full Out Show. My name is
Nancy Celari, and today we're be talking about being optimistic
in life.
Speaker 3 (00:26):
It's so easy to feel.
Speaker 2 (00:29):
Just heavy and worried and anxious, but we also had
that ability to rise above that, which is how we're
going to talk about ways to do that today. Also,
our inspirational gets guest Annette Burrera. Boy, has she been
through it. She got hit by a car and it
took every ounce of her inner strength, being optimistic and
(00:51):
just knowing that she had a life to live for
her to get through all that healing and a very
impressive story. And I want to make sure all so
that you reach out to us. If you're struggling and
you're needing support, reach out to us at connect at
livingfullout dot com. I want to make sure that you
get the coaching that you need, whether it's live coaching
(01:13):
or we even have the personal Development boot Camp which
is also on Livingfullout dot com. And I share those
resources with you because I know life gets busy and
you might plug in from time to time to these shows.
Speaker 3 (01:26):
But I want to make sure.
Speaker 2 (01:27):
On your own timing that you're able to get the growth.
Speaker 3 (01:31):
Now.
Speaker 2 (01:31):
I am getting work from our producer that we do
a list on the line. Let's go check in with them. Hello,
welcome to the Living Full Out Show.
Speaker 3 (01:38):
Hi, Hi, thank you for calling in. How can I
help you?
Speaker 4 (01:43):
No, just I have a question with regards to, you know,
getting help from a handling difficult changes in life, you know,
and I've a recently empty tested relocated and divorced, so
it's sometimes there are moments where it's challenging. What's your
you know, any coaching advice would be appreciated.
Speaker 2 (02:03):
Well, you know, first of all, I want to ask
you the divorce are you are you happy about it
or sad about it?
Speaker 4 (02:12):
I'm okay with the divorce. I think the empty nesting
part that was the hardest.
Speaker 3 (02:17):
Okay, okay. And how many kiddos do you have?
Speaker 4 (02:21):
I have three beautiful daughters, okay.
Speaker 2 (02:24):
And she says that with such a pride. So here's
the thing about empty nesting. You you are a great
version of who you are today, but you have to
consider that before you had your kids you were great
as well, right, and even in the future when you
(02:44):
look at that third act of your life way down
the line, you know you're you're going to have evolving
times you know, later in life as well. And so
this is just one of them where you have to
get back to what brings you joy. And so I'm
curious us, what were some things that you used to
do that you don't do anymore, or things that you've
(03:06):
always wanted to do but never had the time?
Speaker 4 (03:11):
Traveling? And I've started to kind of hone in and
make make a travel bucket list, and you know, where
where I have the opportunity and the means to I'm
trying to cross that as much as I can, because
before life would always get in the way.
Speaker 3 (03:25):
Now, is there.
Speaker 2 (03:26):
Anything that blocks you from taking those travels?
Speaker 4 (03:31):
Financials?
Speaker 2 (03:32):
Okay, Okay, it's a real answer.
Speaker 4 (03:35):
Yeah, right, obligations work. But other than that, I mean,
I think I don't have responsibilities in terms of, you know,
caring for children at home anymore. I don't have a spouse.
I don't have pets, so I guess I'm essentially free
to go as as whenever I choose.
Speaker 2 (03:54):
Now, the most exciting thing is it sounds really free.
It sounds like really great, And there are going to
be people listening to this episode that are gonna be like,
wait a second, what's she complaining about?
Speaker 3 (04:05):
So I guess my.
Speaker 2 (04:06):
Question to you is what is heavy on your heart?
If you have all that freedom, where are what are
you lacking?
Speaker 4 (04:16):
Sometimes I feel like I don't have a like a
purpose anymore, you know, It's just my identity has been
so wrapped up on being a mom, and it just
it's kind of crazy because I look at my life.
I have everything. I mean, I'm very blessed and I'm
very thankful for everything that I have, my family, everything.
Speaker 3 (04:37):
Do you want to know some good news?
Speaker 2 (04:40):
Yeah, some good news is many many feel the way
you do. It's it's wild when everything is clicking and
great in our life. That is sometimes when we can
feel the most lonely.
Speaker 3 (04:53):
It is the.
Speaker 2 (04:53):
Sometimes even the times we feel the most lost when
everthing's perfect. And so that's why it's interesting how sometimes
we need that little little layer of drama a little
bit of curves, twist and turns, which I'm sure your
daughters do give you in their own pursuits calling mom
right Mom, I've got this problem, mom to what should
(05:15):
I do right now? One of the things I want
to ask you is in being a mom, what do
you think you did best?
Speaker 4 (05:26):
I think I was there for them whenever they needed anything,
and I would I would say I help, I hope
I encourage them to not be fearful. But I felt
like we just had a good we have good relationship.
Speaker 3 (05:40):
And do you think.
Speaker 2 (05:40):
You were did you enjoy one age group with them
more than another, Like if you had to choose the
younger the teenage years, where do you think that you
excelled best.
Speaker 4 (05:51):
I think the younger years were definitely the most fun
because my children are very close in age, they're about
twenty months apart, and we were you know, over overseas
with the military and it was interesting. So my fondest
memories are of them as young children.
Speaker 2 (06:10):
And and then do you think that you obviously had
fun with them, getting them doing playfulness and all that,
But do you think you helped them more, like with
school more, or with athletics more, or you know, finding
their fashion style.
Speaker 3 (06:25):
What do you think you helped them with most?
Speaker 4 (06:28):
I mean I think I helped them. I tried to
help them most with school, of course, but they all
kind of figured out their own thing, you know, as
they as they got older, and I just never really
got in the way of them exploring because my mantra is,
you know, unless it's going to be harmful to them,
of course that's not an option. But I want them
(06:51):
to learn, I want them to fall, I want them
to pick themselves back up.
Speaker 2 (06:55):
Well, so here's where I'm going with this, and you've
answered everything beautifully, and I, you know, encourage you to
even go back and listen to the show and listen
to this time that you and I have together, because
somewhere in your town, in your city, in your state,
in the United States, in the world, there are little kiddos.
(07:17):
Maybe they're families in the military, maybe they're not, Maybe
they're in the foster system, maybe they don't have parents,
maybe they're at an orphanage, maybe they're at a homeless shelter.
And there's little kiddos right now that just wish they
had someone like you. They can't find you, but you
(07:38):
can find them and the way that you can do
that is to plug into nonprofits, to consider volunteering. And
I think if you were to take a little bit
of time and look in your local town at what
nonprofits are available that maybe hit that age group and
a place where you could step in and be that
(08:00):
mother figure, be what you're the best at to that
age group that you enjoyed so much. I think purpose
is waiting for you. I think you just gotta gotta
find it. But do you see how that could be
a real win win for you and that kiddo that
can't find you.
Speaker 4 (08:16):
Yeah, just thinking about setting time, I tried to do
that as making my heart warm, so mm hmmm. I
like the idea a lot.
Speaker 2 (08:23):
Yeah, Anita, what now when you're out and about and
you're at dinner and you're traveling and people say what
do you do? Of course, you've got your job and
you've got your kids, but now you've got purpose.
Speaker 3 (08:36):
And as you see those.
Speaker 2 (08:37):
Kids, whether they're at a shelter or you know, foster system,
or again could be traveling around in the military, you
can be that rock. You can be that anchor and
a storm, and then they'll always remember you.
Speaker 3 (08:51):
As that really important.
Speaker 2 (08:53):
Role model that came into their life when they needed them,
needed you the most.
Speaker 3 (08:58):
So I'm excited for you actually.
Speaker 2 (09:01):
And then really at that point you super have it all.
Speaker 3 (09:05):
Can you try that?
Speaker 4 (09:07):
Yeah, I'm definitely going to try that.
Speaker 2 (09:10):
Exciting, right, I mean yeah, And that's just well, and
that is just you being you naturally, and I promise
you I'm legally blind, so I've lived and dependent on
nonprofits a lot through my life. And you are going
to be that source of strength for someone. And again
(09:30):
they can't find you, but you can find them. So
I would start that process today and I think you're
going to find before you know it, you're going to
you know, feel that happy spot.
Speaker 4 (09:41):
Yeah that sounds lovely, And I just want to thank
you for your time today.
Speaker 3 (09:45):
Well you're welcome.
Speaker 2 (09:46):
I believe in you, so enjoy and for everybody listening. Honestly,
when it comes down to being optimistic in life, when
it comes to figuring out how we can make a difference,
how we can you know, fill up our cup with purpose.
It's not about looking good. It's not about look at me,
look what I'm doing. It's about figuring out where is
(10:08):
their lack, where is there a gap? Where is somebody hurting. Know,
how can we make someone else's life better? Because once
we can be that solution to someone's problem, you've got
a life of purpose.
Speaker 3 (10:21):
At that point.
Speaker 2 (10:22):
It's not about the money, it's not about looking good,
and we can't take any of that with us when
our life is coming gone. But what you do have
is the story. What you do have is your ability
to give, and when you do that, you are living
full out.
Speaker 3 (10:37):
So stay with us.
Speaker 2 (10:38):
We're going to be coming right back with Annette Burrera
again being hit by a car. I'm telling you, how
did she rebound from that? How is she so joyful today? Well,
we're going to show you in her story.
Speaker 3 (10:50):
We'll be back.
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Speaker 1 (15:00):
You're listening to Living Full Out with Nancy Soilary. As
a life coach, Nancy can teach you how to stay
strong under pressure and work through challenges you face. Being
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Speaker 3 (15:33):
Thank you for joining us today.
Speaker 2 (15:34):
I'm Nancy Silari and this is the Living Full Out Show,
and today we're talking about being optimistic. And I have
brought you an inspirational guest today, Annette Beerera, for whom
I promise her story has a lot of different twists,
but little morsels of insights there that I know will
help you see situations in your life a little bit
brighter today than maybe you're currently seeing them. So I'd
(15:56):
like to welcome a net to the show. Hi, hold up,
thank you, glad to hear your sweet voice, and really
and that you are that smiling face. Really you You've
always been a joyful little girl growing up. I know
there was a time where you were wearing some bell
bottoms and you tripped on them and you fell and
(16:17):
you injured yourself and you know, let kids do right,
and you ended up having to get a brace on
your leg and use a cane. But the little girl
in you is also as sweet as she is she's
pretty fierce. And when they told you that you had
to sit on the playground and watch all the other
kids have fun.
Speaker 3 (16:37):
What did you do.
Speaker 4 (16:40):
Well?
Speaker 12 (16:40):
This is after I fell well enough or foul, kind
of tired of being hurt, and I looked at that
playground and I was like, I can do that too,
and I got up and I ran and that kind
of just started me off of that cane and that
brace that I was using then.
Speaker 2 (17:03):
You know, and again it's it's not like you're, you know,
adverse to authority, but you if you get something in
your mind, you're going to do it. And that independent,
you know, fear fearless nature is one that I admire.
I feel like we're sisters in different ways. I love that,
But it also kind of got you in trouble, you know,
(17:26):
in your you know, around eighteen ish started hanging out
with the wrong crowd and they were kind of taking
you down a path that really could have been dangerous.
But at the time, your first boyfriend, he really laid
it on the line. What did he say to you
that made you kind of make that switch?
Speaker 12 (17:47):
That boyfriend of mine, he and I had converged about
what I was getting myself into and yes, it was
not good at all, but through like understanding, through conversation,
through communication, you know it was. It was kind of
laid out there that you know, I I want you
(18:12):
to do what you want in your life. However, these
are the boundaries I'm going to set for this relationship
if you would like to move forward.
Speaker 2 (18:22):
And so you said yes, and you know that was
a good move, a good move, although you had to
move back in with your mom. That that wasn't the
independent you you saw yourself being. But in hindsight, all
of that coming together, moving in with your boyfriend to
your mom's was actually exactly what you needed. Because it
(18:44):
wasn't too long after that that you were out with
your sister and friends and you were going to go
to a Starbucks and a McDonald's, things you had done
many many times before. And just as it had it,
you were walking ahead of the group, they got kind
of stalled by some other cars. What happened to you
(19:04):
in it?
Speaker 3 (19:05):
Who hit you?
Speaker 12 (19:08):
I was struck at fifty five miles an hour by
a drunk driver.
Speaker 2 (19:14):
And did that driver stop immediately?
Speaker 12 (19:19):
No? It was I. It was I considered a hit And.
Speaker 2 (19:25):
What and when you when you got hit. Obviously your
sister watched it. That's traumatic, your whole family, your friends.
But you had been in a coma for several months,
and in a coma there's times where you waver in
and out, where you were responsive and not responsive. But
(19:47):
what was most interesting is when you looked at the
whiteboard on the wall.
Speaker 3 (19:51):
What did it say.
Speaker 12 (19:55):
Upon that whiteboard. The thing I woke up to every
morning was you got hit by a car and you
were in this city, And that is quite daunting. If
you don't know what's going on with your world, that
is a scary thing to look out every morning.
Speaker 2 (20:13):
And coming out of the coma, what were your injuries?
Speaker 16 (20:18):
Like?
Speaker 2 (20:18):
What did you have to relearn how to do again?
Speaker 12 (20:24):
I sustained a traumatic brain injury, so so that kind
of messed with the entirety of my being. You know,
I had to learn how to walk, how to eat,
how to go to the bathroom, how to just just
function as a human being, and that was quite the trial.
(20:46):
I also have a right hemmy paralysis, so once again,
along with learning to walk, I had to learn how
to make my body kind of work with me and
be able to have functionality over my world.
Speaker 2 (21:04):
And you're kind of in a club of your own
because not I mean, I actually have been hit by
a car, but I've never been I've never had those
injuries where you've had to relearn everything again. When you
were in the hospital in the rehab, in those really
early months, and I know you were in rehab for
like a year in total, what kept you positive?
Speaker 12 (21:31):
I wasn't. I was going through that trauma. I was
going through that realization that hey, this is where you're
at in the world, and it was immensely hard to
be positive about that. However, it was a children's hospital,
and I am a love of babies, and there were
(21:56):
quite a few babies within that facility, and you know,
going along and playing with those other kids, you were
as hurt as I was, or more so. You know,
that kind of gave me hope that you know, there
there is joy to be had, that there was resilience
(22:16):
in all aspects of the world, and I should be
a part of.
Speaker 3 (22:20):
That, you know what.
Speaker 2 (22:21):
I love that that is so beautiful because it's almost
like observing life. Holding life helped you keep your life going.
And when you got out of the hospital, out of
the rehab you went, you got out, you went to
a new place that was curated for you. What does
(22:43):
that mean?
Speaker 12 (22:48):
What that means is my world was formatted for me
to be as safe, as structured, as functional for me
as it would be. And I'm within that safety, within
that function, within that ease. Not my style, you know,
(23:13):
And I've had to learn how to work with what
I need, how I can achieve a life that is
going to be safe for me and functional for me.
And that's been for the past twelve or so years.
Speaker 2 (23:29):
The problem with that, the problem with that place is
you didn't get to take the babies with you. You
are just now in this safe place, and I want
you to stay with us because obviously there's so much
more to your healing, to how you got to where
you are today, and for everybody listening, truly it is
about being optimistic but yet honest with the hard times,
(23:51):
getting through them so you can live full out.
Speaker 3 (24:03):
Today.
Speaker 17 (24:04):
In school, I learned a lot. In chemistry, I learned
that no one likes me. In English, I learned that
I'm disgusting, and in physics I learned that I'm a loser.
Speaker 13 (24:16):
Today in school, I learned that I'm ugly and useless.
In Jim, I learned that I'm pathetic in a joke.
In History today, I learned that I'm trying.
Speaker 12 (24:26):
Today.
Speaker 18 (24:26):
In school, I learned that I have no friends. In English,
I learned that I make people sick. And at lunch,
I learned that I sit on my own because I smell.
In Chemistry, I learned.
Speaker 17 (24:38):
That no one In Biology, I learned that I'm fat
and stupid.
Speaker 3 (24:42):
And in math, I learned that I'm trash.
Speaker 17 (24:46):
The only thing I didn't learn in school today, the
only thing I didn't learn today.
Speaker 6 (24:49):
The only thing I didn't learn is why no one.
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Speaker 1 (28:04):
You're listening to Living Full Out with Nancy Solari. With
Nancy's expertise, you'll learn how to embrace your potential and
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Speaker 2 (28:23):
Welcome back. I'm Nancy Solarian. This is the Living Full
Out Show. And today we're talking about being optimistic in life,
and you know, sometimes that's those are just words like
how do you convince your mind, your heart that those
words have the power they have that they can override fear.
While our inspirational guest today, Annettburra, has gone through being
(28:44):
hit by a car and really having to heal her
way back to independence, and she's going to continue to
share that story with us. Welcome back and net Hello,
And I know your dad over the years. He was
always a book lover and he got you to become
a book lover. But Dad gave you some pretty good
(29:05):
advice when you were in this place of healing but
feeling like you were in this kind of sterile, curated
place and it was overly safe and you really couldn't
do what Annette wanted to do, and you were angry
at the driver. You just really wanted to find that
driver and make them feel the hurt that you feel.
Speaker 3 (29:26):
What did your dad say to you?
Speaker 12 (29:30):
My father a brilliant man. He told me to be
careful who you hate, because that is who you become.
And in that existence, I didn't want to be a
person who so violently disturbed a stranger's life.
Speaker 2 (29:54):
Which obviously would have been a domino effect to you
hurt that person, It hurts that person's family, and you
didn't want to be You didn't want to you know,
spiral that hurt. And you know your dad was there
for you. Your aunt was there for you, and I
know there was a time that she wanted to help
you and you said, no, I don't want the help.
You know you were you were craving your independence. You
(30:17):
you even had that boyfriend, that first boyfriend that stood
by you and was there for you and helped you
feel pretty and loved. But even you needed to break
out of that relationship and did you ended up meeting
someone else? Why were you so thirsty for getting that
(30:37):
independence back?
Speaker 3 (30:38):
I mean, I know that you.
Speaker 2 (30:39):
Know you want to be on your own and live
on your own, and people taking care of you as
hard but I mean it was really starting to get
to you.
Speaker 12 (30:51):
Another brilliant thing my father told me was I was
telling him how much wanted to go back to my
life and go back to this this world before my injury,
and he stated to me, you need to understand that
(31:11):
this is your life now and you must do what
you can with it within those realms of your life.
And I thought it so hard. That was so challenging
of me, and it made me definitely definitely made my existence.
(31:32):
It's a lot harder.
Speaker 5 (31:35):
But you fight well.
Speaker 12 (31:36):
You don't know that unfamiliarity is TERRIMI.
Speaker 2 (31:42):
Well, and sometimes we have to make bold moves in
our life to to really it's almost like a cry,
like I'm.
Speaker 23 (31:49):
Going to do it, you know.
Speaker 3 (31:51):
And you you ad met.
Speaker 2 (31:52):
A boy and he lived in Las Vegas and you
were living in California and he you had a long
distance courtship. But all lee you decided I'm moving to Vegas.
You paid for the move, you physically did the move,
and when you got to Vegas, he wasn't a knight
in shining armor.
Speaker 3 (32:12):
He actually was abusive to you.
Speaker 2 (32:14):
And then you kind of had to reflect on your
family who had said, don't do it, we don't like them.
And when we do bold things in life, like you
making that move and then it not working out, sometimes
we feel like we've disappointed ourselves or we feel like
(32:36):
I told you so's things like that. How have you
been able to weather that storm?
Speaker 20 (32:46):
Me?
Speaker 12 (32:46):
Am x s Buruh is annoyingly optimistic. Annoyingly It's terrible.
I should get over it, but that has has me
motive waited to get what I want, to understand the
needs that I have and how to facilitate them and
(33:08):
get them for myself. It was a hard journey to
get here, and I'm still challenged by that because you know,
the brilliance that I have in today's day is coming
from a place where I was involved in much hurt
again for a second time. And I'm still challenged by
(33:32):
the fact that I'm getting a life that is wonderful
and beautiful because of a life that was not. And
I am finding that if I just believe and I
am just committed and have that tenacity in myself that
(33:53):
I'm going everything will work out. And I'm incredibly thankful
for that.
Speaker 2 (33:59):
Well and again, and annoyingly optimistic is a good thing.
I wouldn't change that for the world, right, but you
still have this fear that kind of nags at you
a little bit, which is now that you here, you
have your own apartment, right, you're you're on this radio show.
You know you're you're volunteering, like you are doing life independently,
(34:22):
like you have made it to where you want to be.
But I know you fear toxic people coming back in
your life. How what do you do to protect this
independent life you've now created?
Speaker 7 (34:42):
Uh what?
Speaker 14 (34:44):
Oh?
Speaker 24 (34:45):
Sorry. The way that I project that is I so wrap.
Oh my goodness, I'm sorry. The way that I protect
that is I surround myself with outstanding, motivational.
Speaker 12 (35:06):
Oh my god, I don't know what is going on.
I'm sorry.
Speaker 24 (35:13):
Uh, you know how to talk to talk fomal Okay.
Speaker 12 (35:20):
The way that I achieve that, uh, lives that I
want to hold onto because I've created and created this
outstanding life for myself is I surround myself with amazing, motivating,
good people. I have read you. You your friends are
(35:50):
who you are. We heard that saying more than once.
I'm sure hopefully because of very good lesson your friends
make you know and people that I'm sorry.
Speaker 2 (36:02):
No, no, I was just going to say you know,
I want you to want everybody to just kind of
take a moment acknowledge, because I think sometimes you just
always have.
Speaker 3 (36:12):
To be good to yourself.
Speaker 2 (36:13):
I know you battle, you know the brain injury and
all the injuries.
Speaker 3 (36:16):
Still and what I love about.
Speaker 2 (36:19):
What you just experienced is it was just a matter
of the mind trying to find the right words. But
it's like your heart spoke for you. And you know
what you're trying to say is that you now make
sure that you surround yourself with people that will lift
you up.
Speaker 3 (36:39):
Is that right, Cobrat?
Speaker 7 (36:41):
Very much?
Speaker 16 (36:42):
So.
Speaker 12 (36:43):
I think that is going to be the way to
a brilliant life for myself.
Speaker 3 (36:49):
And have you forgiven the driver?
Speaker 12 (36:54):
Yes?
Speaker 3 (36:56):
How did you do that?
Speaker 12 (37:00):
He was twenty five and by the time he was
twenty five he had a fallony DI and a family
hit and run and you become those you hate, right,
And just to think out twenty five, because I was
twenty five at one point, to think that my life
(37:24):
was so changed at that point.
Speaker 4 (37:29):
That was terrible.
Speaker 12 (37:32):
For me and this two young lives were destroyed. And
despite the fact how hard her I got, because broken
bones become unbroken and life moves on. We're both allowed
to have exceptional, exciting, phenomenal, happy lives because I'm going
(37:55):
to just to watch me and I don't feel like
he is deserving of anything less than that. My recovery
was never dependent on him suffering or him not having
a good light, because we can both have that.
Speaker 14 (38:13):
Hmm.
Speaker 2 (38:14):
You know, I love that, and I think it's really
a special and interesting that you've been able to see
that side of him, because there are a lot of
people that may not be able to override that. And
I also want to be on or something. You know,
when this happened, some might call him drinking and driving
(38:38):
and hitting you as an accident, but you are intentional
with your words, and you call it an incident. And
part of that, I know is due to, you know,
the victim panels that you're on for MAD and the
work that you do to volunteer. But why do you
call it an incident?
Speaker 12 (38:58):
I call it and because there was something that happened,
and it was something that definitely created a new world
for myself and then started me on a brand new journey,
even as painful as that may have been. Mad Mothers
Dan Shung driving refers to these exuse occasions as crashes,
(39:26):
and I don't align myself with that terminology because I
much more soft and lovable than a crash. So I
have incidents, and these incidents in your life and how
you respond to them choices, They are kind of a
(39:46):
homewark of who you are as a person. In my
incident created this wonderful net.
Speaker 2 (39:53):
Well, I gotta tell you, I know today you're in
your early thirties, but I might have to see a
driver's license.
Speaker 3 (40:00):
You're pretty wise beyond your years. Be sure you're not
in your eighties.
Speaker 12 (40:07):
I am a Benjamin Bati character.
Speaker 3 (40:09):
Yeah, I definitely get that. Well, Annette.
Speaker 2 (40:13):
We are so proud of you and you're doing it
and like I said, speak.
Speaker 3 (40:19):
From your heart.
Speaker 7 (40:19):
You'll never go wrong.
Speaker 2 (40:21):
The mind will follow right and you know, thank goodness,
Dad and so many others have been able to give
you good wisdom as well. And for everybody listening today,
it is about being you know, sometimes optimistic. Sometimes we
have to go over the moon about it, because why
(40:41):
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When it comes to being optimistic Truly, it's an energy thing.
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you smile, you will feel the vibration get higher. Also,
it's the words you say to yourself, the affirmation saying
you can do it, You're worth it. I promise you,
(45:23):
if you put that good energy out there, you will
be optimistic in moments of adversity.
Speaker 1 (45:37):
You're listening to Living Full Out with Nancy Solary. As
a professional motivational speaker. Nancy can assist you to blow
through your setbacks and start living full out. If you
have an inspirational story you want to share, email us
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Speaker 2 (45:57):
Welcome back on Nancysilari the Living Full Out Show. And
today we've got talking about being optimistic.
Speaker 3 (46:04):
And I really love this topic.
Speaker 2 (46:06):
Because many would say, Nancy, you are just over the
top positive and motivational. And if I have to be
known for that, then you know I'll sign up for
it every day of the week. The truth is, as
you all know, my life hasn't been perfect, you know,
going legally blind, or you know, different things like miscarriages
(46:27):
or financial struggles, or you know, relationship heartbreaks, And I
could go on and on and you might be like, yep,
me too, Yep, me too, yet me do you know?
Speaker 3 (46:36):
The thing is what we all.
Speaker 2 (46:38):
Have in common is we go through trials in life.
But what I think is so magical is when you
have a good family and you're sitting around the table,
or you've got friends and maybe you're at a barbecue
or a happy hour, you have the ability to keep
the conversation surfacing.
Speaker 3 (46:57):
Yeah, so how's your work?
Speaker 2 (46:59):
You know, how holl's the weather, where are you going
for the holidays? Or you have the opportunity to take
it deeper, and I welcome deeper.
Speaker 4 (47:08):
Now.
Speaker 3 (47:08):
Sometimes my friends are thinking.
Speaker 2 (47:10):
Well, Nancy, you know we have to go deep every time.
But I'm not saying that you have to share your deepest,
dark as secrets. But I'm just saying that the greatest
gift that you can give someone is to be heard.
And when somebody is able to feel like, wow, you're
listening to me, like you actually care about my relationship
(47:30):
with my colleagues.
Speaker 3 (47:31):
What you what.
Speaker 2 (47:32):
You actually want to know? What I want for my birthday?
What you actually you know? The more you allow that
person to talk, you're going to see their energy rise.
You're going to see them kind of percolate in a
different way. You're going to see them respond to you
in a way that's that's open. And I really want
(47:52):
you to test that because I've kind of done that myself.
I've been out with friends before and everybody's kind of
going around having these, you know, joy full conversations, and
I'll turn to the person on my right or my
person on the left, and amongst my time next to them,
I'll wiggle my way into something heartfelt. And I can
tell that as I hug them at the end of
(48:13):
our time together, that is the time that they're going
to remember the most, that moment when Nancy heard them,
when I listened.
Speaker 3 (48:22):
And I believe that we.
Speaker 2 (48:23):
All have the ability to be a coach, to be
a sounding board for someone else. Again, being optimistic is
an attitude, right, It's that energy. It's a choice. But
some people can't naturally get to that place without the
help of someone like you. And that is why I
(48:44):
wanted to touch on today. You being that coach, You
being that person that will ask a question to get
them talking. Now, the thing about being optimistic in life too,
is that I believe that we can take the power
back from bad situation. So I can either look at
my life as, oh, well it's me.
Speaker 3 (49:04):
I can't see my own face.
Speaker 2 (49:05):
Ah, I wish I could drive, I wish I could,
you know, read something on a piece of paper. Okay,
And granted I do wish I could do those things.
Or I can say to myself with a little bit
of humor in there being optimistic, well look at that
no gray hairs, can't see them anyway, Or gosh, I
don't know how it is that I don't have any wrinkles,
(49:27):
can't see my face anyway, or you know, gosh, this
outfit looks great. You know, don't see any bulges, or
you know, any things that might.
Speaker 3 (49:36):
Not be flattering.
Speaker 2 (49:37):
The thing is, we have the ability to take moments
in our life and really ride over those negative thoughts.
We have the ability to set the tone and if
throughout this show you've learned anything from our collar to
our guests, to everybody who's participated, it's that life is action.
(49:59):
So be optimistic is an action.
Speaker 3 (50:01):
It's a choice.
Speaker 2 (50:03):
So you have the choice to be homdrum. You have
the choice to be negative, or you have the ability
to say, you know what, I like who I am.
Speaker 3 (50:12):
You know I'm worth it. I'm proud of myself, and
I think it's important that you know.
Speaker 2 (50:18):
We don't get a big ego about it. But I
think it's so critical that we're able to have tools
in our toolbox, as they would say, such as supporters
are a life, such as mantras, such as songs that
lift us up, such as books that kind of get
us into our creative space. When you're able to do
(50:39):
those things, that is where the magic happens. But rather
than allowing yourself to be pulled down by the negative
or be stressed out by the worries, I want you
to actually step out there and say to yourself, I
am worth it.
Speaker 3 (50:53):
I'm going to go for it.
Speaker 2 (50:54):
Today is the day that I'm going to have everything
go my way. I know that sounds like a like
a song, but I do. When I wake up in
the morning, I don't wake up assuming something's going to
go bad.
Speaker 3 (51:07):
I don't wake up.
Speaker 2 (51:08):
Dreading meetings or will I hit that deadline on time.
I just wake up assuming it's going to work out.
Speaker 3 (51:15):
It's all going to be good.
Speaker 2 (51:16):
No stress, no fuss, no muss, as one would say,
but again it's intentional. Now, I want to make sure
as we round out today's show that you have different resources.
If you are at the gym working on getting that
in shape body, if you find that you travel lot
in the car and you're looking for some companionship, take
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(51:38):
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you have Alexa, you can put Living Full Out Show
in as a skill and listen to us as you're
doing cleaning around the living room or the house or laundry. Right,
and most of all, share this show, pay it forward,
this episode and so many others. They're meant to serve,
(52:01):
to educate, to.
Speaker 3 (52:02):
Inspire, and to motivate.
Speaker 2 (52:04):
So please do share the Living Full Out Show with
your friends and family, and together we'll all be in
action living our best life.
Speaker 3 (52:12):
See you soon.
Speaker 1 (52:27):
Thank you for listening to The Living Full Out Show
with Nancy Silari. To learn more about this program, visit
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