October 4, 2025 • 52 mins
Episode: 2025.10.04
The Living Full Out show with Nancy Solari encourages you to love it all. Life often throws us challenges we would never choose, such as a job change or an unexpected setback. Yet these moments can teach us resilience and open doors to new opportunities. Join Nancy as she explores how embracing every experience, both good and bad, allows us to live full out through memorable moments.
Our first caller, Brooks from DuBois, Pennsylvania, has recently undergone major surgery and has been away from work for several months. A self-described workaholic, he is seeking guidance on how to create a healthier work-life balance once he returns. Nancy encourages him to be proud of his giving nature, as it is a trait that often comes with being a people pleaser. She reminds him that this recovery period presents the perfect opportunity to reset his priorities and establish new habits that balance his career and personal life.
Our inspirational guest, Sandy Wolff, has faced life-threatening health challenges and continues to thrive with gratitude and determination. A former fitness trainer turned Mercedes-Benz professional, Sandy has survived multiple cancer diagnoses, including bile duct, uterine, colon, and pancreatic cancer. Despite her genetic condition, Lynch syndrome, she has shown incredible strength through surgeries, chemotherapy, and immunotherapy. Two years after her latest diagnosis, Sandy embraces every day with joy, celebrating her family, her career, and her passion for living. Tune in to hear how Sandy’s love for life has guided her through unimaginable trials and taught her to truly love it all.
Perhaps you are struggling with your own challenges and find it hard to stay optimistic. Remember that every experience, even the difficult ones, can offer wisdom and growth. By choosing to love it all, you too can live full out.
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The Living Full Out show with Nancy Solari encourages you to love it all. Life often throws us challenges we would never choose, such as a job change or an unexpected setback. Yet these moments can teach us resilience and open doors to new opportunities. Join Nancy as she explores how embracing every experience, both good and bad, allows us to live full out through memorable moments.
Our first caller, Brooks from DuBois, Pennsylvania, has recently undergone major surgery and has been away from work for several months. A self-described workaholic, he is seeking guidance on how to create a healthier work-life balance once he returns. Nancy encourages him to be proud of his giving nature, as it is a trait that often comes with being a people pleaser. She reminds him that this recovery period presents the perfect opportunity to reset his priorities and establish new habits that balance his career and personal life.
Our inspirational guest, Sandy Wolff, has faced life-threatening health challenges and continues to thrive with gratitude and determination. A former fitness trainer turned Mercedes-Benz professional, Sandy has survived multiple cancer diagnoses, including bile duct, uterine, colon, and pancreatic cancer. Despite her genetic condition, Lynch syndrome, she has shown incredible strength through surgeries, chemotherapy, and immunotherapy. Two years after her latest diagnosis, Sandy embraces every day with joy, celebrating her family, her career, and her passion for living. Tune in to hear how Sandy’s love for life has guided her through unimaginable trials and taught her to truly love it all.
Perhaps you are struggling with your own challenges and find it hard to stay optimistic. Remember that every experience, even the difficult ones, can offer wisdom and growth. By choosing to love it all, you too can live full out.
Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/living-full-out-show--1474350/support.
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Speaker 1 (00:01):
You're listening the Living Full Out with Nancy Selari. As
a professional motivational speaker. Nancy can assist you to blow
through your setbacks and start living full out. If you
have an inspirational story you want to share, email us
at connect at livingfullout dot com. Once again, here's Nancy.
Speaker 2 (00:19):
Welcome to the Living Full Out Show. My name is
Nancy Silari, and today we're talking about loving it all. Now,
I know that sometimes there's heartbreaks, right, there's moments of concerns,
moments of insecurity. So how could one love it all? Well,
it's during the times that we have those lonely moments,
(00:40):
those crossroads where we're not sure which way to go,
that we actually have our largest growth. And when we
can look back and see that growth, you know what,
that's when we can say that we can we can
love it all, the journey, the highs, the lows. And
in fact, I want you to stay with us because
our inspirational guest, Sandy Wolf, although she had came answer
four times, she can definitely reflect on her life and
(01:04):
say I loved it all. And you want to tune
in and hear how and why she can say those words. Now,
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(01:26):
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us most, we're right there to give you the inspiration
that you need. Now, I'm giving you word for our
producer that we do a listener on the line. Let's
go check in with them. Hello, Welcome to the Living
(01:46):
Full Out Show.
Speaker 3 (01:47):
Hi Nancy, how are you today?
Speaker 2 (01:48):
I am wonderful. Thank you for saying that and asking
how can I help you today?
Speaker 3 (01:53):
Well, Nancy, I've been known to be a bit of
a workaholic throughout my life, and recently I had to
have major surgery which is keeping me from work for
about six months. I've been trying to break out of
that workaholic cycle for a long time now, and I
feel that this is going to give me an opportunity
(02:15):
to hopefully reset my work life balance. And I was
just looking for maybe some tips and pointers to help me,
you know, through this journey.
Speaker 2 (02:25):
Well, first of all, you know, my hat goes off
to you with any surgery, any procedure, because you know,
obviously it was really significant. So we wish you health
and happiness along the way. But are you physically able
to engage in life right now? Are you still kind
of in bed, still kind of playing it a little
bit slow.
Speaker 3 (02:45):
I'm still in the recovery mode, but I'm about halfway through,
which they're starting to allow me to have, you know,
more flexibility and freedom with like starting to get back
into you know, some physical some physical work and physical way.
Speaker 2 (03:00):
Okay, so one of the things that's helped me a lot.
And I'm with you, Okay. It's funny. I think work workaholics.
We were the old saying, right, birds on a feather
flock together, right, I get you. But sometimes being a
workaholic isn't because we just love the sweat and the tears, right,
It's because we kind of we enjoy helping people. We
(03:23):
have a passion, We have a curiosity, and that kind
of makes work kind of a blend of hobby meets passion,
and that is very easy to get lost in that
shuffle so be good to yourself there for me. And
you may or may not know this, but I am
legally blind and as I lost my vision over the years,
(03:45):
and I've also been in accident, so I've had that
recovery time, you know, needing to take it slow. So
I do understand where you are. But I've learned over
the years. That's what's really helped me is to designate
time and days for certain actions. And what I mean
by that is because I still have so much to
(04:05):
do in my every day between you know, physical therapy
or you know, running my company, or you know, just
getting a good night's sleep, right, I mean that takes time.
So I always tell my family and friends, I'm like,
Sunday is the day to call me. That is the day.
And they respect that. They get very few calls from
(04:28):
friends and family during the week. They want to honor that,
but I get a bazillion calls on Sunday. It's Sunday Funday, okay.
But I've taught them that this is the day that
I want to be with you. This is the day
where I want to spend hours on the phone. This
is the day where I want to go to lunch
Like this is my day that I blocked off to
be with all of you. It doesn't mean if they're
(04:51):
having a bad day or they need a pep talk
from Nancy, that they can't call me, but just to
kind of do every day kind of how's the weather talk?
Sunday is the day now. I've also trained people in
my life that I've learned over time that I'm an
early bird. I just am, and so I will oftentimes
get up at four thirty five, five thirty six in
(05:12):
the morning. I love it. It's like the world hasn't started yet.
But I go to bed at sometimes seven thirty to
wind down eight eight thirty, definitely by nine, and so
people don't call me at that time. They don't even
call me near the time, right. So I think a
lot of times it's about to protect yourself from becoming
(05:33):
a workaholic. To bring balance into your life, we sometimes
have to teach people those pockets of time and on
and honor your own ep and flows of when you're
your peak best or when you need your downtime. And
that's true for anything. And also I really believe in
utilizing the tools that we have. Set alarms on your phone,
(05:58):
so if you're gonna allow yourself to check emails or
do something that might be in that workaholic realm, or
or any passion you may have, set a timer to it,
and then honor when the timer goes off. Make that switch. Also,
consider setting up your voicemail as like a little mini assistant,
you know, rather than just Hi, this is my name,
(06:20):
call me, leave your name twic you know, number twice.
You know, let people know Hey when if you get
this voicemail, just know it might take me twenty four
hours to get back to you, but I've got your message.
I will call you back or direct them to Hey.
If it's a work need, email me. Here's my email.
Because I think if we can alleviate the need to
(06:41):
pick up, that will also bring you the piece and
the space you need. Have you tried any of those.
Speaker 3 (06:50):
I have a part of me. I have in the past. Recently,
I've been working on setting alarms, trying to be more
intentional about the time that I that I do have
what you started off with with, a lot of times
workaholics are helpers. That's me to a t that you know,
it's you know, my busy day is just my normal routine.
(07:14):
But then trying to help other people with their tasks
as well. And so it's you know, every year, it's
one of those things at New Year's where we talk about,
you know, what are we going to try to do?
And I always try to be like I want to
say no more and but but at the same time,
I have people that I care about and I don't
want to let them down. So, you know, I like
(07:35):
the idea of letting them know that, hey, this is
the day that you can contact me. And then the
rest of the time, you know, it's time for me
to focus on on the other things that I need
to do.
Speaker 4 (07:44):
So can I ask.
Speaker 2 (07:46):
You an honest question? Because I had to ask myself
the same question. You know, for a long time people
would say, oh my gosh, I bet Nancy's working. Oh
what are you doing this weekend? Are you working? But
you know what, I actually didn't mind it. Yeah, pretty
proud of it actually because I'm working now. But I've
got Derek and Brent and I'm with you. Yeah, sign
(08:06):
me up, right. This is not terrible.
Speaker 5 (08:09):
This is great.
Speaker 2 (08:10):
So sometimes work is not what people think it is,
and so is the narrative or the feeling bad about
working is that really coming from your inner compass, from
your gosh, I don't want to work so much? Or
is that a little bit other people saying that you
work too much?
Speaker 3 (08:31):
I would definitely say there's outside influence in that a lot,
so a family, spouse, you know, just people that are
in my circle of influence.
Speaker 2 (08:43):
And so I say that because personally I want change
that person who you are, your desire to serve. I
want change that for the world. And you have to
be very very careful of how you navigate these changes
because where others might look at it as work, oh,
he's working, what they don't see is the result of
(09:06):
your action. If your action helps another person, if your
action relieves somebody else's strain, you know, teaches somebody else,
something elevates somebody else, progresses somebody else. I mean, that's
that's purpose. That is I think what we're on this
planet to do. Now, you don't want to let down
(09:27):
the spouse, the kids, the family, all those people. So
that's where I think designating cut off times. Okay, I'm
not going to not gonna do much after five. Okay,
Sunday is fun day, you know, but but be also
very careful to over let the rattle of what people say.
Change who you are, because that's what you were brought
(09:49):
into this world to do, to be And while some
may call it work, you call it serving. That was
your word, right, yes, yeah, So I want you to
really think about our conversation today, think about what others
are saying, think about how you can just carve out
(10:09):
your schedule differently. But I also want you to not
change who you are because personally you seem like a
kind soul, great heart gold and if what you do
does help other people, then those people are going to
miss out. If you try to appease the people who
think you're working too much, it's a slippery slope, so
(10:30):
tread lightly. Okay, But thank you so much for calling in,
and your question was really perfect and for everybody today,
we all have that same twenty four hours in the day, right,
how are you going to spend it? Make sure though,
that you're spending it the way that brings you the
most joy, because today we're talking about loving it all
(10:54):
and that's what it means to live full out.
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(11:24):
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(11:45):
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Speaker 1 (15:00):
You're listening to Living Full Out with Nancy Solari. As
a life coach, Nancy can teach you how to stay
strong under pressure and work through challenges you face. Being
legally blind, Nancy inspires others to be resilient and overcoming
obstacles and live full out. You can ask Nancy for
advice in your life on relationships, finance, business, health, and more.
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Speaker 2 (15:33):
Thank you so much for joining us. I'm Nancy Silarian.
This is the Living Full Out Show, and today we're
talking about loving it all and sometimes we have to
ask how do you do that? And that is why
we bring inspirational guests like today Sandy Wolf to the call,
because it is about cracking the code, like when life
(15:53):
gets hard, how do you still see the joy? How
do you cherish moments? And Sandy has done that through many,
many different bouts with cancer. So I'd like to welcome
Sandy to the show.
Speaker 15 (16:05):
Thank you, I appreciate that.
Speaker 2 (16:07):
Happy to have you. Well, My dear I don't. I
don't think I've ever said this before. I can't believe
I am talking to a cow palace champion now. Someone
in our audience today, Yeah, somebody might say, why is
(16:29):
she starting there? Because you know, sometimes in life we
have heartbreaks and things that happen in our life early on,
but sometimes we're built around love and we have a
great childhood. And I celebrate that too. And my dear
at eighteen years old, after having grown up, you know,
(16:50):
third generation agricultural family, being a really hard worker on
the farm and giving it all and even getting a
degree eventually in agriculture, tell me what a cow palace
champion is?
Speaker 16 (17:03):
What is that?
Speaker 15 (17:05):
Oh my gosh. So I had a steer. You know,
when you're raising a steer, it's a year project and
so and it's the state of California, but it could
be you know, people from Oregon anyway, Western United States,
and you go in the ring just like you see
these dog shows, only steer with a steer. And my
(17:27):
steer was the champion. So it was this this animal
that I'd taken from a baby steer, and I'd fed
it right, and I'd groomed it ray, and I'd cultivated
it and it was the best of the best. It
was a super exciting time for me.
Speaker 2 (17:44):
And what was that cow's name?
Speaker 4 (17:47):
Moose?
Speaker 2 (17:47):
Oh, let's your name.
Speaker 15 (17:49):
Was Moose's purchased by Bank of America.
Speaker 2 (17:53):
Okay, very cool? Well you know little did Sandy? Did
you know that? Believe it or not? All that nurturing,
all that cross and t's dotting ice eyes, giving everything
you had to Moose. Boy, those attention to detail moments
really came in handy later on in your life. I know,
(18:14):
as your life journeyed on, you actually got you got
married early about twenty one, and it was a man
that you had known actually when you were in eighth
grade and eventually reconnected and got married, and one thing
led to another and you found yourself moving to Vegas.
You had two kids, and for all intense purposes, you
(18:38):
were very happy. But you know, as you as you
started to segue out of that relationship, what changed?
Speaker 15 (18:51):
Gosh, what changed?
Speaker 4 (18:54):
You know?
Speaker 15 (18:55):
In life, you just have to go when you go.
You know, it's like the ability to respond to what
you're feeling at the time, what you're doing at the time.
I'm not a I'm not a compulsive person, but I
am not afraid to move to a better place.
Speaker 2 (19:17):
I guess is I love that. I think they call
that a free spirit in a good way.
Speaker 13 (19:24):
Right.
Speaker 15 (19:24):
I've been called a free spirit before, absolutely, And.
Speaker 2 (19:28):
Boy did you need that free spirit in you to
continue to weather the storms that were coming you. And
again you're even though that relationship ended you, you jumped
right into another one. You had a second marriage, and
that one was for another ten years, both ten years,
and it was towards the end of that relationship though,
(19:52):
that you started to not feel so good. And even
after it ended you, you went on a cruise. You
you started look your eyes went yellow. Then after some
time you kind of shrug that off. And because you
were a fitness trainer, you thought maybe you were just tired.
You were losing weight. Then your body started turning yellow.
And thank goodness for your internal medicine friend. What did
(20:16):
that friend tell you to do?
Speaker 15 (20:20):
She told me that I had one of three things.
That I had either an infection blockage like gallstones in
my bile duct, or I had cancer. I of course
denied that I had cancer because I was a fitness
trainer and I didn't think that I would have an
(20:40):
infection because I did so much cardiovascular work all the time,
so I told everybody that I was sick, but it
was because I had gallstones in my bio duct. I
self diagnosed.
Speaker 2 (20:53):
Now that's okay for you, spirits do that from time
to time. So again, we wouldn't change you for the world.
And I don't want to mess with the cow Palace
champion winner. So you say what you want to say.
But at the end of the day, this was serious,
and yes, this was stage three serious, this was you
(21:14):
could die serious. What type of cancer ultimately did you
have and what did they do to help you?
Speaker 15 (21:24):
I had cancer the bile duck that had spread to
my liver and the top part of my pancreas. So
the only way for me to survive was actually through surgery,
and so I had surgery. The pancreas and the liver
are connected by the bile duck. So basically in my surgery,
(21:45):
they took two thirds of my liver and they connected
my liver and my pancreas with intestine cutting out you know, gallbladder,
bile duck, all that and a portion of my stomach.
Speaker 2 (21:57):
Wow, so they are kind of sod you together gave
you different radiation and chemo, and and you know you
found your way back and that scary could have died,
but you survived. But what I think is is so
interesting is you know you were a cruiser. You loved
going on cruises, right, so you knew how to have fun.
(22:21):
But cancer came back around a second time. How was
that diagnosed?
Speaker 15 (22:28):
That was just diagnosed at just the regular pap smear,
gynecology check check out mm hmmm.
Speaker 2 (22:40):
And actually, I think a lot of women put that
off because they're like, Eh, nothing's going to come of it.
But what I think is so important, while I'm so
glad you mentioned that, is it was it was there,
And so how did they treat that one?
Speaker 15 (22:56):
You know, that one I caught so early that they
just it was just surgical. I just had a hysterectomy
and that was it. I didn't need chemo. It was
stage one A. They caught it right in the beginning.
Speaker 2 (23:11):
And again, cancer is one of those things where you're
you're kind of in that club, but you're in the
club that has actually had it four times, not just once,
not just twice. So I really want everyone to stay
with us, because you know, I don't know how we
haven't solved cancer. I really wish we could, and I
(23:35):
don't want anything to happen to my sweet new friend
and cow Palace champion Sandy. But stay with us, okay, everybody,
because in her story there's a lot of learning. So
lean in. We'll be right back after this break. Today
it's all about loving life as you live full out.
Speaker 17 (24:03):
Today in school, I learned a lot. In chemistry, I
learned that no one likes me. In English, I learned
that I'm disgusting, and in Physics, I learned that I'm
a loser.
Speaker 12 (24:16):
Today, in school, I learned that I'm ugly and useless.
In jim, I learned that I'm pathetic in a joke.
In History today, I learned that I'm trying.
Speaker 15 (24:26):
Today.
Speaker 18 (24:26):
In school, I learned that I have no friends. In English,
I learned that I make people sick, and at lunch
I learned that I sit on my own because I smell.
In Chemistry, I learned.
Speaker 17 (24:38):
That no one In Biology, I learned that I'm fat
and stupid.
Speaker 11 (24:42):
And in Math I learned that I'm trash.
Speaker 17 (24:46):
The only thing I didn't learn in school today, the
only thing I didn't learn today, The only thing I
didn't learn is why no one.
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Speaker 1 (28:04):
You're listening to Living Full Out with Nancy Soilary. With
Nancy's expertise, you'll learn how to embrace your potential and
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Speaker 2 (28:23):
I'm Nancysilari and this is the Living Full Out Show,
and today we're talking about loving it all in life,
even the times that we are we feel tortured or
stressed or really scared. And our inspirational guest today, Sandy Wolf,
is sharing with us her story of how through different
four different cancer times in our life that she can
(28:44):
lift her head high today and we're learning how she
does that. So welcome back Sandy to the show.
Speaker 4 (28:50):
Thank you.
Speaker 2 (28:51):
There was a time, Sandy, way back when when I
sold real estate, and it was this random offer to
go do like a whole body scan, right, and I thought, well,
that would be good, because hey, if there's something creeping
around in my body, maybe I'll know about it early.
And you know, you'd already had these two different cancers,
and you'd already been kind of through different surgeries and
(29:13):
you know, radiation and chemo, and you know you kind
of got the invitation to to do this scan or
a scan, maybe not the same one I did, but
you didn't want to do that. Something in your mind
was like, I don't know, you decided to take a
baby step. What did you do and what did they find?
Speaker 15 (29:32):
Well? I decided before I would go do one of
those full body scans because I knew I was sort
of cancer prone and I didn't want to light the
whole place up. So I decided just to get a colonoscopy.
Speaker 2 (29:48):
And when they when you did that, did you did
you mentally go into it thinking they're going to find something.
I know, they're just my luck, they're going to find something,
or just you know what, I'm gonna check this off
and I'll me good.
Speaker 15 (30:01):
Absolutely, I did not even think that they would find cancer.
I absolutely went to the colonoscopy just sort of as
insurance before I did the full body scan.
Speaker 2 (30:14):
M Now they did find something, caught it early again, right,
So that's really good. Now, one of your daughters is
a doctor, and and you know, she encouraged you to
to you know, to get another scan of a different
kind and and just continue to you know, keep yourself
(30:35):
educated on your body and what could maybe happening. And
so what scan was that and what did they find?
Speaker 15 (30:44):
Well, after I went through my colon cancer, it was
six months later, and my daughter just wanted me just
to go do just a regular cat scan just to
be sure that there wasn't any more cancer growing. And
so I went and actually did a cat scan at
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six months after my colon cancer.
Speaker 2 (31:08):
And what did that cat scan find?
Speaker 15 (31:11):
They found, like, they found that there was something in
the area. They didn't know if it was colon cancer
or if it was pancreatic cancer. You know, cat scans
aren't absolute. They're kind of fuzzy, so to speak. So
they knew that there was something in that area. You know,
of course we were hoping it was colon cancer, but
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it was in the area of the pancreas.
Speaker 2 (31:35):
And what what you know at that point, you know
you now had you know cancer. Now this is your
fourth time, we're back to the pancreas again. You had
to get really aggressive in many ways, aggressive in terms
of the treatment and so I want to kind of
go there first, but also aggressive in terms of education,
(31:58):
like why does this happening? So in terms of your
treatment though through a series of events and again the
tenacity that you had to get your paperwork to specialists
at UCLA. What was the overall regimen they had you do.
Speaker 15 (32:16):
For my pancreatic cancer. Yes, so, so prior to my
diagnosis for pancreatic cancer, I was diagnosed with a it's
called Lynch syndrome. It's similar to the Baraca gene. It
is I do have a cancer gene basically, And so
I got to UCLA and the what you do you
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present your all of your cat scans and pet scans
and and your complete diagnosis. They knew I had Lynch syndrome,
and they put me in a clinical trial, and in
the clinical trial they introduced immunotherapy, and because it was
pancreatic cancer and Hankgrad cancer is so tough to beat,
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they also put me on four different types of chemo.
So I had a chemo and a immunotherapy that I
did Every two weeks, I would go to UCLA, I
would do the spend all day getting infusions, and then
I did that for six months, which shrank the tumor
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a little bit. And then I had a surgery in
July of twenty three called the Whipple, which is where
they take half of the pancreas.
Speaker 2 (33:35):
And this has been now like just a couple of years.
Speaker 4 (33:39):
Hour.
Speaker 2 (33:39):
Yeah, yeah, how are you feeling today?
Speaker 15 (33:43):
I actually feel amazing. I feel good. It's it's been
a long road, but you know, I find hope. I'm
a mentor person, so I find hope of stories of
people who had the Whipple surgery and are still alive seven, eight,
nine years out, and so I kind of find inspiration
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through that.
Speaker 4 (34:07):
I hike a lot.
Speaker 15 (34:09):
I'm super healthy, So you know, I.
Speaker 2 (34:14):
Know that your your grandmother for whom you adored, who
passed when you were, you know, a teenager, she had cancer,
your dad had cancer. You obviously have this this gene
and you're actually your oldest daughter has it, but your
youngest doesn't, which is a good thing, But how heavy
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is that on your heart as a mom, knowing that
your oldest daughter has it too.
Speaker 15 (34:43):
Well, first of all, we have to remember that. So
my daughters are an evolution of me. So it's just
like anything else, you kind of take the good with
the bad, right, So they got me as a mom,
and my one daughter happened to get this Lynch syndrome gene.
The great news is the technology just even in the
last ten years with genetic cancers and cancer in general,
(35:07):
the development with AI. I mean, I am hopeful and
I believe that in six or seven years cancer will
be so curable.
Speaker 4 (35:19):
I feel like.
Speaker 15 (35:20):
All we have to do if somebody's fighting cancer, all
they have to do is hang on just a couple
more years. Like, I really feel that all these protocols
are just evolving.
Speaker 2 (35:32):
So far from your lips to God's ears. Honestly, that
is I think that's the hope that we've always had,
and I believe in that. I think we have to
always be positive. And it's interesting because as scary as
having cancer four times has been, and there's always uncertainties,
but again, you're a very hopeful person that great things
(35:53):
around the corner. In some ways during the times of
your cancer, it really brought your family closer, time with
your kids to honest conversations. How did that make your
feel how did that grow your relationships?
Speaker 15 (36:09):
Well, my last name is Wolf, and we have a
saying this, the pack is the strength of the wolf,
and the wolf is the strength of the pack. And
in families, it's it's interesting in our family how we
are all strong for each other. It's kind of like,
I don't know when I find when I am tough
(36:31):
about something, my entire family gets tough with their life.
So I said that my daughters are an evolution of me,
but they're also stronger and braver and they accomplish more.
And my grandkids are a product of them. So my
grandchildren are even stronger and braver and tougher than even
(36:52):
my children. It's really it's really interesting to see how
boldness passes on.
Speaker 2 (36:59):
And do you how do you balance that fear of
it coming back versus putting cancer in its place? Saying
We've had four dances. We're done.
Speaker 15 (37:12):
I think the the important thing for me is, you know,
people think that when you're diagnosed with cancer, you're like,
oh my god, I'm running out of time. Life is
almost over. I believe that we have all the time
in the world. We have all the time in the
world to create what we want to create, and spend
(37:33):
time with who we want to spend time with. And
when we get with people, family, friends, even you and I,
it's cool to be in sort of a bubble. You
know this this we we don't have to rush. We're
in a bubble of time. And so I guess the
(37:55):
big my biggest learning is there's no rush and no hurry.
It's like we have all the time in the world
to create what we need to create.
Speaker 2 (38:05):
And you know, you have want to talk about dancing.
You know if you actually danced with love a lot too, right,
and yeah, you know had a couple marriages and different
reasons it didn't work out. And you know, you had
a gentleman that was with you through cancer three into
cancer four and that segued as well. What have you
learned through all of this though of your next life partner?
(38:27):
What do you need in that person to whether maybe
another storm.
Speaker 15 (38:32):
Well, first of all, I think it's important to realize
that heartbreak is like heartbreak is just a launch pad
for reinvention. So when we're in a relationship, well I'm
in relationship, it's you become a mirror of each other,
and so people take you to a certain place. But
(38:53):
when I came out of my last relationship after my
pancreatic cancer, there were things in life that I wanted
to do that I hadn't been able to do. So again,
it was a launchpad for me to be more creative, for.
Speaker 4 (39:07):
Me to.
Speaker 15 (39:10):
Even with my working out, you know, for me to
wake up earlier and go hike. So I had these
things that were on my to do list that I
was actually able to fit into my life.
Speaker 13 (39:24):
You know what.
Speaker 2 (39:24):
I love that. And you know you are a doer,
I mean even after cancer one you I mean you've
you've done three marathons, you know, New York, Boston, Vegas,
and I'm I mean, you are somebody who is not
going to be held back by cancer. I know You've
got kind of your spiritual side as well that leads
(39:48):
you and guides you. And I am just so proud
of you. I am just thrilled with Nancy your outlook
on life and I'm impressed. And I mean I just
only say that cancer picked on the wrong woman. I
mean you, you know you, You and Moose are both
(40:09):
champions in life.
Speaker 4 (40:10):
Truly.
Speaker 2 (40:11):
Thank you, Nancy, thanks so thank you for sharing your
story and for everybody listening today. Just like Sandy, I mean,
this is what this show is about. We want to
hear from you. If you've gone through something in your life,
share with us, go to connect at livingfullout dot com.
Let us know what you went through, how you got
through it, and perhaps you too can be on the show,
(40:33):
just like Sandy as an inspirational guest. Sandy, love you
so much. Thank you so much for being on the show.
You are truly loving life.
Speaker 9 (40:42):
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Speaker 2 (40:43):
Thank you and for everybody, we'll be right back after
this break. It's all about living full out.
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When it comes to loving it all, I want you
to gulp life up.
Speaker 4 (45:06):
Now.
Speaker 2 (45:06):
I realize you might say no, Nancy, I don't want
to gulf up the heartbreak. I don't want to gulp
up the times that I've failed. And I'm saying yes,
you do. You know a lot of times I put
things on my plate and I just eat faster through
all the task and goals I have in life. Because
you want to feel that fire, you want to feel
that zest of energy running through your body. That's what
(45:28):
it means to live full out and love life big time.
Speaker 1 (45:37):
You're listening to Living Full Out with Nancy Solari. As
a professional motivational speaker. Nancy can assist you to blow
through your setbacks and start living full out. If you
have an inspirational story you want to share, email us
at connect at livingfoullout dot com. Once again, here's Nancy.
Speaker 2 (45:56):
Thank you so much for joining us today. I'm Nancy.
This the Living Full Out show and Wow, loving life
is who doesn't love that word?
Speaker 7 (46:07):
Right?
Speaker 2 (46:07):
To love life, to celebrate the winds, but also not
be intimidated or scared of the times that we fall.
I mean, I think that's the secret sauce to life.
And it's interesting when I go down memory lane and
I know we all have common threads of relationship heartbreaks,
(46:29):
maybe career disappointments, times we feel lonely. I don't know
anybody who escapes those moments of time, but in the lonely,
in the time of disappointment, in the time of a heartbreak.
I've always thought to myself, I do have love. I
do have people in my life I can turn to.
(46:52):
And it's interesting because I really am grateful for that.
But friendships, relationships, they do come and go. I was
given advice one time that people come into our life
for either a season, a reason, or forever, and you
(47:12):
have to love time when you're with people because it
isn't guarantee, it isn't a forever thing. And so what
I mean by the season, reason and forever is sometimes
you might go through a time in your life, maybe
you have kids and you are, you know, hanging out
with a certain group of men or women and just
enjoying that time period. But as the kids grow, the
(47:36):
relationships kind of fall away. Or maybe you join and
band up with people for a reason. Maybe you're you know,
training for a marathon. Maybe you're taking a class at
a college and you're there for a reason and you're
all in that same setting, you're all in that same mindset,
and then when it's over, everyone goes their separate ways.
(47:58):
But then there's those people that are you know, those
people that you don't talk to them all the time.
Maybe it's even been like a decade. You pick up
the phone, you pick right back up where you left off.
Through all of that, you have to love those different
stages and trust in the fact that as you have
a heartbreak, you have a career disappointment, you have those
(48:20):
lonely scary times, that the right people, at the right
time will be there for you. Now, I want to
give a little love to the fur friends in our
life are fur babies, because equally they can be there.
I mean I think about well, my guide dog Frost
and all he does for me and guiding me around
town and all that different emotional support animals of different
(48:45):
kinds do to help people feel that secureeness that maybe
they don't feel in everyday life. Again, fur love is
there as well, and one that we should really lean into.
It will really depend on where you are in your life.
You might be in a place where it is a
(49:05):
rough patch. Everything is going wrong, the house of cards
are crumbling, and the friendships are just not there. Well,
we will be there for you. You can plug in and
listen to the show. I know it isn't exactly the
same as having a bestie, but truly, everyone who comes
on the show as an inspirational guest comes to share,
(49:28):
to lift you up, to educate you, to give you
that one idea that maybe you haven't heard before. All
the people that call in and ask really good, thoughtful
questions and seek life coaching advice, I love that. I
love that energy of people who just want to rise
and get out of a place of stuck into a
place of thriving. I also encourage you to do something
(49:53):
in your life that has meaning because loving life, loving
it all is about the people in our life, the
fur babies, but it's also about loving yourself.
Speaker 13 (50:05):
Now.
Speaker 2 (50:05):
It's interesting because as someone who's legally blind, I don't
quite have that ability to look in the mirror and
have a love chat with myself. So I always kind
of have those chats just out loud, and you know,
it may sound strange, but I actually do say, you know, Nancy,
I'm proud of you. Our good job, Nancy, way to go.
(50:26):
Sometimes I'll even give myself a little punch on the shoulder.
Have you talked to yourself lately? Have you given yourself
positive affirmations? Have you taken time to look at what
you've done well? And you might say I do nothing well.
Everybody says, I don't do anything. Well, I'm constantly just
(50:46):
saying and doing the wrong things. I don't know that
that's true, because I choose and believe that we are
all here for a reason. You just have to find
that purpose. You have to find you know what it
is that is that natural gift and talent that you're
good at. It doesn't even feel like work. It's it's
just natural. It feels really good. It's something that brings
(51:10):
you joy. And you might say, well, gosh, video games
bring me joy, and you know, that's just wasting my time.
I don't know, is it. Maybe doing those video games
are making you really sharp. You're you know, you're able
to process, you know, things quickly, make micromoves, macromoves fast.
Speaker 4 (51:30):
Right.
Speaker 2 (51:31):
I really believe that with everything we do, it's there's
a learning and there is an ability to springboard to
be a better self. At the end of the day, though,
it really will always come down to you, and that
is good and bad at the same time. It's it's
it's good because you have the ability to set your narrative,
(51:54):
you have the ability to make a pivot and make
a change. But it's bad because you have to remember
this is your race to run. What people say, what
their thoughts, their opinions, they can keep them. This is
your life, this is your vision. Run, enjoy it, make
the most of it, and most of all, do what
(52:15):
that's right. Live full out.
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Speaker 2 (00:19):
Welcome to the Living Full Out Show. My name is
Nancy Silari, and today we're talking about loving it all. Now,
I know that sometimes there's heartbreaks, right, there's moments of concerns,
moments of insecurity. So how could one love it all? Well,
it's during the times that we have those lonely moments,
(00:40):
those crossroads where we're not sure which way to go,
that we actually have our largest growth. And when we
can look back and see that growth, you know what,
that's when we can say that we can we can
love it all, the journey, the highs, the lows. And
in fact, I want you to stay with us because
our inspirational guest, Sandy Wolf, although she had came answer
four times, she can definitely reflect on her life and
(01:04):
say I loved it all. And you want to tune
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(01:46):
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Speaker 3 (01:47):
Hi Nancy, how are you today?
Speaker 2 (01:48):
I am wonderful. Thank you for saying that and asking
how can I help you today?
Speaker 3 (01:53):
Well, Nancy, I've been known to be a bit of
a workaholic throughout my life, and recently I had to
have major surgery which is keeping me from work for
about six months. I've been trying to break out of
that workaholic cycle for a long time now, and I
feel that this is going to give me an opportunity
(02:15):
to hopefully reset my work life balance. And I was
just looking for maybe some tips and pointers to help me,
you know, through this journey.
Speaker 2 (02:25):
Well, first of all, you know, my hat goes off
to you with any surgery, any procedure, because you know,
obviously it was really significant. So we wish you health
and happiness along the way. But are you physically able
to engage in life right now? Are you still kind
of in bed, still kind of playing it a little
bit slow.
Speaker 3 (02:45):
I'm still in the recovery mode, but I'm about halfway through,
which they're starting to allow me to have, you know,
more flexibility and freedom with like starting to get back
into you know, some physical some physical work and physical way.
Speaker 2 (03:00):
Okay, so one of the things that's helped me a lot.
And I'm with you, Okay. It's funny. I think work workaholics.
We were the old saying, right, birds on a feather
flock together, right, I get you. But sometimes being a
workaholic isn't because we just love the sweat and the tears, right,
It's because we kind of we enjoy helping people. We
(03:23):
have a passion, We have a curiosity, and that kind
of makes work kind of a blend of hobby meets passion,
and that is very easy to get lost in that
shuffle so be good to yourself there for me. And
you may or may not know this, but I am
legally blind and as I lost my vision over the years,
(03:45):
and I've also been in accident, so I've had that
recovery time, you know, needing to take it slow. So
I do understand where you are. But I've learned over
the years. That's what's really helped me is to designate
time and days for certain actions. And what I mean
by that is because I still have so much to
(04:05):
do in my every day between you know, physical therapy
or you know, running my company, or you know, just
getting a good night's sleep, right, I mean that takes time.
So I always tell my family and friends, I'm like,
Sunday is the day to call me. That is the day.
And they respect that. They get very few calls from
(04:28):
friends and family during the week. They want to honor that,
but I get a bazillion calls on Sunday. It's Sunday Funday, okay.
But I've taught them that this is the day that
I want to be with you. This is the day
where I want to spend hours on the phone. This
is the day where I want to go to lunch
Like this is my day that I blocked off to
be with all of you. It doesn't mean if they're
(04:51):
having a bad day or they need a pep talk
from Nancy, that they can't call me, but just to
kind of do every day kind of how's the weather talk?
Sunday is the day now. I've also trained people in
my life that I've learned over time that I'm an
early bird. I just am, and so I will oftentimes
get up at four thirty five, five thirty six in
(05:12):
the morning. I love it. It's like the world hasn't started yet.
But I go to bed at sometimes seven thirty to
wind down eight eight thirty, definitely by nine, and so
people don't call me at that time. They don't even
call me near the time, right. So I think a
lot of times it's about to protect yourself from becoming
(05:33):
a workaholic. To bring balance into your life, we sometimes
have to teach people those pockets of time and on
and honor your own ep and flows of when you're
your peak best or when you need your downtime. And
that's true for anything. And also I really believe in
utilizing the tools that we have. Set alarms on your phone,
(05:58):
so if you're gonna allow yourself to check emails or
do something that might be in that workaholic realm, or
or any passion you may have, set a timer to it,
and then honor when the timer goes off. Make that switch. Also,
consider setting up your voicemail as like a little mini assistant,
you know, rather than just Hi, this is my name,
(06:20):
call me, leave your name twic you know, number twice.
You know, let people know Hey when if you get
this voicemail, just know it might take me twenty four
hours to get back to you, but I've got your message.
I will call you back or direct them to Hey.
If it's a work need, email me. Here's my email.
Because I think if we can alleviate the need to
(06:41):
pick up, that will also bring you the piece and
the space you need. Have you tried any of those.
Speaker 3 (06:50):
I have a part of me. I have in the past. Recently,
I've been working on setting alarms, trying to be more
intentional about the time that I that I do have
what you started off with with, a lot of times
workaholics are helpers. That's me to a t that you know,
it's you know, my busy day is just my normal routine.
(07:14):
But then trying to help other people with their tasks
as well. And so it's you know, every year, it's
one of those things at New Year's where we talk about,
you know, what are we going to try to do?
And I always try to be like I want to
say no more and but but at the same time,
I have people that I care about and I don't
want to let them down. So, you know, I like
(07:35):
the idea of letting them know that, hey, this is
the day that you can contact me. And then the
rest of the time, you know, it's time for me
to focus on on the other things that I need
to do.
Speaker 4 (07:44):
So can I ask.
Speaker 2 (07:46):
You an honest question? Because I had to ask myself
the same question. You know, for a long time people
would say, oh my gosh, I bet Nancy's working. Oh
what are you doing this weekend? Are you working? But
you know what, I actually didn't mind it. Yeah, pretty
proud of it actually because I'm working now. But I've
got Derek and Brent and I'm with you. Yeah, sign
(08:06):
me up, right. This is not terrible.
Speaker 5 (08:09):
This is great.
Speaker 2 (08:10):
So sometimes work is not what people think it is,
and so is the narrative or the feeling bad about
working is that really coming from your inner compass, from
your gosh, I don't want to work so much? Or
is that a little bit other people saying that you
work too much?
Speaker 3 (08:31):
I would definitely say there's outside influence in that a lot,
so a family, spouse, you know, just people that are
in my circle of influence.
Speaker 2 (08:43):
And so I say that because personally I want change
that person who you are, your desire to serve. I
want change that for the world. And you have to
be very very careful of how you navigate these changes
because where others might look at it as work, oh,
he's working, what they don't see is the result of
(09:06):
your action. If your action helps another person, if your
action relieves somebody else's strain, you know, teaches somebody else,
something elevates somebody else, progresses somebody else. I mean, that's
that's purpose. That is I think what we're on this
planet to do. Now, you don't want to let down
(09:27):
the spouse, the kids, the family, all those people. So
that's where I think designating cut off times. Okay, I'm
not going to not gonna do much after five. Okay,
Sunday is fun day, you know, but but be also
very careful to over let the rattle of what people say.
Change who you are, because that's what you were brought
(09:49):
into this world to do, to be And while some
may call it work, you call it serving. That was
your word, right, yes, yeah, So I want you to
really think about our conversation today, think about what others
are saying, think about how you can just carve out
(10:09):
your schedule differently. But I also want you to not
change who you are because personally you seem like a
kind soul, great heart gold and if what you do
does help other people, then those people are going to
miss out. If you try to appease the people who
think you're working too much, it's a slippery slope, so
(10:30):
tread lightly. Okay, But thank you so much for calling in,
and your question was really perfect and for everybody today,
we all have that same twenty four hours in the day, right,
how are you going to spend it? Make sure though,
that you're spending it the way that brings you the
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and that's what it means to live full out.
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Speaker 1 (15:00):
You're listening to Living Full Out with Nancy Solari. As
a life coach, Nancy can teach you how to stay
strong under pressure and work through challenges you face. Being
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Speaker 2 (15:33):
Thank you so much for joining us. I'm Nancy Silarian.
This is the Living Full Out Show, and today we're
talking about loving it all and sometimes we have to
ask how do you do that? And that is why
we bring inspirational guests like today Sandy Wolf to the call,
because it is about cracking the code, like when life
(15:53):
gets hard, how do you still see the joy? How
do you cherish moments? And Sandy has done that through many,
many different bouts with cancer. So I'd like to welcome
Sandy to the show.
Speaker 15 (16:05):
Thank you, I appreciate that.
Speaker 2 (16:07):
Happy to have you. Well, My dear I don't. I
don't think I've ever said this before. I can't believe
I am talking to a cow palace champion now. Someone
in our audience today, Yeah, somebody might say, why is
(16:29):
she starting there? Because you know, sometimes in life we
have heartbreaks and things that happen in our life early on,
but sometimes we're built around love and we have a
great childhood. And I celebrate that too. And my dear
at eighteen years old, after having grown up, you know,
(16:50):
third generation agricultural family, being a really hard worker on
the farm and giving it all and even getting a
degree eventually in agriculture, tell me what a cow palace
champion is?
Speaker 16 (17:03):
What is that?
Speaker 15 (17:05):
Oh my gosh. So I had a steer. You know,
when you're raising a steer, it's a year project and
so and it's the state of California, but it could
be you know, people from Oregon anyway, Western United States,
and you go in the ring just like you see
these dog shows, only steer with a steer. And my
(17:27):
steer was the champion. So it was this this animal
that I'd taken from a baby steer, and I'd fed
it right, and I'd groomed it ray, and I'd cultivated
it and it was the best of the best. It
was a super exciting time for me.
Speaker 2 (17:44):
And what was that cow's name?
Speaker 4 (17:47):
Moose?
Speaker 2 (17:47):
Oh, let's your name.
Speaker 15 (17:49):
Was Moose's purchased by Bank of America.
Speaker 2 (17:53):
Okay, very cool? Well you know little did Sandy? Did
you know that? Believe it or not? All that nurturing,
all that cross and t's dotting ice eyes, giving everything
you had to Moose. Boy, those attention to detail moments
really came in handy later on in your life. I know,
(18:14):
as your life journeyed on, you actually got you got
married early about twenty one, and it was a man
that you had known actually when you were in eighth
grade and eventually reconnected and got married, and one thing
led to another and you found yourself moving to Vegas.
You had two kids, and for all intense purposes, you
(18:38):
were very happy. But you know, as you as you
started to segue out of that relationship, what changed?
Speaker 15 (18:51):
Gosh, what changed?
Speaker 4 (18:54):
You know?
Speaker 15 (18:55):
In life, you just have to go when you go.
You know, it's like the ability to respond to what
you're feeling at the time, what you're doing at the time.
I'm not a I'm not a compulsive person, but I
am not afraid to move to a better place.
Speaker 2 (19:17):
I guess is I love that. I think they call
that a free spirit in a good way.
Speaker 13 (19:24):
Right.
Speaker 15 (19:24):
I've been called a free spirit before, absolutely, And.
Speaker 2 (19:28):
Boy did you need that free spirit in you to
continue to weather the storms that were coming you. And
again you're even though that relationship ended you, you jumped
right into another one. You had a second marriage, and
that one was for another ten years, both ten years,
and it was towards the end of that relationship though,
(19:52):
that you started to not feel so good. And even
after it ended you, you went on a cruise. You
you started look your eyes went yellow. Then after some
time you kind of shrug that off. And because you
were a fitness trainer, you thought maybe you were just tired.
You were losing weight. Then your body started turning yellow.
And thank goodness for your internal medicine friend. What did
(20:16):
that friend tell you to do?
Speaker 15 (20:20):
She told me that I had one of three things.
That I had either an infection blockage like gallstones in
my bile duct, or I had cancer. I of course
denied that I had cancer because I was a fitness
trainer and I didn't think that I would have an
(20:40):
infection because I did so much cardiovascular work all the time,
so I told everybody that I was sick, but it
was because I had gallstones in my bio duct. I
self diagnosed.
Speaker 2 (20:53):
Now that's okay for you, spirits do that from time
to time. So again, we wouldn't change you for the world.
And I don't want to mess with the cow Palace
champion winner. So you say what you want to say.
But at the end of the day, this was serious,
and yes, this was stage three serious, this was you
(21:14):
could die serious. What type of cancer ultimately did you
have and what did they do to help you?
Speaker 15 (21:24):
I had cancer the bile duck that had spread to
my liver and the top part of my pancreas. So
the only way for me to survive was actually through surgery,
and so I had surgery. The pancreas and the liver
are connected by the bile duck. So basically in my surgery,
(21:45):
they took two thirds of my liver and they connected
my liver and my pancreas with intestine cutting out you know, gallbladder,
bile duck, all that and a portion of my stomach.
Speaker 2 (21:57):
Wow, so they are kind of sod you together gave
you different radiation and chemo, and and you know you
found your way back and that scary could have died,
but you survived. But what I think is is so
interesting is you know you were a cruiser. You loved
going on cruises, right, so you knew how to have fun.
(22:21):
But cancer came back around a second time. How was
that diagnosed?
Speaker 15 (22:28):
That was just diagnosed at just the regular pap smear,
gynecology check check out mm hmmm.
Speaker 2 (22:40):
And actually, I think a lot of women put that
off because they're like, Eh, nothing's going to come of it.
But what I think is so important, while I'm so
glad you mentioned that, is it was it was there,
And so how did they treat that one?
Speaker 15 (22:56):
You know, that one I caught so early that they
just it was just surgical. I just had a hysterectomy
and that was it. I didn't need chemo. It was
stage one A. They caught it right in the beginning.
Speaker 2 (23:11):
And again, cancer is one of those things where you're
you're kind of in that club, but you're in the
club that has actually had it four times, not just once,
not just twice. So I really want everyone to stay
with us, because you know, I don't know how we
haven't solved cancer. I really wish we could, and I
(23:35):
don't want anything to happen to my sweet new friend
and cow Palace champion Sandy. But stay with us, okay, everybody,
because in her story there's a lot of learning. So
lean in. We'll be right back after this break. Today
it's all about loving life as you live full out.
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Today.
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Speaker 1 (28:04):
You're listening to Living Full Out with Nancy Soilary. With
Nancy's expertise, you'll learn how to embrace your potential and
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Speaker 2 (28:23):
I'm Nancysilari and this is the Living Full Out Show,
and today we're talking about loving it all in life,
even the times that we are we feel tortured or
stressed or really scared. And our inspirational guest today, Sandy Wolf,
is sharing with us her story of how through different
four different cancer times in our life that she can
(28:44):
lift her head high today and we're learning how she
does that. So welcome back Sandy to the show.
Speaker 4 (28:50):
Thank you.
Speaker 2 (28:51):
There was a time, Sandy, way back when when I
sold real estate, and it was this random offer to
go do like a whole body scan, right, and I thought, well,
that would be good, because hey, if there's something creeping
around in my body, maybe I'll know about it early.
And you know, you'd already had these two different cancers,
and you'd already been kind of through different surgeries and
(29:13):
you know, radiation and chemo, and you know you kind
of got the invitation to to do this scan or
a scan, maybe not the same one I did, but
you didn't want to do that. Something in your mind
was like, I don't know, you decided to take a
baby step. What did you do and what did they find?
Speaker 15 (29:32):
Well? I decided before I would go do one of
those full body scans because I knew I was sort
of cancer prone and I didn't want to light the
whole place up. So I decided just to get a colonoscopy.
Speaker 2 (29:48):
And when they when you did that, did you did
you mentally go into it thinking they're going to find something.
I know, they're just my luck, they're going to find something,
or just you know what, I'm gonna check this off
and I'll me good.
Speaker 15 (30:01):
Absolutely, I did not even think that they would find cancer.
I absolutely went to the colonoscopy just sort of as
insurance before I did the full body scan.
Speaker 2 (30:14):
M Now they did find something, caught it early again, right,
So that's really good. Now, one of your daughters is
a doctor, and and you know, she encouraged you to
to you know, to get another scan of a different
kind and and just continue to you know, keep yourself
(30:35):
educated on your body and what could maybe happening. And
so what scan was that and what did they find?
Speaker 15 (30:44):
Well, after I went through my colon cancer, it was
six months later, and my daughter just wanted me just
to go do just a regular cat scan just to
be sure that there wasn't any more cancer growing. And
so I went and actually did a cat scan at
(31:05):
six months after my colon cancer.
Speaker 2 (31:08):
And what did that cat scan find?
Speaker 15 (31:11):
They found, like, they found that there was something in
the area. They didn't know if it was colon cancer
or if it was pancreatic cancer. You know, cat scans
aren't absolute. They're kind of fuzzy, so to speak. So
they knew that there was something in that area. You know,
of course we were hoping it was colon cancer, but
(31:32):
it was in the area of the pancreas.
Speaker 2 (31:35):
And what what you know at that point, you know
you now had you know cancer. Now this is your
fourth time, we're back to the pancreas again. You had
to get really aggressive in many ways, aggressive in terms
of the treatment and so I want to kind of
go there first, but also aggressive in terms of education,
(31:58):
like why does this happening? So in terms of your
treatment though through a series of events and again the
tenacity that you had to get your paperwork to specialists
at UCLA. What was the overall regimen they had you do.
Speaker 15 (32:16):
For my pancreatic cancer. Yes, so, so prior to my
diagnosis for pancreatic cancer, I was diagnosed with a it's
called Lynch syndrome. It's similar to the Baraca gene. It
is I do have a cancer gene basically, And so
I got to UCLA and the what you do you
(32:39):
present your all of your cat scans and pet scans
and and your complete diagnosis. They knew I had Lynch syndrome,
and they put me in a clinical trial, and in
the clinical trial they introduced immunotherapy, and because it was
pancreatic cancer and Hankgrad cancer is so tough to beat,
(33:03):
they also put me on four different types of chemo.
So I had a chemo and a immunotherapy that I
did Every two weeks, I would go to UCLA, I
would do the spend all day getting infusions, and then
I did that for six months, which shrank the tumor
(33:25):
a little bit. And then I had a surgery in
July of twenty three called the Whipple, which is where
they take half of the pancreas.
Speaker 2 (33:35):
And this has been now like just a couple of years.
Speaker 4 (33:39):
Hour.
Speaker 2 (33:39):
Yeah, yeah, how are you feeling today?
Speaker 15 (33:43):
I actually feel amazing. I feel good. It's it's been
a long road, but you know, I find hope. I'm
a mentor person, so I find hope of stories of
people who had the Whipple surgery and are still alive seven, eight,
nine years out, and so I kind of find inspiration
(34:05):
through that.
Speaker 4 (34:07):
I hike a lot.
Speaker 15 (34:09):
I'm super healthy, So you know, I.
Speaker 2 (34:14):
Know that your your grandmother for whom you adored, who
passed when you were, you know, a teenager, she had cancer,
your dad had cancer. You obviously have this this gene
and you're actually your oldest daughter has it, but your
youngest doesn't, which is a good thing, But how heavy
(34:36):
is that on your heart as a mom, knowing that
your oldest daughter has it too.
Speaker 15 (34:43):
Well, first of all, we have to remember that. So
my daughters are an evolution of me. So it's just
like anything else, you kind of take the good with
the bad, right, So they got me as a mom,
and my one daughter happened to get this Lynch syndrome gene.
The great news is the technology just even in the
last ten years with genetic cancers and cancer in general,
(35:07):
the development with AI. I mean, I am hopeful and
I believe that in six or seven years cancer will
be so curable.
Speaker 4 (35:19):
I feel like.
Speaker 15 (35:20):
All we have to do if somebody's fighting cancer, all
they have to do is hang on just a couple
more years. Like, I really feel that all these protocols
are just evolving.
Speaker 2 (35:32):
So far from your lips to God's ears. Honestly, that
is I think that's the hope that we've always had,
and I believe in that. I think we have to
always be positive. And it's interesting because as scary as
having cancer four times has been, and there's always uncertainties,
but again, you're a very hopeful person that great things
(35:53):
around the corner. In some ways during the times of
your cancer, it really brought your family closer, time with
your kids to honest conversations. How did that make your
feel how did that grow your relationships?
Speaker 15 (36:09):
Well, my last name is Wolf, and we have a
saying this, the pack is the strength of the wolf,
and the wolf is the strength of the pack. And
in families, it's it's interesting in our family how we
are all strong for each other. It's kind of like,
I don't know when I find when I am tough
(36:31):
about something, my entire family gets tough with their life.
So I said that my daughters are an evolution of me,
but they're also stronger and braver and they accomplish more.
And my grandkids are a product of them. So my
grandchildren are even stronger and braver and tougher than even
(36:52):
my children. It's really it's really interesting to see how
boldness passes on.
Speaker 2 (36:59):
And do you how do you balance that fear of
it coming back versus putting cancer in its place? Saying
We've had four dances. We're done.
Speaker 15 (37:12):
I think the the important thing for me is, you know,
people think that when you're diagnosed with cancer, you're like,
oh my god, I'm running out of time. Life is
almost over. I believe that we have all the time
in the world. We have all the time in the
world to create what we want to create, and spend
(37:33):
time with who we want to spend time with. And
when we get with people, family, friends, even you and I,
it's cool to be in sort of a bubble. You
know this this we we don't have to rush. We're
in a bubble of time. And so I guess the
(37:55):
big my biggest learning is there's no rush and no hurry.
It's like we have all the time in the world
to create what we need to create.
Speaker 2 (38:05):
And you know, you have want to talk about dancing.
You know if you actually danced with love a lot too, right,
and yeah, you know had a couple marriages and different
reasons it didn't work out. And you know, you had
a gentleman that was with you through cancer three into
cancer four and that segued as well. What have you
learned through all of this though of your next life partner?
(38:27):
What do you need in that person to whether maybe
another storm.
Speaker 15 (38:32):
Well, first of all, I think it's important to realize
that heartbreak is like heartbreak is just a launch pad
for reinvention. So when we're in a relationship, well I'm
in relationship, it's you become a mirror of each other,
and so people take you to a certain place. But
(38:53):
when I came out of my last relationship after my
pancreatic cancer, there were things in life that I wanted
to do that I hadn't been able to do. So again,
it was a launchpad for me to be more creative, for.
Speaker 4 (39:07):
Me to.
Speaker 15 (39:10):
Even with my working out, you know, for me to
wake up earlier and go hike. So I had these
things that were on my to do list that I
was actually able to fit into my life.
Speaker 13 (39:24):
You know what.
Speaker 2 (39:24):
I love that. And you know you are a doer,
I mean even after cancer one you I mean you've
you've done three marathons, you know, New York, Boston, Vegas,
and I'm I mean, you are somebody who is not
going to be held back by cancer. I know You've
got kind of your spiritual side as well that leads
(39:48):
you and guides you. And I am just so proud
of you. I am just thrilled with Nancy your outlook
on life and I'm impressed. And I mean I just
only say that cancer picked on the wrong woman. I
mean you, you know you, You and Moose are both
(40:09):
champions in life.
Speaker 4 (40:10):
Truly.
Speaker 2 (40:11):
Thank you, Nancy, thanks so thank you for sharing your
story and for everybody listening today. Just like Sandy, I mean,
this is what this show is about. We want to
hear from you. If you've gone through something in your life,
share with us, go to connect at livingfullout dot com.
Let us know what you went through, how you got
through it, and perhaps you too can be on the show,
(40:33):
just like Sandy as an inspirational guest. Sandy, love you
so much. Thank you so much for being on the show.
You are truly loving life.
Speaker 9 (40:42):
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Speaker 2 (40:43):
Thank you and for everybody, we'll be right back after
this break. It's all about living full out.
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Speaker 2 (45:02):
When it comes to loving it all, I want you
to gulp life up.
Speaker 4 (45:06):
Now.
Speaker 2 (45:06):
I realize you might say no, Nancy, I don't want
to gulf up the heartbreak. I don't want to gulp
up the times that I've failed. And I'm saying yes,
you do. You know a lot of times I put
things on my plate and I just eat faster through
all the task and goals I have in life. Because
you want to feel that fire, you want to feel
that zest of energy running through your body. That's what
(45:28):
it means to live full out and love life big time.
Speaker 1 (45:37):
You're listening to Living Full Out with Nancy Solari. As
a professional motivational speaker. Nancy can assist you to blow
through your setbacks and start living full out. If you
have an inspirational story you want to share, email us
at connect at livingfoullout dot com. Once again, here's Nancy.
Speaker 2 (45:56):
Thank you so much for joining us today. I'm Nancy.
This the Living Full Out show and Wow, loving life
is who doesn't love that word?
Speaker 7 (46:07):
Right?
Speaker 2 (46:07):
To love life, to celebrate the winds, but also not
be intimidated or scared of the times that we fall.
I mean, I think that's the secret sauce to life.
And it's interesting when I go down memory lane and
I know we all have common threads of relationship heartbreaks,
(46:29):
maybe career disappointments, times we feel lonely. I don't know
anybody who escapes those moments of time, but in the lonely,
in the time of disappointment, in the time of a heartbreak.
I've always thought to myself, I do have love. I
do have people in my life I can turn to.
(46:52):
And it's interesting because I really am grateful for that.
But friendships, relationships, they do come and go. I was
given advice one time that people come into our life
for either a season, a reason, or forever, and you
(47:12):
have to love time when you're with people because it
isn't guarantee, it isn't a forever thing. And so what
I mean by the season, reason and forever is sometimes
you might go through a time in your life, maybe
you have kids and you are, you know, hanging out
with a certain group of men or women and just
enjoying that time period. But as the kids grow, the
(47:36):
relationships kind of fall away. Or maybe you join and
band up with people for a reason. Maybe you're you know,
training for a marathon. Maybe you're taking a class at
a college and you're there for a reason and you're
all in that same setting, you're all in that same mindset,
and then when it's over, everyone goes their separate ways.
(47:58):
But then there's those people that are you know, those
people that you don't talk to them all the time.
Maybe it's even been like a decade. You pick up
the phone, you pick right back up where you left off.
Through all of that, you have to love those different
stages and trust in the fact that as you have
a heartbreak, you have a career disappointment, you have those
(48:20):
lonely scary times, that the right people, at the right
time will be there for you. Now, I want to
give a little love to the fur friends in our
life are fur babies, because equally they can be there.
I mean I think about well, my guide dog Frost
and all he does for me and guiding me around
town and all that different emotional support animals of different
(48:45):
kinds do to help people feel that secureeness that maybe
they don't feel in everyday life. Again, fur love is
there as well, and one that we should really lean into.
It will really depend on where you are in your life.
You might be in a place where it is a
(49:05):
rough patch. Everything is going wrong, the house of cards
are crumbling, and the friendships are just not there. Well,
we will be there for you. You can plug in and
listen to the show. I know it isn't exactly the
same as having a bestie, but truly, everyone who comes
on the show as an inspirational guest comes to share,
(49:28):
to lift you up, to educate you, to give you
that one idea that maybe you haven't heard before. All
the people that call in and ask really good, thoughtful
questions and seek life coaching advice, I love that. I
love that energy of people who just want to rise
and get out of a place of stuck into a
place of thriving. I also encourage you to do something
(49:53):
in your life that has meaning because loving life, loving
it all is about the people in our life, the
fur babies, but it's also about loving yourself.
Speaker 13 (50:05):
Now.
Speaker 2 (50:05):
It's interesting because as someone who's legally blind, I don't
quite have that ability to look in the mirror and
have a love chat with myself. So I always kind
of have those chats just out loud, and you know,
it may sound strange, but I actually do say, you know, Nancy,
I'm proud of you. Our good job, Nancy, way to go.
(50:26):
Sometimes I'll even give myself a little punch on the shoulder.
Have you talked to yourself lately? Have you given yourself
positive affirmations? Have you taken time to look at what
you've done well? And you might say I do nothing well.
Everybody says, I don't do anything. Well, I'm constantly just
(50:46):
saying and doing the wrong things. I don't know that
that's true, because I choose and believe that we are
all here for a reason. You just have to find
that purpose. You have to find you know what it
is that is that natural gift and talent that you're
good at. It doesn't even feel like work. It's it's
just natural. It feels really good. It's something that brings
(51:10):
you joy. And you might say, well, gosh, video games
bring me joy, and you know, that's just wasting my time.
I don't know, is it. Maybe doing those video games
are making you really sharp. You're you know, you're able
to process, you know, things quickly, make micromoves, macromoves fast.
Speaker 4 (51:30):
Right.
Speaker 2 (51:31):
I really believe that with everything we do, it's there's
a learning and there is an ability to springboard to
be a better self. At the end of the day, though,
it really will always come down to you, and that
is good and bad at the same time. It's it's
it's good because you have the ability to set your narrative,
(51:54):
you have the ability to make a pivot and make
a change. But it's bad because you have to remember
this is your race to run. What people say, what
their thoughts, their opinions, they can keep them. This is
your life, this is your vision. Run, enjoy it, make
the most of it, and most of all, do what
(52:15):
that's right. Live full out.
Speaker 1 (52:27):
Thank you for listening to the Living Full Out Show
with Nancy Silari. To learn more about this program, visit
livingfollout dot com for the latest episodes. Connect with the
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