August 23, 2025 • 52 mins
Episode: 2025.11.27
The Living Full Out show with Nancy Solari encourages you to share your story. Perhaps there is a traumatic event you have yet to tell anyone. Maybe you faced a challenge that shapes who you are today. Join Nancy as she explores the importance of opening up about your struggles.
Our first caller Melissa wonders how to assist her 20-year-old daughter in navigating her career path. Nancy advises her to consult professionals in her daughter’s field. She also recommends Melissa to look at her own past experiences to gain insight. Tune in to learn how to guide your loved ones through important decisions.
Our inspirational guest Steve Mittleman has been unfolding his story throughout his life. Steve formed an eating disorder from a very young age due to his chaotic home environment. In his early adulthood, he completed a recovery program, and, afterward, let go of weighing himself and tracking every meal. Years later, he was casted on “Extreme Makeover,” undergoing many physical transformations. He eventually recognized that change is an inside job, which led him to embrace his authentic self and use his humor to inspire others. Tune in to the Living Full Out show to hear Steve’s healthy diet he implements today.
Perhaps you want to share your story. Try making a blog post or a YouTube video. Having an avenue to open up about your journey allows you to live full out.
To book Steve for your next event or learn more about him, go to bookinbarry@gmail.com or call him at 310-795-0626.
Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/living-full-out-show--1474350/support.
The Living Full Out show with Nancy Solari encourages you to share your story. Perhaps there is a traumatic event you have yet to tell anyone. Maybe you faced a challenge that shapes who you are today. Join Nancy as she explores the importance of opening up about your struggles.
Our first caller Melissa wonders how to assist her 20-year-old daughter in navigating her career path. Nancy advises her to consult professionals in her daughter’s field. She also recommends Melissa to look at her own past experiences to gain insight. Tune in to learn how to guide your loved ones through important decisions.
Our inspirational guest Steve Mittleman has been unfolding his story throughout his life. Steve formed an eating disorder from a very young age due to his chaotic home environment. In his early adulthood, he completed a recovery program, and, afterward, let go of weighing himself and tracking every meal. Years later, he was casted on “Extreme Makeover,” undergoing many physical transformations. He eventually recognized that change is an inside job, which led him to embrace his authentic self and use his humor to inspire others. Tune in to the Living Full Out show to hear Steve’s healthy diet he implements today.
Perhaps you want to share your story. Try making a blog post or a YouTube video. Having an avenue to open up about your journey allows you to live full out.
To book Steve for your next event or learn more about him, go to bookinbarry@gmail.com or call him at 310-795-0626.
Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/living-full-out-show--1474350/support.
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Speaker 1 (00:01):
You're listening the Living Full Out when Nancy Solari as
a professional motivational speaker, Nancy can assist you to blow
through your setbacks and start living full out. If you
have an inspirational story you want to share, email us
at connect at livingfollout dot com. Once again, here's Nancy.
Speaker 2 (00:19):
Hello, and welcome.
Speaker 3 (00:20):
To the Living Full Out Show. My name is Nancy Celari,
and today I we'll be talking about unfolding your story,
unpacking it. The good, the bad, the I wish I hadn't,
the maybe one days, It's all part of your story.
It's all wrapped up in it. But to really take
a moment and unfold that and look at the winsun
(00:40):
life and celebrate those, and look at the times that
we wish we could have done better, maybe a little
bit better. You know, those are humbling times too. And
then I also want to make sure you stay with
us because talk about humbling times our inspirational guesty Mindelman
also went through that with kind of the highs and life,
the ups and the downs of all the weight loss
(01:02):
and going even into a show called Extreme Makeover, and
just the drastic measures he had to go through in
Unfolding his story to Live Full Out. It's really an
exciting one. So stay with us there. And the thing is,
I realize that life happens, and sometimes it happens when
(01:22):
when we are in the middle of the night when
we're the most lonely, or sometimes it happens when we're
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(01:42):
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need us most. So I am getting word from a
producer that we do have at a lista on the line.
Let me just go check in. Hello, welcome to the
Living Full Out Show.
Speaker 4 (02:02):
Thank you for taking my call.
Speaker 3 (02:04):
Hi, thank you for calling in. How can I help you?
Speaker 5 (02:06):
So?
Speaker 4 (02:06):
I have a scenario that I was just could use
a little advice on. So my twenty year old daughter
graduated high school in twenty twenty three and she's struggling
a bit to find her passion with school, so she
went out of state freshman year, didn't return the following
year as it wasn't for her, you know, started out
a business major, kind of now looking into the medical trade.
So trying to help support her as a parent while
(02:30):
keeping her focused on trying to find something meaningful, meaningful
as an occupation for her and just find her place.
So just curious to know your thoughts and how to
beus do that for her.
Speaker 3 (02:41):
Well, first of all, you're really a loving mom for
thinking about this. That the tough thing is sometimes we
learn best through school, like school is the way to go,
and sometimes it's the light the life. School the ins
and outs of getting a job earning money that you know,
(03:02):
teaches us what we need to learn and is kind
of your Is there a little bit of a fear
that you're worried if she steps away from school too
long that she won't go back.
Speaker 4 (03:15):
I think she'll continue in her schooling. I think she's
just kind of struggling to you know, I work a
traditional nine to five office jobs that's.
Speaker 6 (03:23):
Not for her.
Speaker 4 (03:24):
So she is kind of looking at what do I
want to do long term? And I think it's scary
for all these kids to kind of find where they
want to be.
Speaker 3 (03:33):
Well, what brings her joy?
Speaker 5 (03:34):
Like?
Speaker 3 (03:34):
What is she naturally good at? Is it fashion? Is
it tech? Is it cooking?
Speaker 4 (03:40):
I think her joy is people, and I think some
of it's helping people. So I think that's kind of
what's bringing her into kind of a non traditional, say
career choice that she's looking at. So's she taking some
classes to try to explore that a little bit. But
I think her her passion really is just being around people.
Speaker 3 (03:58):
And has she done one of those those tests online
like a skills test, like a personality test, career test.
Speaker 4 (04:05):
I don't think so. I'll have to ask her IU
lest they've done it through school, but.
Speaker 3 (04:09):
You know, because the thing is through her school, she
might have those for free or they're not that expensive.
And there's several of them, but some of them are
specifically for career, like based upon answers that she would
give things that would light her up. It would give her,
you know, ideas for career choices that would be good
(04:30):
for her. The other thing that I think is interesting
would be to ask her, you know, is there anybody
who has a career that you admire? Maybe it's somebody
you know, maybe it's somebody who's a public figure, Like
if you could have a job, what would that be? Like,
sky's the limit? What do you want to be? And
(04:51):
it has to be within reason, right, we can't all
be astronauts, you know, and nobody wants to eat my cooking,
so I can't be a cook. But you know, but
if she really thought about you know, yeah, I mean
I don't know if I could do that, but like
that's what I would want to do. Like that if
I could do that for a living, you could, I
would do it for free. It'd be interesting to know
(05:13):
what that answer was. And then it would be equally
interesting for her to kind of maybe find folks in
her local area that have that career. And she could
find that through LinkedIn, and maybe she could if they're local,
she could job shadow them for a day. Maybe she
(05:34):
could intern and so take a semester off and really
intern and feel what that career might be like. And
if there's somebody who absolutely has the job she wants,
but they're in a completely different city than a zoom call,
a phone call, any version of that, because most people
professionally are willing to pay it forward. And your daughter
(05:59):
I think we've all been there. I mean, I don't
know what do you do for a living today yourself.
Speaker 4 (06:05):
I'm an h I'm an HR manager for a manufacturing plan.
Speaker 3 (06:09):
And did you know at twenty that you wanted to
do that?
Speaker 4 (06:12):
Nope, I absolutely did not.
Speaker 3 (06:14):
Okay, exactly right. And so everyone's path is different. Where
my path was, I was a ten year old girl,
like so many people, sitting on the couch watching Oprah.
I was like, I want to I want to have
a talk show. And then here I am right. So
everybody falls into their path differently. And so I think
(06:35):
when we are squeezing something, when we're holding on tight
to something, when we feel pressure, we're not able to
be in that creative We're not able to dream, we're
not able to experiment. And I think you had to
put a little bit of a limit on it. But
I think that's where internships are so great, is so
(06:56):
she could just figure out what would make her heart sing.
What do you think a job would be that she
would enjoy.
Speaker 4 (07:04):
I think the path she's going down with some of
the medicals she talked about, being maybe a respiratory therapist
or something with pediatrics, I think she would do really
well and something like.
Speaker 3 (07:13):
That, well, and so again ask her if that lights
her up. She might say, Mom, you've got me, You've
got me.
Speaker 7 (07:23):
That is so me.
Speaker 3 (07:25):
She might say, that's not me. Well, let's discover who
you are, you know what I mean. And I think
that's a special I think that's a special journey and opportunity,
because the truth is, we've all been twenty we've all
been wondering, gosh, do I go right? Do I go left?
(07:47):
And then if you layer on top of the world
that she's lived in now social media, the overwhelmingness of
how much do I need to make to survive? What
will become of the world? You know, I think it's
easy to be overwhelmed. So that's why I think if
we just start with like a career test, a personality test,
(08:09):
something that would give her some data that she could
see with her own eyes, that would help. And then
I think the second thing is mom and daughter having
an exploratory, fun, adventurous conversation. If you could do anything
in the world, what would it be. Okay, well, I
didn't know you wanted to do that, but okay, let's
(08:29):
find somebody who does that. And then I think it's
about finding someone local that she can job shadow for
a day or internet. And I think it would be
interesting depending on what that looks like and you end
up talking to a professional that's in that career, it'd
be interesting to see what was their path to get there?
(08:51):
Was their path? Four years of college? Was their path?
Just many different jobs, kind of hard knocks, And would
that professional have done anything differently? Would they have got
a degree differently, would they have gone after certifications differently?
And then I think they would love nothing more than
(09:13):
to save your daughter time. Okay, how do you feel
about that?
Speaker 4 (09:20):
Great ideas? Now, those are great because I'm looking to
you know, she does see her counselor and her advisor
at school, but it's hard to know exactly what's in
those conversations and what we can support from the home
perspective for that. So I think those are some great
ideas well.
Speaker 3 (09:36):
And at the end of the day, she's got to
be in something that pays her bills. Right, But again,
but again, if somebody signs up for something that they're
not passionate about, then it's hard to weather that storm
of putting out resumes, putting out applications. You know, getting
laid off, getting a job, moving around, right, But if
she finds something that makes her heart sing and most
(09:59):
of all, brings purpose to her life in this world
where sometimes it's hard to find a purpose, then I
think she's going to be the winner in the end.
And I think it's so great that you can be
by her side and do this together, explore it together. Okay, okay,
but truly, thank you so much for calling in and
(10:20):
for everybody listening. I mean, we are talking today about
unfolding our stories, and I love that this twenty year
old woman was so much ahead of her. How will
that story unfold? And this very crucial step of exploring
job opportunities could lead to an entrepreneurial greatness. Maybe she'd
(10:40):
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in need. That's where it gets exciting. As we can
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Thank you so much for joining us today. I'm Nancy
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today we're talking about unfolding your story and we have
brought your inspirational guest today, Steve Middleman, who honestly has
had to go through just really understanding his weight journey. Again,
I'm raising both of my hands, who hasn't been there,
whether it's going up or going down, but really discovering
(15:55):
the lie behind that kind of torture that we all
go through the tug and you'll learn more about history
and how he got to a place today where he's
really proud of who he is and whether it's a
high weight or a low weight, he loves himself through
at all welcome Steve to the show.
Speaker 5 (16:11):
Nancy. I'm thrilled to be here, and it's a lot
of fun.
Speaker 3 (16:17):
We're happy to have you, and we do have fun here,
Yes we do. So Steve, I want our audience to
get to know little Steve, okay, because the truth is,
it hasn't just been a weight journey for you. It's
been kind of finding your voice, finding your own swagger.
And early on you were the youngest of three, an
(16:37):
older brother and older sister and your parents. But your dad,
you know.
Speaker 7 (16:42):
Was loud, very loud.
Speaker 3 (16:44):
And your mom didn't show you a lot of emotion.
And I'm just wondering that was pretty intimidating for you.
And especially when your siblings moved out as they got older,
he kind of felt left with your parents. And how
did that show up for you? How did that even
affect your eating at that young age?
Speaker 5 (17:05):
Well, well, it all ties in because I think I
had that whatever that X factor that somebody may be
born a compulsive overeater maybe, So how did it? There
(17:26):
were hardly any things in life that weren't going to
show up in my eating, But having a stressful setup
makes it worse, you know. I mean, I think a
real compulsive eater eats in good times and bad times
and scared times and stress times and so celebratory times.
(17:50):
It's just sort of what lots of compulsive overeaters do.
I can't speak for everybody, but I'm speaking very generally,
and for this one, I probably took every opportunity to
overeat and to trawl it and just eat the wrong foods.
Speaker 3 (18:08):
Well, you know, I'm with you, Steve. I mean, I
wish I was one of those people that when I
get stressed out, I can't eat, but boy I find
the burrito and the Brita finds me.
Speaker 9 (18:16):
You know.
Speaker 3 (18:17):
It's it's one of those things. And you know, as
you went along in your life, you started going to college,
and throughout college, you know, that's when you started seeing,
you know, forty pounds down, fifty pounds up again, that
tug of war we all go through. And you had
a career that you were doing in comedy and hosting
(18:37):
and auctioneering and different things throughout your path, so you
constantly had photos and videos of yourself in all the
different gigs that you had. But at some point, you know,
it just started to become really out of control, this
this torment and a good friend of you was in
(18:59):
his own pro and encouraged you to seek a program
to get help. Did you learn anything from that program?
Speaker 5 (19:07):
Of course, I think there's a great deal of strength
and community, and there's a great deal of strength in
helping somebody that hasn't walked your path before if you've
had some success and you can help one another person
along the way to have more success in a certain area.
(19:31):
Whatever it is, whether it's drugs or alcohol or food
or gambling or whatever that that that it's it's in
that way, it's a miracle. It's it's the community of humankind.
It's it's an amazing it's a wonderful thing.
Speaker 3 (19:47):
Yes, i'd say, what was your What was your If
you're going to these and going to the program, you're
meeting people, you're hearing stories, what was your Aha?
Speaker 5 (19:58):
Well, my uh ah moment was, well, certainly we all
overlap because we have this common issue and I think
that helps with people. And the other thing is, well,
it was in Los Angeles, so there were a lot
of very creative people in programs, you know, various programs.
(20:22):
So my aha moment really was when I left the
program and I said, I won't fail ever again, no
matter how screwed up my eating maybe in a day
or a meal, or a week, or a moment or
(20:43):
a month, I won't start over. I won't count days.
I love myself through the journey, and I won't buy
into the idea that life is on a cycle.
Speaker 3 (21:02):
You know, did it did it feel did it feel
like to you, Steve that people in the program, it
was just kind of this constant check in, get on
the scale, diary, keep tracking your food, and was that
what was kind of overwhelming you?
Speaker 5 (21:20):
Well, what what overwhelmed me eventually was being so hard
on myself and starting over all the time and beating
myself up emostly beating myself up and physically. We if you,
if you look at humanity, there is no such thing
(21:42):
as a scale. You know, for ninety nine point ninety
nine percent of human history, there's no such thing as
counting days. People just wanted to eat and survive and
hopefully thrive and have shelter and you know, commune with
(22:03):
nature and use nature. So couple that with there's a
great book out called The Pleasure Trap. We weren't made
for all this corporate fast food, processed food, that's formulated
for us to want more and more of it. So again,
(22:24):
there's no reason to beat yourself up, you know. And
well I said to myself, what I can't do that?
Speaker 6 (22:34):
Mm hmm.
Speaker 3 (22:35):
And when you when you would beat yourself up, would
you eat more?
Speaker 5 (22:39):
Of course you eat over what's what's eating you?
Speaker 6 (22:42):
You know?
Speaker 5 (22:44):
And h On the other side of it, I learned
that I've got to lighten up to lighten up, otherwise
I'll never lighten up.
Speaker 3 (22:53):
A lot packed in that. I get that a joke
to a joke, and I mean, honestly, it's it's one
of those things where you know, you almost have to
observe other people in that program, watching how they navigated
for you to see, wait, I don't I don't want
to be doing this for twenty years.
Speaker 5 (23:13):
You know.
Speaker 3 (23:13):
It's almost like you have to have that out of
body experience too to witness it and say this is
not where I mean, great people, but like this can't
be my forever. And I get that.
Speaker 5 (23:26):
Yeah, yeah, I think we're a lot of people are
misguided by by it, and God bless everybody that finds
what works for them. There's a lot of recovery well programs.
Speaker 3 (23:40):
Well they're they're helpful. You know when the teachers, when
the teacher, the student's ready, the teacher appears right, they say, so, Steve,
stay with us because I want to unpack more of
your story here and for everybody listening today, it is
truly we all have a story to unfold. What is yours?
Are you living full out?
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Today.
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Speaker 3 (28:23):
Thank you so much for joining us today. I'm Nancy
Stilari and this is the Living Full Out Show, and
today we're talking about unfolding your story. And Steve Millman
is here with us and he is sharing with us
what he has learned in his weight journey, but also
the journey to just get lighter, lighter with his weight,
lighter with pressures and beyond. So I'd like to welcome Steve.
Speaker 14 (28:46):
To the show.
Speaker 5 (28:47):
Thank you very much, Nancy.
Speaker 7 (28:49):
What I realized, he go ahead, go auch.
Speaker 5 (28:52):
What we were talking about before is living full out.
I'm better off when I'm not living full Oh.
Speaker 3 (29:02):
Well, there you go being that comedian again. You know
the thing is, Steve, you are funny, and I mean
you have been in many different shows. You know, you
were on Johnny Carson Show. You You've just had a
very very successful career. And again that has come with
(29:22):
being in the media and seeing photos and videos of yourself,
and I just wonder sometimes were you your worst critic
or how did you also handle I mean, did people
talk about your weight behind your back or to your face?
And how did you handle that?
Speaker 5 (29:40):
Well, my friends, you know, other comedians, one of my
nicknames was binge Man, so they knew I would binge
and yo yo back and forth. And these were very
close friends. So I had a sense of humor about it.
Speaker 3 (29:56):
Does that come with a cape? Do you get a
cape when you're Bingeman?
Speaker 9 (30:00):
At least?
Speaker 6 (30:00):
Yeah?
Speaker 5 (30:01):
That's so funny. Yeah, yeah, But I was nobody's superhero
by any means. Although with my book, I'm hoping to
help people, so in that way, I want to be helpful.
I have my book out, so it's fun.
Speaker 3 (30:17):
Well and tell me real quick what you know you
have this philosophy about the weight between the ears? What
does that mean?
Speaker 5 (30:24):
Yeah, that's the emotional weight and the mental weight that
we carry that drags us down. When you say our
own worst critic. It's like people that you can give
your thoughts so much attention that they become obsessions and
(30:49):
they can drag you down. And then from that point
it plays I think into the compulsion. People think they're
way into any into and out of almost any scenario,
you know, but what we have to eat every day,
So that is a scenario that we can be vulnerable in.
Speaker 3 (31:14):
Well, and again that makes a lot of sense. And
you know, opportunities come knocking. You know, we open the
door and we walk through them. An opportunity that you
had was there was a TV show that was looking
for a comedian and you know, an agent came to you,
you applied and you got it. But in that show,
(31:36):
what was that called? But how did it transform you? Physically?
But also internally?
Speaker 5 (31:43):
Oh? Well, great. Well, just to give the listeners some idea.
What it was was this show on ABC that was
a hit show for a number of years called Extreme Makeover.
And I had watched it now risk times with my
wife at the time, and I think, while these people
(32:06):
are very brave and they really need it, and et cetera,
et cetera, and I thought they were doing a very
nice thing. And then one day I got from an agent.
I got an email saying, hey, Extreme Makeovers looking for
a comedian. Are you interested? And with all my credits,
like you mentioned, I had done the Tonight Show, and
(32:26):
I've done a one hundred TV shows and some movies
and things and sitcoms and commercials, and so with all
my credits, I thought I had a very good shot
at it. And I was forty nine years old at
the time, and you know, so fifty was around the corner,
and the relationship wasn't going well, and you know, it's
(32:48):
generally there was a general load of malaise, so to speak.
And so it hit me at the right time, and
I said, well, it's funny. I asked numerous people in
my life, what do you think you think this is
good for me? Should I do it, and and everybody
(33:10):
goes great idea.
Speaker 3 (33:12):
Okay, what I'm not already perfect?
Speaker 5 (33:17):
Yeah, but you know what the truth is of being imperfect?
Speaker 3 (33:21):
No, but the truth, But the truth is you were
you had you know, you were born with a few imperfections.
But you know, And and then there were, of course
things that happen over the years that need to be
adjusted or changed. But what did they change? What physically
did they change to your body?
Speaker 5 (33:41):
I had. I had a whole bunch of self deprecating material.
You know, I used to walk on stage. It used
to be a male model. I modeled socks and the radio.
You recognize me, you know. I feel sorry for my
twin sister. She's a male model. She modeled socks and
the radio. You know. So the jokes like that. And
I had a really weak chin, and I'd have great.
(34:05):
I had some lot of fun. Great. I gave up
a lot of great material. How how I had a
really weak chin? How weak was it when I played
the violin? I had just shove it my mouth?
Speaker 16 (34:15):
Oh god, big laughs.
Speaker 3 (34:17):
So by doing the show and fixing these things, you
were losing your comedic material, basically, Yes, and.
Speaker 5 (34:24):
And ABC wanted to see what it would be like
if a comedian changed their change there looking enough where
it changed who they were on stage. So I did it.
It did have a great impact. I had my eyes straightened,
I had my hair colored, I had my I had
(34:46):
a face lift, I had the chin put in. Uh yeah,
those you know, that was a lot.
Speaker 3 (34:53):
That was you know, how did those changes though on
the outside, how did they Chine Steve on the inside?
Speaker 5 (35:02):
Well, guess what it's life is an inside job. It's
not an outside job. And I have to tell you
you first of all, how you change inside is you
have to adapt to this new you. That's one thing,
and that takes months. I'm pretty sure it took me months.
(35:24):
It's it's a kind of a real kick while it's happening,
and then there's like a coming out party on the
show and it's a lot of fun. But you really
do have to adjust to it. And the thing is
you it's really changed. What the lesson is the takeaway
is that changes an inside job. It's not an outside job.
(35:47):
It's not plastic surgery or a makeover of any kind.
It's not really exactly what you're wearing. You could you
could look great, resc rate have the greatest gens in
the world and be a rotten person. Or you can
(36:10):
be maybe they're not not classically gorgeous individual and be
a you know, not the nicest person. So change is
really an inside job. That's that's the lesson there.
Speaker 3 (36:26):
I'm curious, though, Steve, how did the experiment go? Because
they took away some of your comic comedic material after that,
and when you had the perfect chin and the perfect eyes,
did it take away the funny?
Speaker 5 (36:40):
No, it didn't. In fact, it forced me to work
harder and evolve as a comedian. You know. So since
then you mentioned, I started doing a lot more corporate
events and private parties, is there, you know, one night
or gigs versus comedy clubs. Then I evolved into hosting
(37:02):
events and doing roasts and doing auctions and you know, yeah,
I've worked for you know, Core five hundred, Fortune, five
hundred and one hundred companies and you know, probably sixty
seventy auctions in the last I don't know, many many years.
Speaker 3 (37:20):
Well I won't, I won't have a talking contest with
you then you'll probably win. But I but I am
curious as we kind of round out today because you know,
we are talking about, you know, unfolding our stories. And
the truth is you went from a little boy four
years old scraping the pots and pans with the food consumed,
(37:43):
eating a lot of food, to watching it go up
and down, up and down the scale, to finally, you know,
finding yourself spending like a decade in a program saying
it's not the right fit either. It's like, you know,
it's like not not saying you're Goldilocks, but it's like
the poor just too hot, the poor just too co
What ultimately, as we round out today's interview, for everybody
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listening who is just sick and tired of that scale
but yet sick and tired of having the muffin top,
what do you tell them?
Speaker 5 (38:16):
Well, what I tell them is it ties into the
extreme makeover. If everybody out there listening wants to have
an amazing makeover, you have to do it from the
inside out and from the outside in. And what you
get from the outside is nature and whole foods, and
(38:42):
you cannot, I don't think we can live life and
have the fullest living. And you want to live full out,
you have to embrace whole foods. Yes, things like fruits
and veggies and rice and beans and potatoes. And the
more we embrace that, the more we go, oh my god,
(39:06):
this I'm changing and I'm growing and I'm evolving, and
my head is clearer, and my depression's improved, and I'm
a happier person. I'm more creative, I'm more present, it's
easier for me to express myself. I'm happy with me.
And I think there's no doubt that if you're either
(39:32):
at creating wellness or creating disease, and if you're embracing
whole foods and loving yourself through your journey the bumps
to the road like string up once in a while,
I still do that. You that's the greatest takeaway. I
(39:52):
can impart to anybody, anytime, any second of my life well.
Speaker 3 (39:57):
And I encourage our listeners to, you know, check out
your book and read your path, because you know you
did tweet, tweak and test. You gave up caffeine. You
you know you you you got tests of foods that
you may have been allergic to. I mean, you really
took a deep dive into becoming the best Steve that
you could be. And I got to tell you, my friend,
(40:18):
I proudly will stand next to you, you know, I mean,
after all, you've got the good look and chin and all.
Speaker 9 (40:25):
You know.
Speaker 3 (40:26):
So, but thank thank you for for being on today's
show and for everybody listening. You know, just like Steve,
it's a journey, right, so don't force it, but kind
of let it be organic and and then you're going
to find your way to your happy. But like you said,
it starts from the inside out. But when you're able
(40:47):
to do that, you're going to be able to go
out there. You're going to live full out. And you
did it on your terms, we'll be back.
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you that clown?
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Cheerleader, that supporter? Truly, when you unpack the story of
your life, I think you're going to find that you're
going to fall in love with yourself more and more
the more you read on that's what it means to
live full out.
Speaker 1 (45:37):
You're listening to living full out with Nancy Solary. As
a professional motivational speaker, Nancy can assist you to blow
through your setbacks and start living full out. If you
have an inspirational story you want to share, email us
at connect at livingfollout dot com. Once again, here's Nancy.
Speaker 8 (45:57):
Thank you again for joining us today.
Speaker 3 (45:59):
I'm Nancy and this is the Living Full Out Show,
and today we've been talking about unfolding your story. And
I really think this is kind of a kick of
a kick of a show. I want to say, because
we hear a lot of stories, my team and I,
whether we are getting submissions to be on the show
or just different interviews for both radio and TV. And
(46:20):
I got to tell you it's interesting to see the
common threads and also where people kind of vary, and
the common thread is always a standout. That is the
fact that people want to people want to make a difference,
they want to give, they want to pay it forward,
and it kind of takes their whole life and the
(46:41):
riddle of all the things they've gone through to be
able to do that. And that is a great thing.
And here's where it becomes a kick. The kick, though,
is how people want to tell their story. But they're
a little bit reserved, they're nervous, they're worried, about what
will people think, and oh, oh gosh, I'm going to
hurt someone's feelings. And the truth is, really, if we
(47:05):
all had glass houses, right, if there were, if we
could see every room in every house, you would see
that everyone goes through moments of embarrassment, everyone goes through lonely,
there are times of abuse, there are times where we
feel frustrated, we feel sad, And as you consider your story,
(47:29):
I want you to give yourself some grace. And what
I mean by that is it's not about being perfect.
You know, we're not going to look perfect, we're not
going to say the perfect things. We're going to mess up.
And for many, you know, they lean on their faith
to help them with times that they're not perfect. But
you also sometimes have to lean on yourself and trusting
(47:52):
your judgment, trusting your ability to forgive yourself. And so
rather than running away or been shying away from moments
in your life, you want to be proud of them.
You know, I think about times in my life where
I maybe could have you know, spent money differently. Right,
if we all could have got back things that we
(48:14):
spent and we wish we hadn't, right, Or we think
about relationships where maybe we stayed a couple days or
a couple of years too long, right, we maybe knew
earlier on that it wasn't a good fit, but we stayed.
You know, those are just common moments in life that
we all go through where the secret sauce lies is
(48:37):
being authentic. And it is so yummy because I interview
so many people. It is the people that can stand
in their truth and like really be so humbled with
things that may be stigmas or ultra embarrassing or oh
my gosh, I can't believe you're willing to go public
with that story, but they are because they don't want
(49:01):
to hide from their shadow anymore. They don't want to
not be able to speak that truth. And everybody's gonna
pop like popcorn in their own time. And maybe you
never tell your story. Maybe you've lived with it your
whole life and you're ready, you're okay, going to the
grave with it, right, But for some of you, what if?
(49:21):
What if telling either your whole story or a part
of it could help someone. And I want you to
take this on as an exercise in whatever way you
choose to do it, whatever scale, whether it be smaller, grand,
It could just be as easy as you know, one
day a month, it doesn't even have to be the
whole day. You know, two hours a month, you're going
(49:44):
to journal, and you're going to write one chapter of
your story. You're going to write think about one event,
something you've learned, someone that hadn't made an impression to you, us,
your proudest moment, the time you failed but you're proud,
You're glad and proud you did. And if you take
those little two hour jaunts once a month in a year,
(50:06):
you're going to have quite a few little stories there.
I also want you to think about how those little
stories can be great ways to network, great ways to date,
great ways to have those kickoffs and conversations at a barbecue.
Speaker 5 (50:22):
Right.
Speaker 3 (50:23):
I'm not saying you have to be at those occasions
and give up your deepest, darkest secrets, but people are
drawn by those that have those yummy stories that are
able to talk from a place of Wow, you're so
honest and so real. So I invite you to do
that exercise. Now, if you're willing to go even bolder,
(50:44):
you might consider starting a blog. That's right, get a url,
go bit public with it, and take those stories and
put them out there so they're not just secret just
hanging out in your bedroom, but others can enjoy and
others can relate. And what's kind of interesting thing about
that is I realize social media may have its ups
(51:05):
and downs in dark places, but I actually really like
for social media for the standpoint that you can take
stories like that, make a public and others will most
likely comment and say, gosh, I went through that too,
or thank you so much for telling me your story.
It really lifted me up or made a difference. Then
(51:28):
you could even roll this mission of yours into a
greater place. You could join a cause, volunteer, you could
write a book and publish it self publish it. But
either way, don't let the story of your life just
linger out there and not be documented. We celebrate you
here at Living full Out everything that you've been through.
(51:50):
We would love to hear your story. Perhaps you can
even be on the show as an inspirational guest. If
you want to do that, reach out to us at
connect at livingfullout dot com. Make sure you tell us
what you went through, how you got through it, what
you learned, and of course your contact information, and perhaps
we can have you on as an inspirational guest, or
even write an article about your story on our blog.
(52:14):
Just know, every step of the way, the entire Living
full Out family believes in you. Just get out there,
take action. Always have a smile on that beautiful face.
Speaker 2 (52:23):
See you soon.
Speaker 1 (52:27):
Thank you for listening to The Living Full Out Show
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Speaker 2 (00:19):
Hello, and welcome.
Speaker 3 (00:20):
To the Living Full Out Show. My name is Nancy Celari,
and today I we'll be talking about unfolding your story,
unpacking it. The good, the bad, the I wish I hadn't,
the maybe one days, It's all part of your story.
It's all wrapped up in it. But to really take
a moment and unfold that and look at the winsun
(00:40):
life and celebrate those, and look at the times that
we wish we could have done better, maybe a little
bit better. You know, those are humbling times too. And
then I also want to make sure you stay with
us because talk about humbling times our inspirational guesty Mindelman
also went through that with kind of the highs and life,
the ups and the downs of all the weight loss
(01:02):
and going even into a show called Extreme Makeover, and
just the drastic measures he had to go through in
Unfolding his story to Live Full Out. It's really an
exciting one. So stay with us there. And the thing is,
I realize that life happens, and sometimes it happens when
(01:22):
when we are in the middle of the night when
we're the most lonely, or sometimes it happens when we're
at a family reunion and something rattles us. And so
it's really important that you can always go. If you
download the Living Full Out Show app in the app store,
you can always go and listen to our show. So
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if there's ever a time that you just need a
boost of inspiration and or there's a theme of a
show that resonates with what you're going through, we want
to make sure that you have that the minute you
need us most. So I am getting word from a
producer that we do have at a lista on the line.
Let me just go check in. Hello, welcome to the
Living Full Out Show.
Speaker 4 (02:02):
Thank you for taking my call.
Speaker 3 (02:04):
Hi, thank you for calling in. How can I help you?
Speaker 5 (02:06):
So?
Speaker 4 (02:06):
I have a scenario that I was just could use
a little advice on. So my twenty year old daughter
graduated high school in twenty twenty three and she's struggling
a bit to find her passion with school, so she
went out of state freshman year, didn't return the following
year as it wasn't for her, you know, started out
a business major, kind of now looking into the medical trade.
So trying to help support her as a parent while
(02:30):
keeping her focused on trying to find something meaningful, meaningful
as an occupation for her and just find her place.
So just curious to know your thoughts and how to
beus do that for her.
Speaker 3 (02:41):
Well, first of all, you're really a loving mom for
thinking about this. That the tough thing is sometimes we
learn best through school, like school is the way to go,
and sometimes it's the light the life. School the ins
and outs of getting a job earning money that you know,
(03:02):
teaches us what we need to learn and is kind
of your Is there a little bit of a fear
that you're worried if she steps away from school too
long that she won't go back.
Speaker 4 (03:15):
I think she'll continue in her schooling. I think she's
just kind of struggling to you know, I work a
traditional nine to five office jobs that's.
Speaker 6 (03:23):
Not for her.
Speaker 4 (03:24):
So she is kind of looking at what do I
want to do long term? And I think it's scary
for all these kids to kind of find where they
want to be.
Speaker 3 (03:33):
Well, what brings her joy?
Speaker 5 (03:34):
Like?
Speaker 3 (03:34):
What is she naturally good at? Is it fashion? Is
it tech? Is it cooking?
Speaker 4 (03:40):
I think her joy is people, and I think some
of it's helping people. So I think that's kind of
what's bringing her into kind of a non traditional, say
career choice that she's looking at. So's she taking some
classes to try to explore that a little bit. But
I think her her passion really is just being around people.
Speaker 3 (03:58):
And has she done one of those those tests online
like a skills test, like a personality test, career test.
Speaker 4 (04:05):
I don't think so. I'll have to ask her IU
lest they've done it through school, but.
Speaker 3 (04:09):
You know, because the thing is through her school, she
might have those for free or they're not that expensive.
And there's several of them, but some of them are
specifically for career, like based upon answers that she would
give things that would light her up. It would give her,
you know, ideas for career choices that would be good
(04:30):
for her. The other thing that I think is interesting
would be to ask her, you know, is there anybody
who has a career that you admire? Maybe it's somebody
you know, maybe it's somebody who's a public figure, Like
if you could have a job, what would that be? Like,
sky's the limit? What do you want to be? And
(04:51):
it has to be within reason, right, we can't all
be astronauts, you know, and nobody wants to eat my cooking,
so I can't be a cook. But you know, but
if she really thought about you know, yeah, I mean
I don't know if I could do that, but like
that's what I would want to do. Like that if
I could do that for a living, you could, I
would do it for free. It'd be interesting to know
(05:13):
what that answer was. And then it would be equally
interesting for her to kind of maybe find folks in
her local area that have that career. And she could
find that through LinkedIn, and maybe she could if they're local,
she could job shadow them for a day. Maybe she
(05:34):
could intern and so take a semester off and really
intern and feel what that career might be like. And
if there's somebody who absolutely has the job she wants,
but they're in a completely different city than a zoom call,
a phone call, any version of that, because most people
professionally are willing to pay it forward. And your daughter
(05:59):
I think we've all been there. I mean, I don't
know what do you do for a living today yourself.
Speaker 4 (06:05):
I'm an h I'm an HR manager for a manufacturing plan.
Speaker 3 (06:09):
And did you know at twenty that you wanted to
do that?
Speaker 4 (06:12):
Nope, I absolutely did not.
Speaker 3 (06:14):
Okay, exactly right. And so everyone's path is different. Where
my path was, I was a ten year old girl,
like so many people, sitting on the couch watching Oprah.
I was like, I want to I want to have
a talk show. And then here I am right. So
everybody falls into their path differently. And so I think
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when we are squeezing something, when we're holding on tight
to something, when we feel pressure, we're not able to
be in that creative We're not able to dream, we're
not able to experiment. And I think you had to
put a little bit of a limit on it. But
I think that's where internships are so great, is so
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she could just figure out what would make her heart sing.
What do you think a job would be that she
would enjoy.
Speaker 4 (07:04):
I think the path she's going down with some of
the medicals she talked about, being maybe a respiratory therapist
or something with pediatrics, I think she would do really
well and something like.
Speaker 3 (07:13):
That, well, and so again ask her if that lights
her up. She might say, Mom, you've got me, You've
got me.
Speaker 7 (07:23):
That is so me.
Speaker 3 (07:25):
She might say, that's not me. Well, let's discover who
you are, you know what I mean. And I think
that's a special I think that's a special journey and opportunity,
because the truth is, we've all been twenty we've all
been wondering, gosh, do I go right? Do I go left?
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And then if you layer on top of the world
that she's lived in now social media, the overwhelmingness of
how much do I need to make to survive? What
will become of the world? You know, I think it's
easy to be overwhelmed. So that's why I think if
we just start with like a career test, a personality test,
(08:09):
something that would give her some data that she could
see with her own eyes, that would help. And then
I think the second thing is mom and daughter having
an exploratory, fun, adventurous conversation. If you could do anything
in the world, what would it be. Okay, well, I
didn't know you wanted to do that, but okay, let's
(08:29):
find somebody who does that. And then I think it's
about finding someone local that she can job shadow for
a day or internet. And I think it would be
interesting depending on what that looks like and you end
up talking to a professional that's in that career, it'd
be interesting to see what was their path to get there?
(08:51):
Was their path? Four years of college? Was their path?
Just many different jobs, kind of hard knocks, And would
that professional have done anything differently? Would they have got
a degree differently, would they have gone after certifications differently?
And then I think they would love nothing more than
(09:13):
to save your daughter time. Okay, how do you feel
about that?
Speaker 4 (09:20):
Great ideas? Now, those are great because I'm looking to
you know, she does see her counselor and her advisor
at school, but it's hard to know exactly what's in
those conversations and what we can support from the home
perspective for that. So I think those are some great
ideas well.
Speaker 3 (09:36):
And at the end of the day, she's got to
be in something that pays her bills. Right, But again,
but again, if somebody signs up for something that they're
not passionate about, then it's hard to weather that storm
of putting out resumes, putting out applications. You know, getting
laid off, getting a job, moving around, right, But if
she finds something that makes her heart sing and most
(09:59):
of all, brings purpose to her life in this world
where sometimes it's hard to find a purpose, then I
think she's going to be the winner in the end.
And I think it's so great that you can be
by her side and do this together, explore it together. Okay, okay,
but truly, thank you so much for calling in and
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Speaker 3 (15:33):
Thank you so much for joining us today. I'm Nancy
Silary and this is the Living Full Out Show, and
today we're talking about unfolding your story and we have
brought your inspirational guest today, Steve Middleman, who honestly has
had to go through just really understanding his weight journey. Again,
I'm raising both of my hands, who hasn't been there,
whether it's going up or going down, but really discovering
(15:55):
the lie behind that kind of torture that we all
go through the tug and you'll learn more about history
and how he got to a place today where he's
really proud of who he is and whether it's a
high weight or a low weight, he loves himself through
at all welcome Steve to the show.
Speaker 5 (16:11):
Nancy. I'm thrilled to be here, and it's a lot
of fun.
Speaker 3 (16:17):
We're happy to have you, and we do have fun here,
Yes we do. So Steve, I want our audience to
get to know little Steve, okay, because the truth is,
it hasn't just been a weight journey for you. It's
been kind of finding your voice, finding your own swagger.
And early on you were the youngest of three, an
(16:37):
older brother and older sister and your parents. But your dad,
you know.
Speaker 7 (16:42):
Was loud, very loud.
Speaker 3 (16:44):
And your mom didn't show you a lot of emotion.
And I'm just wondering that was pretty intimidating for you.
And especially when your siblings moved out as they got older,
he kind of felt left with your parents. And how
did that show up for you? How did that even
affect your eating at that young age?
Speaker 5 (17:05):
Well, well, it all ties in because I think I
had that whatever that X factor that somebody may be
born a compulsive overeater maybe, So how did it? There
(17:26):
were hardly any things in life that weren't going to
show up in my eating, But having a stressful setup
makes it worse, you know. I mean, I think a
real compulsive eater eats in good times and bad times
and scared times and stress times and so celebratory times.
(17:50):
It's just sort of what lots of compulsive overeaters do.
I can't speak for everybody, but I'm speaking very generally,
and for this one, I probably took every opportunity to
overeat and to trawl it and just eat the wrong foods.
Speaker 3 (18:08):
Well, you know, I'm with you, Steve. I mean, I
wish I was one of those people that when I
get stressed out, I can't eat, but boy I find
the burrito and the Brita finds me.
Speaker 9 (18:16):
You know.
Speaker 3 (18:17):
It's it's one of those things. And you know, as
you went along in your life, you started going to college,
and throughout college, you know, that's when you started seeing,
you know, forty pounds down, fifty pounds up again, that
tug of war we all go through. And you had
a career that you were doing in comedy and hosting
(18:37):
and auctioneering and different things throughout your path, so you
constantly had photos and videos of yourself in all the
different gigs that you had. But at some point, you know,
it just started to become really out of control, this
this torment and a good friend of you was in
(18:59):
his own pro and encouraged you to seek a program
to get help. Did you learn anything from that program?
Speaker 5 (19:07):
Of course, I think there's a great deal of strength
and community, and there's a great deal of strength in
helping somebody that hasn't walked your path before if you've
had some success and you can help one another person
along the way to have more success in a certain area.
(19:31):
Whatever it is, whether it's drugs or alcohol or food
or gambling or whatever that that that it's it's in
that way, it's a miracle. It's it's the community of humankind.
It's it's an amazing it's a wonderful thing.
Speaker 3 (19:47):
Yes, i'd say, what was your What was your If
you're going to these and going to the program, you're
meeting people, you're hearing stories, what was your Aha?
Speaker 5 (19:58):
Well, my uh ah moment was, well, certainly we all
overlap because we have this common issue and I think
that helps with people. And the other thing is, well,
it was in Los Angeles, so there were a lot
of very creative people in programs, you know, various programs.
(20:22):
So my aha moment really was when I left the
program and I said, I won't fail ever again, no
matter how screwed up my eating maybe in a day
or a meal, or a week, or a moment or
(20:43):
a month, I won't start over. I won't count days.
I love myself through the journey, and I won't buy
into the idea that life is on a cycle.
Speaker 3 (21:02):
You know, did it did it feel did it feel
like to you, Steve that people in the program, it
was just kind of this constant check in, get on
the scale, diary, keep tracking your food, and was that
what was kind of overwhelming you?
Speaker 5 (21:20):
Well, what what overwhelmed me eventually was being so hard
on myself and starting over all the time and beating
myself up emostly beating myself up and physically. We if you,
if you look at humanity, there is no such thing
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as a scale. You know, for ninety nine point ninety
nine percent of human history, there's no such thing as
counting days. People just wanted to eat and survive and
hopefully thrive and have shelter and you know, commune with
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nature and use nature. So couple that with there's a
great book out called The Pleasure Trap. We weren't made
for all this corporate fast food, processed food, that's formulated
for us to want more and more of it. So again,
(22:24):
there's no reason to beat yourself up, you know. And
well I said to myself, what I can't do that?
Speaker 6 (22:34):
Mm hmm.
Speaker 3 (22:35):
And when you when you would beat yourself up, would
you eat more?
Speaker 5 (22:39):
Of course you eat over what's what's eating you?
Speaker 6 (22:42):
You know?
Speaker 5 (22:44):
And h On the other side of it, I learned
that I've got to lighten up to lighten up, otherwise
I'll never lighten up.
Speaker 3 (22:53):
A lot packed in that. I get that a joke
to a joke, and I mean, honestly, it's it's one
of those things where you know, you almost have to
observe other people in that program, watching how they navigated
for you to see, wait, I don't I don't want
to be doing this for twenty years.
Speaker 5 (23:13):
You know.
Speaker 3 (23:13):
It's almost like you have to have that out of
body experience too to witness it and say this is
not where I mean, great people, but like this can't
be my forever. And I get that.
Speaker 5 (23:26):
Yeah, yeah, I think we're a lot of people are
misguided by by it, and God bless everybody that finds
what works for them. There's a lot of recovery well programs.
Speaker 3 (23:40):
Well they're they're helpful. You know when the teachers, when
the teacher, the student's ready, the teacher appears right, they say, so, Steve,
stay with us because I want to unpack more of
your story here and for everybody listening today, it is
truly we all have a story to unfold. What is yours?
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Speaker 3 (28:23):
Thank you so much for joining us today. I'm Nancy
Stilari and this is the Living Full Out Show, and
today we're talking about unfolding your story. And Steve Millman
is here with us and he is sharing with us
what he has learned in his weight journey, but also
the journey to just get lighter, lighter with his weight,
lighter with pressures and beyond. So I'd like to welcome Steve.
Speaker 14 (28:46):
To the show.
Speaker 5 (28:47):
Thank you very much, Nancy.
Speaker 7 (28:49):
What I realized, he go ahead, go auch.
Speaker 5 (28:52):
What we were talking about before is living full out.
I'm better off when I'm not living full Oh.
Speaker 3 (29:02):
Well, there you go being that comedian again. You know
the thing is, Steve, you are funny, and I mean
you have been in many different shows. You know, you
were on Johnny Carson Show. You You've just had a
very very successful career. And again that has come with
(29:22):
being in the media and seeing photos and videos of yourself,
and I just wonder sometimes were you your worst critic
or how did you also handle I mean, did people
talk about your weight behind your back or to your face?
And how did you handle that?
Speaker 5 (29:40):
Well, my friends, you know, other comedians, one of my
nicknames was binge Man, so they knew I would binge
and yo yo back and forth. And these were very
close friends. So I had a sense of humor about it.
Speaker 3 (29:56):
Does that come with a cape? Do you get a
cape when you're Bingeman?
Speaker 9 (30:00):
At least?
Speaker 6 (30:00):
Yeah?
Speaker 5 (30:01):
That's so funny. Yeah, yeah, But I was nobody's superhero
by any means. Although with my book, I'm hoping to
help people, so in that way, I want to be helpful.
I have my book out, so it's fun.
Speaker 3 (30:17):
Well and tell me real quick what you know you
have this philosophy about the weight between the ears? What
does that mean?
Speaker 5 (30:24):
Yeah, that's the emotional weight and the mental weight that
we carry that drags us down. When you say our
own worst critic. It's like people that you can give
your thoughts so much attention that they become obsessions and
(30:49):
they can drag you down. And then from that point
it plays I think into the compulsion. People think they're
way into any into and out of almost any scenario,
you know, but what we have to eat every day,
So that is a scenario that we can be vulnerable in.
Speaker 3 (31:14):
Well, and again that makes a lot of sense. And
you know, opportunities come knocking. You know, we open the
door and we walk through them. An opportunity that you
had was there was a TV show that was looking
for a comedian and you know, an agent came to you,
you applied and you got it. But in that show,
(31:36):
what was that called? But how did it transform you? Physically?
But also internally?
Speaker 5 (31:43):
Oh? Well, great. Well, just to give the listeners some idea.
What it was was this show on ABC that was
a hit show for a number of years called Extreme Makeover.
And I had watched it now risk times with my
wife at the time, and I think, while these people
(32:06):
are very brave and they really need it, and et cetera,
et cetera, and I thought they were doing a very
nice thing. And then one day I got from an agent.
I got an email saying, hey, Extreme Makeovers looking for
a comedian. Are you interested? And with all my credits,
like you mentioned, I had done the Tonight Show, and
(32:26):
I've done a one hundred TV shows and some movies
and things and sitcoms and commercials, and so with all
my credits, I thought I had a very good shot
at it. And I was forty nine years old at
the time, and you know, so fifty was around the corner,
and the relationship wasn't going well, and you know, it's
(32:48):
generally there was a general load of malaise, so to speak.
And so it hit me at the right time, and
I said, well, it's funny. I asked numerous people in
my life, what do you think you think this is
good for me? Should I do it, and and everybody
(33:10):
goes great idea.
Speaker 3 (33:12):
Okay, what I'm not already perfect?
Speaker 5 (33:17):
Yeah, but you know what the truth is of being imperfect?
Speaker 3 (33:21):
No, but the truth, But the truth is you were
you had you know, you were born with a few imperfections.
But you know, And and then there were, of course
things that happen over the years that need to be
adjusted or changed. But what did they change? What physically
did they change to your body?
Speaker 5 (33:41):
I had. I had a whole bunch of self deprecating material.
You know, I used to walk on stage. It used
to be a male model. I modeled socks and the radio.
You recognize me, you know. I feel sorry for my
twin sister. She's a male model. She modeled socks and
the radio. You know. So the jokes like that. And
I had a really weak chin, and I'd have great.
(34:05):
I had some lot of fun. Great. I gave up
a lot of great material. How how I had a
really weak chin? How weak was it when I played
the violin? I had just shove it my mouth?
Speaker 16 (34:15):
Oh god, big laughs.
Speaker 3 (34:17):
So by doing the show and fixing these things, you
were losing your comedic material, basically, Yes, and.
Speaker 5 (34:24):
And ABC wanted to see what it would be like
if a comedian changed their change there looking enough where
it changed who they were on stage. So I did it.
It did have a great impact. I had my eyes straightened,
I had my hair colored, I had my I had
(34:46):
a face lift, I had the chin put in. Uh yeah,
those you know, that was a lot.
Speaker 3 (34:53):
That was you know, how did those changes though on
the outside, how did they Chine Steve on the inside?
Speaker 5 (35:02):
Well, guess what it's life is an inside job. It's
not an outside job. And I have to tell you
you first of all, how you change inside is you
have to adapt to this new you. That's one thing,
and that takes months. I'm pretty sure it took me months.
(35:24):
It's it's a kind of a real kick while it's happening,
and then there's like a coming out party on the
show and it's a lot of fun. But you really
do have to adjust to it. And the thing is
you it's really changed. What the lesson is the takeaway
is that changes an inside job. It's not an outside job.
(35:47):
It's not plastic surgery or a makeover of any kind.
It's not really exactly what you're wearing. You could you
could look great, resc rate have the greatest gens in
the world and be a rotten person. Or you can
(36:10):
be maybe they're not not classically gorgeous individual and be
a you know, not the nicest person. So change is
really an inside job. That's that's the lesson there.
Speaker 3 (36:26):
I'm curious, though, Steve, how did the experiment go? Because
they took away some of your comic comedic material after that,
and when you had the perfect chin and the perfect eyes,
did it take away the funny?
Speaker 5 (36:40):
No, it didn't. In fact, it forced me to work
harder and evolve as a comedian. You know. So since
then you mentioned, I started doing a lot more corporate
events and private parties, is there, you know, one night
or gigs versus comedy clubs. Then I evolved into hosting
(37:02):
events and doing roasts and doing auctions and you know, yeah,
I've worked for you know, Core five hundred, Fortune, five
hundred and one hundred companies and you know, probably sixty
seventy auctions in the last I don't know, many many years.
Speaker 3 (37:20):
Well I won't, I won't have a talking contest with
you then you'll probably win. But I but I am
curious as we kind of round out today because you know,
we are talking about, you know, unfolding our stories. And
the truth is you went from a little boy four
years old scraping the pots and pans with the food consumed,
(37:43):
eating a lot of food, to watching it go up
and down, up and down the scale, to finally, you know,
finding yourself spending like a decade in a program saying
it's not the right fit either. It's like, you know,
it's like not not saying you're Goldilocks, but it's like
the poor just too hot, the poor just too co
What ultimately, as we round out today's interview, for everybody
(38:06):
listening who is just sick and tired of that scale
but yet sick and tired of having the muffin top,
what do you tell them?
Speaker 5 (38:16):
Well, what I tell them is it ties into the
extreme makeover. If everybody out there listening wants to have
an amazing makeover, you have to do it from the
inside out and from the outside in. And what you
get from the outside is nature and whole foods, and
(38:42):
you cannot, I don't think we can live life and
have the fullest living. And you want to live full out,
you have to embrace whole foods. Yes, things like fruits
and veggies and rice and beans and potatoes. And the
more we embrace that, the more we go, oh my god,
(39:06):
this I'm changing and I'm growing and I'm evolving, and
my head is clearer, and my depression's improved, and I'm
a happier person. I'm more creative, I'm more present, it's
easier for me to express myself. I'm happy with me.
And I think there's no doubt that if you're either
(39:32):
at creating wellness or creating disease, and if you're embracing
whole foods and loving yourself through your journey the bumps
to the road like string up once in a while,
I still do that. You that's the greatest takeaway. I
(39:52):
can impart to anybody, anytime, any second of my life well.
Speaker 3 (39:57):
And I encourage our listeners to, you know, check out
your book and read your path, because you know you
did tweet, tweak and test. You gave up caffeine. You
you know you you you got tests of foods that
you may have been allergic to. I mean, you really
took a deep dive into becoming the best Steve that
you could be. And I got to tell you, my friend,
(40:18):
I proudly will stand next to you, you know, I mean,
after all, you've got the good look and chin and all.
Speaker 9 (40:25):
You know.
Speaker 3 (40:26):
So, but thank thank you for for being on today's
show and for everybody listening. You know, just like Steve,
it's a journey, right, so don't force it, but kind
of let it be organic and and then you're going
to find your way to your happy. But like you said,
it starts from the inside out. But when you're able
(40:47):
to do that, you're going to be able to go
out there. You're going to live full out. And you
did it on your terms, we'll be back.
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Speaker 2 (45:16):
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Speaker 3 (45:17):
Cheerleader, that supporter? Truly, when you unpack the story of
your life, I think you're going to find that you're
going to fall in love with yourself more and more
the more you read on that's what it means to
live full out.
Speaker 1 (45:37):
You're listening to living full out with Nancy Solary. As
a professional motivational speaker, Nancy can assist you to blow
through your setbacks and start living full out. If you
have an inspirational story you want to share, email us
at connect at livingfollout dot com. Once again, here's Nancy.
Speaker 8 (45:57):
Thank you again for joining us today.
Speaker 3 (45:59):
I'm Nancy and this is the Living Full Out Show,
and today we've been talking about unfolding your story. And
I really think this is kind of a kick of
a kick of a show. I want to say, because
we hear a lot of stories, my team and I,
whether we are getting submissions to be on the show
or just different interviews for both radio and TV. And
(46:20):
I got to tell you it's interesting to see the
common threads and also where people kind of vary, and
the common thread is always a standout. That is the
fact that people want to people want to make a difference,
they want to give, they want to pay it forward,
and it kind of takes their whole life and the
(46:41):
riddle of all the things they've gone through to be
able to do that. And that is a great thing.
And here's where it becomes a kick. The kick, though,
is how people want to tell their story. But they're
a little bit reserved, they're nervous, they're worried, about what
will people think, and oh, oh gosh, I'm going to
hurt someone's feelings. And the truth is, really, if we
(47:05):
all had glass houses, right, if there were, if we
could see every room in every house, you would see
that everyone goes through moments of embarrassment, everyone goes through lonely,
there are times of abuse, there are times where we
feel frustrated, we feel sad, And as you consider your story,
(47:29):
I want you to give yourself some grace. And what
I mean by that is it's not about being perfect.
You know, we're not going to look perfect, we're not
going to say the perfect things. We're going to mess up.
And for many, you know, they lean on their faith
to help them with times that they're not perfect. But
you also sometimes have to lean on yourself and trusting
(47:52):
your judgment, trusting your ability to forgive yourself. And so
rather than running away or been shying away from moments
in your life, you want to be proud of them.
You know, I think about times in my life where
I maybe could have you know, spent money differently. Right,
if we all could have got back things that we
(48:14):
spent and we wish we hadn't, right, Or we think
about relationships where maybe we stayed a couple days or
a couple of years too long, right, we maybe knew
earlier on that it wasn't a good fit, but we stayed.
You know, those are just common moments in life that
we all go through where the secret sauce lies is
(48:37):
being authentic. And it is so yummy because I interview
so many people. It is the people that can stand
in their truth and like really be so humbled with
things that may be stigmas or ultra embarrassing or oh
my gosh, I can't believe you're willing to go public
with that story, but they are because they don't want
(49:01):
to hide from their shadow anymore. They don't want to
not be able to speak that truth. And everybody's gonna
pop like popcorn in their own time. And maybe you
never tell your story. Maybe you've lived with it your
whole life and you're ready, you're okay, going to the
grave with it, right, But for some of you, what if?
(49:21):
What if telling either your whole story or a part
of it could help someone. And I want you to
take this on as an exercise in whatever way you
choose to do it, whatever scale, whether it be smaller, grand,
It could just be as easy as you know, one
day a month, it doesn't even have to be the
whole day. You know, two hours a month, you're going
(49:44):
to journal, and you're going to write one chapter of
your story. You're going to write think about one event,
something you've learned, someone that hadn't made an impression to you, us,
your proudest moment, the time you failed but you're proud,
You're glad and proud you did. And if you take
those little two hour jaunts once a month in a year,
(50:06):
you're going to have quite a few little stories there.
I also want you to think about how those little
stories can be great ways to network, great ways to date,
great ways to have those kickoffs and conversations at a barbecue.
Speaker 5 (50:22):
Right.
Speaker 3 (50:23):
I'm not saying you have to be at those occasions
and give up your deepest, darkest secrets, but people are
drawn by those that have those yummy stories that are
able to talk from a place of Wow, you're so
honest and so real. So I invite you to do
that exercise. Now, if you're willing to go even bolder,
(50:44):
you might consider starting a blog. That's right, get a url,
go bit public with it, and take those stories and
put them out there so they're not just secret just
hanging out in your bedroom, but others can enjoy and
others can relate. And what's kind of interesting thing about
that is I realize social media may have its ups
(51:05):
and downs in dark places, but I actually really like
for social media for the standpoint that you can take
stories like that, make a public and others will most
likely comment and say, gosh, I went through that too,
or thank you so much for telling me your story.
It really lifted me up or made a difference. Then
(51:28):
you could even roll this mission of yours into a
greater place. You could join a cause, volunteer, you could
write a book and publish it self publish it. But
either way, don't let the story of your life just
linger out there and not be documented. We celebrate you
here at Living full Out everything that you've been through.
(51:50):
We would love to hear your story. Perhaps you can
even be on the show as an inspirational guest. If
you want to do that, reach out to us at
connect at livingfullout dot com. Make sure you tell us
what you went through, how you got through it, what
you learned, and of course your contact information, and perhaps
we can have you on as an inspirational guest, or
even write an article about your story on our blog.
(52:14):
Just know, every step of the way, the entire Living
full Out family believes in you. Just get out there,
take action. Always have a smile on that beautiful face.
Speaker 2 (52:23):
See you soon.
Speaker 1 (52:27):
Thank you for listening to The Living Full Out Show
with Nancy Silari. To learn more about this program, visit
livingfullout dot com for the latest episodes. Connect with the
Living full Out community by following us on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram,
and subscribing to our YouTube channel. Here's to you, Living
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