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Speaker 1 (00:01):
You're listening the Living Full Out with Nancy Silari. As
a professional motivational speaker, Nancy can assist you to blow
through your setbacks and start living full out. If you
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Speaker 2 (00:19):
Welcome to the Living Full Out Show. My name is
Nancy Silari, and today we're going to be talking about
recognizing your strengths.
Speaker 3 (00:27):
Oh gotta love the idea of this show because.
Speaker 2 (00:30):
I think it's our strengths, our superpowers that help lead
us to our purpose, that give us that energy to
jump out of bed in the morning and be excited
to go to bed and do it all over right.
But sometimes we just don't own where right away what
those strengths are.
Speaker 3 (00:45):
So we're going to be talking about that and our inspirational.
Speaker 2 (00:48):
Guests, Shelby Estacado. What an amazing story, although it has
a tragic sliver to it. Obviously she did have a
snowboarding accident and today is in a wheelchair.
Speaker 3 (01:00):
Don't worry about Shelby.
Speaker 2 (01:02):
She is full throttle And I mean the woman is
so amazing that I want to call her like the
Fearless Flyer because she is that stunning. Can't wait for
you to be inspired by her. Now, I am getting
work from our producer that we do have a listener
on the line. Let's go check in with them. Hello,
welcome to the Living Full Out Show. Hi, Hi there,
(01:25):
How can I help you?
Speaker 4 (01:26):
Uh?
Speaker 5 (01:27):
So?
Speaker 6 (01:27):
I was calling with a question in regards to so
I'm thirty years old or almost thirty. Uh And I'm
a single female and every time, you know, I go
to family gathering some things, and I don't really get
that question of you know, when are you gonna have
kids or you know, your biological class kicking. And I'm
(01:49):
someone who's always known that kids were not right for me.
You know, I really love my career. I'm you know
that's that is my baby. But how would you adjust?
You know, kind of help explain to people and make
it clear that you know, just because you're thirty does
not mean that you know you necessarily need to have
(02:10):
kids or that you should have kids, that it's okay
to choose to be single.
Speaker 2 (02:16):
Oh you know what, I love love capital l O
vee that you're asking this question, okay, and I celebrate
your singlehood and happiness and career joy and all of that.
And when I say I celebrate that, I mean that,
and so some of the things that you want to
(02:37):
possibly consider doing. So everybody is built differently. So some
people are check the box people, they're they're analytical.
Speaker 3 (02:47):
It's just the way they are.
Speaker 2 (02:49):
And maybe that is also kind of a product of
the raising and kind of what they were told that
they need to do or what life.
Speaker 3 (02:57):
Should look like.
Speaker 2 (02:59):
But I also know that the world is full of color.
And part of those conversations is a couple things. Number One,
redirecting the question. So when someone says to you, oh,
so are you gonna have kids, rather than feeling like
you need to have an answer, well, I haven't found
(03:21):
that one yet, or I'm not really sure, just literally
take that question and redirect it back to them. So
if they have kids, you could say, you know, I'm
not really sure, but you have two great kiddos, right,
how are they doing?
Speaker 5 (03:38):
Right?
Speaker 2 (03:38):
You're just turning it back around. Or if they don't
have kids and they say so are you gonna have kids?
Or you know, gosh, have you found that someone special yet?
Reverse engineer that turn it around on them and say,
you know, I'm still looking optimistic though. But here's the thing, Hey,
how is your dating life going? Or you just started
(03:58):
dating someone a year ago? Well, how's that going? And
just get it off of you and get it onto them.
Speaker 3 (04:05):
Okay.
Speaker 2 (04:06):
The other tip I want to give you is remember
that you set your narrative. So just like how you
came on today and you were very confident. I'm thirty
years old. I like to say thirty young. You're thirty young,
and I enjoy being single and my career is my baby.
(04:29):
That is confidence, That is joy. That is just someone
that's a mover and shaker in her life, that same
tone and texture and confidence.
Speaker 3 (04:40):
You want to narrate that back to the person.
Speaker 2 (04:44):
So if they ask you, so are you dating anyone?
Or gosh are you going to have kids? The clock's ticking.
If you let your I guess tone or confidence go
down and you feel bad, then that's going to come
across in some ways weaker.
Speaker 3 (05:04):
Not who you are.
Speaker 2 (05:05):
See I've only met you for a brief moment, but
I know you to be this strong, beautiful, confident, you know,
successful woman. But when somebody asks you that question, if
you let that land on you in a way, that
makes you feel small, like you've done something wrong, like
you're not checking these mysterious boxes you should. It might
(05:29):
sound something like this, So have you found anyone yet?
Or gosh, are you gonna have kids?
Speaker 7 (05:36):
No?
Speaker 2 (05:36):
I mean I've gone on a lot of dates, but
like I don't know, I just you know, I don't
like the apps, or you know, I'm not really sure.
Speaker 3 (05:44):
I you know, I guess I'll just kind of see
how it goes.
Speaker 2 (05:48):
That's a different answer than if somebody says to you
or you can have kids or have you.
Speaker 3 (05:52):
Met that someone?
Speaker 2 (05:53):
You could say, you know what, it's just not what
my focus is right now, truly, my baby is my
busines business, and right now it's my significant other.
Speaker 3 (06:03):
Also, you know, add a little humor to it, do
you see that?
Speaker 6 (06:06):
Yeah?
Speaker 2 (06:07):
Yeah, And what that's going to do is it's going
to land on the other person like.
Speaker 3 (06:11):
Whoa, Okay, well she's good.
Speaker 2 (06:13):
All right, hey Betty, what's going on with you?
Speaker 8 (06:15):
You know?
Speaker 3 (06:16):
Next victim?
Speaker 8 (06:17):
Yeah?
Speaker 2 (06:17):
Right right, So I would try those things now. The
biggest piece of it, though, is just what we say
to others versus what we say to ourselves. So are
you truly truly good single?
Speaker 3 (06:34):
And are you, truly, truly good of kids never happen.
Speaker 2 (06:38):
Yes, okay, because if you can say yes to that,
then that that means that you have no clutter in
your mind. There's no confusion in your heart. So don't
let those other people make you confused. Don't let those
other people cause you to have clutter.
Speaker 6 (07:01):
O beat at. That's that's really good advice.
Speaker 9 (07:04):
Yeah.
Speaker 6 (07:04):
I my sister's kids are actually here right now, I'm
visiting for Easter. As much as I love them and
I do, you know, watching them is kind of like
I don't want I don't want that for me.
Speaker 2 (07:17):
And that is okay.
Speaker 3 (07:19):
Be the best aunt you.
Speaker 2 (07:20):
Can be, you know, and a lot of times, I
mean you and I have both been there way back
in the day. I don't know about you, but I
love my mom. She's one of my best friends. But
I remember looking at my godmother going hmm, boy, if
you were my mom, life would be so great.
Speaker 5 (07:36):
Right.
Speaker 2 (07:36):
Or there's like an uncle and like, oh if you
were my dad?
Speaker 10 (07:41):
Right?
Speaker 2 (07:42):
So for all you know, those kiddos are looking at
you going, boy, if our aunt was our mom, right,
So you can be a mom to them as well,
and the aunt and you get to give them back right. So,
so again I think you're on the right track. But
always remember the redirecting the question will save you as
(08:06):
well as knowing that you set the narrative. If you
let someone make you feel small, make you feel that
fomo missing out feeling, then then then they're going to
kind of have you hooked, right, and then you're stuck
in this dialogue you don't want to be in. But
if you come back out them, you know, authentic, it's
(08:27):
authentic to say no, you know, my baby's my business
is my baby. That's authentic, right, So I think if
you do that, they'll be like, all right next, and
you'll be fine.
Speaker 6 (08:40):
Well, I will definitely try that, because yeah, I get
that question almost every family gathering.
Speaker 3 (08:44):
Well, and you know what, you're going to continue to
get it.
Speaker 2 (08:47):
But it's just because you are your own breed. You're special.
Your life is full of truly great things, and this
career in your business, that baby, that baby impacts other people.
It helps, it influences other people. So just like how
(09:08):
somebody might be a mom and a dad and their
greatest joy or achievement might be their kids, your business
is your kid, and that's your joy and achievement.
Speaker 3 (09:19):
Nothing wrong with that.
Speaker 2 (09:23):
Okay, that would very helpfuy, I appreciate that. Well, you're welcome.
You're welcome us single gals band together. I'm with you absolutely,
all right, thank you so much for calling in. Appreciate
you and for everybody listening today. I mean truly, when
we think about recognizing our strengths.
Speaker 3 (09:44):
I love how confident she is.
Speaker 2 (09:47):
She knows what she wants, which is no kids.
Speaker 3 (09:49):
But other people might be like, oh my god, it's
been my dream forever.
Speaker 2 (09:53):
And other people they may want to start a business.
Others don't want that responsibility and they're like, nope, just
give me a paycheck, let me do my nine to five.
I'll do it well, but I don't want to. I
don't want to take it home. And the beauty is
if we were all alike, how boring would that be?
So the spice of life is do you and do
(10:13):
it the best you can. If you do that and
you recognize your strengths.
Speaker 3 (10:18):
Well there you go.
Speaker 2 (10:19):
You've got all the secret sauce and superpowers that you need.
Now stay with us, though, because I'm telling you a
Shelby's story coming up. It is touching, inspiring and beyond,
we'll be back.
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Speaker 1 (15:00):
You're listening to Living Full Out with Nancy Soilary. As
a life coach, Nancy can teach you how to stay
strong under pressure and work through challenges you face. Being
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Speaker 2 (15:33):
Thank you so much for joining us. I'm Nancy Silary
and this is the Living Full Out Show and today
we are talking about recognizing your strengths and as promise,
we have an inspirational guest today, Shelby Estacado, who truly
has been through so many highs and lows, but its successes.
Speaker 3 (15:50):
I mean, there's so much in the mix.
Speaker 2 (15:51):
So I'd like to welcome Shelby to the show.
Speaker 8 (15:54):
I thank you, Oh.
Speaker 2 (15:56):
So excited to have you, And I mean I just
got to say, I wish I could go back and
hang out with like childhood you. Because everybody listening, I
mean get this. I mean her family is from different places,
but part of it is from Hawaii.
Speaker 3 (16:11):
So she did hula as a little girl.
Speaker 2 (16:14):
How cute is that doing t ball with her brothers
and the boys, and just like doing everything she could athletically.
I mean, just a cute youngster. And what I think
is so fascinating about your story is you liked being
with the boys more than the girls. You liked the
rough stuff. You liked baseball, but when you got into
(16:38):
high school you had to go to softball.
Speaker 3 (16:41):
How hard was that switch? And why was that?
Speaker 5 (16:46):
Yeah, it was a pretty tough switch. At my age thirteen,
I didn't understand. And it was tough because I was
a standout baseball player. I was trying to make the
All Star team, but because I was a girl, I
couldn't play up at that level. So it was the time,
(17:07):
right timing, I guess to switch over to softball. But
I enjoyed it so much. I know there two different sports,
but I had the greatest experiences after that as well.
Speaker 2 (17:16):
Well, and you went on through college to be a
starter all four years, and then you even further competed
competitively in what way?
Speaker 5 (17:27):
Yeah, I during college played softball starter, and during twenty sixteen,
I was let's see, seventeen eighteen, I think I was
about eighteen years old, and then I nineteen, I started
playing for the USA Baseball women's national team, and I
played in South Korea, all over the US. So that
(17:49):
was pretty fun. But playing at a high level in
baseball again like I used to as a kid with girls,
was a dream come true. So it was great.
Speaker 2 (17:57):
I mean again, so proud of you, and I know
you're parents have always been cheering you on. And you graduated,
you ended up, you know, getting a job that you
were proud of, and life was just kind of clicking along.
Now at twenty three, though, you did go snowboarding, which
I'm not really good at. I spend more time sitting
(18:18):
than standing, but you were good at it, and you
hadn't done it long. You had been there for most
of the day and some friends said, ah, come with
us just a couple more, and you said yes. But
what happened that day?
Speaker 5 (18:34):
Yeah, that day I was at Lee Canyon, twenty three
years old, like you said, and I was going down
and I hit my first jump fine, but when I
went off my second jump, I lost control right off
the lip and I tried to gain my balance back
in the air, but I was pretty high and I
(18:55):
suffered a T six spinal cord injury and broke my sternam.
I didn't know that at the time, but something was
very off with my body when I landed.
Speaker 2 (19:04):
When you ultimately, which was quite a journey even to
get to the hospital, but when you did finally get there,
your mom has been a physical therapist and has been
kind of in that medical world, and she was really
the one to give you the news.
Speaker 3 (19:19):
What did she say?
Speaker 5 (19:21):
Yeah, my parents were not even in town, so laying
in the hospital bed after the scans, they looked at it,
realized what happened and talked to my mom, and my
mom was like, can you pass my daughter at the phone?
So I reach out grab it. She's like, Shelby, you
(19:44):
have a spinal cord injury. And I didn't know what
to say. I just started crying and I passed the
phone back and I couldn't say anything. I was like,
no way, I'm not going to walk again. And I
just was twenty three figuring out what she did, just
said and kind of processing it all while they're not
even in town yet. They're about to be on a
(20:05):
plane to Vegas to see me.
Speaker 2 (20:08):
Well, and Shelby, you're twenty eight today, And the thing
is that isn't that long ago. That's only you know,
a handful of years. Yeah, and I'm so sorry because
you were such a stellar athlete. And it's like, I'm
sure blurry at that point. What your future is going
(20:28):
to look like? You know, what will I do for work?
Can I compete? Can I do any competing?
Speaker 10 (20:34):
Well?
Speaker 3 (20:35):
Can I have kids?
Speaker 17 (20:36):
Like?
Speaker 2 (20:36):
I mean, what is that moment? Like?
Speaker 5 (20:39):
Yeah, as a twenty three year old, you're just kind
of processing all that stuff and playing USA and working
for a great company like Striker. I was in the
O R And I want a family, like I want
a relationship, Like all these things just run through your head.
How is that going to look like now? And it
(21:00):
took me a few days to fully like I cried.
I was crying almost every day for a week. And
it's just tough. So you figured out your resources and
I finally got on Google and got introduced to like
the High five Foundation and other YouTube channels and other
spinal cord injuries out there living their lives. And you know,
(21:21):
it wasn't the end for me, and I just found
another route to motivate myself to look forward to.
Speaker 2 (21:30):
We're talking today about recognizing our strengths and what strength
did you need to have in that early phase. I mean,
you prep right, you're an athlete, You've put in the
hard work, but now this was going to be really
hard work. What was the one thing you knew you
needed to do.
Speaker 5 (21:50):
I needed to have a mindset of me wanting to
be my best and happiest. How were I going to
do that? So physically and mentally, my mindset just needed
to move on to what's next and focus on getting
to Craig Hospital, getting rehab and moving toward independence like
(22:18):
I used to because that was possible. So my mom
being a PT, she just has all the connections and knows.
I think I grew up like that, So I just
already had that tough mindset and like, you know, this
is the end. I want to be happy. Let's do this.
Speaker 2 (22:36):
Well, they say, you know, God won't give us more
than we can handle. And you obviously had beautiful resources,
you know, through your mom and and you were on
your own world to self discovery. But at the same time,
you know here you have this injury and for the
most part paralyzed from like the waist down or the
(22:58):
chest down.
Speaker 5 (23:00):
It's a chesstown. So I have no core and from
the core down, yeah.
Speaker 2 (23:05):
From the core down, okay. But you can move your
arms and so forth.
Speaker 3 (23:09):
Okay.
Speaker 2 (23:10):
And so I want you to stay with us, Shelby,
because again through radio here people can't see you. But
I encourage everyone to look her up because not only
does she have amazing videos of her athletics, but also
she shares these tips. So if somebody in your life
has similar injuries to hers, she's kind of cracking the
(23:31):
codes as she goes and sharing them. So I encourage
you to check her out online. And we'll be coming
right back after this break more with Shelby.
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You're listening to living full out with Nancy Solary. With
Nancy's expertise, you'll learn how to embrace your potential and
strive for success. If you have a question or need
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Speaker 3 (28:22):
Welcome back.
Speaker 2 (28:23):
I'm Nancy Silary and the Living Full Out Show. And
today we're talking about recognizing our strengths and sometimes when
we're in the deepest, darkest times of our lives, it's
hard to see, it's hard to know what those are.
And Shelby Estiscato, Honestly, she saw through the darkness, she
saw her life, she saw still more potential. So let's
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bring her back in.
Speaker 3 (28:46):
Hello Shelby, Hi Nancy.
Speaker 2 (28:50):
Now, Shelby, I go to some of these questions, I
ask you not to sensatialize them, but because I'm kind
of on a different journey but similar. And I remember
back when I was losing my vision, I got my
first cane and I was like, oh, now I'm really blind,
you know, and I love my guide dog, but that
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was also kind of like a wow, Now I have
a guye dog.
Speaker 3 (29:13):
And you don't really go beyond the guide dog.
Speaker 2 (29:15):
You're kind of blind and So what was that like
for you when you got your first wheelchair, because now
you couldn't walk, this was going to be your new
way to get around.
Speaker 5 (29:26):
Yeah, it was a lot on my body. You are
using your arms, your shoulders, your hands every day and
half of your body shuts down, so you're kind of
working extra hard, so you're pretty exhausted toward the end
of the day and going to bed. I just remember
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being achy in my knuckles, my skin like blist like,
just my hands getting calluses, and my shoulders being achy,
tossing and turning. I didn't know where to put my hands,
like my arms, and it was the different, uh, I
guess lifestyle I had to learn, but get used to
and just tough on the body in general as anyone
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could picture.
Speaker 10 (30:10):
So it was.
Speaker 5 (30:12):
Learning, yeah, learning learning curve. But it's all good.
Speaker 3 (30:16):
You you you got through it.
Speaker 2 (30:18):
And it's interesting. Through the High five Foundation, you know,
you you met Roy and Alana and they were great
mentors to you because again you still had these lingering
questions of you know, what will I do for a
living and family and kids, and and they were able
to kind of show you while we're a family, right,
(30:40):
we have our injuries. And I know you found great
comfort on YouTube in different videos, but you did go
back to that mountain.
Speaker 3 (30:50):
You did it?
Speaker 2 (30:51):
How was I mean, what was that like? And please
tell us how does once ski or snowboard with an
injury like yours. Yeah, we have.
Speaker 5 (31:03):
A bunch of adaptive equipment. There's so many mountain equipment
you can use for spring, summer, and winter sports. But
I sit in a bucket that's attached to a ski,
and you can have two skis we call it a
by ski at the bottom. Or you can have one
ski and I have one ski and we call that
monoskiing and strap I have all my straps in everyone's bucket.
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It's different depending on your injury level. You have a
high back rest if you have a higher injury, a
lower back rest if you have a low injury. And
then I have two outriggers I hold in my hands.
They're kind of like mini skis that I flip out
for my balance, so as I'm skiing down, I can
balance myself and kind of shred like everyone else down
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the mountain.
Speaker 2 (31:50):
I'm telling you you're so cool, like the fact, I
just feel cooler talking to you. So thank you you
were something you are very special and as an athlete,
and I'm sure many go through this, whether they have
an injury or not. It's that whole thing of going
pro or competing at a certain level yet not being able
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to get paid what you need to have a real living.
I mean, it's really for the love. And I know
throughout the years you've kind of battled with this. You know,
I want to be an athlete, but it doesn't really pay. Well, Okay,
now I'll go work at Striker or I'll work somewhere
else and that will pay and I can have the
lifestyle I need. But everything just keeps bringing you back
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to athletics, and even today you're competing again. How did
you finally decide to make that commitment.
Speaker 5 (32:46):
I yeah, after Let's see, I was in twenty twenty three.
This was a couple of years ago. I was twenty seven,
and I was just realizing my true passion about is
about giving back to the people that have supported me
even before my accident. I wouldn't be who I am
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without everyone in my life who has supported me and
stuck by me and whenever I was a full time athlete.
When I left Striker after an adaptive athlete. I obviously said,
it doesn't get we don't get paid well, and you
kind of figure out, you know, I'm twenty eight. I
want a purpose driven career and like something to work
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towards and help others in their journeys wherever that's going.
But when I realized I have the resources and I
feel like I make good connections with people, bringing them together,
I have a purpose in life right now to start
doing that. And it just wasn't competing anymore in ski racing,
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so I decided to retire from that. But when I
go back to medical sales and all that stuff that actually,
like financial stability was a goal of mine too, But
I can do all that stuff and work toward getting
back to my community if I made that switch right
now at this moment instead of waiting. So I think
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it was just time.
Speaker 2 (34:13):
Well, and that is just mature, right, You're like, Okay,
I've got many buckets of goals in my life. Athletics
is just one. But now this way you can kind
of switch into that next chapter. And I know for you,
I just want to touch on this because I think
it's important. You understand better than anybody those dark moments.
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There was a time when you didn't want to keep going.
Speaker 15 (34:38):
You know, you.
Speaker 2 (34:40):
Put yourself in a place where you were in a
dark place back at the hospital, your mom was praying
for you. You didn't really no one even knew if you
would survive. You had gone to a place of surrender.
But what I think is so fascinating, Shelby, is that
you are somebody that squashes pain, squashes fear, and even
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sometimes in your darkest moment, you had this revelation where
you thought you saw the devil and it was a
moment where you had to emotionally in your heart, in
your mind, in your soul, fight for yourself.
Speaker 3 (35:27):
What was that moment?
Speaker 5 (35:29):
Yeah, I was in the hospital. I didn't know where
I was. I knew I was in the hospital because
that's what I was envisioning in my head. I wasn't
sure if I was awake or sleeping.
Speaker 6 (35:41):
It was just it was tough.
Speaker 8 (35:43):
I was at that.
Speaker 5 (35:43):
Dark place and every night the devil would come into
my room and nobody would notice. I'm like, did anyone
else see that? And then it was the scariest thing ever,
and people say, like, you know, did you see the light? Like, no,
I saw the devil because yeah, I tried to. I overdosed,
and we I would every night, going back and forth,
(36:07):
and I just had to literally reach out my hand
because every night it got closer closer, closer closer, and
then as it got right to my face, all I
had to do was stick my hand out and it
disintegrated right in front of you. Went away, and I
felt so and I woke up the next day finally
like it was the craziest moment. But I always think
about that. It gives me goosebumps. I don't talk about
(36:29):
it as much, and like when we talked about it,
I appreciated it because it was something that you know,
I have a bigger purpose on this earth that motivates
me and it makes me happy, like think about like
come on, she I'll be like, this is just right now,
like we got this, like we have a bigger purpose here.
Speaker 3 (36:48):
M h well, and and you do.
Speaker 2 (36:50):
And again I appreciate you sharing that story and just
how transparent you are. And I think that one of
the things so I want people to leap away from
from the show is the fact that you can be fearless,
you can be a fighter for your life, but also
being humble, you know, it's not easy for you in
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your wheelchair.
Speaker 3 (37:12):
You travel a lot.
Speaker 2 (37:14):
I mean those aisles on a plane are small, the
bathrooms on the plane are smaller, and you know, you
have to deal with all that. You know, just the
idea of finding, you know, partners in your life that
see beyond the wheelchair and love you like.
Speaker 3 (37:31):
I do for who you are?
Speaker 2 (37:33):
You know, and how do you quiet that noise?
Speaker 5 (37:38):
Yeah, I just knowing me, I just figure it out. Like, yes,
it's tough. Yes, it's frustrating, you can't get around that.
I've accepted it, and I just want to do it
for myself because I feel once I accomplish something, I
feel so proud and like, oh my gosh, I just
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did that. Like I've put chains on my truck in
the in the winter, like in the snow on the
highway by myself because nobody else could stop for me.
But like, yes, do those moments you frustrating? But if
I keep trying and do my best at everything I do,
a greater good comes out of it. And it just
it makes me so happy, Like you know, it's life.
(38:21):
Everyone goes through their things. It's just my thing is
being in a wheelchair. Figuring it out on a daily
basis when I travel, when I go to the bathroom,
if I'm at a restaurant, if I'm at a bar
or something like. It's just figuring it out and it's
kind of fun.
Speaker 2 (38:37):
M And you know, today we've been talking about recognizing
your strengths, our strengths. It just we round out today's interview.
What do you think your top strength is that really
has allowed you to weather all of this uncertainty.
Speaker 5 (38:54):
Yeah, tough strengths like strength wise, being mentally and physically strong,
Like I'm in the gym every day. I don't look
like I'm a T six final cord injury. And I
know it's all relative, but I will work out my
arms so I don't have to sit in my chair
all day and I can transfer on the floor onto
a different chair and stuff like that. And then my
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what motivates me, Like giving back makes me feel so
happy about myself, And uh, that's one of my strengths
is like that leadership and then just being there and
like being humble and trustworthy and building those relationships with
my community around me. That that's what makes me like
who I am and motivating me every day to stay
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happy and keep going.
Speaker 2 (39:43):
M You know, it's tough sometimes if you could go
back and never have that injury, would.
Speaker 5 (39:49):
You Now, I think this is I don't know my life.
Everyone's like your life thought so much right or after.
It's like, I mean, I get my life was great
before and now it's just I've got introduced to the
adaptive community and more people that support the adaptive community
and like giving back.
Speaker 3 (40:08):
So it's like it's really a perfect fit for your soul.
Speaker 2 (40:12):
Huh yeah, yeah, yeah, awesome. Well, we are proud of
you and we will keep rooting for you and everything
you do. And thank you so much for being on
today's show. And again I encourage everyone to check out
Shelby online and today we are talking about recognizing our
strengths and if you don't know what yours are, to
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stay tuned. We got more of the show coming.
Speaker 3 (40:37):
And we will figure that out together. We'll be back
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what are signature you and so make it an exciting journey.
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You know, Are you a good cook?
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Speaker 1 (45:37):
You're listening to Living full Out with Nancy Solary. As
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Speaker 2 (45:57):
It has been such a great show. Thank you so
much for being here with us today and talking about
recognizing your strengths. And again it's a topic that really
juices me up because I really believe we all have
such potential, but sometimes we need to either discover it
for ourselves or even be told it. And I concentrate
on that because maybe for some of you, we've gone
(46:19):
through this whole show and you're like, I don't I
don't really know what.
Speaker 3 (46:22):
I'm good at. Well, let's look at that.
Speaker 9 (46:25):
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Speaker 2 (46:25):
One of the things that I have to say it's
kind of humbling and a little bit embarrassing, and sometimes
I'm not the best person to take compliments when I'm
speaking or I'm somewhere at an event, you know, people will say, oh,
my gosh, you're so inspiring and you're so amazing, and wow,
I catched your show and it was great, or this
(46:46):
or that, and I'm always so grateful that people tune in,
but also that they benefited, they got something out of it,
whether it was the guest something they said, coaching I gave,
or maybe they read an article and something I put
in there really helped them through a hard time. But
at the same time, I realized that it's it's sometimes
(47:09):
it takes other people telling us what we're good at,
you know, how we show up in the world. And
it's always been a bit humbling because when people say
things to me, I really listen and I learn about myself.
Things I take for granted that I think are not
that amazing. They're like, wow, I can't believe how you
(47:30):
remember things so so far back in your life and
I didn't think that was something special. Or somebody will
be like, wow, the way that you navigate a room
even though you can't see, and I'm like, well, I
don't know. I just went from chair to chair to chair,
and you know, bumped into a couple of things, but
I got there, you know. But I guess when they
(47:50):
watch me navigate let's say a big room in an event,
and I'm you know, getting from A to B, They're like, wow,
I wouldn't be able to do that. So I think
sometimes when people pay you a compliment, listen, that could
be one of your strengths. Now if you say, well, Nancy,
I don't I'm not a speaker, I'm not at a
lot of events, and people don't pay me compliments too often, Well,
(48:13):
then let's do an exercise together.
Speaker 3 (48:16):
Okay.
Speaker 2 (48:17):
One of the things I tell a lot of clients
when I work with them in the early stages and
they're in this place of purpose and trying to figure
out what their talents are or what their gifts are,
is I say, you know what, I want you to
email five people. Now, if you can't think of five,
do three. But it's got to be at least three.
Five is best. And I want you to ask them
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like two questions. One question is when you come to me,
what do you come to me for? And you can
phrase it however you want, but what you're looking for
there is, you know, how do people.
Speaker 3 (48:52):
Look at you?
Speaker 2 (48:53):
Do they come to you? Because you know, you're that
really good listener, the person that they know will give
them great advice. Are you that person that will tell
it to them straight and give them kind of the
hard knocks of life? Are you that person that is
a good researcher. You know you've got the troubleshooting mind,
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you know whatever that looks like. Let them tell you
what you're good at, what those great attributes are. The
other question you want to ask them is you know
if you needed me to help you in any way,
what would that be. Now it's a very similar question,
but slightly different because if I think of people in
(49:36):
my life and and they were to ask me that question,
I would say, you know, some people, I would turn
to them because if I was in a hospital unable
to talk, I would put them in charge my medical
I'd be like, I trust you to make decisions on
my life. I trust you that much.
Speaker 3 (49:56):
But there's other.
Speaker 2 (49:57):
People that I might say, you know what, you're so
good with dogs, You're like the dog whisper, Like if
I if I ever have you know a need or
you know I need some empathy there regarding my guide
dog Frost or my Shihuahua Charlie, like you're my go
to person, and so I want you to start today
(50:17):
to ask those questions, send that email, or start to
think about you know, what are those superpowers?
Speaker 3 (50:25):
Truly?
Speaker 2 (50:27):
And then I want you to apply them to your life.
When I say apply them to your life, it is
time to find that LinkedIn profile. It is time to
go look up your dating profile.
Speaker 3 (50:38):
What do you have on there?
Speaker 2 (50:39):
Are you really talking about yourself in the way that
you should? Are you letting those traits shine in letting
new people get to know you. I also want you
to think about little.
Speaker 3 (50:53):
Things like a voicemail.
Speaker 2 (50:54):
I can't tell you how now. Maybe my ears are
a little bit more sensitive than the average person because
I I can't see. But it's interesting even in voicemails,
that's the first time some people will hear you or
meet you as your voicemail monotone.
Speaker 3 (51:12):
Is your voicemail serious?
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Or is your voicemail joyful?
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You've reached Nancy, leave your number twice. That's what mine says.
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You know, you want to think about how you want
to show up in the world, and part of that
comes from recognizing your strengths. Now, I want to make
sure that if you need more support beyond today that
you reach out to us at connect at livingfoullout dot com.
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We believe in you, We know that you have great
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So here's to you, Living full Out.
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