July 26, 2025 • 52 mins
Episode: 2025.11.23
The Living Full Out show with Nancy Solari encourages you to be strong. Perhaps you recently lost a loved one. Maybe you got laid off from a job you enjoyed. Join Nancy as she discusses how to revitalize your inner strength.
Our first caller Raina wonders how to pull herself out of being unmotivated in finding her career path. Nancy advises her to connect with professionals in her major to assist in finding an internship. She also recommended Raina to focus on her growth rather than comparing herself to others. Tune in to learn more tips about how to advance in your career.
Our inspirational guest Lachell Jordan chose to be strong multiple times throughout her life. Lachell survived sexual assault as a teenager, which led her to becoming a young mom. A few years later, she escaped an abusive marriage overseas. Her strength has guided her through every step of healing. Tune in to the Living Full Out show to hear how Lachell uses her voice to assist survivors of domestic and sexual violence.
Perhaps you are wanting to strengthen the relationships that matter the most in your life. Try making a list of a few friends you can rely on when you need them the most. Having a solid support system allows you to be strong and live full out.
Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/living-full-out-show--1474350/support.
The Living Full Out show with Nancy Solari encourages you to be strong. Perhaps you recently lost a loved one. Maybe you got laid off from a job you enjoyed. Join Nancy as she discusses how to revitalize your inner strength.
Our first caller Raina wonders how to pull herself out of being unmotivated in finding her career path. Nancy advises her to connect with professionals in her major to assist in finding an internship. She also recommended Raina to focus on her growth rather than comparing herself to others. Tune in to learn more tips about how to advance in your career.
Our inspirational guest Lachell Jordan chose to be strong multiple times throughout her life. Lachell survived sexual assault as a teenager, which led her to becoming a young mom. A few years later, she escaped an abusive marriage overseas. Her strength has guided her through every step of healing. Tune in to the Living Full Out show to hear how Lachell uses her voice to assist survivors of domestic and sexual violence.
Perhaps you are wanting to strengthen the relationships that matter the most in your life. Try making a list of a few friends you can rely on when you need them the most. Having a solid support system allows you to be strong and live full out.
Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/living-full-out-show--1474350/support.
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Speaker 1 (00:01):
You're listening the Living Full Out with Nancy Solari. As
a professional motivational speaker, Nancy can assist you to blow
through your setbacks and start living full out. If you
have an inspirational story you want to share, email us
at connect at livingfollout dot com. Once again, here's Nancy.
Speaker 2 (00:20):
Hello, and welcome to The Living Full Out Show. My
name is Nancy Silari, and today we're talking about choosing
to be strong. So you're not going to be defeated,
you're not going to feel weak, you're not going to
be unhappy. You're choosing to be strong and that is
a choice, and we're going to talk about that throughout
today's show and how to find that boost of energy
(00:40):
or confidence when we need it most. Also want to
make sure you stay with us our inspirational guests coming up.
Michelle Jordan really an amazing story how she utilized all
of her resources in her life to get her from
a place of feeling unconfident, unloved to a path of
getting through moments where she kind of lost herself and
(01:03):
ultimately today, I mean she's a visionary. She's been given
award she can look at herself and be proud, but
how do you go from the depths of sadness and
hopelessness to a place where others admire you. It's a
really touching story. Also, I want to make sure that
if you need support, reach out to us at connect
(01:24):
at livingfullout dot com. Also, remember to share this episode
with others, because that is how when we pay it forward,
we're able to give others the motivation and maybe the
support they need through you. And we appreciate you listening
as well. Now I am getting word from our producer
that we do a listener on the line. Let's go
check in with them. Hello, welcome to the Living Full
(01:46):
Out Show. Hi, Hi, how can I help you?
Speaker 3 (01:50):
Yes, so, my name is Rena and I just have
a question for you.
Speaker 2 (01:54):
Yes, that's okay, Yes, go for it.
Speaker 4 (01:57):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (01:58):
So my question is, so, when someone feels like unmotivated
just in general, how is what it's like a method
or how do you usually pull yourself out of it
just to change the mindset and how to kind of
get rid of the feeling of unmotivated it.
Speaker 2 (02:18):
So, let me ask you a question so I can
help you in the best way. So, where do you
feel unmotivated right now? In your life.
Speaker 3 (02:30):
I think mostly it just keep trying and not seeing result.
Speaker 2 (02:36):
And and what is it that you're striving for? What
is that? Is it? Job related? Personal related?
Speaker 3 (02:45):
Yeah, more so career related since I am in college.
Speaker 2 (02:50):
And so when you say that you keep striving for
something but it doesn't work out, what is that?
Speaker 3 (02:59):
I think it's just kind of having the mindset of
like facing rejection. And I think that kind of turned
into a motivation mm hmm.
Speaker 2 (03:11):
And and so let's just dream big wildest dreams. Okay,
let's say whatever it is that you want to be,
you can become it. And so what would that be?
What would you what would your career choice be.
Speaker 3 (03:27):
I would love to be a sports and entertainment lawyer.
Speaker 2 (03:30):
Okay, that sounds like fun. I would love you to
be that too, Okay, thank you, and and so and
so that sounds great. Now when you say, just have
a little bit of insight just so so I can
give you the best coaching possible. In what way do
you feel like you're rejected?
Speaker 3 (03:50):
I think just finding opportunities to help me reach my
goals and don't have like planning out on how I
would achieve my goals. I think that's what I'm struggling
with is finding that right path for me and trying
not to compare myself with others since it is a
very competitive industry.
Speaker 2 (04:14):
So the comparing yourself with others, I super get that.
I think that's true in any industry. Okay, And so
that and that's very real, it's very present, it's very real.
And that's a big hurdle to get through. But are
you also being told no in some way, like our
opportunities being taken from you or no.
Speaker 3 (04:36):
Oh, I wouldn't say like taken from me, but just
so you know, I'm applying to different opportunities to try
to build up my career path, and I think I
was just facing a lot of rejections in terms of that.
Speaker 5 (04:49):
Got it?
Speaker 2 (04:50):
Okay? Okay, So yes, competition that is big, plus applying
for things and it's not it sometimes when applying for things,
at least tell me no, it's that lingering nothing. That's hard, right,
that's worse than to know, tell me something. So I
get it. I get it. So here's the thing you
in life, whether you're trying to get a certain career goal,
(05:13):
whether you're got a fitness goal, start with the goal
and work backwards, but be strategic. So like if so,
what you want to do is consider who are some
professionals maybe in your local area, ideally that you can
actually meet with in person, buy them coffee, maybe job
(05:34):
shouted them for half a day, an hour, a full day.
Because if you can, you know, research on LinkedIn, research online,
people who you admire that have the career that you want,
then you can study their path. You can see, you know,
what school did they go to, what did they major in?
You know what were the different jobs they had before
(05:55):
they got the one that they have now right right now.
A buyo is never going to tell you everything, okay,
bio is honestly going to have a lot of you know,
good accolades on there, but not tell you the path.
So that's when you want to then call them up.
And I get students that call me all the time
and they do something. I help them with their class,
like a class assignment if I can fit into my schedule,
(06:17):
or I'll do a quick conversation with them, and I'm
guarantee these folks would be willing to give you some
of their time to help you if you just ask.
But if you don't ask, you don't get and when
you when you meet with them, you want to ask
them the kind of interview them a little bit. You
know what, you know, what were your internships? You know,
(06:38):
what would you have done differently? You know, what's what's
the time in your life you're the most proud of.
You know who do you feel helped you most in
your career? You know, just different questions that might be
applicable to helping you as well. And then from there
you want to ask them, are there any referrals you know,
is there you know anywhere any of law firm that
(07:01):
you can maybe you know, do a warm introduction? Could
I send you my resume? Would you feel a comfortable
cracking that door open? That's going to be a good avenue.
That's going to be a lot more of a maybe
or a yes than a nothing right right right, And
and and even if they don't do a warm introduction,
(07:21):
they might you might say, okay, well, if you can't
send send out a warm introduction email, could you at
least give me the name and number and then you
could call that person and say so and so referred me,
or at least can you point me in the right direction.
Then you're working further backwards. Right then you're you're looking at, Okay,
what education did they get? What class do they wish
(07:42):
they had taken?
Speaker 3 (07:43):
Oh?
Speaker 2 (07:43):
I wish I had taken more writing classes. My spelling's terrible.
Oh I wish I had learned more about you know,
this time period in history. You know, I wish I
had taken a class in that, because while you're in school,
this is the time to get that growth. And you
don't know if no one tells you.
Speaker 6 (08:01):
Right.
Speaker 2 (08:02):
So, there's a lot of folks in our interim program
living full out where I'm constantly telling them, this is
the time to better the writing. This is the time,
you know, to learn skills that become harder once you
graduate to plug in. And then if you yeah, mm hmm.
And then if you start to do these things, do
(08:22):
you see how like the rejection becomes less because you've
got a plan. Where it becomes frustrating is when you
when you start feeling like you're running out of options.
Speaker 4 (08:35):
Mm hmm.
Speaker 2 (08:36):
And I'm sure you've said to yourself, what else can
I do?
Speaker 3 (08:39):
Right?
Speaker 4 (08:40):
Right? Knowing?
Speaker 2 (08:41):
Yet what else can I do?
Speaker 6 (08:43):
Well?
Speaker 2 (08:43):
Nancy just laid out a couple of ideas. Now the
competition thing. That's a real thing too. And I want
you to remember something. There's only one you, and one
day down the line, when you become this attorney and
you represent clients, there's going to be a client that
will only hear your voice, and of all the attorneys
(09:05):
they interview, they will only hear your voice. They will
feel like you get them most more than anybody. And
as you get wins under your belt and you're achieving
those successes, then you're going to get more of those clients. Right,
And so don't let it be about the competition. Let
it be about the clients that you have to get
(09:28):
to so that you can serve them. Because the truth is,
if you let rejections and if you let competition get
in your head, it will stall your progress. It'll make
you feel insecure, and it's going to make it harder
for you to get to that client that needs you most,
(09:48):
that client desperately wants you to not listen to the noise.
Speaker 4 (09:53):
M You see that.
Speaker 2 (09:56):
Yes, okay, so we just it worked a lot backwards,
but you actually now have things you can do and
keep us posted. You know, we're cheering you on. Never
know when I might need an attorney.
Speaker 3 (10:09):
Okay, yeah, no, thank you so much.
Speaker 4 (10:12):
That was really helpful.
Speaker 2 (10:14):
You're very welcome, and for everybody listening, and just like
for you as well. Right, it's about choosing to be strong,
quieting that noise, quieting the competition, the rejections. They are
always going to be there. I've gotten rejected as well.
Speaker 6 (10:29):
You know.
Speaker 2 (10:29):
It's about knowing your worth, stepping forward, stepping into rejection,
almost almost welcoming failure because it makes you better, It
makes you more hungry, it makes you more driven. And again,
if all of us work backwards, keep our eye on
the ball, will be living full out.
Speaker 3 (10:49):
Awesome, Thank you so much.
Speaker 7 (11:01):
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(11:24):
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(11:46):
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Move your coffee cup away from your computer.
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Speaker 5 (13:12):
Who's with me?
Speaker 3 (13:13):
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Somebody call me a ride.
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(14:27):
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Speaker 1 (15:00):
If you're listening to Living Full Out with Nancy Solari
as a life coach, Nancy can teach you how to
stay strong under pressure and work through challenges you face.
Being legally blind, Nancy inspires others to be resilient and
overcoming obstacles and live full out. You can ask Nancy
for advice in your life on relationships, finance, business, health
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Speaker 2 (15:33):
Thank you so much for joining us today. I'm Nancy Solarian.
This the Living Full Out Show. Today we are talking
about choosing to be strong and our inspirational guest today,
Michelle Jordan, is such a great example of what it
means to really fight through that fire of life. Sometimes,
crawl your way to your happy, discover, fine, hunt, whatever
(15:55):
it is, don't give up. She is in that spirit
every day of her life. And as we unpack her story,
you'll see how it took a lot of vigor, it
took a lot of tenacity, but it was a choice
she has chosen to be strong to despite a lot
of twist and turns. So I'd like to welcome Lachelle
to the show.
Speaker 4 (16:16):
Hi Nimes, thank you, Hi.
Speaker 2 (16:18):
So happy to have you. And I just want to
get a little bit of grounding here just so the
audience knows. I mean, you know, you were born to
teenage parents and your dad has always been by your side,
really hard worker, you know, good man over the years.
You know, was there for you as much as he
(16:39):
could be given how much you worked. Your mom obviously
you know she had she was young, and so she
actually left your life and for a bit of time
between like four and eleven, where you ended up staying
with your grandparents, your mom's parents, and along that path,
you know, you missed your mom and you really just
(17:01):
wanted to, you know, one day make her happy when
she came home. When she did come home, which was
a very exciting time, I'm sure for you. But when
she came home, she came home with a new husband,
a child, went on the way, and all of a sudden,
you found yourself, you and your brother, you found yourself
(17:23):
in a dynamic that was unexpected. What was that like?
Speaker 4 (17:29):
It was hard. There was the excitement of having my
mom back in our life. It was so different, so
many different challenges that we would face, you know, I
think that for us, and I'll speak for myself. For me,
I was excited and then very sad.
Speaker 2 (17:49):
Again what too come from excited to sad? Why excited
to sad?
Speaker 4 (17:57):
Because life before my mom came back was easy. I
was just scared. When my mom came back, I became
a parent. I then assumed the responsibilities of taking care
of my siblings. My mom worked a lot, and so
even though we were there in the home with her,
she wasn't there always, and so a lot of the
(18:19):
responsibilities because I am the oldest and I'm the only girl,
then fell on me. So it changed.
Speaker 2 (18:27):
So here you were, and I know you were a
good student. I know that you were in color guard
and basketball, and here you were taking care of your siblings.
I mean you had a full life. At the same time,
you were rewarded with some summers where you got to
go and be with family, and one summer you went
(18:49):
to Texas. But that summer changed your life. In what way?
Speaker 4 (18:57):
That summer changed my life? I was sexually assaulted by
a stranger and the year after that led me to
a situation where I then became a mom.
Speaker 2 (19:15):
It changed everything, and it changed I mean, it changed everything.
And when I say that you were a good student,
I mean you were a good student. And your grandfather
had gone had worked at USC, and he had the
opportunity for a family member, you know, because if he
worked there to go to USC, and so that had
(19:37):
been almost your childhood dream ever since you were eight,
to become a Trojan right. But when you ended up,
you know, having a baby, that dream went away and
you ended up dating again your high school sweetheart who
(19:58):
knew everything that had happened, and you ended up marrying him,
and you ended up having more kids together, and he
was in the military, so you ended up, you know,
traveling as far as Germany. But in a lot of cases,
it's good and tell it's not sometimes with marriages and
(20:19):
so what were some of the signs where you realized
he wasn't who you thought he was.
Speaker 4 (20:27):
The isolation because we you know, when we married, we
were young. We immediately moved to Texas, where I had
no family or friends. I just had him and my children.
That's when I first started noticing that, like, this is
not okay. He isolated me. I wasn't allowed and I'll
use the word aloud, because everything in my life he controlled.
(20:51):
He controlled what we bought, he controlled what I ate,
he controlled how the money was spent because he was
the breadwinner. So the isolation is when I really started realizing,
like this is not okay. I remember asking him if
I could work, and after much pushing and pushing, he
finally agreed. But he would sit outside my job with
(21:13):
my children in the car and wait for me to
get off, just to follow me home. I knew then
that it wasn't okay. There were people that I worked
with and some neighbors that would say, like, you know,
does he hit you? Does he do this? Does he
do that? And I would say, well, you know, he's
my husband, and I just downplayed it. I really didn't understand.
(21:34):
Even though I didn't like it, I didn't know that
it wasn't like right. You know. He he was older
than me by four years. He had more experience because
he had been out in life a couple of years
before I actually, you know, left home. So I trusted
(21:56):
the things that he said, but I knew that they
weren't right because they didn't make me feel good.
Speaker 16 (22:02):
M hm.
Speaker 2 (22:04):
He Ultimately, you know, you you he because it was
in the military. He got an assignment which led you
to being able to escape, leaving Germany, going to Las
Vegas and who was there waiting for you with open arms.
Speaker 4 (22:23):
My mom my mom. I left Germany when he left
for an assignment because I was pregnant, and prior to
that I had been pregnant before and he did not
want the baby, so he uh forced me to terminate
the pregnancy. So when I became pregnant again and he
(22:44):
shortly there left for an assignment, I found that it
was the time to leave because I didn't want to
terminate that pregnancy. So I left and I went to
my mom. The one person who I had always wanted
to have that connection with met me with open arms.
Speaker 2 (23:05):
And this is where the story really takes its next level,
because your story is actually a love story between you
and your mom and just how precious time is. And
everybody will know more what we mean by that as
we go along. So as you listen to today's show, though,
(23:26):
if you are going through domestic violence, please or you're
feeling abused, reach out to us at connect atlivingfullout dot com.
Definitely seek local resources because you are not alone and
we want to make sure that you get that support.
So stay with us. We're going to be coming right
back with more of the Shell story. Today.
Speaker 17 (24:04):
In school, I learned a lot. In chemistry, I learned
that no one likes me. In English, I learned that
I'm disgusting, and in physics, I learned that I'm a loser.
Speaker 18 (24:16):
Today in school, I learned that I'm ugly and useless.
In jim I learned that I'm pathetic in a joke.
In History today, I learned that I'm trying.
Speaker 4 (24:26):
Today.
Speaker 13 (24:26):
In school, I learned that I have no friends. In English,
I learned that I make people sick. And at lunch,
I learned that I sit on my own because I smell.
In Chemistry, I learned.
Speaker 4 (24:38):
That no one In Biology, I learned that I'm fat
and stupid. And in math, I learned that I'm trash.
Speaker 17 (24:46):
The only thing I didn't learn in school today, the
only thing I didn't learn today.
Speaker 8 (24:49):
The only thing I didn't learn is why no one.
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Speaker 2 (25:04):
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You're listening to Living Full Out with Nancy Solari. With
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Speaker 2 (28:22):
Welcome back. I'm Nancy Solari and this is the Living
Full Out Show and today we're talking about choosing to
be strong, and our inspirational guest today, Michelle Jordan, is
really showing us today how she had to make that
choice to be strong for her kids and herself to
get to where she is today. So welcome back, Lachelle.
Speaker 4 (28:44):
Thank you.
Speaker 2 (28:45):
I want to take our audience now to you had
gone ahead and we went home. You left Germany. Your
mom was waiting their open arms, but you were broken,
you were emotionally. You had come with nothing. You had
no money, no belongings, and you had to seek resources
(29:09):
and kind of go on public assistance in various ways.
And there was one person for whom I know that
you wish you could find her today. You know, it
was a girl who had turned you on to so
many different avenues of getting educated and childcare and just
all the things you needed to get your life back
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on track, and you were doing that. You were doing that,
but you also along your path did some things that
you regret doing. But I think a lot of times
we have to do them out of necessity. And I
wanted to bring it up because, you know, it's one
of those things where I don't want audience members to
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ever feel ashamed of a decision they make, just like
you know, you've grown to not be ashamed of it.
So when you were in those places of really hard times,
what did you have to do in terms of the
clients that you served.
Speaker 4 (30:09):
I was in survival mode. I learned that as a
survivor of domestic and sexual violence, one thing that we
do is we survived right. And so I was in
survival mode. And I, you know, I had two I
had children, I had to feed, I had responsibilities. I
had to make sure I took care of and so I,
(30:33):
being in the tourist capital of America, developed relationships with
men to provide me with money, and I would provide
them with whatever services they requested to be able to
pay my bills to feed my children. It was hard.
(30:53):
It's something that has taken me a long time to
be comfortable with not only sharing with others, but just
saying you tough those things really deep inside. As a mom,
you always want to make sure that you're able to
be there for your children and they never want for anything.
And so as I was transitioning, working three jobs was
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not an option. This was mass money. It was easy
in the moment, had lifelong effects.
Speaker 2 (31:23):
Right right, And ultimately you did leave that. You did
it for about four years, but you transitioned, and during
that time when you got out of it, you were
remarried again, but unfortunately he was unfaithful, and ultimately you
transitioned out of that relationship. But the thing is, along
(31:46):
the way, you just didn't have a voice and you
weren't sure how to really even verbalize what had happened
to you. You know, when you were younger, let alone,
as you were growing up, things that you had to
do out of necessity, Like you said, these are not
easy topics and discussions. And you went to a conference
(32:11):
in Reno, and what happened. What did you hear? What
triggered you? Because it really opened up kind of the
floodgates of have you finding your voice?
Speaker 4 (32:25):
I started doing work with a nonprofit I started as
a volunteer, never became an actual volunteer, transitioned very quickly
into employment with them, and the agency I worked for
currently is for We Serve Survivors of human trafficking and
sexual violence. They sent me up to Reno for a conference.
(32:45):
And now was at this conference listening to homelessness and
how those that are on how face these challenges of
sexual violence, and something in whatever the speaker was saying
triggered me. I took myself, I removed my self from
the actual conference and went back to my hotel room
and had a completely breakdown. I mean I just was crying.
(33:08):
I couldn't stop. I didn't know what was going on.
And I reached out to my therapist and she said
to me, are you ready to talk about it? And I,
even in that moment, didn't know. I was like, what
are you talking about? And she goes, I think you know,
and then I just blurted it out to her. I'm
a survivor of sexual violence and domestic violence. I've done
(33:30):
these things. D da da da, da da, and it
just all flowed. It was like the most freeing feeling
that I ever felt. I told someone else what happened
to me. They heard me, and they didn't judge me.
But the truth is everything.
Speaker 2 (33:48):
But the truth is haven't you been holding that and
shouting it inside to your family? Ever since?
Speaker 4 (33:57):
I have? I have, I am in my actions. I
now know that I was screaming see me, hear me,
look at what I've been through.
Speaker 2 (34:10):
You know, it's it's it's tough because this topic is
one where it's like, how do you get out of it?
You know, you ended up getting You were always smart,
you always and that's where USC would have been lucky
to have you right, and you made a lot of moves.
You eventually found yourself to a comfortable income, and you
(34:30):
were working for the nonprofit and and you were really
living that life of purpose. And in fact, this year
you got an award and that is your proudest moment
of all the moments why.
Speaker 4 (34:46):
I received an award from the State of Nevada Coalition
and the National Coalition in Sexual Violence. The award is
titled Visionary Voice and what for me? A visionary to
see past and into the future of how we work
(35:08):
to support VIC and survivors. But a voice. The voice
is a piece of the title that really let me
know that I'm walking in purpose that all of these
things that I have experienced, even though it took me
over twenty years to verbalize them, not only to my
family and my friends, but now to the world. My
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voice is powerful, it's loud, and my purpose is to
speak for the voiceless. The topic of sexual violence is
one most three. One out of three women don't even
know that they may have been sexually violated because we
don't talk about it enough. It's one of those things
that we're just like, let's not talk about that. Domestic
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violence gets a lot of unfortunately a lot of press
about it because with domestic violence, it's more common for
people to their lives, but people are sexually assaulted and
lose their lives as well. So the award that I
was presented as a visionary voice is so fitting for
where I'm at and the journey that I've been on
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and the healing space that I currently live in. I
am a visionary voice with a loud, powerful voice that
I will use to speak for all the voiceless.
Speaker 2 (36:23):
Well, let's hear it, sister. I love it. I actually
love it because for as sad as parts of your
story are, we have to celebrate that like that is exciting.
If I had confetti right now and I could throw
it at well, not throw it at you, but you
know above you, I would. And so as we round
(36:43):
out today's interview, though, I want to go back to
that love story with your mom though, because truly, when
she left and maybe in her own way to find herself,
because she was young and maybe immature, and you had
wanted her a tensions so much, but when you needed
her most, she was there and she was there to
(37:06):
love you. She helped you, you know, get a few things,
an apartment, of car, different things. But even to her passing,
and I know she passed away like twenty years ago
for you, but even in her passing, you know how
important was it in you finding your voice to really
have that relationship come full circle?
Speaker 4 (37:30):
Extremely important. My mom has been gone for twenty years,
as you stated, but she is with me every day.
The day that I received my honor that award Divisionary Voice,
I gave a speech, and in that speech I talked
a lot about my mom because exactly what you just
said is true. I always seek her validation. I now
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know that she knows that she had to leave us
so that I could be great. I never understood that
in the first five, ten, fifteen years that she has
been passed on, but I know it today. I don't
think that I would have ever reached this where I'm
at my fullest potential in life with her by my
(38:12):
side because of all the damage that had been done
when I was young. She instilled enough in me for
the time that I did have her. She showed me
something when I went to her with a face that
was unrecognizable because it was had been beat up on,
with a spirit that was broken. When she opened the
(38:34):
door and saw my face and she hugged me that morning,
I knew that I was safe. And from that I
can now look back and be like, I understand why
she's had to go, because she had to leave so
that I can be great.
Speaker 2 (38:50):
And we have just a minute here. But have you
been able to forgive yourself others along your path?
Speaker 4 (39:01):
Absolutely? I have forgiven anyone who has physically emotionally hurt me.
My abusers, I forgive them and I pray for them.
My mom, I forgive her. I forgive her a long
time ago, but I can tell you today, twenty years later, man,
(39:22):
I miss her, and I really do. I really do
have known hurt in my heart anymore for any of
the traumas that she may have afflicted on me as
a young child.
Speaker 2 (39:33):
Well that is I mean, I think that's all you
can ask. I mean, I think you've got this renewed
hope and purpose and you know, obviously you're doing great
work at the nonprofit, but at the same time, you've
done the work to heal, forgive, and you got that
precious time in with your mom before she passed, And
(39:54):
so I really believe that when we consider what living
full out means, Michelle, you are such a great example
of it, and I'm so proud of you. So thank
you for sharing your story.
Speaker 4 (40:08):
Thank you for allowing the space for me to do so,
And for anyone who is listening, I just want you
to know there's power and stories, and I hope that
my story serves not only as an inspiration to start
your own healing journey, but as an opportunity for you
to feel safe in sharing your story with someone else.
Speaker 2 (40:29):
I love that. Perfect words to end on more confetti,
I'm throwing more of your way. Thank you, did you
get it good?
Speaker 20 (40:38):
All right?
Speaker 2 (40:39):
Thank you so much. And for everyone else, We're going
to be coming right back after this break. It's all
about living full out.
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Let today be the day that you choose to be strong.
So anything that is coming at you that is wearing
you down, it's making you feel insecure, it's making you
worried and can't sleep at night, I want you to
tell those concerned stresses go away. Literally, you can use
those words because you are choosing to be strong, You're
(45:24):
choosing to be happy, and most of all, you're choosing
to get out there and live your life full out.
Speaker 1 (45:37):
You're listening to Living Full Out with Nancy Solary as
a professional motivational speaker. Nancy can assist you to blow
through your setbacks and start living full out. If you
have an inspirational story you want to share, email us
at connect at livingfullout dot com. Once again, here's Nancy,
Welcome back.
Speaker 2 (45:57):
I'm Nancyslarian. This is the Living Full Out Show and
today we're talking about choosing to be strong. And I
love this topic truly because I've interviewed a lot of
people over the years and I'll be honest, they make
me feel like my life is okay. And I tell
you that because being blind is not a walk in
(46:20):
the park. There are plenty of times I hit my
head and bang my leg on the coffee table, and
you know I mean trip and fall and you name it.
Sometimes I tell you what hitting your head against a wall.
It's like a crime scene, the amount of blood that
comes out of a head. But I got to tell
you that because we all have our crisis in life,
(46:42):
we all have our trips and falls. We all have
times when we've gone through something traumatic. And why I
say that when I hear different guest stories, I feel better.
I hope you do too when you listen to our shows,
because I really give a lot of reddit to them.
They have gone through really hard times, heartbreaking, stressful, hopeless,
(47:09):
and they crack the code and they figure out ways
to be resourceful, ways to you know, make moves that
sometimes feel uncomfortable, but they know they have to do it.
They have to be strong to get to the other side.
And so I just encourage you when you have a
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(47:29):
Full Out Show app. Because when you listen to story
after story like I do when I interview them, you
will see one common ingredient, and that is strength. That
is forward thinking, That is somebody who's willing to just
keep pushing, being persistent, being tenacious, being resilient. Okay, these
(47:55):
are all buzzwords that are in the wheelhouse of those
who chief. So if you look at those in life,
who are people that you might look up to, could
be a parent, could be somebody professionally, I'm pretty sure
you would take all those words I just gave you,
plus the fact that they choose to be strong in
(48:17):
face of deadlines, in face of financial loss, in face
of long hours, or you know, the parent's list is
even longer, right of all the things that they weather
in a day or in a lifetime for their kids.
And so I want you to think about in your life,
where could you be more strong? Where do you need
(48:40):
to be more strong? And I emphasize the word need,
because this is your race to run, just like I
have to be strong sometimes in literally putting my arm
out so I don't, you know, run into a TV
or run into a wall. I have an arm, I
can stick it out there. I can make sure that
I don't injure myself, right, just like how I do that?
(49:04):
In your life? You want to figure out, you know
what what extension? Maybe it's your arm, Maybe it's asking
for help, maybe it's taking a class. What do you
need to do to make yourself stronger? Because the thing
is things are going to come up in your life
(49:25):
that are unexpected. There's going to be bad news that's
going to come your way. And one of the things
that I've always held onto is when I am strong,
when I am solid in knowing that you know I
give life my best, I genuinely like who I am,
and I know that I'm being the best person I
(49:46):
can be. Then it's easier to get through those hard
times because you know, I know that I didn't leave
anything on the table. I know that you know I
didn't give it my all. And when I interview people
and I hear their stories where they feel ashamed, where
they feel insecure, is when they didn't give their best,
(50:09):
when they had weak moments where they you know, gave in.
And it's easier said than done. So know that this
is a muscle, this is a muscle that we all work,
this ability to be strong, and on days that you're not,
that's okay too. That's again when I want you to
listen to our show, you know, to get some motivation,
(50:32):
to get some inspiration and comfort and maybe a guest
story will resonate with what you're going through. You know,
that's when I want you to start developing or maintain
good relationships in your life. You don't need one hundred friends,
you just need two, maybe three, really solid ones. So
when you're having a day that's twisty and hard, you
(50:55):
can call them. And I also want you to think
about having yourself be physically strong, spiritually strong. You know,
all of these tools are what you need to get
through the parts of life that are twisty. I also
want to make sure that as we round out today's show,
(51:15):
if you are just feeling like you know what, Nancy.
Speaker 1 (51:18):
I.
Speaker 2 (51:20):
Have so many areas of my life where they're out
of whack, they're out of sequence, I don't feel strong,
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navigate towards the end of the show, always know that
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I stand beside you every step of the way. I
promise you you will get through the hard times. You
will celebrate the good as you live full out.
Speaker 1 (52:27):
Thank you for listening to The Living Full Out Show
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You're listening the Living Full Out with Nancy Solari. As
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Speaker 2 (00:20):
Hello, and welcome to The Living Full Out Show. My
name is Nancy Silari, and today we're talking about choosing
to be strong. So you're not going to be defeated,
you're not going to feel weak, you're not going to
be unhappy. You're choosing to be strong and that is
a choice, and we're going to talk about that throughout
today's show and how to find that boost of energy
(00:40):
or confidence when we need it most. Also want to
make sure you stay with us our inspirational guests coming up.
Michelle Jordan really an amazing story how she utilized all
of her resources in her life to get her from
a place of feeling unconfident, unloved to a path of
getting through moments where she kind of lost herself and
(01:03):
ultimately today, I mean she's a visionary. She's been given
award she can look at herself and be proud, but
how do you go from the depths of sadness and
hopelessness to a place where others admire you. It's a
really touching story. Also, I want to make sure that
if you need support, reach out to us at connect
(01:24):
at livingfullout dot com. Also, remember to share this episode
with others, because that is how when we pay it forward,
we're able to give others the motivation and maybe the
support they need through you. And we appreciate you listening
as well. Now I am getting word from our producer
that we do a listener on the line. Let's go
check in with them. Hello, welcome to the Living Full
(01:46):
Out Show. Hi, Hi, how can I help you?
Speaker 3 (01:50):
Yes, so, my name is Rena and I just have
a question for you.
Speaker 2 (01:54):
Yes, that's okay, Yes, go for it.
Speaker 4 (01:57):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (01:58):
So my question is, so, when someone feels like unmotivated
just in general, how is what it's like a method
or how do you usually pull yourself out of it
just to change the mindset and how to kind of
get rid of the feeling of unmotivated it.
Speaker 2 (02:18):
So, let me ask you a question so I can
help you in the best way. So, where do you
feel unmotivated right now? In your life.
Speaker 3 (02:30):
I think mostly it just keep trying and not seeing result.
Speaker 2 (02:36):
And and what is it that you're striving for? What
is that? Is it? Job related? Personal related?
Speaker 3 (02:45):
Yeah, more so career related since I am in college.
Speaker 2 (02:50):
And so when you say that you keep striving for
something but it doesn't work out, what is that?
Speaker 3 (02:59):
I think it's just kind of having the mindset of
like facing rejection. And I think that kind of turned
into a motivation mm hmm.
Speaker 2 (03:11):
And and so let's just dream big wildest dreams. Okay,
let's say whatever it is that you want to be,
you can become it. And so what would that be?
What would you what would your career choice be.
Speaker 3 (03:27):
I would love to be a sports and entertainment lawyer.
Speaker 2 (03:30):
Okay, that sounds like fun. I would love you to
be that too, Okay, thank you, and and so and
so that sounds great. Now when you say, just have
a little bit of insight just so so I can
give you the best coaching possible. In what way do
you feel like you're rejected?
Speaker 3 (03:50):
I think just finding opportunities to help me reach my
goals and don't have like planning out on how I
would achieve my goals. I think that's what I'm struggling
with is finding that right path for me and trying
not to compare myself with others since it is a
very competitive industry.
Speaker 2 (04:14):
So the comparing yourself with others, I super get that.
I think that's true in any industry. Okay, And so
that and that's very real, it's very present, it's very real.
And that's a big hurdle to get through. But are
you also being told no in some way, like our
opportunities being taken from you or no.
Speaker 3 (04:36):
Oh, I wouldn't say like taken from me, but just
so you know, I'm applying to different opportunities to try
to build up my career path, and I think I
was just facing a lot of rejections in terms of that.
Speaker 5 (04:49):
Got it?
Speaker 2 (04:50):
Okay? Okay, So yes, competition that is big, plus applying
for things and it's not it sometimes when applying for things,
at least tell me no, it's that lingering nothing. That's hard, right,
that's worse than to know, tell me something. So I
get it. I get it. So here's the thing you
in life, whether you're trying to get a certain career goal,
(05:13):
whether you're got a fitness goal, start with the goal
and work backwards, but be strategic. So like if so,
what you want to do is consider who are some
professionals maybe in your local area, ideally that you can
actually meet with in person, buy them coffee, maybe job
(05:34):
shouted them for half a day, an hour, a full day.
Because if you can, you know, research on LinkedIn, research online,
people who you admire that have the career that you want,
then you can study their path. You can see, you know,
what school did they go to, what did they major in?
You know what were the different jobs they had before
(05:55):
they got the one that they have now right right now.
A buyo is never going to tell you everything, okay,
bio is honestly going to have a lot of you know,
good accolades on there, but not tell you the path.
So that's when you want to then call them up.
And I get students that call me all the time
and they do something. I help them with their class,
like a class assignment if I can fit into my schedule,
(06:17):
or I'll do a quick conversation with them, and I'm
guarantee these folks would be willing to give you some
of their time to help you if you just ask.
But if you don't ask, you don't get and when
you when you meet with them, you want to ask
them the kind of interview them a little bit. You
know what, you know, what were your internships? You know,
(06:38):
what would you have done differently? You know, what's what's
the time in your life you're the most proud of.
You know who do you feel helped you most in
your career? You know, just different questions that might be
applicable to helping you as well. And then from there
you want to ask them, are there any referrals you know,
is there you know anywhere any of law firm that
(07:01):
you can maybe you know, do a warm introduction? Could
I send you my resume? Would you feel a comfortable
cracking that door open? That's going to be a good avenue.
That's going to be a lot more of a maybe
or a yes than a nothing right right right, And
and and even if they don't do a warm introduction,
(07:21):
they might you might say, okay, well, if you can't
send send out a warm introduction email, could you at
least give me the name and number and then you
could call that person and say so and so referred me,
or at least can you point me in the right direction.
Then you're working further backwards. Right then you're you're looking at, Okay,
what education did they get? What class do they wish
(07:42):
they had taken?
Speaker 3 (07:43):
Oh?
Speaker 2 (07:43):
I wish I had taken more writing classes. My spelling's terrible.
Oh I wish I had learned more about you know,
this time period in history. You know, I wish I
had taken a class in that, because while you're in school,
this is the time to get that growth. And you
don't know if no one tells you.
Speaker 6 (08:01):
Right.
Speaker 2 (08:02):
So, there's a lot of folks in our interim program
living full out where I'm constantly telling them, this is
the time to better the writing. This is the time,
you know, to learn skills that become harder once you
graduate to plug in. And then if you yeah, mm hmm.
And then if you start to do these things, do
(08:22):
you see how like the rejection becomes less because you've
got a plan. Where it becomes frustrating is when you
when you start feeling like you're running out of options.
Speaker 4 (08:35):
Mm hmm.
Speaker 2 (08:36):
And I'm sure you've said to yourself, what else can
I do?
Speaker 3 (08:39):
Right?
Speaker 4 (08:40):
Right? Knowing?
Speaker 2 (08:41):
Yet what else can I do?
Speaker 6 (08:43):
Well?
Speaker 2 (08:43):
Nancy just laid out a couple of ideas. Now the
competition thing. That's a real thing too. And I want
you to remember something. There's only one you, and one
day down the line, when you become this attorney and
you represent clients, there's going to be a client that
will only hear your voice, and of all the attorneys
(09:05):
they interview, they will only hear your voice. They will
feel like you get them most more than anybody. And
as you get wins under your belt and you're achieving
those successes, then you're going to get more of those clients. Right,
And so don't let it be about the competition. Let
it be about the clients that you have to get
(09:28):
to so that you can serve them. Because the truth is,
if you let rejections and if you let competition get
in your head, it will stall your progress. It'll make
you feel insecure, and it's going to make it harder
for you to get to that client that needs you most,
(09:48):
that client desperately wants you to not listen to the noise.
Speaker 4 (09:53):
M You see that.
Speaker 2 (09:56):
Yes, okay, so we just it worked a lot backwards,
but you actually now have things you can do and
keep us posted. You know, we're cheering you on. Never
know when I might need an attorney.
Speaker 3 (10:09):
Okay, yeah, no, thank you so much.
Speaker 4 (10:12):
That was really helpful.
Speaker 2 (10:14):
You're very welcome, and for everybody listening, and just like
for you as well. Right, it's about choosing to be strong,
quieting that noise, quieting the competition, the rejections. They are
always going to be there. I've gotten rejected as well.
Speaker 6 (10:29):
You know.
Speaker 2 (10:29):
It's about knowing your worth, stepping forward, stepping into rejection,
almost almost welcoming failure because it makes you better, It
makes you more hungry, it makes you more driven. And again,
if all of us work backwards, keep our eye on
the ball, will be living full out.
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Awesome, Thank you so much.
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Speaker 1 (15:00):
If you're listening to Living Full Out with Nancy Solari
as a life coach, Nancy can teach you how to
stay strong under pressure and work through challenges you face.
Being legally blind, Nancy inspires others to be resilient and
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Speaker 2 (15:33):
Thank you so much for joining us today. I'm Nancy Solarian.
This the Living Full Out Show. Today we are talking
about choosing to be strong and our inspirational guest today,
Michelle Jordan, is such a great example of what it
means to really fight through that fire of life. Sometimes,
crawl your way to your happy, discover, fine, hunt, whatever
(15:55):
it is, don't give up. She is in that spirit
every day of her life. And as we unpack her story,
you'll see how it took a lot of vigor, it
took a lot of tenacity, but it was a choice
she has chosen to be strong to despite a lot
of twist and turns. So I'd like to welcome Lachelle
to the show.
Speaker 4 (16:16):
Hi Nimes, thank you, Hi.
Speaker 2 (16:18):
So happy to have you. And I just want to
get a little bit of grounding here just so the
audience knows. I mean, you know, you were born to
teenage parents and your dad has always been by your side,
really hard worker, you know, good man over the years.
You know, was there for you as much as he
(16:39):
could be given how much you worked. Your mom obviously
you know she had she was young, and so she
actually left your life and for a bit of time
between like four and eleven, where you ended up staying
with your grandparents, your mom's parents, and along that path,
you know, you missed your mom and you really just
(17:01):
wanted to, you know, one day make her happy when
she came home. When she did come home, which was
a very exciting time, I'm sure for you. But when
she came home, she came home with a new husband,
a child, went on the way, and all of a sudden,
you found yourself, you and your brother, you found yourself
(17:23):
in a dynamic that was unexpected. What was that like?
Speaker 4 (17:29):
It was hard. There was the excitement of having my
mom back in our life. It was so different, so
many different challenges that we would face, you know, I
think that for us, and I'll speak for myself. For me,
I was excited and then very sad.
Speaker 2 (17:49):
Again what too come from excited to sad? Why excited
to sad?
Speaker 4 (17:57):
Because life before my mom came back was easy. I
was just scared. When my mom came back, I became
a parent. I then assumed the responsibilities of taking care
of my siblings. My mom worked a lot, and so
even though we were there in the home with her,
she wasn't there always, and so a lot of the
(18:19):
responsibilities because I am the oldest and I'm the only girl,
then fell on me. So it changed.
Speaker 2 (18:27):
So here you were, and I know you were a
good student. I know that you were in color guard
and basketball, and here you were taking care of your siblings.
I mean you had a full life. At the same time,
you were rewarded with some summers where you got to
go and be with family, and one summer you went
(18:49):
to Texas. But that summer changed your life. In what way?
Speaker 4 (18:57):
That summer changed my life? I was sexually assaulted by
a stranger and the year after that led me to
a situation where I then became a mom.
Speaker 2 (19:15):
It changed everything, and it changed I mean, it changed everything.
And when I say that you were a good student,
I mean you were a good student. And your grandfather
had gone had worked at USC, and he had the
opportunity for a family member, you know, because if he
worked there to go to USC, and so that had
(19:37):
been almost your childhood dream ever since you were eight,
to become a Trojan right. But when you ended up,
you know, having a baby, that dream went away and
you ended up dating again your high school sweetheart who
(19:58):
knew everything that had happened, and you ended up marrying him,
and you ended up having more kids together, and he
was in the military, so you ended up, you know,
traveling as far as Germany. But in a lot of cases,
it's good and tell it's not sometimes with marriages and
(20:19):
so what were some of the signs where you realized
he wasn't who you thought he was.
Speaker 4 (20:27):
The isolation because we you know, when we married, we
were young. We immediately moved to Texas, where I had
no family or friends. I just had him and my children.
That's when I first started noticing that, like, this is
not okay. He isolated me. I wasn't allowed and I'll
use the word aloud, because everything in my life he controlled.
(20:51):
He controlled what we bought, he controlled what I ate,
he controlled how the money was spent because he was
the breadwinner. So the isolation is when I really started realizing,
like this is not okay. I remember asking him if
I could work, and after much pushing and pushing, he
finally agreed. But he would sit outside my job with
(21:13):
my children in the car and wait for me to
get off, just to follow me home. I knew then
that it wasn't okay. There were people that I worked
with and some neighbors that would say, like, you know,
does he hit you? Does he do this? Does he
do that? And I would say, well, you know, he's
my husband, and I just downplayed it. I really didn't understand.
(21:34):
Even though I didn't like it, I didn't know that
it wasn't like right. You know. He he was older
than me by four years. He had more experience because
he had been out in life a couple of years
before I actually, you know, left home. So I trusted
(21:56):
the things that he said, but I knew that they
weren't right because they didn't make me feel good.
Speaker 16 (22:02):
M hm.
Speaker 2 (22:04):
He Ultimately, you know, you you he because it was
in the military. He got an assignment which led you
to being able to escape, leaving Germany, going to Las
Vegas and who was there waiting for you with open arms.
Speaker 4 (22:23):
My mom my mom. I left Germany when he left
for an assignment because I was pregnant, and prior to
that I had been pregnant before and he did not
want the baby, so he uh forced me to terminate
the pregnancy. So when I became pregnant again and he
(22:44):
shortly there left for an assignment, I found that it
was the time to leave because I didn't want to
terminate that pregnancy. So I left and I went to
my mom. The one person who I had always wanted
to have that connection with met me with open arms.
Speaker 2 (23:05):
And this is where the story really takes its next level,
because your story is actually a love story between you
and your mom and just how precious time is. And
everybody will know more what we mean by that as
we go along. So as you listen to today's show, though,
(23:26):
if you are going through domestic violence, please or you're
feeling abused, reach out to us at connect atlivingfullout dot com.
Definitely seek local resources because you are not alone and
we want to make sure that you get that support.
So stay with us. We're going to be coming right
back with more of the Shell story. Today.
Speaker 17 (24:04):
In school, I learned a lot. In chemistry, I learned
that no one likes me. In English, I learned that
I'm disgusting, and in physics, I learned that I'm a loser.
Speaker 18 (24:16):
Today in school, I learned that I'm ugly and useless.
In jim I learned that I'm pathetic in a joke.
In History today, I learned that I'm trying.
Speaker 4 (24:26):
Today.
Speaker 13 (24:26):
In school, I learned that I have no friends. In English,
I learned that I make people sick. And at lunch,
I learned that I sit on my own because I smell.
In Chemistry, I learned.
Speaker 4 (24:38):
That no one In Biology, I learned that I'm fat
and stupid. And in math, I learned that I'm trash.
Speaker 17 (24:46):
The only thing I didn't learn in school today, the
only thing I didn't learn today.
Speaker 8 (24:49):
The only thing I didn't learn is why no one.
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Speaker 1 (28:04):
You're listening to Living Full Out with Nancy Solari. With
Nancy's expertise, you'll learn how to embrace your potential and
strive for success. If you have a question or need
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Speaker 2 (28:22):
Welcome back. I'm Nancy Solari and this is the Living
Full Out Show and today we're talking about choosing to
be strong, and our inspirational guest today, Michelle Jordan, is
really showing us today how she had to make that
choice to be strong for her kids and herself to
get to where she is today. So welcome back, Lachelle.
Speaker 4 (28:44):
Thank you.
Speaker 2 (28:45):
I want to take our audience now to you had
gone ahead and we went home. You left Germany. Your
mom was waiting their open arms, but you were broken,
you were emotionally. You had come with nothing. You had
no money, no belongings, and you had to seek resources
(29:09):
and kind of go on public assistance in various ways.
And there was one person for whom I know that
you wish you could find her today. You know, it
was a girl who had turned you on to so
many different avenues of getting educated and childcare and just
all the things you needed to get your life back
(29:31):
on track, and you were doing that. You were doing that,
but you also along your path did some things that
you regret doing. But I think a lot of times
we have to do them out of necessity. And I
wanted to bring it up because, you know, it's one
of those things where I don't want audience members to
(29:53):
ever feel ashamed of a decision they make, just like
you know, you've grown to not be ashamed of it.
So when you were in those places of really hard times,
what did you have to do in terms of the
clients that you served.
Speaker 4 (30:09):
I was in survival mode. I learned that as a
survivor of domestic and sexual violence, one thing that we
do is we survived right. And so I was in
survival mode. And I, you know, I had two I
had children, I had to feed, I had responsibilities. I
had to make sure I took care of and so I,
(30:33):
being in the tourist capital of America, developed relationships with
men to provide me with money, and I would provide
them with whatever services they requested to be able to
pay my bills to feed my children. It was hard.
(30:53):
It's something that has taken me a long time to
be comfortable with not only sharing with others, but just
saying you tough those things really deep inside. As a mom,
you always want to make sure that you're able to
be there for your children and they never want for anything.
And so as I was transitioning, working three jobs was
(31:16):
not an option. This was mass money. It was easy
in the moment, had lifelong effects.
Speaker 2 (31:23):
Right right, And ultimately you did leave that. You did
it for about four years, but you transitioned, and during
that time when you got out of it, you were
remarried again, but unfortunately he was unfaithful, and ultimately you
transitioned out of that relationship. But the thing is, along
(31:46):
the way, you just didn't have a voice and you
weren't sure how to really even verbalize what had happened
to you. You know, when you were younger, let alone,
as you were growing up, things that you had to
do out of necessity, Like you said, these are not
easy topics and discussions. And you went to a conference
(32:11):
in Reno, and what happened. What did you hear? What
triggered you? Because it really opened up kind of the
floodgates of have you finding your voice?
Speaker 4 (32:25):
I started doing work with a nonprofit I started as
a volunteer, never became an actual volunteer, transitioned very quickly
into employment with them, and the agency I worked for
currently is for We Serve Survivors of human trafficking and
sexual violence. They sent me up to Reno for a conference.
(32:45):
And now was at this conference listening to homelessness and
how those that are on how face these challenges of
sexual violence, and something in whatever the speaker was saying
triggered me. I took myself, I removed my self from
the actual conference and went back to my hotel room
and had a completely breakdown. I mean I just was crying.
(33:08):
I couldn't stop. I didn't know what was going on.
And I reached out to my therapist and she said
to me, are you ready to talk about it? And I,
even in that moment, didn't know. I was like, what
are you talking about? And she goes, I think you know,
and then I just blurted it out to her. I'm
a survivor of sexual violence and domestic violence. I've done
(33:30):
these things. D da da da, da da, and it
just all flowed. It was like the most freeing feeling
that I ever felt. I told someone else what happened
to me. They heard me, and they didn't judge me.
But the truth is everything.
Speaker 2 (33:48):
But the truth is haven't you been holding that and
shouting it inside to your family? Ever since?
Speaker 4 (33:57):
I have? I have, I am in my actions. I
now know that I was screaming see me, hear me,
look at what I've been through.
Speaker 2 (34:10):
You know, it's it's it's tough because this topic is
one where it's like, how do you get out of it?
You know, you ended up getting You were always smart,
you always and that's where USC would have been lucky
to have you right, and you made a lot of moves.
You eventually found yourself to a comfortable income, and you
(34:30):
were working for the nonprofit and and you were really
living that life of purpose. And in fact, this year
you got an award and that is your proudest moment
of all the moments why.
Speaker 4 (34:46):
I received an award from the State of Nevada Coalition
and the National Coalition in Sexual Violence. The award is
titled Visionary Voice and what for me? A visionary to
see past and into the future of how we work
(35:08):
to support VIC and survivors. But a voice. The voice
is a piece of the title that really let me
know that I'm walking in purpose that all of these
things that I have experienced, even though it took me
over twenty years to verbalize them, not only to my
family and my friends, but now to the world. My
(35:28):
voice is powerful, it's loud, and my purpose is to
speak for the voiceless. The topic of sexual violence is
one most three. One out of three women don't even
know that they may have been sexually violated because we
don't talk about it enough. It's one of those things
that we're just like, let's not talk about that. Domestic
(35:51):
violence gets a lot of unfortunately a lot of press
about it because with domestic violence, it's more common for
people to their lives, but people are sexually assaulted and
lose their lives as well. So the award that I
was presented as a visionary voice is so fitting for
where I'm at and the journey that I've been on
(36:12):
and the healing space that I currently live in. I
am a visionary voice with a loud, powerful voice that
I will use to speak for all the voiceless.
Speaker 2 (36:23):
Well, let's hear it, sister. I love it. I actually
love it because for as sad as parts of your
story are, we have to celebrate that like that is exciting.
If I had confetti right now and I could throw
it at well, not throw it at you, but you
know above you, I would. And so as we round
(36:43):
out today's interview, though, I want to go back to
that love story with your mom though, because truly, when
she left and maybe in her own way to find herself,
because she was young and maybe immature, and you had
wanted her a tensions so much, but when you needed
her most, she was there and she was there to
(37:06):
love you. She helped you, you know, get a few things,
an apartment, of car, different things. But even to her passing,
and I know she passed away like twenty years ago
for you, but even in her passing, you know how
important was it in you finding your voice to really
have that relationship come full circle?
Speaker 4 (37:30):
Extremely important. My mom has been gone for twenty years,
as you stated, but she is with me every day.
The day that I received my honor that award Divisionary Voice,
I gave a speech, and in that speech I talked
a lot about my mom because exactly what you just
said is true. I always seek her validation. I now
(37:52):
know that she knows that she had to leave us
so that I could be great. I never understood that
in the first five, ten, fifteen years that she has
been passed on, but I know it today. I don't
think that I would have ever reached this where I'm
at my fullest potential in life with her by my
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side because of all the damage that had been done
when I was young. She instilled enough in me for
the time that I did have her. She showed me
something when I went to her with a face that
was unrecognizable because it was had been beat up on,
with a spirit that was broken. When she opened the
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door and saw my face and she hugged me that morning,
I knew that I was safe. And from that I
can now look back and be like, I understand why
she's had to go, because she had to leave so
that I can be great.
Speaker 2 (38:50):
And we have just a minute here. But have you
been able to forgive yourself others along your path?
Speaker 4 (39:01):
Absolutely? I have forgiven anyone who has physically emotionally hurt me.
My abusers, I forgive them and I pray for them.
My mom, I forgive her. I forgive her a long
time ago, but I can tell you today, twenty years later, man,
(39:22):
I miss her, and I really do. I really do
have known hurt in my heart anymore for any of
the traumas that she may have afflicted on me as
a young child.
Speaker 2 (39:33):
Well that is I mean, I think that's all you
can ask. I mean, I think you've got this renewed
hope and purpose and you know, obviously you're doing great
work at the nonprofit, but at the same time, you've
done the work to heal, forgive, and you got that
precious time in with your mom before she passed, And
(39:54):
so I really believe that when we consider what living
full out means, Michelle, you are such a great example
of it, and I'm so proud of you. So thank
you for sharing your story.
Speaker 4 (40:08):
Thank you for allowing the space for me to do so,
And for anyone who is listening, I just want you
to know there's power and stories, and I hope that
my story serves not only as an inspiration to start
your own healing journey, but as an opportunity for you
to feel safe in sharing your story with someone else.
Speaker 2 (40:29):
I love that. Perfect words to end on more confetti,
I'm throwing more of your way. Thank you, did you
get it good?
Speaker 20 (40:38):
All right?
Speaker 2 (40:39):
Thank you so much. And for everyone else, We're going
to be coming right back after this break. It's all
about living full out.
Speaker 11 (41:06):
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(42:41):
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Speaker 14 (43:01):
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(44:32):
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Speaker 2 (45:02):
Let today be the day that you choose to be strong.
So anything that is coming at you that is wearing
you down, it's making you feel insecure, it's making you
worried and can't sleep at night, I want you to
tell those concerned stresses go away. Literally, you can use
those words because you are choosing to be strong, You're
(45:24):
choosing to be happy, and most of all, you're choosing
to get out there and live your life full out.
Speaker 1 (45:37):
You're listening to Living Full Out with Nancy Solary as
a professional motivational speaker. Nancy can assist you to blow
through your setbacks and start living full out. If you
have an inspirational story you want to share, email us
at connect at livingfullout dot com. Once again, here's Nancy,
Welcome back.
Speaker 2 (45:57):
I'm Nancyslarian. This is the Living Full Out Show and
today we're talking about choosing to be strong. And I
love this topic truly because I've interviewed a lot of
people over the years and I'll be honest, they make
me feel like my life is okay. And I tell
you that because being blind is not a walk in
(46:20):
the park. There are plenty of times I hit my
head and bang my leg on the coffee table, and
you know I mean trip and fall and you name it.
Sometimes I tell you what hitting your head against a wall.
It's like a crime scene, the amount of blood that
comes out of a head. But I got to tell
you that because we all have our crisis in life,
(46:42):
we all have our trips and falls. We all have
times when we've gone through something traumatic. And why I
say that when I hear different guest stories, I feel better.
I hope you do too when you listen to our shows,
because I really give a lot of reddit to them.
They have gone through really hard times, heartbreaking, stressful, hopeless,
(47:09):
and they crack the code and they figure out ways
to be resourceful, ways to you know, make moves that
sometimes feel uncomfortable, but they know they have to do it.
They have to be strong to get to the other side.
And so I just encourage you when you have a
chance to go to the app store, get the Living
(47:29):
Full Out Show app. Because when you listen to story
after story like I do when I interview them, you
will see one common ingredient, and that is strength. That
is forward thinking, That is somebody who's willing to just
keep pushing, being persistent, being tenacious, being resilient. Okay, these
(47:55):
are all buzzwords that are in the wheelhouse of those
who chief. So if you look at those in life,
who are people that you might look up to, could
be a parent, could be somebody professionally, I'm pretty sure
you would take all those words I just gave you,
plus the fact that they choose to be strong in
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face of deadlines, in face of financial loss, in face
of long hours, or you know, the parent's list is
even longer, right of all the things that they weather
in a day or in a lifetime for their kids.
And so I want you to think about in your life,
where could you be more strong? Where do you need
(48:40):
to be more strong? And I emphasize the word need,
because this is your race to run, just like I
have to be strong sometimes in literally putting my arm
out so I don't, you know, run into a TV
or run into a wall. I have an arm, I
can stick it out there. I can make sure that
I don't injure myself, right, just like how I do that?
(49:04):
In your life? You want to figure out, you know
what what extension? Maybe it's your arm, Maybe it's asking
for help, maybe it's taking a class. What do you
need to do to make yourself stronger? Because the thing
is things are going to come up in your life
(49:25):
that are unexpected. There's going to be bad news that's
going to come your way. And one of the things
that I've always held onto is when I am strong,
when I am solid in knowing that you know I
give life my best, I genuinely like who I am,
and I know that I'm being the best person I
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can be. Then it's easier to get through those hard
times because you know, I know that I didn't leave
anything on the table. I know that you know I
didn't give it my all. And when I interview people
and I hear their stories where they feel ashamed, where
they feel insecure, is when they didn't give their best,
(50:09):
when they had weak moments where they you know, gave in.
And it's easier said than done. So know that this
is a muscle, this is a muscle that we all work,
this ability to be strong, and on days that you're not,
that's okay too. That's again when I want you to
listen to our show, you know, to get some motivation,
(50:32):
to get some inspiration and comfort and maybe a guest
story will resonate with what you're going through. You know,
that's when I want you to start developing or maintain
good relationships in your life. You don't need one hundred friends,
you just need two, maybe three, really solid ones. So
when you're having a day that's twisty and hard, you
(50:55):
can call them. And I also want you to think
about having yourself be physically strong, spiritually strong. You know,
all of these tools are what you need to get
through the parts of life that are twisty. I also
want to make sure that as we round out today's show,
(51:15):
if you are just feeling like you know what, Nancy.
Speaker 1 (51:18):
I.
Speaker 2 (51:20):
Have so many areas of my life where they're out
of whack, they're out of sequence, I don't feel strong,
I don't have that support team. I want you to
go to livingfullout dot com and I want you to
check out our boot camp there because what we strive
to do there in that course is we have different
areas of your life, career, personal habits that you might have,
(51:44):
and we break them all down and we give you
tools for how you can get stronger, tools for how
you can evolve and grow and let go of maybe
things from the past that don't serve you. I really
believe that boot camp will help you if you're not
sure where to start. But most of all, as we
navigate towards the end of the show, always know that
(52:07):
I stand beside you every step of the way. I
promise you you will get through the hard times. You
will celebrate the good as you live full out.
Speaker 1 (52:27):
Thank you for listening to The Living Full Out Show
with Nancy Silari. To learn more about this program, visit
livingfollout dot com for the latest episodes. Connect with the
Living full Out community by following us on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram,
and subscribing to our YouTube channel. Here's to you, Living
full Out.
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