When you want to get to know someone better, you ask them a lot of questions, right?
Maybe not . . .
This week, we pick up on an important point Elliott made last episode about avoiding questions to facilitate effective, authentic communication.
It seems counterintuitive, but we can actually gather MORE information and cultivate DEEPER intimacy by communicating with statements.
So, how exactly do we do this?
Elliott and I share a foundational technique from Carl Rogers’ Client Centered Therapy—reflective listening.
It’s a simple adjustment that dramatically alters communication.
You can try it today and immediately experience the difference!
Your friends, family, and romantic partners will feel seen, heard, and validated. They’ll know how much you care about them through your reflections of what they’re expressing.
The best part? You don’t have to try to figure out the right words to say or the right questions to ask.
Because, as we noted above, it’s NOT about questions at all!
If you’re ready to level up your communication skills to deepen understanding and intimacy, join us for some Counseling 101!
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