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July 31, 2025 65 mins

Recently, I was invited to appear on a podcast called "We Need to Talk with Dr. Darcy Sterling". On that podcast, we got into a lot of dating topics that I used to cover on Love & Life before Elliott joined. 


- what to look for in the early days

- the dynamic of the dating relationships

- what red flags to notice

- what flag may not be all that red (but we should still pay attention to them)

- and more!


All these kinds of issues are things that Elliot and I are very passionate about. So we asked Dr. Sterling if we could share my interview on her program with you, the Love and Life family. We hope you enjoy my conversation with Dr. Darcy Sterling!

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I’ve worked with so many smart, successful people who keep finding themselves in relationships that just don’t work. They’re self-aware, they’ve done the therapy, and on paper, they’re a catch. So why do they keep picking partners who can’t meet them where they are?


In this episode, I’m joined by psychologist and “Love & Life” podcast host Dr. Karin Anderson Abrell to talk about why high-functioning people so often end up in low-quality relationships—and what to do about it.


We’re breaking down:

Why emotionally intelligent people sometimes ignore red flags.

The role fantasy and projection play in choosing the wrong partners.

How to tell the difference between chemistry and compatibility.

What “dating at your level” really looks like.

How to stop mistaking potential for actual partnership.


If you’ve ever thought, “Maybe I’m the common denominator,” this conversation is for you. Because sometimes, you’re not the problem—you’re just dating one.


🎧 Hit play. Let’s talk about it.


Xxoo Darcy


REFERENCES/RESOURCES

www.alternativescounseling.com


Stat on DSM

https://www.bmj.com/content/384/bmj-2...


CREDITS

“We Need To Talk With Dr. Darcy Sterling” is a Sterling Standard Production. Editing and sound engineering by Bart Migal. Our theme music is by Trending Music. Special thanks to Amanda Cristiani and Robyn Jaenchen. 

 

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