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Speaker 1 (00:00):
So this episode is about one of my favorite areas
to coach and teach and mentor on. This is about
you stepping into a new level of self respect and
self worth with your gifts. It's about you really honoring
yourself and your time and your energy, and it's about boundaries.
It's about you taking yourself seriously, getting comfortable saying no,
(00:21):
and really owning your worth. I did a TikTok video
about maybe like an hour ago, about how to handle
people asking you for free readings over the holiday season.
I'll go into a little bit more of that in
a second. But whenever you're listening to this, whenever we're connecting,
and whenever you're receiving this session, just know that we're
connecting in exactly the right way at exactly the right time.
(00:45):
And it's my intention that you get really powerful mindset
plus really practical tools that you can start using right away.
So before we dive in and I give you the
mindset and the tools, I want to just say a
really big thank you to all of you for the
lovely messages. I so appreciate them. And very shortly, probably
like the next day, so going to be opening up
the brand new round of the Confident Reader Mastermind for enrollment,
(01:09):
So if you'd love to learn how to retaro with confidence,
how to develop your skills as a reader and your confidence,
and also how to run a session in a powerful way,
how to coach your client in a session, how to
really connect the cards in a deep magical way, and
also how to have boundaries with your gifts, charge well
for your readings and really feel beautiful and powerful giving readings.
(01:33):
Definitely check out the Confident Reader Mastermind. Something we're going
to be adding in this round that people loved last
round is more practice time. So as well as the
training sessions, the coaching and the mentoring and the group work,
we'll also be doing a lot of practical techniques and
then practice time so you can practice in the sessions,
(01:53):
practice with me, practice with each other, and of course
practice between our calls as well. You'll get weekly assigned
no you'll get assignments between the sessions weekly if you choose,
but you'll get assignments between the sessions, and you'll also
get lots of bonus material to connect you as well.
Is a combination of self paced plus live coaching, so
(02:14):
it can really work with you in your schedule, your lifestyle,
whatever it is. All you need to sort of join
is an intention to grow as a tarror reader and
to build and develop your gifts. So if that sounds
good for you, definitely reach out and also check out
the links in the show notes. So boundaries. The reason
I decided to do this video this morning is I
(02:38):
hear from a lot of people pretty much all the
time right about boundaries and how do they handle people
asking for free readings. If you've ever come to my
TikTok libes, you'll know I talk about this all the time,
and if you're in my program, you'll know exactly what
I'm talking about. For me, this is so important right
because I mentor and coach people on developing their gifts,
(02:58):
building their confidence readers, I'm really owning their worth and
boundaries are such a powerful part of that. I get
messages around this time of year, I would say more
around this time of year from people saying that they've,
you know, gone home for the holidays and someone wants
a free reading. They're out of family gathering and somebody
wants coaching. They've gone to whatever it is, right and
(03:21):
people are like expecting free readings from them people tell
me that they feel awkward, they don't know what to say,
not sure how to handle it, they feel bad, all
kinds of things. I want to do this episode for you. So,
whether you are someone who would say that you don't
have good boundaries and you go into people pleasing, or
you pretty up you know you have good boundaries, but
(03:41):
you'd like to level them up a bit more, this
episode is for you, and it's from the heart. I've
got my notes scribbled down, got a coffee next to me,
and it's my intention that this episode really empowers you
to value yourself and your gifts and your time and
really step into greater self worth and self respect. That's
what this is all about. This is all about you
(04:03):
taking yourself seriously as an intuitive, as a reader, as
a coach, whatever it is that you do. This episode
is really about you taking yourself seriously. Okay, let's dive in.
So the first thing I want to say to you is,
you do not owe anybody a free reading, a free
coaching session, a free magical service, magical advice, a quick
(04:28):
intuitive read, whatever it is. You do not owe anyone
those things for free, just because they've asked you for
them Okay, now take a breath. I know some of
you who are people pleasers are going to be like
having a reaction, So just take a breath. It does
not make you bad, unkind mean any of those things. Okay,
you don't owe anyone free stuff. I also want to
(04:50):
remind you that when you're not working, when you're at
a dinner party, when you're on vacation, when you're with
your family, your friends, when you're out, when you're doing
any other than working, you're not working. Right, So expecting
you to go into work mode and give someone a
reading or a card or whatever, it is not only
(05:11):
is it, you know, inappropriate, it's also not cool. You
do not owe anyone free stuff just because they're asking you.
And I want to really remind you that you deserve
to be well paid for your time, energy, and gifts,
and you deserve to be respected as a professional. Okay,
think about all the energy, time, money effort that you've
(05:31):
taken developing your gifts, all of the practice, the learning,
the growing, all of the development you've done as a
person and also with your gifts. You do not owe
anyone free access to that. Okay, So let's dive in
with some mindset, and then I'll go right in with
the practical pieces. I mean, I guess that was mindset,
(05:52):
but let's do more mindset. So the next piece I
want to say to you is this is really about
you respecting yourself. At people will tell me things like
I want to feel more confident giving readings, then I'll
start charging for them. I want to start I want
to feel more confident with my gifts. Then I'll start
doing more readings, then I'll start whatever. It is a
(06:14):
real key to you feeling more confident is you taking
yourself seriously. And if you're giving your stuff away for free,
if you're available for anyone to tap into, it doesn't
really show that you take yourself seriously, and that's going
to be holding you back. Okay. You want to have
the mindset that you deserve to be well paid for
your time, energy, and gifts, and that a reading with
(06:35):
you is a gift is a gift. Your energy, your time,
your wisdom is a precious gift. You do not need
to be giving that away freely and then hoping that
you feel more confident. I hope that this is clear right.
You can see how you know giving it away for
free or being too available. It doesn't create self respect
(06:55):
and confidence. It takes those things away. Okay, so the
first thing I want you to do, after you've accepted
that you deserve to be well paid and respected with
your time, energy and gifts, is to do those things
for yourself. Because the thing about boundaries, it's not actually
other people's job to uphold your boundaries. It's your job.
(07:18):
I'm going to say that to you again. It's not
other people's job to uphold your boundaries. It's your job.
People are always going to try, I would say most
of the time there's no bad intention there, but they're
always going to try. It's your job to respect yourself
enough to uphold your boundaries. Okay, so the first practical
tip I have for you is make a decision. Make
(07:41):
a decision right here, right now that I respect myself
and my gifts and my time and my energy, and
I do not give those things away for free. I
do not go into people pleasing over delivering, over caretaking,
and I don't let people just tap into me because
they want to make that decision now, and especially do
(08:01):
it before you go to a family event, a gathering,
a work thing, a friend thing, whatever it is set
that intention. If you already have somebody in your life
who does this, when you see them, you can use
these same pieces them about to share with you with
them as well. All right, but make a decision to
respect yourself and your gifts and your energy and your time.
(08:21):
My students, inside confident reader, mastermind, you will know this.
We go through different exercises specifically around this, like you
making a decision, you making a commitment to yourself to
really honor yourself and your gifts and to not give
them away so freely to people anymore. Because I promise you,
making that decision and upholding your own boundaries immediately improves
(08:44):
your intuition, It improves how you see yourself. It also
improves other areas of your life too, because you're respecting yourself. Okay,
next piece view is, do not apologize or over justify
or get defensive, say things like sorry, I can't write now,
Sorry I don't have my cards with me, Sorry I
(09:06):
don't do like Just stop in the bin with that immediately. Okay.
You have nothing to apologize for. You don't need to
apologize to someone for not working for free or not
wanting to give a free reading to someone. You don't know, right,
and being cheeky hopefully so you get the point. But
you know you don't need to apologize for not doing
free readings or free coaching or whatever it is own
(09:28):
you're worth. Don't apologize, don't over justify, don't go into
oh I can't write now, because no, you're not available
for free readings, and you're not available for people just
tapping into you. You know you wouldn't just go into
a restaurant and say, oh, that's so cool you guys
do food. I'd love a sandwich, or that's so cool
(09:50):
you guys do coffee. You can give me a coffee? Right.
You can hear how ridiculous that sounds. I hear all
these things from my students. People say things like, oh,
that's so cool that you do intuitive readings. You can
give me a reading. What do you pick up about me?
Or can you just pull me a card? I've got
my cards with me. Can you pull one for me? Right?
That's the same as going into a coffee shop and
(10:12):
saying that coffee looks lovely. You can give me one, right,
that coffee looks amazing. Can I have a free one? Darling? No, So,
if this is making you laugh, and I hope it is.
You know, let the message in. Really take this in.
This is about you respecting yourself. You wouldn't go into
a restaurant and expect free food or a coffee shop.
(10:34):
You wouldn't go into a hotel and say that sweet,
looks gorgeous. You can let me stay there if you want.
They would be like, you can book the room, babe,
Like you can book the room here at the raids. Okay,
So moving on from there, Let's say you are in
a situation where somebody says that to you, right like
you're at a Christmas dinner or a family dinner or
a holiday season dinner, whatever you do, or a gathering
(10:55):
of any kind, and someone says something like, that's so cool.
You do you know? What are you picking up about me?
The first way you can handle it is a thank
you or that's you know, or yes, I love it,
and I'll show you what that means in a second.
But you can say thank you or yes I love it,
and then here's how so you can say something like this,
(11:16):
thank you, yes I do readings. Best way to book
on with me is using the link in my profile.
I'll show you my social media pages after dinner. Right,
so you say thank you, thank you. Yeah, absolutely, that's
so cool that you'd love a reading. I'd love to
do that for you. Great. Here's a link to book
a session. I can whatstap you if you like. Right,
obviously change the examples, but you can say thank you,
(11:39):
or you can say something like I do readings, Yes,
I absolutely love it. Best way to book on with
me is using the link on my website or you know,
in my signature or my email or but whatever it is,
you say thank you, I love it. Then you tell
them how to book a session. Don't you don't even
entertain the idea of doing it then and there for free.
Next thing you can say, this is not in my notes,
(12:01):
but it's coming to me now. Intuitively for you is
you can say something like, yes, I've been doing it
for ten years now, I absolutely love it. I've got
some beautiful clients. If you'd like to become one of
them and book a reading in you can do that
using the link on my Instagram or on my website.
You know, tell them how long you've been doing it for.
I think the mistake some people make is they think
that it's like some little hobby thing. If you're doing
(12:24):
taro and intuitive work and you see clients or you
want to be seeing clients, you need to see yourself
as a serious professional who deserves respect. Okay, it's not
you know people who think they can just tap into
you for free to get a reading or a message.
That's not respecting you and your gifts. So thank you.
I love it. This is how long I've been doing
(12:45):
it for. Here's a link. Okay, now, by the way,
before I share the rest with you, we cover this
in depth inside the Confident Reader Mastermind. We do loads
of coaching, got boundaries, boundary phrases how to handle these situations.
So if you like this kind of content, definitely check
out the program. The next one is, I would say,
a really really great one, especially for people who like
(13:08):
they mean well, right. I would say most people mean
well with these, by the way, but especially if someone
is really excited they want a book a reading it's
a big deal, or they or they want a reading
rather that I should say they want a reading. They're like, oh,
can you pull a card for me now? Or you
know what do you pick up on me? Pick up
for me? You can say something like it's really important
(13:28):
to me that I give readings at my best, and
in order for you to get the most out of
our reading, I would need to be fully present, and
so would you. And now it's not really the best
time for that, So go ahead and book a session.
The link is on my website and I can see
you next week, right, Or you can say something like,
you know, I hear how important this is to you,
and I want to make sure I'm giving you the
(13:50):
best reading possible. In order for me to do that,
it would need to be in a formal session. You
can book that using the link in my profile or
on my website whatever, Right, So you kind of man
knowledge this is important, but you also say I want
to give you my best, but you know a dinner
table is not the best. It's not me being fully present,
or a party or whatever it is, and you know
(14:11):
acknowledge it and just say to the person I'm not
fully present and tuned in right now, and I would
need to set the time aside for that, So you
can go ahead and do that. You know, you can
click the link in my bio or whatever. Next thing
you can say. This one's a bit more firm, but
I think this is great for people who are being
pushy or they need you to be more direct. You
can say something like, I'm actually not working right now,
(14:34):
but if you click the link on my website, it'll
show you my availability for next week and you can
book in when it's convenient for you and then change
the subject. You can also mix them. You could say
something like, thank you, I really love it. I'm actually
not working right now, but if you'd like to book
a session, you can check my availability on my website
and book it. Book a session in right. There's lots
of different combos and ways you can combine those, but
(14:56):
those are some ideas for you. Okay, thank you, I
love it. Here's a link to book book or In
order for you to get the best, it's important to be,
you know, in a formal session where I can be
fully present. He's had a book with that, you know,
now is not the time? Is a great one to add.
And also, I'm not working right now now. If someone
says something to you like, oh, just a quick card
(15:16):
or just a quick message, right, people will sometimes do that.
Here's what you can say. You can say something like,
you know what, it's not just a card though, because
for me to start reading for you, I want to
be fully present, tuned in. I want to put the
time aside. I want to do my intuitive opening up,
and I want to find out more about the situation.
I want to ask you questions and listen to you.
(15:37):
I want to be fully present for you and give
you a beautiful reading. So I actually don't do single
cards outside of formal readings, but you can book one
of those using the link in my profile, or you
can go back to something like, you know, a single
card probably not going to cut it for what you
need here. I'm going to recommend you book a private
session and then we can do as many cards as
(15:58):
you like. And again, if they keep being firm or
they keep pushing rather then you just say something like
you know what, I'm going to decline the one card.
I'm actually not working right now. But you can book
a session with me using the link in my profile,
and now we can do that and more in the
session that we put inside together. People will respect that, right.
Most likely they'll either get the message and then you know,
(16:22):
back off, they'll book, or you can have you know,
an interesting discussion if you want to, or you can
change the subject. My advice would be just change the subject.
If it's somebody that you don't even know or have
a relationship with, just change the subject or leave or
talk to someone different. If it's someone that you get
on well with, then you can, of course be a
bit cheeky, a bit playful, and you can, you know,
(16:45):
say whatever you're comfortable with. But remember, you don't owe
people free readings or healing or coaching or intuitive messages
just because they're around you and they're asking. You deserve
to be well paid for your time, and you deserve
to respect yourself and your gifts. Check out the comp
read a Mastermind for more on boundaries, owning your worth,
and really taking yourself seriously as a reader, because at
(17:07):
its core, that's what all this is about. This is
about you taking yourself seriously as an intuitive, as a coach,
and as a reader, not feeling like you need to
overly caretake and people please and give away your energy
for free, but quite the opposite. Okay, I'm sending you
magic and blessings for a beautiful week full of lots
of good news, happy surprises, and as always, smooth easy manifestations.
(17:32):
Any questions about the program, feel free to reach out,
have a fabulous week,
So this episode is about one of my favorite areas
to coach and teach and mentor on. This is about
you stepping into a new level of self respect and
self worth with your gifts. It's about you really honoring
yourself and your time and your energy, and it's about boundaries.
It's about you taking yourself seriously, getting comfortable saying no,
(00:21):
and really owning your worth. I did a TikTok video
about maybe like an hour ago, about how to handle
people asking you for free readings over the holiday season.
I'll go into a little bit more of that in
a second. But whenever you're listening to this, whenever we're connecting,
and whenever you're receiving this session, just know that we're
connecting in exactly the right way at exactly the right time.
(00:45):
And it's my intention that you get really powerful mindset
plus really practical tools that you can start using right away.
So before we dive in and I give you the
mindset and the tools, I want to just say a
really big thank you to all of you for the
lovely messages. I so appreciate them. And very shortly, probably
like the next day, so going to be opening up
the brand new round of the Confident Reader Mastermind for enrollment,
(01:09):
So if you'd love to learn how to retaro with confidence,
how to develop your skills as a reader and your confidence,
and also how to run a session in a powerful way,
how to coach your client in a session, how to
really connect the cards in a deep magical way, and
also how to have boundaries with your gifts, charge well
for your readings and really feel beautiful and powerful giving readings.
(01:33):
Definitely check out the Confident Reader Mastermind. Something we're going
to be adding in this round that people loved last
round is more practice time. So as well as the
training sessions, the coaching and the mentoring and the group work,
we'll also be doing a lot of practical techniques and
then practice time so you can practice in the sessions,
(01:53):
practice with me, practice with each other, and of course
practice between our calls as well. You'll get weekly assigned
no you'll get assignments between the sessions weekly if you choose,
but you'll get assignments between the sessions, and you'll also
get lots of bonus material to connect you as well.
Is a combination of self paced plus live coaching, so
(02:14):
it can really work with you in your schedule, your lifestyle,
whatever it is. All you need to sort of join
is an intention to grow as a tarror reader and
to build and develop your gifts. So if that sounds
good for you, definitely reach out and also check out
the links in the show notes. So boundaries. The reason
I decided to do this video this morning is I
(02:38):
hear from a lot of people pretty much all the
time right about boundaries and how do they handle people
asking for free readings. If you've ever come to my
TikTok libes, you'll know I talk about this all the time,
and if you're in my program, you'll know exactly what
I'm talking about. For me, this is so important right
because I mentor and coach people on developing their gifts,
(02:58):
building their confidence readers, I'm really owning their worth and
boundaries are such a powerful part of that. I get
messages around this time of year, I would say more
around this time of year from people saying that they've,
you know, gone home for the holidays and someone wants
a free reading. They're out of family gathering and somebody
wants coaching. They've gone to whatever it is, right and
(03:21):
people are like expecting free readings from them people tell
me that they feel awkward, they don't know what to say,
not sure how to handle it, they feel bad, all
kinds of things. I want to do this episode for you. So,
whether you are someone who would say that you don't
have good boundaries and you go into people pleasing, or
you pretty up you know you have good boundaries, but
(03:41):
you'd like to level them up a bit more, this
episode is for you, and it's from the heart. I've
got my notes scribbled down, got a coffee next to me,
and it's my intention that this episode really empowers you
to value yourself and your gifts and your time and
really step into greater self worth and self respect. That's
what this is all about. This is all about you
(04:03):
taking yourself seriously as an intuitive, as a reader, as
a coach, whatever it is that you do. This episode
is really about you taking yourself seriously. Okay, let's dive in.
So the first thing I want to say to you is,
you do not owe anybody a free reading, a free
coaching session, a free magical service, magical advice, a quick
(04:28):
intuitive read, whatever it is. You do not owe anyone
those things for free, just because they've asked you for
them Okay, now take a breath. I know some of
you who are people pleasers are going to be like
having a reaction, So just take a breath. It does
not make you bad, unkind mean any of those things. Okay,
you don't owe anyone free stuff. I also want to
(04:50):
remind you that when you're not working, when you're at
a dinner party, when you're on vacation, when you're with
your family, your friends, when you're out, when you're doing
any other than working, you're not working. Right, So expecting
you to go into work mode and give someone a
reading or a card or whatever, it is not only
(05:11):
is it, you know, inappropriate, it's also not cool. You
do not owe anyone free stuff just because they're asking you.
And I want to really remind you that you deserve
to be well paid for your time, energy, and gifts,
and you deserve to be respected as a professional. Okay,
think about all the energy, time, money effort that you've
(05:31):
taken developing your gifts, all of the practice, the learning,
the growing, all of the development you've done as a
person and also with your gifts. You do not owe
anyone free access to that. Okay, So let's dive in
with some mindset, and then I'll go right in with
the practical pieces. I mean, I guess that was mindset,
(05:52):
but let's do more mindset. So the next piece I
want to say to you is this is really about
you respecting yourself. At people will tell me things like
I want to feel more confident giving readings, then I'll
start charging for them. I want to start I want
to feel more confident with my gifts. Then I'll start
doing more readings, then I'll start whatever. It is a
(06:14):
real key to you feeling more confident is you taking
yourself seriously. And if you're giving your stuff away for free,
if you're available for anyone to tap into, it doesn't
really show that you take yourself seriously, and that's going
to be holding you back. Okay. You want to have
the mindset that you deserve to be well paid for
your time, energy, and gifts, and that a reading with
(06:35):
you is a gift is a gift. Your energy, your time,
your wisdom is a precious gift. You do not need
to be giving that away freely and then hoping that
you feel more confident. I hope that this is clear right.
You can see how you know giving it away for
free or being too available. It doesn't create self respect
(06:55):
and confidence. It takes those things away. Okay, so the
first thing I want you to do, after you've accepted
that you deserve to be well paid and respected with
your time, energy and gifts, is to do those things
for yourself. Because the thing about boundaries, it's not actually
other people's job to uphold your boundaries. It's your job.
(07:18):
I'm going to say that to you again. It's not
other people's job to uphold your boundaries. It's your job.
People are always going to try, I would say most
of the time there's no bad intention there, but they're
always going to try. It's your job to respect yourself
enough to uphold your boundaries. Okay, so the first practical
tip I have for you is make a decision. Make
(07:41):
a decision right here, right now that I respect myself
and my gifts and my time and my energy, and
I do not give those things away for free. I
do not go into people pleasing over delivering, over caretaking,
and I don't let people just tap into me because
they want to make that decision now, and especially do
(08:01):
it before you go to a family event, a gathering,
a work thing, a friend thing, whatever it is set
that intention. If you already have somebody in your life
who does this, when you see them, you can use
these same pieces them about to share with you with
them as well. All right, but make a decision to
respect yourself and your gifts and your energy and your time.
(08:21):
My students, inside confident reader, mastermind, you will know this.
We go through different exercises specifically around this, like you
making a decision, you making a commitment to yourself to
really honor yourself and your gifts and to not give
them away so freely to people anymore. Because I promise you,
making that decision and upholding your own boundaries immediately improves
(08:44):
your intuition, It improves how you see yourself. It also
improves other areas of your life too, because you're respecting yourself. Okay,
next piece view is, do not apologize or over justify
or get defensive, say things like sorry, I can't write now,
Sorry I don't have my cards with me, Sorry I
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don't do like Just stop in the bin with that immediately. Okay.
You have nothing to apologize for. You don't need to
apologize to someone for not working for free or not
wanting to give a free reading to someone. You don't know, right,
and being cheeky hopefully so you get the point. But
you know you don't need to apologize for not doing
free readings or free coaching or whatever it is own
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you're worth. Don't apologize, don't over justify, don't go into
oh I can't write now, because no, you're not available
for free readings, and you're not available for people just
tapping into you. You know you wouldn't just go into
a restaurant and say, oh, that's so cool you guys
do food. I'd love a sandwich, or that's so cool
(09:50):
you guys do coffee. You can give me a coffee? Right.
You can hear how ridiculous that sounds. I hear all
these things from my students. People say things like, oh,
that's so cool that you do intuitive readings. You can
give me a reading. What do you pick up about me?
Or can you just pull me a card? I've got
my cards with me. Can you pull one for me? Right?
That's the same as going into a coffee shop and
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saying that coffee looks lovely. You can give me one, right,
that coffee looks amazing. Can I have a free one? Darling? No, So,
if this is making you laugh, and I hope it is.
You know, let the message in. Really take this in.
This is about you respecting yourself. You wouldn't go into
a restaurant and expect free food or a coffee shop.
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You wouldn't go into a hotel and say that sweet,
looks gorgeous. You can let me stay there if you want.
They would be like, you can book the room, babe,
Like you can book the room here at the raids. Okay,
So moving on from there, Let's say you are in
a situation where somebody says that to you, right like
you're at a Christmas dinner or a family dinner or
a holiday season dinner, whatever you do, or a gathering
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of any kind, and someone says something like, that's so cool.
You do you know? What are you picking up about me?
The first way you can handle it is a thank
you or that's you know, or yes, I love it,
and I'll show you what that means in a second.
But you can say thank you or yes I love it,
and then here's how so you can say something like this,
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thank you, yes I do readings. Best way to book
on with me is using the link in my profile.
I'll show you my social media pages after dinner. Right,
so you say thank you, thank you. Yeah, absolutely, that's
so cool that you'd love a reading. I'd love to
do that for you. Great. Here's a link to book
a session. I can whatstap you if you like. Right,
obviously change the examples, but you can say thank you,
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or you can say something like I do readings, Yes,
I absolutely love it. Best way to book on with
me is using the link on my website or you know,
in my signature or my email or but whatever it is,
you say thank you, I love it. Then you tell
them how to book a session. Don't you don't even
entertain the idea of doing it then and there for free.
Next thing you can say, this is not in my notes,
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but it's coming to me now. Intuitively for you is
you can say something like, yes, I've been doing it
for ten years now, I absolutely love it. I've got
some beautiful clients. If you'd like to become one of
them and book a reading in you can do that
using the link on my Instagram or on my website.
You know, tell them how long you've been doing it for.
I think the mistake some people make is they think
that it's like some little hobby thing. If you're doing
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taro and intuitive work and you see clients or you
want to be seeing clients, you need to see yourself
as a serious professional who deserves respect. Okay, it's not
you know people who think they can just tap into
you for free to get a reading or a message.
That's not respecting you and your gifts. So thank you.
I love it. This is how long I've been doing
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it for. Here's a link. Okay, now, by the way,
before I share the rest with you, we cover this
in depth inside the Confident Reader Mastermind. We do loads
of coaching, got boundaries, boundary phrases how to handle these situations.
So if you like this kind of content, definitely check
out the program. The next one is, I would say,
a really really great one, especially for people who like
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they mean well, right. I would say most people mean
well with these, by the way, but especially if someone
is really excited they want a book a reading it's
a big deal, or they or they want a reading
rather that I should say they want a reading. They're like, oh,
can you pull a card for me now? Or you
know what do you pick up on me? Pick up
for me? You can say something like it's really important
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to me that I give readings at my best, and
in order for you to get the most out of
our reading, I would need to be fully present, and
so would you. And now it's not really the best
time for that, So go ahead and book a session.
The link is on my website and I can see
you next week, right, Or you can say something like,
you know, I hear how important this is to you,
and I want to make sure I'm giving you the
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best reading possible. In order for me to do that,
it would need to be in a formal session. You
can book that using the link in my profile or
on my website whatever, Right, So you kind of man
knowledge this is important, but you also say I want
to give you my best, but you know a dinner
table is not the best. It's not me being fully present,
or a party or whatever it is, and you know
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acknowledge it and just say to the person I'm not
fully present and tuned in right now, and I would
need to set the time aside for that, So you
can go ahead and do that. You know, you can
click the link in my bio or whatever. Next thing
you can say. This one's a bit more firm, but
I think this is great for people who are being
pushy or they need you to be more direct. You
can say something like, I'm actually not working right now,
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but if you click the link on my website, it'll
show you my availability for next week and you can
book in when it's convenient for you and then change
the subject. You can also mix them. You could say
something like, thank you, I really love it. I'm actually
not working right now, but if you'd like to book
a session, you can check my availability on my website
and book it. Book a session in right. There's lots
of different combos and ways you can combine those, but
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those are some ideas for you. Okay, thank you, I
love it. Here's a link to book book or In
order for you to get the best, it's important to be,
you know, in a formal session where I can be
fully present. He's had a book with that, you know,
now is not the time? Is a great one to add.
And also, I'm not working right now now. If someone
says something to you like, oh, just a quick card
(15:16):
or just a quick message, right, people will sometimes do that.
Here's what you can say. You can say something like,
you know what, it's not just a card though, because
for me to start reading for you, I want to
be fully present, tuned in. I want to put the
time aside. I want to do my intuitive opening up,
and I want to find out more about the situation.
I want to ask you questions and listen to you.
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I want to be fully present for you and give
you a beautiful reading. So I actually don't do single
cards outside of formal readings, but you can book one
of those using the link in my profile, or you
can go back to something like, you know, a single
card probably not going to cut it for what you
need here. I'm going to recommend you book a private
session and then we can do as many cards as
(15:58):
you like. And again, if they keep being firm or
they keep pushing rather then you just say something like
you know what, I'm going to decline the one card.
I'm actually not working right now. But you can book
a session with me using the link in my profile,
and now we can do that and more in the
session that we put inside together. People will respect that, right.
Most likely they'll either get the message and then you know,
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back off, they'll book, or you can have you know,
an interesting discussion if you want to, or you can
change the subject. My advice would be just change the subject.
If it's somebody that you don't even know or have
a relationship with, just change the subject or leave or
talk to someone different. If it's someone that you get
on well with, then you can, of course be a
bit cheeky, a bit playful, and you can, you know,
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say whatever you're comfortable with. But remember, you don't owe
people free readings or healing or coaching or intuitive messages
just because they're around you and they're asking. You deserve
to be well paid for your time, and you deserve
to respect yourself and your gifts. Check out the comp
read a Mastermind for more on boundaries, owning your worth,
and really taking yourself seriously as a reader, because at
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its core, that's what all this is about. This is
about you taking yourself seriously as an intuitive, as a coach,
and as a reader, not feeling like you need to
overly caretake and people please and give away your energy
for free, but quite the opposite. Okay, I'm sending you
magic and blessings for a beautiful week full of lots
of good news, happy surprises, and as always, smooth easy manifestations.
(17:32):
Any questions about the program, feel free to reach out,
have a fabulous week,
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