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Speaker 1 (00:00):
So every year around this time I do an episode
called self Care and the Holiday Season. I always love
doing these episodes. Boundaries are one of my favorite things
to coach and mentor on For good reason. I think
people in our world, people who are intuitive, are drawn
to things like healing and magical work, in my experience,
can also have a tendency to struggle with boundaries and
(00:24):
you know, respecting their time and their energy. One of
my favorite things to do with my clients and students
is to really show them how to have strong healthy
boundaries around their time, their energy, their gifts, and also
putting themselves first. Whether you're listening to this you know,
a couple of weeks before the holiday season, or you're
(00:44):
listening to this in the middle of it, or any
time next year, just know that you're connecting to this session,
that we're connecting, and that you're receiving this let's say,
guidance at exactly the right time for you. This is
all about how to navigate the holiday season and whilst
maintaining strong, healthy boundaries. But the same things are going
to apply whatever time if you from listening to this
(01:08):
episode at as well. Now, before we dive in, i'd
like to suggest that you get yourself a notebook and
pen or something to make notes with. And I'd also
love for you to check out the library of content
on this podcast. After this episode, make yourself a lovely
tea or a coffee set, a sacred space light, a candle,
whatever you like, and then dive in and enjoy about
(01:30):
seven years worse. I think of episodes that you can
choose from. I like to recommend that you either look
through those sort of topics and see which ones jump
out at you. Or you can treat the podcast like
a bit of a divination tool or even a sort
of oracle tool, and you can simply set the intention
that you're drawn to the episode that you most need,
scroll and then stop, and then trust that you landed
(01:52):
on exactly the right episode. Now, however you're connecting to
this episode or other ones, it's my intention that you
get exactly what you need and more. I will also
share one exciting announcement and then we will dive in.
So the Confident Reader, Mastermind my signature program is now
open for early enrollment. This is the program for you,
if you're ready to take yourself and your gifts seriously.
(02:14):
In twenty twenty six. You're ready to really level up
your mindset and your intuitive abilities, and you're ready to
start really stepping into your power as a reader. I'll
teach you things like how to retaro with confidence, how
to connect to the cards, how to reframe negative cards,
and also lots of practical pieces like how to run
a powerful session, how to maintain healthy, strong boundaries as
(02:38):
a reader, how to charge well for your readings, and
also how to develop your unique skills and gifts. This
is not some cookie cutter program. This is going to
really show you how to develop your unique skills. We
have people in the program who are brand new to
Taro and reading. We have other people who've been doing
so for decades. We also have people who are kind
(02:59):
of coming back to their practice, which I always think
is really magical as well. So, wherever you're at in
your journey as a Taro reader and as an intuitive,
if you're ready to really take yourself seriously and develop
your gifts in a safe, sacred, supportive community as well,
definitely reach out. If you have any questions about the program,
you can also join directly using the link in the
(03:20):
show notes as well. But let's dive in so I
want to give you a bit of mindset, and then
I'm going to of course give you the practical tools
as well. So the reason I love doing this episode,
especially around this time of year, is, you know, I
hear from people in sessions and in my classes so
much around this time of year that they feel a
(03:41):
little bit burned out, a little bit drained, a little
bit overwhelmed, and then they feel a sense of expectation
on them. Now, for the most part, you know, this
can be a lovely time of year, sure, But something
about my job that's so interesting is I hear a
lot of like let's say, behind the scenes stuff from
people in our readings and guidance sessions, and so many
people tell me that this time of year is challenging
(04:02):
for them. They often feel, you know, a little bit
pulled in many directions. You know, they can feel maybe
a little bit triggered, or they can feel a little
bit drained or overwhelmed. I'd like to invite you to
understand that you get to choose how you experience this
time of year. We'll get into that in a second,
but I want you to take the pressure off of yourself.
Stop shoulding all over yourself and thinking about how things
(04:24):
should be. And I want you to really tune into
yourself what you need, and I want to lead you
into point one here. Point one on the list is
make yourself and your self care a priority, not something
that you do later, not something that you wait for,
and not something that you only take care of when
you're feeling burned out or stressed or overwhelmed. Okay, I
(04:47):
want you to hear me when I say this. You
deserve to make yourself a priority. You deserve to put
your self care first, not something that you do after
you've spent weeks overwhelming yourself or feeling I want you
to stay on top of it, stay ahead of it,
even so that you don't suddenly feel like you've crashed
and need to go and handle things. You're staying on
(05:09):
top of it, Okay. So I want you to make
a commitment to yourself here and now that you're putting
yourself first, and you're putting your self care first as well.
And that also includes any rituals or routines that you
have as well. If you're a meditator, if you're someone
who chants, if you have like whatever your practices are, yoga,
anything running. Don't put those things off until later and
(05:31):
then sort of, you know, feel off and maybe off
balance or a little bit whatever because you haven't been
doing them. Make a commitment to yourself. If you need
to say it out loud, do something like that, but
do something to symbolize this being a decision and a
commitment to yourself. Now Step two perfectly supports that, or
I should say point two point two in self care
(05:52):
on the holiday season is about scheduling things in. I'm capricorn,
so this is like a real NERD alert moment for me.
I geek out on this right schedule. The power of
your the power of scheduling things in is actually so magical.
Think about it like this. Let's say that you know
that you're going to have family staying or you're going
to be staying with family or traveling whatever. Right and
(06:14):
you're someone who meditates, and you think, no, I'll make
a point of staying on top of that. You know,
you might say that and mean it at the time,
but things happen. Scheduling things in means you're showing yourself
you're serious. You could set an alarm on your phone,
you could set a reminder you could do calendar invites.
If it's something you do with other people, you could
(06:35):
book and pay for things so that they're scheduled in.
If you're someone who likes to have regular sessions or
readings or whatever it is, pay book and pay for
them so they're scheduled in. Right if you're staying with
people or people are staying with you. The little bonus
tip here for you is to let people know upfront.
Big One of the biggest things I hear from people
is like, how do I tell people I'm going to
(06:56):
go and meditate without looking rude. Let me start by saying,
there is nothing rude about you taking care of yourself
and honoring yourself. What I would do is keep it
light and confident and kind, so you can say something like,
I'm so excited to see you. I just wanted to
let you guys know that I'm in the middle of
a meditation practice and every morning between nine and ten
(07:16):
I do my meditation practice with some yoga, so after
that I'll be able to come down and meet you
for breakfast and we can catch up. You know, put
it into whatever words you want, but you know, whether
it's a meditation thing, working out, running, anything you know.
You can also let people know upfront, so you schedule
it in, you put it in your calendar, and then
you let people know so that you're not feeling awkward
(07:37):
about suddenly having guests to stay and you don't know
how to tell them that you're going to go and
do whatever it is. Okay, So scheduling things in, booking it,
in showing yourself that you are serious. The next is
tune into what you need. That's going to differ depending
on a number of things. Okay, let's say again that
you have family staying, or you're going to stay with
(07:58):
family or friends, whatever it is. Okay with all of
these examples, put them into a context that works for you.
But let's say that you are suddenly starting to feel
a bit overwhelmed. Right maybe you've been peopling all day
and you're, oh, I'm getting a bit scratchy. What I
would really recommend that you do is first tune in
and then go and handle it. So if you feel
(08:18):
like you need a walk, a quiet walk by yourself,
ask yourself, what do you need right now? Put your
hand on your heart and ask yourself what do you
need right now? And notice what comes up? And then
go and do that as much as you can. Could
be going for a nap, could be going for a walk,
could be having a workout, could be going and doing
your meditation, spiritual cleansing, protection, whatever, whatever you do. You know,
(08:44):
tune into what you need and do it now. A
little bonus tip I want to add in here is
also to stay on top of things like your studies
and your mindset work. So, for example, like a lot
of my clients and students will tell me that they
often will listen to the class recordings when they're staying
with people, or when they're on vacation, or when they're
(09:05):
you know, doing a number of things because they like
staying connected to me and my teachings and the work.
But they also value that time for themselves as well.
And I'd like to invite you to think about doing
that for yourself as well. Any classes that you're in,
any mindset that you know, work that you're doing, anything
that you connect you that feels empowering and supports you
(09:26):
and your learning, stay connected to it. You know, even
if you've got people staying you can have it stack right.
You could go out for a quick walk and listen
to a class. You could do a quick, I don't know,
quick workout and listen to you know, some mindset sessions,
right Like, whatever you're doing, stay on top of them,
but do so as a gift to yourself. Okay. Now,
(09:49):
the next piece here is more of a mindset one,
but it's really important. I want you to unsubscribe energetically
and practically from things that you just don't want anymore.
And here's what I mean. A lot of clients around
this time of year will tell me things like I'm
really happy, but all of a sudden, around this time
of year, I suddenly feel like I should be in
(10:09):
a relationship. Stop shoulding all over yourself, babe. Unsubscribe from
that whole narrative. First of all, that's not your narrative, right, Like,
you didn't consent to that. You didn't agree to it. Unsubscribe,
bebe unsubscribe, not even interested. Okay, you are going to
most likely be bombarded with ideas of how things should
(10:30):
look at this time. I have my own theories about
why that is, but we won't get into that now.
My point is, give yourself permission to unsubscribe, okay, to
any of the shoulds and any of the things like
that and drop all the comparison. You deserve to be
experiencing this time of year in a way that's meaningful
for you. And that leads me on to my next
point here for you, which is to create your own traditions.
(10:53):
So if traditions don't resonate with you anymore, to create
your own. Whether that's having a self care day, whether
where it's you know, taking yourself to a spa, whether
it's going away somewhere. I want you to really check
in with what traditions have you outgrown and you're ready
to let go of, and what new traditions can you
step into. And if you're somebody who, for example, might
be by themselves during the holiday season, I want to
(11:16):
remind you of something. Time with yourself is sacred. Okay.
I don't like it when people say things like that
person is going to be alone on the holidays. The
holidays are what you make them. So if you're going
to be by yourself or you're going to be in
your own company, I want you to plan something fabulous
for yourself. Plan some fabulous foods and fabulous movies, Plan
(11:37):
some things that you love to do, buy yourself some gifts,
create an experience for yourself that's meaningful for you, you know,
tune into what would a meaningful day in my own
company be. How can I show myself love and kindness
and respect and create a magical day for myself or
a magical few days. Maybe you're going to be with
some friends, maybe you're going to be the one person,
(11:58):
whatever this situation is. Don't go into the holiday season
feeling like you need to subscribe to things that you
didn't even want anyway. Tune into what you need, babe,
whether it's a witchy holiday and you're going to be
doing readings and candles, whether it's a day of maybe
you're going to go for a hike, maybe you're going
to see some friends. Whatever you're going to do, do
it intentionally and magically, and unsubscribe from things that don't
(12:22):
feel good for you. Now, I didn't put these in
my notes, but i'd like to add these in boundaries right,
obviously very important. So, if for example, there's somewhere that
you go or you have been going every year, and
let's say for whatever reason it's triggering for you. Could
be a family thing, a friend group, whatever. Maybe there's
one person there or a few people that you just
(12:43):
don't feel good being around. I'm going to invite you
to stop going. Okay, I'm going to invite you to
stop going to things that make you feel shitty or
things that you just don't want to go to. It
could be because you're tired and you don't want to
It could be because you don't like seeing a certain person.
It could be because something reminds you of something. Whatever
it is, give yourself permission to say no, without apology,
(13:07):
without over explaining, and as an act of kindness for yourself.
See it as saying yes to yourself. Okay, Now, if
you let's say you choose to go to something, but
you are also being mindful of maybe you don't want
to stay too long, or you don't want to have
certain topics brought up. Here are two things that are
going to change the game for you. The first is bookending.
(13:28):
So let's say that there's like a family thing and
you do want to go, but you think I don't
want to be there long. Bookend it. Tell them, you
know I'll be arriving at seven, I need to leave
at eight as I've got to see somebody eight thirty.
Or you can say I'd love to come and see
you for an hour, and then I've got to get
back on with my studies. You know, say whatever you
need to say, but bookend it. So you tell them
what time you're coming, and then you tell them what
(13:49):
time you're leaving, and that way it's not awkward when
you're leaving because you've already told them. The second is
to let people know upfront things that you might not
be comfortable with. Let's say there's a certain topic you
really don't like being asked about or talked about or
have mentioned. Tell people again, do it with confidence and kindness,
but just say, you know, I'd love to come and
see you guys for an hour. I need to get
(14:11):
back home for studies, or I need to go and
see somebody else for dinner, but i'd love to see you.
And then you can say something like, you know, i'd
like to just I'd like to just remind you that
I really don't want to talk about that breakup or
that person or whatever happened, and i'd really appreciate it
if that could not be brought into the space with us. Again,
put your own put this into your own language, right,
(14:32):
but give yourself permission to let people know upfront things
that you don't want to talk about, and if you
are in a situation where somebody brings things up that
make you uncomfortable, give yourself permission to cut it off.
A really good phrase you can use is I'm going
to jump in, let's change the subject, or I'm not
comfortable talking about this, How's how's work going? So you
can sort of, you know, end it and then ask
(14:53):
them a question. And if they still, for whatever reason
push or not respecting it, you can just say I'm
going to jump in, I'm actually not available for this conversation.
I'm going to leave, thanks, and then you leave, right.
I'm very capricorn and blunt like that. Feel free to
put it into whatever language you like, but I hope
that that's helpful for you and of course empowering as well.
Most importantly, remember that you get to choose how you
(15:13):
experience this time of year. I'm going to say that
to you so so, so many times. If this is,
let's say, a happy time of year for you, amazing,
If it's a bit challenging, that I'm sending you love
and support and blessings, I'm also sending you so much
gratitude for being such a valuable part of this community.
And thank you so much for listening to the podcast.
(15:36):
I really hope that you enjoy it and I want
to send you again just love and gratitude and magic
and blessings. You can book a reading with me using
the link in my profile, and you can also check
out my classes and my downloads as well.
So every year around this time I do an episode
called self Care and the Holiday Season. I always love
doing these episodes. Boundaries are one of my favorite things
to coach and mentor on For good reason. I think
people in our world, people who are intuitive, are drawn
to things like healing and magical work, in my experience,
can also have a tendency to struggle with boundaries and
(00:24):
you know, respecting their time and their energy. One of
my favorite things to do with my clients and students
is to really show them how to have strong healthy
boundaries around their time, their energy, their gifts, and also
putting themselves first. Whether you're listening to this you know,
a couple of weeks before the holiday season, or you're
(00:44):
listening to this in the middle of it, or any
time next year, just know that you're connecting to this session,
that we're connecting, and that you're receiving this let's say,
guidance at exactly the right time for you. This is
all about how to navigate the holiday season and whilst
maintaining strong, healthy boundaries. But the same things are going
to apply whatever time if you from listening to this
(01:08):
episode at as well. Now, before we dive in, i'd
like to suggest that you get yourself a notebook and
pen or something to make notes with. And I'd also
love for you to check out the library of content
on this podcast. After this episode, make yourself a lovely
tea or a coffee set, a sacred space light, a candle,
whatever you like, and then dive in and enjoy about
(01:30):
seven years worse. I think of episodes that you can
choose from. I like to recommend that you either look
through those sort of topics and see which ones jump
out at you. Or you can treat the podcast like
a bit of a divination tool or even a sort
of oracle tool, and you can simply set the intention
that you're drawn to the episode that you most need,
scroll and then stop, and then trust that you landed
(01:52):
on exactly the right episode. Now, however you're connecting to
this episode or other ones, it's my intention that you
get exactly what you need and more. I will also
share one exciting announcement and then we will dive in.
So the Confident Reader, Mastermind my signature program is now
open for early enrollment. This is the program for you,
if you're ready to take yourself and your gifts seriously.
(02:14):
In twenty twenty six. You're ready to really level up
your mindset and your intuitive abilities, and you're ready to
start really stepping into your power as a reader. I'll
teach you things like how to retaro with confidence, how
to connect to the cards, how to reframe negative cards,
and also lots of practical pieces like how to run
a powerful session, how to maintain healthy, strong boundaries as
(02:38):
a reader, how to charge well for your readings, and
also how to develop your unique skills and gifts. This
is not some cookie cutter program. This is going to
really show you how to develop your unique skills. We
have people in the program who are brand new to
Taro and reading. We have other people who've been doing
so for decades. We also have people who are kind
(02:59):
of coming back to their practice, which I always think
is really magical as well. So, wherever you're at in
your journey as a Taro reader and as an intuitive,
if you're ready to really take yourself seriously and develop
your gifts in a safe, sacred, supportive community as well,
definitely reach out. If you have any questions about the program,
you can also join directly using the link in the
(03:20):
show notes as well. But let's dive in so I
want to give you a bit of mindset, and then
I'm going to of course give you the practical tools
as well. So the reason I love doing this episode,
especially around this time of year, is, you know, I
hear from people in sessions and in my classes so
much around this time of year that they feel a
(03:41):
little bit burned out, a little bit drained, a little
bit overwhelmed, and then they feel a sense of expectation
on them. Now, for the most part, you know, this
can be a lovely time of year, sure, But something
about my job that's so interesting is I hear a
lot of like let's say, behind the scenes stuff from
people in our readings and guidance sessions, and so many
people tell me that this time of year is challenging
(04:02):
for them. They often feel, you know, a little bit
pulled in many directions. You know, they can feel maybe
a little bit triggered, or they can feel a little
bit drained or overwhelmed. I'd like to invite you to
understand that you get to choose how you experience this
time of year. We'll get into that in a second,
but I want you to take the pressure off of yourself.
Stop shoulding all over yourself and thinking about how things
(04:24):
should be. And I want you to really tune into
yourself what you need, and I want to lead you
into point one here. Point one on the list is
make yourself and your self care a priority, not something
that you do later, not something that you wait for,
and not something that you only take care of when
you're feeling burned out or stressed or overwhelmed. Okay, I
(04:47):
want you to hear me when I say this. You
deserve to make yourself a priority. You deserve to put
your self care first, not something that you do after
you've spent weeks overwhelming yourself or feeling I want you
to stay on top of it, stay ahead of it,
even so that you don't suddenly feel like you've crashed
and need to go and handle things. You're staying on
(05:09):
top of it, Okay. So I want you to make
a commitment to yourself here and now that you're putting
yourself first, and you're putting your self care first as well.
And that also includes any rituals or routines that you
have as well. If you're a meditator, if you're someone
who chants, if you have like whatever your practices are, yoga,
anything running. Don't put those things off until later and
(05:31):
then sort of, you know, feel off and maybe off
balance or a little bit whatever because you haven't been
doing them. Make a commitment to yourself. If you need
to say it out loud, do something like that, but
do something to symbolize this being a decision and a
commitment to yourself. Now Step two perfectly supports that, or
I should say point two point two in self care
(05:52):
on the holiday season is about scheduling things in. I'm capricorn,
so this is like a real NERD alert moment for me.
I geek out on this right schedule. The power of
your the power of scheduling things in is actually so magical.
Think about it like this. Let's say that you know
that you're going to have family staying or you're going
to be staying with family or traveling whatever. Right and
(06:14):
you're someone who meditates, and you think, no, I'll make
a point of staying on top of that. You know,
you might say that and mean it at the time,
but things happen. Scheduling things in means you're showing yourself
you're serious. You could set an alarm on your phone,
you could set a reminder you could do calendar invites.
If it's something you do with other people, you could
(06:35):
book and pay for things so that they're scheduled in.
If you're someone who likes to have regular sessions or
readings or whatever it is, pay book and pay for
them so they're scheduled in. Right if you're staying with
people or people are staying with you. The little bonus
tip here for you is to let people know upfront.
Big One of the biggest things I hear from people
is like, how do I tell people I'm going to
(06:56):
go and meditate without looking rude. Let me start by saying,
there is nothing rude about you taking care of yourself
and honoring yourself. What I would do is keep it
light and confident and kind, so you can say something like,
I'm so excited to see you. I just wanted to
let you guys know that I'm in the middle of
a meditation practice and every morning between nine and ten
(07:16):
I do my meditation practice with some yoga, so after
that I'll be able to come down and meet you
for breakfast and we can catch up. You know, put
it into whatever words you want, but you know, whether
it's a meditation thing, working out, running, anything you know.
You can also let people know upfront, so you schedule
it in, you put it in your calendar, and then
you let people know so that you're not feeling awkward
(07:37):
about suddenly having guests to stay and you don't know
how to tell them that you're going to go and
do whatever it is. Okay, So scheduling things in, booking it,
in showing yourself that you are serious. The next is
tune into what you need. That's going to differ depending
on a number of things. Okay, let's say again that
you have family staying, or you're going to stay with
(07:58):
family or friends, whatever it is. Okay with all of
these examples, put them into a context that works for you.
But let's say that you are suddenly starting to feel
a bit overwhelmed. Right maybe you've been peopling all day
and you're, oh, I'm getting a bit scratchy. What I
would really recommend that you do is first tune in
and then go and handle it. So if you feel
(08:18):
like you need a walk, a quiet walk by yourself,
ask yourself, what do you need right now? Put your
hand on your heart and ask yourself what do you
need right now? And notice what comes up? And then
go and do that as much as you can. Could
be going for a nap, could be going for a walk,
could be having a workout, could be going and doing
your meditation, spiritual cleansing, protection, whatever, whatever you do. You know,
(08:44):
tune into what you need and do it now. A
little bonus tip I want to add in here is
also to stay on top of things like your studies
and your mindset work. So, for example, like a lot
of my clients and students will tell me that they
often will listen to the class recordings when they're staying
with people, or when they're on vacation, or when they're
(09:05):
you know, doing a number of things because they like
staying connected to me and my teachings and the work.
But they also value that time for themselves as well.
And I'd like to invite you to think about doing
that for yourself as well. Any classes that you're in,
any mindset that you know, work that you're doing, anything
that you connect you that feels empowering and supports you
(09:26):
and your learning, stay connected to it. You know, even
if you've got people staying you can have it stack right.
You could go out for a quick walk and listen
to a class. You could do a quick, I don't know,
quick workout and listen to you know, some mindset sessions,
right Like, whatever you're doing, stay on top of them,
but do so as a gift to yourself. Okay. Now,
(09:49):
the next piece here is more of a mindset one,
but it's really important. I want you to unsubscribe energetically
and practically from things that you just don't want anymore.
And here's what I mean. A lot of clients around
this time of year will tell me things like I'm
really happy, but all of a sudden, around this time
of year, I suddenly feel like I should be in
(10:09):
a relationship. Stop shoulding all over yourself, babe. Unsubscribe from
that whole narrative. First of all, that's not your narrative, right, Like,
you didn't consent to that. You didn't agree to it. Unsubscribe,
bebe unsubscribe, not even interested. Okay, you are going to
most likely be bombarded with ideas of how things should
(10:30):
look at this time. I have my own theories about
why that is, but we won't get into that now.
My point is, give yourself permission to unsubscribe, okay, to
any of the shoulds and any of the things like
that and drop all the comparison. You deserve to be
experiencing this time of year in a way that's meaningful
for you. And that leads me on to my next
point here for you, which is to create your own traditions.
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So if traditions don't resonate with you anymore, to create
your own. Whether that's having a self care day, whether
where it's you know, taking yourself to a spa, whether
it's going away somewhere. I want you to really check
in with what traditions have you outgrown and you're ready
to let go of, and what new traditions can you
step into. And if you're somebody who, for example, might
be by themselves during the holiday season, I want to
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remind you of something. Time with yourself is sacred. Okay.
I don't like it when people say things like that
person is going to be alone on the holidays. The
holidays are what you make them. So if you're going
to be by yourself or you're going to be in
your own company, I want you to plan something fabulous
for yourself. Plan some fabulous foods and fabulous movies, Plan
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some things that you love to do, buy yourself some gifts,
create an experience for yourself that's meaningful for you, you know,
tune into what would a meaningful day in my own
company be. How can I show myself love and kindness
and respect and create a magical day for myself or
a magical few days. Maybe you're going to be with
some friends, maybe you're going to be the one person,
(11:58):
whatever this situation is. Don't go into the holiday season
feeling like you need to subscribe to things that you
didn't even want anyway. Tune into what you need, babe,
whether it's a witchy holiday and you're going to be
doing readings and candles, whether it's a day of maybe
you're going to go for a hike, maybe you're going
to see some friends. Whatever you're going to do, do
it intentionally and magically, and unsubscribe from things that don't
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feel good for you. Now, I didn't put these in
my notes, but i'd like to add these in boundaries right,
obviously very important. So, if for example, there's somewhere that
you go or you have been going every year, and
let's say for whatever reason it's triggering for you. Could
be a family thing, a friend group, whatever. Maybe there's
one person there or a few people that you just
(12:43):
don't feel good being around. I'm going to invite you
to stop going. Okay, I'm going to invite you to
stop going to things that make you feel shitty or
things that you just don't want to go to. It
could be because you're tired and you don't want to
It could be because you don't like seeing a certain person.
It could be because something reminds you of something. Whatever
it is, give yourself permission to say no, without apology,
(13:07):
without over explaining, and as an act of kindness for yourself.
See it as saying yes to yourself. Okay, Now, if
you let's say you choose to go to something, but
you are also being mindful of maybe you don't want
to stay too long, or you don't want to have
certain topics brought up. Here are two things that are
going to change the game for you. The first is bookending.
(13:28):
So let's say that there's like a family thing and
you do want to go, but you think I don't
want to be there long. Bookend it. Tell them, you
know I'll be arriving at seven, I need to leave
at eight as I've got to see somebody eight thirty.
Or you can say I'd love to come and see
you for an hour, and then I've got to get
back on with my studies. You know, say whatever you
need to say, but bookend it. So you tell them
what time you're coming, and then you tell them what
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time you're leaving, and that way it's not awkward when
you're leaving because you've already told them. The second is
to let people know upfront things that you might not
be comfortable with. Let's say there's a certain topic you
really don't like being asked about or talked about or
have mentioned. Tell people again, do it with confidence and kindness,
but just say, you know, I'd love to come and
see you guys for an hour. I need to get
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back home for studies, or I need to go and
see somebody else for dinner, but i'd love to see you.
And then you can say something like, you know, i'd
like to just I'd like to just remind you that
I really don't want to talk about that breakup or
that person or whatever happened, and i'd really appreciate it
if that could not be brought into the space with us. Again,
put your own put this into your own language, right,
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but give yourself permission to let people know upfront things
that you don't want to talk about, and if you
are in a situation where somebody brings things up that
make you uncomfortable, give yourself permission to cut it off.
A really good phrase you can use is I'm going
to jump in, let's change the subject, or I'm not
comfortable talking about this, How's how's work going? So you
can sort of, you know, end it and then ask
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them a question. And if they still, for whatever reason
push or not respecting it, you can just say I'm
going to jump in, I'm actually not available for this conversation.
I'm going to leave, thanks, and then you leave, right.
I'm very capricorn and blunt like that. Feel free to
put it into whatever language you like, but I hope
that that's helpful for you and of course empowering as well.
Most importantly, remember that you get to choose how you
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experience this time of year. I'm going to say that
to you so so, so many times. If this is,
let's say, a happy time of year for you, amazing,
If it's a bit challenging, that I'm sending you love
and support and blessings, I'm also sending you so much
gratitude for being such a valuable part of this community.
And thank you so much for listening to the podcast.
(15:36):
I really hope that you enjoy it and I want
to send you again just love and gratitude and magic
and blessings. You can book a reading with me using
the link in my profile, and you can also check
out my classes and my downloads as well.
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