Artificial Intelligence is Destroying Your Relationships!

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Episode Transcript

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Peace. Shawl is Shaman Dave withmy brother Quest, the man bringing you
all things marriage, paying you hugedividends on your investment in time with us,
We're talking about love, sex,having children, money, spirituality,
life, communication and anything else tohelp you thrive and win in your relationships.

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And guess what this is grown folksbusiness. So get ready to make
grown up decisions. You know why, because marriage ain't for suckers. That's
the name of the program. MarriageAin't for suckers. All right, let's
get into it. Hey, yourQuest, It's time to give the people
something. Man. What are wetalking about today? What up? What

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up? What up? What up? Y'all already know what it is.
It's your boy Quest. Man,welcome to another edition of the Marriage Ain't
for Suckers Podcasts. You feel me? I am joined by the anomaly.
You know what I'm saying? Andthat was six two now sixty three,
six six one six one, standingat six one is my man, my

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mellow, my mellow, my man. Y'all already know I told y'all he
the anomaly. El David Harrish,what up? Hey, Quass? What
up? Yeah? What up?Could you tell? I have music playing
in my brain while speaking already inmy brains, in my brain. Yeah,

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good afternoon, Good afternoon, everybody, lit's seny, good afternoon.
It's a beautiful day in the neighborhood, are y'all. Hey. The beautiful
thing here is that the temperature iscoming up a little bit. Oh what
what'd you get up to? Fifty? We got up actually to We're going
up to sixty five today. Oh, that's almost humane. It's almost humane.

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That's good, Bee, that's actuallygood. You don't have to put
on your your your jacket for thatone. No, you can, but
you don't have to. Yeah.I came outside the doctor's office today and
I was like, I don't evenneed this jacket. I wasn't gonna bring
up the doctor. I wasn't.But when we were talking about whether I
remember what it felt like when Iwalked out the doctor's office, Well,
I'm glad at least you got agood thing after the doctor, Bro.

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Did they give you a lollipop?They did not give me a lollipop.
They gave me a couple other things, but they sure enough didn't give me
a lollipop. I ain't gonna putit's good to have. I'm talking about
bona fide bredget yes when you gothrough these things because the doctors nowadays,
well for all of us who don'tknow, Man, your boy turned fifty

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this year. Me and David arein the fifty club. Now, you
know what I'm saying. Certain thingsthat you got to do at the fifty
year old mark that you don't doin your forties, or maybe you did
do it in your forties, Idon't know, or your or your thirties.
You know there's certain Yeah, todaywas not the you know what I'm

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saying, one of my best doctor'svisits. The question is a doctor's really
going to heaven? That's what Iwant to know a quest. I think
I think we should probably ease backoff. We should. I tried to
get it out of the blood stream. Before I tried, we went live,
so you have to. I wastalking about the weather bro. I
don't know, I don't know howon this trauma. So yeah, big

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up to everybody out there. I'mnot gonna let I'm not gonna let you
spiral today, sir. I thinkwe I think we already covered that while
we were just you and me havinga discussion and working through, working through,
working through it. Thank you.That's that's it. Hey, thank
you. Yeah. So we hereman, bro, look we we on

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my screen behind me too, butit's delayed. What up? Yep,
yep, yep. That's the bigguy. Yeah, shout to he down
in the he down in that andthat. I don't know what they call
Texas, but everything's bigger in Texas. Prayers for the people's in Texas too,
man. There's some weird weather that'sbeen going on down Yeah. Charles

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was putting videos on that. Iwas like, what the world? So
those who are down in the Houstonarea, those who are down in the
Louisiana New Orleans area, those whoare in San Diego, Bro, they've
been getting rained like torrential rains andthen flooding where cars are being taken away
like dig yes, San Diego,Bro, the Lowland. It's weird bro.

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Yep. I'm glad East it's highman, because on where it's been
happening on the load. Like ifyou watch the news I was watching now,
mm hmm. What's your boy's name? Who does the world news?
I don't know, I don't Idon't watch that. I don't watch that.
I don't watch it no more.I'm sorry. I live in another

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planet, and they don't cover ourcountry. They don't, they don't cover
the CNN doesn't cover our country.I'm just saying. But nonetheless, they've
been experiencing some weird weather man signsof the times that we live in.
You know what I'm saying. Butthat's a whole nother story, wow,

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sirs. Yeah yeah, man,yeah, man, keeping them lifted.
Uh whether we've been getting some rainand uh, you know it's all of
this global warming stuff man, andyou know, water levels rising, and
it is what it is, bro. Yeah, well that's gonna get resolved
real soon. I promise you itis. It is. It's gonna be.

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It's not it's listen, it's gonnabe resolved real soon. So we're
good on that. Mm hmmm.Yeah. Yeah, he's going to Island.
I know, what's sonny on thatside. I even got an aye
listen. I was I was havinga what do you call it, like
a short meeting with a prospective client. He works for one of the NFL

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teams, and and he he hehe's in California. I'll just leave it
like that, right, So he'sin California, and he was like so
you you're in Jamaica. Was like, yeah, so, you know,
I took the phone off, addedit to the meeting, and took the
tour, went upstairs and it wasbright and sunny the other day. It's
like, whoa, that's where youlive. I was like, yes,

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sir, yes, sir, yessir. I'm at your service. But
I'm at your service from right here, from right here. Yeah. Yeah,
so yeah, I'm not a jerkerall the time. I just yeah,
no, no, he said,that's no, not intentionally, it's
not it's not intentional, that's right. Yes. So yeah, so it's

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a beautiful day. It looked likeit might rain today, but that's okay.
We need rain. You got toeat right, Yeah, but then
it will clear up and we'll beback to sunny days, back to the
normal. Yes. Indeed, shoutsout to those who were on the Marriage
Mastermind last night. We had alovely discussion around perception. It's going to

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be two part of course, Andfor those of you who are wondering whether
or not you'd like to be apart of a marriage community, just go
buy Jaquestgreen dot Com, Forward SlashCoaching, and yeah, you two can
become a part of like minded individualsand not only married folk. The good

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part about this is that we're dealingwith singles. Now. That's why I
said relationship in our in the titlefor today's the caption, Yes, sir,
because this is not just for themarried folk as well. We understand
that some of you have a greatdesire. If you look at the statistics
I read the other day, eightyeight percent or eighty nine percent, I'm

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sorry of single people not only desireto be married, but will probably be
married in the near future. Eightynine percent. That's a nice little number
of single people. And so theinformation that we get from here on out
is not only for the married focus. So you could have what you need

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in order to get you in theright position as well, because that's what
it is, the right person beforethe right person. That's good. Listen.
I started uh writing singles articles forMessage Magazine online some time ago.
Man, So so we drop wedropped some some stuff about singles moving around

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the world in terms of travel.That's a big thing. Even my little
cousin, man, she she grown, but she's my little cousin, man,
She's she been. She been tomost of the planet. Man,
Like it's ridiculous how much travel shedoes. How can I be done?
And it's not one or two timesa year, it's not three times and
not four times a year. We'retalking about for real travel and we're not

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just talking about going to like Jamaicaand Barbuda and then you know, we're
talking about we're married, so we'regonna have to have to we have to
choose the route, the pathway.Laptops and flip flops is what we have
to do and get some freedom inthat in that regard. So, yeah,

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so we should probably jump in herequest because you know, yeah,
so, yeah, I heard somewherethat artificial intelligence is destroying your relationships.
WHOA, Okay, I really heardit in my brain like ten minutes ago.
But question, I were talking,and that is a place. Yes,
it is somewhere clickbait. And whatI mean by it, right,

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I'm gonna be honest, Like,what I mean by that is that that
some of y'all are lazy. Yes, I said some of you are lazy.
And what I mean by that islike, so artificial intelligence in terms
of like the bots who or theplatforms, the GPTs that give information.

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I'm not talking about the design stuff, the creative stuff, but the informational
stuff, right, the language modelstuff. Right, Listen, you people
are putting stuff in. You're puttingit in a prompt that says give me
X, and then it spits outX, and then you take that and

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run with it. And I'm like, that is so lazy. Like,
if your thing has a whole lotof beacon in it, I already know,
if your joint has a whole lotof diving in, I already know,
if it has a lot of semicolons, I already know, if it
has a lot of contrasts. It'snot about X, It's about why,
like I already know. Like you'regiving yourself away. Okay, well that's

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what a lot of people are doingin relationships class Dode. As soon as
you said it, you're putting infor X and you get this output and
you run in with it. Therewas no thought. It was generated by
a method, a procedure, analgorithm. I just want to back up
a little bit because and I thinkthis is important to touch. Relationships are

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spiritual, right, Relationships are spiritual, and God is a spirit and right,
that's what the word declares. However, he requires relationship, not a
process, not a method. Right, That's why I'm wondering if writing books.

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I'm glad that writing books or wedon't have the kind of society we
have now right around when Moses wasaround. Right, And we may joke
about it the other day, butit's coming back fresh to mine even now.
David that if David was like ait could be a New York Times
bestseller. He probably would have wrotea book called My Burning Bush Experience,

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Moses how to Navigate the Holy Placeor whatever. The society would be,
right, And I'm so glad thatwe don't have that. It wasn't available
back then, because I think thatwhat's true back then is true till now.
That was just his experience as itrelates to his relationship with God and
being that God is the author,finisher, sole controller, creator of this

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thing called relationship. He designed itin such a way that it cannot be
accomplished through a program or a method. So somebody come in to try to
be in relationship with you, David, who ain't me? They not gonna
get my relationship because our relationship isour relationship. It's personal. It is
not, like I said, developedthrough a program. A method, an

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algorithm, a certain set of actionsthat you must do in order to it
requires all of you. Can Ijust say, can I just say something
right here? Yeah, it's fullybaked. And what I mean what I
mean is if it's fully baked,then that means that it took time.
Yes, the microwave is slow comparedto artificial intelligence. It takes some time,

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it does, but AI you canput something in in terms of a
language model and it boom, almostinstantaneously spits out whatever it's gonna spit out.
But here's the funny thing. Ifyou married to somebody like my wife,
and you try to bring her agift, while the thought is lovely,

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if the gift does not say her, she's just like kind of okay,
thank you, mm hmm. Thegift has to speak to who she
is as an individual. Gives usher love language. It used to be
her primary, but ever since afterthe kids were born, acts of service
was her love language. So whenI bring her gifts, she's still appreciative

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of it, but I gotta putsome thought into it. Mm hmm.
When I go to a program ora method and take somebody else's experiment,
I mean experience and try to implementit here and it doesn't speak volumes to
her in terms of a gift laziness, you're gonna get what those people get.
So you're gonna get that, You'regonna get the instant result. Yeah.

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But then again too, d Whatdoes it say about me in terms
of you? If I know thatyou're and I don't put thought into it,
what does it say about me asan individual? You know what I
mean? That's you're whack and youdon't really care and you're lazy, I
mean, among other things. Yeah, and so I understand sometimes things are
difficult, Like you want to youwant to navigate a challenge between you and

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somebody you really care about, youlove, and you're like, what is
the quick fix? Is it toignore the person? What is the quick
fix to give a quick answer whenthey're processing outside of the mind, they're
speaking through and it's not really coherent. It's just they're just trying to get

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it out. Rather than being alistener. You're just waiting for or an
opportunity to fire, to fire asolution AI style, Like God doesn't want
us to be artificially intelligent. Hewants to be He wants us to actually
be intelligent, bro. Like likeshout to the people who are not willing

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to take what they consider to bethe shortcut to win in a relationship.
Come on, you feel what I'msaying. Like the shortcut stuff, Like
when you say shortcut, draw blood. You see, shortcuts create all kinds
of problems. And listen before yousorry, question, before you get,

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before you before you realize what theproblems are. It's too late. Many
times they've been exhausted already and youwaited until you redlined. Mm hmm,
Yeah, you know what I mean. Yeah, I've seen vehicles in Jamaica
flipped over taking shortcuts, bro Son. I saw I saw going up through

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the hills of in Saint Katherine,in the hills of Slagoville, going through
Slagoville and going down toward Bogwall.Them hills ain't no joke. Listen,
the traffic stopped. There's never trafficon that road. We're up in the
hills, bro, there's traffic.Why is there traffic? Bro? I

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see a wrecker or a flatbed truckwith cable trying to drag a vehicle out
from way down in the boat waydown. Yes, precipice style down in
the bush and I see men withcut lesson men trying to and I look
at it and I said, simone, they cannot do it. They're not

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looking at physics because of the waythe truck is backed up and the way
the vehicle is it. The minutethey start to pull that that vehicle,
it's gonna roll, tumble and pullthe back of that truck and then it's
gonna go the opposite direction. AndI'm like, he's not using logics here.
When I went over there to tryto make an to assist wife,
he said, you know how thesemen stay? And then one man said

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the man know him job? Isaid, no him, job, does
he know physics? He's going thewrong direction. He needs to go uphill
and pull that thing uphill rather thanto try to pull it from the direction.
Is because it's gonna it's gonna exactly, it's gonna drag that it's gonna
snap the cable. The car isgonna go rolling down the hill further.

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And oh because y'all try sharp cut, so you're gonna drag a lot of
people with you. When I sawhim start pull, you know what I
did, I went away that physicsand gravity say I can't get licked when
that, when that? When thatwhat's your name? Bush? When?
When when we call this something youput on the front of your vehicle if

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you want to the winch when thewinch bus, I'm not gonna be one
of the ones that get with thecable when that cable whip you l Laceration
is an understated and so a lotof spectators are watching this foolishness. A
lot of people watch you destroy yourrelationships and don't add anything of value.

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And when the cable bus, everybodygets it, and the people could have
made an assistance, could have givenassistance. Here's the funny thing too.
David shouts out to the people givenassistance. Shots out to the people who
are saying, pause, don't dothat, or don't make that move,
and not from a place where Iknow it all, but from a place

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of genuine care, don't do thatright now, to the people who are
making those decisions to be lazy.Relationship, particularly marriage, was created,
to me, the most satisfying,gratifying, fulfilling relationship on the face of

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the earth. Do me a favor, please. You cannot get that microwave.
Was it Demius that was on thething the other day talking about brisket.
When you want a good brisket,you gotta start five o'clock in the
morning, and that joker will notbe ready to eat until at least three
or four o'clock in the afternoon.Slow cook it, low temperature. That's

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when brisket is Oh, it's perfect. Right. And marriage is the same
way. If you want anything great, it won't happen through a microwave process.
It takes time to you just don'tget there. And those are the
relationships that last forever. Why becauseit took time to build every detail,

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every Come on, man, youknow those homes where they where they got
you know, the crown molding,they got this, yes, and they
got the trace ceilings, the youknow what I'm saying, this certain framework.
They didn't just throw framework up.It took time to be designed,
the details right, and then whenyou like, for real, it stands

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a test of time. Ten yearsfrom now, they'll look up at your
trade man, like, man,these are some awesome trae ceilings. You
know why they're awesome because they tooktime to make. They didn't just throw
it up together. In our marriages, if you want anything to stand the
test of time. If you wantto, like for real, create memorable
experiences for your spouse, do mea favor. Don't be lazy with it.

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If you do so the people whoare on AI and listen, I
use it. I've made a tonof money using artificial intelligence. But I
do not let the machine tell meanything. Come on, bro, the
machine doesn't tell me anything. Ileverage the machine and I teach it.

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I'm actually annoying toward the machine becauseI'm not like this with real people.
When I say, like if Iask, if I ask quests for some
assistance, I'm not going to say, no, you didn't do that,
right. But I do tell themachine that, and I say, quest,
could you please do this? Andthen he does this. I don't
say that's a poor job, butI do tell the machine that. Because
the machine is not real, itdoesn't have any feelings. So I let

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it know because I needed to understandwhat my thought process is when I'm doing
X, Y or Z, right, and so when the machine finally spits
out what it's supposed to spit out, I'm like, okay, I can
begin here. It's a beginning questYeah, come on, it's not an

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ending and so when we begin thework with our spouses or those that are
significant to us, we need tosee what we're doing at the stage that's
appropriate. Come on, you feelme like there are people who meet today
and in three months time they're married, talking about getting married. I've never
had a love like this, AndI'm like, I'm so sorry that you've

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not had a love like this thatyou feel like in three months time you
know exactly what you need in arelationship. And I'm like, nah,
nah, bro, you're your lifeup yet. Test what test what?
That's what I'm saying. It hasn'teven been tested. But you've never had
a love like this before. AndI get it. Like, if you
feel like that and the music isplaying in the background of your mind,

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I got it. I understand that. But don't make a decision while you're
feeling that way. It's artificial.God wants us to have actual intelligence,
not artificial intelligence. And all ofthe people think about this two quests.
I'm gonna say, in with bestcase scenario with machine learning, you have

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a team of engineers that informed theprocess, and then there's a lot more
data that goes into the thing itand it's quote unquote learning I got it.
That's other people telling you how yourlife is supposed to be. Quest
there are teams of people that Idon't know you or mean you any good.

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Whoever engineered the machine doesn't know me. Quest. They don't know me.
So when I put a prompt in, it could be a bad prompt,
it could be bad data, andthen when the result comes back out,
it's skewed based on the bad datathat I put in. There's some
statistics that are given that do notserve a population because the sample that they

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took in order to devise the numbersthat they got was not the sample that
they took from the population that they'retrying to give the stats to. So
it has no use. It isof no use to those people. Why
because the sample that you took wasn'teven from the population that you give the
statistics to. And so all ofthat gibberish. Gibberish that we are saying

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is that whereas there are a lotof things out here that can be of
assistance to us, come on,we need not rely on them to develop
healthy relationships. The book by Iwon't pick anybody's name. The book that
you read by whomever is good foryou. If it's a good book,

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yes, it must not determine yourrelationship ends and means. The podcast that
you listen to, hopefully it wasgood, but it must not determine the
outcome of your relationship. That's artificial. But you're borrowing. Yes, I
want to plagiarizing your relationship, quass, Yes, sir, I want them

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to be clear though when you listening. If the principles are applicable to your
relationship, then then dope. Usethose principles, that's right. But you
can apply them the way that youneed to, because the good thing about
principles is that they even though thesituations change, they don't. It could
never be the source as to howyou connect with one another and find out

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the true essence of who each otheris. Because if you come in there
on a general tip, so youand your spouse ain't general yep, peace
be on to you. Hey,question just since since since Jess is here,

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let's just let's just put it likethis, man, everybody can't go.
Bro, everybody can't go, shoutsout to Jesse. Everybody can't go.
Everybody can't go. So the peoplethat that you pick up along the
way. Like you know, backin the day, I used to meet
people in the club. And I'mnot saying just because you're in the club
that is a bad thing. Iwas in the club. I'm not saying

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that the people are bad because theywere in the club. But if the
strobe is on, the lights,the other lights are off, the music
is playing a certain way. Haveyou ever been in the club? You
see who's on my mind? Quest? You've ever been in the club back
in the day until the and andand and and and then they switch the

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lights on. Yep, remember themdays. Yeah, you don't have to
go home, but you got toget out of here. Remember that.
You ever look at the floor,see how much gum was on the floor,
gum, all kinds of stuff.Bro. You ever look around and
you ever look around and see whopeople were actually dancing with and they were
like, oh my goodness, Ididn't know whoa It didn't look like that
when the strobe was going they wasdrinking that juice. But they were drinking

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that juice. And so what I'msaying is y'all dragging home all kinds of
stuff on an instantaneous experience and notrealizing when the lights come on, it
is not what you had anticipated.And whose fault is it? It's our
fault. Take your time. Threehours in the club is not taking your

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time, no, sir. Multipletimes being parked up in some place that
you know, hopefully nobody knocks onthe window to see what y'all doing in
the car is not the time andspace to make a decision. Can we
take it home even closer? Justbecause you have a good experience at a
coffee shop, good conversation is nottaking time? She understands me. Quest.

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Oh come on, bro, Hecompletes me quest. Yep, come
on, be come on. Wetoo old for that right now. If
you're old enough, if I'm talkingabout in terms of age when I talk
about maturity, if you're old enoughto consider a long term relationship, you
are too old to take a shortcut. Let's go, because if you take
a short cut, the consequences onthe other end are so unnecessary. And

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here's the problem with it. Thisis legacy building consequences. There are people
right now who are suffering because theirgrandparents did dumb stuff. Say that again,
please, I am suffering today becausemy grandparents did dumb stuff. Can
I just give you one example,if my grandpa decided as a person who

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is supposed to be a pastor tosexist church secretary, he did this is
not hypothetical back in the nineteen forties. And then out comes my mom,
and then for decades and decades,she's trying to figure out if she is

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wanted, if she fits, ifshe if what whatever else you want to
say, because of the rejection.The man's name is never on her birth
papers, is she a part ofthis side of the family or that side
of the family. And then outcomethese babies that come from her womb and
her husband, and the choice thatshe makes of whom she's gonna marry,

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and and and then and then andthen and then and then that stuff doesn't
just go away. Come on,d and so we have to break Like
in my generation, as old asI am, I had to decide that
I had to break the cycle becauseI have seen the failed version of that
life in living color, bro,and I'm like, this can't happen in

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our household. Forget that microwave stuff, bro, forget that AI stuff.
We gotta really work and it's ourprivilege. It's our privilege, bro,
I'm not on it. D likefor real, I've come too far.
My family means too much. Yo, I've experienced a divorce, getting locked

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up, losing, you know whatI'm saying, getting to the place where
you're change. Your change is strange. Your quarters is out of order.
You know what I'm saying. Yournickels won't trickle like for real. I've
been in the places, in spaces. There is no way that I would
leave any of that, the careof my wife, the care of my
family to happenstance or to laziness.Can't do it, bro, There's too

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much at stake. You know,one of my little homies, he's grown.
But you know, we we wherewe are right. So this dude,
you know, he had a childwith a woman that he wasn't married
to, and okay, put thatone side at some point in their non
relationship because they decided they didn't wantto be together long term. Mm hmm.

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He was having a problem with her. She's in her house, brother
minding her business, she and thebaby. My guy decided that he wanted
to speak to her. She didn'twant to speak to him. You know
what this dummy does. He goesand shuts her lights off the brother shuts

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her lights off, He goes tothe wherever did you can shut somebody's lights
off from outside the home? Cutsthe current, bro, And I'm like,
what were you thinking when you decidedthat, when she didn't want to
speak to you, you were goingto cut her current off? What part
of that makes sense? But youknow what, indeed, it speaks to

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so much more than what we weyou know, topic to joint today like,
it speaks to perspective, it speaksto mindset, It speaks to who
you are as an individual. Becauseas you're telling the story, I'm like,
what is it about you that wouldcause you to be like? For
me, if anybody brings out thatkind or that level of or has the
ability to bring out that level ofanger, hate, foolish whatever the foolishness

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is, then that probably means thatwe don't We have no business being together
if you've got the power. Butfor the moment that they got together to
have the baby, it was adifferent discussion, you see what I'm saying.
So that is the thing. Peopleare making instantaneous decisions that last for

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generations. That's what I'm saying.There are people and I can't use the
word that's in my mind, becausethen the algorithm will shut our program down.
But there are people in a certainpart of the world right now that
are children of Abraham that are destroyingeach other because Abraham and Sarah made a
poor decision. Speak today, theymade a poor decision trying to keep God's

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promise. They have two children,Ishmael and Isaac. Ishmael and Isaac are
fighting today today. I'm talking aboutright now, at this time, on
the clock, twenty twenty four,twenty five January. Right now, hold
on for a second, boom,somebody just died because of Abraham and Sarah's
decision. Just now, bro,in real life, real talk. And

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both of those boys are rich today. Isaac and Ishmael are rich. Both
of them are rich. They wealthy, Bro. But something about the decision
that Abraham and Sarah made has lastedtill this day, despite the wealth and
prosperity, despite the blessings. Sowe are reeling in this planet. We

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focus so much attention on that onedispute twenty twenty four still because of those
two making an instantaneous artificial decision.It's a consequence the it's a consequence of
what happens when God gives you apromise and tells you that he's going to

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deliver the gift, and you decidethat you want to speed up the process.
Right, It's the same thing that'shappening in marriage right now. You
want to speed up the process becauseyou want to get what you want.
You want him to take you shoppingthis week. You want her to give
you that. So you decide thatyou're going to be lazy, right and

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not really put the thought in,but you're going to do what you need
to do or what you think isnecessary in order to get what you want
out of the deal. So notonly is it lazy, but you're lazy
and you're selfish, you know whatI'm saying. We were talking about it
last night, d how a groupof people could take a picture right and

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people will be the first I'm notselfish, I'll give away the shirt on
my back. But all of usgot a certain level of selfish in us,
right because we were just born andand saple and shaping in this iniquity
thing. Right. It's amazing tome though, that when you take a
picture sometimes how people will see thegroup the group pick be like yo,
this group is but you don't likethe way you look in the picture,
seems like, nah, let's doit. You got to delete that,

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and everybody's like again for real.But then if the picture look good,
if you look good in the picture, or if you look good in the
group picture, then you're like,yo, send that to me, Send
that to me, you know what? Ian, But we make the experiences
all about us and what we're tryingto get in terms of the end goal.

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And I'm saying that nothing that wedo in marriage, you are going
to speed through. Nothing that youdo here you should be lazy about.
And if you do, you're gonnapay the consequence. Simple, And I
just feel like I'm paying some positiveconsequences. Is this something as a positive
consequence question? Is there a suchthing? It's called positive returns? Okay,

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so positive returns right now, becausebecause my wife is watching Simon,
she's watching she's watching Quests, andshe's she's on the road and her machine
just just popped up and she andshe and she she she called me the
L word quest Yes, yeah,that's not artificial intelligence, bro Hay Simon.

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Yeah. And of course she's notgonna leave. She's not gonna leave
her brother out there, link meup. Yeah, yeah, ah,
you see what I'm talking about.Food food, It's food. Want food.
Marianna, she's trying to disrupt thisthing. She already know. Come
on, man, she like sheknow, she already know. But what

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I'm saying is that's love. Whatlove got to do with this is it
is not It is not a microwaverelationship that wins. It is not an
instantaneous relationship that wins. Simona andI were friends. I'm not saying it
should take you that long. Simonaand I were friends. She was otherwise
engaged. We were friends for elevenyears, bro, by the time we

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decided that we liked each other,slow cook. And now we've been married
for twenty two. So you thinkyou can say nothing to me about some
own bro brisket ministry. Bro,But what if we I've known Faith since
high school. Yeah. She andmy sister been friends for a very long
time. They friends to this veryday. Yeah, And I told them

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anytime they give me trouble, Itell them shut up. I made y'all
sisters shut up. That's right,that's right. Right from the time that
I've known her, graduated high schoolin twenty eighteen twenty eighteen, now graduated.
I'm sorry. Nineteen eighty eight,I'm sorry, nineteen eighty eighteen eight

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you graduating? You graduated from highschool in ninety one? Bro, ninety
one, I'm sorry. Look lookat me. I'm getting my years mixed
up. I see my thing righthere? Ninety one? Right, ninety
one, he graduated high school?Yeah, right, and I've known her
since before then. Look where weare now, and we are walking into
thirteen. Now, it didn't happenovernight. Even when we dated. It

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was two years before we actually said, you know what, let's do this
thing. So nobody can tell younothing about Faith. Yeah, nobody can't
tell me nothing about simone. Bro, nobody, Bro, Are you gonna
tell me? The doctor might beable to tell Faith something about me?
Though? Quest? Quest, we'renot spiraling, Quest, Question, I'm
sorry. WHOA, We're not spiraling. I'm sorry. I'm not doing it.

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I'm not gonna do it. I'mgonna pull my mic off. I'm
gonna leave. I'm gonna leave.Quest went to the doctor today. He's
having some some some PTSD. Iam, and we I thought we talked
about it enough so it wouldn't leakinto the program. It's gonna probably take
me a day or two to getover, Okay, So I'm gonna I'm

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going to get there, yes,thank you. This morning, I'm going
to get there, yes, sir. All right. So yeah, I
think we have sufficiently dealt with thisone for today because I don't know how
long the discipline will continue. Andso yeah, shout to Candice swagger Mob.
She speaks completely. I'm completely changingthe subject because I'm one of them.

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So uh yeah, but real talk, I think, really, really
and truly we can pull the bellboom and come off this bus, bro.
Yeah, and uh until until nexttime. I know you got something
good to say right before we getout of here. But yeah, from
safey to good, from good togreat. Ultimately, what we want is
phenomenal marriages. But phenomenal marriages don'tjust happen. They take work. So

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let's do that work. And thereyou have it, y'all. I hope
you've enjoyed your time with us.Marriage is about mutual love and mutual respect,
and it works for those willing tomake it work. Real talk,
our espouses are treasured jewels given tous to make life better, and the

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sooner we learn to value one anotherwill be the sooner we become the absolute
best versions of ourselves we can be. Until next time, peace,