Single Women! Let's GO!

Single Women! Let's GO!

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Peace shawl Issha Man Dave with mybrother Quest the man bringing you all things
marriage, paying you huge dividends onyour investment in time with us, We're
talking about love, sex, havingchildren, money, spirituality, life,
communication and anything else to help youthrive and win in your relationships. And

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guess what this has grown folks business. So get ready to make grown up
decisions. You know why, becausemarriage Ain't for suckers. That's the name
of the program, Marriage Ain't forSuckers? All right, let's get into
it, hey, your quests.It's time to give the people something.
Man, what are we talking abouttoday? What up? What up?

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What up? Welcome to another editionof the Marriage Ain't for Suckers Podcast.
You already know what it is.I'm the host with the most j quest
in the building, alongside my cohost, my Man, My Mello,
My Mello, My Man. Comeon, y'all, l d the anomaly,
Harris. Give it up, y'all, Yo. That was predictable.

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Man, you knew I was gonnahit that try one. Damn, We're
gonna drop a verse on you thoughI've been in my verse feelings lately.
Class What up though? Yo?Shout to the people in the d what's
up, son, Shout to thepeople in New York City, What up?
What up? What up? Jael, Shout to the people in the
d MV. I can go allday, but I think I'll just hey,

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yeah. Shout out to the peoplein at l What up, folk,
Yeah, hold up, hold up, hold up, I got one
for you. Yeah, Godla.Shout to the people in Russia, hold
us show listen, I got Ican go all day. Maybe we should
just pause right here. Shout outto the people like y'ard. Yeah.
Yeah. Shout to the people inSouth Korea and well, shout to the

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Koreans. Shout out to the Haitians, sock, I say, yeah,
we can go all day, man, all day, man, Yeah,
what's all? What's up? What'sup? We're here man, nothing man,
It's a joy to be on againwith my broke and chop it up
over this thing that we You knowwhat I'm saying, hold with high esteam,

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because he holds it with high esteem. Who is he? Yeah,
King of kings, Lord of lords. You know what I'm saying. Ruler
so controller, I had told therest in the sky, the clouds,
my sofa. Come on, I'mgonna give y'all a verse one day,
y'all playing, I got it inme, man, I just ye know,

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yeah, the depend is always youknow what I'm saying, Man,
just have to blow off at dust, but depending is always working, you
know what I'm saying. Yes,indeed, yeah, man shouts out to
everybody listening this uh this uh thisepisode like for real? If you feel
or have gained or what's the what'sthe word that? Uh? Uh?

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blessed. Big up win grib blessup yourself. Y me tell him what
I would tell you. Quest justtell him in my voice what I would
say to you. And I said, I'm not saying it to you no
more. I said it to rK three the other week and I said,
I will leave you alone. Comeon my yard. Yes, thank
you. That was my message fromme to you Gray come through. Yep,

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you know a way of supports ofthat, yo. But here's the
funny thing about it. I wouldbe out d the way things are right
here on the state side. Likefor real, sometimes I feel like I'm
living in an alternate reality with thestuff that I see going on in terms
of government and all of that otherstuff. I'm like, I'm over it.
I'm over brother. You remember whenwent real quick? When when when

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when the brother in my in mybreakout room said he's coming to visit here
this, here, this, here, this way. So there's a guy
in the States right now. Hesaid, he's coming to Jamaica for vacation.
Yeah, but he got an alert. He got an alert, remember
that quest. He got an alertthat said, you know if because of

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all these dangerous, scary things arehappening in Jamaica, were you in the
room the morning? It was justton. He was like, and then
I saw this, bs, youdon't remember that you weren't there the morning.
I might not have been, butI mean I've seen I've seen it
before. But I told him hewas like, yeah, we got we
getting these alert. No, Idid ask you, and I said,

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li mantell and you were you hadjust yes, yeah, And I was
just like, this is crazy,Like I stay in the ghetto, like
I stay in the Like I said, what's up to a person? I
can't say. I said, what'sup to her? What he does the
other two days ago? Right afterthe homie asks the question, And I'm
like, they're in their zone doingwhat they do. They're not bothering people

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on the outside of that that problem. Like, so, don't believe the
hype, Like when when don't believethe hype about other people's countries. Man,
it's it's hype most of the time, bro. But here's the funny
thing about it, though, It'slike what you're talking about is going on
in their country, is going onin your own country. It's going on
everywhere. It's going on worse becausethere's no mass shootings going on here.

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Oh come on, you don't haveto worry about people. I'm not saying
it can't happen. It can happenanywhere, but I don't. When I
go to Josiah School, I'm notthinking somebody gonna leg go out the school.
When I go to church, I'mnot thinking somebody gonna let go at
church. I'm not thinking that somebodygonna air out the highway or you know
what I'm saying. So I'm justbroo Joel Ostein's church the other day.

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No, I will say that finallysome Christian people have some sense and they
they sorted her situation now almost immediately. Real. Thank God for people who
still stay on the wall like withme and Maya. One hand, you
work, one hand, you gotyour sword, because that could have been

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a very messy situation. I'm sadpositioned herself that way because it's it's painful,
but I'm just lost for her familytoo, oh my word. But
I'm just thankful that the church didnot get aired out. Bro and them
brothers were waiting, they were waitingfor somebody to do something crazy. David.

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Now now now now, because mywife she's I hear what you're saying.
But now you now she's starting tosing to a different tune. Now
listen right, Yeah, the churchI went to in Virginia before we went
in Alexandria, before we left,we were the church I got baptized.
Then listen, whenever whenever the pastoror the elder would say, let us

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pray and they would bow, thateverybody would bow their heads. We had
look at former navy seals that neverbowed their heads. We had we had
people who were still in uniform neverbow their heads. We had brothers that
were sheriffs that were collecting the offering, and if they didn't, if they
let their coat go, you wouldsee more than you want to see on

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their waist. That never bowed theirheads because they know that people bananas out
here. Man David, I'm froma place called Flatbush, Brooklyn. The
boys the bush so do the knowledge. I don't close my eyes when we
prayed, as while I'm praying asan elder on Sabbath, sometimes my head

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is but I'm looking through the frameof my glasses at the two doors that
the two main doors that come intothe sanctuary. Brother, so y'all can
play with it and and and makeit seem as if a miracle has to
happen for certain kinds of protection.But again go back to Nehemiah and and
and and see see see how thosebrothers were on the swivel. Because sometimes

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people think that they can interrupt thework of God. And sometimes you got
to deal with their business. That'sall I got on now. I don't
even have we just saying. I'mjust saying, like I'm just saying it's
funny because you better stop. Don'tdon't do that. I read the story
recently, as a matter of fact, earlier on this week, and my
man moved. He moved like areal bad boy, a real bad man

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man. So yeah, yeah,he for real. He sorted the place
out at night and during the dayhe worked with one tool in one head
and the other tool in the other. You want to spackle or render with
one hand, and and if somebodystepped to the wrong, you step up
wrong, then you're gonna get whatever'sin the other hand. Yep, for

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real, for real. Shots outto the homie Evil Eva. Man.
We love Eva, don't we lovelove. I don't say what you want.
I don't care who's saying what theywant, and we might fight if
you say anything wrong. But Ilove Evil Plasio. I adopted her and
she accepted because I was like,you're just gonna have to tell me no,
and she was like, I'm notgonna tell you no. Praise God.

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And if you don't know, thenyou need to know. You know.
Word up, word up, wordup. We're talking about today.
D Yeah what wo wo woo woowoo woo woo. Man, whoa got
by it? Almost I'm slipping.I'm completely slipping. You know what I'm

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saying? How is life under rock? Yea, life is life? Man,
you already know life is life.It don't feel right unless I hear
you say that. Brother's life wegot with with the land of wood and
water. Bro, What am Igonna say? Bro? Let me tell
you something. I need to bein the land of wood and water.
I told you I'm gonna leave youalone. So I'm just gonna know.

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I'm gonna pray and let God.Look. Yeah, I lifted at God's
hands. Man, let God.You know what I'm saying, deal with
it. That's God. He's gonnadeal with it for me. Yep,
that's God's business. So I'm gonnalet him deal with it. Yeah.
Yes, indeed, many on thereally really though, Like one day I
said I was going. I saidI was going to Ghana right now.
To make it difficult, I promiseit'll make it difficult for me to move

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to Ghana. It's not difficult togo to Portland though. Portland, Jamaica.
By the way, that's a parishbe Portland is beautiful. Give me
on the north coast, give meyourself. You on that north coast brother,
Jamaica? Man? You what waswrong with you? People? Like
the North Coast is the only thingin this beautiful country. Like I like

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the southest coast I do. Ilike it over there, brother. You
hurt my head. You hurt myhead. I love it. You're talking
like a foreigner. Man. Comeon, you know the hole of Jamaica
nice? Yeah, yes, yes, yes, and worst worst, Wayne
Gray. I don't know if yourealize that the road through Saint Thomas is

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done. Yes, praise god.It was like driving on the moon.
Brother. The road coming through SaintThomas is d o n E. So
guess who's not going through. Guesswho's not going through Saint Mary to go
to Portland again. I'm not you. I'm shooting straight. I'm not going
I'm not going through Stony Hill togo to Portland again. I'm going drake

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through, thank you, thank you. I'm going straight through. Hey,
Eva, we need to plan atrip and the whole gang of us just
go out there, man and kickit for like a week and get it
like a like a an Earbnb andhave dave in money and them come stay
with us. You know what I'msaying, an adult trip. Kids can't
go on this trip. You knowwhat I'm saying. Yep, midday air,

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midday air, MIDDAYA. Okay,I d man, what are we
diving into today? Man? Allright, So here's the thing. First
of all, y'all need to goto marriaging for suckers dot com. It's
like a link tree, but it'sturned up. It's a turned up link
tree. And listen. Let memake sure I'm gonna pull it up and
make sure that I did my workright the other day, Mary Age,

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how you spell that a quest?I'm not you know what, I'm not
going to do me like that outhere? No, who you got you
can handle that? M A RR I A G thank you, thank
you. I know you can.So listen because because we had a little
bet minute ago and we were talkingabout some word that could have had eighty
five different spellings, and quests chosethe wrong spelling. So they've gave me

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a big fat f that you failedthe spelling. Be Yeah. So anyway,
so here's the thing I need youto see, Like I'm gonna put
it up on my screen. Here, you just watch watch my screen.
Oh no, but I don't wantyou all in my business. Watch my
screen. You have to be carefulwhen you put your screen up. Yeah.
Well anyway, yeah, so boom, you see that right there?

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Question, Look at that, Looklook on that. Watch that. So
listen, we're doing something very specialto the for the single women, women's
women dating and relationship questions. Andthis is and this is for as long
as we can. It's I don'tknow if forever's the right terminology, but

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this is not something that we're Thisis not a time, it's not a
challenge. It's not a thing we'redoing for now. This is like and
what you're gonna do is you're gonnaclick this lady's face. Boom. When
you click her face, then it'sgonna load up another page like sometime today.
I may be on the wrong wifi uh huh. And then you're

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gonna see question I saying, basically, please put your questions down below in
the video, you click the buttonand then boom. And I think I
think, uh yup Eva did saythat she was gonna do because she had
ping ping ping me on Facebook tosee and here's the thing to d I
don't want women to think that youcan only do one question, because it's

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gonna be up for an extended period. As long as it makes sense,
we're gonna continue to do it anddo it yep. Because and here's the
funny thing. We're compiling the dataas well, because I'd like, for
real, I'm tired of hearing peoplesay the dating pool got pee in it?
You know what I'm saying, Like, I was like, Yo,

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what do you think about the datingpool? Somebody said I've never heard that
one before. Somebody saying, gotpeeing it? I'm not swimming in it,
you know what I'm saying, Liketotally giving up. But I don't.
I think that's the wrong outlook tohave. Very rarely do you hear
me say that's wrong, But thisis really, like legit wrong outlook to
have. Yeah, it's really ifyou ask me, being married is tighten.

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You know what I'm saying to meand my homegirl was having this conversation
today. It's tied into your salvation, it's tied into legacy. Yeah,
any of the way that you doit, it's gonna be kind of Yeah,
So let's get with this, SoI put a sixty second clock on
that EVA. So I want youto submit eighty seven videos. If you
got eighty seven questions, one goodquestion per video sixty seconds. I mean,

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if you can ram, you know, two questions into sixty seconds,
go for it. But but yeah, and we're gonna play it right on
screen. This is something we're gonnaplay. So we're gonna hear your voices,
we're gonna see your faces, we'regonna hear and see an experience whatever's
coming across, and we're gonna dealwith it and one day we will finally

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be able to have you in theroom. We're just getting you warmed up
because I would prefer, huh,I would prefer that you'd be right here.
I don't want to I don't wantto just listen to a question.
I want you to be on screenand we talk, we actually have the
experience. But we're gonna start withthe questions to get y'all warmed up.
And I can't I just can't wait, literally, I can't wait. So

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yeah, it's dope, and let'sstart next week. Quest let's start pushing
the video. We're gonna actually havethe questions, like we're gonna do one
next week. At least one nextweek. You see at least one next
week, and I'm calling it.It's gonna be Lashonda Collins next week.
We're gonna hear and see Lashonda Collinsand and we we keep it pushing.

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So absolutely, yeah, that's whatit is. So that's what we are
on today. Man. I putin my little machine. I call it
the machine. I call it themachine just so you can kind of get
a feel. Like I said,I said to the machine, give me
a list of questions that single womenhave. It's not because I don't know,

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because we've been working on this sincetwenty sixteen. Low key, yes,
sir, you will serve you andme? Right, so yes,
you and I I apologize apropos apropos. Pause and uh so yeah, you
didn't hear that clearly, So allright. I had the machine come up
with a bunch of questions. Letme know if any of these resonate with

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anybody? How can I identify redflags in a relationship? How many times
have people actually asks us that question? A million and one time? Oh
my goodness, And I'm so disruptive. I will not front because quest knows
I am hard on people like me. You know, people like me are
quest Yes, they're men. Soif you have the chromosomal makeup to be

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called a male, I'm hard.I'm not gonna lie, probably because I
was brought up by women, probablybecause I have my big sister, I
have my mother, I have mynieces, three nieces, right. I
always wanted a daughter and never hadone, And so I keep adopting baby

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sisters and stuff because I'm just builtfor this, right, And I know
men are not always on the wrongend of the thing. But but but
but my brain is always on likeprove me wrong, Like, prove me
wrong, brother, And I knowit's my problem, it's not your problem.
So I ride with women full stop. And so that's why that's part

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of the reason why like this,this exists, because that's that's me.
So how can I identify red flagsand a relationship like what people we were
talking about cheating last week? Yes, And I'm like, yo, if
he if a person cheats, lethim go. I'm not talking about a
married person. We're talking about single. That's why I said single, let

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him go. Here's another I'll justread a couple of them, a couple
more off questions and we can justtalk. But yes, what are the
best ways to meet new people?I'm not trying to tackle that cause I
think that Lashanda asked that question onthe video. So we'll deal with that
when we really deal with it.Mm hm. And uh. Here's one
quest and this this should resonate withEva. This is on financial security stuff.

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How do I plan for a retirementas a single woman? Oh?
How do I plan for retirement?Like that's amazing, So this person actually
is entertaining retirement as a single individual. Yeah, Like I've done singles workshops.
I've done singles workshops, and alot of times we speak to the

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people we think are single, likesomebody who is, you know, of
a certain age, and then weforget that there are mature singles. They
are mature singles who are single becauseof divorce, unfortunately, some who are
single due to to death. Thereare singles who are mature who just chose

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not to be married for whatever theirreasons. And so that challenges are not
the same challenges considering all of thesevarying reasons why people are single. In
this case, I'm talking about womenthough, you see, so there's a
number of different things that are goingthrough my mind. I can understand widow,
I can understand divorce. I canunderstand that, and being at a

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particular age. There was one coupleat my church in Atlanta a couple of
years ago. They had grown children, and they decided to divorce, and
it was heartbreaking for me because Ijust I loved them as a couple and
looked up to them. Of coursethey were much older, not much older,

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but they were older than I was. They were old enough to be
my parents' younger brother or sister,if you will understood. But my mind,
David goes to those who are planningfor retirement, who are not in
relationship, have not been divorced,have never been married, And I'm like,

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you're totally entertaining retirement being single,Like why is relationship not an option?
Because here's my thing. If you'reentertaining that, like going into retirement
as a single, I get that. What is the alternative to not being

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in relationship? Are you just planningto live the life of a monk?
Is that I'm saying or just likesomebody who's just told me, some people
want that though legit and that's andthat's fine, Like if you want to
dedicate your life to the ministry andyou have not, Monk. I'm just
talking about being single, bro,like something I want. Well, that's

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fine if you have you want tobe single, right, but I'm talking
about single and not have somebody inyour life on any level. When I
say any romantic level, what that'swhat I'm talking about. Yes, if
that's what you wanted to divine,I don't think there's anything wrong with that.
But for somebody who's saying, youknow, there's other alternatives, and

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I'm like, what other alternatives arethere to be married? Because there's some
people out here like, yo,I got money already, I got this
already, and I just want somebodyto come in to break me off every
now and then. You know whatI'm saying. I need you to translate
what you mean by break me offevery now and then? What does break

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David? I think the people knowwhat. No, No, you can
think that, brother, But I'ma communicator. Okay, you need to
be very clear on what break meoff? To scratch my sexual itch.
I don't know what that means.Kid. I do not say, well,
you're trying to get me in trouble. That's what you try to do

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items. You're saying they're not goodenough. There are those who think that
I can have somebody come in andwill fill my sexual desire every once in
a while, But it is notin the It is not cloaked or in
the container of marriage, clear right. And if that's the mindset, then

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yeah, it's that's destructive. Mmhmm. Yeah. You ever scratched something
too hard? Yeah, until itbleed, broke skin, broke skin.
Yeah, so don't don't try tosatisfy your sexual it's that way. It's
not good. But that's a looktotal. I think that's a whole that's
a whole different thing. So yeah, I'm being not though what you say.

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I said, you know my analogy. Sex is the fire, marriage
is the fireplace. You know,I've never heard that before, And when
you said it. The first timeI heard you say it, I was
just like, oh my goodness,this is really because you know, I'm
a whole poker, so I'm lookingfor a way for it not to work
just it's natural for me. AndI'm like, no, that thing works.

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What you just said, what whereelse? If you're in the house,
where else are you going to startthe fire? There's plenty places to
start. But but your analogy isit holds up. Bro. I mean
you can start on the stove.I mean you can start on the stove.
But but but it's meant to bestarted on the stove for the purposes
of cooking. But if op,that's just an open fire to your living

(24:26):
room down, if you go itup, you don't want to do that.
Yeah, yeah, so that's good. That's good. You know,
I want to say something tongue incheek. It's not really tongue in cheek,
but I know people will laugh.So our homegirl, Stasia m right
Stasia. Stacia's grandpa who I don'tremember at what age he passed away and

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it was recent. But Stacia's grandpamarried again because one of his because his
first wife had passed away some yearsbefore. The brother was one hundred and
odd when he got married. Bro. His next marriage he married a ninety
nine year old woman. Bro.Brother, there were two there were two

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people that are older than a lotof our listener's grandparents who got married.
She was I think she was ninetynine. All I know is he was
over a buck and the lady wasover ninety. And if there's a correction,
it was still ninety plus for bothof them. But but but ee,

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Rodgers was over one hundred years oldwhen he got he got married his
second marriage. Yeah, so don'ttell me it can't. He was just
like, I need I need tobe married, and the and the woman
that he married was like, yo, I need to be married too.
So it was like, well,why don't we get married to each other?
Can I say this again? Shotsout? Shots out to shots out

(26:03):
to my sister that we had aconversation with earlier on today, And this
is one of the things that cameup for those of us who are thinking
about relationship, like you cannot giveup on because there's some that have just
like completely given up. But you'vegiven up because you've tried to apply the
principles of all the other areas ofyour life to relationship. And that's not

(26:27):
how this works, right, There'sa certain development for that particular area.
And here, guess what the thingis already in you? Yeah? Right.
I always say that when I goto the gym and I developed muscle,
I developed muscle that's already there.You can't develop muscle from Oh you're
not creating muscle. Yeah, No, you're not creating, you're developing what's

(26:51):
already there. Everybody has muscle,even some of the most and I'll use
their terminology. Oh beat people havemuscle too. They've got muscle. It
just so happens that it's fat ontop of the muscle. But that muscle
can still be developed. David,No, I'm thinking of music, you
know, I think in music.Yes, what's the song, David,

(27:15):
movie? Come on, come on, movie on my soul front? Like
you didn't hear that song. Idid hear the song, Okay, but
I'm always hearing music in my brain, in your brain. But the muscle
must be developed. The thing thatyou need is already in you. It
just needs development, that's all.Yes, And so you can get to
the place where you can make theright decision as to who you want to

(27:38):
choose in terms of a mate.But the thing that we were saying or
discussing me and my homegirl today wasthe fact that if you give up and
let's say you're a female and yougot a one brother, that's the sibling
a woman. Right, you're awoman and you you have a brother as

(28:03):
a sibling, they are like meand my sister's dynamic. If my sister
doesn't marry right now, of courseshe's gonna carry on her husband's name.
But I have to marry because ifI didn't, then the Green name,
as far as my parents are concerned, would and with me, m you
know what I'm saying, Like,I got friends right now who are married

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but have no desire to have children. Okay, cool, I understand that,
right, But he got two otherbrothers who and one of them just
had a child, so the name'sgoing to live on, and they got
another partner. He got another brotherwho just got married and at some point
I know he gonna have children,right, But legacy is definitely comes into

(28:52):
the conversation when you're talking about givingup on because what you don't want to
do, cause people like, well, why do I need to be married
to have children? Because they're arepeople who do it. But how in
fear is that to that child?Yeah? Yeah, yo, here's some
more questions on a lighter note,right, Yeah, So I have a
cousin named Eva Eva Michelle. Well, actually Eva so Eva is my first

(29:17):
cousin and her daughter is Eva Michelleso Eva Michelle. I'm not gonna put
her videos up on the thing.Yeah, I just looked at Eva colossials.
She's hilarious. She said, ha, okay, eighty seven videos,
got it, Let's go. Iain't playing let's goal at the capacity.
So even Michelle, Eva, Michellehas traveled more places than anybody I know.

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And I know some travelers, Iknow some world travelers. Yeah,
and so here's a question. Shedidn't ask it, but it's here on
this little chat GPT thing. Whatshould I pack for a solo trip?
What are the best destinations for solotravel? It's a real question. Where

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do you want to go? Yousee what I mean? Like, it's
a real question. So when EvaMichelle goes like Simone gave her her her
tripod, well, she gave hersome kind of moniker and she calls her,
she calls my cousin, uh tripodbay ca son. If you see
Eva, if you see Eva's videosand pictures, and she's vegan too,

(30:26):
she plant based. I didn't knowso many places around the world could facilitate
this thing. And I'm looking onthis thing like what in the world.
But it is a consideration, shesaid. And my cousin she's she's hilarious,
and it was weird I didn't likethe joke, but she was like,
I've only been robbed once. I'mlike, only been robbed once,

(30:48):
But it's a consideration because she,first of all, she hot, and
she's not me, so her handsfeet, hands and feet not she not
official right touch me? And thatcomes up on this thing too. It
says what what to say? Whereis it? It's coming up, it's
here, it says, it says, what self defense techniques should I know?

(31:15):
Somebody in the gym actually asked mebecause they see that I keep my
a little sharp. And the womansaid, tell me what teach you?
And her her, her, herman friend was right there, you're a
big old yea, a big oldboy. She was big too, like
they I don't want neither one ofthem holding onto me. But she was
like, can you teach me whatyou know? And I was like,
no, no, what I knowis dangerous first of all, and you

(31:41):
don't need to know it. Shewas like, but all right, So
here what happened in a taxi theother day? The man in the driver's
seat. So there's two men ina taxi and a woman. The man
pulls up his his pull up thelittle handle on the seat and pushes it
back into her so she can't getout the back seat and the dude next
to her and then they have theirway with her. And I said,
you know what, sis. Firstof all, there's nothing I can teach

(32:05):
you that would help you with that. You need to go get a firearm.
Yep, and you start busting,You start busting holes in the floorboard
and then lick and they will stopwhatever they think they about to do.
But that's a consideration, not becausesomebody needs to be protected, you know.
But what I'm saying is is somethingto think about. Yes, like
if it was she and her husbandor she and her man friend in the

(32:30):
same back seat, would that havehappened, yes or no? It's a
consideration. So it's like, okay, well you get a license firearm.
If you try it and you startsqueezing in that little bitty car, then
I think it's a different discussion.I tell you this you're talking about in
the floorboard. I'm just saying youdon't expect it because you're not gonna be
able to draw in that little Toyota. You're not gonna be able to draw

(32:52):
and then start aiming properly. Butas soon as you rack it and start
busting holes in whatever happens, thenthem dudes is can't wait for you to
get out the car. And thenwhen you can put it where it needs
to go on the target, thenit goes where it goes. But I'm
just saying, you start hearing thatin that tiny little car. These guys
have a little different story about what'sabout to happen in that car. Mm

(33:14):
hmm. You see what I'm saying. So these are things like it's a
question. I didn't make it up. It's just something here like what effective
ways to set and achieve personal goals? And on and on we go.
So I'm not gonna deal with thisstuff in the vacuum. I'm just saying,
this is what the machine is talkingabout. I want to hear y'all.
I want to hear your voices,that's all. A yep, that's
it. That's the part. Iwant to hear your voices. Yeh.

(33:37):
But that's that's legit. That questionright there starts bringing me back to the
whole reason why or who I needto be in because people don't think you
need to be somebody in order todate you do. Yeah, I definitely
did. I did and my mentor, one of my brig bros not blood
brothers, Eat when I almost gotmarried twenty five years ago and didn't and

(34:00):
then I had a two year windowor so, and it was just like,
so what do I do during thistime? He said, you need
to become the best you you canbe. That's how that got on the
front of the podcast. Bro,I'm here in Daryl in my head.
To become the best me that Ican be is what he taught me.
And it was very helpful to me. Yeah yeah, yeah, because what

(34:23):
do I need to do for personaldevelopment? That's it? Yeah, that's
it. Yeah, yeah yeah,and on and on we go. So
we're not gonna be theoretical. Nextweek, Lashanda, your videos up first,
and like I say, at somepoint, we're gonna put a form
on the page to say if youwant to come on the program and we

(34:44):
talk real talk, because I don'treally I'm not really about the video life.
I do want to do the videos, and we will continue to do
the videos, but I'd rather havea conversation. And I'm gonna try to
get Sits on here and when shecome on outifa, oh my bad.
You know who I don't know,Oh yes, I do. I do.

(35:05):
Yeah. And when she come onthis conversation for to be lit.
Yeah. And what I need ifand when she does come is not for
her to instruct. I want tohear from her like I want her to
add. I'm not saying I don'tbecause we know she don't, but I
want to hear from her because she'salways giving. I want to hear so
we can pour in you feel me, so yep, yeah, So that's
what it is. Everybody marriaging forsuckers is still marriaging for suckers. But

(35:30):
listen, question I got certified yearsago together or at the same time,
I should say to save marriages beforethey start. That's right, save marriages
before they start. So there arepeople who have no intention and don't want
to be married, and then theychoose to get married because society pressured them,

(35:52):
the home front, mommy, daddy, uncle pressured them, or they
just didn't want to be alone andthey thought that was the answer. And
it's just like, if you reallylegit want to be married, that's one
thing. But if it's an answerto what you think is loneliness, then
listen, don't do that to yourselfbecause you can be locked up in the
house with some dude and still belonely, Like, don't do that,

(36:15):
please not for that system. Isound like a broken record. This is
the reason why development is important,because as long as you're making decisions from
that place to be in relationship becauseyou don't want to be lonely, it's
yet that much more of a reasonwhy you should not be in anybody's relationship.

(36:36):
No, no, no, nota romantic one, because the minute
that you do something in the relation, that your partner does something in the
relationship that causes you to feel lonely. It may not be them trying to
make you feel lonely, but themoment that you feel that is the relationship
gonna go left, exactly because youthink they're responsible for you not feeling lonely.
All right, all right, Sothere are other ways to resolve the

(37:00):
of loneliness. Being married. Tojust be married is definitely not the way.
That is a that is a horribleidea. Is it easy for me
to say, well, no,not really, because I haven't always been
married like like, so it justhappens that I've been married for twenty two
years, but before that I wasgrown I didn't get married as a baby
bro or to get out of thehouse. Yeah, that's a crazy idea,

(37:23):
but that's easy for me to saytoo, because I left home when
I was fifteen. So yeah,so but yeah, please please please y'all
stay tuned in man, keep itlocked. Please, men and women,
please share that link tree. It'snot really a link tree, but it's
what it looks like to Marriage ain'tfor suckers with a Z at the end

(37:45):
case az az dot com, whichis smiling for Okay, because you said
Z, I say something wrong overthere. Americans don't know what Z is.
So it's only Americans I'm talking to. No, you're talking to Jamaicans,

(38:10):
but I think it might be alot more Americans than Jamaicans you're talking
to you. I cannot leave peopleout. No, you can't question,
just like you had to really startsaying what you were trying to say about
that sex earlier. So I figuredI can say Z and I can say
Z. You can't. I'm justlaughing because marriage ain't for s U c

(38:35):
k A A Z or z dotco. Yeah, marriage a for suckers,
like go there and put your videosin. Uh, my sisters and
mommies and aunties and daughters, threenieces, like, let's go get them,
and we're gonna get and this isgonna improve what we talk about on
the program because questions that we've beenat this for a lot of years,

(38:57):
brot a lot of years and weand we and it's just been us.
And I'm over it. Not becauseI don't love quests. We can do
it, we can wax, butI would much prefer to hear these folks
voices and see their faces, andmore importantly, I want to meet the
need. What I'm saying, Yeah, see, that's why we're doing what
we're doing, so we can meetthe need because they's some crazy I'm gonna

(39:19):
say this and and I'm off ofit. Me and Sis was having the
conversation today and she says she wentto go do a seminar somewhere and she
asked the questions of the adults tosee what years or how long they've been
married, and nobody in that roomhad been married over twenty something years.
And I was like wow. Andthen she asked an eighteen year old,

(39:43):
you know, what is your ideaabout marriage? And he gave her one
word, and that one word wasirrelevant. You know, I mixed up
who you were saying sis wise.Yeah, I take back what I said
now and people you're talking about iswe were talking about her earlier before we
came on. Yeah, I takeback what I said about instruction. The
cist I was talking about is unmarried. Yeah, not the one that you're

(40:07):
talking about. So I take itback. I got yes, okake back
what I was saying. If weget her on here, it's gonna be
lit. It's gonna be lit.I promise it's gonna be lit. But
the one word that she said thathe said, eighteen years old, what
is marriage to you? And hesaid irrelevant? And I was blown,

(40:27):
Like, if that's what our youngpeople's idea is a marriage, then our
future, I love our lifestyle,our legacy is in trouble. I see
what you did there. Yeah,that's right, we saw that. Yeah,
I saw what you did there whenyou said I love a lifestyle or
legacy. I've heard that somewhere inGreenhouse. Shout to the greenhouse. Yeah,

(40:51):
shout out to Greenhouse. Yeah.Should I play this real quick and
then we can go? Okay,so let me let me play this.
Play this I can pronounced that Ican annunciate. So here it is.
Huh, let's see what we havehere? If the audio is coming in
not as yet? All right,we're gonna go back, circle back,

(41:15):
circle again, y Waling, comeagain, started from it? All right,
here we go. Mmmmm, whatup? Y'all? Is your boy?

(41:37):
Quest Man? Welcome to another editionof the Marriage Ain't for Suckers Podcast.
It's your host, Quest Green.You already know what it is.
That dude over there is my brotherfrom another mother. My man, my
mellow, my mellow, my man. L the anomaly, David, hear
me, hear me, hear me. I'm tearing it up already, l

(41:57):
d the anomaly. Harris. Let'scool, Wait on with it. Wait
wait wait wait, but Quest,you're confusing my brain. Wow? What
happened? You're confusing my brain?This is not the Marriaging for Seconds program.
Bro, That's not we're doing.That's not what we're doing today.
Man, that's not what we're doingtoday. No. No, it's Ask
Question Day. Bro. You'll seethat behind me. You'll see that out

(42:21):
there like this is a little AskQuestion Day. That's what I'm saying.
Bro. I'm bad, my bad. Now that they know who we are
the okay, yeah, so youhad to do that, so thank you.
Yeah, but real talk like it'stwenty twenty four right now, like
right this moment, it's twenty twentyfour. We've been working on something since
twenty sixteen. I'm ashamed. I'mashamed. I'm ashamed. But since twenty

(42:45):
sixteen, we've been thinking about thesewomen questions, single women, single,
you have questions. We definitely haveanswers. We do. You can consider
us your big brothers, your uncle, your uncle, whatever you want to
call us, right, but sometimesmen don't make a lot of sense in
relationships and we're talking about single women. That's right. Sometimes I think I

(43:07):
said that because you know, I'llbe hard on the brothers sometimes. Yeah,
we do, we do, okay, yeah, but dating and relationship
questions, that's what we need.You can read all of the stuff right
below our faces right here. Butwhen you're done doing that, please just
upload or record a video. Wewant your questions and we're going to answer

(43:29):
them. So that's what it is. Ques, what's on your mind,
Let's get them out. I'm tryingto get we are trying to get those
questions answered. Here's the reason.D I believe that there is a focus
on the dating and not enough onthe development. But that's some door stuff
we want to talk about, right, But I want to get the feelings,
the thoughts, what's on your heartin terms of the dating scene,

(43:52):
just dating in general. Whatever yourquestions from me, and do me a
favor. We can handle it all. Anything from A to Z and everywhere
in between. That's it, sex, money, murder, everything else,
because yeah, a lot goes onin relationships and we want to do our
best to assist. Again, singlewomen, Please put your recordings right down

(44:13):
below us and we'll definitely get tothem. All right, Yeah, now
do we know what we're doing?I guess we could say we out how
my men used to say, whathappened to peace? Peace? I love
it? Man? You know what'sfunny, See it was confusing a lot

(44:38):
of people. Now like how manyquests and how many days? Lashanda?
Your your video is first next week. We're on next week, next Thursday,
Lashanda. So we got the video, So let's go. We're gonna
touch that. Yeah, So questI think I think we've I think we've
done enough today. We have bro, Yeah we have yeah. So uh

(44:59):
yeah, I'm just saying that I'mappealing to the ladies to help us get
this work done. If you wantsomebody who spend time on the solutions and
try to make it better, man, please do should it's the questions and
let's get it in. Do youhave it y'all? Y'all, I hope
you've enjoyed your time with Marriage isabout mutual love and mutual respect, and

(45:22):
it works for those willing to makeit work. Real talk, Our spouses
are treasured jewels given to us tomake life better, and the sooner we
learn to value one another will bethe sooner we become the absolute best versions
of ourselves we can be. Untilnext time, peace,