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Peace, SHAWLISHA man Dave with mybrother quests, the man bringing you all
things marriage, paying you huge dividendson your investment in time with us.
We're talking about love, sex,having children, money, spirituality, life,
communication, and anything else to helpyou thrive and win in your relationships.

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And guess what this is, grownfolks business. So get ready to
make grown up decisions. You knowwhy, because marriage ain't for suckers.
That's the name of the program.Marriage Ain't for suckers. All right,
let's get into it, Hey,your quest. It's time to give the
people something. Man, are wetalking about today? Yes? Indeed?

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What up? What up? Whatup? What up? Welcome to another
edition of the Marriage Ain't for Suckerspodcasts, you know, saying first and
foremost. Let me just welcome everybodyin podcast land, online, YouTube,
all them different places. Let meintroduce man over there who got the spock,

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Live long and prosper. You knowwhat I'm saying, ladies and gentlemen,
My man, my mellow, mymellow, my man. El David
Harris kid on the mirth your quess, Hey quest? Yes where yeah,

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no, let me have a class? Is in session, it's in quession.
It's in quession. What up though? We're here? Man? You
sound like you from the d Whatup though? You already know? I'm
yeah, I'm international. You knowwhat I'm saying. I think special I

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think Special Had says something like thatinternationally. Hey yeah, I remember that
Rob too. It's Rob based,that's what He's not international, But we
but we are, we are that. I got you for suckers marriage definitely
ain't That's all I got on that. What I'm saying. Yeah, yeah,

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man, shouts out to everybody.Man, I hope everybody is having
I'm a wonderful week this far year. Here we are this Thursday, Man,
here we are. You know whatI'm saying This Thursday. I want
to get that up and running onon my page. You know what I'm
saying. I'm here, It's onyour page, It's on it's on the
what's the name, but I wantedto put it on the personal page as

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well. You know what I'm ah. You know what I'm saying. Once
again, we multi faceted. Wewant to be in a number of different
places at one time. Okay,okay, okay, so yeah, fastted,
we want to be look at that. You know what I'm saying yeah,
I do, I do. Yeah, man, everybody who was listening

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to the podcast, David, I'mreally grateful and full of gratitude in this
season for a number of things.I know we say at a number of
different times, but I want tomake sure that you always have flowers while
you still alive. My life isblessed because you and Simone are a part
of it. Just pray that yourlife is blessed just as much because me

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and faith are a part of it. But this is a season where,
like, for real, all ofus go through difficulties and challenges and all
kinds of stuff in different seasons.And I noticed that we are embarking on
some Yeah, let me tell y'allsomething. Me and David are chef and
we always chef, and number one, you know what I'm saying, Like
for real, if Cheffin was hiphop, we would definitely be ray Kwan.

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Let me just say that right now, bicking up something good. But
in this season, man, wegotta be really really grateful for our big
bro, because David is for thosewho don't know you, owe you.
If you haven't heard already, running, tell a friend, and tell a
friend, and tell a friend.He has written a wonderful book. It
became the New York Times best seller, Mastermind, of which I'm a part

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of. And D is definitely becauseof the gifts and talents that this brother,
because he's my bro I'm saying thatbecause it is what it is like
he's a coach for one of thoseand he's running the shop and it has
definitely been a blessing to be apart of that. Now some of us,
like for real, D, whatI'm learning is that some of us,
you love your comfort zone, butyour comfort zone is not going to

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give you the growth necessary. Right, And we'll jump We'll tell you why
that's important that in relation to today'stopic. But i'mful that we are doing
what we're doing and I'm being pushedin ways that I don't normally likes.
True. Yeah, And here's thefunny thing though, This is the reason
why I love D, because Dis so dope at what he does that

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I'm being pushed and don't even knowit. You know what I'm doing,
and I'm doing what I'm doing becauseof our relationship. Right that write it
down when you got relationship with people, And I'm not talking about just acquaintances.
I'm not talking about happenstance. Whenyou have true bona fide relationship with
people, you can talk in waysand not have to worry about how it's

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being received because you know that becauseof the true relationship, everything they say
and do is gonna be because theygot your best interests at heart. You
know, it's funny, you've you'vetold me that and assured me and reassured
me in a couple of times.I did bring a little lemon, little
lemon in there. And you're atrue to form man. You're a true
blue brother man. So let's goyeah and so yeah, I'm I'm I'm

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saying that those things are important,and it's important to want growth as an
individual. You know what I'm saying. It's important to want to move from
the place that you are. Here'sthe truth. Your age is going up.
Let's just be one hundred a body. Your age is increasing in number.
You are not getting any younger.And what worked for you at twenty
ain't gonna work for you at thirty, ain't gonna work for you at forty,

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ain't gonna work for you at fifty. So you need to be growing
in some way shape or form.And there's something that is synonymous with growth
that a lot of us do notlike. It's called challenge. It's called
difficulty, it's called opposition, it'scalled discomfort. Some days you're gonna lose
sleep. You're gonna have to cutfriends off, why, because they just

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don't serve the place in space andwhere you are. Situations you're gonna have
to divorce. Foods. You aregoing to have to divorce because they are
not conducive to what you want inthis season. So I'm thankful for you,
and thankful for the situations, andthankful that we are a part of
this a monster level you know whatI'm saying, lockness, monster level coaching

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that we get in because like,for real, sometimes you just you've gone
just as far as you can goin your own steam, whether it be
in your business and your marriage andyour relationships, in your endeavors, and
you need somebody to help you goto the next level. You know,
there's nothing more, nothing I lovedoing more than coaching. Like remember when
we started this program, like andwe would talk and then you would say,

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Dave, tell us about the psychside that was before Chris Daniels.
Yes, So tell us, tellus on and I'm just like, I'm
so glad you asked. And allthese years later, Lord bless us.
You know, I get to dowhat I do on the on the coaching

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side with number one in the world. See a lot of y'all know Eric
Thomas as Et the hip hop preacher, as the number one motivational speaker in
the world. But he's he's listen, we are revealing the coach. You
heard it here, like the coachet. So yeah, let's go,

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let's go, man, it's ablessing. Let's go. Yeah, let's
go. And so he has definitelybeen foundational to what we're about to do
and what we're building, you know, as we push it forward and he's
like, yeah, no, weneed this. Because here's the funny thing.
D and I are very much wavingthe flag for marriage. You feel

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me definitely flagging for marriage. Here'sa funny thing about married folk. Though
you become complacent, a large majorityof you become complacent because you've achieved the
goal, saying marriage isn't the goal, you know what I'm saying. Once
you get there, that's just reallyand truly the first step is marriage.
Becoming married is the first step.We got the rest of our lives together.

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You know what I'm saying. Andhow you how you treat it once
you cross that marriage is nothing morethan a milestone, right, How you
treat it after that determines how dopeyou're going to be or how good this
relationship is going to be. Andso we're always trying to give marriage is
information that will that. But sometimes, like for real, we just become

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complacent. We just become stubborn.And you feel that because you're married.
But now that you're married, yougot to maintain it. And here's the
funny thing. God blessed you atmarriage, right because you can maintain the
minute that you start mismanaging. Ohyeah, yeah, you to lose what
you can't manage. Oh you're aboutto lose what you can't miss, what

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you can't Let me let me rephrasethat. You're about to lose what you
can't manage. So if you mismanageit, you're gonna lose it, right,
I think I think doctor Miles Monroesaid it one time. God only
gives us what we can manage.Pause. Yeah, So I just want

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I just want it because that's howit is on the married side, some
of us have become comfortable and you'rejust taking your spouse for granted. Okay,
come in here and get some ofthat. But today I wanna the
reason why we're doing what we're doingin this season. And yeah, I'm
gonna say it. We're doing itfor the singles. Why because you're still
in that place in space where youcan start learning about what this level of

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relationship is like, what it's allabout, who you need to be in
order to do it, if you'reserious, put that out there, if
you're serious about being in a lifelongrelationship, because that's what first and foremost
and what it takes to be inthat who you need to be as an
individual. A lot of times thepeople will hear me say marriage is only

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as strong as its least developed individual. So who do we need to be?
You know what I'm saying concerning that, And I think that's why we're
doing what we're doing in this season. That's it, Hey, that's it,
that's it. Hey, quest Yeah, you didn't ask me nothing.
We just jump in in. Wecan jump in. I mean we did,

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But let me back up because Idon't want to I don't ever want
to say that we did it.Oh okay, d yes, how's life
on the rock? Well, letme tell you a little story about life
on the rock. Yeah, that'sa nice so quest. Now, I'm

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not gonna do that to y'all.So yeah, life is life. Life
is life. It's for you today. I didn't get to load them though.
Yeah, Yo, some champions sewn. You know, I'm not paying
whatever you got. I'm not paying. You don't gotta pay for these hoi
Okay, okay, okay, butthere was a Fisher official. Okay,

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don't worry that I'm gonna load themjokers up. They're gonna be ready next
time. Okay, Okay, Well, I just got one thing to say
on that one quest. Yeah,loaded there, now, load it?
Lord it? Wow? Yeah wowyo, They're never should show them it
is something wow Wow, load themup. Don't worry. Don't worry.

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I haven't. I haven't ready foryou. All right? That thing though,
too? Yeah man, that's anice man. Yeah all right,
A glance Yeah would appen today?Yeah, man, we just I feel

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I feel like today we really needto do really discuss what we're about to
do and start start the process oflike just really drawing y'all like one of
the things that we do. Like, I got a number of friends that
are single, right, and alot of them are ladies, And I

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hear the complaints more from ladies thanI do any anybody else. Like,
when you're gonna do something for thesingles que, I got, yeah,
that's it. Yeah, when you'regonna do something for the singles when you're
going you know what I'm saying,Like all this stuff that you're doing,
I thought that how did you getfrom where you were? Because a lot
of people know your boy was marriedin two thousand. I was single right

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before two thousand and three, gotmarried, ended up in divorce in two
thousand and five. You know whatI'm saying, two year period, right,
So that just lets you know,and let me just say this to
the divorce ain't nothing more than theinability to self assess right and a lack
of tools needed to properly navigate difficultiesand challenges. As you man, you

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know what I'm saying, moved through, yes, sir, And that's what
happens, and that's who I was. Proof to the fact that there is
a person that you indeed need tobe in order to be in this kind
of relationship, and selfishness ain't apart of that. So this is why
we're doing what we're doing. We'redoing it for all the people. So

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what we're doing? What are wedoing? Yeah? The name? Should
I put the name out there?You tell me if I can, I
can bust the video? Oh,because you can bust the video that show.
I mean, if if that's whatit is like, if we can
do that, bust the video,or this can be a world premier Premier
premier bust the video order. Yeah, just so y'all know we're not talking

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about this philosophically. Y'all just goahead and pull up a seat, pay
attention, because this is the worldPremier Premier Premier of no pause. I'm
I'm gonna let the right voice saythis one. Let me go another day,
another dollar bossed up professionally. Butwhat about in love and being your

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best in all areas? The solutionit ain't no app It ain't a dating
sight being there, done that andain't going back, and I'm not doing
it again. It's a d ipaccess to an the least community of men
and women's spears about quote in allareas, especially in relationships. Well,

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we're not siping left or right,but we're leveling up talking about life minded
legends here, y'all those who aren'tjust chaste and commas in their bank account.
Oh yeah, we're about those two, I promise you. But we're
on that journey to be the bestim relationship you know and in life when

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a turn of your relationship game ina safe community of like minded men and
women, Join Connect. We're waiting, but not for long. Have you
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just about finding the one, butalso becoming the one. In our community,

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I thought this was a game,Like you thought we were just talking philosophically.
We were not talking philosophically. I'mjust saying we're not. I don't
know about nobody else, but I'myeah, I'm not playing no more.
This is not the season for play. And you know what's up? Quests.
We talked about this. We didn'tcall it this but I got the
file, like I have my filefolder and the computer tells you when it

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was. It was October sixteen,two two thousand seventeen that I created a
file folder to create prior to COVID, to create something for singles. Of
course our focus was a little differentthen, but singles nonetheless, like so

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welcome, Like this is about tobe all the way up. It's coming
in the next couple of months,and y'all need to be in here.
We're not playing and look, questlook at this. I'm gonna put this
on the screen just in case youmissed it. Look look who look who
there you go? Yeah? Whoa? Did we not? Just did we
not? Just invoked the names tothem? They are like you know,

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shouts out to Sierra and Joe JoelMontoya, like for real, they are
like the true avatar. So ifpeople are asking how it works, she
can tell you like they've been underthey've been under me for for a couple
of years. Well, I rememberwhen he was in the Marines and she
was in school, and they weredoing and he got out of the Marines

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and went and got his pilot's license, and then he started getting a certain
amount of numbers now he uh,he flies for a major airline. Now
him and his wife have real estateproduct like for Real. Cleared out a
certain number debt in one year,like for Real. All under through that
saying, and the same principles thatwe were using when I was coaching them
is the same principles that were usingnow as we help other singles like for

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Real, because I know the ladiesare out here. I got money already.
I'm doing all right, like Real. Even at that level, there's
an individual that you need to beyep. So when I say singles,
welcome, like you saw it onthe little thing the description, that's what
we're really talking about. We're talkingabout a community for successful singles. Who

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do you need to be before?Who you want to meet? Oh?
Come on, you know what myfriend and mentor taught me years ago.
He said, when I didn't getmarried to the first woman that I intended
to get married to, he said, you need to become the best you
you can be. That's why that'swhere that came from. Quest. I
got that from Darrel Davis. Hesaid, you need to become the best

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you you could be. And soI settled down for two years and all
I was thinking about while I wasbeing protected by two couples in particular,
like I put myself in the companyand the under the protection of two couples,
and that was what my focus was, becoming the best me bro and

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then and then the Lord bless mewith simone. I'm not saying that's what
everybody wants at the same rate orpace, but I'm saying there are there
are single, single men and womenwho want to become the best versions of
themselves so that one day the successthey've had in the boardroom, the success
they've had in the classroom, thesuccess they're having in their bank accounts can

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all now mesh with someone who's onthe same growth path and then maybe we
can have something electric together. Soso so like for real, Dy,
you're saying something that's real heavy andand like for real, some of us
have expectations. You think that becauseyou nice in one or two areas,

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that you nice in all of yourareas. And apparently you and I say
this respectfully, right and no disbut apparent you are not, because if
you were, then you would haveOkay, So so so let me say
this. I'm gonna tell you towhat the how is when you join connect
as a single right, So thewhat is? I want you to make

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a list of what your idea partnerwould be, from spiritual to physical,
to mental to right, make alist of what you want in a partner
and eventually becoming your future spouse.Right. Then, when you look at

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that list and do me a favor, y'all, please don't make that list
superficial. Right you gotta be sixfour And okay, if you like that
stuff, then okay, put thatdown as well. But I'm just telling
you that from somebody who knows howrelationships work. Right, when you attract
yourself to the external, uh,you know, attributes of a person.

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It's kind of like buying a brandnew car. You get a brand new
car, and the first week youlove the smell, you love the way
that it drives, You love allthese number of things to it, and
you're excited. Every time you geta chance to drive it week three,
week four, third month, fifthmonth, you kind of lose the excitement,

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right, And it's kind of thesame thing. You want to be
able to know that that car isgoing to be dependable, It'll take you
from point A to point B,and it's not all bells and whistles.
It's the same thing in relationship.You want to make sure that the person
that you get into relationship with don'tjust look good, but the content of
who they are in terms of aperson, either matches or far exceeds how

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they look on the outside. Sothat's the first part of it. When
you if you make that list,When you make that list, just look
at that list for a moment.And after you look at that list and
you look at this is the youravatar, this is the person that you
want. I want you to askyourself what kind of person is this person

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that you made this list for lookingfor? And now you have to work
towards how you're going to be theperson that's right for that person that you
made the list about. Right,And so that is the what when you
join connect, we're going to teachyou to how. And you know it's
also dope because that's one perspective.There are people who are that person.

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Yeah they bout that already. Yeah, real talk like there's some people who
are legit about that, and allof us can grow, there's no question,
right, But for some reason thereis no environment where they can experience
like minded people come on also aboutthat life. So that's the thing that

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the internet has done for us,where we can be in virtual spaces and
not be limited by geography, andalso meet ups like you and I.
We're about to go back to Atlanta. I live. I live in Jamaica.
You live somewhere else, right,you don't live in Atlanta, Paul,

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we can. I just interject thispiece right in there, because of
community and because of what we're doing. Prior to prior to this year,
we did not get to see eachother. This is I've seen you more
in the last year face to face, and we'll see you a couple times
more for this year and next yearface to face than I have in thirty

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five years, maybe thirty five years, because when we saw each other in
twenty seventeen, that was the firsttime we saw each other for twenty nine
years in person. Even though wehad already built, we had already started
to build the marriage thing. Butit was like I hadn't seen the grown

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version of you, like the grownman. I didn't know how tall you
are, short yourself via social mediaand stuff like that, a phone call
once in a blue but yeah,before social media came into Wait yeah,
so let me circle back. Soyou are that person, right, you
really bout it, You bout itabout it, and all of us can

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continue to grow. But you're notin a community or a space or an
environment where there are more people likeyou, Like I hear people of both
sexes saying there's not enough women outthere. There's not enough men out here.
And I'm not talking about like adating site or anything like that.

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But you legit because you're in yourthirties, you're in your late twenties.
Some of you are deeper into it, Like I have someone really close to
me who is forty one who wouldlove to be in an environment with like
minded individuals who are serious. It'sa safe place. And so we have

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the virtual world, but we alsohave meetups. We also have get togethers,
vacation space where we can let ourhair down, you feel me,
and then to be able to interactwith people who are successful. Oh,
come on, this is the thing, Like, this is the community we're
building. It's not in terms,it's not that we're trying to exclude anybody,

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but there is a there. Thereare there are thousands of people out
here who have done all of whatthey were trained and told to do.
They did everything right, and they'rejust trying to figure out, well,
how do I get my person now? Like, why am I doing everything
right? And my person I don'tknow where they are. Well, now

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we're putting we're putting people together sowe can all continue to grow. And
if love happens, then it happens. But it's going to be in a
safe environment, man, and it'sabout to be all the way up.
So that's all I got. Thissounds like an infomercial, but y'all don't
get it. Man, unless you'refeel in it right now, you don't
get it. But I have reallyclose friends and family who need this right

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now. Here's the funny thing aboutabout that two D and I want to
put the disclaimer out there and yeah, take it for how you take it.
I'm being very clear when I saythis, this is not a meat
market. You may meet you maymeet somebody there, but this is not
that. That's this is not that. And if you violate you know what

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I'm saying, the terms, conditions, rules of this community. I don't
have no problem in saying it wasnice piece. Yeah, I want this
to be a trusted environment, rightfor successful people. Yeah, those who
are seriously looking at it. Andhere's the funny thing to your point before,

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through that information that's about to bereleased, through that information of everybody
within that community, breakthroughs are gonnahappen. And what a breakthroughs, right,
breakthroughs is getting advanced information, advancedknowledge that allows you to push past
your point of resistance. For someof you, you've got everything that you
need. But when it comes tothis area, love, you've seen,

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you've seen the commercial. You justkeep hitting this right, Yeah, keep
hitting that wall until one day becauseof community and because of like minded individuals
and experiences that you probably haven't had, somebody's going to say something in this
community, depending on where we arein the curriculum, and it's going to
be like, oh and we haveexperiences. Man, that's the good thing.

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So like right now, for instance, one of the things that I'm
doing with my life, like wesaid before, yeah, we're talking about
we're talking about coaching, mentoring,and advising six, seven and eight figure
income earners. This is not somethingwe're trying out. This is what I
do. I can't believe it untiluntil a brother just put it on paper,

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like he was like, this isthe number of days a week you
do this day, right, It'ssix days in the week, and I'm
on seven to eight times with peoplewho have success in their view success where
in relationships success, in personal developmentsuccess, and in spiritual development and professional

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development. That's in that space.So we bring all of that to bear
on our experience quest and I withrelationship development too. And of course we've
heard the human cry for years likewhat about the singles? What about the
singles? And then our brother eEt the hip hop preacher, was like,
Oh, let's get this, let'sget this singles work. And that's

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what we're about to do. Sothat's what it is. I'm excited about
it, be honest, I'm gonnatell you I was kind of. I
was kind of this is the reasonwhy, this is the reason why you
need to be a part of groupsof people who challenge your thoughts on a
regular basis. I'm not gonna lied I'm excited about it now, But

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in the beginning I looked at itlike, okay, switching from marriage to
focus on singles, like they outhere living and loving life right now.
And then in that conversation he waslike, yeah, but let's be honest.
You tell me what is your experiencein terms of dealing with married couples.

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And then he put some some somesome stuff out there in terms of
specific married couples, and I'm like, yeah, sometimes it's hard for them
to get to accept now that they'remarried. It's hard for them to accept
and change their ways because they reallyup under the guys like, you can't
lose your marriage tomorrow. If you'renot careful, said you miss that,

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you're gonna lose it? Would thatbe like if we could get that information
to people before, Like you wantto be seriously married, You wanted to
stand it, that's the time,you wanted to be fulfilling. You wanted
to knock your sexual wik back,you wanted to knock your emotional week back,
and everything else. Let me giveyou all the how on how to

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do this so that it can dojust that. It's funny. Let me
talk about providence again. Yeah,come on, how God ordered our steps.
I talked about the little folder fromOctober sixteen, twenty seventeen. I
talked about that. Yeah, butyou know what I didn't mention. Remember,
both of us got certified to doa particular kind of relationship assessment and

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shout to Shanda, yeah, saveyour marriage before it starts. We both
got certified at the same time,at the same time. We talked about
it and we both went and didit. Can you imagine I wasn't.
I didn't. I never anyway,so God knows what he's doing, shouts
out to the program. I justwanted to do stranger they did their thing.

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See there she go. I knew, I knew. I wake her
up. Yeah, yep, yep, And so anyway, that's it.
That's it. That's all I goton that part. But really, you
know, breaking from the infommercial stylereal talk, when Darryl said to me,
become the best person you can be, I took that thing to heart.

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I was not playing with it.I was absolutely not playing with it.
And when I did not get marriedto the other young woman twenty five
years ago, I remember saying tomy mom, I don't know if I'm
gonna get married. And it wasn'tbecause I was discouraged. That wasn't the
point, because I was. Iwas now I was a serious brother,

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Like, I wasn't playing with it, and I'm like, so how do
I meet something? Because I wasabout. I was like literally about to
get married when we broke up.So I'm like, now, how am
I going to first meet somebody andthen get to the point where I'm interested
enough to say will you be mine? And we're on courtship level, and
then get to the point where nowwe transitioned to me proposing, and I

(32:08):
was like, man, I gottime for that. I just literally don't
have time for that. But becauseI was in an environment. Remember I
told you I was shielded by twocouples and they were young. When I
say young, they were like fivesix years older than me. And I
was shielded in that environment and thengot that great counsel of being the best

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version of yourself you could possibly be. And then God revealed a friend of
mine, like he opened my eyesto a friend of mine. So by
that time, two thousand and oneis when we got married. This friend
of mine was my friend for almosteleven years. Already unbelievable. But it
was in that safe space and thatthat growth mindset space. So what we

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do in now quest is systematizing this. I'm just saying that was my eerience,
quess, my real life experience.I never really put it in those
words, not in the context ofwhat we're doing. But but I lived
that experience without a full system andit worked. So imagine now we're doing
it intentionally with expert advice, notjust advice, wonderful environment, and then

(33:20):
opportunities for us to continue to growweekly, monthly, quarterly. Come on,
bro, in person, online coaching. We're talking about real coaching every
single week. Bro, Come on, can we can we just throw it
up for that? That's all Igot, That's all I got. Can
we pull it up at the realcoaching? Now? Just come into a

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place and hear people wax deep,but can give you comprehensive like for real,
like for real on how to moveas I can tell you a little
bit about too deep right because nowI'm living life with faith, I can
tell you a lot about what todo right prior to faith, I can
tell you a whole lot about whatto do. Hu you feel me,

(34:04):
let me just keep it one hundredbecause once again, you heard us talk
about it in the beginning. Someof you are very much and you have
a lot you really do, you'rewell to do in your finances. For
some of you, you dope inthat in that area and here's the funny
thing. You still caught up onthose external things. You want a dude
who you know what I'm saying,Drive nice, live nice, look nice.

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You want the woman who the thirtysix twenty four thirty eight, whatever
your thing is. But I promiseyou when life be life in because it
will life life will start. Thelife in thirty six twenty four thirty eight.
Or how good he look or howdope he driving can do nothing for
you? Who was he? Asan individual? Can he pour into your

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spirit when you when you need thingsthat money cannot buy? D? I
wish we had time. I wishwe had time. D Yep, yep.
That's what we want doing. That'sthe reason why we're doing, as
you said, real coaching, realcommunity with real people who are like minded.

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Have you ever been in a community, and I'm gonna ask you to
do something, y'all in a minute. Have you ever been in a community
of single individuals who are successful whoseintent is to grow in the key areas?

(35:31):
Remember we're talking about relationship development,business development? What else? Personal?
Personal development? I said it before, relational. So have you ever
been in an environment where all ofthose boxes are ticked? And then the

(35:52):
coaching is professional, and then thereare actual meetups throughout the year, and
the coaching is weakly and on andon and on. And I haven't even

(36:14):
told y'all to bonus stuff, likey'all gotta wait for that. We don't
even get to the bonus stuff.That's just to dig it to the bonus
stuff. The community and the coachingI have d I'm just telling you,
I'm not cat like you ain't aboutto coach me all the way. I
need some stuff. I need someplaces to go, I need some things,
people to see, things to do, and things to do. I
need that. And you know,I'm all about the experience. I'm all

(36:37):
of the experience. Got it gotto be fire for me. And listen
to the marriage community. We're goingwe're gonna we're going on a cruise a
little less than a year from now. So we think we're gonna dis the
singles community. Come on, bro, no doubt. Just like just like
Shanda was saying, this is notthis is not replacing the marriage community.
Come on, this is both andboth and and look at what Shanda saying.

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What is his or her character creditscore? Pause? See that?
So anyway, what I want y'allto do right. I want you if
you are watching online and you haveinterest, you're interested in this connect a
Greenhouse singles community, I want youto type a one in the chat.

(37:21):
Please go ahead and type a onein the chat. And those of you
who are listening on podcasts, Ineed you to type a review and as
you type the review, say I'minterested in Connect and I want y'all to
stay tuned. That's what it is. I want you to stay tuned because
this is not hype. This isnot a pretest. You already saw the

(37:44):
video, so that is clearly andwe had the we already had listen.
We already got the basis covered interms of in terms of our coaching for
an entire Oh you want me tosay how long? I won't say how
long? A long time, longenough for our development to continue transformation.
So yeah, let's go. Yep, let's go yep. So yeah,

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d I don't know about you,but if you are single and you want
to be in serious relationship and youwant to, like for real, find
that person that you can do lifewith and not around, then Connect might
be for you. And here's thefunny thing. We said, like minded
and here's the truth of the matter. Like minded like sometimes can be you

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know, equal to I'm ready,but you may not be ready, but
you ready to get ready, thenit still might be for you. Why
you may not have the mindset,but you need to be in the presence
of the people that have that mindsetthat you want, and you don't know
how to quite get there. There'sa thing called the power of being in

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the room. Yeah, you couldsit in your regular place, and you
can sit in your regular environment,but I promise you you're gonna get the
term product of your environment is realand if you want that mindset, then
you need to change the environment.You know what CONNECT does. It removes

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the I almost said excuses because that'sbut that sounds almost insulting. There are
some who are making excuses. Butit removes the barrier ye that says I
can't find people like me who whoare about it. It removes because it's
like we put them on the sameeverybody's in the same room. Sit.

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Yeah, So anyway, that's alllove, So type of one in the
chat or go ahead and write areview and put I'm interested in Connect and
y'all stay tuned because marriaging for suckers, but singleness, trying to do this
thing alone and hope for the best. It's definitely not for suckers, Like
don't do that. You don't needto do that. No more like,
don't do that, it doesn't work. And Quest tried it, it didn't

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work. So I'm just saying Ididn't plan that. It just kind of
leaked out. He tried it.It didn't work. It don't work.
It don't work. I promise youit don't. Yeah, so yeah,
let's get him out of there.Funny thing as we get him out of
here after doing it my way andgetting burnt and some of y'all, y'all

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real decisive about your move. Afterdoing it my way and getting burnt,
I had to go back to thehomie to get it done, right,
can you imagine? Yeah? Yeah, yeah, that's it. So there
you go. Come on, thereyou have it, y'all. I hope

(40:45):
you've enjoyed your time with us.Marriage is about mutual love and mutual respect,
and it works for those willing tomake it work. Real talk,
Our spouses are treasured jewels given tous to make life better better, and
the sooner we learn to value oneanother will be the sooner we become the
absolute best versions of ourselves we canbe. Until next time, peacem