Watch the Closing Doors

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P seawl Is Shaman Dave with mybrother Quest, the man bringing you all
things marriage, paying you huge dividendson your investment in time with us,
We're talking about love, sex,having children, money, spirituality, life,
communication, and anything else to helpyou thrive and win in your relationships.

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And guess what this is grown folksbusiness. So get ready to make
grown up decisions. You know why, because marriage ain't for suckers. That's
the name of the program. MarriageAin't for suckers. All right, let's
get into it. Hey, yourQuest. It's time to give the people
something. Man, what are wetalking about today? What up? What

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up? What up? Is yourboy? Quest? Man? Welcome to
another edition of the Marriage Ain't forSuckers Podcast? I am joined, you
know what I'm saying by Some mightcall them, you know, saying ball
head, slick. You know whatI'm saying. Some might call them L.
D H. Others might call themthe anomaly. Ladies and gentlemen,

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My man, my mellow, mymellow, my man, l David Harris.
But you ask to hold on,hold on, hold on, hold
on? Oh what this quest?Listen to me? No man, Oh

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I'm not paying all right? Yo? What up? Quest, listen,
better lose yourself in the music,the moment you own that you better never
let it go. Get one shot, do not miss your chance to blow.
I gotta do it. I gottado it to you. Lord.
Let me just switch it so wedon't get I don't get distracted, and
I put it on there and getus shut down. Yeah, what up?

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Quest? Listen man, I'm nota prophet, but I read the
prophets. Hey, bru, SoI'm gonna say I like to I like
to introduce my homeboy. Yeah,no doubt, my brother, Yeah,
no doubt from another mother. Thisis Quest, the Visionary Leader. Holla
at y'all, man, that's him, that's him right there. Ooh,

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the Visionary Leader. Yeah. I'mnot a prophet, but I read the
prophets. Let's get up. Oh, come on, come on, come
on, but just pull a fader, bullet fader. I ain't paying,

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not paying. I'm paying, I'mnot paying. I'm not paying. What
up, man, It's good tosee your faced as always. Yeah.
Likewise, man, I think Ithink we saw each other recently, though
we did, we we saw yo. Let me tell you. Twenty twenty
twenty three, the second half oftwenty twenty three was a blessing in that
respect. Man, Yes, therebecause I got to see you and what

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July? Was it? See inJuly? I think I saw you in
July, in August, in September, in October, and Shanda Morris is
calling us, but we are recordingpodcasts. Shouts out to Shanna, we're
live. I'm thinking Shanda's supposed tosee that, unless suppose is your joint
live? Is it? Yeah,it's live, it's live. She's it,

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so yeah, it shouts out toher. But we saw each other
every month for the second half oftwenty twenty three, from July right through
to the end of the year.But it was it was kind of special
recently, wasn't it. Yeah,it was special because we got to see
each other in Jamaica Christmas. Youknow what I'm saying. And I ain't

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gonna lie. I had the Letme let me just say man, I
had Yeah. Yeah, I justhad a wonderful time. Yeah, that's
good. Wonderful time before That's good. Importantly, what was it was crazy
deep because we got to see ourselvesreloaded in account of a way. It

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was weird, bro, because Isaw Josiah and Nico. And here's the
funny thing. They didn't even comesit at our table. They decided to
go sit on table right by thewater, and they started playing soccer under
the table. Then they was playingsome mimicking game. And I don't know,
but it looked like I'm gonna tryto pull it out reloaded all over

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again. Yeah. I didn't eventhink about it till you said it.
I'm looking down because I'm trying toget it, get it on here.
Did you put it in the telegram? Didn't you? I think I put
it in the telegram or or didyou put it online? It was on
the U O I think it wasin the U O U telegram. But
it was unbelievable. So I'm gonnalook for it while you while you're still
talking. Yeah, so just tosee them. A matter of fact,

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I don't know how to get itup. No, I put it up,
but I just can't remember where itwas. That's my problem. I
thought you put it in the masterminds. So I'm gonna look in there.
But go ahead, carry on,I'm gonna find it. Go ahead,
don't worry about it. But it'slike just to see them, bro like,
And it was almost like this wasthe first time that they were seeing

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each other face to face, youknow what I'm saying. Like, and
the way that they were playing,it was as if they knew each other,
like they grew up, they cameup together, you know what I'm
saying. In addition to that,we look at them, look at them,
Yeah, look at them. Oh, that's the point where they were
they had already stopped playing soccer underthe table. Yeah they were. They

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were micking each other, mocking eachother. Yeah, And I was just
like, d were we ever thissilly at this age? We probably were,
but we never you know what I'msaying, Oh, I already know.
I was one hundred percent worse.I was definitely worse. I was
definitely worse. And then But Ithink I think the part that was dope

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for me tho D is the factthat we know who our wives are in
terms of individuals, right, likeSimone is We're talking about it earlier on.
Simone is wired a lot like me, but like there's like some different
parts system of like you cut somefolk off quick quick. Faith is npe
person that is yeah, no time, no time. Faith is not the

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type of person that trust people offthe rip, right, because she is
a shoe if you ask me,one hundred and ninety nine gear traffic control.
Right, she's not very trusting outthe gate, so she really got
to see who you are before sheright. And for the two of them

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to they talk via zoom and allof that other stuff, but for them
to see each other click up theway that they did and then go off
and leave us, that's hold up. Let me just addressed that real.
I don't know, I might felt, might have felt a way. You
know what I'm saying. They wentoff and did they own thing? I
need to tell a secret too,son, Like because I'm because I'm I'm
I'm well known. Let's just callit like that. And oh gosh,

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I should probably not say that.But people be people be, well,
that's not the part I shouldn't say, Like this is worse. So people
be reaching out to Simone in socialmedia to be a friend, and she'd
be coming to me like, yo, who is that? That's not my
friend? Like she quick to saythat's not my friend. That's how to
do with me? Like why arethey reaching And I'm like easy, Simone,

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cool, no man, easy,you know what I'm saying, so
that's how she is. Like,she's just like, Bro, I'm not
looking for just random and she's veryfriendly. She loves having friends, bro,
But she's not just looking for anew friend just because I'm cool with
somebody. She's not one of thosepeople that she'll be cordial. But she's
not gonna automatically be cool with nobodyjust because I'm cool with them. She
not about that life, bro.But what was so dope about it is

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that the two of them immediately clickedup like long lost friends. We ain't
seen each other for a while.Then they took off and went to the
far end of the beach and satdown. Son, it took us ten
minutes to get there to walk.We had to take ten minutes to go
catch up with them. Yeah,and like when we came back down from

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where we was and then we starton one end of the day and they
was like, look across the thing. Then they were waving their hand.
I pulled out my map on myphone to locate Oka, Simon, because
we have that thing where we wherewe track each other, and it's like,
Yo, it wasn't like they're notrude. They it wasn't like yo,

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what y'all doing here, But itwas just like, yeah, we
were kind of in the middle ofsomething like I was like, I was
like, that's that's what I want. That's yeah. This week. You
know, for those who don't know, if if you get an opportunity to
join the u OU Mastermind and you'rein business and you're looking to take you

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know what you you are as anindividual and you know, as a as
a business owner to the next level, this is definitely something that you need
to join. But the discussion thatwe've been talking about this week has been
along the lines of being yoked,you know what I'm saying. And for

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all of us who know, likefor real, you know the word it
talks about, be not unequally yokedwith unbelievers, but when you do find
people that you can do life withand not around right, I'm talking about
legit do life now. You can'tbe yoked with everybody but those that you
are yoked with, and like,for real, that was just a perfect
example. And me and D forthose who don't know, Me and D,

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I don't even know where we allstop counting. You know what I'm
saying, It's over year, it'sforty something, it's forty something years.
I know. I know that Iwas younger than thirteen because I moved.
I know where I was at acertain time. So I was young.
We were younger than teen, Iremember because I was in elementary school and

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I remember I did like being inthe seventh grade, sixth grade and still
like so I know our ages werein the single digits, right, So
yeah, I stop counting. Butfor us to be still rocking and doing
what we're doing now and just theway that God would have it, like
there there will never be another timewhere we are disconnected, if you will

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the right, there's a marriage that'staking place, and it's not just for
me and you no more now,it's for our families. Yes, he
goes like when can we go back? Nico said it the other day,
when can we go back to Jamaicato see Josiah? Like and that's funny
because Nico not looking for no newjust random new friends either. He not
about that life either. He's not. He really isn't. He can care

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less, you know what I'm saying, Like especially fans, but for them
to click the way that they andthen they just I played football, so
that's and that's right up Nico's alley. Yeah, I'm sorry for the We're
in America soccer for those who watchit from Yeah, I call it football,
but you know because yeah, Iuse your foot fit the ball.

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Yeah, cause you use your foot, you know what I'm saying. But
like, for real, for themto be out there shifting the way that
they were, man, unbelievable,yeah, believable. So we should probably
just jump in right here. Man, I'm gonna give y'all a little story.
Right, I'm gonna give y'all alittle story. So you see the
caption right, watch the closing doorsso as you can see right there with

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my man on his on his onhis lid, and then I'll just put
mine on for a second, likewe we we from the bricks, like
we're from New York City, right. I don't know what else to tell
them, you feel me? Soone of the things I used to do
quest when I didn't know any Spanish, I used to read. I used
to read the signs on the train. So it was like no comera ki,

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like don't eat here, no seeyou don't don't you know, don't
lean on the you know what I'msaying. But one thing that exactly.
So one of the things we usedto hear though was watch the closing doors.
But sometimes, like when we werein high school and we would take
we would take the E train towhatever that place was, so we could
go up to walk to the seven. Sometimes the joint would be like ram

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Roosevelt. It was Roosevelt. Okay, see I even forgot yeap. So
we would go to that stop andthen get up. But if you're coming
back and reverse though in the afternoon, sometimes there's enough people you can't fit
on the train, and then youwould hear dum watch the closing doors,
and it's like can I get inso I could fit in the joint?

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Yes? Or no? Well,sometimes you can't fit. Sometimes you couldn't
fit Son because you're not going.I said, sometimes you couldn't fit on
the train because you're not going,or you not going because you can't fit
on the train. I think I'mmaking a point. Sometimes you can't go

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because you don't fit. Quest mmhmm. That's a pause. For those
who are listening to the podcast,it's a deliberate pause. And I used
to think that was an elitist mindset. Can we just start there? With
relationships. I would hear the catsthat did direct sales and network marketing and

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they would say stuff along those lines, and I was it always made me
itch. It always made me itchbecause I'm like, y'all some elitist people
like, oh, so if somebodydoesn't want to buy your product or service,
then they're not your friends no more. That's how a lot of the
cats would behave And yeah, comesee me. My sister's been in it
since nineteen eighty three, and Iwas in it. I was in it

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when I was twenty. I'm fiftynow now, I mean, what am
I talking about? Twenty? Iwas nineteen and I'm fifty now, so
been I understand what I'm saying.And I used to just itch and I'm
like, why did they do that? And put that aside, like whatever
their reasons were. And then Istarted thinking, like, wait a minute,
maybe not because of product or service, maybe not because you don't support

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my business, but maybe because we'renot on the same page, maybe because
we don't have the same values.Quest And if we don't have the same
values, then we can't have thesame vision. So there's the reason there.
It is ahead I was saying hencethe reason why everybody can't go.

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Everybody can't go watch the closing doorsDoom, doom. You can't fit because
you can't you can't go. Ah, So what does that mean? Though?
Like, say, let's go backto Jamaica, quest? Right?
And now you and the family arehere, Me and my fam live here.

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And even though even though you andI have known each other longer that
than Simona and I, Simone andI go back to like ninety one.
But how weird would it be?Quest if our families didn't click? Because
you and I go all the wayback, Like, what if the families

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don't click? That's a real consideration. What if they don't. I'm glad
that they do. They do saythat, I'm glad that they do.
What I will do. I don'tknow what would I don't even want to
think. I don't even want toentertain the thought. All right, And
so the point in this case is, though now we're in these relationships,

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we're married, You and I aremarried, we have children, and now
it's emerging of our lives in somany different ways. Well, there are
some people who want to be downwith us. And I'm not saying because
we're something that they can't be orthat you know what I mean. But
there are some people that would disruptthe friendship that we got from boyhood.

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There are some people that would disruptthe relationships we have with our spouses and
our children. And there's one more. There's some people who would disrupt what
now our families have jointly watch theclosing doors, Doom, doom. If
we don't have the same values andwe don't have the same vision, you

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can't get on the train. Whybecause you can't fit. But that's the
thing that I'm up like, Ithink that I want to touch to David.
If we don't share the same visionsand the same goals and the same
dreams, then why do you wantto be connected to me? Is it
because of your perception of what I'mdoing? And you think that because you
get what I'm getting. Let's ahack. It's a hack question here.

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I was watching a video by JohnMaxwell very recently, and I think it
I think it's appropriate here he saidhe always meets people. He said he
was doing a conference one time,young young cat. You know what I'm
saying, fresh out of you know, just finishing up his master's program,
comes up to him, real eager. You know what I'm saying, like

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excited, he said, you know, John, it's a pleasure to meet
you. He said, I justfigured out just by watching you today that
I want to do what you do. He said, I want to do
what you do. Excited, freshout, you know, finishing up his
master's program. I love what youdo. I want to do what you

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do. And he said, hesaid, that's that's that's that's that's great,
that's wonderful. He said, letme ask you a question, though.
I get that you want to dowhat I do, But do you
want to do what I did?I almost can't even say pause, Like
that was a double pause. Youknow what I'm saying, Like, do

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you want to do what I did? You like the end result, you
like the goal, you like whatyou think you see? Right, But
this just didn't happen overnight. Andthere are some things that I need to
do or I had to do alongthe way. He talks about shouts out
to email. He talks a lotabout these covenant relationships, and there are
things that happen in covenant relationships thatpeople don't want to do, but they

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want the benefits of the covenant relationship. In other words, you want what's
mine, you want what's yours,and you want what's mine. But when
I want what's yours, I can'thave it. You know. I'm I'm
I'm a Bible guy, and Iunderstand covenant. Son. Give me two
hours and I'll rip the whole covenantconcept, right, But I will.

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I will say to you that forthe first time, I have some clarity
on human relationships. And I'm nottalking about marriage here. When I listen
to Eve when we're talking to eachother, not just him talking about it,

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just open, but when he's inhis mind like telling me stuff like
speaking, just like how you havea conversation. I'm not trying to make
it ominous to some spec I'm justtalking about speaking. And I'm thinking it's
clicking because now I understand why it'sso important to him what covenant because and

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reason why this is such a bigdeal to me now is because he juxtaposes
commitment and covenant and I'm thinking commitmentis a big word, bro. But
in his mindset, commitment is notenough. I said commitments, and I'm

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talking about people that are not goingto stop being committed. It's not enough.
And I'm like, wait a minute, I've never thought of commitment as
not enough before me. I'm talkingabout me introverted, always thinking yes,
yes, I think very deep likethat means it never clicked to me that
commitment wasn't enough. Son, I'venever thought commitment was not enough. I

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thought I was thinking commitment and covenant. If they're not identical, they're close
enough that why are we even talkingabout this? Oh no, it's a
whole different level. And I knowand I'm not saying it just because he
said it. Now I'm hearing themand I'm like, oh my goodness,
I missed that one. Here's what'sso funny about what you're saying, because

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of the context and the area inwhich we grow, I mean that we
are not grow, but we operateright this, this this thing called marriage,
This is where our work is.Right. Yes, I realized it
from that perspective that there's a differencebetween committed and covenant. If there was
not a difference, there wouldn't beno divorces. But my thing is,

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and and you know, I don't, you know, I agree with the
differences, but but ques committed peopledon't divorce each other. That's what they're
created. But here's the funny thing. Committed people are committed until that one
thing happens. Covenant says, evenif that one thing happens. You see

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what I'm saying. Commit Covenant peoplesay, even if that one thing happens,
I don't know what we're going todo, but I'm not going nowhere.
You know what's really interesting now,I can see clearly what you're saying
from the way that you said it, because because boy, I don't want
to put Simone under no bust becauseI don't believe in that. But I

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need to talk to her some morebecause I said to her long ago,
long ago, like I'm not aboutthat adultery life, but I wouldn't throw
my wife away if God forbid shewent that way. And am we not
saying it wouldn't be difficult to transitionthrough that of course, of course,

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But you know that's a straw forSimone because she's been bitten by that so
many times before she got married,So it's a straw for her, and
that can break a camel's back.I mean, thankfully we not about that
life, so it doesn't apply here, right, But I'm just thinking in
terms of really kind of churning thisthing like commitment versus relationship versus covenant,

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and I'm like, oh my word, this thing goes really really deep.
Can I tell you what's going throughmy mind as you speak? This is
the reason why it's important to transitionthrough the many stages of relationship. You
and I were talking earlier on thatsomething could be good in terms of the

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work that we do. In termsof relationships, it can be good,
but it's never great until a lifeis trans form right. And I'm realizing
that the more I'm married to faith, and this is the reason why vulnerability,
humility, right, all of thatstuff is important too, because we
never give people the opportunity to reallylook into our life. Not that you

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should give everybody the opportunity to lookinto your life, but you should give
people that you trust, that yourespect the opportunity to look into your life,
people that are men and women ofGod such that they could tell you
what's right or what's wrong from thatvantage point that you can't see. And
I'm realizing that there must Commitment isgood, but covenant is great. Pause

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you know what I'm saying, DLike, I'm realizing that I'm as faith
and I matriculate through the years ofmarriage, and we're committed to one another,
but we start to experience some thingsthrough our interaction with one another that
allows me to cause her to betransformed, and that allows her to move

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in my life such that I'm transformedto where we get to the point where
like, Okay, yeah, Idon't want to live on this side of
life without you, no matter whatthe circumstances are. And it's in those
instances that we start making the transitionfrom good to great, from committed to

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covenant. You know my mind.I'm a psych guy. I worked in
psych in ninety six behavior modification andmanagement, right, so I know a
little bit about the way the mindfunctions and its impact on what we do.

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My wife, Simone is experiencing perimenopa. Yeah. Faith is coming right
behind her. Yeah. And I'mgonna say this obviously doesn't happen with all
women. My sister is likely andfull blown menopause. She's she's, she's,

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she's, she's more mature than us, and we're we're already in our
fifties, right, so good,But Lisa didn't. It's not experiencing the
thing that I'm about to say,Simone was was at the point of what

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people would consider full blown depression.And I'm not talking about a mood.
I'm talking about full bore depression.And if you understand the symptoms and the
behaviors of someone who is suffering inthat regard, in in she was one

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level, one level above what theworst it has to offer. And then
there was just and so now we'remarried, right, who knows what's going
on in her mind? She doesn'teven understand what's going on in her mind.
And there was one night that thatthing had come to a head and

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she's just like, yo, Igotta go walk. And it wasn't as
simple as I'm saying it, butthat's what it meant. And this nighttime,
bro, I didn't say anything.I got my crocks, I took
up the keys, and I ledthe way. She was a mess.
Covenant said this ends here, thissuffering that she's going through, it ends

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tonight. Prayers from long time,yes and everything else, Yes to night
it ends. And so my nondemanding self, not forceful self said,
there is a remedy. I won'ttalk about the remedy. I know what
the remedy is. She knew whatthe remedy was, and I said,

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even though this remedy could cause complicationsin another area, we're gonna put this
remedy back on board to get youryour mind and emotions and your self worth
back on track. What it didn'tsay was I can't bother with this man.

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She's off her rockers. Yeah no, no, no, no no
no no no no no no nono no, no, no no no.
I know people that have divorced overthis stuff. That's crazy because the
person that they're seeing and experiencing isnot the one they married. Literally,
it's not that. Ain't her.But I'm like, no, no,
no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no

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covenant. We're gonna make sure thatwhatever it takes to get her mind right,
that's what it's gonna be. Andif you've never been out of your
mind, you really don't know whatI'm talking about. Or if you've never
been with anybody whose mind is going, going, going, that, you
don't even know what I'm talking about. But but but doe to knowledge.

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D have you ever been in excruciatingpain? Yes, I have been,
And you are not your self mhmwith no end in view? Right,
and so because right, you're anexcruciating pain because sometimes people put degrees on

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stuff, you know what I'm saying, like because you can't like legit sy
or Bro, I've had a kidneystone and if I could show you the
size of the dog one thing,Bro, it's something so small could wreak
so much havoc because it's trying topass from your kidneys through a tiny little

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tube like the one sitting on yourheadset right there like this, but it's
a bundle of nerves. Yeah,okay, yeah, yeah. I think
sometimes because we can't see right,not to go too far off, but
it's because you can't see it,but you know that there's some stuff on

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the inside that's shifting and changing,and it's affecting emotions. It's affecting feelings,
the way you think, the wayyou process, like for real,
it's a it's a serious thing.But when you think about what this person
did with you for you right interms of what she did for you,
in terms of relationship, the childrenthat she gave you, it's my wife

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being come on, bruh. Thisis the thing that I'm trying to get
people to understand that my life wouldnot be what it is right now if
faith wasn't in it, her lifewould not be what it is if I
wasn't in it. She's told methe relationships she's been in, and I

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was like, and you stay thatlong. I've told her the relationships that
I've been, the marriage that Iwas in and served, you know with
divorce papers, like, she knowsright that I did so for you to
be here, you saved me fromso much, or you gave me the

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opportunity to have a second chance.I gave her the opportunity right or where
she don't got to deal with noneof that stuff she was dealing with before.
So now because you're going through somechange, right, like, come
on, look at the years thatwe experience good together, the fact that
we are parenting children, the factthat our children will never know what divorce

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is, they'll never know what itis for me. If we even lightweight
d talk crazy to one another,I'm talking about lightweight, the kids are
like, no, hey, whatis that? We don't And I'm talking
about when we're joking with one another, because it that's right, that's right,
feel me. So now we've shiftedfrom what we talked about before in

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terms of commitment to covenant Yeah,that's where we at. Bro. Yeah,
Yeah, it's gonna take a lot, a whole lot. I'm talking
about. It might have to takeGod coming down off the throne. And
I know that he ain't fit todo that, to come and break this
up. God is God is theone who creates covenant. He's original.

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You see, you know the homiesthe five percent nation or the nation of
who they call Gods and Earth.I got a lot of homies in it
in that mindset, right, andand and they talk about the original.
Man, your original, you're Godbecause your original pause, No, you're

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not the one who created that.You can't see all the time. He's
original. And I'm not trying todiss my homeboys. Listen, I got
a lot of brothers, man,I got a lot of brothers in the
and in that are that are fivepercent nation. But what I'm saying is

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the one who literally created us isabove all. He's He's supreme, not
mathematics. Pause, He's supreme.And the jewel for today is he's so

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good. And you want to say, how good is he that he made
a covenant with us, that hewould write his laws in us, Us
And we're so disobedient, and thenhe went on the other side of the

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covenant because you got to keep ittoo. We got to keep it too.
Like he went on the other sideof the covenant and said, all
right, now I'm gonna have tomanifest myself as a human so that I
can keep the human side of thecovenant too through Christ. And then all

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that the other humans need to dois submit and accept it. So he
keeps both sides of the covenant beSo he I'm just saying, my man
made a covenant with himself, Ohgosh, because because there's no no one
higher than himself. That's what That'swhat the tex says. So I'm like,

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you can't lose in godly covenant.So that means that when we are
clicking up with people, Seanda,when we say that we're friends with people,
it has to be bigger. Thenyou enjoy stuff together. But not
only that, it has to bein alignment with what we two say is

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our covenant. If it's not,you can't ride this train. Know this,
watch the closing doors. We onlyhave space on this train, We
only have space in this relationship.We only have space in this dynamic for
people who move in alignment with thiscovenant, shots out to DD. She

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calls it her sacred circle. Soyou're trying to make me cry, now,
is that what you're doing. I'mjust saying, D shots out to
DD for the sacred circle. Why, because in essence, what she's saying
is that if I allow you tobe a part of this circle and you
not in alignment with all the ideas, mindsets, likeness, whatever, all

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the attributes are of this covenant,you could tear this all apart. And
I can't afford that. We can'tafford that. It Legit sustains our families,
it sustains our relationships, It sustainsour spiritual fortitude, all of the
things that make us and allow usto move, think, breathe in the

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way that we are right now,which is pleasing to God. If I
allow you to come in here,yeah, you might tear this. Everybody
can't go. And here's the funnything. This goes for mindsets, it
goes for situations and people. Yeah, and so just kind of as we
shut it down for now, fornow, what we're not saying, and

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this is a very important distinction.This is not about uniformity, like I
promise you question. I cut fromthe same cloth, but I promise you
not on the same part of thebolt. We're just not We're not that
similar, right, So what we'renot looking for is uniformity. So you
got your fitted on, I havemy fitted on. Like I didn't even

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know you were dressing like that today. I got my joint too. Look
at that. We got the joint. I don't even really care about the
team. I care about that Andthen why, oh you feel me?
Just because? But guess what yoursis red with the white joint minus black
full black. So we're unified justin terms of our love for the city.

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The city that used to never sleep. I don't know if it sleeps
now. Question. Yeah, sothe city that never sleeps. But we're
not uniform. We're not the sameguy, but we do share the same
values and we share the same vision. We're on the same mission. Come

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on, you feel me? Sothat is what low Key determines whether when
they play that sound now, y'allcan look it up, watch the closing
door, duomo, whether you're gonnabe on the train or off of it.
I ain't mad if you don't fiton the train, but if you

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try to bust in through the doors. I promise you, I'm pulling the
emergency brake and everybody, everybody gonnaget whiplashed because you got to get off
at this joint. You cannot comeon here, You just can't. Everybody
cannot. So I'm thankful because wehave the privilege of making a decision every

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days. Jesus was faced with onething. I think I'll just shut it
down right here. He and hisdisciples were together and somebody was like,
yo, your mom's is at thedoor, and he took it as an
opportunity to teach them what we're talkingabout. And he was like, so
open the door, like let herin. He was just like, so,

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let's let's ride for a second,right, who is my mother and
my brother and my family? Likewho is my family? And it's just
like, what, like, Ijust set your mom's have to do.
And he's like, those who dothe will of my father, come on,
are on the train, chust Sowhat does that mean about those who

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who don't. So that's all we'rereally talking about, Chusts. That's really
what it is. At the endof the day. The end of the
day, you either want to dowhat I do and if you want to
do what I do, then you'regonna do what I did, a lot
of people want to do what Ido, but they don't want to do
what I did. Immediate, immediateindicated that. Yeah, so yeah,

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I think this is it. Righthere, we pull up the brakes,
just here for one moment, untilyou know the next time the Lord's best
life. Oh boy, Yeah,I'll stay focused. Then. Yeah,
there you have it, y'all.I hope you've enjoyed your time with us.
Marriage is about mutual love and mutualrespect, and it works for those

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willing to make it work. Realtalk, our espouses are treasured jewels given
to us to make life better,and the sooner we learn to value one
another will be the sooner we becomethe absolute best versions of ourselves we can
be. Until next time, peace,