June 26, 2025 • 50 mins
Everyone has limited emotional and mental resources. Have you every thought about how you allocate those resources and how those resources are replenished? Tune into M.A.Y.A. to explore the Economy of Self, to gain greater insight into your emotional and mental resources and how to manage them better to create and maintain better overall health and wellness.
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Now mistay everyone, Welcome to episode sixty five of Maya.
My Ambition, Your ambition, understanding your mental and emotional economy.
And this is a topic for me that is so
near and dear, and it's my own personal concept that
I've been working on that I discussed with people in
therapy all the time because I feel like the idea
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of resources is something that's lost on people, and I
wanted to have a way to talk to people in
the way that they can understand. Mental health often is
the unicorn in the world, I feel. So when I
talk about the economy of self, it really puts it
into a perspective that people can understand, because when you
talk money, people can understand and grasp it. So that's
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what the episode is going to jump. But of course
before we do all that, we've got to do our
housekeeping stuff. Remember, whether you are listening to the show
live or the podcast version, is that you have carved
out for you consider to be part of your self care,
just a way to reflect, think, reset, reboot, whatever it is,
and I say, find that's quiet that you can relax.
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I always say it doesn't hurt to grab a pen
and a paper just to jot down a thought, an
idea that you might have something that you want to
reflect on deeper, because this is the time that you
can do a little work on you, especially maybe if
you're shying away from therapy for not But anyways, before
we do that, remember there are actually sixty four or
more episodes of Maya that you could be listening to
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that might actually touch on something that you've been thinking about.
So you can always listen to episodes of Maya, My Ambition,
Your Ambition at mayadashspeaks dot com. Just click on the
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as well. Before we really jump though into talking about
the economy of self understanding how to manage your mental
and emotional resources, remember June is National Men's Health Awareness Month,
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and I just want to say this entire month, this
is a time fellas that you should be reflecting on you,
whether it's your physical health or your mental health. It
could even be your financial health because health is wealth
no matter what it is. And when you take time
to focus on you and figure out how to be
healthy in all those different domains, you tend to have
a richer, fuller life. So June is for the fellaws.
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So whether you haven't had that annual exam, there's a
very disturbing stat that says that roughly forty percent of
men only really focus on getting that annual exam. And
you know it's important no matter age you, but especially
when you start to get into those older years where
you can pume young wiser. You know, when you hit
roughly in those fifties, it's really encouraged for them to
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get you know, prostate. You know, different cancer screenings because
of in colon cancer, because those potentially could be things
that can make you higher risk the older you get.
And especially if you have a family history, Fellows, you
want to make sure you are getting those annual exams.
It's better to be ahead of the problem than behind it.
So June is Men's Health Awareness Month, and fellas, please
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be aware if you're emotional, mental and physical health. Okay,
So with that being said, let's jump into episode sixty
five Understanding your mental and emotional economy. And as I said,
this is something that is over here and here to me,
and I specifically call underst type of understanding the economy
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of self. So you might say, maya, does that mean?
So the reason I chose to you the word economy
because economy has way more meaning than most people generally understand.
But in terms of people can click very very quickly
to getting a grasp. So economy is about resources, allocations, growth, decline.
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We always think in terms of money. That way, I
want you to begin to think of your mental wellness
in the same capacity, because resources are something we have
a limited amount of. If you just did a general
definition of what a resource is from an economic standpoint,
monetary its materials that are available in an environment that
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can either help satisfy needs or wants. So most people
can instantly pay to the idea of money because generally
you go to work to make money to pay for
the things that you need and often to acquire the
things that you want. So hence it makes sense. So
then you might say to me, okay, maya. So when
we say resources mental health wise, what specifically are we
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talking about, Well, it's first important to understand resources, because
I realize when I sit with people in therapy this
concept is from that as a person, as an individual,
you only have limited resources available to you emotionally, mentally, financially, time, spiritually.
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Here's the thing about knowing your resources. You get to
determine what your resources are. So say, before we talk resources,
do the inventory. I'm gonna tell you there's some resources
that automatically you're gonna be top of the bill. It's
gonna be emotional and mental always going to be something
that's limited within your inventory. Time is limited in your inventory.
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From there you can proceed to say financially money because
believe it or not, money really does impact people's mental wellness.
If you don't have enough of it, you're stressed, often
can depress. It causes greater problems. That's why I say
the domain of mental wellness is way bigger than just
the ideal of emotion, because it is the thing that
drives so many of the decisions that you make, and
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most people don't even know it. They don't know it
until it's a problem, and then they realize, I'm stressed.
Why are you stressed because I didn't make enough money,
or I didn't get the overtime or I got laid off.
So now they're stressed, they're worried, and it's impacting them emotionally,
and it's impacting the relationships. The connective people often don't
want to make unfortunately until they're in dire straits. And
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I'm trying to get people to change the thinking so emotionally,
mentally and time. Time as a resource that is so
limited and so misused. It often blows my mind how
we will sink the time and even energy into something
that not yield the outcomes that it should. So I'm
going to tell you at least we're going to talk
about the emotional mental time, even the inner part. You
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add as you listen to this podcast, the other resources
you feel that you allocate out that are not getting
overturn on the investment. That's the important piece. So understanding
your resources become the first part of this. And please
understand understand this is something that if you don't listen,
you probably should stop, because I guarantee you if you
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listen to at least the first half of the show,
you'll say, there are some relationships in my life I
need to reevaluate because I have been misappropriating my resources
greatly for a really long time. But just listen and
we'll get there. So you've got these resources right, And
just like an economy, an economy sits in a status.
I know my money people can probably truly appreciate this.
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You got to ask yourself what is your economy status?
So there are definitely about four different things we look
at when we talk about how you choose to allocate
your resources. One you want to always be in what's
a return of an investment in ROI? So there's growth.
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Often there can be a recession and then there can
be a depression if you are not careful. So those
are the different status is that you have to pay
attention to when you talk about where am I at
emotionally and mentally? What's my economy status? And this is
all about what you're getting back versus what you're about.
So first let's talk specifically about return of investment growth.
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That's where we want to be. But in reality, we
have to come understand that return of investment is not
something that happens instantaneously. It does not. It requires some work,
some building, you're needing, some stability, You put some work in,
and then you start to see the outcome or the
yields or the fruit of the labor of the work
you've put into it. And that does mean emomentally, have
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you put the time and energy into building a relationship
or repairing a relationship or growing? Are you at work
sinking time and energy because you want to get a promotion,
you want to make more money. That's what it comes
down to. So return of investment is never something that
happens instantly. And here's something we must be aware of.
Whenever you're looking for a return on investment. There's always
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the that there can be risk, and you must do
risk analysis to make sure that when you choose to
invest your time and your emotion and the mental space
into something that it's really worth the risk. You're putting
yourself out because you got to ask yourself, well, what
could be the risk? And this is what you should
ask yourself before you just overinvest in something. If I
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choose to get into this relationship, Let's give an example,
because people tend to do better with examples. Let's just
say you meet someone and I've heard people have this
conversation in there, so I'm knocking this up. I met
this person. They seem like they're really nice. I'm a
little concerned. There are a couple red flags in the
front that I'm coervented about. They're not really financially stable,
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but they also are recently divorced and they have kids,
and they're not really getting the financial support, so I'm
not exactly sure where they're at. They do seem very stressed. Okay,
there is a risk that if you get into a
relationship with that person that their concerns and worries could
legitimately become yours and are you prepared for that? Now,
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someone might say, well, that seems really selfish just not
to be for someone for those reasons. But you also
have to do the risk analysis to say is the
risk worth what I think the outcome can be. And
in the beginning of most relationships you don't know. You
have to take the time and step back and say,
I'm looking to find a partner, but maybe this is
only how much time and energy I have to vest
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in a relationship. Hence, if you ever meet someone and
they say to you at this current time, I'm just dating.
I'm not looking for serious relationship. I'm focused on other things,
don't take that so personally, because what that might mean
is that person realizes that the resources they have emotionally
mentally time and energy, they only have a certain amount
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to put into meeting a new person, and they don't
maybe want to take you down the wrong road and
have you misunderstand what your intentions are. But often people
misread that and may say, oh, I'm not good enough.
That's not what that necessarily means. That person is just
has taken the time to analyze their resources and what
risks they're willing to put into building a new relationship.
If they don't even feel that emotionally immenseally, they have
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enough give you got to listen deeper because that person,
without even knowing, has already maybe assessed with their resourcess,
maybe just with time. That's one thing. So return on
investments are not instantaneous, and I'm pretty sure all of
my good and serious investors will tell you any really
good investment is not about a windfall of money. It
is often about a long term Most people will say,
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make your investments, let them sit and stop looking at them,
because otherwise you'll drive yourself crazy. Even investors will tell
you high risk investment versus moderate risk versus low risk.
Emotional and mental investments are exactly the same thing. If
a relation seems like a high risk relationship, is it
worth it? Do you really believe it is going to
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give you the return on investment versus something moderate or low.
May take longer to see the outc but it's safer.
This is the same way you got to think about
how you allocate your emotion, time and mental space to people.
So fraternal investment is not instantaneous, but this is where
you should be doing risk analysis, where you're placing your
resources But that being said, let's talk about what is
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a recession. I feel this graphic pretty much is a
good idea about the economy of self. You have a
path that you're walking on, and the road that you
travel may not always show you the pitfalls and the
obstacles that you might come across. It's always important to
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stop and reflect, to have goals, and those goals to
have a plan. If you need more insight on that,
do me a favor and listen to episode sixty four
that talks about the language of success. Rules and plans
are so important when you talk about how you're allocating
your resource because it's be part of the big picture.
And along your journey of life, you'd be stopping assessing
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where you are, how you got there, and are you
still on the same path, and somehow if you have
gotten off or you hid an obstacle, how can you
work around that to get to where you want to be?
Because when you're not careful, you can step right off
the edge. So you could be sitting in a recession.
And ultimately, a recession is a period economically when we
talk about monetarily, that is a decline due to trade
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and industry atvities are pretty much reduced, so you're sitting.
The output and the input are kind of matching each other,
but they're not giving any real growth. They're just sitting.
The reason thinking about a recession is important. Yeah, a
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little bit of a technical difficulty there, So I apologize
technical being. You know, no, I abvise for that. Didn't
see that coming. So I'm not exactly sure what you
heard when I said talking about a recession, because this
is a part that I want people to be really
to have a good understanding about when I say a recession.
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So when we talk about a recession, as I said before,
it's a period of economic decline, and often when we
talk monetarily, it means things like trade or industry activity
is greatly reduced and it's more like income and your
output are kind of sitting in the same space, so
you're not getting to where you need to be. That
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is what a recession is. This is often when I
would say when people would say they feel stuck, They're like,
I just don't feel like I'm getting anywhere. I don't
feel like I have direction. And you got to stop
and say, if I don't feel like I have direction,
if I don't if I feel stuck, where are you
allocating your time and your energy and is it in
places where it should be? Because if you find or
pouring yourself into a relationship but that relationship is not
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giving you something back, or if you feel like here's
one better. You're at your job and you don't feel
like you're getting anywhere, you don't feel like you're appreciated,
you got to ask yourself is this where I should be?
And if it's not, then I need to start planning
my exit from this particular place of employment to find
the place where I should be because I don't feel
like I'm living up to my expectations, my goals. I
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just have bigger aspirations than this. Often, fear is the
one thing that will keep people from questioning, especially jobs
or relationships that are not healthy, because it's the unknown
and that it's the risk of doing something different. But remember,
a return on investment is going to have some form
of risk and you've got to learn to be comfortable
with it, but do the right risk analysis along the way,
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so then you've got the recession. Now, the problem is
when you talk about a depression. Here's another good screenshot
here that shares it. What is the depression? Clearly it
is when you are trending downwards. I'm talking about the
economy self and using comparisons to monetary markets because people
tend to focus on money, and what if I can
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give you a parallel between the value of money often
equates with the value of your mental health. People will
grasp it and hold on to it. More so when
you talk about, for instance, what is a depression after
you've sat in a recession for too long? A depression
is a long recession resulting in desponding or dejection, and
eventually you just start to feel like you are bottling
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me out. So when you find you are pouring a
lot of time and energy emotionally and mentally into something
and not getting something back, that's when a depression starts.
When you're like, Okay, I've been in this relationship for
eight years. I've definitely expressed what I need. Things aren't changing.
I just don't feel happy. I feel like I'm going
through the motions. You find no pleasure in anything in
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life anymore, Even the things that were simple you don't like.
You got to step back and say, why am I
in a place where I don't enjoy life anymore. If
you're saying technically things should be good. I've got a
decent job, I make decent money, but I just don't
fulfill or I'm in this relationship where I don't feel fulfilled,
I don't feel what I give, I don't give back.
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You have to ask those hard questions. If you're put
out of emotional and mental space and time into relationships,
it can be a dangerous thing if there's no return.
Now mind you, I must say this, All relationships are
not created equal, and that's important to be able to
prioritize your relationships, especially when it comes to friendships. I
caution people when they'll say they meet somebody, Oh, this
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is my best friend. How long have you known them?
I ould like you know about a couple months. How
can they be your best friend? You don't really know
them very well. It seems to you aregnate and there's
good chemistry and you maybe enjoy hanging out. But what
you know about this person? Because solid friendships take time
to build. You've met someone yeeld these things in common
with I even say in friendships there's levels to this.
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You have someone who might be acquaintance, who is someone
you met through a mute friend and associate someone that
you've gotten to know but you don't feel really close.
And then there's people that you can honestly say are
friends that you would bring closer in and put in
your circuit that like they could be support who feel
like they're not judgmental. Not mind you, We're all humans,
so even our friends can be judgmental, but hopefully it's
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coming from a place to make you a better person
or to help you to grow. So even their judgment
may feel harsh at times, but step back and say,
but is what they're saying reasonable? So remember friendships heles,
relationships have levels. You first meet somebody, if you're telling
me in the first thirty days, a couple months, a
year in love, I'm not saying there can't be loved
from sight, but the little because what do you really
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know about people? And I often find when people pour
a lot early into relationships without getting to know someone,
they're often very disappointed when it doesn't talk the way
they want. But I say, were there red flags or
things about that person that you didn't know but you
didn't take time to actually fit out. So even relationships
have levels, and you determine in relationships what those levels are.
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Let's talk family, because realistically a ton of people come
to therapy because of family issues. One of the number
one things I hear people say is that how they
are mistreated by their family members, they do not feel
supported or understood, or they're the black sheep. And here's
the bottom line. The people I know who have found
some space to be happy have to look at individuals
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in their family that might be toxic and find place
for them, and it might be outside their circle. Because
if someone is toxic and causing you to press anxiety,
you have to say, why would you value someone who
does not value you enough to not want to emotionally
or mentally cause you harm. You should exp more from
your family because if blood is thicker than water, that
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means I should expect that you want the best for me,
and vice versa. So family relationship often to be evaluated,
and you place people where they belong, and everyone because
their family does not belong in your circle, and if
they don't put them out and to spend the boundaries
in constraints I put on dealing with this per so
that I am not emotionally and mentally taxed so I
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stop pouring into something that says refill. Remember the part
of the idea of resource is if I allocated it
will in turn refill me. I get something of value.
That is the return and investment that you often have
to think about. So we've talked about recession, we've talked
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to these are key things. Before we take a break,
let's talk about allocation first, misappreiation. And this is something
that people never think about. Allocation of resources, allocations of funds.
So you decide that you are a family, and so
you are going to pour into your family. Does it
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mean you pour into every person equally? I would expect
as a parent, you would pour into your children. You
may pour into at that point your parents or your sibling.
It's interesting how people may struggle and say, I don't
feel like you spend enough time here. Well, I have
to excuse me between the fact that I'm raising my kids,
I'm working a full job at the time job, and
I still have my partner. I have only so many
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resources of time I can okay. Often people struggle with
being able to tell people what they can and can't
do because they feel someone might be upset. The thing
learning how to allocate your resources is to say I
only have so much time, and if I feel emotionally
or mentally taxed, I have to step back and regroup
figure out why I feel that way. And at times
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you have to be able to find the courage to
say to someone you know, right now, I really have
too much on my plate. I can't help you with
that right now now. I might be able to do
it on this date you ask for help. This date,
I'm not available. I probably have some time here, but
just given how things are going right, I don't have
the time. If a person can't respect that you're telling
them and being honest that you can't help, and instead
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they're only being angry, step back and say, does this
not respect your mental and emotional health? And I'm the
only concerned about what it is? If they want and
they need, that's a relationship that requires evaluation and make
sure you're not overallocating or misappropriating funds sometimes and those
funds are your resources. Often, especially in relationships, whether they
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be familial or romantic relationships, there's this obligation piece I
must do to make them feel to appreciate. If I'm
doing something to make you appreciate me, I'm doing something
for the wrong reason. Things should be done out of
place of love and appreciation should come from that. Think
of reasons. If you constantly give to someone who never
ever you don't feel appreciated, they never do something in
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return to show their appreciation, which could be simple as
a thank you, you may be misappropriating funds and that's
something that you need to think about. You are listening
to episode sixty five of Maya Maya Ambition your ambition,
and we're talking about understanding your mental and emotional economy,
something I refer to the enemy of self, and I
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feel if people could grasp this concept, the way they
would proceed through their lives, whether it's relationships that are romantic, familiationships,
whether it's worked, whatever it is, you could find ways
to not feel stuck and to feel more happiness. And
your every exists if you are careful and protect something
you have very limited of, which are those personal resources
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that are unique to you. We're gonna take a break
and when we come back from the other side, we're
gonna jump and talk a bit more about Okay, inventory
these resources and then deciding once you inventory it, what's
the investment plan? How do I truly assess this to
make sure that I'm making the right choices that I
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feel like I'm being At least.
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I was depressed, miserable in ways I never imagined.
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I found that the more I spoke up, the healthier
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All right, everyone, welcome to the second half. Actually we're
having a little bit of technical difficulties, So I apologize
for the glitches. I don't see them coming. I'm just
trying to compensate for them the way. Thank you for
Sydney tight through the pickle difficulties. We are in episode
sixty five of Maya Understanding your Mental and emotional economy,
something I refer to as the economy of self, and
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it's something that I began to really see more and more.
I sat in therapy with people how most people do
not even understand their vast abilities as well as their
limitations when it comes to their emotional and mental capacities,
and they're over reaching at times, doing too much because
they feel obligated, not realizing there is only so much
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of you to go around. And that is ultimately what
the economy a hope about, is understanding how much of
you is there to go around when you talk about family, friends,
relationships with your partners, work, your spirituality. The thing about
the resources is I said, there's three for sure. You
gotta pay emotional and mental space and time. Other people
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say I got a limited financial resource. I've got certain
things that I can only do and that's okay. So
that being said, first you have to be to inventory.
And that's one of the things I say said when
we came back on the other side of the break
that we were going to talk about really understanding what's
the in estment plan. So I've figured out my resources.
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I get it, I totally get it, But how do
I decide where to invest things I oughtn't feel like
I want to invest it work in my family because
those are two things that are high priorities for me.
That's the key word. What is your priority? You decide
what's important and where you want to pour that emotional
and mental in that time. And then once you figure
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out those spaces, I've got my relationships with my family,
and I'm gonna tell you something. Break it down. Family, parents, siblings,
grand children, nieces and nephews, cousins, whatever. List all those
different relationships you have in your life. Those are relationship.
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Then you have your nuclear family yourself. If you're married
and have kids, and you've got your spouse and your kids,
that's a whole separate thing from let's talk about your parents,
your there's your sisters, your cousin. Now you've got all
these different relationships that people don't often even realize that
they navigate. Where you decide to allocate your emotional, mental
resources and time is based on priority and how you
termine your investment plan about where you're going to invest
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those those resources that you have a limited amount of.
Ask yourself, what am I investing in? It's family, it's
my children, then you got to ask yourself why, well, okay,
because it's my children. The what bought often will tell
you how much. And this is one thing I've heard
people struggle with, and I've actually had to have this
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conversation when I've had older individuals that are grandparents in
counseling and they're really upset with their adult children that
they don't feel allocate time for them now that they're
retired or not. As they're more they're more available. And
I had to look at some people and say, let
me ask you a question. I said, when you were
your kid's age, what were you doing? And they looked
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at me and they thought for them, They're like, raise
are my kids? What are your kids doing? We'll raise
my kids. But I mean, I'm like, there's no butt.
They're doing the exact same thing that you're doing their age.
But I found time for my Mike, But did you
really find as much time for your parents as you
think you did? And they come to that honest, that
moment of truth, like, okay, you're probably right, maybe I
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am internalizing it more. And I just say, if you
want to be more front and center in your grandchildren
and your children's life now that you have the time,
you make yourself more available. Don't make them the ones
that are trying to pull you in. You make yourself
more available to them because of all the things they're
juggling in their life. Make yourself available. That's the key thing,
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because you now have more of a resource to pour
in them, and at this moment in their life, they
may have less to pour into you. And at that
point people kind of step back from taking it so
personally and they can start to see it differently. So
what you know what it is you're gonna invest your
resource and why? So, families, one thing work. If you're
gonna put a lot of emotion and time to work,
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ask yourself, why is it? Because I truly enjoy my job.
I love what I do, It's a big part of
my identity. I want a promotion. Know why you are
going to allocate the resource to the extent you're going
to because then once you know the what and the why,
ask yourself, how much of my mental capacity am I
pouring into this relationship? How much of my emotion am
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I pouring into this relationship? And why? Obviously, if you're
talking about raising your children, you're gonna pour a whole
lot of your mental and emotional space and time into them,
and your finances by the way, too, because your children
it's a prime investment for you. It's a very important investment,
So that makes sense. But outside of maybe children, then
you've got aging parents. Okay, I'm pour this much time
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into my parents because they need me more. But also
keep that in perspective because as we all maybe have
aging parents, if we're in our fifties or so, we
also have to realize what is our parents' capacity. We
can't just overextend ourselves because they want the time and attention.
It has to be. But if you're still able to
do things, I need you to still be centered because
maybe at this point in my life I don't have
as much to give to you as you think I do.
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Make sure you're clear and open about what you have
to give and step overextending yourself. How much are you given?
How often? What is the frequency you know, especially if
you feel spread very thin with your time, and when
time gets thin, this is when the mental capacity seems
to really feel overwhelming and the emotional piece. Look, if
you're a person who worked twelve hour days and you
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need to come home don't don't short yourself on sleep.
So the thing is, if someone asks you to do
something and you know that you need to get sleep
otherwise you don't function well. Don't cut on on your
then you're gonna probably feel more stressed out when you're
not well rested. Self care. Self care comes into how
you maintain resources, as so the what, the why, how
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much and how often? It might be you love your friends,
but how many people have noticed as you got older
you didn't spend the same amount of time your friends
that when you, like either had no children or were single.
Those dynamics and relationships can share, and it doesn't mean
you're any less of a friend. But sometimes friends wheel
that way, like, well, I don't feel like you call
me anymore. Well, okay, let me give you a prime
example where I've heard people say it, and we probably
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all have heard it. Let's just say, when you're younger
and you're in those dating years, a lot people a
friend like, well, the minute so and so gets a
boyfriend or a girlfriend they like, disappear from the group.
They don't have time for us. Okay, but here's the thing,
me for your friend, they have prioritized that they're looking
for a relationship. So if they meet somebody that might
be where they decided to allocate their resources. Now hopefully
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for them it's a good allocation and not a poor one.
But don't take it so personally. It doesn't mean they
like you any less, but they're looking to maybe fill
up their life that they feel is missing. No, it's
okay if you say, you know, you kind of disappear
on this, it'd be nice to see you every now
and then. We kind of miss you. It's okay, but
don't always take it's opersonal. But keep your friend in
mind because especially if you got a friend that doesn't
always make good dating choices, then you know, we often
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have to step in and do the work with them.
But hey, that about elloicant resources to tell somebody, you know,
you you keep dating the wrong kind of people. Then
you run back and then you're all upset, and that
energy upsets me. We need to rethink how you are
deciding to date because it's not healthy. And when you're
upset and it's you know, you're in a bad place
and I feel bad and I'm just kind of tired
of this negative energy that we're working because it's a
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pat behave that needs to stop. Now there's something right there.
Not taking in other people's negative energy is part of
your resources because you make sure that we're getting back.
Is that positive return and not a negative return? And
how long are you going to keep investing in something?
Let's be honest. Relationships are usually let them if they're good,
but you know, you may find all relationships don't have
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the same shelf life and it's okay, and we have
to learn to accept that. If you find that a
friendship is a short term thing, a reason, a season,
but not forever, accept that and stop allocating or pouring
into something. If you and you got a friend, flat out,
you got a friend and you feel you always call them,
you're always making plans and they're never present, and you're like,
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I just don't feel appreciated. I'm always doing something. Okay,
First roll a thumb, share how you feel. Do not
expect them to read your mind because you didn't come
with the friends manual. But once you share how you feel,
if the same behavior continues, stop pouring the energy into
that friendship and getting aggravated by it. Just step back
and maybe notice at that point you're frond Tod be like, oh,
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I haven't talked to Maya like in weeks and might
be like, hey girl, where have you been while we
were doing this? I haven't talked to you in a while,
and saying we haven't called hmm Anyways, With that, Big said,
how you allocate your motion, your mental space, and your time.
Make sure you're getting a return on investment. But all
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return and investments are not created equal. If you find
you're giving positive negative, that's not the return and investment
that you want. And you gotta be careful. So long term,
if you've been pouring into this color and if you
get to see a refill or even an offer for
a refill, unlet's be honest. At different junctures in different
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people's life, they maybe can't meet to where you're at,
and that's okay, but make sure youth have assessed that
relationship to say but I value it. I just know
they're struggling and I'm here. That's about that long term investment.
We all know that a return on investment isn't always
quick with the good stuff, it takes time. That means
you feel that relationship has legitimate value that's worth going there.
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I'm gonna tell you something that people often say, and
I'm gonna give a caution about it. I don't like
when people say, well, I'm gonna meet you where you're at.
That's a dangerous thing because first of all, I need
you to say, where are they at, why are they there?
And do they have the ability to come forward? If
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I have to go backwards. If you're dealing with someone
who has no desire to move forward, why are you
walking backwards to meet them? So I caution people say
I'm gonna meet you where, I'm gonna ask you why
you're there, and let's find a mutual place to meet.
And I'm willing to come back to help you, but
I'm not going to do more work to make something
sustainable than you are. So be sure when you're pouring
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your emotion and you're giving mental space and time to someone,
especially in they're a difficult space, make sure they're doing
some work. Because if you're carrying somebody else's burden and
you never find they come to get it from you,
that's a problem. And that's when all of a sudden,
you're depleting resources but you're not getting something back. And
this lends us to the last part of talking about
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the economy of self how to navigate inflation. So inflation
from that technical monetary term, from a traditional idea of economy,
and inflation is something that ultimately there's no return on
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investment because there's a rise and prices but a fall
in value. So you're putting more into something and you're
getting less out. That's what inflation is. So when you
talk about mental and emotional inflation, you got to be
careful that if you are investing in something heavily, hraether
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it be at your job. Let's be honest. If you
have a job and you feel like I have worked
over time, I've worked extra hard on projects, I've gone
on my time off, I've stayed late, Yet I don't
feel valued because when there was time for a raise
or promotion, there was a reason why I didn't get it.
And if the reason doesn't make sense, you are pretty
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much putting way too much into something that has no
value to your particular employer. So I always tell people
when you don't feel value, whether it's in your job orther,
it's in a relationship with a partner, it could be
in a relationship with your child. Seriously, at some point
with parents and I've had a lot of people who've
got adult kids, and that can be a rocky road
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to navigate. Everybody's not been a great parent, and sometimes
you did it the best you could. I just tell people,
take accountability. You sit down with your adult child and
you talk about it, and you say, hey, I know
I probably wasn't the best parent. Maybe I had young
I thought this was the best thing to do, or
I kind of reached the way I was only to
come to find out that wasn't the best thing to do.
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I apologize, I'm sorry I fell short. I know I
can't go back and fix that, but from this moment forward,
I want to be present if you give me the
opportunity to show you what I've learned and the mistakes
I made with you. It may take them time to
understand that, but that doesn't mean that they should put
a hoop up and you feel like you have to
jump through it. You apologize, you take accountability, but no
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a point do you feel like you have to keep
pouring and pooring and pooring and not given the space
to given forgiveness or even to say I'm not sure
if I'm ready to do this with you yet, mom
or dad, But at least you apologize to me and
took accountability for maybe how how you parented me has
now effected me as an adult. That's a conversation to have.
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And most parents never want to take accountability because I
guarantee you if you didn't make the best choices, it
wasn't like you offered it on purpose, or maybe you
did and you realize later, ooh, that wasn't a good choice.
But if you're willing to be accountable and to offer
the proper apology, that's the difference. And menfences with people,
whether it's your child, your partner, your parents, your sister,
your brother, whoever, take accountability for your actions when you
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fall short, and once take accountability and you offer the authentic,
real apology, do not wait for someone to say I
forgive you. You never apologize by That's one of those
back episodes of Maya because there's like sixty four other
ones about the art of the apology. You're not apologizing
for a forgiveness. You're apologizing because you realize what you
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did was wrong and you need to say it. That's
the start of a journey. But don't let people make
you keep pouring into them and you realize they have
no intention on really giving you the space back because
all you're doing is depleting your resources. So remember inflation,
the place of what you're trying to achieve has no
return on value. And when you have relationships like that,
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you have to decide is it really worth while I'm
putting into it? How much am I sacrificing me for
somebody else? Because if you sacrifice you, what's left at
the end. That is what the economy of self is
all about. So I hope this was a good takeaway.
If you came in late, It's a worthy listen because
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this is a concept that I've been for me because
I've sat in therapy and I keep hearing these narratives
with people, and I came to realize people don't know
their value. They don't know they have a limit amount
of emotional and mentals to give to people in time,
and they keep overextending themselves and they wonder why EITHERY
feel depressed, anxious or stuck, just like they don't happy.
Because if you give too much but nothing replenishes you,
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you need emotional mental hydration just like everything else, you
need sunlight. We're like plants. We have our own form
of photosynthesis. When we get love, we get appreciation, when
we feel valued. It isn't you most versus you feel
challenged and unwelcome and unappreciated, You tend to want to wither.
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You want to be in spaces. Give you the space
to breathe, not hold your breath. So with that being said, everyone,
thank you for tuning in to Maya. This episode something
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Now mistay everyone, Welcome to episode sixty five of Maya.
My Ambition, Your ambition, understanding your mental and emotional economy.
And this is a topic for me that is so
near and dear, and it's my own personal concept that
I've been working on that I discussed with people in
therapy all the time because I feel like the idea
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of resources is something that's lost on people, and I
wanted to have a way to talk to people in
the way that they can understand. Mental health often is
the unicorn in the world, I feel. So when I
talk about the economy of self, it really puts it
into a perspective that people can understand, because when you
talk money, people can understand and grasp it. So that's
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what the episode is going to jump. But of course
before we do all that, we've got to do our
housekeeping stuff. Remember, whether you are listening to the show
live or the podcast version, is that you have carved
out for you consider to be part of your self care,
just a way to reflect, think, reset, reboot, whatever it is,
and I say, find that's quiet that you can relax.
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I always say it doesn't hurt to grab a pen
and a paper just to jot down a thought, an
idea that you might have something that you want to
reflect on deeper, because this is the time that you
can do a little work on you, especially maybe if
you're shying away from therapy for not But anyways, before
we do that, remember there are actually sixty four or
more episodes of Maya that you could be listening to
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that might actually touch on something that you've been thinking about.
So you can always listen to episodes of Maya, My Ambition,
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Of course, I have a YouTube channel, so I encourage
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as well. Before we really jump though into talking about
the economy of self understanding how to manage your mental
and emotional resources, remember June is National Men's Health Awareness Month,
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and I just want to say this entire month, this
is a time fellas that you should be reflecting on you,
whether it's your physical health or your mental health. It
could even be your financial health because health is wealth
no matter what it is. And when you take time
to focus on you and figure out how to be
healthy in all those different domains, you tend to have
a richer, fuller life. So June is for the fellaws.
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So whether you haven't had that annual exam, there's a
very disturbing stat that says that roughly forty percent of
men only really focus on getting that annual exam. And
you know it's important no matter age you, but especially
when you start to get into those older years where
you can pume young wiser. You know, when you hit
roughly in those fifties, it's really encouraged for them to
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get you know, prostate. You know, different cancer screenings because
of in colon cancer, because those potentially could be things
that can make you higher risk the older you get.
And especially if you have a family history, Fellows, you
want to make sure you are getting those annual exams.
It's better to be ahead of the problem than behind it.
So June is Men's Health Awareness Month, and fellas, please
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be aware if you're emotional, mental and physical health. Okay,
So with that being said, let's jump into episode sixty
five Understanding your mental and emotional economy. And as I said,
this is something that is over here and here to me,
and I specifically call underst type of understanding the economy
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of self. So you might say, maya, does that mean?
So the reason I chose to you the word economy
because economy has way more meaning than most people generally understand.
But in terms of people can click very very quickly
to getting a grasp. So economy is about resources, allocations, growth, decline.
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We always think in terms of money. That way, I
want you to begin to think of your mental wellness
in the same capacity, because resources are something we have
a limited amount of. If you just did a general
definition of what a resource is from an economic standpoint,
monetary its materials that are available in an environment that
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can either help satisfy needs or wants. So most people
can instantly pay to the idea of money because generally
you go to work to make money to pay for
the things that you need and often to acquire the
things that you want. So hence it makes sense. So
then you might say to me, okay, maya. So when
we say resources mental health wise, what specifically are we
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talking about, Well, it's first important to understand resources, because
I realize when I sit with people in therapy this
concept is from that as a person, as an individual,
you only have limited resources available to you emotionally, mentally, financially, time, spiritually.
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Here's the thing about knowing your resources. You get to
determine what your resources are. So say, before we talk resources,
do the inventory. I'm gonna tell you there's some resources
that automatically you're gonna be top of the bill. It's
gonna be emotional and mental always going to be something
that's limited within your inventory. Time is limited in your inventory.
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From there you can proceed to say financially money because
believe it or not, money really does impact people's mental wellness.
If you don't have enough of it, you're stressed, often
can depress. It causes greater problems. That's why I say
the domain of mental wellness is way bigger than just
the ideal of emotion, because it is the thing that
drives so many of the decisions that you make, and
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most people don't even know it. They don't know it
until it's a problem, and then they realize, I'm stressed.
Why are you stressed because I didn't make enough money,
or I didn't get the overtime or I got laid off.
So now they're stressed, they're worried, and it's impacting them emotionally,
and it's impacting the relationships. The connective people often don't
want to make unfortunately until they're in dire straits. And
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I'm trying to get people to change the thinking so emotionally,
mentally and time. Time as a resource that is so
limited and so misused. It often blows my mind how
we will sink the time and even energy into something
that not yield the outcomes that it should. So I'm
going to tell you at least we're going to talk
about the emotional mental time, even the inner part. You
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add as you listen to this podcast, the other resources
you feel that you allocate out that are not getting
overturn on the investment. That's the important piece. So understanding
your resources become the first part of this. And please
understand understand this is something that if you don't listen,
you probably should stop, because I guarantee you if you
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listen to at least the first half of the show,
you'll say, there are some relationships in my life I
need to reevaluate because I have been misappropriating my resources
greatly for a really long time. But just listen and
we'll get there. So you've got these resources right, And
just like an economy, an economy sits in a status.
I know my money people can probably truly appreciate this.
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You got to ask yourself what is your economy status?
So there are definitely about four different things we look
at when we talk about how you choose to allocate
your resources. One you want to always be in what's
a return of an investment in ROI? So there's growth.
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Often there can be a recession and then there can
be a depression if you are not careful. So those
are the different status is that you have to pay
attention to when you talk about where am I at
emotionally and mentally? What's my economy status? And this is
all about what you're getting back versus what you're about.
So first let's talk specifically about return of investment growth.
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That's where we want to be. But in reality, we
have to come understand that return of investment is not
something that happens instantaneously. It does not. It requires some work,
some building, you're needing, some stability, You put some work in,
and then you start to see the outcome or the
yields or the fruit of the labor of the work
you've put into it. And that does mean emomentally, have
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you put the time and energy into building a relationship
or repairing a relationship or growing? Are you at work
sinking time and energy because you want to get a promotion,
you want to make more money. That's what it comes
down to. So return of investment is never something that
happens instantly. And here's something we must be aware of.
Whenever you're looking for a return on investment. There's always
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the that there can be risk, and you must do
risk analysis to make sure that when you choose to
invest your time and your emotion and the mental space
into something that it's really worth the risk. You're putting
yourself out because you got to ask yourself, well, what
could be the risk? And this is what you should
ask yourself before you just overinvest in something. If I
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choose to get into this relationship, Let's give an example,
because people tend to do better with examples. Let's just
say you meet someone and I've heard people have this
conversation in there, so I'm knocking this up. I met
this person. They seem like they're really nice. I'm a
little concerned. There are a couple red flags in the
front that I'm coervented about. They're not really financially stable,
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but they also are recently divorced and they have kids,
and they're not really getting the financial support, so I'm
not exactly sure where they're at. They do seem very stressed. Okay,
there is a risk that if you get into a
relationship with that person that their concerns and worries could
legitimately become yours and are you prepared for that? Now,
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someone might say, well, that seems really selfish just not
to be for someone for those reasons. But you also
have to do the risk analysis to say is the
risk worth what I think the outcome can be. And
in the beginning of most relationships you don't know. You
have to take the time and step back and say,
I'm looking to find a partner, but maybe this is
only how much time and energy I have to vest
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in a relationship. Hence, if you ever meet someone and
they say to you at this current time, I'm just dating.
I'm not looking for serious relationship. I'm focused on other things,
don't take that so personally, because what that might mean
is that person realizes that the resources they have emotionally
mentally time and energy, they only have a certain amount
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to put into meeting a new person, and they don't
maybe want to take you down the wrong road and
have you misunderstand what your intentions are. But often people
misread that and may say, oh, I'm not good enough.
That's not what that necessarily means. That person is just
has taken the time to analyze their resources and what
risks they're willing to put into building a new relationship.
If they don't even feel that emotionally immenseally, they have
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enough give you got to listen deeper because that person,
without even knowing, has already maybe assessed with their resourcess,
maybe just with time. That's one thing. So return on
investments are not instantaneous, and I'm pretty sure all of
my good and serious investors will tell you any really
good investment is not about a windfall of money. It
is often about a long term Most people will say,
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make your investments, let them sit and stop looking at them,
because otherwise you'll drive yourself crazy. Even investors will tell
you high risk investment versus moderate risk versus low risk.
Emotional and mental investments are exactly the same thing. If
a relation seems like a high risk relationship, is it
worth it? Do you really believe it is going to
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give you the return on investment versus something moderate or low.
May take longer to see the outc but it's safer.
This is the same way you got to think about
how you allocate your emotion, time and mental space to people.
So fraternal investment is not instantaneous, but this is where
you should be doing risk analysis, where you're placing your
resources But that being said, let's talk about what is
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a recession. I feel this graphic pretty much is a
good idea about the economy of self. You have a
path that you're walking on, and the road that you
travel may not always show you the pitfalls and the
obstacles that you might come across. It's always important to
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stop and reflect, to have goals, and those goals to
have a plan. If you need more insight on that,
do me a favor and listen to episode sixty four
that talks about the language of success. Rules and plans
are so important when you talk about how you're allocating
your resource because it's be part of the big picture.
And along your journey of life, you'd be stopping assessing
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where you are, how you got there, and are you
still on the same path, and somehow if you have
gotten off or you hid an obstacle, how can you
work around that to get to where you want to be?
Because when you're not careful, you can step right off
the edge. So you could be sitting in a recession.
And ultimately, a recession is a period economically when we
talk about monetarily, that is a decline due to trade
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and industry atvities are pretty much reduced, so you're sitting.
The output and the input are kind of matching each other,
but they're not giving any real growth. They're just sitting.
The reason thinking about a recession is important. Yeah, a
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little bit of a technical difficulty there, So I apologize
technical being. You know, no, I abvise for that. Didn't
see that coming. So I'm not exactly sure what you
heard when I said talking about a recession, because this
is a part that I want people to be really
to have a good understanding about when I say a recession.
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So when we talk about a recession, as I said before,
it's a period of economic decline, and often when we
talk monetarily, it means things like trade or industry activity
is greatly reduced and it's more like income and your
output are kind of sitting in the same space, so
you're not getting to where you need to be. That
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is what a recession is. This is often when I
would say when people would say they feel stuck, They're like,
I just don't feel like I'm getting anywhere. I don't
feel like I have direction. And you got to stop
and say, if I don't feel like I have direction,
if I don't if I feel stuck, where are you
allocating your time and your energy and is it in
places where it should be? Because if you find or
pouring yourself into a relationship but that relationship is not
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giving you something back, or if you feel like here's
one better. You're at your job and you don't feel
like you're getting anywhere, you don't feel like you're appreciated,
you got to ask yourself is this where I should be?
And if it's not, then I need to start planning
my exit from this particular place of employment to find
the place where I should be because I don't feel
like I'm living up to my expectations, my goals. I
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just have bigger aspirations than this. Often, fear is the
one thing that will keep people from questioning, especially jobs
or relationships that are not healthy, because it's the unknown
and that it's the risk of doing something different. But remember,
a return on investment is going to have some form
of risk and you've got to learn to be comfortable
with it, but do the right risk analysis along the way,
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so then you've got the recession. Now, the problem is
when you talk about a depression. Here's another good screenshot
here that shares it. What is the depression? Clearly it
is when you are trending downwards. I'm talking about the
economy self and using comparisons to monetary markets because people
tend to focus on money, and what if I can
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give you a parallel between the value of money often
equates with the value of your mental health. People will
grasp it and hold on to it. More so when
you talk about, for instance, what is a depression after
you've sat in a recession for too long? A depression
is a long recession resulting in desponding or dejection, and
eventually you just start to feel like you are bottling
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me out. So when you find you are pouring a
lot of time and energy emotionally and mentally into something
and not getting something back, that's when a depression starts.
When you're like, Okay, I've been in this relationship for
eight years. I've definitely expressed what I need. Things aren't changing.
I just don't feel happy. I feel like I'm going
through the motions. You find no pleasure in anything in
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life anymore, Even the things that were simple you don't like.
You got to step back and say, why am I
in a place where I don't enjoy life anymore. If
you're saying technically things should be good. I've got a
decent job, I make decent money, but I just don't
fulfill or I'm in this relationship where I don't feel fulfilled,
I don't feel what I give, I don't give back.
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You have to ask those hard questions. If you're put
out of emotional and mental space and time into relationships,
it can be a dangerous thing if there's no return.
Now mind you, I must say this, All relationships are
not created equal, and that's important to be able to
prioritize your relationships, especially when it comes to friendships. I
caution people when they'll say they meet somebody, Oh, this
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is my best friend. How long have you known them?
I ould like you know about a couple months. How
can they be your best friend? You don't really know
them very well. It seems to you aregnate and there's
good chemistry and you maybe enjoy hanging out. But what
you know about this person? Because solid friendships take time
to build. You've met someone yeeld these things in common
with I even say in friendships there's levels to this.
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You have someone who might be acquaintance, who is someone
you met through a mute friend and associate someone that
you've gotten to know but you don't feel really close.
And then there's people that you can honestly say are
friends that you would bring closer in and put in
your circuit that like they could be support who feel
like they're not judgmental. Not mind you, We're all humans,
so even our friends can be judgmental, but hopefully it's
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coming from a place to make you a better person
or to help you to grow. So even their judgment
may feel harsh at times, but step back and say,
but is what they're saying reasonable? So remember friendships heles,
relationships have levels. You first meet somebody, if you're telling
me in the first thirty days, a couple months, a
year in love, I'm not saying there can't be loved
from sight, but the little because what do you really
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know about people? And I often find when people pour
a lot early into relationships without getting to know someone,
they're often very disappointed when it doesn't talk the way
they want. But I say, were there red flags or
things about that person that you didn't know but you
didn't take time to actually fit out. So even relationships
have levels, and you determine in relationships what those levels are.
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Let's talk family, because realistically a ton of people come
to therapy because of family issues. One of the number
one things I hear people say is that how they
are mistreated by their family members, they do not feel
supported or understood, or they're the black sheep. And here's
the bottom line. The people I know who have found
some space to be happy have to look at individuals
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in their family that might be toxic and find place
for them, and it might be outside their circle. Because
if someone is toxic and causing you to press anxiety,
you have to say, why would you value someone who
does not value you enough to not want to emotionally
or mentally cause you harm. You should exp more from
your family because if blood is thicker than water, that
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means I should expect that you want the best for me,
and vice versa. So family relationship often to be evaluated,
and you place people where they belong, and everyone because
their family does not belong in your circle, and if
they don't put them out and to spend the boundaries
in constraints I put on dealing with this per so
that I am not emotionally and mentally taxed so I
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stop pouring into something that says refill. Remember the part
of the idea of resource is if I allocated it
will in turn refill me. I get something of value.
That is the return and investment that you often have
to think about. So we've talked about recession, we've talked
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to these are key things. Before we take a break,
let's talk about allocation first, misappreiation. And this is something
that people never think about. Allocation of resources, allocations of funds.
So you decide that you are a family, and so
you are going to pour into your family. Does it
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mean you pour into every person equally? I would expect
as a parent, you would pour into your children. You
may pour into at that point your parents or your sibling.
It's interesting how people may struggle and say, I don't
feel like you spend enough time here. Well, I have
to excuse me between the fact that I'm raising my kids,
I'm working a full job at the time job, and
I still have my partner. I have only so many
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resources of time I can okay. Often people struggle with
being able to tell people what they can and can't
do because they feel someone might be upset. The thing
learning how to allocate your resources is to say I
only have so much time, and if I feel emotionally
or mentally taxed, I have to step back and regroup
figure out why I feel that way. And at times
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you have to be able to find the courage to
say to someone you know, right now, I really have
too much on my plate. I can't help you with
that right now now. I might be able to do
it on this date you ask for help. This date,
I'm not available. I probably have some time here, but
just given how things are going right, I don't have
the time. If a person can't respect that you're telling
them and being honest that you can't help, and instead
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they're only being angry, step back and say, does this
not respect your mental and emotional health? And I'm the
only concerned about what it is? If they want and
they need, that's a relationship that requires evaluation and make
sure you're not overallocating or misappropriating funds sometimes and those
funds are your resources. Often, especially in relationships, whether they
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be familial or romantic relationships, there's this obligation piece I
must do to make them feel to appreciate. If I'm
doing something to make you appreciate me, I'm doing something
for the wrong reason. Things should be done out of
place of love and appreciation should come from that. Think
of reasons. If you constantly give to someone who never
ever you don't feel appreciated, they never do something in
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return to show their appreciation, which could be simple as
a thank you, you may be misappropriating funds and that's
something that you need to think about. You are listening
to episode sixty five of Maya Maya Ambition your ambition,
and we're talking about understanding your mental and emotional economy,
something I refer to the enemy of self, and I
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feel if people could grasp this concept, the way they
would proceed through their lives, whether it's relationships that are romantic, familiationships,
whether it's worked, whatever it is, you could find ways
to not feel stuck and to feel more happiness. And
your every exists if you are careful and protect something
you have very limited of, which are those personal resources
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that are unique to you. We're gonna take a break
and when we come back from the other side, we're
gonna jump and talk a bit more about Okay, inventory
these resources and then deciding once you inventory it, what's
the investment plan? How do I truly assess this to
make sure that I'm making the right choices that I
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All right, everyone, welcome to the second half. Actually we're
having a little bit of technical difficulties, So I apologize
for the glitches. I don't see them coming. I'm just
trying to compensate for them the way. Thank you for
Sydney tight through the pickle difficulties. We are in episode
sixty five of Maya Understanding your Mental and emotional economy,
something I refer to as the economy of self, and
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it's something that I began to really see more and more.
I sat in therapy with people how most people do
not even understand their vast abilities as well as their
limitations when it comes to their emotional and mental capacities,
and they're over reaching at times, doing too much because
they feel obligated, not realizing there is only so much
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of you to go around. And that is ultimately what
the economy a hope about, is understanding how much of
you is there to go around when you talk about family, friends,
relationships with your partners, work, your spirituality. The thing about
the resources is I said, there's three for sure. You
gotta pay emotional and mental space and time. Other people
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say I got a limited financial resource. I've got certain
things that I can only do and that's okay. So
that being said, first you have to be to inventory.
And that's one of the things I say said when
we came back on the other side of the break
that we were going to talk about really understanding what's
the in estment plan. So I've figured out my resources.
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I get it, I totally get it, But how do
I decide where to invest things I oughtn't feel like
I want to invest it work in my family because
those are two things that are high priorities for me.
That's the key word. What is your priority? You decide
what's important and where you want to pour that emotional
and mental in that time. And then once you figure
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out those spaces, I've got my relationships with my family,
and I'm gonna tell you something. Break it down. Family, parents, siblings,
grand children, nieces and nephews, cousins, whatever. List all those
different relationships you have in your life. Those are relationship.
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Then you have your nuclear family yourself. If you're married
and have kids, and you've got your spouse and your kids,
that's a whole separate thing from let's talk about your parents,
your there's your sisters, your cousin. Now you've got all
these different relationships that people don't often even realize that
they navigate. Where you decide to allocate your emotional, mental
resources and time is based on priority and how you
termine your investment plan about where you're going to invest
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those those resources that you have a limited amount of.
Ask yourself, what am I investing in? It's family, it's
my children, then you got to ask yourself why, well, okay,
because it's my children. The what bought often will tell
you how much. And this is one thing I've heard
people struggle with, and I've actually had to have this
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conversation when I've had older individuals that are grandparents in
counseling and they're really upset with their adult children that
they don't feel allocate time for them now that they're
retired or not. As they're more they're more available. And
I had to look at some people and say, let
me ask you a question. I said, when you were
your kid's age, what were you doing? And they looked
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at me and they thought for them, They're like, raise
are my kids? What are your kids doing? We'll raise
my kids. But I mean, I'm like, there's no butt.
They're doing the exact same thing that you're doing their age.
But I found time for my Mike, But did you
really find as much time for your parents as you
think you did? And they come to that honest, that
moment of truth, like, okay, you're probably right, maybe I
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am internalizing it more. And I just say, if you
want to be more front and center in your grandchildren
and your children's life now that you have the time,
you make yourself more available. Don't make them the ones
that are trying to pull you in. You make yourself
more available to them because of all the things they're
juggling in their life. Make yourself available. That's the key thing,
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because you now have more of a resource to pour
in them, and at this moment in their life, they
may have less to pour into you. And at that
point people kind of step back from taking it so
personally and they can start to see it differently. So
what you know what it is you're gonna invest your
resource and why? So, families, one thing work. If you're
gonna put a lot of emotion and time to work,
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ask yourself, why is it? Because I truly enjoy my job.
I love what I do, It's a big part of
my identity. I want a promotion. Know why you are
going to allocate the resource to the extent you're going
to because then once you know the what and the why,
ask yourself, how much of my mental capacity am I
pouring into this relationship? How much of my emotion am
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I pouring into this relationship? And why? Obviously, if you're
talking about raising your children, you're gonna pour a whole
lot of your mental and emotional space and time into them,
and your finances by the way, too, because your children
it's a prime investment for you. It's a very important investment,
So that makes sense. But outside of maybe children, then
you've got aging parents. Okay, I'm pour this much time
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into my parents because they need me more. But also
keep that in perspective because as we all maybe have
aging parents, if we're in our fifties or so, we
also have to realize what is our parents' capacity. We
can't just overextend ourselves because they want the time and attention.
It has to be. But if you're still able to
do things, I need you to still be centered because
maybe at this point in my life I don't have
as much to give to you as you think I do.
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Make sure you're clear and open about what you have
to give and step overextending yourself. How much are you given?
How often? What is the frequency you know, especially if
you feel spread very thin with your time, and when
time gets thin, this is when the mental capacity seems
to really feel overwhelming and the emotional piece. Look, if
you're a person who worked twelve hour days and you
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need to come home don't don't short yourself on sleep.
So the thing is, if someone asks you to do
something and you know that you need to get sleep
otherwise you don't function well. Don't cut on on your
then you're gonna probably feel more stressed out when you're
not well rested. Self care. Self care comes into how
you maintain resources, as so the what, the why, how
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much and how often? It might be you love your friends,
but how many people have noticed as you got older
you didn't spend the same amount of time your friends
that when you, like either had no children or were single.
Those dynamics and relationships can share, and it doesn't mean
you're any less of a friend. But sometimes friends wheel
that way, like, well, I don't feel like you call
me anymore. Well, okay, let me give you a prime
example where I've heard people say it, and we probably
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all have heard it. Let's just say, when you're younger
and you're in those dating years, a lot people a
friend like, well, the minute so and so gets a
boyfriend or a girlfriend they like, disappear from the group.
They don't have time for us. Okay, but here's the thing,
me for your friend, they have prioritized that they're looking
for a relationship. So if they meet somebody that might
be where they decided to allocate their resources. Now hopefully
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for them it's a good allocation and not a poor one.
But don't take it so personally. It doesn't mean they
like you any less, but they're looking to maybe fill
up their life that they feel is missing. No, it's
okay if you say, you know, you kind of disappear
on this, it'd be nice to see you every now
and then. We kind of miss you. It's okay, but
don't always take it's opersonal. But keep your friend in
mind because especially if you got a friend that doesn't
always make good dating choices, then you know, we often
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have to step in and do the work with them.
But hey, that about elloicant resources to tell somebody, you know,
you you keep dating the wrong kind of people. Then
you run back and then you're all upset, and that
energy upsets me. We need to rethink how you are
deciding to date because it's not healthy. And when you're
upset and it's you know, you're in a bad place
and I feel bad and I'm just kind of tired
of this negative energy that we're working because it's a
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pat behave that needs to stop. Now there's something right there.
Not taking in other people's negative energy is part of
your resources because you make sure that we're getting back.
Is that positive return and not a negative return? And
how long are you going to keep investing in something?
Let's be honest. Relationships are usually let them if they're good,
but you know, you may find all relationships don't have
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the same shelf life and it's okay, and we have
to learn to accept that. If you find that a
friendship is a short term thing, a reason, a season,
but not forever, accept that and stop allocating or pouring
into something. If you and you got a friend, flat out,
you got a friend and you feel you always call them,
you're always making plans and they're never present, and you're like,
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I just don't feel appreciated. I'm always doing something. Okay,
First roll a thumb, share how you feel. Do not
expect them to read your mind because you didn't come
with the friends manual. But once you share how you feel,
if the same behavior continues, stop pouring the energy into
that friendship and getting aggravated by it. Just step back
and maybe notice at that point you're frond Tod be like, oh,
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I haven't talked to Maya like in weeks and might
be like, hey girl, where have you been while we
were doing this? I haven't talked to you in a while,
and saying we haven't called hmm Anyways, With that, Big said,
how you allocate your motion, your mental space, and your time.
Make sure you're getting a return on investment. But all
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return and investments are not created equal. If you find
you're giving positive negative, that's not the return and investment
that you want. And you gotta be careful. So long term,
if you've been pouring into this color and if you
get to see a refill or even an offer for
a refill, unlet's be honest. At different junctures in different
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people's life, they maybe can't meet to where you're at,
and that's okay, but make sure youth have assessed that
relationship to say but I value it. I just know
they're struggling and I'm here. That's about that long term investment.
We all know that a return on investment isn't always
quick with the good stuff, it takes time. That means
you feel that relationship has legitimate value that's worth going there.
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I'm gonna tell you something that people often say, and
I'm gonna give a caution about it. I don't like
when people say, well, I'm gonna meet you where you're at.
That's a dangerous thing because first of all, I need
you to say, where are they at, why are they there?
And do they have the ability to come forward? If
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I have to go backwards. If you're dealing with someone
who has no desire to move forward, why are you
walking backwards to meet them? So I caution people say
I'm gonna meet you where, I'm gonna ask you why
you're there, and let's find a mutual place to meet.
And I'm willing to come back to help you, but
I'm not going to do more work to make something
sustainable than you are. So be sure when you're pouring
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your emotion and you're giving mental space and time to someone,
especially in they're a difficult space, make sure they're doing
some work. Because if you're carrying somebody else's burden and
you never find they come to get it from you,
that's a problem. And that's when all of a sudden,
you're depleting resources but you're not getting something back. And
this lends us to the last part of talking about
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the economy of self how to navigate inflation. So inflation
from that technical monetary term, from a traditional idea of economy,
and inflation is something that ultimately there's no return on
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investment because there's a rise and prices but a fall
in value. So you're putting more into something and you're
getting less out. That's what inflation is. So when you
talk about mental and emotional inflation, you got to be
careful that if you are investing in something heavily, hraether
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it be at your job. Let's be honest. If you
have a job and you feel like I have worked
over time, I've worked extra hard on projects, I've gone
on my time off, I've stayed late, Yet I don't
feel valued because when there was time for a raise
or promotion, there was a reason why I didn't get it.
And if the reason doesn't make sense, you are pretty
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much putting way too much into something that has no
value to your particular employer. So I always tell people
when you don't feel value, whether it's in your job orther,
it's in a relationship with a partner, it could be
in a relationship with your child. Seriously, at some point
with parents and I've had a lot of people who've
got adult kids, and that can be a rocky road
(43:59):
to navigate. Everybody's not been a great parent, and sometimes
you did it the best you could. I just tell people,
take accountability. You sit down with your adult child and
you talk about it, and you say, hey, I know
I probably wasn't the best parent. Maybe I had young
I thought this was the best thing to do, or
I kind of reached the way I was only to
come to find out that wasn't the best thing to do.
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I apologize, I'm sorry I fell short. I know I
can't go back and fix that, but from this moment forward,
I want to be present if you give me the
opportunity to show you what I've learned and the mistakes
I made with you. It may take them time to
understand that, but that doesn't mean that they should put
a hoop up and you feel like you have to
jump through it. You apologize, you take accountability, but no
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a point do you feel like you have to keep
pouring and pooring and pooring and not given the space
to given forgiveness or even to say I'm not sure
if I'm ready to do this with you yet, mom
or dad, But at least you apologize to me and
took accountability for maybe how how you parented me has
now effected me as an adult. That's a conversation to have.
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And most parents never want to take accountability because I
guarantee you if you didn't make the best choices, it
wasn't like you offered it on purpose, or maybe you
did and you realize later, ooh, that wasn't a good choice.
But if you're willing to be accountable and to offer
the proper apology, that's the difference. And menfences with people,
whether it's your child, your partner, your parents, your sister,
your brother, whoever, take accountability for your actions when you
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fall short, and once take accountability and you offer the authentic,
real apology, do not wait for someone to say I
forgive you. You never apologize by That's one of those
back episodes of Maya because there's like sixty four other
ones about the art of the apology. You're not apologizing
for a forgiveness. You're apologizing because you realize what you
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did was wrong and you need to say it. That's
the start of a journey. But don't let people make
you keep pouring into them and you realize they have
no intention on really giving you the space back because
all you're doing is depleting your resources. So remember inflation,
the place of what you're trying to achieve has no
return on value. And when you have relationships like that,
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you have to decide is it really worth while I'm
putting into it? How much am I sacrificing me for
somebody else? Because if you sacrifice you, what's left at
the end. That is what the economy of self is
all about. So I hope this was a good takeaway.
If you came in late, It's a worthy listen because
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this is a concept that I've been for me because
I've sat in therapy and I keep hearing these narratives
with people, and I came to realize people don't know
their value. They don't know they have a limit amount
of emotional and mentals to give to people in time,
and they keep overextending themselves and they wonder why EITHERY
feel depressed, anxious or stuck, just like they don't happy.
Because if you give too much but nothing replenishes you,
(46:50):
you need emotional mental hydration just like everything else, you
need sunlight. We're like plants. We have our own form
of photosynthesis. When we get love, we get appreciation, when
we feel valued. It isn't you most versus you feel
challenged and unwelcome and unappreciated, You tend to want to wither.
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You want to be in spaces. Give you the space
to breathe, not hold your breath. So with that being said, everyone,
thank you for tuning in to Maya. This episode something
that I've been working on for a while the whole
purpose of my podcast is to help you to identify
your ambition, to harness that monation, to help you acquire
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the satisfaction that you seek in your life. So remember,
as always, all episodes can be found in iTunes, Apple Podcasts,
Our Radio, Amazon, Audible, Spotify, all those podcast platforms. All
you have to do is search Maya capital M, period
capital A, period capital I, period A that stands for
my ambition, your ambition, and you can find it there
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and download. Like I said, there's sixty four other episodes.
Of course, the easy way to find it is just
go to mayadath Speaks dot com and you can go
to podcast and then click you can click on the
links and I'll take you right to the podcast platforms Chris,
I will ask you subscribe and share my YouTube channel,
Maya Speaks to You. You can watch these also on YouTube.
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But remember, the easiest way to find things Maya is
to go to mayadas Speak dot com and you can
find everything from my daily inspiration that's there. Of course,
everyone who follows. I'm very passionate about menopause. I am
working on my doctorate that is focused on menopause. So
it's actually a menopause blog called Me on Pause. It
has a lot of really good information. There's some previous
(48:35):
podcasts from a tea party I did that talk about
understanding the medical side of menopause versus the holistic side.
There's something there for everyone, So just goes to Mayada
Speak dot com and guess what, there's a wealth of
information there. So until next time, everyone, remember your present
is your past and your future becomes no more. So
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make the most of every day because or not promised
them that. Until next time, everyone, enjoy this beautiful, extremely
hot spoiler. I'm a plan to be here next week.
So to next week twelve thirty another episode. Haven't decided.
I haven't decided yet what's coming up, but it'll be
something worthy to listen to. But I'll let you think
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about that for a while. But remember, subscribe and share.
I appreciate all the followers I'm getting. Remember too, if
you have any questions about episode, you can always send
me an email for the website and I do a
mailbag episode and you can just say, hey, my Sunset thing,
I got a question for you, and I'll try to
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