February 27, 2025 • 46 mins
In this episode of Motivation Zone, I encourage you to not forget your feelings even though you may be made to feel as if your feelings don't matter. Having a health balance & understanding of why you feel the way you do, is important. In this episode I discuss the interactions between us that can defintiely be evaluated as healthy or not. Let's Talk About It!
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Hi, everyone, Welcome back to another episode of Motivation Zone.
It is your host here, Monica Mace, super excited to
be with you guys, and as you see by that title,
we're getting ready to dive into our feelings. So keep
back relaxed, because I do want to talk to you
guys about some things. And where I want to start
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is I want to talk to those of you, like myself,
who have been made to feel as if your feelings
do not matter. And the reason why this is an
important podcast and I want to come and motivate you guys,
is because there is some growth really happening and there
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are some new opportunities really waiting. But if you are
constantly being encouraged and usually by people not acknowledging your
feelings and emotions, telling you that you're taking things too far,
that you're doing too much, or I will dive into
this later, that you're unforgiving and all of these things,
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I will tell you how often that is a hindrance
for growth. And the reason why is because a lot
of the times in these situations where you're being told
these things by people is usually by those who are
committing the offense or those who are protecting the people
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or person who is committing the offense. And usually these
are individuals who are not necessarily wanted to see you
at your best, or they feel a ways when you
are trying to hold someone accountable, and usually accountability is
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a prompting that you need to do better or that
we can change something, which still equals doing better, right,
And so when you're dealing with ego a lot of
the times and people who don't want to admit that
they're wrong, what ends up happening is it feels like
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you're challenging them, and that challenge is not something that's invited,
and it's not something that's acceptable because that ego that
you're rubbing up against at the time is not wanting
to do or change anything that they are already doing,
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and they don't necessarily feel that they need to do better.
And so in these situations and circumstances, you are being
made to feel like you're the problem, and that is
a huge problem. I'm gonna tell y'all, I I don't
even know where to begin really with myself, but I've
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been there. I would just say that where I've been
told I'm been dramatic, I've been told that I think
I'm all of that. I've been told that I'm playing
a victim. I've been told so many things at this point.
And what's so funny about it, though, which takes us
to the title of this podcast, Forget your Feelings, is
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in all of these situations and circumstances, my feelings never mattered.
And when that became clearer to me, I just so
happened to be one of those people who, when I
know my feelings does not matter to a group of
people or to a person, I'm okay with being out
of that situation because at that point, and I don't
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engage because at that point, when my feelings does not matter,
but I know I'm hurt or I know I'm going
through something, I know I need something deeper to kind
of help bring a balance to me or help me
to overcome the situation and circumstance. When I know that
that's true, and I know that that that group or
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that person is not willing to acknowledge my feelings and emotions,
then I know I'm not safe there. And when I
know I'm not safe, I go ahead and get out.
But then when you get out, you start to get
the next phase of the manipulation to draw you back in,
and that is making you feel bad because you're not
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engaging with people. And then that means that you are
harping unforgiveness, That means that you have a hard heart,
That means that you think you're better than everyone. Just
all the things that's being thrown out there is something else.
And I don't even know if I want to repeat
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some of the things I've heard right, because it's too
much like putting it out in the atmosphere for me.
But your feelings does matter, and you shouldn't forget how
you feel simply because people don't want to cheat or
they don't want to be held accountable for their actions.
You shouldn't have to adjust what's true for you and
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what's true in the situation because they don't want to
acknowledge that. And I think at the end of the day,
those who support these type of instances where they get
behind the person who is committing the offenses, who's saying
things that they should not say, who's not in a
posture where they're adding anything beneficial. When people get behind
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these individuals at the end of the day, is really
because they think that those of us who have some
form of a standard, who want some form of accountability,
that we're being mean and we're frustrating the situation and
we're the problem. When we can just move on, when
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we can just get over it, when we can just
snap our fingers and turn our feelings off and forget them.
But that is not the healthy thing to do. And
so recently I've been watching a lot of these I
guess you can say podcasters and content creators, that's the
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word I'm looking for, who are promoting betterhelp dot Com.
Now I'm gonna tell you guys, betterhelp dot Com is
not sponsoring this podcast. But the reason I'm bringing them
up is because I see a lot of people talking
about hiring therapists, which is not cheap. Now, you may
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be able to find some at an a affordable cost,
but I'm noticing that a lot of people are going
to therapy because they're saying that the people around them
they don't feel safe or comfortable having certain discussions. And
a lot of the times people are going to therapy
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to work out problems with the people that are around
them all the time. And I don't know, maybe it's
just me, but I find that totally weird, and as
someone myself who I'm constantly talking to my circle of people,
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a very small circle. But I can honestly tell you, guys,
and I don't care if it's five people in my circle,
if it's only five people, any one of those five
people I can go to and sit down and share
my feelings and emotions with and engage in conversations with,
and if there's something going on between us, we can
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sit down, hash it out, fuss it out, whatever we
need to do. But at the end of the day,
I'm not walking away with any of those people not
knowing how I feel, not knowing where I stand, and
also not at least acknowledging how I feel and where
I stand. And I believe that there is a huge
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issue right now in society, especially where people are not
communicating and they're being bullied to accept everything, to not
feel anything, and that's just not healthy. So then beyond therapy,
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you have people dealing with these issues that they're having
with people around them, with not being heard and not
being seen and not being empathized with and not getting
and receiving any sympathy. They're dealing with this in other
ways like drinking, falling into deep states of depression, doing drugs,
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or just going further into hanging out with the wrong
crowds just to feel something. And this is the reason
why your feelings should not go ignored now in a
balance of course. And I say this whenever I'm talking
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to you guys, is you can hear what I say.
And some of these things may apply to you. Some
things you may have to think through, and you know,
judge based on your own situation. But I'm always going
to encourage you guys to go after healthy solutions. Is
it true that everything we think and feel is true
and real? No, And that's why it's so important that
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we get to the truths of the matter. And I
was told in recent years with a real situation I'm
talking about maybe one day I'll go into it. Maybe,
but today is not that day. But I'll brush up
on it and kind of give you guys a little
bit of details where I was standing on the truth
of a situation. I was told this happened to me
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twice around the same time, which is crazy, but it
really was the truth. I was standing on two different situations.
Both times I was called a liar or made out
to be a liar, right. And then in one of
these instances, an individual who called themselves protecting this group
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of people who was absolutely wrong and absolutely lying and
unfortunately years later still lying. Right, they told me that
I am only acting off of my truth. And I
don't know if you guys have experienced this, but this
really ticked me off because I was like, what, this
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is not my truth? And that was in a way
of kind of telling me that no matter what I say,
they're not gonna believe me because I'm only bringing half
of the truth, which I knew that wasn't what the
situation really was. And I knew that everything that I
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had stated was in the exact order of which it happened.
Everything that I had repeated was exactly what was said.
And so when that happened, that was a way to
minimize my feelings and made me feel as if I'm
only telling a version of something and that there is
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a truer version out there, which is crazy to me.
And so when I had this experience, I took my
feelings right, and I sat down with myself very quietly,
and I'm gonna tell you guys, there is something dope
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and very peaceful and relaxing, about withdrawing yourself from foolishness,
protecting yourself because at this point, I'm taking hits for
standing where I was standing. Right. If I'm standing on
the truth, and these individuals do not want this truth
exposed and they don't want to take accountability for what
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they did, then I am a moving target at that point.
And that moving target is of that verbal clashing and
that verbal abuse of you're lying, you're wrong, you're this,
you're that. And so I withdrew myself and I sat
quietly for a long time, and when I tell you, guys,
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I was hurt and devastated because I'm like, this is
not healthy and this is not reality what the pictures
are that they're trying to paint. And so what I
did was I sat with myself and I started to
think through what the truth really was. And at first,
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I'm telling you guys, I wish it wasn't true. But
at first I really did beat myself down a little bit.
I think only because initially I was still engaging, still
trying to defend myself, still trying to, you know, constantly
repeat what the truth really was. And because of that
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also I found that I was in some ways seeking
their acceptance. And when you think that people have cared
for you, or if you think that people have loved you,
that's usually what you can expect. You would think, I've
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been around you guys for so long, and we say
to ourselves, we've been in these circles for so long
that there has to be some love there. And I
think that's the most hurtful part is the more you
try to defend yourself, the more you say what the
truth really is, and the worst it gets that acknowledgement,
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I guess you can say, or that reality of the
fact that they're not budging on their stances and they're
not budging on the things that they're putting out there,
that's not healthy, not true. Then it's hurtful. And so initially,
before I rederew myself and got quiet and think things through,
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I was just like really, and I started to feel
a ways about myself, which is exactly how they wanted
me to feel. And that's right there. I want to
stay there for a second. Is usually when you are
someone who's trying to work out something with a person
and they want you to continuously feel as if they
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are right they don't want to acknowledge your feelings and emotions,
and in some instances, because misery truly does love company,
they don't want to see you grow. Then in that situation,
there you will start to feel down about yourself because
that is the goal. And when we start to understand
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that that's what that is, when we start to understand
that all of those hits are coming because people want
to keep things as they are. When we know that
things can be better, when we know that we can
treat one another better, when we know that we can
do better, but people don't want to, then they will
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say what they need to and do what they need
to to keep you coming just as they need you to.
And a lot of the times that means I don't
want you to call me out. I don't want you
to say anything about what happened in the past, even
though these things are true. I don't want you to
acknowledge that I hurt you anyway, because that's not what
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I do, because my ego is too high to admit
that I've done anything wrong to you. And then also
accept the way that I want to love you, even
though you may need a little bit more so when
you're acknowledging your feelings right, and you're sitting down with yourself,
you become more I guess you can say, in tuned
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with how you really feel. And when you withdraw yourself
from these situations, you begin to realize and you latch
on to what it is your standards really are, what
the truth really is. Because if you don't back out right,
if you don't get quiet sometime, if you don't stop
defending yourself against the same lies being told over and
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over and over again, and the same I guess you
could say accusations too, that will come with that that's
being told to you over and over again, then you
begin to believe something different and your true feelings and
emotions begin to become murky, and then you're not understanding
it because then also, oh, you're not being given the
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permission to feel, and you have that permission because they're
your feelings. I don't respect anybody who tries to tell
someone else that they can't feel anything, but yet they
can walk around with all the feelings that they want.
It's odd to me, and these same individuals will want
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you to apologize with a quickness and will tell everybody
else they're wrong, But do not want to be told
they're wrong themselves. I hate that, and so you do
have permission to feel. And what I'm encouraging you guys
to do is to make sure that what you're feeling
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you begin to understand. And that goes back to a
scripture in all you're getting get understanding, understand why it
is you feel how you feel, and then the next
step is what's a reasonable solution for this? Now. In
my case, both times I went to individuals and stated
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how I really felt, and neither time was those feelings
ever acknowledged. Was there any accountability for that treatment. And
even with initial offenses, I'm telling there are some things
that has happened in my past that I looked past,
moved on, but then it came back full circle years later.
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Because you're thinking people are over themselves, You're thinking that
this is no longer an issue between us, and then
you find out it's still an issue, and it's still
an issue, not because you didn't talk about it or
address it, but it's an issue because they never even
admitted it themselves ever, So you bring it up. I
brought things up even from times past that I worked
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out for myself that wasn't even a hold on me,
but now it's showing up again. So now we really
need to talk about it, because I'm not going to
keep going in this circle over and over again. Because
there becomes a time where everyone deserves to feel safe
in a safe space, to share in a safe space,
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to be yourself in a safe space, to feel in
a safe space, to care. And there is something happening
even in society right now that the word care is
becoming such a far distant thing. And I have learned
dealing with a lot of situations myself, that there are
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so many people who only want you to care about
them when they are doing well, which is odd to me.
I'm one of those people that I care about people
even when they're in a bad position, or something isn't
going right for them, or they may not be doing
the best things for themselves, so I care. But I
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find it strange that in society today, amongst a lot
of people, everyone's defaulting to this always going out and
hanging out, always together, never talking, never feeling, and let's
only share the good things or the things we perceive
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that's good amongst us, and let's not share anything else.
And this is the reason why so many people are
running to get therapy. It's too odd. And I had
something that was really pressing upon me in recent years.
It was an open situation with something that happened years ago,
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but it was really impressed upon me because that situation
came back kind of blew up in my face a
little bit, and I remember speaking with someone about it,
and their reaction to it was just like, oh, well,
you need to just forget about that, and you know,
it was like and I'm like, whoa, you completely missed
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how much this is hurting me. So I started to
keep even more in for myself and I just took
more time to talk to the people that I could
talk to. And when I found myself, as I say,
kind of going off the deep end, which means your
emotions are all flared up and you want to keep arguing
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with people, and you want to keep trying to defend
yourself and all these things. When I felt myself there,
I would talk to people who could give me reasonable solutions.
And these were not therapists, thank god, because what's the
purpose of all of my relationships if I can't talk
to one person in them? That's crazy work to me. Now,
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don't get me wrong, there is a place for therapy,
but my situation and what I'm feeling right now that's
going on with society is even in that people are
not being encouraged to have healthy situations. Now, maybe in therapy,
these therapists are saying, well, hey, if you're having this problem,
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go talk to this person. Do this, do that. Maybe
there are some steps being taken. I don't know, because
lately I'm just hearing a lot of people saying, Oh,
I just go to therapy to talk. But it's like,
what are you doing after that? Are you applying anything?
Are you learning anything? Are you applying what you learn?
And if you're applying what you learn, is it working?
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Because there can be some solutions that's given, But once again,
when you're dealing with people who don't care about your
feelings and emotions, when you get people who don't want
you to stand on anything and don't want you to
have any standards, those solutions may not necessarily work. So also,
people are not leaving room for healthy people in their lives,
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and they begin to go in these same circles for
so long, and they get comfortable there because it's what
they know and I find it odd, and I've been
here before in certain situations where things have been upside
down for so long, things have been going not so
well for so long that they're afraid of when it
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starts to go well. They're afraid when they have healthy
people who actually listen to them and care about their feelings,
because it's too weird, you know, because they're so used
to dealing with people who don't. They're so used to
being ignored, they're so used to having them to sweep
their feelings under the rug. And that is not where
we want to be. And I can tell you, guys,
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over the period of time of keeping to myself, I
have and I can honestly say it, I feel it
even now. Is I have come to such a higher
understanding of where I stand. And because I have come
to that by taking some time out for myself, allowing
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myself to work through these feelings, emotions and truths and
not necessarily my truth, allowing myself to go through that,
it equips you and helps you to gather yourself so
that way, when these things are constantly thrown at you,
you can stand on what you need to stand on.
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And that's still a thing. So I go back to
a few scriptures I've heard, and one I can remember
very clearly. I don't remember the address, but as they say,
I don't remember the book, but in the Bible where
it is discussed putting on the whole armor of God,
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so that way you can stand in the day where
the devil is throwing whatever can be thrown to take
you down, and putting on that whole armor consists of
many things. That is, you know, having the Word, having
your salvation, having the sword or the spirit, which is
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the word and what is it? Also having righteousness, which
means that when these accusations come at you, God can
shield you because God sees that you have really done
what you've needed to do to stay as far away
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from sin and committing certain things in your life that
isn't good for you, right, and then taking up your
faith and understanding that regardless of how it looks, God
takes care. So there are many things, and you guys,
don't beat me up because I'm trying to remember all
of them. But basically what I'm getting to is what's
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so interesting to me is that, yeah, a lot of
the times people outside of the military thinks that there
is nothing in life that we need to be prepared for,
which is strange to me, or nothing in life that
we need to be guarded against other than a maybe
there's an outside enemy somewhere. Oh, we get you know,
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security systems to protect our homes because in our house
either a we're in there, because with security systems you
can secure it if you're at home, or if you're gone,
or you know, whatever location you want to secure. But
at the end of the day, though your heart, which
there is another scripture for set for that that says
guard your heart with all diligence. So there is a
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guarding of yourself that you need to do. There is
a guarding of your peace. There is a guarding of
your feelings, your emotions, your spirituality. There is a guarding
of your mental health that you need to do. And
it's very unfortunate that people that we can so around
ourselves with, who quote unquote want to hang out and
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come around and talk all the time, are not really
considering that they should guard you as well. And you
should be guarding others. When we are around one another,
we are in each other's care. That's how it should
be seen, that's how it should be received. So when
people are coming around me, I have and always been
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that type of person, but I'm even more aware of
it today. Is how am I treating people? Am I
concerned about that person? Do I want to see that
person succeed? Am I treating them well in my care?
That's important? And so we need to be that for
ourselves first of all, and then we need to be
that for others. And unfortunately in family situations, in some
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relationships where it comes down to spouses, people are forgetting that.
They're forgetting to be prepared, They're forgetting to protect, They're
forgetting to be guarded. And we're just supposed to trust
everyone that we're around simply because we were born into
this family. Oh, simply because we made this commitment. We
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just trusted. No, it's work, and we need to be
willing to do the work. And I noticed this with
a lot of spouses too. This is a huge problem.
And I talked about this in my last podcast, which
was Love Versus Valentine's Day, and you guys should definitely
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check that out. But I would bring up something I
touched on briefly here in that particular podcast, was how
I'm seeing a lot of celebrities especially, and celebrity culture
is something that unfortunately a lot of people follow. You
have these celebrities promoting these books and they're putting things
out here, and people follow this because celebrity culture is
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the rich culture, and I want to be more like them,
so I want to do what the rich people do,
and it just becomes something where they're influencing others who
are watching them. And so I've noticed that amongst a
lot of couples who are breaking up, divorcing, whatever the
case may be, they still go, well, we're still each
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other's best friends, and we still love each other so deeply,
but we're not together now. In that particular podcast, Love
Versus Valentine's Day, I did state that there are some
deal breakers where you can still be deeply in love
the person, you can still want to be their friend,
but there may be a habit that they have or
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something that they're going through that just causes that relationship
to not be able to stand in that time. And
I understand that, but in a lot of these instances,
I question whether the love is really there and if
you can really be best friends, it still need to divorce.
Outside those, you know, situations, and circumstances where there are
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deal breakers like drugs, gambling, you know, different things that
causes a house to have friction, and if those things
wasn't an issue, they would still be together. But in
a lot of these instances where these celebrities are not
really talking about and they don't have to, but I'm saying,
they feel the need to make these public statements and
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it's simply, oh, well, we're still each other's best friends,
we love each other so deeply, but we can't be together.
We're divorced and we're breaking up, and it's like, really,
why you know? And maybe that's their version of protecting
each other. I don't know, but I just feel like
more of these things need to be discussed and the
realities need to be put out here so that people
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are not following this stuff and thinking that this is
really how it's supposed to go down. Because love is apologetic,
love is sympathetic, Love is willing to do what it
takes to stay in it. And that's on every role,
in everybody's part. We need to be constantly making adjustments,
we need to constantly be hearing each other out. And yes,
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across the board, I've been wrong you guys listening in.
You've been wrong, but you've also been right. I've been right,
and I'm not really appreciating these relationships that I'm in
where I'm always wrong because I know I'm not, and
neither are you, and neither are the ones accusing us
of always being wrong. They're not always wrong, but the
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problem is they are wrong when they don't want to listen,
where they don't want to acknowledge, and they don't want
to take any accountability for the things they're saying and doing.
It's an issue, and so in these situations and circumstances
forgetting your feelings, it's not the best thing. At least
take some time to understand why you are where you are,
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then gain some solutions. And if you are feeling the
need to constantly defend yourself, you are being wronged. You
do feel like there are some changes that need to
be made, and you've brought those up a couple of
times and they're not being acknowledged, then it may be
best to get out of that situation and open the
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door for healthier relationships. Seriously, and so in my next
podcast coming up, I am going to stay on this topic.
But we're gonna go into it with politics too. That's
another great example that I'm feeling right now. It's a
lot going on, you guys, but politically with the far
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left and their issues with Trump, I am under the
serious indication that there are people in higher positions. Of course,
it's always been like this, but it's even more clear
to me today that there are people in these positions
who really don't want to see others do well. You'll
be amazed at how people will get in these positions
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and they want to be the only ones there. And
I have no doubt in my mind that with the
far left, they really have wanted the American people to
continue to stay at the working class levels of simply
struggling to pay bills, struggling to afford groceries, struggling to
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afford housing, but continuing to come through our income so
they can get as much money out of us as
they can to put that money wherever they've been putting it.
It's very interesting, and you guys better bet your bottom
dollar that the money that they've been spending on everyone
but Americans, some of that money's been going into somebody
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else's pockets and has not been going where it should
be going. I knew this from Jump Street, which is
the reason I voted the way I did, But it's
kind of similar because the working class Americans have been
crying out for a long time. And I really do
hope that this current administration really starts to dig into
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this medical situation as well, because there are people with
some serious issues and it's getting worse because of these
medical practices. The medical bills are insane. It's just it's
a lot going on and with America as a country
within itself. And I bring this up because I'm going
to give you, guys, you know, some examples and some
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different variations and not just keeping on just simply relationships.
But how overall, when there are people who don't want
to admit that things are going wrong, how it can
affect us long term. Watching what's happening in America is
a prime example of that. It really is. And so
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right now with the far left and the administration, there
is a war going on because the far left does
not want these changes. And we've sat around for way
too long crying out. The American people have been crying
out over these issues and feeling like we're not getting
a hit because we haven't been because we're constantly being
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punished for the decision making of the party who decides
that they want to give their money to everybody else
and have all of these outside whatever you want to
call it, organizations whatever, that they're supporting, and we're supposed
to be the ones to back that up. But no
one really asked us. But they asked during the election
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cycle twenty twenty four and we told them what we thought,
you know. And so I want to use these things
as an example because I really feel like the forget
your feelings and you know, this virtue signaling that's going
on is happening in politics as well, and really quick example,
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and I talked about this when it came down to
the migrants in a previous podcast, and how the far
left is saying, oh, well, you're evil and you're mean
and you're terrible if you don't want these migrants in
the country. But see anyone with any logical sense we
know that that's not what's being said. But that's the
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manipulation part. And that's usually how people come in and
try to affect your emotions is by taking it way
beyond where you actually meant it to be at So
None of us are saying we don't want migrants in
the country of America. No one's saying that. But they're saying, oh, well,
you guys are terrible because you don't want them in
the country. Nope, that's not what's being said. What we're
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saying is we don't want migrants coming into this country
by the thousands at this point, hundreds of thousands at
this point illegally. And not only are they coming here illegally,
at one point it was reported they're getting three thousand
dollar visa cards when they come in here so they
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can have some money to spend. They're getting free hotels,
free room and board. They're shutting down schools in places
like New York where people cannot send their kids to
school for several days and they have to stay home
from work, which means they're missing money because migrants are
staying in the schools. Then you had in Chicago the
police departments where migrants are staying in the police departments
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now in front of the police departments, sleeping in bags
and all of these things. They're bringing out food and
all this stuff, which costs money. And because they're over
here without proper resources, they're over here without going through
the proper channels. Now we have to take up that slack.
Now our economy is suffering because money that should be
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allotted to keep America well is going somewhere else. That's crazy.
But because we're saying that, it's being thrown into other narratives.
But no one's saying we don't want migrants here. No
one's saying that. But what we want is for things
to be done appropriately and indecency and in order so
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that we really can be a thriving country of which
we have not been in so long. And there are
countries right now that these people have been running from
to come over into our border, but yet their borders
well protected where they're from. You will not be able
to cross over there as an American in any of
these countries these people have come from and be there legally,
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they will either arrest you, not let you in, or
ship your butt back. And that's in the countries these
people are quote unquote escaping from. So even in the
political situation and political games, guys, we can't allow people
to play upon our emotions. As someone who voted for
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Trump myself, they can't do it with me because I
sat down long enough. Number one. I watched all the debates.
I watched Trump debate Biden. I watched Trump debate Harris,
and I watched as many interviews as I could stand
of Harris can stand her. I hope she's well, But chick,
you couldn't be my president. I'm sorry, not for me.
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And I was praying so hard that the Lord didn't
dislike me so much that he would make Kamala the
president of the United States. Seriously, so even in that
because I was able to think through this, I watched
what was going on. I listened to the interviews, I
listened to the podcast with Trump, I watched Kamala in
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her town hall meetings and all of these other things.
And I made a decision based on what I knew
as an American. And then you gotta you have to
judge by who you are in America. So people are
going based on gender, based on rais, based on working class.
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You know, people are weighing these things for so many
different reasons. And there was one thing that I really
wanted Trump to work on that I knew he stood for,
that he worked on the moment he got into office,
and that was going back to where it should have
been that there are only two genders in America, in
the world. You see what I'm saying. Why are we
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debating these things? This is nuts At this point, the
entire we're not able to explain what a woman is.
It's crazy. The entire a man can have a baby
is so wild. And once again, this is going back
to plan on your feelings and your emotions, and not
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only that, plan on your mental state. We had to
fight to come out of something that's mentally unhealthy. This
shouldn't even be an argument or a debate. We know
that there are only two genders in the humankind as
well as the animals that are across the board male female, female,
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reproductive system male. You know they have their roles. Everyone
has a part. But let's stick to what those parts
really are and not continuous continuously gaslight. And I wouldn't
even say trying to reinvent the wheel, but trying to
break the wheel altogether, which is another emotional play on people.
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And you will be amazed at how many parents were
struggling with this. Can you imagine having been a parent
in America having to explain this stuff to a child.
Because the far left is saying we're making room for transgenders.
We want them to start young, so we're gonna start
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teaching this in school. And now we have cross dressers
or drag queens or transgender sitting down reading a book
to a kid. And these people don't even really look
human in the sense of just dressing appropriately for a kid,
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dressing appropriately as an adult who's getting ready to sit
before innocent minds. Since when? And I knew I had
it out and I was really bugged out when I
saw a mother this is on a video. I haven't
even looked for it. I'm scared to even look for
it because it just really tripped me up so badly.
But this mother doing I want to say during the
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I guess you can say LBGTQ month, whatever you want
to call it, PRID month, whatever they call it. She
took her kid and she allowed her kid to stuff
the phone of a transgender with money. And I'm like, what,
And this kid had to maybe if maybe be six
years old, maybe if that, And I'm like, this is
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what you guys are doing? No, And that does cause
an emotional response, and it does make you feel a ways,
And I started to personally feel like am I losing
my marbles here. I just refuse to argue with people
over this, and I stood where I stood on that. Now,
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if outside of what Trump has declared in his administration,
people still want to do their own thing, that's on them.
But let's stop trying to make foolishness laws. That's where
I stand on that. But it is a whole thing.
So now we have to be mindful on this on
multiple fronts, not just spouses, families, but also at work
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also when it comes down to politics and community. We
have to be on point with these things. We have
to mentally, physically understand where we stand, and we have
to put some standards in place, and we have to
be guarded against these things so mentally we can be
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fit to be the best that we can be to
our community, to family, to society, to our jobs, to
our spouse. Because at the end of the day, every
last one of us, as we are working, as we
are making decisions, we are playing a vital role in
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someone's life, and we are playing a role in our communities.
Every day we step out the door, we are an
impact to someone somewhere. So do not be afraid to
feel do not let anyone stop you from feeling, but
understand your feeling and become stronger and more powerful in
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that and make decisions and do not feel bad when
you leave toxic people and situations behind and leave room
for healthy people. That's where I have for you guys
right now. I know I done went somewhere today, but
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I hope that this helped you, guys, and I hope
that this could give you and shine a light on
these feelings and emotions that we have, and that you've
gotten some encouragement for me, and listen, be sure to
weigh your situation and circumstances and gain an understanding for yourself.
That is the most important thing. I'm just giving you
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a little titbit of what I've have and listen. If
you have any comments, feel free to click the link
in the description of any of the platforms that you're
listening to this podcast on and leave me a comment.
I'd be happy to hear from you. Remember to leave
your comments classy and professional, because that's all we do
over here. And you, guys. Definitely look forward to my
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next podcast dropping. I will be talking about politics next.
We're going to talk about some things for sure. Until
next time, Chat soon.
Hi, everyone, Welcome back to another episode of Motivation Zone.
It is your host here, Monica Mace, super excited to
be with you guys, and as you see by that title,
we're getting ready to dive into our feelings. So keep
back relaxed, because I do want to talk to you
guys about some things. And where I want to start
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is I want to talk to those of you, like myself,
who have been made to feel as if your feelings
do not matter. And the reason why this is an
important podcast and I want to come and motivate you guys,
is because there is some growth really happening and there
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are some new opportunities really waiting. But if you are
constantly being encouraged and usually by people not acknowledging your
feelings and emotions, telling you that you're taking things too far,
that you're doing too much, or I will dive into
this later, that you're unforgiving and all of these things,
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I will tell you how often that is a hindrance
for growth. And the reason why is because a lot
of the times in these situations where you're being told
these things by people is usually by those who are
committing the offense or those who are protecting the people
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or person who is committing the offense. And usually these
are individuals who are not necessarily wanted to see you
at your best, or they feel a ways when you
are trying to hold someone accountable, and usually accountability is
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a prompting that you need to do better or that
we can change something, which still equals doing better, right,
And so when you're dealing with ego a lot of
the times and people who don't want to admit that
they're wrong, what ends up happening is it feels like
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you're challenging them, and that challenge is not something that's invited,
and it's not something that's acceptable because that ego that
you're rubbing up against at the time is not wanting
to do or change anything that they are already doing,
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and they don't necessarily feel that they need to do better.
And so in these situations and circumstances, you are being
made to feel like you're the problem, and that is
a huge problem. I'm gonna tell y'all, I I don't
even know where to begin really with myself, but I've
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been there. I would just say that where I've been
told I'm been dramatic, I've been told that I think
I'm all of that. I've been told that I'm playing
a victim. I've been told so many things at this point.
And what's so funny about it, though, which takes us
to the title of this podcast, Forget your Feelings, is
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in all of these situations and circumstances, my feelings never mattered.
And when that became clearer to me, I just so
happened to be one of those people who, when I
know my feelings does not matter to a group of
people or to a person, I'm okay with being out
of that situation because at that point, and I don't
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engage because at that point, when my feelings does not matter,
but I know I'm hurt or I know I'm going
through something, I know I need something deeper to kind
of help bring a balance to me or help me
to overcome the situation and circumstance. When I know that
that's true, and I know that that that group or
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that person is not willing to acknowledge my feelings and emotions,
then I know I'm not safe there. And when I
know I'm not safe, I go ahead and get out.
But then when you get out, you start to get
the next phase of the manipulation to draw you back in,
and that is making you feel bad because you're not
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engaging with people. And then that means that you are
harping unforgiveness, That means that you have a hard heart,
That means that you think you're better than everyone. Just
all the things that's being thrown out there is something else.
And I don't even know if I want to repeat
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some of the things I've heard right, because it's too
much like putting it out in the atmosphere for me.
But your feelings does matter, and you shouldn't forget how
you feel simply because people don't want to cheat or
they don't want to be held accountable for their actions.
You shouldn't have to adjust what's true for you and
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what's true in the situation because they don't want to
acknowledge that. And I think at the end of the day,
those who support these type of instances where they get
behind the person who is committing the offenses, who's saying
things that they should not say, who's not in a
posture where they're adding anything beneficial. When people get behind
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these individuals at the end of the day, is really
because they think that those of us who have some
form of a standard, who want some form of accountability,
that we're being mean and we're frustrating the situation and
we're the problem. When we can just move on, when
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we can just get over it, when we can just
snap our fingers and turn our feelings off and forget them.
But that is not the healthy thing to do. And
so recently I've been watching a lot of these I
guess you can say podcasters and content creators, that's the
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word I'm looking for, who are promoting betterhelp dot Com.
Now I'm gonna tell you guys, betterhelp dot Com is
not sponsoring this podcast. But the reason I'm bringing them
up is because I see a lot of people talking
about hiring therapists, which is not cheap. Now, you may
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be able to find some at an a affordable cost,
but I'm noticing that a lot of people are going
to therapy because they're saying that the people around them
they don't feel safe or comfortable having certain discussions. And
a lot of the times people are going to therapy
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to work out problems with the people that are around
them all the time. And I don't know, maybe it's
just me, but I find that totally weird, and as
someone myself who I'm constantly talking to my circle of people,
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a very small circle. But I can honestly tell you, guys,
and I don't care if it's five people in my circle,
if it's only five people, any one of those five
people I can go to and sit down and share
my feelings and emotions with and engage in conversations with,
and if there's something going on between us, we can
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sit down, hash it out, fuss it out, whatever we
need to do. But at the end of the day,
I'm not walking away with any of those people not
knowing how I feel, not knowing where I stand, and
also not at least acknowledging how I feel and where
I stand. And I believe that there is a huge
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issue right now in society, especially where people are not
communicating and they're being bullied to accept everything, to not
feel anything, and that's just not healthy. So then beyond therapy,
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you have people dealing with these issues that they're having
with people around them, with not being heard and not
being seen and not being empathized with and not getting
and receiving any sympathy. They're dealing with this in other
ways like drinking, falling into deep states of depression, doing drugs,
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or just going further into hanging out with the wrong
crowds just to feel something. And this is the reason
why your feelings should not go ignored now in a
balance of course. And I say this whenever I'm talking
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to you guys, is you can hear what I say.
And some of these things may apply to you. Some
things you may have to think through, and you know,
judge based on your own situation. But I'm always going
to encourage you guys to go after healthy solutions. Is
it true that everything we think and feel is true
and real? No, And that's why it's so important that
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we get to the truths of the matter. And I
was told in recent years with a real situation I'm
talking about maybe one day I'll go into it. Maybe,
but today is not that day. But I'll brush up
on it and kind of give you guys a little
bit of details where I was standing on the truth
of a situation. I was told this happened to me
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twice around the same time, which is crazy, but it
really was the truth. I was standing on two different situations.
Both times I was called a liar or made out
to be a liar, right. And then in one of
these instances, an individual who called themselves protecting this group
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of people who was absolutely wrong and absolutely lying and
unfortunately years later still lying. Right, they told me that
I am only acting off of my truth. And I
don't know if you guys have experienced this, but this
really ticked me off because I was like, what, this
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is not my truth? And that was in a way
of kind of telling me that no matter what I say,
they're not gonna believe me because I'm only bringing half
of the truth, which I knew that wasn't what the
situation really was. And I knew that everything that I
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had stated was in the exact order of which it happened.
Everything that I had repeated was exactly what was said.
And so when that happened, that was a way to
minimize my feelings and made me feel as if I'm
only telling a version of something and that there is
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a truer version out there, which is crazy to me.
And so when I had this experience, I took my
feelings right, and I sat down with myself very quietly,
and I'm gonna tell you guys, there is something dope
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and very peaceful and relaxing, about withdrawing yourself from foolishness,
protecting yourself because at this point, I'm taking hits for
standing where I was standing. Right. If I'm standing on
the truth, and these individuals do not want this truth
exposed and they don't want to take accountability for what
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they did, then I am a moving target at that point.
And that moving target is of that verbal clashing and
that verbal abuse of you're lying, you're wrong, you're this,
you're that. And so I withdrew myself and I sat
quietly for a long time, and when I tell you, guys,
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I was hurt and devastated because I'm like, this is
not healthy and this is not reality what the pictures
are that they're trying to paint. And so what I
did was I sat with myself and I started to
think through what the truth really was. And at first,
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I'm telling you guys, I wish it wasn't true. But
at first I really did beat myself down a little bit.
I think only because initially I was still engaging, still
trying to defend myself, still trying to, you know, constantly
repeat what the truth really was. And because of that
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also I found that I was in some ways seeking
their acceptance. And when you think that people have cared
for you, or if you think that people have loved you,
that's usually what you can expect. You would think, I've
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been around you guys for so long, and we say
to ourselves, we've been in these circles for so long
that there has to be some love there. And I
think that's the most hurtful part is the more you
try to defend yourself, the more you say what the
truth really is, and the worst it gets that acknowledgement,
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I guess you can say, or that reality of the
fact that they're not budging on their stances and they're
not budging on the things that they're putting out there,
that's not healthy, not true. Then it's hurtful. And so initially,
before I rederew myself and got quiet and think things through,
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I was just like really, and I started to feel
a ways about myself, which is exactly how they wanted
me to feel. And that's right there. I want to
stay there for a second. Is usually when you are
someone who's trying to work out something with a person
and they want you to continuously feel as if they
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are right they don't want to acknowledge your feelings and emotions,
and in some instances, because misery truly does love company,
they don't want to see you grow. Then in that situation,
there you will start to feel down about yourself because
that is the goal. And when we start to understand
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that that's what that is, when we start to understand
that all of those hits are coming because people want
to keep things as they are. When we know that
things can be better, when we know that we can
treat one another better, when we know that we can
do better, but people don't want to, then they will
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say what they need to and do what they need
to to keep you coming just as they need you to.
And a lot of the times that means I don't
want you to call me out. I don't want you
to say anything about what happened in the past, even
though these things are true. I don't want you to
acknowledge that I hurt you anyway, because that's not what
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I do, because my ego is too high to admit
that I've done anything wrong to you. And then also
accept the way that I want to love you, even
though you may need a little bit more so when
you're acknowledging your feelings right, and you're sitting down with yourself,
you become more I guess you can say, in tuned
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with how you really feel. And when you withdraw yourself
from these situations, you begin to realize and you latch
on to what it is your standards really are, what
the truth really is. Because if you don't back out right,
if you don't get quiet sometime, if you don't stop
defending yourself against the same lies being told over and
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over and over again, and the same I guess you
could say accusations too, that will come with that that's
being told to you over and over again, then you
begin to believe something different and your true feelings and
emotions begin to become murky, and then you're not understanding
it because then also, oh, you're not being given the
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permission to feel, and you have that permission because they're
your feelings. I don't respect anybody who tries to tell
someone else that they can't feel anything, but yet they
can walk around with all the feelings that they want.
It's odd to me, and these same individuals will want
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you to apologize with a quickness and will tell everybody
else they're wrong, But do not want to be told
they're wrong themselves. I hate that, and so you do
have permission to feel. And what I'm encouraging you guys
to do is to make sure that what you're feeling
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you begin to understand. And that goes back to a
scripture in all you're getting get understanding, understand why it
is you feel how you feel, and then the next
step is what's a reasonable solution for this? Now. In
my case, both times I went to individuals and stated
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how I really felt, and neither time was those feelings
ever acknowledged. Was there any accountability for that treatment. And
even with initial offenses, I'm telling there are some things
that has happened in my past that I looked past,
moved on, but then it came back full circle years later.
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Because you're thinking people are over themselves, You're thinking that
this is no longer an issue between us, and then
you find out it's still an issue, and it's still
an issue, not because you didn't talk about it or
address it, but it's an issue because they never even
admitted it themselves ever, So you bring it up. I
brought things up even from times past that I worked
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out for myself that wasn't even a hold on me,
but now it's showing up again. So now we really
need to talk about it, because I'm not going to
keep going in this circle over and over again. Because
there becomes a time where everyone deserves to feel safe
in a safe space, to share in a safe space,
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to be yourself in a safe space, to feel in
a safe space, to care. And there is something happening
even in society right now that the word care is
becoming such a far distant thing. And I have learned
dealing with a lot of situations myself, that there are
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so many people who only want you to care about
them when they are doing well, which is odd to me.
I'm one of those people that I care about people
even when they're in a bad position, or something isn't
going right for them, or they may not be doing
the best things for themselves, so I care. But I
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find it strange that in society today, amongst a lot
of people, everyone's defaulting to this always going out and
hanging out, always together, never talking, never feeling, and let's
only share the good things or the things we perceive
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that's good amongst us, and let's not share anything else.
And this is the reason why so many people are
running to get therapy. It's too odd. And I had
something that was really pressing upon me in recent years.
It was an open situation with something that happened years ago,
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but it was really impressed upon me because that situation
came back kind of blew up in my face a
little bit, and I remember speaking with someone about it,
and their reaction to it was just like, oh, well,
you need to just forget about that, and you know,
it was like and I'm like, whoa, you completely missed
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how much this is hurting me. So I started to
keep even more in for myself and I just took
more time to talk to the people that I could
talk to. And when I found myself, as I say,
kind of going off the deep end, which means your
emotions are all flared up and you want to keep arguing
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with people, and you want to keep trying to defend
yourself and all these things. When I felt myself there,
I would talk to people who could give me reasonable solutions.
And these were not therapists, thank god, because what's the
purpose of all of my relationships if I can't talk
to one person in them? That's crazy work to me. Now,
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don't get me wrong, there is a place for therapy,
but my situation and what I'm feeling right now that's
going on with society is even in that people are
not being encouraged to have healthy situations. Now, maybe in therapy,
these therapists are saying, well, hey, if you're having this problem,
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go talk to this person. Do this, do that. Maybe
there are some steps being taken. I don't know, because
lately I'm just hearing a lot of people saying, Oh,
I just go to therapy to talk. But it's like,
what are you doing after that? Are you applying anything?
Are you learning anything? Are you applying what you learn?
And if you're applying what you learn, is it working?
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Because there can be some solutions that's given, But once again,
when you're dealing with people who don't care about your
feelings and emotions, when you get people who don't want
you to stand on anything and don't want you to
have any standards, those solutions may not necessarily work. So also,
people are not leaving room for healthy people in their lives,
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and they begin to go in these same circles for
so long, and they get comfortable there because it's what
they know and I find it odd, and I've been
here before in certain situations where things have been upside
down for so long, things have been going not so
well for so long that they're afraid of when it
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starts to go well. They're afraid when they have healthy
people who actually listen to them and care about their feelings,
because it's too weird, you know, because they're so used
to dealing with people who don't. They're so used to
being ignored, they're so used to having them to sweep
their feelings under the rug. And that is not where
we want to be. And I can tell you, guys,
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over the period of time of keeping to myself, I
have and I can honestly say it, I feel it
even now. Is I have come to such a higher
understanding of where I stand. And because I have come
to that by taking some time out for myself, allowing
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myself to work through these feelings, emotions and truths and
not necessarily my truth, allowing myself to go through that,
it equips you and helps you to gather yourself so
that way, when these things are constantly thrown at you,
you can stand on what you need to stand on.
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And that's still a thing. So I go back to
a few scriptures I've heard, and one I can remember
very clearly. I don't remember the address, but as they say,
I don't remember the book, but in the Bible where
it is discussed putting on the whole armor of God,
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so that way you can stand in the day where
the devil is throwing whatever can be thrown to take
you down, and putting on that whole armor consists of
many things. That is, you know, having the Word, having
your salvation, having the sword or the spirit, which is
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the word and what is it? Also having righteousness, which
means that when these accusations come at you, God can
shield you because God sees that you have really done
what you've needed to do to stay as far away
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from sin and committing certain things in your life that
isn't good for you, right, and then taking up your
faith and understanding that regardless of how it looks, God
takes care. So there are many things, and you guys,
don't beat me up because I'm trying to remember all
of them. But basically what I'm getting to is what's
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so interesting to me is that, yeah, a lot of
the times people outside of the military thinks that there
is nothing in life that we need to be prepared for,
which is strange to me, or nothing in life that
we need to be guarded against other than a maybe
there's an outside enemy somewhere. Oh, we get you know,
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security systems to protect our homes because in our house
either a we're in there, because with security systems you
can secure it if you're at home, or if you're gone,
or you know, whatever location you want to secure. But
at the end of the day, though your heart, which
there is another scripture for set for that that says
guard your heart with all diligence. So there is a
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guarding of yourself that you need to do. There is
a guarding of your peace. There is a guarding of
your feelings, your emotions, your spirituality. There is a guarding
of your mental health that you need to do. And
it's very unfortunate that people that we can so around
ourselves with, who quote unquote want to hang out and
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come around and talk all the time, are not really
considering that they should guard you as well. And you
should be guarding others. When we are around one another,
we are in each other's care. That's how it should
be seen, that's how it should be received. So when
people are coming around me, I have and always been
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that type of person, but I'm even more aware of
it today. Is how am I treating people? Am I
concerned about that person? Do I want to see that
person succeed? Am I treating them well in my care?
That's important? And so we need to be that for
ourselves first of all, and then we need to be
that for others. And unfortunately in family situations, in some
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relationships where it comes down to spouses, people are forgetting that.
They're forgetting to be prepared, They're forgetting to protect, They're
forgetting to be guarded. And we're just supposed to trust
everyone that we're around simply because we were born into
this family. Oh, simply because we made this commitment. We
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just trusted. No, it's work, and we need to be
willing to do the work. And I noticed this with
a lot of spouses too. This is a huge problem.
And I talked about this in my last podcast, which
was Love Versus Valentine's Day, and you guys should definitely
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check that out. But I would bring up something I
touched on briefly here in that particular podcast, was how
I'm seeing a lot of celebrities especially, and celebrity culture
is something that unfortunately a lot of people follow. You
have these celebrities promoting these books and they're putting things
out here, and people follow this because celebrity culture is
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the rich culture, and I want to be more like them,
so I want to do what the rich people do,
and it just becomes something where they're influencing others who
are watching them. And so I've noticed that amongst a
lot of couples who are breaking up, divorcing, whatever the
case may be, they still go, well, we're still each
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other's best friends, and we still love each other so deeply,
but we're not together now. In that particular podcast, Love
Versus Valentine's Day, I did state that there are some
deal breakers where you can still be deeply in love
the person, you can still want to be their friend,
but there may be a habit that they have or
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something that they're going through that just causes that relationship
to not be able to stand in that time. And
I understand that, but in a lot of these instances,
I question whether the love is really there and if
you can really be best friends, it still need to divorce.
Outside those, you know, situations, and circumstances where there are
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deal breakers like drugs, gambling, you know, different things that
causes a house to have friction, and if those things
wasn't an issue, they would still be together. But in
a lot of these instances where these celebrities are not
really talking about and they don't have to, but I'm saying,
they feel the need to make these public statements and
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it's simply, oh, well, we're still each other's best friends,
we love each other so deeply, but we can't be together.
We're divorced and we're breaking up, and it's like, really,
why you know? And maybe that's their version of protecting
each other. I don't know, but I just feel like
more of these things need to be discussed and the
realities need to be put out here so that people
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are not following this stuff and thinking that this is
really how it's supposed to go down. Because love is apologetic,
love is sympathetic, Love is willing to do what it
takes to stay in it. And that's on every role,
in everybody's part. We need to be constantly making adjustments,
we need to constantly be hearing each other out. And yes,
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across the board, I've been wrong you guys listening in.
You've been wrong, but you've also been right. I've been right,
and I'm not really appreciating these relationships that I'm in
where I'm always wrong because I know I'm not, and
neither are you, and neither are the ones accusing us
of always being wrong. They're not always wrong, but the
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problem is they are wrong when they don't want to listen,
where they don't want to acknowledge, and they don't want
to take any accountability for the things they're saying and doing.
It's an issue, and so in these situations and circumstances
forgetting your feelings, it's not the best thing. At least
take some time to understand why you are where you are,
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then gain some solutions. And if you are feeling the
need to constantly defend yourself, you are being wronged. You
do feel like there are some changes that need to
be made, and you've brought those up a couple of
times and they're not being acknowledged, then it may be
best to get out of that situation and open the
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door for healthier relationships. Seriously, and so in my next
podcast coming up, I am going to stay on this topic.
But we're gonna go into it with politics too. That's
another great example that I'm feeling right now. It's a
lot going on, you guys, but politically with the far
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left and their issues with Trump, I am under the
serious indication that there are people in higher positions. Of course,
it's always been like this, but it's even more clear
to me today that there are people in these positions
who really don't want to see others do well. You'll
be amazed at how people will get in these positions
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and they want to be the only ones there. And
I have no doubt in my mind that with the
far left, they really have wanted the American people to
continue to stay at the working class levels of simply
struggling to pay bills, struggling to afford groceries, struggling to
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afford housing, but continuing to come through our income so
they can get as much money out of us as
they can to put that money wherever they've been putting it.
It's very interesting, and you guys better bet your bottom
dollar that the money that they've been spending on everyone
but Americans, some of that money's been going into somebody
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else's pockets and has not been going where it should
be going. I knew this from Jump Street, which is
the reason I voted the way I did, But it's
kind of similar because the working class Americans have been
crying out for a long time. And I really do
hope that this current administration really starts to dig into
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this medical situation as well, because there are people with
some serious issues and it's getting worse because of these
medical practices. The medical bills are insane. It's just it's
a lot going on and with America as a country
within itself. And I bring this up because I'm going
to give you, guys, you know, some examples and some
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different variations and not just keeping on just simply relationships.
But how overall, when there are people who don't want
to admit that things are going wrong, how it can
affect us long term. Watching what's happening in America is
a prime example of that. It really is. And so
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right now with the far left and the administration, there
is a war going on because the far left does
not want these changes. And we've sat around for way
too long crying out. The American people have been crying
out over these issues and feeling like we're not getting
a hit because we haven't been because we're constantly being
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punished for the decision making of the party who decides
that they want to give their money to everybody else
and have all of these outside whatever you want to
call it, organizations whatever, that they're supporting, and we're supposed
to be the ones to back that up. But no
one really asked us. But they asked during the election
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cycle twenty twenty four and we told them what we thought,
you know. And so I want to use these things
as an example because I really feel like the forget
your feelings and you know, this virtue signaling that's going
on is happening in politics as well, and really quick example,
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and I talked about this when it came down to
the migrants in a previous podcast, and how the far
left is saying, oh, well, you're evil and you're mean
and you're terrible if you don't want these migrants in
the country. But see anyone with any logical sense we
know that that's not what's being said. But that's the
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manipulation part. And that's usually how people come in and
try to affect your emotions is by taking it way
beyond where you actually meant it to be at So
None of us are saying we don't want migrants in
the country of America. No one's saying that. But they're saying, oh, well,
you guys are terrible because you don't want them in
the country. Nope, that's not what's being said. What we're
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saying is we don't want migrants coming into this country
by the thousands at this point, hundreds of thousands at
this point illegally. And not only are they coming here illegally,
at one point it was reported they're getting three thousand
dollar visa cards when they come in here so they
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can have some money to spend. They're getting free hotels,
free room and board. They're shutting down schools in places
like New York where people cannot send their kids to
school for several days and they have to stay home
from work, which means they're missing money because migrants are
staying in the schools. Then you had in Chicago the
police departments where migrants are staying in the police departments
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now in front of the police departments, sleeping in bags
and all of these things. They're bringing out food and
all this stuff, which costs money. And because they're over
here without proper resources, they're over here without going through
the proper channels. Now we have to take up that slack.
Now our economy is suffering because money that should be
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allotted to keep America well is going somewhere else. That's crazy.
But because we're saying that, it's being thrown into other narratives.
But no one's saying we don't want migrants here. No
one's saying that. But what we want is for things
to be done appropriately and indecency and in order so
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that we really can be a thriving country of which
we have not been in so long. And there are
countries right now that these people have been running from
to come over into our border, but yet their borders
well protected where they're from. You will not be able
to cross over there as an American in any of
these countries these people have come from and be there legally,
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they will either arrest you, not let you in, or
ship your butt back. And that's in the countries these
people are quote unquote escaping from. So even in the
political situation and political games, guys, we can't allow people
to play upon our emotions. As someone who voted for
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Trump myself, they can't do it with me because I
sat down long enough. Number one. I watched all the debates.
I watched Trump debate Biden. I watched Trump debate Harris,
and I watched as many interviews as I could stand
of Harris can stand her. I hope she's well, But chick,
you couldn't be my president. I'm sorry, not for me.
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And I was praying so hard that the Lord didn't
dislike me so much that he would make Kamala the
president of the United States. Seriously, so even in that
because I was able to think through this, I watched
what was going on. I listened to the interviews, I
listened to the podcast with Trump, I watched Kamala in
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her town hall meetings and all of these other things.
And I made a decision based on what I knew
as an American. And then you gotta you have to
judge by who you are in America. So people are
going based on gender, based on rais, based on working class.
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You know, people are weighing these things for so many
different reasons. And there was one thing that I really
wanted Trump to work on that I knew he stood for,
that he worked on the moment he got into office,
and that was going back to where it should have
been that there are only two genders in America, in
the world. You see what I'm saying. Why are we
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debating these things? This is nuts At this point, the
entire we're not able to explain what a woman is.
It's crazy. The entire a man can have a baby
is so wild. And once again, this is going back
to plan on your feelings and your emotions, and not
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only that, plan on your mental state. We had to
fight to come out of something that's mentally unhealthy. This
shouldn't even be an argument or a debate. We know
that there are only two genders in the humankind as
well as the animals that are across the board male female, female,
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reproductive system male. You know they have their roles. Everyone
has a part. But let's stick to what those parts
really are and not continuous continuously gaslight. And I wouldn't
even say trying to reinvent the wheel, but trying to
break the wheel altogether, which is another emotional play on people.
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And you will be amazed at how many parents were
struggling with this. Can you imagine having been a parent
in America having to explain this stuff to a child.
Because the far left is saying we're making room for transgenders.
We want them to start young, so we're gonna start
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teaching this in school. And now we have cross dressers
or drag queens or transgender sitting down reading a book
to a kid. And these people don't even really look
human in the sense of just dressing appropriately for a kid,
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dressing appropriately as an adult who's getting ready to sit
before innocent minds. Since when? And I knew I had
it out and I was really bugged out when I
saw a mother this is on a video. I haven't
even looked for it. I'm scared to even look for
it because it just really tripped me up so badly.
But this mother doing I want to say during the
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I guess you can say LBGTQ month, whatever you want
to call it, PRID month, whatever they call it. She
took her kid and she allowed her kid to stuff
the phone of a transgender with money. And I'm like, what,
And this kid had to maybe if maybe be six
years old, maybe if that, And I'm like, this is
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what you guys are doing? No, And that does cause
an emotional response, and it does make you feel a ways,
And I started to personally feel like am I losing
my marbles here. I just refuse to argue with people
over this, and I stood where I stood on that. Now,
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if outside of what Trump has declared in his administration,
people still want to do their own thing, that's on them.
But let's stop trying to make foolishness laws. That's where
I stand on that. But it is a whole thing.
So now we have to be mindful on this on
multiple fronts, not just spouses, families, but also at work
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also when it comes down to politics and community. We
have to be on point with these things. We have
to mentally, physically understand where we stand, and we have
to put some standards in place, and we have to
be guarded against these things so mentally we can be
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fit to be the best that we can be to
our community, to family, to society, to our jobs, to
our spouse. Because at the end of the day, every
last one of us, as we are working, as we
are making decisions, we are playing a vital role in
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someone's life, and we are playing a role in our communities.
Every day we step out the door, we are an
impact to someone somewhere. So do not be afraid to
feel do not let anyone stop you from feeling, but
understand your feeling and become stronger and more powerful in
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that and make decisions and do not feel bad when
you leave toxic people and situations behind and leave room
for healthy people. That's where I have for you guys
right now. I know I done went somewhere today, but
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I hope that this helped you, guys, and I hope
that this could give you and shine a light on
these feelings and emotions that we have, and that you've
gotten some encouragement for me, and listen, be sure to
weigh your situation and circumstances and gain an understanding for yourself.
That is the most important thing. I'm just giving you
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a little titbit of what I've have and listen. If
you have any comments, feel free to click the link
in the description of any of the platforms that you're
listening to this podcast on and leave me a comment.
I'd be happy to hear from you. Remember to leave
your comments classy and professional, because that's all we do
over here. And you, guys. Definitely look forward to my
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next podcast dropping. I will be talking about politics next.
We're going to talk about some things for sure. Until
next time, Chat soon.
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