February 9, 2024 • 56 mins
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News for the Soul begins. It'stwenty seventh year in January twenty twenty four.
Find out our latest news at newsforthsouldot com and great for the day
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show intros missing all of them.So next up it's Conscious Parenting with Sandra
and family. Let's bring them onto reintroduce they're so themselves and what's up
for today. Welcome back, guys, Thank you so much, Nicole,
and happy February. Already the yearis flying by, so I want to
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welcome you Conscious Parenting Show. I'mSandra Jones Keller, conscious parenting coach and
author. Joining me today are myhusband Thomas and our eighteen year old daughter
Mecca. Say hello guys, Hello, Hi, So we're broadcasting live on
News for the Soul Radio. Emailyour questions to on the air at Telus
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dot net or call in to sixfour six five nine five four two seven
four. Maybe you have questions aboutdiscipline, or bedtime or tantrums, whatever
is on your mind. Will doour very best to answer it. And
today we're going to be discussing lessonstwelve Beliefs for my twenty one Lessons to
Empower the New Age Kid workbook.Follow along if you have the workbook,
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and if you don't, this awesomefamily resource can be purchased on Amazon.
That's twenty one lessons to empower theNew Age kids. You know. I
love this workbook because it's easy touse and teaches your kids' life skills that
extend and beyond the classroom. Allright, so we're actually just gonna jump
right into it. Go ahead andemail your questions to on the air at
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Telus dot net or call into sixfour six five ninety five four two seven
four. We'll be here for thenext hour to answer your questions. All
right, So, Thomas, Yes, what is the belief? A belief
is something that you accept is trueor think exist. It could be a
statement, an idea of principle,or a thing it is trust, faith
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and confidence in someone or something.So like, what are some of the
things that you believe? And Ibelief it's proven or unproven because it's something
that is true for us. Soa couple of things that I believe are
I believe that people are fundamentally good, and I believe I have a divine
purpose here on earth. What area couple of things that you believe?
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That's very interesting? I believe thatpeople are fundamentally good as well, and
given an opportunity, they certainly theywill do good and help other people.
What else? I believe that Idefinitely have a destiny to feel as I'm
walking this path of life, andI almost almost predetermined by my higher self
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thinks, so pre determined. That'san interesting way to play. Yes,
you know. So we're talking aboutthis because beliefs are just critical to everything.
So do you believe life is hard, money doesn't grow on trees,
or you'll never have friends or acethat test? And we're talking about this
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because your beliefs actually project out intothe world and they're mirrored back to you.
So, Thomas, why is itimportant to look at your belief Well,
it's the most essential thing to lookat our thoughts and our thoughts combined
together to make beliefs. So whatwe believe creates our life, our experiences,
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everything, What you truly believe isbeing mirrored or reflected back to you
from the world, from the peopleclosest to you in your life. Your
life is an accumulation of your beliefs. So do your beliefs support the life
you want to live? I lovethis question as the kids, It's like,
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do you do you believe support thelife you wantn't live? And most
people never think about that, andso like, how would you know?
Well, you may wonder, well, if you look around, are you
happy and fulfilled? People enjoy filled? Or stressed and unhappy? Friendless or
lonely? Remember the quality and quantentof content of your life is reflected back
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to you through your life experiences.Oftentimes you are unconscious, that is,
not aware of thoughts that affect youractions and behaviors. Oftentimes you are unconscious
about your beliefs. Once you identifyand take responsibility for what you truly believe,
you take responsibility for your Some beliefsare easy to change. Maybe you
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think you don't like Brussels sprouts,then you taste them again and love them.
Or like, maybe you taste themfour or five times, I still
don't like them. Some beliefs arehidden and difficult to uncover. So in
the workbook, each lesson actually hasan exercise. So the exercise is I
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invite you parents, kids watching theaudience. I invite you to identify a
belief that doesn't suffers. I wantyou to be scientific. I want you
to examine it. And go beyondsurface and now responses. If you feel
stuck, look into your life andfind something that causes you stress or discomfort
to begin uncovering an unsupportive belief.And better yet, if you're willing,
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we'd love for you to call inor email in and share a belief you've
discovered that doesn't support you. Yes, and let us know if you were
surprised by what came up, andwe will helpful, hopefully helpful you change
that and transform it so you're free. And so we're broadcasting live on news
for the Soul Radio. Email yourquestions to on the air at Telus dot
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net or call into six four sixfive four Q seven four. So you
may be wondering, what do youbelieve have to do with conscious parenting?
Plea you think comments, Oh mygod, if I'm a parent, which
I am, and they have everythingto do with conscious parenting. I know
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that you and I, before ourdaughter was even born, talked about the
importance of not laying our subconscious beliefslimiting beliefs onto our daughter as she grew
up. She's now eighteen years old, because we will create fears, we
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will come at her from a beliefof fear that will cause that opportunity of
fear to incur in her life ifwe're not mindful of it. Plus,
we believe that she's a synthient beanand that she has her own life path
to walk, So that you'll keepour limited beliefs out of her face,
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the more freedom she'll have to fulfillher life purpose. Yes. One thing
I've seen like over the years ismaybe I'm talking to a mom and I
noticed that they talk a lot aboutbeing anxious. Oh my gosh, I
got anxiety. I'm so anxious aboutthis. And then as their kid gets
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older, what happens. The kidstarts talking about being anxious and anxiety and
they're taking this as oh, there'ssomething wrong with my kid, or this
is just a natural progression without realizingthat they are anxious. They have a
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belief in anxiety, and now theirkids is projecting that back to them.
And so as a parent, Iwant to deal with my fears. My
example of exactly what you're saying,we're going to cut right to the chick.
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I love this program because I don'tlook until a day or two before
the program what the topic's going tobe. Because I want to see what
my higher self has been delivering overthe past few days. It's had the
memory actually this morning about when Iaccuse my daughter of being a minimalist in
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this way. I think it wasin the kitchen and I saw our washing
dishes or something, and I said, you do them just the minimum to
get by. That's what I nowbe very clear. That is all my
projection. What she was doing.Is this just what she was doing?
I put the meaning on it.What was done? Washington dish, Yeah,
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just something like that, Washington minimumamount of dishes. But my projection
was that she was just doing enoughto buy And that was months ago.
I said that to her, butit's always stuck in the back of my
mind. Why did I say that? And today it just came up.
Since everything is a mirror reflection ofour own personal consciousness, I said that
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to her because I'm the one thathad been doing the minimum to get by.
And so today I looked at mylife and I started identifying a number
of different areas where I done theminimum to get by, and I saw
it as being a little too pervasivefor me to like it. And but
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the beauty of uncovering these limiting beliefsor using the mirror is that we then
know just to forgive that energy inourselves, and then that whole energy will
dissipate. We won't see it inour children anymore, and we'll be free.
We'll be free, they'll be freein the whole world's a happier place.
Okay, So, Mecca, Ihave a question for you, because
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last night, I remember you usedthe words minimalist again, and I had
always used that term in relationship tothings like people, Like a minimalist house
would be you walk in and maybethey have a sofa, a chair,
and a table like and nothing else, so just very minimal. Or you're
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an artist, and so a minimalistpainting would be something that's very farse.
I would think it's a circle ona page. Or do you remember Daddy
called asking you if you were aminimalist or are actually accusing you of being
a minimalist? A couple of what'dyou say? Months ago or weeks ago,
maybe even a year ago? Notreally, but like I could see
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that happening, but I don't rememberthe exact interaction. I don't want to
know more. I don't want anymore problem from that, what do you
mean, you can see that happening, but you accuse me yourself all the
time, like where did this thinggo? I know a good one,
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that couch, that's a good one. And so when he asked you that,
so I know you were saying thatyou don't remember, But how were
you offended by a minimalists or you'rejust willing to do the bare amount of
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something. I wasn't offended, likeI was washing issues apparently, So I'm
just doing what I was doing,and I'm saying, it's not about what
the other person's doing, It's aboutwhat I projected the meaning onto what they
were doing. It's part of myconsciousness, not necessarily her consciousness. And
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it's my consciousness that needs cleaning upon that issue, not another person's consciousness.
And what I love is because Meccadidn't have any guilt about it or
was not concerted, But she wasnot even disturbed by your comment because your
comment had nothing to do with her. Okay, So we're talking about mirroring
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a projection, and you actually havea book called The Mirror I Do,
which is about mirroring in projection.So why didn't you just say a little
bit about your book or really gointo more details. What mirror and projection
is my book entitled The Mirror,which is available Banana, Amazon, d
Mayor Twist is a relation of toegypt studying Egyptianism's this one technique to where
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I see everybody in my little world, my wife, my children, my
child, my closest friends, asa reflection of my own consciousness, each
one of them. Some of thethings they say or do, I'm gonna
like, and that's fine. That'sa reflection of my consciousness. Some of
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the things they're gonna say and doI don't like, and that also is
a reflection of my consciousness. Soif I'm disturbed by what a friend or
my daughter or my wife is doing, it's my consciousness that is disturbed.
And that's where I need to goin and do myself forgiveness so that that
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energy will dissipate and then we'll allbe free and I have more energy to
live life and enjoy free absolutely,because this really is about freedom. And
so when you think of conscious parenting, conscious parenting is freedom for you,
and it's freedom for your kids.Because when i'm or if I'm parenting from
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a certain belief that may or maynot even be true. I'm going to
be a certain way with my daughter, Mecha. How do people reach us?
Can email your questions to on theair at Telus dot net or Colin
at six four six five nine fivefour two seven four. Okay, And
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since you're already talking, Mecca,so the topic is belief so I want
you to share a little bit aboutbeliefs and how that impacts your li For
example, you just apply to college, and from what I hear, you
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know, a lot of kids appliedto I don't know, at least five
colleges. I've heard someone that appliedto twenty six colleges. So how many
colleges did you apply to? Two? Okay? And why did you only
apply to two colleges? Well,I had I had a whole bunch of
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colleges on all this, and thenI narrowed them down based on what I
was looking for and the region.And then we went on to college for
and then I narrowed it down evenmore because I got to, you know,
actually experience being on the campuses.And so it was in the end
just two colleges that I really likedand to like actually see myself go to.
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And one had like a thirty percentof seven straight, which is,
you know, the one I gotinto, and then the other one had
is like eighty straight. So Iapplied to both of them, and I
didn't submit test scores, which islike, you know, a big thing
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into getting into colleges, but Ididn't submit test scores, so I was
running on full just belief in myselfthat I could get in even though I
didn't submit test scores and I wroteessays, we filled out all the form
so really I just believed in myself. So I was like, I want
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to lose blown up, and Iwant to go to a good college that's
like still close by but not toofar away. So it was so and
I loved that. Well I sharedthat you'd only applied to two colleges.
I got some feedback from people like, well, basically, is she crazy?
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You know why only two colleges?But what I saw in you was
a very clear intention and a veryclear belief in yourself that you could attend
the college of your choice, andyou actually were accepted into both colleges.
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And so that's what we're talking about. Parents, We're talking about a belief,
and so we instill a certain levelof confidence and courage in our kids.
And then we need to step backbecause your process to us looked a
little crazy. You know, whenwe asked you what you liked about the
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school in Virginia, you said thearchitecture, and we're thinking, Okay,
this kid is selecting a school basedon architecture, and it turns out it
has everything that you wanted. Andso when you talk about belief, it's
like you believed in yourself. Webelieved in you, and then we had
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to step back and trust your processbecause it turned out that you selected the
best school we feel for you.Yeah, let me just chime in here.
Okay. When I started, whenwe started this process last early summer
of her junior year, of ourdaughter going through her selection process, I
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immediately wanted to jump in because Ididn't see the criteria I was looking for
it. But I made myself stayout of it. I made myself trust
her, her higher self had thishandled, and I did that. I
stayed out of it in that way, and I watched her narrow it down
to these two colleges, and onewas, in my opinion, just a
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general college that accepts pretty much everybody, and the other one is a very
high academic college that accepts very lowpercentage, and she got accepted by both
colleges. Yes, and I wasblown away by how well she and her
higher self had this whole thing handled. Because her interest or criteria was the
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clubs and the architecture, nothing aboutacademics. But she is chosen and ended
up going to the college highly competitiveacademically academically. It is awesome and it
just blew my mind to be ableto stand back and encourage her and watch
her work this all out, andit's a great life lesson. Okay,
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we have some questions, Truty fromIllinois. I have wanted to commit to
homeschooling my seven and nine year olds, but a belief that they'll be lacking
or missing something important if I takethem out of mainstream school blocks me from
taking action. Any help would begreat, as I've been going back and
forth on this for almost a year. Okay, this is a fabulous question,
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Truty, and I'm going to startwith Mecca answering this question. Mecca
is eighteen and has been homeschooled forher entire life. So, Mecca,
did you hear the question of alreadywanting to homeschool for seven and nine year
olds, but shields will be lackingor missing something. So what is your
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take on homeschooling? Personally? Ilike homeschooling. It's why I never went
to public school. She concerned,Well, I know she didn't say,
but like, usually if they're concernedabout the social aspect, so I'd say
there's a lot of co ops,there's a lot of online classes, there's
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a lot of homeschool groups. So'syou're concerned about the social aspects, your
kid will be fine because homeschoolers veryfriendly, Like I know that the stereotypes
that they're not, homeschools are reallyfriendly and open to meeting news people and
having a bunch of friends. Soyour kids are gonna definitely make friends if
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you find a homeschool group that worksfor you. And so, do you
feel like you missed out by notgoing to a public or private school like
a brick and mortar. No,It's like I don't like being on a
lot of people anyway, So forme, I don't feel like I missed
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out. And like I don't likeclub sports, so I don't need that
sort of social interaction. I don'tknow, I don't feel like I missed
out, and there's still like,you know, like a homeschool dance.
So even if your kid can't goto like a prom the school, there's
still dances and like I'm going toyou know, the graduation, So there's
still a lot of things to do. Thank you Mecca and Truity from Illinois.
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What I would say is, youknow, Thomas and I decided to
homeschool actually even before, like Iwas pregnate, and it was just one
of those conversations we had. SoI'm sure Mecca channeled that to us before
she came through I'm not coming throughsomething like that. And so our homeschooling
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started from a conversation that said,oh, okay, if we ever have
a child, we're going to homeschool. And so when it was time for
Mecca to start school, it wasn'teven a question. It was something that
we had committed to. I hadnever homeschooled before. I didn't know how
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to do it, but I hada belief and of faith in myself and
in my family that this was theright choice for us and that I could
work it out. And so alongthe way I got creative. I met
people, and what's funny is thatanytime I started having any doubts about what
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I was creating for or how shewas doing, I would hear a story
or I would get confirmation from outsidethat I was definitely on track and that
she was fine. So, youknow, I'm a huge proponent of homeschooling
because you know, we created aeducation for her, or her education was
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based around her interests. It wasbased around critical thinking, personal responsibility,
self awareness, and time management.And so she's been doing her homework and
creating her own schedule since she wasprobably in middle school. So she has
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these skills that, you know,what we feel are going to take her
through college and be very prepared.So when you talk about homeschooling, I
just see there are so many advantagesbecause she's getting one on one attention from
you or from the co op whereshe's not spending she wasn't spending time in
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a classroom where there may be learningfor fifteen minutes and then the teacher is
managing a lot of other stuff.So it's one on one, it's very
personalized, and it's very experiential.So that's what I have to say to
Truty from Illinois. Would you haveto say, Thomas and I would say,
Truty that every year we have askedour daughter if she wanted to go
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to a school, and she choseto be homeschooled. And I will say,
just from my own personal observation,there is a lot of support for
homeschoolers, a lot of clubs organizations. There are a lot of teachers who
drop out of the public and privateschool system because they're unhappy with the situation
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and become homeschool parents, and there'sand become homeschool tea as parents is absolutely
amazing. And then what was thefinal thing I wanted to say, Well,
I don't remember, but I thinkyou'll do great at it, Truty,
And you can always give you thekids the option after they've done it
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a year or two or whatever youguys agree on, because I have noticed
in homeschoolers, just another observation isthey are more diversified in how they dress,
in how they present themselves. Itseems like most of the high schoolers
all are kind of stamped out asa stereotype. But that's just an observation
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of my I saw. I'm sayingthat to say there may be more freedom
in homeschooling for your child to betheir unique self and just one final thing,
Trudy, we have been on morefield trips then the law allows,
you know, in terms of homeschooling, and they changed as she got older,
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but we would go to the children'smuseums, the Natural History Museum,
the science museum, like the organizationsin most towns have homeschool days. Some
of it's like monthly, some ofit maybe quarterly, and so you can
get a discount and or free,you know. So we've gone to a
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lot of different venues that she maynot have been able to experience because we
were homeschoolers and because we got adiscount or free. My book, Tips
and Trips of Parenting a New AgeKid kind of chronicles our journey of homeschooling.
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Each of the sections starts with ahomeschool section Truties. That's Tips and
Trips of Parenting and New Age Kids, and that's available on Amazon. Thank
you so much, Trudy for yourquestion. You want to read the next
book, Yes, Lisa in Boston, I would really like to change one
of them. My core beliefs thatbeing a single parent is so difficult as
I seem to create that each dayand it is exhausting. Do either of
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you deal with that? I don'tthink any of us deal with that particular
belief, but I can speak formyself. I've certainly had other limiting beliefs
that have been exhausting going on foryears and years. So what would you
like to say? So we arenot single parents because we've been fortunate enough
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to be on this journey together.So we are very grateful for that beliefs
in Boston. That does not changethe facts that our beliefs create our experience.
And so if you believe something isgoing to be difficult or is so
difficult, then you're sending that energyout into the universe, and the universe
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says, Okay, you believe it'sdifficult, then let me bring you difficult.
Because everything thoughts with everything starts withthe thought. The law of mentalism
is the first law in the KabalianEverything starts with a thought. And so
where I would go with this isyou recognize that it's a belief that it's
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so difficult, and so then whatdo you do with that? You start
forgiving it. I use a processcalled which was brought into ancient times by
doctor Hew Limb, and you canlook it up La and doctor limb.
And so it's four simple phrases,I'm sorry, please forgive me, I
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love you, thank you, andit goes in and it starts scribbing and
healing your inner child and looking atand erasing these memories that you have they're
creating. Being a single parent isdifficult, and so I would start with
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the forgiveness work. And then also, you know, like each day,
set an intention to have fun,to enjoy your parenting experience, and let
that intention pull you into fun.Because right now, the intention or the
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belief that this is difficult is what'skind of guiding your life. And so
it's going to take some discipline tostart saying, Okay, I get that,
I believe that I'm going to forgivethat, and I want and I'm
going to create something else. Andso that something else could be parenting is
fun. I've got plenty of support. I you know, I am good
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at this. It's easy. Sowhatever it is that you want to create,
start making those intentions. I rememberthat I had a belief that because
I was a mom, I couldn'thave my own life or I couldn't do
what I wanted, and so thatbelief was a self fulfilling prophecy. Oh,
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I felt like I couldn't start abusiness. I couldn't mind it,
but I couldn't do anything because Ihad this belief. And so once I
was able to identify the belief,forgive the belief, and then start creating
an intention that I can have itall, that's when life started changing and
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I was able to write four books, I was able to start a coaching
business, and I was able tostart, you know, kind of doing
things. But I had to changemy belief. So, Lisa, I
know that's different than being a singleparent, but a belief is a belief,
and our beliefs are creating our lifelike we started from. Yes,
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Lisa, and Lisa, I'd liketo say that in your case, the
belief is being a single parent isso difficult, and yet other people they'll
pick other things to be so difficultto create that it's difficult. So might
I suggest something I'm doing for myselfnow is that I'll observe myself throughout the
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day. In three, four orfive o'clock, I might notice my body
is getting tired or sore or something. Then I used to and used to
wait for my wife to love mebefore I feel better or my daughter.
But then I've been thinking, well, how about if I supply the love
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to myself first and just see whathappens that way. And I've been using
that in the afternoon when I've usedto feel this lull, and I tell
you, it really does work,and I feel so much freer in not
having to wait for somebody else tofeel loved and loving. And so just
start with any little thing like that, that's it, and give that a
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shot. I think it might bevery beneficial. Thank you, Lisa and
Boston. Let's see if we haveany other questions. Okay, mecha?
How do people reach up so theycan email their questions to on the air
at Telus dot net a calling tosix four six five nine five four two
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seventy four. Okay, so we'regonna continue talking about but before I do
so, Thiefs is less than twelvefrom putting my lessons to empower the New
age kids, and so some ofthe benefits of this workbook are your children
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will gain tools to help them regulateand ease stress and anxiety. Topics will
help them recognize their emotions and teachthe power of their thoughts. And this
book tapped into your child's intuitive natureand gives them language for what they already
feel and know intuitively, and that'svery beneficial. The novices and experts can
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easily use. Each lesson has facilitiesthe beginning of the section to assist you.
And this book shows kids how powerfulthey are through their thoughts and words,
provides tools to navigate and succeed inthe world, and it fosters thinking
outside of the box and encourages kidsto think through ideas until they make sense
to them. That swinging one lessonsto empower the New Age Kids, and
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what it really provides is a door, an opening to begin conversations between you
and your child so that you cansee these insights about your child, what
they're seeing, how they're feeling aboutthe world, what their fears are,
what their confidence and love is,and that conversation will evave over the years
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as you continue it. It's reallyquite fascinating and our children are really quite
intelligent. Yeah, and you know, in my other book, Tips and
Trips of Parenting and New Age Kids, I don't have a store beliefs,
but what that book shows is howbeliefs play out. So for example,
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called packets are on cell and soI wanted to take my daughter to get
a brand new coat because they wereon sell at Macy's. And she was
like only seven or eight at thetime, and she clearly told me that
I don't need a new coat,I want boots. I wasn't listening.
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And so as parents, sometimes wefeel like we know best or we have
our own agenda and we're not listeningto our kids. And so how did
that play out? When I havemy own agenda, then I come up
against a power struggle or it feelstressful or difficult because I'm trying to push
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my will onto my daughter and Thomas, how does it still when someone tries
to push their will on you?You know what, I automatically resist it
without even thinking about it because theenergy pushing and soergy immediately becomes pushing back.
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There's even a Star Trek episode aboutthis very thing. I don't remember
the yeah, they have there's thisthing in outer space. They can't identify
it, but it's coming towards them, and as they put up their defend,
it continues to come towards them.And as they shoot torpedoes at it
is continuous to come towards them,and then finally they decide to drop all
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of these shields and enery stuff,and the thing just dissipates and goes away
eventually. So really, yeah,it's a great metaphysical story, and so
my belief. So if I believethat my child's or that they must do
what I say, or that I'malways right, then I'm going to parent
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from a certain space. I'm goingto try to reject my will onto them,
and then if they pushed back,then I labeled my child as difficult
or uncooperative, which is what Idid in the story about the jackets.
Because Mecca clearly told me that shewas not interested in a jacket. I
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had my own agenda. I didnot listen. So I'm pushing and trying
to get her to be interested inthese jackets and she wasn't until I finally
just threw up my hands tried tomake a big scene of oh my gosh,
if you're not going to pay attention, then we're leaving. And she
was like, okay, fine,And I finally got that she said like
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hours before that she didn't need that, and so I was in my mind
labeling her as difficult. I thoughtshe was being very uncooperative because I had
an agenda and she was not fallingin line with my agenda, And so
has anyone else there had any experiencewith that? Come on, let's own
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up, because we're talking about consciousparenting, and conscious parenting is not about
being perfect or not making mistakes.It's about when I do make a mistake,
I own up to it. Isee my daughter as a conscious,
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intelligent being with her own life purpose, and when I remember that, then
I feat her differently than I wouldif I felt like she was here to
serve me, or she was herebecause I wanted to be a mom.
It's nothing like that. So Ifeel my purpose as her mother is to
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guide her to be away, showher, to open up opportunities to support
her in her vision, because toomany times I see parents with their vision
of their lives. They're projecting thatonto their kids, and then what happened.
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It just becomes a mess. Thekids don't like it and don't even
know words, often just about it. But the energy is I you know,
I don't like this, and youautomatically just resist. When they tried
to make me take piano lessons asa child, I wasn't interested, and
it got ugly and it because Iresisted so much, but I ended up
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playing music for ten years professionally afterthat when I did love it. So
you know, I can only suggestthat be very careful about run personal agendas
and unfulfilled desires onto our kid childrenhave their own life purpose to live out.
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We're either support and love them andhelp them with them, or we're
going to cause trouble and delay theprocess. Because either way, you know,
they're going to push They're going topush back, and they're pushing back
because it's an internal impulse and connectionthat they have. Like the the New
Age kids that I've noticed are farmore attuned and aware and connected to their
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higher self, to the universe.So they may not call it God or
they may not call it spiritual,but there's an awareness and a confidence that
I've seen in this generation that isvery different from when I And so when
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parents are trying to paradigm do asI say, you know, speak,
when you're spoken to my way orthe highway, you know there's an endless
list phrases. It just doesn't Idon't even think it feels good energetically.
As a parent, I know thatwhen I'm pushing my agenda. It doesn't
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feel good. And then my daughterjust pushes back or just ignores because it's
like she can tell her running myown agenda, and so it becomes a
mess. And then you know,you start labeling your kid as I have
a question for you. What's aquestion? Why do you want to talk
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about beliefs? Because I think beliefsare the foundation of creating a powerful life.
Because I you know, I talkedabout the law of mentalism. Everything
starts with a thought, right,and it believes it's nothing more than thoughts
coming together and then going unquestioned afterit turned to particulate. And so when
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I believe something, whether proven orunproven, I'm operating as if it's true,
and then I'm projecting that out intothe world and then it's being mirrored
back. And so I want tobelieve because if someone is not aware that
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their thoughts are actually creating and manifestingtheir lives, then they could feel like
they're a victim to the world.But the victim it starts within me,
and then I projected out just likein your book the Mirror, right,
you know, it all starts here. I projected out into the world.
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I e, my spouse, mychildren, and then it comes back.
But I have another question for Bethin New York be homeschool. Do you
have to teach math and science,class and class a curriculum just like the
school? And how to do that? A great question, So, Beth,
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it depends on how old your childis. So well, first off,
address the first question. Do youteach so like? How do you
teach so so like? It's ahigh school academics. Well, that's why
I was. I was dividing itup because before high school, no one
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cared about her grades. So that'swhy I was dividing it up. Because
when they reached high school, ifthey're thinking about or planning on going to
college, there are certain classes thatare required to graduate. So that's why
I was breaking it up. Okay, yeah, but you know from kindergarten
up through junior high I made upthe curriculum. My daughter liked workbooks,
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so we got workbooks like a completecurriculum and brain Quest. I got very
creative. We did a history goingthrough history with doctor Who that I found
online. Let me see if Mecca, do you remember some of the stuff
that we did before you got intohigh school? We can't hear you if
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you mut it. Okay, Iguess she's mute it. But I was
very creative in the things, andI followed her interest. So if she
expressed an interest in something around science, and I would find a science.
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At one point, she was veryinterested in legos, so she was part
of a lego club. And legosare actually excellent playthings because they're like engineering
and they're creative and they're what happened. No, I wasn't needed. Oh
okay, we we couldn't hear youthat. So we're talking about do you
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have to teach that? I wasasking before high things that we did for
you to learn. I know Italked about you like to work books,
lots of omens, heal trips.Doctor who Yeah, So so there's there's
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I mean, beas as a homeschooler, you create your curriculum so every family,
you can take a hundred families,place them in the room, ask
them about homeschooling, and you canget a hundred completely different answers because you've
got homeschooling, you've got something calledunschooling, and then you've got a variation
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of things in between. So before, while she was in middle school below
to teach math and science. Andso even for me, even though it
was homeschooling, I kind of Iled her to make sure that she had
the skill that she would need ifshe wanted to go to college. So
that was always in the back ofmy mind. And then you've got some
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people that unschooled. Do you know, what do you know about? Do
you only know that unschooled? Idon't. So unschooling is where it's definitely
student led. There's some like theremaybe they spend a lot of time outdoors.
They may you know, they maycover the basic subjects and then they
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make up a lot of stuff.But for us, when she got into
high school, because I knew thatshe wanted to go to college, then
we geared her education to being ableto go to college. And so then
she did the online school which taughtthe base, and then we still did
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a co op. And so howdo you figure it out? You talk
to people. There's so many homeschoolclub you joined a homeschooling club, there's
like we're in Florida, there's theFlorida Parents Educators Association. Uh, there's
a that's a statewide organization. There'sother resources. So there's statewide resources,
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there's local county resources. There's aton of Facebook groups, Like when we
got ready to apply to college,I joined a college confidence group or on
Facebook. So there's a lot ofresources out there, and your curriculum will
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fit your family, and you figureit out by talking to your kids,
by following their kids, by beinginnovative and creative. Some people use a
full curriculum and we never did.To Meca liked workbooks and stuff, So
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I hope that answers your question.Yeah, Beth, I would say if
you join a homeschooling group, you'regoing to find tremendous resources. We met
our science teacher with a master's degreewho dropped out to homeschool their children and
their daughters the same age as ours, so she's been teaching for a long
time to my daughter. And thenI think Lindsley is an English master dropped
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out of the school system to homeschool. So there's just so many different resources,
and the beauty of it is youget to make it up with your
child and see where they excel andhow they work, and they learn a
lot more responsibility earlier in life becausethey're responsible for getting their homework done,
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and it's you know, I thinkit's more interesting too because you're working with
them. I mean, I rememberwhen Mecca was learning to write and we
did the Doctor Who curriculums Life Foundsonline. We would watch an episode of
Doctor Who and then there was questionsand then you would have to do an
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essay and we would talk about heressay and she would revise her essay for
you know, looking at mastery.So it wasn't about just turning in homework.
It was Okay, why is thisnot working? What's your scene,
what's the topic, what's the structure? And so we would sit down for
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hours talking about how to write anessay. Critical thinking. When we did
astronomy, we did a curriculum froma teacher and then after that I found
something a masterclass from UH doctor NeilDegrass Tyson on critical thinking, and so
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for the last part of that coop we did its critical thinking exercises,
which were just phenomenal. We wentthrough his class and so you can have
fun with it. And you know, we did a lot lot of field
trips that we did with our homeschoolco op and on our own, so
there's just a bevy of resources foryou beath in New York, and you
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know, you're just a commitment andthen from there you just kind of figure
it out. Thank you, Bethin New York. Anything else, Thomas,
Yeah, a lot of our homeschoolinghas happened organically and trusting that the
right people show up at the righttime, which is part of conscious clarenty,
and by golly, by gosh,they certainly have without our searching to
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art. And then there's tons offeatures from school systems who yeah, absolutely,
and I did run up against somemath stuff, you know, I
just I went out and down thetutor support her. So just like if
she was in school, we didtutors. So let's see, Nicole is
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suggesting that we do more on homeschooling. Yeah, homeschooling is one of the
biggest I hate to call it atrend because we've been doing it for years,
your whole life, so it's youknow, it's great us. But
it's become very popular because there's alot things going on in the school system
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want to be a part of Yeah, and people you know, want to
direct their child's education in the waythat they still supports their family. And
so that's why we did so eachyear we would ask you, Mecca,
if you want it to homeschool Andactually I thought at one point you might
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say no, So why did youwant to continue homeschooling? I don't know,
you know, I don't know why. So why did you keep saying
yes that you went to homeschool?Huh, independence and the true eat of
it? And I then eat schoolfor seven hours or like wake up or
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deal with all the people. It'sall the trauma. I go on field
trips too, was like more variety. Yeah, yeah, it just it
worked. It suits your personality,I think. And so what can you
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talk about whether age drawbacks to beinghomeschool because you what I loved about you
is like if you saw which outcamp for you or you would go outside
the homeschool group, what was yourexperience when you like did the ice skating
camp or when you did camp theUH camp for science camp and you were
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the only homeschooler, what was yourexperience like for that? Fine, they
don't they can't tell I'm a homeschooler, Like unless I tell people, they
don't know. So your kids probablynot going to stand out, but they're
not going to be like made funof because they're homeschool they're just gonna like
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get asked weird questions like do youstay in your pajama all day? But
otherwise like it's fine, you know, I get new people and experience different
subjects and topics. Yeah, okay, So so that you missed out on
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anything not being in school, noinformation, It seems to be a common
thing, homeschooling information. You canstart with your county. So whatever state
you in is going to be someonein the county that has the requirements for
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homeschooling. So you can start withyour county. Go online, like Facebook
is a great resource for that.You go online and you type in your
area and find a homeschool co opor just a group that meets and they
do field trips together, or theymay do art like you taught an art
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class for our homeschool co op yearsand so as a parent, if you
have a skill like we went toa sewing class when someone lady taught sewing,
you dispart. Start on Facebook,reach out to the county, reach
out to the state. There's goingto be a state organization that has homeschooling
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information, like in Florida, it'sFlorida Parent Educators Association, and then there's
another major school organization and they Thegood thing about those kinds of groups is
they have like the laws and therequirements and all of the legal stuff that
you may have a question about,and then they also have supportive stuff.
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So like we have we're she's goingto participate in a homeschool graduation, so
we get to do that. There'sother groups that have homeschool proms, homeschool
dances. So it's very popular andthere's a lot of resources to support not
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only your children but you as aparent. So I would just I would
start there and have fun with home. Have fun with it, you know,
like anything. It's a belief.You think homeschooling is going to be
difficult, it will. If youthink it's gonna be fun and give you
a closer relationship to your child,it will absolutely. Okay, So just
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show. Thank you so much forjoining us and for the wonderful questions today,
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and happy February. Already the yearis flying by, so I want to
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welcome you Conscious Parenting Show. I'mSandra Jones Keller, conscious parenting coach and
author. Joining me today are myhusband Thomas and our eighteen year old daughter
Mecca. Say hello guys, Hello, Hi, So we're broadcasting live on
News for the Soul Radio. Emailyour questions to on the air at Telus
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dot net or call in to sixfour six five nine five four two seven
four. Maybe you have questions aboutdiscipline, or bedtime or tantrums, whatever
is on your mind. Will doour very best to answer it. And
today we're going to be discussing lessonstwelve Beliefs for my twenty one Lessons to
Empower the New Age Kid workbook.Follow along if you have the workbook,
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and if you don't, this awesomefamily resource can be purchased on Amazon.
That's twenty one lessons to empower theNew Age kids. You know. I
love this workbook because it's easy touse and teaches your kids' life skills that
extend and beyond the classroom. Allright, so we're actually just gonna jump
right into it. Go ahead andemail your questions to on the air at
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Telus dot net or call into sixfour six five ninety five four two seven
four. We'll be here for thenext hour to answer your questions. All
right, So, Thomas, Yes, what is the belief? A belief
is something that you accept is trueor think exist. It could be a
statement, an idea of principle,or a thing it is trust, faith
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and confidence in someone or something.So like, what are some of the
things that you believe? And Ibelief it's proven or unproven because it's something
that is true for us. Soa couple of things that I believe are
I believe that people are fundamentally good, and I believe I have a divine
purpose here on earth. What area couple of things that you believe?
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That's very interesting? I believe thatpeople are fundamentally good as well, and
given an opportunity, they certainly theywill do good and help other people.
What else? I believe that Idefinitely have a destiny to feel as I'm
walking this path of life, andI almost almost predetermined by my higher self
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thinks, so pre determined. That'san interesting way to play. Yes,
you know. So we're talking aboutthis because beliefs are just critical to everything.
So do you believe life is hard, money doesn't grow on trees,
or you'll never have friends or acethat test? And we're talking about this
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because your beliefs actually project out intothe world and they're mirrored back to you.
So, Thomas, why is itimportant to look at your belief Well,
it's the most essential thing to lookat our thoughts and our thoughts combined
together to make beliefs. So whatwe believe creates our life, our experiences,
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everything, What you truly believe isbeing mirrored or reflected back to you
from the world, from the peopleclosest to you in your life. Your
life is an accumulation of your beliefs. So do your beliefs support the life
you want to live? I lovethis question as the kids, It's like,
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do you do you believe support thelife you wantn't live? And most
people never think about that, andso like, how would you know?
Well, you may wonder, well, if you look around, are you
happy and fulfilled? People enjoy filled? Or stressed and unhappy? Friendless or
lonely? Remember the quality and quantentof content of your life is reflected back
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to you through your life experiences.Oftentimes you are unconscious, that is,
not aware of thoughts that affect youractions and behaviors. Oftentimes you are unconscious
about your beliefs. Once you identifyand take responsibility for what you truly believe,
you take responsibility for your Some beliefsare easy to change. Maybe you
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think you don't like Brussels sprouts,then you taste them again and love them.
Or like, maybe you taste themfour or five times, I still
don't like them. Some beliefs arehidden and difficult to uncover. So in
the workbook, each lesson actually hasan exercise. So the exercise is I
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invite you parents, kids watching theaudience. I invite you to identify a
belief that doesn't suffers. I wantyou to be scientific. I want you
to examine it. And go beyondsurface and now responses. If you feel
stuck, look into your life andfind something that causes you stress or discomfort
to begin uncovering an unsupportive belief.And better yet, if you're willing,
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we'd love for you to call inor email in and share a belief you've
discovered that doesn't support you. Yes, and let us know if you were
surprised by what came up, andwe will helpful, hopefully helpful you change
that and transform it so you're free. And so we're broadcasting live on news
for the Soul Radio. Email yourquestions to on the air at Telus dot
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net or call into six four sixfive four Q seven four. So you
may be wondering, what do youbelieve have to do with conscious parenting?
Plea you think comments, Oh mygod, if I'm a parent, which
I am, and they have everythingto do with conscious parenting. I know
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that you and I, before ourdaughter was even born, talked about the
importance of not laying our subconscious beliefslimiting beliefs onto our daughter as she grew
up. She's now eighteen years old, because we will create fears, we
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will come at her from a beliefof fear that will cause that opportunity of
fear to incur in her life ifwe're not mindful of it. Plus,
we believe that she's a synthient beanand that she has her own life path
to walk, So that you'll keepour limited beliefs out of her face,
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the more freedom she'll have to fulfillher life purpose. Yes. One thing
I've seen like over the years ismaybe I'm talking to a mom and I
noticed that they talk a lot aboutbeing anxious. Oh my gosh, I
got anxiety. I'm so anxious aboutthis. And then as their kid gets
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older, what happens. The kidstarts talking about being anxious and anxiety and
they're taking this as oh, there'ssomething wrong with my kid, or this
is just a natural progression without realizingthat they are anxious. They have a
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belief in anxiety, and now theirkids is projecting that back to them.
And so as a parent, Iwant to deal with my fears. My
example of exactly what you're saying,we're going to cut right to the chick.
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I love this program because I don'tlook until a day or two before
the program what the topic's going tobe. Because I want to see what
my higher self has been delivering overthe past few days. It's had the
memory actually this morning about when Iaccuse my daughter of being a minimalist in
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this way. I think it wasin the kitchen and I saw our washing
dishes or something, and I said, you do them just the minimum to
get by. That's what I nowbe very clear. That is all my
projection. What she was doing.Is this just what she was doing?
I put the meaning on it.What was done? Washington dish, Yeah,
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just something like that, Washington minimumamount of dishes. But my projection
was that she was just doing enoughto buy And that was months ago.
I said that to her, butit's always stuck in the back of my
mind. Why did I say that? And today it just came up.
Since everything is a mirror reflection ofour own personal consciousness, I said that
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to her because I'm the one thathad been doing the minimum to get by.
And so today I looked at mylife and I started identifying a number
of different areas where I done theminimum to get by, and I saw
it as being a little too pervasivefor me to like it. And but
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the beauty of uncovering these limiting beliefsor using the mirror is that we then
know just to forgive that energy inourselves, and then that whole energy will
dissipate. We won't see it inour children anymore, and we'll be free.
We'll be free, they'll be freein the whole world's a happier place.
Okay, So, Mecca, Ihave a question for you, because
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last night, I remember you usedthe words minimalist again, and I had
always used that term in relationship tothings like people, Like a minimalist house
would be you walk in and maybethey have a sofa, a chair,
and a table like and nothing else, so just very minimal. Or you're
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an artist, and so a minimalistpainting would be something that's very farse.
I would think it's a circle ona page. Or do you remember Daddy
called asking you if you were aminimalist or are actually accusing you of being
a minimalist? A couple of what'dyou say? Months ago or weeks ago,
maybe even a year ago? Notreally, but like I could see
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that happening, but I don't rememberthe exact interaction. I don't want to
know more. I don't want anymore problem from that, what do you
mean, you can see that happening, but you accuse me yourself all the
time, like where did this thinggo? I know a good one,
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that couch, that's a good one. And so when he asked you that,
so I know you were saying thatyou don't remember, But how were
you offended by a minimalists or you'rejust willing to do the bare amount of
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something. I wasn't offended, likeI was washing issues apparently, So I'm
just doing what I was doing,and I'm saying, it's not about what
the other person's doing, It's aboutwhat I projected the meaning onto what they
were doing. It's part of myconsciousness, not necessarily her consciousness. And
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it's my consciousness that needs cleaning upon that issue, not another person's consciousness.
And what I love is because Meccadidn't have any guilt about it or
was not concerted, But she wasnot even disturbed by your comment because your
comment had nothing to do with her. Okay, So we're talking about mirroring
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a projection, and you actually havea book called The Mirror I Do,
which is about mirroring in projection.So why didn't you just say a little
bit about your book or really gointo more details. What mirror and projection
is my book entitled The Mirror,which is available Banana, Amazon, d
Mayor Twist is a relation of toegypt studying Egyptianism's this one technique to where
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I see everybody in my little world, my wife, my children, my
child, my closest friends, asa reflection of my own consciousness, each
one of them. Some of thethings they say or do, I'm gonna
like, and that's fine. That'sa reflection of my consciousness. Some of
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the things they're gonna say and doI don't like, and that also is
a reflection of my consciousness. Soif I'm disturbed by what a friend or
my daughter or my wife is doing, it's my consciousness that is disturbed.
And that's where I need to goin and do myself forgiveness so that that
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energy will dissipate and then we'll allbe free and I have more energy to
live life and enjoy free absolutely,because this really is about freedom. And
so when you think of conscious parenting, conscious parenting is freedom for you,
and it's freedom for your kids.Because when i'm or if I'm parenting from
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a certain belief that may or maynot even be true. I'm going to
be a certain way with my daughter, Mecha. How do people reach us?
Can email your questions to on theair at Telus dot net or Colin
at six four six five nine fivefour two seven four. Okay, And
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since you're already talking, Mecca,so the topic is belief so I want
you to share a little bit aboutbeliefs and how that impacts your li For
example, you just apply to college, and from what I hear, you
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know, a lot of kids appliedto I don't know, at least five
colleges. I've heard someone that appliedto twenty six colleges. So how many
colleges did you apply to? Two? Okay? And why did you only
apply to two colleges? Well,I had I had a whole bunch of
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colleges on all this, and thenI narrowed them down based on what I
was looking for and the region.And then we went on to college for
and then I narrowed it down evenmore because I got to, you know,
actually experience being on the campuses.And so it was in the end
just two colleges that I really likedand to like actually see myself go to.
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And one had like a thirty percentof seven straight, which is,
you know, the one I gotinto, and then the other one had
is like eighty straight. So Iapplied to both of them, and I
didn't submit test scores, which islike, you know, a big thing
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into getting into colleges, but Ididn't submit test scores, so I was
running on full just belief in myselfthat I could get in even though I
didn't submit test scores and I wroteessays, we filled out all the form
so really I just believed in myself. So I was like, I want
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to lose blown up, and Iwant to go to a good college that's
like still close by but not toofar away. So it was so and
I loved that. Well I sharedthat you'd only applied to two colleges.
I got some feedback from people like, well, basically, is she crazy?
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You know why only two colleges?But what I saw in you was
a very clear intention and a veryclear belief in yourself that you could attend
the college of your choice, andyou actually were accepted into both colleges.
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And so that's what we're talking about. Parents, We're talking about a belief,
and so we instill a certain levelof confidence and courage in our kids.
And then we need to step backbecause your process to us looked a
little crazy. You know, whenwe asked you what you liked about the
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school in Virginia, you said thearchitecture, and we're thinking, Okay,
this kid is selecting a school basedon architecture, and it turns out it
has everything that you wanted. Andso when you talk about belief, it's
like you believed in yourself. Webelieved in you, and then we had
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to step back and trust your processbecause it turned out that you selected the
best school we feel for you.Yeah, let me just chime in here.
Okay. When I started, whenwe started this process last early summer
of her junior year, of ourdaughter going through her selection process, I
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immediately wanted to jump in because Ididn't see the criteria I was looking for
it. But I made myself stayout of it. I made myself trust
her, her higher self had thishandled, and I did that. I
stayed out of it in that way, and I watched her narrow it down
to these two colleges, and onewas, in my opinion, just a
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general college that accepts pretty much everybody, and the other one is a very
high academic college that accepts very lowpercentage, and she got accepted by both
colleges. Yes, and I wasblown away by how well she and her
higher self had this whole thing handled. Because her interest or criteria was the
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clubs and the architecture, nothing aboutacademics. But she is chosen and ended
up going to the college highly competitiveacademically academically. It is awesome and it
just blew my mind to be ableto stand back and encourage her and watch
her work this all out, andit's a great life lesson. Okay,
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we have some questions, Truty fromIllinois. I have wanted to commit to
homeschooling my seven and nine year olds, but a belief that they'll be lacking
or missing something important if I takethem out of mainstream school blocks me from
taking action. Any help would begreat, as I've been going back and
forth on this for almost a year. Okay, this is a fabulous question,
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Truty, and I'm going to startwith Mecca answering this question. Mecca
is eighteen and has been homeschooled forher entire life. So, Mecca,
did you hear the question of alreadywanting to homeschool for seven and nine year
olds, but shields will be lackingor missing something. So what is your
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take on homeschooling? Personally? Ilike homeschooling. It's why I never went
to public school. She concerned,Well, I know she didn't say,
but like, usually if they're concernedabout the social aspect, so I'd say
there's a lot of co ops,there's a lot of online classes, there's
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a lot of homeschool groups. So'syou're concerned about the social aspects, your
kid will be fine because homeschoolers veryfriendly, Like I know that the stereotypes
that they're not, homeschools are reallyfriendly and open to meeting news people and
having a bunch of friends. Soyour kids are gonna definitely make friends if
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you find a homeschool group that worksfor you. And so, do you
feel like you missed out by notgoing to a public or private school like
a brick and mortar. No,It's like I don't like being on a
lot of people anyway, So forme, I don't feel like I missed
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out. And like I don't likeclub sports, so I don't need that
sort of social interaction. I don'tknow, I don't feel like I missed
out, and there's still like,you know, like a homeschool dance.
So even if your kid can't goto like a prom the school, there's
still dances and like I'm going toyou know, the graduation, So there's
still a lot of things to do. Thank you Mecca and Truity from Illinois.
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What I would say is, youknow, Thomas and I decided to
homeschool actually even before, like Iwas pregnate, and it was just one
of those conversations we had. SoI'm sure Mecca channeled that to us before
she came through I'm not coming throughsomething like that. And so our homeschooling
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started from a conversation that said,oh, okay, if we ever have
a child, we're going to homeschool. And so when it was time for
Mecca to start school, it wasn'teven a question. It was something that
we had committed to. I hadnever homeschooled before. I didn't know how
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to do it, but I hada belief and of faith in myself and
in my family that this was theright choice for us and that I could
work it out. And so alongthe way I got creative. I met
people, and what's funny is thatanytime I started having any doubts about what
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I was creating for or how shewas doing, I would hear a story
or I would get confirmation from outsidethat I was definitely on track and that
she was fine. So, youknow, I'm a huge proponent of homeschooling
because you know, we created aeducation for her, or her education was
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based around her interests. It wasbased around critical thinking, personal responsibility,
self awareness, and time management.And so she's been doing her homework and
creating her own schedule since she wasprobably in middle school. So she has
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these skills that, you know,what we feel are going to take her
through college and be very prepared.So when you talk about homeschooling, I
just see there are so many advantagesbecause she's getting one on one attention from
you or from the co op whereshe's not spending she wasn't spending time in
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a classroom where there may be learningfor fifteen minutes and then the teacher is
managing a lot of other stuff.So it's one on one, it's very
personalized, and it's very experiential.So that's what I have to say to
Truty from Illinois. Would you haveto say, Thomas and I would say,
Truty that every year we have askedour daughter if she wanted to go
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to a school, and she choseto be homeschooled. And I will say,
just from my own personal observation,there is a lot of support for
homeschoolers, a lot of clubs organizations. There are a lot of teachers who
drop out of the public and privateschool system because they're unhappy with the situation
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and become homeschool parents, and there'sand become homeschool tea as parents is absolutely
amazing. And then what was thefinal thing I wanted to say, Well,
I don't remember, but I thinkyou'll do great at it, Truty,
And you can always give you thekids the option after they've done it
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a year or two or whatever youguys agree on, because I have noticed
in homeschoolers, just another observation isthey are more diversified in how they dress,
in how they present themselves. Itseems like most of the high schoolers
all are kind of stamped out asa stereotype. But that's just an observation
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of my I saw. I'm sayingthat to say there may be more freedom
in homeschooling for your child to betheir unique self and just one final thing,
Trudy, we have been on morefield trips then the law allows,
you know, in terms of homeschooling, and they changed as she got older,
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but we would go to the children'smuseums, the Natural History Museum,
the science museum, like the organizationsin most towns have homeschool days. Some
of it's like monthly, some ofit maybe quarterly, and so you can
get a discount and or free,you know. So we've gone to a
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lot of different venues that she maynot have been able to experience because we
were homeschoolers and because we got adiscount or free. My book, Tips
and Trips of Parenting a New AgeKid kind of chronicles our journey of homeschooling.
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Each of the sections starts with ahomeschool section Truties. That's Tips and
Trips of Parenting and New Age Kids, and that's available on Amazon. Thank
you so much, Trudy for yourquestion. You want to read the next
book, Yes, Lisa in Boston, I would really like to change one
of them. My core beliefs thatbeing a single parent is so difficult as
I seem to create that each dayand it is exhausting. Do either of
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you deal with that? I don'tthink any of us deal with that particular
belief, but I can speak formyself. I've certainly had other limiting beliefs
that have been exhausting going on foryears and years. So what would you
like to say? So we arenot single parents because we've been fortunate enough
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to be on this journey together.So we are very grateful for that beliefs
in Boston. That does not changethe facts that our beliefs create our experience.
And so if you believe something isgoing to be difficult or is so
difficult, then you're sending that energyout into the universe, and the universe
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says, Okay, you believe it'sdifficult, then let me bring you difficult.
Because everything thoughts with everything starts withthe thought. The law of mentalism
is the first law in the KabalianEverything starts with a thought. And so
where I would go with this isyou recognize that it's a belief that it's
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so difficult, and so then whatdo you do with that? You start
forgiving it. I use a processcalled which was brought into ancient times by
doctor Hew Limb, and you canlook it up La and doctor limb.
And so it's four simple phrases,I'm sorry, please forgive me, I
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love you, thank you, andit goes in and it starts scribbing and
healing your inner child and looking atand erasing these memories that you have they're
creating. Being a single parent isdifficult, and so I would start with
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the forgiveness work. And then also, you know, like each day,
set an intention to have fun,to enjoy your parenting experience, and let
that intention pull you into fun.Because right now, the intention or the
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belief that this is difficult is what'skind of guiding your life. And so
it's going to take some discipline tostart saying, Okay, I get that,
I believe that I'm going to forgivethat, and I want and I'm
going to create something else. Andso that something else could be parenting is
fun. I've got plenty of support. I you know, I am good
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at this. It's easy. Sowhatever it is that you want to create,
start making those intentions. I rememberthat I had a belief that because
I was a mom, I couldn'thave my own life or I couldn't do
what I wanted, and so thatbelief was a self fulfilling prophecy. Oh,
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I felt like I couldn't start abusiness. I couldn't mind it,
but I couldn't do anything because Ihad this belief. And so once I
was able to identify the belief,forgive the belief, and then start creating
an intention that I can have itall, that's when life started changing and
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I was able to write four books, I was able to start a coaching
business, and I was able tostart, you know, kind of doing
things. But I had to changemy belief. So, Lisa, I
know that's different than being a singleparent, but a belief is a belief,
and our beliefs are creating our lifelike we started from. Yes,
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Lisa, and Lisa, I'd liketo say that in your case, the
belief is being a single parent isso difficult, and yet other people they'll
pick other things to be so difficultto create that it's difficult. So might
I suggest something I'm doing for myselfnow is that I'll observe myself throughout the
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day. In three, four orfive o'clock, I might notice my body
is getting tired or sore or something. Then I used to and used to
wait for my wife to love mebefore I feel better or my daughter.
But then I've been thinking, well, how about if I supply the love
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to myself first and just see whathappens that way. And I've been using
that in the afternoon when I've usedto feel this lull, and I tell
you, it really does work,and I feel so much freer in not
having to wait for somebody else tofeel loved and loving. And so just
start with any little thing like that, that's it, and give that a
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shot. I think it might bevery beneficial. Thank you, Lisa and
Boston. Let's see if we haveany other questions. Okay, mecha?
How do people reach up so theycan email their questions to on the air
at Telus dot net a calling tosix four six five nine five four two
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seventy four. Okay, so we'regonna continue talking about but before I do
so, Thiefs is less than twelvefrom putting my lessons to empower the New
age kids, and so some ofthe benefits of this workbook are your children
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will gain tools to help them regulateand ease stress and anxiety. Topics will
help them recognize their emotions and teachthe power of their thoughts. And this
book tapped into your child's intuitive natureand gives them language for what they already
feel and know intuitively, and that'svery beneficial. The novices and experts can
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easily use. Each lesson has facilitiesthe beginning of the section to assist you.
And this book shows kids how powerfulthey are through their thoughts and words,
provides tools to navigate and succeed inthe world, and it fosters thinking
outside of the box and encourages kidsto think through ideas until they make sense
to them. That swinging one lessonsto empower the New Age Kids, and
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what it really provides is a door, an opening to begin conversations between you
and your child so that you cansee these insights about your child, what
they're seeing, how they're feeling aboutthe world, what their fears are,
what their confidence and love is,and that conversation will evave over the years
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as you continue it. It's reallyquite fascinating and our children are really quite
intelligent. Yeah, and you know, in my other book, Tips and
Trips of Parenting and New Age Kids, I don't have a store beliefs,
but what that book shows is howbeliefs play out. So for example,
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called packets are on cell and soI wanted to take my daughter to get
a brand new coat because they wereon sell at Macy's. And she was
like only seven or eight at thetime, and she clearly told me that
I don't need a new coat,I want boots. I wasn't listening.
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And so as parents, sometimes wefeel like we know best or we have
our own agenda and we're not listeningto our kids. And so how did
that play out? When I havemy own agenda, then I come up
against a power struggle or it feelstressful or difficult because I'm trying to push
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my will onto my daughter and Thomas, how does it still when someone tries
to push their will on you?You know what, I automatically resist it
without even thinking about it because theenergy pushing and soergy immediately becomes pushing back.
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There's even a Star Trek episode aboutthis very thing. I don't remember
the yeah, they have there's thisthing in outer space. They can't identify
it, but it's coming towards them, and as they put up their defend,
it continues to come towards them.And as they shoot torpedoes at it
is continuous to come towards them,and then finally they decide to drop all
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of these shields and enery stuff,and the thing just dissipates and goes away
eventually. So really, yeah,it's a great metaphysical story, and so
my belief. So if I believethat my child's or that they must do
what I say, or that I'malways right, then I'm going to parent
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from a certain space. I'm goingto try to reject my will onto them,
and then if they pushed back,then I labeled my child as difficult
or uncooperative, which is what Idid in the story about the jackets.
Because Mecca clearly told me that shewas not interested in a jacket. I
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had my own agenda. I didnot listen. So I'm pushing and trying
to get her to be interested inthese jackets and she wasn't until I finally
just threw up my hands tried tomake a big scene of oh my gosh,
if you're not going to pay attention, then we're leaving. And she
was like, okay, fine,And I finally got that she said like
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hours before that she didn't need that, and so I was in my mind
labeling her as difficult. I thoughtshe was being very uncooperative because I had
an agenda and she was not fallingin line with my agenda, And so
has anyone else there had any experiencewith that? Come on, let's own
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up, because we're talking about consciousparenting, and conscious parenting is not about
being perfect or not making mistakes.It's about when I do make a mistake,
I own up to it. Isee my daughter as a conscious,
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intelligent being with her own life purpose, and when I remember that, then
I feat her differently than I wouldif I felt like she was here to
serve me, or she was herebecause I wanted to be a mom.
It's nothing like that. So Ifeel my purpose as her mother is to
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guide her to be away, showher, to open up opportunities to support
her in her vision, because toomany times I see parents with their vision
of their lives. They're projecting thatonto their kids, and then what happened.
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It just becomes a mess. Thekids don't like it and don't even
know words, often just about it. But the energy is I you know,
I don't like this, and youautomatically just resist. When they tried
to make me take piano lessons asa child, I wasn't interested, and
it got ugly and it because Iresisted so much, but I ended up
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playing music for ten years professionally afterthat when I did love it. So
you know, I can only suggestthat be very careful about run personal agendas
and unfulfilled desires onto our kid childrenhave their own life purpose to live out.
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We're either support and love them andhelp them with them, or we're
going to cause trouble and delay theprocess. Because either way, you know,
they're going to push They're going topush back, and they're pushing back
because it's an internal impulse and connectionthat they have. Like the the New
Age kids that I've noticed are farmore attuned and aware and connected to their
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higher self, to the universe.So they may not call it God or
they may not call it spiritual,but there's an awareness and a confidence that
I've seen in this generation that isvery different from when I And so when
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parents are trying to paradigm do asI say, you know, speak,
when you're spoken to my way orthe highway, you know there's an endless
list phrases. It just doesn't Idon't even think it feels good energetically.
As a parent, I know thatwhen I'm pushing my agenda. It doesn't
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feel good. And then my daughterjust pushes back or just ignores because it's
like she can tell her running myown agenda, and so it becomes a
mess. And then you know,you start labeling your kid as I have
a question for you. What's aquestion? Why do you want to talk
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about beliefs? Because I think beliefsare the foundation of creating a powerful life.
Because I you know, I talkedabout the law of mentalism. Everything
starts with a thought, right,and it believes it's nothing more than thoughts
coming together and then going unquestioned afterit turned to particulate. And so when
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I believe something, whether proven orunproven, I'm operating as if it's true,
and then I'm projecting that out intothe world and then it's being mirrored
back. And so I want tobelieve because if someone is not aware that
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their thoughts are actually creating and manifestingtheir lives, then they could feel like
they're a victim to the world.But the victim it starts within me,
and then I projected out just likein your book the Mirror, right,
you know, it all starts here. I projected out into the world.
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I e, my spouse, mychildren, and then it comes back.
But I have another question for Bethin New York be homeschool. Do you
have to teach math and science,class and class a curriculum just like the
school? And how to do that? A great question, So, Beth,
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it depends on how old your childis. So well, first off,
address the first question. Do youteach so like? How do you
teach so so like? It's ahigh school academics. Well, that's why
I was. I was dividing itup because before high school, no one
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cared about her grades. So that'swhy I was dividing it up. Because
when they reached high school, ifthey're thinking about or planning on going to
college, there are certain classes thatare required to graduate. So that's why
I was breaking it up. Okay, yeah, but you know from kindergarten
up through junior high I made upthe curriculum. My daughter liked workbooks,
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so we got workbooks like a completecurriculum and brain Quest. I got very
creative. We did a history goingthrough history with doctor Who that I found
online. Let me see if Mecca, do you remember some of the stuff
that we did before you got intohigh school? We can't hear you if
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you mut it. Okay, Iguess she's mute it. But I was
very creative in the things, andI followed her interest. So if she
expressed an interest in something around science, and I would find a science.
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At one point, she was veryinterested in legos, so she was part
of a lego club. And legosare actually excellent playthings because they're like engineering
and they're creative and they're what happened. No, I wasn't needed. Oh
okay, we we couldn't hear youthat. So we're talking about do you
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have to teach that? I wasasking before high things that we did for
you to learn. I know Italked about you like to work books,
lots of omens, heal trips.Doctor who Yeah, So so there's there's
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I mean, beas as a homeschooler, you create your curriculum so every family,
you can take a hundred families,place them in the room, ask
them about homeschooling, and you canget a hundred completely different answers because you've
got homeschooling, you've got something calledunschooling, and then you've got a variation
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of things in between. So before, while she was in middle school below
to teach math and science. Andso even for me, even though it
was homeschooling, I kind of Iled her to make sure that she had
the skill that she would need ifshe wanted to go to college. So
that was always in the back ofmy mind. And then you've got some
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people that unschooled. Do you know, what do you know about? Do
you only know that unschooled? Idon't. So unschooling is where it's definitely
student led. There's some like theremaybe they spend a lot of time outdoors.
They may you know, they maycover the basic subjects and then they
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make up a lot of stuff.But for us, when she got into
high school, because I knew thatshe wanted to go to college, then
we geared her education to being ableto go to college. And so then
she did the online school which taughtthe base, and then we still did
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a co op. And so howdo you figure it out? You talk
to people. There's so many homeschoolclub you joined a homeschooling club, there's
like we're in Florida, there's theFlorida Parents Educators Association. Uh, there's
a that's a statewide organization. There'sother resources. So there's statewide resources,
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there's local county resources. There's aton of Facebook groups, Like when we
got ready to apply to college,I joined a college confidence group or on
Facebook. So there's a lot ofresources out there, and your curriculum will
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fit your family, and you figureit out by talking to your kids,
by following their kids, by beinginnovative and creative. Some people use a
full curriculum and we never did.To Meca liked workbooks and stuff, So
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I hope that answers your question.Yeah, Beth, I would say if
you join a homeschooling group, you'regoing to find tremendous resources. We met
our science teacher with a master's degreewho dropped out to homeschool their children and
their daughters the same age as ours, so she's been teaching for a long
time to my daughter. And thenI think Lindsley is an English master dropped
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out of the school system to homeschool. So there's just so many different resources,
and the beauty of it is youget to make it up with your
child and see where they excel andhow they work, and they learn a
lot more responsibility earlier in life becausethey're responsible for getting their homework done,
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and it's you know, I thinkit's more interesting too because you're working with
them. I mean, I rememberwhen Mecca was learning to write and we
did the Doctor Who curriculums Life Foundsonline. We would watch an episode of
Doctor Who and then there was questionsand then you would have to do an
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essay and we would talk about heressay and she would revise her essay for
you know, looking at mastery.So it wasn't about just turning in homework.
It was Okay, why is thisnot working? What's your scene,
what's the topic, what's the structure? And so we would sit down for
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hours talking about how to write anessay. Critical thinking. When we did
astronomy, we did a curriculum froma teacher and then after that I found
something a masterclass from UH doctor NeilDegrass Tyson on critical thinking, and so
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for the last part of that coop we did its critical thinking exercises,
which were just phenomenal. We wentthrough his class and so you can have
fun with it. And you know, we did a lot lot of field
trips that we did with our homeschoolco op and on our own, so
there's just a bevy of resources foryou beath in New York, and you
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know, you're just a commitment andthen from there you just kind of figure
it out. Thank you, Bethin New York. Anything else, Thomas,
Yeah, a lot of our homeschoolinghas happened organically and trusting that the
right people show up at the righttime, which is part of conscious clarenty,
and by golly, by gosh,they certainly have without our searching to
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art. And then there's tons offeatures from school systems who yeah, absolutely,
and I did run up against somemath stuff, you know, I
just I went out and down thetutor support her. So just like if
she was in school, we didtutors. So let's see, Nicole is
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suggesting that we do more on homeschooling. Yeah, homeschooling is one of the
biggest I hate to call it atrend because we've been doing it for years,
your whole life, so it's youknow, it's great us. But
it's become very popular because there's alot things going on in the school system
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want to be a part of Yeah, and people you know, want to
direct their child's education in the waythat they still supports their family. And
so that's why we did so eachyear we would ask you, Mecca,
if you want it to homeschool Andactually I thought at one point you might
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say no, So why did youwant to continue homeschooling? I don't know,
you know, I don't know why. So why did you keep saying
yes that you went to homeschool?Huh, independence and the true eat of
it? And I then eat schoolfor seven hours or like wake up or
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deal with all the people. It'sall the trauma. I go on field
trips too, was like more variety. Yeah, yeah, it just it
worked. It suits your personality,I think. And so what can you
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talk about whether age drawbacks to beinghomeschool because you what I loved about you
is like if you saw which outcamp for you or you would go outside
the homeschool group, what was yourexperience when you like did the ice skating
camp or when you did camp theUH camp for science camp and you were
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the only homeschooler, what was yourexperience like for that? Fine, they
don't they can't tell I'm a homeschooler, Like unless I tell people, they
don't know. So your kids probablynot going to stand out, but they're
not going to be like made funof because they're homeschool they're just gonna like
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get asked weird questions like do youstay in your pajama all day? But
otherwise like it's fine, you know, I get new people and experience different
subjects and topics. Yeah, okay, So so that you missed out on
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anything not being in school, noinformation, It seems to be a common
thing, homeschooling information. You canstart with your county. So whatever state
you in is going to be someonein the county that has the requirements for
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homeschooling. So you can start withyour county. Go online, like Facebook
is a great resource for that.You go online and you type in your
area and find a homeschool co opor just a group that meets and they
do field trips together, or theymay do art like you taught an art
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class for our homeschool co op yearsand so as a parent, if you
have a skill like we went toa sewing class when someone lady taught sewing,
you dispart. Start on Facebook,reach out to the county, reach
out to the state. There's goingto be a state organization that has homeschooling
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information, like in Florida, it'sFlorida Parent Educators Association, and then there's
another major school organization and they Thegood thing about those kinds of groups is
they have like the laws and therequirements and all of the legal stuff that
you may have a question about,and then they also have supportive stuff.
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So like we have we're she's goingto participate in a homeschool graduation, so
we get to do that. There'sother groups that have homeschool proms, homeschool
dances. So it's very popular andthere's a lot of resources to support not
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only your children but you as aparent. So I would just I would
start there and have fun with home. Have fun with it, you know,
like anything. It's a belief.You think homeschooling is going to be
difficult, it will. If youthink it's gonna be fun and give you
a closer relationship to your child,it will absolutely. Okay, So just
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real quick before we want down,I have two workshops to support you on
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show. Thank you so much forjoining us and for the wonderful questions today,
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and thank you Thomas and Mecca forbeing here. The Conscious Parenting Show
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Dateline NBC
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The Breakfast Club
The World's Most Dangerous Morning Show, The Breakfast Club, With DJ Envy, Jess Hilarious, And Charlamagne Tha God!