February 13, 2024 • 57 mins
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Next on News for the Soul,The Voice of Spirit with Jarlyn. Jerlyn
is a fiercely loving Earth Mama offeringher authentic, nurturing presence who holds space
for you to discover your true self. As a natural psychic intuitive, she
has been spiritually guiding clients around theworld since nineteen ninety four, with a
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strong faith and connection with the HolySpirit in Gabriel, her primary guide.
Please welcome Jarlyn back to News forthe Soul. Welcome back, Carolyn,
Hello, thank you. How haveyou been well? It's been an interesting
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energy Ryan looking forward to this today. Alrighty, yes, it has been
very interestingly and less say there's somuch going on. Yeah, okay,
let me get you to do likea reintroduction, overview and dive in.
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Let us know what we're doing today. Okay. So I am jeral Tin
Joseph. I am a natural psychicintuitive, and today we're going to be
talking about how to spot one orknow if you're around one, and what
to do about it. And we'regoing to be talking about different types of
energy vampires and if there is anydifference between an energy vampire and an emotional
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vampire. So we can jump rightin we're going through where go ahead?
What Sorry you've got a little delayabout Sorry, floor is yours. I'm
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sorry I didn't catch you again.Uhh, I was just saying the floor
is yours. Oh okay, thankyou. You're welcome, all right,
and so do you want me tostart again? Yeah, it just just
where we'd like to start, okay. So my name is Gerald and Saint
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Joseph. I am a natural bornpsychic intuitive. What that means is that
I did not take classes or anythingto develop my skills. Basically, I
was just this way and kind ofgrew into my abilities. I have come
along across people along the way whohave been very helpful. Today we're going
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to be talking about energy slash emotionalvampires. We're going to be talking about
if there is a difference between thetwo, how to spot one, what
to do if you're in the presenceof one, and also what are the
different types of energy vampires. I'monly going to briefly be going over what
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I consider like the top five typesof energy or emotional vampires you come across.
So let's dive in right now.In our culture today, vampires are
kind of they're being celebrated they're beingrather romanticized. We have books like Twilight
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and several different television shows and differentthings, but it's seen as kind of
glamorous at being a vampire and havingthat type of a lifestyle. And what
they're looking at in those types ofshows, generally speaking, is that they
will talk about vampires who drink yourblood, which is more about if we
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look at a metaphysical sense or metaphoricsense, they're talking think about draining your
life force, because what keeps usgoing. We need our blood to be
pumping through our veins for our physicalbody to continue to operate. When we
look at that, if you transferthat into an emotional or an energetic vampire,
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it gives you a good idea ofwhat an energy vampire is. What
they're doing, they're basically draining yourlife force. When we talk about energy
vampire in I'm gonna say, likeregular talk, regular folk, we'll call
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it an emotional vampire. They maycall them narcissists or people have narcissistic tendencies.
That's just one type. I useemotional and an energetic vampire interchangeably.
For the most part. The onlyreal difference is that when we talk about
emotional vampire versus an energy vampire.You're talking more on a surface level and
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a psychological level, whereas when wetalk about energy vampires, we talk about
things that are more all encompassing andmore expanded. Where an energy vampire can
act out of any number of differentreasons. They also have an ability to
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take energy even if they don't knowyou, or they're not in the same
room with you, they don't haveyour presence there. So that's what I
would say would be like the onlydifference. Otherwise I use it interchangeably.
And when we talk about emotion,one of the ways it was explained to
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me a long time ago is thatan energy in motion, so emotion is
putting your energy out there on afrequency. And we could talk about that
another time. There's a whole hostof things that go along with that,
but suffice it to say that yourfrequency has a lot to do with the
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type of people that you will havearound you, the type of people that
you attract, the type of peoplethat you keep in your circle, and
the type of people that are goingto make you feel drained as opposed to
feeling more fulfilled. How do youknow if you're around someone who has these
tendencies, especially because generally this isnot something that shows up right away.
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Necessarily, you're talking about people whoyou consistently feel exhausted or really really tired
after speaking to them or simply beingaround them. I remember we had I
worked with someone that we call doctorGloom because he was so negative. No
matter what we were talking about,he could put a negative spin on it
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and somehow like whatever happened to you, what happened to him was worse.
It was like a competition to bethe most traumatized and things like that.
So someone who goes out of theirway to be negative and to find negativity
in things, or to break youout of feeling good and put you no
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cause being realistic. They're just beingrealistic. They're just letting you know.
But what it does is are inan upward spiral where you're feeling good,
you're getting things accomplished, you havethese ideals. Once it becomes apparent to
an energy vampire or an emotional vampire, what they will do is they want
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to put the kabasho on that.They want to suck all that positive energy
out of you and lower your vibrationbecause they are uncomfortable being a rand a
high vibration. They're uncomfortable being aroundsomeone who is very positive and is always
uplifting or looking to uplift. Itbothers them, so they need to poke
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a hole in that balloon, andthey will do that in any number of
ways. But generally what we seeis that anybody else happy, and they
want them to know how unhappy theyshould be. The person may try to
single you out, they will isolateyou, and they will do so to
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flattery, gifts and whatnot, orthey may do so physically because they want
to be held to a different standard, be on a different level than anyone
else around you. These are thepeople who are your friends who get jealous
if the friend circle expands or ifanyone new comes into your life. This
is the girlfriend who can't be happyfor you when speaking as a woman,
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can't be happy for you when youfind a good relationship because she's afraid that's
going to take from her time andher farming of your energy and your attention.
They have nothing to say that isnice about anyone in their past,
and right along with that is energy. Vampires do not hold onto relationships for
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very long, not close relationships.So what you may find is that you
meet these people and they really don'thave anybody close in their lives. But
they'll say, oh, they havethis friend here, and they have this
friend here in this front here,But it's all people that they're not around
consistently and who are not really connectedto them. They're not around them a
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whole lot, because once they arein a relationship where they need to reveal
themselves, then they they show themselvesand people that don't want to be around
them pretty much or they will goafter somebody, and generally this type of
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person. Energy vampires in general,they want to be around people who are
very compassionate, very empathetic, peoplewho are good and kind and giving,
because that's what they want. Theywant your attention, they want your time,
they want your presence, and morethan anything else, they want your
energy, your life. Forced.An energy vampire will also rely on others
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for their self worth. So oneof the things to note is that most
energy vampires have very low self esteem. They have a very bad sense of
self. Although they will aggrandize themselvesand tell people how wonderful they are.
I've heard many wie and say,if you really were that great. You
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wouldn't have to tell anybody that,because they would just know from being around
you. An energy vampire often canbe very difficult to walk away from.
They will create a situation where youlook like the bad guy or you feel
really guilty about walking away from them. Why would you feel guilty about walking
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away from them, Well, ifthe way they're getting attention is by Blanchard
and her mother, the way hermother had to constantly create illnesses and situations
where they were given all this attentionand money and sympathy because her daughter was
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sick and she was such an angelin the sentence, and then you come
to find out later that the daughterwas never actually sick and she was just
a con artist. So con artistin general are going to be energy vampires
also, and they may make itdifficult for you to walk away from them
because you have a sense that youowe them. And that's where when we
talked earlier about winning you over throughflattery and gifts and whatnot. Maybe you
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moved into their house right away.Maybe they, you know, paid for
something for you when you really reallyneed it, So now you have this
sense of loyalty. Energy vampires donot have. There is no loyalty there.
All they do is they're trying tofarm as much attention and as much
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as much praise, as much connection, as much reputation, as much energy
as they possibly can. Another telltalesign is they do not take any real
responsibility for their life circumstances. Blameis the name of the game. So
they'll say, oh, well,if you just told me that, I
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would have done something about it.But you have told them that and they
actually didn't do anything about it.Or they'll say, well, you know
that I have this high sense ofintegrity and I would never How many times
have you watched even watching like Catfishor so many different television shows where they're
you know, calling people out ontheir behavior. Do we see this behavior
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where someone of that I would never, but you just did. What are
you talking about? You would never? You just did. So people who
have there's an incongruency between what theypropose they are and who they are and
what they're what their integrity is versuswhat they show to the world what is
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actually happening, two totally different things. You can spot an energy vampire,
and as you go through the types, we might be talking about that a
little bit more. But just soyou know, when we talk about energy
vampires, so the difference between thatan emotional vampire, because this is mostly
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emotional, is that a real energyvampire can pull from the people in their
area, whether they're connected to youor not. I mean, you could
be on the subway and sitting nextto somebody, all of a sudden you
start feeling really tired. That islike somebody who is really siphoning off whatever
was there for you. So thereare different levels to it. Now at
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any given time in our lives,there may be a time, at some
point where we ourselves will behave asan energy vampire. I wouldn't call it
that strongly, but basically, likeas we go through different trauma and we're
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dealing with things we just are goingthrough a divorce or a MESSI breakup,
or the death of a loved one, to the people around us, they
may get compassion fatigue because they feellike we are pulling all their energy.
And maybe when we're around people,we will somehow find a way to conversation
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back to what is bothering us andourselves. Now, there's a difference between
somebody who does that when they aretruly in need versus somebody who that is
just their personality, like you can'ttalk about anything without them than turning it
about themselves. Actually, I wasaround people the other night and we were
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talking about several of us have lostpeople who are really close to us recently,
and we were all telling these veryuplifting stories about, you know,
the being there with our loved onein their last moments, or different things
that has happened while they were sickand we were caring for them different things.
And there was one person in thegroup totally I don't know, didn't
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read the room at all, butwe're all talking with these uplifting, wonderful
moments that we're endearing, and thenshe pipes in about like all these really
horrible, horrific things. It wasreally interesting because those of us who were
talking, we all could feel thepull of that person trying to pull all
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the energy their way and trying topull the energy down so it's a different
frequency, so they can feel likethey're the center of attention and everybody's looking
at them. And because we couldfeel that, we all put the kabash
to We're all like, no,we're we're not going down that. You
let them say their story and we'relike okay, and then we just continued
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on the conversation as it was liketalking about things that were much more uplift.
So that is one way that youcan deal with people like this.
Again, consistency is key. Ifit's somebody who is consistently showing narcissistic behavior,
that's different than somebody who just everyonce in a blue moon, you
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know, if something will come upand then they have to deal with that.
So let's talk about just want tolet you know you've got a company
as well, Jarrelyn. Okay,awesome, So let's take a couple of
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phone calls before we go into that. Then, all right, perfect timing
eighty three one. We're coming toyou first. What's your first name?
Where you're calling in from time?My name is Karena calling in some central
Florida. Hello, Hello, Hello, Helloha. And you know, I
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just feel a lot of a lotof buttons flashing and popping off in me
as you talk. Yeah, somuch. I've worked on this my whole
life. But I was, youknow, grew up in mental confusion and
emotional pain, and I was mauledon every level, you know, on
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a daily basis by my family.So it's taken me my whole life to
work through this. But I'm,you know, really realizing how I've let
a lot of what you're saying.I'm coming to more and more terms with
it. It seems like almost anever ending process of discovering how I'm allowing
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these people to do things. AndI think I've finally come to a point
where I haven't but where I'm notanymore. And some things, more and
more recently, not letting people suckmy energy or drain me or push buttons
or speak in manipulative ways that arevery nuanced and have been hard for me
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to detect due to my emotional blindspots. And I think, you know,
sometimes I seem to go in myfree years without really changing, and
then suddenly a big change will come. And then for years I'll do a
lot of work and it seems likeI'm not making any progress or getting in
change, and then suddenly a bigchange will come. So it's like I
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write on these plateaus and continue todo work, and then suddenly I go
vertical, and I think I reallyhave again, And I'm just wondering if
you can help me with any blindspots that I'm not seeing that. I
mean, I would love some helpalong the way to see if what I'm
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still doing that maybe is allowing thistype of allowing that still come in.
Yeah, allowing that to allowing thatto come in, or it may always
try to come in, but forme to instantly recognize it and deal with
it rather than be intimidated by itor sucked in by it, or allow
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it to go on even for evenfor ten minutes. I mean, I
don't even want it for three seconds. You know. Well, Number one,
you need to be easier on yourselfbecause especially when it comes from childhood,
and it's just it's almost like ahabit, like we're just used to
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allowing and listening to somebody. Thedifference is you can let spew whatever they
want to spew. The difference isgiving of yourself to them. So a
couple things to remember, and wewill go over this at the end,
are the ways to get away fromthese people. But no is a full
sense. If you want to walkaway from somebody and they've got you cornered
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for whatever reason, and they're talkingand talking and going on and on,
and you want to get away fromthem, you can always say, oh,
my goodness, we're so afraid ofbeing rude to people that we end
up hurting ourselves or changing the subject. You become a real artist at changing
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the subject. You know something they'retalking, Oh, that reminds me of
this, and they're going to beannoyed that you cut them off. But
if it's somebody who does this allthe time, you need to redirect them
in order to shift the energy ina different directions. So you either need
to leave they or walk away.Well let's me say what they want to
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say, but don't take it in. So those are the three things that
you could do right off the bat. So far as blind spots, everybody
has blind spots, and in ourculture right now, the thing is that
comes so adept at using other people, with all these scam artists and catfish
and everything's online. You know tenways to manipulate and all that kind of
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stuff that you just have to reallytrust your gut. Learn how to read
your body, Learn how to feelin your body. If somebody is pulling
from you, or if you justfeel like you're starting to get tugged in
a direction that you don't want togo in, listen to your body and
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get out of there now. Ifsomebody is very insistent and they don't want
to let you go, you couldstart jiggling like I'm sorry, I really
have to do the bathroom. Nobodyis going to stop you. You have
to go to the bathroom, andthat's how you get away. That is
like my full proof method. Ifnothing else works, we're gonna have an
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act in here in a second.You need to let me go. I
gotta go, you know. Andgenerally it's a quick escape. Don't use
it too often or think people aregonna think you have ibs or you you
know, hey, whatever works.But it's just about catching it when it
happens, acknowledging it, and notallowing yourself to beat yourself up because maybe
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you didn't see it coming or youfeel like you didn't catch it fast enough.
There's no such thing. People canbe very subtle, and let's face
it, most of the people whodo this even realize they're doing it.
It's not a conscious act. It'sjust how they are used to behaving.
It's just how they are used tobeing This is how they get fed or
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there's support, or however you wantto talk about it. Is they know
that when they have somebody's undivided attention, or they're getting a lot of attention,
good, bad, or indifferent,that that gives them a sense of
worth because then they feel seen.So it may even be something like if
it's somebody you're close to or somebodyyou have to be around a lot.
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It might be even you know,calling them out and be like, hey,
you know, we were having areally good time, so I really
don't feel right now to talk aboutthis subject. We can talk about this
later when it's more appropriate, orsomething to that nature. Learning how to
again redirect the conversation, either byyou know, scooting around it or by
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directly confronting and being like, youknow, have you noticed that when you
start talking, everybody leads the circlethat we're in and I'm the only one
standing here. Maybe you need tothink about the energy that you're putting off
being kind about it, but stillbeing direct enough that the person is not
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going to it's not just a throwaway. They might get defensive, but you
still put the ball in your court. They still have the information that they
need in order to make a change. If hopefully that helps a bit.
Yeah, I'm taking in everything thatyou're saying, yeah, I'm taking in
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everything that you're saying, so I'ma little slow to respond, but yes,
it all. I appreciate hearing youtalking about this, and yeah,
thank you very much. Yeah,if you want anything that's a little more
in depth, I do have aYouTube channel under my name where I talk
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about a lot of this stuff andhave on on meet up. I have
a couple of groups where we talkabout these types of they'll take it up.
Thank you, all right, thankyou, we do need Let's go
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to eight three to two, eightthree two. What's your first name where
you're coming in from. My nameis Lisa, and I'm calling from Houston.
Listen, honey, be hi Houston. Awesome, Yes, So what
is your comment or question? Myproblem is I'm an impact and I have
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a hard time rob recognizing this ismy energy if it's somebody else's energy,
because here lately I've been I've beensick, and I don't know if it's
my energy, if it's somebody else'senergy. And I have a time,
a hard time, you know,trying to figure out if it's if it's
coming from me, if it's comingfrom somewhere else. What I have that
when it's coming from outside of yourself. It'll come on suddenly usually, and
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the thing is don't say why amI feeling like this? And is this
mine? And either you will getat yes, this is yours and this
is why, or your body willbe like hmm no, it feels kind
of foreign. And then you cansay, well, thank you for letting
me know, but you can gonow and you release it. So that's
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one way another way to do itbecause you don't want to own it because
once you own it, once yousay why am I feeling this way,
your mind is going to come upwith reasons why you're feeling that way.
It's going to look for things,so you don't want to do that.
I use gemstones because sometimes you're justgetting overwhelmed with too many things are happening
and you're like, okay, Ineed to sort this out. And I
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find that the best gemstones in orderto like cut off motions and things coming
from the outside. The two thatI use are Parado p E R I
d O T, which is Augustfirst stone screenstones. Gorgeous. Parado and
Ruby are the two. And whatthose two gemstones do is after you bless
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them in the program, and theywill put a white light shield around you.
And once you put that that paradimon, and whether it's a ring
or you're just holding it in yourhand, you should be able to feel
the difference. If it's your emotion, you're still going to be feeling that
emotion. If it's not your emotion, suddenly you're not feeling that emotion at
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all. So that's that's a quickway to do it. And parado does
not have to be You don't haveto buy like a ring that's several hundred
dollars or anything. You could justget a small piece at like a gem
store. It doesn't have to begemstone quality. It doesn't matter how big
it is or how small. AndI mean I've bought but parado chip necklaces
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when I was in Hawaii for liketen or fifteen dollars, So it doesn't
have to be a real expensive outlayto get what you say. Rubies are
more expensive unless you get like lawruby, which is I like waw rubies,
but a lot of people like thatdoesn't even look like a ruby because
it's not gem quality. So butthose are the two things that I would
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say you want to you want todo you want to focus on how to
separate the two. It's not aboutnot letting it come in at all,
because you're an impact and things willcome in, but there are going to
be times where you don't want thatextraneous stuff, and if you want to
block that, there are different waysto do it, but the most simple
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way, I would say is usinggemstones like ruby or like Parado. And
we could probably do a podcast specificallyon being an impact on what that feels
like and how to walk through lifeas an impact. Okay, yes,
yeah, so does it help?Yes, it helps a lot, reading
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thank you and thank you for calling, thank you, thank you, bye
bye bye bye. Okay, dowe have anyone else? That's all the
colors for now? Okay? Cool? All right, So there are of
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emotional energetic vampires, one that wesee a lot right now and all the
ones that I'm going to talk about, like we're seeing an uptick recently.
I believe this is partially because we'removing into a period of time where it's
really difficult to hide who you are, so that things will be coming through
full four person it'll be easier tosee these things. So my number one
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is the victim, someone who playsvictim all the time. They're a constant
downer, They whine about everything.They're a very insecure person who needs constant,
constant encouragement and constant being told howgreat they are. Now. Is
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that something that really happens? Imean, are there people who who really
are anxious and really need that kindof support. Yeah, and it can
happen at different times. But ifthis is your m H where it's all
the time and you're you really needto examine what you're doing and why,
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because a lot of these people don'trecognize that this is who they are.
But you behave in an insecure mannerso that you get positive feedback. Then
people feel bad giving you negative feedbackbecause you seem so weak and frail.
Some people are sincerely at a lossfor who they are and what they're supposed
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to do, and these people willtry to make themselves better, So you
have two different things, like areal victim or someone who's a victim archetype
or victim mentality. They will takein all of your support and take all
the advice and do all that andthen let it fall because they're not really
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there's no bonus to them getting better. They don't really want to get better.
They don't want to be better.They're just there because this is who
they are. They always have somebodyto blame, they don't want to take
responsibility, and they're having all theirneeds met without having to do any of
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the adult things or the adult workin the situation, if you have someone
who is just simply insecure going througha rough time, what they will do
is as you're trying to teach them, maybe they might not take all of
your advice, but they are goingto try. They're going to make attempts,
and you're going to see improvement.And the thing is to encourage them
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in that improvement so that it keepsgoing so they don't fall backwards. So
the first type is the victim.The second is the charmer. So this
person has to be the center ofattention, and they get this attention by
being charming. They're using flattery,they're being the clown in the group.
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Whatever they're doing, they need tobe the center of attention. So most
of the time the charmer will tryto lighten the mood. They're the good
time guide, they're the party girl. And the way you'll know this from
someone who is just naturally personable isthat this person always has to be a
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certain attention. They will talk overpeople and like get other people's way,
jump on somebody's pool it as theysay, and take credit for other people's
work, whereas someone who is justpersonable knows how to listen. They let
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everybody take their turn. They don'tneed to be the center of attention.
They're not vuying for that. Sometimesthey just naturally get it, but it's
not like as soon as the attentionmoves away from it, they have to
get it back. The charmer alsois one that tries to lighten the movie
even when it's inappropriate. Turn thaton you if you call them out for
being inappropriate, or you say,you know, if you don't need to
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do center attention all the time,and they will become very hurt and distressed,
and they will not understand what iswrong with you? Why you say
such things to them? You areso mean? And that type of thing,
that's the charmer. The next type, which I call the drama queen
or drama king, which in today'ssociety is called a Karen or a They
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say Chad when it's a guy,but I'm not sure, so don't quote
me on that one. The dramaqueen or drama king pretty self explanatory.
They always have a story to telland it's always worse than yours. And
mole hills and tournament to mountains.They know how to really spin things out
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of control, really spin them upand not let them go. So they
will pull on anything that they can. And the best way to do this
is, or to combat it,is to not give them anything to pull
back, pull out, you know, you want to go sit in the
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corner. It's like dealing with atwo year old who's having a temper tantrum.
The kids having a temper tantrum notbecause they really really really want that
cookie, but it's because they're tiredand they need an ass tantrum. Then
you're just you're enforcing it. You'rereinforcing it, and it makes it so
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that that child never learns that thatis not an effective way to communicate,
and they grow up to be adrama queen or drama king. Where is
if you're like, is that workingfor you? How's that working for you?
Calm down where you just simply breathedeeply around them. Many times it
can change the energy and allow thingsto calm down, but don't give them
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anything to go up against. It'slike doing the stone rock. No expression,
don't get angry, don't yell back, crying or act like you're hurt.
Just nothing. As much as youcan. Just keep the straight face.
It's like uh huh m hm,and that's it, and let them
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talk themselves out. I used towork in movie theaters and we had one
manager who's brilliant. If somebody wasreally off the rail, we would send
him over and he could just standthere for an hour and let somebody just
great and just yell and do whatever. And they're going and going and going
until they get tired and they're like, well okay, and then they would
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walk away. It was great.It's beautiful to watch. But not giving
him any any of your energy,not allowing them to bounce off of you,
to take anything from me, buthaving them bounce off of you is
a very effective way of dealing withthese types of Because they want to be
disruptive, don't let them be disruptive. Keep going back to whatever it was
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that you were doing, and thatwhatever it is that you need to do,
we have. This is one ofmy favorite is the wet shoe.
So somebody asks me to explain this. It's a term my friends and I
use for someone who seems like they'regoing to let go, but then they
come right back and then they're ontrader than ever, and it's really uncomfortable.
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So the wet shoe is someone whocannot exist on their own. They're
very, very needy. They constantlyare depending on you for how they feel
standing on their own. You gotthem a job, you train them,
they got their first paycheck, theyhave their own place to live, they
have their own car. If they'regood, suddenly everything will fall down and
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they will snap right back into placebecause they can never be away from you
for long as it gives them asense of abandonment, and that's what they're
afraid of. So they need tohold on as sightly as they can.
And the way most of these typesof energy vampires work is that they see
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something in you, like if you'rean impat or you're very compassionate, or
you like to take care of people, and they will use that, they
will weaponize it against you, andthey will just cling on and will not
let go, and they will manipulatein ways that make you feel really uneasy.
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So there are plenty of other typesof emotional vampires, like the yo
yo. That's somebody who's really extreme. You feel like you're walking on eggshells.
You don't know who you're walking inon, Like who are you talking
to? One minute they're fine andlaughing at something. Next minute they get
up on stage and slap cursed rockon the face, you know, things
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like that. So they tend tobe short tempered. They're either very happy
or very angry. There's very littlein between. You have gossip pounds who
just want to stir up trouble.They're similar to the drama king or queen,
but they work behind the scenes.So what they want to do is
triangulate people, is make people doubtone another because that brings down the vibration
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of and will allow them to bethe news source. You know. They're
right in the middle of everything.You have jealous friends and lovers, or
you can say envious. Also,the difference between jealousy and envy is jealous
as you're afraid of losing something.Envy is wanting something that someone else has.
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And then you have bullies. Bulliesare absolutely energy vampires because they will
destroy you're energetic and make it fullof cracks, so that you seek energy
everywhere, just so that they candrink it up. It makes them feel
better, and it's because they don'tknow how to maintain their own energy,
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because they truly don't have real selfesteem, they don't have real confidence.
They have to take it from someoneelse. They got to stand on somebody
else in order to deal better aboutthemselves. So I'm sure you could tell
that the main theme here has beenthat these types of people energy vampires and
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emotional vampires. They need to bethe center of attention. When you give
your attention, you give it energy. That's what attention is. Wherever you
focus, that's where your energy isgoing. When you're in a relationship or
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a group where healthy the relation,I'm sorry, the energy will flow back
and forth, kind of like theinfinity symbol, and it's fairly even going
back and forth, although sometimes oneneeds more than the other. It always
even doubts. Many people don't knowthat they're energy vampires, and they would
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not say that they were, like, they have no awareness of it,
of what they're doing. This isjust who they are and this is how
they have survived. They take energyfrom whoever is closest to them, however
they can get it. Many energyvampires really crave contact with people. They
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are highly social and generally to theextent of being unable to be on their
own like these are the people whofeel lonely, like whenever they're not in
relationship where they're not in the middleof stuff, they're lonely. And it's
because they feel like there's there's nothingfeeding them. They need others to feed
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them. They don't know how togo directly to source or how to nourish
their own soul, so they're likea void, feel very empty. In
order for energy vampires to attach toyou or to take from you, generally
they need some type of invitation,and it can come from like recognizing that
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you have a cracked aura, whichcould come from trauma, it could come
from illness, it could come froman accident. Maybe the invitation is your
overly sensitive or you need to beliked. The need to be liked is
probably one of the most dangerous meansthat you can have because it destroys your
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integrity, it destroys your self esteem, and it keeps you from your purpose.
So if you have a strong needto be liked thing that you really
want to examine and that you wantto heal whatever is behind that you want
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to heal that anything that opens youup without lifting you opened you up to
this kind of parasite and all typesof psychic intrusion. So things that open
you up with the that don't liftyou. Alcohol, different types of drugs
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where you'll feel high and you havea crash afterwards. Things like this where
you're you're going out and you're doingthings that are normally seen as not morally
not morally chased, or not morallygood, and it leaves you feeling worse
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afterwards. You felt great during,but you feel worse afterwards. And that's
also how we start addiction because we'refilling a hole. And the law of
attraction is really important when we're talkingabout energy vampires, because you get what
you believe you deserve. These typesof parasites look for weakness and willingness.
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By willingness, I mean being someonewho's not willing to have solid boundaries that
they keep, and they're not willingto really strengthen their sense of self,
their or feel, or to detach. They don't know how to say no,
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They don't know how to walk awayfrom somebody and stay away from them.
They always feel like you're easily convincedby guilt or by shame that they
need to do more for this otherperson. So you need to be really
careful of that. So here's aquick trick to figure out if you're in
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the presence of an energy vampire.Karen had asked earlier in the show about
like, how do I know rightaway? Get to know your body,
your physical body and your emotional body. Really take note when someone comes into
your presence, how do you feelonce you You could be eye contact,
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it could be physically being within fourfeet of each other, it could be
hearing about them, all these differentthings once they come into your energetic how
is your body responding to this?If you feel it in your solar plexus,
which is your surnam is down thecenter of your chest, your solar
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plexus is at the bottom of yoursturnum where your your ribs are, so
it's the little hole that we oftencall our gut feeling is the solar plexus.
The solar plexus will re act oneof three ways to things. Either
they don't react at all, whichis like wow, whatever you do you
do, it doesn't really make muchof an impact. They will feel very
open and light, feels almost likeit's drawing you in. That's a definite
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yes, this is something that youwant. This is something that'd be good
for you. Or they get tight. It could feel like you have a
stomach ache, it could feel likesomebody just punched you. You might have
might have the wind knocked out ofyou. Or it could be very subtle
where they're just really tight and there'sthe sensation of being pulled back, and
it could be very slight or itcould be very severe, depending on how
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your intuition, how strong it is, and also how your intuition precedes the
person as really really dangerous or justnot good to be around. Once you
figure that out, and you couldfeel your body, take a step back,
take a deep breath, think aboutthe person, or even if you're
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standing in front of them, justtake a nice deep breath and feel your
body. And if you feel thesensation of your solar plexus starting to hurt
or starting to get tight, thisis not someone that you should trust.
You really need to be careful ofthat because prolonged exposure to energy vampires can
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leave you exhausted, unfocused, depressed, stressed, and also feeling guilty for
no apparent reasons. You will seepeople who are in these types of situations.
Maybe their significant other is an energyvamp, maybe it's a family member,
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but they're around them a lot.When you start seeing somebody who is
perpetually exhausted, they lose the sparkin their eye, the pep in their
steps. But when they're away fromthose people, if they can break off
contact and be away from them fora period of time, you'll see their
energy coming back. To avoid theconsequences of being sucked in by energy vampires
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and by losing your soul energy,you want to really create a strong energetic
field. You want to build upyour emotional body, and you want to
build up your mental body, becausethey twist things through your mental body in
order to get into the others.There are many different ways to do this,
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and I have videos online where wego through the steps. But if
it's someone that you know who itis, do something called pulling cords that
releases you from the person. Itreleases them from you also, and it
stops any type of energy flow betweenthe two of you. If you want
to reconnect it'll help you balance thosesystems better and feel how out of balance
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it actually is. You can dothe white light meditation, where you're filling
your soul with energy. Doing thaton a Ramler basis helps you to build
up energy. You can do thatright after you've been around an emotional vampire
and that will help you get someof your energy back. So those are
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just a few things. At anothertime, we can go into more specifics
about what it means to have pureboundaries and what other things are effective on
an energetic level besides pulling chords andstreaming energy. But remember it all comes
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down to you and your awareness.If you are aware that someone is pulling
energy from you, and you areaware that when you are with them that
you begin to feel really drained,then it is up to you to figure
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out your own place in that relationshipand how much energy do you want to
give to you To set your boundariesand keep them, it is up to
you to replenish your soul energy.It is up to you to choose who
you're going to give your attention,your time, and your energy too.
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We may like to blame the energyvampires, but the truth is it's up
to us to be strong and whowe are so that they cannot take from
us what we're not willing to give. Do we have any other callers before
we go? We do, we'dhave to be pretty darned quick. Yeah,
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actually it is right at the topof the hour. So because we
want to have time for your shamelessself promotion. Okay, well you want
to do Yeah, that's a quickone, will, so let's go for
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it. Four one six. Thatis you? What's your first name where
you're calling in from? Hello,my name is Caroline. I'm calling from
Ontario and I'm just catching I'm justcatching the show near the end. And
so it definitely sounds like I ama person that would fit fit into category
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being around a lot of emotional vampires. And I'm just overcoming a recent uh
you know, accumulation of just havinggone to a few funerals and being in
a space where, you know,seeing people from old community and different environments
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and people where I don't I've madea choice not to be around them for
a long time. And and yeah, I think what I ended up happening
when I came back is that Idid have a head injury where I fainted.
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I did have a source stomach andwondering if I had eaten something bad.
But I ended up actually fainting andbumping my head on account. And
and you know, I think becauseI have been healing and and getting to
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know myself a lot better. Imean, I don't want to go into
a lot of details, but weonly have about thirty so yeah, so
I am wondering more about the theprotection part, and I'm just hearing now
that you will be discussing not alot more so I did. I guess
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it's just words of advice because I, you know, I already got a
lot of information. So yeah,I thank you for calling, and a
lot of that information I do haveon YouTube. I have a YouTube channel
under my name Jerland sank Joseph whereI go to. My group is called
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Mystery, Mystics and Metaphysics, andthat's on meetup dot com. People who
join that group get to have discussions. We'll pick a topic. I'll film
the first part of it where Italk about the topic, and then the
second part of the meeting is usall getting together and discussing whatever the topic
was and helping each other out.So that might be something that you're interested
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in I would say, like Ihad said earlier, the easiest things are
using gemstone to protect yourself once they'reblessed, and programs. And another good
thing is taking a salt shower ifyou can't take a salt shower, which
is just going into either making asalt bath using sea salt or taking a
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shower, you know, scrubbing yourbody with it or putting it on top
of your head and letting it meltover you. Those things are good for
clearing out that energy. So that'llhelp you as it expects if you can't
take a shower or bath, andyou can do it just scrubbing up to
your elbows or a little bit aboveyour elbows also helps to release that energy
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out of you and away from youonce you've left the presence of somebody that
you feel is a little too sticky. Thank you, and I want to
acquire about this a lot more perhapsthan another time. I appreciate the information
off the forward to it. Thankyou, Thank you very much. Okay,
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so I think we're wrapping up now. We're wrapping up with Jeryl and
Saint Joseph, and my website isVoice of Spirit dot com. Be an
next month and jur Hello links upat newsfothsoul dot com as well, and
we're back with more in a coupleof minutes right after this break. This
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at newsforthsoul dot com. And let'sget back to the show.
Next on News for the Soul,The Voice of Spirit with Jarlyn. Jerlyn
is a fiercely loving Earth Mama offeringher authentic, nurturing presence who holds space
for you to discover your true self. As a natural psychic intuitive, she
has been spiritually guiding clients around theworld since nineteen ninety four, with a
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strong faith and connection with the HolySpirit in Gabriel, her primary guide.
Please welcome Jarlyn back to News forthe Soul. Welcome back, Carolyn,
Hello, thank you. How haveyou been well? It's been an interesting
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energy Ryan looking forward to this today. Alrighty, yes, it has been
very interestingly and less say there's somuch going on. Yeah, okay,
let me get you to do likea reintroduction, overview and dive in.
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Let us know what we're doing today. Okay. So I am jeral Tin
Joseph. I am a natural psychicintuitive, and today we're going to be
talking about how to spot one orknow if you're around one, and what
to do about it. And we'regoing to be talking about different types of
energy vampires and if there is anydifference between an energy vampire and an emotional
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vampire. So we can jump rightin we're going through where go ahead?
What Sorry you've got a little delayabout Sorry, floor is yours. I'm
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sorry I didn't catch you again.Uhh, I was just saying the floor
is yours. Oh okay, thankyou. You're welcome, all right,
and so do you want me tostart again? Yeah, it just just
where we'd like to start, okay. So my name is Gerald and Saint
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Joseph. I am a natural bornpsychic intuitive. What that means is that
I did not take classes or anythingto develop my skills. Basically, I
was just this way and kind ofgrew into my abilities. I have come
along across people along the way whohave been very helpful. Today we're going
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to be talking about energy slash emotionalvampires. We're going to be talking about
if there is a difference between thetwo, how to spot one, what
to do if you're in the presenceof one, and also what are the
different types of energy vampires. I'monly going to briefly be going over what
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I consider like the top five typesof energy or emotional vampires you come across.
So let's dive in right now.In our culture today, vampires are
kind of they're being celebrated they're beingrather romanticized. We have books like Twilight
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and several different television shows and differentthings, but it's seen as kind of
glamorous at being a vampire and havingthat type of a lifestyle. And what
they're looking at in those types ofshows, generally speaking, is that they
will talk about vampires who drink yourblood, which is more about if we
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look at a metaphysical sense or metaphoricsense, they're talking think about draining your
life force, because what keeps usgoing. We need our blood to be
pumping through our veins for our physicalbody to continue to operate. When we
look at that, if you transferthat into an emotional or an energetic vampire,
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it gives you a good idea ofwhat an energy vampire is. What
they're doing, they're basically draining yourlife force. When we talk about energy
vampire in I'm gonna say, likeregular talk, regular folk, we'll call
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it an emotional vampire. They maycall them narcissists or people have narcissistic tendencies.
That's just one type. I useemotional and an energetic vampire interchangeably.
For the most part. The onlyreal difference is that when we talk about
emotional vampire versus an energy vampire.You're talking more on a surface level and
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a psychological level, whereas when wetalk about energy vampires, we talk about
things that are more all encompassing andmore expanded. Where an energy vampire can
act out of any number of differentreasons. They also have an ability to
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take energy even if they don't knowyou, or they're not in the same
room with you, they don't haveyour presence there. So that's what I
would say would be like the onlydifference. Otherwise I use it interchangeably.
And when we talk about emotion,one of the ways it was explained to
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me a long time ago is thatan energy in motion, so emotion is
putting your energy out there on afrequency. And we could talk about that
another time. There's a whole hostof things that go along with that,
but suffice it to say that yourfrequency has a lot to do with the
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type of people that you will havearound you, the type of people that
you attract, the type of peoplethat you keep in your circle, and
the type of people that are goingto make you feel drained as opposed to
feeling more fulfilled. How do youknow if you're around someone who has these
tendencies, especially because generally this isnot something that shows up right away.
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Necessarily, you're talking about people whoyou consistently feel exhausted or really really tired
after speaking to them or simply beingaround them. I remember we had I
worked with someone that we call doctorGloom because he was so negative. No
matter what we were talking about,he could put a negative spin on it
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and somehow like whatever happened to you, what happened to him was worse.
It was like a competition to bethe most traumatized and things like that.
So someone who goes out of theirway to be negative and to find negativity
in things, or to break youout of feeling good and put you no
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cause being realistic. They're just beingrealistic. They're just letting you know.
But what it does is are inan upward spiral where you're feeling good,
you're getting things accomplished, you havethese ideals. Once it becomes apparent to
an energy vampire or an emotional vampire, what they will do is they want
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to put the kabasho on that.They want to suck all that positive energy
out of you and lower your vibrationbecause they are uncomfortable being a rand a
high vibration. They're uncomfortable being aroundsomeone who is very positive and is always
uplifting or looking to uplift. Itbothers them, so they need to poke
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a hole in that balloon, andthey will do that in any number of
ways. But generally what we seeis that anybody else happy, and they
want them to know how unhappy theyshould be. The person may try to
single you out, they will isolateyou, and they will do so to
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flattery, gifts and whatnot, orthey may do so physically because they want
to be held to a different standard, be on a different level than anyone
else around you. These are thepeople who are your friends who get jealous
if the friend circle expands or ifanyone new comes into your life. This
is the girlfriend who can't be happyfor you when speaking as a woman,
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can't be happy for you when youfind a good relationship because she's afraid that's
going to take from her time andher farming of your energy and your attention.
They have nothing to say that isnice about anyone in their past,
and right along with that is energy. Vampires do not hold onto relationships for
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very long, not close relationships.So what you may find is that you
meet these people and they really don'thave anybody close in their lives. But
they'll say, oh, they havethis friend here, and they have this
friend here in this front here,But it's all people that they're not around
consistently and who are not really connectedto them. They're not around them a
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whole lot, because once they arein a relationship where they need to reveal
themselves, then they they show themselvesand people that don't want to be around
them pretty much or they will goafter somebody, and generally this type of
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person. Energy vampires in general,they want to be around people who are
very compassionate, very empathetic, peoplewho are good and kind and giving,
because that's what they want. Theywant your attention, they want your time,
they want your presence, and morethan anything else, they want your
energy, your life. Forced.An energy vampire will also rely on others
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for their self worth. So oneof the things to note is that most
energy vampires have very low self esteem. They have a very bad sense of
self. Although they will aggrandize themselvesand tell people how wonderful they are.
I've heard many wie and say,if you really were that great. You
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wouldn't have to tell anybody that,because they would just know from being around
you. An energy vampire often canbe very difficult to walk away from.
They will create a situation where youlook like the bad guy or you feel
really guilty about walking away from them. Why would you feel guilty about walking
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away from them, Well, ifthe way they're getting attention is by Blanchard
and her mother, the way hermother had to constantly create illnesses and situations
where they were given all this attentionand money and sympathy because her daughter was
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sick and she was such an angelin the sentence, and then you come
to find out later that the daughterwas never actually sick and she was just
a con artist. So con artistin general are going to be energy vampires
also, and they may make itdifficult for you to walk away from them
because you have a sense that youowe them. And that's where when we
talked earlier about winning you over throughflattery and gifts and whatnot. Maybe you
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moved into their house right away.Maybe they, you know, paid for
something for you when you really reallyneed it, So now you have this
sense of loyalty. Energy vampires donot have. There is no loyalty there.
All they do is they're trying tofarm as much attention and as much
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as much praise, as much connection, as much reputation, as much energy
as they possibly can. Another telltalesign is they do not take any real
responsibility for their life circumstances. Blameis the name of the game. So
they'll say, oh, well,if you just told me that, I
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would have done something about it.But you have told them that and they
actually didn't do anything about it.Or they'll say, well, you know
that I have this high sense ofintegrity and I would never How many times
have you watched even watching like Catfishor so many different television shows where they're
you know, calling people out ontheir behavior. Do we see this behavior
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where someone of that I would never, but you just did. What are
you talking about? You would never? You just did. So people who
have there's an incongruency between what theypropose they are and who they are and
what they're what their integrity is versuswhat they show to the world what is
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actually happening, two totally different things. You can spot an energy vampire,
and as you go through the types, we might be talking about that a
little bit more. But just soyou know, when we talk about energy
vampires, so the difference between thatan emotional vampire, because this is mostly
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emotional, is that a real energyvampire can pull from the people in their
area, whether they're connected to youor not. I mean, you could
be on the subway and sitting nextto somebody, all of a sudden you
start feeling really tired. That islike somebody who is really siphoning off whatever
was there for you. So thereare different levels to it. Now at
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any given time in our lives,there may be a time, at some
point where we ourselves will behave asan energy vampire. I wouldn't call it
that strongly, but basically, likeas we go through different trauma and we're
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dealing with things we just are goingthrough a divorce or a MESSI breakup,
or the death of a loved one, to the people around us, they
may get compassion fatigue because they feellike we are pulling all their energy.
And maybe when we're around people,we will somehow find a way to conversation
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back to what is bothering us andourselves. Now, there's a difference between
somebody who does that when they aretruly in need versus somebody who that is
just their personality, like you can'ttalk about anything without them than turning it
about themselves. Actually, I wasaround people the other night and we were
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talking about several of us have lostpeople who are really close to us recently,
and we were all telling these veryuplifting stories about, you know,
the being there with our loved onein their last moments, or different things
that has happened while they were sickand we were caring for them different things.
And there was one person in thegroup totally I don't know, didn't
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read the room at all, butwe're all talking with these uplifting, wonderful
moments that we're endearing, and thenshe pipes in about like all these really
horrible, horrific things. It wasreally interesting because those of us who were
talking, we all could feel thepull of that person trying to pull all
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the energy their way and trying topull the energy down so it's a different
frequency, so they can feel likethey're the center of attention and everybody's looking
at them. And because we couldfeel that, we all put the kabash
to We're all like, no,we're we're not going down that. You
let them say their story and we'relike okay, and then we just continued
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on the conversation as it was liketalking about things that were much more uplift.
So that is one way that youcan deal with people like this.
Again, consistency is key. Ifit's somebody who is consistently showing narcissistic behavior,
that's different than somebody who just everyonce in a blue moon, you
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know, if something will come upand then they have to deal with that.
So let's talk about just want tolet you know you've got a company
as well, Jarrelyn. Okay,awesome, So let's take a couple of
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phone calls before we go into that. Then, all right, perfect timing
eighty three one. We're coming toyou first. What's your first name?
Where you're calling in from time?My name is Karena calling in some central
Florida. Hello, Hello, Hello, Helloha. And you know, I
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just feel a lot of a lotof buttons flashing and popping off in me
as you talk. Yeah, somuch. I've worked on this my whole
life. But I was, youknow, grew up in mental confusion and
emotional pain, and I was mauledon every level, you know, on
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a daily basis by my family.So it's taken me my whole life to
work through this. But I'm,you know, really realizing how I've let
a lot of what you're saying.I'm coming to more and more terms with
it. It seems like almost anever ending process of discovering how I'm allowing
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these people to do things. AndI think I've finally come to a point
where I haven't but where I'm notanymore. And some things, more and
more recently, not letting people suckmy energy or drain me or push buttons
or speak in manipulative ways that arevery nuanced and have been hard for me
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to detect due to my emotional blindspots. And I think, you know,
sometimes I seem to go in myfree years without really changing, and
then suddenly a big change will come. And then for years I'll do a
lot of work and it seems likeI'm not making any progress or getting in
change, and then suddenly a bigchange will come. So it's like I
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write on these plateaus and continue todo work, and then suddenly I go
vertical, and I think I reallyhave again, And I'm just wondering if
you can help me with any blindspots that I'm not seeing that. I
mean, I would love some helpalong the way to see if what I'm
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still doing that maybe is allowing thistype of allowing that still come in.
Yeah, allowing that to allowing thatto come in, or it may always
try to come in, but forme to instantly recognize it and deal with
it rather than be intimidated by itor sucked in by it, or allow
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it to go on even for evenfor ten minutes. I mean, I
don't even want it for three seconds. You know. Well, Number one,
you need to be easier on yourselfbecause especially when it comes from childhood,
and it's just it's almost like ahabit, like we're just used to
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allowing and listening to somebody. Thedifference is you can let spew whatever they
want to spew. The difference isgiving of yourself to them. So a
couple things to remember, and wewill go over this at the end,
are the ways to get away fromthese people. But no is a full
sense. If you want to walkaway from somebody and they've got you cornered
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for whatever reason, and they're talkingand talking and going on and on,
and you want to get away fromthem, you can always say, oh,
my goodness, we're so afraid ofbeing rude to people that we end
up hurting ourselves or changing the subject. You become a real artist at changing
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the subject. You know something they'retalking, Oh, that reminds me of
this, and they're going to beannoyed that you cut them off. But
if it's somebody who does this allthe time, you need to redirect them
in order to shift the energy ina different directions. So you either need
to leave they or walk away.Well let's me say what they want to
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say, but don't take it in. So those are the three things that
you could do right off the bat. So far as blind spots, everybody
has blind spots, and in ourculture right now, the thing is that
comes so adept at using other people, with all these scam artists and catfish
and everything's online. You know tenways to manipulate and all that kind of
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stuff that you just have to reallytrust your gut. Learn how to read
your body, Learn how to feelin your body. If somebody is pulling
from you, or if you justfeel like you're starting to get tugged in
a direction that you don't want togo in, listen to your body and
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get out of there now. Ifsomebody is very insistent and they don't want
to let you go, you couldstart jiggling like I'm sorry, I really
have to do the bathroom. Nobodyis going to stop you. You have
to go to the bathroom, andthat's how you get away. That is
like my full proof method. Ifnothing else works, we're gonna have an
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act in here in a second.You need to let me go. I
gotta go, you know. Andgenerally it's a quick escape. Don't use
it too often or think people aregonna think you have ibs or you you
know, hey, whatever works.But it's just about catching it when it
happens, acknowledging it, and notallowing yourself to beat yourself up because maybe
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you didn't see it coming or youfeel like you didn't catch it fast enough.
There's no such thing. People canbe very subtle, and let's face
it, most of the people whodo this even realize they're doing it.
It's not a conscious act. It'sjust how they are used to behaving.
It's just how they are used tobeing This is how they get fed or
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there's support, or however you wantto talk about it. Is they know
that when they have somebody's undivided attention, or they're getting a lot of attention,
good, bad, or indifferent,that that gives them a sense of
worth because then they feel seen.So it may even be something like if
it's somebody you're close to or somebodyyou have to be around a lot.
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It might be even you know,calling them out and be like, hey,
you know, we were having areally good time, so I really
don't feel right now to talk aboutthis subject. We can talk about this
later when it's more appropriate, orsomething to that nature. Learning how to
again redirect the conversation, either byyou know, scooting around it or by
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directly confronting and being like, youknow, have you noticed that when you
start talking, everybody leads the circlethat we're in and I'm the only one
standing here. Maybe you need tothink about the energy that you're putting off
being kind about it, but stillbeing direct enough that the person is not
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going to it's not just a throwaway. They might get defensive, but you
still put the ball in your court. They still have the information that they
need in order to make a change. If hopefully that helps a bit.
Yeah, I'm taking in everything thatyou're saying, yeah, I'm taking in
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everything that you're saying, so I'ma little slow to respond, but yes,
it all. I appreciate hearing youtalking about this, and yeah,
thank you very much. Yeah,if you want anything that's a little more
in depth, I do have aYouTube channel under my name where I talk
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about a lot of this stuff andhave on on meet up. I have
a couple of groups where we talkabout these types of they'll take it up.
Thank you, all right, thankyou, we do need Let's go
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to eight three to two, eightthree two. What's your first name where
you're coming in from. My nameis Lisa, and I'm calling from Houston.
Listen, honey, be hi Houston. Awesome, Yes, So what
is your comment or question? Myproblem is I'm an impact and I have
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a hard time rob recognizing this ismy energy if it's somebody else's energy,
because here lately I've been I've beensick, and I don't know if it's
my energy, if it's somebody else'senergy. And I have a time,
a hard time, you know,trying to figure out if it's if it's
coming from me, if it's comingfrom somewhere else. What I have that
when it's coming from outside of yourself. It'll come on suddenly usually, and
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the thing is don't say why amI feeling like this? And is this
mine? And either you will getat yes, this is yours and this
is why, or your body willbe like hmm no, it feels kind
of foreign. And then you cansay, well, thank you for letting
me know, but you can gonow and you release it. So that's
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one way another way to do itbecause you don't want to own it because
once you own it, once yousay why am I feeling this way,
your mind is going to come upwith reasons why you're feeling that way.
It's going to look for things,so you don't want to do that.
I use gemstones because sometimes you're justgetting overwhelmed with too many things are happening
and you're like, okay, Ineed to sort this out. And I
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find that the best gemstones in orderto like cut off motions and things coming
from the outside. The two thatI use are Parado p E R I
d O T, which is Augustfirst stone screenstones. Gorgeous. Parado and
Ruby are the two. And whatthose two gemstones do is after you bless
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them in the program, and theywill put a white light shield around you.
And once you put that that paradimon, and whether it's a ring
or you're just holding it in yourhand, you should be able to feel
the difference. If it's your emotion, you're still going to be feeling that
emotion. If it's not your emotion, suddenly you're not feeling that emotion at
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all. So that's that's a quickway to do it. And parado does
not have to be You don't haveto buy like a ring that's several hundred
dollars or anything. You could justget a small piece at like a gem
store. It doesn't have to begemstone quality. It doesn't matter how big
it is or how small. AndI mean I've bought but parado chip necklaces
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when I was in Hawaii for liketen or fifteen dollars, So it doesn't
have to be a real expensive outlayto get what you say. Rubies are
more expensive unless you get like lawruby, which is I like waw rubies,
but a lot of people like thatdoesn't even look like a ruby because
it's not gem quality. So butthose are the two things that I would
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say you want to you want todo you want to focus on how to
separate the two. It's not aboutnot letting it come in at all,
because you're an impact and things willcome in, but there are going to
be times where you don't want thatextraneous stuff, and if you want to
block that, there are different waysto do it, but the most simple
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way, I would say is usinggemstones like ruby or like Parado. And
we could probably do a podcast specificallyon being an impact on what that feels
like and how to walk through lifeas an impact. Okay, yes,
yeah, so does it help?Yes, it helps a lot, reading
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thank you and thank you for calling, thank you, thank you, bye
bye bye bye. Okay, dowe have anyone else? That's all the
colors for now? Okay? Cool? All right, So there are of
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emotional energetic vampires, one that wesee a lot right now and all the
ones that I'm going to talk about, like we're seeing an uptick recently.
I believe this is partially because we'removing into a period of time where it's
really difficult to hide who you are, so that things will be coming through
full four person it'll be easier tosee these things. So my number one
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is the victim, someone who playsvictim all the time. They're a constant
downer, They whine about everything.They're a very insecure person who needs constant,
constant encouragement and constant being told howgreat they are. Now. Is
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that something that really happens? Imean, are there people who who really
are anxious and really need that kindof support. Yeah, and it can
happen at different times. But ifthis is your m H where it's all
the time and you're you really needto examine what you're doing and why,
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because a lot of these people don'trecognize that this is who they are.
But you behave in an insecure mannerso that you get positive feedback. Then
people feel bad giving you negative feedbackbecause you seem so weak and frail.
Some people are sincerely at a lossfor who they are and what they're supposed
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to do, and these people willtry to make themselves better, So you
have two different things, like areal victim or someone who's a victim archetype
or victim mentality. They will takein all of your support and take all
the advice and do all that andthen let it fall because they're not really
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there's no bonus to them getting better. They don't really want to get better.
They don't want to be better.They're just there because this is who
they are. They always have somebodyto blame, they don't want to take
responsibility, and they're having all theirneeds met without having to do any of
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the adult things or the adult workin the situation, if you have someone
who is just simply insecure going througha rough time, what they will do
is as you're trying to teach them, maybe they might not take all of
your advice, but they are goingto try. They're going to make attempts,
and you're going to see improvement.And the thing is to encourage them
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in that improvement so that it keepsgoing so they don't fall backwards. So
the first type is the victim.The second is the charmer. So this
person has to be the center ofattention, and they get this attention by
being charming. They're using flattery,they're being the clown in the group.
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Whatever they're doing, they need tobe the center of attention. So most
of the time the charmer will tryto lighten the mood. They're the good
time guide, they're the party girl. And the way you'll know this from
someone who is just naturally personable isthat this person always has to be a
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certain attention. They will talk overpeople and like get other people's way,
jump on somebody's pool it as theysay, and take credit for other people's
work, whereas someone who is justpersonable knows how to listen. They let
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everybody take their turn. They don'tneed to be the center of attention.
They're not vuying for that. Sometimesthey just naturally get it, but it's
not like as soon as the attentionmoves away from it, they have to
get it back. The charmer alsois one that tries to lighten the movie
even when it's inappropriate. Turn thaton you if you call them out for
being inappropriate, or you say,you know, if you don't need to
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do center attention all the time,and they will become very hurt and distressed,
and they will not understand what iswrong with you? Why you say
such things to them? You areso mean? And that type of thing,
that's the charmer. The next type, which I call the drama queen
or drama king, which in today'ssociety is called a Karen or a They
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say Chad when it's a guy,but I'm not sure, so don't quote
me on that one. The dramaqueen or drama king pretty self explanatory.
They always have a story to telland it's always worse than yours. And
mole hills and tournament to mountains.They know how to really spin things out
(35:38):
of control, really spin them upand not let them go. So they
will pull on anything that they can. And the best way to do this
is, or to combat it,is to not give them anything to pull
back, pull out, you know, you want to go sit in the
(36:00):
corner. It's like dealing with atwo year old who's having a temper tantrum.
The kids having a temper tantrum notbecause they really really really want that
cookie, but it's because they're tiredand they need an ass tantrum. Then
you're just you're enforcing it. You'rereinforcing it, and it makes it so
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that that child never learns that thatis not an effective way to communicate,
and they grow up to be adrama queen or drama king. Where is
if you're like, is that workingfor you? How's that working for you?
Calm down where you just simply breathedeeply around them. Many times it
can change the energy and allow thingsto calm down, but don't give them
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anything to go up against. It'slike doing the stone rock. No expression,
don't get angry, don't yell back, crying or act like you're hurt.
Just nothing. As much as youcan. Just keep the straight face.
It's like uh huh m hm,and that's it, and let them
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talk themselves out. I used towork in movie theaters and we had one
manager who's brilliant. If somebody wasreally off the rail, we would send
him over and he could just standthere for an hour and let somebody just
great and just yell and do whatever. And they're going and going and going
until they get tired and they're like, well okay, and then they would
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walk away. It was great.It's beautiful to watch. But not giving
him any any of your energy,not allowing them to bounce off of you,
to take anything from me, buthaving them bounce off of you is
a very effective way of dealing withthese types of Because they want to be
disruptive, don't let them be disruptive. Keep going back to whatever it was
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that you were doing, and thatwhatever it is that you need to do,
we have. This is one ofmy favorite is the wet shoe.
So somebody asks me to explain this. It's a term my friends and I
use for someone who seems like they'regoing to let go, but then they
come right back and then they're ontrader than ever, and it's really uncomfortable.
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So the wet shoe is someone whocannot exist on their own. They're
very, very needy. They constantlyare depending on you for how they feel
standing on their own. You gotthem a job, you train them,
they got their first paycheck, theyhave their own place to live, they
have their own car. If they'regood, suddenly everything will fall down and
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they will snap right back into placebecause they can never be away from you
for long as it gives them asense of abandonment, and that's what they're
afraid of. So they need tohold on as sightly as they can.
And the way most of these typesof energy vampires work is that they see
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something in you, like if you'rean impat or you're very compassionate, or
you like to take care of people, and they will use that, they
will weaponize it against you, andthey will just cling on and will not
let go, and they will manipulatein ways that make you feel really uneasy.
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So there are plenty of other typesof emotional vampires, like the yo
yo. That's somebody who's really extreme. You feel like you're walking on eggshells.
You don't know who you're walking inon, Like who are you talking
to? One minute they're fine andlaughing at something. Next minute they get
up on stage and slap cursed rockon the face, you know, things
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like that. So they tend tobe short tempered. They're either very happy
or very angry. There's very littlein between. You have gossip pounds who
just want to stir up trouble.They're similar to the drama king or queen,
but they work behind the scenes.So what they want to do is
triangulate people, is make people doubtone another because that brings down the vibration
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of and will allow them to bethe news source. You know. They're
right in the middle of everything.You have jealous friends and lovers, or
you can say envious. Also,the difference between jealousy and envy is jealous
as you're afraid of losing something.Envy is wanting something that someone else has.
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And then you have bullies. Bulliesare absolutely energy vampires because they will
destroy you're energetic and make it fullof cracks, so that you seek energy
everywhere, just so that they candrink it up. It makes them feel
better, and it's because they don'tknow how to maintain their own energy,
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because they truly don't have real selfesteem, they don't have real confidence.
They have to take it from someoneelse. They got to stand on somebody
else in order to deal better aboutthemselves. So I'm sure you could tell
that the main theme here has beenthat these types of people energy vampires and
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emotional vampires. They need to bethe center of attention. When you give
your attention, you give it energy. That's what attention is. Wherever you
focus, that's where your energy isgoing. When you're in a relationship or
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a group where healthy the relation,I'm sorry, the energy will flow back
and forth, kind of like theinfinity symbol, and it's fairly even going
back and forth, although sometimes oneneeds more than the other. It always
even doubts. Many people don't knowthat they're energy vampires, and they would
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not say that they were, like, they have no awareness of it,
of what they're doing. This isjust who they are and this is how
they have survived. They take energyfrom whoever is closest to them, however
they can get it. Many energyvampires really crave contact with people. They
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are highly social and generally to theextent of being unable to be on their
own like these are the people whofeel lonely, like whenever they're not in
relationship where they're not in the middleof stuff, they're lonely. And it's
because they feel like there's there's nothingfeeding them. They need others to feed
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them. They don't know how togo directly to source or how to nourish
their own soul, so they're likea void, feel very empty. In
order for energy vampires to attach toyou or to take from you, generally
they need some type of invitation,and it can come from like recognizing that
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you have a cracked aura, whichcould come from trauma, it could come
from illness, it could come froman accident. Maybe the invitation is your
overly sensitive or you need to beliked. The need to be liked is
probably one of the most dangerous meansthat you can have because it destroys your
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integrity, it destroys your self esteem, and it keeps you from your purpose.
So if you have a strong needto be liked thing that you really
want to examine and that you wantto heal whatever is behind that you want
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to heal that anything that opens youup without lifting you opened you up to
this kind of parasite and all typesof psychic intrusion. So things that open
you up with the that don't liftyou. Alcohol, different types of drugs
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where you'll feel high and you havea crash afterwards. Things like this where
you're you're going out and you're doingthings that are normally seen as not morally
not morally chased, or not morallygood, and it leaves you feeling worse
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afterwards. You felt great during,but you feel worse afterwards. And that's
also how we start addiction because we'refilling a hole. And the law of
attraction is really important when we're talkingabout energy vampires, because you get what
you believe you deserve. These typesof parasites look for weakness and willingness.
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By willingness, I mean being someonewho's not willing to have solid boundaries that
they keep, and they're not willingto really strengthen their sense of self,
their or feel, or to detach. They don't know how to say no,
(45:32):
They don't know how to walk awayfrom somebody and stay away from them.
They always feel like you're easily convincedby guilt or by shame that they
need to do more for this otherperson. So you need to be really
careful of that. So here's aquick trick to figure out if you're in
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the presence of an energy vampire.Karen had asked earlier in the show about
like, how do I know rightaway? Get to know your body,
your physical body and your emotional body. Really take note when someone comes into
your presence, how do you feelonce you You could be eye contact,
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it could be physically being within fourfeet of each other, it could be
hearing about them, all these differentthings once they come into your energetic how
is your body responding to this?If you feel it in your solar plexus,
which is your surnam is down thecenter of your chest, your solar
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plexus is at the bottom of yoursturnum where your your ribs are, so
it's the little hole that we oftencall our gut feeling is the solar plexus.
The solar plexus will re act oneof three ways to things. Either
they don't react at all, whichis like wow, whatever you do you
do, it doesn't really make muchof an impact. They will feel very
open and light, feels almost likeit's drawing you in. That's a definite
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yes, this is something that youwant. This is something that'd be good
for you. Or they get tight. It could feel like you have a
stomach ache, it could feel likesomebody just punched you. You might have
might have the wind knocked out ofyou. Or it could be very subtle
where they're just really tight and there'sthe sensation of being pulled back, and
it could be very slight or itcould be very severe, depending on how
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your intuition, how strong it is, and also how your intuition precedes the
person as really really dangerous or justnot good to be around. Once you
figure that out, and you couldfeel your body, take a step back,
take a deep breath, think aboutthe person, or even if you're
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standing in front of them, justtake a nice deep breath and feel your
body. And if you feel thesensation of your solar plexus starting to hurt
or starting to get tight, thisis not someone that you should trust.
You really need to be careful ofthat because prolonged exposure to energy vampires can
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leave you exhausted, unfocused, depressed, stressed, and also feeling guilty for
no apparent reasons. You will seepeople who are in these types of situations.
Maybe their significant other is an energyvamp, maybe it's a family member,
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but they're around them a lot.When you start seeing somebody who is
perpetually exhausted, they lose the sparkin their eye, the pep in their
steps. But when they're away fromthose people, if they can break off
contact and be away from them fora period of time, you'll see their
energy coming back. To avoid theconsequences of being sucked in by energy vampires
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and by losing your soul energy,you want to really create a strong energetic
field. You want to build upyour emotional body, and you want to
build up your mental body, becausethey twist things through your mental body in
order to get into the others.There are many different ways to do this,
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and I have videos online where wego through the steps. But if
it's someone that you know who itis, do something called pulling cords that
releases you from the person. Itreleases them from you also, and it
stops any type of energy flow betweenthe two of you. If you want
to reconnect it'll help you balance thosesystems better and feel how out of balance
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it actually is. You can dothe white light meditation, where you're filling
your soul with energy. Doing thaton a Ramler basis helps you to build
up energy. You can do thatright after you've been around an emotional vampire
and that will help you get someof your energy back. So those are
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just a few things. At anothertime, we can go into more specifics
about what it means to have pureboundaries and what other things are effective on
an energetic level besides pulling chords andstreaming energy. But remember it all comes
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down to you and your awareness.If you are aware that someone is pulling
energy from you, and you areaware that when you are with them that
you begin to feel really drained,then it is up to you to figure
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out your own place in that relationshipand how much energy do you want to
give to you To set your boundariesand keep them, it is up to
you to replenish your soul energy.It is up to you to choose who
you're going to give your attention,your time, and your energy too.
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We may like to blame the energyvampires, but the truth is it's up
to us to be strong and whowe are so that they cannot take from
us what we're not willing to give. Do we have any other callers before
we go? We do, we'dhave to be pretty darned quick. Yeah,
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actually it is right at the topof the hour. So because we
want to have time for your shamelessself promotion. Okay, well you want
to do Yeah, that's a quickone, will, so let's go for
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it. Four one six. Thatis you? What's your first name where
you're calling in from? Hello,my name is Caroline. I'm calling from
Ontario and I'm just catching I'm justcatching the show near the end. And
so it definitely sounds like I ama person that would fit fit into category
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being around a lot of emotional vampires. And I'm just overcoming a recent uh
you know, accumulation of just havinggone to a few funerals and being in
a space where, you know,seeing people from old community and different environments
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and people where I don't I've madea choice not to be around them for
a long time. And and yeah, I think what I ended up happening
when I came back is that Idid have a head injury where I fainted.
(53:29):
I did have a source stomach andwondering if I had eaten something bad.
But I ended up actually fainting andbumping my head on account. And
and you know, I think becauseI have been healing and and getting to
(53:52):
know myself a lot better. Imean, I don't want to go into
a lot of details, but weonly have about thirty so yeah, so
I am wondering more about the theprotection part, and I'm just hearing now
that you will be discussing not alot more so I did. I guess
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it's just words of advice because I, you know, I already got a
lot of information. So yeah,I thank you for calling, and a
lot of that information I do haveon YouTube. I have a YouTube channel
under my name Jerland sank Joseph whereI go to. My group is called
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Mystery, Mystics and Metaphysics, andthat's on meetup dot com. People who
join that group get to have discussions. We'll pick a topic. I'll film
the first part of it where Italk about the topic, and then the
second part of the meeting is usall getting together and discussing whatever the topic
was and helping each other out.So that might be something that you're interested
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in I would say, like Ihad said earlier, the easiest things are
using gemstone to protect yourself once they'reblessed, and programs. And another good
thing is taking a salt shower ifyou can't take a salt shower, which
is just going into either making asalt bath using sea salt or taking a
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shower, you know, scrubbing yourbody with it or putting it on top
of your head and letting it meltover you. Those things are good for
clearing out that energy. So that'llhelp you as it expects if you can't
take a shower or bath, andyou can do it just scrubbing up to
your elbows or a little bit aboveyour elbows also helps to release that energy
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out of you and away from youonce you've left the presence of somebody that
you feel is a little too sticky. Thank you, and I want to
acquire about this a lot more perhapsthan another time. I appreciate the information
off the forward to it. Thankyou, Thank you very much. Okay,
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so I think we're wrapping up now. We're wrapping up with Jeryl and
Saint Joseph, and my website isVoice of Spirit dot com. Be an
next month and jur Hello links upat newsfothsoul dot com as well, and
we're back with more in a coupleof minutes right after this break. This
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program was first broadcast. News forthe Soul begins it's twenty seventh year in
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