Ep 188 Ser o no ser… El Amante

Axel Alcantara, Quique Galdeano, Julian Soto y Adrian Andres recuerdan como aquellas veces que tuvieron un amante y que fueron el amante. Julian recuerda aquella vez que una ex novia lo confrontó yendo a la casa de la amante para preguntarle y después de corroborar su historia terminó con él a pesar de que lo negó en un principio. Por otro lado Quique recuerda cuando descubrió a su ex teniendo sexo con un amante los sacó de la cama desnudos, mientras que Adrian Andres recuerda cuando le reclamaron por ser el amante de una pareja, pero él siente cero culpa al respecto, ¿es su responsabilidad? ¿La culpa la tiene Adrian o el novio que puso los cuernos?

Episode Transcript

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Pink Box presents. The opinions expressedherein are entirely the responsibility of those who
provide the information and do not representthe opinions or editorial thinking of Escandala.
They saw or the theor Speaking toChile and only as we can do it,

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no chin temona returns to how itis. If you hear it,
good afternoon, welcome to a newchapter of no Chile. Tembona' s
on this side. Here' smy dearest, Julián Soto, let'
s go to Rola, so clearwe do. Here' s this beautiful
chair again. Here we have AdrianAndrés who does cro how nice of you

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always chilies. And here we havethe most famous that Galdeano of course will
and Mr Axel will be glad thatwe walk the four chilies that we are
going to talk to you today hearthree. An interesting topic that we want
to see both sides, evaluate opinionsfrom all sides. But it' s
kind of a rough topic, notwhich one of you, well, I

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don' t know what we're going to see. Maybe I'
m not that rough. Who knowshow to see what they think lovers,
Güey have had lovers or have beenlovers or there it has been my experience.
If you' re an assistant whorelover what you want to call him
Güey all over Güey you Julian.Yeah, sure, I think it'
s part of life. At somepoint it' s your turn to be

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the lover. This life has alreadybeen the lover. Güey eh has already
been the lover' s tablecloth andI' ve also had to have lovers.
What do you see, Chao?Come if I hear it I have
to deny it. We all havea past We all have a tail that
we have. Everyone at some pointtells us Güey you' re faithful.
Yes, of course I' mthe güey, but everyone, at some
point we' ve slipped and we' ve stumbled. I' ve been
the lover, yes, and I' ve had someone there on the side,

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too, Güey. No doubt it' s ma I think we all
start relationships by saying in love.Obviously, I have no eyes for anyone
else to that expectation. The friend' s already handcrafted, no one else
wants anything. Besides, I likeit. But there comes a point where
relationships get complicated, where I don' t say it has to happen.
But obviously it' s harder tocontrol the impulses you start seeing for other

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sides, because there are problems inyour relationship and good? There begins the
internal decisions, the lack of convictionto say good, because one sings there
give the face, call it.I' m not saying that I currently
do. I' m talking aboutmy past. Today I have a totally
different opinion about whether to have loversor to be this lover, because I

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try to do things better to see. Question güey, because we have already
had comments. Already started people reactingto the first episodes. We' ve
already had two three hetes out there, two or three people who are tied
and ma ge ne we we prettysaw it two three hete wey but the
net one, I mean, let' s start with the most cancelable wey
that is. How you felt whenyou were, when you had a mantle,

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when you had a little cane inthe air outside of your relationship wey
emotionally let' s go to thatwey because people tell us to punch cats
that nothing else does not wey andfeels ugly sometimes. And now here,
in Chile we' re going totalk to Chichile Güey and if not,
I think it' s very exciting. We' re not going to deny
there' s a lot of passioninvolved. You know you' re doing
something forbidden and we know that whenwe do something forbidden there' s adrenaline.

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You raise the rush, then yousay yes, if it' s
worth it, it' s theplanning you do around them, because you
have to hide you, you haveto put together your strategy. All of
that is just a little bit ofgees güey I' m going pussy for
hours I mean, no, andyou start a whole mess because everything always

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starts with a conversation. He's practically the devil. Güey, that
fart, is the day a lotof things. I think let' s
say I' m in a relationshipwith a girl and all of a sudden
let' s say we' rein a bad situation that I already want
to have a lover. So,obviously, it' s all going to
start with a talk and it's how I let the other person know
that, besides that I have apartner and it has to be part of
something that you might agree with andI' m not going to rat out,

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because there are a lot, alot of factors or a lot of
circumstances involved in games. If Itell you this girl hey I have a
girlfriend, but I would like tobe with you, you can rat me
out and I end up like thedog of the two cakes, losing everything
we' ve all ended up likethis, Güey, let' s say
you lend yourself the situation that theother girl says good if you squirt her

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is that on this side yes oryes, you have everything. No,
well play to wey uh, you' re obviously doing it because it'
s you want a reality. Iwant to win everything, I mean you
' re saying the one who doesn' t risk, doesn' t win
this one is worth it, thegame is on. I think a part
of you stops thinking with convictions andstops thinking with more structure, but you
say I' m guided by emotiontotally the passion increases, that is,

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there is an obstacle that does itnow. Yeah, that an adventure is
more fun than when it flies danger, that is, and it steals you
zero. But obviously it also comesto talk about the part after you commit
it not many times you end upwith that feeling of satisfaction, but a
tremendous guilt. Ah, we justgot you turned off, go to the

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Mexican girl you hear from us aboutproduction. He didn' t have enough
budget for a sign to fix itexactly. If you' re looking at
it, I' ll monetize itso we can have a letter. Always
the chan pipalta experiences, donations,ex comments. There' s everything.
It was propinita pimpo also uses thisfor me, not for the problem and

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I commented then there is this partof when the expectation, idealization, of
the satisfaction that will feel the pleasureis so great, but when it is
already fulfilled, that you say,comes a guilt, tremendous and güey It
doesn' t always depend on howit looks, but at least in my
case I always felt like guilt.After I said it I fucked up I
just lost the sun and the moonby seeing the stars furthest away at times

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like dicks I' m going,but it gives her the clear anger how
cocks I' m going to tellyou how. Yeah, yeah, yeah,
I' m gonna have it printedout in this Union. And,
well, I mean, the guiltfeeling is horrible. I think it'
s easier to be the lover tohave a mantle, so when you'
re the lover, it' snot my fault. The other part,

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who' s got a relationship iswho' s screwing it up myself,
because in a way he manages mea little more freedom just the same when
already if you put him around alot, you start to think this says
well, I' m shitting someonewho' s betting everything on his relationship.
Or let' s say the personwho doesn' t know if it
' s clear and where you're sitting, but I want you to

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tell me your first lover, justlike it was and right now you'
re going since I was old,I was in college. I had about
how much you have. It's already eight s that I was a
year ahead. The truth feels nine, presents seven. Then I had a

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couple. The other person is alsoa couple. Then we decided to apply
a was broken, but rather washappy of the two, because the other
two parts did not know. ThenI don' t think you' re
a couple anymore. Yeah, I' ll also give you that lovers who
are of that they both have apartner. It' s easier. You
both have the agreement as understood andcan be fooled calmly, because you don

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' t have the problem of fallingin love. They' re going to
rate me, because, you know, they both have cards to play.
You know the reverse trap card.It had to be like this. Güey
is never guarantee the net, becausehe also does not know of the other
person at what time br another andhappens a lot. Güey doesn' t
happen much that Güey is. Ican do it, but when they do
it to me, it' sthere. If you can' t exactly

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Güey, then and then I thinkwith infidelities or when you have lovers,
it' s always like that.It' s not the same thing to
do to you to give it toyou, I' ll do it to
you. And this was told tome by a person I love very much,
a guy told me I was avery fucking nephew, but the day
your aunt decided to give me onefor many that I made. I don
' t know if I did thesame thing, and that' s where

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I understood that my whole life I' d been being a son of a
bitch. Yeah, right at me, even if I didn' t experience
him telling me like that, Isaid. I began to reflect on the
subject. I said if it's true or you feel super Man when
you' re doing it, youfeel all mine, but if they do
it to you, I' mnot going to apply the same thing and
they' ve done it to me, I' ve also discovered infidelities and

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there I said if it' strue that you don' t feel the
same at all right now. Wemove on to that one like me Exelito
the same, but more or less. They were at that same time wey
me, and I think now moreabout the same episode. Me. My
longest relationship lasted eight years. Thenimagine what can' t happen in eight
years. Not obviously, we arein a middle surrounded by morra, tarte,
art forgiveness cu for those who arejust listening. We have Mars,

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Adrián Andrs' bitch from the mountain, not Julian Willa or for her,
but seven months, I mean,she' s a better baby, they
' re watching me more already outsorry very well. So I' m
telling you, imagine not eight yearsthat wey can' t happen, that
' s not justification. Of course, all this isn' t looking for
me. Güey goes down many times, for yes, that is, as

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the novelty wey the rosh wey emotionand what Julián de Güey says, this
falling in love and this wonderful stageis going down. I think for men,
it certainly goes down faster than forwomen. We can neither deny it
nor perhaps confirm either general or general, but I think so. Then it
' s been eight years. Weyyou surround yourself with a medium of extra

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- talented people. Wey eye-catching that, of course, you say
ay Güey I love x hey personaand then I was in the same theater
group where we were all Güey noand everyone changing there, well, Güey
don' t know there' sin the tear see that there' s
no modesty, there' s nomodesty. Then the net is that yes
began to call my attention to agirl who was in the same group güey

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and in a meeting, in afart, because güey was given, that
is literally, the chada with whichI was with my girlfriend, left and
I already at the level of peddlethat wey brought because I started to mess
with this chava everyone found out weystarted to make a roll. We didn
' t keep it anymore. Afterall, it didn' t keep up
with time, but what if itwas a moment of ah bastard, so
cool is that she' s verycocky WEY then the rush is seen and

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it' s from wey wey ngüey wey passes this fart of ana of
animals we we wey I don't ask. I want to eat you
bastard, you eat it and besides, I want to keep you eating WEY
I mean, they' re nomore f Horita, I mean Neta liked
me and Neta would like to weybut just what Julián says, I mean,
I don' t think and thenet good, right now, we

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' ll discuss it and I don' t think they won' t let
me lie, but I don't think there' s a vato for
any more asshole, which is,that he didn' t feel bad he
doesn' t maybe do it,maybe it happens to him. Taca tacata.
But Neta, I don' tthink there' s anyone in all
your emotions who says oh, itearned me ultra mother. No, Güey,
there' s always a pain weythere' s always a charge of

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conscience always and we can' tchannel. But go tell him Neta,
who I' ve had an experienceso say oh, I felt rather like
a bastard, son, I don' t think Güey, nor the Juan
Cámara and more Chingon and all mine. I don' t think, Neta,
you sit down, you don't feel affected by that having a
lover as well argue that being thelover is something else, it' s
another story. And what if Güeydid, Miss, tell me and how

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they endured that feeling of guilt,because they also followed the relationship. Yeah,
ay, ay, ay, Güey, ay, ay, ay,
ay, ay, ay, ay, ay, ay, ay, ay,
ay, ay, ay, ay, ay, ay, ay,
ay, ay, ay, ah, ah, ay, ay, ay,

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ay, ay, ay, ay, ay, ay, ay,
ay, ay, ay, ay, ay, ay, ay, ay,
ay, ay, ay, ay, ay, ay, ay,
ay, ay, ay, ay, ay, ay, ay, ay,
ay, ay, ay, ay, ay, ay, ay,
ay, ay, ay, ay, ay, ay, ay, ay,
ay, ay, ay, ay, ay. I do, if
they come to me and I andI appreciate Güey more honesty. If I
' d charge myself with hiding it, then, but if it comes and
tells me, hey, hey,hey, hey, hey, hey,
hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey,
hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey,
hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey,
hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey,
hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey,
hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey,
hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey.
This happened, I' d say, and then how it was.

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No, because Güey to me likeI don' t know why I'
m telling you don' t generalizeGüey, but he does learn a lot
from me. Wey how to imaginemy Güey, wey with other people,
not like he' s liking meand that he' s like me and
he' s not as much asme. Güey, not the literal if
you tell me güey this because ifthis happened, I mean, but I

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don' t have to say güeyand I don' t want to know
what dicks you did, I don' t mean that we' re very
different in that sense, of course, but to me if you give me
a morbo wey well fuck, no. And that' s where you realize
that people, if we' revery different, very güey, but you
also have to be güey, youhave to be very real. I am
very curious that they tell me whatit is like because the way we work

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sexuality homosexuals to heterosexuals is different.You had to explore a lot of things
to get to each other' slock and I get excited to see my
güey you know then you didn't have to try a thousand eight thousand
assholes and be in it when theirsis a little bit more implicit. What
' s the protocol and that's legal. At the end of the
day, a güey box, ofcourse, is what is well fucked up,

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now also of time, that is, implicit. It' s a
box that we, because we're heterosexual and therefore relate them, relate
to women, we have to followthose rules that can probably change we don
' t know and that' sright now. We just sold it so
much you' re crepit. Let' s get there, let' s
see me, if I want tohear your answer, how cock came out
and they were still in there.Of course not, because I think you

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say the other person, it wasjust this a sexual relationship, that is,
we intimated, we were together,we slept together, but it'
s not the person I love,that is, you minimized it you try
to minimize it. I just do, Lola, I get the blame for
what I do to the other person, because besides I don' t want
to lose her and return you,plus with the nerve that you love me

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you' re gonna fuck bastard.Yeah, I always feel like you,
or it' s even a joke, very famous. They' re social
networks. It' s from whenyou came out alone and what you say
and in the morning you have tomiss you. I never want to lose
you. I thought I noticed,because you' re just trying to hide.
You make a mistake and you finishit. If you don' t
move anymore or when you move,torte, you come back or it'

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s more affectionate. You want todo everything right almost breakfast the bed or.
But that' s why with yourfirst one like you did to him,
what was your strategy to hide itthat wasn' t there. I
don' t remember well, it' s just that the first time I
committed infidelity, I was very sorrybecause I lost the woman I was married
to. But also good had inthe long run his good things, because

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thanks to the one that also brokemy heart because of that breakup is that
I was here in Mexico City,to follow me to my city, escaping
from what I felt and arrived inMexico City. But obviously, when he
confronted me, it' s justthat you realize that I commit infidelity.
To commit an infidelity. I'm unfaithful because, since I' m
from Sinaloa, I' m anasshole in all the ways you can want
to earn by esteeming Sinaloa. I' m from Monterrade, listening to all

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my cousins. No, but therewas that one about almost that you wanted
your friends to know that you haddone it, because it was, like
ah you' re a ro güey, because with two between, with more
things, more man, what amess. Obviously, I did. I
didn' t feel well. Afterthat, I felt guilty. I didn
' t feel good because the nextday let' s say I do it

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tonight, the next day, everykiss that was my ex- nomenese then
it hurt me because it was andI and I last night was a dog,
I was a rat and this womangiving me all her love with which
face I put on, then you' re like inside and being you feel
Jewish, I explain you feel atreacherous disloyal ok I said what I'
m going to do? I'm going to pretend that nothing happens here,
because I' m clear my feelingsthat I love her I' m

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not going to say anything, becauseI don' t want to ruin the
relationship. Let' s move onIt' s been three months. I
had already forgotten that I had beenunfaithful. I already saw myself married to
this woman my family, also hisfamily was already my family. My family
was his family and one day theyall find out that well, their friends
find out that I see him cheating. They tell her a table to talk.
Tell me the news and you saidhow you said all this whatsapp of

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my love. Play it copy andtell me very Sinaloan style of you going
to chinga your mother, to Chile. I didn' t hear you cheated
on me with Vanessa. She wascalled a company, I run away from
this place and they call her anchimaI already found out and I didn'

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t. I didn' t trywhat any man does when he tells him
it was that I deny it whenhe was nga come from the musical what
father for this. We made thecall to the mistress. See, he
took out egg early, and we' re all in the car. We

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made the call, hey. Thisone' s cool, then, but
hey, I' m calling youor you' re calling my cell phone.
My novi said I don' twant him to know he' s
here. You' re going totalk to her and you' re going
to talk to her with love andI' m going to see because she
wanted to believe it and she hearsyou, yes, she wanted to believe

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me, she wanted to believe methat it was a lie, it'
s not a great horror that orphanism. I' m not gonna understand anymore.
The net was as it is.Don' t apologize to me that
I' m going to believe youso this one didn' t look for
you bastard or I said I knewI had everything against it. We called
him with b ah he didn't answer the other girl. I sent
him a message to hear or totalk to you, he answers, he
answers, and I hope he givesall the answers in my favor, i
e he leaves nothing and entertains andfortunately, if he went unnoticed, he

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went unnoticed, if he answered asif I were not to anyone I said
ay, I am winning. I' m winning. If I can make
him trust me, because really myintentions weren' t, it wasn'
t my ex- girlfriend to makehim look bad. I didn' t
want to fuck her up, notthat it was me looking like an ah.
He' s gonna believe me,and then I' m like a
bastard. Not me, if youbelieve me and I promise not to miss
again I give up on blowjobs,if I' m already going to make

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a good comp with God. Hey, well, let it go,'
cause the game had been going onfor three months, I mean, I
' m only unfaithful that time,and I' ve been acting good for
three months knowing that, like itwas an achievement, I had that soo.
But I mean something changed in thosemonths in my head that I said
I realized that I was the girlI wanted to be with, that I
even looked married, that I wantedto form a family, that is,

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I was like I' ve decided. It' s ruining everything, I
mean, if I had thrown itout the next one would have said well,
last night I was a dog andbecause aha I still don' t
see a future, but well wemark it the other girl answers in my
favor, I mean, it doesn' t stop any glimpses. She'
s telling me that if I believeyou, I don' t know what
and my girlfriend was very much thatmy ex- girlfriend was very cocky,

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she did something very fucking for her, she went alone to the girl'
s house to confront her and obviously, she confessed everything and ruined my relationship.
I cried at him, begged himfor everything, texted him. There
' s nothing uglier to say.We' re past morals, fair hatred.
It was not only that it ended, but, obviously, because there
was a betrayal, I already feltthat she hated me. He didn'

(19:07):
t want to know anything about meand it was like a week ago.
We were even talking about that idealizedfuture that everyone, well, most people
are looking for and it' sall over. You know, it'
s all over. What pin whathappened, because the net not, because
I also want to tell this hasa part two that in the years to
the season, already coming in MexicoCity, had already studied actación. My

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ex- girlfriend came to Mexico City. We went to his already, we
met at nothing, who I cheatedon. We went to Zumaya we talked
about it. He asked me whyI did it. I already spoke honestly.
It' s been long enough forme to be able to be totally.
That looks at the truth. Güey. It did happen, why it
happened, because I was a fooland I ruined things. I left most

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of it at least, but atthat moment I couldn' t see it
like that. You have to understandthat I didn' t have the maturity
necessary for me to be able tohave my own master to say this is
what I want in my life,but it' s worth me the approval
of others. It is because Idid it enough for the approval of my
compas saying this one man for powerwith all these. Güey guided me a
lot by the desire that is notamalgamated by desire now if your desires kill

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what you love. That' swhen I say or take away your freedom.
That' s when I say it' s worth giving up certain wishes.
Then we' ll talk about it. She told me you know what.
I made the wish I had JulianGüey already and was three do was

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super father because she told me youknow what. I think differently today,
too. I think that if youdid today, we were together today,
I would do it, maybe I' ll forgive you for having been so
stuck, there wouldn' t beso much there. Fart, because you
were really a good man We havea nice relationship. Maybe it' s
worth forgiving you. I don't know, but today in it he
told me listen in me no moreresentment, no more anger and we could

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enjoy a day of past. Hewas leaving here in Mexico City and I
kind of managed to close that story, heal that part I said good.
I' m different, too.I know that I walked around no longer
cheating and I managed to have peacethanks to that talk that was presented,
that is not always achieved, thatcomes almost always when you are unfaithful.
And the other part isn' ta wey band for the rest of your
days, totally to me, whathappened to me was wey they didn'

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t let me lie WEY i mean, I also stupid wey vo pedo,
drunk on a wey fart was whereI went and got into this chick where
the whole theater group is. Güey, then, there was no way to
hide it. Wey obviously, thenext day was the first thing the girl
was told, that she was mygirlfriend san one, I couldn' t
deny it. Güey, no,I mean, I couldn' t get
out for him. No. No, no. Let' s see Talk

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to him, noaaa. What abarot to see Not Marcale. Wey caught
me and so on, obviously Imade pus apologize, obviously admit the same
thing about wey the wish gey thisroll. We have to understand that this
is not justification. Look, it' s no justification and that' s
why it' s called no temponaChile, because at the end of the
day, someone' s going toget pissed off by this. It'
s no justification, yes, thenet Güey, because we have a hard

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- to- manage education. Themen also heterosexual Güey, that is,
those things that Julián spoke of rightnow, of social pressure, from environment
to environment, family and everything,because they affect us very much Güey.
With that, we grew up,with that, we developed. Obviously,
we are all, we are vatoswho love sex, we love closeness and
age, whether with men or withwomen. We all love Güey. Yeah,

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so oh it' s not gonnabe like that, Güey, wey
there' s that. We canbe, whether we are or not.
Agreed with a lot of Güey things, but it' s basically the same.
Your education was the same as Isaw in the wey movies in my
house wey, so we were raisedeye back to the same thing. That
' s no justification. Not poorman, yes, but you' re
facing it. No. I understandperfectly that what I' ve always said

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a lot of Güey' s AdriánOk it took you a lot more to
discover many things Yes, of course, without a doubt, things that we
got chewed and in the mouth andthat almost by force Güey, that is,
you can with so many, Youcan with her, You, You
have to be the man, Youhave to be such Güey by spoon.
They didn' t force him intoGüey. I put all this to say
that Güey apologized. They put mein the freezer for a while. Güey.

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This girl ended up with me fora while and I had to do
the chamba of being there again provingand demonstrating forgets, proving I came back
with her at the end of theday, we lasted eight years. This
will have happened when we were inthe year four wey or four or five.
That way, I mean, westill have a really good time.
More. Güey you know and todate she' s one of my best
friends, I mean, we've been mother time for 20 years.

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She' s one of my bestfriends. I also find little manipulation.
Let' s see, I don' t have the question for you.
I have a question. You hopeit doesn' t all come from a
point where they tell us that theperson we' re with belongs to us.
Then I want to put them onI want to ask them something.
So those ideas exactly wait for them, but Güey whore that is someone said

(24:04):
that that person being boyfriend husband weyi wey is Güey, title, whatever
Güey, that person only you cangive him the exact Güey pleasure. So
it' s a social construct Güeythat' s got us in the head,
that only this person can give usthat and nothing else. No and

(24:26):
we would have to ask permission ifobviously, to see and the eye.
I am not saying Güey that everyonecan do whatever they want, because that
is what the agreements are for,but technically, because people are not of
our total belonging. Then I'll go back to the same thing.
I' d appreciate more Güey ifmy partner came along and I said to
myself, call me fucking Güey.This happened. I don' t love

(24:49):
you, Güey, but I've already worked a pig or I know
how this fart works after being ayear and a half Güey, with all
this mother- in- law ofpolyamor Güey and open relationships and the shit
where I' ve been made tosee Güey that it' s either the
other person or me. It's independent. Evidently, Güey' s

(25:12):
going to hurt me, I don' t mean it won' t hurt
me if she gets to my Güey, she calls me a bastard, I
fucked this Güey Güey, but she' s telling me then. There also
changes the thing a lot to thatif someone else comes and tells me,
then yes. I think it's very different as you put it to

(25:33):
as maybe what Gey Güey spectra,maybe because we live much more open relationships
or we' re much more awareor open to experiencing sexuality, because we
' re moving forward on these issueslike another step, a step further and
there you go, that is,to finish a little bit. What he

(25:56):
was saying to me. What happenedto me unlike Julián Güey, is that
with this good girl right now,we return to the point of manipulation.
I' m asking you why.But with this girl who goes is still
my best friends and everything happened tous Güey, I mean, Güey told
me you' re a good person, you' re a good man.
Güey, you' re not ason of a bitch, you' re
not such a son. You canhave your slips, you can screw it

(26:18):
up sometimes, but you' renot a bad person, you' re
not a son of a bitch thatdidn' t happen to me with the
girl in question that it was rightnow that I messed with her, I
did get very bad and the net. That hurts. If it hurts me
and if I think about it,because right now I see it where it
is, what it' s accomplishing, what it' s working on,
and I' m really happy aboutit. But if it' s common,

(26:38):
ay Güey, we were good,folks, Güey, we had a
really good time. Everything worked well, stop and everything and for me fuck
up Güey let me go and everythingelse we could no longer build. That
' s still the black spot,and I think it' s going to
go on, because I don't know if we can talk it over
or fix it at some point.But there' s still that Güey Black
Spot, which, in the end, is an emotional burden for me,

(26:59):
Güey, because if he' sconstantly reminding me here, you screwed up,
here you screwed up and you neversolved it. You fucked up and
you never solved it. Ay Güeyand if it is an emotional weight,
then hard now that returned me tothe social construct Güey of I had to
chambear him in order that my chavawould believe me again, so that he
would feel sure that I was inlove with her, that such, such,

(27:21):
taslal and that Chambele is also abuilder, be this wey is also
a bato, even if it isand the shit has to make it,
yes, no way it is butit is Chambea, le Chambeala and it
shows and demonstrates and demonstrates and showsthat it is also, as I do
not know heavy for us. Maybeyou don' t feel it. I
don' t know if it happensto you, Güey, no, but

(27:45):
if it' s a subject,that' s what I mean by manipulation,
because when you understand that the thingdoesn' t work, then the
way I see it is that shegot a letter that she can' t
turn you around and it' snow you owe it to me. That
' s right, and I'm sorry to see if her already realized
that she didn' t, thatshe screwed up, that it' s

(28:06):
not for you to fuck up.I want to have someone crawl behind me
and also a little bit of consciousness. I' m not saying to see
too, it' s nothing.I want one hundred percent of each other.
The two obviously have certain attitudes,not pleasant, but at the end
of the day, I also believethat the living being, the living beings
in general, is not born goodor bad. You know good and evil

(28:26):
is totally subjective and circumstantial. SoI think we also need to understand the
different realities of how the relationship isbeing lived from what perspective and learn to
put, then, the limits,that agreements, that if I already screwed
up, but it will not allowyou to now insult me. You know,
for example, no, or thatI remembered you, but it'
s not gonna let you put meback. You know what or I'
ll do it to you. Solet' s not make the deal and

(28:48):
allow you a welcome and we're even and we' re all still
at peace, or I don't know. You know, but now
that when you say it, I' m gonna do it to make you
feel the kicker glove and that's even more asshole. I mean,
to see you I' m gonnaput you a now I' m gonna
tell you a menga, an exampleof the first good one ever I think
I do or, I don't know, I' m not sure.
I think count it wey takes threehundred episodes of counting it again I

(29:11):
' m going to tell it.Imagine Güey that when, I mean,
I found one of my exes Güeywith a friend of mine in the mother
camera to the truth, and howcool that was how wey went that strong
and that wey happened the way Iput it was horrible. It wasn'
t an agreement. It wasn't an agreement. Of course not then,

(29:33):
Güey, but my whole circle knewit then, but obviously it'
s already published. Leave all that, moms, but fart' s like
my circle, so I could figureit out. That means then technically,
because I had to leave a bastardat the airport and my friends told me

(29:56):
no, no, Güey, I' m leaving here, there' s
the key to the body. Thenwhen I came in, for I saw
them oh evil, then wey thenI say they told me neither anything.
And then he was strong Güey,because he was my friend, you weren
' t my friend with my boyfriend. So today, Güey, I see
that and I join you. Butat the time I was where you were,

(30:22):
I mean, in this kind ofrelationship wey Monogama, where only because
that person belonged to me and Güey, obviously, whore Güey, I mean,
I ran out the room came outthe Güey. Not like that,
it' s not what you think, and I suck, I mean,
I was sucking his dick, Imean, what you' re talking about,
motherfuckers. There was the pita,I say it is. This Güey

(30:45):
' s got your dick. Imean, I took their sheet off the
way you want me to die aass, but no fucker, that'
s what. And that' swhere you call Güey cock, that is,
yes, that' s it.And if it happens, it'
s not what it looks like,I mean, with that Güey eggs.
So, if you imagine, ifthis relationship breaks. But that' s

(31:10):
where the fart starts, I startdating people and start memorizing them. Güey
takes them away from me, thatis, he started this relationship with this
competitive super toxic, where Güey momsuntil I get back to him. So
Güey' s handling exactly everyone.Then and I lived this stage was like

(31:32):
for five years, where you enterinto a super toxic dynamic, where Güey
doesn' t love you Evidently,so, because you allow all kinds of
abuses, it' s that youapply this one to your friends nearby,
to your enemies closer and in acertain way this person about that I put
it in this person to have betrayedyou, obviously, he wants it close

(31:57):
because you say here I can domore damage to him. And when they
were unfaithful to me, I justforgave her, but without forgiving what'
s going on is that I wantedher to know everything the eye program was
going to do to you a lotof me too, because I really loved
her and I found out about theinfidelity. But I did all this that
after you tell me that they madeyou that it' s me I already

(32:20):
felt with the power. So,if something about the relationship wasn' t
handled to my likings, it alreadygot you the letter, but it wasn
' t like that, then Iwasted this ex- girlfriend in a brutal
way that I don' t feelproud of at all, but it was
the process that I had to liveto learn and think things differently today and
today we' re also best friends. I mean, we talk almost every

(32:44):
day about other things. I mean, I know I can count on her.
She knows she can count on me, but it took many years for
this to heal And there came atime when when there was no longer a
relationship interest, but we talked becausewe knew each other so much that it
was very easy to go to eachother. As you hear, this situation
is happening to me at work thatyou advise me and suddenly, one day
we saw each other, I raninto him and said the same thing that

(33:07):
they applied it to me only wantto know why you did it, because
she also denied it to me,but I brutally denied it to me.
It' s not what this melooks like how it' s not what
seems to be an explicit message ofhow I loved having fucked you. I
mean, there' s nothing Ican misinterpret into it. So I felt
free, like I was already feelingfree, but I felt really 100%

(33:27):
free when one day he already toldme you know what if it happened and
I did it for an asshole,so I told him there was all I
wanted to hear. And all right, you can' t tell me anymore
I don' t have you anymoreI' m going to claim you anymore.
That' s why you' rejust gonna fuck easy. I just
wanted you to tell me and sunand I want to know something else,
why did you do it? Imean, I failed you. You weren
' t happy Just for me whatI wanted was to learn in my relationship

(33:52):
without one I' m doing orsomething I need to work and that in
the relationship I need to build.I want you to tell me for me
to build a relationship like that laterand he told me it wasn' t
you already I learned that many timesfidelity because let' s say I have
a relationship sounds unfaithful to me.I say sure is because I don'
t feel insufficient of being tricked toobecause I wasn' t fulfilling in sex.
Without a man who was not worthyto admire this something I needed.

(34:15):
It wasn' t someone that bigthat she decided to turn to other sides
and there I said I didn't fulfill what was right for me was
the other person who made the mistakeof applying it I, Ahorita, wanted
to mention it. We' reapplying it. I' d rather apologize
than ask permission, so I'd rather first have infidelity and then say
look. This happened when I believethat the order of factors here alters the

(34:37):
product. If I believe that someonewith courage and courage would say look here
that the net. You and Ihave a relationship. I love the relationship,
but this is happening to me.I feel like someone else than where
you allow me, but I thinkI did. I don' t prefer
not to spoil the affair, butfirst I have it, then I apologize.
There' s a very similar onethat happened to me and I say
skipping the whole fidel thing so Idon' t tell any more stories that

(34:59):
look like each other, already afterwe stayed together and they fucked me up
and farted. This was something thatour next conflicts always took from me too,
that he felt I was taking outthe letter. Not to me what
happened to me is I' mone of the people who thinks that or
that I already forgave you, butI don' t forget you know what

(35:20):
history there is then what it is. This evidence does not put, does
not mean that it is going tobe giving egg, but it does put
me more in caution and more soalert, not from a certain point,
from a certain point. Not then, when I was trying to make agreements
for future situations that might give wayand so and you say that you already
have to let him hear it,I know that then I already let him
go asshole, but I already pressmy face and I have to anticipate that

(35:43):
it will repeat itself. And ifwe don' t talk about it,
then I won' t be ableto be prepared for the next one or
expect it to happen again. It' s not that there isn' t,
it' s not that I haven' t forgiven you and it'
s already forgiven you I' mgringo Güey, I didn' t fart
you left me the güey scar Andbecause I don' t want to be
the güey sore. If you reallydidn' t forgive him. Wey b
people, no yes, yes,yes, you would have forgiven him,
you would have freed the pain.I wasn' t lost that pain because
it didn' t hurt. Weywas the way I was raising the agreements

(36:05):
for me, for, but for, but what I' m going to
do is güey, forgive, forgiveme step by step to take care of.
No, no, I' mnot telling you to forget. But
it is freeing you from the painGüey I. As long as you don
' t get rid of that pain, that' s why you take him
out, I wasn' t hurt. I never got the letter out.
When there were other problems or othercircumstances, I came and said to see
we had already talked about this.It was already agreed. Let the past

(36:28):
go if I let it go,but we' re repeating what happened before.
That means we' re not respectingthe agreements that we' ve already
established for your shit Güey you knowthat' s a point. I didn
' t do anything to you,Güey, and based on what you did,
we had to establish this new rulethat you broke again I explain to
you, it' s not thatit' s hurting or it' s
not hurting, or that you haven' t overcome it. It' s
just that you left a history andbased on the history. We had to

(36:49):
take action to establish new agreements thatyou broke again. I' m over
it, Güey It doesn' thurt He doesn' t care I can
talk about it. The fart isthat he' s repeating it. You
know, and I' m notgetting your letter out. It' s
more like yourself. You took outthe letter you used. You know,
and that' s like the difference, because I feel like he looks like
a chingo and people can interpret himdifferently Güey, and sometimes people' s

(37:09):
intention isn' t the same.And then I kind of want to think
about the way it' s beingevaluated. You have to think about the
attention, because maybe then it's a lot of good that I already
forgave you, because let it hearyou don' t forgive me or be
the shit wey be conscient you wantto forget it' s fart yours,
you know, but that' swhere it was and bad or good you

(37:30):
left it, you know, soconfront it. I' d say so.
Okay, we can meet on avisa tomorrow, but if tomorrow you
' re gonna want to leave anotherone, then you can' t ignore
it, you know. Not thatthat' s where I say, as
I' m listening, it wasone after another, after another. Or
they are yes like then güey,since it was a point where you say
güey, what farts not or not. It' s time to go away.

(37:50):
I think this had already crumbled trustand crumbled over and over again.
It wasn' t worth it anymore, but good is what happens in relationships.
Wey I sane want to trust teaanother chance to convince me to prove
that I am in love with anyone because Güey, we all pass,
because the fart and you want tofix it, you want to make up

(38:12):
for it, you want to showthat yes I mean, there are a
thousand ances that happen to come outin the r esteem, Güey, because
you are a fart. Which hasyour self- esteem not even about the
other person. Wey is what makesyou remember that you' re worth Güey,
that you didn' t get overit because yes or because it doesn
' t, that is, ithurts because it does smell WELL, the
exercises of conscience are very difficult andbe quotient. You have to recognize what
happened, not from both sides,not say like you don' t recognize

(38:35):
that I cheated and I' mlying or if you do it and confront
it, okay, you have tobe aware that very probably some future is
going to come back to the commentand that it hurts you or not that
and that business of yours you knowbecause luisito did it to you, because
that' s it, it's so therapy and but of everyone.
But the reality is that the footprintdid not remain in You as a person.
It was in the relationship. Iexplain myself and the relationship went on.
You know how much people' sego plays here. Güey. I

(39:00):
think it was just like that inall parts. It' s also a
very strong geto. I think it' s very strong. It has its
goal aha, we cannot enter ingeneral terms, but it enters the ego
of meaning, for example, withyou that you were like generating constant violence
against the mora. Güey, youtook it out Güey, for obviously,
because that is, yes, tofeel your period, a control, no,

(39:22):
yes, to have that nine roles, one thing in the end is,
well, you want it or not. If it' s violence.
Güey, no, but obviously itcomes out and could start from what it
generated you. She didn' t, so technically she could justify herself not,
that is because you did me nowI' m going to make you
Güey and I' m going tomake you feel more culled than you did

(39:42):
to me. And that' swhere he starts to play, well,
that' s him, well,that' s the way it is at
the end, and that' sthe way we agree. Obviously, all
that damage should no longer happen weyit' s like ok' s no
longer going to repair the best partpart Güey, that is, yes,
then I' m better giving youthe Güey relationship, because net get into
that game ahead. My yes tochingas. I feel like maybe we'
re here too We' re reallymad hours evaluating past relationships. Yeah,

(40:05):
' cause no one' s talkingabout the current ones either, like you
know class year- olds. Andthat' s right. Yeah, and
I' m gonna tell my pastadrian Güey, if he goes eye-
for- eye Güey and Güey wyseven bastard. Wey, you' re
angry. Wey put you reading theasshole' s face hurt Güey, don
' t make it clear that theystick in self- esteem in pride Güey

(40:27):
at all wey I got ridiculous withmy friends, which is ridiculous with my
family, that is, a thousandblowjobs can pass wey and for me I
am yes, I am in favorthat it will be covery in one way
or another, maybe not the samefuck, for example, because if this
one I come with your family andwith you you know that then you end
up finding out the whole world.But you missed this expectation in the relationship
going into the living room and youtold it, not because eventually Chisme came

(40:50):
out or some shit like that tomy family. If I remember that I
told him and that' s howhy is that why you' re with
him and so what and it kindof doesn' t stick with asshole whether
it' s s or fell,that' s a fart. Güey you
know and it gives courage the netand I am in favor, which says
good that maybe I don' tsane it or I return. But Güey
find another way to compensate your feelingof doloto to make it feel better,

(41:14):
fuck revenge, for that is afeeling like it lasts little, the truth,
but I have whore feels good,to see I have the question.
It happens when you' re thelover. So let' s say and
literal they claim you what happens whenyou' re the lover. It'
s a shame you didn' task for me, I was invited to

(41:35):
turn around. I just claim jaleis that I have only been the lover
on one occasion and was not discovered. That didn' t take the blame
inside me, but it wasn't discovered. Then I didn' t
have to live this chaotic part.Well, even that I wanted to take
you to the other brother' sfight. I explain the physical conflict.
But I mean, why would youhit someone to see? Wait for me

(42:00):
if it' s your friend Ican understand a dick not of the card
that the goquita learns of course,you bastard, if the bato neither owed
it nor feared it I mean,why not if the guns fart to the
woman, I don' t,I didn' t go out to fart
or I didn' t go toMaten. I want him not to fart

(42:23):
at my bastard. Uh, sothe other güey that wey cocks, for
example, in my case that Ialready told them was I was a relationship
and the other girl is also ina relationship. I believed that the brother
had every right to come and giveme a blow job because I knew,
because I was aware that I wasruining a relationship and I was messing with
the woman who loved her, Iwas touching her house, to say something,

(42:45):
I would go into her house andmake her a pig. So I,
that' s why I made itclear that this brother can give a
madrezo, because it' s notthat I said ay, I slept with
your wife, but I didn't know she had a partner. I
didn' t know asshole. Iknew that I was offending him and that
he seemed to me like he wasworth me mothers. I explain myself so
much so he minimized it he saidlook at the floor here at your house

(43:07):
and nothing happens to me. Iexplain to myself how that feeling on both
sides, both mine and I sayha, I' m messing with each
other' s wife. That's what I feel in that so,
like he said brother, you disrespectedme because even knowing she' s with
me, you decided to come overme. Then and we weren' t
friends, but we were acquaintances,we saw each other from the parties.
So it was like and you knewwho I am, and I still put

(43:30):
you in? Yeah, yeah,yeah, Güey' s a bastard,
and it' s the only timeyou' ve been through it. It
' s the only time it's ever happened to me. Obviously,
I learned from that. I decidednever to get into other people' s
relationships again. This I don't put anyone into my relationships either,
that is, I practice monogamy today. This one I decided is the best
way. If I' m notwith someone better, I' ll tell
you, better clear scores, longrelationships. This applies everything in family friendships

(43:52):
obviously in couples, and I thinkit' s the healthiest thing, because
I think peace is something invaluable,that is, living in peace doesn'
t have, it doesn' thave a price. Then I prefer a
peace relationship where I win. I' d rather talk to the other person
in sight. This is happening tome, this one I' m not

(44:12):
wanting to be with someone else.That' s cool, but good.
Obviously, that' s why Ihad to go through all this troopiness or
be the lover to have loved.You' re saying, you' re
telling the girl, your girl,or whoever' s dating wey, I
' m craving it. She's bye. Not like that because you
tell her too. We ended thefight by finishing this end of sinal stura
in a week that you' dget into the fight. That' s

(44:35):
what many apply. We just foughtthis weekend, because this weekend I want
and I come back, it's not the one I applied at some
point many years ago. It's not the one I' m applying
today. I' m not tellingyou, I' m craving someone else.
So it all depends on you know. When you' re in relationships,
you know how to talk to yourpartner, you know what you'
re going to resist, what you' re not going to resist that you
can break your trust? That youcan' t break your trust? There
are many things that don' tnecessarily have to be talked to. Obviously,

(44:59):
therapy works because talking about things makesyou feel freer. This even there
comes the Bible says confidence in oneanother’ s sins that in this case
it is not sin, but theyare desires. When I say right now,
I want to accuse myself of someone. I tell you and suddenly I
say ah Mira is already out throughthe tongue, it heals things, it
eliminates passions. Then maybe I don' t count on my relationship, but

(45:19):
I can tell quique I need totalk to you. Güey is happening to
me here that is going to tellme something that can make me feel better.
I mean, you' re tellingme if you read your partner.
I like someone else. I don' t know anymore, you don'
t necessarily like it anymore. No, no, I' m not saying.
That depends on how high your expectationis with your current partner, to
know if I finish it or notto fuck someone else. There you go
because I mean, my explanation nowcomes in psychology. In psychology, let

(45:43):
' s say, there is love, love and passion. Supposedly, those
three different terms. The arming iswhen someone comes to dazzle you, you
have no eyes for anything else.Love and it is that you decide to
build, and passion almost always presentsitself when there is an obstacle. If
there is no obstacle, this goesto the same subject as lovers. I
' m in a relationship right now. I have a relationship in which I
love it, but the lover appearsgood than the possible lover. There I

(46:07):
have a passion for why, becausethere is an obstacle that is my relationship,
that makes me socially. Obviously,you can break my relationship. All
this forbidden causes a passion to begenerated. It gets high. If today
I will end the relationship that Ihave left to my current partner for going
with this girl who is going tobe the lover, most of the time
it does not work because the passionis eliminated, because the obstacle is removed.

(46:28):
Isn' t that why, whenthere' s a marriage that has
a lover and the marriage ends,no one gets the laughs It' s
very difficult for someone to stay withthe lover if there' s the meaning
of the rule, but is thatthe least cases that happen because passion is
eliminated and when talking about it,it often eliminates passion? Say me,
right now, I' m inlove. I have a relationship and I
' m in love with a girl. If I tell my girlfriend, knowing

(46:49):
that she knows it, she eliminatespassion and many times there she eliminates desire.
I mean, it doesn' talways happen. Obviously, I'
m not being. Stop feeling less, less won, so null. No.
Now I have another comment. It' s not technological, but it
' s biological aha. There's a well- fathered documentary on Netflix
that I don' t remember whatit' s called. But each episode
addresses as a different theme from thelife of the human being and has one

(47:12):
in specific that speaks about monogamy.From the perspective of that cock. They
' re very good butmos. Theyare well explained in Netflix see and it
is very good game of vein fiveminutes. We are, yes, they
are brief, but they are superconcrete historical, super so concrete with a
thousand references. That' s it, super good. And the explanend of
monogamy, the net is very good, because they explain you from a biological

(47:35):
perspective as a human race. Thehuman being cannot be exactly monogamous and we
are talking from the form of thepenis to the way humans communicate. It
is very interesting, as nothing isdesigned to monogamy and all cultures, the
different cultures that we can find withinthe human race, the vast majority are

(47:57):
not as more nor comply with thisrigor or this structure or this normal.
For calling in some way and thetruth, well you that I' m
going to go into details, becausethey' re going to say that Don
says pure blowjob, rather in theepisode this one too, but to me
it doesn' t make sense thatI talked to her. I don'
t feel like it. You know, I think there' s different ways

(48:19):
to handle it, because, forexample, I could believe that okay,
maybe I' m already lame,they' re taking away my desire,
you know, not with that one, but with my partner, and I
didn' t have to talk aboutit just because having sex to satisfy a
need explained to me and like talkingabout it like that, just doesn'
t convince me. Maybe I'll watch porn and I' ll just
come by and I' ll takeit out of my mind, you know.
I mean, there' s alot of stuff and I feel like

(48:43):
this expectation of just my partner doesn' t meet, because you' re
just talking about when you have apartner. You don' t see why
you don' t. No.Yeah, I don' t ask you,
uh, no, no, no, no, no, no,
no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no,
no, no, no, no. If I' ve seen you
in the next episode and if Ihaven' t seen the addiction, no,
to see the bottom, no,but from another perspective, not because
it' s edicted the porn,but you consider that if you see for

(49:06):
not having partners, it would belike a betrayal of your partner. That
' s an opinion, it's a very visible idea of my life.
Oh wall is that like yours wesee right now the agreements. There
are couples who do consider it deslaltad, infidelity, if not, if
she doesn' t know, ifyou do it hidden from them. And
there are other couples or they tellyou. You have all the permission to
do it when you want everything fromthe agreements I get you a question t

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of the jars will see porn whenyou bathe something like that, you always
have to fuck with your left weblook. It' s just this,
this is very different from seeing.I think homosexuals don' t think it
' s an infidelity to see porn, not as an aficionado, but it
' s my turn to make arelationship where you told me why and you
see it on Twitter we' veseen it several times. Maybe he doesn

(49:51):
' t see it as lined up, but he does question why you should
see Porno if you have your partner. Always there with you you gey because
it' s not an egg orI like that it' s not a
fucking hole, for example, Wins, it' s not my obligation to
satisfy you Güey. I worth watchingporn Güey, for example, on our
side Güey, I would have toget angry, because my girlfriend is my
partner, who I am dating hasa sex toy güey a b and she

(50:13):
gives pleasure herself. I have tofight. I' d have to be
angry I wouldn' t be mad. I know it' s not güey,
it' s all from balance.I wouldn' t be mad unless
that toy, that toy, suppliedme. When you feel, you feel
since first there is the toy thatyou. That' s where there can
be already how he hears what's up with your toy if the fucker

(50:34):
fucks Antonio you bring it to obvious, that is, when you feel displaced.
That' s where all this starts. I don' t think he
' s being a healthy two-angler anymore. I' m already feeling
less and you talk and you talkabout it if it' s okay,
that' s right, I seeit well, but porn. I stayed
curious is on the side, becauseI wouldn' t have you being the
toy of men, men like I' m going to have the dial of

(50:55):
the dildo, no, but itwould be the same right hand and the
left. Sometimes well, in mycase, I mean, I' m
not gonna have three- fold,which is my toy, pornography and hand.
I explain myself then at the momentwhen if that is displacing my partner,
like where I find sexual satisfaction,I would understand his anger or his
We have to talk to his confusion. We need to talk yes now about

(51:22):
monogamy, before there' s anypast left. I' m still going
to see you this pinto güey chapter, but I' m just a theme
that I love, that I've tried to explore through different therapist psychologists
and well, I do agree thatmonogamy is not installed in our biology.
That' s right, I acceptit, but it' s an effort
to do what. I mean,monogamy, I think it' s a

(51:44):
decision. Yeah, yeah, there' s someone who' s doing fine,
yeah, that' s great.And I also understand that a person
is not going to do well andis great because everyone has to live their
life with their own decisions. ButI do think monogamy, I mean,
I don' t agree. Asif, you can live a life in
monogamy, that is, yes,I think you can live a life of
mologamy. For wey nta that willcost a lifetime is that everything has a
price güey The one who wants tolive in poly range also has a cost.

(52:07):
It may be, I mean,all life has a bona fide cost.
The same thing that takes the peaceof the monogamy away from me is
that it is very restrictive. Andwe got to this right there not watching
porn and no more Ruba' snot done. I think that' s
always expobjective that then you don't know yes, but yes it does
give to talk about this, becausedefinitely Güey, that is, every head
is a world and there are peoplethat works for it, the güey groups,

(52:29):
that work for it, the openrelationships, that works for the polyamor
Güey. But well it goes forme to tell my experience of when I
was a lover, it has touchedme a couple of times not in one
of them. What happened to mewas that I got over Güey I mean,
I keyed you in love as alover, you key me. It
' s a dog or a terror, a man woman, or whatever you

(52:53):
are, it' s a bastard, because obviously what Julian Ahorita already said
isn' t going to work.Güey, things that start like this don
' t wait and don' twork. I had a really bad time.
Güey, I even got angry thinkingthat the other person had broken my
heart and used me and shit andof course I didn' t have to
work, I mean, I wasn' t at all to blame. Güey,

(53:13):
the one who nailed himself and wenttoo far was me even knowing that
the situation was so. Güey,and she' s fucking the next one
I said it. I said okay, I' m going in wey but
I' m going in the coldestway in the world. And so nothing
happened to me at all, butdidn' t you stop messing up your
relationship with the other person wey thatto me? It' s worth it
to me It' s not mybusiness, because it was her who made

(53:35):
the decision to mess with a loverand determine and disgrace her relationship. It
was her. I don' twink, I wink because it' s
the feeling of guilt. We're not here, but in the end,
I' m quitting I don't want to be somebody else I
mean, I was always very awarethat I wasn' t going to get
into it at such a level thatit affected me. Sure now, that

(53:55):
was the first, then it wasthe second. What do I think,
Ahorita, I hello the net whatwe all are and that, in the
end, we almost always end tothe same point agreements, agreements communication and
talk everything, Ahorita, I thinkit is much easier to get out of
that box little by little. Wewere all involved at some point in all
those restrictions, et cetera, etcetera. If they apply you well,

(54:19):
if not, apply them to you, discuss them, negotiate them, heal
them first in yourself where they comefrom, etcetera. Tera, hit it
And then, if you want tofollow them, Güey, because put them
on, Güey is not too badnow that they accept them or not,
because it is already a flying Güeywho want to overlap them, because no
longer, it is no longer inyou. But I don' t think
I' d be able to dothat anymore, that is, right now,

(54:43):
because, besides, Güey, thisis fucked up. The telecommunications are
so fucked up, everything' sso fucked up. For Neta to be
a better one, ask for permissioninstead of asking for forgiveness. Güey,
you know now I want to askyou a question. This is based on
surveys that have been conducted. That' s say they' re all in
pairs. I' m not acouple, yes or I' m going
out person. What you prefer isthat your partner has a night of sex

(55:06):
with someone and only that from thereor that your partner doesn' t have
sex with that person, but he' s dating and laughing with that person,
he' s connecting emotionally with thatperson who doesn' t güey,
who has güey sex with esotro weyall the way or with me with that
person gey or wey that' swhat I' d do wey there asshole

(55:30):
to see you like a piggo orthat rich güey bastard or I' d
like to tell you that I dolight wey see good doesn' t learn
to see my güey with another güey, however, I understand very much.
I am already very disassociated with theconcepts of love and affection. You know
and I forgive you sex this andI the I really wouldn' t feel

(55:51):
comfortable, because my partner develop anaffective bond with another person, but that
I develop the one that didn't either and out there can do it
every night. I don' tcare, but he' s coming back
with me. The madrota here ispaid for. It' s all me
hear that, that' s summedup in ego. Yeah, of course,
it' s just that in egois there can' t be anyone

(56:12):
more fucking than me, or youcan' t love anyone but me.
I can' t give you thepleasure Güey the fucker. No, no,
no, no, not pleasure too. But I don' t think
I' m yet too deconstructed tobe able to create a polygamous format for
emotional emotion. Yeah, foliagoso.I don' t have an audience either.

(56:35):
Nor why do I ask this question, because everyone answers yes. I
' d rather have her partner spenda night of sex and stay there and
you realize that. OK, sothe problem isn' t sex. The
problem is the fear we have oflosing. Sy' s coming as you
said. We believe that they areall of our belongings and really nothing and
no one belongs to us. Ireally like a phrase by Gabriel García Márquez

(56:57):
that says not even love is acage, nor freedom is being alone.
Love is the freedom to fly accompanied. So, just out of fear,
out of fear of losing you toyou. No, no Christian, no
more talking to me I mean,yeah, I' m gonna call.
He' s single bastard. Idon' t get it, okay,

(57:22):
so, you say, I'm so scared. What happens when we
have a relationship, we think theother one belongs to us and to her
it' s just when it alreadystarts as it is, it advances the
relationship and you start to give lessmoney because it begins to believe this lie
that the other one is already mine, but suddenly the infidelity comes and you
say ay how. But if youwere mine, I mean, what happened?
Obviously, when when the infidelity happensin between or not, the infidelity

(57:42):
that what you have chatted with anotherperson and that you feel enement, I
will lose it. You take itvery badly, but I think that'
s also the beauty of relationships,the knowledge that there is uncertainty, because
the other doesn' t belong toyou. That makes you always take care
of each other, take care ofyour relationship. I what is uncertain in
absolutely nothing to me and say you' re going to fuck it or not.
But you' re up to itor not. No. I'
m visaing him or not. He' s fucked up, but what I

(58:05):
' d add up to him wouldbe wey try each other' s own
thing güey your self- esteem.I mean. It' s hard to
imagine that a couple you' redating can develop an emotional or emotional bond
with someone else. Yeah, it' s hard. It' s not
gonna happen. One may happen,there is a good chance that it will
happen, and the other man willgo through it for the person that you

(58:30):
are most often in communication with weyin jobs It seems to you to develop
a bond It seems as if youdon' t want a bastard, the
fart and the big one as yousay, the big goal is perhaps without
closing us with our partner than Güeystarts to happen, that that' s
more over not. And besides,Güey, be well aware that any trapeuto

(58:51):
is going to tell you Güey andgo. That is universal knowledge. All
human beings are unique and replaceable andunrepeatable. Of course, my being with
you doesn' t mean that I' m the person who can offer you
absolutely everything you' re looking forin a relationship, in a fair couple,
and I' m aware of that. As I' m aware of

(59:12):
that. If you start developing anemotional affective bond with someone else, it
' s my job to understand thatI offer you something unique if you talk
about it, negotiate it, rememberit and so on. It can work
as long as you' re atpeace with what you offer. What you
offer is unique. Julián may arrive, who is more handsome, who is
breast- feeding, who takes betterthan anything, but what they look for

(59:36):
on their social networks. But whatyou' re not going to be using
joints on my carnal isn' tgoing to offer the same thing that I
' m totally going to be thesame. To me it' s probably,
plus maybe, minus maybe x andor z isn' t going to
be the same. The uniqueness ofthe human being is and authenticity are two
virtues of the people I love.You make him say a great way,

(01:00:00):
which is maybe I don' toffer you what you see in the other
better, but what I offer youis an ico. Nico Güey is unique.
And how many times we don't end up also committing infidelity,
because we believe through soal networks,we see that there are couples who are
living this idealization and it seems tome that theirs or we demanded a lot
from our partner rather I was goingthat way I demand a lot our partners,

(01:00:21):
because we believe that the couple ofour friends, they do have everything
and it is and I don't have everything, because here at home,
maybe our sex is not the best. And surely they, if they
have sex apart they go on atrip and apart he sees how he treats
her and it' s like proof the four walls of his house.
Who knows what happens like maybe somethingis missing from her or him, surely
it is, because no one cangive you everything. No one really can
give you everything. I think thiswould add something I do to. That

(01:00:45):
is a subject that I always dealwith with good people, which is something
I ask a lot of empathy andeffective responsibility that you are aware that ok
are free of what you want andso on. Of course I do.
Whether you' re gonna leave meor not, you' re gonna leave
me or not. Let' snot be cool or whatever, if you
want to go laugh with someone elseyou' re going to do it knowing
or not knowing or telling me withouttelling me you know if something you need,

(01:01:08):
consider that you need aja very wellonly that you are aware that your
actions have consequences. It can begood, it can be bad. Maybe
it' s over, maybe it' s not, maybe it' s
worth a mother, maybe it's not, but it all has a
one, a consequence. So ofcourse, you' re getting this a
relationship, you' re generating ayou' re working on a relationship format

(01:01:28):
with a plan for the future.And then you have to understand wey that,
like in a business or in yourchamba, whatever it is, every
action is going to have a consequence. Maybe some are more serious than others
and you' re free to doit. Yeah, I mean, I
' m giving you the freedom todo it. Alone. Be aware that
if I get angry, you'll know how you handle it. No,
you' re being honest. Güey, be honest and give me the
decision. Don' t make thedecision for me. Güey, give me

(01:01:50):
the option of having my decision toknow if I can open myself to the
possibility that you have an affective bondor a physical bond with someone else give
it to me, don' ttake it lightly and freely Güey. I
think that' s what ruins manyrelationships, feeling free for that belonging and,
for everything, making decisions about thename of the other Güey. Whether

(01:02:12):
it hurts or not, it hurts, it doesn' t affect me,
because of my panties, I'm going to take it and I'
m going to do it because Ifeel like Güey, not Güey, don
' t be a bastard. Thatgets angry at an infidelity you say you
didn' t give me the freedomto decide if I wanted to stay or
leave, and I had the right, of course, you assumed it,
you took it and you screwed up. In addition, Güey and no fart

(01:02:34):
already come to situations that are thenunmanageable. Not when you could have been
honest from the beginning, man orwoman or whoever, right now? We
' re four men talking, butwell, man or woman or whoever,
be honest, be honest, talkabout it and give the other person the
choice to decide if you don't like that decision, it' s
your fart. But that person alreadyhad the choice to decide. And I

(01:02:55):
think we have to learn to lose. I mean, I don' t
think anyone likes to lose. Wedon' t like to lose at work,
we don' t like to losein life, we don' t
like to lose the other. Thenwe always do things, hide a lot
of things so we don' tlose each other. And it' s
a feeling of this one of you. You don' t want to lose
your dog. That' s fair. We feel so minimized in existence,

(01:03:16):
because the universe is huge just ofthis. Eric Fromment speaks in a book
called the art of loving the separativenessof the human being and that the human
being is born without his decision anddies without decision. So these two questions
make us feel fragile in the faceof the existence of philosophers. But I

(01:03:36):
' m trying all this, alleuro dog and you say I feel so
much that I can' t grabsomething that right there is born of love,
because it' s this person who' s going to love me today.
I' m finally going to feellike I' m getting something in
existence and I' m not goingto be forgotten. What happens when we
do things that can destroy that love. We say we' re going to

(01:03:57):
get into oblivion. I' mnot going to be anchored anything, I
' m going to lose everything andyou feel it' s sep standing from
this existence, but you have toknow how to lose you have to know
how to lose the other, havethe courage, the courage to say the
reggue, but lose the other.And there are also things that I love
too that remain in your decision thatthe other person says nothing has happened.
Our relationship goes very well, butit' s not what I want anymore
and I' m leaving and there' s no egg and it' s

(01:04:17):
not bad for a plastic egg thatI know or humiliates, sends her the
dick, that pays everyone rubs thatnobody fucks her for a dick. And
thanks for listening to Chile Tempora seeyou in the next episode. That was
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(01:04:39):
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