Ep 191 ¿Cómo enfrentar una separación de pareja?

En este episodio, Adrián Andrés, Quique, Julián e Ian, hablan de cómo les ha ido en la vida luego de tronar con una pareja. Si acabas de tronar y no sabes qué hacer, este episodio es para ti.

Episode Transcript

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o or speaking to Chile and onlyas we can do it, no Chile

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Temona returns to do Hola, howsuch friends, We are the main cass
of no Chile Tembona, and todayI loved the official cast, because then
they come and then they go andthey go to others exactly or not,
yes or no, so this isthe official cass of no Chilean in Bona
and the day we have many issueson this side. We have Julian Soto.

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How about the bandita Chile family,how are they listening to ice cream
and how Galdean, the mans themother, the most pirujesta how is it
there of this little side? AndAdrian Andrés? Adrian Andrés? S Andrés
s l Draga, sex worker,Chimera sidewalk, lover, former lover,

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He has had many exes and willtell us about what another rush feels This
is the more or I have enteredas how many, like how many formal
relationships it is had in how youcount your whole life in how you account
for a formal relationship from what orhow it is way that you already hold
on to the handle, as theyare mine. Güey, because I'
ve got millions up in the den, I hold my hand with people,
no, no, no, butyou' re already going out as well

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as in an already more formal planthat you go to the movies with them.
You buy them food sometimes. Andyes, Güey, when you tell
someone to want to be my girlfriend, to my boyfriend, because he'
s already your boyfriend Güey years ago, lasted a year, three years or
a month, Güey, I don' t even count them all or a
son, so you think he hadmany owners, like two months a month,
but in my adolescence and so Iblame them. It' s a

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formal relationship. You' re goingfrom you have to ask dads for permission,
I say sometimes in the letter yes, it works, you have to
go talk to dads and all thator it just happens. It' s
going slowly. I don' tthink I' ve ever asked any dad
for his hand. It' smore. I remember an ex that when

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I took him home, greetings maor port, ah gives a port already
Güey, his mom called the policewhen I brought him home and so you
went to the square to the moviesany shit and when I saw that I
saw my cart coming, the momcalled the police to get me to the
dick. You had to leave ittwo blocks away and the bato walked to
his house, always almost three yearsof relationship orale That' s why I

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tell you so you never get differentfrom me. If they asked me to
ask for a güey hand, theyasked you to ask for a hand,
i e the rha c yes,yes, yes, for me to keep
so you can come to Charlie outof my house. And how did you
get with the father to literally tellhim, sir I want to walk with
hello daughter, sir very good night, how you are already. You could

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Sometimes yes, sometimes no, Imean at least they had seen me out
there minimum don' t agree,their daughter said no, no, no,
Güey was from being out on alittle bench Güey making the mess ok
and came so you said, well, we saluted him respectfully. Good evening,
Mr Good evening, anyway, noticethat we already have several weeks that

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I am dating your daughter and Iwould like, therefore, to formalize it
well with you so that you realizethat I am a good person, so
that you see that I come afamily that I have this one I don
' t know such a thing formany times to offer your daughter because I
touched dads gachos, that is,that I don' t, but you

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this neither car. You' vegot Güey like this, and it was
kind of good, but I loveher a güey, but I' m
telling you with a bastard and that' s good, I' ll lend
you a güey. I got touchedby in- laws and also by in
- laws half- crazy that Idon' t know. I remember once
that I went out partying with agirlfriend I had and if it wasn'

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t at one of the most.Tomorrow there was a fart and once I
arrived about one and a half andthe gentleman was out riding in his truck
and I took her taxi Güey becauseLiterant had no car. He' d
be like 18 years old. ThenI had her in front of me because
the back was with friends. Wealso came from a party to see him
leave his house and there was afart Güey because your legs were mine wey

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comes the taxi Güey to the houseand the lord was inside the car.
In fact he broke the way theba is called the one that goes to
a side. The rearview mirror wentaway and started following me for about ten
minutes in literal chase wey once alsotried to run me over when I did

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güey that is. I think it' s different the question that when you
' re going to have a relationshipwith a chavita, well, I don
' t know if it' sbecause she' s a province, but
she did have to get to hermom' s permission to a minimum or
whatever her dad, whatever your Juliánis. No, I didn' t
experience asking for the hand, Imean, maybe I think with my first

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girlfriend so I can talk to herdad about this one. Sir I'
d like to be your daughter's boyfriend and then I study where I
know her that time and I justwant you to know that I have good
intentions, okay and talk a littlebit with me and already ok pe and
it was the only state they're going to tell you if it'
s okay. Uh- huh It' s okay. You can go pick
her up at home with that one, no problem at all. How different

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is the exact bastard, but still, even though I have, it will
be I once did too. Ialso asked how this mess of eh sir
I want and you beat the dads, but already who gets so used to
it, that was also one manyyears ago, a lot of güey and
two in trouble so much because herewas your uncle doing it in province.
But yeah, I mean, he' s talking to you, too I

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think up to the age of twenty- five I made it tops. I
say 25 already, you' realready old an age, which you know
exactly. But yes, I thinkit was more about the chava so that
the chava also had as much confidenceand that she also had no more fart
with her parents that who this isso that she might not be asking so
many things, what happened when youthundered with your crazy father- in-
law' s chava. Güey wasglad, because I don' t think

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you know clearly, because they neverspoke again, or so, yes,
it was a relief. Güey,you' re so fucked up, you
' re breaking up, Adrian Andres. Here we have talked in the almost
two hundred episodes. He' shad, like, ten boyfriends. Yeah,
yeah, it always comes both housesis your worst always come podcasts.
Güey talks about the exes, butI just want to talk about the breakups

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All the exes of Adrián Andrés areeither with greenkerd with Zares. So in
Saudi Arabia something does this Güey tothem, but well, they triumph,
I can all stand the door tosuccess, they go out with me and
they start to go well, ahasomething, a blessing, they give everything,
but Güey past. The truth is, you' ve been through it,
because it' s half bad.Podcast has also been therapy for you

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how emotional accounts are. Yes,how you faced Güey breaks, because literal
have been even Güey publics. Let' s see, let' s go,
let' s go, let's go, let' s go,
let' s go, let's go, let' s go,
let' s go. Yes oryes, you find the way to
your first hit of reality, toknow it' s a fart you have

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to work with. And you don' t have another one left that'
s already the first one as anuncomfortable blow, because you know that for
indefinite time you' re going tobe having a hard time. Wrong.
It' s already awkward and bad, call yourself jealousy wrong, call yourself
desolation. Bad, you know you' re gonna have a hard time.
You know specifically when you loved theperson. And it wasn' t your
initiative to finish. Not good,because also when it' s your initiative

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to finish, because nobody does itfor the pleasure of knowing, that is,
look for better alternatives. But abreak- up is never pleasant.
No, even if you' vebeen roped and everything and for your health
and all you want to finish,there are feelings for you too. No,
and a breakup is to confront theknowledge that I' m going to
have a hard time, because Idon' t know how much time and

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the net. That' s likethe first malaise I' ve already recognized
that I' ve gone through mybreakups. Knowing what' s going to
be wrong with him. Two.It' s always a fart with each
other and with each other it's different. And each one has different
feelings. And with each one maybewith this one it makes me jealous,
with this one it makes me jealous, with this one it gives me courage,
with this age it broke me inan expectation. And with each one

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you have to identify what the fartI' m going to have to confront.
Not because every time each feeling comeswith different, they are totally different
tools and processes and techniques. No, then I' m already going through
two courages, knowing that I haveto do extra chamba and knowing that I
' m going to have a hardtime, because I know how much time

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the net has gone, how it' s dealt with specifically with each one,
because each gift is different, wehave to make a specific story is
always the most basic answer. Ormy favorite insult I use on Twitter is
to go to therapy. The truthis, but it' s very generic,
because in therapy you' re goingto get 18, 000 different exercises
and depending on your situation, becauseeach one is going to be different.
Not then I think I' drather ask you or ask you to ask

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me a more specific question and heanswered you how long it takes you to
treat someone about you who' sin love that you said. I liked
him a lot. I treated himlike he was my boyfriend or your partner.
I have already specifically identified my lastrelationships that my partners for me Adreán
Andrés, are kind of showing methat I can be with someone very handsome

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or show myself that I can bewith someone who, according to me,
is above my standards and my peers. Sure, that' s very personal.
Not everyone, because they do lessor more and your childhood traumas and
everything you want. No, butto me, I already realized specifically,
and I' m trying to breakthat pattern. I' m not telling
you about my last month of beingwith people that I recognize that the people

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I' ve been with are outstanding. You know, she' s very
attractive, she' s very dear, she' s very eye- catching.
It' s this güey you knowagain, it' s very much
desired. You know why, becauseI feel like it happens to me that
sometimes I do consider myself a person, because a little what they' re
looking for her with. You know, I know I like it. I

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know I' m a good fart. I know I' m very empathetic,
more or less and go. Thisis my character in programs and so
on not, but the truth,real life, I' m pretty quiet
in what fits. He smiled ateveryone wey to everyone just kiss me out
of talk to my aunt, thebath lady, my mom, your mom,
I mean, I don' tturn out the free one You know,
this is really weird that I'm like prepotent. So I know

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that in general, because I tendto be quite approachable in English, which
is like the one you approach.When you see a couple, there'
s always one that you say it' s like it looks with the energy,
that invites you to approach and anotherthat has as energy, maybe that
invites you to fuck it or maybethat invites you to not so much or
you know like you always found me. Couples and I have a lot going
on. They' re all mylast relationships. I' m the approachable

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and my güeyes are the one Iwant to fuck. Approachable. You know
ah ok ok ok ok then ithappens to me a lot that I already
realize I feel that my partners fulfillthis expectation, or it is like my
ideal of my trofh boy. Youknow that it' s my kid,
that I earned it is this onethat everyone wants and it' s mine
is not how they end up orwe end up. We' re talking

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about I' m not talking aboutlovelessness, I' m talking about unfulfilled
expectations, what people think about myrelationships. I' m talking about the
standards or it doesn' t havethe standards, so I' m talking
about disappointment. You know not lovelessness, not heartbroken. I explain to myself
that was my protocol the way I' ve seen it, it' s
been my pattern that repeated my lastcouple. How hard it is for me

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to know nothing about him. Youknow literal until you can' t see
it anymore Güey doesn' t showup, because knowing someone else has it.
What I won you know what's mine what I know, that
people don' t do anything andall that. Yes, the theory is
very nice, but already the feelingof practice, because it is much more
difficult to handle. We have tobe realistic. Not everyone is fighting against

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the same schemes and rules imposed andothers leading a path that you have to
block the person from all the socialnetworks of job, because delete photographs if
I do not delete photos. Andthat' s because I like to see
my past and know and admit thatI passed by. I don' t
like it either. I don't owe you any rebuttals. He'
s going to take my pictures withmy ex and it' s your story,

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which is why I' m goingto give the story. I am
erased all other blurs are those thatappear to me sometimes when well, if
you have iPhone, you see thatsometimes if they look like deposits like that
and if I show up the beakand erase it. But if you don
' t, I don' t, I don' t, I don

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' t mean asshole, punching up, if you mean, it' s
renewing your past. And I'm really proud of the people I was
with because they made me the personthat I' m gey chas sometimes I
say there' s also saying it' s nice, if I go back
and see what I know with thepeople that maybe you had a relationship with
and everything, but I also thinkit is, so the cycle is closed.

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Yeah, I like, like,just leaving certain things, not to
the ten- zero- photo gallerythat I had with the person, but
maybe, let' s just lookat each other. I spoke with my
boyfriend right now and we touched onthis theme that Güey you have the photos
with your ex yes, and Itold him, in fact, with all
my exes there I have Instagram photosand my teens that I have Instagram and

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all my yes to me has notbeen remembered. Güey not to me,
it' s not done to meas it is. I' m not
even blocking. In fact, atsome point I' m gonna talk about
this. My mom would tell mewhy you' re not blocking your ex
and I, because it' sokay with me why I' m blocking
it. It' s not that, for example, I feel that it
' s like sometimes it' salso overcoming, but it' s wey

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I don' t have to blockanyone wey that is, I think there
are two ways to see it,too, because, for example, I
never blocked anyone until my last,until more recently, I already realized that
it was a matter of not beingable to let go. So blocking to
have zero contacts was the best thingI could do. Of course, I
' m sure that I' malso thinking a lot like you I think
it depends on the relationship, theway you end up and many factors to

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see how much I can really stayout of it without having to get to
zero contact. You know, butthe reality is that sometimes feelings hit me
very hard, Güey and it givesme courage and I' m what creates
the second attempts, third, fourth, fifth, you know, I also
think people change. I think peoplehave opportunities. You know, then I
' m a lot like that,Güey, so, if I don'
t block a zero contact, I' m gonna keep the doors open all

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the time, you know, then. It was like a tool that I
did if I were you open thedoor wey that generates many forgets in your
head, not wey the pure thoughtsyou, Julian how you have overcome a
break like that culero Güey, ifnot. That' s a super sensitive
subject for me, because I mentionedit. In fact, I said it
here in a podcast that no oneor nothing belongs to us, as Andres

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said of the theory of practice.There' s a huge gap. I
' m the theory. I tryto root it into my being, but
it' s hard for me tolet people go. I' m deeply
fond of the women I' vehad a relationship with and spent an indefinite
time with. I can' ttell you it' s been years.
Perhaps at some point I accept thatthere is no longer a relationship aha I

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accept, I assume. There's a border group song right now that
I love a phrase that says Inever forgot. I only accepted that now
my life would be without you just. Then this vin ok music applies to
me. I understand we' renot going to have any relationship anymore,
but I didn' t forget.I just accepted that my life was going
to be without you right and alittle while ago when I was coming here,

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I mean, it hit me hard. That' s why the theme
leaves me a little bit as thoughtful, because I listen to myself, I
write my existence listening to a songthat is called who you decided to love
ok So, I kind of listenedto it, I listened to it when
I was about eighteen years old.I like the song because it seems to
me that it has a certain maturityto accept that who you decided to love
bass I don' t know.If I know there' s no people

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like you here on earth, thensay how nice to say something like that
to your ex- partner I hopeyou' re fine. I would have
loved to be that person you're with right now, but I'
m not. But then the thoughtcame to me. I was driving from
Ok those mouths that told me Ilove you now they tell you I love
someone else and I won' tdeny it. I don' t know
if what I felt was jealousy.I felt small. That' s right,

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it' s the ego, butI wasn' t you. You
think you weren' t enough andthat' s why that person isn'
t with you anymore. Yeah,no, and it costs me a lot.
I mean, it costs me alot. I' m not saying
I' m stuck or stuck.Life keeps trying to value every day.
I' m enjoying this day incredibly. It' s not that I'
m thinking of someone special, either, but I like to honor the memory

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of whoever was with me I've always said, these people who were
your partners at a certain point becamethe greatest witnesses of your life. At
that moment. Some people do knowme. Yeah. I can say that
my last ex- partner is theperson that at least I think even today
knows me, that is. Heknows everything I mean. I know my
strong moments, in my vulnerable moments, when I feel the most powerful in

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the world, but also the mostinsect of existence. He knows me grumpy,
but he also knows my best jokes. Then lose that one day to
another that one day they tell you. That' s over, you can
' t find that confidentiality with anyoneall that time. Looks like it was
worth nothing. I mean, ofcourse it' s not like that.
It' s not like it's all fucked up and I don'

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t turn my heart around. I' m not of that idea, but
it' s like there' sa phrase that I' ve done so
many years trying to get to knoweach other and find a match for time
to become two strangers. And Imean, I' m really very coors
in that way, but you're getting song phrases in every episode.
Yeah, yeah, I made youup and one last time I got instagram
that I said how strong, brotherhow strong and I kept her there to

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motivate me, because I said youthinking about her, but brow they caught
her so rich that she never cameback and I said oh, no,
well, no, no, no, no, no, no, no,
no, no, no, no, no, no, no,
no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no,
no, no, no, no, no, no, no,
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no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no,
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no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no,
no, no, no, no, no, no, no,
no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no,
no, no, no, no, no, no, no,
no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no,
no, no, no, no, no, no Yeah, that
' s when you start thinking that' s my play. When you start
thinking that, Güey, I thinkyou' re sagute yourself. It'
s not that because in the endGüey is not the same. Also breakup,

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like how someone takes it to letthe one who leaves is what he
wanted to ask. Now that Ilike to stick just as hard, what
do you like that bring you oryou bring a relationship? No, because
I don' t like either oneof us when you start a relationship.
But what you' d always sayis I' m gonna tell you one

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thing. Me, these hurt me. I' ve lived both of them
in a very different way with myten boyfriends. And the truth is,
obviously, when you don' texpect it or when you think everything'
s okay and suddenly the cut comes. But when you already expect it,
you know the relationship is already wrong, it' s already fractured and there
' s a lot of trouble.It depends on maturity. Which is,
it depends on maturity because if youtell me how you react now, when

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you know there' s already afart and someone else decides to make the
decision because if it' s asubject you know the elephant is there pink.
But you don' t want tosay anything. But when someone says
hey, you know what. Thisfart is no longer working and you'
re already bringing the Güey roll isno longer working. You' re right,
we' re gonna let go.But when you don' t expect
it and they call you Güey,it' s over. That' s
when you start fucking fart. IfI sit on my dick, why?

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Because you' re used to aphrase many times, well, it'
s a song. No, manytimes the custom is stronger than love.
And that' s where you realizeGüey. Many times now, there'
s nothing. And you' restill with that person because you' ve
gotten used to it, because it' s already your comfort zone and it

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' s very different and the customis usually something very curera in one o.
Yes, because many times, butmany times the routine is the strangest.
Güey, strange isn' t somuch that you don' t even
call the person, even if youwant to Yes, exactly the habit is
what you say Güey, I mean, I prefer to be with someone even

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if he doesn' t love anymore, although this one feels nothing more than
being alone. It does happen tome. I finished with one that came
a little while ago, I finishedit. He finished me three times and
it happens to me a lot thatwhen I finish, I don' t
believe it and I say no,Güey, why I mean, no,
why you have to be very specific. No, because this and this can

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be fixed then I' ll tryyou again. Okay. The problem is
that then I' m very insistenttoo and I don' t know how
to recognize it or not, andI would have to and not. Then
we' ll be back. Let' s blow that a little bit of
my eagerness and hold on to notletting things fall so easily so to speak.
But already, in the end,because I ended up with him,

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because, already, it is commonfor me. In short, I can
finish 15 times I' m goingback, but if I finish you,
you forget. There, you know, that' s where it is.
And if the other person is toosharp, they want this song. For
the first time in my life,this güey said no ok, calm down
ok. Let' s change theparameters, the ideas and everything just live
everything together well without expectations between quotes. But if I want to keep seeing

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you and I want us to beokay and all very well. Okay,
sure, and then I came torecord and he fell asleep in my room
and I don' t know.I feel like it' s like this
way of learning or understanding that it' s not that easy to let go.
You know and I don' tlike feeling alone is healthy to see
ex- boyfriends or not if suddenlyyou get along with him. I'
d love to. I get alongwith all my ex- boyfriends except two

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and it doesn' t cause youa problem anymore if you see them with
someone else. No, I meanon the contrary, I don' t
have telexl I don' t seethem, I see them and, for
example, me. I want allthe people that I loved or at the
time were with me, for Iam happy or I am happy to see
them happy successful. I mean,I' m not that Güey who says

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oh fuck, but at first no, no, not how much you ended
the relationship, not that he hasthat first month, a month like that
you' re done and he's already dating I think that and you
have to explain wey I think Ihave to learn tes armor I really like
on a personal level. You know, since I' m good at growing
up, I' m one ofthose fucking boyfriend shits I take, and

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how good of you to be happy, but on the other hand, if
you go to the dick that sonof a bitch, that is, Güey,
you' ve got a month thatwe' re done with someone else
or maybe they' re never gonnabe the best. Güey, Times varied,
they had already been in contact withhim. It' s yourself feeding
the shit out of your head,Güey, so you don' t get
out of there, someone else didn' t know, never knew how to

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put Güey. That' s becausein the assumption and you give you you
' re going to leave you knowthat I think you' re mixing a
lot of things, either this issupposed to be right, but I also
think you' re right that becauseit hurts Güey, that it' s
angry not ha, that it burnsnarle gey saying because you have it happy
watch want you say Güey, sayou can repress. I just learned that
because you can' t end arelationship, too, and I want her

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to do well, and that's what you' re going to think
she' s going to see theother one. But we do, all
of a sudden you' ve gota fucking day and by axis, that
already you find out that the otherperson. But it' s the s
over s courage dre is that thereare many things to evaluate. Ah it
' s not pleasant wey there's fart, but it' s a
fart of yours, of course,whatever it was yours. In the end
she thinks yes, if you're seeing your ex- girlfriend with a

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super handsome Güey and the shit that' s going to fuck her and you
' re looking at the pictures.So, you' re telling me mother
Güey' s gonna fuck you up. Or so this one you' re
not agreeing with, but it's what I' m going to do.
No, but in my case it' s you who have to work
in You to get out of thehole Güey, if all the time you
' re seeing that, what doyou do to block your exes so you

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don' t see Güey' shappiness because it farts you, because Güey
' s part of You is goodthat you block it because in the end
there ends the fart. I feellike it' s normal. Sometimes just
as hard- working as you're in your relationship and you' ve
already accepted. And I feel thatthe minimum in the first week is always
dueling, of course. Be always, of course, and I think the
feeling that gives you those feelings ofcourage because your expectations were not met.

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A relationship you' ve come upwith with with this clear person, so,
obviously, break a plan, aproject, or call yourself a job,
whatever it is that someone who wasn' t you gets here and pisses
you off. But it' sthe ego angry, that ego is courage,
it' s envy, it's that much notice that something very

(24:51):
strange happens to me. I mean, I don' t know if maybe
it' ll happen to Julián,too, but I, when they'
ve just had a relationship, thefirst few weeks I' ll give everything,
give them taste. I' mhanging out this first few weeks,
a month, two months to threemonths of luxury, but it' s

(25:15):
gonna come in a wey moment it' s happened to me that sometimes starting
from the fourth month, fifth month, sixth month of the relationship, I
' m starting to feel that needto want to have something wey again in
fact, that you mention is somethingquite commented on on social networks that even

(25:36):
make women' s reels. Atthe end, the women live the duel
immediately, then, then they aresaved and at three four months they are
already. But everyone goes all overtheir skin and men go the other way
around. First weeks of partying,I' m going to say it like
this, see where they put itand at the age of three four months
it gives us a lot of reality, it hits us in reality and when

(25:57):
sometimes the one who the best neverc o lo o Güeys says no mames
anymore because I the twenty, becausein the end it' s like it
' s Güey it' s likeI' m going to put an analogy,
but in the end it' slike kids don' t like to
get caught the toy. Not thoughthey don' t use it, but
the moment the little boy, anotherboy grabs the toy, it' s

(26:19):
my toy. I want it.That' s what happens Güey the net,
but it' s not that it' s the most that' s
not Güey' s, because inthe end you want that, you think
that that person is only yours,but ah I can' t get another
person because you' re starting toget the happiness you' re seeing that
you didn' t give it tohim. That' s what happened.

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I don' t know. Idon' t think we have to generalize.
I' m sure there' smore too. It' s not
time, ah yes for now it' s a stage of spite and make
up for it and nail that pullsout another nail right away and then throws
them down. Maybe they never getdown, just as there will be men
who do have mourning immediately when theyfinish or maybe they don' t feel
or see. It' s allvery subjective. Finally, if there is

(27:02):
no rule as such, it isperhaps more common, if so. But
there' s not like a ruleto live a duel. How many girlfriends
you' ve had I think you' ve had in your whole life telling
them as a teenager. About sixgirlfriends you' re just thinking about the
same number. About six of you, if you tell me about the new
boys that' s a month,two months. Yeah, maybe like twelve.

(27:22):
Well, I' ve had alot of relationships, too, and
long, so I' ve alreadybeen through the very different breaks and the
very different truenes. People have reactedextremely differently. I, for example,
am going to tell you a truenethat I am, so, yes,
it was very similar to me.But I realized that and many years ago,

(27:42):
it' s a date, thatthat ex that I have that is
in the middle, we didn't say hello but nothing before me as
if I was going and that well, if we saved ourselves from uh what
fart, how you are chido.But there is no relationship it hurts,
because, obviously, as you sayit is, strange people become who knew

(28:07):
you so much, they become completelystrange and perhaps that is what hurts,
but over time, I have understoodthat, as it is and is well.
I mean, there are people whohave their processes or have to heal
and they don' t want meto take it back, because I gacho
it, which was maybe to bewith me. No. In the end,

(28:27):
I lived my grieving stage by beingwith that ex- boyfriend and in
the end, because I made thedecision to say no here, and I
think that might lead to something bad. I empathize with that, but I
don' t have to be friendswith my ex The clear one now how

(28:48):
you deal with it. I thinkthe first point at this point and then
I always agree with Andres, isacceptance, saying this far, that is,
the reality is this you said itanother way. What I said is
the prerior step for everything to acceptin that case, I don' t
think it' s a problem,but it' s a reality. But
also when you have a problem,it' s the first step to accept
it, I' m the secondone on board. It' s good

(29:10):
that I already accept that reality.I have how my reality is going to
be, structure my reality. Nowon, okay I' m going on
with without this relationship. Or maybewe' ll pay the rent together.
How am I going to do itto get then to chart a path to
where I want to go? Andobviously, no duel is as you could
say in linear. It' salways going to be a subbaja, like
everything in life, and so it' s been seven months. There'

(29:32):
s gonna be a song you canget to find that person by the hand
with someone or just walking alone inthe world. And that' s,
that' s one of the morethings that confront you, that is,
when it happens. That' sbecause you have a good day. It
' s like, oh, they' re coming back, they' re

(29:56):
coming back from a madram seven monthsago, and you' re saying nothing
' s gone. But if progresshas been made, what happens is then
you will be cut off not tosee day by day. I was listening
here kind of like the mother givesthem. Güey seeing her exes with someone
else and yes, güey has happenedto me and it makes me more like
on a plane of that fucking mother. But why with him do you know

(30:19):
that happened to me that I mean, there' s so much variety,
why do you go with the peopleI know that we have in common,
I mean that kind of seal,like that kind of detail I know why
with him that kind of detail?I mean, Güey dick, I mean,
yeah, it' s okay thatI introduced you to all my friends.
But, Güey, open up adifferent path. Open tinder, open

(30:42):
other apps to meet other people.But then, my social circle, so
leave it there because, in fact, because I am there also at some
point, we are going to getyou to bump back into maybe you who
leaves in another country, because Ithink of it and then it' s
less bad if to eggs Güey no, because it' s not so much

(31:06):
of why you' re with him, but rather of the classic that they
tell him how to give him unclewhen someone died and you have to give
him this duel like he' svery sorry and I' ve seen him
in networks like you get to evaluateand you say because this güey didn'

(31:29):
t hurt to send me the dickand me if he moved. I think
you think it didn' t hurt, because I don' t know.
But there are many exercises that youwill have done, for example, being
with someone else covers a wound verywell. I' ll give you the
son güey. I' m goingto tell you a sanction. I don
' t know what his downfall is. In fact, you went on right
now with your new wey that I' m leaving for. But what I
' m going to do with thisfart is different. If there are many
tools and maybe he was already mentally, he wasn' t with me anymore,

(31:49):
I mean, I feel like thereare a lot of things you can
evaluate. I' ll give youan example. Maybe in my case I
' m kind of like the Iwas in your güey' s place.
I already have another güey. Notthis one, but I suffered a bad
Güey, too, I' msure I did suffer well. Güey suffered

(32:10):
well. I was going to huntyou bastard, that is, and it
feels good as hell. Nothing morethan maybe my duel wasn' t exactly
after I had the relationship. Ilived my duel a year earlier where,
because Güey didn' t feel chidoand maybe my mistake was a relationship yes

(32:31):
I mean, Güey, I literally, this duel that you felt, I
lived it within the last year ofthe relationship then at the end pass is
that it' s all already thedick. You know it' s all
in the dick and in the end, the one who makes the decision many
times is the bad guy in thestory. But finally, because I was

(32:52):
no longer chido and in the end, regardless of anything, I' m
not excusing what happened to you,but many times I tell you. I
think the duel may have happened toyou after you had cut. But I
lived it before I cut it.I' m good with dick. Sit
the fuck down. They left youfor another güey, and I keep making

(33:12):
fucking courage, and besides, youcome from getting in my face and holding
it in front of me for atleast a week, and then you hang
out with my friends like they're your new friends. I' m
good with dick. It' sthe same if I had it, not
your floor. I don' tcare if you cried, you didn'
t cry. I' m fineCome on, if your expectations were or
weren' t. I don't give a shit. The point is
you hit me in the fucking motherand they rumbled me and that cocky wey

(33:35):
joke as best I could work,as best I could wey and it was
piche therapy The Terapeta dick is HartoGüey, because I repeat the same fart
always is Güey. It' sokay for me moms, it pisses me
off, it pisses me off weydot, I mean they' d just
give you bumps. He' snot used to it yet. I want
to see fucking Jeta Güey, Idon' t want to hear her name
or the s so, so inthe joke I get angry, you don
' t get over it no,you don' t believe Jawey some questions.

(34:00):
No questions. There, Güey,I come up with a question.
I think it' s time.I' m not the idea of giving
time. Yes, but time doesnot heal for itself what time does this
in my case I put activities,do more exercise, look for new areas
of work, make a podcast thatis called Chile, for example, not

(34:22):
this one and reflect on that inmy case, reflect what I can do
best for the next opportunity in thelove that comes before me, that is,
also be responsible for what error Iwas, because, obviously, I
did something in my case to takethat relationship to the precipice to that at

(34:43):
some point it would fail at leastwhat was in my hands. What I
can improve, what I can changeand what wasn' t in my hands,
which I didn' t like notto realize before or talk to that
person, because there were also athousand things that I didn' t talk
about in the last relationship, thatmaybe if I had spoken them another story,
it would have been a thousand thingsthat would have been solved here.
But by the time I realized theymight have a solution, it was too

(35:07):
late. So I think communication,even if it sounds cliché that communication is
the most important thing. Many timeswe don' t apply it. We
believe that communicating is what we encourageourselves to say and we often communicate the
most important thing is what you didn' t have to say then to communicate,
to be always willing to progress,to evolve, to be willing,

(35:28):
not to give in, but tomodify for the better, because this one
and go with it, with theflag, because someone will like, as
I already am, is know notto seek the relationship that you want.
I believe and I' m goingto say something also be aware that you
screw up and I think that's a few times. We have no

(35:51):
self- criticism, we have zero. It' s always the other one
was to blame, the other didand we' re never aware of just
those patterns that you say wey thatmany times you repeat and that they'
re going to be following, repeatinguntil you know it, Güey and it
sounds nice all, because here allthe tips that they' ve been giving
sound good parents, a lot oftheory, the four deals and all those

(36:13):
moms. It' s very goodto the net, if it' s
very chido, if you try towork on that, on that mature side,
let' s tell him, butyou don' t have to do
it egg- to- egg.It' s worth living your feelings,
it' s worth getting angry,it' s gonna feed on the mother.
Güey, I mean you laid medown, Güey, it' s
okay to cry wey, it's okay to fuck someone else, stop

(36:34):
for Güey, I don' tknow how to vent everything. Güey is
valid usually looking for the way thatis most ludable possible is worth, but
until what times is it worth?If wey you' re not going to
use another fucker just, you're going to let yourself go, I
' m the only one falling downwith people to get rid of me.
Yeah, that' s why he' s hot wey and he doesn'
t jump you with people to coverpotholes and eye emotionally. Well, even
that I do recognize. I've done it unconsciously, as we say

(37:00):
several years ago, when I clearlydidn' t know what fart. Yes,
and I have consciously told you thenet. I' m finishing up
and I want to feel loved.Ah, well, it' s cool
You' re not getting any attention. That' s what you' re
telling him. Güey, the fartis when you don' t communicate it,
and you' re all not.Around there they are also aware and
Wolk nowadays. Yeah, yeah,yeah, it' s thirty years and

(37:21):
sideways assumed, wey the experience isthat it costs, that is, this
güey. Now I agree that thetheory doesn' t solve anything for itself.
I mean, the theory is what' s gonna tell you how to
get from point A to point Bin the best possible way. How are
you going to be harder or easierto forgive the way. Not if it
' s going to be easier onthe road. It' s going to
make it easier for you not tostumble and not stray to a point C.

(37:43):
But that doesn' t mean thatyou don' t have to walk
it, that is, the theoryis what helps you ok when you go
from to B on that road Wheredo you want to be, where are
you from, where do you wantto be? Maybe here you' re
going to find an obstacle that coulddivert you or I could bring you back
to the previous point. And okay, you tell the theory. It'
s not about repressing emotions feelings,as I said a little while ago I

(38:04):
want our ex- partners to dovery well. But that doesn' t
mean that on a bad day you' re not going to say, wake
up to say that his mother Güeyis talking about, because it hurts me
and here I saw this and thenet I don' t feel well and
I mean I' m not well. Güey, you know I realize there
' s still something rotten and insideme then that takes a long time.
I think a lot to say goodagain. It already gives me charm in
that I the theory in which youchi valer mother Güey, it is or

(38:27):
helps you mother in that when youwill come a time in which your emotions
will get caught up, in yourthoughts and say ok I already cooled,
I was a while ago lying toher mother. But, the theory says
that nothing belongs to me, nothing, nor does anyone belong to me that
within me is as long as self- love works, I can reach a
point where I can get something better. That' s the theory put into
operation. I mean, the theoryworks a lot for when and also but

(38:50):
when you' re hot to sayok that I' m insisting it'
s ego, güey, don't mames that means I saw it with
someone else, but and I'm saying it' s love, it
' s that I still love herand the theory helps you to tell yourself
to see calmly. It' slove, or it' s ego,
or it' s fear, orit' s tear, or it'
s jealousy ok. Theory gives youall these tools to really realize what you
' re feeling and how you're going to end up managing look.

(39:12):
In the end, come in.I know it costs a lot, but
to get in like this dynamic andbe aware that the sure thing is that
he lived happily ever after. That' s a few if it' s
a blowjob, it' s oneand a few exactly, and few people
get into a relationship or have thisconversation with their partner today I decide to

(39:36):
be with you, today, Iwant to be with you tomorrow. I
don' t know, it's the morning decision tomorrow. I don
' t know, Güey, ifhe' s gonna look like a bastard
to you, Güey, make youfeel good, you bastards, and then
you go, and in the end, yeah, and this conversation I think
few people. I don' tknow if they have it with their boyfriends,
but it' s today we're, we' re choosing.

(39:57):
I' ve had it with mygüey. I mean, I want to
be with you today. Today andall today could even give a güey life
on a subject of violence. Idon' t know today, but tomorrow
who knows, knows and in theend, the only love that' s
gonna be with you all life isyou. No. There' s already
a Güey ration that I learned aboutthirteen years ago and it' s stuck
on me. It is Eduardo Galeanowho says the importance of love is infinite.

(40:22):
As long as it lasts, asyou mentioned, it can last a
month, two months, six months, the relationship, a year. The
important thing is that during that year, that week, that day, love
will live in an infinite way.You also have to live like ay,
I don' t know tomorrow we' ll be together, but I'
d like you to, of course, I mean, I' d like
you to, and at the endof mind, tomorrow we' ll see

(40:43):
if tomorrow I can guarantee it.Not today and it' s from but
I would mind saying it at theend saying Güey, today we' re
choosing. I' m gonna doeverything I can, but as you say,
Güey, I mean, I'm gonna try. I love what
you say, Güey, I mean, I try, I try, I
try, and maybe that' sthe courage that you have that yes,
this bastard didn' t do enoughto make this relationship work. And that

(41:06):
' s the courage like you do, as you give everything and you give,
güey you die on the line,that' s the fart Güey when
you don' t see that theother person doesn' t give the same
or is on the same level maybeof commitment as you. That' s
the courage that you bring to turadoand I look at for all that takes
a long time to get to atime to say good. Maybe as we

(41:29):
say, it' s not worthit, but minimum let go of it
and say good. I can goon with my stuff, I can go
away with my life quietly and I' m going to give someone else the
chance to be happy afterwards. Yes, too, of course, everyone goes
through love breaks. That' sa fact. I think the topic of
therapy and that' s when itstarts to affect your performance in your day

(41:49):
to day, when you' recrying well, I can' t go
to work when you don' twant to go to class. Depression,
with this sentient depression, you fightwith your family. Now all men have
the same shit. That' swhen I think if you need more professional
attention, and that' s whenI specifically recommend going in. There'
s already something super famous that saysthe most suckers in the gym are born

(42:10):
after a route, after they brokehis heart. You believe if I,
after he breaks my heart until hewalks. Coat, right now, yes
for attention. But when I justate, I made the decision to go
to the gym. It was becausemy heart had broken and I said I
want to get the best version ofme. What it was like to have
days, eighteen years. That's why he' s well sucked at

(42:31):
the age of eighteen. What happens, then, neglects you if they come
at some time when they break yourheart again and you say ok she had
good rope, no, but Iwon' t put you no blowjobs,
bastard 100 of what was lost toevery friend, I right now, I
do, that is if my philosophyof life has changed a little bit.
And although the practice, the theory, my theory is beautiful, what I

(42:52):
drink the head is beautiful. Ihave, I have everything accomplished and everything
built. In practice, it's obviously a batalo, because the theory
is I let everyone go, everyonebe happy. I' m going to
bloom the garden that' s insideof me, but I' m not.
Just like things happen. I alsoget angry, too, sometimes I
get fed up with people around mein my family sometimes I feel jealous.

(43:14):
I mean, we also have thisdark part inside us that' s all
the time wanting to bomb us more. In a time where we are there
is a competitiveness, an over competitivenessfor social networks, then it is how
uy I do not have that body. I have a body, but that
bro is ten times better than me, or he has the car that I

(43:34):
don' t right now, Idon' t know how you live it.
Tuian on the question of wanting tocourt a woman. Women have choices
with a lot more money than methan maybe you can give her dinner and
try everything. But that brother theymay not like so much, but he
gives them trips, buys them theluibiton bag, the guchi wallet and then
he' s like brother. Idon' t know where to compete.

(43:58):
I said I' m going toget rid of that what I' m
going to do, I' mgoing to look for the best version of
me, feel satisfied with myself andhopefully the opportunity will come. That self
- esteem, that is, valuelove in the end. It' s
self- esteem, that is,regardless of whether you have the millions or
not, I mean, I thinka güey and I think the chavas or

(44:19):
the chavos know that, well,yes, güey or no, you don
' t have to have either thebest body or the biggest güey count for
it, to get someone güey thatat that time makes you a better person.
Obviously, the more you grow,the more you look at other things,
yes, that' s a reality. But if I agree with you,
I think you don' t haveto look many times at what you

(44:43):
have to receive. No, Imean, if this person has a lot
of money, he can fix metrips, well, he' s cool,
but maybe you don' t evenlike him. You know, I
like güey better than maybe you cangive me a ride to the movies.
It' s normal, but Ihave a better time than if I'
m going to Cancun with a güeythat maybe doesn' t even physically appeal

(45:04):
to me, so can you whatyou think A is also a father with
people who can pay me for things. I love you very much, yes,
you bastard, no, but inthe end it' s for a
man it' s different. Yes, because you are the ones that are
you the past is suppliers of sobut in the end We are at a
time where maybe Güey is equal toGüey I say I don' t know

(45:27):
how you handle it, Güey,but for example, we, at least
I, in the relationships that Ihave already had I like to do as
much more equitable of wey once youpay a paid I Güey, half of
the account, that is, likeGüey, we are teachers, but to
see then on those issues, Imean, you haven' t touched a
gold sheet that says Güey, Ipay my love it' s clear hear,
if yes, of course and Ithink I don' t know how

(45:51):
you see it, but it's getting much more. But everything gets
you where Güey doesn' t,I mean, they say no, but
there you, you go in thereI' m pretty. I deserve to
be treated like this because that's how I was educated and because my
dad has always given me everything forthat. But if you agree to go
into that dynamic, of course,no, no, no, I'
m not there, all that depends. Güey, if you' re signing
a contract, if you' regoing to this mess that finally the same

(46:17):
women are against this whole spapa.And hey in theory, but then you
see that in practice, because wedon' t like to see everyone who
also consents to us Güey. Imean, it' s a reality,
not sure, so I kept thinkingabout the breakup issue. Love for itself
is the most controversial issue. Ibelieve that of existence, because we have
it in all cultures, we liveit in everything, everywhere, in different

(46:42):
ways, but it is like love. At the end of the day,
I mean, everyone has an idea. I also like a book of art
to love, because there are alsomany people to art, but I believed
a long time that art to lovementions how you feel love towards other people
or objects. You even think youknow how to love, but you'
ve never asked yourself how to love, because one thing to feel love and

(47:05):
another to know how to exercise it. That book blew my mind and I
realized that in its time I don' t know if I want to believe
it' s better to love,but I don' t consider myself an
expert in loving. Still alas,Chile, the book That Is Tremendous.
Book. He' s a bastard, Güey, all right, motherfucker.
I hope that this episode has leftthem a lot to analyze, evaluate and

(47:27):
have had enough feedback and stories totake from them and hopefully you will be
able to get some Chile that willembolden you from this episode. OK,
I don' t shrink anymore,or I don' t want to be
brave anymore. Güey worth it,it' s okay, you guys follow
us in no chili mona you keepcommenting. The truth is that it'
s cool, like the interaction thatwe each have good or bad, but

(47:52):
they' re fine. Or thatyou' re already lying to your mother
we get chido. It' scool, Güey, uh, you guys
don' t start answering me I' m always good that I fight everybody.
They answered, but I' vehad time I haven' t been
able to check for work. Butall the comments are fine. Yeah,
yeah, Güey, I say Güeytoo, but no, but I don
' t like getting hooked on Güey. Yeah, it' s just more.
Yes, yes, yes, Iknew this wey because in the end

(48:14):
someone has that Don Carlos are watchingthe one you have to wey wey is
not that you don' t makethe channel, it' s that they
won' t see the episode.So, if you don' t see
the episode, you' re notgonna fucking learn. You' re just
saying something else. There are situationsor comments that comment. I say I
think you saw the minute we wentup here to real instagram less, but
you didn' t see what wecame from. Then you assumed an idea

(48:34):
because it' s a little bitin subtle Aha or I get out of
context. If you don' tknow perhaps the above, we or later
seek that I hope you understand itwith that little minute, but it'
s not the same. Watching thewhole Ajan episode for a minute is like
you' re just looking at ascene from a series. You' re
not gonna know why they killed theperson. You' re gonna believe the
shooter. Maybe it' s unfair, but maybe you don' t know

(48:57):
what I' m afraid of threesbefore it was crazy goalie. If it
' s got it, it's okay, it' s okay,
it' s okay, but ifI was like to say pussy, if
you' re gonna shit moms thatunless they' re fucking grounded, if
you don' t care, Idon' t care smart or not.
If you don' t care,don' t write, don' t

(49:17):
put them in your mother, butyou' re fine. If he pulls
out arguments, I can' tstand answering them and they' ll suddenly
end up insulting me personally. ButI always say the same thing to them
if you resorted to personal offenses,because you stayed if in arguments for a
good discussion. So there it isfor you to evaluate how it responds Let
' s go, see you inthe next episode Chiles. We' ll
see you there.