12.2.25 Apologies, Attachments, and Aging Like a Legend

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Why y'all, Why y'all, why y'all tripping over my boys?
Brother Steve, brother Steve drinking on Tuesday on a Tuesday.

Speaker 4 (02:02):
Well, today's show, we got a lot of things to
talk about. We're gonna be talking about different apology styles.
We got to letting go of someone you don't want
to let go. We got what type of old do
you want to be? Origins, which I think will be
a fun topic. We got some emails, we got a
response email, we got a special special email, and possibly

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might get to why men don't hear compliments the same
way women do. But before we get to any of that,
y'all know what time it is, so let's get to it.

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And now it's time for.

Speaker 1 (02:40):
Talk.

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This message is brought to you by, as always, Big
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Speaker 7 (03:24):
I don't know about all that.

Speaker 2 (03:26):
She'll be there.

Speaker 1 (03:27):
She'll be there. She'll be there with miss A.

Speaker 4 (03:31):
First thing we're not gonna talk about Lane Kiffin pulled
another Lane Kiffin when he decided to jump ship from
his old miss head coaching job to go be the
new head coach of l s U in the midst
of Old missus greatest season ever. Typical Lane Kiffin being
Lane Kiffin. Nothing we're not gonna talk about. Kennus Owens

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has accused turning Point USA and betrayed Charlie Kirk. I'll
let y'all get deeper into that if you want to,
if you even care at all, But she is starting
to expose a lot of stuff and I just hope
that she has a lot of good security because a
lot of people.

Speaker 1 (04:07):
Starting to get mad at her. Nothing. We're not gonna
talk about.

Speaker 4 (04:10):
Part one of Stranger Things dropped last Wednesday, and right
now it's looking it's looking real good besides Lucas's hair,
and they just better not fuck it up.

Speaker 3 (04:21):
I've seen people say, I mean, it makes sense. They're
in the quarantine. Barbara probably got out of there. I
think his family's like the token family.

Speaker 2 (04:31):
In the whole town.

Speaker 7 (04:32):
Did you also hear that?

Speaker 8 (04:33):
And I don't know if they were still doing it,
but they said at one point his dad was just
cutting his hair for the show to make it look
like like kind of like that, like intentional.

Speaker 2 (04:41):
They're trying to make it seem believable.

Speaker 1 (04:44):
I just feel like.

Speaker 4 (04:46):
We're not gonna Yeah, how did you go from what
he had to the rounded I'm like, no, this is
not Power Rangers, Black Power Ranger.

Speaker 1 (04:53):
No, we're not doing that. I mean, we're not doing that.

Speaker 7 (04:59):
Y A dressed in any interviews? Has he said anything?

Speaker 8 (05:02):
They know everybody's I'm sure he knows that he's talking
about it. Have you seen him like say anything.

Speaker 4 (05:05):
That's the first interview I've seen him, dude, but he's
promoting another thing, so gotch I know.

Speaker 2 (05:12):
Is Mike compared to how he looked at season one
to now?

Speaker 3 (05:15):
I'm like, yeah, that's that's aye a very unattractive young man.

Speaker 7 (05:22):
It's a very unique face.

Speaker 1 (05:24):
Like, yeah, that is that is a he's not gonna
be in the movies.

Speaker 2 (05:31):
Yeah that was not a not at all.

Speaker 8 (05:33):
But you know what, he fit the role perfect though,
Like there's not He's probably never.

Speaker 7 (05:38):
Gonna fit a role perfectly.

Speaker 4 (05:39):
He was a leader when he was like when he
was young, you'd be like, Okay, there's gonna be some
promise or something, and he turned into I'm not gonna
talk about him because he's a good actress.

Speaker 3 (05:49):
Is still cool though, this is still cool, but he
ain't gonna get another actor that he's type cast.

Speaker 4 (05:54):
Yeah, I told risk, the only three that have a chance,
it's gonna be Billie, Bobby Brown out, the black dude, Lucas,
I don't know what's on, like Klob and then the Redhead.

Speaker 3 (06:06):
We got the same birthday, yeah, Max, Yeah, she'll have
a chance.

Speaker 1 (06:11):
Yeah everybody else no, uh nothingths.

Speaker 2 (06:17):
Fucker annoys me. I can't stands.

Speaker 7 (06:21):
Is that a weird looking brother.

Speaker 2 (06:22):
He looks strong out.

Speaker 1 (06:25):
And you know, I thought I thought he was.

Speaker 7 (06:27):
I think Arthur together in real life.

Speaker 3 (06:29):
Yeah, yeah, yeah, I'm like, y'all don't have any chemistry,
y'all going together because.

Speaker 2 (06:34):
Y'all were in close.

Speaker 1 (06:35):
Yes, that's it. That's it.

Speaker 7 (06:37):
Such a strange looking person.

Speaker 4 (06:39):
Another thing we're not gonna talk about. Also, fifty cents
Diddy documentary drop today. I'm looking forward to watching that.

Speaker 7 (06:46):
That like being posted.

Speaker 4 (06:49):
Last thing we're not gonna talk about Cowboy looking alright ish.

Speaker 1 (06:54):
Yeah, they they're looking all right.

Speaker 7 (06:58):
That's the problem game.

Speaker 2 (07:00):
Well that that trade ended up working out.

Speaker 4 (07:02):
And uh, as much as I hate to say it
because I would like to be them at full strength,
Alma Saint Brown might not be playing in this game
because it was an ankle, So don't give.

Speaker 3 (07:13):
A hope everybody except let's get injured. I want the
easiest path. I don't care about that.

Speaker 1 (07:20):
I think.

Speaker 4 (07:20):
I think for me it's because I like talking ship
to my home boys and Detroit fans.

Speaker 1 (07:25):
I understand.

Speaker 3 (07:26):
I understand like not season ending, but just you know
something they can't yeah, one conveniently against Cowboy.

Speaker 4 (07:35):
So let's get into it, y'all, in relationships, how we
apologize can say a lot about how we deal with conflict.
Just like the five love languages, everyone has a different
way of saying sorry. Today we're talking about the five
apology styles and how they can help us communicate better
and repair relationships. Uh, so, what we're gonna do. I'm

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gonna go through the five different styles first, just so,
y'all kind of no, And I was unaware that there.

Speaker 1 (08:01):
Were five apologies styles. I didn't. I didn't know that
was the thing.

Speaker 4 (08:04):
And so the first the first one is expressing regret.
This one is simple. It's about showing you feel bad
for what happened. It's saying I'm sorry and acknowledging the
pain you caused. So, for example, I'm really sorry for
what I did. I could see how it hurts you.
Depends on the situation. I can be that it depends.

Speaker 1 (08:26):
Number two is accepting responsibility. Definitely not risk. Uh.

Speaker 4 (08:31):
It's all about owning up to what you did. No
excuses or blame, just taking full responsibility for your actions.

Speaker 1 (08:39):
I e.

Speaker 4 (08:39):
I messed up and I'm sorry. I take full responsibility.
Next three, making restitutions. This style focuses on fixing things.
It's not about saying sorry, but also offering to make
it right through action. So you said I'm sorry for
how it hurts you, and I don't want to make
it up to you by blank action. It depends for

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genuinely repenting. This one goes deeper. It's about showing real
regret and promising to do better. It's not just an apology,
it's a commitment to change. I'm sorry, I've learned from this.
Sounds like one, and I'm working on being better moving forward.
The last one making restitution. I feel like we'll get

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into that after I go through this fifth one. The
fifth one is requesting forgiveness. Instead of just saying sorry,
you ask for forgiveness. It's putting the ball in their
court and letting them decide that they can move past it.

Speaker 7 (09:34):
Maybe a little bit.

Speaker 3 (09:35):
On number one, it depends on what happened. Like if
I apologize, I'm not going to ask you for forgiveness.

Speaker 2 (09:44):
I'm gonna say that's my fault.

Speaker 7 (09:47):
I'm sorry.

Speaker 4 (09:48):
Yeah, I'm not gonna ask for forgiveness. I feel like
I am a making restitution because I don't apologize just
to apologize. Usually if I apologize, this is because I
really did something, even if it was not intentional. So
I'm like, hey, I'm sorry I made you feel this way.

(10:10):
How can I make your hole in the sense of
that not necessarily buying you something or giving you something,
but like, how can I make How can I that
hole that I put in you? How can I feel
that up so that you were made whole again?

Speaker 2 (10:21):
And see, I'm glad you said it feels intentional.

Speaker 3 (10:23):
If I intentionally did something, yes, I'm gonna come to you,
and I'm gonna sincerely apologize. I'm still not gonna ask
you for forgiveness. I'm just gonna take accountability for what
I said or did or whatever. Now, if I didn't
intentionally do it, and just what I said or did
upset you, I'm gonnay, I'm sorry you took it that way,
and I'm leaving it at that.

Speaker 2 (10:38):
I'm not gonna ask for it for no forgiveness.

Speaker 3 (10:40):
I'm not gonna try to see from your perspective because
what I said or did I don't have control on
how you react to. All I can do is say, hey,
it wasn't my intention, my bad.

Speaker 2 (10:48):
I'm gonna move on. That's it.

Speaker 4 (10:51):
So risk you said that you don't feel like you
fit anyone? Is that because you're a woman.

Speaker 7 (10:58):
I don't do anything wrong.

Speaker 4 (11:00):
You tell Wrongoze what happens to your girl, Brie.

Speaker 7 (11:06):
There's nothing happened. We're just drifted.

Speaker 1 (11:09):
Apart because neither one of y'all could apologize.

Speaker 7 (11:12):
To apologize for we didn't. We just drinched apart. What
do you want people drift apart alone?

Speaker 4 (11:19):
I just want people to just to because we talked
about a certain person that we're gonna be talking about
these emails so much.

Speaker 1 (11:25):
We got an email about this certain person.

Speaker 4 (11:27):
I just want people to ask what happened with brim
drifted apart?

Speaker 1 (11:33):
People?

Speaker 7 (11:34):
Different people now got a lie?

Speaker 8 (11:36):
But I don't really I don't do anything to work
done to apologize for, like I don't do. You just
have to hurt people's feelings or.

Speaker 4 (11:44):
I don't think most people. And but if you ever
do like upset somebody or or wrong somebody, see see
look how women be man, I don't know you're wrong.

Speaker 7 (11:57):
I'm literally trying to remember the last time I needed
to apologiz.

Speaker 8 (12:00):
I think the last time I can think of just
wrops off my head is if I was just in
one of my moods and I'll like yell at my
kid and then I'll feel bad later and go.

Speaker 7 (12:09):
For yelling at him because sometimes it's not warrened, like
not not necessary.

Speaker 1 (12:14):
But so in that are you expressing regret, are you
accepting responsibility or both?

Speaker 8 (12:19):
I mean, I'll use the accept responsibility for that type
of situation, like I'll tell him I was mood.

Speaker 6 (12:25):
She at you.

Speaker 3 (12:27):
She really doesn't apologize. Like the one interaction I have
with you on Instagram is from like almost a year ago.
It was about some cabin.

Speaker 2 (12:34):
Trip or whatever.

Speaker 4 (12:35):
Oh yeah, that's the didn't there's not even a sorry
in there, because can I read this out? So so
risk supposedly was supposed to invite EP to this cabin
trip and March, yeah, this March, and then she just
just I don't know, maybe it was like maybe you

(12:58):
one to February or something right like a friend of
versary or so what is that crawd that y'all be
celebrating Gallantine?

Speaker 7 (13:04):
I wouldn't invite the guy at Gallantine.

Speaker 4 (13:06):
Well you went out there somewhere, and so this is
what she said, ladies, gentlemen. Wasn't even she said, Okay,
I feel super bad about saying that you could bring
your girlfriend. Lol, you could totally bring her if she
would like to. Oh, so apparently she told him that
he couldn't bring somebody. I was just trying to make
sure everyone would have enough rooms for sleeping, but I'm
sure would have enough, like the disrespect that that.

Speaker 7 (13:30):
Was a nice way to say my bad, Like.

Speaker 3 (13:33):
There was no apology there, which I'm.

Speaker 1 (13:38):
Trying to think. Have you ever even apologized to me?

Speaker 2 (13:41):
The reason?

Speaker 7 (13:42):
No reason.

Speaker 8 (13:45):
I don't mean stuff to people. I like the nicest
person on the planet. I don't do mean stuff unless
I'm like in a real mood, and y'all don't really.

Speaker 7 (13:51):
Get to see that side.

Speaker 8 (13:52):
That's usually a home side that my in how family
gets to see, and maybe my brother, but even my
friends don't even really see.

Speaker 1 (14:01):
So you don't even apologize to your mother?

Speaker 8 (14:04):
Yeah, if I mean for no reason, like if I
just get one of my moods, I have anxiety. So
some days are just like really bad.

Speaker 7 (14:10):
I love how they behind it, I do, and some
days I just have issues I can admit to it.

Speaker 4 (14:20):
Is there a particular apology style that feels insincere or
are putting to you?

Speaker 2 (14:25):
And why do you think that is?

Speaker 8 (14:26):
Yes, something he just said if he just if someone
tells me I'm sorry I made you feel that way, I'm.

Speaker 7 (14:31):
Going to be livid. I want to be living why
because I feel like that is so insincere. And maybe
it depends on what the situation is and how you
say it, but but.

Speaker 2 (14:40):
Like what if I literally was not trying, I was
not trying to be offensive.

Speaker 7 (14:43):
And I don't know, I just feel like when you
said that, it like pushed a trigger in me.

Speaker 2 (14:47):
I was like, I don't like the way you just
said that, I'm sorry you feel that way.

Speaker 4 (14:53):
He's because he didn't bring anything intentionally to you, and
you're choosing to feel.

Speaker 2 (15:00):
I can't control someone's reaction or response to what I
say or do.

Speaker 1 (15:04):
I don't know.

Speaker 7 (15:04):
I just feel like that's to me. I feel like
that can be very insincere.

Speaker 4 (15:09):
You know what's so funny about this topic is I
just knew that you were gonna be like, like, this
is gonna clash against everything within you, Like Steven would
have been like, you know what, I can apologize about
this or that with his servants heart looking ass Eddie.

Speaker 1 (15:23):
I knew how he was gonna respond. I knew how
I was gonna.

Speaker 4 (15:26):
Respond and I just had a feeling you're gonna be like,
I don't apologize, I don't, I don't.

Speaker 6 (15:33):
And.

Speaker 4 (15:35):
Ladies, if y'all are listening, I just want y'all to
know something. If you want to be around forever, forever, ever,
just apologize. You gotta do it every time, just every
once in a while, just say I'm sorry. You gonna
see that man light up like Christmas.

Speaker 2 (15:57):
I don't know if that's gonna ever happen.

Speaker 4 (16:00):
Like if you have how many times do you think
you've gotten sorry from a female in your life?

Speaker 1 (16:05):
Time? Like you think you can count it all like
one hand.

Speaker 3 (16:08):
I can probably count it on one fullhand, Like just yeah,
but each time it was like for real, Like I
could tell you sincere about the ship, it was shocking.

Speaker 1 (16:17):
But but how many apologies do you feel like you've
been old that you didn't get.

Speaker 3 (16:21):
At least three times that yeah, yeah, but it was
something you were joking. But it's like, yeah, I'm sorry
that you made me mad and I reacted that how
do you apologize I made you.

Speaker 2 (16:39):
I'm sorry that I got mad at what you said
and blah blah blah, Like Okay, it's your fault, though.

Speaker 4 (16:47):
I think like the most insincere apologies are especially well,
there's two. There's the one whenever your parents make you apologize,
especially with me having a sibling, Like when I had
to apologize that ac because I definitely didn't mean that
shit fucking at all, but his own sensitive ass would
be all.

Speaker 1 (17:05):
Browned up in a damn corner and ship that motherfucker's crazy.

Speaker 4 (17:11):
So those were definitely the most insincere apologies, or like, like,
let's say a group of kids were real bullying. I'm
not even gonna say real bullying. We weren't throwing nobody
in the locker, but let's just say we were teasing
somebody in a way that is not like this bullshit
as teasing they had today, but like real teasing that

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could really hurt somebody's feelings. When the teacher made us
apologize as.

Speaker 1 (17:38):
A group.

Speaker 4 (17:40):
That shit wasn't real, that was very insincere. It was like, okay,
well let me avoid getting in trouble. So that's that's one.

Speaker 1 (17:46):
I think. The other insincere apology when I just knew
you was gonna say that, I'm like.

Speaker 7 (17:57):
You ain't fucking sorry, You ain't sorry.

Speaker 1 (17:59):
Why can't he be sawry this is the.

Speaker 2 (18:01):
Third time, you're not sorry the third time, the third time.

Speaker 1 (18:07):
But if it's like the first time and he's like no.

Speaker 2 (18:10):
Sorry third time, it's just part of the game.

Speaker 4 (18:12):
Yeah, you gotta chop that up to the game. But
the first time, especially when they hit that the tiger
woods lift up.

Speaker 6 (18:20):
Like that.

Speaker 2 (18:21):
About when the woman gets caught.

Speaker 1 (18:23):
It's always the guys it normally, but.

Speaker 8 (18:28):
There are instances where it's a woman and same thing.
There's never a reason to Yeah, but that's the same
I feel like the same thing.

Speaker 2 (18:38):
Though.

Speaker 7 (18:38):
That's not a real apology.

Speaker 2 (18:39):
That's apology caught.

Speaker 7 (18:40):
It's not like sincere, I'm sorry.

Speaker 8 (18:44):
But like you said, like women are more emotional cheaters,
so I don't feel like it means more sorry, Like
but I don't think men are either.

Speaker 7 (18:51):
Really, they're just like man, I mean, it sucks like
a caught, but you forgive me. I mean they're gonna
try to get forgiven guardless of what happened. But that's
not there.

Speaker 2 (19:04):
Would you expect him more of you said you caught me?
If you want to leave, I understand.

Speaker 7 (19:10):
I mean at this point in my life, I would
be like I'm going anyway. But yeah, but when I
was younger, I don't know, but I mean they were
all fake, fake tears, fake.

Speaker 2 (19:21):
How many faces they started crying? I already know.

Speaker 1 (19:29):
I know at least three times.

Speaker 3 (19:30):
I know because I've seen him cry and work before,
not even over you. It was just like he was
getting into it with somebody, started crying, very emotional.

Speaker 2 (19:39):
I know.

Speaker 3 (19:40):
I know he kind of looks a little bit like
three thousand, not as good a bit, and he would
get emotional at work. I see him get mad and
start tearing them, So I already know he was crying.
If you caught him cheating, So.

Speaker 1 (19:55):
You said three times, you cheat on you three times?
So why did you keep So? Did you believe in
the apology? Were you just bored?

Speaker 4 (20:05):
What?

Speaker 7 (20:05):
Partially?

Speaker 1 (20:06):
Yeah?

Speaker 2 (20:06):
Did you believe in love after life?

Speaker 7 (20:08):
But I also I had my own stuffle onto you like.

Speaker 1 (20:10):
You was cheating too. Yeah.

Speaker 3 (20:11):
See, okay, let me let me ask you something because
I don't believe this is true. People say once a cheater,
always a CHEATERD.

Speaker 2 (20:22):
Do you think that that's true about.

Speaker 4 (20:26):
The time?

Speaker 1 (20:26):
Yes, it can be.

Speaker 7 (20:27):
I feel like there are there are instances where.

Speaker 2 (20:30):
I feel like it changed.

Speaker 3 (20:32):
I feel like in that particular relationship, it can be true,
it doesn't mean necessarily going to do it in your
next relationship.

Speaker 2 (20:37):
Right, Some people think, well, you cheated when you were
twenty one, it means you always gonna be cheered Like no,
not at all. Doesn't mean you're always gonna be like that. Yeah,
you got people like future.

Speaker 1 (20:48):
So yeah, future ain't gonna change, but you don't want
to change. If you catch me cheating, I will never
tell a.

Speaker 8 (20:55):
Sorry no, but I think it's about ninety percent. But
there's there's about ten percent out there that I honestly
think could and would change.

Speaker 1 (21:02):
What made you stop cheating?

Speaker 7 (21:04):
I never cheated first?

Speaker 2 (21:05):
What made you stop? So you only do it if
somebody cheat on your.

Speaker 7 (21:10):
I wouldn't do it anymore. But before, yes, now I
don't know. I'm not doing it anymore. Like I'm not
gonna I'm not trying to play like that fun.

Speaker 2 (21:22):
One thing. If I give a relationship, If I cheat again,
I'm done. I said it, like you.

Speaker 1 (21:33):
Gots what did that means?

Speaker 4 (21:35):
It's talking about like I don't know what kind of
generational curse your family has on you, but someone.

Speaker 1 (21:42):
Is punishing you. And I don't know why I keep cheating.
I don't know what kind of general.

Speaker 2 (21:47):
But now I have seen that meme somewhere, I'm gonna
trying this relationship. Then one more time. If I cheat again,
I'm done.

Speaker 1 (21:57):
So let me ask you all this.

Speaker 4 (21:58):
How do you know We were just talking about how
we don't really like the insincere part, But how do
you know when someone is genuinely repented.

Speaker 2 (22:07):
By their behavior?

Speaker 3 (22:08):
Different behavior like if you still if you just say
something but you still do the same shit, I ain't
gonna believe that.

Speaker 4 (22:16):
Do you feel though that, Like, let's say, like a
dude got caught for whatever reason. Now he's trying to
repent and be good. Do you feel like if the
woman keeps like dogging on like I understand like the
first couple of weeks, maybe a month or two, but
like if she just keeps dogging on him and dogging
on him.

Speaker 2 (22:32):
Years later, then he should leave you.

Speaker 8 (22:35):
Honestly, I don't think that there's very many instances where
it will work out after you're caught, Because I mean,
I could say, yes, I really love this person and
I believe they're gonna change, but I would never trust
them again, and mentally I would just never ever every
time they walk out of the house, and then of
thinks and that's that's a terrible way to live.

Speaker 7 (22:54):
Even for myself. People don't like I wanted to work.
I really love them.

Speaker 8 (22:57):
I want to be with them. You know, we do
have a good relationship. But if every time I walk
out that door, I'm like, I'm wondering where they're going
or wondering what they're doing. Like, that's a terrible way
to live.

Speaker 2 (23:06):
I mean, it definitely said is the trust.

Speaker 3 (23:08):
But if you decide to forgive them, I'm not saying
let it go, don't ever bring it up again. But
if you it's like, but if you if you bring
it up like three years later, like you should have
just left him or her.

Speaker 1 (23:21):
Like, yeah, yeah, I remember. Uh one of my I'll
just call him a little home ye. I guess he
kind of like a little brother to me.

Speaker 4 (23:30):
He had gotten in a situation where he got caught
up and he asked me, big bro, like, what do
you think I should do?

Speaker 1 (23:35):
I said, man, I pull Eddie. I said, leave her doll.

Speaker 4 (23:38):
Because she was gonna bring that ship up forever forever.
And so he stayed in it for like a years
or so and then finally broke up. He was like
how'd you know, I said, because they don't won't be happy.

Speaker 1 (23:49):
Man, That's that's like the draw for every time.

Speaker 2 (23:53):
But when you cheat it every time, like damn, it's
like because.

Speaker 1 (23:57):
I know I would bring it up.

Speaker 8 (23:58):
I know I was like you if I if I
didn't want to, if I tried, my heart is not
to I know, it's just gonna creep in every time
I get it at like get mad at you, or
get anything that like little that happens, I would probably
throw some shit outfalo, a couple of little slugs.

Speaker 4 (24:13):
And I guess for that, like what does what do
you get out of that? Because do you just making
yourself mad and then you're making him not want to
talk to you?

Speaker 2 (24:20):
Yeah, no, nothing, and then you just starting him and
it's waste.

Speaker 7 (24:26):
So you can be sincere, but it don't really make
much of a difference. I think all my.

Speaker 8 (24:33):
Terrible situations that I went through my twenties have put
me in a place now where I was like, I
just would not accept any of that.

Speaker 1 (24:41):
I'm just like, no, that shit's crazy. That's twenty years ago.

Speaker 7 (24:44):
Whoa, buddy, whoa? I didn't say twenty or nineteen.

Speaker 2 (24:49):
She could have been talking in like.

Speaker 7 (24:50):
Twenty c Yeah, mid twenties.

Speaker 2 (24:53):
What were you talking about?

Speaker 1 (24:55):
She was twenty mid twenties, twenty years ago, old day, stupid.

Speaker 4 (25:03):
Man.

Speaker 1 (25:04):
My early twenties were fun and then I turned got
old really quick.

Speaker 2 (25:08):
But it was just a lot of stupid.

Speaker 4 (25:15):
So do y'all feel like asking for forgiveness rather than
just apologize and gives the other person more power in
the situation I.

Speaker 7 (25:23):
Never asked for Yeah, I don't think I've ever asked.

Speaker 1 (25:26):
I've never asked for forgiveness. I'm trying to think if
I know anybody's ever asked for forgiveness. The only time
I can see like people asking for forgiveness is whenever
they did some shit like maybe they took their parents' card,
did something else, and then like, hey, I ain't gonna
ask for permission, I'm ask for forgiveness when I get caught.
That's the only time I've ever seen anybody ask for forgiveness.

Speaker 7 (25:49):
I've had people asking for forgiveness.

Speaker 4 (25:55):
Did you feel like you will did more power on
them because you said I took that ship for granted, You're.

Speaker 1 (26:05):
Don't want to forgive you something. On my opinions, you're
gonna have to take me to the mom and buy
me some shit.

Speaker 4 (26:13):
Last question on this is do you think it's possible
for an apology to fully repair a relationship or do
you think there's always has to be some sort of
action that follows.

Speaker 8 (26:22):
Those words, Oh, you've got to do some work, unless
it's minor. If it's a minor issue, then yeah, you
can just say sorry.

Speaker 1 (26:28):
Will be something that's minor.

Speaker 8 (26:33):
I don't know, maybe you forgot something that was important,
or forgot to do something that was important that I
asked you to do, or I don't know, like something
that just doesn't it doesn't matter that much, Like it's
not gonna make or break a relationship.

Speaker 1 (26:47):
Well, let me ask you this.

Speaker 4 (26:49):
If you have wronged somebody, like just you personally, how
important do you think it is to really tell them sorry? Like,
let's just go into this. If you've somebody, how important
do you think it is to really tell them sorry?

Speaker 7 (27:05):
How big or small the discrepancy is out?

Speaker 4 (27:08):
Like, like, if you know that you have truly wronged somebody,
trying to woman, you have wronged somebody, it doesn't matter
how big or small you have wronged somebody.

Speaker 3 (27:20):
Okay, you financially ruined them, because it's something you.

Speaker 1 (27:23):
Did and no, I don't even want to go to
that DP.

Speaker 4 (27:25):
You have wronged somebody, How important do you feel that
it is to tell them, Hey, I'm sorry.

Speaker 1 (27:35):
That is fucking terrible. You are terrible.

Speaker 7 (27:39):
I mean I would probably say sorry.

Speaker 1 (27:40):
Yeah, like would you actually say sorry? Would you say
some bullshit like.

Speaker 7 (27:44):
We are we still friends?

Speaker 4 (27:46):
Because if not, yes, you're still friends. Like you've wronged
this person and you never told them sorry, but you
you just told me that you feel like it's important
to tell them sorry. So do you still feel that way?

Speaker 1 (27:57):
Like it's something that I.

Speaker 7 (28:00):
Feel like I should say sorry for them?

Speaker 1 (28:01):
Yes? Can you can Eddie get an apology? I don't
need about you say, hey, your girl couldn't go h.

Speaker 8 (28:14):
Yeah, Like if I did some whatever shady stuff and
mrcal friends and I'm going to apologize, but I don't
do shady stuff.

Speaker 2 (28:24):
Ever since since you had, I've been looking at all
your friends, like, damn.

Speaker 9 (28:35):
You, we.

Speaker 1 (28:39):
Got some friends in coming, yeah.

Speaker 2 (28:43):
Coming, Yeah, let's go, trust me, trust me. Next year
we're gonna have a lot of right now, let's go.

Speaker 4 (28:53):
So sometimes the hardest thing to do is let go
of someone you care about, even when you know it's
the right choice for your own growth and peace. Why
do y'all think it's so hard to let go someone
even when deep down you know it's not working? For example,
when you built a deep emotional connection, if it feels
impossible to maagine life without that person, even if it's toxic.

Speaker 2 (29:15):
Are you talking like Kean Reeves, I'm feeling that shit.

Speaker 1 (29:20):
Hey man, you know we gotta bring here with my cat.

Speaker 2 (29:24):
I guess, like, so you said, why is it hard
to like?

Speaker 4 (29:29):
I guess basically, yeah, Why do you think it's hard
to let go someone even when deep down you know
it's it's not working, Like.

Speaker 3 (29:36):
You get comfortable, it becomes like routine almost, so that
person's just part of your daily routine, whether y'all text
each other every day, call each other, hang out, whatever,
and then it stops you like, oh shit, something don't
feel it right.

Speaker 2 (29:49):
It might not even be that person, it's just you
used to them. So I feel like that could be
a reason.

Speaker 1 (29:54):
Why do you think that there's like a certain trick?

Speaker 4 (29:56):
Why?

Speaker 1 (29:56):
I guess I ask you risk your thoughts on that?

Speaker 7 (29:59):
What say it again?

Speaker 1 (30:04):
I have my answer, but then you say it again?
I said, why do you think it's so hard to
let go of someone, even deep down you know it's
not working.

Speaker 8 (30:11):
I think a lot of it is comfortability, too, because
you're so comfortable to that person, and like I know
we've all had a discussion before, like I hate talking.

Speaker 7 (30:18):
To new people.

Speaker 8 (30:18):
I actually hate it, Like that is not me. I
don't want to know what your favorite color is. I
don't want to know what your favorite movie is.

Speaker 7 (30:23):
I don't care.

Speaker 2 (30:25):
I don't know.

Speaker 8 (30:26):
I've always been like that. I don't like to talk
to new people. So it's hard for me to let
go of people because the thought of having to start
something brand new is like gut wrenching to me. I
don't like people like I like a lot of people,
and so like the fact that I have to, like
knowingly intentionally be nice to people because if I want

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to start dating or whatever, but I don't want to
be I know I'm not supposed to be with this person,
and if I want to start dating, the thought of
having to be nice to people again just to have
conversations with.

Speaker 2 (31:01):
Them would be nice.

Speaker 1 (31:03):
I told you she don't like if she don't like
saying sorry.

Speaker 8 (31:07):
I don't like people like my friends that I have.
I have always had those friends, like they've been around
for a long time. Like even the people like you
met like Keith fourth grade Mike two thousand.

Speaker 1 (31:20):
And eight to me, like I know where you met?

Speaker 7 (31:23):
No, I was just I was just looking that way.

Speaker 8 (31:25):
But like I mean, like everybody that I know, everybody
that I know, like they have been around like forever.

Speaker 7 (31:34):
Because I don't like talking to people like that. I
don't know.

Speaker 2 (31:39):
How are you gonna meet somebody you don't like talking?

Speaker 7 (31:41):
That's what I know. I'm saying.

Speaker 8 (31:43):
I don't like I don't like that would be hard
because you're so comfortable with that person, and then you
have to mentally be nice to people because if you wanted.

Speaker 7 (31:52):
Not to be by yourself.

Speaker 1 (31:53):
So when you like first met us, did you just
have like some hate in your heart when you first met.

Speaker 4 (31:59):
You?

Speaker 2 (32:00):
How long? How long have we known each other?

Speaker 7 (32:02):
Like six years?

Speaker 10 (32:04):
Year?

Speaker 7 (32:04):
Twenty nineteen?

Speaker 4 (32:05):
Yeah before cold damn because she carry to a CST.

Speaker 2 (32:10):
Why does Why am I having a blurs?

Speaker 3 (32:12):
I don't even remember twenty twenty two, twenty twenty one,
This is like twenty nineteen.

Speaker 2 (32:17):
That seemed like it was a long time ago.

Speaker 1 (32:19):
Yeah, by quick, and you were nice to us. I
was we didn't know that you didn't apologize.

Speaker 2 (32:27):
It's never too late for her. She just don't do it.

Speaker 7 (32:32):
But I didn't have to worry about too though. Y'all
be like what's your favorite color? What is your favorite movie?

Speaker 2 (32:39):
You could have had a guest that would have been one.

Speaker 1 (32:41):
I know.

Speaker 8 (32:42):
I just I have like very bad Like I went
through a very short period where I tried, like the
online dating long time ago, probably in my late twenties.

Speaker 7 (32:53):
I guess I tried to.

Speaker 8 (32:54):
Yeah it was trash, like I was, I cannot talk
to that many people and thereasople person is saying the
exact same thing, and I'm like, this is absolute trash,
Like this is garbage. And I met one person that
we say friends.

Speaker 4 (33:10):
So with that, because I was never a part of
the online face, I want to ask this, like how
do you know where like like if everybody's saying the
exact same thing, like, how do you know what to be?
Like you know what this person might be a little.

Speaker 1 (33:25):
Like is there something that they say or is it
just what you look like it's more looks, but it
has to be physical.

Speaker 7 (33:30):
It has to be at that point, like it has
to be like that's somebody I.

Speaker 8 (33:33):
Would normally go for like you have to be physically
attractive and like and even then, like I remember, I
wasted so much time with one person and I talked
to him for about two weeks.

Speaker 7 (33:44):
And we talked every day all day. When we finally
met up, there was no fucking chemistry.

Speaker 1 (33:50):
Nothing.

Speaker 7 (33:51):
It was like like a home voice.

Speaker 2 (33:53):
I don't know, I don't know.

Speaker 3 (33:54):
I've had the opposite, like I've talked to people in person,
cool chemistry is there, but anywhere else sean, I'm like,
in person we could talk, no problem.

Speaker 7 (34:05):
But it was opposite for me. I was like, I'm
so sorry, this is not gonna work.

Speaker 8 (34:10):
And he wasn't ugly, but there was no like there
was no chemistry sitting there and it just felt like
a walmst frind Like, yes, I know we spent probably
over one hundred hours on the phone in the last
two weeks, but I have wasted.

Speaker 4 (34:24):
Your time because I think that the closest I got
and it wasn't online dating. It was just like Facebook
in the beginning stages because only like when it first
came out, only like people from your school, and then
it started branching out to where like other people, mostly
people you saw on Facebook, went to your school and
if I don't know, if you were friends with somebody,

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then they would find you in that case, and then
my Space, but they again that wasn't like a real
of dating thing, and it was more there was no
swipe thing left or is it which one is the
way to get it?

Speaker 1 (34:56):
Is that swipe left right?

Speaker 2 (34:59):
I don't remember.

Speaker 3 (35:00):
I tried tender like in twenty nineteen. It was a cesspool. Yeah,
women only one thing and it was great for a while,
but then I was like, yo.

Speaker 1 (35:09):
You're filthy because you know they're doing it what everybody? Yeah,
how many bobbies you get? Game?

Speaker 8 (35:15):
Like if your if your second conversation is about sex,
you're immediately going to be ignored.

Speaker 7 (35:20):
For the rest of our I'm not going to respond.

Speaker 3 (35:23):
But and then Facebook, it was damn five years almost
almost six years ago. Like I never knew that there
was a Facebook dating until earlier this year.

Speaker 1 (35:34):
I don't even think I knew that.

Speaker 2 (35:36):
I saw it in the middle, Like at the notificate,
it was like a little herd Look at this now, bro,
It was weird.

Speaker 3 (35:41):
But anyway, it was like twenty twenty, like I think
right before COVID started, Like so I was just talking
shit in the group and then some shit randomly dms
me start chopping it up.

Speaker 2 (35:53):
We met and whatever. She was cool, but I was like,
it's that easy to just meet people online and stuff.

Speaker 7 (35:58):
And then also it's.

Speaker 8 (36:00):
Funny because I don't, I know, we all know like
that they have like the are we dating the same
guy groups or whatever?

Speaker 7 (36:05):
Do they have girls too?

Speaker 4 (36:08):
I've never heard so with the guy, you know, I've
never heard of like a guy are we dating the
same girl?

Speaker 2 (36:15):
Group?

Speaker 1 (36:15):
Plus, we wouldn't put.

Speaker 4 (36:16):
Ourselves out there like that because that's but it's funny.
I just wanted to say, I was unaware that you
can get rentals on Facebook.

Speaker 2 (36:22):
Oh yeah, you can Facebook like like like airb Like
I didn't.

Speaker 1 (36:26):
I didn't know that you could do that sleeping.

Speaker 3 (36:31):
I'm sure there are, but I legit did not know
that there was a Facebook dating until earlier this year. Ironically,
it was when I was with that we didn't invite
to the cabin, but she was telling me about how
like somebody she used to talk she had met him
on Facebook dating that what the is that? And I
looked at her, I was like, she is basically like,
it's kind of like that. I was like, no, I

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can't do it then, and then what sucks is because
if any of your friends are on there, they'll know
you're on.

Speaker 4 (36:59):
This.

Speaker 8 (37:00):
But it was funny because when we used to be
on like when I was on the dating sides and stuff,
I would see half my homeboys on there. Like I'm like,
because I remember I saw Stephen on the not y'all
steeing my friend Steven and he said, fucking five, Oh.

Speaker 1 (37:17):
No, not brother Steve on there.

Speaker 7 (37:20):
I was like no, but he was live about his
height and I would send him a screenshot and I'm like,
spir what is this? He's examp my page?

Speaker 1 (37:28):
Because why are you want me?

Speaker 2 (37:29):
I was like, why are you wanting?

Speaker 7 (37:31):
But like we would see other like people that you
know on there.

Speaker 2 (37:35):
And then there was plenty of fish.

Speaker 1 (37:36):
All that I tried it, I've heard a plenty of fish,
plenty of.

Speaker 2 (37:41):
Fish you didn't. And what's funny is I was using
it around the time that I met him, like somebody had.

Speaker 7 (37:48):
Told me they seen him. Why I downloaded it and
made it and then we broke up, and then I
started using it. I was like, well, I'm Marty on
here now. It was also trash yeah.

Speaker 8 (37:59):
But those those online dating That's what I'm saying, Like
those groups that that we have that are we doating
the same guy? Like they it's always the same people
that are posted and they're all on these dating sites
and I'm like this, it's like the same people.

Speaker 4 (38:13):
Yeah.

Speaker 8 (38:14):
Like I've even seen people that I remember seeing ten
years ago on there, like you're still on here.

Speaker 2 (38:19):
That's why I'm like, I don't want to get on one.
I'm not trying to have anybody.

Speaker 1 (38:24):
I don't manus.

Speaker 7 (38:28):
Yeah, unless you're like said, unless you're just looking for
a hook up, they're really just not ship.

Speaker 2 (38:32):
I just want something to just fall into my lap.

Speaker 1 (38:34):
Yeah, you know, like like your friend, but how is
that going?

Speaker 2 (38:42):
It's not.

Speaker 3 (38:45):
Her, it's not But like the online dating thing, it's
it is a miss Some people find real ship, but
it's rare.

Speaker 8 (38:54):
Yeah, I've had a few, like associates that actually like
found somebody and married them and all that, but it
doesn't happened often.

Speaker 1 (39:02):
Who's another friend we're getting on with? Miss a?

Speaker 2 (39:06):
Yeah?

Speaker 1 (39:07):
Crazy, I wouldn't do that to you. How to say,
run shout out to miss a? But no, no, not
at all. Uh what do y'all say? What role does
fear play and holding on to someone even when it's not.

Speaker 3 (39:21):
A lot like fear, like fear starting over because you're comfortable,
like you're like, oh shit, nobody's gonna want me to
see a lot of people underestimate themselves.

Speaker 2 (39:31):
They think, oh, nobody's gonna.

Speaker 3 (39:32):
Want me because I got a kid, or I'm like
I'm thirty something, and so it's everybody else like.

Speaker 4 (39:39):
It's it's not see I think it's I think that fear.
I understand that when you're in your early twenties, but
now it's like, look, everybody's about to say either you
you had kids that are like almost grown, or you
got some idy biddies, which I mean, it is what
it is like, like kids are gonna come. I'll be

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honest with y'all. And maybe it's just because, like Eddie says,
I'm the void, but I've never like in terms of
like having like talking to somebody and just being afraid
to let them go. Like the people I have in
my life like are important people in my life, so
I haven't had to let them go. And anybody that
I felt like didn't serve a purpose. There was no

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holding on for me. There was just you know what,
I'll see what it is. I'll see the expiration date
is next week, so you got to next week and
then we're gonna move on. And again, maybe that's just
because I was in my early twenties, so my mindset
was different versus maybe now because I'm halfway through my

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life potentially, so maybe my mind says, like, you know what,
But even then, I'm still thinking about it, like I
don't want to waste my time trying to find the
right one and I'm not just gonna hang on to
you know, and that you're not the best person for me,
whether it's because you want to apologize or you want
to apologize my friend because.

Speaker 1 (41:05):
It couldn't go to the cabin, whatever the case may be.

Speaker 7 (41:10):
So i'd apologizeogize.

Speaker 1 (41:13):
I just I don't know if I would have that.

Speaker 2 (41:15):
It wouldn't it wouldn't have been good inviting her anyway.

Speaker 1 (41:18):
Yeah, you did, you did.

Speaker 4 (41:19):
I just I just don't know if I would have that.
It's hard to let this person go just out of
the comfortability. And I where y'all hate the dating aspect
to get to know somebody.

Speaker 1 (41:29):
I don't.

Speaker 4 (41:30):
I don't like thee Yeah, I enjoy the getting to
know somebody and seeing how they like.

Speaker 3 (41:37):
It, Like if it's like authentic, I don't let the
online ship, like if I meet you in person, were
talking all that and then we go from there to
organic cool. I like that because it's like, okay, that
really that was a real thing. We was in personally, talked,
went somewhere. But if I had to seek you out,
I know that I'm probably like your fifth option. You
don't swipe left on this person that person?

Speaker 8 (41:56):
All that the most interesting way you guys have met
somebody to be way past whenever.

Speaker 1 (42:02):
But what is just the most if you have like
an interesting when we say interesting way, what.

Speaker 7 (42:06):
Just like maybe how you came about to talk to them?

Speaker 4 (42:08):
Like how corn I guess. I guess what I'm asking
is like my talking to this person or like became
a friend.

Speaker 1 (42:15):
With this person?

Speaker 7 (42:16):
Maybe just how you met them.

Speaker 1 (42:19):
Most interesting way that I met somebody.

Speaker 8 (42:22):
I'll go.

Speaker 7 (42:24):
I almost hit this guy with my car. He jumped
out in front of my car.

Speaker 2 (42:28):
And we all friend.

Speaker 7 (42:30):
No, he was in my apartment complex.

Speaker 2 (42:32):
Did y'all become friends?

Speaker 9 (42:33):
Oh?

Speaker 7 (42:33):
We started dating. He had your lands accent, so immediately
it was like.

Speaker 8 (42:39):
Yes, But then he was a bum so, but it
was I just thought about that, like that was probably
the most interesting way, Like he literally threw himself in
front of my car.

Speaker 7 (42:51):
Granted I was going slow as an apartment, but it's
the fact that you threw yourself.

Speaker 1 (42:54):
In front of a car.

Speaker 4 (42:56):
HM.

Speaker 2 (42:56):
You have to make a good first impression.

Speaker 4 (42:58):
I would say, I think the most funniest one. I
don't know if it's the most interesting, but the most
funniest one is whenever her daughter took me to their house.

Speaker 1 (43:13):
How you met How I met? The mall.

Speaker 7 (43:17):
Where you digging the daughter first? Are talking to the
daughter first?

Speaker 1 (43:21):
Yeah, and then she switched to the mall later on
in life.

Speaker 7 (43:25):
I don't feel like that's funny, that's disturbing.

Speaker 1 (43:27):
It was later on in life. So there was a period.

Speaker 4 (43:30):
There was a period where where, like with the first
high school girlfriend, I broke over her and I wasn't
with anybody, and one of my friends had invited me
to go to like one of their little I can't
remember what she was in, but she was in some
one of them little organizations where you like dress up
and dance and stuff. And so I met the mall
and I was like, yo, your mom fine, and I
was just like teasing whatever.

Speaker 1 (43:52):
And then this was what sixteen what so like four
five years later.

Speaker 7 (44:04):
I don't know if I would count that as an
interesting story more than disturbing.

Speaker 1 (44:09):
I just say it was like it.

Speaker 3 (44:11):
I just I was like, yo, shout out, well mine
it was I was on the ex Hamster. Shout out
the ex Hamster.

Speaker 1 (44:20):
So was that a sight? Yeah, yeah, I'm very curious
about this.

Speaker 3 (44:25):
So this was like twenty twelve. I was like twenty
three hours in shape. So I had a few on
my prof I had a few pictures of like not
not my face, nothing, just like tors so all that.
So I had this this chick reach out to me
and she mess it out this gotta be a fake
and all that. So we started texting and at the
time you couldn't really like FaceTime like that had a

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bullshit ass webcam. I'm still not really knowing. And then
she thought I was faked too. She was like, you
ain't built like that, blah blah blah. So we ended
up meeting and it was cool and I still I
still know her to this day. Like a porn star,
just just a porn she was just a freak to

(45:10):
watch porn just like me.

Speaker 7 (45:11):
So you have like an account where you can like
message people into.

Speaker 4 (45:14):
Your Yeah, it's like my Space for porn if you
want to sign up, because if you want to save
your favorite videos and stuff so you can go.

Speaker 1 (45:22):
And that's what I was using it for. That's that's
why you would see what videos you saved your profiles.

Speaker 3 (45:28):
If your profile was like to me, I think they
can see my like but I don't have anything of me.

Speaker 7 (45:34):
It's very dangerous. So you can say I discussing somebody
is if you.

Speaker 3 (45:38):
Don't know somebody, most of my stuff, like they would
need like my passwords and I don't have.

Speaker 1 (45:44):
You would have to know what the user name is. Yeah,
and your user name like you know.

Speaker 3 (45:49):
Like you said, hey, this is anyone right here? Yeah,
like it was anyway, So that's how it meant. And
like yeah, still like associate to this day. Interesting, we
don't like to.

Speaker 2 (46:02):
See you too.

Speaker 1 (46:03):
Yeah, still that's what's up.

Speaker 2 (46:05):
Yeah, it was a whole freaking porn site.

Speaker 7 (46:07):
I remember when when Alicia first met Jennifer.

Speaker 8 (46:11):
It was on my Space, Like I can't remember who
message to first, but they messaged each other and when
I was like, hey, your your page looks cool, and
I'm like and that was like not normal for like
girls message girl.

Speaker 7 (46:23):
As like friends back then. So I remember she was like,
I met this girl, We're gonna hang out with her
this weekend.

Speaker 1 (46:28):
I'm like, all right.

Speaker 7 (46:30):
And then when I met her and we were talking,
I was like, so what did do She's like, I'm
a despot and I was like, oh, I was like,
like a real one. She was like I think I
was like twenty like I.

Speaker 1 (46:41):
Had you been like one day, hopefully you'll get to
meet her.

Speaker 4 (46:45):
She's actually cool with the she said, you got bad
vis from her boyfriend. I'm talking about it cool in
the sense of like to be like just to hang out. Yeah, yeah, yeah,
I just say the ford of the day. I'm just
talking about I like her.

Speaker 7 (46:59):
She's funny. She she's a lot, but she's she's funny.
Just sneeze to get rid of the yeah, how about
showed your heart? No, continue, I was going to say.

Speaker 4 (47:11):
As as y'all were talking, I was still thinking, I
don't think I have like any crazy where I met somebody.
Dang all mine were like at school or at a
party or oh you know, well no, that wasn't like
it turned into the.

Speaker 2 (47:27):
Friends usually not even into them at all. I've been
seeing all of this. I don't know because I was.
I was on Facebook.

Speaker 3 (47:41):
And they was talking about like people you may know
and it's you, and you know, I'm like, should I
say this request?

Speaker 4 (47:53):
Yeah, I don't have any. It was just like I
meet them, that we might end up somewhere. That was
kind of quote unquote crazy. But in terms of just
initially beating somebody, I don't have any, like like a
club's not crazy, Like I don't have like any You
got the craziest one probably, Yeah, I'm too. That's gonna

(48:16):
be interesting on the game. Uh, we're gonna take a
break and when we come back. We got some emails
you're listening to. Ooh they funny.

Speaker 2 (48:24):
Fellas.

Speaker 10 (48:25):
You can't let her keep doing this, taking your old
spice deep padration with a low body wash.

Speaker 1 (48:31):
It's unacceptable. King.

Speaker 6 (48:33):
She's gonna have to undershay that you got your own
groom and need a dealer.

Speaker 7 (48:39):
She might say, boy, please.

Speaker 2 (48:42):
What's yourse's mine?

Speaker 1 (48:43):
I'll buy moil be just fine.

Speaker 7 (48:45):
What if she don't, don't go.

Speaker 2 (48:47):
Don't let her bring up the guy cade.

Speaker 6 (48:49):
Let her know, man, time and time again, she's been
taking your spy steep hydrationthing. Good for yourself.

Speaker 10 (49:04):
Don't let it, you said, there's nothing that Oh, my guys,
never let your skin go dry, and always keep an
eye on your old spice body lotion and body wash
because men have skin too.

Speaker 4 (49:19):
M hm.

Speaker 9 (49:24):
M hm.

Speaker 10 (49:30):
M hm.

Speaker 4 (49:36):
And you're listening to ooh they funny Local National Global.
So we got three emails here from Mel Hey, guys,
so listen. Oh this is a response e mail, so listen.
I was not prepared for y'all's response. I really thought
y'all gonna hit me with the go girl, follow your
dreams pep talk. Yeah, And instead y'all hit me with

(49:58):
the most honest, real reality check i've gotten all year.
The way y'all said, even when even when super Head
wrote her own book, we still didn't go out and
buy it had me in tears. I had to pause
the episode because I was laughing too hard. I was
sitting here thinking men were gonna be lined up like
it was a midnight book release. Nope, y'all shut the
fantasy right down. But honestly, I love that y'all kept

(50:20):
it real. It wasn't rude, it wasn't shady. It was
straight truth with joke sprinkled in, and I can appreciate that.
I didn't realize how little men care about the side
hit chronicles. I guess in my head the behind the
scene drama would be interesting to y'all, but y'all said, girl,
absolutely not. And the more I thought about it, the
more it clicked. Women would eat this up. Women loved

(50:41):
the mess, the chaos, the storytime energy. Men just want
to hear the quick version on a podcast, not read
a whole book like it's required homework. So yeah, I'm
gonna still write it, just definitely marking it to the ladies.

Speaker 2 (50:53):
Now.

Speaker 4 (50:53):
I got chapters for him and already y'all actually helped
me narrow the angle without even trying, and I really
appreciate it. Thanks for keeping the one hundred with me.
Even though it wasn't what I wanted to hear, it
was exactly what I needed. And don't worry. If I
blow up off this book, I'll shout y'all out. But
I give y'all no chapter unless it's called Men that
told me the truth too quick much love see shout

(51:14):
out to shout out.

Speaker 3 (51:16):
To see because she took very light constructive criticism and
used it to actually move forward with it, because, like
we said, we weren't trying to like.

Speaker 2 (51:26):
Or nothing.

Speaker 3 (51:27):
We were just telling you the truth that, like, we
don't feel like that would really too many men would
be too interested in that.

Speaker 2 (51:32):
Yeah, because I mean it's.

Speaker 1 (51:34):
True because we especially straight man. Now, there might be
a segment of men.

Speaker 3 (51:40):
It's gonna be some men out there who have very
feminine tendencies and want to get all up in.

Speaker 4 (51:45):
That mess and all the tea and stuff. But most men,
unless you got like some porn in there, like even then,
I'm like, I can find that on the internet.

Speaker 2 (51:57):
So but I do think that you can definitely find
your audience and they would like it. But I don't
think this is just me.

Speaker 3 (52:05):
I don't know for sure who knows me and might
like it, But I don't think a lot of men
would be like, I gotta get this book. But yeah,
by all, I mean I want you to publish it though,
and if I do find out you shouted us out,
We're gonna make a whole show for you.

Speaker 4 (52:18):
Yes that part. Thank you for the email. Next email
we got here, Okay, who exactly is the lamage?

Speaker 1 (52:29):
Because y'all play it.

Speaker 4 (52:33):
Hey, y'all all right, look all right in this is
a grown black woman who has listened to the show
long enough, and I need answers. Me and my homegirl's
been talking, and we all agree that y'all keep mentioning
this man Lamar like we're supposed to know him personally.

Speaker 1 (52:49):
Every time he's on the show, y'all bring him up.

Speaker 4 (52:51):
It's some madness, like, yeah, Lamage was out here selling
bottles at one am, or y'all know how you do.

Speaker 1 (52:57):
No, we don't. That's why I'm emailing.

Speaker 4 (53:00):
From what we've gathered, He's been on the show a
couple of times, but y'all never give any background, just
confusion and disappointment. The only things we know for sure
is he'd be outside way too late for a man
with no real plan. He probably selling more than just bottles. Allegedly,
I ain't trying to snitch. He had a girl or
maybe still does, or maybe the street snatched him back.

(53:21):
He stays running late like time personally offended him, and
every idea he comes up with sounds like a terrible
TikTok challenge. But clearly there's more to the story because
the way y'all laugh when his name comes up. Yeah,
that's inside joke. Laughter, that's it. The listener's only new laughter.
So this is me representing all the black women who
listen while doing our makeup, cleaning, or driving the work.

(53:43):
Who is this man and why is this life's so chaotic?

Speaker 1 (53:47):
We want to know how do y'all even know him?

Speaker 6 (53:52):
Is he.

Speaker 1 (53:54):
Is he always this unorganized as just a recent development?

Speaker 4 (53:58):
Does he have a job job or does he just
get money? Is he throwing his life away on purpose?
Or is life just throwing him around? Is he coming
back on the show? Did y'all put him on time out?
Because every time he talks he sounds like the friend
Every time y'all talk, he sounds like the friend who
swear he got a hustle, but the math never maths
like the type to say, bro, just trust me right

(54:19):
before the plan goes horribly wrong. We're not trying to
judge him. We just need the details. Give us the
t gives, the lore gives, the homage documentary. Anyway, love
the show, But y'all got to stop dropping his name
like he's Beyonce.

Speaker 1 (54:33):
We don't know this man.

Speaker 4 (54:35):
Bring him back or bring it down or break it
down for us before we start making up our own stories.
Much love, A very concerned black woman.

Speaker 2 (54:43):
Well, very concerned black woman.

Speaker 3 (54:45):
I appreciate that you listen to us during your daily
task such as driving the word, cleaning house, or anything
like that.

Speaker 2 (54:51):
But Lamage is everything you think. He isn't worse.

Speaker 3 (54:55):
I'm telling you right now. Limage is a real person mimage. Yes,
like he basically almost every black stereotype you can think of.

Speaker 2 (55:04):
He's that like the bad ones, Late.

Speaker 3 (55:10):
Late always got some get rich quick scheme going on,
always in the streets, never left the streets.

Speaker 1 (55:18):
God a plug for almost everything.

Speaker 3 (55:20):
Yes, has a connect for almost everything. If you need it,
he got somebody who can get a hold of it.

Speaker 1 (55:26):
In this particular set of his life that he lives,
he meets a lot of people.

Speaker 2 (55:33):
Let's say the man's an addict.

Speaker 1 (55:35):
Yes he yes, she'll say, And you ask us.

Speaker 2 (55:39):
He throwing his life where life throwing out.

Speaker 3 (55:41):
He's throwing that away like life is giving him so
many chances, and he's like fuck you. So his life
could be so gravy, but he's like fuck this.

Speaker 1 (55:54):
And when your homeboys tell you.

Speaker 4 (56:00):
Get out of this way, when you had a shot
to get out of this lamarge style that you're in
and you choose not to listen, and now you are
reaping the what it call it, Yeah, reaping what your
solf even risk is over here dying laughing because she

(56:20):
knows of the lamage and.

Speaker 3 (56:23):
Lamage right now, like seriously, just as of a couple
of days ago. His world is burning down. This man,
this man is literally out here giving zero fucks, like
zero nuts.

Speaker 2 (56:42):
Like when I tell you, this man's whole world is
crashing and burning right now and he's not giving it.
I can't give you the exact details, but.

Speaker 3 (56:55):
Let's just say imagine, just imagine somebody in a relationship
just thinking the worst things can happen in a relationship.

Speaker 2 (57:01):
It's fucking happening. You don't give a fuck. I don't care.

Speaker 1 (57:07):
Every everything, but there's a lot of it's a lot,
there's a lot.

Speaker 3 (57:14):
He really is out in the streets selling ship at
two three in the morning. He's the type of person
if you ain't talk to him at months, he'll take
you say, hey, bro, I got the thing I spoke
to you in like a year, passing out, yeah, getting
into accidents and then still wanting to run the streets.

Speaker 2 (57:35):
My only memories of him is being late to everything
and coming up with some get rich quick schemes.

Speaker 1 (57:41):
Uh, And you ask some questions. You want to know
how do y'all even know him. I've known this man
since junior High.

Speaker 2 (57:49):
I've known him since my junior year of high school.

Speaker 4 (57:54):
I remember when this man came up to junior High
for whatever reason, decided to put a peram on his
head and an opponent tail looking like hustle and flow. Uh,
let's see, you won't know. Is he always this unorganized?
Is this a recent development? You know, he's always been late,

(58:20):
but the lateness has gotten worse as we've aged. Always
is unorganized, that keep that is getting worse, worse and
worse each year. Does he have a job, job or does.

Speaker 1 (58:36):
He just get money?

Speaker 2 (58:37):
Well, he don't know. I said it before. He's like
Tommy from Martin. We don't know what he does. He's
got money even we don't know how, we don't know.

Speaker 1 (58:52):
We don't know if it's the bottles, we don't know
if it's the other things you might have alluded to.
In the group chair, I was like, this man gets
zero zero. Fuck, I said, boy, what the fuck?

Speaker 3 (59:08):
Yeah, it would just be like Let's say somebody's a
big time drug dealer. They know the fits are looking
for him and all that, and what's this person do
They get on Facebook Live with a whole bunch of
bricks in their hand and all that. That's kind of
what he's doing right now. He just don't give a fuck.
He's tempting, fake, doesn't care.

Speaker 4 (59:26):
Let's see you said, is he throwing his life away
on purpose or his life just thrown him around?

Speaker 1 (59:31):
I think he just loves chaos risk Based off of
your assessment, what would you say?

Speaker 7 (59:39):
I feel like he's one of those people from what
I know that just like.

Speaker 8 (59:43):
Goes into everything with just a complete clear mind, not
just open like clear like you don't like he said,
he don't care like you just are in this go
free zone even like when, like you said, your life
is crumbling around you, you're just still like for like
through a feel.

Speaker 7 (01:00:00):
Of pretending like if I don't look behind me, I
don't fire won't catch me.

Speaker 2 (01:00:04):
Or he's like, if I don't acknowledge it.

Speaker 7 (01:00:07):
The fire is behind me, it's not caught me yet.

Speaker 4 (01:00:09):
So uh, last question y'all had is is he coming
back on the show that y'all put him on time out.

Speaker 1 (01:00:17):
I'm sure at some point he'll be on the show,
but we won't be calling you. I mean, we're not
gonna tell you. We're not gonna tell you that was him.
They're just gonna say every every dude they come on
the show, now they gotta be Lemage.

Speaker 2 (01:00:31):
They're gonna think that it's.

Speaker 1 (01:00:32):
Gotta be Limage, and they will be judging, get asking
you other questions. No, he's not. No is not mimage.
So Aaron, don't be getting off ship. You know my brother,
I knew the drink.

Speaker 2 (01:00:52):
It was a problem all this other ship. No it ain't.

Speaker 1 (01:00:58):
So thank you for your email.

Speaker 4 (01:01:01):
Apparently we talk about Lamage too much for them to
write an email about it.

Speaker 2 (01:01:05):
And uh, well, once everything's sit and done, like when it.

Speaker 4 (01:01:09):
Yeah, once everything is done, I don't know how much
we could tell. Oh Man, shout out to Lemage wherever
he may be tonight.

Speaker 2 (01:01:25):
He's he's His life is like a damn show.

Speaker 4 (01:01:29):
Yes, yes, y'all would pay top fucking dollar for this
damn show. Like me and fifty need to get together
and work on his documentary.

Speaker 7 (01:01:41):
Just write a book.

Speaker 1 (01:01:43):
I want to do him like that, But.

Speaker 2 (01:01:49):
No, he couldn't.

Speaker 1 (01:01:51):
No, he couldn't.

Speaker 9 (01:01:53):
See.

Speaker 3 (01:01:54):
He would have been a perfect character on The Chappelle Show,
like Charlie Murphy talking about him.

Speaker 4 (01:01:58):
Yes, definitely when we start doing skits, because I'm telling you,
next year it's gonna be different. We gotta have a
Limage character. It just go through these different things. That'll
be one of the characters. It's the Lemage character.

Speaker 1 (01:02:13):
And he might even be in the damn skit and
not even know it's about him. That'll be funny.

Speaker 4 (01:02:18):
Thank you for your email last email we got here.
Hey guys, big love all the way from Nairobi, Kenya.
I just want to let y'all know your podcast has
been keeping me alive during my morning. My to two rides?
Can you google with my two two? I'm assuming that's
a bus ride m A T A TU. I be
on public transport, trying so hard not to laugh out loud,

(01:02:41):
but the way y'all be clowning man, people probably think
I'm losing this us. Anyways, let me get to why
I'm writing. So there's the situation on the y'all's perspective
on because clearly the men here and give me any
real answers, there's this guy I've been talking to cool dude, funny, smooth,
but he's got Would it be wrong if I read

(01:03:02):
it's in an African accent?

Speaker 3 (01:03:04):
I've been wanting to say something with an African accent,
but I'm trying to be respectful.

Speaker 1 (01:03:08):
Okay, because when I saw him with two two, just
the African in me wanted to come out.

Speaker 2 (01:03:15):
The question.

Speaker 4 (01:03:16):
Okay, But he's got one more major problem. He thinks
he's the East African future. This man has three almost girlfriends.
A baby mama who still claims.

Speaker 7 (01:03:26):
Him did she says she likes this person in again
she likes.

Speaker 4 (01:03:29):
Yes, another woman who keeps calling him my man, even
though he swears he hasn't dated her since twenty twenty one,
and somehow still has time to call me every night, Like, sir,
how many hours are in your day? Because the math
is not mathing, Here's why I need your help.

Speaker 1 (01:03:46):
Question one?

Speaker 4 (01:03:47):
Why do some men act defended when you ask them
to define the relationship even though they are the ones
acting like you're in one? Like this man gets jealous
if I don't text back, but when I ask, so,
what are we doing?

Speaker 1 (01:03:57):
He's selling?

Speaker 4 (01:03:58):
Because the philosopher talking about life is a journey. Boys,
stop question two, risk I said, I felt this.

Speaker 1 (01:04:07):
Question life. That's what you do, y'all.

Speaker 4 (01:04:14):
Question two, do y'all think men like this actually want
to settle down at some point? Or do they just
want emotional support without responsibility? My homegirl said, he's community property,
but I'm trying to give him the benefit of the doubt. Also,
I gotta ask, are guys in America like this too?
Or is this a universal man dag? Or is this
a universal man problem across continents? Anyways, keep doing what

(01:04:36):
y'all are doing. This show stays funny, real messy, and
the best way if I ever visit Texas, I'm pulling
up to an episode to tell my story. Live Much
Love from Kenya.

Speaker 1 (01:04:46):
Mercy answer that question, she just needs someone to tell her.

Speaker 3 (01:04:52):
But she asked her men in America like that, But
it's live with He's like the Kenyan future future is
from where America?

Speaker 2 (01:04:59):
So yeah, yes, but you know, like you.

Speaker 4 (01:05:04):
Just you just really want that bad boy, even though
you have all you told us, all the bad things,
all the reasons. I'm pretty sure there's men out there
in Kenya that don't have three almost girlfriends.

Speaker 3 (01:05:15):
Tell you what she wants some that's the reason why women, Yes,
because other women want them, That's why. And a lot
of y'all won't admit that. But when a man does
have options and you see that he can get other women,
that makes him attractive, whether you want to admit it
or not. Now you might necessarily not want him to

(01:05:36):
like visit those options, but you like knowing that other
people want that too.

Speaker 1 (01:05:41):
Risk is.

Speaker 7 (01:05:44):
I don't know, man, you have to ask my twenty
five year old self, because.

Speaker 1 (01:05:49):
Why did your twenty five year old self?

Speaker 7 (01:05:51):
Oh, I loved a bad boy.

Speaker 1 (01:05:53):
I loved that had a whole bunch of dramas.

Speaker 8 (01:05:56):
Specific situation reminds me of my one person and that
I lived with, And he was exactly like that.

Speaker 7 (01:06:04):
You couldn't tell me nothing.

Speaker 1 (01:06:09):
Her face lit up.

Speaker 7 (01:06:12):
That man he was, he couldn't do no wrong. He
would be the most fed up on the planet. Yeah, No,
it was definitely his.

Speaker 1 (01:06:23):
But yeah, in my mind, like.

Speaker 8 (01:06:27):
Anything could be forgiven for him, Like nothing he could
do would deter me away from him. I don't know
what the hell kind of spell he had, but it
was just like that, like he had multiple women.

Speaker 7 (01:06:43):
Everything.

Speaker 1 (01:06:44):
How did you? How did you get away from him?
How did I?

Speaker 7 (01:06:52):
He is not still around. Hell message from time to time.
No I don't see I don't not see him. I
don't see him. But yeah, I don't know. I don't remember.
I think I just started eventually. I was like, you
know what, let me let me move along.

Speaker 8 (01:07:09):
Cry means a lot of cries behind him because he
was he was pretty honest with everything.

Speaker 7 (01:07:16):
Like he came up.

Speaker 1 (01:07:18):
He was like.

Speaker 2 (01:07:20):
Yeah, I mean, well, okay.

Speaker 8 (01:07:22):
Honest to an extent, but he was. He was pretty upfront.
And we became really good friends. We started off as
but we became good friends. So like once I realized
he was literally a piece of ship, as like a boyfriend,
like they would never be anything serious. We became just friends.
And I'm like, he was a great friend, but a

(01:07:43):
terrible person like to be a companion with. And I
think that, but I think, like you said, like or
one of y'all said, like, I think it's the the
fact that you know he's that wanted by so many people,
and you're like, I have the bulk of his time,
or I have this.

Speaker 7 (01:07:59):
Huge chunk of him, even if it's not all of him.
It was so stupid. She's in her twenties, you know.

Speaker 4 (01:08:07):
The crazy thing is is like I've seen women like
that that came from like like great home where the
dad was in, and I've seen women like that who
came from like terrible homes where the dad wasn't.

Speaker 1 (01:08:18):
And there's something that happens to y'all psychologically.

Speaker 4 (01:08:22):
Like sixteen to like like your range where it's like
since it just goes out the damn women the window.

Speaker 1 (01:08:30):
And I I just think about my mean ass daughter.
I'm like, please, don't be stupid.

Speaker 2 (01:08:36):
Yeah, but I've seen some like grown, grown women still
on that time that is.

Speaker 8 (01:08:41):
Sad like that, and I have too, and it is
awful as he's somebody that's like, I'm gonna say, thirty
five plus, you have no business dealing with somebody like that,
like you you you should have learned already.

Speaker 7 (01:08:52):
The only time I've seen it, like.

Speaker 8 (01:08:54):
Maybe if you were in a commit you know, like
married in your twenties and you never lived your life
and you don't know how the boys are. But yeah,
that's the only situation I can see where that should
even happened.

Speaker 3 (01:09:08):
I know somebody's and they laid forties dealing with that.
She's dealing with some young dude's weird. These young bitch
calling this time, like, why.

Speaker 8 (01:09:17):
Are you.

Speaker 1 (01:09:20):
Set me out?

Speaker 8 (01:09:22):
My forties probably high blood pressure already to be no more,
just absolutely.

Speaker 2 (01:09:26):
Not keep going through this phone like you're a young boy.
You know he's gonna do that.

Speaker 1 (01:09:30):
Yes, you know.

Speaker 4 (01:09:33):
The other thing she'd ask to do. We think, man
like this actually wants sut down U when they start
to lose their hair.

Speaker 2 (01:09:42):
Even then if they can still pool, they can still pool, man,
that I feel like.

Speaker 1 (01:09:49):
I was just thinking about that funny man. But nah,
like as long as he can still pull the options
are available.

Speaker 3 (01:09:54):
Yeah, it's not gonna happen unless he just finds that
one where he's just like, yeah, like she just checks
all the boxes.

Speaker 1 (01:10:02):
Or has that health scare when he's like you know what,
you know.

Speaker 3 (01:10:07):
Yeah, because I'm not necessarily at that part yet where
it's like I got the health scares, but I ain't
trying to be like mid forty still dating and ship
Like that's just the honest truth.

Speaker 1 (01:10:20):
Yeah, So you know this ain't the dude for you.

Speaker 9 (01:10:24):
You just.

Speaker 1 (01:10:26):
Yes, you like the drama because you you obviously want
to argue with these with these other women.

Speaker 2 (01:10:31):
You want to win this problem, that's it.

Speaker 1 (01:10:34):
You want to win that's it.

Speaker 4 (01:10:37):
Is not.

Speaker 2 (01:10:37):
I'm telling you right now. You can get them right now,
but it's gonna be somebody.

Speaker 7 (01:10:41):
Yeah, it's not worth that.

Speaker 4 (01:10:42):
So let's get into this last topic of the day
because it's a good show because we only did three topics.
So as we get older, we start to think about
the type of person we want to be when we
hit those later years. Do we want to be the wise,
care free old person or do we fear turning into
someone who forget it's their own preferences. So my first
question to y'all is what kind of old person do

(01:11:04):
you imagine yourself be coming.

Speaker 8 (01:11:07):
I want to be like that old lady that talks
NonStop ship but always tells the truth to you, so
you know you can come to me for the truth.

Speaker 7 (01:11:18):
Basically my grandma.

Speaker 1 (01:11:21):
Yeah.

Speaker 4 (01:11:22):
If I like, the person I would like to emulate
is my grandfather. All the way up until the very end.
The man was like quick witted. We'd had like great conversation,
but he also would speak his mind and not give
a shit like.

Speaker 7 (01:11:37):
That, especially the ones that are just mean, like don't
just be mean.

Speaker 1 (01:11:41):
No, he wasn't mean, but he would just tell you
you can be.

Speaker 11 (01:11:44):
Truthful and honest and blunt with not being of the
people do that, and that man like had a passion
and he was strong will I mean, ladies and gentlemen,
this man was eighty five eighty six years old, riding
at four wheeler down to his mailbox, was still reeling
on his big ass, giant fucking.

Speaker 4 (01:12:03):
Pit that was like about as big as his kitchen
we're in right now, which is I'm like, why the
fuck you had this big ass grilling thing. Fuck you
for not giving me ac the damn brisket recipe. We
still love you, but fuck you for that, cause I'm
telling y'all this man kept telling us, Hey, I'm.

Speaker 1 (01:12:19):
I'mnna teach you. Next year. I'm gonna show you how
to make it next year. I'm like, bro, you're getting older.

Speaker 4 (01:12:25):
I can squeeze your head because I would always do
if y'all been a fan of the show. You know,
every time I would see my grandfather, I squeeze his
hand and like when we did a handshake, and if
he gave me a strong grip, I'd be like, Okay,
I got about two more years from you, and every
time I do it right, two more years. And then
the last couple of years. I was like, okay, it's
getting weak now, getting weak now. And so I'm like, bro,

(01:12:46):
he wouldn't. Everything was in his memory and I'm like, dude,
teach us how to do it. So everyone just watching.

Speaker 1 (01:12:52):
He wouldn't let you, nigga. He would wait till you
fell asleep. He would act like he went to sleep.
I'd be up like me a'c be up watching whatever
what we were watching. We go to sleep, this nigga
will wake up. It's like he waited. It's like that
Dester video. Whenever like the wife is sleep, He's like,
get up and start making the ship. And I'm like, bro,

(01:13:13):
what the fuck? He just was so secretive about this.

Speaker 7 (01:13:17):
Thing, like you never understand that.

Speaker 1 (01:13:20):
I'm like, God, you got to pass this on. And
now me and my brother don't know how to make
his brisket at all.

Speaker 4 (01:13:25):
That was like the great He showed it, showed it
and write nothing down because even my grandmother was like,
well you know I have he wrote down his uh
ribs recipe, wrote down like how he does his sausages
and stuff and different little thing brisket all up here gone.

(01:13:46):
But yeah, I would want to be the sharp witted
say whatever's on my mind and at the same time
just kind of be like reflective, Like I would love
it if like my grandkids are great grandkids would hit
me up and I still know what the going on,
because I feel like our generation, I don't think we're
gonna be out as out of touch as like the
older generations above us that just like Steven will because

(01:14:09):
Steven just refuses to change.

Speaker 1 (01:14:12):
Stephens fucking the oldest shit now, But.

Speaker 4 (01:14:15):
The vast majority of us, because we are a social
media and we see what's going on, I don't think
we're going to have that issue of like, this is
what my grandkids are listening to or looking at and
I don't know who the fuck it is unless you
just choose not to know.

Speaker 1 (01:14:28):
Those sort of things.

Speaker 3 (01:14:32):
Be kind of similar to how I am now, just wiser,
more mature, But like if I have a young dude
asking me for advice, you know, I'm still gonna say
lever all the shit, Like I mean, I want to
be able, like you said, to.

Speaker 2 (01:14:46):
Reflect on stuff.

Speaker 3 (01:14:47):
I want to be able to give people game on
how to make wiser decisions that I did not whatever age.
But like I mean, I'm not gonna be no hater,
hating on the youth and all that. I'm gonna want
to see them win. But I don't know, Like I
don't really think too much about me being super duper old.
Hopefully I'm not like.

Speaker 4 (01:15:05):
In a home.

Speaker 1 (01:15:06):
Yeah, yeah, I don't want to end up at home.

Speaker 2 (01:15:10):
Escape.

Speaker 4 (01:15:11):
What are some qualities of older people you've seen that
you definitely don't want to Inherit mean.

Speaker 7 (01:15:15):
Ones, there's just assholes for no reason.

Speaker 3 (01:15:19):
The ones that literally can't even really move on their own.
I want to be able to still.

Speaker 4 (01:15:26):
I don't want to be one of those old people
that doesn't that forgets that he likes shit, and not
because of like dementia. But I don't want to be
someone who like I like waffle House and then like
one of my kids suggests, hey.

Speaker 1 (01:15:41):
Dad, won't we go to waffle House. I'm like, I
don't like that waffle House. I'm like, yes you do. Yeah, no, nah.

Speaker 4 (01:15:48):
There's just some old people that just don't realize it,
and then they're like, oh, oh yeah, I do like
waffle House. It could be all stars of dementia, but
I'm sure there's other reasons for it too, like that
you get cloudy old people mind.

Speaker 1 (01:16:00):
Maybe but to forget that you like sometime de men
would be the worst.

Speaker 10 (01:16:05):
I know that.

Speaker 4 (01:16:06):
I think that's I don't have any fears, but that's
probably like the closest fear that I could possibly have,
if if you can say that that's a fear, it's
not a fear of mine, but to just know that
your mind's just going if.

Speaker 2 (01:16:20):
My future grandchildren disappoint.

Speaker 3 (01:16:22):
Me, I'm gonna fake and all the time is all
that shit, Like if they just disappoint me, I don't.

Speaker 2 (01:16:30):
Know who the fuck they are.

Speaker 4 (01:16:32):
How do you think your personality, personality and lifestyle now
will shape the type of old person you'll become.

Speaker 8 (01:16:39):
Mm hmm.

Speaker 3 (01:16:42):
I don't think I'm gonna be the type of old
person that like give people. I can't stand on people.

Speaker 2 (01:16:47):
They probably gonna enjoy talking to me because I just
say whatever's.

Speaker 1 (01:16:51):
On my mind most of the time.

Speaker 4 (01:16:53):
So I think for me, because I'm a very spontaneous,
random person, and so I could just see myself especially like.

Speaker 1 (01:17:04):
Again, we don't know what the future holes. But like
if my kids like moved away from Texas or.

Speaker 4 (01:17:08):
Whatever, like I'll be a grandparent, you know, hopefully I
would have their schedules and shit. But I just be
showing up, not all some annoying as shit like I
go get a hotel somewhere or something like that, but
just pop up in my kids or my grandkids love school,
be like y'all here, or just random ass shit like that,
or even just taking them just because hopefully all of

(01:17:31):
this investment shit I'm doing now leads to where I
think it's gonna lead to. But I would just love
to just be like, Yo, it's summertime. Let's go somewhere
and then just have that money, not even think about
that shit. Just be spontaneous, or we gonna go grand
I don't fucking know. We just gonna go somewhere. Come on,
pack your club or we pack I don't know, just
pack some shit. We're gonna figure that shit out and

(01:17:52):
then just go from there.

Speaker 1 (01:17:53):
Like I would love to bring that spontaneous person with
me into my old age.

Speaker 7 (01:18:01):
You said you having like thirteen grand kids, like I
can't take them off?

Speaker 8 (01:18:06):
Sht me a cruise, Like you can't take that many
kids somewhere.

Speaker 4 (01:18:12):
I would just like to think, because I've always preaching
my boys a just two. Having threes three is a lot,
especially in this day and age, just two kids. I
can deal with six grandkids. The financial that's true, hopefully.

Speaker 1 (01:18:34):
We say that.

Speaker 4 (01:18:35):
But one of the motherfuckers fuck up. Pope about to
be done so I can. He can figure that ship out.
But these other two fucking around in high school or
some ship like you.

Speaker 2 (01:18:50):
I would get all that money back to once they give.

Speaker 4 (01:18:55):
I need all that ship. But we come to the
end of the show. Shaate y'all rocking with us once again?
As always, go to Google type of the funny it's
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(01:19:16):
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Speaker 2 (01:19:22):
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Speaker 12 (01:19:26):
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Peace. I just want to thank you for listening to

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the show. You're home with us, laugh with us.

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Speaker 1 (01:20:14):
You have a busy life, man, I know.

Speaker 9 (01:20:16):
That you got options. But every Wednesday, you know what's on.
We're gonna keep this party rocking. Just tune in and
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we will always have a good show if we go,
it's the show.

Speaker 1 (01:20:41):
It's the show. That's the end.

Speaker 2 (01:20:44):
Gotta go, gotta go, gotta go.

Speaker 7 (01:20:47):
And for riding with us, high.

Speaker 9 (01:20:48):
Side with us, get fled with, U's gonna live with
It's kind of high fitness.

Speaker 1 (01:20:52):
Never stop with us.

Speaker 7 (01:20:54):
To believe we will always have a good show if
we go, it's the show.

Speaker 1 (01:20:58):
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Speaker 2 (01:20:59):
That's the Yah, there's no more.

Speaker 9 (01:21:02):
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