February 11, 2024 • 28 mins
Get ready for a wild ride with AJ @ajandhisbackpack and Patrice! They're here stirring the pot with juicy Valentine's Day discussions like: What creative date ideas do you have for a modern Valentine's Day celebration? What's a unique way to express love in the era of social media and online communication? Also, some recommendations on gift giving in the year 2024. Buckle up and join the fun – you won't want to miss a beat! Tune in and vibe out! @oandcthepodcast
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Of AJ McLaughlin. I'm Ryan Ruwie, I'm DJ Rich receives the Tough four.
I'm Planning Martinez and we are thehosts of Opinions and Consequences, the
podcast, the show where Europeans canlead to consequences, So choose your worlds
wise, look y the show.Hey, hey, hey, what's going
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on? People? Man? Welcomeback to another episode of a piece of
Consequences off the books. Guys.You know you guys know. This is
a short and condensed version where wedive into the deepen into some thought provoking,
sometimes controversial topics and conversations. Butguys, I'm host Aga McLoughlin.
Welcome back, and I got aspecial guest in I'm building. I want
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to give a shout out to Trees. What's good? Vocal Apple Tree?
Oh my god, I'm super superexcited. I know I am. I'm
very excited to be here. Ican see it. I know you're just
spilling with it. How you doing, Pat? I'm great? How are
you aging? Yeah? Man,I'm a head. How was everything?
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Everything is good? How's you newyear? So far? It's been good?
Forties? How was it? Howwas it? How was it so
far? So good. Me stillworking day okay, Okay, no back
aches, none, o key.I feel like I feel like she just
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bought like a whole new gift setof Bengay vix. So how has it
been though, It's a good transition. Yeah, I feel like you haven't
lost of step now, No,I haven't lots of step. I feel
that's the most happiest in my life. That's what That's what I'm talking about
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out man. You know a lotof times we don't celebrate happiness. Man,
you really don't, because sometimes you'redeprived of happiness and misery these companies.
There you go, So you didn'tdo nothing for the New Years?
Nothing? Okay, not being politeand start getting it out. Okay,
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We're gonna get right into the meanpotatoes, guys, guys, man,
this episode is another fourteenth Yes,guys, we're talking about the fourteenth of
February, which is like in thenext couple of days. So yeah,
we're gonna dive right into it.Let me ask you this, Patrice,
Yes, Valentine's at fourteenth of February. Is it overrated? Probably a hit
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or miss for me? Hit her, miss hit him, hit him?
And I'm not talking about like justlike you know, like any at any
stage, like you know what Imean, Like you don't have to be
within your personal life or anything likethat. But I'm talking about like just
overall, like it's that holiday.I can't even consider it a holiday,
like I consider it just another day. Why can't you show love to significant
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other or anyone you any day ofthe year the year. Why it has
to be like one special day.Okay, I mean that's that's fair.
That's fair, you know. Iguess it's it is a commercial holiday people.
It's it's it's a holiday that youknow, you guys get to splurge,
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you know, or no, it'sjust say us men get to splurge
on ladies, you know what Imean. Like, because guess what,
guys, it's not for us.It's dead ass is not for us.
It's only for females. This isa female holiday. It's not a male
holiday. It's over rated for us, I'm gonna tell you right now.
Because it's it's it's kind of likebirthdays. That's why we don't like celebrating
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birthdays because we're tired of getting socksand we gotta go on broke cruisers.
For you guys like you know whatI mean, we gotta book the flight,
you know what I mean. See, that's the thing though, but
we just get some nice socks ortie talking about Oh my god, babe,
I see you right, you seewhat I'm saying. No, it's
it's facts. It is a factualthing that I mean. I see people
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that go out there and the likeyou say, e splurge. They spend
all this money for justice one day. Why you can't do it once a
week? Yeah, okay, no, no, once a week. Once
we can, I mean once oncea week, we can do flowers.
That's seven nine Okay, wait,but but that's if you're a flower girl.
That's if you're a flower Okay,that's fair. But not all females
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are our flower girls. So,like, my thing is just like you
said, you know what I mean, the three sixty five, it should
be showed you. You should beable to show your love, your compassion,
your since to somebody for the wholeyear or your whole relationship. However,
however, you know what I mean, you have to go over above
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and beyond on the fourteenth of February. Oh okay, because it's no,
Because that's what I'm saying, like, all right, so like you know
what I mean, Like my thingis is like this, all right,
so throughout your past, like what'syour what's the best gift you got on
Valentine's Day? I didn't get anybest gifts? The most I've got what
was the what's trending? Chocolate?Chocolate and roses? That ain't that ain't
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no best gift. I mean ifyou want to say best talking about a
Tiffany bracelet or something, but nochocolate on You're just giving out Tifany bracelest
like it's like it's candy a HalloweenOkay, Okay, so wait, so
have you gotten that? Okay?Then so wait choate rosnd not even lens.
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No Walgreens, not the Walgreens one? Did they leave the tag on
it? We gotta do better,guys, You gotta do better. You
guys, that person you you gottado better. Can't leave the day?
Come on, beloved, Yeah itis. It is definitely overrated day.
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It's it's one of those things whereyou know a lot of times, you
know, we go out, wesplurge for one another, where I do
feel that, you know, itshould be broken up. It should be
broken up into like you're gonna doit monthly. I think that Valentine's Day,
like you should have a U ifcouples listen to me, all right,
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So if you guys are in arelationship and all this extra stuff,
like I think you should have anUS Day, you know what I mean?
Like US Day. Well, we'llwe'll do it on I don't know
you could you could pick a significantdate that you guys met, doesn't have
to be anniversary days or could itbe just the anniversary date? So say
if you met on June first,you know, June first, you would
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do the first of every month somethingfor you guys. If that makes make
sense, does it you? Guys? Okay? Cool? What would you
would you? Would you? Likethat's rest day life every month and yeah,
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and then on Valentine's that you guysjust Netflix and hill gosh man,
tough crowd people, tough crowd,tough crowd. Let me ask you this,
what creative date ideas do you havefor modern day modern Valentine's Day celebration?
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Like, what's what's a creative like? You know, because you know
this is in a couple of days. People, we're trying to pre we're
trying to you guys for the madness. Okay, So what what would be
something creative that you would consider ina modern day and age? Of course,
I would say dinner in a cabinin an don't you say it's a
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little overrated? Well see okay,Okay, you know what, Okay,
I shouldn't say that. I shouldn'tsay that because it is based off of
what you have experienced. Okay,So a cabin, yeah, but I've
never I've never experienced like would youaccept door dash for Like I'm just saying,
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I'm just saying, what if whatif he can't cook? I got
you, guys, what if hecan't cook? Overeats like? Yeah,
not everybody can't cook. Okay,Okay, first of all, don't okay,
first gentlemen, guys, I'm tryingto help you guys out very quick.
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So wait, let me say okay, so all right, say say
the budgets about I don't say threehundred, yea three hundred, let's say
five hundred with the cabin, yeah, yep for one night. Yep,
you got three hundred for the food, drinks, dessert, all that extra
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stuff, yo. Not not everyonecould get like a chef at disposal.
Well okay, so how so ifyou get a chef, is it for
the whole day or is it kindof like a dinner day. It's just
like a dinner thing, like becauseI know some cabins they have a restaurant
one site, and you can orderthe food trails probably and you can order
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the food delivered to your room andjust have it special delivered by the chef
and he serves it. I mean, it's probably an extra fee you paid,
but it's not nothing to fry over, you know. Okay, I
mean it's just one day. Youremember, It's just one day. So
okay, So all right, sowhat what would you expect that at?
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Are you expecting that relationship? Yearone? Year two, three, four,
five? Hold on, hold onnow, that's what I'm saying,
though, guys, I got you, got you, guys, I got
you. Go ahead, yeah,year one, yeah, remember your Wait
a minute, that's back up.No, no, no, no,
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let's back up. Because in yearone, you guys are so into each
other you can't you can't go aday without talking to each other, without
seeing each other, without even ohmy god, I gotta talk to him.
I gotta call him oh my god, did she text me? Oh
my god? So year one,you guys are so into each other,
so you might as well do that, you know, to express your love
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and sincerity, like you said,yeah, year one, Year two,
you're already for that. I loveso m guys, I don't know,
man, Year one here, Iknow, I'm hearing you out like I'm
trying. I'm trying to I'm tryingto reason. Damn. Year one,
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so you order, so you're tellingme. You're telling me I should be
dropping a bondo like a band,a band in mono terms people, that
means a thousand, so like Ishould be I should be dropping one thousand
dollars first year Valentine's Day. Yeah, so you can so go ahead,
so you can keep the relationship goingfor the relationship. Yeah, hold on
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the way the so so the waythe woman receives that gift and you know
she expresses her gratitude, that wouldshow you that, oh my, she's
a keeper. Let's dry for yeartwo. You know some females, they
you know, they would just takeit and run with it, like and
you'd be like, you know what, I wasted my time, I wasted
my energy. I wasted money.Listen, I'm gonna tell you keep it.
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I'm gonna keep it a stack withyou. If I take a female
to a cabin Villen and she's unsatisfied, yolet's sen you might go see me
on the news. I ain't gonnahold you dog, ain't okay. Let
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me ask you this. How cancouples navigate the pressure of social media expectations
during Valentine m Because here's a lotof pressure. There's a lot of pressure
because if we're doubling back, sonow we've got the cabin. If if
we're just going off the cabin situation, you go into the cabin, you
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put it on the gram, youput it on tick, you put it
on snap, whatever you got,whatever you messing with. Now the next
person sees this me personally, Idon't have social media. Okay, congrats,
congrats. You stressful way from it. But you gotta creep page.
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Everybody got a creep page that's behindclosed doors, but no eye contacted.
Go ahead, go ahead, man, go ahead. The pressure. See
a lot of couples, they tendto follow Trent monkey, see monkey,
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do so me in a relationship followingother couples online, I'd be like oh
my god, he's doing this.Why don't you do that for me?
And sometimes that caused the relationship tobe toxic. Mm hm. So I
would say stay off of social media, yeah, because it's more like a
competition. Now listen, ladies,gentlemen, I'm not gonna I'm not gonna
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disagree disagree with it. It istrue though, like it is, it
is. You guys are form ofa competition, especially on social media.
It's hard for for in it.I get it though, but okay,
so now let me okay, now, guys, I got you on this
one. So because I know,I know there's a guy too out there
that's like, but what if myshorty loves me so much she loves posting
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me in posting things I do forgo ahead, man, Nothing is wrong
with loving you man so much thatyou gotta show him off. Oh that's
line right there. But I feellike you got a knife on you.
Oh no, because but your posteveryone else is see in your goodies.
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So it doesn't matter if it doesn'tmatter if you're posting him fully clothed or
half naked with like a you know, a wife beater and a sleep red
pants or something. But you're postinghim for the world to see. Because
one person plus the other one,plus their friends plus their friend everyone is
seeing this. So everyone is,oh my god, why do I Why
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don't I DM him? Oh soyeah, so so so It's it's kind
of like one of those things whereit's it's like I need a man like
that. Yes, yes, yes, And it's still competing. It's still
that's where the competition comes in.Ladies. I'm not gonna sit here and
tell you don't keep do not postyour men or significant other, but yeah,
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I get it though there's there's there'slurtures out there. Like I I'm
a big firm believer in keeping relationshipsprivate. Whatever you got with your significant
other, you keep that to youguys themselves. And all the extra stuff
you guys want to share this andthis and that. That's cool, But
at the same time, it's oneof those things where you can't share everything
with the world, you know whatI mean, because there are people ambience
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of you. Just just just letyou know, break that down right.
Remember, jealousy is a disease.Is it a disease or is it kind
of like as it? I mean, even the doctors that has PhD.
I will tell you that we can'tkill that. I feel like she was
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a victim. I'm so god.Okay, let me ask you this,
what is a unique way to expresslove in the era of social media and
online communication? You said it outof my mouth, keep it private,
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not everyone needs to know? Sowhat about? What about? What about
the insecured ones? Like so,like you know what I mean? Because
there's okay, So there's a handfulof females and gentlemen out there that are
super insecured, not only with themselvesbut with their partner. So how does
one person express that love throughout Valentine'sthroughout the online how do they express that
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love and moderating the person? Theyreally do go through a lot mentally,
that's right, that's right. Theydon't know how to They don't know how
to stop it. They don't knowhow to, you know, because remember
their mind is controlling them, sothey don't know how to be like,
shoot, what do I say that? How do I approach him? They
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just do without thinking, So thatthat's a hard thing to overcome, there
it is, because you know whatI mean, I feel like you know
what I mean? Everybody I don'tcare what anybody says. Everybody goes through
insecurities. People, so like you, watching you, watching you going through
insecurity. You have insecurity about youthat you don't like, and you don't
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feel comfortable talking about it, andand and and it's tough. It's tough
for somebody just to be like,oh, yeah, this is what I
did about my insecurities. But itdoesn't work. Yeah, it really doesn't
work, especially in a relationship becauseyou're insecurity. Well, the thing is,
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it probably overpowers the love he hasfor you. What do you mean
so me being a woman and I'mbeing in a relationship I'm in a relationship
with I mean, he probably couldlove me to that death threw us part.
And because I'm so insecure, itoverpowers the talking. Listen, man,
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these people, these people need tohere. And the thing is,
I wouldn't say it is because itwouldn't. It's not because you know,
I've been through it. It's justcertain type of relationships. They just don't
think. Some of y'all don't needto be together, just like you know
what, I go my way,you go your way, because being together
relationship is just it's making it worse. Like me, I know, I'm
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insecure about something. I know thatfor a fact and I can admit to
it. But well, that's youknow what I mean, you have to
take accountability for me. You haveto. It's one of those things where
like a lot of times, alot of us are so high strung.
We're high strung, you know whatI mean. You you you assist a
soldier, like, oh, mything is you know what I mean,
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you siss a soul, you knowwhat I mean, that's yourself. So
like my whole thing is just likethis, Like since a lot of people
are high strung, we feel likewe put this coat of armor on us
just so that people correct. Andit's fair. It's fair because we have
our insecurities. Another thing too,aj because because of those insecurities, we
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don't want the other person to realizethat insecurity. So it's the shield,
you know. So let me justdo that. No, no, mm
hmmm, So okay, So doublingback, doubling back. So what is
something that people could how could theyexpress their love like other than like I
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know, you said private, beingmore private, but like you know what
I mean, for the people outthere that's like public and all that stuff,
Like how could they express their loveto somebody that's insecure, has a
lot of trust issues in their life. Support I would say, call like
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what do you okay? Here wego? Here we go? Yeah support
dot com? Yeah uh no,I mean just be there mentally physically okay
for your other half expressing your love. See. That would be a very
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difficult thing for me to answer becauseI don't like pa oh yeah behind closed
doors. Yes, I will loveyou at all times. How do you
kiss you? Your head? Solike yeah, so like you just like
grab your hand. You're gonna belike I mean in public we can hold
hands, but you see the stickingyour tongue down my throat in public?
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It's a big negative. Yeah atall. You can't mean like what if
you like a little tipsy though?And I club you know what I'm saying,
Like if you it's like you outsidelike I mean, you can kiss
me on my cheek, on mylips, but you see what the I
hear you. I hear you likesome people some people because some people they
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don't have respect surrounding them. Youknow. It's like you go to Stockbucks
and they have you know, middleaged people sitting there, elderly people sitting
there and you sit in there makingout. Yeah, I give it,
I give you. It's more it'smore of respecting for you. So like
you know what I mean, youryours is like, yo, make sure
both locks are on the door,Yeah, something like that. But I
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mean, I like expressing my lovefor Yeah. Are you right up in
here? Uh? Oh yeah?But you I mean that. You guys
get where I'm coming from. It'sjust respect. Yeah, no, no,
it's it's it's true, like youknow what I mean, there's a
lot of people that like, there'sa lot of people out there that you
know that don't have or not youknow that b da, Like you know
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what I mean, you don't havethat public affection. You know, you
don't like to showcase it and onthe extra stuffing, which is which is
not a problem. It's not aproblem, you know what I mean.
That's just something that you're not comfortabledoing. It's like, you know,
I get it. It's like godssucking toes like yeah, and I don't
want to toll anybody's worn, butstop stop, I'm gonna put your name
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on a cup. Come through.I don't know my fault. Oh my
god. So you say just keepit private and and by expressing it like
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just you know, talk to peoplelike support them and all that. Yeah,
support each other in your relationship.I mean, communication is key.
That's how it makes the relationships.Okay, Okay, I think at it.
Okay, guys, we're gonna getright into the meat and potatoes.
This is the meat and potatoes.Guys. A lot of people, I
know you've probably been waiting for thisbecause she's gonna answer some of these questions.
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Okay, listen, guys, soI'm gonna ask you this. Okay,
Year one guy, I'm gonna doit for the girls. Guy goes
out with a female. What doyou think should be that Valentine's Day gift?
Like? What do you think isan essential besides your outrageous cabin cabin
and cabin with chef Chef Ramsey myg g like not going to Ramsey pulling
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up talking about Hello? What doyou think is an ideal gear for year
one? For somebody getting to knoweach other? You know what I mean?
Valentine's as around the corner? Goahead, go ahead, I mean
that's DK. Okay. First ofall, we're not driving names, so
listen. So you're saying dinner,dinner, Yeah, yeah, dinner like
dinner, movie, just a romanticdinner. Year one year, one year
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one. Just just just map outthat one day for the Valentine. I
mean, I'm talking about in themorning, you know, happy Valentine's,
Happy Valentine's. They babe with atext or call, FaceTime, whatever,
and you guys meet up for probablybrunch. Okay, but they both work.
What times? What's Valentine'sday? Wednesday? Okay? Cool? Say they're
both at work, so they gotin the morning and then dinner at seven,
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and then you guys, I wouldn'tsay go home because you don't live
together. It's only a year,oh ship, Listen the germous people,
gentlemen. You guys don't live together. So I mean it would be up
to either or to meet out atroom and then wake up next to each
other next morning. Okay, cool, ladies, ladies, I'm talking to
you right now. Listen, stopit. It's not about you just all
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the time. It's not about you. It's about him too. We have
feelings. Okay, Listen, Idon't need you to just come through dolled
up and all that stuff. Likesometimes it is good that we feel appreciated
to. We don't want the bouquetof flowers. We don't want all that
extra stuff. We don't want ediblearrangements. But like, yo, just
make it yo. Okay, I'mgonna let you figure it out. I'm
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not gonna tell you any ideas.I don't want those socks. I don't
want none of that extra stuff.But YO, make it equal. It's
yeah, one, don't do thecard in some in some sweet tarts.
Don't do that. Don't do that, Okay, cool? All right,
so five five years, mere,Yeah, I will say a trip,
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a trip okay, yeah, yeahfor five days, five days. Yeah,
what else, that's it? Yeah, do a trip, trip five
days, five years. That's cool. Yeah, I'm with that. I'm
with that. All right, ladies, ladies, we're gonna do a trip.
Like she said, we gotta goDutch. We gotta go Dutch.
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Boo boo, because you gotta thinkabout it. You gotta think about it
like this. Don't do that.Fix your face because you gotta understand this.
Ladies. You guys have a lotof days. You guys have a
lot of days. You got yourbirthday, you got Christmas, you have
you have a lot of day,Mother's Day, for mother's out there,
you have a lot of days.Don't be greedy. Don't be greedy.
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Go ahead, man, listen.You have any toxic or positive things to
say before we wrap this up,go ahead. I mean I wouldn't.
I wouldn't have nothing toxic to say, but positive. I mean, if
you guys are in a relationship andyou want it to work, just put
the effort in there to make itwork. Okay. I mean, if
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you know you're forcing it, don'tforce a relationship. Just put the effort
in there. If you know youlove this guy, Guys, if you
know you love this girl, justput the effort in there. And I'm
pretty sure if you want to makeit work, you will make it.
It's gonna work. Yeah. Mokay, Oh my god, oh my
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god. Really quick before I gopeople, I'm gonna talk to you guys
first, a little bit of wordsof wisdom. Do you know how many
people form friendships off the hate theyhave for you? Yo? The numbers
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are crazy. More the story.People don't use gossip as a tool to
form new relationships. She's not cool, all right, listen, man,
I want that you guys rocking Hossfor another episode of Beans Cosquiz is off
the books. I want to thankfor you coming out. What's up?
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I know she ain't got no socialmedia. I can't even put the handle
at the bottom. People, soshe's a ghost. Ask her okay,
okay, would you blunt thing it? Okay, just give it? Wait,
what's it? Well, by theway, she's trinting. By the
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way, but guds Man, thankyou Al for rocking out with us for
another episode. Until next time,citations, Chi huh, cheer.
Of AJ McLaughlin. I'm Ryan Ruwie, I'm DJ Rich receives the Tough four.
I'm Planning Martinez and we are thehosts of Opinions and Consequences, the
podcast, the show where Europeans canlead to consequences, So choose your worlds
wise, look y the show.Hey, hey, hey, what's going
(00:28):
on? People? Man? Welcomeback to another episode of a piece of
Consequences off the books. Guys.You know you guys know. This is
a short and condensed version where wedive into the deepen into some thought provoking,
sometimes controversial topics and conversations. Butguys, I'm host Aga McLoughlin.
Welcome back, and I got aspecial guest in I'm building. I want
(00:50):
to give a shout out to Trees. What's good? Vocal Apple Tree?
Oh my god, I'm super superexcited. I know I am. I'm
very excited to be here. Ican see it. I know you're just
spilling with it. How you doing, Pat? I'm great? How are
you aging? Yeah? Man,I'm a head. How was everything?
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Everything is good? How's you newyear? So far? It's been good?
Forties? How was it? Howwas it? How was it so
far? So good. Me stillworking day okay, Okay, no back
aches, none, o key.I feel like I feel like she just
(01:38):
bought like a whole new gift setof Bengay vix. So how has it
been though, It's a good transition. Yeah, I feel like you haven't
lost of step now, No,I haven't lots of step. I feel
that's the most happiest in my life. That's what That's what I'm talking about
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out man. You know a lotof times we don't celebrate happiness. Man,
you really don't, because sometimes you'redeprived of happiness and misery these companies.
There you go, So you didn'tdo nothing for the New Years?
Nothing? Okay, not being politeand start getting it out. Okay,
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We're gonna get right into the meanpotatoes, guys, guys, man,
this episode is another fourteenth Yes,guys, we're talking about the fourteenth of
February, which is like in thenext couple of days. So yeah,
we're gonna dive right into it.Let me ask you this, Patrice,
Yes, Valentine's at fourteenth of February. Is it overrated? Probably a hit
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or miss for me? Hit her, miss hit him, hit him?
And I'm not talking about like justlike you know, like any at any
stage, like you know what Imean, Like you don't have to be
within your personal life or anything likethat. But I'm talking about like just
overall, like it's that holiday.I can't even consider it a holiday,
like I consider it just another day. Why can't you show love to significant
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other or anyone you any day ofthe year the year. Why it has
to be like one special day.Okay, I mean that's that's fair.
That's fair, you know. Iguess it's it is a commercial holiday people.
It's it's it's a holiday that youknow, you guys get to splurge,
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you know, or no, it'sjust say us men get to splurge
on ladies, you know what Imean. Like, because guess what,
guys, it's not for us.It's dead ass is not for us.
It's only for females. This isa female holiday. It's not a male
holiday. It's over rated for us, I'm gonna tell you right now.
Because it's it's it's kind of likebirthdays. That's why we don't like celebrating
(04:00):
birthdays because we're tired of getting socksand we gotta go on broke cruisers.
For you guys like you know whatI mean, we gotta book the flight,
you know what I mean. See, that's the thing though, but
we just get some nice socks ortie talking about Oh my god, babe,
I see you right, you seewhat I'm saying. No, it's
it's facts. It is a factualthing that I mean. I see people
(04:23):
that go out there and the likeyou say, e splurge. They spend
all this money for justice one day. Why you can't do it once a
week? Yeah, okay, no, no, once a week. Once
we can, I mean once oncea week, we can do flowers.
That's seven nine Okay, wait,but but that's if you're a flower girl.
That's if you're a flower Okay,that's fair. But not all females
(04:46):
are our flower girls. So,like, my thing is just like you
said, you know what I mean, the three sixty five, it should
be showed you. You should beable to show your love, your compassion,
your since to somebody for the wholeyear or your whole relationship. However,
however, you know what I mean, you have to go over above
(05:09):
and beyond on the fourteenth of February. Oh okay, because it's no,
Because that's what I'm saying, like, all right, so like you know
what I mean, Like my thingis is like this, all right,
so throughout your past, like what'syour what's the best gift you got on
Valentine's Day? I didn't get anybest gifts? The most I've got what
was the what's trending? Chocolate?Chocolate and roses? That ain't that ain't
(05:32):
no best gift. I mean ifyou want to say best talking about a
Tiffany bracelet or something, but nochocolate on You're just giving out Tifany bracelest
like it's like it's candy a HalloweenOkay, Okay, so wait, so
have you gotten that? Okay?Then so wait choate rosnd not even lens.
(05:57):
No Walgreens, not the Walgreens one? Did they leave the tag on
it? We gotta do better,guys, You gotta do better. You
guys, that person you you gottado better. Can't leave the day?
Come on, beloved, Yeah itis. It is definitely overrated day.
(06:19):
It's it's one of those things whereyou know a lot of times, you
know, we go out, wesplurge for one another, where I do
feel that, you know, itshould be broken up. It should be
broken up into like you're gonna doit monthly. I think that Valentine's Day,
like you should have a U ifcouples listen to me, all right,
(06:43):
So if you guys are in arelationship and all this extra stuff,
like I think you should have anUS Day, you know what I mean?
Like US Day. Well, we'llwe'll do it on I don't know
you could you could pick a significantdate that you guys met, doesn't have
to be anniversary days or could itbe just the anniversary date? So say
if you met on June first,you know, June first, you would
(07:06):
do the first of every month somethingfor you guys. If that makes make
sense, does it you? Guys? Okay? Cool? What would you
would you? Would you? Likethat's rest day life every month and yeah,
(07:27):
and then on Valentine's that you guysjust Netflix and hill gosh man,
tough crowd people, tough crowd,tough crowd. Let me ask you this,
what creative date ideas do you havefor modern day modern Valentine's Day celebration?
(07:54):
Like, what's what's a creative like? You know, because you know
this is in a couple of days. People, we're trying to pre we're
trying to you guys for the madness. Okay, So what what would be
something creative that you would consider ina modern day and age? Of course,
I would say dinner in a cabinin an don't you say it's a
(08:18):
little overrated? Well see okay,Okay, you know what, Okay,
I shouldn't say that. I shouldn'tsay that because it is based off of
what you have experienced. Okay,So a cabin, yeah, but I've
never I've never experienced like would youaccept door dash for Like I'm just saying,
(08:39):
I'm just saying, what if whatif he can't cook? I got
you, guys, what if hecan't cook? Overeats like? Yeah,
not everybody can't cook. Okay,Okay, first of all, don't okay,
first gentlemen, guys, I'm tryingto help you guys out very quick.
(09:00):
So wait, let me say okay, so all right, say say
the budgets about I don't say threehundred, yea three hundred, let's say
five hundred with the cabin, yeah, yep for one night. Yep,
you got three hundred for the food, drinks, dessert, all that extra
(09:20):
stuff, yo. Not not everyonecould get like a chef at disposal.
Well okay, so how so ifyou get a chef, is it for
the whole day or is it kindof like a dinner day. It's just
like a dinner thing, like becauseI know some cabins they have a restaurant
one site, and you can orderthe food trails probably and you can order
(09:46):
the food delivered to your room andjust have it special delivered by the chef
and he serves it. I mean, it's probably an extra fee you paid,
but it's not nothing to fry over, you know. Okay, I
mean it's just one day. Youremember, It's just one day. So
okay, So all right, sowhat what would you expect that at?
(10:07):
Are you expecting that relationship? Yearone? Year two, three, four,
five? Hold on, hold onnow, that's what I'm saying,
though, guys, I got you, got you, guys, I got
you. Go ahead, yeah,year one, yeah, remember your Wait
a minute, that's back up.No, no, no, no,
(10:28):
let's back up. Because in yearone, you guys are so into each
other you can't you can't go aday without talking to each other, without
seeing each other, without even ohmy god, I gotta talk to him.
I gotta call him oh my god, did she text me? Oh
my god? So year one,you guys are so into each other,
so you might as well do that, you know, to express your love
(10:48):
and sincerity, like you said,yeah, year one, Year two,
you're already for that. I loveso m guys, I don't know,
man, Year one here, Iknow, I'm hearing you out like I'm
trying. I'm trying to I'm tryingto reason. Damn. Year one,
(11:09):
so you order, so you're tellingme. You're telling me I should be
dropping a bondo like a band,a band in mono terms people, that
means a thousand, so like Ishould be I should be dropping one thousand
dollars first year Valentine's Day. Yeah, so you can so go ahead,
so you can keep the relationship goingfor the relationship. Yeah, hold on
(11:37):
the way the so so the waythe woman receives that gift and you know
she expresses her gratitude, that wouldshow you that, oh my, she's
a keeper. Let's dry for yeartwo. You know some females, they
you know, they would just takeit and run with it, like and
you'd be like, you know what, I wasted my time, I wasted
my energy. I wasted money.Listen, I'm gonna tell you keep it.
(12:00):
I'm gonna keep it a stack withyou. If I take a female
to a cabin Villen and she's unsatisfied, yolet's sen you might go see me
on the news. I ain't gonnahold you dog, ain't okay. Let
(12:24):
me ask you this. How cancouples navigate the pressure of social media expectations
during Valentine m Because here's a lotof pressure. There's a lot of pressure
because if we're doubling back, sonow we've got the cabin. If if
we're just going off the cabin situation, you go into the cabin, you
(12:50):
put it on the gram, youput it on tick, you put it
on snap, whatever you got,whatever you messing with. Now the next
person sees this me personally, Idon't have social media. Okay, congrats,
congrats. You stressful way from it. But you gotta creep page.
(13:13):
Everybody got a creep page that's behindclosed doors, but no eye contacted.
Go ahead, go ahead, man, go ahead. The pressure. See
a lot of couples, they tendto follow Trent monkey, see monkey,
(13:35):
do so me in a relationship followingother couples online, I'd be like oh
my god, he's doing this.Why don't you do that for me?
And sometimes that caused the relationship tobe toxic. Mm hm. So I
would say stay off of social media, yeah, because it's more like a
competition. Now listen, ladies,gentlemen, I'm not gonna I'm not gonna
(14:03):
disagree disagree with it. It istrue though, like it is, it
is. You guys are form ofa competition, especially on social media.
It's hard for for in it.I get it though, but okay,
so now let me okay, now, guys, I got you on this
one. So because I know,I know there's a guy too out there
that's like, but what if myshorty loves me so much she loves posting
(14:24):
me in posting things I do forgo ahead, man, Nothing is wrong
with loving you man so much thatyou gotta show him off. Oh that's
line right there. But I feellike you got a knife on you.
Oh no, because but your posteveryone else is see in your goodies.
(14:46):
So it doesn't matter if it doesn'tmatter if you're posting him fully clothed or
half naked with like a you know, a wife beater and a sleep red
pants or something. But you're postinghim for the world to see. Because
one person plus the other one,plus their friends plus their friend everyone is
seeing this. So everyone is,oh my god, why do I Why
(15:07):
don't I DM him? Oh soyeah, so so so It's it's kind
of like one of those things whereit's it's like I need a man like
that. Yes, yes, yes, And it's still competing. It's still
that's where the competition comes in.Ladies. I'm not gonna sit here and
tell you don't keep do not postyour men or significant other, but yeah,
(15:31):
I get it though there's there's there'slurtures out there. Like I I'm
a big firm believer in keeping relationshipsprivate. Whatever you got with your significant
other, you keep that to youguys themselves. And all the extra stuff
you guys want to share this andthis and that. That's cool, But
at the same time, it's oneof those things where you can't share everything
with the world, you know whatI mean, because there are people ambience
(15:52):
of you. Just just just letyou know, break that down right.
Remember, jealousy is a disease.Is it a disease or is it kind
of like as it? I mean, even the doctors that has PhD.
I will tell you that we can'tkill that. I feel like she was
(16:15):
a victim. I'm so god.Okay, let me ask you this,
what is a unique way to expresslove in the era of social media and
online communication? You said it outof my mouth, keep it private,
(16:41):
not everyone needs to know? Sowhat about? What about? What about
the insecured ones? Like so,like you know what I mean? Because
there's okay, So there's a handfulof females and gentlemen out there that are
super insecured, not only with themselvesbut with their partner. So how does
one person express that love throughout Valentine'sthroughout the online how do they express that
(17:08):
love and moderating the person? Theyreally do go through a lot mentally,
that's right, that's right. Theydon't know how to They don't know how
to stop it. They don't knowhow to, you know, because remember
their mind is controlling them, sothey don't know how to be like,
shoot, what do I say that? How do I approach him? They
(17:30):
just do without thinking, So thatthat's a hard thing to overcome, there
it is, because you know whatI mean, I feel like you know
what I mean? Everybody I don'tcare what anybody says. Everybody goes through
insecurities. People, so like you, watching you, watching you going through
insecurity. You have insecurity about youthat you don't like, and you don't
(17:51):
feel comfortable talking about it, andand and and it's tough. It's tough
for somebody just to be like,oh, yeah, this is what I
did about my insecurities. But itdoesn't work. Yeah, it really doesn't
work, especially in a relationship becauseyou're insecurity. Well, the thing is,
(18:11):
it probably overpowers the love he hasfor you. What do you mean
so me being a woman and I'mbeing in a relationship I'm in a relationship
with I mean, he probably couldlove me to that death threw us part.
And because I'm so insecure, itoverpowers the talking. Listen, man,
(18:40):
these people, these people need tohere. And the thing is,
I wouldn't say it is because itwouldn't. It's not because you know,
I've been through it. It's justcertain type of relationships. They just don't
think. Some of y'all don't needto be together, just like you know
what, I go my way,you go your way, because being together
relationship is just it's making it worse. Like me, I know, I'm
(19:03):
insecure about something. I know thatfor a fact and I can admit to
it. But well, that's youknow what I mean, you have to
take accountability for me. You haveto. It's one of those things where
like a lot of times, alot of us are so high strung.
We're high strung, you know whatI mean. You you you assist a
soldier, like, oh, mything is you know what I mean,
(19:25):
you siss a soul, you knowwhat I mean, that's yourself. So
like my whole thing is just likethis, Like since a lot of people
are high strung, we feel likewe put this coat of armor on us
just so that people correct. Andit's fair. It's fair because we have
our insecurities. Another thing too,aj because because of those insecurities, we
(19:48):
don't want the other person to realizethat insecurity. So it's the shield,
you know. So let me justdo that. No, no, mm
hmmm, So okay, So doublingback, doubling back. So what is
something that people could how could theyexpress their love like other than like I
(20:11):
know, you said private, beingmore private, but like you know what
I mean, for the people outthere that's like public and all that stuff,
Like how could they express their loveto somebody that's insecure, has a
lot of trust issues in their life. Support I would say, call like
(20:33):
what do you okay? Here wego? Here we go? Yeah support
dot com? Yeah uh no,I mean just be there mentally physically okay
for your other half expressing your love. See. That would be a very
(20:53):
difficult thing for me to answer becauseI don't like pa oh yeah behind closed
doors. Yes, I will loveyou at all times. How do you
kiss you? Your head? Solike yeah, so like you just like
grab your hand. You're gonna belike I mean in public we can hold
hands, but you see the stickingyour tongue down my throat in public?
(21:18):
It's a big negative. Yeah atall. You can't mean like what if
you like a little tipsy though?And I club you know what I'm saying,
Like if you it's like you outsidelike I mean, you can kiss
me on my cheek, on mylips, but you see what the I
hear you. I hear you likesome people some people because some people they
(21:40):
don't have respect surrounding them. Youknow. It's like you go to Stockbucks
and they have you know, middleaged people sitting there, elderly people sitting
there and you sit in there makingout. Yeah, I give it,
I give you. It's more it'smore of respecting for you. So like
you know what I mean, youryours is like, yo, make sure
both locks are on the door,Yeah, something like that. But I
(22:02):
mean, I like expressing my lovefor Yeah. Are you right up in
here? Uh? Oh yeah?But you I mean that. You guys
get where I'm coming from. It'sjust respect. Yeah, no, no,
it's it's it's true, like youknow what I mean, there's a
lot of people that like, there'sa lot of people out there that you
know that don't have or not youknow that b da, Like you know
(22:22):
what I mean, you don't havethat public affection. You know, you
don't like to showcase it and onthe extra stuffing, which is which is
not a problem. It's not aproblem, you know what I mean.
That's just something that you're not comfortabledoing. It's like, you know,
I get it. It's like godssucking toes like yeah, and I don't
want to toll anybody's worn, butstop stop, I'm gonna put your name
(22:45):
on a cup. Come through.I don't know my fault. Oh my
god. So you say just keepit private and and by expressing it like
(23:11):
just you know, talk to peoplelike support them and all that. Yeah,
support each other in your relationship.I mean, communication is key.
That's how it makes the relationships.Okay, Okay, I think at it.
Okay, guys, we're gonna getright into the meat and potatoes.
This is the meat and potatoes.Guys. A lot of people, I
know you've probably been waiting for thisbecause she's gonna answer some of these questions.
(23:32):
Okay, listen, guys, soI'm gonna ask you this. Okay,
Year one guy, I'm gonna doit for the girls. Guy goes
out with a female. What doyou think should be that Valentine's Day gift?
Like? What do you think isan essential besides your outrageous cabin cabin
and cabin with chef Chef Ramsey myg g like not going to Ramsey pulling
(23:59):
up talking about Hello? What doyou think is an ideal gear for year
one? For somebody getting to knoweach other? You know what I mean?
Valentine's as around the corner? Goahead, go ahead, I mean
that's DK. Okay. First ofall, we're not driving names, so
listen. So you're saying dinner,dinner, Yeah, yeah, dinner like
dinner, movie, just a romanticdinner. Year one year, one year
(24:22):
one. Just just just map outthat one day for the Valentine. I
mean, I'm talking about in themorning, you know, happy Valentine's,
Happy Valentine's. They babe with atext or call, FaceTime, whatever,
and you guys meet up for probablybrunch. Okay, but they both work.
What times? What's Valentine'sday? Wednesday? Okay? Cool? Say they're
both at work, so they gotin the morning and then dinner at seven,
(24:47):
and then you guys, I wouldn'tsay go home because you don't live
together. It's only a year,oh ship, Listen the germous people,
gentlemen. You guys don't live together. So I mean it would be up
to either or to meet out atroom and then wake up next to each
other next morning. Okay, cool, ladies, ladies, I'm talking to
you right now. Listen, stopit. It's not about you just all
(25:11):
the time. It's not about you. It's about him too. We have
feelings. Okay, Listen, Idon't need you to just come through dolled
up and all that stuff. Likesometimes it is good that we feel appreciated
to. We don't want the bouquetof flowers. We don't want all that
extra stuff. We don't want ediblearrangements. But like, yo, just
make it yo. Okay, I'mgonna let you figure it out. I'm
(25:33):
not gonna tell you any ideas.I don't want those socks. I don't
want none of that extra stuff.But YO, make it equal. It's
yeah, one, don't do thecard in some in some sweet tarts.
Don't do that. Don't do that, Okay, cool? All right,
so five five years, mere,Yeah, I will say a trip,
(25:56):
a trip okay, yeah, yeahfor five days, five days. Yeah,
what else, that's it? Yeah, do a trip, trip five
days, five years. That's cool. Yeah, I'm with that. I'm
with that. All right, ladies, ladies, we're gonna do a trip.
Like she said, we gotta goDutch. We gotta go Dutch.
(26:18):
Boo boo, because you gotta thinkabout it. You gotta think about it
like this. Don't do that.Fix your face because you gotta understand this.
Ladies. You guys have a lotof days. You guys have a
lot of days. You got yourbirthday, you got Christmas, you have
you have a lot of day,Mother's Day, for mother's out there,
you have a lot of days.Don't be greedy. Don't be greedy.
(26:40):
Go ahead, man, listen.You have any toxic or positive things to
say before we wrap this up,go ahead. I mean I wouldn't.
I wouldn't have nothing toxic to say, but positive. I mean, if
you guys are in a relationship andyou want it to work, just put
the effort in there to make itwork. Okay. I mean, if
(27:04):
you know you're forcing it, don'tforce a relationship. Just put the effort
in there. If you know youlove this guy, Guys, if you
know you love this girl, justput the effort in there. And I'm
pretty sure if you want to makeit work, you will make it.
It's gonna work. Yeah. Mokay, Oh my god, oh my
(27:30):
god. Really quick before I gopeople, I'm gonna talk to you guys
first, a little bit of wordsof wisdom. Do you know how many
people form friendships off the hate theyhave for you? Yo? The numbers
(27:52):
are crazy. More the story.People don't use gossip as a tool to
form new relationships. She's not cool, all right, listen, man,
I want that you guys rocking Hossfor another episode of Beans Cosquiz is off
the books. I want to thankfor you coming out. What's up?
(28:17):
I know she ain't got no socialmedia. I can't even put the handle
at the bottom. People, soshe's a ghost. Ask her okay,
okay, would you blunt thing it? Okay, just give it? Wait,
what's it? Well, by theway, she's trinting. By the
(28:37):
way, but guds Man, thankyou Al for rocking out with us for
another episode. Until next time,citations, Chi huh, cheer.
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