AJ (@ajandhisbackpack) and Byrd (@Thettthizzle) are here serving up free game. This episode, they’re diving into the art of mentoring without making it feel like a roast session. How do you drop knowledge without stepping on toes? Then, it gets real as they tackle the delicate dance of communicating when someone’s drowning in advice. When is it time to hit pause and just vibe? And finally, the big question: Are there moments when listening trumps leading? AJ and Byrd break it all down with humor, insight, and just enough side-eye to keep it spicy. So, tune in, take notes, and join the conversation.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Of A. J.
Speaker 2 (00:00):
McLaughlin. I'm Ryan Ruie, I'm DJ Rich.
Speaker 3 (00:03):
I receive the tough for of Clinny Martinez and we
are the hosts of Opinions of Consequences, the podcast, the
show where Europeans can lead to consequences.
Speaker 2 (00:12):
So choose your words wisely, enjoy the show.
Speaker 3 (00:23):
Yes, you, guys already know it's welcome bad people, man,
welcome back to another episode of Beings Consequences off the books.
Guys already know who's in the building. Man, is your
boy AJ McLoughlin. Guys, I got a guess in the building,
all right. He goes by the name of Bird. So
I want to give a round applause for Bird coming
on the show.
Speaker 1 (00:41):
What's confident?
Speaker 2 (00:44):
Okay, how's everything now?
Speaker 1 (00:47):
It's good, you know, just taking care of the kids.
You know, it's working all the time.
Speaker 2 (00:51):
You said kids. How many though, like you know what
I mean? Because you know you know what I mean.
Speaker 1 (00:55):
They make fun of me. They say it's not the
Brady bunch, it's the Birdie bunch. But I got I
got six pieces.
Speaker 2 (01:01):
Six piece, no biscuit, ugly and it's beautiful.
Speaker 1 (01:07):
They keep they keep being trapped. That's what I meant
by it's ugly. I'm wait, is it is?
Speaker 3 (01:14):
It kind of hard to kind of pause everybody, to
be on top of all of them and kind of
like make sure like you you you know what I mean,
because there's so many different personalities, Like.
Speaker 1 (01:27):
It's beautiful in the personalities. When you're watching them, you're like, man,
this man, he's not my two year olds, Like, yo,
you don't care what I say. Oh, you know, like man,
But it's not hard, it's just it's it's beautiful. It's
like a portrait. It's like art. You know, it's just
watching pieces of arts, watching and it's like as a
a parent, you just you just want them to feel love.
(01:48):
That's it. That's all you can do for your child.
You don't try to direct them too much, but just
make sure they feel love, love, secure, and you're gonna
watch them bossom. But you know, as far as uh
being on top of their all their schedules, that's a
tough thing. But good thing. My wife she uses he's
the general.
Speaker 2 (02:06):
Soldier. I hope it was.
Speaker 3 (02:11):
So like what do you think is like the hardest
part about the whole like parenting, you know what I mean,
I'm not I'm not a parent, guy, you know what
I mean, You know what, You're right, we're gonna come
back to that.
Speaker 2 (02:21):
Guys, we're gonna get right into the show. People.
Speaker 3 (02:24):
Let me ask you this, man, how do we ensure
that mentoring doesn't feel like criticism?
Speaker 1 (02:35):
And that's a that's a beautiful, tough question, you.
Speaker 3 (02:38):
Know, And you could you can relate this to anything
like you know what I mean, You can relate this
to you know, your kids, you can relate this to
you know.
Speaker 1 (02:45):
I'm glad you said that because a lot of coaches
don't try to look at the dynamics of it. They
go into it with like a focus point of all
strategy or all coaching or all you know, blah blah blah.
But you have to be like open to teach. You
have to be open to guy. You have to be
open to get the good and the bad. You know,
some people are closed off to that. But it's like
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you're you're not just being a true mentor when you're
just focused on one thing. Because these these athletes have
problems you know, daily, you know, and they need to
be voiced, they need to be heard, and that's probably
the biggest thing for them, you.
Speaker 2 (03:19):
Know, And I'm sorry to cut you off really quick.
Speaker 3 (03:21):
So just for the viewers out there, Bird is actually
a football coach, so just in case, like you know,
because he said coaching and all stuff, and I know,
I know, I dropped the ball on that. I didn't
introduce that. I did not let you guys know. But
he's a football coach, sir, go ahead.
Speaker 1 (03:36):
Yeah, So how how do you you asked a question,
how do you get to mentoring and not feel like criticism?
Speaker 2 (03:44):
Correct? Correct? Correct? Correct? What's your approach on it?
Speaker 1 (03:46):
My approach is, I like to teach the kids to
live in the game. You don't want to always be
pointing fingers at him. You teach him a standing, a standard, okay,
and then you let them go from This is the standard.
If you want to be good, this is the standard.
If you want to be great, this is the standard.
You know what I mean. So living in the game,
it's like you got your nutition, your nutrition right, you
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got your sleep regiment right, you got your discipline on
and off the field right, you got your training right,
and then you got your practice habits right. So all
those things mess together. As that's what I call living
in the game. That's what I give the kids. It's
like a gospel you know what I mean, if you
want to be a good player, gospel good I love that.
Speaker 3 (04:25):
I love that, and you know what to put you
back off what he's saying. My whole thing is just
like when you're working with a partner and all this
extra stuff. I feel that or relationship, friends and all
that stuff. I feel like to avoid that criticism, I
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come at it with an approach like let's do this together,
let's do this, let's let's do this as a team,
because I feel like a lot of time people people
feel some type of way when it's when it's when
it's like you're pointing a f and you're like, yo,
you do this.
Speaker 2 (05:01):
You should do that, you should do this, you should
do that, you should do that. But when it comes
down to like, you know what I mean, like.
Speaker 3 (05:06):
All right, cool, I'm gonna give you some criticism, but
I'm gonna help you with this, and like, let's do
it together. And I feel like I personally feel like
it's more impactful where it doesn't.
Speaker 2 (05:16):
You don't you don't get that pushback.
Speaker 1 (05:20):
Because you don't know this. But I'm forty years old,
so I like to.
Speaker 3 (05:23):
Practice what I think I stay long exactly, I stay.
Speaker 1 (05:28):
In shape because I want to do it with them.
I don't want to just be yelling and barking orders,
because to me, that's not really coaching. I want to
show you I'm a demo it for you and then
instruct you how to what you did wrong and therefore
and then you know.
Speaker 2 (05:43):
And keep on going from there.
Speaker 1 (05:45):
That's see.
Speaker 2 (05:46):
I love that, man. I love that. Man. Let me
ask you this, how should we communicate when one of
us feels overwhelmed by advice or mentor so in other words,
like if if I'm one of your student athletes, and yo,
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come on, get up on this, yo, get get up, yo,
come on, focus on the play, focus on the ballupuput
all this stuff. How do you?
Speaker 1 (06:14):
How do you? That's a that's another beautiful question because
a lot of work is not done on the field.
It's done off the field. So with that being said,
these are young men. They're all different, just like my children.
They're all different that have different demeanors, different characters, you know,
different things. They live by different clodes, different morals, so
and they have to express themselves. This is what you're
seeing on the field is oftentimes their expression of everything
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they have going on. So when I come to a
situation where it's just like a little bit combative, I
don't really you know, instruct them right there. I'll make them,
you know, tap in with them, and we're gonna talk
off the field. Yeah, talk. I'm gonna be like a
big brother, like what's going on? Like, let me know
where your mind's at. Okay, So if you don't, if
you're trying to teach and guide and pinpoint everything, you
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don't know where their mind's at, you can never really
see why they're not hitting the home run, see what
I'm saying. Then you're always wondering, why won't you do this, Billy,
why won't you do this? No, you need to see
where his mind's at. If you never tap in with
them off the field, you're not gonna know that. And
that requires a lot of work. If you've got a
lot of athletes, I coach the runner backs and coach
the dbs. There's a lot of a lot of people.
Speaker 3 (07:19):
So so in other words, what he's saying, he only
he only coaches skilled positions. Like I like that. I
resonate with that because it's it's right. Just like what
you said, it's about understanding how that person feels, understanding
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how that person, how that person is doing, what their
mindset is like, because that's gonna be the that's gonna
be the driving factor in terms of it's that person
going to respond the way that you actually want that
person to respond because obviously, like Yo, listen, you're a coach,
and if and I'm and i'm and I'm relating all
this to obviously being on the on the on the
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field of people. But if you're a coach, like in
order for somebody to understand that and be able to resonate.
Speaker 2 (08:08):
With you, you have to connect with that person.
Speaker 3 (08:12):
And if that person got no type of connection where
he's like, yo, man, whatever, f coach, I ain't messing
with coach.
Speaker 2 (08:18):
Coach want me to do this and do this and
blah blah blah blah blah blah blah, and what they
used to tell us. They used to tell us like, Yo,
if the coach.
Speaker 3 (08:25):
Don't say nothing to you, that's when you should That's
when you should be worried because it's just like yo,
the coaches like yo, coach is always gonna be on you,
especially like if you're a good athlete, if you, if you,
if you are promising, they're always gonna communicate that to you.
But it might not be in a way that you
used to and some people do get overwhelmed by that.
Speaker 1 (08:47):
No, it's funny because we already talked about parenting and
a lot of coaching is the same thing. Okay, And
I remember as a coach, you always have to want
to increase your skills. You can't just rely on how
you coach last. No, you gotta get better. You gotta study,
you gotta go trainings, you gotta get certified. But you know,
even as a parent, you have to do these things
because you're walking to a field industry that you don't
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know anything about. So you better read a book, you
better listen to a podcast, you better do something. So
I read a book a long time ago and it
talked about talking to the front of their brain. When
you're yelling, you're talking to the back of the brain.
Like literally, their consciousness goes back here and they're not
hearing nothing. All they're seeing is your actions and this
and that, and you're not gonna get to the point.
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So instead of yelling, it's like, use a calm, cool,
collective voice and talk to them like why did why
didn't you hit your block? Tell me what you were thinking.
But if you're like a Jimmy, if you missed your block,
they're gonna stutter, stutter, panic. They're probably already used to
those behaviors at home and they don't need it on
the field too. No, you're just counter productive.
Speaker 3 (09:47):
You know, action, Every action is the cause of reaction,
like you know what I mean. So it's one of
those things like you said, like you know, there's different
approaches where a lot of people guys, like all the
viewers out there, listeners out there, like, there's different approaches
where you could this conversation with your counterpart, your love,
when your boss, your employee, whatever the case is. Like
you know what I mean, you could this information that
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we're giving you, you can translate it to whatever's going
on in your life, you know what I mean. This
doesn't just it's not about just coaching athletes or you know,
parents and all that stuff. This is about just life
in general, you know what I mean. And that's one
of those things where I feel like a lot of
times too, it's just like perfect example, like we're communicating
(10:29):
this right now, just because we mentioned athletes like, oh.
Speaker 1 (10:33):
This is this is just an athlete, you know what
I mean. And that works in the workplace. It works
at the office, you know, understanding who you're working with,
being slow to speak and quick to listen, you know
what I mean, Being humble, being disciplined, just to see
where they're coming from. Because a lot of times you
might not agree, even at the workplace, with somebody's idea.
(10:54):
But instead of shooting it down, why don't you just
question why do you think that will work? So then
you can instead of having a combative at work, you
can figure it out. I haven't said that, and then
you can try it and if it doesn't work, it
doesn't work.
Speaker 2 (11:07):
And that's what they do.
Speaker 1 (11:08):
But oftentimes we just want to friction against friction that
it really doesn't work, you know.
Speaker 2 (11:11):
We always want to weak. I feel like we're so.
Speaker 3 (11:16):
I feel like there's more alphas than just just people
just wanting to understand. And I tell people all the time,
I'm like, yo, just let me understand where you're coming from.
Let me understand where you're coming from. And I'm gonna
give you that. I'm gonna give you that chance, Like
you know, let me understand I'm not gonna shoot you down.
I'm not gonna shoot down anything you have to say.
I just need to understand.
Speaker 1 (11:35):
And the problems sometimes could be just because you've done
it six million times and this person is saying another
way to do it, is suggesting you think it might
not work, but it's very feasible that this way can work.
H So with that being said, the key word is adaption.
You have to be open to adaption, you know what
I mean. And if you're not open to adaption, you're
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gonna be staying stuck in a rut.
Speaker 2 (11:57):
Oh no, you're gonna be stagnant exactly.
Speaker 3 (11:59):
And he's right, people, guys, you gotta In other words,
he said, be a grown up.
Speaker 2 (12:03):
You gotta. You have to.
Speaker 3 (12:04):
You have to adult yourself in order to understand growth.
Speaker 2 (12:08):
Like you know what I mean. These are the These
are the little things.
Speaker 3 (12:11):
That are going to allow you to grow and not
only grow, but be able to connect with more people
on different pages. All right, keep going to be all right,
let me ask you this, what can I learn from
you and vice versa that you feel important to share?
Speaker 2 (12:31):
To share? You know, like what do you think of?
Speaker 3 (12:33):
Like?
Speaker 2 (12:33):
What is what are you like? Your strong suits that you.
Speaker 1 (12:36):
It's funny because I was an answer before you said
the strong suits that I was gonna say, really, we
all have super human traits.
Speaker 2 (12:44):
We do?
Speaker 1 (12:44):
We do?
Speaker 3 (12:45):
We do?
Speaker 1 (12:46):
You know? I think one of my superpowers is humbleness, integrity,
and discipline. You know. It's it's something that you're not
gonna necessarily. I can't really teach you. You have to
observe and see that that it's in me. You see
what I'm saying, and then once you see that, then
you learn in essence, you know what I mean, and
you can follow suits like man, I want to be
a type of individual like that. I want to stand
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on these principles, you know, and I hope to learn
the same thing from you. You see what I'm saying.
Anytime I get around the group appears or whatever. I
want it to be a certain caliber of men, you
know what I mean. I want to have to watch
my wallet or or think this or think that.
Speaker 3 (13:20):
You know, yeah, because you know, you know on the
old saying, you know, show me your friends and I'll
show you who you are exact thing, you know what
I mean. But I do like that because I'm the
I'm the same way when.
Speaker 2 (13:34):
It comes down to it. I think my thing is.
Speaker 3 (13:38):
Non patience patience, and I was, I was a running back. People,
we're impatient as hell, like you know what I mean,
Like we don't let blocks form, like you know what
I mean. Like they'll be like, you know, yo, let
the block, Let let let your let your blocks take
you to lead you to the.
Speaker 2 (13:55):
Freedom land and all.
Speaker 3 (13:56):
And I'm just like, yo, bro, I don't know what
you've seen over there, but it wasn't there when I
was there. So as a running back, I got I'm
so impatient because I'm like, yo, nothing is forming.
Speaker 2 (14:08):
I have to figure something else out.
Speaker 1 (14:10):
And our coaches, they taught us back in the day,
don't tip throw through the tulips. It's like we didn't
know any other warm, we didn't know any other pace.
But actually going slow as a winning too. I learned that.
I learned that I was doing a little transportation that
I kept leaving Newton and I'm like, yo, which way
is the GPS gonna take me? So it was a
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short way or the long ray short way was through Boston.
I'm like, yo, I'm about to go to the short way.
I'm about to get there fast. Every single time it
took me longer. So going the long way sometimes is
actually the short way.
Speaker 3 (14:45):
It might be the it might be the most efficient way.
Speaker 1 (14:49):
Exactly. That's power.
Speaker 2 (14:54):
You dropping gems here people, it was there game. This
is good game.
Speaker 1 (14:57):
It is free right, this is free for now.
Speaker 3 (15:05):
Let me ask you this, are there times when you feel,
as a person, mental, a coach, father, husband, you should
listen more.
Speaker 1 (15:18):
In god less Oh yeah, definitely and that and that
could be one of my downfalls. I could. I could
definitely see that because sometimes it's like I wake up
with a set pattern. My kids got to do this,
and they got to do that, and I'm not really
listening to them. And in certain aspects that when it
when it when it revolves around the regiment of things.
Sometimes it's like I I criticize myself all the time,
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and I'm like, you know, sometimes I need to sit
back and really listen to these kids, listen to their
heart and see what I'm saying, because I really do
believe this. Everybody's right in their own perspective. Ever since
I don't see their perspective, all I see I see
maybe three perspectives before them. You see what I'm saying
with kids are limited because we've been there, done that.
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So at the same time, they're not wrong, right, and
they got to try and learn things from the cells too.
So and I'm not hatient enough sometimes to let them
go through that, but I sometimes I need to listen
and let them go through that because instead of being
that you know, all right.
Speaker 3 (16:16):
You know and it is what it is, because you
know why we're we're always.
Speaker 2 (16:21):
So on go. Well, it's just like I understand how
you as a father you're on go.
Speaker 3 (16:27):
So it's just like you know, you got you you
got the two year old, you got you know, you
got the next one.
Speaker 2 (16:33):
And then you're like, okay, let me hear you out,
like you know what I mean.
Speaker 3 (16:35):
And and like you said, there's there's that perspective, but
and you know, there's perspective and this perception, you know
what I mean, And everybody has their own perspective, and
like you said, it doesn't mean that you're wrong, but
it's just about understanding and viewing it from that person's lens,
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you know what I mean, Because everyone you know what
I mean. It's it's one of those things whereas it's
like like you said, like yo, it's tough for you
but but it's that patience that you take your time,
be like a cool let me, let me understand where
you're coming from.
Speaker 1 (17:08):
So I got a prime example of my twelve year old.
I live by this, no last minute planning, okay, okay,
but I always shoot him down. And then sometimes I
was thinking, maybe sometimes I just need to relax and say,
all right, Josh, you can go with your friend, he said,
even though it wasn't planned, you know, But I'm always like, nah,
nah's last minute. You didn't tell me we could go.
Speaker 2 (17:29):
Nah.
Speaker 1 (17:29):
But sometimes that's what I mean by sometime I gotta
chill out and be like, you know, I'm gonna let
this one slide, you know, correct, because you can't just
every rule can't be set in stone, because there's gray
days and and and light days and dark days, and
you know, and it's tough different environments, different situations, you.
Speaker 3 (17:44):
Know, And it's tough as a parent, you know what
I mean, because you gotta we gotta think it back
we was kids.
Speaker 2 (17:51):
If we were setting.
Speaker 3 (17:52):
Stone on that all the time, guess what we're gonna do.
We're gonna break some room exactly.
Speaker 2 (17:56):
You know what I mean. We're gonna we're gonna do that, bro.
Speaker 1 (17:58):
Like go left, gonna right a few times, you know.
Speaker 3 (18:02):
And that's what I'm saying though. So it's one of
those things where I feel like a lot of people
they don't they don't take that into consideration. They don't
take that in consideration, where like you said, like, Yo,
you're being more lenient on the whole. You know what,
Jo's go out with your friend. You're good, y'all going
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to the movies. Just let me know what time be
coming back. You see what I'm saying. Like, sometimes I
feel like sometimes we gotta we gotta understand that people
like you know what I mean, even even for for
your significant other, manager, supervisor, you know what I mean.
And this is this is all looking on in like
so say, for instance, if you're a manager and you
have a good employee and that does good all the time,
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and and he says, Yo, listen, I really need to
get out of here.
Speaker 2 (18:49):
Can I get out? You know what? Get up on
out of here?
Speaker 1 (18:52):
Bro?
Speaker 2 (18:53):
You always did me a solid Get up out of here.
Speaker 1 (18:55):
That's real, that's real, that's love, man.
Speaker 2 (18:57):
And that's what I'm saying.
Speaker 3 (18:58):
And you got you gotta return. You're so what do
you think what do you think is probably the most
toughest thing when it comes down to like you, you know,
obviously you parenting and you communicating with them on good
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and bad.
Speaker 1 (19:22):
And that's sometimes you kind of walk in fear. But
me personally, I kind of like not to uh, expose
my kids to things of a fearful nature because I
don't want them to have that in their heart. But
as far as good and bad, like I take it
when it comes. I'm like, oh, this happened at school.
The principal called me, Now, let's discuss it. Let's let's talk,
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let's talk about it. Do you think this was right?
Why did this happen? And then I'm gonna base off
my judgment off of what he says. You see what
I'm saying, or what what they say. And uh, but
as far as general principles, like they pretty much know
don't run in the street. If you're walking your sister
to school, like she need to be holding her hand.
There's there's no exception, Like if something happens to her,
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it happens to you. So in a certain way, there's
no you know, they understand the good and bad of
certain things, but deeper things, I kind of keep you know,
under the rugs because they don't need to be exposed
to that. You know, the older ones fifteen to sixty,
and you know, they kind of know, they're they're.
Speaker 2 (20:23):
The kind of they know what they know, what's good
and bad.
Speaker 1 (20:25):
You're under like you don't need to know anything, you know,
you know, it's just.
Speaker 2 (20:32):
Don't worry about that.
Speaker 1 (20:33):
Exactly what you got on.
Speaker 2 (20:36):
I got that.
Speaker 1 (20:38):
That's real.
Speaker 2 (20:40):
That's really no. But that's dope. That's dope because it's
like coming down to like.
Speaker 3 (20:47):
You know, what you said to them your time, and
and it's one of those things where it's just like wow,
like and you know, I grew up with.
Speaker 2 (20:56):
Other people, so you know what I mean.
Speaker 3 (20:58):
It's it's a it's a it's a different mindset where
I was forced to be street smart.
Speaker 2 (21:05):
I was forced it was.
Speaker 3 (21:07):
It was a it was a class that was never
graded and never talked by it never and never and
never taught by anybody.
Speaker 1 (21:17):
You better get it right.
Speaker 2 (21:18):
And you had to. And it's real talk.
Speaker 3 (21:22):
Like you were forced to be either you either have
it or you don't have it. But like when you're
in the hood, like you it's like you almost have
to have it.
Speaker 1 (21:30):
And and my kids living ever. But that's what scares
me sometimes because I know they don't have that street smart.
That's one thing that I'm like, they're good in bad
Like Josh, you can't be in the streets. When played
basketball my twelve year old, and like he threw the
ball at me and hit me. I said, you know,
you can't just do this at the park and you're
gonna come back and I'm already worried about it. I'm like,
what they're gonna do to him at the park. You're
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not gonna make it boom. And I'm like, he's a
good kid. He just doesn't know. But you know, certain
things don't go You can do that at recess, but
you go to a parking Boston, it's not flying.
Speaker 3 (22:02):
You.
Speaker 2 (22:04):
Know what I mean.
Speaker 3 (22:05):
There's so many different areas where you're just automatically thinking like, man,
it's gonna go left.
Speaker 2 (22:09):
Man, it's gonna go left.
Speaker 1 (22:11):
Because you know those kids don't play.
Speaker 3 (22:12):
And that's the thing though, And then and it's one
of those things where like like like we keep saying
it's we wasn't taught that. We just was around it
and we had to adapt to our surroundings. And that's
a whole mentor like and it and it guys, and
we've been talking about this whole mentor and teaching, and
one of these things is like what we're what we're
(22:35):
trying to educate to everybody else is is that, Yo,
there's still a chance you can't still change the tide
of wherever your perspective is, your perception on relationship wise, work, parenting.
Speaker 2 (22:53):
There's still hope.
Speaker 1 (22:54):
Yeah, there's still there's still hope. I mean, you gotta
be adaptable. We talked about that. You gotta uh look
in the lens of other people. That's what a lot
of people don't do, is try to see how they're seeing.
You know, I never had road rains. People always have
road rains. But it's like, you don't know, you might
be having a bad day.
Speaker 2 (23:12):
Let you let you be in front of me. You
throw your hasards on.
Speaker 3 (23:16):
I'm like, you know what, since since listen, we're like
a week away from you know, Christmas and all that
extra stuff, let me ask you something like do you
have any holiday gift ideas? And I'm gonna go through
a list people, and so we're trying to help you
out in the long run. Okay, listen. Okay, let's say
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for fitness enthusiasts, because you you kind of yoke. You
seem like you in the gym all the time, paulse.
Speaker 2 (23:49):
What would you like? What would you like recommend as
a gift?
Speaker 1 (23:51):
Like, so, if you're a female, to hear your significant other,
get him some some protein, you know protein, new set
of gloves, happy maybe, Uh, this is some being set
exactly that you can utilize on the daily, like you
can't go wrong, you won't miss it. Jump rope, oh yeah,
because the jump ropes wear out. You wear mine one
(24:11):
day and I'm like looking at it, it's about to
be gone into ten days.
Speaker 3 (24:14):
And if you have the bread like a smart smart
fitness track or.
Speaker 1 (24:17):
Something like that, that's true.
Speaker 2 (24:18):
Okay, okay, okay, how about for for travelers?
Speaker 1 (24:26):
Travelers you know, a couple of hats, a suitcase depending
on where they want to go, you know, a swimsuit. Okay, definitely.
Oh you don't really need a fill camera nowadays iPhone,
But I was gonna say, you know, sometimes just the
little low school they mean a lot more sometimes and
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just having the pictures on the phone.
Speaker 3 (24:52):
I would do like a portable travel charger, power bank,
power bank packing cubes, maybe some scratch off world map,
make it a little interesting or whatever. You know what,
this one's gonna be good for you the kids. Okay,
He's like, oh yeah, this is easy just.
Speaker 1 (25:10):
In general general general. You know, uh, Nintendo Switch. You know,
the kids are always raving about that. Uh, new controllers.
Definitely gotta get them the new controllers for whatever system
they have, because these kids play.
Speaker 2 (25:23):
Hockey with these things. How many times you're gonna drop it?
Speaker 1 (25:27):
Anyway, Besides that, you definitely got to get them a
couple of new fits, you know, always January fresh. Uh,
they don't like, you know, bullies be looking at.
Speaker 2 (25:38):
Him and.
Speaker 1 (25:40):
Got the same stuff on from last year.
Speaker 2 (25:42):
I like that. I like that budget fundly.
Speaker 3 (25:44):
So like people that you ain't got enough, you ain't
got to you ain't got deep pockets. I'm thinking about
a many portable phone stand fun socks people, some holiday patterns,
a mini skin care makeup kit.
Speaker 1 (26:03):
He said, yeah, yeah, I was you know, you said
budget friendly. I waved my hand. I found out what
Timu was just last month, so I bought almost all
my stuff off Christmas from Timu. So yeah, see that
everything was coming there.
Speaker 2 (26:15):
I was like oh hopefully.
Speaker 1 (26:20):
Real. Let me get let's let's get a contract.
Speaker 3 (26:24):
In the last one for foodies for people that like
to make food and all that extra stuff and eat healthy.
Speaker 2 (26:31):
Yeah, air fryer, I love air frying big on air fries. Man.
Listen if you if you.
Speaker 3 (26:36):
Single, and you and you, or if you're a parent
or you got a family them air fries come and
clutch because you could be doing other things while that
stuff is going on, and all that extra stuff. Now
know they are killing expression machine. Maybe a French press.
I don't know if you got the pockets for it
before we get out of here. Do you have any
positive or negative feedback.
Speaker 1 (26:59):
I've you know, just in the whole mental health and
wellness thing. Yeah, you just have to. You know, I
grew up in a symbol to me was always powerful,
the Ying Yang symbol, and I never knew why. But
as I've gotten older, I always say, man, you kind
of do need a balance of everything. You can't have
too much of the right, you can't have too much
of the left. You need to balance everything. Nutrition has
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got to be balanced. You know you're dieting, Uh, your
sleep has got to be balanced, your training, conditioning, your
relationships have to be balanced. Everything has to be balanced
if you really want to have substance and pooful relationships
not only at home but but at work everywhere. So
that's that's really Yeah. You need to hit the buzzer
for that one because it's south known when you want
(27:44):
to if you want to win and tap in. Like
you wonder why you get those stressed out days, it's
because your balance is off. It's just like life. Man,
your pH off, You're gonna have a bad day.
Speaker 2 (27:53):
Yeah, You're don't have a bad day. Now, I'm with
you on that one. You know.
Speaker 3 (27:58):
Mean guys, you know I'm always I either got to
be toxic or positive. Since he was positive. A little
bit of words of wisdom guys before we get out
of here. If you're not doing better than the person
you're talking about, move that ass like, move more the story.
People stop demanding ship that you can't bring to the team.
Speaker 2 (28:22):
Real talk, real talk, real talk, guys. Man.
Speaker 3 (28:25):
I want to welcome and I want to thank Bird
for coming onto the show.
Speaker 2 (28:30):
Bird, how can they reach you? Man?
Speaker 1 (28:33):
We lift them up Sports. That's a little youth sports
program we run on I.
Speaker 2 (28:37):
G I'm gonna put it at the bottom or or.
Speaker 1 (28:39):
My email uh Claude b at Litamo Sports with the
Z dot com.
Speaker 2 (28:43):
Okay, okay, that's it.
Speaker 1 (28:46):
That's pretty much it. You knowsen man yo.
Speaker 3 (28:53):
But until next time man, happy holidays, be safe out there,
Man
Speaker 2 (28:58):
Salutations no
Of A. J.
Speaker 2 (00:00):
McLaughlin. I'm Ryan Ruie, I'm DJ Rich.
Speaker 3 (00:03):
I receive the tough for of Clinny Martinez and we
are the hosts of Opinions of Consequences, the podcast, the
show where Europeans can lead to consequences.
Speaker 2 (00:12):
So choose your words wisely, enjoy the show.
Speaker 3 (00:23):
Yes, you, guys already know it's welcome bad people, man,
welcome back to another episode of Beings Consequences off the books.
Guys already know who's in the building. Man, is your
boy AJ McLoughlin. Guys, I got a guess in the building,
all right. He goes by the name of Bird. So
I want to give a round applause for Bird coming
on the show.
Speaker 1 (00:41):
What's confident?
Speaker 2 (00:44):
Okay, how's everything now?
Speaker 1 (00:47):
It's good, you know, just taking care of the kids.
You know, it's working all the time.
Speaker 2 (00:51):
You said kids. How many though, like you know what
I mean? Because you know you know what I mean.
Speaker 1 (00:55):
They make fun of me. They say it's not the
Brady bunch, it's the Birdie bunch. But I got I
got six pieces.
Speaker 2 (01:01):
Six piece, no biscuit, ugly and it's beautiful.
Speaker 1 (01:07):
They keep they keep being trapped. That's what I meant
by it's ugly. I'm wait, is it is?
Speaker 3 (01:14):
It kind of hard to kind of pause everybody, to
be on top of all of them and kind of
like make sure like you you you know what I mean,
because there's so many different personalities, Like.
Speaker 1 (01:27):
It's beautiful in the personalities. When you're watching them, you're like, man,
this man, he's not my two year olds, Like, yo,
you don't care what I say. Oh, you know, like man,
But it's not hard, it's just it's it's beautiful. It's
like a portrait. It's like art. You know, it's just
watching pieces of arts, watching and it's like as a
a parent, you just you just want them to feel love.
(01:48):
That's it. That's all you can do for your child.
You don't try to direct them too much, but just
make sure they feel love, love, secure, and you're gonna
watch them bossom. But you know, as far as uh
being on top of their all their schedules, that's a
tough thing. But good thing. My wife she uses he's
the general.
Speaker 2 (02:06):
Soldier. I hope it was.
Speaker 3 (02:11):
So like what do you think is like the hardest
part about the whole like parenting, you know what I mean,
I'm not I'm not a parent, guy, you know what
I mean, You know what, You're right, we're gonna come
back to that.
Speaker 2 (02:21):
Guys, we're gonna get right into the show. People.
Speaker 3 (02:24):
Let me ask you this, man, how do we ensure
that mentoring doesn't feel like criticism?
Speaker 1 (02:35):
And that's a that's a beautiful, tough question, you.
Speaker 3 (02:38):
Know, And you could you can relate this to anything
like you know what I mean, You can relate this
to you know, your kids, you can relate this to
you know.
Speaker 1 (02:45):
I'm glad you said that because a lot of coaches
don't try to look at the dynamics of it. They
go into it with like a focus point of all
strategy or all coaching or all you know, blah blah blah.
But you have to be like open to teach. You
have to be open to guy. You have to be
open to get the good and the bad. You know,
some people are closed off to that. But it's like
(03:07):
you're you're not just being a true mentor when you're
just focused on one thing. Because these these athletes have
problems you know, daily, you know, and they need to
be voiced, they need to be heard, and that's probably
the biggest thing for them, you.
Speaker 2 (03:19):
Know, And I'm sorry to cut you off really quick.
Speaker 3 (03:21):
So just for the viewers out there, Bird is actually
a football coach, so just in case, like you know,
because he said coaching and all stuff, and I know,
I know, I dropped the ball on that. I didn't
introduce that. I did not let you guys know. But
he's a football coach, sir, go ahead.
Speaker 1 (03:36):
Yeah, So how how do you you asked a question,
how do you get to mentoring and not feel like criticism?
Speaker 2 (03:44):
Correct? Correct? Correct? Correct? What's your approach on it?
Speaker 1 (03:46):
My approach is, I like to teach the kids to
live in the game. You don't want to always be
pointing fingers at him. You teach him a standing, a standard, okay,
and then you let them go from This is the standard.
If you want to be good, this is the standard.
If you want to be great, this is the standard.
You know what I mean. So living in the game,
it's like you got your nutition, your nutrition right, you
(04:08):
got your sleep regiment right, you got your discipline on
and off the field right, you got your training right,
and then you got your practice habits right. So all
those things mess together. As that's what I call living
in the game. That's what I give the kids. It's
like a gospel you know what I mean, if you
want to be a good player, gospel good I love that.
Speaker 3 (04:25):
I love that, and you know what to put you
back off what he's saying. My whole thing is just
like when you're working with a partner and all this
extra stuff. I feel that or relationship, friends and all
that stuff. I feel like to avoid that criticism, I
(04:47):
come at it with an approach like let's do this together,
let's do this, let's let's do this as a team,
because I feel like a lot of time people people
feel some type of way when it's when it's when
it's like you're pointing a f and you're like, yo,
you do this.
Speaker 2 (05:01):
You should do that, you should do this, you should
do that, you should do that. But when it comes
down to like, you know what I mean, like.
Speaker 3 (05:06):
All right, cool, I'm gonna give you some criticism, but
I'm gonna help you with this, and like, let's do
it together. And I feel like I personally feel like
it's more impactful where it doesn't.
Speaker 2 (05:16):
You don't you don't get that pushback.
Speaker 1 (05:20):
Because you don't know this. But I'm forty years old,
so I like to.
Speaker 3 (05:23):
Practice what I think I stay long exactly, I stay.
Speaker 1 (05:28):
In shape because I want to do it with them.
I don't want to just be yelling and barking orders,
because to me, that's not really coaching. I want to
show you I'm a demo it for you and then
instruct you how to what you did wrong and therefore
and then you know.
Speaker 2 (05:43):
And keep on going from there.
Speaker 1 (05:45):
That's see.
Speaker 2 (05:46):
I love that, man. I love that. Man. Let me
ask you this, how should we communicate when one of
us feels overwhelmed by advice or mentor so in other words,
like if if I'm one of your student athletes, and yo,
(06:06):
come on, get up on this, yo, get get up, yo,
come on, focus on the play, focus on the ballupuput
all this stuff. How do you?
Speaker 1 (06:14):
How do you? That's a that's another beautiful question because
a lot of work is not done on the field.
It's done off the field. So with that being said,
these are young men. They're all different, just like my children.
They're all different that have different demeanors, different characters, you know,
different things. They live by different clodes, different morals, so
and they have to express themselves. This is what you're
seeing on the field is oftentimes their expression of everything
(06:35):
they have going on. So when I come to a
situation where it's just like a little bit combative, I
don't really you know, instruct them right there. I'll make them,
you know, tap in with them, and we're gonna talk
off the field. Yeah, talk. I'm gonna be like a
big brother, like what's going on? Like, let me know
where your mind's at. Okay, So if you don't, if
you're trying to teach and guide and pinpoint everything, you
(06:57):
don't know where their mind's at, you can never really
see why they're not hitting the home run, see what
I'm saying. Then you're always wondering, why won't you do this, Billy,
why won't you do this? No, you need to see
where his mind's at. If you never tap in with
them off the field, you're not gonna know that. And
that requires a lot of work. If you've got a
lot of athletes, I coach the runner backs and coach
the dbs. There's a lot of a lot of people.
Speaker 3 (07:19):
So so in other words, what he's saying, he only
he only coaches skilled positions. Like I like that. I
resonate with that because it's it's right. Just like what
you said, it's about understanding how that person feels, understanding
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how that person, how that person is doing, what their
mindset is like, because that's gonna be the that's gonna
be the driving factor in terms of it's that person
going to respond the way that you actually want that
person to respond because obviously, like Yo, listen, you're a coach,
and if and I'm and i'm and I'm relating all
this to obviously being on the on the on the
(08:00):
field of people. But if you're a coach, like in
order for somebody to understand that and be able to resonate.
Speaker 2 (08:08):
With you, you have to connect with that person.
Speaker 3 (08:12):
And if that person got no type of connection where
he's like, yo, man, whatever, f coach, I ain't messing
with coach.
Speaker 2 (08:18):
Coach want me to do this and do this and
blah blah blah blah blah blah blah, and what they
used to tell us. They used to tell us like, Yo,
if the coach.
Speaker 3 (08:25):
Don't say nothing to you, that's when you should That's
when you should be worried because it's just like yo,
the coaches like yo, coach is always gonna be on you,
especially like if you're a good athlete, if you, if you,
if you are promising, they're always gonna communicate that to you.
But it might not be in a way that you
used to and some people do get overwhelmed by that.
Speaker 1 (08:47):
No, it's funny because we already talked about parenting and
a lot of coaching is the same thing. Okay, And
I remember as a coach, you always have to want
to increase your skills. You can't just rely on how
you coach last. No, you gotta get better. You gotta study,
you gotta go trainings, you gotta get certified. But you know,
even as a parent, you have to do these things
because you're walking to a field industry that you don't
(09:08):
know anything about. So you better read a book, you
better listen to a podcast, you better do something. So
I read a book a long time ago and it
talked about talking to the front of their brain. When
you're yelling, you're talking to the back of the brain.
Like literally, their consciousness goes back here and they're not
hearing nothing. All they're seeing is your actions and this
and that, and you're not gonna get to the point.
(09:28):
So instead of yelling, it's like, use a calm, cool,
collective voice and talk to them like why did why
didn't you hit your block? Tell me what you were thinking.
But if you're like a Jimmy, if you missed your block,
they're gonna stutter, stutter, panic. They're probably already used to
those behaviors at home and they don't need it on
the field too. No, you're just counter productive.
Speaker 3 (09:47):
You know, action, Every action is the cause of reaction,
like you know what I mean. So it's one of
those things like you said, like you know, there's different
approaches where a lot of people guys, like all the
viewers out there, listeners out there, like, there's different approaches
where you could this conversation with your counterpart, your love,
when your boss, your employee, whatever the case is. Like
you know what I mean, you could this information that
(10:08):
we're giving you, you can translate it to whatever's going
on in your life, you know what I mean. This
doesn't just it's not about just coaching athletes or you know,
parents and all that stuff. This is about just life
in general, you know what I mean. And that's one
of those things where I feel like a lot of
times too, it's just like perfect example, like we're communicating
(10:29):
this right now, just because we mentioned athletes like, oh.
Speaker 1 (10:33):
This is this is just an athlete, you know what
I mean. And that works in the workplace. It works
at the office, you know, understanding who you're working with,
being slow to speak and quick to listen, you know
what I mean, Being humble, being disciplined, just to see
where they're coming from. Because a lot of times you
might not agree, even at the workplace, with somebody's idea.
(10:54):
But instead of shooting it down, why don't you just
question why do you think that will work? So then
you can instead of having a combative at work, you
can figure it out. I haven't said that, and then
you can try it and if it doesn't work, it
doesn't work.
Speaker 2 (11:07):
And that's what they do.
Speaker 1 (11:08):
But oftentimes we just want to friction against friction that
it really doesn't work, you know.
Speaker 2 (11:11):
We always want to weak. I feel like we're so.
Speaker 3 (11:16):
I feel like there's more alphas than just just people
just wanting to understand. And I tell people all the time,
I'm like, yo, just let me understand where you're coming from.
Let me understand where you're coming from. And I'm gonna
give you that. I'm gonna give you that chance, Like
you know, let me understand I'm not gonna shoot you down.
I'm not gonna shoot down anything you have to say.
I just need to understand.
Speaker 1 (11:35):
And the problems sometimes could be just because you've done
it six million times and this person is saying another
way to do it, is suggesting you think it might
not work, but it's very feasible that this way can work.
H So with that being said, the key word is adaption.
You have to be open to adaption, you know what
I mean. And if you're not open to adaption, you're
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gonna be staying stuck in a rut.
Speaker 2 (11:57):
Oh no, you're gonna be stagnant exactly.
Speaker 3 (11:59):
And he's right, people, guys, you gotta In other words,
he said, be a grown up.
Speaker 2 (12:03):
You gotta. You have to.
Speaker 3 (12:04):
You have to adult yourself in order to understand growth.
Speaker 2 (12:08):
Like you know what I mean. These are the These
are the little things.
Speaker 3 (12:11):
That are going to allow you to grow and not
only grow, but be able to connect with more people
on different pages. All right, keep going to be all right,
let me ask you this, what can I learn from
you and vice versa that you feel important to share?
Speaker 2 (12:31):
To share? You know, like what do you think of?
Speaker 3 (12:33):
Like?
Speaker 2 (12:33):
What is what are you like? Your strong suits that you.
Speaker 1 (12:36):
It's funny because I was an answer before you said
the strong suits that I was gonna say, really, we
all have super human traits.
Speaker 2 (12:44):
We do?
Speaker 1 (12:44):
We do?
Speaker 3 (12:45):
We do?
Speaker 1 (12:46):
You know? I think one of my superpowers is humbleness, integrity,
and discipline. You know. It's it's something that you're not
gonna necessarily. I can't really teach you. You have to
observe and see that that it's in me. You see
what I'm saying, and then once you see that, then
you learn in essence, you know what I mean, and
you can follow suits like man, I want to be
a type of individual like that. I want to stand
(13:06):
on these principles, you know, and I hope to learn
the same thing from you. You see what I'm saying.
Anytime I get around the group appears or whatever. I
want it to be a certain caliber of men, you
know what I mean. I want to have to watch
my wallet or or think this or think that.
Speaker 3 (13:20):
You know, yeah, because you know, you know on the
old saying, you know, show me your friends and I'll
show you who you are exact thing, you know what
I mean. But I do like that because I'm the
I'm the same way when.
Speaker 2 (13:34):
It comes down to it. I think my thing is.
Speaker 3 (13:38):
Non patience patience, and I was, I was a running back. People,
we're impatient as hell, like you know what I mean,
Like we don't let blocks form, like you know what
I mean. Like they'll be like, you know, yo, let
the block, Let let let your let your blocks take
you to lead you to the.
Speaker 2 (13:55):
Freedom land and all.
Speaker 3 (13:56):
And I'm just like, yo, bro, I don't know what
you've seen over there, but it wasn't there when I
was there. So as a running back, I got I'm
so impatient because I'm like, yo, nothing is forming.
Speaker 2 (14:08):
I have to figure something else out.
Speaker 1 (14:10):
And our coaches, they taught us back in the day,
don't tip throw through the tulips. It's like we didn't
know any other warm, we didn't know any other pace.
But actually going slow as a winning too. I learned that.
I learned that I was doing a little transportation that
I kept leaving Newton and I'm like, yo, which way
is the GPS gonna take me? So it was a
(14:33):
short way or the long ray short way was through Boston.
I'm like, yo, I'm about to go to the short way.
I'm about to get there fast. Every single time it
took me longer. So going the long way sometimes is
actually the short way.
Speaker 3 (14:45):
It might be the it might be the most efficient way.
Speaker 1 (14:49):
Exactly. That's power.
Speaker 2 (14:54):
You dropping gems here people, it was there game. This
is good game.
Speaker 1 (14:57):
It is free right, this is free for now.
Speaker 3 (15:05):
Let me ask you this, are there times when you feel,
as a person, mental, a coach, father, husband, you should
listen more.
Speaker 1 (15:18):
In god less Oh yeah, definitely and that and that
could be one of my downfalls. I could. I could
definitely see that because sometimes it's like I wake up
with a set pattern. My kids got to do this,
and they got to do that, and I'm not really
listening to them. And in certain aspects that when it
when it when it revolves around the regiment of things.
Sometimes it's like I I criticize myself all the time,
(15:39):
and I'm like, you know, sometimes I need to sit
back and really listen to these kids, listen to their
heart and see what I'm saying, because I really do
believe this. Everybody's right in their own perspective. Ever since
I don't see their perspective, all I see I see
maybe three perspectives before them. You see what I'm saying
with kids are limited because we've been there, done that.
(16:00):
So at the same time, they're not wrong, right, and
they got to try and learn things from the cells too.
So and I'm not hatient enough sometimes to let them
go through that, but I sometimes I need to listen
and let them go through that because instead of being
that you know, all right.
Speaker 3 (16:16):
You know and it is what it is, because you
know why we're we're always.
Speaker 2 (16:21):
So on go. Well, it's just like I understand how
you as a father you're on go.
Speaker 3 (16:27):
So it's just like you know, you got you you
got the two year old, you got you know, you
got the next one.
Speaker 2 (16:33):
And then you're like, okay, let me hear you out,
like you know what I mean.
Speaker 3 (16:35):
And and like you said, there's there's that perspective, but
and you know, there's perspective and this perception, you know
what I mean, And everybody has their own perspective, and
like you said, it doesn't mean that you're wrong, but
it's just about understanding and viewing it from that person's lens,
(16:56):
you know what I mean, Because everyone you know what
I mean. It's it's one of those things whereas it's
like like you said, like yo, it's tough for you
but but it's that patience that you take your time,
be like a cool let me, let me understand where
you're coming from.
Speaker 1 (17:08):
So I got a prime example of my twelve year old.
I live by this, no last minute planning, okay, okay,
but I always shoot him down. And then sometimes I
was thinking, maybe sometimes I just need to relax and say,
all right, Josh, you can go with your friend, he said,
even though it wasn't planned, you know, But I'm always like, nah,
nah's last minute. You didn't tell me we could go.
Speaker 2 (17:29):
Nah.
Speaker 1 (17:29):
But sometimes that's what I mean by sometime I gotta
chill out and be like, you know, I'm gonna let
this one slide, you know, correct, because you can't just
every rule can't be set in stone, because there's gray
days and and and light days and dark days, and
you know, and it's tough different environments, different situations, you.
Speaker 3 (17:44):
Know, And it's tough as a parent, you know what
I mean, because you gotta we gotta think it back
we was kids.
Speaker 2 (17:51):
If we were setting.
Speaker 3 (17:52):
Stone on that all the time, guess what we're gonna do.
We're gonna break some room exactly.
Speaker 2 (17:56):
You know what I mean. We're gonna we're gonna do that, bro.
Speaker 1 (17:58):
Like go left, gonna right a few times, you know.
Speaker 3 (18:02):
And that's what I'm saying though. So it's one of
those things where I feel like a lot of people
they don't they don't take that into consideration. They don't
take that in consideration, where like you said, like, Yo,
you're being more lenient on the whole. You know what,
Jo's go out with your friend. You're good, y'all going
(18:22):
to the movies. Just let me know what time be
coming back. You see what I'm saying. Like, sometimes I
feel like sometimes we gotta we gotta understand that people
like you know what I mean, even even for for
your significant other, manager, supervisor, you know what I mean.
And this is this is all looking on in like
so say, for instance, if you're a manager and you
have a good employee and that does good all the time,
(18:45):
and and he says, Yo, listen, I really need to
get out of here.
Speaker 2 (18:49):
Can I get out? You know what? Get up on
out of here?
Speaker 1 (18:52):
Bro?
Speaker 2 (18:53):
You always did me a solid Get up out of here.
Speaker 1 (18:55):
That's real, that's real, that's love, man.
Speaker 2 (18:57):
And that's what I'm saying.
Speaker 3 (18:58):
And you got you gotta return. You're so what do
you think what do you think is probably the most
toughest thing when it comes down to like you, you know,
obviously you parenting and you communicating with them on good
(19:21):
and bad.
Speaker 1 (19:22):
And that's sometimes you kind of walk in fear. But
me personally, I kind of like not to uh, expose
my kids to things of a fearful nature because I
don't want them to have that in their heart. But
as far as good and bad, like I take it
when it comes. I'm like, oh, this happened at school.
The principal called me, Now, let's discuss it. Let's let's talk,
(19:45):
let's talk about it. Do you think this was right?
Why did this happen? And then I'm gonna base off
my judgment off of what he says. You see what
I'm saying, or what what they say. And uh, but
as far as general principles, like they pretty much know
don't run in the street. If you're walking your sister
to school, like she need to be holding her hand.
There's there's no exception, Like if something happens to her,
(20:07):
it happens to you. So in a certain way, there's
no you know, they understand the good and bad of
certain things, but deeper things, I kind of keep you know,
under the rugs because they don't need to be exposed
to that. You know, the older ones fifteen to sixty,
and you know, they kind of know, they're they're.
Speaker 2 (20:23):
The kind of they know what they know, what's good
and bad.
Speaker 1 (20:25):
You're under like you don't need to know anything, you know,
you know, it's just.
Speaker 2 (20:32):
Don't worry about that.
Speaker 1 (20:33):
Exactly what you got on.
Speaker 2 (20:36):
I got that.
Speaker 1 (20:38):
That's real.
Speaker 2 (20:40):
That's really no. But that's dope. That's dope because it's
like coming down to like.
Speaker 3 (20:47):
You know, what you said to them your time, and
and it's one of those things where it's just like wow,
like and you know, I grew up with.
Speaker 2 (20:56):
Other people, so you know what I mean.
Speaker 3 (20:58):
It's it's a it's a it's a different mindset where
I was forced to be street smart.
Speaker 2 (21:05):
I was forced it was.
Speaker 3 (21:07):
It was a it was a class that was never
graded and never talked by it never and never and
never taught by anybody.
Speaker 1 (21:17):
You better get it right.
Speaker 2 (21:18):
And you had to. And it's real talk.
Speaker 3 (21:22):
Like you were forced to be either you either have
it or you don't have it. But like when you're
in the hood, like you it's like you almost have
to have it.
Speaker 1 (21:30):
And and my kids living ever. But that's what scares
me sometimes because I know they don't have that street smart.
That's one thing that I'm like, they're good in bad
Like Josh, you can't be in the streets. When played
basketball my twelve year old, and like he threw the
ball at me and hit me. I said, you know,
you can't just do this at the park and you're
gonna come back and I'm already worried about it. I'm like,
what they're gonna do to him at the park. You're
(21:52):
not gonna make it boom. And I'm like, he's a
good kid. He just doesn't know. But you know, certain
things don't go You can do that at recess, but
you go to a parking Boston, it's not flying.
Speaker 3 (22:02):
You.
Speaker 2 (22:04):
Know what I mean.
Speaker 3 (22:05):
There's so many different areas where you're just automatically thinking like, man,
it's gonna go left.
Speaker 2 (22:09):
Man, it's gonna go left.
Speaker 1 (22:11):
Because you know those kids don't play.
Speaker 3 (22:12):
And that's the thing though, And then and it's one
of those things where like like like we keep saying
it's we wasn't taught that. We just was around it
and we had to adapt to our surroundings. And that's
a whole mentor like and it and it guys, and
we've been talking about this whole mentor and teaching, and
one of these things is like what we're what we're
(22:35):
trying to educate to everybody else is is that, Yo,
there's still a chance you can't still change the tide
of wherever your perspective is, your perception on relationship wise, work, parenting.
Speaker 2 (22:53):
There's still hope.
Speaker 1 (22:54):
Yeah, there's still there's still hope. I mean, you gotta
be adaptable. We talked about that. You gotta uh look
in the lens of other people. That's what a lot
of people don't do, is try to see how they're seeing.
You know, I never had road rains. People always have
road rains. But it's like, you don't know, you might
be having a bad day.
Speaker 2 (23:12):
Let you let you be in front of me. You
throw your hasards on.
Speaker 3 (23:16):
I'm like, you know what, since since listen, we're like
a week away from you know, Christmas and all that
extra stuff, let me ask you something like do you
have any holiday gift ideas? And I'm gonna go through
a list people, and so we're trying to help you
out in the long run. Okay, listen. Okay, let's say
(23:40):
for fitness enthusiasts, because you you kind of yoke. You
seem like you in the gym all the time, paulse.
Speaker 2 (23:49):
What would you like? What would you like recommend as
a gift?
Speaker 1 (23:51):
Like, so, if you're a female, to hear your significant other,
get him some some protein, you know protein, new set
of gloves, happy maybe, Uh, this is some being set
exactly that you can utilize on the daily, like you
can't go wrong, you won't miss it. Jump rope, oh yeah,
because the jump ropes wear out. You wear mine one
(24:11):
day and I'm like looking at it, it's about to
be gone into ten days.
Speaker 3 (24:14):
And if you have the bread like a smart smart
fitness track or.
Speaker 1 (24:17):
Something like that, that's true.
Speaker 2 (24:18):
Okay, okay, okay, how about for for travelers?
Speaker 1 (24:26):
Travelers you know, a couple of hats, a suitcase depending
on where they want to go, you know, a swimsuit. Okay, definitely.
Oh you don't really need a fill camera nowadays iPhone,
But I was gonna say, you know, sometimes just the
little low school they mean a lot more sometimes and
(24:51):
just having the pictures on the phone.
Speaker 3 (24:52):
I would do like a portable travel charger, power bank,
power bank packing cubes, maybe some scratch off world map,
make it a little interesting or whatever. You know what,
this one's gonna be good for you the kids. Okay,
He's like, oh yeah, this is easy just.
Speaker 1 (25:10):
In general general general. You know, uh, Nintendo Switch. You know,
the kids are always raving about that. Uh, new controllers.
Definitely gotta get them the new controllers for whatever system
they have, because these kids play.
Speaker 2 (25:23):
Hockey with these things. How many times you're gonna drop it?
Speaker 1 (25:27):
Anyway, Besides that, you definitely got to get them a
couple of new fits, you know, always January fresh. Uh,
they don't like, you know, bullies be looking at.
Speaker 2 (25:38):
Him and.
Speaker 1 (25:40):
Got the same stuff on from last year.
Speaker 2 (25:42):
I like that. I like that budget fundly.
Speaker 3 (25:44):
So like people that you ain't got enough, you ain't
got to you ain't got deep pockets. I'm thinking about
a many portable phone stand fun socks people, some holiday patterns,
a mini skin care makeup kit.
Speaker 1 (26:03):
He said, yeah, yeah, I was you know, you said
budget friendly. I waved my hand. I found out what
Timu was just last month, so I bought almost all
my stuff off Christmas from Timu. So yeah, see that
everything was coming there.
Speaker 2 (26:15):
I was like oh hopefully.
Speaker 1 (26:20):
Real. Let me get let's let's get a contract.
Speaker 3 (26:24):
In the last one for foodies for people that like
to make food and all that extra stuff and eat healthy.
Speaker 2 (26:31):
Yeah, air fryer, I love air frying big on air fries. Man.
Listen if you if you.
Speaker 3 (26:36):
Single, and you and you, or if you're a parent
or you got a family them air fries come and
clutch because you could be doing other things while that
stuff is going on, and all that extra stuff. Now
know they are killing expression machine. Maybe a French press.
I don't know if you got the pockets for it
before we get out of here. Do you have any
positive or negative feedback.
Speaker 1 (26:59):
I've you know, just in the whole mental health and
wellness thing. Yeah, you just have to. You know, I
grew up in a symbol to me was always powerful,
the Ying Yang symbol, and I never knew why. But
as I've gotten older, I always say, man, you kind
of do need a balance of everything. You can't have
too much of the right, you can't have too much
of the left. You need to balance everything. Nutrition has
(27:21):
got to be balanced. You know you're dieting, Uh, your
sleep has got to be balanced, your training, conditioning, your
relationships have to be balanced. Everything has to be balanced
if you really want to have substance and pooful relationships
not only at home but but at work everywhere. So
that's that's really Yeah. You need to hit the buzzer
for that one because it's south known when you want
(27:44):
to if you want to win and tap in. Like
you wonder why you get those stressed out days, it's
because your balance is off. It's just like life. Man,
your pH off, You're gonna have a bad day.
Speaker 2 (27:53):
Yeah, You're don't have a bad day. Now, I'm with
you on that one. You know.
Speaker 3 (27:58):
Mean guys, you know I'm always I either got to
be toxic or positive. Since he was positive. A little
bit of words of wisdom guys before we get out
of here. If you're not doing better than the person
you're talking about, move that ass like, move more the story.
People stop demanding ship that you can't bring to the team.
Speaker 2 (28:22):
Real talk, real talk, real talk, guys. Man.
Speaker 3 (28:25):
I want to welcome and I want to thank Bird
for coming onto the show.
Speaker 2 (28:30):
Bird, how can they reach you? Man?
Speaker 1 (28:33):
We lift them up Sports. That's a little youth sports
program we run on I.
Speaker 2 (28:37):
G I'm gonna put it at the bottom or or.
Speaker 1 (28:39):
My email uh Claude b at Litamo Sports with the
Z dot com.
Speaker 2 (28:43):
Okay, okay, that's it.
Speaker 1 (28:46):
That's pretty much it. You knowsen man yo.
Speaker 3 (28:53):
But until next time man, happy holidays, be safe out there,
Man
Speaker 2 (28:58):
Salutations no
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