November 21, 2023 • 29 mins
Get ready to roll with AJ @ajandhisbackpack and Jamal @jamalbottomlineburke as they make a triumphant comeback, tackling timeless topics that'll have you hooked! From decoding the qualifications for being a 'BBW' to exploring the wild world of new dating-era behaviors and etiquettes. Oh, and when was the last time you gave your 'BMI' a reality check? Buckle up for a rollercoaster of banter and laughs—don't just tune in, vibe out with the dynamic duo!
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Of A. J. McLaughlin.I'm Ryan Rue, I'm DJ richis the
tough fo of Plinny Martinez and weare the hosts of Opinions and Consequences,
the podcast, the show where Europeanscan lead to consequences. So choose your
words wise look during the show.Oh and old man, people, man,
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welcome back to another episode of BeingsGone. It's off the books man,
you know the thought provoking, thesometimes controversial, the spark fire setting
conversations that we have here on theBeings Conference. Off the books, you
know, the condensed version of thefull version of the pans Conference. I'm
your host, agamcloughlin. Are youa bottom line? Burke and the building?
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What's BOUI? Lizzie Many in thebuilding. Yeah, it's good.
Viddy, Yeah, I like,I I yeah, I like. Oh
thank you man, thank you beingback in Boston. You know, sometimes
it gets cold again. My man, my man got accustom winter blazer.
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Hey, real quick, I gotyou. I gotta tell you you have
at the airport. In the airportright, so I woke up cold of
lake. You know what I'm saying. Usually when you you turn forty plus
once you crash that line expect certainthings not to work right Friday, six
o'clock flight, so I'm not thinkingof the alarm ain't gonna work. But
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it didn't right, So I wokeup late. Long story short, went
to the airport. I got therelike five o three oh. No flight
leaves at six, so I hadto I quickly turned it, went got
the park, you know, withthe podcast, and everything got the buzzy
turned to no doubt and it's myright. Went to the front of the
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lines. I love my idea.I love my idea, let my id
I was already here. I wasalready here. No, no, no,
no, Yo, nine hundred andninety people and they went for it.
Congratulations to everybody that was there,because I was shocked. I wasn't
gonna make it. Yo. Seewhat I'm talking about. You know what
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I'm saying. But because that's listen, man, we don't get right into
the meeting potatoes people. Guys.Man, this episode is about the new
era of dating. Man, malI know you have some questions. Man,
Let's let's let's get to it.Let's get to it. Let's get
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a little spicy too, ship likeokay, all right, but check it.
Let's get to it. So whatare your qualification? We both husky
something. What's your qualification of ab b W with respects to women?
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What's your what's your over and under? Oh my god, okay, listen,
I'm a direct over here first,Okay, people, I want to
make eye contact you. Listen,sweetheart, if you're if your if your
gut goes over your belt buckle,it's game over. It's game over.
Disrespect man. This is respectfully speaking, like you know what I mean.
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Like they're certainly like you know BBWs. I love my bbw's like they keep
you warm in the winter, youknow what I mean. Bbw's are supposed
to be loved every all walks oflife is supposed to be I'm loved,
Okay, but yeah I have.They can't. They can't pass that threshold.
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If I'm questioning your weight, it'snot happening. Like I'm like,
if I look you, I'm sizeyou up, and I'm like, no,
bread frame, My bed frame isnot gonna. It's not gonna.
It's not gonna last. Got holdup, it gotta it, gotta hold
up. But well, you know, the ladies down Atlantic they tell me
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often too that there is there isa healthy demographic of men. I don't
mind a little extra tummy tuck andbecause there's a lot of women that be
wearing a short shirts. The talkwith Ezekiel Elliott with the belly out though,
yeah, with the belly out winningthe boo, that's prominent a little
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bit. That's probably Hey, youknow, I no judgment, you do
what you do. But no,that was just something that came up.
A couple of fellas was asking youknow about that, So I was like,
I'm going to boss, let meask j. So like where you
don't have you have an over andunder, you have like what's like what's
your what's your what's you're over likewhere you're like, nah, it's not
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gonna happen, like it's just likesis, I'm not. I can't when
the extra layers come out where theygot like a sweated hand coke, like
you can't be built like a twoliter coke, Like if if if if
I look at you and I seethat if I'm all I'm thinking about is
like have you been eating silly puddy? Like you know what I mean?
Like I gotta these are certain thingswhere I'm just like I think it's the
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personality too. I think it's justif if she's still bubbly and still affectionate
and still uh you know, stillgood energy in each other's presidence, you
know. I think that is longestit depends and this season on my life,
No today, absolutely not. I'mjust saying in general, I have
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to have to kind of go backto the yester years but no today,
No, So like, what's what'sthe under for a BBW? Like you
know how some some girls be like, oh, I'm thick the light rad
group, but you don't girls belike, I'm thick, I like the
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cups I like but then you're lookingat them like but then it goes back
to attitude personality. No one doesit does it does that confidence? That
thing that thing does does wonders tooto help you kind of maybe overlook some
things if you are in the indecisive, you know, teetering on maybe a
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wool or not. But today,no, I'm not doing the overflow or
just the extra extraction. I'm alwayslike of aluxious woman. I mean,
we big dudes with mu Skiller.Sometimes life gets stressful, Yeah, life
get stressful, and kind of Ineed my counterpart to hold me up.
So yeah, yeah, it's it'sgood to I want you to carry me
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over the shoulder, like no,if you can carry me over the shoulders
like you built different, built realdifferent. I definitely definitely like you know,
luxious woman, and but no,yeah, it's it's just a question
that that a couple of fellows wastalking about. So I felt like,
you know, that's all. Let'sbring it up. That's all, that's
all, that's all. Let meask you this man, so what and
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it's new ever updating? What hasbeen some uncommon, some new uncommon etiquettes
and behaviors that you have encountered inthis dating world? Now have you accepted
it? Any recommendations how to copewith this madness? If you're not accepting
it, Like, what is someof the things that you have encounter like
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you know what I mean? Likethroughout this whole new era of dating,
I just think that, without question, send all emails to Jamal Breck,
Jamal fuckers whatever. But there isa reality right now in the in the
dating space and climate. I'm notgonna say all, but there's a healthy
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demographic of women that do have unprecedentedexpectations of man and how things are supposed
to go or what a relationship reallyconstitutes, or how it's supposed to operate.
And I think that I think thatthat there's a there's a disconnect that
that remains because once they revealed,Okay, this is what I'm looking for,
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this is my expectation of the man, and and vice versa, you
could kind of see the separation keepskeeps widening as far as like, is
that even possible, is he ableto even again sustain that type of lifestyle
or whatever the requests that the youngladies is asking it Quite frankly, you
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know, it's also understood that ifif it is a transactional which a lot
of times it is, then she'lljust go get it from somebody else.
So so so if if I wasa man, why would I sign up
for futch lofty, unrealistic exchanges whenwhen you think about it, she's designing
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the relationships that's for her, byher and because of her, And so
I know I just think that,uh, it's it's spooky out here.
I don't mean I don't know somehalloween thing because it's Halloween in October,
but it is spooky. But whatI accept that you got you gotta play
the game. The game is thegame, you know what I mean,
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the game and the game and andand and right now, it's it's a
it's a tricky one. It's atricky one. It is it is,
it is, it is. Yeah, it's there. There, there's this
has been a lot new, youknow, one of the new, uncommon
ones that were you know, we'reprobably not more familiar with for now,
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this day and ages. You know, the taking pictures of the food and
you know, like wait, wedon't eat yet, let me take a
picture. But they don't want to. They don't want to take a picture
of you. No, because they'reby themselves. Okay, they had two
plates though, Oh let me justtake a picture set up to the group
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check. I haven't I haven't experiencedthat. No, no, but you
know what I mean me but likeyou know what I mean. You you
see it enough where people like yo, damn, like why don't you post
me? Oh no, like youknow this is this. I just want
to know. I do this formy girls because the group chat, the
group chat, Okay, cool.I don't know. I just I just
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think that it is understood that bothmen and women absolutely want to be in
relationship, but at what level?And another question or layer is how often
right? I know right now thereis that holly controversial narrative or noise with
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respects of Jada Pickersmith. I loveyou, Jada, I love you,
Jada, go get that book worthy. But we are now seeing what Jada
Picktts Smith and Will Smith really meantwhen they said they literally took the voice
off the table. And I knowit's your uncondentional, unconditional, conventional and
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unorthodox, but maybe, just maybethey may be closer to the truth.
M hmm. Then what's prescribed andwhat's what's out here advertised as to what
exactly a relationshipship should consist of ofhow it's supposed to operate. But it's
it's tough, man, It's it'stough out there. It's it's not it's
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super tough. It's super tough whereit's's one of those things where it's just
like, you know, we're ina new day and age where we are
really figuring it out like as wego along, and and it's one of
those things where it's just like halfthe time we're wrong, it's like more
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than half because it's new, becauseit's so new, but now it's so
in that NetWorld, and we're ina world full of emotionally unstableness of a
lot of people where you're like,oh, I gotta thread lightly, I
gotta tread lightly with this topic,with this discussion, because I don't know
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what reaction I'm gonna get from himor her. Yeah, And I think
I think that's a great point becausethe reality also is with the advancement of
technology and how it's so quickly accelerating, especially with the mergers of AI,
I think it's also shifting the importanceof the emotional intelligence as opposed to just
regular IQ. The EQS is startingto take precedence, and so many people
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are trying to be therapists, butyou know, lead that to the professionals.
But another thing is speaking of thedating landscape and kind of the shift
in the new found dynamics of relationshipsbetween you know, men and women and
stuff. The question I do haveis is that any correlation of the growing
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noticeable number of women who don't cookall in the name of the advertised lifestyle
that you see on social media,and the alarming number of women unsatisfied with
their body matrix index is there acorrelation. Yes, you know, I
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I do think there's a correlation basedoff I think it's I think it's based
off the ignorance. Like I feellike a lot of people have this,
you know what I mean? Likeyou know, I don't know, like
I I you know, and don'tget me twisted, guys. You know,
ladies, you know you got it, you got your own voice.
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We all know you do. Allmy single ladies. I feel like a
lot of females are very persuade orinfluence by other dominant females or independently strong
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females. So if that female isdoing this and she's showcasing the lifestyle she
lives this, this young female maywant to follow suit, not knowing that
this person may understand Like, okay, listen, I'm not telling them that
I eat out every single day,but I'm telling them that I just eat
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out. This is my lifestyle.But whenever I go home, I prep
my meals, I eat kale,I do spinning shakes, you know what
I mean. I do yoga,I go to the gym, X,
Y and Z. So I feellike, you know, to answer your
question, you know, I feellike a lot of females you know that
have that lifestyle that want to eatout all the time and all this stuff,
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but then you don't cook. They'renot understanding the full lifestyle of it.
And you gotta be careful too,especially nowadays, you don't even know
what you're eating a lot of alot of processed food, and you know,
groceries are hoigh not just for theconsumer, but also but also the
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rest of the owners, the peoplepurchasing the food, right. And I
also just think that where the womenout in their sixties and seventies and fifties,
the kind of spill the information backdown to the younger generation. I
just think that there's kind of likea lap of information that you know.
I know, I know that somany women are like, oh, you
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know, if you say, oh, do you cook a clean it's extremely
emotional, I mean controversial questions.Especially down in Atlanta if you ask women
if you cook it cleans and theyalso go back to like, oh,
just ain't the sixties and the worldwe're not women are pressing the more.
I think that because they they heardabout them, or they heard about their
own they heard about their grandmothers,you know, just predominantly being at home
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and and maybe they say, baby, I wish I had my own money,
Baby, I wish I work morestead of being stayed at home.
And now the anti cethical complete oppositehas happened where women are now working,
women are now you know, thelion shared sometimes the breadwinner. But what
they but they what they don't haveis a man. And ultimately that's what
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that's what the goal is, theman. Grandma might not had the money,
Grandma might I had the job,but Grandma had papa. Grand Grandma
had grandpapa. Mama had papa,you know. And I think that that
is now slowly being replaced, Iknow, in the digital age and stuff
like that. In stead of man, they got a house instead of a
man, They got a car steadof a man. They got these all
these other objects, and that's wheretheir justification is. But the main thing
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is the main thing. They wanta man and they don't got a man.
Right, So they can, theycan, they can showcase all of
the shiny things, but ultimately,when a man looks at that, and
here's what they're saying, he's saying, that's great and everything, but uh,
where's a man. Where's a man? You know what I'm saying so
yeah, and and so uh.I mean, this is a lot of
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other topics we could discuss, discussthat you know, is right off,
right off of this particular subject matter. But I I just hear so many
women that that I may talk aboutthat, but then they still privately are
frustrated that they don't have a man. Yeah. I feel like I feel,
like, you know what I mean, they're just, you know,
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it's stuck in this void. They'restuck in this weird void where you know,
they're trying to fulfill two generations.They're trying to fulfill the new generation
and they're trying to fulfill their oldold ways of the way that they grew
up on, Like you know whatI mean. Likes are great, intentions
are great. But I do thinkthat, Uh, that's why I think
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there's an information gap. It's justbecause so often it's it's almost if like
it they're reading from the same scriptand saying the same thing. The rebuttals
are the same, the questions,the same silence is the same, Like
what I got something just along thatline, like yo, because because I
wanted to ask you, like makeit make sense, you know, like
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you just said, like you knowsome of the stuff is not adding up
nowadays, Like my thing is islike this some like I feel that there's
a lot more stuff that doesn't addup where it's just like wait, what
like so perfect example, like sweetheart, you gotta you make sixty thousand a
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year, you're in an apartment,tudor hand the civic judgment. But then
you want your your partner to makesix figures on a house and drive an
expensive car. How does that makesense? How does that make sense?
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Like, make it make sense forme? I can make it make sense?
Does it doesn't? It doesn't makeit doesn't add up for me?
Yeah, I can't. I thinkthat it is for that young lady who
has that expectations financially for the fortheir man to to to explain that one.
But that that also is somewhat commonplace. And I believe if you wanted
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somebody that's six two that makes oversix figures, and that's it. All
all the things that you you hearso often that's distributed it and uh,
you know, repeated on social media. I think it's like a three percent.
It's like going to the league.When you and I went to the
league, it's like it's like theywant they want them, they want to
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go to the league. So Idon't know whoever is uh doing this agenda
thing is doing a phenomenal job becausehonestly and in all seriousness, just like
the gap just keeps widening when peoplesit down and get real about the conversation
about what they want or we're seeinga relationship. And then the further along
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you get along that journey down thatroad, you realize how far apart the
reality is for what you thought itis. And and the bottom line is
this, you could get what youwant. Yeah, you could get what
you want. It just may notlook like the way you want it to
look, right. And I thinkthat we all fall victim to that we're
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human, we're not perfect, youknow what I mean? That the spooky
out there it is, it justdoesn't it doesn't like you know what I
mean. Like I just wanted tomake sense, like you know what I
mean, Like I'm not saying ladiesgentlemen don't shoot for the stars, like,
but like at the same time,make it make it like reasonable,
like you know what I mean,Like you know what I mean, Like
if you you know, we're athletes, so we could relate to certain things
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like you know, if you ifyou got D three skills, I don't
think you're gonna get picked up froma D one school, like you know
what I mean, Like you gottabe a realistical and then you have to
sit there and be like, yo, I'm D three worthy. Maybe I
should start looking at getting a job. But in this situation too, they're
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the recruiter, they're the institution,they're the coaches, so they can stand
on that hill as long as theywant to. But yeah, the reality
is that tick tick tick tick ticktick, and it doesn't make sense,
like you know what I mean,Like I get it, man, everyone
should have their standards. Everyone shouldhave standards. But like, at the
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same time, if you can't achievethose same standards that you're trying to put
on another person, I don't thinkthe math is had enough. The math
faint mathing, Like Moll said,yo, Mall said, yo, the
math faint math is like you seewhat I'm saying. So it's just one
of those things where it's like,yo, it used to be funny.
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I used to laugh it like that. She said, what, oh,
that's how they feel. That wasnot funny, But now you know,
tick tick tick tick. Right,you know, as as you get older
and you see more, you seelike, oh shoot, this is a
real thing, and it's it's notproductive, it's not it's not going to
get people the results that they ultimatelywant. And it's just this constant,
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unsatisfactory, unhappy, cyclical thing thathappens that. But I think conversation like
this and and just continue to youknow, go through that process. Hopefully
things change with new information. I'mhoping. I'm hoping because it's like I
don't know where they getting the inspirationfeelm. I don't know where the the
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movies, TV, social media,the songs. Yeah, but you know,
all this stuff ends right as whatthey want. No, that's what
they wanted. That's what Davi want. Sweet are man. All I'm saying
is yo, just you know whatI mean, aim for the aim for
the moon. But yo, likedamn, I got I got a couple
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of a couple of other questions quickones. No, but okay, go
ahead with what you're going You wantto close the remarks? No, no,
all right, So I stop onthis topic. Right, Okay,
So I say you need to meeta woman that you're digging. You feeling
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Yeah, but she says, yourage, I'm not not cooking you staying
on No mo Like wait wait,she says, she's not she's not cooking.
You want you you mean when I'mI don't cook? Oh oh oh,
she's saying, like, oh,she don't cook or nothing like that
cooking, she's not cooking. Ineed an alternative thing, like you know
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what I mean? Like are yougonna order out? Like you know what
I mean? Like I think it'sjust like yo, if you're not gonna
cook, you're not gonna cook.But you said that from staying Yeah,
you're gonna stay with her, keeppursuing. No, I need, I
need, I need, I need, I need. I need to know
that you could you can hold yourself. I need you. I need to
know something I need. I needto know that, like yo, like
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I need to know me No,but like I need to know that you
could hold it down for yourself.Says like, I think it's important.
It's important that I know that youknow you could survive. How'd you make
it this fall? We both weboth could cook. I'm sure, yeah,
but yeah, I just I justthink I just think it's important.
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That's very important. All right.So on that note too, with respects
to the cleaning, are you bigon like somebody who actually cleans or you
know, because everyone's busy, theman and the woman's working. So would
you also entertain idea if every otherweek or somebody you have a cleaner come
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by, as opposed to just havingjust y'all too predominantly clean twenty twenty three,
there's more options. No, no, no, I need to know,
Like I get, I could getit if we have a super super
busy schedule like where we're moguls andour time is. But like you know,
if we if we could kick itright after working a nine to five,
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we could clean the house, likeyou know what I mean. And
I think I think that you know, we and we chopped up about it.
I think it is therapeutical, youknow, and and I and I
think it creates more of a betterbond with with you and your counterpart.
Like you know, your guys arecleaning together. You guys are doing something
together. It may not even youcould throw soap at each other, you
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know what I mean. It's somewhereit's corny and after you clean, order
pizza, like you know what Imean. It's cheesy. It's cheesy,
but like you know what I mean, but it's I feel like it's therapeutic,
whereas it's like, I mean,we did this, you know,
Okay, it's Facebook worthy. Idefinitely, And it depends on Yeah,
I definitely definitely enjoyed clean stuff likethat. But I couldn't see how it
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could be a little bit more convenientif once a month, you know,
every other week two times you know, I mean the other month something like
that where somebody comes comes in andhelp to give relief and things of that
nature as well. I can see. I can see that as a I
can see that also. Finally,well then you would you wouldn't entertained like
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nannies and all that stuff. Likelike I said, if it's it depends
on the lifestyle that we have,like if we all like on the on
the go every day, Like Iget it, I get it, bro
Like yeah, yea said it best. He was like yo, like like
the camp the yeah, like yeah, you know what I mean, stop
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taking a credit like you know whatI mean. Like it's just one of
those things where it's just like yo, like if it if it warrants the
lifestyle and we're gonna kill two birdswith one stone. But you always gotta
remember, like yo, you needthat authenticity to you know, bring up
your children, your family. SoI believe that, yeah, because there's
no there's no when you cut corners, don't expect a squid deal. I
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remember Bill said that back in theday. But but now, yeah,
okay, that's just I think that'simportant. I think something that that that
I hear both noise from men andwomen who are in relationship, long term
relationship relationships, that that's still somethingthat is often discussed. So uh now,
just just carry what your thoughts withsome positive remarks before we get out
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of here. If you're on ifyou, if you if you're on a
team, or you're screaming, we'rea team, we're a team. We're
a team. We're teams. Youcan't keep calling isolation place, talk about
it. You can't keep calling thatsolution, talk about it. But uh
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yeah, that's that was I likethat. I like that. I like
that. I like that. BigsBurke Man shout out man. I seen
that one the other day. Isaid, baby, I gotta use that
one. That was good. No, I liked it. I like that
because it's just like, yo,it's like, especially if you're in a
relationship, can't be high. Alittle bit of words of wisdom before we
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go. People. You know,I know Mama was talking about BBW is
like it's funny like you know,yo, it's funny like you know how
like when when heavy heavy girls layon you and they asked you, am
I heavy? And I'll be likea little bit, a little bit more
of the story. People, listen, I'm alright with you not liking me.
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I'm just mad that you lie tome about it. You heard sal
you teations Man. I want tothank you guys rocking out with us for
another episode of Beings Cone Squenz offthe books. We got bottom lip Burke
in the building till next time.You already know the viz Man Fightations two
Of A. J. McLaughlin.I'm Ryan Rue, I'm DJ richis the
tough fo of Plinny Martinez and weare the hosts of Opinions and Consequences,
the podcast, the show where Europeanscan lead to consequences. So choose your
words wise look during the show.Oh and old man, people, man,
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welcome back to another episode of BeingsGone. It's off the books man,
you know the thought provoking, thesometimes controversial, the spark fire setting
conversations that we have here on theBeings Conference. Off the books, you
know, the condensed version of thefull version of the pans Conference. I'm
your host, agamcloughlin. Are youa bottom line? Burke and the building?
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What's BOUI? Lizzie Many in thebuilding. Yeah, it's good.
Viddy, Yeah, I like,I I yeah, I like. Oh
thank you man, thank you beingback in Boston. You know, sometimes
it gets cold again. My man, my man got accustom winter blazer.
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Hey, real quick, I gotyou. I gotta tell you you have
at the airport. In the airportright, so I woke up cold of
lake. You know what I'm saying. Usually when you you turn forty plus
once you crash that line expect certainthings not to work right Friday, six
o'clock flight, so I'm not thinkingof the alarm ain't gonna work. But
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it didn't right, So I wokeup late. Long story short, went
to the airport. I got therelike five o three oh. No flight
leaves at six, so I hadto I quickly turned it, went got
the park, you know, withthe podcast, and everything got the buzzy
turned to no doubt and it's myright. Went to the front of the
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lines. I love my idea.I love my idea, let my id
I was already here. I wasalready here. No, no, no,
no, Yo, nine hundred andninety people and they went for it.
Congratulations to everybody that was there,because I was shocked. I wasn't
gonna make it. Yo. Seewhat I'm talking about. You know what
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I'm saying. But because that's listen, man, we don't get right into
the meeting potatoes people. Guys.Man, this episode is about the new
era of dating. Man, malI know you have some questions. Man,
Let's let's let's get to it.Let's get to it. Let's get
(02:35):
a little spicy too, ship likeokay, all right, but check it.
Let's get to it. So whatare your qualification? We both husky
something. What's your qualification of ab b W with respects to women?
(03:00):
What's your what's your over and under? Oh my god, okay, listen,
I'm a direct over here first,Okay, people, I want to
make eye contact you. Listen,sweetheart, if you're if your if your
gut goes over your belt buckle,it's game over. It's game over.
Disrespect man. This is respectfully speaking, like you know what I mean.
(03:22):
Like they're certainly like you know BBWs. I love my bbw's like they keep
you warm in the winter, youknow what I mean. Bbw's are supposed
to be loved every all walks oflife is supposed to be I'm loved,
Okay, but yeah I have.They can't. They can't pass that threshold.
(03:43):
If I'm questioning your weight, it'snot happening. Like I'm like,
if I look you, I'm sizeyou up, and I'm like, no,
bread frame, My bed frame isnot gonna. It's not gonna.
It's not gonna last. Got holdup, it gotta it, gotta hold
up. But well, you know, the ladies down Atlantic they tell me
(04:04):
often too that there is there isa healthy demographic of men. I don't
mind a little extra tummy tuck andbecause there's a lot of women that be
wearing a short shirts. The talkwith Ezekiel Elliott with the belly out though,
yeah, with the belly out winningthe boo, that's prominent a little
(04:25):
bit. That's probably Hey, youknow, I no judgment, you do
what you do. But no,that was just something that came up.
A couple of fellas was asking youknow about that, So I was like,
I'm going to boss, let meask j. So like where you
don't have you have an over andunder, you have like what's like what's
your what's your what's you're over likewhere you're like, nah, it's not
(04:46):
gonna happen, like it's just likesis, I'm not. I can't when
the extra layers come out where theygot like a sweated hand coke, like
you can't be built like a twoliter coke, Like if if if if
I look at you and I seethat if I'm all I'm thinking about is
like have you been eating silly puddy? Like you know what I mean?
Like I gotta these are certain thingswhere I'm just like I think it's the
(05:10):
personality too. I think it's justif if she's still bubbly and still affectionate
and still uh you know, stillgood energy in each other's presidence, you
know. I think that is longestit depends and this season on my life,
No today, absolutely not. I'mjust saying in general, I have
(05:32):
to have to kind of go backto the yester years but no today,
No, So like, what's what'sthe under for a BBW? Like you
know how some some girls be like, oh, I'm thick the light rad
group, but you don't girls belike, I'm thick, I like the
(05:53):
cups I like but then you're lookingat them like but then it goes back
to attitude personality. No one doesit does it does that confidence? That
thing that thing does does wonders tooto help you kind of maybe overlook some
things if you are in the indecisive, you know, teetering on maybe a
(06:14):
wool or not. But today,no, I'm not doing the overflow or
just the extra extraction. I'm alwayslike of aluxious woman. I mean,
we big dudes with mu Skiller.Sometimes life gets stressful, Yeah, life
get stressful, and kind of Ineed my counterpart to hold me up.
So yeah, yeah, it's it'sgood to I want you to carry me
(06:35):
over the shoulder, like no,if you can carry me over the shoulders
like you built different, built realdifferent. I definitely definitely like you know,
luxious woman, and but no,yeah, it's it's just a question
that that a couple of fellows wastalking about. So I felt like,
you know, that's all. Let'sbring it up. That's all, that's
all, that's all. Let meask you this man, so what and
(06:56):
it's new ever updating? What hasbeen some uncommon, some new uncommon etiquettes
and behaviors that you have encountered inthis dating world? Now have you accepted
it? Any recommendations how to copewith this madness? If you're not accepting
it, Like, what is someof the things that you have encounter like
(07:19):
you know what I mean? Likethroughout this whole new era of dating,
I just think that, without question, send all emails to Jamal Breck,
Jamal fuckers whatever. But there isa reality right now in the in the
dating space and climate. I'm notgonna say all, but there's a healthy
(07:44):
demographic of women that do have unprecedentedexpectations of man and how things are supposed
to go or what a relationship reallyconstitutes, or how it's supposed to operate.
And I think that I think thatthat there's a there's a disconnect that
that remains because once they revealed,Okay, this is what I'm looking for,
(08:09):
this is my expectation of the man, and and vice versa, you
could kind of see the separation keepskeeps widening as far as like, is
that even possible, is he ableto even again sustain that type of lifestyle
or whatever the requests that the youngladies is asking it Quite frankly, you
(08:31):
know, it's also understood that ifif it is a transactional which a lot
of times it is, then she'lljust go get it from somebody else.
So so so if if I wasa man, why would I sign up
for futch lofty, unrealistic exchanges whenwhen you think about it, she's designing
(08:52):
the relationships that's for her, byher and because of her, And so
I know I just think that,uh, it's it's spooky out here.
I don't mean I don't know somehalloween thing because it's Halloween in October,
but it is spooky. But whatI accept that you got you gotta play
the game. The game is thegame, you know what I mean,
(09:13):
the game and the game and andand and right now, it's it's a
it's a tricky one. It's atricky one. It is it is,
it is, it is. Yeah, it's there. There, there's this
has been a lot new, youknow, one of the new, uncommon
ones that were you know, we'reprobably not more familiar with for now,
(09:35):
this day and ages. You know, the taking pictures of the food and
you know, like wait, wedon't eat yet, let me take a
picture. But they don't want to. They don't want to take a picture
of you. No, because they'reby themselves. Okay, they had two
plates though, Oh let me justtake a picture set up to the group
(09:56):
check. I haven't I haven't experiencedthat. No, no, but you
know what I mean me but likeyou know what I mean. You you
see it enough where people like yo, damn, like why don't you post
me? Oh no, like youknow this is this. I just want
to know. I do this formy girls because the group chat, the
group chat, Okay, cool.I don't know. I just I just
(10:18):
think that it is understood that bothmen and women absolutely want to be in
relationship, but at what level?And another question or layer is how often
right? I know right now thereis that holly controversial narrative or noise with
(10:41):
respects of Jada Pickersmith. I loveyou, Jada, I love you,
Jada, go get that book worthy. But we are now seeing what Jada
Picktts Smith and Will Smith really meantwhen they said they literally took the voice
off the table. And I knowit's your uncondentional, unconditional, conventional and
(11:03):
unorthodox, but maybe, just maybethey may be closer to the truth.
M hmm. Then what's prescribed andwhat's what's out here advertised as to what
exactly a relationshipship should consist of ofhow it's supposed to operate. But it's
it's tough, man, It's it'stough out there. It's it's not it's
(11:24):
super tough. It's super tough whereit's's one of those things where it's just
like, you know, we're ina new day and age where we are
really figuring it out like as wego along, and and it's one of
those things where it's just like halfthe time we're wrong, it's like more
(11:45):
than half because it's new, becauseit's so new, but now it's so
in that NetWorld, and we're ina world full of emotionally unstableness of a
lot of people where you're like,oh, I gotta thread lightly, I
gotta tread lightly with this topic,with this discussion, because I don't know
(12:07):
what reaction I'm gonna get from himor her. Yeah, And I think
I think that's a great point becausethe reality also is with the advancement of
technology and how it's so quickly accelerating, especially with the mergers of AI,
I think it's also shifting the importanceof the emotional intelligence as opposed to just
regular IQ. The EQS is startingto take precedence, and so many people
(12:33):
are trying to be therapists, butyou know, lead that to the professionals.
But another thing is speaking of thedating landscape and kind of the shift
in the new found dynamics of relationshipsbetween you know, men and women and
stuff. The question I do haveis is that any correlation of the growing
(12:56):
noticeable number of women who don't cookall in the name of the advertised lifestyle
that you see on social media,and the alarming number of women unsatisfied with
their body matrix index is there acorrelation. Yes, you know, I
(13:16):
I do think there's a correlation basedoff I think it's I think it's based
off the ignorance. Like I feellike a lot of people have this,
you know what I mean? Likeyou know, I don't know, like
I I you know, and don'tget me twisted, guys. You know,
ladies, you know you got it, you got your own voice.
(13:39):
We all know you do. Allmy single ladies. I feel like a
lot of females are very persuade orinfluence by other dominant females or independently strong
(14:03):
females. So if that female isdoing this and she's showcasing the lifestyle she
lives this, this young female maywant to follow suit, not knowing that
this person may understand Like, okay, listen, I'm not telling them that
I eat out every single day,but I'm telling them that I just eat
(14:24):
out. This is my lifestyle.But whenever I go home, I prep
my meals, I eat kale,I do spinning shakes, you know what
I mean. I do yoga,I go to the gym, X,
Y and Z. So I feellike, you know, to answer your
question, you know, I feellike a lot of females you know that
have that lifestyle that want to eatout all the time and all this stuff,
(14:46):
but then you don't cook. They'renot understanding the full lifestyle of it.
And you gotta be careful too,especially nowadays, you don't even know
what you're eating a lot of alot of processed food, and you know,
groceries are hoigh not just for theconsumer, but also but also the
(15:11):
rest of the owners, the peoplepurchasing the food, right. And I
also just think that where the womenout in their sixties and seventies and fifties,
the kind of spill the information backdown to the younger generation. I
just think that there's kind of likea lap of information that you know.
I know, I know that somany women are like, oh, you
(15:33):
know, if you say, oh, do you cook a clean it's extremely
emotional, I mean controversial questions.Especially down in Atlanta if you ask women
if you cook it cleans and theyalso go back to like, oh,
just ain't the sixties and the worldwe're not women are pressing the more.
I think that because they they heardabout them, or they heard about their
own they heard about their grandmothers,you know, just predominantly being at home
(15:56):
and and maybe they say, baby, I wish I had my own money,
Baby, I wish I work morestead of being stayed at home.
And now the anti cethical complete oppositehas happened where women are now working,
women are now you know, thelion shared sometimes the breadwinner. But what
they but they what they don't haveis a man. And ultimately that's what
(16:17):
that's what the goal is, theman. Grandma might not had the money,
Grandma might I had the job,but Grandma had papa. Grand Grandma
had grandpapa. Mama had papa,you know. And I think that that
is now slowly being replaced, Iknow, in the digital age and stuff
like that. In stead of man, they got a house instead of a
man, They got a car steadof a man. They got these all
these other objects, and that's wheretheir justification is. But the main thing
(16:42):
is the main thing. They wanta man and they don't got a man.
Right, So they can, theycan, they can showcase all of
the shiny things, but ultimately,when a man looks at that, and
here's what they're saying, he's saying, that's great and everything, but uh,
where's a man. Where's a man? You know what I'm saying so
yeah, and and so uh.I mean, this is a lot of
(17:03):
other topics we could discuss, discussthat you know, is right off,
right off of this particular subject matter. But I I just hear so many
women that that I may talk aboutthat, but then they still privately are
frustrated that they don't have a man. Yeah. I feel like I feel,
like, you know what I mean, they're just, you know,
(17:27):
it's stuck in this void. They'restuck in this weird void where you know,
they're trying to fulfill two generations.They're trying to fulfill the new generation
and they're trying to fulfill their oldold ways of the way that they grew
up on, Like you know whatI mean. Likes are great, intentions
are great. But I do thinkthat, Uh, that's why I think
(17:48):
there's an information gap. It's justbecause so often it's it's almost if like
it they're reading from the same scriptand saying the same thing. The rebuttals
are the same, the questions,the same silence is the same, Like
what I got something just along thatline, like yo, because because I
wanted to ask you, like makeit make sense, you know, like
(18:10):
you just said, like you knowsome of the stuff is not adding up
nowadays, Like my thing is islike this some like I feel that there's
a lot more stuff that doesn't addup where it's just like wait, what
like so perfect example, like sweetheart, you gotta you make sixty thousand a
(18:32):
year, you're in an apartment,tudor hand the civic judgment. But then
you want your your partner to makesix figures on a house and drive an
expensive car. How does that makesense? How does that make sense?
(18:56):
Like, make it make sense forme? I can make it make sense?
Does it doesn't? It doesn't makeit doesn't add up for me?
Yeah, I can't. I thinkthat it is for that young lady who
has that expectations financially for the fortheir man to to to explain that one.
But that that also is somewhat commonplace. And I believe if you wanted
(19:18):
somebody that's six two that makes oversix figures, and that's it. All
all the things that you you hearso often that's distributed it and uh,
you know, repeated on social media. I think it's like a three percent.
It's like going to the league.When you and I went to the
league, it's like it's like theywant they want them, they want to
(19:38):
go to the league. So Idon't know whoever is uh doing this agenda
thing is doing a phenomenal job becausehonestly and in all seriousness, just like
the gap just keeps widening when peoplesit down and get real about the conversation
about what they want or we're seeinga relationship. And then the further along
(20:03):
you get along that journey down thatroad, you realize how far apart the
reality is for what you thought itis. And and the bottom line is
this, you could get what youwant. Yeah, you could get what
you want. It just may notlook like the way you want it to
look, right. And I thinkthat we all fall victim to that we're
(20:26):
human, we're not perfect, youknow what I mean? That the spooky
out there it is, it justdoesn't it doesn't like you know what I
mean. Like I just wanted tomake sense, like you know what I
mean, Like I'm not saying ladiesgentlemen don't shoot for the stars, like,
but like at the same time,make it make it like reasonable,
like you know what I mean,Like you know what I mean, Like
if you you know, we're athletes, so we could relate to certain things
(20:51):
like you know, if you ifyou got D three skills, I don't
think you're gonna get picked up froma D one school, like you know
what I mean, Like you gottabe a realistical and then you have to
sit there and be like, yo, I'm D three worthy. Maybe I
should start looking at getting a job. But in this situation too, they're
(21:12):
the recruiter, they're the institution,they're the coaches, so they can stand
on that hill as long as theywant to. But yeah, the reality
is that tick tick tick tick ticktick, and it doesn't make sense,
like you know what I mean,Like I get it, man, everyone
should have their standards. Everyone shouldhave standards. But like, at the
(21:33):
same time, if you can't achievethose same standards that you're trying to put
on another person, I don't thinkthe math is had enough. The math
faint mathing, Like Moll said,yo, Mall said, yo, the
math faint math is like you seewhat I'm saying. So it's just one
of those things where it's like,yo, it used to be funny.
(21:55):
I used to laugh it like that. She said, what, oh,
that's how they feel. That wasnot funny, But now you know,
tick tick tick tick. Right,you know, as as you get older
and you see more, you seelike, oh shoot, this is a
real thing, and it's it's notproductive, it's not it's not going to
get people the results that they ultimatelywant. And it's just this constant,
(22:18):
unsatisfactory, unhappy, cyclical thing thathappens that. But I think conversation like
this and and just continue to youknow, go through that process. Hopefully
things change with new information. I'mhoping. I'm hoping because it's like I
don't know where they getting the inspirationfeelm. I don't know where the the
(22:40):
movies, TV, social media,the songs. Yeah, but you know,
all this stuff ends right as whatthey want. No, that's what
they wanted. That's what Davi want. Sweet are man. All I'm saying
is yo, just you know whatI mean, aim for the aim for
the moon. But yo, likedamn, I got I got a couple
(23:02):
of a couple of other questions quickones. No, but okay, go
ahead with what you're going You wantto close the remarks? No, no,
all right, So I stop onthis topic. Right, Okay,
So I say you need to meeta woman that you're digging. You feeling
(23:23):
Yeah, but she says, yourage, I'm not not cooking you staying
on No mo Like wait wait,she says, she's not she's not cooking.
You want you you mean when I'mI don't cook? Oh oh oh,
she's saying, like, oh,she don't cook or nothing like that
cooking, she's not cooking. Ineed an alternative thing, like you know
(23:45):
what I mean? Like are yougonna order out? Like you know what
I mean? Like I think it'sjust like yo, if you're not gonna
cook, you're not gonna cook.But you said that from staying Yeah,
you're gonna stay with her, keeppursuing. No, I need, I
need, I need, I need, I need. I need to know
that you could you can hold yourself. I need you. I need to
know something I need. I needto know that, like yo, like
(24:06):
I need to know me No,but like I need to know that you
could hold it down for yourself.Says like, I think it's important.
It's important that I know that youknow you could survive. How'd you make
it this fall? We both weboth could cook. I'm sure, yeah,
but yeah, I just I justthink I just think it's important.
(24:27):
That's very important. All right.So on that note too, with respects
to the cleaning, are you bigon like somebody who actually cleans or you
know, because everyone's busy, theman and the woman's working. So would
you also entertain idea if every otherweek or somebody you have a cleaner come
(24:48):
by, as opposed to just havingjust y'all too predominantly clean twenty twenty three,
there's more options. No, no, no, I need to know,
Like I get, I could getit if we have a super super
busy schedule like where we're moguls andour time is. But like you know,
if we if we could kick itright after working a nine to five,
(25:11):
we could clean the house, likeyou know what I mean. And
I think I think that you know, we and we chopped up about it.
I think it is therapeutical, youknow, and and I and I
think it creates more of a betterbond with with you and your counterpart.
Like you know, your guys arecleaning together. You guys are doing something
together. It may not even youcould throw soap at each other, you
(25:32):
know what I mean. It's somewhereit's corny and after you clean, order
pizza, like you know what Imean. It's cheesy. It's cheesy,
but like you know what I mean, but it's I feel like it's therapeutic,
whereas it's like, I mean,we did this, you know,
Okay, it's Facebook worthy. Idefinitely, And it depends on Yeah,
I definitely definitely enjoyed clean stuff likethat. But I couldn't see how it
(25:56):
could be a little bit more convenientif once a month, you know,
every other week two times you know, I mean the other month something like
that where somebody comes comes in andhelp to give relief and things of that
nature as well. I can see. I can see that as a I
can see that also. Finally,well then you would you wouldn't entertained like
(26:18):
nannies and all that stuff. Likelike I said, if it's it depends
on the lifestyle that we have,like if we all like on the on
the go every day, Like Iget it, I get it, bro
Like yeah, yea said it best. He was like yo, like like
the camp the yeah, like yeah, you know what I mean, stop
(26:45):
taking a credit like you know whatI mean. Like it's just one of
those things where it's just like yo, like if it if it warrants the
lifestyle and we're gonna kill two birdswith one stone. But you always gotta
remember, like yo, you needthat authenticity to you know, bring up
your children, your family. SoI believe that, yeah, because there's
no there's no when you cut corners, don't expect a squid deal. I
(27:07):
remember Bill said that back in theday. But but now, yeah,
okay, that's just I think that'simportant. I think something that that that
I hear both noise from men andwomen who are in relationship, long term
relationship relationships, that that's still somethingthat is often discussed. So uh now,
just just carry what your thoughts withsome positive remarks before we get out
(27:32):
of here. If you're on ifyou, if you if you're on a
team, or you're screaming, we'rea team, we're a team. We're
a team. We're teams. Youcan't keep calling isolation place, talk about
it. You can't keep calling thatsolution, talk about it. But uh
(27:52):
yeah, that's that was I likethat. I like that. I like
that. I like that. BigsBurke Man shout out man. I seen
that one the other day. Isaid, baby, I gotta use that
one. That was good. No, I liked it. I like that
because it's just like, yo,it's like, especially if you're in a
relationship, can't be high. Alittle bit of words of wisdom before we
(28:15):
go. People. You know,I know Mama was talking about BBW is
like it's funny like you know,yo, it's funny like you know how
like when when heavy heavy girls layon you and they asked you, am
I heavy? And I'll be likea little bit, a little bit more
of the story. People, listen, I'm alright with you not liking me.
(28:41):
I'm just mad that you lie tome about it. You heard sal
you teations Man. I want tothank you guys rocking out with us for
another episode of Beings Cone Squenz offthe books. We got bottom lip Burke
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