December 29, 2022 • 14 mins
In this solo episode of Parenting Decolonized, I’m sharing my plans for 2023 and the exciting (and much-needed) changes I’m making to both my life and the Parenting Decolonized community. Spoiler alert! I’m moving Parenting Decolonized to YouTube! Listen in to hear why I’m doing this, along with my thoughts on a 2023 conference, the books I’m starting to write and publish, and the podcast I’m thinking of starting with the ladies of the Black Femme Freedom Collective. These are exciting shifts so if you want to join me for the ride, get on board and buckle up! Thank you for being such a beautiful, caring, and supportive community. Take care and I’ll talk to you in 2023.
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(00:12):
Welcome to the Parenting Decolonized Podcast.I'm your host, Elanda Williams, entrepreneur,
conscious parenting coach, and single momto want Amazing Tyler. I'm on
a mission to help shine the lighton how colonization has impacted the black family
structure. If you're a parent thatwants to learn how decolonize your parenting,
You're in the right place. Let'sdo this. Welcome back to the Parenting
(00:37):
de Colonized Podcast. I'm your host, you Londa Williams, And this today
is the fifteenth of December, Okay, making this pod halfway through December,
and I wanted to just take thistime to talk to y'all about the future
of the Parenting Decolonized Podcast. AndI really just first of all, want
(00:58):
to start by saying thank you everso much for being such an amazing community,
for being an amazing community of peoplewho are listeners, who are willing
to step into the gap for me, willing to educate me, you know
because I ain't always right, willingto give me feedback, willing to support
me. Thank you so much foreverything. What I'm recognizing for myself is
(01:25):
just the need to slow down theneed to recognize my capacity. I have
been operating like I am more thanone person for a very long time,
and I'm getting to a point whereI, especially as I build out,
(01:46):
you know, this community with theladies of the Black Film Freedom Collective,
I'm getting to the point where I'mtired of lying to myself. So with
that in mind, I want tobe very very clear in twenty three about
my actual capacity, what I'm ableto do, and honor that. Honor
(02:07):
my ability to show up for myselfand for my daughter first, and make
sure that I'm not putting more onmy plate than I can handle, because
what happens is then I end upburnt out and then I end up just
spiraling into depression and disassociating. AndI did that for months out of twenty
(02:30):
twenty two months. I don't wantto do that anymore. I want to
honor myself more in twenty twenty three, and I want to make some shifts
in parenting E Colonize that support this. My biggest thing is trying to figure
out how to have a business suchas Parenting E Colonized, where I support
(02:52):
black parents, where I support teachers, where I support anyone who's listening right
to make content and to create coursesand to make conferences and make them accessible
price wise, ability wise, likemake them accessible while also making sure that
I am taking care of myself,able to pay my own bills, able
(03:15):
to pay rent, all the otherstuff. So that's kind of where I'm
at. What I decided to dowith the Parenting to Colonize podcast is transition
over to YouTube. That way,I am able to make a little bit
income off of the views, andit allows me to have a little bit
(03:38):
more flexibility if I'm making passive incomeoff of people, you know, watching
the podcast. Now, I'll stillhave an audio version, and I will
definitely try to make sure because youknow, because I'm making this transition,
I'm not going to be using myproduction company next year. And it also
helps save some money. Putting ontothis podcast is big expense, and I
(04:00):
don't talk about it much because it'snot you know, nothing that y'all.
It's my business expense, and Iappreciate all my patreons because y'all be paid
for it, but it does notpay for the whole thing. And so
I had to make some really harddecisions about what I'm able to keep doing
in twenty twenty three to help mybusiness sort of expand. So I'm going
(04:25):
to be letting go of the productioncompany and just gonna be putting things on
YouTube. It's going to be youknow, raw unedited, maybe even live,
and I'll still try to have transcriptsand make it so y'all can listen.
I'm to go. But that's whereparentedy Colonize is headed its head it
to YouTube. I'm gonna be usingyou know, social media as a way
(04:47):
to sort of push people over there, and I'm doing that again so I
can have recurring income. I'm alsogoing to be possibly launching a podcast with
the ladies of the Black Fim FreedomCollective, and some of our stuff will
be overlapping. So these are someof the plans that I have. I
(05:10):
haven't decided on the conference yet,if that's still going to happen in twenty
twenty three. One thing I cantell y'all is that I have some big
plans. I'm you know, I'mI decided to start writing a book.
I already started speaking with a publisher, and the book is I hope going
(05:30):
to be called. I mean,I you know, having a publisher,
things may change, but it's basicallylike a book for change bakers or for
psycho breakers. I'm sorry, thePsycho Breakers handbook. I started writing that
I'm super excited for me for myselfto be a published author in twenty twenty
(05:51):
three, and I also already wrotea children's book, So another thing for
twenty three is me getting this illustratedand getting it's probably self published, so
y'all can have it. It's aboutfeelings, and I really think it's important.
It definitely aligns with, you know, the work that I do.
(06:15):
Let me see mostly over the nextmonth. Right today, it stays the
fifteenth of December. Over the nextmonth or so, actually all of winter.
I'm not making any resolutions. Ihave goals in mind, but I'm
not making any resolutions. I'm reallygoing to just embody what it means to
(06:40):
sort of commune with nature and bein what am I trying to say?
I really just want to embody likenatural cycles of nature. I no longer
want to fight against nature. Ifeel like someone on TikTok was like,
I don't think seasonal depression exists outsideof these capitalistic, you know, the
(07:03):
white cappist patriarchy. And she's mostlikely right. The reason why so many
of us feel terrible during the wintertime. It's not just because we don't get
enough sun, right, it's becausewe are fighting against our body's natural cycle
to hybridate, to slow down,to rest, to eat seasonal food,
(07:30):
to eat really warm food, tomake sure that we are nourishing our minds
and our bodies and storing up energyfor the rebirth that is spraying in summer.
And I really just want to leaninto that. I really want to
lean into cyclical living, attuning myselfto natural cycles. So I'm not going
(07:54):
to be doing any resolutions because resolutionsit really just feels like, you know,
okay, the first comes and allof a sudden, we're supposed to
be expected to change all of thesehabits that we've had, you know,
over the past few years. Andit's unrealistic and it's unnatural, and it's
a reason why so many resolutions failbecause they're not natural. It's not natural
(08:18):
to try to make big shifts duringthe winter. That is a shift like
that comes after you have the energyand you store up and you and you
do the work to just internal workslowly and quietly during the winter, and
then spring comes and there's rebirth,and then summer comes and there's so much
(08:39):
more growth, right Like, that'show nature works, That's how plants work,
That's how a lot of animals work. I feel like humans need to
get on and get on track,need to get on board. So that's
what I'm doing, Okay, AndI am going to take this time to
just, you know, again,put my goals out there, but not
(09:00):
in a way that's just like,all right now the first comes, I'm
gonna make a new calendar. I'mgonna journal. I'm not getting the motherfucking
journal, y'all. I'm not.I'm not journaling as far as my resolution,
none of that stuff. I'm restingas much as I can. And
there are seven different types of restfor anyone. Every time I mentioned rest,
somebody's always like, well, Ican't just be sleeping all day,
(09:22):
Okay, neither can I. Okay. What I'm saying is there's different types
of rest. There's seven different types. And what I'll do in the show
notes is linked to an article aboutthe seven different types of rest. Because
exercising is a form of rest,right, meditation is a form of rest.
(09:43):
There's seven different types, and I, of course can't think of them
right now, So do one ofthem. If you can't take a nap,
figure out how you can incorporate acouple of these into your life.
So you are restoring yourself, youare taking care of yourself. And also,
(10:03):
in this time of winter, alot of us are inside, a
lot of us are on our computers. I just also really want to encourage
you to start finding more examples ofcommunity where you are. Some of my
best friends I've met online. I'mforming community with seven other women that I
(10:28):
met all online. I have nothingagainst being online. I also recognize,
though, that I need to ventureout into my actual community and figure out
how I can partner with people inmy community so we can meet our needs
better locally. Right, So howdoes that look for you? Think about
(10:52):
that community is the way forward.We know this, So what does that
look like for you? For me, it looks like continuing to really get
to know the ladies I'm forming thisintentional community with. But it also means
(11:15):
me getting out the house, volunteeringin places that I feel called a volunteer,
and also just getting to know myneighbors more, talking to them,
figuring out how we can help eachother out, figuring out how to be
the change right now that I wantto see in the world, just with
(11:35):
doing some small little things. Maybemaybe because I cannot stand cooking, I
can help my neighbor with childcare andshe cooks a couple you know, mills
for me for the week. Something. I want to figure something out,
and I encourage you to figure somethingsimilar out for yourselves in your community.
(11:56):
I just think that during this timeof us resting and relaxing and getting more
centered and more clear, some ofthe solutions that we seek will come to
us a little bit easier, solutionsaround community, around equity and social justice.
When we get quiet, when werest, those solutions feel attainable and
(12:20):
we can actually think of them,versus when we are inundated with messages that
we need to do more and bemore and buy more. Right. So
that's kind of where I'm at.Parents be colonized is still gonna be a
thing. I'm probably gonna bring backthe you know, some one on one,
(12:41):
one on one parent coaching sessions.I'm gonna be doing, you know,
a monthly workshop of some sort.But I'm mostly going to be transitioning
to trying to figure out how Ican show up for y'all in different ways
that don't require literally all of myenergy, because I just I'm one person
(13:05):
and I cannot be everywhere and doeverything. And I feel like, because
of who you all are, thetype of people you are, the way
that you're invested in social justice andracial justice and equity and womanism, that
you understand what I'm saying. You'renot going to be upset with me for
(13:28):
setting up boundaries for myself and mybusiness. And I just want to say
that I really appreciate this community.The parenting eclonized community is like no other.
Y'all have financially supported me, sentgia gifts and money like it's just
y'all. If I can say anythingthat I've been grateful for over the course
of twenty twenty two is the parentinge Colonized community. Y'all are beautiful.
(13:54):
I thank you so so much forbeing you and for your support and for
taking care of me and the waythat I needed when I finally asked for
help. So thank you for that. And until next time we'll be seeing
(14:15):
you on YouTube that this is goingto be the last just purely audio podcast
apparent to be Colonized twenty twenty three. It's going to be all YouTube,
all right, Daniel, I'll talkto you later. Bye, bye,
Welcome to the Parenting Decolonized Podcast.I'm your host, Elanda Williams, entrepreneur,
conscious parenting coach, and single momto want Amazing Tyler. I'm on
a mission to help shine the lighton how colonization has impacted the black family
structure. If you're a parent thatwants to learn how decolonize your parenting,
You're in the right place. Let'sdo this. Welcome back to the Parenting
(00:37):
de Colonized Podcast. I'm your host, you Londa Williams, And this today
is the fifteenth of December, Okay, making this pod halfway through December,
and I wanted to just take thistime to talk to y'all about the future
of the Parenting Decolonized Podcast. AndI really just first of all, want
(00:58):
to start by saying thank you everso much for being such an amazing community,
for being an amazing community of peoplewho are listeners, who are willing
to step into the gap for me, willing to educate me, you know
because I ain't always right, willingto give me feedback, willing to support
me. Thank you so much foreverything. What I'm recognizing for myself is
(01:25):
just the need to slow down theneed to recognize my capacity. I have
been operating like I am more thanone person for a very long time,
and I'm getting to a point whereI, especially as I build out,
(01:46):
you know, this community with theladies of the Black Film Freedom Collective,
I'm getting to the point where I'mtired of lying to myself. So with
that in mind, I want tobe very very clear in twenty three about
my actual capacity, what I'm ableto do, and honor that. Honor
(02:07):
my ability to show up for myselfand for my daughter first, and make
sure that I'm not putting more onmy plate than I can handle, because
what happens is then I end upburnt out and then I end up just
spiraling into depression and disassociating. AndI did that for months out of twenty
(02:30):
twenty two months. I don't wantto do that anymore. I want to
honor myself more in twenty twenty three, and I want to make some shifts
in parenting E Colonize that support this. My biggest thing is trying to figure
out how to have a business suchas Parenting E Colonized, where I support
(02:52):
black parents, where I support teachers, where I support anyone who's listening right
to make content and to create coursesand to make conferences and make them accessible
price wise, ability wise, likemake them accessible while also making sure that
I am taking care of myself,able to pay my own bills, able
(03:15):
to pay rent, all the otherstuff. So that's kind of where I'm
at. What I decided to dowith the Parenting to Colonize podcast is transition
over to YouTube. That way,I am able to make a little bit
income off of the views, andit allows me to have a little bit
(03:38):
more flexibility if I'm making passive incomeoff of people, you know, watching
the podcast. Now, I'll stillhave an audio version, and I will
definitely try to make sure because youknow, because I'm making this transition,
I'm not going to be using myproduction company next year. And it also
helps save some money. Putting ontothis podcast is big expense, and I
(04:00):
don't talk about it much because it'snot you know, nothing that y'all.
It's my business expense, and Iappreciate all my patreons because y'all be paid
for it, but it does notpay for the whole thing. And so
I had to make some really harddecisions about what I'm able to keep doing
in twenty twenty three to help mybusiness sort of expand. So I'm going
(04:25):
to be letting go of the productioncompany and just gonna be putting things on
YouTube. It's going to be youknow, raw unedited, maybe even live,
and I'll still try to have transcriptsand make it so y'all can listen.
I'm to go. But that's whereparentedy Colonize is headed its head it
to YouTube. I'm gonna be usingyou know, social media as a way
(04:47):
to sort of push people over there, and I'm doing that again so I
can have recurring income. I'm alsogoing to be possibly launching a podcast with
the ladies of the Black Fim FreedomCollective, and some of our stuff will
be overlapping. So these are someof the plans that I have. I
(05:10):
haven't decided on the conference yet,if that's still going to happen in twenty
twenty three. One thing I cantell y'all is that I have some big
plans. I'm you know, I'mI decided to start writing a book.
I already started speaking with a publisher, and the book is I hope going
(05:30):
to be called. I mean,I you know, having a publisher,
things may change, but it's basicallylike a book for change bakers or for
psycho breakers. I'm sorry, thePsycho Breakers handbook. I started writing that
I'm super excited for me for myselfto be a published author in twenty twenty
(05:51):
three, and I also already wrotea children's book, So another thing for
twenty three is me getting this illustratedand getting it's probably self published, so
y'all can have it. It's aboutfeelings, and I really think it's important.
It definitely aligns with, you know, the work that I do.
(06:15):
Let me see mostly over the nextmonth. Right today, it stays the
fifteenth of December. Over the nextmonth or so, actually all of winter.
I'm not making any resolutions. Ihave goals in mind, but I'm
not making any resolutions. I'm reallygoing to just embody what it means to
(06:40):
sort of commune with nature and bein what am I trying to say?
I really just want to embody likenatural cycles of nature. I no longer
want to fight against nature. Ifeel like someone on TikTok was like,
I don't think seasonal depression exists outsideof these capitalistic, you know, the
(07:03):
white cappist patriarchy. And she's mostlikely right. The reason why so many
of us feel terrible during the wintertime. It's not just because we don't get
enough sun, right, it's becausewe are fighting against our body's natural cycle
to hybridate, to slow down,to rest, to eat seasonal food,
(07:30):
to eat really warm food, tomake sure that we are nourishing our minds
and our bodies and storing up energyfor the rebirth that is spraying in summer.
And I really just want to leaninto that. I really want to
lean into cyclical living, attuning myselfto natural cycles. So I'm not going
(07:54):
to be doing any resolutions because resolutionsit really just feels like, you know,
okay, the first comes and allof a sudden, we're supposed to
be expected to change all of thesehabits that we've had, you know,
over the past few years. Andit's unrealistic and it's unnatural, and it's
a reason why so many resolutions failbecause they're not natural. It's not natural
(08:18):
to try to make big shifts duringthe winter. That is a shift like
that comes after you have the energyand you store up and you and you
do the work to just internal workslowly and quietly during the winter, and
then spring comes and there's rebirth,and then summer comes and there's so much
(08:39):
more growth, right Like, that'show nature works, That's how plants work,
That's how a lot of animals work. I feel like humans need to
get on and get on track,need to get on board. So that's
what I'm doing, Okay, AndI am going to take this time to
just, you know, again,put my goals out there, but not
(09:00):
in a way that's just like,all right now the first comes, I'm
gonna make a new calendar. I'mgonna journal. I'm not getting the motherfucking
journal, y'all. I'm not.I'm not journaling as far as my resolution,
none of that stuff. I'm restingas much as I can. And
there are seven different types of restfor anyone. Every time I mentioned rest,
somebody's always like, well, Ican't just be sleeping all day,
(09:22):
Okay, neither can I. Okay. What I'm saying is there's different types
of rest. There's seven different types. And what I'll do in the show
notes is linked to an article aboutthe seven different types of rest. Because
exercising is a form of rest,right, meditation is a form of rest.
(09:43):
There's seven different types, and I, of course can't think of them
right now, So do one ofthem. If you can't take a nap,
figure out how you can incorporate acouple of these into your life.
So you are restoring yourself, youare taking care of yourself. And also,
(10:03):
in this time of winter, alot of us are inside, a
lot of us are on our computers. I just also really want to encourage
you to start finding more examples ofcommunity where you are. Some of my
best friends I've met online. I'mforming community with seven other women that I
(10:28):
met all online. I have nothingagainst being online. I also recognize,
though, that I need to ventureout into my actual community and figure out
how I can partner with people inmy community so we can meet our needs
better locally. Right, So howdoes that look for you? Think about
(10:52):
that community is the way forward.We know this, So what does that
look like for you? For me, it looks like continuing to really get
to know the ladies I'm forming thisintentional community with. But it also means
(11:15):
me getting out the house, volunteeringin places that I feel called a volunteer,
and also just getting to know myneighbors more, talking to them,
figuring out how we can help eachother out, figuring out how to be
the change right now that I wantto see in the world, just with
(11:35):
doing some small little things. Maybemaybe because I cannot stand cooking, I
can help my neighbor with childcare andshe cooks a couple you know, mills
for me for the week. Something. I want to figure something out,
and I encourage you to figure somethingsimilar out for yourselves in your community.
(11:56):
I just think that during this timeof us resting and relaxing and getting more
centered and more clear, some ofthe solutions that we seek will come to
us a little bit easier, solutionsaround community, around equity and social justice.
When we get quiet, when werest, those solutions feel attainable and
(12:20):
we can actually think of them,versus when we are inundated with messages that
we need to do more and bemore and buy more. Right. So
that's kind of where I'm at.Parents be colonized is still gonna be a
thing. I'm probably gonna bring backthe you know, some one on one,
(12:41):
one on one parent coaching sessions.I'm gonna be doing, you know,
a monthly workshop of some sort.But I'm mostly going to be transitioning
to trying to figure out how Ican show up for y'all in different ways
that don't require literally all of myenergy, because I just I'm one person
(13:05):
and I cannot be everywhere and doeverything. And I feel like, because
of who you all are, thetype of people you are, the way
that you're invested in social justice andracial justice and equity and womanism, that
you understand what I'm saying. You'renot going to be upset with me for
(13:28):
setting up boundaries for myself and mybusiness. And I just want to say
that I really appreciate this community.The parenting eclonized community is like no other.
Y'all have financially supported me, sentgia gifts and money like it's just
y'all. If I can say anythingthat I've been grateful for over the course
of twenty twenty two is the parentinge Colonized community. Y'all are beautiful.
(13:54):
I thank you so so much forbeing you and for your support and for
taking care of me and the waythat I needed when I finally asked for
help. So thank you for that. And until next time we'll be seeing
(14:15):
you on YouTube that this is goingto be the last just purely audio podcast
apparent to be Colonized twenty twenty three. It's going to be all YouTube,
all right, Daniel, I'll talkto you later. Bye, bye,
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