July 17, 2025 • 21 mins
Here's what we're reading, recommending, and revisiting this week.
Catherine's library find is another for our scatology shelf: It combines farts (hilarious) with Where's Waldo-style search and find illustrations. She encountered Who Farted?, but reports that Find the Farter is also an option, should you need more than one of these titles.
Terri's random recommendation is a shout-out to central air conditioning. After living without it for several days, she's appreciating it now and wants to make sure we all do, if we're lucky enough to have it.
In the archives, we checked in on an episode from 2020 on the emptying nest.
Next week's lineup:
Until then (and anytime you're in need), the archives are available.
This episode was recorded before a live studio audience ... of dogs.
Catherine's library find is another for our scatology shelf: It combines farts (hilarious) with Where's Waldo-style search and find illustrations. She encountered Who Farted?, but reports that Find the Farter is also an option, should you need more than one of these titles.
Terri's random recommendation is a shout-out to central air conditioning. After living without it for several days, she's appreciating it now and wants to make sure we all do, if we're lucky enough to have it.
In the archives, we checked in on an episode from 2020 on the emptying nest.
Next week's lineup:
- Lost S3 E8, "Flashes Before Your Eyes," on Tuesday, July 22
- The Gilded Age S3 E1, "Who Is in Charge Here?," on Wednesday, July 23
- Weekly roundup on Thursday, July 24
Until then (and anytime you're in need), the archives are available.
This episode was recorded before a live studio audience ... of dogs.
Mark as Played
Transcript
Episode Transcript
Available transcripts are automatically generated. Complete accuracy is not guaranteed.
Speaker 1 (00:03):
Welcome to the Parenting Roundabout podcast. I'm Terry Morrow.
Speaker 2 (00:06):
And I'm Catherine Jileco.
Speaker 1 (00:08):
Every Thursday, we're bringing you a library find, a pick
from our archives, and a parenting or pop culture tidbit
or two. Let's start with Catherine's library find of the week.
Speaker 2 (00:20):
So here's a book that my coworker flagged and said,
you know, showed to the room when she found it.
It's it's a nice, you know, combination of Where's Waldough
and the scatological humor that we know kids enjoy. It
is called Who Farted? And it's a seekin fined book.
(00:44):
So it looks like a Where's Waldough with like the
very very intricate drawings, you know, with like hundreds of
people in one in one image, all kinds of different excited,
exciting places. And the idea is, go and find part
in this place.
Speaker 1 (01:02):
I think on long nights on the island, the others
sit around looking at this book and I'm.
Speaker 2 (01:07):
Talking about Who Farted? But also I just want you
to know that when I couldn't remember the title of
this book when my after my coworker had pointed it
out and I and I I was like, oh, I
need to find that because that needs to be my
my library find so I need to get the information
(01:28):
about it. Well, so the one that we have in
our library system, all copies are in use right now.
I'm sorry to say it's called Who Farted?
Speaker 3 (01:38):
But not to be outdone, there is also a different
book called Find the Farder, Oh my god, and the
tagline is find who cut the cheese? In this silly
see can find fart book for kids.
Speaker 2 (01:57):
That one came first, that was published in twenty nineteen,
where Who Farted came out in twenty twenty two. So
Who Farted is actually the copycat.
Speaker 1 (02:05):
Here, Oh my gosh.
Speaker 2 (02:08):
But yeah, so you know.
Speaker 1 (02:11):
And this again would be the book I would get
from my kids, my son especially, saying this will be
the thing that'll get them into reading. This will be great,
they'll love this. And then I'm sitting on the couch
with farting. See farting. It's farting, isn't that funny?
Speaker 2 (02:26):
It's parting.
Speaker 1 (02:27):
Hilary's like, see you later.
Speaker 2 (02:31):
But and I don't know if this has much in
the way of words, so that might get for your
efforts there.
Speaker 1 (02:42):
The first challenge was getting them to sit down with
a book so this would wait for that, but it
would be like, you know, not of interest, buy I'm
out of here. Yes, oh well I have a lot
of books like that in my in my bookshelf. This
will be the one.
Speaker 2 (02:59):
Yeah, this is it.
Speaker 1 (03:02):
So I think we did do Where's Waldo for a while,
So I suppose that Find the Farder would be of us.
Speaker 2 (03:07):
It's just the next evolution from yes, from Where's Waldow?
For sure? Yes, there you have it. Yeah, I credit
the authors, but.
Speaker 1 (03:20):
You think they'd rather remain enough? They might. I bet
they're pretty proud of that. You know, I got a
book contract for this is your novel coming along?
Speaker 2 (03:34):
Oh well, to Find the Fartor. It does have an author.
Her name is Phyllis Hart, but no picture of her,
no other Oh get it, Phyllis F. Hart. It's a.
Speaker 1 (03:52):
Yeah, yep, nobody's taking credit for this, is what you're saying. No,
it's some some poor slav and a cubicle like me
churning out books for a publisher.
Speaker 2 (04:05):
Yeah, that's the plan.
Speaker 1 (04:07):
Well, it's a good deal more fun than my random
recommendation for this week, although no, my actual recommendation is
just fine. I would like everybody if you are right
now sitting listening to this in a house or apartment
or other domicile that is cool and comfortable and temperature controlled.
(04:28):
I want you to take a moment to appreciate that,
because our air conditioner went out this week and I
have been sweating like crazy or since one or two
times before. We got it repaired and then repaired again,
and then repaired again, and then they finally said, you
really need to replace this. So I think back to
(04:52):
those days when I didn't have to think about how
bleep and hot it was in my house, and I
missed them. So let's all take a moment to appreciate
the refrigerated air we breathe, and uh, you know, feel
some sympathy for people who do not have it like
me right now. So we central conditioning it pretty amazing.
Speaker 2 (05:17):
We just had a very similar yeah situation here we were.
It ended up being.
Speaker 4 (05:23):
Like like six days without without it, and yes it
was finally fixed, but of course the ultimate recommendation was, yeah,
this is this is not going to last forever.
Speaker 2 (05:40):
This this fix that we've we've done here.
Speaker 1 (05:42):
Yeah, we had for a while it was like going
out sometimes and my husband had this elaborate thing he
would do of turning it up, turning your thermostat up,
turning it down, turning it up, turning it down, and
maybe we can just kind of get it to go.
And it was and then finally it just stopped and
was blowing hot air into the house, which is nice.
(06:03):
And you know, so we called. We have a con
service contract for the electric company, and they sent somebody
out and he said, oh, it was a wire in
the compressor. I fixed it. It's all done, and like
he was not gone ten minutes before it stopped working again.
And so fortunately we called and they came again the
next day. I'm amazed at how quickly they came. And
this time the guy went out. He made the same fix,
(06:25):
and he said, this is going to keep going bad.
It's just for me to definitely replace the compressor. And
as long as you're replacing the compressor, if you haven't
replaced the rest of the system, he might as well
do that too. So, you know, we made an appointment
for an estimate. But wow, when it's hot outside, it
is really hot inside. It is steamy, it is humid
(06:47):
inside that and we have we finally when the guy
said this can't be fixed, you need to replace it,
and I knew it would be a week. I said,
we are going to home depot. We are buying fans,
so we have fans up and that helps some. And
also we do have the grace of the downstairs mother
in law apartment that my daughter lives in has a
(07:08):
window unit, so we go down to visit her a
lot more than we Yeah, yeah, we're just gonna come,
come enjoy your air for a little while. So if
it's it's like the last couple of days, it's been
cooler outside and then it is okay in the house,
but boy, if it's hot outside, it's just like living
(07:30):
in a sauna. And you know, I try to have
good grace and survive. And there are many people in
the world who don't have air conditioning at all, and
I was at one, you know, various times in my
life had apartments with more or less efficient air conditioning systems,
and I know I can survive it, but man, it's hot.
Speaker 2 (07:49):
It's not fun.
Speaker 1 (07:53):
My son and my husband went to the mall just
to hang for a while yesterday. Yeah, we had a
summer a few years ago where there was a piece
in the air conditioner that need to be fixed and
was on backwater. So we didn't have good air conditioning
for a while, and that's how we had the fans,
and we had just we would just go like to
the library or to the ma all and just enjoy
(08:14):
the free cool air. But at any rate, air conditioning
is one of those things that you do not adequately
appreciate until you do not have it. So listeners, if
you have it, say a prayer, thanks, you know, go
pat the thermostat on its head if it's working correctly,
and you know, just have a little sympathy for those
(08:38):
of us who are sweating. I've my face sweats ridiculously.
There's like waterfalls of sweat coming down my face and
that's annoying.
Speaker 4 (08:50):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (08:51):
Yeah, so well, air conditioning, I recommend it.
Speaker 2 (08:57):
Yeah, Terry's random recommencing. I try to live with central air.
Speaker 1 (09:05):
Yeah, it's appreciated if you have it, and if you don't,
I sweat in solidarity with you.
Speaker 2 (09:11):
Yeah, yeah, me too, because I'm just like a week
ahead of you in this In this scenario.
Speaker 1 (09:18):
We are all one bad wire away from.
Speaker 2 (09:20):
A exactly Yes, this was apparently the motherboards we were told.
Speaker 1 (09:27):
Yeah, probably the same thing.
Speaker 2 (09:29):
Didn't know air conditioning units or you know, HVAC had
a motherboard. But okay, you can say whatever you want.
Speaker 1 (09:38):
Yeah, exactly, but you just have a list of things
they tell people, and it's like, we're under our quote
on air conditioning sales this month. Could you go out
and tell people that it's the motherboard and needs to
be replaced. Yeah, they'll buy it.
Speaker 2 (09:54):
For sure.
Speaker 1 (09:57):
So what do we have in the art the archive
this week?
Speaker 2 (10:01):
Well, back in twenty twenty, we were talking about the
emptying nest because Nichole's child was was leaving, but and
so was mine at that at that summer, my first,
my first one. But I guess we weren't considering it
(10:21):
an empty nest because I still had I still had
white within the nest. Hers was hers, was that both of.
Speaker 1 (10:28):
Them were on her and she had plans.
Speaker 2 (10:32):
Yes, so yeah, I mean, I guess the good thing
about your half empty nest is that your daughter has.
Speaker 1 (10:40):
Air right in her new role. Although she was gone,
I could just move my office down there, right, that's true. Yeah,
My my nest is going to be well occupied probably forever.
I don't think my nest is ever going to empty,
and that is fine with me. Yeah, I will pass
the nest onto my kids and they can continue living
(11:02):
in it. So it's at some point it's their nest.
Speaker 2 (11:06):
At some point it'll switch, right, exactly, it's their nest,
and you're you're the one who's filling up.
Speaker 1 (11:14):
But but that's okay. I'm fine with it. Mm hmm.
I think they are too, more importantly. Whereas when I
was well much younger than them, but a young person,
I could not get out of the nest fast enough, right,
you know, And my mom would have liked me to
nest a little.
Speaker 2 (11:33):
Longer, to hang around.
Speaker 1 (11:34):
No, No, nope, there's I see a nest over there
in the next tree, I'm going there.
Speaker 2 (11:38):
So, yes, Or I see a nest halfway across the.
Speaker 1 (11:43):
Country, exactly, I went. I went halfway across the country.
Then I went all the way across the country, and
in between I went to other places that were not hers. Yes, yeah, so,
but they do. My kids do not appear to have
that same sort of uh drive for a solo domicile.
So and if I might have at one point dreamed
(12:06):
of it for them, I no longer do. So that's okay.
The more the merrier, right, somebody to pick up the
dog's poop. That's excellent.
Speaker 2 (12:16):
Yes, yes, Well, my younger one is back and forth
from the nest, you know, home for the summer, then
leaving or home for part of the summer, then leaving
for the rest of the summer, then being in school,
then coming back to school. You know, there's a lot
(12:37):
in and out, back and forth. And then the other
one has moved into somebody else's nest. She's with her
boyfriend's entire family. Oh my goodness, and they may have
you know, perhaps her boyfriend's parents didn't quite anticipate adding
(13:02):
to their to their nest a second.
Speaker 1 (13:07):
Child.
Speaker 2 (13:09):
Actually, I think the mom is very happy. I think, yes,
that's not so much.
Speaker 1 (13:14):
So, yeah, I could see that.
Speaker 2 (13:18):
Yeah, that's kind of the way.
Speaker 1 (13:21):
That's an opportunity to mom somebody knew who was an adult.
Speaker 2 (13:25):
Yes, absolutely, well take it so yeah, so yeah, but
here it's it's kind of a weird adjustment, you know,
when it goes back and forth.
Speaker 1 (13:38):
I will say, yeah, yeah, for both you and the kid. Yes,
who has had a taste of freedom, right, And that's
the problem when they come back. I remember when I
I mean I have been living at college and then
I had gone to Kansas City to work for a
year and a half, and then I came back and
(14:00):
I was going to live at home and start a
freelancing career. And that transition from having had my own
apartment at college, my own apartment in Kansas City, and
then back in I mean, they gave me two rooms
in the house. I had a really nice setup. I
had an office and I had a bedroom. But you know,
Dad wanted me to come out and watch TV with
(14:21):
them at night, and I had my own TV and
I wanted to watch my own things. And you know,
I was supposed to eat dinner with them, and I
maybe I don't want to eat dinner. It's like it
was just it was all stupid, and I wound up,
you know, spending a lot of money to not stay
at this very cushy setup I had. Right, but you
just get used to the independence, and then it's really
(14:43):
hard to go backwards. And at the same time, it's
really hard for the parents not to fall back into
the same parenting, right, you know, I was it was
unreasonable of me to expect them to treat me like
a unrelated border. So who lives there rent free?
Speaker 2 (15:04):
You know, do you feel like that kind of changed
how you manage. I mean, obviously with your kids, they
didn't even come back, but they are you know, adults.
Speaker 1 (15:19):
Right, yeah, don't. I don't know. I may probably if
I tried, I try to give them more freedom. It's
just that they're very, very different, right, due to their
you know, disabilities and also just their personalities. And it's like,
(15:40):
you know, my husband lived at home until we got married,
and he was in his mid thirties, so he had
no problem at all with it, and you know, he
just I don't think he got involved in the family drama.
Whenever he went to work, he came home and watched
baseball with his dad, he went to bed, and he
put a lot of money in the bank, right, And
(16:01):
I see that same sort of way with my son.
He just does his job, comes home, goes in his room,
closes the door, does whatever he's going to do, comes
out for meals, and just you know, whereas my daughter
requires more talk and interaction and expects more from us
and we expect more from her. So it may be
(16:24):
just a gender difference too to something. I don't know
if you've noticed any difference between your kids when they
were living at home, as to how much parenting they required.
But yeah, I mean tolerating, right.
Speaker 2 (16:40):
I don't know if it's gender or personality, Like you
said that one is definitely like way more independent and
sort of responsible. Yeah, but the other one, it doesn't
mean that they want to be fuscat absolutely not. Yeah, yeah,
and definitely like as they've matured, it's it's different, you know,
(17:07):
I mean you can you can. Like my son had
a dog sitting job, like basically just go over, feed
the dog, take the dog out in the yard, bring
him back. And I was a little stressed about it
because it was for this friend of mine who has
a lot of health issues and also is hearing impaired,
(17:29):
and so I was like, oh, you know, he's gonna
need to communicate with with her. And and then at
the same she also has her mom living with her
who got dementia, and you know, they were having my
kid go and take care of the dog because the
elderly mother couldn't couldn't handle it. And I was like, oh,
(17:52):
so he's got to communicate with the person who can't hear,
and he's got to manage the mother with dementia. Like
because one time I stopped by the house to drop
something off or something, and the mom was so confused
and like I really felt like I made I stressed
her out by being so I was like, oh my gosh,
this sounds hard. But you know, he totally handled it
(18:16):
and it was it was all fine, and I'm like,
you know, everything went well. So yeah, you know, I
was like, I guess, you know, I need to give
them more credit.
Speaker 1 (18:28):
Yeah, yeah, Well, it definitely is a difference between you know,
adults who are able to do some things for themselves
and have their own opinions on things, right, kids who
you have to be up in their business all the time.
I'm trying to make that distincts. Then how much work
(18:48):
I have to do? Right, Yeah, there's still things, but right, yeah,
it's it is what it is.
Speaker 2 (18:58):
Yeah, it's it's very it's very interesting to me to
watch the the kid, you know, mature and change because
you know, this is a kid who we struggled so
much in terms of you know, high school just getting
him out of the door and you know, and but
(19:19):
if it's something that he feels strongly about, you know,
he's he's gonna do a really good chum.
Speaker 1 (19:27):
Yeah, yeah, and.
Speaker 2 (19:31):
He's getting ready to basically take a show on the
road in a while. And he's like, well, I didn't.
No one seemed to be making a list of everything
that we needed to bring and who has it and
who's bringing it, and and he's like, so I just
did it.
Speaker 1 (19:46):
Oh my goodness, you must be so proud look at
that him. Well, well, if nothing else, we need our
kids to be either in or adjacent to the nest
to continue giving us material to talk about. That's right,
because otherwise.
Speaker 2 (20:06):
What are we going to say?
Speaker 1 (20:08):
We'll have to make things up right.
Speaker 2 (20:11):
Well, here comes one dog, do you so.
Speaker 1 (20:14):
We can transition into material A dog pod?
Speaker 2 (20:18):
I mean that does? I mean, I know it's it's
not the same, but it does make us feel like
our nest is not fully empty when we have these
two very dependent creatures.
Speaker 1 (20:31):
That's right, that's right. Everybody needs a dependent creature. Thank
you for listening. You can find all our episodes on spreaker,
Apple Podcasts, Amazon Music, or wherever you get your podcasts.
You can find recaps, links, and an opportunity to comment
on our website at parentingroundabout dot com.
Speaker 2 (20:49):
You can also talk to us on our Facebook page,
on Instagram, or on Twitter. Where you'll find us at
roundabout Chat and please visit our Amazon shop at amazon
dot com, slash Shop slash Amitude, but you can find
links to a lot of the things we've talked about
over the years
Welcome to the Parenting Roundabout podcast. I'm Terry Morrow.
Speaker 2 (00:06):
And I'm Catherine Jileco.
Speaker 1 (00:08):
Every Thursday, we're bringing you a library find, a pick
from our archives, and a parenting or pop culture tidbit
or two. Let's start with Catherine's library find of the week.
Speaker 2 (00:20):
So here's a book that my coworker flagged and said,
you know, showed to the room when she found it.
It's it's a nice, you know, combination of Where's Waldough
and the scatological humor that we know kids enjoy. It
is called Who Farted? And it's a seekin fined book.
(00:44):
So it looks like a Where's Waldough with like the
very very intricate drawings, you know, with like hundreds of
people in one in one image, all kinds of different excited,
exciting places. And the idea is, go and find part
in this place.
Speaker 1 (01:02):
I think on long nights on the island, the others
sit around looking at this book and I'm.
Speaker 2 (01:07):
Talking about Who Farted? But also I just want you
to know that when I couldn't remember the title of
this book when my after my coworker had pointed it
out and I and I I was like, oh, I
need to find that because that needs to be my
my library find so I need to get the information
(01:28):
about it. Well, so the one that we have in
our library system, all copies are in use right now.
I'm sorry to say it's called Who Farted?
Speaker 3 (01:38):
But not to be outdone, there is also a different
book called Find the Farder, Oh my god, and the
tagline is find who cut the cheese? In this silly
see can find fart book for kids.
Speaker 2 (01:57):
That one came first, that was published in twenty nineteen,
where Who Farted came out in twenty twenty two. So
Who Farted is actually the copycat.
Speaker 1 (02:05):
Here, Oh my gosh.
Speaker 2 (02:08):
But yeah, so you know.
Speaker 1 (02:11):
And this again would be the book I would get
from my kids, my son especially, saying this will be
the thing that'll get them into reading. This will be great,
they'll love this. And then I'm sitting on the couch
with farting. See farting. It's farting, isn't that funny?
Speaker 2 (02:26):
It's parting.
Speaker 1 (02:27):
Hilary's like, see you later.
Speaker 2 (02:31):
But and I don't know if this has much in
the way of words, so that might get for your
efforts there.
Speaker 1 (02:42):
The first challenge was getting them to sit down with
a book so this would wait for that, but it
would be like, you know, not of interest, buy I'm
out of here. Yes, oh well I have a lot
of books like that in my in my bookshelf. This
will be the one.
Speaker 2 (02:59):
Yeah, this is it.
Speaker 1 (03:02):
So I think we did do Where's Waldo for a while,
So I suppose that Find the Farder would be of us.
Speaker 2 (03:07):
It's just the next evolution from yes, from Where's Waldow?
For sure? Yes, there you have it. Yeah, I credit
the authors, but.
Speaker 1 (03:20):
You think they'd rather remain enough? They might. I bet
they're pretty proud of that. You know, I got a
book contract for this is your novel coming along?
Speaker 2 (03:34):
Oh well, to Find the Fartor. It does have an author.
Her name is Phyllis Hart, but no picture of her,
no other Oh get it, Phyllis F. Hart. It's a.
Speaker 1 (03:52):
Yeah, yep, nobody's taking credit for this, is what you're saying. No,
it's some some poor slav and a cubicle like me
churning out books for a publisher.
Speaker 2 (04:05):
Yeah, that's the plan.
Speaker 1 (04:07):
Well, it's a good deal more fun than my random
recommendation for this week, although no, my actual recommendation is
just fine. I would like everybody if you are right
now sitting listening to this in a house or apartment
or other domicile that is cool and comfortable and temperature controlled.
(04:28):
I want you to take a moment to appreciate that,
because our air conditioner went out this week and I
have been sweating like crazy or since one or two
times before. We got it repaired and then repaired again,
and then repaired again, and then they finally said, you
really need to replace this. So I think back to
(04:52):
those days when I didn't have to think about how
bleep and hot it was in my house, and I
missed them. So let's all take a moment to appreciate
the refrigerated air we breathe, and uh, you know, feel
some sympathy for people who do not have it like
me right now. So we central conditioning it pretty amazing.
Speaker 2 (05:17):
We just had a very similar yeah situation here we were.
It ended up being.
Speaker 4 (05:23):
Like like six days without without it, and yes it
was finally fixed, but of course the ultimate recommendation was, yeah,
this is this is not going to last forever.
Speaker 2 (05:40):
This this fix that we've we've done here.
Speaker 1 (05:42):
Yeah, we had for a while it was like going
out sometimes and my husband had this elaborate thing he
would do of turning it up, turning your thermostat up,
turning it down, turning it up, turning it down, and
maybe we can just kind of get it to go.
And it was and then finally it just stopped and
was blowing hot air into the house, which is nice.
(06:03):
And you know, so we called. We have a con
service contract for the electric company, and they sent somebody
out and he said, oh, it was a wire in
the compressor. I fixed it. It's all done, and like
he was not gone ten minutes before it stopped working again.
And so fortunately we called and they came again the
next day. I'm amazed at how quickly they came. And
this time the guy went out. He made the same fix,
(06:25):
and he said, this is going to keep going bad.
It's just for me to definitely replace the compressor. And
as long as you're replacing the compressor, if you haven't
replaced the rest of the system, he might as well
do that too. So, you know, we made an appointment
for an estimate. But wow, when it's hot outside, it
is really hot inside. It is steamy, it is humid
(06:47):
inside that and we have we finally when the guy
said this can't be fixed, you need to replace it,
and I knew it would be a week. I said,
we are going to home depot. We are buying fans,
so we have fans up and that helps some. And
also we do have the grace of the downstairs mother
in law apartment that my daughter lives in has a
(07:08):
window unit, so we go down to visit her a
lot more than we Yeah, yeah, we're just gonna come,
come enjoy your air for a little while. So if
it's it's like the last couple of days, it's been
cooler outside and then it is okay in the house,
but boy, if it's hot outside, it's just like living
(07:30):
in a sauna. And you know, I try to have
good grace and survive. And there are many people in
the world who don't have air conditioning at all, and
I was at one, you know, various times in my
life had apartments with more or less efficient air conditioning systems,
and I know I can survive it, but man, it's hot.
Speaker 2 (07:49):
It's not fun.
Speaker 1 (07:53):
My son and my husband went to the mall just
to hang for a while yesterday. Yeah, we had a
summer a few years ago where there was a piece
in the air conditioner that need to be fixed and
was on backwater. So we didn't have good air conditioning
for a while, and that's how we had the fans,
and we had just we would just go like to
the library or to the ma all and just enjoy
(08:14):
the free cool air. But at any rate, air conditioning
is one of those things that you do not adequately
appreciate until you do not have it. So listeners, if
you have it, say a prayer, thanks, you know, go
pat the thermostat on its head if it's working correctly,
and you know, just have a little sympathy for those
(08:38):
of us who are sweating. I've my face sweats ridiculously.
There's like waterfalls of sweat coming down my face and
that's annoying.
Speaker 4 (08:50):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (08:51):
Yeah, so well, air conditioning, I recommend it.
Speaker 2 (08:57):
Yeah, Terry's random recommencing. I try to live with central air.
Speaker 1 (09:05):
Yeah, it's appreciated if you have it, and if you don't,
I sweat in solidarity with you.
Speaker 2 (09:11):
Yeah, yeah, me too, because I'm just like a week
ahead of you in this In this scenario.
Speaker 1 (09:18):
We are all one bad wire away from.
Speaker 2 (09:20):
A exactly Yes, this was apparently the motherboards we were told.
Speaker 1 (09:27):
Yeah, probably the same thing.
Speaker 2 (09:29):
Didn't know air conditioning units or you know, HVAC had
a motherboard. But okay, you can say whatever you want.
Speaker 1 (09:38):
Yeah, exactly, but you just have a list of things
they tell people, and it's like, we're under our quote
on air conditioning sales this month. Could you go out
and tell people that it's the motherboard and needs to
be replaced. Yeah, they'll buy it.
Speaker 2 (09:54):
For sure.
Speaker 1 (09:57):
So what do we have in the art the archive
this week?
Speaker 2 (10:01):
Well, back in twenty twenty, we were talking about the
emptying nest because Nichole's child was was leaving, but and
so was mine at that at that summer, my first,
my first one. But I guess we weren't considering it
(10:21):
an empty nest because I still had I still had
white within the nest. Hers was hers, was that both of.
Speaker 1 (10:28):
Them were on her and she had plans.
Speaker 2 (10:32):
Yes, so yeah, I mean, I guess the good thing
about your half empty nest is that your daughter has.
Speaker 1 (10:40):
Air right in her new role. Although she was gone,
I could just move my office down there, right, that's true. Yeah,
My my nest is going to be well occupied probably forever.
I don't think my nest is ever going to empty,
and that is fine with me. Yeah, I will pass
the nest onto my kids and they can continue living
(11:02):
in it. So it's at some point it's their nest.
Speaker 2 (11:06):
At some point it'll switch, right, exactly, it's their nest,
and you're you're the one who's filling up.
Speaker 1 (11:14):
But but that's okay. I'm fine with it. Mm hmm.
I think they are too, more importantly. Whereas when I
was well much younger than them, but a young person,
I could not get out of the nest fast enough, right,
you know, And my mom would have liked me to
nest a little.
Speaker 2 (11:33):
Longer, to hang around.
Speaker 1 (11:34):
No, No, nope, there's I see a nest over there
in the next tree, I'm going there.
Speaker 2 (11:38):
So, yes, Or I see a nest halfway across the.
Speaker 1 (11:43):
Country, exactly, I went. I went halfway across the country.
Then I went all the way across the country, and
in between I went to other places that were not hers. Yes, yeah, so,
but they do. My kids do not appear to have
that same sort of uh drive for a solo domicile.
So and if I might have at one point dreamed
(12:06):
of it for them, I no longer do. So that's okay.
The more the merrier, right, somebody to pick up the
dog's poop. That's excellent.
Speaker 2 (12:16):
Yes, yes, Well, my younger one is back and forth
from the nest, you know, home for the summer, then
leaving or home for part of the summer, then leaving
for the rest of the summer, then being in school,
then coming back to school. You know, there's a lot
(12:37):
in and out, back and forth. And then the other
one has moved into somebody else's nest. She's with her
boyfriend's entire family. Oh my goodness, and they may have
you know, perhaps her boyfriend's parents didn't quite anticipate adding
(13:02):
to their to their nest a second.
Speaker 1 (13:07):
Child.
Speaker 2 (13:09):
Actually, I think the mom is very happy. I think, yes,
that's not so much.
Speaker 1 (13:14):
So, yeah, I could see that.
Speaker 2 (13:18):
Yeah, that's kind of the way.
Speaker 1 (13:21):
That's an opportunity to mom somebody knew who was an adult.
Speaker 2 (13:25):
Yes, absolutely, well take it so yeah, so yeah, but
here it's it's kind of a weird adjustment, you know,
when it goes back and forth.
Speaker 1 (13:38):
I will say, yeah, yeah, for both you and the kid. Yes,
who has had a taste of freedom, right, And that's
the problem when they come back. I remember when I
I mean I have been living at college and then
I had gone to Kansas City to work for a
year and a half, and then I came back and
(14:00):
I was going to live at home and start a
freelancing career. And that transition from having had my own
apartment at college, my own apartment in Kansas City, and
then back in I mean, they gave me two rooms
in the house. I had a really nice setup. I
had an office and I had a bedroom. But you know,
Dad wanted me to come out and watch TV with
(14:21):
them at night, and I had my own TV and
I wanted to watch my own things. And you know,
I was supposed to eat dinner with them, and I
maybe I don't want to eat dinner. It's like it
was just it was all stupid, and I wound up,
you know, spending a lot of money to not stay
at this very cushy setup I had. Right, but you
just get used to the independence, and then it's really
(14:43):
hard to go backwards. And at the same time, it's
really hard for the parents not to fall back into
the same parenting, right, you know, I was it was
unreasonable of me to expect them to treat me like
a unrelated border. So who lives there rent free?
Speaker 2 (15:04):
You know, do you feel like that kind of changed
how you manage. I mean, obviously with your kids, they
didn't even come back, but they are you know, adults.
Speaker 1 (15:19):
Right, yeah, don't. I don't know. I may probably if
I tried, I try to give them more freedom. It's
just that they're very, very different, right, due to their
you know, disabilities and also just their personalities. And it's like,
(15:40):
you know, my husband lived at home until we got married,
and he was in his mid thirties, so he had
no problem at all with it, and you know, he
just I don't think he got involved in the family drama.
Whenever he went to work, he came home and watched
baseball with his dad, he went to bed, and he
put a lot of money in the bank, right, And
(16:01):
I see that same sort of way with my son.
He just does his job, comes home, goes in his room,
closes the door, does whatever he's going to do, comes
out for meals, and just you know, whereas my daughter
requires more talk and interaction and expects more from us
and we expect more from her. So it may be
(16:24):
just a gender difference too to something. I don't know
if you've noticed any difference between your kids when they
were living at home, as to how much parenting they required.
But yeah, I mean tolerating, right.
Speaker 2 (16:40):
I don't know if it's gender or personality, Like you
said that one is definitely like way more independent and
sort of responsible. Yeah, but the other one, it doesn't
mean that they want to be fuscat absolutely not. Yeah, yeah,
and definitely like as they've matured, it's it's different, you know,
(17:07):
I mean you can you can. Like my son had
a dog sitting job, like basically just go over, feed
the dog, take the dog out in the yard, bring
him back. And I was a little stressed about it
because it was for this friend of mine who has
a lot of health issues and also is hearing impaired,
(17:29):
and so I was like, oh, you know, he's gonna
need to communicate with with her. And and then at
the same she also has her mom living with her
who got dementia, and you know, they were having my
kid go and take care of the dog because the
elderly mother couldn't couldn't handle it. And I was like, oh,
(17:52):
so he's got to communicate with the person who can't hear,
and he's got to manage the mother with dementia. Like
because one time I stopped by the house to drop
something off or something, and the mom was so confused
and like I really felt like I made I stressed
her out by being so I was like, oh my gosh,
this sounds hard. But you know, he totally handled it
(18:16):
and it was it was all fine, and I'm like,
you know, everything went well. So yeah, you know, I
was like, I guess, you know, I need to give
them more credit.
Speaker 1 (18:28):
Yeah, yeah, Well, it definitely is a difference between you know,
adults who are able to do some things for themselves
and have their own opinions on things, right, kids who
you have to be up in their business all the time.
I'm trying to make that distincts. Then how much work
(18:48):
I have to do? Right, Yeah, there's still things, but right, yeah,
it's it is what it is.
Speaker 2 (18:58):
Yeah, it's it's very it's very interesting to me to
watch the the kid, you know, mature and change because
you know, this is a kid who we struggled so
much in terms of you know, high school just getting
him out of the door and you know, and but
(19:19):
if it's something that he feels strongly about, you know,
he's he's gonna do a really good chum.
Speaker 1 (19:27):
Yeah, yeah, and.
Speaker 2 (19:31):
He's getting ready to basically take a show on the
road in a while. And he's like, well, I didn't.
No one seemed to be making a list of everything
that we needed to bring and who has it and
who's bringing it, and and he's like, so I just
did it.
Speaker 1 (19:46):
Oh my goodness, you must be so proud look at
that him. Well, well, if nothing else, we need our
kids to be either in or adjacent to the nest
to continue giving us material to talk about. That's right,
because otherwise.
Speaker 2 (20:06):
What are we going to say?
Speaker 1 (20:08):
We'll have to make things up right.
Speaker 2 (20:11):
Well, here comes one dog, do you so.
Speaker 1 (20:14):
We can transition into material A dog pod?
Speaker 2 (20:18):
I mean that does? I mean, I know it's it's
not the same, but it does make us feel like
our nest is not fully empty when we have these
two very dependent creatures.
Speaker 1 (20:31):
That's right, that's right. Everybody needs a dependent creature. Thank
you for listening. You can find all our episodes on spreaker,
Apple Podcasts, Amazon Music, or wherever you get your podcasts.
You can find recaps, links, and an opportunity to comment
on our website at parentingroundabout dot com.
Speaker 2 (20:49):
You can also talk to us on our Facebook page,
on Instagram, or on Twitter. Where you'll find us at
roundabout Chat and please visit our Amazon shop at amazon
dot com, slash Shop slash Amitude, but you can find
links to a lot of the things we've talked about
over the years
Popular Podcasts
NFL Daily with Gregg Rosenthal
Gregg Rosenthal and a rotating crew of elite NFL Media co-hosts, including Patrick Claybon, Colleen Wolfe, Steve Wyche, Nick Shook and Jourdan Rodrigue of The Athletic get you caught up daily on all the NFL news and analysis you need to be smarter and funnier than your friends.
On Purpose with Jay Shetty
I’m Jay Shetty host of On Purpose the worlds #1 Mental Health podcast and I’m so grateful you found us. I started this podcast 5 years ago to invite you into conversations and workshops that are designed to help make you happier, healthier and more healed. I believe that when you (yes you) feel seen, heard and understood you’re able to deal with relationship struggles, work challenges and life’s ups and downs with more ease and grace. I interview experts, celebrities, thought leaders and athletes so that we can grow our mindset, build better habits and uncover a side of them we’ve never seen before. New episodes every Monday and Friday. Your support means the world to me and I don’t take it for granted — click the follow button and leave a review to help us spread the love with On Purpose. I can’t wait for you to listen to your first or 500th episode!
Dateline NBC
Current and classic episodes, featuring compelling true-crime mysteries, powerful documentaries and in-depth investigations. Follow now to get the latest episodes of Dateline NBC completely free, or subscribe to Dateline Premium for ad-free listening and exclusive bonus content: DatelinePremium.com