Melissa is a licensed mental health counselor and is on a mission to help others. Melissa's mother, Julie, passed away in October 2010 from ocular melanoma, something which the family knew she had beaten previously, and they didn't expect to come back.
Melissa discusses how her releationship with her mother changed from that of parent/child to patient/caregiver. Melissa was there for her mother and is appreciative of that, however she grieves the loss of the parent/child relationship as she knew it. Melissa was 24 when her life changed forever. This left Melissa to be an example to her younger siblings, and to go through her remaining life milestones without her mom.
From the unique viewpoint of a therapist and a griever, Melissa recounts her coping mechanisms and the years of therapy that have helped her personally. As a mother herself, Melissa has had to learn how to be a mom without her own mom. We discuss this experience for Melissa and she shares how she copes each day and what she has learned so far.
Melissa is also grieving the loss of her father, although he is still living. Grief effects everyone differently, and Melissa has seen first hand some of the devestation that can be caused by others.
Melissa's advice on mothering one's self:
"Tell yourself what you would tell a good friend."
Instagram: @melissanlav
If you'd like to donate to Tim Harris' project of providing free therapy to at least one person for one year, please visit www.grievingisbreathing.com/donate
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If you'd like to help donate to Tim Harris' project while becoming a part of the Parentless Podcast Patreon crew, visit here:
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This is a Back Home Media production, recorded and produced in Phoenix, AZ.
Additional production and music by Ian Releford.
Music by Colen Lococo and The Revolving Birds.
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