September 7, 2025 • 51 mins
OUTDATED OR EVOLVING: GEN Z’S TAKE ON MARRIAGE TODAY
As wedding bells ring louder for Cirimille Paglinawan, we sit down with her just days before she says “I do” to unpack a question that’s stirring across generations: Is marriage still relevant for Gen Z? In a time of shifting values, fluid relationships, and a growing emphasis on independence, many young adults are rethinking what commitment looks like—and whether traditional vows still hold meaning.
Cirimille shares her deeply personal reflections on love, partnership, and why she’s choosing marriage in a world where many are opting out. From navigating cultural expectations to embracing modern rituals, this conversation explores how Gen Z is reshaping the narrative around lifelong commitment—without losing sight of heritage, heart, or humor. Whether you’re single, partnered, or somewhere in between, this episode invites you to reflect on what “forever” means today—and why choosing it can still be a radical act.
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As wedding bells ring louder for Cirimille Paglinawan, we sit down with her just days before she says “I do” to unpack a question that’s stirring across generations: Is marriage still relevant for Gen Z? In a time of shifting values, fluid relationships, and a growing emphasis on independence, many young adults are rethinking what commitment looks like—and whether traditional vows still hold meaning.
Cirimille shares her deeply personal reflections on love, partnership, and why she’s choosing marriage in a world where many are opting out. From navigating cultural expectations to embracing modern rituals, this conversation explores how Gen Z is reshaping the narrative around lifelong commitment—without losing sight of heritage, heart, or humor. Whether you’re single, partnered, or somewhere in between, this episode invites you to reflect on what “forever” means today—and why choosing it can still be a radical act.
#OnTheDotPodcast #GenZMarriage #KasalPaBa #ModernLove #FilipinoDiaspora #VegasPinoy #IChooseLove #MarriageReimagined #CirimilleCountdown #FromMissToMrs #PodcastEpisode #RelationshipTalk #CulturalConversations #LoveIn2025
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Speaker 1 (00:27):
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Speaker 3 (03:31):
Hey m, happy morning day. It's the third day of
September right here in Las Vegas. It's the fourth somewhere else.
So welcome to on the dot. My name is Dorothy too.
You can call me mister Dot Orlola dot dot. And
(03:52):
I would like to welcome my partner Himia.
Speaker 5 (03:56):
Hello, Hello, Don, Hello, everybody.
Speaker 3 (03:59):
Will come to underdo Welcome, Welcome, So first Wednesday of September.
What's up for September? Yea anything specially.
Speaker 5 (04:12):
Oh Yeahmber, our elections very pun on the nineteenth, So
all members please come and join us at Conveda, Manila
on September nineteen eleven.
Speaker 3 (04:24):
To two pm.
Speaker 5 (04:26):
There's going to be lunch and raffle and a chance
to mingle with fellow members and officers. Last chance for
the for our administration like you yay, Thank.
Speaker 3 (04:42):
You Mia for your leadership for the past four years.
Oh my pleasure. Thank you for being my mentor.
Speaker 5 (04:49):
You and Anna and all Yes and.
Speaker 3 (04:52):
All our founders. Yes, thank you so much. Yeah, we're
talking about the University of the Philippine, a long Association
and Nevada. And this is of Nevada, I mean, and
this show is uh, it's an offshoot of it's a
project of Miya uh and a lot of projects during
(05:17):
the first part of your presidency.
Speaker 5 (05:19):
Yes, brainchild, Brain child, brain Child fun Day.
Speaker 3 (05:24):
See your part correct? Did we ever raise any funds
out of this? Man have funds but.
Speaker 6 (05:37):
The gun they're very open fund raising time, fans, Alan funds, time,
fun and fans.
Speaker 3 (05:50):
So this is positivity, yes, positivity and possibilities. So to
welcome this episode for September, let's introduce our guest Mia.
Our title is outdated, Neva or evolving. Gen Z's take
(06:12):
on marriage today is with us already? Yes, she is
with us now Okay.
Speaker 5 (06:18):
Our guest is the owner of CMC boutique. Will ask
her what CMC stands for. And she is a graduate
of the University of Northern ab UNLV.
Speaker 3 (06:32):
University of Nevada, Las Vegas.
Speaker 5 (06:34):
John She's a graduate of UNLV. She is also the
Miss United States Global Icon of twenty twenty four, Miss
Nevada Regency International twenty twenty three. Mess mil Fay Galera. Oh,
and the bride to be. She's getting married in September.
That's what's on in September, said mil Faygallera. Paglina, and
(06:58):
welcome to the show.
Speaker 7 (07:01):
Happy Wednesday.
Speaker 3 (07:05):
How are you O good? She's also a host here
producer is a pH OV Radio high.
Speaker 7 (07:13):
Streymil I thank you for having me.
Speaker 3 (07:18):
Your video.
Speaker 1 (07:21):
More.
Speaker 3 (07:21):
Uh, that is going to prepare it. So I say
best wishes to you.
Speaker 7 (07:30):
Thank you. Can you hear me? Okay, yes we.
Speaker 3 (07:33):
Can, Yes, Sonan questioned Mona. Before we go into the
details of your big plan for yourself, we have we
have our angel guide cards. Would you like to pick
(07:53):
a card for today? Yes, so just give me a
number and uh get the deck a card for you
from this deck eight number eight from the top or
from the bottom, from the bottom. Okay, so we will.
I will am picking a card right now. We will
(08:14):
talk about it afterwards, all right, Okay, s Miya has
a question for you, Ama. But does CMC stand for.
Speaker 7 (08:22):
CMC stands for so it's a family business. It actually
stands for my dad's name, which is Carillo, my mom's name,
which is Mila, and then my name is Sarah mal
So CMC.
Speaker 5 (08:34):
Oh have you been not the dev Yes?
Speaker 1 (08:41):
I have.
Speaker 3 (08:42):
I went there to Uh, I don't know. I was
looking for the owner.
Speaker 8 (08:49):
More.
Speaker 3 (08:50):
I thought your mom was the owner.
Speaker 8 (08:53):
Yeah, yes, yes, yes, said I was going to ask.
Speaker 3 (08:59):
Her for I know, oh yeah, something something like that,
something something Filippini. I have a cloth fabric that I
wanted made and a lady at the counters. She said, uh,
if I if I could give her my number? I did.
(09:22):
I never did get to call again, and she never
did call, so I said, never.
Speaker 7 (09:28):
Mind, Moona, We'll have her call you then. I'm so sorry.
Speaker 3 (09:31):
Do you? But do you do that? Do you?
Speaker 7 (09:35):
We would have to see, we haven't really because we
have suppliers and seamstress and the Philippines that do all
of that for Yeah, so we would have to see
if somebody here can do it for you, since you
have the fabric here already.
Speaker 3 (09:49):
I see. Okay, all right, So so that's just a
little story about that. Your mom, Your mom and I
we talked a little bit in one of the events. Yeah,
and uh yeah, so I understand your name to be
a combination of your mom's and dads' names.
Speaker 7 (10:07):
Yes, yes, very Filipino.
Speaker 3 (10:14):
Yeah. Okay, so answer the question, but to go to
the answer is no, no, outdated or let's just rephrase that.
What is your take on marriage today? You're getting married,
of course, so what's your take about that?
Speaker 2 (10:35):
Yeah?
Speaker 7 (10:35):
Well, I don't know does this I don't know if
this applies to me because I'm not gen Z. I'm millennial. Yeah,
so I don't know. I have some friends who are
in the millennial that don't believe in marriage, and you know,
they already have kids and they prefer to just have
a family and not get married. And I have friends
(10:56):
who are you know, gen z who do believe in marriage.
So it's kind of like I feel, it's varying between
the different generations. For me, the reason I believe in
marriage is because maybe it's my old school ways or
the way I was raised by my parents. You know,
(11:19):
even though I've been with my fiance for eleven years,
I consider us pretty much almost married. We're just legally
binding ourselves, you know, going to the altar, getting our
marriage license and papers like that. But I don't know.
The reason I believe in is because I feel like
it's just the correct way and legal way to like
(11:42):
finally officially put us together.
Speaker 3 (11:45):
Yeah. Yeah, eleven years, but you just look like you're twenty.
I know, how old were you when you were and
you got engaged eleven years old?
Speaker 7 (11:53):
What so I'm pretty one now?
Speaker 3 (11:57):
Oh no, okay, I'm thirty one now.
Speaker 7 (12:01):
We met when we were twenty years old, but we
got engaged about five years ago, right, before COVID, So
COVID happened, and we kind of just said, Okay, we'll
wait for planning because there's no really, there's no need
to plan right now because nothing's open. And then I
joined I decided to join a pageant in twenty twenty three,
(12:25):
and then you know that that takes a lot of
you know, your day and your year. So we decided, okay,
let's just finish the pageant out and then we'll get
married finally.
Speaker 5 (12:35):
So that's where we are now, the long engagement five years.
Speaker 3 (12:39):
Yeah, what's his name?
Speaker 7 (12:42):
His name is Spencer again, Spencer, Spencer.
Speaker 3 (12:46):
Yeah, all right, Spencer. So do you think n the
marriage shit you're seeing it is a parents small Yeah?
Do you think he would be able to carry the
values of that marriage into your own?
Speaker 7 (13:05):
Yeah? Absolutely. I still live with my parents at home,
so I am around them, even though I'm already thirty
years old. I'm around them pretty much every day, and
they still teach me a lot about you know, love,
marriage and being there for your partner, and it really
has shaped a lot of you know, my beliefs in
(13:28):
marriage nowadays, and especially since Spencer still lives with his
parents too, we get a lot of advice still from them,
and we really I owe it to them, both of
our parents for the reason why I we're together for
so long.
Speaker 3 (13:44):
Now I pressed the mute the dead air. So, so
(14:05):
you're living with your parents, he's living with his parents,
and then when you're married, you're going to live on
your own.
Speaker 7 (14:12):
Correct, We will move out and live in together.
Speaker 3 (14:15):
Yeah, and so that will be a very huge change.
Is he is he Filipino?
Speaker 7 (14:23):
No, he's Italian and half half Italian half Nigerian.
Speaker 3 (14:28):
Okay, all right, so does he speak?
Speaker 7 (14:33):
Yeah? How did we meet?
Speaker 3 (14:34):
Yeah?
Speaker 7 (14:35):
In college at UNLV, we had mutual friends. So Spencer
had seen me, I think on social media or one
of those social media and he reached out because he
saw that we had a mutual friend, so he asked
her to introduce us to each other, and then the
rest is history.
Speaker 5 (14:58):
And I came right away.
Speaker 7 (15:00):
Yeah. So the reason why my friend was so excited
to introduce us to each other is because she's known
him for a while and then I went to high
school with her. So she told me that our interests
aligned very closely, and so she was very excited to
introduce us to each other. And then from the first
(15:21):
day we met, we like, we love to do it.
We went bowling, we got sushi, we went ice skating.
And I think another thing that makes our relationship, you know,
so strong, is even if we didn't like something that
the other, like, if we didn't like one of our
each other's interests, we would always try it for each
(15:44):
other and give it a chance. And then that we
still bonded somehow through that way.
Speaker 3 (15:53):
You do things together.
Speaker 5 (15:55):
Yeah, and then you grew up together.
Speaker 3 (15:57):
Basically, Yeah, I guess the long friendship is Uh, it's
a big factor in marrying someone now. Yes, yeah, it's
great to marry your friend. Yes. Yeah.
Speaker 7 (16:11):
When when I look back on it, I think, what
what pushes me to want to get married is because
I consider him my best friend and to be able
to spend the rest of my life with somebody like that,
(16:32):
it's it makes me happy and it solidifies that that's
the reason why I want to get married and also
have a family. But you know, like it just makes
me so sure and wanting to get married because I
know I get to spend the rest of my life
with my best friend.
Speaker 3 (16:46):
Ah, how nice valley. Reason to get you right? So
me and what made you ask that question earlier.
Speaker 9 (16:58):
I say, the question was before before we created the
title C Yeah, yeah, we thought of is it still
Is it still a thing?
Speaker 7 (17:08):
You know?
Speaker 3 (17:09):
Do people still want to get married? Because Mia, what's
your take on that.
Speaker 5 (17:16):
I've encountered so many, as Cerimon said, millennials, we don't
believe in marriage anymore. Yeah, it makes me wonder what
their reasons are. Do you ask them? Have you heard
of their reasons why they don't believe in marriage anymore.
Speaker 7 (17:35):
I've heard from some people that they don't they just
don't believe in relationships at all. Wow, some of them
just prefer I know the difference between like millennials and
Gen Z millennials. You know, we were in that generation
where we still had the chance to go out with
our friends. When we were you know, we played outside,
(17:57):
we built physical relationship. I remember when I needed to
go see my friend, I have to walk to their
house and on the door. Nowadays, this new generation, everything's
on the phone. You can just call, you can FaceTime.
It's a little bit harder for them to connect physically.
So I feel like one of the one of my
(18:21):
Gen Z friends told me that it's easier for her
to just worry about herself and and not worry about
somebody else in a relationship. And you know that's just
how it is.
Speaker 3 (18:35):
Yeah, I do. I don't understand it. Yeah.
Speaker 5 (18:37):
And also with with how you met Spencer too, it's
kind of more traditional to compare to you know, the
dating apps now.
Speaker 7 (18:44):
Yes, yeah, yeah, I have a lot of like a
lot of our best friends, they are having their struggling
to find a partner in life. So I feel like
with gen Z too, when when they get let down
or when it's when it's a little bit tough to
find that right person, they kind of just accept that
(19:06):
maybe a relationship is not for me, you know, And
that's why.
Speaker 3 (19:11):
We're different.
Speaker 7 (19:12):
Now, Yeah, it's not interesting.
Speaker 3 (19:17):
It is very interesting because I have four kids. Yeah,
two of them believe in marriage and two do not.
So those who believe in marriage, she's already married now,
she has three kids. She's gonna have three kids, her
third kids soon. The other one who believes in marriage,
(19:38):
that's that's my son, the youngest. He's very picky with
who he goes out with, but he's still open to marriage.
But he doesn't want to have a girlfriend. She's really
very sure of her and So that's a different take
(20:00):
Nomania on what men or how young men think about
dating or going out with women. He's going to be
twenty six, but he doesn't believe in just having a girlfriend.
You know, he goes out with so many women with.
Speaker 5 (20:17):
So open relationship. Yeah, when you open, I'm confused. So
I'm alane so well as a specific person that he's dating.
Speaker 3 (20:30):
No, no friendship. I'm so it's just friendship me yet.
Speaker 5 (20:38):
And nothing, no relationship at all, just friendship, pure clean friendship.
Speaker 3 (20:46):
Hasn't met the one. He did have a girlfriend before,
but he broke up. That's exactly the point. He hasn't
met the one yet. But my my, I guess what
I appreciate about that is he's not going to have
a girlfriend until he's very sure that that is someone
he wants to stay with for a long time. So
(21:07):
that's one point of view among young people his age.
The two other ladies, one is thirty eight, the other
thirty six, they don't want to get married, they don't
want to have kids, And I'm also okay with that.
Why because for the reason that you mentioned earlier, Miya,
the way the world is running right now, pollution, instability,
(21:34):
in our governance in the world, you know, unsure, uncertainty,
So that's their reason. So in your case, Cerameo, you
despite whatever it is that you see in the world,
you see that it is still worthy to spend your
life together with someone.
Speaker 10 (21:55):
Yeah.
Speaker 7 (21:56):
Absolutely, I feel like the innership for us, even though
you know there is chaos or you know there's hardships
going on. I feel like, for me, as long as
I have my person next to me and we can
take on the world together, everything well we'll find its way.
Speaker 3 (22:19):
Oh that's very hopeful.
Speaker 5 (22:21):
Yeah, that's very romantic.
Speaker 3 (22:23):
I know it is you and me against the world.
Speaker 5 (22:29):
Romantic.
Speaker 7 (22:30):
You know what another thing, too, is I've talked to
or I've also had this, not myself. When it comes
to kids. You know that financial I don't know. I
don't think hardship is the right word, but that that financial.
Speaker 3 (22:49):
The financial aspect of it.
Speaker 7 (22:51):
Responsibility, the responsibility. I think a lot of you know
kids nowadays like us. I I've gone I'm already thirty
one and I don't have a kid yet, and I
have friends who have many kids. And for me, I've
gone back and forth with you know, it's kind of
nice not having a child to, you know, take care
of and I can go do what I want to do.
(23:13):
And I think that goes hand in hand with getting married.
You know, they don't these people, these kids nowadays, are like, oh,
I don't have anyone. I don't have to worry about
answering to anybody or worrying about a partner. I can
just take care of myself and do what i'm you know,
do take care of my needs.
Speaker 3 (23:30):
Right. I hear that too.
Speaker 5 (23:31):
In fact, one of my children said that it's said,
don't expect any grandchildren from her because I intend to
have kids. So I'm not ready to be ala yet.
But yeah, so they know already they plan for it. Yeah,
(23:56):
I know to me, but I guess that's a decision
they made.
Speaker 3 (24:00):
What mean yeah, yeah, yeah. It's on the one hand,
I feel responsible for creating dissolution. I would just say
dissolution or let's say, or or hopelessness among young people.
On the other hand, that's on one hand I feel responsible.
On the other hand, I would say not really, So
(24:23):
why do I feel responsible? It's collectively we adults or
we married people. You know, me, I've had a bad
marriage and it's gone. But then I got married again,
and it's a good one. So the the what am
I putting out there in the world that makes young
people shy away from having kids and marriage, Well, let
(24:49):
me just speak in behalf of other adults who are
very negative. For example, if I'm which I am not,
I am not?
Speaker 1 (24:59):
Not.
Speaker 3 (25:01):
If I say, if I complain a lot about the
world or politics, or relationships or my husband or children
and finances and all that, what message am I giving
to the young people? But if I'm appreciative and grateful,
that's a positive message that I'm giving young people. Right,
(25:21):
So coming from you, same from your parents, you've probably
heard a lot of positive things or you saw a
lot of positive energies from your parents. And what are these?
What are these?
Speaker 7 (25:35):
Well, okay, working with so we all work together as
a family. Of course, it's not you know, there are
some things that come with working with your parents. But
I've seen that, you know, my mom and dad, throughout
all these years of being together and working together, they
(25:56):
still find a way to each.
Speaker 3 (25:58):
Other and do what sorry said, to take care of.
Speaker 7 (26:02):
Each other for each other, even if it's just something small,
you know, like if my mom needs food that needs
to be cooked for her, my dad will you know,
always do it for her or you know, like even
if it's just laundry. It's the small things that like
that that make a big.
Speaker 3 (26:18):
Difference in the relationship.
Speaker 5 (26:21):
And I think that it's a natural tendency for parents.
You know, when something bad happens to your relationship, you
feel guilty and you kind of, yeah, you're gonna get
scared that it's going to happen to your children. But really,
I think the children are intelligent enough and they can
decide on their own and they kind of see what
(26:44):
happened and you know, you don't have to blame yourself.
Speaker 3 (26:48):
Or yeah, yeah, that is the other hand of it. Yeah,
like you're correct me, because they have a will of
their own, they have their own intelligence, they have their
own inner guidance and wisdom to guide them and uh,
you know, experiences to correct, correct, correct, And so Spencer
(27:14):
he sees the same things from his parents.
Speaker 7 (27:17):
Yes, yeah, so he an only kid?
Speaker 3 (27:19):
Are you? Are you only kids?
Speaker 7 (27:21):
I'm an only child from my mom and dad. So
my dad had a previous marriage and then he has
a son. But my brother, my half brother, is a
lot older. I would say he's fifteen years older.
Speaker 1 (27:35):
Than me.
Speaker 7 (27:36):
Yeah, and then Spencer has so his parents are also remarried.
He has a stepdad, but this is his birth mom.
But his stepdad has been there since he was six
months older, almost a year old, and he basically calls
that his dad.
Speaker 5 (27:54):
Okay, yeah, that's the culture of being half Nigerian. I
think Italian starts similar to Filipinos. But yeah, half Nigerian
and Italian. What's the mix there, what's the culture?
Speaker 7 (28:08):
He doesn't know? So his since is his real dad
left when he was such a baby. He never really
got to learn about his Nigerian cultures. Very Italian oriented.
Speaker 3 (28:20):
Okay.
Speaker 7 (28:21):
But he has an older sister, about five years older
than him. She is someone who doesn't believe in having children.
She's just kind of closed that off. And she's also
kind of not sure about relationships right now either. She's
been in a few, but she's had some bad experiences.
(28:42):
So I think when it comes to the people that
we're surrounded with, just like Ati Dot said, we have
our own We take things, you know, with a grain
of salt, and we learn from them, and but we
also remember we have our own experiences and stuff like that.
So yeah, that's a combination of learning from everything, the
(29:05):
good the bad, right.
Speaker 5 (29:08):
And I've also met a millennial who in the beginning
said they're not going to have children and they ended
up having two.
Speaker 3 (29:17):
It changes. Also, that's not true, that's so true. I
like what my my mentor said. I can always change
my mind once I know better, once I know better.
So that's uh. I said, Oh wow, okay, you don't
have to stick to your own ideas because we all grow,
(29:38):
we all evolved, and so we change our minds. So
one moment, that is because I don't want to have lead,
I don't want to have daughters. I just want to
have sons. I not that lumba bay. And I even said,
at some point when I was in college, I said,
if I'm gonna have a son, you know, this is
stupid talk.
Speaker 1 (29:59):
You know.
Speaker 3 (29:59):
I said, I'm gonna flash him down the toilet, you
know that kind of silly talk. And then I kept
wishing for a son, and finally I gave up, and
then he came. So you know how how things change,
you know. So it's well, Salita, it's always different, It's
(30:20):
always different.
Speaker 5 (30:22):
Nice, you know, I applaud the meal for believing still
in marriage.
Speaker 3 (30:30):
Yeah, when we come back from a short break. Can
we have that video of you in your community bridal shower? Yes, yes,
yes I wasn't there. I got the invitation through you
know the thing that went around, but yes I wasn't there.
(30:50):
So let's take a very very short break and I'm
going to see that. Stay with us.
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Speaker 4 (33:20):
It's a lunch hour in Vegas and we're on the
dot with Dot and Mia here on PHLV Radio.
Speaker 3 (33:31):
Yeah. Hello, we're back. We have our very special guest, Sermeuil,
the bride to be and que you something I think
will be the you of her. Okay. So the video
you just watched is from alex Iala. It's an invitation
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for the Grand Reunion and Convention of the University of
the Philippines Alumni Association in America in Houston, Texas is coming.
Oh next month, Na, next month?
Speaker 8 (34:04):
Nah?
Speaker 3 (34:05):
Yeah, yeah, October seventeen and eighteen. So miss Sermeo, Y
prepared for your video. More do you want to see
a well, this will also entail Clearyo's attention to Mamana.
Your card for card Cleo. Yeah, okay, let's have the
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card and here it is. It is called self acceptance.
You see that?
Speaker 7 (34:38):
Yes, I do, look at that.
Speaker 3 (34:41):
Look at that. When I saw the picture, the first
thing that came to my mind was like a bridal crown. Yeah,
what do you sense from it? Self acceptance?
Speaker 8 (34:57):
Wow?
Speaker 7 (34:57):
I actually resident Nate with that a lot right now,
especially with these last two weeks becoming a bride and
realizing that I'm changing my last name and I'm changing
into a different person, like kind of a different chapter
in my life, you know, I'm evolving. I've had to
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come to terms with a lot of self acceptance, kind
of shedding my old you know, the younger me and
the person who I was before and coming into a
new woman and this new part of my life. So
it's been a lot of self reflecting lately. So I
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feel like that card is very, very beautiful and very
perfect for this season.
Speaker 3 (35:48):
Yeah, it says here. So this is from Kyle Gray.
Kyle Gray is an angel reader. He says, you are
making incredible efforts to heal and release habits and thoughts
that once held you back. So take a moment to
look at yourself, like you said, self reflection through the
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loving eyes on God, and appreciate how far you have come,
all the adversity you have faced, and the person you
are today. So take a look at that. Angels are
wrapping their wings around you and encouraging you to see
what they see, and they see you as perfect just
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the way you are.
Speaker 7 (36:37):
Way.
Speaker 3 (36:38):
Yes, if your confidence has dropped recently or you have
not been as positive as you would like to have been.
Change that now by giving yourself credit where it is due.
I don't know if you have bridal jitters.
Speaker 7 (36:55):
This is great. Last night, I'm going to be very honest,
it was very tough for me with everything that's been
going on. I've learned that planning a wedding is just
not my cup of tea. It's very I mean, the
marriage is the beautiful part, but you know, the decorations
(37:17):
and dealing with inviting people and creating all the seating
chart it, yes's it's been daunting on me and make
me feel like I've lost my spark for.
Speaker 1 (37:35):
Months.
Speaker 7 (37:37):
So last night I was crying a little bit because
I just I cannot wait to be done with this,
and I feel like I want to go back to
my normal self already.
Speaker 8 (37:46):
So that card is like me, it is for you,
It is for you, and so this is just a
temporary spot in your life.
Speaker 3 (37:56):
You know, it's just a production. Yeah, look at it
like that. The marriage, he said, is the is the
best thing, but the wedding is the production.
Speaker 5 (38:08):
Have a funny story when when I was planning the
wedding in the Philippine, so Citty was here in the state,
and he was trying to change the deep and everything
was planned, the leddy, the reception, everything, and it was
changing the date. You know what I said, serving the Oh.
Speaker 10 (38:37):
My goodness is so hard. Yeah, I don't know.
Speaker 5 (38:44):
Someone Wow, Okay, they can't change. They know it's very
hard to plan a weddy it is.
Speaker 3 (38:53):
It is like that. Yeah, yeah, that's why I just
we just invited thirty people to our wedding and that's it.
But your community, your community leader, sermil that's why people
look up to you and your beauty queen, so like
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you have a responsibility, celebrity ca I'm lucky looking celebration
more so, here's what it says. Continuing, maybe you have
discovered that negative talk and thoughts are not working for you.
This is the time to try loving yourself instead. Like
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you said, you want to take a break now to
get started. Try speaking to yourself more respectfully and giving
yourself some leeway and some time to change exactly as
you said you're going to change. When this card appears,
know that your self esteem and confidence have taken some
mocks over the years, probably over the few days, and
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you have had thoughts that are no longer serving you,
So goodbye, Nasamaga. Old thoughts not that are your angels
want nothing more than for you to be happy and
at peace, and they are drawing close now to help
restore your confidence in yourself. You have the ability to
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live a life that you loved, but to experience that fully,
you have to recognize that you are so worthy of it.
Killing down card. So take some time today to realize
that Heaven loves you unconditionally, and then take small steps
to loving yourself the same way. The outer world you
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experience is the mirror of the conversations you have on
the inside with yourself, so align them with love. Yeah, conversations,
Oh yeah, to me love love finders.
Speaker 5 (41:02):
Very romantic and into So when you saw Spencer are
you first day? When did you find out that he's
still one?
Speaker 7 (41:13):
Well, here's the thing. So when Spencer and I first met,
we had just gotten out of relationships. So we're both
kind of just like, we were both a little bit like, okay,
well we're not sure. Let's start, you know, just being
friends and stuff like that and hanging out. But then
I think what made first okay, let me go back,
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Spencer said the day that he met me in person,
he had already like fallen in love with me, which
I love at first sight, first sight, and he told
me that when we met in the parking lot romantic,
I know, we said lot, He's like, oh, I'm going
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to marry this girl already. It's so sweet. But for me,
you know, I think maybe a woman we like to
we don't like to jump into things. Yeah, we like
to be sure. For me, when it was I think
the third date or the fourth date of us hanging out,
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and I just was so excited to see him again,
like I can't wait till I can see you again.
That's when I knew, like, oh, I really really like
this person and I want to spend more time with them.
Speaker 3 (42:33):
I love love love love.
Speaker 7 (42:39):
Not so funny. We need to get him on one
of these shows, I know.
Speaker 5 (42:47):
So he can defend himself.
Speaker 3 (42:51):
Is he prepared to live a life with you, to
share the limelight with you, to share your limelight, to
be in your limelight, because you know you're not gonna
let go of your community service, are you? No?
Speaker 7 (43:07):
Absolutely not. You know this, This community means so much
to me. And I mentioned this at the bridal shower
that you know I grew up as an only child
and to have this community you know, by my side
every single day. It's my extended family. I don't consider
them friends anymore. I could. I consider you guys all
from my family. And something Spencer that Spencer mentioned something
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that night that really touched my mom's heart and mind
you were talking about it. He just he said that
he wanted to thank all of the community for accepting
him as part as you know, as our own and
he has fallen in love with our culture so much
and it just means a lot for him to know
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that he has us to come to. And so that's
how I know he was willing to continue, you know,
sharing the limelight with me, especially because when it comes
to vendor events for the boutique or like the fashion show,
Spencer is always there. If he has work, he will
show up and I know for a fact that he will,
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you know, support us for the rest of time.
Speaker 3 (44:19):
Galleen and Galen, So, is is that your motif? Powder blue?
Speaker 7 (44:26):
Yeah, dusty blue and.
Speaker 3 (44:27):
Gold, dusty blue and a Philipinia.
Speaker 7 (44:31):
Yes, I had to put It's not required, but we're
asking the guests if they want to wear please come,
you know, dressed in their Filipiniana attire otherwise just wear forma.
My goal with this with the wedding was, since I
have so many different people coming from all different walks
of our our life, I want everyone to showcase their
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culture and showcase their express their fashion, express themselves and
then you know, joy together in union all of us
and and celebrate because there's no this is the only
day that we're all going to be together from you know,
all like from the community, from my friends to my family.
This is the only time that we will all be
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in the same room.
Speaker 3 (45:16):
Galling. I'm guling. So that's like four cultures, uh top
of my head. Italian, Terian, Filipino, An American, Yes, correct, yeah, yeah?
Are you going to Italy? You're going to where?
Speaker 7 (45:37):
We don't know yet, because this is the funny part.
We have Fiesta Filipino right after the wedding anywhere. Yeah,
but Spencer really wants to go to Japan. That's one
(45:57):
of his his dream vacations. And then I really wanted
to take him to the fourteens because the last two
times we went, he never got to go, and he's
been asking.
Speaker 3 (46:09):
Yeah, and then of course you go to Italy as well. Yeah,
that's a beautiful place. I want to say hello to Adele.
Hello Adele. Yeah, she says, hi, miss Surreal. Is that
the she said? Soon to be missus.
Speaker 7 (46:30):
Last name?
Speaker 10 (46:31):
Yeah?
Speaker 3 (46:32):
Yeah yeah, so Adele is watching? Will you be giving
up your what will happen to your title once you
get married? All your titles?
Speaker 7 (46:41):
Yeah, they're they're done, so that those will just be
like former miss.
Speaker 3 (46:47):
Yeah all right, then joined missus America? Yeah, missus now missus.
So we wish you all the best. So my my
gift for you, my public gift for you is that
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may you give and receive love imperfect balance. May you
give and receive love imperfect balance.
Speaker 7 (47:22):
Thank you?
Speaker 3 (47:22):
That acting gift me.
Speaker 8 (47:26):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (47:28):
And then on Rapper Rapper rap Here rap here self
accept us know the card it says holy love anyway,
that's another one, holy love. So may your love be
divine perfect? Yes? Yeah, So are you ready for to
(47:55):
quote Mia?
Speaker 1 (47:57):
Yes?
Speaker 5 (47:57):
Yes, um anonymous, You're not just a bride to be,
You're a walking fairy tale waiting to happen, a.
Speaker 3 (48:11):
Walking to waiting to happen. Oh, my heart, I love you,
my heart. Yeah, lots lots of them, and uh yeah, good,
good good and tons up, So all the best for
you and Spencer's remeal.
Speaker 5 (48:33):
Okay, I hope for your marriage because it's based on friendship.
Speaker 3 (48:38):
Yes, yes, yes, So don't entertain anything negative or anything
that would bring death to a relationship. Don't ever let
that in. Don't be tempted to let that in. That's
just my my advice, my worldly advice. I'll solicited advice.
(49:01):
So final words from you cur email.
Speaker 7 (49:05):
Thank you both for having me on here, and again
thank you to the community for you know, really being
so supportive of our business, but also me and just
you know, being the best at this and Kuyas and
Tita's and Tito's like I can never ask for. And yeah,
we've got less than two weeks away until I change
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my last name and become a married woman. So I
just want to say thank you everyone for all your
support and on Instagram, I've been getting into a lot
of social media lately. Uh so wedding content is there.
And then finally Fiesta Filipino on October fourth, we have
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CMC Boutique will be having a fashion show. We did
a casting call with everyone across the Las Vegas Valley,
so we have everyone from ages six all the way
up to like seventy or sixty years old. We recommend
you all come and check it out.
Speaker 3 (50:07):
Yay, all right, that will be at the M, right, yeah,
at the M all right.
Speaker 5 (50:12):
Them, let's see, let's before anymore.
Speaker 3 (50:19):
I'll still be here, still be here. Yeah yeah. Thank
you so much, Thank you so much, ambassador. Bye, have
a great life, Sey Meal. Buy me again next week.
Speaker 10 (50:39):
Friends, Thank you Bye.
Speaker 2 (51:01):
M
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Speaker 2 (01:13):
Comostama ISTSCA and non Eupe friends.
Speaker 3 (01:17):
I am Alex Yala.
Speaker 2 (01:19):
Please come to the UPAAA third Grand Reunion and Convention
this October seventeenth and eighteen, twenty twenty five at.
Speaker 3 (01:28):
The Western Gallery Hotel in Houston, Texas.
Speaker 1 (01:32):
All are welcome.
Speaker 2 (01:33):
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four our up scholars Nambaian Come and celebrate with the Jubileyans,
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Speaker 1 (01:50):
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And please join the UPAAA.
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Speaker 3 (03:31):
Hey m, happy morning day. It's the third day of
September right here in Las Vegas. It's the fourth somewhere else.
So welcome to on the dot. My name is Dorothy too.
You can call me mister Dot Orlola dot dot. And
(03:52):
I would like to welcome my partner Himia.
Speaker 5 (03:56):
Hello, Hello, Don, Hello, everybody.
Speaker 3 (03:59):
Will come to underdo Welcome, Welcome, So first Wednesday of September.
What's up for September? Yea anything specially.
Speaker 5 (04:12):
Oh Yeahmber, our elections very pun on the nineteenth, So
all members please come and join us at Conveda, Manila
on September nineteen eleven.
Speaker 3 (04:24):
To two pm.
Speaker 5 (04:26):
There's going to be lunch and raffle and a chance
to mingle with fellow members and officers. Last chance for
the for our administration like you yay, Thank.
Speaker 3 (04:42):
You Mia for your leadership for the past four years.
Oh my pleasure. Thank you for being my mentor.
Speaker 5 (04:49):
You and Anna and all Yes and.
Speaker 3 (04:52):
All our founders. Yes, thank you so much. Yeah, we're
talking about the University of the Philippine, a long Association
and Nevada. And this is of Nevada, I mean, and
this show is uh, it's an offshoot of it's a
project of Miya uh and a lot of projects during
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the first part of your presidency.
Speaker 5 (05:19):
Yes, brainchild, Brain child, brain Child fun Day.
Speaker 3 (05:24):
See your part correct? Did we ever raise any funds
out of this? Man have funds but.
Speaker 6 (05:37):
The gun they're very open fund raising time, fans, Alan funds, time,
fun and fans.
Speaker 3 (05:50):
So this is positivity, yes, positivity and possibilities. So to
welcome this episode for September, let's introduce our guest Mia.
Our title is outdated, Neva or evolving. Gen Z's take
(06:12):
on marriage today is with us already? Yes, she is
with us now Okay.
Speaker 5 (06:18):
Our guest is the owner of CMC boutique. Will ask
her what CMC stands for. And she is a graduate
of the University of Northern ab UNLV.
Speaker 3 (06:32):
University of Nevada, Las Vegas.
Speaker 5 (06:34):
John She's a graduate of UNLV. She is also the
Miss United States Global Icon of twenty twenty four, Miss
Nevada Regency International twenty twenty three. Mess mil Fay Galera. Oh,
and the bride to be. She's getting married in September.
That's what's on in September, said mil Faygallera. Paglina, and
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welcome to the show.
Speaker 7 (07:01):
Happy Wednesday.
Speaker 3 (07:05):
How are you O good? She's also a host here
producer is a pH OV Radio high.
Speaker 7 (07:13):
Streymil I thank you for having me.
Speaker 3 (07:18):
Your video.
Speaker 1 (07:21):
More.
Speaker 3 (07:21):
Uh, that is going to prepare it. So I say
best wishes to you.
Speaker 7 (07:30):
Thank you. Can you hear me? Okay, yes we.
Speaker 3 (07:33):
Can, Yes, Sonan questioned Mona. Before we go into the
details of your big plan for yourself, we have we
have our angel guide cards. Would you like to pick
(07:53):
a card for today? Yes, so just give me a
number and uh get the deck a card for you
from this deck eight number eight from the top or
from the bottom, from the bottom. Okay, so we will.
I will am picking a card right now. We will
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talk about it afterwards, all right, Okay, s Miya has
a question for you, Ama. But does CMC stand for.
Speaker 7 (08:22):
CMC stands for so it's a family business. It actually
stands for my dad's name, which is Carillo, my mom's name,
which is Mila, and then my name is Sarah mal
So CMC.
Speaker 5 (08:34):
Oh have you been not the dev Yes?
Speaker 1 (08:41):
I have.
Speaker 3 (08:42):
I went there to Uh, I don't know. I was
looking for the owner.
Speaker 8 (08:49):
More.
Speaker 3 (08:50):
I thought your mom was the owner.
Speaker 8 (08:53):
Yeah, yes, yes, yes, said I was going to ask.
Speaker 3 (08:59):
Her for I know, oh yeah, something something like that,
something something Filippini. I have a cloth fabric that I
wanted made and a lady at the counters. She said, uh,
if I if I could give her my number? I did.
(09:22):
I never did get to call again, and she never
did call, so I said, never.
Speaker 7 (09:28):
Mind, Moona, We'll have her call you then. I'm so sorry.
Speaker 3 (09:31):
Do you? But do you do that? Do you?
Speaker 7 (09:35):
We would have to see, we haven't really because we
have suppliers and seamstress and the Philippines that do all
of that for Yeah, so we would have to see
if somebody here can do it for you, since you
have the fabric here already.
Speaker 3 (09:49):
I see. Okay, all right, So so that's just a
little story about that. Your mom, Your mom and I
we talked a little bit in one of the events. Yeah,
and uh yeah, so I understand your name to be
a combination of your mom's and dads' names.
Speaker 7 (10:07):
Yes, yes, very Filipino.
Speaker 3 (10:14):
Yeah. Okay, so answer the question, but to go to
the answer is no, no, outdated or let's just rephrase that.
What is your take on marriage today? You're getting married,
of course, so what's your take about that?
Speaker 2 (10:35):
Yeah?
Speaker 7 (10:35):
Well, I don't know does this I don't know if
this applies to me because I'm not gen Z. I'm millennial. Yeah,
so I don't know. I have some friends who are
in the millennial that don't believe in marriage, and you know,
they already have kids and they prefer to just have
a family and not get married. And I have friends
(10:56):
who are you know, gen z who do believe in marriage.
So it's kind of like I feel, it's varying between
the different generations. For me, the reason I believe in
marriage is because maybe it's my old school ways or
the way I was raised by my parents. You know,
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even though I've been with my fiance for eleven years,
I consider us pretty much almost married. We're just legally
binding ourselves, you know, going to the altar, getting our
marriage license and papers like that. But I don't know.
The reason I believe in is because I feel like
it's just the correct way and legal way to like
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finally officially put us together.
Speaker 3 (11:45):
Yeah. Yeah, eleven years, but you just look like you're twenty.
I know, how old were you when you were and
you got engaged eleven years old?
Speaker 7 (11:53):
What so I'm pretty one now?
Speaker 3 (11:57):
Oh no, okay, I'm thirty one now.
Speaker 7 (12:01):
We met when we were twenty years old, but we
got engaged about five years ago, right, before COVID, So
COVID happened, and we kind of just said, Okay, we'll
wait for planning because there's no really, there's no need
to plan right now because nothing's open. And then I
joined I decided to join a pageant in twenty twenty three,
(12:25):
and then you know that that takes a lot of
you know, your day and your year. So we decided, okay,
let's just finish the pageant out and then we'll get
married finally.
Speaker 5 (12:35):
So that's where we are now, the long engagement five years.
Speaker 3 (12:39):
Yeah, what's his name?
Speaker 7 (12:42):
His name is Spencer again, Spencer, Spencer.
Speaker 3 (12:46):
Yeah, all right, Spencer. So do you think n the
marriage shit you're seeing it is a parents small Yeah?
Do you think he would be able to carry the
values of that marriage into your own?
Speaker 7 (13:05):
Yeah? Absolutely. I still live with my parents at home,
so I am around them, even though I'm already thirty
years old. I'm around them pretty much every day, and
they still teach me a lot about you know, love,
marriage and being there for your partner, and it really
has shaped a lot of you know, my beliefs in
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marriage nowadays, and especially since Spencer still lives with his
parents too, we get a lot of advice still from them,
and we really I owe it to them, both of
our parents for the reason why I we're together for
so long.
Speaker 3 (13:44):
Now I pressed the mute the dead air. So, so
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you're living with your parents, he's living with his parents,
and then when you're married, you're going to live on
your own.
Speaker 7 (14:12):
Correct, We will move out and live in together.
Speaker 3 (14:15):
Yeah, and so that will be a very huge change.
Is he is he Filipino?
Speaker 7 (14:23):
No, he's Italian and half half Italian half Nigerian.
Speaker 3 (14:28):
Okay, all right, so does he speak?
Speaker 7 (14:33):
Yeah? How did we meet?
Speaker 3 (14:34):
Yeah?
Speaker 7 (14:35):
In college at UNLV, we had mutual friends. So Spencer
had seen me, I think on social media or one
of those social media and he reached out because he
saw that we had a mutual friend, so he asked
her to introduce us to each other, and then the
rest is history.
Speaker 5 (14:58):
And I came right away.
Speaker 7 (15:00):
Yeah. So the reason why my friend was so excited
to introduce us to each other is because she's known
him for a while and then I went to high
school with her. So she told me that our interests
aligned very closely, and so she was very excited to
introduce us to each other. And then from the first
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day we met, we like, we love to do it.
We went bowling, we got sushi, we went ice skating.
And I think another thing that makes our relationship, you know,
so strong, is even if we didn't like something that
the other, like, if we didn't like one of our
each other's interests, we would always try it for each
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other and give it a chance. And then that we
still bonded somehow through that way.
Speaker 3 (15:53):
You do things together.
Speaker 5 (15:55):
Yeah, and then you grew up together.
Speaker 3 (15:57):
Basically, Yeah, I guess the long friendship is Uh, it's
a big factor in marrying someone now. Yes, yeah, it's
great to marry your friend. Yes. Yeah.
Speaker 7 (16:11):
When when I look back on it, I think, what
what pushes me to want to get married is because
I consider him my best friend and to be able
to spend the rest of my life with somebody like that,
(16:32):
it's it makes me happy and it solidifies that that's
the reason why I want to get married and also
have a family. But you know, like it just makes
me so sure and wanting to get married because I
know I get to spend the rest of my life
with my best friend.
Speaker 3 (16:46):
Ah, how nice valley. Reason to get you right? So
me and what made you ask that question earlier.
Speaker 9 (16:58):
I say, the question was before before we created the
title C Yeah, yeah, we thought of is it still
Is it still a thing?
Speaker 7 (17:08):
You know?
Speaker 3 (17:09):
Do people still want to get married? Because Mia, what's
your take on that.
Speaker 5 (17:16):
I've encountered so many, as Cerimon said, millennials, we don't
believe in marriage anymore. Yeah, it makes me wonder what
their reasons are. Do you ask them? Have you heard
of their reasons why they don't believe in marriage anymore.
Speaker 7 (17:35):
I've heard from some people that they don't they just
don't believe in relationships at all. Wow, some of them
just prefer I know the difference between like millennials and
Gen Z millennials. You know, we were in that generation
where we still had the chance to go out with
our friends. When we were you know, we played outside,
(17:57):
we built physical relationship. I remember when I needed to
go see my friend, I have to walk to their
house and on the door. Nowadays, this new generation, everything's
on the phone. You can just call, you can FaceTime.
It's a little bit harder for them to connect physically.
So I feel like one of the one of my
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Gen Z friends told me that it's easier for her
to just worry about herself and and not worry about
somebody else in a relationship. And you know that's just
how it is.
Speaker 3 (18:35):
Yeah, I do. I don't understand it. Yeah.
Speaker 5 (18:37):
And also with with how you met Spencer too, it's
kind of more traditional to compare to you know, the
dating apps now.
Speaker 7 (18:44):
Yes, yeah, yeah, I have a lot of like a
lot of our best friends, they are having their struggling
to find a partner in life. So I feel like
with gen Z too, when when they get let down
or when it's when it's a little bit tough to
find that right person, they kind of just accept that
(19:06):
maybe a relationship is not for me, you know, And
that's why.
Speaker 3 (19:11):
We're different.
Speaker 7 (19:12):
Now, Yeah, it's not interesting.
Speaker 3 (19:17):
It is very interesting because I have four kids. Yeah,
two of them believe in marriage and two do not.
So those who believe in marriage, she's already married now,
she has three kids. She's gonna have three kids, her
third kids soon. The other one who believes in marriage,
(19:38):
that's that's my son, the youngest. He's very picky with
who he goes out with, but he's still open to marriage.
But he doesn't want to have a girlfriend. She's really
very sure of her and So that's a different take
(20:00):
Nomania on what men or how young men think about
dating or going out with women. He's going to be
twenty six, but he doesn't believe in just having a girlfriend.
You know, he goes out with so many women with.
Speaker 5 (20:17):
So open relationship. Yeah, when you open, I'm confused. So
I'm alane so well as a specific person that he's dating.
Speaker 3 (20:30):
No, no friendship. I'm so it's just friendship me yet.
Speaker 5 (20:38):
And nothing, no relationship at all, just friendship, pure clean friendship.
Speaker 3 (20:46):
Hasn't met the one. He did have a girlfriend before,
but he broke up. That's exactly the point. He hasn't
met the one yet. But my my, I guess what
I appreciate about that is he's not going to have
a girlfriend until he's very sure that that is someone
he wants to stay with for a long time. So
(21:07):
that's one point of view among young people his age.
The two other ladies, one is thirty eight, the other
thirty six, they don't want to get married, they don't
want to have kids, And I'm also okay with that.
Why because for the reason that you mentioned earlier, Miya,
the way the world is running right now, pollution, instability,
(21:34):
in our governance in the world, you know, unsure, uncertainty,
So that's their reason. So in your case, Cerameo, you
despite whatever it is that you see in the world,
you see that it is still worthy to spend your
life together with someone.
Speaker 10 (21:55):
Yeah.
Speaker 7 (21:56):
Absolutely, I feel like the innership for us, even though
you know there is chaos or you know there's hardships
going on. I feel like, for me, as long as
I have my person next to me and we can
take on the world together, everything well we'll find its way.
Speaker 3 (22:19):
Oh that's very hopeful.
Speaker 5 (22:21):
Yeah, that's very romantic.
Speaker 3 (22:23):
I know it is you and me against the world.
Speaker 5 (22:29):
Romantic.
Speaker 7 (22:30):
You know what another thing, too, is I've talked to
or I've also had this, not myself. When it comes
to kids. You know that financial I don't know. I
don't think hardship is the right word, but that that financial.
Speaker 3 (22:49):
The financial aspect of it.
Speaker 7 (22:51):
Responsibility, the responsibility. I think a lot of you know
kids nowadays like us. I I've gone I'm already thirty
one and I don't have a kid yet, and I
have friends who have many kids. And for me, I've
gone back and forth with you know, it's kind of
nice not having a child to, you know, take care
of and I can go do what I want to do.
(23:13):
And I think that goes hand in hand with getting married.
You know, they don't these people, these kids nowadays, are like, oh,
I don't have anyone. I don't have to worry about
answering to anybody or worrying about a partner. I can
just take care of myself and do what i'm you know,
do take care of my needs.
Speaker 3 (23:30):
Right. I hear that too.
Speaker 5 (23:31):
In fact, one of my children said that it's said,
don't expect any grandchildren from her because I intend to
have kids. So I'm not ready to be ala yet.
But yeah, so they know already they plan for it. Yeah,
(23:56):
I know to me, but I guess that's a decision
they made.
Speaker 3 (24:00):
What mean yeah, yeah, yeah. It's on the one hand,
I feel responsible for creating dissolution. I would just say
dissolution or let's say, or or hopelessness among young people.
On the other hand, that's on one hand I feel responsible.
On the other hand, I would say not really, So
(24:23):
why do I feel responsible? It's collectively we adults or
we married people. You know, me, I've had a bad
marriage and it's gone. But then I got married again,
and it's a good one. So the the what am
I putting out there in the world that makes young
people shy away from having kids and marriage, Well, let
(24:49):
me just speak in behalf of other adults who are
very negative. For example, if I'm which I am not,
I am not?
Speaker 1 (24:59):
Not.
Speaker 3 (25:01):
If I say, if I complain a lot about the
world or politics, or relationships or my husband or children
and finances and all that, what message am I giving
to the young people? But if I'm appreciative and grateful,
that's a positive message that I'm giving young people. Right,
(25:21):
So coming from you, same from your parents, you've probably
heard a lot of positive things or you saw a
lot of positive energies from your parents. And what are these?
What are these?
Speaker 7 (25:35):
Well, okay, working with so we all work together as
a family. Of course, it's not you know, there are
some things that come with working with your parents. But
I've seen that, you know, my mom and dad, throughout
all these years of being together and working together, they
(25:56):
still find a way to each.
Speaker 3 (25:58):
Other and do what sorry said, to take care of.
Speaker 7 (26:02):
Each other for each other, even if it's just something small,
you know, like if my mom needs food that needs
to be cooked for her, my dad will you know,
always do it for her or you know, like even
if it's just laundry. It's the small things that like
that that make a big.
Speaker 3 (26:18):
Difference in the relationship.
Speaker 5 (26:21):
And I think that it's a natural tendency for parents.
You know, when something bad happens to your relationship, you
feel guilty and you kind of, yeah, you're gonna get
scared that it's going to happen to your children. But really,
I think the children are intelligent enough and they can
decide on their own and they kind of see what
(26:44):
happened and you know, you don't have to blame yourself.
Speaker 3 (26:48):
Or yeah, yeah, that is the other hand of it. Yeah,
like you're correct me, because they have a will of
their own, they have their own intelligence, they have their
own inner guidance and wisdom to guide them and uh,
you know, experiences to correct, correct, correct, And so Spencer
(27:14):
he sees the same things from his parents.
Speaker 7 (27:17):
Yes, yeah, so he an only kid?
Speaker 3 (27:19):
Are you? Are you only kids?
Speaker 7 (27:21):
I'm an only child from my mom and dad. So
my dad had a previous marriage and then he has
a son. But my brother, my half brother, is a
lot older. I would say he's fifteen years older.
Speaker 1 (27:35):
Than me.
Speaker 7 (27:36):
Yeah, and then Spencer has so his parents are also remarried.
He has a stepdad, but this is his birth mom.
But his stepdad has been there since he was six
months older, almost a year old, and he basically calls
that his dad.
Speaker 5 (27:54):
Okay, yeah, that's the culture of being half Nigerian. I
think Italian starts similar to Filipinos. But yeah, half Nigerian
and Italian. What's the mix there, what's the culture?
Speaker 7 (28:08):
He doesn't know? So his since is his real dad
left when he was such a baby. He never really
got to learn about his Nigerian cultures. Very Italian oriented.
Speaker 3 (28:20):
Okay.
Speaker 7 (28:21):
But he has an older sister, about five years older
than him. She is someone who doesn't believe in having children.
She's just kind of closed that off. And she's also
kind of not sure about relationships right now either. She's
been in a few, but she's had some bad experiences.
(28:42):
So I think when it comes to the people that
we're surrounded with, just like Ati Dot said, we have
our own We take things, you know, with a grain
of salt, and we learn from them, and but we
also remember we have our own experiences and stuff like that.
So yeah, that's a combination of learning from everything, the
(29:05):
good the bad, right.
Speaker 5 (29:08):
And I've also met a millennial who in the beginning
said they're not going to have children and they ended
up having two.
Speaker 3 (29:17):
It changes. Also, that's not true, that's so true. I
like what my my mentor said. I can always change
my mind once I know better, once I know better.
So that's uh. I said, Oh wow, okay, you don't
have to stick to your own ideas because we all grow,
(29:38):
we all evolved, and so we change our minds. So
one moment, that is because I don't want to have lead,
I don't want to have daughters. I just want to
have sons. I not that lumba bay. And I even said,
at some point when I was in college, I said,
if I'm gonna have a son, you know, this is
stupid talk.
Speaker 1 (29:59):
You know.
Speaker 3 (29:59):
I said, I'm gonna flash him down the toilet, you
know that kind of silly talk. And then I kept
wishing for a son, and finally I gave up, and
then he came. So you know how how things change,
you know. So it's well, Salita, it's always different, It's
(30:20):
always different.
Speaker 5 (30:22):
Nice, you know, I applaud the meal for believing still
in marriage.
Speaker 3 (30:30):
Yeah, when we come back from a short break. Can
we have that video of you in your community bridal shower? Yes, yes,
yes I wasn't there. I got the invitation through you
know the thing that went around, but yes I wasn't there.
(30:50):
So let's take a very very short break and I'm
going to see that. Stay with us.
Speaker 4 (30:55):
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Speaker 3 (33:31):
Yeah. Hello, we're back. We have our very special guest, Sermeuil,
the bride to be and que you something I think
will be the you of her. Okay. So the video
you just watched is from alex Iala. It's an invitation
(33:53):
for the Grand Reunion and Convention of the University of
the Philippines Alumni Association in America in Houston, Texas is coming.
Oh next month, Na, next month?
Speaker 8 (34:04):
Nah?
Speaker 3 (34:05):
Yeah, yeah, October seventeen and eighteen. So miss Sermeo, Y
prepared for your video. More do you want to see
a well, this will also entail Clearyo's attention to Mamana.
Your card for card Cleo. Yeah, okay, let's have the
(34:29):
card and here it is. It is called self acceptance.
You see that?
Speaker 7 (34:38):
Yes, I do, look at that.
Speaker 3 (34:41):
Look at that. When I saw the picture, the first
thing that came to my mind was like a bridal crown. Yeah,
what do you sense from it? Self acceptance?
Speaker 8 (34:57):
Wow?
Speaker 7 (34:57):
I actually resident Nate with that a lot right now,
especially with these last two weeks becoming a bride and
realizing that I'm changing my last name and I'm changing
into a different person, like kind of a different chapter
in my life, you know, I'm evolving. I've had to
(35:19):
come to terms with a lot of self acceptance, kind
of shedding my old you know, the younger me and
the person who I was before and coming into a
new woman and this new part of my life. So
it's been a lot of self reflecting lately. So I
(35:40):
feel like that card is very, very beautiful and very
perfect for this season.
Speaker 3 (35:48):
Yeah, it says here. So this is from Kyle Gray.
Kyle Gray is an angel reader. He says, you are
making incredible efforts to heal and release habits and thoughts
that once held you back. So take a moment to
look at yourself, like you said, self reflection through the
(36:10):
loving eyes on God, and appreciate how far you have come,
all the adversity you have faced, and the person you
are today. So take a look at that. Angels are
wrapping their wings around you and encouraging you to see
what they see, and they see you as perfect just
(36:31):
the way you are.
Speaker 7 (36:37):
Way.
Speaker 3 (36:38):
Yes, if your confidence has dropped recently or you have
not been as positive as you would like to have been.
Change that now by giving yourself credit where it is due.
I don't know if you have bridal jitters.
Speaker 7 (36:55):
This is great. Last night, I'm going to be very honest,
it was very tough for me with everything that's been
going on. I've learned that planning a wedding is just
not my cup of tea. It's very I mean, the
marriage is the beautiful part, but you know, the decorations
(37:17):
and dealing with inviting people and creating all the seating
chart it, yes's it's been daunting on me and make
me feel like I've lost my spark for.
Speaker 1 (37:35):
Months.
Speaker 7 (37:37):
So last night I was crying a little bit because
I just I cannot wait to be done with this,
and I feel like I want to go back to
my normal self already.
Speaker 8 (37:46):
So that card is like me, it is for you,
It is for you, and so this is just a
temporary spot in your life.
Speaker 3 (37:56):
You know, it's just a production. Yeah, look at it
like that. The marriage, he said, is the is the
best thing, but the wedding is the production.
Speaker 5 (38:08):
Have a funny story when when I was planning the
wedding in the Philippine, so Citty was here in the state,
and he was trying to change the deep and everything
was planned, the leddy, the reception, everything, and it was
changing the date. You know what I said, serving the Oh.
Speaker 10 (38:37):
My goodness is so hard. Yeah, I don't know.
Speaker 5 (38:44):
Someone Wow, Okay, they can't change. They know it's very
hard to plan a weddy it is.
Speaker 3 (38:53):
It is like that. Yeah, yeah, that's why I just
we just invited thirty people to our wedding and that's it.
But your community, your community leader, sermil that's why people
look up to you and your beauty queen, so like
(39:13):
you have a responsibility, celebrity ca I'm lucky looking celebration
more so, here's what it says. Continuing, maybe you have
discovered that negative talk and thoughts are not working for you.
This is the time to try loving yourself instead. Like
(39:33):
you said, you want to take a break now to
get started. Try speaking to yourself more respectfully and giving
yourself some leeway and some time to change exactly as
you said you're going to change. When this card appears,
know that your self esteem and confidence have taken some
mocks over the years, probably over the few days, and
(39:55):
you have had thoughts that are no longer serving you,
So goodbye, Nasamaga. Old thoughts not that are your angels
want nothing more than for you to be happy and
at peace, and they are drawing close now to help
restore your confidence in yourself. You have the ability to
(40:16):
live a life that you loved, but to experience that fully,
you have to recognize that you are so worthy of it.
Killing down card. So take some time today to realize
that Heaven loves you unconditionally, and then take small steps
to loving yourself the same way. The outer world you
(40:37):
experience is the mirror of the conversations you have on
the inside with yourself, so align them with love. Yeah, conversations,
Oh yeah, to me love love finders.
Speaker 5 (41:02):
Very romantic and into So when you saw Spencer are
you first day? When did you find out that he's
still one?
Speaker 7 (41:13):
Well, here's the thing. So when Spencer and I first met,
we had just gotten out of relationships. So we're both
kind of just like, we were both a little bit like, okay,
well we're not sure. Let's start, you know, just being
friends and stuff like that and hanging out. But then
I think what made first okay, let me go back,
(41:36):
Spencer said the day that he met me in person,
he had already like fallen in love with me, which
I love at first sight, first sight, and he told
me that when we met in the parking lot romantic,
I know, we said lot, He's like, oh, I'm going
(41:58):
to marry this girl already. It's so sweet. But for me,
you know, I think maybe a woman we like to
we don't like to jump into things. Yeah, we like
to be sure. For me, when it was I think
the third date or the fourth date of us hanging out,
(42:20):
and I just was so excited to see him again,
like I can't wait till I can see you again.
That's when I knew, like, oh, I really really like
this person and I want to spend more time with them.
Speaker 3 (42:33):
I love love love love.
Speaker 7 (42:39):
Not so funny. We need to get him on one
of these shows, I know.
Speaker 5 (42:47):
So he can defend himself.
Speaker 3 (42:51):
Is he prepared to live a life with you, to
share the limelight with you, to share your limelight, to
be in your limelight, because you know you're not gonna
let go of your community service, are you? No?
Speaker 7 (43:07):
Absolutely not. You know this, This community means so much
to me. And I mentioned this at the bridal shower
that you know I grew up as an only child
and to have this community you know, by my side
every single day. It's my extended family. I don't consider
them friends anymore. I could. I consider you guys all
from my family. And something Spencer that Spencer mentioned something
(43:32):
that night that really touched my mom's heart and mind
you were talking about it. He just he said that
he wanted to thank all of the community for accepting
him as part as you know, as our own and
he has fallen in love with our culture so much
and it just means a lot for him to know
(43:52):
that he has us to come to. And so that's
how I know he was willing to continue, you know,
sharing the limelight with me, especially because when it comes
to vendor events for the boutique or like the fashion show,
Spencer is always there. If he has work, he will
show up and I know for a fact that he will,
(44:15):
you know, support us for the rest of time.
Speaker 3 (44:19):
Galleen and Galen, So, is is that your motif? Powder blue?
Speaker 7 (44:26):
Yeah, dusty blue and.
Speaker 3 (44:27):
Gold, dusty blue and a Philipinia.
Speaker 7 (44:31):
Yes, I had to put It's not required, but we're
asking the guests if they want to wear please come,
you know, dressed in their Filipiniana attire otherwise just wear forma.
My goal with this with the wedding was, since I
have so many different people coming from all different walks
of our our life, I want everyone to showcase their
(44:53):
culture and showcase their express their fashion, express themselves and
then you know, joy together in union all of us
and and celebrate because there's no this is the only
day that we're all going to be together from you know,
all like from the community, from my friends to my family.
This is the only time that we will all be
(45:14):
in the same room.
Speaker 3 (45:16):
Galling. I'm guling. So that's like four cultures, uh top
of my head. Italian, Terian, Filipino, An American, Yes, correct, yeah, yeah?
Are you going to Italy? You're going to where?
Speaker 7 (45:37):
We don't know yet, because this is the funny part.
We have Fiesta Filipino right after the wedding anywhere. Yeah,
but Spencer really wants to go to Japan. That's one
(45:57):
of his his dream vacations. And then I really wanted
to take him to the fourteens because the last two
times we went, he never got to go, and he's
been asking.
Speaker 3 (46:09):
Yeah, and then of course you go to Italy as well. Yeah,
that's a beautiful place. I want to say hello to Adele.
Hello Adele. Yeah, she says, hi, miss Surreal. Is that
the she said? Soon to be missus.
Speaker 7 (46:30):
Last name?
Speaker 10 (46:31):
Yeah?
Speaker 3 (46:32):
Yeah yeah, so Adele is watching? Will you be giving
up your what will happen to your title once you
get married? All your titles?
Speaker 7 (46:41):
Yeah, they're they're done, so that those will just be
like former miss.
Speaker 3 (46:47):
Yeah all right, then joined missus America? Yeah, missus now missus.
So we wish you all the best. So my my
gift for you, my public gift for you is that
(47:10):
may you give and receive love imperfect balance. May you
give and receive love imperfect balance.
Speaker 7 (47:22):
Thank you?
Speaker 3 (47:22):
That acting gift me.
Speaker 8 (47:26):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (47:28):
And then on Rapper Rapper rap Here rap here self
accept us know the card it says holy love anyway,
that's another one, holy love. So may your love be
divine perfect? Yes? Yeah, So are you ready for to
(47:55):
quote Mia?
Speaker 1 (47:57):
Yes?
Speaker 5 (47:57):
Yes, um anonymous, You're not just a bride to be,
You're a walking fairy tale waiting to happen, a.
Speaker 3 (48:11):
Walking to waiting to happen. Oh, my heart, I love you,
my heart. Yeah, lots lots of them, and uh yeah, good,
good good and tons up, So all the best for
you and Spencer's remeal.
Speaker 5 (48:33):
Okay, I hope for your marriage because it's based on friendship.
Speaker 3 (48:38):
Yes, yes, yes, So don't entertain anything negative or anything
that would bring death to a relationship. Don't ever let
that in. Don't be tempted to let that in. That's
just my my advice, my worldly advice. I'll solicited advice.
(49:01):
So final words from you cur email.
Speaker 7 (49:05):
Thank you both for having me on here, and again
thank you to the community for you know, really being
so supportive of our business, but also me and just
you know, being the best at this and Kuyas and
Tita's and Tito's like I can never ask for. And yeah,
we've got less than two weeks away until I change
(49:29):
my last name and become a married woman. So I
just want to say thank you everyone for all your
support and on Instagram, I've been getting into a lot
of social media lately. Uh so wedding content is there.
And then finally Fiesta Filipino on October fourth, we have
(49:49):
CMC Boutique will be having a fashion show. We did
a casting call with everyone across the Las Vegas Valley,
so we have everyone from ages six all the way
up to like seventy or sixty years old. We recommend
you all come and check it out.
Speaker 3 (50:07):
Yay, all right, that will be at the M, right, yeah,
at the M all right.
Speaker 5 (50:12):
Them, let's see, let's before anymore.
Speaker 3 (50:19):
I'll still be here, still be here. Yeah yeah. Thank
you so much, Thank you so much, ambassador. Bye, have
a great life, Sey Meal. Buy me again next week.
Speaker 10 (50:39):
Friends, Thank you Bye.
Speaker 2 (51:01):
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