BLENDING FAMILIES

Lady J and Mark B discuss the pros, cons, challenges, and benefits of blending a family with children. When should you bring your mate to meet your parents? The kids?

Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:26):
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Alright, just a little delay anyway, you have to didn't
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How did y'all start y'all new year outside of the
way all the let's started our new year with the
foolishness that what's going on in Washington, DC?

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Hey, that ain't we let the colonizers do what the
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meeting popcorn watching watching the white folks go crazy over
there in Washington.

Speaker 3 (03:14):
Yeah.

Speaker 5 (03:16):
Yeah, So tonight we are talking about blended families, and
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(03:41):
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(04:24):
of the way, so let's get into this topic blended families. So,
I mean, there are all types of blended families when
talking about relationships and two people come together. I don't
know so, Mark, but you want to start us off,
what what do you feel? How do you feel about
blended families? Blended families are a bit difficult, I will say.

Speaker 1 (04:42):
That to me, and foremost, when we talk about blended family,
we're not talking about blended along the racial lines. We're
talking about you and your kids coming together with them
and their kids. That's what we're talking about. So initially,
what tends to happen or what I see lot of
is people come together because they're in love, but they

(05:05):
don't come up with a plan on how to blend
their families together, and that can cause a whole bunch
of issues down the road. As far as if this
man is coming into your life, when do the kids
actually have to listen to this person? Do you have
rules set in place for kids to respect adults? Are

(05:25):
they Are they only respecting you if you are the
mother or the father. Have you prepared your children for
you to be dating somebody else and for you to
be bringing their kids in. Those are all things that
you need to know. And if you're going to blend
the faith, you have made the decision to blend the
families together, have you decided or have you taken into

(05:47):
consideration your kids feelings? Have you introduced them to the
person that you're blending with? Have you made sure that
they're comfortable with the person that you're starting your new
life life out with. Are attempting to blend merge your
families together with, so those tend to be issues that
people don't actually think about before they try and blend

(06:10):
a family. They kind of just put the kids in
one room and figure they're gonna figure it out.

Speaker 5 (06:17):
So I think, well, I think it really depends on
the individual that you're with and their children. So I
have been in previous relationships with people who I have
messed really well with their kids, and so have my kids.
Like if your children, I'm speaking for me personally or
people like me. If my children are very they've been

(06:39):
exposed to a lot of different things. So like when
it comes to life and when it comes to extracurricular activities.
They've been exposed to things that most kids haven't. So
my kids are very sociable too. So I mean I've
talked to people, been in relationships with people who have
kids that are really quiet. They don't really me and
their kids that that type of kid doesn't really mesh well.

(07:03):
And when I say don't mesh well, I don't mean like, uh,
like the kid hates me or I hate the kid.
It just is not that like a strong type of
relationship type. If your kids are very mellow, we're probably
not gonna be like this, Like for those of you
who are listening on radio, like fingers crossed, we ain't
gonna be like this. My kids are not probably gonna

(07:25):
be really interactive with that child either because the personalities
or there there, I should say, their energy it doesn't
match if uh and you know, talking to them would
be one thing, uh, but like having a whole lot
of interaction type thing, or it wouldn't be like hey,

(07:48):
you know how sometimes you get with people and there
you just love their their kids become like your kids,
and if you're married, of course their kids do become
your kids.

Speaker 3 (07:56):
But the type of relationship that you have with each kid.

Speaker 5 (07:58):
If they have multiple kids, it's gonna be different depending
upon that kid's personality or how open they are or whatever.
Because I don't believe in forcing kids to have relationships
with people. I think it's better if things happen naturally
and organically, even though you have because you have some
people that even try to push their kids to have

(08:20):
relationships with talks of people who are there in their bloodline,
you know, and even if they aren't toxic. So I
don't believe in pushing that on kids. I believe that
that's important. So and then I have kids with people
whose kids I don't I'm not really that close to.
I mean, I'll, you know, say something to them, maybe

(08:44):
watch a movie and stuff like that. That but as
far as it go and ask them a couple of
questions and that's it. It's not it just depends on
the kid. Depends on the kid and your the type
of kid they are, and in yourself.

Speaker 1 (08:55):
I think, like people really have. If you're gonna blend
a family together, you really have to have a realistic
view of what kind of child that you have. Everybody's
like your tolerance for the things that your child does
is not everybody else's tolerance, you know what I'm saying. Like,
if you're if you don't have a problem with your
child talking back, but you with somebody else who has

(09:17):
a big problem with kids talking back, You're gonna have
to make a decision at some point in time if
you're gonna make things work with this person, if you
think that that this person is definitely somebody that can
make things work with you, that it can work together,
then you're gonna have to You're gonna have to decide that, Okay,
I know that he has an issue with this, I'm

(09:39):
gonna have to either prepare them. I'm gonna have to
prepare my kids because it's not like I'm gonna prepare
this adult to deal with my kids. Like, so you
have to abandon all of your beliefs when it comes
to children and allow my kids to do whatever they
want to do. So you have to prepare your children.
And there's a difference. Women have a have a different

(10:03):
way off when it's a single mother raising her children.
They have a different way of communicating with their kids
than a man does, whether it's in a disciplinary way
or whether it's in just a communicative way. So a
man usually isn't going to repeat himself. Open up again.

(10:23):
We really don't do the fussing thing for the most part.

Speaker 5 (10:26):
Yeah, I think that when you're blending families too, when
it comes to the structure of the household. So I
know you're you've been talking about the how you know,
discipline and stuff is should be done, and I was
talking about, you know, how the relationships go between the
parents and the children that when the children that are
not yours and.

Speaker 3 (10:46):
The all children from both sides.

Speaker 5 (10:48):
But when you're talking about structure of a relationship first
and foremost, if you are a single mother, and I'm
only speaking from a single mothers standpoint because I am
uh was a single mom myself, you should already be
teaching your kids to respect adults anyway. So my children
have never been able to talk back to an adult.

Speaker 3 (11:13):
Period.

Speaker 5 (11:13):
So if they have an issue with an adult, that's
my job to step in. But when you are when
you are blending a family, that man that you are
with should have the same level of respect that your
children give you or that they give to any other individual.
Especially this man is helping keep a roof over their head,
he's paying for lights, he's helping with car if your

(11:34):
kids are sick and you know, uh, you know that
they're all of those things are are factors he's taking
you know, helping to take care of you. And no,
my situation is a little bit more strenuous than others.
I mean, I have a child now with cryptogenic epilepsy.
I you know, I'll recome from a brain areas. So
Mark does a lot. So my kids definitely ain't able
to be like.

Speaker 3 (11:54):
Nigga he was talking to I ain't knowing.

Speaker 1 (11:56):
What she's sayingbody in house. But but the thing is
like when you when you like, the biggest thing is
the mother has to prepare herself, like they adapt. Kids
have a malleable way of being able to adapt to
all situations. Really if you if you give them time
to adapt to it, they will. But it's the it's
the it's the parents that have to adapt, that have

(12:19):
to modify their way of doing things. Because there's nothing
worse than when you're in a situation where somebody's child
is out of pocket and you get them together. However,
you get them together and then you and mama are
you and the daddy got beef because you getting a
child together. Because they're not. And it's not that they
disagree with the fact that the child needs to be

(12:41):
gotten together. It's that they're not used to somebody else
getting them together and they have an issue with that,
and they have to get their nerves together when it
comes to that because they haven't. They haven't. Usually when
somebody is getting on their kids, they instantly have to attack.
They're ready to go. But when this other person is
getting their kids, then you have to fall back because

(13:03):
they're actually doing the right thing, and you have to
get You're just not ready. Are not ready, You're just
not used to somebody else taking on that role. So
that is one of the biggest hurdles when it comes
to blend in a family, is you being prepared mentally
for somebody else to say something to your kids.

Speaker 5 (13:23):
I think I agree with that, And here's why. One,
when I date someone, I've only been in a couple
of serious relationships since my marriages, so literally two. But
when I'm dating someone that has children and you know

(13:44):
that and I have children, it is difficult to get
out of your routine. So if I say, well, no,
this is the this is how I discipline for this.
You know, when my child does this, or when my
child does that, this is what I do. And when
you have a man come in the household and tried
to take over one because he's not your husband, because
clearly a lot of it now Now y'all may be

(14:05):
on your way to marriage, because if you're married, then
you're past that point. But when you are blending a
when you're working on blending a family, there are certain
For me personally, I can only speak for me, there
are certain rains that I will not let go of
until I have your last name, because you come in
and you change structure or you interrupt, disrupt, uh, you

(14:27):
disrupt the routine, and then once you're gone, if you
decide to leave, now I have to change that, if
that makes sense.

Speaker 3 (14:36):
So at the same time, if you got.

Speaker 1 (14:39):
Rains that you're not gonna release until you have the
person's last name, it should be bills that you ain't
gonna allow him to pay until you have his last name.

Speaker 5 (14:46):
Hey, when it comes to somewhere, when it comes to me,
I got a problem that I was playing bills before
he came along. So hey, you know, and that's that's Hey,
that's that's that's that. Ain't nothing wrong with that.

Speaker 1 (14:57):
Uh.

Speaker 5 (14:57):
At the same time though too when it comes to
that as well, and preparing yourself for uh there the structure.

Speaker 3 (15:08):
You know, to change.

Speaker 5 (15:09):
I think it's important for you to have sation with
the biological child of your child, of your of your children,
I mean biological parent of your children. So like for me,
I will we go to my this person just getting
kind of serious and we're blah blah blah blah. And
I had to tell my when my kids were younger,
I had to tell one of my ex husbins my

(15:32):
first ex husband, not my second woeman, my first one,
that you know, he had a problem with other people
disciplined in my discipline in our children and whether that
be uh. And sometimes it was not just somebody I
was dating. Sometimes it was people that I, you know,
considered really close or part of you know, our village
or whatever. And I had to tell him, Listen, I

(15:55):
grew up different from you. And what I'm not going
to do is I'm never going to leave my children
in the care of some one that I don't trust
to discipline them in the way that they see fit
based on what they've done, because and believe I already
done my my research and my and my you know
background that I need to do to make sure that
my children are safe. And I'm it's it's stupid to

(16:16):
leave to leave your kids in the hands of somebody
that you don't trust to discipline them in their absence,
because see what that tells your child is well, as
long as mom and daddy ran, I can cut up
and do whatever I want because this person can't do
nothing to me, and my children are taught you're gonna
act the same way and give that adult the same
respect that you would give me.

Speaker 1 (16:32):
And so it's not only not fair, it's I mean,
it's not only stupid.

Speaker 3 (16:37):
So I told got to get over it.

Speaker 1 (16:38):
Because because the truth of the matter is if that
child was running out in the middle of the street
and and uh, you would expect that adult to risk
their life in order to save that child. You you
wouldn't batter eye at that. You wouldn't get mad at
the adult for risking their life to save that child,
because that expectation is there. Also, everybody knows that children,

(17:05):
children will adapt, children will manipulate, and kids will once
they get a whiff of This person can't discipline me,
This person can't tell me what to do. The the
worst attributes of that kid will come out. They'll they'll
give that adult everything that that adult is looking for

(17:25):
because that adult now is basically on their level. You
can't tell me what to do. You're just another kid
in the house, and the worst thing you can do
is relegate that other adult to being just like a child.
Nobody's going to live under that kind of that kind
of situation.

Speaker 5 (17:45):
Yeah, I'm a firm believer too though, that if there
is a mutual agreement that like if certain children, so
whether you have if you have teenagers or just kids
in general, if your child is doing something, if you
expect it, there's a like a discipline connected. If you
don't want to disciplining your kids, you're not gonna be
able to discipline my kids.

Speaker 3 (18:06):
That's just me.

Speaker 5 (18:08):
If your children. If I have to come and tell
you every time your kids do something, then I expect
you to do the same thing when it comes to me.
And that I work too. It just depends on depends
on the two people.

Speaker 1 (18:18):
The thing is, just don't leave your kids with somebody
that you have an issue with them disciplined. Just don't
because when it's all said and done, there's no space
that they're going to be able to go to where
they're not going to have to face some levels of
discipline because kids don't always get it right, and sometimes
kids will have a mindset that if this isn't mom,
or if this isn't Daddy, I can say little something

(18:39):
that I wouldn't say to my or to my dad.
I can do something that I wouldn't do around my
mom or my dad. It just is what it is.
That being the case, you have to allow that child
to know, to know this is another adult that you're
going to respect, and violating the respect law with this
adult is worse then violating it with me, because with me,

(19:02):
I'm gonna get mad, I'm gonna get you together. But
with this person, you getting disciplined by them. Now you
embarrassing me on top of me having to get at you.
It's gonna be extra because I done told you how
to treat adults and how to act around adults, and
that's how it should be. So if kids understand that
that from jump, then when you're blending somebody else in

(19:23):
the family, they're gonna start off with respect.

Speaker 5 (19:27):
So so what happens, So let's let's let's let's let's
look at a couple of anger angles here. One, let's
start with how soon should you be introducing your children
when you're trying to blend a family to the person
that you're dating.

Speaker 3 (19:42):
Because this has been a question.

Speaker 5 (19:43):
Some people say, well, at least ninety days, or only
when you know it's gonna be serious, and you know,
so on and so forth. When should you be introducing
your children to the person that you're dating.

Speaker 1 (19:56):
I think I think, uh, those of you who.

Speaker 5 (19:58):
Are listening and watching, feel free to chime in if
you want to call in. The calling number is three
one seven eight six zero two nine six.

Speaker 1 (20:06):
Yeah. I think when you know that it's getting serious,
when uh, when this is somebody that's going to be
in your life consistently, that's that and you all are
exclusive to one another, I think that's when you should
start introducing them to your kids. Now, as far as
as far as when you leave your kids in the

(20:27):
custard here of this person, that that should probably be
a little bit later. That should be after some time
of them getting to know, because you have to be
intentional when you're introducing your kids. You can't just show
up like like mister did on the color purple. That's
your new mammy. You know what I'm saying. You have

(20:48):
to be more intentional when it comes to introducing your
kids to the person that you're going to be with,
because that person is going to have direct contact with them.

Speaker 5 (20:58):
So I think that you should wait until you know
that this is going to be, that this is turning
into something serious. I don't believe that you should intro
I don't. I didn't introduce my kids to Mark. I
think when we first decided that we were in a
relationship when it's serious, because I don't believe in doing
that because that can still go south. So I think

(21:21):
that me personally, I think that you should wait until
you know that it's gonna be going somewhere, because let's
be honest that in most cases, not all, but most cases,
you're dating the representative. So people tend to change once
they feel like they got you. You know, you start
to see certain things that you didn't see during the
dating phase and things of that sort. So I think that,

(21:45):
and then I tend to see how people react, how
people interact with their own kids, because.

Speaker 3 (21:51):
That could tell me a lot as well.

Speaker 5 (21:54):
And if I don't like the way you interacting with
your own kids, then I'm probably not going to introduce
my children to you.

Speaker 3 (22:01):
So I think that, you know, Mark B.

Speaker 5 (22:03):
Says, when you decide that you're going to be dating exclusively,
I say to wait until you know it's serious and
it's going further where you know that the representative has
left the building.

Speaker 3 (22:13):
That's me personally.

Speaker 1 (22:14):
I'm basing it off of the old school method of dating,
you know what I'm saying, where you court the person
for a while. Y'all y'all gone out for a little
bit and had some drinks, y'all gone to see a movie,
and this, that and the other, and still haven't called
it exclusive yet. Y'all just getting to know each other
and you've spent enough time to actually determine that I

(22:35):
want to spend exclusive time with this person. If that's
what you're doing, then I think that after after you,
after you've become serious, because that's because just because you
all have decided to date exclusively doesn't mean that you
all are serious yet. That's still a that's still an
introductory phase. Once you all have decided to date exclusively

(22:59):
and you started to understand who each other is, that
your kids shouldn't be broadsided that you've been dating somebody
for the past six months and now thinking they're gonna
ask questions where you going, who you going?

Speaker 3 (23:13):
My kid is definitely gonna answer and they ask.

Speaker 1 (23:16):
And you don't want the You don't want the person
to be honking honking the horn outside, you know what
I'm saying. So you're gonna you're gonna let them come
to the door and knock on the door and open
the door and say hi and everything like that. So
if they if the kids see the same person popping
up all the time and you made up like you're
not made up normally when you walk around, the kid's
gonna know. Okay, so Mama going out on a date

(23:38):
or daddy going out on a date or whatever, So
the kids are gonna know. So you shouldn't once once
you get exclusive with somebody, you should at least be
talking to the kids about, Hey, I'm dating somebody and
we're exclusively dating or something like that, and let the
kids know what that means.

Speaker 5 (23:54):
Yeah, I think that okay, So that's when you introduce
your kids to the person you're dating. When do you
introduce your kids to the other person's kids? And how
should that be done.

Speaker 1 (24:09):
Listen, and in that situation, you got to know whether
you got some bad kids or not. That's that's that's important, though.
Don't introduce your bad kids to somebody else's good kids.
Don't do that. What that's the relationship is done.

Speaker 5 (24:24):
If you got way, if they got bad kids, then
you shouldn't be with them the first place.

Speaker 1 (24:27):
To begin with. You ain't gonna know they got bad people.
Don't shove their kids in front of you so you
can know how bad they No, everybody's kids are angels.

Speaker 5 (24:35):
This is why I said you pay attention to how
the person interacts with their kids, because.

Speaker 3 (24:39):
You can watch the kids and see and see how
they are.

Speaker 1 (24:43):
Every everybody's kids to them are angels. Everybody's kids. Or
but he's he's not that bad that they'll say, Or no,
he's just excitable, or she she's just inquisitiven nobody thinks.
Nobody accepts the fact that I have bad kids, because

(25:04):
if you accept the fact you got bad kids, that
means you a bad parent.

Speaker 5 (25:08):
Well, here's the thing. I've been with some people who
has some nutson. It could be one kid, it could
be all the kids.

Speaker 3 (25:15):
I had.

Speaker 5 (25:15):
Some people's kids who has had a smart mouth. I
can't do with smart kids because I smack. I smacked
my own kids for getting smart and I almost there
was an incident where I almost forgot that the kid
wasn't my kid. Okay, if your child has a smart
mouth or they got an attitude, you might want to

(25:35):
keep some rains or close rains on that child because
and if that's the only real problem that your child had,
our child has, I could probably deal with that to
a certain extent. But most kids, when you are introducing
somebody else into the into the family, a lot of
them tend to that that tends to be the number

(25:57):
one thing, kind of like testing your pain or feel
like they can pop off and say whatever they want.
But I think it's up to that parent to make
sure they shut that down quickly, because that can cause
some serious issues between.

Speaker 3 (26:12):
The two individuals that are in the relationship.

Speaker 1 (26:15):
I've been in a situation where the I'll say the
bad level of the kid was directly affected by the parent.
The mom when me and and this is a this
is an ex wife. So when me and the ex
wife would get into it, she would tell her kids
that they could go ahead and jump into it too,
So nobody has to You don't got to respect him,

(26:38):
Go ahead and say whatever you want. So now, now,
kids are naturally gonna be protective of their parents. They're
naturally gonna be protective of their mom. But what what
an adult, a mature adult that ain't crazy. What they're
supposed to do is say, you shut your mouth to
people talking. You go in your room while you keep
your mouth shut, because that's there's no way to you.

(26:59):
You might be able to repair the relationship with that person,
between you and them, but this beef between that child
and that person, and you're allowing for that beef, you're
you're actually creating that beef.

Speaker 5 (27:12):
Okay, So when to introduce your children to the person
you're dating? When to introduce your children to the person's
other children? So in blending families, and now of course
part of the blending family also is introducing them to
your parents or your other or your feeling they look
here I introduced I didn't. I didn't introduce any of

(27:35):
the people I've taken to my parents. So for obvious reasons,
y'all know. Now, now my father, you know, he knows well,
my father hasn't known everybody that I've dated actually, but
that was just in passing. So he's not somebody that
I was like really talking to you. I don't have
a relationship with my dad, you know at the time.
But introducing that person to your parents, when do you

(27:58):
think that you should induce the person that you're dating
to your parents?

Speaker 3 (28:03):
And when do you start bringing the kids around?

Speaker 1 (28:05):
All of that is going to determine I'm going to
be based on it's objective. It's going to be based
off your relationship with your parents. If you barely talk
to your parents, and who cares, you know what I'm saying.
If if you are if you have a relationship with
your parents, and you spend time with your parents and
they are influenced or impacting your life, then once you

(28:27):
once the kids I think have met the parent because
you're grown, so once your kids have met the other person,
then I think like family gatherings start to become in
the in the kind of situation. Now now we can
go to the family reunion, Now we can go to Thanksgiving,

(28:48):
Now we can go to Christmas.

Speaker 5 (28:49):
Now, okay, And so in blending families, oftentimes you know
you have where the mama or the daddy may not
like the person that you're dating. So where do you
draw the line in deciding that you're going to continue
to move forward the person you're dating based off of
how your family perceives them and how your children perceive them.

Speaker 3 (29:10):
Oh, we got a caller. Let's see who is calling?
All right?

Speaker 5 (29:22):
Caller, hold on just a second. It is answering. It
takes a minute sometimes.

Speaker 6 (29:29):
Call from Michelle.

Speaker 7 (29:31):
Jon up.

Speaker 3 (29:32):
We got Michelle on the line.

Speaker 8 (29:34):
Press one, just okay.

Speaker 9 (29:35):
I sent the colored voicemail.

Speaker 3 (29:37):
Goodbye, Michelle.

Speaker 5 (29:39):
Call us back, ma'am. It's slow, it's delayed, so call
us back. I was accepting your call. Michelle was one
of our callers. So Michelle, call us back, ma'am. Please
do Yeah, But where do you draw the line and
deciding to move forward with the person you're dating when
your family is not up to that person and when

(30:01):
your children decide that they don't like the person, do
you stop dating them?

Speaker 1 (30:06):
If there's a question that has to be asked, like
why that? Michelle?

Speaker 10 (30:12):
Yeah, do we got you?

Speaker 1 (30:16):
Michelle?

Speaker 3 (30:16):
Hold on, it's it's it's going yep.

Speaker 1 (30:20):
Call from Okay, Press one to send a voicemail.

Speaker 3 (30:26):
Press Michelle, are you there?

Speaker 6 (30:31):
Yep, I'm here.

Speaker 3 (30:32):
All right, Hey Michelle, how.

Speaker 5 (30:34):
Are you aker?

Speaker 6 (30:37):
I'm good? How are you?

Speaker 3 (30:38):
I'm good?

Speaker 5 (30:38):
This is one of our our previous j qu El
and top j qu El on radio producers at that.

Speaker 7 (30:46):
Uh, what you go?

Speaker 6 (30:47):
Thank you, ma'am. I'm listening to you guys, and I'm
gonna tell you how my my unsaid to me. Okay,
I'm in regards to the introduction thing. If if they're

(31:09):
not worthy, they get no introduction mm hmm, all right.

Speaker 3 (31:14):
You mean introducing them to you, to the.

Speaker 6 (31:16):
Mom, introducing them to me or to my family.

Speaker 3 (31:21):
Okay.

Speaker 1 (31:21):
So so he's basically saying some little run through that
I'm messing with. You're not gonna get an invite to
go to me mama exactly is exactly how it should be.
You don't bring the thoughts to mama's house. Don't do that.

Speaker 3 (31:41):
So let me ask you this, Michelle.

Speaker 6 (31:42):
And I wasn't gonna say that word, but that's what
they use.

Speaker 1 (31:45):
I'll say it.

Speaker 3 (31:48):
So let me ask you this, Michelle.

Speaker 5 (31:49):
As the mother, do you think that your son should
be introducing every girl that he decides today exclusively to
them exclusively? Then usually guys will see them or do
you think he should wait until it's somebody that he
feels like, Hey, this is maybe somebody I could spend
my life with.

Speaker 6 (32:13):
I wait until it's somebody you can spend your life with,
because you'll have me computed.

Speaker 5 (32:20):
Okay, very good answer, because hey, some mom's probably the
met ten fifteen girls.

Speaker 1 (32:25):
Yeah, so those are but see those are trashy dudes. Well,
those are dudes that use their mother as an avenue
in order to smash a chick. That's that's Those are
dudes that will sit there and say, see, it's got
to be serious because I introduced you to my mama,
and that mama done met. That's the fifth girl met
in three days. So that don't mean it means absolutely nothing.

(32:46):
He's using his mom, and his mom allows herself to
be used to Uh, so her son can go ahead
and get his thing going. But yeah, that's that's different.

Speaker 5 (32:57):
Well, thanks for calling in, Michelle, You're welcome, all right.
So Michelle says that her son says, if they are worthy,
that's the only way they're getting an invitation to meet
his mama.

Speaker 3 (33:11):
And I think that's I think that's fair.

Speaker 5 (33:13):
I think I don't think you should really be introducing see,
everybody that has actually met my parents were people that
I married, were married to. Actually, to be honest, let
me think, yeah, they're people that I was married to.
Now in meeting my parents, now, I mean you'll be
meeting my godmother, my grandmother.

Speaker 3 (33:33):
If you meet my grandmother, then you know you.

Speaker 5 (33:35):
Win the money because I definitely don't introduce her rest God,
rest her soul. She's passed now, so she's not somebody
I can uh introduce somebody to.

Speaker 3 (33:45):
Uh A good thing.

Speaker 5 (33:46):
Mark Actually I think met her before she slipped into
a coma. So but if you meet my grandmother, then
you in that thing.

Speaker 1 (33:54):
I think, like it's different like my my relationship. I
love my mom, love my mom, and and everything that
you know about me that you may like you get
it from I get it from my mom. So that
that's that's Phillips Brooks. She she gave me all of
everything good about herself. But we didn't have the relationship

(34:16):
where I brought every girl to meet her. So and
that's because I didn't. I didn't do a whole bunch
of Dayton. You know, I was too insecure to do
a whole bunch of Dayton. That was never the case
and then with me moving out of out of town,
it just wasn't feasible. But when it gets serious, when

(34:36):
you know it's somebody about to walk down the aisle
or something like that, she meets them.

Speaker 3 (34:41):
All right.

Speaker 5 (34:41):
So, uh, we're going to take a quick commercial break. Okay,
don't go anywhere. When we come back, we're going to
take some more callers, take some more comments, and we're
going to continue the conversation on blended families. And when
we come back, we're going to look at when blending
families U what again, what a line do you draw?

(35:04):
Or when do you draw the line where your kids
say they don't like the person that you're with, Because
I know some people that will stop dating the person
based on what their kids want. So we're gonna talk
about that when we come back. So stick and stay,
will be right back. You are tuned into Pillow Talk
with your Girl.

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We are back.

Speaker 5 (41:49):
Welcome back to Pillow Talk with your girl, Lady Jay.
You be right here on JQLM Radio, division of EGO
Entertainment Network. So we've been talking about blended family and
before the break, we had a caller Michelle, and she
was telling us that her son said that only if
you're worthy you get to meet mama and I agree.

(42:09):
So let's talk about where do you draw the line
at when your kids say that they don't like the
person that you're with, do you continue to date that
person or not? Do you allow your kids to dictate
who you date and who you don't date.

Speaker 1 (42:23):
I don't think it's I don't think it's dictating. I
think that you have to take everything into consideration, like
you can't dismiss your kids feelings concerning this person because
you may be blinded by something. Sometimes you can be
so caught up and wanting to be loved by somebody
that you willing to overlook some things, and you look

(42:46):
overlook some things and you put this other person ahead
of ahead of are their thoughts and feelings ahead of
your kids. You don't want to do that, because your
kid's going to be your kids for the rest of
your life. This person maybe the person that you're with
for the rest of your life.

Speaker 5 (43:02):
Possibly there's a thin line there. There's a really thin
line there because you have kids that sometimes don't want
to see their parents happy. They don't like sharing their parents,
They want mom and daddy get back together. So there's
a thin line there. Me personally, I can only speak
personal experience. I do not allow my kids to dictate

(43:23):
who I date period. I will have a conversation with them,
I will, you know, get a idea of how they
feel about the person. But I will not make solely
base my decision of dating somebody off of how my
kids feel about it.

Speaker 1 (43:43):
But where you run into an issue is what if
the kids, what if he's he or she has said
something sideways to that child, and they play it different
to you. To you, it's it's you know, I don't
know I've ever had that kind I don't know what
you're talking about. They to you, it's nothing, everything is great.

(44:04):
But to that kid, no, they've said something, are they
They've done something? Are even worse, even worse, done something
to that kid? And and uh, the child's trying to
let you know that this isn't somebody that you need
to be with. I think that your kids should, if
you've done a decent job of parenting, your kids should
want the best for you. They should want somebody who

(44:27):
treats you well. And if they if they don't, you
got to question what you're doing. What is you doing
with these kids? You know what I'm saying, like, how
are you raising them? What do you what are you
giving them?

Speaker 11 (44:40):
Like?

Speaker 1 (44:40):
What are you inputting in them? Where they're so selfish
that they could see that this person is treating you well,
But they don't. They don't want them around because they
want you all to themselves.

Speaker 5 (44:51):
See, there are other factors that this one't. We have
to keep in mind that children are selfish by nature
because they get everything from you they they feel like
the world revolves around them, everything revolves around them, So
one you have to keep that in mind too. There
are other factors in place for somebody like me. My
children are extremely protective. They've asked the last two people, well,

(45:12):
how long you're gonna stay around listen, because they already know.
My kids have been subject to see how I have
been treated in the past, so they assume that everybody
else or they're waiting for you to do the exact
same thing or something similar, so they don't really be
trying to hear people now again and off the bat,

(45:34):
they don't really like nobody, So I don't I don't
base who I date or I don't base whether I'm
I'm going to continue dating this person is solely based
off of how my kids feel about it, because I
already know how they feel and why they may feel
that way. So there are other factors around this. So
I think it's it's it is very find yourself alone.

(46:03):
If if you are constantly dating people based on how
your kids solely based on how your kids feel, Michelle
says that plays into your relationship with your child. You
should know if your child is being selfish in their
acceptance of the person you are choosing. I agree, as
I said, And here's the thing. People know their kids. Okay,
you know your kids. So if you know that your

(46:26):
kids are very clingy or very needy, then that's one thing.
If you know that your child just doesn't want to
see you hurt again, or they're because listen, I'm the
type of parent where, once you hurt me or and
if you hurt me, like really really hurt me to
my core or physically or something, my kids if they
had a relationship with you, it was not gonna be

(46:47):
the same. If they haven't started developing a relationship with you, you
definitely lost there.

Speaker 3 (46:51):
So yes, that will cause some tension.

Speaker 5 (46:54):
But if you decided to forgive that person, I think
it's your responsibility to have a conversation with the child
to make them understand that, hey, yes this happened. I
forgave this person because ABCD and.

Speaker 3 (47:11):
All of that. So I think that all of those
things play a role.

Speaker 5 (47:15):
And because I've watched that happen, I've watched women solely
base whether or not they date somebody off their kids.

Speaker 3 (47:23):
And now you're forty fifty and you're still single.

Speaker 5 (47:25):
Yeah, I mean so I mean calling you calling at
three one seven eight eight six zero two ninety six,
or leave a comment and we'll read it.

Speaker 1 (47:34):
By that same token. Though, what if the what if
the woman that you're dating is like abusive, like think
about of course that, yeah, but I'm saying you wouldn't know,
you know, because the person is going to hide it
from you. What if the guy that you're is kind
of like kind of like a Cinderella situation, You got

(47:57):
to kind of think of that, think of it long term,
like you marry this person, this person really doesn't like
your child, and then you get up out of here.
You know what if you don't have another parent, that
child doesn't have another parent, all they have is you got,
then you really need to pay attention to whether this child,
why this child can't connect with this person and it

(48:19):
is it something with your child? Is your child selfish?
You know, if your child is selfish and they just
don't want you to have nothing, because again, if you
have a realistic view of your kid, that bad kid
that I was talking about in segment one, if you
know your kid just selfish and they don't want nothing,
they don't want you to have nothing outside of them,
then you operate accordingly. But you're going to run into

(48:43):
issues with that person. If you with somebody and your
child don't like them because your child feels like they
need all of your attention, you're setting that person up
to be to be living in a strange situation with
you and your child.

Speaker 5 (48:58):
So Sheryl says, yes we do, and true again if
you want to call in, the call in numbers three one, seven, eight, eight, six,
zero two nine six. So here's the thing. What I'm
saying is you can take how your children feel into consideration,
but basing your dating preferences solely off of how your
children feel is stupid to.

Speaker 3 (49:18):
Me, It's irresponsible. It's matter of fact.

Speaker 5 (49:20):
Again, you're gonna find yourself alone because sometimes kids ain't
gonna like nobody, just like just like you got mamas
out there who feel like, ain't nobody good for my
ain't nobody good enough for my soling? You got mamas
like that too, Trust me, there are kids like that
as well.

Speaker 1 (49:34):
There's okay, there's a there's a the thought that has
to go into because your child, of if you're doing
it right, your child eventually is gonna be leaving your
house and their input at the time that they leave
your house should be less than zero. Just about when
it comes to who you're dating, because now you've you've
raised them to be out of your house. Who you

(49:55):
choose to date isn't gonna be based off of what
they like or what they or what's good for them,
because you've already got them up out your crib.

Speaker 5 (50:05):
So then okay, again, that's causes another barrier because so
now I gotta wait to forty or fifty to date,
because I gotta wait to not have to consider or
think about how you feel about who I'm dating.

Speaker 1 (50:21):
And this is the time where I remind people that
I don't preface my statements with all or anything like that. Okay,
I'm speaking about a certain scenario. That scenario is not
a catch all. So when it comes to I mean,
when you have your kids and you're responsible for your kids,

(50:43):
and you're responsible for them until they get up out
of your house, it is what it is. You don't
get to shirk that responsibility for love or for anything else.
They're your responsibility. Once you decide to date somebody, you
have to include them in your decision making. If they're
school age kids, if they're young, especially, you have to

(51:04):
include them in your decision making because you can't if
say you decide to date somebody or marry somebody who
was arrested and tried and convicted for molestation. Right, say
you just decided they gave their life over to God
and you know they ain't touched no kids in twenty years. Okay,

(51:26):
you decide to give them a shot. Right. If your
child is out of the house, Okay, that's that's your decision.
Whatever you know, that's whatever floats your boat. If your
child is still in that house, it is irresponsible for you,
as a parent to allow somebody who has even the
potential for anything like that into your house.

Speaker 3 (51:47):
It is Michelle says yes and no.

Speaker 5 (51:49):
As parents, we have to raise them to be open
minded and be concerned with your happiness. Cheryl says, kids
feet off of your spirit.

Speaker 3 (51:57):
And no.

Speaker 5 (51:59):
So here's the here's the problem with that. You do
tell us theation how your kids feel. And I'm I'm
speaking now from a from a place of I used
to be that child. So we try to voice or
I'm gonna speak for myself. I tried to voice to
my parent, to my mom that hey, I don't. I

(52:21):
don't think this person is is right, wasn't listening and
that person was a violent, registered sex offender and the
hell that I grew up in played out and she
just didn't care. So be being that child in that
situation when nobody would listen. That's one thing. But what
I'm talking I'm not talking about on the severe end

(52:43):
of the spectrum. Even though we have parents that ignore that.
You should never ever, ever ever do that, parents, especially mothers,
because they tend to do it a lot. But what
I am saying is I will not as a parent.
I will not as a parent who takes very good
care of my kids, who spend times with my kids,

(53:04):
who sacrifices for my children, who bend over backwards to
feed them, clothe them and everything else and.

Speaker 3 (53:10):
Make sure they're good.

Speaker 5 (53:11):
I will not put my happiness on hold just because
you feel some type of way about somebody else coming in.
And sometimes it has a lot to do with that
other parent as well, playing in a ear because trust me,
I've dealt with that over the years, telling them they
ain't got to listen to the person that you with
and so and so ain't your daddy, and they can't
discipline you all. That is our other barriers when you're

(53:35):
trying to blend families. So this is why I say
you do not solely base your decision to date somebody
off of how your kids feel.

Speaker 1 (53:45):
In my situation, I was afraid to tell my mom.
Not really. I didn't feel like I had a voice
anyway concerning my mom and who she was dating or anything.
I wasn't even thinking on that complex level. When it
came to the relationship with my mom. She was grown.
She did what she wanted. But I didn't like my
little brother's father. I didn't like him. He was kind

(54:06):
of mean to me. But to her, obviously he wasn't
that mean because they had a kid together, so he
wasn't He wasn't that mean to her. They were. They
were at least nice at some point in time. But
but I didn't. I didn't like him necessarily because I
thought that he was mean. I thought that he was
somebody that that didn't keep his word. He wasn't somebody

(54:29):
that was that was honest. So I didn't like him,
but she did later on. Of course, he ended up
being a jerk. But when it comes to when it
comes to your kids, I think that while nobody should
base any decision they make solely off of their children

(54:50):
and their children's desires, you definitely have to take into
consideration your children when you're making a decision to be
with somebody, because that person's gonna have interactions with them.
You're not always gonna be able to take your kids
with you everywhere they go, everywhere you go. At some point,
you're gonna leave that person in charge of your child,
and you're gonna hope that they do the best. You're

(55:11):
gonna expect them to do the best or do what
you would do when they're in your absence. It's unfair
to both your child and to that person if you
do that without without making the attempt to merge them together,
or or merge the family together, or see if you
know there's a common ground that you can come to

(55:31):
with these two individuals. You have to check in on that,
and you have to be intentional when you're trying to
bring somebody into your household or you're trying to merge
your household with somebody else's household.

Speaker 5 (55:42):
All right, so we're gonna take our last break is
going to be a short break, and when we come back,
we're going to wrap up this conversation and give some tips,
but at the same time we're gonna have our social
media relationship Shenanigan's segment. All right when we come back,
so stick and stay. This is your girl, Lady Jay,

(56:05):
and you are tuned into Pillow Talk right here on
j q l M Radio, a division of Ego Entertainment Network.

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we are back. We're back on pillow Talk. You are
tuned in to jq el on Radio, division of EGO
Entertainment Network, and we have been talking about blending families
and this has been an interesting conversation. We've been talking
about when to introduce your significant other to your parents,

(01:01:30):
to the kids, when to introduce the kids to each other, the.

Speaker 3 (01:01:33):
Barriers that come along with blending families. So should you.

Speaker 5 (01:01:41):
One more question before we get into our relationship Shenanigans
segment and wrap up the show. How do you think
is the best way to introduce the kids to each other.

Speaker 3 (01:01:55):
When dating? When trying to blend to families. I think
you should always do it in a public.

Speaker 5 (01:01:59):
Place, may be in a kid friendly place maybe because
that would ease maybe some other tension. Because listen, I'm
not gonna lie. My kids will size your kids up.
They do it all the time to other kids. They'll
sit back and they'll observe and to see if they're
what kind of vibe the kids are given, and that
will determine how enthusiastic or not enthusiastic they are about

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no conversating and speaking and interacting.

Speaker 3 (01:02:25):
That's just my kids personally.

Speaker 1 (01:02:29):
Yeah, but by the same token to talk to folks.
So she.

Speaker 3 (01:02:33):
Ain't scared. She's a sometimey kid. She's like me.

Speaker 5 (01:02:36):
She'll observe and look you up and down, and she's
trying to feel out your vibe because if she don't
feel like your vibes, she ain't gonna say nothing to you.

Speaker 2 (01:02:42):
And that's just it.

Speaker 3 (01:02:43):
I'm the same way.

Speaker 1 (01:02:44):
Like, there's four different personalities. Mark's cool with anybody that's
cool with him. Dylan is very funny, so he's gonna
make people be cool with him. But they're both independent thinkers.
Devon is also he's also an independent thinker. All for
my kids are. But Devin is somebody who you know,

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he's cool with you. If if you're cool with the
stuff that he's cool with, then he's cool with you.
He's not gonna chase you down in order to be
your friend or anything like that. Now Breed wants to
be friends with everybody. Breed likes everybody, hasn't met anybody
that she's as long as you're nice to her, then
she's nice to you, you know, not nice to you,

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She's gonna be nice regardless. So it's different. I think
that I think the best thing to do is to,
you know, after having a discussion with your kids, probably
in a in a public setting, when you all go
out someplace like going to some kid friendly place and
you introduce them, go go bowling or go go karting

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or something like that, and introduce to your kids to
their kids something. You might be in a situation where
they already know one another, you know, already go to
school one another or something like that. In that case,
it's it's a little bit easier in some ways and
harder in other ways because maybe they know each other
and they don't like each other.

Speaker 5 (01:04:10):
Yeah, I think for the most part, like I said,
my oldest child, my teenage daughter, she she gonna sit
back and observe you. I mean, she'll speak and that's it.
If she don't like your vibe, she ain't. She ain't
gonna she ain't gonna talk to you much.

Speaker 11 (01:04:25):
Uh.

Speaker 5 (01:04:25):
Both of my boys are very sociable. They are my
social butterflies. My youngest son, he'll talk to anybody. He
want to know your name, He want know everything, what
you like, what you don't like. My oldest son, he
real laid back and cool. He'll he'll speak, he'll even interact.

Speaker 3 (01:04:39):
He ain't for playing though.

Speaker 5 (01:04:41):
If you got younger kids, which Marx's kids are younger
than mine, they not gonna play with you too much.

Speaker 3 (01:04:47):
They don't unless it's their sibling.

Speaker 5 (01:04:49):
I mean, they'll play with them sometimes, like my boys,
they like playing together, but when it's somebody else kids,
he don't really play with other little kids that much.
My youngest daughter, she's very, very calm, but energetic with
the right people. If she feels comfortable enough, she'll she'll,
you know, interact and like I said, me personally, I'm
used to kids that are very energetic. I think mark

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kids are a whole lot more mellow than my kids,
so it's not it's different for me. We're kind of weird,
not weird in a bad way, but I'm used to
like kids like literally hanging on me and all that
kind of stuff. That's those are the kind of kids
that I'm I'm used to, so it's it's a different dynamic.
But because my kids are most kids that I interact

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with are like my kids. So when it's when it's
a different set of kids, it's kind of like h
And it has to do to with their with their background, uh,
to with the kids any type of kid that you're
dealing with with their background, like the environments that they're raising,
the type of people that the parents.

Speaker 3 (01:05:49):
That they have, and stuff like that.

Speaker 1 (01:05:50):
So yeah, I'm laid.

Speaker 5 (01:05:54):
Yeah, so they don't really yeah. Uh, Like I said,
it depends too on the kids all their personalities, so
depending upon how well they messed. Just because they're not
like all up under each other all the time doesn't
necessarily mean he will mess everybody, you know, pictauch other's
FaceTime or whatever. So with that being said, uh, let's

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get into the Let's take a break and get into
social media relationship Shenanigan segment for the show tonight, and
then we'll get back into tips and take some more calls.
The calling numbers three one, seven, eight, eight, six, zero
two nine six. So one of our social media relationship
Shenanigans for tonight. It is a post that says, why

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do men give a woman a baby quicker than giving
her a ring?

Speaker 3 (01:06:46):
And or marriage?

Speaker 5 (01:06:47):
Isn't a child more of a commitment slash attachment to her?
Who listen, listen, listen, listen. I would like to know
that question. But some of that falls on the female too,
because you allowed this man to make you a mother
before he made you a wife.

Speaker 1 (01:07:05):
I like how women like to like to put that
on us, like like we snuck in your window and
threw a baby at you and then ran off or
something like that. You was participating in the baby.

Speaker 3 (01:07:14):
Make just said you allowed him to make you a
mama before he made you a wife.

Speaker 1 (01:07:19):
I'm still not over you get him over dude.

Speaker 5 (01:07:25):
Around here having unprotected sex with females that they not
in relationships with.

Speaker 3 (01:07:30):
Somebody answered me to m M.

Speaker 1 (01:07:33):
I think I think people are I think people that's man,
that's been that's something that's been happening since the beginning
of the time. So I think that you know, I.

Speaker 3 (01:07:43):
Feel like, man, you do it, and you know that
you're gonna get the girl pregnant, So why do it?

Speaker 1 (01:07:49):
It depends like something some dudes it ain't smart, but
some dudes get caught up, just like some females get
caught up. I think that that there's so many things
that that can be done afterwards that you don't. I mean,
you you get pregnant at this stage, You getting pregnant

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because you want to get pregnant. It ain't it ain't Oops.
I got pregnant. I didn't know for three months. You
got pregnant because you wanted to get pregnant. And that
while the dude should have the UH, should be responsible
enough to strap up at this At this stage, any
woman that gets pregnant from having sex with a dude

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wanted to get pregnant. She wanted and if she or
if she had the baby, let's say, if she had
the baby, she wanted to have the baby. There was
no accident. It wasn't. She She has just as much UH.
She's just as culpable as he is. In other words,
is what I'm saying.

Speaker 5 (01:08:46):
So here's my question in concerning that, at what age
do you start telling yourself that you're too old to
be saying oops?

Speaker 3 (01:08:57):
I mean, at what age do you stop getting quote
unquote caught up?

Speaker 5 (01:09:03):
Because listen, thirty five, forty forty five, fifty too old
to be out here scoring people want to protect sexy
and getting people pregnant.

Speaker 1 (01:09:11):
Yeah, I mean sex and sex. It's been happening forever.

Speaker 5 (01:09:17):
So I ain't gonna They ain't got nothing to do
with what I just said. With what age do you
stop telling?

Speaker 1 (01:09:22):
I could have sworn we were talking about sex.

Speaker 3 (01:09:24):
I thought, we're talking about getting people pregnant.

Speaker 1 (01:09:26):
Okay, well you gotta have sex to do that. I
was on topic, was talking about sex, and then you
you kind of blew my mind with that.

Speaker 5 (01:09:35):
But look, Cheryl says, everyone should be responsible. If I
was on the female, you are treated the way.

Speaker 3 (01:09:44):
You are or what you allow.

Speaker 1 (01:09:47):
I mean, just like it's not you can't. You can't
sell me on you didn't know that he wasn't wearing
the condom. You can't sell me on that. You know
the difference, You know what I'm saying with without having
to get graphic with the with the whole situation, you
know the difference. You can tell the difference. So it

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at at this stage you're doing what you what you
want to do, and it's not it's not a he
got you pregnant. You got yourself pregnant. You know what
I'm saying you both of y'all got pregnant together. So,
but having a having a baby with a female or
having sex with a female, this should denote how a

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dude's mind works. Having sex with you is not anywhere
in the same ball park as wanting to be in
a relationship with you and the and the standard that
we have for who will have sex with is way
lower than the standard of who will be in a
relationship with.

Speaker 3 (01:10:49):
So here's the thing.

Speaker 5 (01:10:50):
So your standard of having sex with her was low,
but you thought enough of her to make a deposit and.

Speaker 3 (01:10:58):
Have a child with her.

Speaker 1 (01:11:00):
Well, you can't if we could control whether we made
the deposit or not. Watch how about you pull out game?

Speaker 3 (01:11:06):
What about that? If you ain't wrapping it up? You
pull out game is weak?

Speaker 1 (01:11:09):
If the pull whether it's whether it's weak or not,
at the end of the day, at the end of
the day, she didn't she didn't even have to allow
for a pull out situation to happen.

Speaker 5 (01:11:18):
At the end of the day, both of y'all dumb
because you don't want her, and she thought you wanted her,
and now.

Speaker 1 (01:11:25):
You you have. That's what that's what's weird about a
female's mind, because y'all think that just because a dude
trying to put something in you, he must like you,
or he must really see something in you. He don't.
He sees something on you that JJ. That's what he
see and that's all he's trying to get. That's all
it means. Now, if he's expressed something more than that,

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then he sees something more than that. If he hasn't
expressed that he wanted more than that, than the only
thing that you are to him is JJ with legs.

Speaker 5 (01:11:53):
So Michelle said, some of our women need to be
secure and confident in who they are as well as
loving themselves and stop looking for a man to complete them.
He cannot fix you or make you complete. You better
say that, Okay, say that. Well, here's another one. It
says when a man earns money, he dreams of giving
his wife the best. When a woman earns money, she
feels she does not need a man. That was a

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social media post on Facebook. Now, I would say that's
true for the most part when it comes to the
African American community. I think that we are taught that
we don't need our men. So I think that that
is something that we a stigma that we need to

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do away.

Speaker 3 (01:12:38):
With, if you will.

Speaker 1 (01:12:40):
I mean what they're told that by some by people
outside of the race, and then you get women inside
the race that repeat it. That was a I was
on Twitter and this chick was talking about some some
some girl who is a lesbian was talking about her
relationship with her girl, and the other girl says, I'm like,

(01:13:08):
lesbian relationships are so great. I don't know why I
wasted my younger years with men, And I'm like, maybe
they wasted their time with you. But she felt some
type of way about that and then didn't understand why
dudes would feel sometime. I'm like, listen, you're not perfect.
Nobody is, and maybe you were the problem in your relationship.

(01:13:32):
Maybe it wasn't them, maybe it was you.

Speaker 5 (01:13:35):
Yeah, I mean that could be Latasha Brinson says, I
think she was talking about She's going back to what
we were just talking about as far as me and
making a woman a mom before he makes her wife.
She says she the dummy because it's her thighs. She
opened up to invite the man in.

Speaker 3 (01:13:50):
I agree. I agree with you, because here's the thing.

Speaker 5 (01:13:52):
A lot of these women out here messing around and
try to seduce me and have sex with them or
both of them getting caught up or whatever. And now
you pregnant. You mad because he don't want to be
with you. So now you got a baby by a
baby daddy. And and especially if he didn't, if he
didn't sign up to have the kid, technically you did
because you slept with her without wrapping it up. And

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so you feel in some type of way about it
because and let's not even get on to women who
who sleep with married men or men in relationships or whatever,
and you get pregnant.

Speaker 3 (01:14:23):
Now, now now you're just extra dumb.

Speaker 1 (01:14:27):
The thing is that that's something that's reinforced by by
society for a reason. There's a there's a reason why
Black women are told that you don't need a man,
that you can that that men are optional, whereas other
races are taught that men are a bonus, men are plus.

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As far as as far as responsibility, going back to
you know, making somebody a mother before you make them
a wife. You don't have to be a mother even
when you get pregnant. You don't have to be before
you even get to the abortion part of the possible equation.
There's things you can do before the end. You can

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get the morning after Piel you get, there's other things
you can do. You choosing to do that, you choosing
to be.

Speaker 3 (01:15:15):
That that's true. Here's the thing.

Speaker 5 (01:15:19):
Let's see. Cheryl says they are hurt and broken. Yes,
married men. That should never happen. I agree. So the
next one, uh and the last one for tonight of
the social media relationship, Shenan again says, so many people
are in love and not together, and so many people
are together and not in love.

Speaker 3 (01:15:38):
Now that's a statement right there.

Speaker 2 (01:15:41):
Uh.

Speaker 5 (01:15:42):
So, you know, we got a lot of people all
out out here in the world looking at social media
and like, oh man, you know, everybody taking matching pajamas
pictures for Christmas and sending out uh digital Christmas cards
and paper Christmas cards and all of this, and y'all like,
oh my god, that is so cute. I can't wait

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till I get with somebody that does that. Listen everything
on screen and always want to see, man, really, what
it's like behind closed doors. Let's see, Michelle has said.
Michelle Jones says history has taught us that we don't
need a man. We can track that all the way
back to slavery. I don't need a man to pay
my bills and to take care of me. I want
a man to share my life with and be witnessed

(01:16:26):
to my life. Oh I, when it comes to that statement,
I'm gonna say I agree with that to a certain extent, Michelle,
because here's my thing. I don't believe in saying I
don't need a man one. I have sons, and I
definitely don't want them to feel that they are not needed.
Everybody wants to be not just wanted, but needed. I

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don't need a man to necessarily survive in life, to
be successful in life, but I do need a man
to become everything that to reach my full potential as
a wife, as a mom as first of all, I
can't be a wife without a man. To be a

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woman in the essence of what God has created me
to be, I do need a man for that. I
need a man to cover me. I need a man
to so what I said I don't for me personally.
I don't agree with saying that I don't need a man.
I don't ever. I try not to use those words,
especially around my sons. I don't ever want them to
be with any woman that feels like they don't need him,

(01:17:27):
because we all need somebody to get through life. We've
needed people to get to where we are. So I
think that we have to change or choose our choice
of words. Cheryl Northern Lagrant says, the reason why things
not write their house is out of order is God, husband,
wife and children.

Speaker 3 (01:17:46):
That is true. So now it's single, be the mom
and the dad true.

Speaker 1 (01:17:54):
Oh.

Speaker 5 (01:17:54):
Michelle says, that's what she means. So so many people
are in love and not together. So many people are
together not long.

Speaker 1 (01:18:01):
I think, yeah, yeah, on on both things. One Sometimes
it's timing, you know what I'm saying. Sometimes, like how
many people have been in a situation where there's been
somebody that you've known, uh for a long time, and
you felt them and they felt you, and then something
happened where you know, they went away, you went away,

(01:18:21):
You ended up meeting somebody, and they ended up meeting somebody.
When you're single, they're they're with somebody. When you're uh,
when you're with somebody, uh, they're single. You know, it
always goes like it happens, you know what I'm saying.
Sometimes timing is everything and there's people that will that
will go their whole life and and never be able

(01:18:43):
to experience that that thing because of timing. And it sucks,
but it does happen. Uh to speak on on what
Michelle was saying, Listen, if we're basically boiling everything down
to a word, right, me and need and want and
the difference between the two. Right, So the question is

(01:19:06):
if if women don't need men, if that's all across
the board, black, white, Asian, whatever, if women don't need men,
then why is it that Black women are the only
ones who say they don't need a man? You know
what I'm saying, Like, if it's true, if it's if using,
if it's accurate to use the word need, and this
ain't me beating up on Michelle. I love Michelle, But

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if it's accurate that women don't need men, then why
is it that only one race of people are the
ones that say it over all the other races of women.
You'll if you hear it in any other race, it's
it's odd because it's not prevalent at all. You'll never

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get a prevailing voice saying I don't need a man
in any other race other than ours.

Speaker 5 (01:19:54):
Are not just racist even cultures, because here's the thing.
The man is considered the head, he's considered the leader.
I mean, yes, we do need men. You see what
happens when the man is removed from and when kids
are everything.

Speaker 3 (01:20:08):
It's not good.

Speaker 5 (01:20:10):
Let's see, Latasha says, what we consider the need is important.
I like the way you said it. I don't need
my man to be successful, but I do need him
to reach my full potential of being a woman a wife.

Speaker 3 (01:20:20):
Yes, Cheryl says, scared of getting hurt. We do need men.

Speaker 5 (01:20:24):
So I think that, uh, those are the last things
as far as that's the last statement as far as
the social media relationship. Shenan against segment, but I thought that, oh,
Michelle says, conditioning. I think that, uh, these specific ones
were really good that were posted on social media and

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sparked some conversation, could possibly become a topic on pillow Talk.
But so that wraps up that that segment of the show.
So let's uh wrap up up our topic of the day,
blending families. So I think that one, women need to

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be very careful about dating anyway when you are broken
emotionally and mentally, because when you do that, a lot
of times you will ignore the christ of your children.
If it's something severe that you're overlooking, you'll you will
purposely and or unintentionally both misread flags that could be

(01:21:37):
very detrimental, so you can miss the person being abusive,
or you know, miss certain character flaws and things of
that sort.

Speaker 3 (01:21:44):
When you are dating.

Speaker 5 (01:21:45):
That will cause you to be in a situation that
can be detrimental to yourself and your children for the
sake of having somebody saying that you have somebody or
feeling trying to feel avoid because you don't feel love,
looking for love, and all the wrong places. That becomes
very dangerous when you are dating and you are not
emotionally stable and mentally stable. One let's start there. Two

(01:22:10):
In blending families, don't introduce your kids to everybody that
you date. It needs to be somebody who is who
you're serious about, somebody that you are trying to build
a life with that you are on the road to
marriage with. Just don't be introducing your kids to everybody,
and make sure that it's a good fit between kids.

(01:22:32):
Like I said, they don't have to be out loveyw
with each other. Not every blended family is gonna be
that way. It's just not h But make sure that
they are respecting you and makeing sure that they're not uh,
they're not mistreating your children, and that your children aren't
mistreating them, and make sure that there's a level of

(01:22:53):
respect there for the person that you're dating.

Speaker 1 (01:22:56):
Yeah, I think when it comes to blending families, I'm
gonna speak individually. Right, Women, be prepared for a man
to enter into your house. Prepare yourself for Prepare yourself
mentally because he's not just there to fix the toaster

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or to change tires or the pump gas. He's gonna
come in there and he's gonna say no to some
stuff that you say yes to. He's gonna want to
put things in a different spot that you put things.
Prepare yourself mentally for that, because if not, then you're
what you're expecting him to do is come in and
be like one of your kids, to be told what
to do by you, and that ain't gonna happen. Men,

(01:23:40):
do not put your woman in a position where she
is competing for your love with like your daughter. Don't
do that to me once. Don't do that to her
because because you're not ready to say no to your
to your daughter, or you're not ready to be in
a relationship that you don't run past your daughter or

(01:24:04):
something like that. You've created a situation in a scenario
where you haven't prepared either your daughter or yourself for
somebody else to enter into your family. If you really
want to make it work, then what you're gonna have
to do is you're going to have to get the
two people on the same page. If they aren't loved W.
Because your daughter is in LOVEW or your woman is

(01:24:27):
in LOVEW. At least they can be respectful of one another,
because that's all she has to be is respectful. You
want both of them to be respectful. You want her
to honor your daughter, and your daughter's a relationship with
you and the mother if the mother's in the scenario,
the daughter's relationship with the mother, you want the daughter

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to honor her and your relationship with her and her
being an adult. Ladies, you want your children to honor
that man. You can't bring him in there to be
be a provider and be a protector and then tell
them to shut up when when your kids come around,
or not to tell your kids nothing.

Speaker 3 (01:25:06):
Latasha says, right, don't ask him to step up to
the plate and you won't let the plate gor That's true.
But here I will say this.

Speaker 2 (01:25:14):
Men.

Speaker 5 (01:25:15):
Another thing I was talking about the women making sure
they are emotionally and mentally ready to take on a relationship.
Let's see Latasha says the problem is most women want
a man but enjoy managing boys.

Speaker 3 (01:25:28):
Well, that's a whole other topic.

Speaker 5 (01:25:31):
I'm gonna say this on the men's side when dating
someone because a lot of women, especially African American women,
have undergone trauma. It could be physical abuse by a man,
it could be you know, emotional abuse or whatever. If
you are dealing with somebody who has been a victim
of violence, of a violent crime or the mesic violence
in the past, like myself, you don't want to come

(01:25:53):
in with I'll say, an iron fist or trying to
take over everything, because she immediately is going to look
at you as somebody who is controlling and that leads
to abuse. And I'm gon save for me. I'm an
alpha female. I am very headstrong, i am stubborn. I'll
do what I want to do when I want to

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do it, and I get in my ways. I will
say that I am I am probably one of the
most difficult women to date when it comes to hand
and over control because I've had people control me or
take over my life and being in domestic violence relationships
several times. So I don't do well with men who
think they're going to tell me what to do. And

(01:26:36):
sometimes that you can perceive somebody trying to do for
you or looking out for you as being controlling. So
that's why I say it's very important one on the
women's side to make sure that she's mentally and emotionally
ready for a relationship. On the other side, men need
to need to make sure that when you are coming in,
don't come in that way because you won't be.

Speaker 3 (01:26:56):
Received well and you'll be you. And it's not her fault.

Speaker 5 (01:26:59):
You're first strating yourself because you're not realizing how you
come in.

Speaker 3 (01:27:03):
That's a thin line there.

Speaker 5 (01:27:04):
I mean, if a woman is a homemaker, by by naturally,
she's a she's a nurturer. Decorating the house stuff like that.
Let her decorate the house the way she won't to
decorate it. She might ask you somebody like me, I'm
like you like this, but cook in stuff like that.
Let her do that that that's her domain, you know,
what I'm saying, Uh, if you are, is she not

(01:27:27):
you know, telling you you know, if she wants something
to fix it, ain't telling you how to fix it?
Or you know what I'm saying. When it comes to disciplining,
and she's letting you set the tone for the house
and stuff like that, that's your domain. So there has
to be Uh, there has to be a balance there.

Speaker 1 (01:27:43):
On the flip side, don't bring a man into your
house if you aren't prepared for him to set the
standard or set boundaries, because that's what we do. We
come into a situation, we look at the weaknesses of
it and we fix them. So if you have a
wayward child, and you know you have a weyward child,

(01:28:04):
and you're bringing a man into that house who isn't
a wayward man or isn't jelly backed, then you already
know what's gonna happen. So prepare yourself for it, and
don't bring him into that house if you're gonna If
in your mind you want to allow your children to
run free and to express themselves fully and too and
to be everything that they want to be without any

(01:28:26):
kind of restraint or any kind of restrictions, don't bring
that man in that house. Just stay single, or stay
screwing on the side, or whatever it is that you do.

Speaker 3 (01:28:36):
No the side you're up, don't.

Speaker 1 (01:28:43):
You can wrap it up and screw on the side too.
Just don't bring him into your house. Mike, I hear
give it wrong advice. My advice is great. Don't bring
him into the house because you're setting yourself and your
children up for failure that most men are not. What
we don't do is we don't repeat ourselves. That's not
what we do. What we do we don't fuss. So

(01:29:06):
we're not going to use our words. And didn't you
hear me tell you blah blah blah blah blah, I
could have swung. I'll get tired of developah do that.
I'm gonna tell you what to do. If you don't
do it, then what you basically did is come up
to me, spit in my face and say nah bro old.

Speaker 5 (01:29:23):
So I got a question to wait before we got
about ten minutes left in the show. Let's see, Latasha says, right,
healthy boundaries that understanding should be established before he or
she comes into the house. Here here, I okay, here's
my question. What about when a woman comes in, because yeah,
the the the kids already have a mother, clearly a
lot of I mean some kids already have a father.

(01:29:45):
What is her role when she comes in to your kids?
Because most kids you ain't my mama or you know.
I'm saying, what should the man be prepared for when
he's when when a woman is coming into the household.

Speaker 1 (01:29:56):
A man bringing a woman into the household, it's it's
kind of like she's there for is she bringing her
children or are you talking about a woman without kids
or woman with kids? Because it's different women with kids.

Speaker 5 (01:30:10):
Okay, matter of fact, if you got kids, her coming
to the house deal, what what should you be prepared for?

Speaker 1 (01:30:15):
I'm saying there's a different thing that there's different things
you're preparing for based off of.

Speaker 3 (01:30:19):
If she's coming and okay, if she has kids.

Speaker 1 (01:30:21):
Okay, if she's coming and bringing her kids, then you're
then you all are it's the same thing you're establishing. Okay,
this is well.

Speaker 5 (01:30:28):
You said the man comes in to set the set boundary,
set zone. What is she need to prepare for that?
What should you be prepared for?

Speaker 1 (01:30:35):
I'm preparing for her to to create the house or
make the house into a home. I'm I'm preparing for this.
I'm taking her insight and her judgments, and I'm taking
that into consideration. Also while I'm making the decisions when
it's all said and done, whether she come to my
house or whether I'm going to her house, I have
to make the decision that's gonna make the household go,

(01:30:59):
because that's my role. If she's making all the decisions
and I'm just sitting there, then what what am I
there for? You know what I'm saying. My role is
my role regardless of whether I've gone, we've decided that
I move into her house, or she's decided to move
into mind, there's no difference between the two.

Speaker 3 (01:31:18):
Okay, But like, how can you make.

Speaker 1 (01:31:26):
Your kids if my kids are wayward?

Speaker 3 (01:31:30):
Not just if they're wayward. I'm talking about period. What
is her role?

Speaker 5 (01:31:33):
You talked about the man's role when he comes into
a house that has children. What is the woman's role
when she comes into a house that has children, not
her children, your children.

Speaker 1 (01:31:42):
She she has standards also, she has rules that that
she that have nothing to do with functioning. Are are
not functioning? Are the house functioning properly or not? It
may be her just desire to see things be a
certain way. Women have a different viewpoint than we have

(01:32:04):
concerning concerning kids and concerning what they might need or
what they might desire, something like that. So it's good
to have somebody who thinks with a different side of
the brain to come in in a situation that help
you be the better a better parent than you would
be by yourself both parents. What I'm saying though, is

(01:32:25):
that men are strict, are more strict than women are,
and kids, especially boys, need that and that's something that
women tend not to do as effectively as men do.
So when that man comes in the house and you've
already told your child twice and then that man gets

(01:32:45):
up and goes to back you up based off of
what you said, then you let it go because that's
what he's there to do.

Speaker 5 (01:32:53):
Yeah, Michelle says that means conversations between you and the
man prior to him coming into the home, then come
together with the children to do the same thing. Then
there are no surprises or expected things. Jumping off, Latasha
says he you Cinderella before. In Cinderella's daddy picked a
horrible mate only because she had only because she had kids,
and seemed motherly based on her relationship with her own kids,

(01:33:15):
but hated his.

Speaker 3 (01:33:16):
I'm just saying that's that's true.

Speaker 1 (01:33:18):
That's exactly why I use the Cinderella the Cinderella analogy,
because he was horrible at picking women, horrible, and then
he got up out of here and left his daughter
to be raised by this person who couldn't stand her. Now,
if if you're a any kind of father, you're gonna
care about like your children, how they how they're gonna

(01:33:40):
get along, especially if you're the only parent, you have
a different kind of responsibility on. You really have to
make sure the person that you with is in tune
with everything, because it's right.

Speaker 5 (01:33:50):
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