Why Are You So Angry (Part 1)

Why Are You So Angry (Part 1). Pastors Derrick and Belinda Minor

Episode Transcript

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to power of the Word. PropheticChurch Pastors Derek and Belinda Minor, We
thank you right now and may Godbless you for listening and tuning in.

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You have everybody's We're going to Genesisthe fourth chapter. As I was pragnish,
weak and asking God for a word, spirit of Lord dropped into my
heart to deal with this topic onanger, rage, rad s, bitterness,

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I forgiveness. Amen, we willprobably raise our hands that we have
had our past and anger issues.Can you man and man? And some
of it are still dealing with angerissues of what has happened to you in
the past, what someone has doneto you. Because face it, life

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is not always fair. Life isnot always what you thought it would be.
We have sometimes been abandoned by ourloved ones. There are people today
with mother issues, daddy issues,all types of anger issues and don't know

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how to deal with the anger that'son the inside of us now. Anger
is an emotion that God gave usthe word of God. Sis be angry
but just don't see him. Butto be real, live of us,
don't get to that point when weget mad, we just let it go
down. And and so we're gonnadeal with how to control your anger,

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how to deactivate the rage. Butday man and we hope they'll be a
blessed to you. This morning,we're gonna teach it. We're gonna be
interacting. So we're gonna deal withsome issues this morning. Genesis, the
fourth chapter deals with the first instanceof anger, and we all threw the

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story we're gonna read. I'm readingout of the NL team this morning or
having to go with this this morning. Now, Adam had sexual relations with
his wife Eve, and she becamepregnant. When she gave birth to Cane.
She said, with the Lord's hill, I produced a man. Later,
she gave birth to his brother andnamed him Abel. When they grew

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up, Abel became a shepherd whileCame cultivated the ground. When it was
time for the harvest, Came presentsome of his cross as a gift to
Lord. Abel also brought a guilt, the best of the firstborn lambs from
his flock. The Lord accepted Abelin his gift, but he did not

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accept Came and his gift. Thismade Came very angry, and he looked
dejected. Why are you so angry? Glory to God? The Lord asked,
came, why do you look sorejected? Will you be accepted?

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You will be accepting if you dowhat is right. But if you if
you refuse to do what is right, then watch outs. Sin is crossing
at the door, eager to controlyou. But you must subdu it and
be his master, and man,you may be seen Christ. The Lord

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asked the question of king, whyare you so angry? And that question
could we ask of us? Whyare we so angry? We're angry when
we drive? How many got problemswith control? When you're driving and you're

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angry? Is shoes and man,I'm right into my hand, I'm going
it. Man, just get outof my way and just let me get
when I got together the man,why are we so angry? A legitimate
question because there are times when we'reangry and don't even know why we're angry.

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You're wake up just mad in themorning. Just wake up, man,
I mean you wake up, youwake up mad. I mean you
nobody didn't need to hear, abodysaid any to you, but you just
wick up were by attitude, Youwick up angry, wick up man At
the world Old. The Bible saysin the book a sign of a second
chapter, why are the nations soangry? We're not an angry world army.

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People are angry because Trump won anelection. People are angry because they
didn't get their food stamps on time. Somebody say, man, people are
angry because of this issue. Becausedaddy was not there when I grew up.
So because daddy abandoned me, Ihave angry issues. Somebody been angry
because somebody was unfaithful relationship. Thereare many reasons why we have this anger.

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Anger is the emotional response to anemotional pain or a physical pain.
When you're hammering something, you're doingyour kick your toe and get angry and
really get mad at you. Startdoesn't really get them, doesn't just cussing
and just nad because you feel thatyou're anger, it's gonna change your condition.

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But that's like fighting fire. We'refire. It don't change it any
does. When anger does, angerjust mask the pain. When the anger
leads the pain and the herd isstill there. That's why we use anger
as a mask. Sometimes people havethe shot and get so mad. Don't

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know that this shot because they're soangry, so mad, and the Bible
says anger it rests or resides inthe bosom of fools. In other words,
that's a sering anger and anger todesist there because there are people who
are so quiet, but you don'tknow it's side them is as a bully

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volcanom, just ready to erupt angryissues. He asks, why are you
so angry? What is your problem? Why can't you get along with other
people? There are people who say, well, I don't get along with

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other women? Can you say man? Anger issues? That people will say,
well, I just don't trust anybody? Anger issues? Why are we
soul angry mad all the time?You can enjoy life by being angry,
angry at everything, angry at everybody. Every time we get into a new

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relationship, we bring that anger withus. We come carry our bags of
luck into anger, bitterness, rage, madness, sometimes angry. We have
to learn how to deactivate an angrybuddy, because anger again rests in the

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bosom of fools. It says,be angry and what said not? But
too often when I feel that servescoming, we don't know how to deactivated?
Do we we gonna start speaking ourmind telling off everybody who's in our
way out of anger. A lotof times we're afraid to let go of

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my anger because I'm afraid that ifI forgive you, I gotta stop being
mad. We're afraid that if Ilet my anger go, then you're gonna
get away with something. So westay bad. Don't we stay angry because

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my defender, my defender. We'llget away with it if I don't stay
angry. So we keep that angerbottled up inside of us to the point
where it affects our health, itaffects our spiritual life. It is it
helps everything we come in contact with. Because we're always angry. We always

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have to tell somebody all to fitthis anger. But again, all I'm
doing is body fire with fire.When you got fire with fire, you
got you got a forest, don'tyou. We allow our motions to control
us. And Christ said, don'tlet your anger control you. And we

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get in to our anger. Weallow our anger to dictate our actions.
I'm angry, so i gotta speakmy mind. I'm angry, so I've
got to make sure that they knowthat I'm angry. Don't we or some
of us, we do this.We're angry, but we just quiet.

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Man. I'm not gonna speak toyou because I'm I'm angry. We go
with the silent husbands are good atthat, we go into silent treatment.
I'm just not gonna say anything,hey man, because I don't want to.
But that's still angry, isn't it. That's still angry. Now,
I'm just gonna be quiet, notgonna say anything. But your body language

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shows your true inside, doesn't it. It shows that you I feel angry
because watch this, she go totouch you. You y'all know I'm talking
about marry people. You scoop closeto him. Angry. Then somebody say,
amen, body language shows your truePhilly. So we're gonna go into

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some deep you got your you gotyour little notes here. We're gonna talk
about some of these issues right here. Indignation. You have been, you
ever been this week? You allshould have felt indignation. And I'm just
gonna tell you why. How manyyou were mad when you discovered that five
year old was killed by the mother. You feel indignation? Didn't you feel

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outright? Because that's justified anger becauseof an injustice. Anytime there's an injustice,
you should feel anger. Now watchthis. Now, the problem with
the mother was what she had angerissues. She could not control her anger,

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and because she cannot control her anger, she ended up destroying her child.
Anger will destroy Now I'm sure therewas not her intention to kill her
child, but because of her anger. Again, the Lord says, anger
or seeing it crouches you never getso mad and do something and said,

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I don't know why I did that, because anger had gained control. Indignation
you feel that shimmering anger or voteby injustice. When you feel an injustice
and you're all amaticly comes to yourspirit, doesn't it, because you feel
like I get a perfect example this. You're your job. You're both worked

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in your co worker. You workharder them, but they get the raise.
What happens you're mad, aren't?Anger comes in? Anger comes in.
You feel indictified because of some injustice. Now you got two ways to
handling that. You can act thefood like most of them will do.
Come like the man, then gothrow our balls and we doesn't. Or

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you can say, you know what, congratulations, congratulations, because understand something
emotional company east of the West comesfrom God. So you know what,
Lord, if it wasn't my time, it's not my time, it's gonna
buy but most of us will doWe'll act a fool, and then we'll
act a fool because if we feelindignation, why was it not chosen?

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Why was it not picked? Whywasn't I recognized? I feel like my
rights have been revolved? Rath?What is wrath? Burning anger accompanied by
the desire for revenge? How manyever felt that way? Sometimes that's where
rath is raf when an anger,when anger go past, the sun go

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doing down, it comes to rapbecause rap says I'm gonna pay you back.
That's where rath is saying, I'mgonna get you back for what you've
done. That's where wrath is.It's beyond the anger points what the bather
says, don't let the sin,don't let the sun go down on your
anger. To be angry, butdon't sin. Don't let the sun goes

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down. Sometimes that sun that wouldup and down four or five times,
where you can get where you're anger, it says. What happens is rage
comes in, so I'm gonna payyou back for what you've done. You
mistreated me. I'm gonna revenge.And when you take revenge, you're telling

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the Lord I'm God. Because revengeancebelongs to who God, So when you
take when you take revenge, you'retelling God, I'm God, I'm gonna
take revenge. You have no rightto take revenge. Why revengeance belongs to
God. You have to leave vengeancein God's hands. So it says,

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don't allow the son to go down, and you still have anger because it
will carry over to rage to getback at somebody. And we often do
that, don't We want We wantour revenge. We want to do We
want them to feel what we feel, so we hurt with our tongue,

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sometimes without actions some time because Iwant to take revenge out fury, powerful
force compelled to harm or destroy.I'm saying some of my friends get so
mad they'll break down, furniture up, they'll throw things, break things because

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of anger. It's a furious somad that you want to destroy something.
That's what the mother did to thefive year old. Fury. That's rage,
so angry that I gotta destroy Ijust you gotta hurt something. That's
a dangerous type of anger because whatthe devil wants to do is for you

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to escalate from anger to rath tofury. Now that you have got to
destroy something, and some of youdestroy your relationships because of your anger.
Man, because you gotta destroy.It's almost like self sabotage that I just
gotta destroy. I don't care.Because when you're really furious like that,

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you don't care. And when youin that spirit of you don't care,
a powerful force comes on you.And that force is demonic spirit a man.
That's when a Baba says, don'tgive the devil a foothold, because
if it gets a foothold in youranger, it's gonna become destructive. You
break things up, you destroy things, you destroy people. Why because I

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am so furious, I'm so angry, you're giving the devil space to operate
rage, lazing anger. You everseen rage before? Yeah? I mean
it's like a fire out of control. Even our children when you're when our

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little babies are young, you're youever seen a tatra that the anger in
them? You ever see that?Now they are babies, you don't,
I mean, what you do tothem, but they throw it backs back
and rage comes out. Rage comesout. Why because we're born in sin
and that anger starts when you alittle, small, little baby. You

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need that anger is there, blazinganger resulting in the loss of self control,
often followed by remot regret. Ican't believe I did that. You
ever been there? You get sothat anger just blew up. I mean
it's now, it's a fire.So it's a rory fire now, and
a fire destroys everything. That's whatin this way everything, it burns up

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everything. And it's always followed byregret. Oh, I'm so, I'm
so sorry. I'm sorry I hurtyour feelings. I'm sorry I didn't.
You've been there. That's why youcan't allow yourself to get to that point.
You can allow anger to keep boiling. Let's go over some of other

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things. Prolong anger. I'm everuse a crop by. It's a slow
congress. Some of anyone's like that, isn't it? It's hell there for
a long time. That's the cantyb bru this morning. How many you
are angry? Aby something? It'sstill there. You see your hands,

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you're angry. It's like simmering.Just it's just been there for a long
time. That anger just boiling.It is boiling, and boiling is a
slow cooker. It's like when it'slike that way, it's almost like you
really can't tell us there because it'son the fier's own low. It's deadly,
getting hot, it's simmering. Becausewhen anger simmers like that, if

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you start walking in unforgiveness because youwon't release the person that has harmed you,
that have teared something to you.That's why again it says, be
angry, but don't sin, don'tallow the sun to go down. Why
because unforgiveness will set in when somebodywho's hurts you and they show no remorse.

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How do you handle that? Whenthey hurt you, they have no
remorse at off. They may haveblessed you, they may have raped you,
they may have hurt you, theymay have cheated on you, and
all this rage is on a slowcooker and everything to watch this everybody you
get involved with, because you're onfire on the inside. It's like an

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implosion. Because you don't destroy buildingsby putting close on the outside, do
you? You push boss on thewhat the inside? The building implodes?
It's an explosion on the inside.The devil wants anger to simmer in you
because it's like to sell you upa charge that eventually you're gonna implode.

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And what happens is your abuility comesdown with your building. It collapses because
that unforgiveness, that anger, ithas been simmering for a long time,
and one day somebody's gonna push thebutton and an implosion. Your life simply

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falls apart because all that its flowsupness is on the inside. I'm gonna
talk about something that I'm gonna skipfor a second. This talk about something
a lot of times, what Terry'stalking about about forgiveness. I'm gonna give
you some facts about forgiveness. Forgivenessis based on our choice to be obedient

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to God and release our anger toGod. Forgiveness is always a choice.
Forgiveness is not based on relationship.And I said it again, forgiveness not
based on relationship. What happens isI feel that if I forgive them,
I gotta be reconciling with them.That is not true. Can I prove

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it? Because forgiveness is a oneway straight it stands out reconciliation requires two
part artists. If they refuse tochange, I ain't gotta be reconciled to
them. I can forgive them,I can release them, but I don't
have to be reconciled to them.The bothers that you go to your world.

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If you don't receive you, itsays, what do you do?
It say you bring another witness too, say that they don't send the witness,
take them to the church. Ifthey don't, recites said it,
let them be as a republican,republican or a center and no. Words
have nothing more to do with theWhy forgiveness does not require reconciliation. The

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problem is we think, well,because I forgave them, I gotta be
attastionate. You do not? Youdo not? You simpinitely forgive our beings.
You wait. Reconciliation requires two peopleand it's three three, says Hockey
to walk together, except they hewasn't integreed. I can't be reconciled with

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you if we are not in agreeing. I would forgive you, but I
don't gotta have much with you.Somebody saying, man, So the problem
we say any copy feel like,well, I gotta I gotta go hub.
No, you do not. Youdon't have to do that. Why
you require two ways three if theyare not changing? I give from an
example this, As a pastor,you deal with abuse in the church relationship

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people who there are people who areabusing I would never tell a wife go
back to husband who's abusing you.Forgive them, but you don't gotta be
reconciling them until they change. Somebodysay, man, if there is no
change, no, don't go backto that. Why because there is no
change. Reconciliation requires change. Watchthis forgiveness is given, but trust is

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hern and I don't. I canforgive you, but I don't gotta trust
you. Why you have to earnmy trust. Amen. So we say
angry because we can go like Igot no, I don't have to trust
them until the earn trust is alwaysearned. Christs you, I'm thankful than
a few things. You be unthaithful than the knitting, and I gotta

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be able to trust you. Ifthere is no trust, you don't gotta
be reconciled. You have to havetrust. It is earned. It's not
just you just don't give trust out. You have to earn trust. Amen.
That's where to confuse your life.Because we feel like, well,
if I'm reconciled, I got trust, No, I don't gotta trust you
again. I'm gonna wait until Isee a change, because you have to

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earn back my trust. Understand thatforgive it's nothing to do with that.
Forgiving means forgiving letting go a debt. They didn't go over debt. Give
you perfectives out for that. Youget somebody a thousand dollars and they don't
pay you back. I got toget the debt while you get them again

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thousand dollars. Care for that?For that, then you won't do why
because of the trust you have totrust. You are not required to do
that. You have to earn trust. If there is no trust, I

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have been given you for giving adebt forgiven, and I've been giving the
thing that you did to me.But I don't have to trust you.
You have to earn myself back.So we say anything no reason because you
feel like I got to get involved. None you do not. You don't
have to do that. You haveto you be reconciled. Watch this,

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Donny stand up for a minute.If I do Donnie wrong and Donnie comes
to me af forgiveness, now he'sdone his part. If I receive it

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and after Donny, I'm sorry,I did you wrong, he said.
To be reconciled to your brother,that means restore relationship. Because I demonstrated
regret and wanting to be reconciled tomy brother either. So now I'm reconciled.
Because what reconciliation is the restoration ofa relationship. Forgiveness focuses on the

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offense. Reconciliation focus on the relationship. When you reconcile, that means I'm
focusing on I want to restore myrelationship. I'm wanna say something personal.
Happened to me three years ago.Me and my dad fell out. I've
get just lost a RelA few months. Part of that and my life my

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dad real hard, harsh fan.Sometimes then say anything, my heel goes
down me. And one day wegot into it. I didn't say anything
and they said were Then I said, Dad, I'm walking. I walked
out of the house. I wasangry, and I kept excided day to
see it. I kept a slider. And that happened in October and the

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same thing. And every Thursday Iwould go think his trash shop. So
I wouldn't gonna say, you know, I'm not going over there. I'm
not gonna be bothering my dad becauseI don't want to hear his mouth.
So I wouldn't go around Christmas time. The lord's folk who says, call
your dad, we should marry Christmas. I said, no, I'm not

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gonna do him. I love mydad. I'm not gonna do my dad,
so I don't want to hear hismouth. He was out of town.
The next day that the Christmas hedied. My mother called me,
said, your dad is dad passedaway. I was. I was just
in shock because I thought I hadmore time, because I was say,
I don't let things pass and thenwe'll be wrapping the side. That's why

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I said, I'm tut this priestess, and I was. I was so
angry. On the end. NowI didn't It was no hour expression of
anger. I said to myself,I'm not gonna be I'm not gonna do
my dad. I'm just gonna I'mjust gonna not gonna call him. I'm
gonna take his trash out. I'mlike, let my brother get his trashed.
I'm not gonna do it no more. I'm gonna let somebody else do
it. And that little, stillsmall voice kept telling me, go take

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his trash out, Go do whatyou're supposed to do. You're a good
son. I refused. I saidno, because I don't want to get
your art on my dad again.I'm tired of hearing negative comments. You're
a nagle all the time because Idon't want to be around him. And
I kept ignoring that still small voiceuntil it was too late. All because

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of my anger was not an hourdexpression. It was ingram. No one
knew of angry. I just wouldn'tgo I just didn't say, you know
what, I'm not gonna call him. I didn't talk to him before day.
We had an argument today. Henever said the words, never called,
we called each other, we sayanything. And I let that anger
just simmer until the anger took awaymy chance to be reconciled to my father.

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And that's why the word goes,be angry, and don't let the
sun go down, because you neverknow when's your last opportunity to be reconciled.
The Bible is as much as livein you peace. You're all men.
It means as long as up toyou trying to make peace, blessing
all the peace makers. But todayshall see God. Peace is a powerful

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force. When you lose your peace, you lose your power. When anger
comes in. Anger is a powerfulforce that controls your emotions because it makes
you lose your common sense. Thingsthat you would normal you you won't do
because you are sole am. Let'sgo back going again. When someone shows

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regret, be reconciled. Go restorethe relationship with them. If they are
showing remorse, and you see anot just a one time change, a
consistent change, don't get fulled,but at one time change. Look for
what consistency. I've been continuing up, I've been continuing you look for that

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so with anger, because again angeris just given. You don't have to
wait until you feel you do itout of what obedience? Because as you
have received forgiveness, you give forgiveness. As long as God's forgiven you,
you ought to be forgiving somebody else. Because as you forgive, God forgives

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you. Also if you do notforgive, guess what happens. God won't
forgive You can't forgive you why becauseyou walk into this obedience. So our
anger keeps unforgiveness in us darning.I don't want to talk to them,
I don't want to deal with them. No more unforgiveness. We are we
wall let go. When you forgive, you are letting go of a debt.

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You're wiping it clean, letting sayyou know what I'm gonna I'm gonna
give this to God. Cast allyour care upon him, for he cared
for you. We hold on toour angered on me. We will give
up everything else, and we willhold onto that anger. How can you
tell when you're angry? Robins adup for man, I gonna be having

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a good time in church. Igotta be worked them in God and pray
to God. And all of asudden Robin walks in. We'll happening.
Your whole disposition changed on him.If I'll hear that come, You're still
angry, aren't you? How canI tell I'm angry when I see her

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coming down, I'll go the otherway. Somebody saying, man, I
want to avoid, I don't want. I'm gonna avoid because I am still
I said, I'm not angry,but I still I want to avoid because
I'm really angry and I don't want. And what I'm walking is is unfor

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giveness exactly whether what happens, sheis controlling my emotions. Think about that.
You could be happy until you saidperson down. Well, you're giving
them, You're giving them power overyour emotion. They have now they're happy
and carefree. You mad and bitterand having a heart attack, all because

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you want that goal. You'll anger. They're gonna I'll leave you. Why
because you're hoping all that bitteress inyou and it is poison the Bible cause
it was the root of periods.It will poison you. It's spready like
camp. You watch your body poisingit. Everybody you touch becomes poison because

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of anger. I'm mad, soI won't so shit with them. It's
my sister and the Lord, andI refuse to deal with her. I
don't want to talk to her becausewatch what happened. Because one Sunday I
said, prig the Lord and shedidn't hear you so mad? Now,
young man, my bad or somebodysending your seat, then you send it

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every Sunday. And they should haveknown their visitor. They should have known
better that that sho'll see me.It got your name on here. They
it saying you'll see now. Youdon't want nothing to do with them.
You are sold mad over a seat? Hey man, you believe it happens
to jobs set happening to church.So many times people get an attitude because
somebody sat They see markets a bodyman, that's my market's boy, that's

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