Thursday at the park

Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:01):
I know everybody. It's Bishop, deb It is Thursday. We're
almost to the end of July, and I'm.

Speaker 2 (00:08):
Trying not to grieve. Oh my god, don't look at
the date, Debbie, don't look at the date.

Speaker 1 (00:13):
But it's uh, it's you turned around and the whole
week has passed, right. I went to the post office
just now, first time in like four days, and my
Wicked T shirt came in.

Speaker 2 (00:24):
Well, it's not so hoodie. My Wicked hoodie came in.

Speaker 1 (00:27):
It's a rainbow edition and I can't remember this saying,
but it's got wicked Wicked in rainbow letters. I'm so excited.
So that was a gift to me. Really, I don't
know that it's a birthday pressing, but it was a
gift to me. So, you know, every now and then,
you just gotta get the T shirt or get the

(00:49):
get the special thing, treat yourself. So, yes, it is Thursday.
The town is crazy busy. It's they think it's a
movie set. People that visit here are convinced that because
they have two legs, they have the right of way

(01:09):
and cars do not matter at all because it's a
magical place where they won't get hit. It can be
very frustrating driving through town on a busy summer day
and parking is impossible. There are like for every parking spot,
there's like eighteen cars, So people are hunting. They're going

(01:31):
around in circles looking for parking space. Even at the
post office, you know, people will park for a few
minutes and run in somewhere and they shouldn't be there
because I want to go to the post office. I
need a parking space. So it can be frustrating, which
is why I tend to go only once a week
to get to the post office. So yeah, it's very lovely,

(01:54):
lovely day. This is a beautiful summer day. This guy
is blue. There's some puffin of clouds around, no humidity,
the sun is beaming beautifully.

Speaker 2 (02:07):
It's not it's not.

Speaker 1 (02:08):
Hot, like you know, I'm gonna die if I stand
here for ten minutes hot. It's a beautiful day. I
could take three hundred and sixty five days of this
kind of weather. I really could. A little bit of
a breeze, people are on bicycles, nobody's sweating hardly, and yeah,
it's a beautiful day, just a gorgeous day. You go

(02:30):
out and you feel your spirit lift, and I'm hoping
then in a little bit I'll be able to get
out with my with my camera, with my good camera,
get some parkway shots or some I don't know, creative
shots of some sort, just to get out and enjoy it.
Because I spend a lot of time in front of
the computer. I have got the first page of my

(02:52):
ceremonies book up on my computer screen, and it seems
like every couple of days I add another line because
in between times, I'm getting calls and I'm getting emails,
and I'm planning stuff with friends, and there's stuff going
on with the church, and I would actually have to

(03:13):
pack myself away in a non Wi Fi place to
write this stupid thing. It's not stupid, it's gonna be
very helpful. I'm I don't know if I've mentioned this
on a podcasts, but here in Canada we have rules
about who's officiating, and in the States there aren't. You know,

(03:35):
you can get ordained online. They have a whole different
idea of freedom of religion. So you have people that
are being ordained to do a friend's wedding and they can,
but they have no idea what they're doing. So I'm
looking at I'm writing a resource book to help with
you know, here's what a wedding looks like, here's what
you need to know, here's what the couple you know,

(03:57):
couple's input, blah blah blah. And I've got several ceremonies
that I can put in there. And Gin and I
have written some hilarious theme weddings and I think it's
time to share them with the world, you know, what
the heck, So I'm going to be including them next month.

(04:19):
I have a Harry Potter wedding, so I think I
might include that as well, because it's a big thing.
You know, you can be really creative with the wedding.
As long as you put in the three things that
make it legal, then your golden you know, it's really
if you did just buy the book and did almost

(04:39):
like I guess, a legal service, right ceremony, it would
be ten minutes, not even that seven minutes max. Then
you sign the paperwork and you go home or go
to your party or whatever. But we want to make
it more special and meaningful, so you can add things
in and you know, have all kinds of.

Speaker 2 (05:00):
That is a memorable occasion.

Speaker 1 (05:04):
You don't just want to spend all that money for
a seven minute Hello.

Speaker 2 (05:09):
You're married.

Speaker 1 (05:11):
You want to make it, stretch out a bed and
give it some bizazz and personalizing it and blah blah blah.
So that's what the book's about. So at some point
I'll get back to it. And now I don't feel
like writing it. Now I feel like being out in
the world and taking pictures. And it's summer and I'm
supposed to be taking it easy and so there, you know,

(05:36):
putting on a few flowers this morning, but I think
they're mostly They might be smoldering, but I think they're
pretty well out.

Speaker 2 (05:46):
Things come up from time to time. So I hope
that you.

Speaker 1 (05:49):
Are enjoying your summer day, whether you're at work listening
to this on the computer, or at home, or at
in your backyard or maybe at a cottage.

Speaker 2 (06:02):
I have wonderlest today. That's my thing.

Speaker 1 (06:09):
Yeah, it's been a busy week and a good week,
very good week, but busy, and next week is even busier.
In the first week of August is like, oh, shut up,
it's too busy.

Speaker 2 (06:21):
Just teasing.

Speaker 1 (06:21):
I've got three weddings at a funeral, so that's gonna
be keep me busy.

Speaker 2 (06:28):
It keeps me out of the pool halls.

Speaker 1 (06:29):
I tell people I keep out of trouble this way
because left to my own devices, well, I don't know.
My aquarian moon takes me places that are awfully fun.
But anyway, I digress. So I hear you laughing. You
know that I'm rather a quiet person. Hello, Oh, red

(06:57):
Mustang convertible just rope by, and the guy gave me
the once over. I'm sitting at Ryerson Park in the
in the last remaining parking space, and he is cruising
for a spot. Too bad. I'm doing a podcast. You
can have the spot, you know, in about five minute spot.
I'm busy, so yes, I can see Toronto today very clearly.

(07:18):
It's shimmering over the other side of the lake looking
like home. And oh, he's he's gonna park behind me.
He's going to park illegally. I just know it. He's
turned around and he is. He is going to stick
out like a sore thumb.

Speaker 2 (07:33):
Stupid guy. Stupid guy.

Speaker 1 (07:37):
And I bet you he doesn't leave me any room
to back up and move. This is this is the
frustrating thing about living in Niagara in the lake.

Speaker 2 (07:48):
When it's.

Speaker 1 (07:50):
Deepest, darkest summer, people don't care. They don't care, they
don't care, they don't respect the townies, they don't They
just want what they want. And you know they come
here for a wonderful experience and the energy is great
blah blah blah. But then you get these aggressive yeah
whoos who are waiting for you to move and I
am not moving. Oh he's getting into the car. He

(08:14):
just wants to see. He just wants to take a
picture of the lake. He's pulling out his camera. Yep,
I can call it. I can call it. It is like,
this is the place where you get the most spectacular
sunsets on the planet, next to lake here on these
sunsets here absolutely glorious, and all kinds of people come

(08:35):
from all over the place just to stand on the
hillside here and watch the sun go down, take pictures.
It's beautiful here. So I can't I can't get upset
that they want to take a picture of the spot.
And every other parking spot along the lake was full,
so I found this one and I'm keeping it anyway.

(08:59):
I just wanted to check in and say hello and
know that I am keeping.

Speaker 2 (09:06):
Everybody in power. There are a lot of things going
on in people's lives right now.

Speaker 1 (09:11):
People feeling the pinch financially, people not sure whether they
should keep their house or move with everything being so
crazy with mortgages and interest rates, and people feeling insecure,
people with health issues, with family issues.

Speaker 2 (09:31):
I'm sort of through.

Speaker 1 (09:34):
The day chatting with a lot of people who are
just you know, in need of an ear and we
all get there. You know, we all have those moments
of feeling like really unpredictable, right we don't know which
twist or turn, which way the road's going to go.

(09:55):
And that's when when our faith really holds us firm,
or our understanding that this too shall pass. I think
that's such an important phreeze too. You know, if I
ever got a tattoo, it might be that one this
too shall pass, This too shall pass, because what happens
in this moment is not what's going to happen in
the next I can guarantee it. And you know, the

(10:19):
positive thing, right, if we put the positive vibes out
there that every day gets better and better, every minute
gets better and better, every hour gets better and better,
it gets better from here, then that's gonna invite betterness
to come into it, not bitterness, betterness to come into
your heart and your life, and things will get better.

(10:41):
It's the law of the universe. I keep telling people
it will get better. It might take a bit of
time and you might have a little bit of patience
before it does. You know, we get we get tested,
but things do get better nothing. We've lived long enough.
We know that life changes at the turn of a dime.

Speaker 2 (11:05):
And you know.

Speaker 1 (11:10):
It's good to hang on to that when you're in
the midst of a challenge. You know, look for the
look for the happy thing in it. Look for something
that you can hang on to that's positive, and you
know it becomes your life raft. You know, I'm hanging
on to this thought. I'm hanging on to this hope.
I believe this is going to happen. I believe it's

(11:30):
going to get better, and it will. We lose things
and we gain things. You know, I was saying that
to somebody this morning. It's cliche. Every goodbye is a hello,
but it's true. A lot of cliches are. You know,
when we let go and we say goodbye and we

(11:56):
reach forward, we'll find something that will us forward that
is good, and that might be a surprise. We can
embrace the good even as we are sad or saying
looking over a shoulder, or feeling like there's a hole
in our heart. You know, we can fill it with
good things. We can fill it with love. We can

(12:18):
fill it with love of friends, with the things we
love to do, our hobbies. Get out the paints, get
out the journal, get out the computer and get a
new page and start your book.

Speaker 2 (12:33):
You know, get the.

Speaker 1 (12:34):
Camera as I'm going to do this afternoon. You know,
it's hard to say goodbye. And grieving takes a while.
You know, as I'm discovering and I'm talking to other
people who are grieving, and there's there's so much that

(12:56):
we have to be thankful. If we weren't grieving it,
you know, we wouldn't be We wouldn't have cared, right,
It wouldn't. It wouldn't touch us so deeply when we
lose people, or when we lose our beloved companion animals,
It wouldn't.

Speaker 2 (13:10):
It wouldn't.

Speaker 1 (13:12):
We wouldn't carry that burden as much. So grieving is
a sign that we've loved. Grieving is a sign that
we've cared for somebody so deeply that it's how the
song from Wicked for Good, which I've been listening to NonStop,

(13:34):
and I want to play it at my funeral.

Speaker 2 (13:35):
Thank you.

Speaker 1 (13:37):
Like a handprint on my heart, Like a handprint on
my heart. That line gets me every time because it
speaks of an imprint that somebody else has has made
on us right, an imprint of love that is indelible.

(13:59):
And so that indelible mark stays with us even even
after the grief WANs and it will time will, time
will smooth it out, but that handprint on our heart
is there forever. It's a testimony of the love that
we've known and the time that we've shared and the

(14:19):
memories that we keep. And I think that is a
beautiful line. It might you might find it helpful. I've
been kind of listening to that song and I wait
for that line. It's beautiful. So you know, on this
beautiful summer day, hold on to hope, hold on to
your faith, however that is for you. Know that you

(14:43):
are exactly where you're supposed to be at this point
in time, and know that things are working out in
your life for good. I believe that you know we
bear the challenges, we we have the ups and downs,
but honestly, we are so blessed, and holding onto those
blessings kind of cements the good things that we experience.

(15:08):
So look for the blessings, look for things to come.
And now I'm gonna stop talking, and I have to
figure it a way that I'm gonna back up and
get out of this bloody spot because he's blocked me in.

Speaker 2 (15:20):
But you know this too shall pass right or a
dentist front fender, I won't. I promise. I've got room.
I've got room, and they're they're having lunch on a
picnic table so they can see me take out their
their front end. I won't.

Speaker 1 (15:37):
I promise. I'm just being bad. See Aquarium Moon, Debbie's bad.
I will talk to you again soon, my friends, and
enjoy the day.

Speaker 2 (15:48):
Talk to you later.

Speaker 1 (15:49):
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