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(00:02):
Welcome to the Psychology of Romance podcast, where doctor Carlos discusses the latest research
and insight on relationships. Now here'syour host, Doctor Carlos. Have you
(00:32):
ever been the victim of ghosting?Well, there are some psychological consequences to
ghosting. A two wave panel surveyof young adults revealed that ghosting friends and
ghosting partners are two different phenomena.Ghost romantic partners is predicted by communication overload,
receiving more messages and one is ableto handle and had no impact and
well being, while ghosting friends waspredicted by one self esteem and increased depressive
(00:58):
tendencies over time. If you don'tknow what ghosting is, ghosting is when
one terminates communication with another person withoutselling them why. And thanks to blocking
features of modern digital communication devices thatallow one person to completely stop communication attempts
by another person, ghosting has becomehow would you say, a novel relationship
(01:19):
dissolution strategy. Basically, this ishow you end as something in a relationship
and that could be very problematic.So ghosting, isn't that a nice thing
to do? If everybody here hasbeen ghosted before, it's it's just not
a pleasant experience. There's a lossof control that is associated with ghosting as
(01:41):
well as increase in these depressive tendencies. Many people, particularly young, have
firsthand experienced with ghosting, though,and studies show that roughly thirty percent a
third of young people have ghosted someoneat twenty five percent have been ghosted,
and over forty percent have been inboth positions. A few studies that explore
the phenomena I'm mostly focused on beingghosted and studied in the context of romantic
relationships, but ghosting has been foundto be associated with a lack of psychological
(02:06):
well being and increased levels of distrust. So a study was done to explore
the factors that precede ghosting and thosethat develop as a consequence of ghosting and
romantic relationships and friendships, and thisis what they found for their new study.
The research has conducted surveys at twotime points four months apart. They
had about over nine hundred participants.Participants cly be completed assessments. They do
(02:30):
survey things of that they showed thatcommunication overload predicts ghosting others within romantic relationships,
but not in friendships. Participants alsowith greater self esteem were more likely
to ghost friends, but not romanticpartners. They were particularly surprised at communication
overload predicted ghosting romantic partners but notthe friends. This is one of those
(02:53):
aspects that you see mentioned on socialmedia rather frequently, but as you argue
in this paper, they argued temporarilytaking more time to reply to ones might
be more acceptable. Interacting with romanticpartners can be demanding, and ghosting can
present a way to avoid harms dueto communication overload. Ghosting others did not
affect self esteem over time, regardlessof whether one ghosted a friend or romantic
(03:14):
partner, but participants who reported theyghosted their friends and the first survey tended
to have greater depressive tendencies. Finally, older participants were more likely, while
highly likely educated participants were less likelyto ghost the romantic partners. It'll be
interesting also to do, if you'rea psychology student, to do attachment survey
(03:36):
to find out what kind of attachmentstyle they have, See if they have
an anxious attachment, avoiding attachment,and see if that plays in a role.
Because I get the funny feeling wehave individuals who are either are trying
to bail. There's a lot ofreasons. Right, you can go somebody,
maybe it's a relationship gone wrong,Maybe somebody really don't want to interact
with. There's a lot of waysto do that also depends on the frequency
(03:57):
of these friends. How long havethey been friends. There's another thing we
didn't see. They've been friends frommore than six months, more than a
year. Romantic partners, how longthey've been involved. There's a lot of
variables here, nonetheless interesting
Welcome to the Psychology of Romance podcast, where doctor Carlos discusses the latest research
and insight on relationships. Now here'syour host, Doctor Carlos. Have you
(00:32):
ever been the victim of ghosting?Well, there are some psychological consequences to
ghosting. A two wave panel surveyof young adults revealed that ghosting friends and
ghosting partners are two different phenomena.Ghost romantic partners is predicted by communication overload,
receiving more messages and one is ableto handle and had no impact and
well being, while ghosting friends waspredicted by one self esteem and increased depressive
(00:58):
tendencies over time. If you don'tknow what ghosting is, ghosting is when
one terminates communication with another person withoutselling them why. And thanks to blocking
features of modern digital communication devices thatallow one person to completely stop communication attempts
by another person, ghosting has becomehow would you say, a novel relationship
(01:19):
dissolution strategy. Basically, this ishow you end as something in a relationship
and that could be very problematic.So ghosting, isn't that a nice thing
to do? If everybody here hasbeen ghosted before, it's it's just not
a pleasant experience. There's a lossof control that is associated with ghosting as
(01:41):
well as increase in these depressive tendencies. Many people, particularly young, have
firsthand experienced with ghosting, though,and studies show that roughly thirty percent a
third of young people have ghosted someoneat twenty five percent have been ghosted,
and over forty percent have been inboth positions. A few studies that explore
the phenomena I'm mostly focused on beingghosted and studied in the context of romantic
relationships, but ghosting has been foundto be associated with a lack of psychological
(02:06):
well being and increased levels of distrust. So a study was done to explore
the factors that precede ghosting and thosethat develop as a consequence of ghosting and
romantic relationships and friendships, and thisis what they found for their new study.
The research has conducted surveys at twotime points four months apart. They
had about over nine hundred participants.Participants cly be completed assessments. They do
(02:30):
survey things of that they showed thatcommunication overload predicts ghosting others within romantic relationships,
but not in friendships. Participants alsowith greater self esteem were more likely
to ghost friends, but not romanticpartners. They were particularly surprised at communication
overload predicted ghosting romantic partners but notthe friends. This is one of those
(02:53):
aspects that you see mentioned on socialmedia rather frequently, but as you argue
in this paper, they argued temporarilytaking more time to reply to ones might
be more acceptable. Interacting with romanticpartners can be demanding, and ghosting can
present a way to avoid harms dueto communication overload. Ghosting others did not
affect self esteem over time, regardlessof whether one ghosted a friend or romantic
(03:14):
partner, but participants who reported theyghosted their friends and the first survey tended
to have greater depressive tendencies. Finally, older participants were more likely, while
highly likely educated participants were less likelyto ghost the romantic partners. It'll be
interesting also to do, if you'rea psychology student, to do attachment survey
(03:36):
to find out what kind of attachmentstyle they have, See if they have
an anxious attachment, avoiding attachment,and see if that plays in a role.
Because I get the funny feeling wehave individuals who are either are trying
to bail. There's a lot ofreasons. Right, you can go somebody,
maybe it's a relationship gone wrong,Maybe somebody really don't want to interact
with. There's a lot of waysto do that also depends on the frequency
(03:57):
of these friends. How long havethey been friends. There's another thing we
didn't see. They've been friends frommore than six months, more than a
year. Romantic partners, how longthey've been involved. There's a lot of
variables here, nonetheless interesting
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