April 20, 2024 • 16 mins
If you're too afraid to protect your child/children you are in the wrong relationship, with the wrong person. No man or woman should allow their children to go through any form of abuse because as the parent, they're too afraid to protect the child. You're too worried about your own well being and not the well being of the child/ren. You as the adult can take what you choose to, but no child should have to go through abuse because you're taking the heat off of yourself. It's not always biological parents it's also other caregivers who are the guardian. If you don't protect the child/ren, you are wrong!
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(00:01):
Hey, hey, hey, I'mbad with something for you to think about.
She was too afraid to protect thechildren, or it could be he
was too afraid to protect the children. I don't care whether male or female.
(00:27):
If you are too afraid to protectyour children's shame on you. But
I know for a fact there aresome people out there who will allow their
children to take the butt of thingsso that heat comes off of them.
You are wrong. We are supposedto be protectors of our children. And
(00:47):
I don't care what excuse you use. That's all it is. It's an
excuse. It's a cop out.Now, someone may be listening to this
and you may become emotional mad whatever. That's day. You can have that.
But at the end of it all, you're wrong. If you're not
(01:08):
protecting your children, you are wrong. You should never be in a relationship
with someone who is abusive to you. Oh let me tell you something.
Think about it. If they areabusive to you, what you think they're
(01:29):
gonna do to the children. AndI know in very few cases people are
abusive to the adult and not thechildren, But that's very few cases.
Most times, if the abuser isaggressive and abusive to the adult, they're
(01:49):
gonna be that way towards the child. And those of you who have listened
to me before, like I tellyou, I'm not exempt. I've been
through it. I've been in anabusive relationship. But let me tell you,
when I saw he started yelling atthe children's poop, it was time
(02:13):
to go. And I did nothesitake, I did not hesitate, never
ever looked back, never felt anyguilt about it. I was out of
there. I left a whole entirecountry to come back to the States.
(02:39):
I set it up and I actedout on it. I implement that plan
and I got up out of therebecause it's bad enough that I took it.
But when the children m and s, I'm so thankful that they was
(03:02):
at an age where they don't evenremember any of it. They were little,
bitty kids, so they don't rememberany of it. Although we didn't
do anything in front of them directly, but they were in the house,
so I'm sure they heard arguing.But they were so little, Like I
(03:29):
said, they were very little,So that was a good thing that I
made that decision when they were littletights and don't even remember at all.
Anyways, a lot of people arein relationships, but they are afraid of
(03:54):
who they are with, and thechildren are not protected. Some of your
children on being sexually abused, they'rebeing physically abused, and you know it,
you know, you know it.You're gonna have to answer to God
about that. Allowing your children totake abuse because you're afraid of that person.
(04:17):
That's not being a good parent.Because children all they have is their
parents. They look for their parentsto protect them, not to allow them
to be abused. So when youwhen you find yourself with someone and here
(04:39):
or she are showing abusive tendencies,that's the time to walk, not to
talk. That's the time to walk. Get them out of there before you
get any deeper involved in a relationship. But no, some of you stayed
(05:03):
because you hoping and praying he orshe becomes better. You hoping and praying
that it was one time incident.But once you don't realize is you gave
them power when you stayed, Whenyou did nothing, when there were no
(05:23):
consequences, you gave them power.You empowered them. And I'm sure many
of you understand what I'm saying.You allowed them to think it was okay.
(05:45):
Some of you know that your childis being sexual abused. You know
it. Shame on you, Shameon you. There is no excuse for
it. If you bet afraid,you don't have no business being in it.
You don't have no business being there. If you are afraid of who
(06:06):
you're with, you have no businessbeing with an individual, male or female.
If you are afraid of them,you are definitely in a relationship with
the wrong person. And what's evenmore sad is that some of you have
gotten to the point of being sofearful. Now you're too afraid to go,
(06:27):
and you're too afraid to stay.You stay too long, way too
long, and now your children arebeing abused sexually, mentally, physically,
emotionally. Shame on you. Shameon any parent who allows their children to
(06:48):
go through things to get the heatoff of them. Well you're thinking,
well, he's not doing it tome tonight, or she's not doing it
to me tonight. Shame on you. Children deserve better. They didn't ask
to be in this world, justlike you did it. But if you
(07:12):
have them, you should be protectingthem. But this is what a lot
of children are enduring. They areenduring all levels of abuse because their parents
are to their parents. The otherparent is too afraid to protect them.
(07:36):
They're afraid of what the significant otherwill do if they protect their child.
You, as an adult, youcan take whatever you want to take,
(07:56):
you can allow what you want toallow, you can accept whatever it is
you want to accept. But yourchildren should never have to never, with
a big capital nd never. Whenyou don't protect your children, you are
failing them. You're failing them absolutely, And I would say the same thing
(08:33):
about my daughter period. It dontmatter who it is. If you don't
protect them, who fail them.You have to tell the truth over everything.
(08:56):
So many parents are failing their children, have failed their children. The
psychle keeps continuing, It continues.Some of you stay in these abusive relationships.
Okay, if that's what you wantedan adult, but your children did
(09:18):
not sign up for it. Andif people don't understand the devastation they cause
their children, the hinderance they causetheir children, the stagnation they caused their
children because it affects them. Andmost times children do not hope in a
(09:41):
positive way and they grow up tobe angry adults. They grow up to
be adults who oftentimes victimize because theydid not heal, and they did not
appropriately or properly. Now the waypeople could continue to be as adults is
(10:11):
on those adult individuals. But parentscoming up, if you're not protecting your
children, you fell in them andit will affect them. It will some
of you. You know, youabsolutely positively know your children are being abuse
(10:37):
and you will turn your head.Shame on you, Shame on you.
There's nothing no one can say tome to make me believe in any kind
of way that there's a reason forit. No, you may that in
(11:00):
your head, you believe it becauseyou made it up in your head,
but there is no reason for it. If you're fearful, that's on you.
Your children did not sign up forit. You did. If you
don't protect your children, then givethem to someone who will. These children
(11:24):
are being raised in terrible situations,terrible and you know what, You can
report things to the system, andthe systems are failing them, absolutely failing
in them. Sometimes I just feelso sorry for children in as well today,
(11:50):
So sorry. It breaks my heart. You all don't know, you
have no idea what I'm dealing with, but it breaks my heart to pieces
(12:13):
because children deserve better, They deservebetter and if you can't give it to
them. Stop being selfish. Givethem to someone who will do right by
them, because you don't deserve them. If you're not protecting them, you
definitely don't deserve them. Stop beingselfish. Stop being selfish. So many
(12:46):
children are being failed completely by theirparents. You in a relationship getting your
head beat in, and you're lettingyour child get their head beat in too,
being sexual abused. You're allowing yourchild to be sexual abused too because
you're afraid to protect them. It'sterrible. Your children don't be don't supposed
(13:16):
to be trying to protect you aslittle kids. You're supposed to be protecting
them, but many of you arehiding behind your children because you with these
no good jokers, whether male orfemale, who are so crazy at home,
but they're so different in the eyesof other people. They're so different
(13:39):
in public, but they're monsters athome. You know they are, and
you'll go out in public and you'llpretend they're the greatest thing since chocolate milk,
cold chocolate milk. You know that'sgood, but they're horrible individuals.
(14:00):
You're protecting them as well, butyou're not. You're protecting them, but
you're not protecting your children. Shameon you. You, you, you,
and you whomever you are. You'reprotect that no good joker him or
her because it could build female.You're protecting them, but you're not protecting
(14:26):
your little children. Crazy And thisis what many children around the world are
contending with, this terrible, horriblesituation. So I'll say again, if
(14:48):
you are too afraid to protect yourchild, shame on you. No reason
you can give is good enough.If you're with someone you're afraid of,
you put yourself in that situation,point blank. No one may have never
(15:11):
ever told you, but I'm tellingyou today. You put yourself in that
situation because at the first sign ofabuse you should have walked away. Now
you feel stoked, Now you're sopetrified and afraid, you put yourself in
that situation. And that's all I'msaying. Because I'm getting a little you
(15:33):
know well about this, That's allI'm saying. I said enough. I'm
leaving it right there. Please sharethis episode. Go to relationship Pronicles,
share that this is relatable life pronicles. Thank you for listening. Much love
to you. You and you arein every episode to save and I hope
(15:54):
you do it, thank calling it
Hey, hey, hey, I'mbad with something for you to think about.
She was too afraid to protect thechildren, or it could be he
was too afraid to protect the children. I don't care whether male or female.
(00:27):
If you are too afraid to protectyour children's shame on you. But
I know for a fact there aresome people out there who will allow their
children to take the butt of thingsso that heat comes off of them.
You are wrong. We are supposedto be protectors of our children. And
(00:47):
I don't care what excuse you use. That's all it is. It's an
excuse. It's a cop out.Now, someone may be listening to this
and you may become emotional mad whatever. That's day. You can have that.
But at the end of it all, you're wrong. If you're not
(01:08):
protecting your children, you are wrong. You should never be in a relationship
with someone who is abusive to you. Oh let me tell you something.
Think about it. If they areabusive to you, what you think they're
(01:29):
gonna do to the children. AndI know in very few cases people are
abusive to the adult and not thechildren, But that's very few cases.
Most times, if the abuser isaggressive and abusive to the adult, they're
(01:49):
gonna be that way towards the child. And those of you who have listened
to me before, like I tellyou, I'm not exempt. I've been
through it. I've been in anabusive relationship. But let me tell you,
when I saw he started yelling atthe children's poop, it was time
(02:13):
to go. And I did nothesitake, I did not hesitate, never
ever looked back, never felt anyguilt about it. I was out of
there. I left a whole entirecountry to come back to the States.
(02:39):
I set it up and I actedout on it. I implement that plan
and I got up out of therebecause it's bad enough that I took it.
But when the children m and s, I'm so thankful that they was
(03:02):
at an age where they don't evenremember any of it. They were little,
bitty kids, so they don't rememberany of it. Although we didn't
do anything in front of them directly, but they were in the house,
so I'm sure they heard arguing.But they were so little, Like I
(03:29):
said, they were very little,So that was a good thing that I
made that decision when they were littletights and don't even remember at all.
Anyways, a lot of people arein relationships, but they are afraid of
(03:54):
who they are with, and thechildren are not protected. Some of your
children on being sexually abused, they'rebeing physically abused, and you know it,
you know, you know it.You're gonna have to answer to God
about that. Allowing your children totake abuse because you're afraid of that person.
(04:17):
That's not being a good parent.Because children all they have is their
parents. They look for their parentsto protect them, not to allow them
to be abused. So when youwhen you find yourself with someone and here
(04:39):
or she are showing abusive tendencies,that's the time to walk, not to
talk. That's the time to walk. Get them out of there before you
get any deeper involved in a relationship. But no, some of you stayed
(05:03):
because you hoping and praying he orshe becomes better. You hoping and praying
that it was one time incident.But once you don't realize is you gave
them power when you stayed, Whenyou did nothing, when there were no
(05:23):
consequences, you gave them power.You empowered them. And I'm sure many
of you understand what I'm saying.You allowed them to think it was okay.
(05:45):
Some of you know that your childis being sexual abused. You know
it. Shame on you, Shameon you. There is no excuse for
it. If you bet afraid,you don't have no business being in it.
You don't have no business being there. If you are afraid of who
(06:06):
you're with, you have no businessbeing with an individual, male or female.
If you are afraid of them,you are definitely in a relationship with
the wrong person. And what's evenmore sad is that some of you have
gotten to the point of being sofearful. Now you're too afraid to go,
(06:27):
and you're too afraid to stay.You stay too long, way too
long, and now your children arebeing abused sexually, mentally, physically,
emotionally. Shame on you. Shameon any parent who allows their children to
(06:48):
go through things to get the heatoff of them. Well you're thinking,
well, he's not doing it tome tonight, or she's not doing it
to me tonight. Shame on you. Children deserve better. They didn't ask
to be in this world, justlike you did it. But if you
(07:12):
have them, you should be protectingthem. But this is what a lot
of children are enduring. They areenduring all levels of abuse because their parents
are to their parents. The otherparent is too afraid to protect them.
(07:36):
They're afraid of what the significant otherwill do if they protect their child.
You, as an adult, youcan take whatever you want to take,
(07:56):
you can allow what you want toallow, you can accept whatever it is
you want to accept. But yourchildren should never have to never, with
a big capital nd never. Whenyou don't protect your children, you are
failing them. You're failing them absolutely, And I would say the same thing
(08:33):
about my daughter period. It dontmatter who it is. If you don't
protect them, who fail them.You have to tell the truth over everything.
(08:56):
So many parents are failing their children, have failed their children. The
psychle keeps continuing, It continues.Some of you stay in these abusive relationships.
Okay, if that's what you wantedan adult, but your children did
(09:18):
not sign up for it. Andif people don't understand the devastation they cause
their children, the hinderance they causetheir children, the stagnation they caused their
children because it affects them. Andmost times children do not hope in a
(09:41):
positive way and they grow up tobe angry adults. They grow up to
be adults who oftentimes victimize because theydid not heal, and they did not
appropriately or properly. Now the waypeople could continue to be as adults is
(10:11):
on those adult individuals. But parentscoming up, if you're not protecting your
children, you fell in them andit will affect them. It will some
of you. You know, youabsolutely positively know your children are being abuse
(10:37):
and you will turn your head.Shame on you, Shame on you.
There's nothing no one can say tome to make me believe in any kind
of way that there's a reason forit. No, you may that in
(11:00):
your head, you believe it becauseyou made it up in your head,
but there is no reason for it. If you're fearful, that's on you.
Your children did not sign up forit. You did. If you
don't protect your children, then givethem to someone who will. These children
(11:24):
are being raised in terrible situations,terrible and you know what, You can
report things to the system, andthe systems are failing them, absolutely failing
in them. Sometimes I just feelso sorry for children in as well today,
(11:50):
So sorry. It breaks my heart. You all don't know, you
have no idea what I'm dealing with, but it breaks my heart to pieces
(12:13):
because children deserve better, They deservebetter and if you can't give it to
them. Stop being selfish. Givethem to someone who will do right by
them, because you don't deserve them. If you're not protecting them, you
definitely don't deserve them. Stop beingselfish. Stop being selfish. So many
(12:46):
children are being failed completely by theirparents. You in a relationship getting your
head beat in, and you're lettingyour child get their head beat in too,
being sexual abused. You're allowing yourchild to be sexual abused too because
you're afraid to protect them. It'sterrible. Your children don't be don't supposed
(13:16):
to be trying to protect you aslittle kids. You're supposed to be protecting
them, but many of you arehiding behind your children because you with these
no good jokers, whether male orfemale, who are so crazy at home,
but they're so different in the eyesof other people. They're so different
(13:39):
in public, but they're monsters athome. You know they are, and
you'll go out in public and you'llpretend they're the greatest thing since chocolate milk,
cold chocolate milk. You know that'sgood, but they're horrible individuals.
(14:00):
You're protecting them as well, butyou're not. You're protecting them, but
you're not protecting your children. Shameon you. You, you, you,
and you whomever you are. You'reprotect that no good joker him or
her because it could build female.You're protecting them, but you're not protecting
(14:26):
your little children. Crazy And thisis what many children around the world are
contending with, this terrible, horriblesituation. So I'll say again, if
(14:48):
you are too afraid to protect yourchild, shame on you. No reason
you can give is good enough.If you're with someone you're afraid of,
you put yourself in that situation,point blank. No one may have never
(15:11):
ever told you, but I'm tellingyou today. You put yourself in that
situation because at the first sign ofabuse you should have walked away. Now
you feel stoked, Now you're sopetrified and afraid, you put yourself in
that situation. And that's all I'msaying. Because I'm getting a little you
(15:33):
know well about this, That's allI'm saying. I said enough. I'm
leaving it right there. Please sharethis episode. Go to relationship Pronicles,
share that this is relatable life pronicles. Thank you for listening. Much love
to you. You and you arein every episode to save and I hope
(15:54):
you do it, thank calling it
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