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Hey, hey, good people,I'm back with something for you to think
about. Someone needs to hear thistoday. So many people in this world,
around the world are blaming others fortheir lives, for how they have
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chosen to become. Now I've talkedabout it before, I've mentioned it several
times, but this is a fullepisode on it. You blaming others is
not gonna help you to heal andbecome better. Let me say it again.
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You blaming others doesn't help you toheal and become better. People do
not understand that they cause unnecessary hearme, unnecessary self inflicted pain when they
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don't allow themselves to heal, orwhen they choose to take a route that
they never have to take. Somany people in this world, so many
are in terrible mind sex, terriblestates of mind, terrible mental spaces,
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however you want to put it.And it's all because people are holding on
to things that they should have letgo of long ago. People are blaming
their parents, grown fully grown peoplestill blaming their parents. No, you
have to make a choice for yourlife to be better for you. My
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heart goes out to anyone who wentthrough unnecessary trauma, unwarranted trauma. As
a child, my heart goes outto anyone and everyone. But as an
adult, you have to stop givingpower to that. You have to stop
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giving power to people from your pastbecause you have every opportunity as an adult
to become better. You have everyopportunity. Every day you live, you
have an opportunity to let it goand to become better than what you came
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from. But so many people areso focused on negativity. Real are made
up because you can believe a lieso long until you believe it's true.
I mean, it's a fact.Even the Bible tells us, a tells
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us that you can go for solong lying that you deceive yourself, and
that is what some people do.Everything don't come from trauma other than the
trauma that you create yourself. Peoplethink that, and I used to think
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it too, that you had tocome from trauma when you choose a bad
route, of the wrong road,the wrong path. But that's not true.
It is not true. Because peopleare raised in really good homes,
they turn out bad. Then youhave those who are raised in really bad
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homes they turn out good. Itdepends on the individual. It definitely depends
on the individual. Because the Bibletells us to train, you know,
children up, Train them up asa child, train them up, and
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when they get old, they won'tdepart from from it. Listen, that
does not mean that they won't gooff to the left. It doesn't mean
that. What it means is regardlessof what they choose to do in life,
they know better, they was raisedbetter. What they choose is up
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to them totally. But they knowthe right thing, the right way.
But they still have the choice tochoose whatever they want. I've always told
you that people hold on to negativity. They will hold on to negativity before
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they grab a hold to positivity.That's just the way it is for most
people. But if you go throughlife blaming anyone, it does not benefit
you. What it does is keepyou in the same mental state. It
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keeps you feeling the same, Itkeeps you right where you've always been,
in that negative state of mind.It don't benefit you holding on to past
pains and blaming people, even ifthey contributed to trauma in your life.
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As an adult, you have tobe willing to deal with it, heal
from it, and move on.When don't, it will always without fail
cause devastation and destruction in your life, and some people veer so far off
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that they do very destructive things,just ruin their lives because they're angry over
something that's in the past or somethingthat for whatever reason they made up in
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their own minds. It does happen. But what I'm trying to convey to
people is your life is what youmake it, regardless of the curve balls,
regardless of the unknown. Your lifeis what you make it. People
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can complain all day, they canblame all day, they can blame whoever
they want. Who you choose tobecome is on you. So many people
in life continue down that negative path, and they end up hurting people because
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they were hurt. Instead of learningfrom what they went through and vowing to
never do that to anyone, theygo right on and victimize people because they
were once victimized and they never healedfrom that trauma. So they go through
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life inflicting the same criminal pain thatwas inflicted upon them. That's wrong,
It's not right in no kind ofway. There's no excuse for it.
If you went through it, youshould never want to put anyone else through
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it. But some people that's exactlywhat they do. Commit The same crimes,
inflicting pain in the life of otherpeople because somebody inflicted in their pain
in their lives. It's wrong.It is wrong. That's why it's so
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important to feel from past pains.It's so important when you don't heal,
you take all of that trauma,all of that pain, and you just
like a garbage bag, a garbagebag full of stench. You drag it
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from here to there and everywhere,and it causes you nothing but pain.
Self inflicted pain. The pain youfeel is self inflicted because you're no longer
in the trauma you were once inas a kid. You're the one who's
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holding on to the memories that's formingthose negative thoughts and feelings you. That's
making you angry, insecure, fearful, hate yourself, hate everybody. You
are holding on to that negativity.That negativity is not holding on to you.
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You are holding on to it,and you are blaming others for how
you've chosen to become. You shouldwant to be better than what you came
from. Some of you turn aroundand do the same thing to your children,
the same thing that was done toyou. You do it to your
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children. And I don't want tohear the excuse, Well, I don't
know better because I was never taughtexcuse, excuses, excuses. You know
what pain feels like, you knowwhat being done wrong feels like. So
don't make excuses as to why youdo the same thing to your children.
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You should want better for your children. But these children today, oh my
god, they need Oh my god, they need parents who know how to
cant. These kids are raising themselves. They are, I mean, it's
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so terrible. They're being exploited alltypes of things. Parents trying to use
their children to make money. Imean, it's just pathetic, making their
children do things that the children probablydon't even want to do, but the
parents are trying to make money.It's just terrible, it really is.
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But people are the way that theyhave chosen to become because they choose to
not heal, They choose to notallow themselves to be free of the negativity.
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You don't know your self worth.You get into relationships for the wrong
reasons, You get into relationships withno foundations. You just go through life
the very same way, and allyou do is blame, blame, blame
for the way you've chosen to become. As an adult, you are responsible.
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You. You're responsible and accountable foryour life, for your decisions,
good or bad. You can neverbecome better by remaining the same. You
can never become better by blaming,by holding on to that negativity and blaming
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your whoever, whoever it may be. Well, I'm like this because they
did this or they did that.Okay, maybe they did. And I
know some of you are saying it'sno. Maybe, Okay, I get
it you went through But why areyou continuing to put yourself through unnecessary drama
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over something that happened when you werea child. Why are you putting yourself
through the same version and pain thatyou went through as a child. Please
help me to understand. Stop makingexcuses, Stop using your past as a
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crutch. It is not a crutch. Stop using it as a clutch,
because all you're doing is remaining whereyou've always been, in that state of
negativity, never growing, never maturing, never progressing mentally, because you're too
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stuck. You can't move forward becauseyou're too busy looking behind, still blaming,
not taking responsibility for your own life. You still have it in the
hands of those who hurt you.When you, as a child given power
to powerless people to cause you tobe powerless, giving power to those negative
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memories to keep you in a negativestate of mind. That's why so many
people, I mean, I beon on YouTube sometimes just looking at things,
and it's very, very disheartening thecomments people make. Clearly people are
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so fixated on lust, greed,self gratification, so worried about other people,
people they don't even know who wouldcare less about them. That all
comes from that unresolved inside of you, that inner part of you that is
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unhealed. Insecurities, the inability totrust, are trusted too much, self
love, confidence, all of thosethings and being more comes from that unresolved
inside, that place within that isunhealed. And if you never heal,
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you're gonna remain the same, You'regonna keep struggling with the same things.
Many of you are struggling with mentalhealth issues that have come about because of
the mindset that you have. Allof your anger and bitterness and hate have
formed or caused you to form someforms of mental health issues. It comes
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from all the negativity, the stress, the strain. Mental stress forms into
mental illnesses. It most definitely can, but it's because you give into it.
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You allow that in your life.It's like you open the door to
it. That's why people battle sofrequently with suicidal thoughts because they don't heal
from whatever their ailments are. Theydon't heal from those things. They keep
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going through life, struggling, compilingother things on top of what's already there,
and it gets to a point ofbreakdown. People want to give up
because they don't feel things to getbetter. No, things don't get better
when you don't allow them to getbetter. Things don't get better when you
keep holding on to the negativity.No matter what people say to you,
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are you see is negative. That'sall you see, negativity. I don't
care how encouraging a person can beto you. All you see is negativity
because that's what you have become familiarand comfortable with. And I think it
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is horrible. It's a horrible thingpeople do to themselves self inflicted pain,
because no one has to live thatway. You recognize your pain, but
you wattle in it. You knowyou have unresolved issues, but you waddle
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in them. You don't try towork on them. You waddle and you
stay there because you are familiar withthat negativity. You are familiar with that
pain, so you become comfortable init, and all it does is affect
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you in many facts of your life. You can move forward. You are
stuck mentally, and I've told youmany times. You may accomplish things in
life, but it does not takeaway that unresolved inside of you. And
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don't take it away, so youstill suffer. You still don't love yourself,
You still don't know your self worth. You still do anything for love.
You allow people to treat you anykind of way. All of that,
all of it comes from that unresolvedinside of you. Every day you
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live is a new opportunity for you. You should never ever choose to remain
the same when you can always becomebetter. I don't care what you went
through. I don't care who didit, mom, dad, grandma and
granddad, uncle, cousin, auntie, brother, sister, friend, friend
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of the family, pastor whoever.It don't matter who did it. You
went through it. You're here,so you survived it. And as an
adult, you don't have to holdonto that mess. You don't because the
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scars sometimes could be permanent, butyou can always heal from those past pains.
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Some of you may have physical scars. But still you can heal from
those past pains. You have towant to, You must be willing to.
Many people are not it. Justgo through life the same angry,
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leave home angry every day, goto work, causing all kind of havoc
on the job, just always something, just causing drama everywhere you go.
That comes from that unresolved part ofyou. Some of you hate, some
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of you follow right in the footstepsof other negative people. You don't even
think for yourself. You follow rightin the same footsteps that somebody else travels.
You follow in the same footsteps,doing the same negative stuff because somebody
else did it. That's because ofyour mindset. You're not thinking for yourself.
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You just go along with anything,even if it's wrong. Your life
is your life. You only getone. You can stay stuck in your
past, or you can heal fromit and move on. It's your choice.
So many people have lived for many, many years just existing, just
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existing, not enjoying life. Neverloved self. Horrible, horrible, horrible
the things people do to self,self destruction and self inflicted pain, when
you always could choose to be betteralways every day that you get to see
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every beautiful day, whether it's rainingor snowing or whatever, it's a beautiful
day because it's a gift from God. And for people to never try to
become better, that's a sad,sad shame. People just don't have love
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anymore. Because you don't love yourself, you can't love anyone else self inflicted
pain. But you are responsible foryour life. If you want to do
to other people the same things thatwas done to you, it's a consequence
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for that. If you choose toremain the same, still waddling in past
pays, it's a consequence for that. Whatever you choose is up to you.
Your life is your life. Butall I'm saying, no one has
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to go through life the same.Every last one of us can choose to
be better. We just have towant to. We just have to want
to intentional willingness. You just haveto want to. You have to be
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sick and tired of your own crapbecause it's your crap. It's over what
you went through. What you're goingthrough now is your crap because you're holding
on to negativity, leaving your houses, just angry, ready to fight,
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kill or whatever. Someone anyone whosay anything that you don't like that is
so immature and ridiculous, but somany people are that way, just angry
as if the world did it.The world didn't do it. Booboo,
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the world didn't do it. Youhave to want to be better for yourself,
and I pray, I pray thatpeople change their hearts and their minds,
change that they no longer give into the darkness, the wickedness,
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the evil. You know, becausethe devil wants you just like you are.
He wants you to think your lifecan be better. He wants you
to hate yourself. He wants youto hate others. He wants you to
continue to hold on to the negativity. He want that he wanted. He
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wants you miserable and unhappy, andso many people are giving him just exactly
what he wants. When you don'thave to, you always have a choice.
Always blaming someone else only keeps youright where you are. And that's
it. That's all I'm saying aboutit. I'm leaving it right there.
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Thank you so much for listening.Much love to each and every one of
you. I pray that you choosechange because it's yours to choose. Please
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remember, every day you get tolive is another chance to better. It's
a chance to get to know Jesusall love. It is up to you.
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it out. Thank you so muchfor listening. Listen. If you want
better, you have to do better. I end every episode the same and
I hope you do it. Thankgoing it