May 21, 2024 • 20 mins
It's a fact! People use the term friend as loosely as they use the term love. Some of the people you call your friend and love the most, don't love you.
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(00:01):
Hey, Hey, I'm bad withsomething for you to think about. I
just want to tell you something.Some of your feelings may get hurt,
but you know how I feel aboutthings like that. I'm not here to
sugar cold, water down or noneof that, but to tell you the
(00:21):
truth. Stop calling everybody your friend, because everybody that you call your friend
is not your friend. Whether youwant to accept it or not, everybody
that you call your friend is notyour friend. They hang around you for
(00:45):
something, maybe because you're the sameone in the bunch, maybe because of
what you have, who you are. You have to be honest with yourself.
Everybody you call your friend is notyour friend. Some of them don't
(01:07):
even like you. They enjoy thelifestyle that you have because you make them
a part of it. Everyone that'sin your corner is not on your side.
I've told you that several times.Some of you just believe everything someone
tells you. Oh they're my friend, they like me. Oh they'll never
(01:30):
do that, that they wouldn't lieto me. You are in denial.
You are delusional. You are delusionalbecause everybody you call your friend is not
your friend. I told you abouta situation where someone thought this particular female
(01:56):
was her best friend. I meanshe opened the door to this person,
let this person come into their life, let this person hang around her husband,
let this person call her husband,all kind of foolishness that women shouldn't
do, nor should men do.But she did. And guess what.
(02:23):
Guess who's married to her ex husbandnow her best friend. I told you
in the episode before. As afemale who's in a relationship, whether married
or just in a relationship, youcan't allow females to be around your man
(02:50):
freely. Some of them dressed inappropriately. They know they are dressed inappropriately.
But if you don't say nothing,you just giving them ammunition. Some of
them want to spend time with them, but see it's not on a friendship
basis. They have a different agendaall together, all alone. But some
(03:15):
of you, oh, she willnever do that to me, stab you
in the back and the front atthe same time. So don't be foolish,
and men the same goals for you. He could ki ki ka ka
around you all day long and thewhole time checking out your woman. I'm
(03:38):
just telling you do what you wantto do. But I'm just telling you
the truth. Everybody that say thatyour friend is not your friend. There
have been women who were pregnant whohad people in their lives who call themselves
their friends, who cut their stomachsopen for their babies. A friend wouldn't
(04:00):
do that. There are individuals whocall themselves friends plot to kill their friend.
Friends don't do that. People willtell you how much they love you
(04:26):
and the whole time can't stand yourguts and trying to take your place.
They want what you have, butthey call you their friends. People use
the term friends very loosely, likethey use the term love very loosely.
(04:46):
Everybody is not your friend. Imean, once upon a time I did
it too. But speaking for myself, if I say I'm your friend,
i'm your friend. Only you canmake that a different scenario. Only you.
(05:13):
But if I say I'm your friend, i'm your friend. But a
lot of people take advantage, Theyuse and abuse because their motive is not
right. Their motive is wrong fromthe start. It's like being in a
(05:38):
relationship with the significant other. It'snot you they care about. They care
about enjoying the benefits of your labor. You know. It's like people who
have lots and lots of money,tons of money and abundance. They haven't
(06:00):
untourage because they think that's what peoplewith a lot of money supposed to have.
I suppose they have an entourage andpeople who's on their team supposedly on
their side. That's not the case. That's not the case. They're on
(06:21):
their team in their corner, butthey're not on their side. It's just
what they're getting from that friendship.I mean, if you did a survey,
so many people could tell you theirstories because so many have been stabbed
(06:45):
in the back, used, takingadvantage of And I'm just telling you,
in this world we're living in today, people truly don't know how to be
friends. I have a couple ofthem in my circle that I kind of
feed with a lone handlespoon because Idon't have time for it. If you
(07:11):
can be a friend to me thatI am to you, what do I
need you in my circle for.I don't dislike them. I love them
genuinely, but I don't give themthe time and the energy that I used
to because they're not to me whatI am to them. So why should
I exalt my energy or exert myenergy like that? I refuse to.
(07:41):
So you have to know when tofeed them with the lone handlespoon mean and
keep them at a distance. Andthen those that are truly your friends,
who share with you, who careand love you, and you do the
same for them. That's who youhang on to and they there are diamonds
(08:07):
in the rough you know few farin between. So stop thinking everybody is
your friend, because they're not.If some of your friends knew how you
talked about them behind their backs,they wouldn't call you a friend. But
(08:28):
that's what some of you do becauseyou don't know how to be a friend
to no one. You don't knowhow. You're just selfish. You don't
know how to be a friend toanyone. Some of you you're so envy,
(08:50):
envious, and jealous that it's oozingout of your skin. But you
put on a front, but you'revery envious and jealous. And the crazy
part about that is when you havesomeone who is truly your friend, they're
(09:13):
not trying to be an individual whois throwing what they have in your face
or anything like that. It's you. You're taking it that way because you're
envious and jealous. They are sharingwith you what they have, but you're
still too envious and jealous. Toappreciate it and be grateful. You're taking
(09:39):
it a whole different way than whatit is because of what's inside of you.
You don't know how to be afriend. So much of this is
going on because of the mindsets ofpeople, because of the hearts of people.
(10:01):
You don't know how to be afriend. Some people say, many
people say I should, I shoulddefinitely rephrase that. They say men and
women can't be friends without something goingon. That's a lie from the pit
of hell, and that is anotherthing that society have taught that's not true.
(10:30):
I'm a living witness. Men andwomen can definitely be platonic friends,
no type of hanky panky going on. They most definitely can be too mature
individuals. They must be mature.They must be or things may happen when
(11:03):
they're two grown, mature people.They definitely can be friends, especially when
boundaries have been set. Because I'vetold you all about a particular guy that
I hang out with. Sometimes wego on vacations, live in the same
room, different beds, of course, but the same rooms because we have
(11:28):
an understanding. He's single, I'msingle, and we have an understanding.
We are just going on vacation togetherbecause we're single. I don't care what
you do. You don't care whatI do because we're not together in that
way. And it's understood crystal clear. And we have lots of fun.
(11:56):
I go hang at his house,he gonna come and hang in my house.
Sometimes we're cool like that. Butnothing has ever happened ever, and
it never will because although I lovehim, I'm not attracted to him like
that. So we're true friends.I have about four good, good good
(12:26):
friends, I mean for years andyears, and I've told you about that
forty something, thirty something, twentysomething, about four four let me see
five that I can really say arefriends. So you have to know who
(12:56):
you call your friend. You haveto know because everybody you call your friend
is not your friend. They arescheming against you. They will be in
the workplace and take your job,lie on you, all kind of stuff.
(13:18):
But guess what, you shouldn't beat the workplace trying to make friendships
anyway. But unfortunately, some peoplego to work to try to make friends,
to try to find their love oftheir life, all kind of foolishness
other than doing their jobs to dotheir work. So I mean, it's
(13:41):
the mindsets of people, why peopledo the things they do, why people
think, how they feel, howthey feel, act how they act.
It's the mindsets, the minds andhearts of people. And some people will
do anything. Groups that you knoware not good people are enticed to do
(14:09):
nefarious things because they think individuals aretheir freedoms. I tell you all of
the time, any person that tryto get you to do something wrong,
it's not your friend. I tellmy grandson that all the time. I
(14:31):
say, any person that try toget you to do anything that's wrong or
you don't feel comfortable with, andthey pressure you that it is not your
friend. Do not allow anyone todo that to you. You have to
distance yourself from people like that.So when you have these people who say
(14:52):
they're your friends trying to get yourown drugs and alcohol and break the law
and do all kind of foolishness,they are not your friends. They're not
some of you you desperately want friends, but you can't even you're not even
(15:16):
good to yourself. How are yougonna be a good friend to someone when
you're not even good to yourself.You remember, I've said many, many,
many times that one person that's neglectedthe most. That people ignore the
(15:37):
most itself. People too busy lookingoutward for everything when they have not dealt
with what's inside. They have notcleaned up the inside. And that's why
most people go through life the waythey do, allowing and accepting any type
(16:02):
of thing, believing any and everything. People say, oh, they're my
friend, they love me. No, they don't. And you've had signs
too. You've seen it, butyou just don't want to believe it because
you don't want to be alone.That's terrible. If you find a problem
(16:23):
in being alone that tells you somethingabout yourself. No one, and I
do mean no one. No adultshould feel that way that they cannot be
alone. That is sad. AlthoughI'm saying that, I know many people
(16:45):
feel that way. They don't wantto be alone. They can't be by
themselves. That's because you have somework to do on yourself. You need
to make a change within you,because we have to heal from the end
side out or you'll always self sabotage. You will always feel other people are
(17:08):
better than you, You will alwayshave insecurities, and the list goes on
and on. That's why so manysurround themselves with people who they think are
their friends when they are not.They steal from you, they lie on
you, they talk about you,are kind of things. But they continue
(17:34):
to come around because they know thatyou're giving them a piece of a pie,
no matter what the pie is.Keep that in mind. It does
not matter what the pie is,You're giving it to them. So that's
why they keep coming back. That'swhy they're hanging around. Some people,
(17:59):
really they do not like you,but they put up with you because they're
getting a piece of the pie insome form or fashion. So you can
believe the life you want to.You can believe everybody that you call your
friend is indeed your friend, ifyou want to. Sooner or later,
(18:22):
you will have to face the truth. Sooner or later people are in jail,
in prison, in their graves becauseof a quote unquote so called friend.
Plenty people. So again, everybodyyou call your friend, it's not
(18:51):
your friend. Everybody you call yourfriend is not your friend. Thousand true
they're not. So you can believeit or not. It's up to you.
It is up to you how youlive your life. I'm just telling
you they're not. And you gottastart being smart about things you have to
(19:15):
be that individual who accepts what yousee as true because it is. If
they're trying to co hurt you,persuade you to do things that you don't
want to do, or to dothings that you know are wrong, that's
(19:36):
not your friend. You need towalk away. You need to walk away.
Feed them from a long handle spoon, because I'm going to say it
one more time. Everyone you callyour friend is not your friend. That's
(20:00):
that's all I'm saying on that.I'm leaving it right there. Thank you
for listening. Please share this episode. Much love to each and every one
of you. I appreciate you highly, I really really do. Thank you
again in every episode the same andI hope you do it. Yes,
(20:25):
thank going it
Hey, Hey, I'm bad withsomething for you to think about. I
just want to tell you something.Some of your feelings may get hurt,
but you know how I feel aboutthings like that. I'm not here to
sugar cold, water down or noneof that, but to tell you the
(00:21):
truth. Stop calling everybody your friend, because everybody that you call your friend
is not your friend. Whether youwant to accept it or not, everybody
that you call your friend is notyour friend. They hang around you for
(00:45):
something, maybe because you're the sameone in the bunch, maybe because of
what you have, who you are. You have to be honest with yourself.
Everybody you call your friend is notyour friend. Some of them don't
(01:07):
even like you. They enjoy thelifestyle that you have because you make them
a part of it. Everyone that'sin your corner is not on your side.
I've told you that several times.Some of you just believe everything someone
tells you. Oh they're my friend, they like me. Oh they'll never
(01:30):
do that, that they wouldn't lieto me. You are in denial.
You are delusional. You are delusionalbecause everybody you call your friend is not
your friend. I told you abouta situation where someone thought this particular female
(01:56):
was her best friend. I meanshe opened the door to this person,
let this person come into their life, let this person hang around her husband,
let this person call her husband,all kind of foolishness that women shouldn't
do, nor should men do.But she did. And guess what.
(02:23):
Guess who's married to her ex husbandnow her best friend. I told you
in the episode before. As afemale who's in a relationship, whether married
or just in a relationship, youcan't allow females to be around your man
(02:50):
freely. Some of them dressed inappropriately. They know they are dressed inappropriately.
But if you don't say nothing,you just giving them ammunition. Some of
them want to spend time with them, but see it's not on a friendship
basis. They have a different agendaall together, all alone. But some
(03:15):
of you, oh, she willnever do that to me, stab you
in the back and the front atthe same time. So don't be foolish,
and men the same goals for you. He could ki ki ka ka
around you all day long and thewhole time checking out your woman. I'm
(03:38):
just telling you do what you wantto do. But I'm just telling you
the truth. Everybody that say thatyour friend is not your friend. There
have been women who were pregnant whohad people in their lives who call themselves
their friends, who cut their stomachsopen for their babies. A friend wouldn't
(04:00):
do that. There are individuals whocall themselves friends plot to kill their friend.
Friends don't do that. People willtell you how much they love you
(04:26):
and the whole time can't stand yourguts and trying to take your place.
They want what you have, butthey call you their friends. People use
the term friends very loosely, likethey use the term love very loosely.
(04:46):
Everybody is not your friend. Imean, once upon a time I did
it too. But speaking for myself, if I say I'm your friend,
i'm your friend. Only you canmake that a different scenario. Only you.
(05:13):
But if I say I'm your friend, i'm your friend. But a
lot of people take advantage, Theyuse and abuse because their motive is not
right. Their motive is wrong fromthe start. It's like being in a
(05:38):
relationship with the significant other. It'snot you they care about. They care
about enjoying the benefits of your labor. You know. It's like people who
have lots and lots of money,tons of money and abundance. They haven't
(06:00):
untourage because they think that's what peoplewith a lot of money supposed to have.
I suppose they have an entourage andpeople who's on their team supposedly on
their side. That's not the case. That's not the case. They're on
(06:21):
their team in their corner, butthey're not on their side. It's just
what they're getting from that friendship.I mean, if you did a survey,
so many people could tell you theirstories because so many have been stabbed
(06:45):
in the back, used, takingadvantage of And I'm just telling you,
in this world we're living in today, people truly don't know how to be
friends. I have a couple ofthem in my circle that I kind of
feed with a lone handlespoon because Idon't have time for it. If you
(07:11):
can be a friend to me thatI am to you, what do I
need you in my circle for.I don't dislike them. I love them
genuinely, but I don't give themthe time and the energy that I used
to because they're not to me whatI am to them. So why should
I exalt my energy or exert myenergy like that? I refuse to.
(07:41):
So you have to know when tofeed them with the lone handlespoon mean and
keep them at a distance. Andthen those that are truly your friends,
who share with you, who careand love you, and you do the
same for them. That's who youhang on to and they there are diamonds
(08:07):
in the rough you know few farin between. So stop thinking everybody is
your friend, because they're not.If some of your friends knew how you
talked about them behind their backs,they wouldn't call you a friend. But
(08:28):
that's what some of you do becauseyou don't know how to be a friend
to no one. You don't knowhow. You're just selfish. You don't
know how to be a friend toanyone. Some of you you're so envy,
(08:50):
envious, and jealous that it's oozingout of your skin. But you
put on a front, but you'revery envious and jealous. And the crazy
part about that is when you havesomeone who is truly your friend, they're
(09:13):
not trying to be an individual whois throwing what they have in your face
or anything like that. It's you. You're taking it that way because you're
envious and jealous. They are sharingwith you what they have, but you're
still too envious and jealous. Toappreciate it and be grateful. You're taking
(09:39):
it a whole different way than whatit is because of what's inside of you.
You don't know how to be afriend. So much of this is
going on because of the mindsets ofpeople, because of the hearts of people.
(10:01):
You don't know how to be afriend. Some people say, many
people say I should, I shoulddefinitely rephrase that. They say men and
women can't be friends without something goingon. That's a lie from the pit
of hell, and that is anotherthing that society have taught that's not true.
(10:30):
I'm a living witness. Men andwomen can definitely be platonic friends,
no type of hanky panky going on. They most definitely can be too mature
individuals. They must be mature.They must be or things may happen when
(11:03):
they're two grown, mature people.They definitely can be friends, especially when
boundaries have been set. Because I'vetold you all about a particular guy that
I hang out with. Sometimes wego on vacations, live in the same
room, different beds, of course, but the same rooms because we have
(11:28):
an understanding. He's single, I'msingle, and we have an understanding.
We are just going on vacation togetherbecause we're single. I don't care what
you do. You don't care whatI do because we're not together in that
way. And it's understood crystal clear. And we have lots of fun.
(11:56):
I go hang at his house,he gonna come and hang in my house.
Sometimes we're cool like that. Butnothing has ever happened ever, and
it never will because although I lovehim, I'm not attracted to him like
that. So we're true friends.I have about four good, good good
(12:26):
friends, I mean for years andyears, and I've told you about that
forty something, thirty something, twentysomething, about four four let me see
five that I can really say arefriends. So you have to know who
(12:56):
you call your friend. You haveto know because everybody you call your friend
is not your friend. They arescheming against you. They will be in
the workplace and take your job,lie on you, all kind of stuff.
(13:18):
But guess what, you shouldn't beat the workplace trying to make friendships
anyway. But unfortunately, some peoplego to work to try to make friends,
to try to find their love oftheir life, all kind of foolishness
other than doing their jobs to dotheir work. So I mean, it's
(13:41):
the mindsets of people, why peopledo the things they do, why people
think, how they feel, howthey feel, act how they act.
It's the mindsets, the minds andhearts of people. And some people will
do anything. Groups that you knoware not good people are enticed to do
(14:09):
nefarious things because they think individuals aretheir freedoms. I tell you all of
the time, any person that tryto get you to do something wrong,
it's not your friend. I tellmy grandson that all the time. I
(14:31):
say, any person that try toget you to do anything that's wrong or
you don't feel comfortable with, andthey pressure you that it is not your
friend. Do not allow anyone todo that to you. You have to
distance yourself from people like that.So when you have these people who say
(14:52):
they're your friends trying to get yourown drugs and alcohol and break the law
and do all kind of foolishness,they are not your friends. They're not
some of you you desperately want friends, but you can't even you're not even
(15:16):
good to yourself. How are yougonna be a good friend to someone when
you're not even good to yourself.You remember, I've said many, many,
many times that one person that's neglectedthe most. That people ignore the
(15:37):
most itself. People too busy lookingoutward for everything when they have not dealt
with what's inside. They have notcleaned up the inside. And that's why
most people go through life the waythey do, allowing and accepting any type
(16:02):
of thing, believing any and everything. People say, oh, they're my
friend, they love me. No, they don't. And you've had signs
too. You've seen it, butyou just don't want to believe it because
you don't want to be alone.That's terrible. If you find a problem
(16:23):
in being alone that tells you somethingabout yourself. No one, and I
do mean no one. No adultshould feel that way that they cannot be
alone. That is sad. AlthoughI'm saying that, I know many people
(16:45):
feel that way. They don't wantto be alone. They can't be by
themselves. That's because you have somework to do on yourself. You need
to make a change within you,because we have to heal from the end
side out or you'll always self sabotage. You will always feel other people are
(17:08):
better than you, You will alwayshave insecurities, and the list goes on
and on. That's why so manysurround themselves with people who they think are
their friends when they are not.They steal from you, they lie on
you, they talk about you,are kind of things. But they continue
(17:34):
to come around because they know thatyou're giving them a piece of a pie,
no matter what the pie is.Keep that in mind. It does
not matter what the pie is,You're giving it to them. So that's
why they keep coming back. That'swhy they're hanging around. Some people,
(17:59):
really they do not like you,but they put up with you because they're
getting a piece of the pie insome form or fashion. So you can
believe the life you want to.You can believe everybody that you call your
friend is indeed your friend, ifyou want to. Sooner or later,
(18:22):
you will have to face the truth. Sooner or later people are in jail,
in prison, in their graves becauseof a quote unquote so called friend.
Plenty people. So again, everybodyyou call your friend, it's not
(18:51):
your friend. Everybody you call yourfriend is not your friend. Thousand true
they're not. So you can believeit or not. It's up to you.
It is up to you how youlive your life. I'm just telling
you they're not. And you gottastart being smart about things you have to
(19:15):
be that individual who accepts what yousee as true because it is. If
they're trying to co hurt you,persuade you to do things that you don't
want to do, or to dothings that you know are wrong, that's
(19:36):
not your friend. You need towalk away. You need to walk away.
Feed them from a long handle spoon, because I'm going to say it
one more time. Everyone you callyour friend is not your friend. That's
(20:00):
that's all I'm saying on that.I'm leaving it right there. Thank you
for listening. Please share this episode. Much love to each and every one
of you. I appreciate you highly, I really really do. Thank you
again in every episode the same andI hope you do it. Yes,
(20:25):
thank going it
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