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March 19, 2020 13 mins

In this episode, Paul and Stacey will talk about a common point of view that most people in a relationship have that negatively affects their relationships without their knowing. And that is the view that they have something figured out more than their partner and so they have to get their partner to subscribe to it too so their relationship can become better. 

That’s a common thing that Paul and Stacey hear from their program participants all the time. One particular relationship transformer who was doing the 14-Day Boost Program posted on the relationship transformers Facebook group about how she loved the program module on alignment, especially where they were learning about how to get to the win-win, instead of staying stuck in the win-lose. She felt that it was a great module for her husband to learn from, but she needed advice on how to make him listen to it. That’s a great example of that detrimental point of view and Paul and Stacey will seek to deal with it in this episode.

It’s part of our natural wiring to think that way because it comes from the demand relationship wiring that is just so deep in our blueprint, and we must learn to shift away from it by first realizing that there is no “me and you” in a relationship. Partners in a relationship are one, and if one partner loses in any way, then the other one loses too. Stay tuned as Paul and Stacey lay out all the steps you will need to take to build a win-win relationship with your partner.

Key Points Discussed: 

  • How to get to the win-win instead of staying stuck in the win-lose (01:02)
  • There’s no “You and Me” in a relationship, it can only be “Us” (02:53)
  • It’s always win-win or lose-lose in a relationship (03:46)
  • Extending the end of our skill set so we can learn how to wrap up something in a way that our partner can receive it (04:41)
  • Building a rock solid relationship and focusing on the tools and strategies that can help us take our families to the next level (06:54)
  • Stop telling yourself that you’re not the one in the relationship who needs to do that thing (10:51)

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