July 31, 2025 • 34 mins
You're the reason. The mindset you have dictates every nove you make and every step you take! People are led by emotions, feelings, wants, and desires, which all comes from unhealed hearts and minds! Unhealed hearts and minds causes people to make bad choices and decisions. It also causes people to allow and accept the wrong things, creating the monsters in their lives!
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Hey, Hey, I'm bad with something for you.
Speaker 2 (00:07):
And you to think about. Why do you keep struggling?
Why do you keep struggling going through having a bad day,
experiencing negativity? Why why do you seem to keep struggling.
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Why do you keep going through the same or similar things.
Speaker 1 (00:38):
Most people don't try to sit down.
Speaker 2 (00:42):
And evaluate self because for most people, self is never
the problem.
Speaker 1 (00:50):
The problem is always someone or something else.
Speaker 2 (00:55):
People always always fail to look at self. When self
is the biggest problem, you are your biggest problem. Your
mindset is your worst enemy.
Speaker 1 (01:16):
You don't believe it.
Speaker 2 (01:18):
Look at yourself, Look at your life. Look at what
you constantly go through. Look at all the negative thoughts
you have. Look at the hatred and the anger you
have in your heart. Look at how you feel behind
those negative thoughts. Look how you view people, what you
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think of people, what you think of yourself.
Speaker 1 (01:46):
You are your worst enemy. You are in your own way.
Speaker 2 (01:52):
Your mindset is the culprit. It is your worst enemy. Facts,
accept them or not. It's the truth. I've told you
for many years. When you see a pattern in your
own life, you have to be the person who make
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a change you. When you see there's a lot of
negativity in your life. You are the one who have
to make a change. That is nobody responsibility, but yours.
The problem is people point point point point point point
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point point point the figure as other people will fail
to look at how many points back atself. You aren't
the biggest problem in any equation. If you be honest
about it, you are the biggest problem. Because see what
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people fail to do is they fail to acknowledge what
they contribute to the situation. To what's going on on
your job, to what's going on in your homes, in
your relationships. You have to look at what you contribute
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to the situation. How did you get in the situation?
How what role did you play? What position did you
allow someone else to play?
Speaker 1 (03:37):
The reason I say your mindset is the biggest culprit.
Speaker 2 (03:40):
It is your worst enemy because unhealed hearts and minds
lead people in treacherous places, places that they should have
never been been in, with people they should have never
been with. Because when your heart and mind is unhealed,
you're going to chase after those superficial things.
Speaker 1 (04:00):
You're gonna chase.
Speaker 2 (04:01):
After what your eyes see, what your heart feel, feelings
and emotions, wants and desires. You totally look over the truth,
You totally look over reality. Every situation that you encounter,
every situation that you encounter, you.
Speaker 1 (04:26):
Have to look at what you contributed to it.
Speaker 2 (04:29):
Now, I'm not talking about children, because it's a whole
different story with children. However, whatever you went through as
a child, if it was negative and you chose to
bring that negativity into your adulthood, that falls on you.
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I get so sick and tired of hearing people say
you gotta look at the parents. This man fifty years old,
this woman sixty years old, and they're still crying about
what happened when they were a child. I know, things
happen that are traumatic, and no child should have ever
went through, no child should have ever endured. But still yet,
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as an adult, you have to make a decision for
better for yourself. You can't keep giving the power to
your parents or to whom ever hurt you.
Speaker 1 (05:26):
You have to make the decision for yourself.
Speaker 2 (05:29):
That you want better than what you came from. You
can't keep pointing the finger and blaming someone else for
what they've done to you. Although horrific, although sad, although unwarranted,
you still have to say, hey, I went through that.
This is my life now. I can't keep leaning on
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that as a crutch. I can't keep using this as
an excuse to be a victim or to victimized. I
have to choose better for myself. That's the point you
have to get to, which takes growth, which means you
have to forgive the person that.
Speaker 1 (06:13):
Hurt you may never ask you for forgiveness.
Speaker 2 (06:17):
Forgiveness is for you so that you can get past
things and move on. That is why so many people
suffer for a lifetime, because they're still holding on.
Speaker 1 (06:33):
To the hurt and pain.
Speaker 2 (06:34):
They're still holding on to the negativity. But again, I
will say, you are your worst enemy, your mindset and
you being in your own way. That's why people get old,
but they don't mature. People obtain things in life, but
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they still have the same heart and mind. They still
have the same heart and mind because there is no change.
So I say to you, look at what you contributed
in your own life. Look at what you allow and
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accept from other people.
Speaker 1 (07:22):
In the name of love, in the name of friendship.
Speaker 2 (07:25):
Look at what you allow from other people, what you
allow other people to bring into your life, what you
allow other people to do to you see, they're gonna
play the role that you've given them. They gonna walk
in the position that you've allowed them to walk in,
good or bad. Because you create the monsters in your life.
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You in every single situation, you create the monster in
your life. I don't care if it's your child, your
child act up and.
Speaker 1 (08:05):
Treat you.
Speaker 2 (08:07):
Horrible, because that's what you allow kids do to you,
What adults do to you.
Speaker 1 (08:14):
Whatever it is you allow them to do, how you
allow them.
Speaker 2 (08:17):
To talk to you, how you allow them to treat you,
they do it because you allow it. I don't care
if it's your children, if it's your sick significant.
Speaker 1 (08:26):
Other, your friend, family member, or other people.
Speaker 2 (08:29):
Whatever position you allow them to play, they will play.
So you have to look at what role did you
play in all of it? How did you contribute? People
stay on the wheel because they live the same cycles.
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People keep going through the same things because they keep
doing the same things. I don't care how good someone
makes you feel. That will not change what's inside of you.
Money will not, changing positions will not, changing titles would
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not change it.
Speaker 1 (09:14):
And the fact is, for most people, when.
Speaker 2 (09:17):
It's something of a higher position and not even necessarily
that because some people I've seen they have mediocre positions
and they still get the big head. So it's about
what's going on inside of you, the mindset that you have,
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who you are as a person. So many people abuse
their positions, they abuse their authority.
Speaker 1 (09:47):
Instead of walking in that authority, in that.
Speaker 2 (09:51):
Power, and doing things that are good, they do just
the opposite you and abuse their power and positions. But
even though people do that, when it comes to you,
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you don't have to allow people to treat you any
kind of way or speak to you any kind of way.
But if you do, you are giving them the opportunity
to do so. In your relationships, when you're mistreated or.
Speaker 3 (10:30):
Talk down, to be little disrespected, and you do nothing,
You act as if you're okay with that, even though
inside it hurts so much, But you'll do anything just
to be with that person.
Speaker 1 (10:43):
You're your biggest enemy, your mindset.
Speaker 2 (10:49):
When you're on the job and people disrespect you or
your boss try to sexually assault you or sexually harass you,
and you do nothing because you're looking at Oh that's
my bass, I can't say anything.
Speaker 1 (11:07):
You still have to look at yourself. Why do you
feel so less than why do you.
Speaker 2 (11:16):
Feel so small that you will allow your boss or
anyone to do those things to you. So you still
have to look at yourself when you go alone because
you're trying to get ahead.
Speaker 1 (11:29):
You still have to look at yourself.
Speaker 2 (11:35):
When you take all of your inner issues to work
and project them on others.
Speaker 1 (11:40):
You the problem.
Speaker 2 (11:45):
So it does not matter the scenario, the circumstance, the event.
It does not matter. What matters is the position you play,
the role you're playing, and also the position you're giving
others to play. It all goes back to you. What
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you allow, what you accept, what you go along with,
even though you know you don't want to. You have
to look at yourself. All of it, every single bit
of it. The decision, the choices, every single bit of
it is because of the mindset that you have.
Speaker 1 (12:31):
That's why you hear me say all the time.
Speaker 2 (12:33):
This world is full of broken people, people who don't
think for themselves. All they do is parrot and regurgitate
what they hear. They don't ever try to learn something
for themselves. For years and years and years, they just
go along, believe in anything when it's not even the truth.
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But they don't know that because they never take time
to learn from themselves. They believe anything someone says, They
go along with anything someone says because of the mindsets
they have. You can tell a person the truth, you
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can show them proof, and they still won't believe it
because of the.
Speaker 1 (13:21):
Mindset that they have.
Speaker 2 (13:24):
That's why I say all the time, your mindset is
your worst enemy.
Speaker 1 (13:28):
You are your worst enemy.
Speaker 2 (13:33):
Your life is the way it is because of what
you have adopted, adapted to, and embraced you. No one
else you, anyone who comes in your life treating you
like crap, and you allow it.
Speaker 1 (13:57):
You the person who gave them permission. I don't care
who it is.
Speaker 2 (14:06):
People look at me like I am totally insane because
I care less, and I've.
Speaker 1 (14:13):
Been this way.
Speaker 2 (14:15):
If my mom was alive, she could tell you I
have gotten my butts fake because of it.
Speaker 1 (14:21):
I didn't never care then or now who you are.
I don't care about your position, your rank, your title.
I don't care.
Speaker 2 (14:31):
You live, breathe, poop, eat and die just like everybody else.
Speaker 1 (14:38):
We all do.
Speaker 2 (14:41):
So I don't look at people in their position and say,
oh my god, this is a no. I care less.
All I care about.
Speaker 1 (14:50):
Is you talking to me like you have some sense.
Speaker 2 (14:53):
You treated me with respect, because guess what, I'm gonna
always treat you that. I will never disrespect you. But
best believe I won't take it from anybody either. I
don't care who you are. I just don't do it
because I don't you know, I don't invest in people
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like that. I don't look at people like, oh, well god,
this is a celebrity. Oh my god, it's the president.
Oh my god, it's a high official. Oh my god,
it's a general.
Speaker 1 (15:30):
No, not me.
Speaker 2 (15:32):
I don't get into that. I don't give people are
things power over me, not my children, grandchildren, no one, nothing, nothing,
because no one or nothing for me.
Speaker 1 (15:50):
I'm speaking for me.
Speaker 2 (15:52):
It's more important to me in my life than God,
the Father, the Son, Jesus and me.
Speaker 1 (16:03):
See, you have to really love.
Speaker 2 (16:05):
Yourself in order to be able to look and see
reality as it is, not the way you want to
warp it, not the way you want to distort it,
but the reality as it is.
Speaker 1 (16:27):
So when people come at you sideways saying.
Speaker 2 (16:31):
Foolishness, acting foolish, you're able to say no, not today,
not tomorrow, not ever.
Speaker 1 (16:45):
You can love people from a distance in this life.
Speaker 2 (16:53):
It takes forgiveness to move on, to forgive someone, that
doesn't mean that you have to be connected to them,
you know, you have to deal with them.
Speaker 1 (17:03):
No, it does not, because again, forgiveness.
Speaker 2 (17:09):
Is for you to be able to move on. It
does not mean you have to reconnect some of the
people dead and gone anyways. But you're still giving power
to those people. You're still giving power to old past events.
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Pain is pain, regardless winning it took place, but it
only affects you according to the greed the degree that
you allow it to. Some people hold on to it
for dear life because they're so familiar with that pain,
but they're not living the event.
Speaker 1 (17:56):
It's the memories that people give power to.
Speaker 2 (18:03):
So many people have done horrific things because they are
full of anger and rage from yesteryear, yesterday, you know, yesterday, yesteryear.
The past is what I'm trying to say. They're so
angry and full of rage because they're still mad at
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what they went through. They're still mad at the individuals.
And like I said, sometimes people are dead and gone
and they're still giving power to those people. But it's
the mindset that you have. It's the memories that you
have empowered in your life, to take root in your life,
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to cause you to be that angry person who leaves
home and go out and commit road rage or murder
because somebody cut in front of you.
Speaker 1 (19:05):
Sometimes things happen and people don't mean to do it.
I've done it because not.
Speaker 2 (19:14):
A hundred of the time you can see what's around you.
You think it's clear, but someone may be in your
blind spot. So you don't do it intentionally. Those who
do it intentionally, they have issues. They're just like you.
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They have issues. The ones who do it intentionally, but
I'm talking about the ones who react when you think
everybody is out to get you and everybody is doing
things intentionally and that's not the truth. But your actions.
Speaker 1 (19:56):
You just.
Speaker 2 (19:59):
Act because the anger and the rage that's inside of
you that you're holding in, So the first opportunity you
have to snap or go off, you do because you
never allow healing in your life. And that is so
sad that people are walking around as ticking time bombs,
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just waiting.
Speaker 1 (20:20):
On a moment.
Speaker 2 (20:22):
To do terrible things. It don't take much for people
because they're already so built up with anger when they
don't have to be. It is a horrible exhausting thing
for people to walk around so full of anger, so
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mean and better mad about things they have no clue about,
none whatsoever. But they're anger because other people are angry.
That's why I always talk about parenting. You know what
a parent is?
Speaker 1 (20:59):
Halliar had I y' y'all, I have y'all hear everything
they say, everything they hear.
Speaker 2 (21:06):
They repeat. So that's what people do. They're like parents,
and they regurgitate everything they hear. And the sad part
is they are regurgitating what somebody else said. So they've
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taken in the wrong information from somebody else and regurgitating
what somebody else said, repeating it the same bad information.
People become angry behind misinformation. People do nefarious things behind
misinformation because they don't think for themselves, they don't do
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the research for themselves. And it is one thousand percent
a thing in this country full of broken people. When
you're broken, when you don't allow healing in your life,
you are so easily bamboozled and brainwashed, so easily manipulated.
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When you don't think for yourself, all you do you're
dumping ground. You just receive information, receive information, receive information,
and it's not true, and then just continue festering that
hate inside of you. I guarantee you, if I met
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one hundred people, I'm just gonna go low. One hundred people,
I let you.
Speaker 1 (23:00):
Out of one.
Speaker 2 (23:01):
Hundred people, ninety eight percent wouldn't know why they're racist, truly,
ninety eight percent couldn't give you a valid reason. Probably
one hundred percent because people just go through life the
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same way, never trying to be better, never trying to
be better. That's why the lenk of the chain, the
entire lenk of the chain, is weak, because the individuals
are weak. And that's why we see so much devastation
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and tragedy and destructions at the hands of people because
the entire chain is weak. It never works when you
have a few strong people, but the majority are weak.
Speaker 1 (24:14):
And this is what is going on in the world.
Speaker 2 (24:19):
In the world, people are parenting and regurgitating. People are
allowing and accepting things that they shouldn't. That's why in
relationships nowadays, most fail. People don't view marriage as sacred
anymore because of the mindsets that they have.
Speaker 1 (24:45):
They have.
Speaker 2 (24:48):
Received so much bad information that they believe it. You
have a lot of and I'm a woman, so I'm
gonna say it. A lot of women have all of
these standards for men, but they can't.
Speaker 1 (25:08):
Bring anything to the table that they're looking for.
Speaker 2 (25:12):
That's the mindset, the audacity.
Speaker 1 (25:19):
You want this man to come with.
Speaker 2 (25:21):
All of these things, but you can't even bring him
to the table.
Speaker 1 (25:25):
That is crazy. And men who oh, well, you know
a man supposed to take care of a woman.
Speaker 2 (25:40):
Oh really, So a man is supposed to just be
used taking advantage of it because he's a man.
Speaker 1 (25:47):
I don't think so. I don't think like that.
Speaker 2 (25:52):
She's supposed to bring it to the table, just like
he's supposed to bring it to the table. Because people
are supposed to enhance your life. They supposed to compliment you.
Co O M P L E N E N T.
You supposed to enhance each other's life. What good does
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it do you to bring someone into your life that
can't contribute to the table. That's gonna be a burden
on you. That's not gonna help your situation.
Speaker 1 (26:32):
It's going to.
Speaker 2 (26:35):
Hurt you because now you gotta pull more resources to
take care of this person. I just don't believe in
that think of me what you want to I don't
believe in that. Let me tell you I'm settled in
my life. When I say settled, I'm not saying taking
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care of a man. But I've settled in other ways
that I will never settle again. People should always think
about who they become involved with. If they're not enhancing you,
you're with the wrong person. I don't care how much
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you think you love them. Two broke people, where are
they going to benefit? Two broke people? When I say
two broke people, I'm talking two broke people that have
no ambition or goals. What are they going to accomplish.
I don't care how much they love each other. They
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gonna have a life of struggle. To me, that makes
no sense. One person that have their own and the
other person don't.
Speaker 1 (27:55):
What benefit is that for the other person?
Speaker 2 (27:58):
Yeah, but for the person who have everything of their own,
they're gonna start to feel the effects of taking care
of this person who has nothing to bring to the table.
I'm just saying, you live the way you want to live,
that's what you want. Boo boo hey, that's your call.
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But I know in the real world, in the adult
mature world, that's a logo, it's a no go, and
it's not saying that you're better than someone else, but
it's saying that you made better choices.
Speaker 1 (28:48):
You made better choices.
Speaker 2 (28:52):
We all have the opportunity to.
Speaker 1 (28:58):
Have something.
Speaker 2 (29:01):
To call our own, even though we don't. None of us,
I don't.
Speaker 1 (29:07):
Care what you have, how much money you have, none of.
Speaker 2 (29:10):
Us really have nothing to call our own, because when
you die, it's gonna beloan to someone else anyways, even
if it's to the state, it's gonna belan to someone else.
But I'm saying technically, so you have to think about
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in every situation what you contribute, what you allow in
the self, what you open yourself up to. And it
is the main reason people struggle in this world. If
the world was how I wanted, everybody would.
Speaker 1 (29:57):
Be full of love and love God and live for God.
Speaker 2 (30:02):
But that's really a fairy tale because that's never gonna happen.
It didn't happen in the Bible days, it's not gonna
happen now. But to me, that would be a perfect world.
But we know that's not the case. So I believe
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that every person have the opportunity to become better if
they choose to. You know, it's like people who are
who are addicted to drugs and things like that. That's
a choice. It becomes a habit, but it's still the choice.
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I know people who quit cold Turkey from art drugs,
hard drugs. But they chose to do better because of
the children that they birthed into the world. They chose
to do better because they want it better for themselves.
They realized they were going down on the wrong road.
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Anybody can change anything if they choose to. What controls
you is what you give power to, whether it's a
what or a who, it controls you because you give
the power to be controlled, and just like you gave it,
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you can get it back. So people struggle because of
the mindsets they have. They're in their own way.
Speaker 1 (31:39):
They are there.
Speaker 2 (31:40):
They people are their own obstacle. You stunt your own
growth because you keep looking outward. You keep looking outward
for satisfaction, you keep looking out for happiness, you keep
looking out with for love, you keep looking out for
valid and all of these different things. When you must
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start with yourself, you must have those things on the
inside first, love, peace, and happiness on the inside first.
And you cannot have them until you allow healing to
take place. Whatever that healing may be necessary for you.
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You have to allow it to take place. If you're
tired of struggling and you want to be better. It
starts with you looking at yourself, reevaluating your life, not
looking at your significant other or anyone else you Because
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it starts with you, you wonder why you're always broke,
always struggling. Are you saving money?
Speaker 1 (32:58):
I don't care. If you make twenty.
Speaker 2 (33:00):
Five cents, you should be saving five of those twenty
five cent at least five. If you make one hundred dollars,
you should be at least saving ten, fifteen, twenty dollars.
If you make a thousand, you should be at least
saving one hundred, and so forth. You should always be
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saving because rainy days are coming. But most people live,
they work, and they spend everything they have. Don't have
bank accounts or they they couldn't couldn't show you ten
thousand dollars and they've been working twenty years. Personally, I
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think that's terrible what people do to themselves.
Speaker 1 (33:49):
So you have to look at you. The struggle is real.
I get that.
Speaker 2 (33:53):
I understand that I've been there, but I've recognized the
struggle and I came out of it.
Speaker 1 (34:04):
Because I want it better for me. You have to.
Speaker 2 (34:11):
Stop with the complaining and the whining and the woe
it's me and do better for yourself.
Speaker 1 (34:17):
Every day you live as a chance to be better.
Speaker 2 (34:23):
And that's all I'm gonna say on this. I'm leaving
it right there. Thank you for listening. Please please share
in every episode the same and I hope and I
pray you do it, think on it,
Hey, Hey, I'm bad with something for you.
Speaker 2 (00:07):
And you to think about. Why do you keep struggling?
Why do you keep struggling going through having a bad day,
experiencing negativity? Why why do you seem to keep struggling.
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Why do you keep going through the same or similar things.
Speaker 1 (00:38):
Most people don't try to sit down.
Speaker 2 (00:42):
And evaluate self because for most people, self is never
the problem.
Speaker 1 (00:50):
The problem is always someone or something else.
Speaker 2 (00:55):
People always always fail to look at self. When self
is the biggest problem, you are your biggest problem. Your
mindset is your worst enemy.
Speaker 1 (01:16):
You don't believe it.
Speaker 2 (01:18):
Look at yourself, Look at your life. Look at what
you constantly go through. Look at all the negative thoughts
you have. Look at the hatred and the anger you
have in your heart. Look at how you feel behind
those negative thoughts. Look how you view people, what you
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think of people, what you think of yourself.
Speaker 1 (01:46):
You are your worst enemy. You are in your own way.
Speaker 2 (01:52):
Your mindset is the culprit. It is your worst enemy. Facts,
accept them or not. It's the truth. I've told you
for many years. When you see a pattern in your
own life, you have to be the person who make
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a change you. When you see there's a lot of
negativity in your life. You are the one who have
to make a change. That is nobody responsibility, but yours.
The problem is people point point point point point point
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point point point the figure as other people will fail
to look at how many points back atself. You aren't
the biggest problem in any equation. If you be honest
about it, you are the biggest problem. Because see what
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people fail to do is they fail to acknowledge what
they contribute to the situation. To what's going on on
your job, to what's going on in your homes, in
your relationships. You have to look at what you contribute
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to the situation. How did you get in the situation?
How what role did you play? What position did you
allow someone else to play?
Speaker 1 (03:37):
The reason I say your mindset is the biggest culprit.
Speaker 2 (03:40):
It is your worst enemy because unhealed hearts and minds
lead people in treacherous places, places that they should have
never been been in, with people they should have never
been with. Because when your heart and mind is unhealed,
you're going to chase after those superficial things.
Speaker 1 (04:00):
You're gonna chase.
Speaker 2 (04:01):
After what your eyes see, what your heart feel, feelings
and emotions, wants and desires. You totally look over the truth,
You totally look over reality. Every situation that you encounter,
every situation that you encounter, you.
Speaker 1 (04:26):
Have to look at what you contributed to it.
Speaker 2 (04:29):
Now, I'm not talking about children, because it's a whole
different story with children. However, whatever you went through as
a child, if it was negative and you chose to
bring that negativity into your adulthood, that falls on you.
(04:49):
I get so sick and tired of hearing people say
you gotta look at the parents. This man fifty years old,
this woman sixty years old, and they're still crying about
what happened when they were a child. I know, things
happen that are traumatic, and no child should have ever
went through, no child should have ever endured. But still yet,
(05:14):
as an adult, you have to make a decision for
better for yourself. You can't keep giving the power to
your parents or to whom ever hurt you.
Speaker 1 (05:26):
You have to make the decision for yourself.
Speaker 2 (05:29):
That you want better than what you came from. You
can't keep pointing the finger and blaming someone else for
what they've done to you. Although horrific, although sad, although unwarranted,
you still have to say, hey, I went through that.
This is my life now. I can't keep leaning on
(05:52):
that as a crutch. I can't keep using this as
an excuse to be a victim or to victimized. I
have to choose better for myself. That's the point you
have to get to, which takes growth, which means you
have to forgive the person that.
Speaker 1 (06:13):
Hurt you may never ask you for forgiveness.
Speaker 2 (06:17):
Forgiveness is for you so that you can get past
things and move on. That is why so many people
suffer for a lifetime, because they're still holding on.
Speaker 1 (06:33):
To the hurt and pain.
Speaker 2 (06:34):
They're still holding on to the negativity. But again, I
will say, you are your worst enemy, your mindset and
you being in your own way. That's why people get old,
but they don't mature. People obtain things in life, but
(06:56):
they still have the same heart and mind. They still
have the same heart and mind because there is no change.
So I say to you, look at what you contributed
in your own life. Look at what you allow and
(07:18):
accept from other people.
Speaker 1 (07:22):
In the name of love, in the name of friendship.
Speaker 2 (07:25):
Look at what you allow from other people, what you
allow other people to bring into your life, what you
allow other people to do to you see, they're gonna
play the role that you've given them. They gonna walk
in the position that you've allowed them to walk in,
good or bad. Because you create the monsters in your life.
(07:51):
You in every single situation, you create the monster in
your life. I don't care if it's your child, your
child act up and.
Speaker 1 (08:05):
Treat you.
Speaker 2 (08:07):
Horrible, because that's what you allow kids do to you,
What adults do to you.
Speaker 1 (08:14):
Whatever it is you allow them to do, how you
allow them.
Speaker 2 (08:17):
To talk to you, how you allow them to treat you,
they do it because you allow it. I don't care
if it's your children, if it's your sick significant.
Speaker 1 (08:26):
Other, your friend, family member, or other people.
Speaker 2 (08:29):
Whatever position you allow them to play, they will play.
So you have to look at what role did you
play in all of it? How did you contribute? People
stay on the wheel because they live the same cycles.
(08:52):
People keep going through the same things because they keep
doing the same things. I don't care how good someone
makes you feel. That will not change what's inside of you.
Money will not, changing positions will not, changing titles would
(09:13):
not change it.
Speaker 1 (09:14):
And the fact is, for most people, when.
Speaker 2 (09:17):
It's something of a higher position and not even necessarily
that because some people I've seen they have mediocre positions
and they still get the big head. So it's about
what's going on inside of you, the mindset that you have,
(09:37):
who you are as a person. So many people abuse
their positions, they abuse their authority.
Speaker 1 (09:47):
Instead of walking in that authority, in that.
Speaker 2 (09:51):
Power, and doing things that are good, they do just
the opposite you and abuse their power and positions. But
even though people do that, when it comes to you,
(10:12):
you don't have to allow people to treat you any
kind of way or speak to you any kind of way.
But if you do, you are giving them the opportunity
to do so. In your relationships, when you're mistreated or.
Speaker 3 (10:30):
Talk down, to be little disrespected, and you do nothing,
You act as if you're okay with that, even though
inside it hurts so much, But you'll do anything just
to be with that person.
Speaker 1 (10:43):
You're your biggest enemy, your mindset.
Speaker 2 (10:49):
When you're on the job and people disrespect you or
your boss try to sexually assault you or sexually harass you,
and you do nothing because you're looking at Oh that's
my bass, I can't say anything.
Speaker 1 (11:07):
You still have to look at yourself. Why do you
feel so less than why do you.
Speaker 2 (11:16):
Feel so small that you will allow your boss or
anyone to do those things to you. So you still
have to look at yourself when you go alone because
you're trying to get ahead.
Speaker 1 (11:29):
You still have to look at yourself.
Speaker 2 (11:35):
When you take all of your inner issues to work
and project them on others.
Speaker 1 (11:40):
You the problem.
Speaker 2 (11:45):
So it does not matter the scenario, the circumstance, the event.
It does not matter. What matters is the position you play,
the role you're playing, and also the position you're giving
others to play. It all goes back to you. What
(12:09):
you allow, what you accept, what you go along with,
even though you know you don't want to. You have
to look at yourself. All of it, every single bit
of it. The decision, the choices, every single bit of
it is because of the mindset that you have.
Speaker 1 (12:31):
That's why you hear me say all the time.
Speaker 2 (12:33):
This world is full of broken people, people who don't
think for themselves. All they do is parrot and regurgitate
what they hear. They don't ever try to learn something
for themselves. For years and years and years, they just
go along, believe in anything when it's not even the truth.
(12:57):
But they don't know that because they never take time
to learn from themselves. They believe anything someone says, They
go along with anything someone says because of the mindsets
they have. You can tell a person the truth, you
(13:17):
can show them proof, and they still won't believe it
because of the.
Speaker 1 (13:21):
Mindset that they have.
Speaker 2 (13:24):
That's why I say all the time, your mindset is
your worst enemy.
Speaker 1 (13:28):
You are your worst enemy.
Speaker 2 (13:33):
Your life is the way it is because of what
you have adopted, adapted to, and embraced you. No one
else you, anyone who comes in your life treating you
like crap, and you allow it.
Speaker 1 (13:57):
You the person who gave them permission. I don't care
who it is.
Speaker 2 (14:06):
People look at me like I am totally insane because
I care less, and I've.
Speaker 1 (14:13):
Been this way.
Speaker 2 (14:15):
If my mom was alive, she could tell you I
have gotten my butts fake because of it.
Speaker 1 (14:21):
I didn't never care then or now who you are.
I don't care about your position, your rank, your title.
I don't care.
Speaker 2 (14:31):
You live, breathe, poop, eat and die just like everybody else.
Speaker 1 (14:38):
We all do.
Speaker 2 (14:41):
So I don't look at people in their position and say,
oh my god, this is a no. I care less.
All I care about.
Speaker 1 (14:50):
Is you talking to me like you have some sense.
Speaker 2 (14:53):
You treated me with respect, because guess what, I'm gonna
always treat you that. I will never disrespect you. But
best believe I won't take it from anybody either. I
don't care who you are. I just don't do it
because I don't you know, I don't invest in people
(15:17):
like that. I don't look at people like, oh, well god,
this is a celebrity. Oh my god, it's the president.
Oh my god, it's a high official. Oh my god,
it's a general.
Speaker 1 (15:30):
No, not me.
Speaker 2 (15:32):
I don't get into that. I don't give people are
things power over me, not my children, grandchildren, no one, nothing, nothing,
because no one or nothing for me.
Speaker 1 (15:50):
I'm speaking for me.
Speaker 2 (15:52):
It's more important to me in my life than God,
the Father, the Son, Jesus and me.
Speaker 1 (16:03):
See, you have to really love.
Speaker 2 (16:05):
Yourself in order to be able to look and see
reality as it is, not the way you want to
warp it, not the way you want to distort it,
but the reality as it is.
Speaker 1 (16:27):
So when people come at you sideways saying.
Speaker 2 (16:31):
Foolishness, acting foolish, you're able to say no, not today,
not tomorrow, not ever.
Speaker 1 (16:45):
You can love people from a distance in this life.
Speaker 2 (16:53):
It takes forgiveness to move on, to forgive someone, that
doesn't mean that you have to be connected to them,
you know, you have to deal with them.
Speaker 1 (17:03):
No, it does not, because again, forgiveness.
Speaker 2 (17:09):
Is for you to be able to move on. It
does not mean you have to reconnect some of the
people dead and gone anyways. But you're still giving power
to those people. You're still giving power to old past events.
(17:35):
Pain is pain, regardless winning it took place, but it
only affects you according to the greed the degree that
you allow it to. Some people hold on to it
for dear life because they're so familiar with that pain,
but they're not living the event.
Speaker 1 (17:56):
It's the memories that people give power to.
Speaker 2 (18:03):
So many people have done horrific things because they are
full of anger and rage from yesteryear, yesterday, you know, yesterday, yesteryear.
The past is what I'm trying to say. They're so
angry and full of rage because they're still mad at
(18:29):
what they went through. They're still mad at the individuals.
And like I said, sometimes people are dead and gone
and they're still giving power to those people. But it's
the mindset that you have. It's the memories that you
have empowered in your life, to take root in your life,
(18:52):
to cause you to be that angry person who leaves
home and go out and commit road rage or murder
because somebody cut in front of you.
Speaker 1 (19:05):
Sometimes things happen and people don't mean to do it.
I've done it because not.
Speaker 2 (19:14):
A hundred of the time you can see what's around you.
You think it's clear, but someone may be in your
blind spot. So you don't do it intentionally. Those who
do it intentionally, they have issues. They're just like you.
(19:36):
They have issues. The ones who do it intentionally, but
I'm talking about the ones who react when you think
everybody is out to get you and everybody is doing
things intentionally and that's not the truth. But your actions.
Speaker 1 (19:56):
You just.
Speaker 2 (19:59):
Act because the anger and the rage that's inside of
you that you're holding in, So the first opportunity you
have to snap or go off, you do because you
never allow healing in your life. And that is so
sad that people are walking around as ticking time bombs,
(20:19):
just waiting.
Speaker 1 (20:20):
On a moment.
Speaker 2 (20:22):
To do terrible things. It don't take much for people
because they're already so built up with anger when they
don't have to be. It is a horrible exhausting thing
for people to walk around so full of anger, so
(20:44):
mean and better mad about things they have no clue about,
none whatsoever. But they're anger because other people are angry.
That's why I always talk about parenting. You know what
a parent is?
Speaker 1 (20:59):
Halliar had I y' y'all, I have y'all hear everything
they say, everything they hear.
Speaker 2 (21:06):
They repeat. So that's what people do. They're like parents,
and they regurgitate everything they hear. And the sad part
is they are regurgitating what somebody else said. So they've
(21:36):
taken in the wrong information from somebody else and regurgitating
what somebody else said, repeating it the same bad information.
People become angry behind misinformation. People do nefarious things behind
misinformation because they don't think for themselves, they don't do
(22:01):
the research for themselves. And it is one thousand percent
a thing in this country full of broken people. When
you're broken, when you don't allow healing in your life,
you are so easily bamboozled and brainwashed, so easily manipulated.
(22:29):
When you don't think for yourself, all you do you're
dumping ground. You just receive information, receive information, receive information,
and it's not true, and then just continue festering that
hate inside of you. I guarantee you, if I met
(22:55):
one hundred people, I'm just gonna go low. One hundred people,
I let you.
Speaker 1 (23:00):
Out of one.
Speaker 2 (23:01):
Hundred people, ninety eight percent wouldn't know why they're racist, truly,
ninety eight percent couldn't give you a valid reason. Probably
one hundred percent because people just go through life the
(23:25):
same way, never trying to be better, never trying to
be better. That's why the lenk of the chain, the
entire lenk of the chain, is weak, because the individuals
are weak. And that's why we see so much devastation
(23:52):
and tragedy and destructions at the hands of people because
the entire chain is weak. It never works when you
have a few strong people, but the majority are weak.
Speaker 1 (24:14):
And this is what is going on in the world.
Speaker 2 (24:19):
In the world, people are parenting and regurgitating. People are
allowing and accepting things that they shouldn't. That's why in
relationships nowadays, most fail. People don't view marriage as sacred
anymore because of the mindsets that they have.
Speaker 1 (24:45):
They have.
Speaker 2 (24:48):
Received so much bad information that they believe it. You
have a lot of and I'm a woman, so I'm
gonna say it. A lot of women have all of
these standards for men, but they can't.
Speaker 1 (25:08):
Bring anything to the table that they're looking for.
Speaker 2 (25:12):
That's the mindset, the audacity.
Speaker 1 (25:19):
You want this man to come with.
Speaker 2 (25:21):
All of these things, but you can't even bring him
to the table.
Speaker 1 (25:25):
That is crazy. And men who oh, well, you know
a man supposed to take care of a woman.
Speaker 2 (25:40):
Oh really, So a man is supposed to just be
used taking advantage of it because he's a man.
Speaker 1 (25:47):
I don't think so. I don't think like that.
Speaker 2 (25:52):
She's supposed to bring it to the table, just like
he's supposed to bring it to the table. Because people
are supposed to enhance your life. They supposed to compliment you.
Co O M P L E N E N T.
You supposed to enhance each other's life. What good does
(26:16):
it do you to bring someone into your life that
can't contribute to the table. That's gonna be a burden
on you. That's not gonna help your situation.
Speaker 1 (26:32):
It's going to.
Speaker 2 (26:35):
Hurt you because now you gotta pull more resources to
take care of this person. I just don't believe in
that think of me what you want to I don't
believe in that. Let me tell you I'm settled in
my life. When I say settled, I'm not saying taking
(26:58):
care of a man. But I've settled in other ways
that I will never settle again. People should always think
about who they become involved with. If they're not enhancing you,
you're with the wrong person. I don't care how much
(27:20):
you think you love them. Two broke people, where are
they going to benefit? Two broke people? When I say
two broke people, I'm talking two broke people that have
no ambition or goals. What are they going to accomplish.
I don't care how much they love each other. They
(27:43):
gonna have a life of struggle. To me, that makes
no sense. One person that have their own and the
other person don't.
Speaker 1 (27:55):
What benefit is that for the other person?
Speaker 2 (27:58):
Yeah, but for the person who have everything of their own,
they're gonna start to feel the effects of taking care
of this person who has nothing to bring to the table.
I'm just saying, you live the way you want to live,
that's what you want. Boo boo hey, that's your call.
(28:23):
But I know in the real world, in the adult
mature world, that's a logo, it's a no go, and
it's not saying that you're better than someone else, but
it's saying that you made better choices.
Speaker 1 (28:48):
You made better choices.
Speaker 2 (28:52):
We all have the opportunity to.
Speaker 1 (28:58):
Have something.
Speaker 2 (29:01):
To call our own, even though we don't. None of us,
I don't.
Speaker 1 (29:07):
Care what you have, how much money you have, none of.
Speaker 2 (29:10):
Us really have nothing to call our own, because when
you die, it's gonna beloan to someone else anyways, even
if it's to the state, it's gonna belan to someone else.
But I'm saying technically, so you have to think about
(29:36):
in every situation what you contribute, what you allow in
the self, what you open yourself up to. And it
is the main reason people struggle in this world. If
the world was how I wanted, everybody would.
Speaker 1 (29:57):
Be full of love and love God and live for God.
Speaker 2 (30:02):
But that's really a fairy tale because that's never gonna happen.
It didn't happen in the Bible days, it's not gonna
happen now. But to me, that would be a perfect world.
But we know that's not the case. So I believe
(30:22):
that every person have the opportunity to become better if
they choose to. You know, it's like people who are
who are addicted to drugs and things like that. That's
a choice. It becomes a habit, but it's still the choice.
(30:44):
I know people who quit cold Turkey from art drugs,
hard drugs. But they chose to do better because of
the children that they birthed into the world. They chose
to do better because they want it better for themselves.
They realized they were going down on the wrong road.
(31:06):
Anybody can change anything if they choose to. What controls
you is what you give power to, whether it's a
what or a who, it controls you because you give
the power to be controlled, and just like you gave it,
(31:30):
you can get it back. So people struggle because of
the mindsets they have. They're in their own way.
Speaker 1 (31:39):
They are there.
Speaker 2 (31:40):
They people are their own obstacle. You stunt your own
growth because you keep looking outward. You keep looking outward
for satisfaction, you keep looking out for happiness, you keep
looking out with for love, you keep looking out for
valid and all of these different things. When you must
(32:03):
start with yourself, you must have those things on the
inside first, love, peace, and happiness on the inside first.
And you cannot have them until you allow healing to
take place. Whatever that healing may be necessary for you.
(32:26):
You have to allow it to take place. If you're
tired of struggling and you want to be better. It
starts with you looking at yourself, reevaluating your life, not
looking at your significant other or anyone else you Because
(32:49):
it starts with you, you wonder why you're always broke,
always struggling. Are you saving money?
Speaker 1 (32:58):
I don't care. If you make twenty.
Speaker 2 (33:00):
Five cents, you should be saving five of those twenty
five cent at least five. If you make one hundred dollars,
you should be at least saving ten, fifteen, twenty dollars.
If you make a thousand, you should be at least
saving one hundred, and so forth. You should always be
(33:20):
saving because rainy days are coming. But most people live,
they work, and they spend everything they have. Don't have
bank accounts or they they couldn't couldn't show you ten
thousand dollars and they've been working twenty years. Personally, I
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think that's terrible what people do to themselves.
Speaker 1 (33:49):
So you have to look at you. The struggle is real.
I get that.
Speaker 2 (33:53):
I understand that I've been there, but I've recognized the
struggle and I came out of it.
Speaker 1 (34:04):
Because I want it better for me. You have to.
Speaker 2 (34:11):
Stop with the complaining and the whining and the woe
it's me and do better for yourself.
Speaker 1 (34:17):
Every day you live as a chance to be better.
Speaker 2 (34:23):
And that's all I'm gonna say on this. I'm leaving
it right there. Thank you for listening. Please please share
in every episode the same and I hope and I
pray you do it, think on it,
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