August 11, 2025 • 28 mins
More people fake and pretend than not but it doesn't benefit them or their lives. Many people act as if they're happy but it's a lie! When you spend your life faking and pretending you remain unhappy, stagnant, and in the same negative mindset because there's no growth and maturity. You will never know love until you learn to love yourself first! You will never know growth or peace, until you allow inner healing to take place!
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Speaker 1 (00:01):
Hey, hey, hey, I'm bad with something for you.
Speaker 2 (00:09):
To think about.
Speaker 1 (00:12):
When couples fake love and happiness. Let me say it again,
when couples fake love and happiness, the truth always comes
(00:32):
out in the wash, so to speak.
Speaker 2 (00:37):
I've always told you faking and pretending.
Speaker 1 (00:43):
Gets you nowhere but right in the place you've always been,
in that negative state of mind. You know, some people
fake it. You hear them say fake it till you
make it. You never make it when you fake it.
That's the point I'm trying to make. You never make it.
(01:06):
You never are able to take it when you fake it.
Speaker 2 (01:14):
Because faking helps a person to get through.
Speaker 1 (01:21):
Day to day, but it don't change their situation, meaning
it does not change what's going on inside.
Speaker 2 (01:31):
So you can fake all you want.
Speaker 1 (01:33):
The benefit for your growth is none.
Speaker 2 (01:39):
It's none.
Speaker 1 (01:40):
So a lot of people are in relationships, married and
just in relationships who supposedly are so very much in love.
And I'm sure there is some degree of caring, there
(02:00):
a high level degree of caring. But saying you're in
love with someone and being in love with them, saying
you love someone and really loving them, those are different.
Loving someone and being in love with them is something else,
but both are required and necessary for a healthy, happy relationship.
(02:26):
The biggest problem for most people is they seek happiness
and love in a significant other.
Speaker 2 (02:37):
But I want you to think about something.
Speaker 1 (02:39):
How can a significant other give you that when they
don't have it for themselves, When they don't have that
love for themselves, how.
Speaker 2 (02:51):
Are they going to give it to you?
Speaker 1 (02:54):
And for you to be a person who's seeking love
and happiness and a significant other tells.
Speaker 2 (03:02):
Me you don't have it in you. That's where a
lot of people fail themselves. They look at.
Speaker 1 (03:12):
Individuals and thinking that they're gonna make them happy and
they're gonna change them, things are gonna be better.
Speaker 2 (03:22):
They look at individuals for resolved resolution.
Speaker 1 (03:28):
A difference. But you have to be what you're looking for.
You have to be what you're looking for. If you're not,
you will, without a shadow of a doubt, get involved
(03:49):
with someone who is.
Speaker 2 (03:50):
Like minded or worse.
Speaker 1 (03:56):
Guarantee you're going to get with someone who's light minded,
are worse an individual who's mature, who have mentally grown
and mature.
Speaker 2 (04:10):
Let me tell you they will not risk be on
someone who's not.
Speaker 1 (04:20):
Because it's just too much work. It's too much drama
and chaos. It's too much friction. People who have gone
through learn from their experiences. You know that, I'm saying,
been there, done that. They're not trying to do that.
But people who don't understand love, because they don't love
(04:43):
themselves and they have not mentally grown to that level
of understanding, they won't see anything that they need to see.
Speaker 2 (04:55):
So people get together. First of all, they get together
in the wrong ways.
Speaker 1 (05:00):
They get together for the wrong reasons, and they get
together with the wrong people. So people get in relationships
and they go deeper into these relationships knowing they have problems,
but they think, oh, well, we get married or we
you know, send this relationship on another level. Things are
(05:23):
gonna get better. Things are gonna get better. He's gonna
change or she's gonna change. It don't work like that.
So a lot of people get together and they be
together for a while, and they fake and they pretend
love and happiness.
Speaker 2 (05:43):
But what happens when people do.
Speaker 1 (05:45):
This is resentment and anger builds up. And no matter
how much people smile and pretend everything is good inside,
they're dying inside. They're angry, they're resentful, they're regretful because
(06:09):
now They have to keep up this facade because they
feel they have an image to protect and portray. But
it is something that is crippling people. People are so
(06:32):
much more worried about their image that they don't look
at how it's affecting them. When I hear of couples,
you know, murder suicide, because rarely.
Speaker 2 (06:57):
It's people bring to both die, you know, to commit suicide.
Rarely is that. Most times it's murder suicide.
Speaker 1 (07:08):
When I hear murder suicide and people say, oh, it's
such a shock, I just can't believe it.
Speaker 2 (07:15):
You know, I never saw the signs they were so
in love.
Speaker 1 (07:21):
See, people can make anything look like what they wanted
to look like. It's just like all the negativity when
it comes to statistics about black people. You hear all
of these negativities, all of these negative statistics. I don't
care what it is about black people. It's negative statistically.
(07:45):
But that's because people can make numbers be what they
want them to be. Period I learned this through statistics
and doing research. You can manipulate numbers to make them
(08:05):
be whatever you want them to be, and even more
so depending on the agency or organization that's doing the stats.
Speaker 2 (08:17):
So you can.
Speaker 1 (08:19):
Make anyone believe anything that you want them to believe
according to what you present to the world.
Speaker 2 (08:33):
Some people outright show who they are.
Speaker 1 (08:36):
They show their negativity, they show chaos and drama because
they're constantly bickering and fighting in the public's eye. But
when you have people who are of some type of status,
some level of status, they're not gonna carry on like
(08:57):
that in public. They're gonna fake and protect. They're gonna
get on social media and smile and act as if
everything is okay, that they're so happy.
Speaker 2 (09:10):
But it's not the truth. Just because you didn't see a.
Speaker 1 (09:13):
Couple argue, you didn't hear a couple argue, you never
saw them fight, or anything like that, it does not
mean that they were happy. People of some form of
status on social media, they're going to portray themselves as
something they are not. They're gonna put on smiles that
(09:37):
look real, they're gonna act in ways that looks real,
and they do that because, like I said, they have
an image to uphold. You know, they worked hard to
get to where they are, so they have an image
(09:59):
to uphold. So they go on to carry on as
if everything is well, all is well. Everything is good.
But just because they do that doesn't mean it is so.
So people miss the signs. But there are always signs
(10:19):
and red flags, always without fail but people fail to
see them because they only see what their minds are
capable of sining. People miss the truth because, like I said,
they can only see what their eyes are capable of
(10:42):
seining because of the mindsets that they have.
Speaker 2 (10:47):
And that's a fact. And then when people end up.
Speaker 3 (10:51):
Murdered or maimed, really really really really hurt physically hurt,
then people say, I never saw this coming.
Speaker 2 (11:07):
I never saw it coming.
Speaker 1 (11:09):
And then some people will say, well, I saw the signs,
because you know.
Speaker 2 (11:13):
I saw this. I saw that. You know, a lot
of people.
Speaker 1 (11:23):
See the signs, but they reject them, they deny what
they see, and only until something tragic happens, some people say.
Speaker 2 (11:38):
Well, yeah, you know, well she told me this, so
he told me that.
Speaker 1 (11:45):
You know, you can't fix other people, but sometimes you
can help save a person from death, possibly possibly.
Speaker 2 (12:00):
By saying something.
Speaker 1 (12:06):
You never know, you could possibly save a person from
death by saying something.
Speaker 2 (12:14):
It's very very very unfortunate.
Speaker 1 (12:17):
It's very very very unfortunate that people spend so many
years together and then commit murder suicide. It's horrible. But
let me tell you, no one, no one, and I
(12:40):
do mean no one wakes up and say, I'm gonna
kill my spouse, I'm gonna kill my girlfriend, I'm gonna
kill my boyfriend.
Speaker 2 (12:47):
No things lead up to that period. Things lead up
to it.
Speaker 1 (12:57):
Now, people have committed murder because they lost their minds.
One day, I'll tell you this story, but one that's true.
I'm not talking about that. I'm not talking about those
kind of people who literally lost their minds because of
things they got into. I'm not talking about those people.
I'm talking about couples who fake and pretend, who fake
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love and happiness because they feel they have a status
that they have to uphold. They have an image that
they can't taint. But see, when they get to that
point of no return, they don't care about their image
anymore because in their minds, they are going to be
(13:43):
gone anyway.
Speaker 2 (13:44):
So they don't care about the image anymore.
Speaker 1 (13:47):
Their focus is on doing what they have been pondering
over doing.
Speaker 4 (13:56):
See, it's easy, I mean extremely easy to fool the masses.
Because of the mindset that people have, It's easy to
manipulate and deceive the masses because people.
Speaker 2 (14:16):
They only see according to their mindsets. They cannot see
beyond what they're able to comprehend.
Speaker 1 (14:36):
So people miss the signs, or they see the signs
and reject them because it just can't be, you know,
it just can't be. They are happy until something tragic
happened and everybody is shocked and blown away, which is
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a normal reaction to be shocked and blown away, even
if something tragic happens, but there's a difference when you
have seen things to lead up to that. But a
lot of people don't because if I'm rich and my husband.
Speaker 2 (15:14):
Is rich, and we have.
Speaker 1 (15:17):
Status and all of this, we are going to do
what everybody else do, pretend everything is good. But then
behind closed doors, we can't stand each other. That's what
people do. That's the way it works. You don't get
(15:41):
along behind closed doors. There's no connectiveness behind closed doors.
There's always arguments behind closed doors. You're tired because you're
tired of faking and pretending. You're exhaust stick from faking
and pretending. Put it on facides. It's exhausting. So it
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drives people deeper and deeper into darkness because they are
mentally and physically exhausted from faking and pretending because their
image is more important to them.
Speaker 2 (16:25):
Than their peace.
Speaker 1 (16:29):
See that's when you get above yourself, when you think
your image and your status and your title and money
and things.
Speaker 2 (16:40):
Are more important than your peace. So a lot of people.
Speaker 1 (16:50):
Miss the signs. And those in the relationships. The women
who have been murdered, they know they knew what was
going on, but.
Speaker 2 (17:03):
They never made reports. They never told anyone.
Speaker 1 (17:10):
And I truly can say I get that because when
I was in an abusive relationship, I told no one.
I never told a soul. He was in the military,
I never told a soul. But I got smart, I
out smart at him, and I got out way away,
(17:33):
literally to save my life, to save my children's life.
You know, I did endure for a while, but the
whole time I was scheming and planning until I could
(17:56):
do what I needed to do to get out of there.
Some people never do that because they think, oh, it's
gonna get better, or he will never do.
Speaker 2 (18:05):
This to me, or she will never do this to me.
Speaker 1 (18:10):
You know, they think that their significant other will never
go to that extreme. Never say never when you're dealing
with a person who is unhinged.
Speaker 2 (18:28):
When you see the signs of.
Speaker 1 (18:31):
A person who is unstable, believe it, believe it. Status, money, possessions, titles, possessions,
None of that matters. Your life is more important. And
this goes for the person who is thinking of doing
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something tragic.
Speaker 2 (18:59):
Your life. If it's more important, your piece is more important.
Speaker 1 (19:03):
If it's not working, then you have to do something else,
something positive for you. Because everybody is together, everybody together
is not meant to be together. I don't care if
you've been together thirty forty fifty years. People just go
through life on autopilot. It does not mean they were
(19:24):
ever meant.
Speaker 2 (19:24):
To be together. People just trying to make it work.
Speaker 1 (19:29):
And I'm telling you, when people are so bogged down
and so tired mentally and physically of faking, they get
to that point of no return. Faking and pretending it
is unnecessary. If you're with someone and it's not working,
(19:53):
life is not over. If they walk away or if
you walk away, that's the best thing for a peace.
But some people would rather take out their significant other
and take themselves out then for that, you know, for
(20:14):
that person to walk away, They rather kill that person
before they let that person walk away even though they're tired,
even though their tank is on full. They feel like
they've invested too much. That means nothing.
Speaker 2 (20:36):
To me. It means nothing over my peace.
Speaker 1 (20:41):
Nothing. But some people don't look at it that way.
They feel like they've invested too much. They put too
much in it to just walk away. Well, if you
kill yourself, you won't enjoy it anyways. If you kill
the other person, they won't enjoyed either. No one has
(21:05):
to get to that point, No one on the face
of the earth has to get to that point. That's
why you have to love yourself enough to maintain your
peace and not let anyone come along and affect your peace.
(21:29):
That's why you have to be in the right mindset already.
You can't go into a relationship looking for somebody to
complete you. You gotta behold going into it. You must
behold going into it. So many people miss the signs
(21:52):
in the red flags, They ignore their intuitions, and many
people are in their graves right now because of it.
It hit me heavy and I just want to talk
about it because lately, I know in the last month
there's been about six couples that I have heard of
(22:18):
with murdered suicide just in a month that I heard of.
Just imagine the ones that I haven't heard of. And
I'm talking local, you know, vicinity, meaning between where I
am and the state i'm in, maybe a couple more
(22:38):
states over in the state I'm in, and a couple
of states over, so that's close proximity. People ignore too much,
People give too many chances, People let too much slide.
Speaker 2 (23:04):
Image is not worth it. It's not.
Speaker 1 (23:10):
If you're in pain mentally and you're trying desperately to
hold on to your image and all that, it's not
worth it. It's not worth it. You have to love
yourself enough to move on because anybody who commits suicide,
(23:37):
they're going to hell. And you murder someone, I'm telling
you it's not worth it, because what you chose over
here is you're going when you leave this world, you're
(23:59):
going somewhere to a place that's not good, and that's
where you'll be for eternity. There are no doovers over there.
There's no doovers over here. Who wants you exit this body.
(24:22):
People just need to think about what they're doing. They
need to think about the choices that they're making. They
need to think about how they're getting in relationships with
whom they're getting in relationships.
Speaker 2 (24:32):
With everything glitters is my goal.
Speaker 1 (24:38):
Beauty fades, money gets funny. You're gonna age. And one
thing is for certain. Age does not necessarily necessarily come
(25:00):
with maturity does not necessarily come with age.
Speaker 2 (25:08):
I had to get it together there. It does not.
Speaker 1 (25:12):
Now your body's going a mature period because we age.
But mental maturity does not necessarily come with age. And
most people will never reach it because they never choose
to change. They never choose to become better. They just
take all of their mess into their relationships, on their jobs, everywhere,
(25:38):
they go everywhere, but no change ever occurs because they're
mentally still the same. And that's why I say these couples,
some of them, they get successful together, but mentally they're
going deeper and deeper in a hole. So I'm talking
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about couples, but it could be an individual because technically,
in a relationship, you are a couple, but you're still
too individuals too. People get together on trauma, they can
relate on e bad experiences. People get into relationships because
(26:27):
of looks. Some people just want to be in relationships
with the wrong people, meaning people that they know that's
already married or already in relationships.
Speaker 2 (26:37):
They prefer those kind of relationships. Something is wrong.
Speaker 1 (26:44):
So basically what I'm saying, people get into relationships for
all the wrong reasons with the wrong people, and they
still move forward in those things, and many end tragically
because people refuse to adhere to the signs, the red flags.
And although it's so shocking and unbelievable to people, the
(27:09):
size of red flags were there.
Speaker 2 (27:11):
I don't care what no one says. They were there.
They were just missed.
Speaker 1 (27:16):
Because when people are on a certain level, they have
a certain status and they're throwing parties and you know,
doing things for the community and for people, people miss
everything because they're looking at the good good that they're receiving.
They enjoying the benefits, so they're not really paying attention
(27:36):
to the things that they should see because they are
enjoying the benefits of the labor of those people.
Speaker 2 (27:45):
So I just want you to just.
Speaker 1 (27:49):
Let this sit with you for a while. I'm leaving
it right here right there. Thank you for listening. Much
much much love. Also check out From the Heart to
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(28:09):
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Share this episode much love, please please please.
Speaker 2 (28:25):
Protect your peace.
Speaker 1 (28:30):
I end every episode the same, and I hope and
I pray in Jesus' name.
Speaker 2 (28:36):
That you do it. Thank on it
Hey, hey, hey, I'm bad with something for you.
Speaker 2 (00:09):
To think about.
Speaker 1 (00:12):
When couples fake love and happiness. Let me say it again,
when couples fake love and happiness, the truth always comes
(00:32):
out in the wash, so to speak.
Speaker 2 (00:37):
I've always told you faking and pretending.
Speaker 1 (00:43):
Gets you nowhere but right in the place you've always been,
in that negative state of mind. You know, some people
fake it. You hear them say fake it till you
make it. You never make it when you fake it.
That's the point I'm trying to make. You never make it.
(01:06):
You never are able to take it when you fake it.
Speaker 2 (01:14):
Because faking helps a person to get through.
Speaker 1 (01:21):
Day to day, but it don't change their situation, meaning
it does not change what's going on inside.
Speaker 2 (01:31):
So you can fake all you want.
Speaker 1 (01:33):
The benefit for your growth is none.
Speaker 2 (01:39):
It's none.
Speaker 1 (01:40):
So a lot of people are in relationships, married and
just in relationships who supposedly are so very much in love.
And I'm sure there is some degree of caring, there
(02:00):
a high level degree of caring. But saying you're in
love with someone and being in love with them, saying
you love someone and really loving them, those are different.
Loving someone and being in love with them is something else,
but both are required and necessary for a healthy, happy relationship.
(02:26):
The biggest problem for most people is they seek happiness
and love in a significant other.
Speaker 2 (02:37):
But I want you to think about something.
Speaker 1 (02:39):
How can a significant other give you that when they
don't have it for themselves, When they don't have that
love for themselves, how.
Speaker 2 (02:51):
Are they going to give it to you?
Speaker 1 (02:54):
And for you to be a person who's seeking love
and happiness and a significant other tells.
Speaker 2 (03:02):
Me you don't have it in you. That's where a
lot of people fail themselves. They look at.
Speaker 1 (03:12):
Individuals and thinking that they're gonna make them happy and
they're gonna change them, things are gonna be better.
Speaker 2 (03:22):
They look at individuals for resolved resolution.
Speaker 1 (03:28):
A difference. But you have to be what you're looking for.
You have to be what you're looking for. If you're not,
you will, without a shadow of a doubt, get involved
(03:49):
with someone who is.
Speaker 2 (03:50):
Like minded or worse.
Speaker 1 (03:56):
Guarantee you're going to get with someone who's light minded,
are worse an individual who's mature, who have mentally grown
and mature.
Speaker 2 (04:10):
Let me tell you they will not risk be on
someone who's not.
Speaker 1 (04:20):
Because it's just too much work. It's too much drama
and chaos. It's too much friction. People who have gone
through learn from their experiences. You know that, I'm saying,
been there, done that. They're not trying to do that.
But people who don't understand love, because they don't love
(04:43):
themselves and they have not mentally grown to that level
of understanding, they won't see anything that they need to see.
Speaker 2 (04:55):
So people get together. First of all, they get together
in the wrong ways.
Speaker 1 (05:00):
They get together for the wrong reasons, and they get
together with the wrong people. So people get in relationships
and they go deeper into these relationships knowing they have problems,
but they think, oh, well, we get married or we
you know, send this relationship on another level. Things are
(05:23):
gonna get better. Things are gonna get better. He's gonna
change or she's gonna change. It don't work like that.
So a lot of people get together and they be
together for a while, and they fake and they pretend
love and happiness.
Speaker 2 (05:43):
But what happens when people do.
Speaker 1 (05:45):
This is resentment and anger builds up. And no matter
how much people smile and pretend everything is good inside,
they're dying inside. They're angry, they're resentful, they're regretful because
(06:09):
now They have to keep up this facade because they
feel they have an image to protect and portray. But
it is something that is crippling people. People are so
(06:32):
much more worried about their image that they don't look
at how it's affecting them. When I hear of couples,
you know, murder suicide, because rarely.
Speaker 2 (06:57):
It's people bring to both die, you know, to commit suicide.
Rarely is that. Most times it's murder suicide.
Speaker 1 (07:08):
When I hear murder suicide and people say, oh, it's
such a shock, I just can't believe it.
Speaker 2 (07:15):
You know, I never saw the signs they were so
in love.
Speaker 1 (07:21):
See, people can make anything look like what they wanted
to look like. It's just like all the negativity when
it comes to statistics about black people. You hear all
of these negativities, all of these negative statistics. I don't
care what it is about black people. It's negative statistically.
(07:45):
But that's because people can make numbers be what they
want them to be. Period I learned this through statistics
and doing research. You can manipulate numbers to make them
(08:05):
be whatever you want them to be, and even more
so depending on the agency or organization that's doing the stats.
Speaker 2 (08:17):
So you can.
Speaker 1 (08:19):
Make anyone believe anything that you want them to believe
according to what you present to the world.
Speaker 2 (08:33):
Some people outright show who they are.
Speaker 1 (08:36):
They show their negativity, they show chaos and drama because
they're constantly bickering and fighting in the public's eye. But
when you have people who are of some type of status,
some level of status, they're not gonna carry on like
(08:57):
that in public. They're gonna fake and protect. They're gonna
get on social media and smile and act as if
everything is okay, that they're so happy.
Speaker 2 (09:10):
But it's not the truth. Just because you didn't see a.
Speaker 1 (09:13):
Couple argue, you didn't hear a couple argue, you never
saw them fight, or anything like that, it does not
mean that they were happy. People of some form of
status on social media, they're going to portray themselves as
something they are not. They're gonna put on smiles that
(09:37):
look real, they're gonna act in ways that looks real,
and they do that because, like I said, they have
an image to uphold. You know, they worked hard to
get to where they are, so they have an image
(09:59):
to uphold. So they go on to carry on as
if everything is well, all is well. Everything is good.
But just because they do that doesn't mean it is so.
So people miss the signs. But there are always signs
(10:19):
and red flags, always without fail but people fail to
see them because they only see what their minds are
capable of sining. People miss the truth because, like I said,
they can only see what their eyes are capable of
(10:42):
seining because of the mindsets that they have.
Speaker 2 (10:47):
And that's a fact. And then when people end up.
Speaker 3 (10:51):
Murdered or maimed, really really really really hurt physically hurt,
then people say, I never saw this coming.
Speaker 2 (11:07):
I never saw it coming.
Speaker 1 (11:09):
And then some people will say, well, I saw the signs,
because you know.
Speaker 2 (11:13):
I saw this. I saw that. You know, a lot
of people.
Speaker 1 (11:23):
See the signs, but they reject them, they deny what
they see, and only until something tragic happens, some people say.
Speaker 2 (11:38):
Well, yeah, you know, well she told me this, so
he told me that.
Speaker 1 (11:45):
You know, you can't fix other people, but sometimes you
can help save a person from death, possibly possibly.
Speaker 2 (12:00):
By saying something.
Speaker 1 (12:06):
You never know, you could possibly save a person from
death by saying something.
Speaker 2 (12:14):
It's very very very unfortunate.
Speaker 1 (12:17):
It's very very very unfortunate that people spend so many
years together and then commit murder suicide. It's horrible. But
let me tell you, no one, no one, and I
(12:40):
do mean no one wakes up and say, I'm gonna
kill my spouse, I'm gonna kill my girlfriend, I'm gonna
kill my boyfriend.
Speaker 2 (12:47):
No things lead up to that period. Things lead up
to it.
Speaker 1 (12:57):
Now, people have committed murder because they lost their minds.
One day, I'll tell you this story, but one that's true.
I'm not talking about that. I'm not talking about those
kind of people who literally lost their minds because of
things they got into. I'm not talking about those people.
I'm talking about couples who fake and pretend, who fake
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love and happiness because they feel they have a status
that they have to uphold. They have an image that
they can't taint. But see, when they get to that
point of no return, they don't care about their image
anymore because in their minds, they are going to be
(13:43):
gone anyway.
Speaker 2 (13:44):
So they don't care about the image anymore.
Speaker 1 (13:47):
Their focus is on doing what they have been pondering
over doing.
Speaker 4 (13:56):
See, it's easy, I mean extremely easy to fool the masses.
Because of the mindset that people have, It's easy to
manipulate and deceive the masses because people.
Speaker 2 (14:16):
They only see according to their mindsets. They cannot see
beyond what they're able to comprehend.
Speaker 1 (14:36):
So people miss the signs, or they see the signs
and reject them because it just can't be, you know,
it just can't be. They are happy until something tragic
happened and everybody is shocked and blown away, which is
(14:57):
a normal reaction to be shocked and blown away, even
if something tragic happens, but there's a difference when you
have seen things to lead up to that. But a
lot of people don't because if I'm rich and my husband.
Speaker 2 (15:14):
Is rich, and we have.
Speaker 1 (15:17):
Status and all of this, we are going to do
what everybody else do, pretend everything is good. But then
behind closed doors, we can't stand each other. That's what
people do. That's the way it works. You don't get
(15:41):
along behind closed doors. There's no connectiveness behind closed doors.
There's always arguments behind closed doors. You're tired because you're
tired of faking and pretending. You're exhaust stick from faking
and pretending. Put it on facides. It's exhausting. So it
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drives people deeper and deeper into darkness because they are
mentally and physically exhausted from faking and pretending because their
image is more important to them.
Speaker 2 (16:25):
Than their peace.
Speaker 1 (16:29):
See that's when you get above yourself, when you think
your image and your status and your title and money
and things.
Speaker 2 (16:40):
Are more important than your peace. So a lot of people.
Speaker 1 (16:50):
Miss the signs. And those in the relationships. The women
who have been murdered, they know they knew what was
going on, but.
Speaker 2 (17:03):
They never made reports. They never told anyone.
Speaker 1 (17:10):
And I truly can say I get that because when
I was in an abusive relationship, I told no one.
I never told a soul. He was in the military,
I never told a soul. But I got smart, I
out smart at him, and I got out way away,
(17:33):
literally to save my life, to save my children's life.
You know, I did endure for a while, but the
whole time I was scheming and planning until I could
(17:56):
do what I needed to do to get out of there.
Some people never do that because they think, oh, it's
gonna get better, or he will never do.
Speaker 2 (18:05):
This to me, or she will never do this to me.
Speaker 1 (18:10):
You know, they think that their significant other will never
go to that extreme. Never say never when you're dealing
with a person who is unhinged.
Speaker 2 (18:28):
When you see the signs of.
Speaker 1 (18:31):
A person who is unstable, believe it, believe it. Status, money, possessions, titles, possessions,
None of that matters. Your life is more important. And
this goes for the person who is thinking of doing
(18:56):
something tragic.
Speaker 2 (18:59):
Your life. If it's more important, your piece is more important.
Speaker 1 (19:03):
If it's not working, then you have to do something else,
something positive for you. Because everybody is together, everybody together
is not meant to be together. I don't care if
you've been together thirty forty fifty years. People just go
through life on autopilot. It does not mean they were
(19:24):
ever meant.
Speaker 2 (19:24):
To be together. People just trying to make it work.
Speaker 1 (19:29):
And I'm telling you, when people are so bogged down
and so tired mentally and physically of faking, they get
to that point of no return. Faking and pretending it
is unnecessary. If you're with someone and it's not working,
(19:53):
life is not over. If they walk away or if
you walk away, that's the best thing for a peace.
But some people would rather take out their significant other
and take themselves out then for that, you know, for
(20:14):
that person to walk away, They rather kill that person
before they let that person walk away even though they're tired,
even though their tank is on full. They feel like
they've invested too much. That means nothing.
Speaker 2 (20:36):
To me. It means nothing over my peace.
Speaker 1 (20:41):
Nothing. But some people don't look at it that way.
They feel like they've invested too much. They put too
much in it to just walk away. Well, if you
kill yourself, you won't enjoy it anyways. If you kill
the other person, they won't enjoyed either. No one has
(21:05):
to get to that point, No one on the face
of the earth has to get to that point. That's
why you have to love yourself enough to maintain your
peace and not let anyone come along and affect your peace.
(21:29):
That's why you have to be in the right mindset already.
You can't go into a relationship looking for somebody to
complete you. You gotta behold going into it. You must
behold going into it. So many people miss the signs
(21:52):
in the red flags, They ignore their intuitions, and many
people are in their graves right now because of it.
It hit me heavy and I just want to talk
about it because lately, I know in the last month
there's been about six couples that I have heard of
(22:18):
with murdered suicide just in a month that I heard of.
Just imagine the ones that I haven't heard of. And
I'm talking local, you know, vicinity, meaning between where I
am and the state i'm in, maybe a couple more
(22:38):
states over in the state I'm in, and a couple
of states over, so that's close proximity. People ignore too much,
People give too many chances, People let too much slide.
Speaker 2 (23:04):
Image is not worth it. It's not.
Speaker 1 (23:10):
If you're in pain mentally and you're trying desperately to
hold on to your image and all that, it's not
worth it. It's not worth it. You have to love
yourself enough to move on because anybody who commits suicide,
(23:37):
they're going to hell. And you murder someone, I'm telling
you it's not worth it, because what you chose over
here is you're going when you leave this world, you're
(23:59):
going somewhere to a place that's not good, and that's
where you'll be for eternity. There are no doovers over there.
There's no doovers over here. Who wants you exit this body.
(24:22):
People just need to think about what they're doing. They
need to think about the choices that they're making. They
need to think about how they're getting in relationships with
whom they're getting in relationships.
Speaker 2 (24:32):
With everything glitters is my goal.
Speaker 1 (24:38):
Beauty fades, money gets funny. You're gonna age. And one
thing is for certain. Age does not necessarily necessarily come
(25:00):
with maturity does not necessarily come with age.
Speaker 2 (25:08):
I had to get it together there. It does not.
Speaker 1 (25:12):
Now your body's going a mature period because we age.
But mental maturity does not necessarily come with age. And
most people will never reach it because they never choose
to change. They never choose to become better. They just
take all of their mess into their relationships, on their jobs, everywhere,
(25:38):
they go everywhere, but no change ever occurs because they're
mentally still the same. And that's why I say these couples,
some of them, they get successful together, but mentally they're
going deeper and deeper in a hole. So I'm talking
(26:04):
about couples, but it could be an individual because technically,
in a relationship, you are a couple, but you're still
too individuals too. People get together on trauma, they can
relate on e bad experiences. People get into relationships because
(26:27):
of looks. Some people just want to be in relationships
with the wrong people, meaning people that they know that's
already married or already in relationships.
Speaker 2 (26:37):
They prefer those kind of relationships. Something is wrong.
Speaker 1 (26:44):
So basically what I'm saying, people get into relationships for
all the wrong reasons with the wrong people, and they
still move forward in those things, and many end tragically
because people refuse to adhere to the signs, the red flags.
And although it's so shocking and unbelievable to people, the
(27:09):
size of red flags were there.
Speaker 2 (27:11):
I don't care what no one says. They were there.
They were just missed.
Speaker 1 (27:16):
Because when people are on a certain level, they have
a certain status and they're throwing parties and you know,
doing things for the community and for people, people miss
everything because they're looking at the good good that they're receiving.
They enjoying the benefits, so they're not really paying attention
(27:36):
to the things that they should see because they are
enjoying the benefits of the labor of those people.
Speaker 2 (27:45):
So I just want you to just.
Speaker 1 (27:49):
Let this sit with you for a while. I'm leaving
it right here right there. Thank you for listening. Much
much much love. Also check out From the Heart to
the Heart by Cherry Me and share. It is something
(28:09):
very different, y'all. It's something very different, but check it out. Share,
Share this episode much love, please please please.
Speaker 2 (28:25):
Protect your peace.
Speaker 1 (28:30):
I end every episode the same, and I hope and
I pray in Jesus' name.
Speaker 2 (28:36):
That you do it. Thank on it
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