August 21, 2025 • 15 mins
I believe when parents allow their young children to date it's wrong parenting. Children should be focused on getting through and finishing school, not on love and relationships. Children absolutely do not know how to handle love and relationships because they don't know anything about it. Grown people don't know anything about love and relationships, why do you think children will know? Yet, parents allow their young children to date, which oftentimes mess up children mentally leading to suicidal and sometimes homicidal thoughts. It has also led to abortions, pregnancies, depression, anxiety, etc. Many children have a harder time in school mainly because of their home lives, but also because they're forming relationships that they can't handle. Re-think it and stop the cycles of dysfunction!
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Speaker 1 (00:01):
Hey, I'm back with something for you you and.
Speaker 2 (00:10):
You to think about today.
Speaker 1 (00:14):
I want to talk to you about allowing your young
children to date. Some of you may not believe this,
but I have dealt with parents who have let their
children date as young as eleven and twelve eleven and
(00:38):
twelve years old. See, you have to train up children
when they're very little, like from the wound. You have
to start training children when your baby is born into
this world. You don't let your baby dictate to you
a schedule. You put the baby on the schedule. But
many people don't. They just cool and card over their baby,
(01:02):
and the next thing they know, they're stressed the heck
out because they can't get any sleep or any rest
because they've allowed that child to dictate to them that schedule.
Speaker 2 (01:13):
So whatever you allow your children to do, just.
Speaker 1 (01:17):
Like anyone else, it doesn't matter who it is, your
significant other, your parents, friends, relatives, other people.
Speaker 2 (01:28):
Does not matter who it is.
Speaker 1 (01:30):
However you've taught them to treat you, it is exactly
how you will be treated. So you have parents who
are allowing their young children to date. And I'm sorry
to say this, but it is one of the reasons.
(01:50):
It's not the reason, but it's one of the reasons
that lead young children to commit suicide. They can't handle
that kind of pressure. They cannot handle that kind of pressure.
I want you to think about it. Adults can't handle
that kind of pressure being in relationships, getting rejected, breakups.
(02:17):
Adults cannot handle that type of pressure. Grown people kill
each other, Grown people kill their significant others because of breakups.
Speaker 2 (02:28):
How do you think children can handle it?
Speaker 1 (02:33):
When you allow your young children to date, you are
putting so much unnecessary stress on them. Your young children
should shouldn't be trying to date. They should be trying
to get through school. And I understand when children get
(02:53):
older and they get into high school, you know their
little hormones are going and this and that, and you
know that's life. But you, as the parent, you still
have to instill right and wrong in your children. You
don't let your children dictate to you. You dictate to
(03:14):
your children as adults. But unfortunately, unfortunately, so many.
Speaker 2 (03:22):
Broken people are parents. And you already know.
Speaker 1 (03:26):
Broken people are those with unhealed hearts and minds who
should many shouldn't have never had children because all they
do is project onto their children. So you have these children.
Speaker 3 (03:37):
Then you let these children control you.
Speaker 1 (03:42):
You're so busy trying to be their friends that you
let them do whatever they want to do. And now
they're eleven and twelve years old, you have no control
over them. They're having all kinds of unprotected sex. They're
(04:03):
wilding out because they have no structure or discipline or
boundaries because you didn't say any and you expect these
young kids to be able to handle the pressures.
Speaker 2 (04:19):
Of rejection and breakup.
Speaker 1 (04:27):
It's terrible, terrible, terrible decisions, terrible parenting.
Speaker 2 (04:33):
I stand on that.
Speaker 1 (04:37):
When children get to be the age of sixteen, seventeen
years old, I understand, like I said.
Speaker 2 (04:43):
Earlier, they have their little hormones. They see someone. Uh,
he's so cute, he's so handful, she's so pretty, She's fine.
I get that.
Speaker 1 (04:53):
I get that, But as a parent, if your child
it's interested in someone else at a young age, and
I'm speaking when I say sixteen and seventeen, I'm giving
them grace. But still yet you must keep their focus
(05:13):
on school, ambition, and goals, because see, one day they're
gonna leave home, nobody gonna take care of them, So
you gotta instill those things in them. But when you
allow them to date, now they got all of this
mess that they have to deal with on top of
(05:35):
trying to get through school, trying to concentrate on what
they're gonna do with their lives.
Speaker 2 (05:43):
Now they're stuck on I.
Speaker 1 (05:46):
Love him so but I love him, I love her man,
I love that woman. You don't even love yourself because
if you did, you with know priorities should be getting
through schoo so you can be a person who can
take care of yourself and maybe a family if you
(06:06):
have one. You put too many pressures on pressures on
your children when you allow.
Speaker 2 (06:15):
Them to date at very young ages.
Speaker 1 (06:19):
Because again, if you can't handle it as an adult,
how you expect the children to handle break up and
all of that.
Speaker 2 (06:28):
They can't.
Speaker 1 (06:29):
They struggle. Some of them go so into themselves, they
go so deep into darkness. Then they turn to doing
wicked and evil things because they're so broken hearted because
of their felt relationships. That's too much pressure for children.
(06:55):
I don't care if they're sixteen or seventeen, they're still children.
I'm not against individuals in high school. Hear me, high
school who wants to go to the movies with a
friend or something like that.
Speaker 2 (07:13):
But I'm taking you and I'll be there to pick
you up.
Speaker 1 (07:21):
Now. If you are senior or whatever, fine, but disobey
the time that.
Speaker 2 (07:30):
You bring the child home. That's it.
Speaker 1 (07:34):
You have to set rules, you have to set standards,
you have to set boundaries. You have to make sure
you have structure and discipline. That's just the truth. And
that's why a lot of kids they get out and
(07:54):
what they gravitate towards Burger King, MacDonald's, Zaxby's, Wingstop, Kroger Publics.
Speaker 2 (08:10):
Listen. I'm not against working at those places.
Speaker 1 (08:14):
I'm not.
Speaker 2 (08:17):
I'm not.
Speaker 1 (08:18):
But it's about the mindset. It's about what you instill.
If you don't pour into your children.
Speaker 2 (08:31):
The world will.
Speaker 1 (08:34):
Gladly, the world will and it will not be good.
It will not be good. You have children who have
struggles at home because they have piss poor parents. I'm
just gonna tell you like it is. Alcoholics, drug addicts.
(08:57):
They been abused in every single way you can imagine,
and then on top of it, they allowed to date
and do whatever they want to do. It's too much,
too much, too much, precious, too much. People don't understand
(09:17):
the devastation they cause their children when they allow them
to do things that they shouldn't do as children. They
don't understand the devastation they cause their children when they
project their unhealed hearts and minds, all of their negativity
onto their children.
Speaker 2 (09:42):
It's a shame. Nothing can come out of it, but dysfunction. Nothing.
Speaker 1 (09:51):
I know a lot of people they get married very young,
think they're in love, get married.
Speaker 2 (09:57):
Some people stay together forever, but they're mere the whole time.
Speaker 1 (10:02):
A lot of people are miserable. They go through hell
to remain in their relationships because they feel, oh, we
were high school sweethearts. We're supposed to be together until death,
and some take it literally. So the moral of this
(10:27):
episode is to be very cautious and careful of what
you allow your young child to do. Any parent that's
allowing their children today at eleven and twelve and thirteen
fourteen years old.
Speaker 2 (10:45):
Something is wrong.
Speaker 1 (10:47):
Something is wrong with that parenting, Something is wrong with
that parent. To me, they are of unheal hearts and
minds because they don't understand saying the pressures that they're
putting on their children when they allow them to do that.
Speaker 2 (11:06):
At such early age.
Speaker 1 (11:11):
You may not agree with me, and I understand that
you don't agree with me, because I clearly know the
mindset that you have. If you don't agree, I want
anyone who don't agree to tell me what good comes
out of that. When you allow your eleven, twelve, thirteen, fourteen,
(11:34):
fifteen year olds to think.
Speaker 2 (11:36):
They're in love, Tell me that it don't.
Speaker 1 (11:40):
Cause stress, headache, and heartache and pain in their lives.
Speaker 2 (11:45):
Tell me, because if you say that it's all.
Speaker 1 (11:50):
Good, that's a lie because children don't know how to
process things like adults. Heck, adults don't even know how
to process it. That's what I don't get. How do
you think your children gonna be able to handle it
when you can't even handle it.
Speaker 2 (12:10):
If you can handle it, you will know better.
Speaker 1 (12:14):
You will know better, and you wouldn't be allowing it.
You wouldn't be allowing it. A lot of people allow
it because, hey, just let them do what they want
to do as long as they're out of my hair.
Let them do what they want to do, because I
don't want to hear their mouths.
Speaker 3 (12:35):
No yet, No, Now you're wondering how your twelve year
old is pregnant because you allow them to come in
and they let them at twelve o'clock at night.
Speaker 1 (12:51):
You're letting your you're letting your young teenagers date older men.
Who's controlling them, no doubt.
Speaker 2 (13:05):
I mean it's who we are living in.
Speaker 1 (13:12):
Some messy, horrible, dark, wicked, evil times. People don't think
for themselves. All they do is go alone, to get alone,
to be long and project their pain. All they do
is parrot and regurgitate everything they hear. No one is
(13:33):
thinking for themselves, no one is doing any research. Everybody
is remaining the same. It's horrible, it's horrible. These children
don't have a chance, as they say, a snowball chance
in hell. Nowadays, they just don't. They just don't. Yet
(13:54):
people are still bringing them into this world. I mean,
you thein't do what you want to do. But all
I know is mortgage is.
Speaker 2 (14:03):
High, rent is high, cars is high, food is high,
and everything is high.
Speaker 1 (14:11):
And now they're taking away everything. So I don't know
how people's gonna manage. I'm glad I got mine out
the way way back and now they're grown all grown
up because these days in times uh never never never
(14:33):
never never never never would I but hey, everybody do
what they wanna do. I'm just saying, when you see
there's no change in your life, you the problem. You
the problem. Boo boo, You are the problem. Stop projecting
(14:55):
on your children. Be the parent that they deserve, Be
the nurture that they deserve, not someone who just letting
them do whatever they want to do, because kids can't
handle that.
Speaker 2 (15:08):
And that's all I'm saying. I'm leaving it right there.
Thank you for listening. Much love. Please share this episode.
Speaker 1 (15:15):
I end all episodes the same, and I hope and
pray you do it.
Speaker 2 (15:22):
Thank going it
Hey, I'm back with something for you you and.
Speaker 2 (00:10):
You to think about today.
Speaker 1 (00:14):
I want to talk to you about allowing your young
children to date. Some of you may not believe this,
but I have dealt with parents who have let their
children date as young as eleven and twelve eleven and
(00:38):
twelve years old. See, you have to train up children
when they're very little, like from the wound. You have
to start training children when your baby is born into
this world. You don't let your baby dictate to you
a schedule. You put the baby on the schedule. But
many people don't. They just cool and card over their baby,
(01:02):
and the next thing they know, they're stressed the heck
out because they can't get any sleep or any rest
because they've allowed that child to dictate to them that schedule.
Speaker 2 (01:13):
So whatever you allow your children to do, just.
Speaker 1 (01:17):
Like anyone else, it doesn't matter who it is, your
significant other, your parents, friends, relatives, other people.
Speaker 2 (01:28):
Does not matter who it is.
Speaker 1 (01:30):
However you've taught them to treat you, it is exactly
how you will be treated. So you have parents who
are allowing their young children to date. And I'm sorry
to say this, but it is one of the reasons.
(01:50):
It's not the reason, but it's one of the reasons
that lead young children to commit suicide. They can't handle
that kind of pressure. They cannot handle that kind of pressure.
I want you to think about it. Adults can't handle
that kind of pressure being in relationships, getting rejected, breakups.
(02:17):
Adults cannot handle that type of pressure. Grown people kill
each other, Grown people kill their significant others because of breakups.
Speaker 2 (02:28):
How do you think children can handle it?
Speaker 1 (02:33):
When you allow your young children to date, you are
putting so much unnecessary stress on them. Your young children
should shouldn't be trying to date. They should be trying
to get through school. And I understand when children get
(02:53):
older and they get into high school, you know their
little hormones are going and this and that, and you
know that's life. But you, as the parent, you still
have to instill right and wrong in your children. You
don't let your children dictate to you. You dictate to
(03:14):
your children as adults. But unfortunately, unfortunately, so many.
Speaker 2 (03:22):
Broken people are parents. And you already know.
Speaker 1 (03:26):
Broken people are those with unhealed hearts and minds who
should many shouldn't have never had children because all they
do is project onto their children. So you have these children.
Speaker 3 (03:37):
Then you let these children control you.
Speaker 1 (03:42):
You're so busy trying to be their friends that you
let them do whatever they want to do. And now
they're eleven and twelve years old, you have no control
over them. They're having all kinds of unprotected sex. They're
(04:03):
wilding out because they have no structure or discipline or
boundaries because you didn't say any and you expect these
young kids to be able to handle the pressures.
Speaker 2 (04:19):
Of rejection and breakup.
Speaker 1 (04:27):
It's terrible, terrible, terrible decisions, terrible parenting.
Speaker 2 (04:33):
I stand on that.
Speaker 1 (04:37):
When children get to be the age of sixteen, seventeen
years old, I understand, like I said.
Speaker 2 (04:43):
Earlier, they have their little hormones. They see someone. Uh,
he's so cute, he's so handful, she's so pretty, She's fine.
I get that.
Speaker 1 (04:53):
I get that, But as a parent, if your child
it's interested in someone else at a young age, and
I'm speaking when I say sixteen and seventeen, I'm giving
them grace. But still yet you must keep their focus
(05:13):
on school, ambition, and goals, because see, one day they're
gonna leave home, nobody gonna take care of them, So
you gotta instill those things in them. But when you
allow them to date, now they got all of this
mess that they have to deal with on top of
(05:35):
trying to get through school, trying to concentrate on what
they're gonna do with their lives.
Speaker 2 (05:43):
Now they're stuck on I.
Speaker 1 (05:46):
Love him so but I love him, I love her man,
I love that woman. You don't even love yourself because
if you did, you with know priorities should be getting
through schoo so you can be a person who can
take care of yourself and maybe a family if you
(06:06):
have one. You put too many pressures on pressures on
your children when you allow.
Speaker 2 (06:15):
Them to date at very young ages.
Speaker 1 (06:19):
Because again, if you can't handle it as an adult,
how you expect the children to handle break up and
all of that.
Speaker 2 (06:28):
They can't.
Speaker 1 (06:29):
They struggle. Some of them go so into themselves, they
go so deep into darkness. Then they turn to doing
wicked and evil things because they're so broken hearted because
of their felt relationships. That's too much pressure for children.
(06:55):
I don't care if they're sixteen or seventeen, they're still children.
I'm not against individuals in high school. Hear me, high
school who wants to go to the movies with a
friend or something like that.
Speaker 2 (07:13):
But I'm taking you and I'll be there to pick
you up.
Speaker 1 (07:21):
Now. If you are senior or whatever, fine, but disobey
the time that.
Speaker 2 (07:30):
You bring the child home. That's it.
Speaker 1 (07:34):
You have to set rules, you have to set standards,
you have to set boundaries. You have to make sure
you have structure and discipline. That's just the truth. And
that's why a lot of kids they get out and
(07:54):
what they gravitate towards Burger King, MacDonald's, Zaxby's, Wingstop, Kroger Publics.
Speaker 2 (08:10):
Listen. I'm not against working at those places.
Speaker 1 (08:14):
I'm not.
Speaker 2 (08:17):
I'm not.
Speaker 1 (08:18):
But it's about the mindset. It's about what you instill.
If you don't pour into your children.
Speaker 2 (08:31):
The world will.
Speaker 1 (08:34):
Gladly, the world will and it will not be good.
It will not be good. You have children who have
struggles at home because they have piss poor parents. I'm
just gonna tell you like it is. Alcoholics, drug addicts.
(08:57):
They been abused in every single way you can imagine,
and then on top of it, they allowed to date
and do whatever they want to do. It's too much,
too much, too much, precious, too much. People don't understand
(09:17):
the devastation they cause their children when they allow them
to do things that they shouldn't do as children. They
don't understand the devastation they cause their children when they
project their unhealed hearts and minds, all of their negativity
onto their children.
Speaker 2 (09:42):
It's a shame. Nothing can come out of it, but dysfunction. Nothing.
Speaker 1 (09:51):
I know a lot of people they get married very young,
think they're in love, get married.
Speaker 2 (09:57):
Some people stay together forever, but they're mere the whole time.
Speaker 1 (10:02):
A lot of people are miserable. They go through hell
to remain in their relationships because they feel, oh, we
were high school sweethearts. We're supposed to be together until death,
and some take it literally. So the moral of this
(10:27):
episode is to be very cautious and careful of what
you allow your young child to do. Any parent that's
allowing their children today at eleven and twelve and thirteen
fourteen years old.
Speaker 2 (10:45):
Something is wrong.
Speaker 1 (10:47):
Something is wrong with that parenting, Something is wrong with
that parent. To me, they are of unheal hearts and
minds because they don't understand saying the pressures that they're
putting on their children when they allow them to do that.
Speaker 2 (11:06):
At such early age.
Speaker 1 (11:11):
You may not agree with me, and I understand that
you don't agree with me, because I clearly know the
mindset that you have. If you don't agree, I want
anyone who don't agree to tell me what good comes
out of that. When you allow your eleven, twelve, thirteen, fourteen,
(11:34):
fifteen year olds to think.
Speaker 2 (11:36):
They're in love, Tell me that it don't.
Speaker 1 (11:40):
Cause stress, headache, and heartache and pain in their lives.
Speaker 2 (11:45):
Tell me, because if you say that it's all.
Speaker 1 (11:50):
Good, that's a lie because children don't know how to
process things like adults. Heck, adults don't even know how
to process it. That's what I don't get. How do
you think your children gonna be able to handle it
when you can't even handle it.
Speaker 2 (12:10):
If you can handle it, you will know better.
Speaker 1 (12:14):
You will know better, and you wouldn't be allowing it.
You wouldn't be allowing it. A lot of people allow
it because, hey, just let them do what they want
to do as long as they're out of my hair.
Let them do what they want to do, because I
don't want to hear their mouths.
Speaker 3 (12:35):
No yet, No, Now you're wondering how your twelve year
old is pregnant because you allow them to come in
and they let them at twelve o'clock at night.
Speaker 1 (12:51):
You're letting your you're letting your young teenagers date older men.
Who's controlling them, no doubt.
Speaker 2 (13:05):
I mean it's who we are living in.
Speaker 1 (13:12):
Some messy, horrible, dark, wicked, evil times. People don't think
for themselves. All they do is go alone, to get alone,
to be long and project their pain. All they do
is parrot and regurgitate everything they hear. No one is
(13:33):
thinking for themselves, no one is doing any research. Everybody
is remaining the same. It's horrible, it's horrible. These children
don't have a chance, as they say, a snowball chance
in hell. Nowadays, they just don't. They just don't. Yet
(13:54):
people are still bringing them into this world. I mean,
you thein't do what you want to do. But all
I know is mortgage is.
Speaker 2 (14:03):
High, rent is high, cars is high, food is high,
and everything is high.
Speaker 1 (14:11):
And now they're taking away everything. So I don't know
how people's gonna manage. I'm glad I got mine out
the way way back and now they're grown all grown
up because these days in times uh never never never
(14:33):
never never never never would I but hey, everybody do
what they wanna do. I'm just saying, when you see
there's no change in your life, you the problem. You
the problem. Boo boo, You are the problem. Stop projecting
(14:55):
on your children. Be the parent that they deserve, Be
the nurture that they deserve, not someone who just letting
them do whatever they want to do, because kids can't
handle that.
Speaker 2 (15:08):
And that's all I'm saying. I'm leaving it right there.
Thank you for listening. Much love. Please share this episode.
Speaker 1 (15:15):
I end all episodes the same, and I hope and
pray you do it.
Speaker 2 (15:22):
Thank going it
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