November 20, 2025 • 28 mins
It's unfair to require such high standards from a man when you can't give to him what you require from him. It's not about having equal to him, but you should have some of what you're requiring because in a relationship the man needs fulfillment just as the woman does. It's not fair to look for what you can't give and it's delusional to do so. Women want to follow society saying a man should take care of a woman but fail to realize societies are filled with broken/unhealed people who are immature and don't think realistically. There's nothing wrong with wanting someone to have his own, but you should have yours too! Just as he should enhance your life, you should enhance his, it shouldn't be one-way!
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Speaker 1 (00:01):
Hey, hey, Hey, I'm back.
Speaker 2 (00:04):
With something for you to think about. Listen.
Speaker 1 (00:11):
I know people are gonna be offended by this episode.
Some people, but that's fine.
Speaker 2 (00:19):
I get it.
Speaker 1 (00:20):
The truth hurts. I know that, but I still have
to give it to you because I'm not here for
likes and all of that. I care less. I'm here
to tell you the truth.
Speaker 2 (00:30):
Not what you wanna hear, possibly, but the truth. We
the people.
Speaker 1 (00:38):
When I say we the people, I'm speaking all people
all around the world have been brainwashed, bamboozled, in condition
to believe things that are just not true. But this episode,
I'm particularly talking to immature women specifically, but it also
(01:08):
involves immature men.
Speaker 2 (01:12):
Okay, in mature women.
Speaker 1 (01:16):
Specifically, but it also involves immature men. Society have taught
women that men take care of women. Now, if you're
a godly person, if you're a godly man, there is
an order.
Speaker 2 (01:36):
I'm speaking only about a godly man. There is an
order for men. Men, then women and so forth.
Speaker 1 (01:50):
But let's just talk about immature women. In immature men,
but specifically women. You believe that.
Speaker 2 (02:07):
A man is supposed to take care of you as
a woman. That's what you've been taught.
Speaker 1 (02:17):
But some of you have not been taught to take
care of yourself, and that's the problem right there. One
thing that is so delusional is for a person to
have the audacity and the nerve to open their mouth
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to say what a man should do for her when
she can't do that for herself. And I know some
women say, well, it's not that I can't do it. Well,
if you can do it, you shouldn't be arguing with
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a man back.
Speaker 2 (03:05):
And forth if you can do it for yourself.
Speaker 1 (03:11):
I think one of the most delusional things is for
a woman to have all of these requirements for a
man that she cannot present as a woman.
Speaker 2 (03:29):
That's my opinion. That's how I feel.
Speaker 1 (03:33):
If you cannot bring to the table what you're looking for, then.
Speaker 2 (03:40):
Don't expect it.
Speaker 1 (03:44):
These women, and I'm speaking specifically immature women. I know
they think they're mature, and I'm not trying to talk
about people in a negative way. I'm just telling you
the truth. Most people think they are mature, but they're not.
But these women in particular, they want these men to
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have these six figures, seven figures, drive certain cars and
this and that, but they do not make six or
seven figures some of them don't even have a car.
Speaker 2 (04:26):
That is delusional.
Speaker 1 (04:29):
I am a woman, and I'm telling you that is
immaturity and delusional. It is I'm not trying to put
anybody down in any way. I'm just telling you the truth.
You are delusional, because how dare you to expect for
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a man to have all of these things when you
yourself don't have any of them?
Speaker 2 (05:03):
That is delusional.
Speaker 1 (05:06):
You wanna be happy, you want to be satisfied.
Speaker 2 (05:11):
Well don't you think he want the same thing.
Speaker 1 (05:16):
Why do some women think it's okay to go off
on a man because they met a man and on
the first date they bring it their.
Speaker 2 (05:29):
Children on the date to be fed along.
Speaker 1 (05:35):
With a woman. That is just that's ridiculous. That is ridiculous. Hey,
I get it, if you're gonna be with me, it's
a package deal.
Speaker 2 (05:47):
As a woman, I get that. But you're not together.
Speaker 1 (05:54):
You're just on a date, a first date, and you
bring your children. That's crazy. That is immaturity at its finest.
Clearly people don't understand.
Speaker 2 (06:11):
And they don't know any better.
Speaker 1 (06:14):
You don't bring your children on around a man that
you don't even know on the first date. That's crazy
and it's unsafe because you don't know who you're getting
involved with. He could be a straight lunatic or serial killer,
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a child molest anything. And you bring your children on
the first date because you want them to be fed.
Speaker 2 (06:41):
That is delusional.
Speaker 1 (06:45):
That's not good parenting. And like I said, I know
some women are gonna be mad about it, but.
Speaker 2 (06:51):
It's the truth.
Speaker 1 (06:53):
That is not good parenting and it's very, very unsafe.
You should never bring your children around a man when
you first meet him, and vice versa.
Speaker 2 (07:07):
You should not do that. That is unsafe.
Speaker 1 (07:12):
And to expect a man to pay for you and
your children, that's just that's ludicrous. Then you have women,
they go meet these guys on the first date, they're
asking for money. On the second or third day, they
expect the man to pay their bills.
Speaker 2 (07:31):
You completely lost your mind. I mean completely.
Speaker 1 (07:39):
And any man who sit and argue with a woman
going back and forth about any of this, it's clear
you are immature too, because.
Speaker 2 (07:56):
A grown mature man he don't have.
Speaker 1 (07:59):
Time for this foolishness, and a grown mature woman will
never conduct herself that way. See, people think that individuals
are mature because of their accomplishments. You know what they have,
how they look, how they dress. That has nothing, nothing
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at all to do with maturity, nothing at all.
Speaker 2 (08:27):
And to think so it's clear.
Speaker 1 (08:32):
You're not mature. It's clear, very very clear. None of
that those things has nothing to do with whether a
person is mature or not. So if you go out
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on a date, the first date and this woman shows
up with her kids, you shouldn't even entertain that at all.
You just you should just be polite as a man
and say, look, this is not what I expected and
I'm not here to entertain you or your children, and
I really don't even feel comfortable with you having your
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children here, and just leave. You should not go back
and forth at all. To do so says you're immature
as a man. Because you shouldn't entertain that.
Speaker 2 (09:30):
That's foolish.
Speaker 1 (09:31):
This And if a woman asks you for money right away, run,
If she asks you for money anytime soon, run because
she's letting you know she don't have any.
Speaker 2 (09:49):
Simple and vice versa. If he asks you.
Speaker 1 (09:55):
For money right away, run because that's telling you he
you don't have any. I know. Some people say, well,
he may be playing a game or she may be
playing a game. To see if I would give it
to him or her. Run because you shouldn't be in
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the game playing business. Run. I'm telling you, people show
you who they are, but if you don't have eyes
to see, you'll miss it. You will miss it up
you don't have eyes to see. No one should be
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asking you for anything when they first meet you. When
you get in a relationship and get to know a person,
they should know you well enough.
Speaker 2 (10:51):
You should know them well enough, and if by chance.
Speaker 1 (11:02):
They need something, you should know them well enough to
know they must really need it.
Speaker 2 (11:09):
But all of it is a sign, all of it.
Speaker 1 (11:14):
Stop getting into relationships looking for a man to take
care of you. Some of you want a man to
take care of you. Yet you don't have a job.
You don't keep the house clean, you don't feed the kids,
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I mean none of the things. You don't do anything
to bring to the table. You don't do anything. You
just sit back and wanna be taken care of. He
must do my nails, and he must do my feet,
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you know, not do them, but get them done. No,
get your own nails and feet done. If a man
loves you, yes, he will do those things if he
loves you.
Speaker 2 (12:11):
But he don't have to do them.
Speaker 1 (12:13):
He'll do them because he loves you, he's in love
with you, not because he have to, and certainly not
on a first, second, third date. That's delusional. That is wild,
very wild. But yet I'm seeing over.
Speaker 2 (12:35):
And over and over and over and.
Speaker 1 (12:36):
Over women having these expectancies, yet they bring nothing to
the table.
Speaker 2 (12:43):
It's crazy.
Speaker 1 (12:44):
I heard somebody say, how dare you ask me what
I bring to the table?
Speaker 2 (12:51):
How dare you.
Speaker 1 (12:54):
To require so much of him to be brought to
the when you know you can't match that. It's crazy.
It is the craziest thing to me. I'm not saying
that a woman should have tick for tack. I'm not
saying that he make six figures, you make six figures.
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But what I'm saying is, if you are having these
big requirements, you should be somewhere in the middle. You
can't have these big requirements yet you have nothing to
offer him.
Speaker 2 (13:36):
Just like you want him.
Speaker 1 (13:37):
To have something to offer you, you must have something
to offer him. I'm not talking about no looks, no body,
no sex.
Speaker 2 (13:46):
I'm not none of that. I'm not talking about none
of that.
Speaker 1 (13:52):
I'm talking about what do you offer to the relationship
to build the relationship if that's your goal, because a
lot of women say, oh, I'm not looking just today,
I'm looking for a husband. Okay, it don't change, it's
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still the same. If you require it, you should have it.
So women just need to think about this, these immature women,
because you don't make no sense. You go out, you're
half dressed. If that's your prerogative, that's your prerogative. But
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if it does, sends a message and it's not a
good message. So you go out and you meet these
guys and you, oh, he must have this, he must
have that. When you have two pennies and that's it
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to rub together, you're telling him he has to pay
your rent, he has to pay your card note, and
you want to take him to take care of your children.
Speaker 2 (15:06):
You're a delusional. I even saw where a man.
Speaker 1 (15:13):
Brought I mean, yeah, he brought to his child's mother
food for his child, and she got in a big
argument with him through the food and everything because he
didn't bring.
Speaker 2 (15:29):
Food for the two other children. That is insane, that's insane.
He do not have to take care of your other children.
Speaker 1 (15:39):
Boot That is foolish, That is foolish. If they are
not his, he do not have to take care of
those children. I'm telling you, immature women and immature men
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are delusional. And I see where these men just be
going back and forth, going back and forth, going. No,
you're loring yourself. Don't even entertain that. You pull up
and you see a lady with her children, you just
should keep going. Text her or call her and say,
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I see you there with your children.
Speaker 2 (16:25):
I don't feel comfortable with that.
Speaker 1 (16:27):
You don't know me like that, and I think you
put in your children in an unsafe position. Therefore, I'm
not coming in. Or if you are there, if she
show up, you should leave immediately. Don't engage, don't go
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back and forth. Just say something came up and I
have to excuse myself.
Speaker 2 (16:55):
I apologize and run. Don't get age.
Speaker 1 (17:00):
Don't go back and forth, because when you do, that
says a lot about you as a man.
Speaker 2 (17:09):
It's just the truth.
Speaker 1 (17:10):
I know.
Speaker 2 (17:13):
Somebody won't like it, but it's the truth.
Speaker 1 (17:18):
When a woman shows up with her kids on the
first date, that tells you so much. That tells you
so much, and she has no clue she's putting her
children in unsafe positions.
Speaker 2 (17:38):
It could be, it could be unsafe. Anything could pop
off between the two.
Speaker 1 (17:47):
And women who go out and and and say a
man should pay for the first date as a woman,
I don't think like that. I just don't think like that.
If a man invites me out to dinner.
Speaker 2 (18:01):
The men that I deal with.
Speaker 1 (18:05):
That I would engage with, they would pay for it,
hands down, because that's the caliber of people that I entertained.
So it wouldn't be an issue. But I wouldn't expect that.
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But because I know gentlemen, I know that's what they
would do. But I wouldn't expect that. I wouldn't go
in expecting for him to pay. I go in expecting
for me to pay with my money. Even if he
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invited me. If he paid, that's great. But to go
in excl expecting him to pay, nah. And maybe that's
just me, but that's how I roll. That's how I roll.
If my friend.
Speaker 2 (19:11):
Invite me out, I don't expect for her to pay.
I go with my own money.
Speaker 1 (19:18):
If you go out on a date and you don't
have money to cover your food, you shouldn't go out.
Speaker 2 (19:26):
You shouldn't because you don't know that man. You don't
know what he may or may not do.
Speaker 1 (19:36):
You don't know So you should never ever, as a woman,
go out and expect for the man to pay you
just because pay you pay for your food, just because
he asked you out on a date.
Speaker 2 (19:49):
You should never ever.
Speaker 1 (19:51):
Ever, ever, ever, ever, ever go on a date with
that expectation because it may not happen. And then you're
sitting there arguing and looking like a clown.
Speaker 2 (20:06):
And yelling and just showing who you are, wounding out.
Speaker 1 (20:13):
In the restaurant in front of everybody, and he's sitting
there going back and forth with you, two immature people,
grown people, carrying on when you should have went to
that restaurant with your own money. If he chose to
pay for it, great, but you ate that food. You
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should be able to pay for that food. And if
he said, well, I didn't come expecting to pay for
your food.
Speaker 2 (20:50):
Then don't ever go back on the day with him again.
Speaker 1 (20:53):
Simple, It's no reason to get been out of shape act,
you know, crazy.
Speaker 2 (21:03):
Just don't go out on a date with him again.
Don't go out on a date with her again. Simple.
Speaker 1 (21:12):
But I'm telling you women, immature women, they're delusion of
the things I've seen, it's shameful. But what I don't
like is men, immature men who put all women in
the same boat.
Speaker 2 (21:29):
We are not all the same. That's a lie.
Speaker 1 (21:35):
You have the mature and you have the immature period,
and we do not think and act the same. And
even when I was less mature, I never acted that way,
never never conducted myself that way ever in my entire life.
Speaker 2 (22:02):
Never As a woman.
Speaker 1 (22:05):
You're supposed to carry yourself a certain way, all of
that cursing and just acting ratchet. And I'm not speaking
of any particular race, because I've seen all races do it,
all races of women, all races. So I'll go back
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to what I was saying. If you cannot afford to
pay for your own food, then maybe you shouldn't go
out start with the expectations because they're irrational and they're very,
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very delusional. You're telling the man after the second date
or the third date, that he gotta pay your rent,
he gotta pay you your bills.
Speaker 2 (23:06):
Are you crazy?
Speaker 1 (23:11):
That's on you have your giving yourself up to him.
That's on you if you're doing that, because if you
give it up, he's gonna take it. You should honor
your body better than that. Millions upon millions of people
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think they are mature, but they're not because they have
so much unhealed inside. Their mindsets have not matured to
the levels that they should be. And some people are
very old and still with the same stagnant mindset. I know.
Speaker 2 (24:02):
That people won't like it.
Speaker 1 (24:06):
Many people won't like what I'm saying because they are
those people I'm talking about.
Speaker 2 (24:10):
This is.
Speaker 1 (24:12):
Something that needs to be said. It's ridiculous. It is
embarrassing as a woman. It's shameful to see women conducting
themselves this way.
Speaker 2 (24:27):
Oh, he have to be six five when you five one,
he have to be six five.
Speaker 1 (24:34):
And it's okay to have a preference on height, but
a height should not be a deal breaker. That has
nothing to do with love being in love a person's height.
But I know people have preferences and that's okay, But
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when that's the only.
Speaker 2 (24:59):
Thing, or you have to be six four, he could be.
Speaker 1 (25:03):
This great guy, but he's five five and you lose
out because he has to be six four. Those are
the things I'm talking about. And you have people same
thing with weight. Oh she's too obese, or he's two obese. Well,
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obese people can lose weight if they chose to. People
look at superficial things. I know you want someone who's
pleasing to your eyes, and you should, but if that's
the only thing you're looking at, you may miss out.
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A lot of people will never ever ever meet who
God has intended for them because they're trying to choose
for themselves and they're going off for superficient things that
do not matter.
Speaker 2 (26:02):
And has nothing to do with building a foundation or love.
I had to talk about this.
Speaker 1 (26:14):
I had to, and I've talked about it a little
bit here and there, but I really wanted to talk
about it today because it's just mind blowing the things
I'm seeing women doing and saying and expecting, yet they
have nothing to bring to the table.
Speaker 2 (26:37):
It's insane. You be what you're looking for.
Speaker 1 (26:43):
And like I said, I'm not saying you gotta match
him with how much he make, but you should be
making decent If you expecting knowledge this from him, you
should be at least making decent and stop thinking, oh,
his money is my money and my money is my money. No,
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he enhanced your life, you enhance his life.
Speaker 2 (27:16):
That's the way it's supposed to be.
Speaker 1 (27:22):
Grow up. Get out of that delusion on state, because
that's what it is. A state of delusion. It's not reality,
and men, stop stressing yourselves when you go along and engage.
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That's telling you you not as mature as you think
you are. So again, I want to talk about it.
Take from it what you will. You know, I'm just
putting it out there. Thank you for listening, Please share
much love. I end all episodes the same and I
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pray you do it.
Speaker 2 (28:10):
Thank on it
Hey, hey, Hey, I'm back.
Speaker 2 (00:04):
With something for you to think about. Listen.
Speaker 1 (00:11):
I know people are gonna be offended by this episode.
Some people, but that's fine.
Speaker 2 (00:19):
I get it.
Speaker 1 (00:20):
The truth hurts. I know that, but I still have
to give it to you because I'm not here for
likes and all of that. I care less. I'm here
to tell you the truth.
Speaker 2 (00:30):
Not what you wanna hear, possibly, but the truth. We
the people.
Speaker 1 (00:38):
When I say we the people, I'm speaking all people
all around the world have been brainwashed, bamboozled, in condition
to believe things that are just not true. But this episode,
I'm particularly talking to immature women specifically, but it also
(01:08):
involves immature men.
Speaker 2 (01:12):
Okay, in mature women.
Speaker 1 (01:16):
Specifically, but it also involves immature men. Society have taught
women that men take care of women. Now, if you're
a godly person, if you're a godly man, there is
an order.
Speaker 2 (01:36):
I'm speaking only about a godly man. There is an
order for men. Men, then women and so forth.
Speaker 1 (01:50):
But let's just talk about immature women. In immature men,
but specifically women. You believe that.
Speaker 2 (02:07):
A man is supposed to take care of you as
a woman. That's what you've been taught.
Speaker 1 (02:17):
But some of you have not been taught to take
care of yourself, and that's the problem right there. One
thing that is so delusional is for a person to
have the audacity and the nerve to open their mouth
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to say what a man should do for her when
she can't do that for herself. And I know some
women say, well, it's not that I can't do it. Well,
if you can do it, you shouldn't be arguing with
(03:04):
a man back.
Speaker 2 (03:05):
And forth if you can do it for yourself.
Speaker 1 (03:11):
I think one of the most delusional things is for
a woman to have all of these requirements for a
man that she cannot present as a woman.
Speaker 2 (03:29):
That's my opinion. That's how I feel.
Speaker 1 (03:33):
If you cannot bring to the table what you're looking for, then.
Speaker 2 (03:40):
Don't expect it.
Speaker 1 (03:44):
These women, and I'm speaking specifically immature women. I know
they think they're mature, and I'm not trying to talk
about people in a negative way. I'm just telling you
the truth. Most people think they are mature, but they're not.
But these women in particular, they want these men to
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have these six figures, seven figures, drive certain cars and
this and that, but they do not make six or
seven figures some of them don't even have a car.
Speaker 2 (04:26):
That is delusional.
Speaker 1 (04:29):
I am a woman, and I'm telling you that is
immaturity and delusional. It is I'm not trying to put
anybody down in any way. I'm just telling you the truth.
You are delusional, because how dare you to expect for
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a man to have all of these things when you
yourself don't have any of them?
Speaker 2 (05:03):
That is delusional.
Speaker 1 (05:06):
You wanna be happy, you want to be satisfied.
Speaker 2 (05:11):
Well don't you think he want the same thing.
Speaker 1 (05:16):
Why do some women think it's okay to go off
on a man because they met a man and on
the first date they bring it their.
Speaker 2 (05:29):
Children on the date to be fed along.
Speaker 1 (05:35):
With a woman. That is just that's ridiculous. That is ridiculous. Hey,
I get it, if you're gonna be with me, it's
a package deal.
Speaker 2 (05:47):
As a woman, I get that. But you're not together.
Speaker 1 (05:54):
You're just on a date, a first date, and you
bring your children. That's crazy. That is immaturity at its finest.
Clearly people don't understand.
Speaker 2 (06:11):
And they don't know any better.
Speaker 1 (06:14):
You don't bring your children on around a man that
you don't even know on the first date. That's crazy
and it's unsafe because you don't know who you're getting
involved with. He could be a straight lunatic or serial killer,
(06:34):
a child molest anything. And you bring your children on
the first date because you want them to be fed.
Speaker 2 (06:41):
That is delusional.
Speaker 1 (06:45):
That's not good parenting. And like I said, I know
some women are gonna be mad about it, but.
Speaker 2 (06:51):
It's the truth.
Speaker 1 (06:53):
That is not good parenting and it's very, very unsafe.
You should never bring your children around a man when
you first meet him, and vice versa.
Speaker 2 (07:07):
You should not do that. That is unsafe.
Speaker 1 (07:12):
And to expect a man to pay for you and
your children, that's just that's ludicrous. Then you have women,
they go meet these guys on the first date, they're
asking for money. On the second or third day, they
expect the man to pay their bills.
Speaker 2 (07:31):
You completely lost your mind. I mean completely.
Speaker 1 (07:39):
And any man who sit and argue with a woman
going back and forth about any of this, it's clear
you are immature too, because.
Speaker 2 (07:56):
A grown mature man he don't have.
Speaker 1 (07:59):
Time for this foolishness, and a grown mature woman will
never conduct herself that way. See, people think that individuals
are mature because of their accomplishments. You know what they have,
how they look, how they dress. That has nothing, nothing
(08:22):
at all to do with maturity, nothing at all.
Speaker 2 (08:27):
And to think so it's clear.
Speaker 1 (08:32):
You're not mature. It's clear, very very clear. None of
that those things has nothing to do with whether a
person is mature or not. So if you go out
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on a date, the first date and this woman shows
up with her kids, you shouldn't even entertain that at all.
You just you should just be polite as a man
and say, look, this is not what I expected and
I'm not here to entertain you or your children, and
I really don't even feel comfortable with you having your
(09:15):
children here, and just leave. You should not go back
and forth at all. To do so says you're immature
as a man. Because you shouldn't entertain that.
Speaker 2 (09:30):
That's foolish.
Speaker 1 (09:31):
This And if a woman asks you for money right away, run,
If she asks you for money anytime soon, run because
she's letting you know she don't have any.
Speaker 2 (09:49):
Simple and vice versa. If he asks you.
Speaker 1 (09:55):
For money right away, run because that's telling you he
you don't have any. I know. Some people say, well,
he may be playing a game or she may be
playing a game. To see if I would give it
to him or her. Run because you shouldn't be in
(10:16):
the game playing business. Run. I'm telling you, people show
you who they are, but if you don't have eyes
to see, you'll miss it. You will miss it up
you don't have eyes to see. No one should be
(10:37):
asking you for anything when they first meet you. When
you get in a relationship and get to know a person,
they should know you well enough.
Speaker 2 (10:51):
You should know them well enough, and if by chance.
Speaker 1 (11:02):
They need something, you should know them well enough to
know they must really need it.
Speaker 2 (11:09):
But all of it is a sign, all of it.
Speaker 1 (11:14):
Stop getting into relationships looking for a man to take
care of you. Some of you want a man to
take care of you. Yet you don't have a job.
You don't keep the house clean, you don't feed the kids,
(11:35):
I mean none of the things. You don't do anything
to bring to the table. You don't do anything. You
just sit back and wanna be taken care of. He
must do my nails, and he must do my feet,
(11:56):
you know, not do them, but get them done. No,
get your own nails and feet done. If a man
loves you, yes, he will do those things if he
loves you.
Speaker 2 (12:11):
But he don't have to do them.
Speaker 1 (12:13):
He'll do them because he loves you, he's in love
with you, not because he have to, and certainly not
on a first, second, third date. That's delusional. That is wild,
very wild. But yet I'm seeing over.
Speaker 2 (12:35):
And over and over and over and.
Speaker 1 (12:36):
Over women having these expectancies, yet they bring nothing to
the table.
Speaker 2 (12:43):
It's crazy.
Speaker 1 (12:44):
I heard somebody say, how dare you ask me what
I bring to the table?
Speaker 2 (12:51):
How dare you.
Speaker 1 (12:54):
To require so much of him to be brought to
the when you know you can't match that. It's crazy.
It is the craziest thing to me. I'm not saying
that a woman should have tick for tack. I'm not
saying that he make six figures, you make six figures.
(13:17):
But what I'm saying is, if you are having these
big requirements, you should be somewhere in the middle. You
can't have these big requirements yet you have nothing to
offer him.
Speaker 2 (13:36):
Just like you want him.
Speaker 1 (13:37):
To have something to offer you, you must have something
to offer him. I'm not talking about no looks, no body,
no sex.
Speaker 2 (13:46):
I'm not none of that. I'm not talking about none
of that.
Speaker 1 (13:52):
I'm talking about what do you offer to the relationship
to build the relationship if that's your goal, because a
lot of women say, oh, I'm not looking just today,
I'm looking for a husband. Okay, it don't change, it's
(14:12):
still the same. If you require it, you should have it.
So women just need to think about this, these immature women,
because you don't make no sense. You go out, you're
half dressed. If that's your prerogative, that's your prerogative. But
(14:34):
if it does, sends a message and it's not a
good message. So you go out and you meet these
guys and you, oh, he must have this, he must
have that. When you have two pennies and that's it
(14:54):
to rub together, you're telling him he has to pay
your rent, he has to pay your card note, and
you want to take him to take care of your children.
Speaker 2 (15:06):
You're a delusional. I even saw where a man.
Speaker 1 (15:13):
Brought I mean, yeah, he brought to his child's mother
food for his child, and she got in a big
argument with him through the food and everything because he
didn't bring.
Speaker 2 (15:29):
Food for the two other children. That is insane, that's insane.
He do not have to take care of your other children.
Speaker 1 (15:39):
Boot That is foolish, That is foolish. If they are
not his, he do not have to take care of
those children. I'm telling you, immature women and immature men
(16:00):
are delusional. And I see where these men just be
going back and forth, going back and forth, going. No,
you're loring yourself. Don't even entertain that. You pull up
and you see a lady with her children, you just
should keep going. Text her or call her and say,
(16:23):
I see you there with your children.
Speaker 2 (16:25):
I don't feel comfortable with that.
Speaker 1 (16:27):
You don't know me like that, and I think you
put in your children in an unsafe position. Therefore, I'm
not coming in. Or if you are there, if she
show up, you should leave immediately. Don't engage, don't go
(16:48):
back and forth. Just say something came up and I
have to excuse myself.
Speaker 2 (16:55):
I apologize and run. Don't get age.
Speaker 1 (17:00):
Don't go back and forth, because when you do, that
says a lot about you as a man.
Speaker 2 (17:09):
It's just the truth.
Speaker 1 (17:10):
I know.
Speaker 2 (17:13):
Somebody won't like it, but it's the truth.
Speaker 1 (17:18):
When a woman shows up with her kids on the
first date, that tells you so much. That tells you
so much, and she has no clue she's putting her
children in unsafe positions.
Speaker 2 (17:38):
It could be, it could be unsafe. Anything could pop
off between the two.
Speaker 1 (17:47):
And women who go out and and and say a
man should pay for the first date as a woman,
I don't think like that. I just don't think like that.
If a man invites me out to dinner.
Speaker 2 (18:01):
The men that I deal with.
Speaker 1 (18:05):
That I would engage with, they would pay for it,
hands down, because that's the caliber of people that I entertained.
So it wouldn't be an issue. But I wouldn't expect that.
(18:29):
But because I know gentlemen, I know that's what they
would do. But I wouldn't expect that. I wouldn't go
in expecting for him to pay. I go in expecting
for me to pay with my money. Even if he
(18:51):
invited me. If he paid, that's great. But to go
in excl expecting him to pay, nah. And maybe that's
just me, but that's how I roll. That's how I roll.
If my friend.
Speaker 2 (19:11):
Invite me out, I don't expect for her to pay.
I go with my own money.
Speaker 1 (19:18):
If you go out on a date and you don't
have money to cover your food, you shouldn't go out.
Speaker 2 (19:26):
You shouldn't because you don't know that man. You don't
know what he may or may not do.
Speaker 1 (19:36):
You don't know So you should never ever, as a woman,
go out and expect for the man to pay you
just because pay you pay for your food, just because
he asked you out on a date.
Speaker 2 (19:49):
You should never ever.
Speaker 1 (19:51):
Ever, ever, ever, ever, ever go on a date with
that expectation because it may not happen. And then you're
sitting there arguing and looking like a clown.
Speaker 2 (20:06):
And yelling and just showing who you are, wounding out.
Speaker 1 (20:13):
In the restaurant in front of everybody, and he's sitting
there going back and forth with you, two immature people,
grown people, carrying on when you should have went to
that restaurant with your own money. If he chose to
pay for it, great, but you ate that food. You
(20:39):
should be able to pay for that food. And if
he said, well, I didn't come expecting to pay for
your food.
Speaker 2 (20:50):
Then don't ever go back on the day with him again.
Speaker 1 (20:53):
Simple, It's no reason to get been out of shape act,
you know, crazy.
Speaker 2 (21:03):
Just don't go out on a date with him again.
Don't go out on a date with her again. Simple.
Speaker 1 (21:12):
But I'm telling you women, immature women, they're delusion of
the things I've seen, it's shameful. But what I don't
like is men, immature men who put all women in
the same boat.
Speaker 2 (21:29):
We are not all the same. That's a lie.
Speaker 1 (21:35):
You have the mature and you have the immature period,
and we do not think and act the same. And
even when I was less mature, I never acted that way,
never never conducted myself that way ever in my entire life.
Speaker 2 (22:02):
Never As a woman.
Speaker 1 (22:05):
You're supposed to carry yourself a certain way, all of
that cursing and just acting ratchet. And I'm not speaking
of any particular race, because I've seen all races do it,
all races of women, all races. So I'll go back
(22:28):
to what I was saying. If you cannot afford to
pay for your own food, then maybe you shouldn't go
out start with the expectations because they're irrational and they're very,
(22:49):
very delusional. You're telling the man after the second date
or the third date, that he gotta pay your rent,
he gotta pay you your bills.
Speaker 2 (23:06):
Are you crazy?
Speaker 1 (23:11):
That's on you have your giving yourself up to him.
That's on you if you're doing that, because if you
give it up, he's gonna take it. You should honor
your body better than that. Millions upon millions of people
(23:37):
think they are mature, but they're not because they have
so much unhealed inside. Their mindsets have not matured to
the levels that they should be. And some people are
very old and still with the same stagnant mindset. I know.
Speaker 2 (24:02):
That people won't like it.
Speaker 1 (24:06):
Many people won't like what I'm saying because they are
those people I'm talking about.
Speaker 2 (24:10):
This is.
Speaker 1 (24:12):
Something that needs to be said. It's ridiculous. It is
embarrassing as a woman. It's shameful to see women conducting
themselves this way.
Speaker 2 (24:27):
Oh, he have to be six five when you five one,
he have to be six five.
Speaker 1 (24:34):
And it's okay to have a preference on height, but
a height should not be a deal breaker. That has
nothing to do with love being in love a person's height.
But I know people have preferences and that's okay, But
(24:58):
when that's the only.
Speaker 2 (24:59):
Thing, or you have to be six four, he could be.
Speaker 1 (25:03):
This great guy, but he's five five and you lose
out because he has to be six four. Those are
the things I'm talking about. And you have people same
thing with weight. Oh she's too obese, or he's two obese. Well,
(25:24):
obese people can lose weight if they chose to. People
look at superficial things. I know you want someone who's
pleasing to your eyes, and you should, but if that's
the only thing you're looking at, you may miss out.
(25:48):
A lot of people will never ever ever meet who
God has intended for them because they're trying to choose
for themselves and they're going off for superficient things that
do not matter.
Speaker 2 (26:02):
And has nothing to do with building a foundation or love.
I had to talk about this.
Speaker 1 (26:14):
I had to, and I've talked about it a little
bit here and there, but I really wanted to talk
about it today because it's just mind blowing the things
I'm seeing women doing and saying and expecting, yet they
have nothing to bring to the table.
Speaker 2 (26:37):
It's insane. You be what you're looking for.
Speaker 1 (26:43):
And like I said, I'm not saying you gotta match
him with how much he make, but you should be
making decent If you expecting knowledge this from him, you
should be at least making decent and stop thinking, oh,
his money is my money and my money is my money. No,
(27:11):
he enhanced your life, you enhance his life.
Speaker 2 (27:16):
That's the way it's supposed to be.
Speaker 1 (27:22):
Grow up. Get out of that delusion on state, because
that's what it is. A state of delusion. It's not reality,
and men, stop stressing yourselves when you go along and engage.
(27:44):
That's telling you you not as mature as you think
you are. So again, I want to talk about it.
Take from it what you will. You know, I'm just
putting it out there. Thank you for listening, Please share
much love. I end all episodes the same and I
(28:08):
pray you do it.
Speaker 2 (28:10):
Thank on it
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