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Episode Transcript
Hey, hey, hey, I'm back.
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With something for you to think about. I have a
question for you.
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Are you going to allow yourself to have a breakthrough
or a breakdown? Oh?
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Yeah, I know that punched somebody.
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Are you going to allow yourself to have a breakthrough.
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Or a breakdown? Oh? Which is it?
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People in this world always have a choice. Every single
day we get up, every single day, we breathe.
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Every single day, our eyes open. We have a.
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Choice to become better. Every last one of us. I
just had a hiccup, every last one of us. We
have a choice to become better. Unfortunately, most people don't
take it. People continue in life the same way, not
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trying at all at.
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All at all to become better, not.
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Trying to work through their own issues to become better.
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You know what they do?
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Instead, they compile the issues of other people on the
issues that.
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They already have in their own lives.
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They compile other people issues on their own own issues.
And a lot of time that's when people have over
loads of stress. And I've told you, if you haven't
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listened to that episode, go and find it. Mental stress
is what leads to or can lead to mental illness
all the many, many people in this world who say, oh,
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I have this mental illness, I have this mental illness,
They was.
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Not born that way. They were not born that way.
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They developed those issues because of the lifestyles that they lived,
or because.
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Of what they endure and held on too.
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Now they have PTSD, schizophrenic, bipolar, multi personalities, disassociattive, this
associative disorder, all kinds of things, anxiety, depression, suicidal, homicidal,
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all that comes from bad experiences, all of it, stress, overload,
and every bit of it is related to the mindset
that a person has, all of it.
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And I've told you many.
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Times that no matter what we go through, no matter
how tragic, no matter how tragic, how devastating, how traumatizing, is.
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Always something you can learn.
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Always, if you can see past that hurt and pain,
that suffering, it is something you can learn that will
make you stronger.
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But most people don't learn. They do not because.
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They get caught up in the feelings and the emotions
and the thoughts of the hurt, of the pain, of
the suffering, of the struggling. They get caught up in
all of that, which makes them very negative.
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And many people turn to darkness, make them even worse.
It makes them worse, and that's why a lot of
people never get a breakthrough. It seems like they never experience.
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Deliverance because they're too stuck in the negativity, and instead
of getting a breakthrough, they break down. I know many
people who have lost children and cannot function, They have
lost their parents, cannot function. You can talk to them
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until you pass out. They will not hear you because
they're so.
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Encapsulated in that hurt and that pain, in that.
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Loss that they have. Death ears, death ears. So instead
of getting a breakthrough, they broke down. People do it
all the time in relationships. They're in relationships with individuals
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who are no good for them, individuals.
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Who treat them like pooh pooh under your shoe.
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I mean, they're treated terribly, but they still want that person,
and that person can walk away.
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From them, you know, through.
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Divorce, just walk away, separation or whatever, and they lose
it mentally.
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When they should have looked at.
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Themselves and say I deserve better than this, I deserve
better than this.
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No, it's not what they do. Instead, they turn everything
inward on self. What I could have done better? It
was my fault.
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I'm not good enough to the point they want to
commit suicide over some joker, which could be a male
or female that was no good for them in the
first place. They want to kill themselves over somebody that
don't want them. Instead of having a breakthrough, they chose
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a breakdown. It's like these a lot of these people
who get on the internet and do all of this
research to do nefarious things. They could very well gotten
on the internet and did something positive, but they chose
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the other way instead of becoming better people who recognize
negative thoughts, instead of being that type of individual to
be able to recognize that they're having a negative thought,
they empower those thoughts. They give total power to those thoughts.
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And as you give power to thoughts, those thoughts rise
and rise and they magnify, they become stronger. When you
could have had a breakthrough to recognize, hey, this thought
is not right. I shouldn't be thinking of harming someone.
I shouldn't be thinking of harming myself.
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I know this is not right.
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Instead of doing that, instead of getting that breakthrough, they
chose to break down and subcum to that negativity and
commit murder or harm themselves or harm someone because they
chose break down instead of.
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A breakthrough.
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You have.
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And I'm just throwing in some scenarios. I didn't write
anything down. I'm just thinking of stuff off of my head.
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You have bosses, supervisors on the jobs, and I can
talk about this to lie. I've seen it all that
instead of being the best supervisor that they can be,
instead of being someone who's trustworthy, instead of getting that
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breakthrough being that person who is standing.
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Strong on doing the right thing.
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Standing strong on being the best supervisor or the best
boss possible, they choose breakdown.
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They have.
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Nefarious ways, they have inappropriate relationship with employees, They be little,
they cause harassment, they sexually assault, they sexually harass. See
when I say breakthrough or breakdown, it could be anything.
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It could be dealing with your Christian life.
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See, if you don't have roots, you already on your
way to break down.
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If you don't have roots serving God, you already on
your way to break down. When you could very well
choose breakthrough, getting off of that milk and getting the meat,
getting the substance, getting that daily prayer, life, walking and
talking with Jesus every day, reading your word. Without all
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of that, you're gonna get breakdown. You're gonna be easily distracted,
You're gonna be easily swathed, You're gonna be easily manipulated, deceived, brainwash, tricked,
because you're heading towards breakdown and that total disconnect from God.
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It's so many things that's going on in people's lives
where they choose wrong.
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Just bottom line, people are choosing wrong.
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You're choosing to worship Man, You're choosing to worship things.
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And when you worship Man.
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They're gonna let you down, They're gonna use you, they're gonna.
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Take you for granted. I mean, it's just what it is.
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But people don't understand it because they're looking for something else.
They're looking for, you know, they want to belong, so
they'll go along with anything to belong. They'll go along
with anything for love. You get with individuals.
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Who are horrible and they just bring you down.
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You get with individuals who are horrible to people, who
treat people bad.
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And if they treat people bad, how you think they're
gonna treat you.
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Now you're on all kind of anxiety medication, You're on
all kind of depression medication. You're on medication because you're suicidal,
all because you choose.
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The wrong thing for you or the wrong person for you.
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Individuals, instead of choosing a breakthrough in their lives, becoming better,
not allowing their bad experiences to dictate the rest of
their lives. Instead of choosing a breakthrough to become better,
to learn.
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From everything they went through to know what to do
and what not to do, they chose breakdown.
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They turn to drugs, They turn to alcohol, They turn
to all types of crime, They turn to all negativity.
They turn to worshiping the devil when they could have
easily turned to a breakthrough. People fail themselves every single day.
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When you choose to remain the same, you fail yourself.
When you choose to not grow and mature, you fail yourself.
It's personal choice, it's a personal decision. If you don't
want better in your life, guess what, you won't have it.
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Nobody is just not going to just throw something at you.
You have to want to be a better person. People
can't change you. They can make you feel good for
a moment. They can give you insight, they can educate you,
motivate you, but once you over those feelings and emotions.
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You're right back to you. That same person.
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Who don't love his or herself who's unhappy because you
didn't choose a breakthrough. I know people say, Cherry, you
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talk like.
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It's so easy.
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It's as easy or as hard as you make it,
because your.
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Mindset is your worst enemy. Your worst enemy, your mindset.
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It's not the person outside of your house, is you.
Your mindset is your worst enemy because according to the
mindset that you have, also will be the heart that
you have, and because of.
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It, you will do the good or you would do
the bad.
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You will allowing accept good, or you will allowing accept bad.
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That's all according to the mindset that you have. Believe
it or not.
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Challenge me, anybody on the face of the earth that
hear in my voice, challenge me.
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Challenge me on that.
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You can tell me any situation in your life, as
long as you being one hundred honest, I can always
bring it right back to you every single time. I
can bring it right back to you every single time.
You don't believe me, challenge me on it, anybody. That's
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how confident I am, because I know people. I know
people more than anything else. I know people, and I
know that unhealed hearts and minds make people make bad
choices and decisions, and most people in the world are
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not choosing a breakthrough because they want everything easy and quick,
And most people are breaking down because of the choices
and the decisions that they are making in their lives.
Rea can happen in their own lives, we can have
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it in the children lives and the lives of other
people around them. Sometimes it's just brutal going to work
because you're dealing with so many broken people who bring
all of their mess to work because guess what that
one person you can get away from is yourself. So
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all of the mess inside of you, you take it
everywhere you go, spewing and projecting. And that's just the truth.
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So I wanted to talk about it because it's always
a choice.
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No matter what you go through in life, you can
choose breakthrough or break down.
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No one should choose breakdown, but sadly, millions or four
millions or four millions are and have I'm leaving it
right there. I hope you got something from this. Thank
you for listening. Much love. I end every episode the same.
I hope you share this, and I hope you do this.
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Thank goin it
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