August 11, 2025 • 30 mins
In this episode of the SbfavorThinking Podcast, host Sb Favor dives deep into the importance of setting and maintaining high personal standards. Standards influence how you treat yourself, how others treat you, and the opportunities you attract. We’ll explore how to identify your core values, avoid settling for less, and create boundaries that support your goals. Whether it’s in relationships, your career, or personal growth, your standards define your quality of life. Tune in for practical strategies and inspiring insights to help you raise the bar and live with purpose.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Blessings and peace to you. This is s be Favorite
Thinking Podcasts and my name is S. B. Favor. It
is Monday. How are you today? It is August eleventh,
twenty twenty five. Another wonderful day and another day to
(00:21):
be thankful. And as I always say, if you focus
on what is good, then you can project something good
to happen when you focus on what is good, because
the negative thoughts only bring you the things that you
don't need. So don't focus on the negative things. Focus
on what is positive because there are no benefits to
(00:45):
focusing on the negative things. So that is why it
is always important to focus on what is good. That's
why I always say that. So focus on what is
good and give your energy to the things you want
to happen, and don't give your energy to the things
that you don't want to happen. Okay, So focus on
(01:06):
what is good today. If you are out there traveling about,
make sure you are focused and not distracted by being
on your cell phone too much. Because if we are
on our cell phones too much in the public, that
means we are distracted. We should be paying attention to
our environments because we need to pray when we need
(01:29):
to pray. That's right, You got to pray, and you
shouldn't be distracted because you have to make sure that
you are safe and you have to make sure that
the people around you are safe. So focus, don't be distracted,
and make sure you pray. I always remind you of
these things because I care. That's right, I care. So
(01:53):
make sure you stay focused and don't be distracted, and
make sure you pray. Before I continue on, I have
to take a pause for a second to acknowledge the
date of this day. August eleventh is my mother's birthday.
(02:14):
So happy heavenly birthday, Mom. She is no longer here
on the earth, and I miss her dearly, and I
have to just take a pause and think about all
the good things my mom did for me. If she
was here, we would eat a lot of good food
(02:35):
and laugh on the phone, and you know, sometimes if
I could go see her, I would because I always
lived far away from her. But I have to acknowledge
this day, because this date, for this day, because even
though she's not physically here, her presence is still with
(02:55):
us spiritually. So happy birthday, Mom, miss you so much. Also,
I want to remind you if you would like to donate,
support it or give to the podcast in any way,
Please go to cash app, the application cash app and
(03:19):
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SB favor and you can give, or go to vemo
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use those apps to give, you can go to my
Facebook page as be Favorite Thinking Podcasts and you can
(03:39):
find information there to give. Okay, so make sure you
give support this podcast because I cannot do this without you.
You have to listen to the podcast and you have
to support the vodcast. So give at cash app dallasigns
we favor or at vimo, at s B favor Okay,
(04:02):
So that's the symbol at SB fav or r at vemo,
and then on cash app it is Dalla signs B
favor right okay, moving right along. I also want to
remind you to make sure you support Feeding America. Feeding
America is a great organization that provides food for people
(04:25):
across the nation. So make sure you support Feeding America
because the times that we are living in, people need
a lot of help. So you want to make sure
you are doing something for someone else, no matter what
it is. Don't think about yourself do something for someone else.
And if you want to support a charity like Feeding America,
(04:47):
make sure you go to their website and find out
more about them at Feeding America dot org. Once again,
Video America is a great organization that provides food for
families cross the nation. Okay, so go to their website
for Theamerica dot org and you can find out more
about how to give, how to support the charity, and
(05:09):
just learn about what they do. Okay. Lastly, if you
would like to improve your speaking skills with public speaking lessons.
If you want to enhance or improve your English skills,
please make an appointment at icsbizwe dot com and that's
bi z the number one dot com. So it's icsbiz
(05:35):
one dot com. You can make an appointment there and
you can enhance and improve your English skills. You can
take English lessons public speaking lessons and it's just a great, great, great,
great great journey to start if you decide to do it.
So make sure you make an appointment ICs bizwe dot
(05:56):
com and that's b i Z the number one notes
I see s biz as with a z one dot com,
I seesbiz one dot com. Okay, now we can move
on to the title of this episode, and because it's
(06:22):
my mother's birthday, I decided to talk about why standards matter,
building the life you deserve, raising and maintaining personal standards
for a better life. I decided to talk about this
topic because my mother taught me a lot. I was
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always watching her as a young girl, as a teenager,
as a young woman. I didn't talk too much because
I was quiet when I was very young, but I
was always watching her. I was watching how she spoke,
I was watching when she made mistakes. I was watching
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when she set certain types of standards according to her actions. Yes, she,
of course, as a parent, would tell me what to do,
but it was always about what she did in front
of me, without her telling me what to do. So
I paid attention to her actions. And why is it
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important for us to have standards. It is important for
us to have standards because we all as individuals, should
have personal standards, personal standards of self respect, self worth,
personal growth, self improvement, standards according to habits, the way
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we eat, the way we manage money, the way we
want to be treated in relationships. That's what standards are
all about. Everyone is different and everyone has different standards
and that's fine. I always say to my friends and family.
If you are in the company of someone and they
don't have a standard like you, always choose what's best,
(08:13):
even if their standard. If their standard is higher, not lower.
If someone is doing something that represents something more excellent
and more better, then reach higher and follow the higher standard.
That's what I always tell people. But all of us
should maintain and have standards for ourselves. Standards according to
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how we want to live, standards according to the level
the levels of success we want to achieve. We should
have standards of education, how we want to educate ourselves
and educate our communities or our children. We should always
have standards to set boundaries. That's right, because boundaries help
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us to stay safe no matter what it is. That's right.
Boundaries help us will help us to know how far
we should go and when we should pull back right,
so and so a standard helps us to understand that
and so values and standards I always look at them
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as being the same because when you identify a core
value that works for you, then you maintain it, and
you maintain it when it comes to your career, the
discipline you have and like I said, personal growth and
the quality of life you want to maintain. It is
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important to maintain standards. Some people, unfortunately, don't see it
as important. Some people just look at a standard as
you know, you're being you're doing too much, or some
people look at a standard as as you're being high
minded or something. But having a standard, it simply means
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you are choosing to set a goal for yourself according
to what you want to maintain and what you want
to do or what you want to be. And it's
nothing wrong with having high standards. Okay, So don't let
someone tell you that you're being as they say, extra
(10:28):
because you have high standards. Now, as a mom, I
had high standards because my mom had high standards. My
mom had high standards when it came to the order
that we had in our home. She would make us
clean and do all kinds of things that help all
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of my siblings to understand the importance of order and structure.
You know, I couldn't grow up or live in the
house that it was just out of order, where there
was no structure and things were not clean and things
were not put in order. My mom was the type
of person. She would tell me, don't leave your personal
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belongings or your shoes in my living room, that's right.
So because of that type of standard, I grew up
and I wouldn't leave my personal belongings in the living room.
My personal belongings belonged in my bedroom. My shoes belonged
in my closet. I couldn't lay my coat across the couch.
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I had to hang it up and put it in
the coat closet. I couldn't take dishes and leave it
on the table. I had to take the dish, put
it in the sink and wash it. Because my mother
didn't like dishes in her sink. Now, because she set
those types of standards, I had a great respect for
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that because I grew up seeing that. Now, unfortunately, the
flip side of that, some people they live in a
home where things are not in order. Dishes are in
the sink, clothes are all over the place. You walk
into their bare room and it's just confusion everywhere. And
with do what I mean by confusion? When something is
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not in order, that means it is in a state
of confusion. Now, I know it might be somebody out
there that might say, oh, no, I'm not confused because
I'm not organized guess what. I'm not saying, you're confused.
I said that if something is not in order, that
is a state of confusion. Have you ever met somebody
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or been around someone and they can never find anything.
They're always losing something, they can't find documents, they can't
find nothing. Now I'm not talking about now. I'm not
talking about that person that might might not be able
to find certain things sometimes because we all do that.
But I'm talking about that person that can't find nothing
(12:59):
all the time. They ever can find nothing. That person
is not organized. And I'm not look, i am not
trying to be too hard on anybody. I'm just keeping
it real and honest right now. Okay, So if this
applies to you, just check it and be honest with yourself.
Don't feel bad, be honest with yourself and just check it. Okay.
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So the point of what I'm saying is excellence starts
with discipline, and if you take something out of the closet,
just put it back where it belong. Because if you
keep taking stuff out the closet, eventually what you take
out the closet, it's gonna eventually pile up. Right, if
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you take something out the closet and you put it
near your bed, or if you take something out of
the cabinet in the kitchen and you leave it on
the countertown Eventually, if you don't put things back to
where you're supposed to be, it's going to what pile up. Right.
So what I'm saying is this excellence starts with discipline
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because of a standard. And I just believe that having
a standard when it comes to having ordering your home,
that's the type of standard. That's one standard I'm talking
about right now. Some people have great order in their
home where they're a structure, they do things by a
certain time, they keep things clean a certain way. And
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then sometimes people don't have structure or order in their home.
They don't have standards of organization. Okay, but a standard
could be anything. It could be anything. It could be
a standard of not eating certain foods on certain days,
or a standard or not eating after a certain hour.
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Some people have high standards of highly disciplined workout routines.
How about that. Some people have high standards of how
they manage their money. Some people have high standards of
spending spending time with their family. It's a standard, right,
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It's a it's a standard that they have set in
place to say this is how we will function as
a family. So there are many types of standards, but
the point of what I'm saying is this standards are important,
and standers help you to maintain a level of excellence.
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Standards help you to maintain values and principles. It helps
you with self discipline. It helps you as a parent
to enable your children to develop habits of organization and
discipline when it comes to how they keep their personal belongings,
because all of that is taught. Having high standards also
(15:59):
helps us to set higher goals for ourselves because when
you have good excuse me, when you have good standards,
you will also look to have or set more boundaries
for yourself to have greater not boundaries, but you will
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set higher levels to reach higher standards. So the point
of what I'm saying is it's important for us to
raise the bar and live according to practical strategies to
maintain good standards. When we maintain good standards and relationships,
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we have standards according to how we want to be
treated and how we treat others. That's another thing that
my mom showed me and my siblings. She always talked
to us about forgiveness. She talked to us about how
we should treat other people, and she corrected us. And
she heard us talking to one another the wrong way,
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she would correct us. She talked to us about how
we should be kind to other people. She talked to
us about how me and my sisters. She talked to
us about how we should respectfully deal with you know,
(17:25):
men in relationships. She talked to us about that. She
talked to us about how we should save our money. Yes,
my mom talk to me and my siblings about a
lot of things that help us to understand the importance
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of standards. And I'm not saying that my mom did
everything perfect both. The point of what I'm saying is this,
she helped us to understand that maintaining standards is always
useful because when you are not doing what's right, you
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will get back on track to do what it's right.
So standards are reminders. They're reminders of what you should
do when it comes to your goals, self discipline, self development.
You know, as a parent at you know, as I
was raising my daughter, I had high levels, high standards
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of education. I believe that. You know, my daughter, she
had to maintain a certain grade point average. I didn't
play around with that. I also made sure she read
books constantly so that she could have a love for
reading it. Because of that standard that I had in
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my home, till this day, my daughter loves to read
the books because instead of buying her toys when she
did something good, I would buy her books. I would
take her to the bookstore every Friday to buy her
a new book. So she developed a love for reading.
So standards could be anything. Standards in relationships, Standards when
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it comes to how you spend money, Standards when it
comes to managing your time. Standards suggest to have more discipline,
Standards to have better habits for success. So standards for
your marriages, standards for your friendships. Some people don't have standards. Sadly,
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and I'm not being judgmental, but some people just don't
have standards. They let people talk to them any anyway
they want. They and unfortunately, some people treat people anyway
they want. They treat people in a really bad way.
Some people don't have standards when it comes to the
respect they should have for their parents. Some people don't
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have standards for themselves personally, according to how they let
a man or a woman treat them. Some people don't
have standards when it comes to being clean. Come on, now,
let's be realistic. So we all should have high standards.
And if you don't have a standard, a higher standard
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in a specific area, just keep doing the work to
raise the bar so that whatever that standard is you
have to have to have that discipline in that specific area,
you will have. But just keep working toward the goal,
because it is important to work toward the goal to
have higher standards. Because when we maintain our standards, we
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define our core values. Know what matters most to you,
so that your standard aligns with what you believe. And
as I stayed it earlier, when you set clear boundaries,
you will help people to treat you the way you
want to be treated, and in turn, you should treat
others the same. When it comes to what is good,
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communicate what is acceptable and what is unacceptable in your relationships,
relationships that work, romantic relationships, relationships with your children, and
even relationships with your neighbors and people that you don't
even know. Don't settle for less, because if you settle
for less, you're basically saying there are no standards if
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something doesn't meet your standard, be willing to make the adjustment,
but make sure you maintain your standard. Don't lower your
standard for someone, but encourage them to raise the standard
for themselves. Whatever in any area they need to raise
the standard. Model the standard you expect. In other words,
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live by the behavior, habits, and values you want to
see in others. Don't tell someone to do something if
you're not doing it. First, as a parent, if you
want your children to have good standards and values, make
sure the thing that you are telling them to do
you are doing that yourself. Because if you tell your
children to do something you're not doing yourself, that means
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you are a hypocrite and you don't want to be that.
You don't want to be that. That's right. Surround yourself
with high standard people. Now I'm not talking about people
that are perfect. I'm talking about people that will influence
you to maintain good standards for yourself when it comes
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to how you live and making decisions. Keep your commitments
to yourself when it comes to raising this standard. Because
if you say you have or you want to maintain
good standards, but you are not committed to the standard,
that means you won't maintain the standard, whatever that's may be.
Follow through on your promises, build self trust and self
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respect when it comes to how you maintain the standards
for personal development with yourself, and make sure you reassess
your standards regularly. When it comes to life change, make
sure your standards evolve with growth. Raise standards gradually when
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it comes to how you eat and how you manage
money and whatever your standards are. Whatever your standards are,
just try to assess, reassess your standards so that there
is progress and specific areas you want to grow. Because
it's important always always learn to say no when you
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need to say no. Protect time, energy and values by
declining things that don't align with your standards, because as
I just stated, you don't want to go backwards. You
want to go forward. And lastly, stay consistent even when
it's difficult, even when it's hard. Standards matter most when
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they're tested. Because even when you don't want to do
something and you do it anyway, that means you are
practicing discipline. That's right, because standards are important. I am
a very organized person. I try to be as much
as possible because when I see things in order, I
feel motivated. But if I see something out of order,
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guess what's it? Just doesn't feel right to see something
out of order. You know, some people say, oh, well you,
you're over the top. No, I feel motivated when I
see things in order. When I see something scattered and
totally unorganized, as I stated at the top of this podcast,
when I see something out of order, I see a
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type of confusion. And remember the your environment will speak
to you how you maintain your environment, whether things are
in order or out of order. Let your environment speak
to you. Because when I wake up in the morning,
if I see everything in order, everything clean, and everything
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just the way it should be, I feel motivated. But
if I see something totally out of order, something out
of order releases energy or energy of a lack of discipline,
and I don't like that feeling. So I will never
(25:41):
tell somebody else to be like me, but I will
encourage people to maintain a standard and make sure you
reach for higher standards. And lastly, make sure you reach
for consistent discipline, because when you reach for consistent discipline,
that means you are growing. Don't settle for less, and
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don't let nobody tell you, oh, you're doing too much
you're over the top. It's okay to leave your kitchen
dirty overnight. It's okay to just leave food all over
the place. It's okay to throw your clothes and your
laungry in the cheer and go to bed. Don't let
nobody tell you that. No, don't let nobody tell you
that keep all things in order be excellent. Maintain your health,
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manage your money, manage your relationships, manage your time, manage
your work life, manage your workout goals, manage everything so
that you can maintain what is excellent. And don't ever
feel bad about being in a higher place, but just
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keep going forward to be determined so that you can
keep progressing with higher standards with discipline, because you can.
I have not always been what is considered a disciplined person.
There was a time in my life when I was
not disciplined. I was not always organized. I was not
(27:17):
But I believe that it's important that we work on
ourselves to keep raising these standards. And so because of that,
I am saying this to you today. And also, like
I said at the top of this episode, today is
my mother's birthday, and so talking about this type of
(27:38):
topic reminds me of all the core values and all
the beautiful things she said to me, and all the
beautiful things she showed me when it came to her
nurturing character, her nurturing spirit. And I'm very grateful for
the things that my mother taught me. In the things
(28:01):
she told me, especially when it comes to how to
love and treat people and how to forgive. She always
talked about, oh, you gotta forgive, you gotta forgive, and
she not only just said it, but she showed it.
I saw her forgive people. I saw how she showed
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love to people, even to people that didn't deserve it.
She loved, she loved people, and so I dedicate this
episode to her, and I am very proud to be
called her daughter, and I'm very thankful for all that
she has given me. And I pray that this episode
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will encourage you to just keep being the best person
you can be. You will never be perfect in the earth,
but you can be the best person you can be,
and you can pass on good things to your friends
and your family and even strangers. And so make sure
you keep focusing on what is good, and if you
(29:08):
know someone that needs to hear this episode make sure
you pass it on to them. And lastly, don't forget
how important you are. Don't forget that every day is
an opportunity to do something better than what you did yesterday. Okay,
so on that note, I am going to conclude this episode.
(29:29):
I thank you so much for listening, and if you
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And in the month of September there will be many, many,
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And of course, as always, I appreciate you listeners. Make
sure you have a good week, and thank you for listening.
Have a good day.
Blessings and peace to you. This is s be Favorite
Thinking Podcasts and my name is S. B. Favor. It
is Monday. How are you today? It is August eleventh,
twenty twenty five. Another wonderful day and another day to
(00:21):
be thankful. And as I always say, if you focus
on what is good, then you can project something good
to happen when you focus on what is good, because
the negative thoughts only bring you the things that you
don't need. So don't focus on the negative things. Focus
on what is positive because there are no benefits to
(00:45):
focusing on the negative things. So that is why it
is always important to focus on what is good. That's
why I always say that. So focus on what is
good and give your energy to the things you want
to happen, and don't give your energy to the things
that you don't want to happen. Okay, So focus on
(01:06):
what is good today. If you are out there traveling about,
make sure you are focused and not distracted by being
on your cell phone too much. Because if we are
on our cell phones too much in the public, that
means we are distracted. We should be paying attention to
our environments because we need to pray when we need
(01:29):
to pray. That's right, You got to pray, and you
shouldn't be distracted because you have to make sure that
you are safe and you have to make sure that
the people around you are safe. So focus, don't be distracted,
and make sure you pray. I always remind you of
these things because I care. That's right, I care. So
(01:53):
make sure you stay focused and don't be distracted, and
make sure you pray. Before I continue on, I have
to take a pause for a second to acknowledge the
date of this day. August eleventh is my mother's birthday.
(02:14):
So happy heavenly birthday, Mom. She is no longer here
on the earth, and I miss her dearly, and I
have to just take a pause and think about all
the good things my mom did for me. If she
was here, we would eat a lot of good food
(02:35):
and laugh on the phone, and you know, sometimes if
I could go see her, I would because I always
lived far away from her. But I have to acknowledge
this day, because this date, for this day, because even
though she's not physically here, her presence is still with
(02:55):
us spiritually. So happy birthday, Mom, miss you so much. Also,
I want to remind you if you would like to donate,
support it or give to the podcast in any way,
Please go to cash app, the application cash app and
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Facebook page as be Favorite Thinking Podcasts and you can
(03:39):
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You have to listen to the podcast and you have
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(04:02):
So that's the symbol at SB fav or r at vemo,
and then on cash app it is Dalla signs B
favor right okay, moving right along. I also want to
remind you to make sure you support Feeding America. Feeding
America is a great organization that provides food for people
(04:25):
across the nation. So make sure you support Feeding America
because the times that we are living in, people need
a lot of help. So you want to make sure
you are doing something for someone else, no matter what
it is. Don't think about yourself do something for someone else.
And if you want to support a charity like Feeding America,
(04:47):
make sure you go to their website and find out
more about them at Feeding America dot org. Once again,
Video America is a great organization that provides food for
families cross the nation. Okay, so go to their website
for Theamerica dot org and you can find out more
about how to give, how to support the charity, and
(05:09):
just learn about what they do. Okay. Lastly, if you
would like to improve your speaking skills with public speaking lessons.
If you want to enhance or improve your English skills,
please make an appointment at icsbizwe dot com and that's
bi z the number one dot com. So it's icsbiz
(05:35):
one dot com. You can make an appointment there and
you can enhance and improve your English skills. You can
take English lessons public speaking lessons and it's just a great, great, great,
great great journey to start if you decide to do it.
So make sure you make an appointment ICs bizwe dot
(05:56):
com and that's b i Z the number one notes
I see s biz as with a z one dot com,
I seesbiz one dot com. Okay, now we can move
on to the title of this episode, and because it's
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my mother's birthday, I decided to talk about why standards matter,
building the life you deserve, raising and maintaining personal standards
for a better life. I decided to talk about this
topic because my mother taught me a lot. I was
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always watching her as a young girl, as a teenager,
as a young woman. I didn't talk too much because
I was quiet when I was very young, but I
was always watching her. I was watching how she spoke,
I was watching when she made mistakes. I was watching
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when she set certain types of standards according to her actions. Yes, she,
of course, as a parent, would tell me what to do,
but it was always about what she did in front
of me, without her telling me what to do. So
I paid attention to her actions. And why is it
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important for us to have standards. It is important for
us to have standards because we all as individuals, should
have personal standards, personal standards of self respect, self worth,
personal growth, self improvement, standards according to habits, the way
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we eat, the way we manage money, the way we
want to be treated in relationships. That's what standards are
all about. Everyone is different and everyone has different standards
and that's fine. I always say to my friends and family.
If you are in the company of someone and they
don't have a standard like you, always choose what's best,
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even if their standard. If their standard is higher, not lower.
If someone is doing something that represents something more excellent
and more better, then reach higher and follow the higher standard.
That's what I always tell people. But all of us
should maintain and have standards for ourselves. Standards according to
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how we want to live, standards according to the level
the levels of success we want to achieve. We should
have standards of education, how we want to educate ourselves
and educate our communities or our children. We should always
have standards to set boundaries. That's right, because boundaries help
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us to stay safe no matter what it is. That's right.
Boundaries help us will help us to know how far
we should go and when we should pull back right,
so and so a standard helps us to understand that
and so values and standards I always look at them
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as being the same because when you identify a core
value that works for you, then you maintain it, and
you maintain it when it comes to your career, the
discipline you have and like I said, personal growth and
the quality of life you want to maintain. It is
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important to maintain standards. Some people, unfortunately, don't see it
as important. Some people just look at a standard as
you know, you're being you're doing too much, or some
people look at a standard as as you're being high
minded or something. But having a standard, it simply means
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you are choosing to set a goal for yourself according
to what you want to maintain and what you want
to do or what you want to be. And it's
nothing wrong with having high standards. Okay, So don't let
someone tell you that you're being as they say, extra
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because you have high standards. Now, as a mom, I
had high standards because my mom had high standards. My
mom had high standards when it came to the order
that we had in our home. She would make us
clean and do all kinds of things that help all
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of my siblings to understand the importance of order and structure.
You know, I couldn't grow up or live in the
house that it was just out of order, where there
was no structure and things were not clean and things
were not put in order. My mom was the type
of person. She would tell me, don't leave your personal
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belongings or your shoes in my living room, that's right.
So because of that type of standard, I grew up
and I wouldn't leave my personal belongings in the living room.
My personal belongings belonged in my bedroom. My shoes belonged
in my closet. I couldn't lay my coat across the couch.
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I had to hang it up and put it in
the coat closet. I couldn't take dishes and leave it
on the table. I had to take the dish, put
it in the sink and wash it. Because my mother
didn't like dishes in her sink. Now, because she set
those types of standards, I had a great respect for
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that because I grew up seeing that. Now, unfortunately, the
flip side of that, some people they live in a
home where things are not in order. Dishes are in
the sink, clothes are all over the place. You walk
into their bare room and it's just confusion everywhere. And
with do what I mean by confusion? When something is
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not in order, that means it is in a state
of confusion. Now, I know it might be somebody out
there that might say, oh, no, I'm not confused because
I'm not organized guess what. I'm not saying, you're confused.
I said that if something is not in order, that
is a state of confusion. Have you ever met somebody
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or been around someone and they can never find anything.
They're always losing something, they can't find documents, they can't
find nothing. Now I'm not talking about now. I'm not
talking about that person that might might not be able
to find certain things sometimes because we all do that.
But I'm talking about that person that can't find nothing
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all the time. They ever can find nothing. That person
is not organized. And I'm not look, i am not
trying to be too hard on anybody. I'm just keeping
it real and honest right now. Okay, So if this
applies to you, just check it and be honest with yourself.
Don't feel bad, be honest with yourself and just check it. Okay.
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So the point of what I'm saying is excellence starts
with discipline, and if you take something out of the closet,
just put it back where it belong. Because if you
keep taking stuff out the closet, eventually what you take
out the closet, it's gonna eventually pile up. Right, if
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you take something out the closet and you put it
near your bed, or if you take something out of
the cabinet in the kitchen and you leave it on
the countertown Eventually, if you don't put things back to
where you're supposed to be, it's going to what pile up. Right.
So what I'm saying is this excellence starts with discipline
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because of a standard. And I just believe that having
a standard when it comes to having ordering your home,
that's the type of standard. That's one standard I'm talking
about right now. Some people have great order in their
home where they're a structure, they do things by a
certain time, they keep things clean a certain way. And
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then sometimes people don't have structure or order in their home.
They don't have standards of organization. Okay, but a standard
could be anything. It could be anything. It could be
a standard of not eating certain foods on certain days,
or a standard or not eating after a certain hour.
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Some people have high standards of highly disciplined workout routines.
How about that. Some people have high standards of how
they manage their money. Some people have high standards of
spending spending time with their family. It's a standard, right,
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It's a it's a standard that they have set in
place to say this is how we will function as
a family. So there are many types of standards, but
the point of what I'm saying is this standards are important,
and standers help you to maintain a level of excellence.
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Standards help you to maintain values and principles. It helps
you with self discipline. It helps you as a parent
to enable your children to develop habits of organization and
discipline when it comes to how they keep their personal belongings,
because all of that is taught. Having high standards also
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helps us to set higher goals for ourselves because when
you have good excuse me, when you have good standards,
you will also look to have or set more boundaries
for yourself to have greater not boundaries, but you will
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set higher levels to reach higher standards. So the point
of what I'm saying is it's important for us to
raise the bar and live according to practical strategies to
maintain good standards. When we maintain good standards and relationships,
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we have standards according to how we want to be
treated and how we treat others. That's another thing that
my mom showed me and my siblings. She always talked
to us about forgiveness. She talked to us about how
we should treat other people, and she corrected us. And
she heard us talking to one another the wrong way,
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she would correct us. She talked to us about how
we should be kind to other people. She talked to
us about how me and my sisters. She talked to
us about how we should respectfully deal with you know,
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men in relationships. She talked to us about that. She
talked to us about how we should save our money. Yes,
my mom talk to me and my siblings about a
lot of things that help us to understand the importance
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of standards. And I'm not saying that my mom did
everything perfect both. The point of what I'm saying is this,
she helped us to understand that maintaining standards is always
useful because when you are not doing what's right, you
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will get back on track to do what it's right.
So standards are reminders. They're reminders of what you should
do when it comes to your goals, self discipline, self development.
You know, as a parent at you know, as I
was raising my daughter, I had high levels, high standards
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of education. I believe that. You know, my daughter, she
had to maintain a certain grade point average. I didn't
play around with that. I also made sure she read
books constantly so that she could have a love for
reading it. Because of that standard that I had in
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my home, till this day, my daughter loves to read
the books because instead of buying her toys when she
did something good, I would buy her books. I would
take her to the bookstore every Friday to buy her
a new book. So she developed a love for reading.
So standards could be anything. Standards in relationships, Standards when
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it comes to how you spend money, Standards when it
comes to managing your time. Standards suggest to have more discipline,
Standards to have better habits for success. So standards for
your marriages, standards for your friendships. Some people don't have standards. Sadly,
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and I'm not being judgmental, but some people just don't
have standards. They let people talk to them any anyway
they want. They and unfortunately, some people treat people anyway
they want. They treat people in a really bad way.
Some people don't have standards when it comes to the
respect they should have for their parents. Some people don't
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have standards for themselves personally, according to how they let
a man or a woman treat them. Some people don't
have standards when it comes to being clean. Come on, now,
let's be realistic. So we all should have high standards.
And if you don't have a standard, a higher standard
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in a specific area, just keep doing the work to
raise the bar so that whatever that standard is you
have to have to have that discipline in that specific area,
you will have. But just keep working toward the goal,
because it is important to work toward the goal to
have higher standards. Because when we maintain our standards, we
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define our core values. Know what matters most to you,
so that your standard aligns with what you believe. And
as I stayed it earlier, when you set clear boundaries,
you will help people to treat you the way you
want to be treated, and in turn, you should treat
others the same. When it comes to what is good,
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communicate what is acceptable and what is unacceptable in your relationships,
relationships that work, romantic relationships, relationships with your children, and
even relationships with your neighbors and people that you don't
even know. Don't settle for less, because if you settle
for less, you're basically saying there are no standards if
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something doesn't meet your standard, be willing to make the adjustment,
but make sure you maintain your standard. Don't lower your
standard for someone, but encourage them to raise the standard
for themselves. Whatever in any area they need to raise
the standard. Model the standard you expect. In other words,
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live by the behavior, habits, and values you want to
see in others. Don't tell someone to do something if
you're not doing it. First, as a parent, if you
want your children to have good standards and values, make
sure the thing that you are telling them to do
you are doing that yourself. Because if you tell your
children to do something you're not doing yourself, that means
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you are a hypocrite and you don't want to be that.
You don't want to be that. That's right. Surround yourself
with high standard people. Now I'm not talking about people
that are perfect. I'm talking about people that will influence
you to maintain good standards for yourself when it comes
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to how you live and making decisions. Keep your commitments
to yourself when it comes to raising this standard. Because
if you say you have or you want to maintain
good standards, but you are not committed to the standard,
that means you won't maintain the standard, whatever that's may be.
Follow through on your promises, build self trust and self
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respect when it comes to how you maintain the standards
for personal development with yourself, and make sure you reassess
your standards regularly. When it comes to life change, make
sure your standards evolve with growth. Raise standards gradually when
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it comes to how you eat and how you manage
money and whatever your standards are. Whatever your standards are,
just try to assess, reassess your standards so that there
is progress and specific areas you want to grow. Because
it's important always always learn to say no when you
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need to say no. Protect time, energy and values by
declining things that don't align with your standards, because as
I just stated, you don't want to go backwards. You
want to go forward. And lastly, stay consistent even when
it's difficult, even when it's hard. Standards matter most when
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they're tested. Because even when you don't want to do
something and you do it anyway, that means you are
practicing discipline. That's right, because standards are important. I am
a very organized person. I try to be as much
as possible because when I see things in order, I
feel motivated. But if I see something out of order,
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guess what's it? Just doesn't feel right to see something
out of order. You know, some people say, oh, well you,
you're over the top. No, I feel motivated when I
see things in order. When I see something scattered and
totally unorganized, as I stated at the top of this podcast,
when I see something out of order, I see a
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type of confusion. And remember the your environment will speak
to you how you maintain your environment, whether things are
in order or out of order. Let your environment speak
to you. Because when I wake up in the morning,
if I see everything in order, everything clean, and everything
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just the way it should be, I feel motivated. But
if I see something totally out of order, something out
of order releases energy or energy of a lack of discipline,
and I don't like that feeling. So I will never
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tell somebody else to be like me, but I will
encourage people to maintain a standard and make sure you
reach for higher standards. And lastly, make sure you reach
for consistent discipline, because when you reach for consistent discipline,
that means you are growing. Don't settle for less, and
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don't let nobody tell you, oh, you're doing too much
you're over the top. It's okay to leave your kitchen
dirty overnight. It's okay to just leave food all over
the place. It's okay to throw your clothes and your
laungry in the cheer and go to bed. Don't let
nobody tell you that. No, don't let nobody tell you
that keep all things in order be excellent. Maintain your health,
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manage your money, manage your relationships, manage your time, manage
your work life, manage your workout goals, manage everything so
that you can maintain what is excellent. And don't ever
feel bad about being in a higher place, but just
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keep going forward to be determined so that you can
keep progressing with higher standards with discipline, because you can.
I have not always been what is considered a disciplined person.
There was a time in my life when I was
not disciplined. I was not always organized. I was not
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But I believe that it's important that we work on
ourselves to keep raising these standards. And so because of that,
I am saying this to you today. And also, like
I said at the top of this episode, today is
my mother's birthday, and so talking about this type of
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topic reminds me of all the core values and all
the beautiful things she said to me, and all the
beautiful things she showed me when it came to her
nurturing character, her nurturing spirit. And I'm very grateful for
the things that my mother taught me. In the things
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she told me, especially when it comes to how to
love and treat people and how to forgive. She always
talked about, oh, you gotta forgive, you gotta forgive, and
she not only just said it, but she showed it.
I saw her forgive people. I saw how she showed
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love to people, even to people that didn't deserve it.
She loved, she loved people, and so I dedicate this
episode to her, and I am very proud to be
called her daughter, and I'm very thankful for all that
she has given me. And I pray that this episode
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will encourage you to just keep being the best person
you can be. You will never be perfect in the earth,
but you can be the best person you can be,
and you can pass on good things to your friends
and your family and even strangers. And so make sure
you keep focusing on what is good, and if you
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know someone that needs to hear this episode make sure
you pass it on to them. And lastly, don't forget
how important you are. Don't forget that every day is
an opportunity to do something better than what you did yesterday. Okay,
so on that note, I am going to conclude this episode.
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I thank you so much for listening, and if you
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And in the month of September there will be many, many,
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And of course, as always, I appreciate you listeners. Make
sure you have a good week, and thank you for listening.
Have a good day.
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