November 29, 2023 • 9 mins
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I have been on 2 Surrogate Journies and I adopted a beautiful son from foster care as a baby. This is short and sweet. Just like me. And just because I wanted to talk.
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I have been on 2 Surrogate Journies and I adopted a beautiful son from foster care as a baby. This is short and sweet. Just like me. And just because I wanted to talk.
If you like it, give a follow please!
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(00:30):
Welcome back to Frankie's rabid Rant.I'm your host, Frankie, and this
is my rant, not in thetraditional sense. I like to tell stories
my way. I didn't want toscript this one. I talk, but
I also like to hear and tellstories. When I mentioned a certain journey
I took, I get this reactionfrom people, and it's that they're amazed
(00:52):
at what I did. I don'tfeel like a hero. I don't feel
like I'm special. I just didsomething that I wanted to do when I
was a kid. My dad alwayssaid I was a bleeding heart. If
you look up the definition, itsays a person considered to be dangerously soft
hearted, typically someone considered to betoo liberal in political beliefs. I'm not
(01:15):
sure about the political part, butdangerously soft hearted. I guess I'll have
to tell you what I did andyou can decide. I met my ex
husband when I was young, seventeen, and I had had some kind of
childhood. I knew that I wantedto be a mom and that I wanted
(01:36):
to be a better mom than mine. So the trying to be a mom
part can be hard. I waswith my ex husband for twenty years.
It took us seven years to makeour first child. My daughter is now
going to be fourteen on Friday.That's a whole nother story. Teenagers just
(01:57):
suck. But seven years for awoman trying to have a baby is very
hard. Seven years for anyone tryingto have a baby is very hard.
But every month a woman has tobe reminded of how hard it is to
have that baby. Every month weget a reminder that our bodies didn't do
(02:21):
what they're naturally capable of, andit breaks us down and we feel inadequate
as women and incapable of giving ourspouse an air. Okay, I might
not be that way with all women, but when you're disappointed about not being
able to get pregnant, that monthlyreminder is heartbreaking to say the least.
(02:42):
So I knew that pain for sevenyears. And along came my beautiful daughter.
We had went through we had startedfertility treatment but couldn't afford to go
through it. And at the timewhen we finally decided that we would be
okay with not having kids, justlike you hear from everyone else, all
of a sudden, there was mydaughter. After I had had her,
(03:06):
we had tried again later right whenwe started trying and figured out that it
wasn't happening. Is also when wefound out my ex husband had cancer,
and we didn't even have time tofreeze anything just in case we wanted to
try and have kids later. Wehad to hurry up and treat it.
He didn't want a child that wasn'this but would have been mine, so
(03:30):
even if we went through in vitro, he didn't want it to be my
egg and we chose to go adifferent route. What we chose was foster
to adopt. We started fostering children. We fostered a couple, and eventually
we met this beautiful baby boy.He was born in the hospital close to
(03:54):
us, and we took him homewhen he was a day old. He
is now five, and he isa quirky, spunky, little redhead with
a big gap in his two frontteeth, and he can make you smile
or laugh no matter what you're goingthrough. He is just amazing. I'm
(04:14):
so lucky that I got to adopthim. One day when I was fostering
kids. Before I had even adoptedmy son or met him, I had
gone through the ads that come inthe mail and I had seen one that
was for a surrogate. They payquite a bit of money if you can
(04:34):
get approved to be a surrogate,and for that kind of money, it's
a good start. But also itwasn't the money. It was about that
monthly knowing that reminder that I knewother women had. So even though my
(04:58):
ex husband couldn't have a chance tohave more kids and he didn't want me
to have another kid, I hada working uterus and I was able to
give two women children from that uterusby surrogacy. It was their egg and
their partner's sperm. It was puttogether in a Petri dish and implanted into
(05:24):
me, and I grew their babyfor them and gave them their baby at
birth. The first baby I hadwas a little girl, and the experience
was amazing. I had a verygood relationship with the mother. She was
learning English and she got to practicewith me. I also had this little
(05:46):
app that she had on her phonewhere she could read books and record herself
reading books, and then it wouldget downloaded into my app. And then
I had headphones that I could stickto my belly so her baby would know
her voice when she came out.When that baby was born, It was
one of the most amazing experiences inmy life because I knew that I was
(06:10):
giving something to that woman that shecouldn't do herself, but it was still
her own flesh and blood. Shestood next to me in the delivery room
and so did her mother, andthey held my hands. And when the
baby came, the mom was elated, so excited, but also it was
(06:31):
sweet because she was so worried aboutme. I kept having to tell her
to go over and say hi toher new baby, and then her mom,
the grandma, obviously ended up takingcare of me while she went over
there and got to bond with hernewborn. I stayed in the hospital for
a couple days, and then Iwent home. She took her baby home
(06:51):
to China. She sends me picturesand videos. It's beautiful. She wants
me to come visit China sometime andmeet her daughter, and she calls me
Mama Jill because I carried her forher. And it was just one of
the most beautiful experiences that I've everhad in my life, just being able
(07:11):
to give that to someone. Thesecond baby that I had was a boy.
I didn't have the same type ofrelationship with that parent, because you
get to choose the relationship level thatyou're at. That parent just wanted their
baby and to go. But therewas also something special about that one.
He was the first baby boy bornat the hospital in my area on Valentine's
(07:38):
Day in twenty twenty. I thinkit was when COVID all started. So
his mom actually was on her wayhere from China, and when she got
here, we had just started thequarantine mandatory quarantine which was fourteen days,
and I was giving birth to himon her thirteenth day, so she couldn't
(08:01):
come and see him until the nextmorning after he was born, and I
was already gone from the hospital.But he was a Valentine's Day baby.
He was a special boy. Shegot stuck here for a while, couldn't
go back to China for months.I do know that, but I haven't
heard from her in a while.I know that everything went well with them.
(08:22):
In the process of my surrogacies,I lost to my uterus. I
can't have any more children of myown, but it was worth every moment
I did get to raise and adoptmy beautiful son that was my little rant.
I've been a surrogate, I've adoptedand if you ever get a chance
(08:43):
to do either of those, oreven foster a child, do it.
I'm your host, Frankie, andthat was my rant. See you next
time. It O
Welcome back to Frankie's rabid Rant.I'm your host, Frankie, and this
is my rant, not in thetraditional sense. I like to tell stories
my way. I didn't want toscript this one. I talk, but
I also like to hear and tellstories. When I mentioned a certain journey
I took, I get this reactionfrom people, and it's that they're amazed
(00:52):
at what I did. I don'tfeel like a hero. I don't feel
like I'm special. I just didsomething that I wanted to do when I
was a kid. My dad alwayssaid I was a bleeding heart. If
you look up the definition, itsays a person considered to be dangerously soft
hearted, typically someone considered to betoo liberal in political beliefs. I'm not
(01:15):
sure about the political part, butdangerously soft hearted. I guess I'll have
to tell you what I did andyou can decide. I met my ex
husband when I was young, seventeen, and I had had some kind of
childhood. I knew that I wantedto be a mom and that I wanted
(01:36):
to be a better mom than mine. So the trying to be a mom
part can be hard. I waswith my ex husband for twenty years.
It took us seven years to makeour first child. My daughter is now
going to be fourteen on Friday.That's a whole nother story. Teenagers just
(01:57):
suck. But seven years for awoman trying to have a baby is very
hard. Seven years for anyone tryingto have a baby is very hard.
But every month a woman has tobe reminded of how hard it is to
have that baby. Every month weget a reminder that our bodies didn't do
(02:21):
what they're naturally capable of, andit breaks us down and we feel inadequate
as women and incapable of giving ourspouse an air. Okay, I might
not be that way with all women, but when you're disappointed about not being
able to get pregnant, that monthlyreminder is heartbreaking to say the least.
(02:42):
So I knew that pain for sevenyears. And along came my beautiful daughter.
We had went through we had startedfertility treatment but couldn't afford to go
through it. And at the timewhen we finally decided that we would be
okay with not having kids, justlike you hear from everyone else, all
of a sudden, there was mydaughter. After I had had her,
(03:06):
we had tried again later right whenwe started trying and figured out that it
wasn't happening. Is also when wefound out my ex husband had cancer,
and we didn't even have time tofreeze anything just in case we wanted to
try and have kids later. Wehad to hurry up and treat it.
He didn't want a child that wasn'this but would have been mine, so
(03:30):
even if we went through in vitro, he didn't want it to be my
egg and we chose to go adifferent route. What we chose was foster
to adopt. We started fostering children. We fostered a couple, and eventually
we met this beautiful baby boy.He was born in the hospital close to
(03:54):
us, and we took him homewhen he was a day old. He
is now five, and he isa quirky, spunky, little redhead with
a big gap in his two frontteeth, and he can make you smile
or laugh no matter what you're goingthrough. He is just amazing. I'm
(04:14):
so lucky that I got to adopthim. One day when I was fostering
kids. Before I had even adoptedmy son or met him, I had
gone through the ads that come inthe mail and I had seen one that
was for a surrogate. They payquite a bit of money if you can
(04:34):
get approved to be a surrogate,and for that kind of money, it's
a good start. But also itwasn't the money. It was about that
monthly knowing that reminder that I knewother women had. So even though my
(04:58):
ex husband couldn't have a chance tohave more kids and he didn't want me
to have another kid, I hada working uterus and I was able to
give two women children from that uterusby surrogacy. It was their egg and
their partner's sperm. It was puttogether in a Petri dish and implanted into
(05:24):
me, and I grew their babyfor them and gave them their baby at
birth. The first baby I hadwas a little girl, and the experience
was amazing. I had a verygood relationship with the mother. She was
learning English and she got to practicewith me. I also had this little
(05:46):
app that she had on her phonewhere she could read books and record herself
reading books, and then it wouldget downloaded into my app. And then
I had headphones that I could stickto my belly so her baby would know
her voice when she came out.When that baby was born, It was
one of the most amazing experiences inmy life because I knew that I was
(06:10):
giving something to that woman that shecouldn't do herself, but it was still
her own flesh and blood. Shestood next to me in the delivery room
and so did her mother, andthey held my hands. And when the
baby came, the mom was elated, so excited, but also it was
(06:31):
sweet because she was so worried aboutme. I kept having to tell her
to go over and say hi toher new baby, and then her mom,
the grandma, obviously ended up takingcare of me while she went over
there and got to bond with hernewborn. I stayed in the hospital for
a couple days, and then Iwent home. She took her baby home
(06:51):
to China. She sends me picturesand videos. It's beautiful. She wants
me to come visit China sometime andmeet her daughter, and she calls me
Mama Jill because I carried her forher. And it was just one of
the most beautiful experiences that I've everhad in my life, just being able
(07:11):
to give that to someone. Thesecond baby that I had was a boy.
I didn't have the same type ofrelationship with that parent, because you
get to choose the relationship level thatyou're at. That parent just wanted their
baby and to go. But therewas also something special about that one.
He was the first baby boy bornat the hospital in my area on Valentine's
(07:38):
Day in twenty twenty. I thinkit was when COVID all started. So
his mom actually was on her wayhere from China, and when she got
here, we had just started thequarantine mandatory quarantine which was fourteen days,
and I was giving birth to himon her thirteenth day, so she couldn't
(08:01):
come and see him until the nextmorning after he was born, and I
was already gone from the hospital.But he was a Valentine's Day baby.
He was a special boy. Shegot stuck here for a while, couldn't
go back to China for months.I do know that, but I haven't
heard from her in a while.I know that everything went well with them.
(08:22):
In the process of my surrogacies,I lost to my uterus. I
can't have any more children of myown, but it was worth every moment
I did get to raise and adoptmy beautiful son that was my little rant.
I've been a surrogate, I've adoptedand if you ever get a chance
(08:43):
to do either of those, oreven foster a child, do it.
I'm your host, Frankie, andthat was my rant. See you next
time. It O
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