Cervical O's 101 - Your Questions Answered

Your cervix is PORTAL into ENLIGHTENMENT!
 
In Tantric Buddhism, the cervix is the bottom end of the Uma Channel (aka Shushumna Nadi, aka Central Channel).

In the genital reflexology system associated with Taoist sexual teachings, the cervix is the “heart point,” and stimulation of this zone can catalyze deep emotional release and opening.

Your cervix is one of the few organs of the body to boast triple innervation, with the hypogastric, pelvic, and vagus nerves all contributing pressure-sensitive pathways to this 3rogenous zone. In fact, your cervix is even MORE densely innervated than your clitoris!

Directly stimulating the cervix allows you to “hack” into the vagal pathway, inducing all the vagal benefits of increased immune system function, improved physical and emotional health, greater resilience to stressors and triggers, and deep feelings of relaxation and well-being.

Your pleasure is a gateway to health, wealth, and longevity, and you DESERVE to know, understand, and explore this!

In this episode of Sex Is Medicine Reboot, Devi and Alaina answer questions about pain and pleasure in the cervix.

Find out the answers to:

• Why your cervix hurts during sex
• Is it possible to have a cervical orgasm when you have an IUD?
• The keys to cervical pleasure during deep penetration
• How cervical orgasms may change after having children

One of the ways we can resist oppression and access our POWER is through embodied Pleasure and Connection! 

Click Here to join Devi and Alaina (and the IHS Team) on November 4th at 7 pm EST, for a conversation about the Power of Pleasure and how YOU can become part of the RESISTANCE!

 

***References for WSC - https://www.whitesupremacyculture.info/


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Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:00):
Hi, I'm Davy ward Ericson and I'm Alena Salks, and you.

Speaker 2 (00:05):
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Speaker 3 (00:11):
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Speaker 2 (00:12):
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let's get started. This is Sex as Medicine. I'm Alna Salks.

Speaker 2 (00:44):
And I am Davy ward Ericson, and you are listening
to your number one resource for holistic sex education. Sex
is Medicine is the sex education podcast for sexual rebels
and spiritual warriors. And I want to take a moment
right now and thank you once again for joining us.
We deeply appreciate and value your attention and your your

(01:10):
desire to learn, and your commitment to listening to us,
and your willingness to receive this information and this understanding
from us and Sex's Medicine, you know, was on air,
as you know many of you know, from twenty thirteen
until twenty twenty one, and then we took a hiatus

(01:32):
and now we're back, and I want to talk a
little bit about the reboot because.

Speaker 3 (01:35):
Some of y'all may have noticed that it's not the
same old sex.

Speaker 2 (01:38):
As medicine that it was before. It's Sex's medicine. With
I would say a mature lens. We've been through a
lot this past decade, and we've been through a lot
these past two years, and our culture and our society
and our planet is going through a lot, and I,
Elena and I believe it's very important to address some

(01:59):
of the elephants in the room, to address the fact
that our society in North America, at least in the
United States, seems to be in a state of collapse that, in.

Speaker 3 (02:11):
My opinion, has been a long time coming.

Speaker 2 (02:14):
And we also are going to talk about on our
show the things that influence and shape our relationship to
our sexuality. We're not going to ignore things like racism.
We're not going to ignore things like politics. We're not
going to ignore things like media and the impact that
has on our body image and our sense of self.

(02:36):
We are going to take all of that into account
because that is part of sharing this information through a
holistic lens, a whole person lens. We are influenced by
all of our experiences. We are influenced by our environment.
We are influenced, yes, by our body and our genetics,
but our genetics, but our bodies and our genetics are

(02:58):
shaped by our environments and their shaped by how we
relate to our environments and how we are in relationship
or not with our environments. And so this is not
the sex is medicine where we're just gonna be nice
and fawny and you know, smile and look pretty.

Speaker 3 (03:14):
We're rebels.

Speaker 2 (03:16):
We are revolutionaries and that's what we stand for and
that is what we are showing up for. And so
this podcast is for all of you who are rebels,
who are unwilling to just lay down and take it,
so to speak, and just you know, succumb to the
status quo. You have to be a rebel to transform

(03:36):
your trauma.

Speaker 3 (03:37):
You have to be willing. It takes courage. You have
to be willing to put your ass on.

Speaker 2 (03:43):
The line sometimes in order to claim and reclaim your
sexual empowerment. Because our sex is political, our bodies are political,
our sexual orientation is political, our gender is political.

Speaker 3 (03:58):
All of this is political.

Speaker 2 (04:00):
And this makes up who the shapes and makes up
who and what we are and how we relate to
the world. And it absolutely influences and determines how I
relate to the world. And as I've shared with you before,
you know I'm part of my identity is I'm biracial.
I was born to a black father and a white

(04:22):
mother in nineteen seventy four, again less than a decade before,
less than a decade after it became legal for them
to even be married. Right, So my ten years before
I was born, my birth, my life was not considered legal.
It was not considered legal under United States law. There

(04:45):
was a law against me being born. So how do
you think that has shaped and defined who I am
and how I relate to the world. I was taught
from the time that I was a young child that
white society considered me to be an abomination. White society

(05:06):
taught me that I was an abomination, that my life
was not valuable. That is how my early childhood and
my sense of self was formed, not because of anything
that I did, but because of the adults and the
children in my environment, which was in the United States,

(05:27):
communicated to me regularly that I was not valuable and
in fact, I should not even be alive. And I'm
not the only one, right, There's millions of us bi
racial rainbow children running around. So how we are molded
and shaped into the sexual human beings, the sexual adults

(05:50):
that we become is very much determined by our early
childhood experiences and how we how we related to and
how we were related.

Speaker 3 (06:00):
To as little beings in this world.

Speaker 2 (06:04):
And so part of the education that I share is
distilled and filtered through the lens of how.

Speaker 3 (06:13):
I was molded and shaped.

Speaker 2 (06:17):
I know, I keep using that word, but it's appropriate
how I was molded in shaped by the society and
this culture.

Speaker 3 (06:23):
So I'm not going to.

Speaker 2 (06:24):
Pretend like I don't have the lens that I have.
I'm not going to pretend and share with you sex information,
sex education, sex information that ignores the impact of racism
in North America, the impact that that has again on
our bodies, the impact that racist media has on dark

(06:45):
skinned black people and how they feel about their bodies.

Speaker 3 (06:49):
The impact that media has on all.

Speaker 2 (06:51):
Of us, particularly as women, in terms of our body
image and aging and how we.

Speaker 3 (06:56):
Should look, and what it means to be a sexual.

Speaker 2 (06:58):
Being, the impact that it has on men and people
with penises, being told that your body has to look
away and your penis has to be a certain way,
and all of these unnecessary traumas and all of these
unnecessary messages, all of these messages of harm and oppression
that we receive. That shape and mold are reality, and

(07:22):
shape and mold how we interact with each other in
the bedroom. If you think for one moment that politics
is not part of what's happening in the bedroom, my friend,
you are.

Speaker 3 (07:31):
Sorely you are sorely, sorely disillusioned.

Speaker 2 (07:35):
I don't know if disillusioned is the right word there,
but you are. You are sorely, sorely misinformed. And if
you have the privilege, if you have the privilege that
your sexuality is not a political issue, right, if you
have that privilege, then maybe you aren't cognizant of that.
You know, maybe you aren't aware of that. But we
are all influenced. We are constantly being influenced by media,

(07:58):
by social media, by by you know, religion, by politics,
by all of this Atmoss, all of this noise that's
going on in our environment and how that impacts us
on overt and subtle ways, and overt and subtle ways.
This is very very important for us to understand because

(08:19):
so much of our of our relationship to our sexuality
again has been influenced by outside forces.

Speaker 3 (08:28):
And that's what makes me mad.

Speaker 2 (08:31):
That that is what infuriates me, because our pure, precious, innocent, vibrant,
vital sexual energy is a source of power and glory
and creative energy. It is precious and pure, and it
was gifted to us by God, by nature, by our creator.

(08:56):
So to have our relationship with that most spark of
our humanity being influenced by detrimental and negative and oppressive forces.

Speaker 3 (09:08):
That makes me mad.

Speaker 2 (09:10):
It makes me mad. It makes me mad for me,
and it makes me mad for you. It makes me
mad for all of us. And we deserve better than that.
So that's part of what we're wanting to do and
trying to do with this podcast, is we're trying to
dismantle those systems, those structures that keep us blind and
ignorant of our own potential, our beautiful.

Speaker 4 (09:31):
Pure, divine, powerful potential to be in harmony with ourselves,
our body and our relationships right our most important relationships.

Speaker 3 (09:49):
So that's the new brand of sexist medicine. That's the
reboot is. We are warriors.

Speaker 2 (09:55):
We are rebels, and we are warriors, and we call
to all of you that have a rebel spirit and
a and our spiritual warriors to join, to join us,
to listen to us, to share the world.

Speaker 3 (10:09):
To is to share the spread the word.

Speaker 2 (10:11):
Sorry my mouth doesn't work sometimes, to share the word,
to spread the word and to to light up from
the inside out with power and purpose aligned with pleasure.
Pleasure as your power source. Pleasure is your power source.
Sexual pleasure, emotional pleasure, sensual pleasure, spiritual pleasure.

Speaker 3 (10:37):
These are your birthright. Pleasure is your birthright.

Speaker 2 (10:41):
And we want to support you in and and and
educate you and empower you to claim your birthright to
pleasure in your body. So your body is a safe
and juicy and welcoming place for you to be. And
that is what we stand for, bam.

Speaker 3 (11:02):
So that's it.

Speaker 2 (11:03):
So Mike, drop y'all, anything you want to add to that,
my rebel warrior campadre.

Speaker 1 (11:12):
That was beautiful, Davy. I'd say the only thing that's
coming to mind here too, is to speak to some
of the white folks who might be listening to this
and remind them that this is, this is relevant for everyone,
including white folks as well. So I had a beautiful
thing and I just flew out of my head there
for a second. But we are also impacted by our conditioning,

(11:36):
the environment that we're living in, and a lot of
the trappings of you know, the politics white supremacy, things
like that cause us to either an act of violence
on others or to enact violence on ourselves as well.
So things like internalized racial superiority, things like perfectionism and urgency.

(11:58):
There are forms of violence against others, but also forms
of violence against ourselves. They cage us and they keep
us separate from our other beloveds in this world instead
of being deeply connected. So I think it's important to
understand that this is, this is what you're saying, is
for everyone.

Speaker 3 (12:19):
Yeah, it's all of us, because we have to coexist
here on earth.

Speaker 2 (12:22):
And you know the thing about like the racial reality
and stuff like that. Like some folks are like, well,
the more you talk about racism, the more you reinforce it.

Speaker 3 (12:29):
And I'm like, well, no, you have to identify a wound.
If you're ill. Racism is a sickness.

Speaker 2 (12:37):
It's an illness, and in order to heal an illness,
you have to first identify it and understand it so
that you can then undo it. So we are pointing
this out so we can see it, so we're no
longer it's no longer operating in our blind spots, so
we're no longer ignorant of it, so we can transform
and heal it and bring true healing and reparation. Right,

(12:59):
so there can be true love without violence, without the
social violence that we are conditioned to inflict upon ourselves
and each other.

Speaker 1 (13:08):
Yeah yeah, yeah, yeah. And for white folks it can
feel like it's reinforcing it, but it's not reinforcing it.
It's just making it visible to them, right, because for
us white folks, racism, the invisibility of racism is really
steeped in our culture. So it's really about waking.

Speaker 2 (13:25):
Up, becoming woke, which again, for those of you, I know,
woke has been weaponized as a slur, but woke comes
from the black civil rights movement about like.

Speaker 3 (13:37):
Staying awake, staying alert, staying aware.

Speaker 2 (13:39):
It comes from black people and it's been appropriated and
then distorted. Right.

Speaker 3 (13:45):
It's a beautiful word of survival.

Speaker 2 (13:48):
And justice and transcendence of oppression that is turned into
a slur.

Speaker 3 (13:53):
Right. So, yeah, we are woke, We are awake, and
we want you to be awake and away.

Speaker 2 (14:01):
So you are operating with consciousness and intent, and that
doesn't mean you have to agree with everything we say.
I'm comfortable with you not agreeing with everything that we say.
Sometimes I don't agree, you know, I say it, I'm like, shit,
I didn't mean that, you know.

Speaker 3 (14:15):
A week later, I'm like, well, take that back, take
that back. Right.

Speaker 2 (14:21):
But this is about it's about opening our minds and
our awareness and cultivating different perspective viewing things, viewing sexuality,
and healing and pleasure through again, through a holistic lens,
a whole person lens, a whole person, all.

Speaker 3 (14:39):
Of you, all of me, all of us.

Speaker 2 (14:43):
So that's what we're here for, and that is you know,
that is the lens through which we are going to
be disseminating this information. This is the lens through which
we are going to be sharing our twenty seven years
of expertise in this field. And so we just wanted
to give you warning because this is not the sexiest
medicine of a decade ago. This is the sexist medicine Warriors,

(15:07):
and we are your number one woke a podcast for
holistic sex education. All right, so speaking of sex education, today,
we're going to be talking.

Speaker 3 (15:18):
We're gonna be answering your questions, which is my favorite.
This is my favorite thing to do. If you're a
cus on YouTube on making funny faces, this is my
favorite thing.

Speaker 2 (15:26):
We love your questions because it allows us to directly
speak to your interest.

Speaker 3 (15:33):
When you ask us questions, you're.

Speaker 2 (15:34):
Letting us know, Hey, what do I need more information about?
So it's like a beautiful roadmap that you give us,
and it allows us to really be in service to you,
which is again our goal. That's why we're here, is
to be in service to you and to God ultimately.
So we were answering your questions, So Leanne, I'm gonna
hand the mic to you because I've been talking enough.

Speaker 1 (15:53):
Ah, thank you, Davey. So today we're going to talk
about the vagina a lot, and.

Speaker 3 (15:58):
Specifically la vahina.

Speaker 1 (16:07):
Specifically, I'm going to start talking about the cervix because
you all have a lot of questions about the cervix.
We've been talking about it on our social media and
we've been getting a lot of feedback. So we're going
to begin there and then answer a few more questions
about the vagina.

Speaker 2 (16:21):
Sob oh, I just wanted to make a point about
our social media.

Speaker 3 (16:24):
I want to give us a plug.

Speaker 2 (16:25):
So, y'all, we're still at Authentic TNTRA, and I want
to let you know that is through no fault of
our own. We have been trying since July to change
our Instagram handle to Holistic Sexology Institute, and they will
not let us change our handle. So I am so sorry.

Speaker 3 (16:42):
We are still at Authentic CONTRA.

Speaker 2 (16:44):
We did change our DBA, you know, to be more
reflective of what we're doing, but they won't let us
change our handle. So we're still at Authentic TNTRA on Instagram.
So just want to let you know that. Okay, Sorry, Elena.

Speaker 1 (16:57):
No apologies, Thank you for reminding everyone. So Davy, first question,
why does your cervix hurt during sex? From one user?

Speaker 3 (17:08):
Can you start with Adelena? Do you want to take that? Sorry?

Speaker 1 (17:12):
I will take that one. So I think i'd start
by saying that the cervix doesn't necessarily hurt during sex
for all people, but it does hurt during sex for many, many,
many people who have vaginas, and so there's a number
of different reasons why this might be occurring. So some
of the ways in which we interact with the cervix
cause trauma to the cervix. Right, So we're getting regular

(17:35):
pap smears when are going into the gynecologists, and David,
I think you can speak more to the the injuries
that occur with pap smears. We're doing things like you know,
putting iud's in our inside our uteruses, which have an
impact on the cervix. We are in some cases having

(17:56):
procedures like biopsies done on them. And also the way
that we have se x impacts our cervix as well.
So sometimes it's very common for people to have a
lot of you know, deep pounding sex with aur cervix
is hit very.

Speaker 3 (18:10):
Hard and.

Speaker 1 (18:13):
When they may or may not be warmed up enough
to be doing that, and so that can either a
cause some tenderness or injury to the cervix itself, or
it might just be that it's too early to be
playing with the cervix. So those are some of my
initial thoughts maybe.

Speaker 2 (18:31):
Thank you, yes, like stand up for all of that,
and for me, I would say the biggest thing to
be mindful of in terms of your cervix is your
cervix is an orgasm zone that Western the Western medical
system has not recognized as an orgasm zone since inception.

(18:54):
So this means that, as Elena was mentioning in terms
of our Guyan logic, what we consider to be regular
and necessary gynecological health, they are not protecting your precious,
your beautiful, and your highly sensitive cervix. They are not
protecting it. They are in fact injuring it through many

(19:15):
of those medical procedures. And if you go back to
some of the old episodes of Sex's Medicine where I've
spoken with multiple experts about, you know, cervical care and
even how to get a pap smear that's not gonna
damage your cervix. I've got a few episodes of that
with uh doctor Shirley I believe her name is. So

(19:37):
it's important to be aware to start from the place
that your entire vagina, including your cervix, your uterus, you know,
your whole reproductive mechanism is wired for pleasure, and you
are functioning in a system that does not recognize or

(20:01):
acknowledge that as a highly sensitive pleasure zone. And so again,
therefore a lot of the procedures that are done.

Speaker 3 (20:10):
Necessary procedures that are done to ensure.

Speaker 2 (20:13):
Reproductive health, do not protect that delicate tissue and in
fact are traumatic.

Speaker 3 (20:19):
And if it's not physically traumatic, I'm gonna.

Speaker 2 (20:22):
Say it's energetically traumatic because when you're laying on that
table with your feet and stirrups, like trying to like disassociate.

Speaker 3 (20:30):
Because it's so weird with somebody's.

Speaker 2 (20:32):
Face all up in your junk right and like and
like it's just so fucking uncomfortable that whole it's just gross,
like emostly energetically, like my entire nervous system recoils.

Speaker 3 (20:44):
It's like like it's awful.

Speaker 1 (20:46):
It's it's to you beforehand.

Speaker 3 (20:50):
It's just awful. It's an awful experience.

Speaker 2 (20:52):
And then for those of us who are sexual abuse survivors,
I'm like, talk about a trauma recover, like trauma trigger dude,
Like there's no there's no safety in those moments with
your feet and stirrups on your back, with this weird
light and you don't think you've got a choice, and
you've got someone poking and prodding and like, and it's
not pleasurable and sometimes it's painful, and like that's a

(21:14):
bad situation.

Speaker 3 (21:15):
It's just I mean, like it it fucking it's fucking horrific,
quite frank it. It gives me nightmares.

Speaker 2 (21:21):
So and I'm being I'm like, I'm I'm sharing with you,
like the emotional impact of this, and this is what
we we disassociate from, you know, it's like we got
to just grin and beard and pick up our pick,
pull up our big girl panties and just fuck through
our guy. No exams once every you know, six months.
It doesn't have to be like that, is my point.
It doesn't have to be like that. And the way

(21:41):
that it is is traumatic. It has an impact on us.
And and the thing about trauma is we what I
loved learning about trauma, and this was like years ago,
this made so much sense for me, is that trauma
is in any experience in which the nervous system experiences
in overwhelm. You don't have to know that you're overwhelmed.

Speaker 3 (22:03):
You can be like, oh, this is normal, I'm having
my papsmere.

Speaker 2 (22:06):
But your nervous system can be like, what this is
happening now? So your nervous system can hold it as
a trauma. And you don't even have to be thinking
that this.

Speaker 3 (22:18):
Is a trauma. You don't have to associate with a
trauma for your beautiful little vegas nerve.

Speaker 2 (22:23):
To be like to recoil, to be like this is
fucked up and shut down. And then you're constipated and
then can't have orgasms, you know, I mean like, and.

Speaker 3 (22:34):
That's your vegas nerve.

Speaker 2 (22:35):
If you're constipated and can't have orgasms, is not your
vegas nerve, right there could be your vegas nerve right there.

Speaker 3 (22:39):
That's one of the contributing factors to it.

Speaker 2 (22:41):
That's a freeze response in your dorsal veagel pathway constipation
and lack of orgasm. Right So I'm just saying, I'm
painting this picture for you that that that our society
are the culture society both all and above, like it
is not our friend when it comes to our genital wellness.

(23:04):
And and yes, you know we may need for physiologically,
we may need to get pap smears, but the way
it's done is a psychological barrier, and it's emotionally overwhelming
for many women, and for your nervous system it can
be absolutely emotionally overwhelming. So all of that is going
to impact your cervix and your ability to experience vaginal

(23:29):
pleasure and pleasure in general. So so your cervix. So
pain in your cervix isn't an indication of trauma numbness
if you don't feel shit, because again, if you've listened
to our episodes your cervix, then some studies have found
over two hundred thousand nerve fibers in your cervix.

Speaker 3 (23:49):
You know, people like to talk about the clatorus is
ten thousand. Motherfucker cervix has over two hundred thousand.

Speaker 2 (23:54):
Your cervix has more pleasure you know, nerve fibers than
your clatorus does.

Speaker 1 (23:59):
Rightervated, right, Yeah, it's triple and nervautd It's one of
the most highly and densely innervated areas in your entire body.

Speaker 2 (24:08):
So so if you don't feel anything, trauma, if you've
got pain, yes, trauma, and like I mean, trauma doesn't
have to look like rape. Trauma can just look like
getting a PAP smear, y'all. As we just broke down
for you, right, not to mention all the other you know,
horrific things that happen so so pain in your shovicx

(24:29):
is a symptom of trauma.

Speaker 3 (24:30):
Yes you, yes, you can heal it. It's also a.

Speaker 2 (24:33):
Symptom of maybe not being warmed up enough as a
Lena sad like you need.

Speaker 3 (24:36):
Like you're think of your your.

Speaker 2 (24:39):
Vagina, your vohina, your pussy, your cunt, your lotus as
a as.

Speaker 3 (24:45):
A flower, it is and it and it.

Speaker 5 (24:48):
Takes time to blossom and open fully, and you can't
force that process, just like if you try to force
a rose open, you're gonna you're gonna destroy it.

Speaker 2 (24:59):
So it's only with time and patience and love and
nurturing that your pussy blossoms into the beautiful lotus that's.

Speaker 3 (25:08):
Meant to be, sister.

Speaker 2 (25:10):
So yeah, if someone's you know, if you if your
partner is hitting it and and you're you haven't blossomed enough,
then it can hurt.

Speaker 3 (25:20):
But even sometimes you know, I've had a.

Speaker 2 (25:23):
Word's like the angle man and he hits that and
it hurts, right, and again that can be that that
that can be It can be a red flag. It
can be a symptom of trauma because I can tell
you that since my cervix has been healed and restored

(25:44):
as a reliable orgasm zone, I don't get that hurts.

Speaker 3 (25:48):
I don't get those. I don't get those hurts with
those deep hits, right, I don't get that anymore. That
used to be. So you're saying you don't either anymore.

Speaker 1 (25:56):
Yeah, no, Yeah, there might be slight discomfort, like like
you said, if not warmed up, but I don't get
those like those like electric painful hits anymore.

Speaker 3 (26:05):
Yeah.

Speaker 2 (26:06):
So your your cervix is is an orgasm zone. So
how do you How do you heal it? How do
you heal it?

Speaker 3 (26:12):
Well, there's there's uh.

Speaker 2 (26:14):
I wish I could give you the names of specific
experts off the top of my head so then I
can't so have to put the put the notes down
and there. But based on the work that we do,
I would say your number one gateway for cervical healing
is your self pleasure practice.

Speaker 3 (26:31):
My friends like wow, like really really really.

Speaker 2 (26:36):
Being able to take the time and nurture ourselves and
approach it slowly and gently. Like I'm like, don't go
for the cervix until you've awakened your G spot. Don't
go for the cervix until you've activated your A spot.
Don't go for the cervix until you've you know, awakened
that peace spot, right, and then when all those other
orgasm zones are active, then invite the cervix to the party.

(26:59):
But it's slowly, gently and and and I'm going to
say that the beautiful excavating work and of work is
the right word. The beautiful excavating play, you know, like
digging up a precious treasure that can be done in
your own self pleasure practice is unparalleled, It truly is.

(27:19):
And so that's one of the things that we specialize
at in our work at the both the Institute of
Authentic Tuntra Education and our new Institute of Holistic Sexology
is that self pleasure process. So we're going to be
doing a class of December, December fourth, mark your calendars
for the sacred art of self pleasure, Holistic sexual healing,
for yoni owners, for people with volvas and vaginas. All right,

(27:42):
So that's that. So the cervix, we hope we answer
that question, why does it hurt? Well, because it's fucking traumatized, yo,
go on Lena, do you reminded me.

Speaker 1 (27:49):
Of things that I that I wanted to mention? So first, yes,
that's how I healed my cervix was through through my
self pleasure practice. And sorry, can we pause for a second,
what's up? Yeah, Davy, So speaking of healing through self pleasure,
that's how I healed my cervix as well. So you

(28:11):
taught me how to do it, and with some practice
and time, doing my self pleasure practice was the thing
that allowed me to experience pleasure in that area and
then that eventually translated to experiencing pleasure in that area
with my partner. And you made me think of some
things when you were talking about the gynecologist as well.

(28:32):
You're talking about how the conditions can themselves can be
really traumatic, and you maybe think about all the sensory
issues that there are in there as well that really
contribute to that lack of safety in that space. So
I think you mentioned some of these. But there's that
extremely bright fluorescent light, the like sterile environment, it's usually cold,

(28:56):
you're wearing like a scratchy ass, the thing over your
boy that like barely covers and you never know how
to put it on, and if it's cloth, it's still
pretty uncomfortable, and you don't really talk that much with
the doctor beforehand in many cases.

Speaker 3 (29:13):
And I kind of.

Speaker 1 (29:14):
Wanted to point out that it feels like that's the
way it has to be because that's how we do
medicine in this country. But there are people who do
it different and they're midwives. So, like I had midwiffery
care for my pregnancy, and it was a whole different experience.
So they would book me for these long periods of time.

(29:35):
I would get like forty five minutes to an hour
sometimes with my midwife when I would have a check
up to check on the baby and to you know,
check on me, and we'd spend the whole first part
of that talking. They check in with my emotions, they
check in on my life, they check in on the pregnancy,
but also my relationship and things that were going on.
So they really kind of oriented to all of these

(29:58):
other things that do in packed me, my baby, and
my sexuality right before we even talked about before I
even took my pants off, right, I was fully closed
for these things. And they'd have these beautiful rooms with
low lighting and soft fabrics, and even when they had
to do physical exams. They work their way in really

(30:20):
slowly too, so they just like touch your thigh first
and then make eye contact with you and be like,
is this okay, I'm touching your thigh. They'd warn you
before they did it, I'm gonna touch your thigh. How
is that? And then they'd move closer than they just
like touch the opening to your vagina and check in
and then say, okay, are you ready for me to

(30:41):
for me to enter, and they would like do it
very very slowly. So they took these slow, methodical, graduated
steps and cultivated all of these conditions for my nervous
system to be really calm before they even touched me.

Speaker 2 (30:56):
Wow, thank you so much for sharing that, because I've
never I haven't been pregnant. Well I mean I've been pregnant,
but I haven't had a baby, right, so I haven't
experienced midwiffery. So like to to understand that that's the approach, right,
and it is so like it talk about a human
centered approach and talk about including the whole human a
holistic approach, and again it's like the thing that stands

(31:19):
up to me. It's a very feminine approach, right, It's
like and it's and it's considerate. It's like it's like
taking into consideration the person and their body and their
boundaries and their past traumas and all of that is
opposed to this very clinical and i'm gonna say masculine
and colonialist approach of get on the table with these
lights and the sarcee and there's no there's no there's

(31:40):
no room for the human there's no there's no consideration
of the humanity of the person. It's just a pussy
or a vagina that you have to like address, right,
And it's like the factory farming kind of thing is
like how many can you get in and get out?
Like the factory mentality, like how many pussies can you
have in front of you and just like you know,

(32:01):
go through them to get them in and out of
the door to get your check right for the insurance
company or however the system set up.

Speaker 3 (32:06):
So that all.

Speaker 2 (32:07):
Speaks to again, how the system or current system is
fucking traumatic for many of us, for all of us
in different ways, right, and how there isn't there is
another way. And I also find it interesting that midwhiffery
is one of the areas that's being really criminalized and targeted.
Right again, it's often woman led, it's often woman of

(32:28):
color lad and it is and it's and it's the
way that humans have have, you know, undergone birth from
millennia until the insertion of you know, of Western science
over the last few hundred years. The midwift whiffery was
the only fucking option for millennia. That's all there was

(32:49):
is you had the midwife and the herbs and this
and then that, you know, and like, that's the way
we as human beings have survived and thrived for tens
of thousands of years. And it's only been in the
last few hundred years that that process has been quite
frankly aborted. That that relationship to our humanity and that
relationship to to.

Speaker 3 (33:11):
The birthing process in a way that's that's.

Speaker 2 (33:13):
Warm and fluid and feminine, that that has been aborted.
I'm using that word intentionally because those you know who
want to control our sexuality and our right to abortion
are the ones who have aborted and severed in many ways,
our relationship to our bodies and and our ways indigenous

(33:36):
ways of being in our bodies in this world.

Speaker 3 (33:40):
So I hope that made sense, But yeah.

Speaker 1 (33:42):
That's huge.

Speaker 3 (33:43):
That's huge. That's huge.

Speaker 2 (33:44):
So there is another way, y'all, And there are there are,
there are practitioners that are doing things in different ways,
and those practitioners who are doing things in different ways
are often penalized, are often you know, criminalized.

Speaker 3 (33:56):
So it's important to be aware of that and give support.

Speaker 1 (34:00):
Yeah, yeah, exactly.

Speaker 3 (34:01):
All right, look at that.

Speaker 2 (34:02):
But we were like, we had a list of ten
questions and we're like, on question one one.

Speaker 1 (34:07):
Yeah, oh real quick before we move on. Okay, pelvic
floor could be involved as well, So quick, PSA, if
you have stuff going on with your pelvic floor that
could impact your cervix too.

Speaker 3 (34:19):
Absolutely. Yeah.

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Speaker 1 (35:49):
Are you ready for the next question?

Speaker 3 (35:50):
Next question?

Speaker 1 (35:51):
Bring it all right? Is it possible to have a
cervical orgasm when you have an Iudji.

Speaker 2 (35:59):
Mean, like when the IUD is being inserted, or you
mean an IUD in general?

Speaker 1 (36:03):
Hmmm, Well, I don't have any further context, but how
I read it was that the person is wondering if
they're able to have cervical orgasms if they have an
ongoing inter uterine device implanted in there in their uterus.

Speaker 2 (36:20):
So I mean, in my experience like, from what I've
seen from students, I do not have an IUD, but
you know, I've had many female students who do have IUDs,
and hell yeah, they can have orgasms from having an
even not from having an IUD, but while having an IUD,
they can still have cervical orgasms. But once again, it's
important to address the trauma that goes into IUD insertion

(36:43):
very often.

Speaker 3 (36:44):
And so the students that that we've had, that I've
had that have had.

Speaker 2 (36:49):
Cervical orgasms with IUDs, have gone through our programs, have
done a lot of healing work so that they they've healed.

Speaker 3 (36:57):
The trauma of their cervix.

Speaker 2 (36:59):
I will say that the type of iu D that
you have does affect you know, obviously it affects many things,
but it affects the flow of sexual energy in your body.
And I remember I had I had one student who
I was also friends with, and so she, you know,

(37:19):
we would chat a lot, and so she would she
would share with me her experience of of her IUD,
and she had a copper iu D and she was
noticing that she got really attuned to her body and
she noticed that she just noticed some disruption, you know,
like in her in her uterine area, and like she know,
she noticed what she believed was an impact on her
orgasm and pleasure, and mostly it was the way her

(37:41):
energy flowed in her energy body, because again we're not
just physical bodies, were energy bodies, right, and so copper
is a conductor, and it's going to impact your energy
body if it's in or on your body. And so
she as her trauma clear purified, and she became more clear,
she was able to attune more deeply to her energy

(38:02):
body and what was going on in her reproductive organs.

Speaker 3 (38:06):
And so she believed that she was noticing an impact
from that copper IUD.

Speaker 2 (38:11):
So she had it taken out, and that was the
real telling thing because absolutely yes, it was having an
effect on her orgasm, on her sexuality, and her health overall.
It was having an impact on her energy body, and
she noticed a significant positive shift when she had the
IUD removed. So just putting that out there, not encouraging

(38:35):
you to, you know, to change your birth control method.

Speaker 3 (38:38):
What works for you, works for you, but just being just.

Speaker 2 (38:40):
Noting that that that is something that copper will impact you.
And I'm not advocating for her monal birth control at all.
That's a whole other that's a whole other thing. But yeah,
So to answer the question, yes, you can have a
cervical orgasm with an IUD, and take into account that
if you have pain or numbness at your cervix, it
could be trauma from that IUD insertion, But it doesn't

(39:03):
prevent you from having cervical orgasms.

Speaker 3 (39:05):
Okay, sorry, Elena.

Speaker 1 (39:09):
All of what Davey said. And additionally, if you're if
you're thinking of getting an IUD, I would highly encourage
you to talk to your practitioner first about their insertion
methods because one of the traumas that happens when you
insert an IUD is they have to hold your cervix
still in order to adjust the body and straighten. It

(39:32):
is my understanding of it. Please excuse me if I
get that a little bit wrong, but what they use
this kind of long, thin, sharp wire clamp that they
hold on to the cervix. And you know, I've seen
this thing kind of on various videos clamping things that
are not the cervix, and it looks like it even
can potentially pierce the skin as well, but is very

(39:54):
very very pointy and pretty much unanimously uncomfortable for most people.
I have seen practitioners state that there are ways to
in certain id id without using the clamp, but the
person has to come with the full bladder and they
have to be positioned a certain way, so it takes
a little more preparation and finesse. So I think it's

(40:15):
really important to talk to your provider before you're going
to do that, so that you can have the least
amount of trauma happen to your cervix. And this will
also give you an understanding of whether your provider knows
that your cervix is innervated or not. I am astounded
at how many doctors have told me that my that
I have that there's no feeling in the cervix. I've

(40:37):
gone to multiple gynecologists who've told me that when I
tell them that the perhapsmere hurts and it is triple innervated.
This is this is well documented and people can orgasm
from it. One of my favorite, one of my favorite
things to quote is a study where they did they
studied women who had spinal cord severances who couldn't orgasm traditionally,

(41:01):
but could still orgasm from stimulation of the cervix because
the biggest nerve innervates it and bypasses this spinal column.
So there are nerves there. You can have pleasure there.
Don't let anyone tell you that you can't.

Speaker 2 (41:13):
You know, And this just goes back to like what
we what I was just talking about, like midwiffery and
Western modern science. It is a sad state of affair
that I little Old Davy and Lil old Lena with
a little you know whatever certifications whatever know more about
the cervix than your fucking medical provider. Like that is
a sad state of affairs, Like it really, really truly

(41:34):
is so. And that to me, from my point of view,
that ignorance is a choice. If your medical provider does
not know that your cervix is triple and nervated and
as a potential orgasm zone, like that is that is
intentional ignorance.

Speaker 3 (41:47):
It means they don't want to know.

Speaker 2 (41:48):
Because in this day and age, if y'all know it
from listening to sex as medicine and it can be
verified in medical journals, then why the fuck doesn't your
guy in the coologists know it?

Speaker 3 (41:58):
There's no fucking excuse.

Speaker 2 (41:59):
It's it's intentional and willful ignorance because they don't fucking
care enough to learn, because they don't care enough about
women's bodies and pleasure.

Speaker 3 (42:09):
So I'm just.

Speaker 2 (42:10):
Saying, I know some not everyone has the privilege of
just choosing their gynecologists, you know, like everywhere. But I'm
just saying, like, we deserve better than this, y'all. We
deserve better than this, and I'm advocating for all of
us to have better than this from our providers that
we pay.

Speaker 3 (42:25):
But if I'm paying you, you better know, you better know
more than I do.

Speaker 2 (42:28):
If I'm giving you my money, then you should know
more about my pussy than I do. So if I
know more more about my pussy than you do, then
you need to pay me for that visit. I'm just
saying you need to do some kind of exchange. I'm
giving you education, you can give me my lab work. Okay,
So all righty, next question.

Speaker 1 (42:52):
Okay, I could go on about that for a long time.

Speaker 3 (42:55):
No, go on, I don't hurt you short.

Speaker 1 (42:57):
I think the other thing that comes to mind with
at the commonality of people telling women and people with
vaginas that their cervix feels nothing is that people tell
them all the time that it does. So I think
I feel so frustrated that so often anecdotal evidence, when
people are speaking about their own experience of their body,

(43:19):
it's just ignored or gas lit away from them. That
drives me absolutely crazy.

Speaker 2 (43:26):
And what is that symptomatic of white supremacist society y'all?

Speaker 3 (43:31):
Like that is? I know some of y'all hate that
fucking word, but it's the truth.

Speaker 2 (43:34):
We're gonna you know what I'm gonna do at the
bottom of we are putting a fucking link white supremacist society.
So you can look at all this shit that we
are conditioned into and it's not it's all of us.

Speaker 3 (43:45):
That is North American culture.

Speaker 2 (43:46):
All of us are indoctrinated into white supremacist society values.

Speaker 3 (43:50):
All of us don't matter what color your skin is.
That is the name of the game. That is the.

Speaker 2 (43:55):
Structure of the organizing structure. And so with Alena is
describing and total evidence, particularly from women and particularly from
women of color, being dismissed and invalidated.

Speaker 3 (44:06):
That is a.

Speaker 2 (44:08):
Hallmark of white supremacist or colonialist, whatever word you want
to use there. But it is a structure of violence
and oppression, and it shows up in our bodies. There
you go, y'all, whole person, lens, whole person, lens, holistic
sex education.

Speaker 3 (44:25):
We got to take everything into account. Okay, next question.

Speaker 1 (44:29):
Okay, so this one is we probably won't have too
much extra say about this, but so about cervical o's.
This question is, then why do they scream whenever you
accidentally slide that deep? I think it's total bs based
on my experience. I guessing this is from a person
of the penis.

Speaker 2 (44:47):
Oh and I think maybe he was saying that cervical
orgasms are a lie because she screams.

Speaker 3 (44:52):
And so that goes to what do y'all man, please learn.

Speaker 2 (44:58):
The genital anatomy of your female partners. If you are
a heterosexual men, man, your penis is a tool for healing.
It is I want you to claim that. I want
you to own that that your penis is a tool
for healing, and so part of your mission as man,
part of your manliness, is transmitting energy into your partner's

(45:23):
vagina to heal her and to balance her the fuck out.
She needs at least twenty minutes a dick to balance
her out. I'm just saying at least twenty minutes a
dick to balance her out right, So at least so
you know your your woman's pussy is a flower that
needs to blossom and bloom. So first of all, if

(45:46):
she's screaming because you're hitting it too deep, have you
warmed her up?

Speaker 3 (45:51):
She is her?

Speaker 2 (45:52):
Are her the pedals of her lotus open? Right, So
first warm her up, and second, slowly gently, you don't
need to There's nothing more delicious than that being teased
with the tip, just the tip, just the tip.

Speaker 3 (46:05):
Tease with the tip, right, and let let that yony
get hungry before you go deep.

Speaker 2 (46:13):
Let her get hungry, let her be like, let her
beg for it, like, please please bring it to me, right,
So let her get hungry.

Speaker 3 (46:21):
Before you go too deep. And then when you go
to deep, you don't need to hit it. You don't
need to smack it.

Speaker 2 (46:25):
You can slide and kiss the cervix, Kiss the cervix,
Kiss the cervix with the tip like massage that servix,
Kiss it, make love to it. Right. So I would
say to you, dude, who said, how come she screams?
If you you know, go to it's you.

Speaker 3 (46:45):
It's your technique is wrong. Your technique is off. Your
technique needs some work.

Speaker 2 (46:50):
We'll say, well, your technique needs some work, so so gently, slowly,
my friends, and let the lotus open, let the lotus
blossom before you go, before.

Speaker 3 (46:59):
You go too deep. Yeah, that's what I got for that?
Would you got yeah for me?

Speaker 1 (47:05):
This also points to the importance of communication between two
people having sex. Right, So when you why do they
scream whenever you accidentally slide it that deep? Did you
have a conversation about about her body before you started
having sex?

Speaker 2 (47:20):
You know?

Speaker 1 (47:21):
Did you have conversations about what feels good? Did you
ask about whether she wants to have her servix pounded?

Speaker 3 (47:28):
You know?

Speaker 1 (47:28):
And how does it feel right now?

Speaker 2 (47:30):
You know?

Speaker 1 (47:30):
And and if it does feel pain, does she want
to work on it?

Speaker 2 (47:34):
Right?

Speaker 1 (47:34):
So, there's so many different conversations that could be had
before getting to this point in any relationship, even if
it's just kind of like a one night stand or
something like that, you can still have a sexy conversation
about your bodies before you start, so you're not just
surprising someone with a with a pound to the surface.

Speaker 2 (47:53):
And I want to say, like, you know, I'm here
for pounding too, But it's all timing, y'all. Like I'm oh, understand,
you better be pounding me across the room boy, like
for sure, but like five ten minutes in, like give
me some fucking warm up time, you know, like it
Like imagine if I just like stuck.

Speaker 3 (48:08):
My finger in your booty hole with no warning, you'd
be like, what the fuck? Right? No warm up, no warning,
just there you go. How come you're not ready?

Speaker 2 (48:16):
Like no, Like, we need to be considerate of each
other's orfices, heard of each other's right bell I got
my puppy in the back bella.

Speaker 3 (48:25):
Yes, she's waiting.

Speaker 2 (48:29):
She gets she gets lots of oral sex from the
male dogs her position.

Speaker 3 (48:33):
She just lays there waits for them. That's awesome.

Speaker 1 (48:41):
In sorry.

Speaker 3 (48:46):
So so yeah, so so guys.

Speaker 2 (48:50):
You know, pounding, but timing right, timing, you know, timing
is everything. Timing is everything, all right. I also want
to say, y'all in these videos, sometimes I look at myself,
I'm like, god, damn, I'm like I gotta shine on me.

Speaker 3 (49:02):
And it is so fucking hot in Costa Rica, you guys.
It is like eighty five.

Speaker 2 (49:06):
Degrees and ninety percent humidity. So and I'm perimenopausa. It's
like I get Dewey In these videos, I've got like
sweat streaming down and anyway, so.

Speaker 1 (49:19):
I like it. I think. I think Dewey is beautiful.

Speaker 2 (49:25):
So if I'm sweaty looking, those are the conditions under
which we are videoing hot flashes and ninety five percent humidity.

Speaker 3 (49:32):
Okay, all right, exs question.

Speaker 1 (49:34):
But one more cervical orgasm, and we have time for.

Speaker 3 (49:36):
It, I think, so, I think, so let's do it.

Speaker 1 (49:39):
Cervical orgasm question, of course, So how does how do
cervical orgasms change after having children? I find everything is
so much more open and sensitive, whole new regions that
didn't exist before. Is that a spiritual thing or a
physical thing? Okay, good question. I guess I should start
with that one.

Speaker 3 (49:59):
Yeah, since you have experience.

Speaker 1 (50:02):
Since I've had a child. Yes, So I do find
that my cervix changed after being pregnant and having my son.
I did not give birth vaginally, so I didn't have
the experience of him passing through my cervix, but I
did I was in labor for like four days, so
I did have the experience of my cervix dilating and

(50:22):
having a lot of pressure on it during that time period.
And yeah, it did change after my pregnancy. I had
a good bit of pain in my cervix kind of
just walking around, but also during sex, and I ended
up needing to go to a pelvic floor therapist to

(50:44):
work with that because I was having some pelvic floor
issues that were contributing to how my cervix was adjusted
and why I was experiencing pain. But after that was
taking care of I personally haven't had any more issues.
But it may make sense that someone might feel less

(51:04):
sensation or pain after childbirth, but it also makes sense
that someone might feel more sensation and more pleasure after
childbirth too, because I do think it is both a
physical and a spiritual thing. The process of childbirth is
immensely spiritual and changes you in so many ways. And

(51:27):
you know, many women do have excellent vaginal birth experiences
and even orgasmic birth experiences, So it's totally feasible that
someone would go through labor and feel more sensation and
even be better equipped to have orgasm from their cervix.
And as far as the spiritual thing, you know, we've

(51:48):
got an offshoot of our central channel going to our cervix,
so as we go through that process of bringing a
life into the world. Yes, we are impacted spiritually in
that way as well.

Speaker 3 (52:04):
We have to be.

Speaker 2 (52:05):
And I mean to me, there's like being human is
a spiritual experience. Yeah, right, there's no separation between spirituality
and or humanity.

Speaker 3 (52:14):
It's one and the same.

Speaker 2 (52:15):
We cannot be fully and truly human without being connected
to spirit. I mean we see, look at the look
at the world we live in. It's like murder and mayhem.
It's because there's no God. It's because there's no no
true spirit. You know, maybe people think that they're fighting
about their God, but that's not God. God is love,
you know, God is like God is like everything. It's
it's everything, whatever word you want to use, their creator, spirit,

(52:36):
whatever it is. So so every experience we have as
human beings is both is spiritual and physical because there's
no separation.

Speaker 3 (52:45):
There's they're they're one and the same.

Speaker 2 (52:47):
And and as Elena said specifically, your your cervix is
the bottom end of your central channel. So I mean
it's it's it's a power point. It's a power point.
And I know that I can't remember all the details,
but from giving birth, a cervix does go through physiological changes.
You're human being through your cervix. I mean, a that's

(53:09):
a fucking miracle. It's a fucking miracle that we can
grow other humans in our bodies and then burn them
through our vaginas. That just that blows my mind every
single time I think about it, Like it truly is
a miracle, Like the female body is is truly miraculous,

(53:29):
and the birthing process is truly a miracle. So yeah,
your cervix is gonna change. And I love for you
that everything's juice feels juicier.

Speaker 3 (53:37):
And more sensitive. That like, what a wonderful.

Speaker 2 (53:39):
Gift, What a wonderful blessing from the experience of pregnancy
and birthing.

Speaker 3 (53:44):
It should be that way. It should in my opinion.

Speaker 2 (53:47):
So so yeah, yeah, like absolutely, And I would say
to you, you're you're asking you were asking us this question.

Speaker 3 (53:55):
Is this you know? Is this a thing?

Speaker 2 (53:57):
And I'm saying, well, yes, because look, you're experiencing it.

Speaker 3 (54:01):
So if you're experiencing it, it's a thing.

Speaker 2 (54:04):
And will validate I validate your experience, Elena, And I
validate your experience.

Speaker 3 (54:08):
Yes, it's a thing. And the most important thing is
that this is your experience, and what you experience is
real and valid and important.

Speaker 2 (54:17):
And yes, it's probably mirrored by millions of people around
the world, right, it probably is. And I'm going to
encourage you to validate your own experience.

Speaker 3 (54:28):
Whether we validate it for you or not, you.

Speaker 2 (54:31):
Experience it, it is true for you, and that is
valid day all right, So I think you know, we
have more questions, but they're veerying off of this, the
specific cervix topic. So we think this episode is just
going to be about cervixes. Because it's been an hour.

Speaker 3 (54:50):
We had a lot to say.

Speaker 2 (54:52):
We have a lot more to say, I'm sure, but
any closing thoughts on the cervix, Elena.

Speaker 1 (54:59):
H I love it. It's a beautiful, magical, pleasurable, mysterious
part of our body, and mysterious only in the in
the in the way you would say something is a mystery,
as in something is miraculous.

Speaker 3 (55:17):
Mm hmmm, yeah, yeah.

Speaker 2 (55:20):
And and I wanna I want to say for for
those of you, so I want to say that that
you know, Elene and are speaking from a place of
orgasm privilege. You know in that we we we we
have reclaimed our ability to orgasm fully and completely, and
it was a reclamation process we didn't, you know, we

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didn't wake up like this so to speaker, or maybe
we did wake up like this, but we were you know,
had trauma and had to reclaim it right our potential.
And I know, I was watching some videos from from
some of my colleagues this morning, and one of them
was saying, how one of the one of the most frequent,
you know, questions or things that she gets asked from
women is you know, is them confessing they've never had

(56:02):
an orgasm. And like, you know, am I broken? And
so I want to say, I want to apologize. I
want to apologize if if any of you out there
have felt hurt or felt like that, you know, I
inadvertently had shamed you in any way for for not
having orgasms. That is never my intention, And I apologize

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if I've ever said something that has made you feel
bad about yourself it's not I apologize deeply for that.
It was completely unintentional. I'm never never wanting to be
malicious or demeaning. So I apologize if I've ever come
across that way to you or for you. And I
want to also, you know, reassure and inspire you that

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once again, your body is built for orgasm. Your body
is built for pleasure, and as we were trying to
point to in the beginning of this episode, there are
multiple and many reasons that we may be blocked from
our orgasm and unable to safely and joyfully access pleasure
in our bodies.

Speaker 3 (57:07):
And so.

Speaker 2 (57:09):
If you have pain in your body and your heart
and your spirit about not having orgasms or not having orgasms.

Speaker 3 (57:15):
Just wanting to reassure you once again that you're not broken.

Speaker 2 (57:18):
It actually means that your body is operating the way
it's designed to. It's protecting you from something. It's protecting
you from something. So it's important to honor that and
love that part of you that's protecting you and know
that slowly, gently and with love and care and patience,
there is healing and there is transformation. And we've seen

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this not just in ourselves, but again, over twenty seven
years of expertise, we have midwifed so many women into
reclaiming their bodies, reclaiming ownership of our bodies, and reclaiming
our ability to feel good in our bodies, and reclaiming

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our pleasure and our capacity and our ability for orgasm.
And part of it, my friends, is removing orgasm as
the goal and just putting your focus.

Speaker 3 (58:14):
On pleasure and sensation.

Speaker 2 (58:16):
Allow yourself to feel without an agenda, right, without a demand.
Allow your beautiful, precious pussy to feel whatever it feels,
without a demand and without an agenda. Right and listen, listen,
because our bodies are always speaking to us.

Speaker 3 (58:37):
Yeah, all right, so.

Speaker 2 (58:38):
Those are my closing thoughts on cervixes and orgasms and
beautiful vahinas. That was beautiful bella role modeling for us.
So well, behind me.

Speaker 3 (58:52):
In the back, all right, anything else to say, Lena? Nope?

Speaker 2 (58:58):
All right, well, thank you, thank you so much for
listening to Sex is Medicine.

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